I stopped using most social media in 2017 and now only really use youtube. I never know what's going on with trends or what people are buying and I'm totally fine with that. I think it massively helped me. I don't spend my days mindlessly scrolling and it's wonderful. Due too health problems in my family, we're living on a low fixed income. We can't afford to buy things that aren't necessities. I haven't even bought any new clothes for myself since like 2016. I worry about what my son needs and that's it. Being on social media made me feel like I was missing out. Not being on it now, I don't even care what I'm missing.
@@Xessa82 I still have social media but I mostly use TH-cam. Being on TikTok made me want to buy things. I will say most of my money goes to food and transportation and it needs to stop…well decrees
I agree. I deleted my FB in 2013 & I don't have any social media except for YT or Reddit.... I don't have to constantly compare myself and it does wonders for ur self-esteem
Well I kept my movies, and all my friends have dozens of subscriptions because whatever they want to watch is being de-listed, so I really feel like I came out on top with my DVDs.
Right, especially considering one person can never use all that crap before it expires. Getting 3 different subscription boxes for a few years is what made me realize I was collecting too much bs I could never use.
I have a shoebox full too... I use maybe a sixth of it daily, it stresses me out seeing the other products and I force myself to use them so they don't go to waste. I can't imagine having more, I would lose my mind.
I’m the same way but with makeup (I only have 1 or 2 foundations but I have quite a few pallets and lip products)I don’t really have any skin care because I just have naturally clear skin but I’d just about go crazy trying to manage both my makeup and skincare. I’m already going crazy trying use all of my pallets and lip glosses.
mannnn i have five products (planning to buy one or two more bc it's necessary) and I was thinking "oh man is this too much, especially with the few more things I plan on buying?" and then I see that skincare bed and immediately feel normal
It’s very true. I worked one at Sephoras NYC locations. They put a limit on the amount of returns customers are allowed to make per year bc sooo many people were buying “haul amount” of products and turning around and returning them
I grew up in a time where going out to eat at a restaurant with my family was a big deal. When we finally did purchase an exciting new gadget that the whole family could use it was a huge deal. We enjoyed our day to day life with our family and friend relationships and exercised personal responsibility. When a treat did come our way it was a million times sweeter because it was somewhat rare. Go out and help someone or volunteer somewhere or exercise or enjoy your family, friends or pets. These are the things that will keep you going and content.
I love that 🥹 Something about those childhood memories are so special. I feel like "new things" didn't come as often back then, but that's what made Christmas SO wonderful.
When I was a kid, my Dad refused to hire people to do anything in our house. He installed the tv antenna, removed the old roof and replaced it, spent weeks stripping all the old paint off of our. two storey house and repainting it, fixed his own car, made his own peanut butter, did all the gardening, etc. etc. He even built our TV set from a kit! This was in the 1970s.
I have a hue shopping problem and am in a TON of debt. I am on the road to recovery, I know what my triggers are and why I do it... shopping online is like THREE hits of dopamine! The first one when you buy, the second one is when you think about how it's on the way and it's something to look forward to, and the third one when you get it and open it! Then you're literally looking for the next hit. This video was fantastic, and definitely helps me!
What helps me is writing about what I already have !!!! And planning how I'm gonna use what I already have! (On a paper list) It reminds your brain that you still have good stuff and retrains the dopamine craving to saving money.
It’s gross. “If you wear this basement bargained priced shirt, fragrance, shoes, sneakers, FILL IN THE BLANK, you’ll look so rich, you’ll smell so rich, blah blah rich blah blah” They’re fooling no one that will end up getting to know them and cheating themselves.
I adopted a senior dog this year he’s about 16/17 years old. And man the way my shopping addiction got curved was like overnight. Yes obviously I bought a few things for him, but as he’s a senior dog he really doesn’t need much (or want much lol). Since he sleeps in his crate in my room it became increasingly more important to me to make sure that my room was a safe place, so no toxic to dogs products, nothing he could trip on or get into. I think more and more we are living in a selfish society without even realizing it. But man having another living thing to care for brought back the emotional intelligence I had as a child, that deep connection to the world around me that was dulled by social media. So many people say that by adopting Bailey I’ve probably giving him more life than he ever had. But I think Bailey helped give me back my life at 22.
The advice of getting a hobby is so real. I unfortunately sometimes doom scroll and it really gets me, but playing fiddle and building legos have kept me in check. Great video as usual!
I find it really overwhelming. There is too much of everything. Travelling multiple times a year, going out to eat multiple times a week, buying new outfits for each occasions is just not normal or achievable. But we can’t afford it, it feels like something is wrong with us.
At least travelling or eating are experiencies who last in our memory and enrich ourselves, but spending so much money on make up or clothes is insane to me
Fostering or volunteering at your local animal shelter or rescue feels amazing and gives all the dopamine, highly recommend over consuming crap we don’t really need. Donating to them helps too! If you’re gonna spend money on stuff you might not need, why not spend it on cat food and dog toys for shelters? 😊
TheCouch: I Agree! If people can find an interest or love (animals, reading, exercise, etc) the volunteer opportunities are endless! You really will feel that dopamine high! I used to volunteer tutor English language to non native speakers and would come home so incredibly happy! We can also get used to feeling "content." We don't necessarily need to feel insanely happy constantly. Have a great day, everyone!
I thought the same, but ended up on there because of the politics and feminism… you curate your feed, so everything I get is intersexual feminism/politics (which is important stuff imo). 🤷♀️ I don’t even see this overconsumption stuff. I get ads for games, but just skip past them
Exactly! I don´t give a fuck about any of these strangers and their twisted opinions. I don´t feel inadequate. Tiktok is a hellsite for the brainwashed and I will never go there!
My absolute favourite Jean shorts from high school finally gave up the ghost this year. I’m 37 😂😂 definitely my longest running piece of clothing. Hero status.
using clothing items for decades is something that runs in my family lol. my favorite flannel shirt is one my mom made for herself by hand in the 80s. one of my favorite button ups is one of my grandma's from the 60s-70s. one of my favorite t-shirts is from a school trip to a museum 12 years ago, others are ones I've gotten from friends again many years ago. I do have some new clothes from the past month, because I really needed some, but honestly it's all because that's the way I like it, wearing clothes with memories and history, and keeping them for as long as I can. I also hate shopping for clothes, so that helps curb any desire for buying the New Trend. my mom, for example, just had her 20 year old favorite summer linen shorts tear a bit in the inner thigh, and she's gonna mend it! the shorts will get a couple stitches and be back up for the next summer. she's also the one who taught me how to mend clothes and the value of it, passed down to her by her grandmother. I remember as a kid watching her mend and darn socks while watching TV, or patching my pants that got torn from playing, and later she taught me how to do it all myself (I'm sure her ancestors were looking down on her in pride for teaching a SON how to sew and mend clothes). a lot of the clothes and shoes she wears daily are at least a decade old, and often from the last century. the only reason she has a lot of new clothes is because she works in the fashion industry and has to conform to the standard, which means new dresses and blouses and pantsuits. it's not quite fast fashion since these are items made to last, but they do take up a lot of space. regardless, she'll rewear even those whenever possible. sorry for the rant, the topic is just one that is very like ingrained in how I was raised and how I still live.
I think radical minimalism is nearly as bad (not for the environment so much but financially and mentally), because if you throw stuff away and then realize that you need it again, you have to buy it again. If you only have one shirt, you have to use the washing machine every day, instead if you have 7 shirts, you can wash only once a week - better for your electricity bill and the environment. Everyone has their own ideal number of items and it's okay, if you don't go to extremes on either end.
No one is talking about having a singular shirt. Just that in reality you are always wearing the same clothes and all of those clothes that you arent using/buying new ones and not using them etc thats the shitty part. Having minimalist clothes means having a good dressing base with good quality clothing that will last longer and that you can wear most of the time
@@lug358 The blond woman in one of the clips literally said she only had one fitness top. If you do sports more than one day a week or so, you will have to use the washing machine half empty multiple times a week. I was simplifying the details because everyone will have different ideas about how many shirts etc. one needs, but I still stand by it that having extremely few things is a matter of extreme privilege because it takes more energy and cost more in the long run. People have been pressuring everyone to get rid of their stuff, it's as asinine and unsustainable as hoarding consume goods as in this video.
radical minimalism and the beige mom aesthetic are the home decor version of diet culture (and previously some of hgtv, older home decor media did this too)
@KC-2049 Yes, privileged folks that are able bodied, have the time to do that every day and with sweaty sportswear it's still a bit nasty, I would rather have several tops and put them on the washing machine to ensure it gets cleaned properly. Sports clothing isn't delicate, I hand wash my wool stuff that would suffer in the machine, but synthetic robust clothing, there is nothing to gain by hand washing that.
In my teen years going to shopping was such a big deal! I remember saving money for months along with my best friend, planned the DATE, dressed up and made a whole day program out of it, just to buy 3 pieces of Tally Weijl shirts. (Basically 9$) :) Bought a coke and some chinese food and chatted all day! It was such a thing! Shopping was a big deal and a real reward, specially when you were not from a rich family. Couldn't wait to show up in our new shirts in school. We really appreciated whatever we had.
Same. Still have pics of shopping trips with my best friend in which we spent maybe 20$ each. I know I’m old but I miss malls and window shopping. Was an experience not a click away anytime.
Glad you’re around! As a 42 year old I’m shocked by how this has become so big among young girls. It’s insane! I love this video and I loved that last girl who is a luxury minimalist. That’s how I was raised: don’t spend money you don’t have. If you want something really nice, save up for it and it’ll give you so much more pleasure when you CAN afford it.
I loved this video. Wanting to buy new things can be very tempting, but I always have to remind myself that I hate clutter. I hate thinking about organizing things, and cleaning takes so much more time when you have clutter everywhere! Over the years, I have gotten rid of so much stuff, and I've noticed how it brought peace to my mind and my life. I love the things that I have, but I don't let clutter take control over my life. ❤
If I didn't adore you before, I would now, Lael. My big sister/best friend forever just did a gentle but firm Intervention with me about how my room was looking and she reminded me that Hoarding runs in our family on BOTH sides. My estranged paternal grandmother and both of our parents. I was defensive at first but when I really thought about it, I realized she was right. She saw that I was about to Spiral and she saved me. I'm gonna talk to my therapist and psychiatrist about making a Plan to get the situation handled because it's not enough to clean the mess once. Hoarding is a mental thing and thankfully, I'm already used to dealing with mental things due to my PTSD, General Anxiety Disorder, and Bipolar 1 with Mania. Getting this notification is perfect because I save all videos that are important in the Discord I have with my siblings and I'll be sure to come back to it as much as possible. Thank you! ❤️❤️
I’m so happy you have somebody in your life who you can have those tough conversations with and have it be positive for both of you. I love to see it, and I’m wishing the best for both of you. ❤️
💛 Good luck! Having someone who's willing to be honest with you about worrying habits you've developed is incredible, I'm so glad there's someone like that in your life. I hope you're able to find a way to work on that habit in a healthy way, I believe in you!
Easy access makes you spend so muuuch money! I was in Dubai for 8 years where everything is delivered so fast to your doorstep that you don't even sweat, you just clic/swap to get it. Now I am in Lisbon where ........deliveries are very different. I have to move my ass to get what I need and I buy so much less and I feel so much better and richer!!!
It’s true! Shipping where I am is ridiculously slow (it takes literal weeks), so I find myself buying less just because it’s faster to go to the store. I don’t like shopping in person for most things, so I don’t browse around the same way I would online, so I end up just buying the one thing I came for so I can get out asap. 😂
@@ReturnToSenderzim the opposite. I have to touch, see irl. Im older and never bought huge amounts, but now its even less because you learn how to control yourself as you become experienced. Online seems alot of mucking around, i cant be bothered. Ive bought 3 things online my entire life. Its funny how we are all diffrrent. *i also find shopping in store annoying bec of the noise, crowds..so usually in and out pretty quick.
I'm lucky in a way that I physically can't buy most things people usually buy a lot of online because I'm very sensitive to the texture of my clothes and have to physically check before purchasing whether it's a tolerable texture for me (this also means that I rarely buy clothes and don't buy much when I do, since I hate the shopping process). I also have allergies which means that I really shouldn't buy any cosmetics or skincare without patch testing them on my skin in case of a reaction. puts a bit of a stop on ordering the most frequent offenders for over consumption and online shopping.
The saddest is that all other world has adopted it looking at America. In Russia, we have the same: people buy what they basically can’t afford and what they don’t even need just to feel accepted and to seem successful. Mind-blowing🤯
I’ve been turning old eyeshadow palettes into paint - that way I can still enjoy the colors without risking an eye infection 🎨👩🏻🎨🖼️ Edit: There are better ways to do it, but here is how I did it: 1. Pick a color 2. Scrape it out into a container (one with a lid for storage) 3. Grind it into a fine powder with a mortar or a spoon 4. Add a little bit of mineral oil (I used the all-purpose oil that came with my Singer Sewing Machine, lol) 5. Mix until liquid smooth (I used a knife to really smooth out the tiny gritty lumps) 6. I wanted to make it glow in the dark, so I added glow-in-the-dark Mod Podge (clear glue works too if you don’t want the glow in the dark effect) There are tons of methods out there, and it depends on what you want to use it for, but it worked out well for me! There are plenty of tutorials on YT and TikTok that show more professional methods. EDIT2: To add a little bit of context… I used to work at Ulta during the “beauty guru” YT era, and definitely got suckered into buying unnecessary crap. I had my employee discount which made me feel as if it was okay to overindulge, which I regret, but I am an artist so I can at least find other ways to use them (hence turning them into paint). I’m also a ghost tour guide/actor, so I have been using a lot of my makeup for that as well, and thankfully have enough to last me a while.
I love that idea! I have a mini makeup pouch that I've had for over 2 years (I might need to throw it out, actually...) and all the makeup that I'll be picking up for my Halloween costume will be kept and used to the fullest. As will the dress and boots. I went into planning the costume (Persephone the Queen of the Underworld) with the mindset of keeping everything and using it, even the fake flowers and pomegranates.
The whole “decanting everything into matching containers” trend is the definition of creating a problem to solve imo. Unless the original packaging isn’t airtight (like bags of flour) or literally doesn’t fit into the space you have (like a ridiculously tall box of cereal), it’s usually just more work and expense to make it harder to find what you’re looking for. People get paid a lot of money to make it easy to tell one product from another at a glance, and it absolutely works.
It really is. I overstock food. I have got to stop before it gets worse. 😢 At least I'll have something in the slow cooker for a while, but some of it's going to be slightly stale. 🤷
Crumbl Cookie is the prime example of overconsumption. People will buy the same 6 cookies for the 7 days a week they're out, and don't get me started on the celeb collabs in certain areas that people will go to for the cookie
Never had the desire to try it. Just looks sickly sweet like crispy creme. Id try some bites if free but would prob give away, freeze or toss some of it which is also wasteful. So many better things to eat on cam but guess they want the views
@@sarahjaye4117 hey Krispy Kreme is actually good tho. Crumbl is good in one bite and anything beyond that is too much. It is sweet and hurts the teeth. I don't have that issue with Krispy Kreme.
Is Prime Day really something people really look forward to? When I'm out shopping I consider where I would put it. I guess I'm one of those people (and there seem to be few of us) that want to touch the item. I will never understand how people can purchase clothing, shoes and purses they didn't hold in their hands.
Having so much 'stuff' around me, would make me unwell, not to mention the financial strain the whole family would be plunged into. Its shameful and incredibly wasteful. As for having the time to repackage all of my shopping into containers I had to clean, that take up too much space, rather than leave them in the package with the date on it, ingredients...idk, other useful info.
When it comes to quality clothing I suggest to everyone to learn to knit and or crochet. You can make absolutely stunning garments with quality materials. The process is calming and enjoyable. Not to mention the dopamine hit and sence of pride you get once it's done. Oh ya there is also a whole community of makers so if you're lonely you have the possibility of making some friends 🙂👍
I’m a cosplayer, a lot of cosplayers find things in the thrift stores and goodwill and modify/upcycle it. I can tell the quality of a piece of clothing from touching it. I never throw away any scraps and have ripped apart foam weapons and props and ripped the seams out of old clothes and costumes to make new things. I just made hand grenades for my resident evil cosplay out of buzz balls since I got a couple for my mom to be nice and from my bag of random scrap foam 😂
I want to learn to sew. I just don't have the patience to crochet a lot of things (as in, I want gratification not instantly, but soon-ish and the fact that I am a slow crocheter makes it really hard to get gratification). However, sewing seems a lot more fun cause ever step of the way would be a new challenge for me and I like being challenged. Also, I have been getting really disappointed with the quality of clothes in the market nowadays and it's also really hard to find clothes that I find comfortable while complementing my body type AND even the things that are good at those two aspects don't come in the colors that suit my skin tone. So, sewing seems like a great way to make clothes that make me look and feel good while also giving me clothes that will last a long time. Because I like clothes that I can wear a thousand times. (I get attached to the clothes I like lol).
I just bought a pair of name brand sneakers (Sketchers) for the first time in over 5 years and I only did it because I could feel gravel getting into my shoes as I walked. And I was pissed that they were nearly 80 bucks but these folks are just NUTS! Like I'm about to do, they need to speak to a mental professional about why they're doing what they're doing. It's not just for the Trends, man...
This is so true. Yes, cost of living is at an all time high. People are struggling to pay normal bills . We can admit to this problem with the economy, while also taking responsibility for our over spending as a society. It isn't just on stuff either. It is on getting nails done every week, and hair salon visits, and expensive lashes, and fillers, botox, and plastic surgeries, etc. We overspend as a society to the extreme! Budgeting is hard, but once you start, you really can see how much useless stuff you spend money on. I still struggle in areas, but I am getting better and trying to live a life of simplicity.
Thank you so much for being such an eloquent voice of reason. The overconsumption triggers me, it's just SO much and I get overwhelmed. How are they able to afford it? The late comedian George Carlin did funny bits about all of the stuff that people buy, then they have to go buy bigger houses to put all of their growing mounds of stuff they buy. Such a waste of money.
It's scary because I see so many people around me give up an earlier retirement for the sake of having the "sparkles" by no means am I frugal but I focus on getting things that make sense to me. Definitely said no to my daughter when she saw her friends getting stanleys, I explained to her why I am not getting her one, and why they're such a bad product in place of a much lighter, easier to carry and leak proof water bottle. Also.. who the hell has time for a 25 step skin routine.. I'm lucky if I do two steps most days >.> 🤣
Went to an art event at Chinatown LA. The under consumer creative clothing is what I look forward to. No one with luxury purses with jewelry on it but super unique hand bags or shoes.
2:08 okay, but I have to be honest here: I like this one organiser for eggs. Especially since when I buy and store eggs in those paper ones, I often find myself breaking it with eggs in.
I have a co- worker who constantly buys off Temu and a couple of other apps. She is always complaining about being broke, not being able to afford things for her kid, groceries, etc. I used to feel bad for her. USED TO.
Lifelong artist and bibliophile here ☺️. My daughter owned an independent bookstore here in town for a time. I agree with absolutely EVERYTHING you’ve said… our only rules regarding overconsumption are that it’s not hoarding if it’s art supplies, or books 😉. It is difficult sometimes when you deal with MDD, or even less severe forms of depression because as you stated, we quite literally have the world at our fingertips nowadays. I, nor my children grew up during the internet age, so at times that ‘quick fix rush of dopamine’ is hard to resist. It’s always good to be reminded that we need to actively practice underconsumption. Thank you so very much for your videos, Lael. You are wise beyond your years. 💖🌸💖
Thank you for such a kind comment & for watching! A bookstore?! That sounds wonderful! 😍 I agree, Amazon is so tempting it's ALWAYS whispering my name 😭 I think a bit more thought before taking the plunge on purchases will always benefit us in the long run. Making informed purchases always!
I moved about a month ago. Whilst packing and unpacking I thought to myself no one needs this amount of skincare, Haircare and makeup. I’m now using what I have up and will only buy what I absolutely need from here on in. It’s absolutely ridiculous how much stuff some people have.
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
Honestly, once i got rid of social media, a lot of the anxiety and urge to impulse buy subsided. its really hard when you see all these moms doing this and buying that for thier kids, for me it made me feel like i wasnt A good enough mom if my kids didn’t have everything that I saw the other moms buying for thier kids. And when its for your kids, its so easy to rationalize. What ive learned is that as long as they have everything they need, that money is much more valuable spent on fun outings and experiences together ❤ the most valuable thing I can give them is my time and energy and love ❤ other moms out there, your doing a great job. And you are enough ❤❤❤
You have motivated me to clean out my drawers and closets (I don’t have excessive amounts of stuff) but I would rather have a few high quality items instead! Thank you for this video!
Considering my clothes, I'm really glad I did what I did: I saved up my pocket money back then to buy a few, but higher quality clothes, I did the same when I was a young adult, now I have everything I need. I just have to replace something if something is really no longer wearable (some nightgowns were see-through, so that was my last purchase last year). The oldest piece of clothes I own belonged to my Grandma, a coat, which she purchased in the late 50s; I think the oldest thing of clothes I purchased myself is bought in about 1996, a jacket and a body, both a still fine. Same with shoes, I just replace something if necessary. I'm however not that good with bags and jewellery, I definitely have more than I would need. But I enjoy them 😊. ❤
For the last 4 years (starting during Covid) I try to be super mindful with my spending, when I want clothes I buy the fabrics and design it myself and went to seamstress, it is high quality tho costs a lots but bcs I love wearing it I feel I don't need to buy several cheap clothes that I don't even love wearing it For make up I own 1 foundation, 1 blush, 4 lippies, 1 contour, 1powder, 1 setting spray, 3 kind of make up aplicators Skincare I own 4 face lotion based on my skin problems, 1 sunscreen, 1 milk cleanser, 4 perfume (3 of them already finished) I make sure finished each one of them until nothing left before buying the next one (very satisfying lol) I don't own credit card, do not have any loans, do not have debt Really, we do not need hedonism to be happy
There was a time when I got sucked into overconsumption, buying "trendy" stuff that didn’t really suit me or I didn’t even like, especially clothes. I’d also buy gadgets I thought I had to have, but they ended up being useless. Luckily, I’ve moved past that, and for over a year now I’ve barely made any impulsive purchases. I’ve finally accepted that my style is basic and kinda boring, and I’m never gonna be a fashionista. I like simple stuff, minimal colors, no patterns or trendy cuts, so I don’t get tricked into buying random viral things that pop up on Instagram anymore. Now I stick to buying less but higher-quality pieces that go with everything I already own. When it comes to accessories, I keep it super simple-two items in easy-to-match colors. That’s it for shoes, bags, belts, etc. So, I’ve got two bags-one black, one brown, two belts, and for each season, two or three pairs of shoes (I’ve got typical spring, summer, fall, and winter weather here). They’re pricier shoes but last me a good 3-4 years, sometimes more. In winter, I rotate between five wool sweaters that’ll probably last me forever since they’re such good quality. I’m not into heels, blazers, or skirts, so I don’t own a single one, and I don’t even bother looking at them in stores. I’ve got two pairs of gold earrings, one necklace, and two rings-that’s all my jewelry, and it goes with everything and never wears out. Honestly, this whole approach has been super freeing. I feel awesome about how I live now. I don’t feel like I’m missing out or jealous of people showing off their shopping hauls every few days.
In August I made the intentional decision "to be the best version of myself I could be...." and since then I do feel like things are naturally falling into place.
Every year for Christmas, my grandfather will get me and my 2 cousins big BUT practical gifts like winter coats, matching suitcases, and even car maintenance items once we started driving. He gave us toys when we were kids, since he saved up a lot for retirement, but he always balanced it with practical gifts. Even now as an adult, I literally got excited at getting new floor mats for my car from Easter.
Shopping does NOT give me dopamine, it gives me anxiety ! Lol I'm only watching this because I like your other videos that you've been posting lately, but I really can't relate to this one. I'm currently recovering from extreme minimalism. I haven't worn or owned makeup or even hair accessories in over a decade. I have a husband and a daughter and we literally have each a fork, a spoon and a plate and we all share the same butterknife. We make above average income in the states..it isn't that I'm "frugal" cause I'm definitely not. I never go for the deals/steals, I go for quality which is more often than not, the more expensive option. I just feel so much more at peace and in my calm in rooms that are nearly empty and clear of clutter. For years my apartment livingroom only had a recliner and a tapestry in it. No shelves, no lamps, no decor.. I have finally reached a point of trying to furnish more..this year we got a sofa, a shoe cubby, a mushroom chair, a treadmill, some bar stools, some curtains and a rug. It still isn't very much, the walls are still bare, we still don't have shelves or a coffee table or end tables. We haven't owned a TV in like 4 or 5 years. So you could imagine how stressful it is for me to see people buying all this clutter..what if you have to move ?! You'll have soo much more packing to do !! Why are people like this..?
And here I am feeling bad about my Dr. Squatch soap collection. It takes up less than half of a plastic tub but these folks have whole dressers full of products that they will NEVER use! They're WILDING!
Can someone please explain how the girl Mikela (?) can be so famous? She either looks beautiful with or without all that makeup. And that voice... Yikes!!! Please explain her popularity..
Thank you for the way you speak, we need that truth as bitter as it seems sometimes, it can save some of us!! Specially money! I was at one point buying skin care like crazy and I end up wasting money, having to throw them away!! But now I just keep it simple, I think all of that is not necessary
THANK YOU! I see so many comments on these plastic bs videos about how everyone loves these stupid organizers. God i hate it so f'ing much. We need more people shaming this bullshit.
And here I am proud to recycle everything, thrifting my clothes and kitchen ware, dumpster diving or thrifting all my cool old furniture that were build long ago to last generations. I only own what I need now and buy more if needed. These influencers almost made me be ashamed of what I was so proud of. But honestly all I needed was some common sense that that life style is not functional or sustainable.
The industrial revolution is often blamed for the onset of over consumption. Before then, we only consumed what we needed because of the amount of time, labor and risk to self and others that it took to acquire things. My point: I believe you're correct. 👍😊
Didn’t it start to get really bad in the 1950s? Swear I’ve watched a “disposable life” documentary about it somewhere. Wish I could remember. Maybe PBS 🤷🏼♀️
@angiebear8727 that sounds about right. There was a huge boom after WW2: Babies (the Boomers), suburbs, interstates, etc. Need products to produce and furnish all of that. 👍
Until I began working I used to buy cheap clothes from a big retail store. They used to last for a year or two max, but it was fine. When I started spending my own money to buy clothes I tried doing that again, now they last like a couple of months max, even something simple like PJs. It got to me cuz my wardrobe was getting constantly faded and I would lose the pieces I loved the most so easily. Then I found this boutique store that makes clothes in our national territory, sure, it was more expensive. But, holy crap I wear those comfy dresses so much and they look perfect. The fabric is more comfy, I don't have to worry about washing them and having to replace them. I don't buy jeans anymore, I don't buy fast fashion anymore and it made me so much happier.
I LOVE that! I wish I had a store near me like that. It's bizarre thinking back and remembering the quality of items even just 15 years ago and how much better they were compared to today. Everything is poorly made, and even popular brands relabel their clothing from SHEIN and sell it to customers... I'm on the train of "buy once cry once" and just finding quality pieces.
I use a ziploc bag as my make-up purse bag. My purse has no designer label nor do my clothes. My entire wardrobe fits comfortably in my walk-in closet: no crowding and plenty of extra room that just stays empty. My car is a basic car and our house is a lovely but rather ordinary house. But our bank account/investment accounts/ stock portfolios have over 10 million dollars in value. So keep your designer goods (that the truly wealthy would never be caught dead in) and I will be happy with our financial freedom.
On June my credit card expired and I had to get the new one. I was "without" amazon until September and couldn't buy online. It HEALED me, and now on October I planned a no buy month challenge too, just to stretch that no buy period even longer. No more overconsumption for me ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
"Survive the winter elements in nothing but a loincloth," Heck the St Lawrence Iroquois were wearing deerskin leggings and fur capes when the French appeared here in 1534...as per the ship's log written by Jacques Cartier.
My husband and I are so lucky- we don’t want for anything, and we both have hobbies we like to do and we occasionally worry that we are consuming too much. These people make me realize that we aren’t even close lol. I’ll purchase maybe one or two items of clothes or accessories a month every once in a while or get a couple new seasonal things twice a year and have started doing a “one in one out to consign or donate” with clothes. I used to love new skincare and makeup but the past few years I just buy the products I need and that’s it (maybe a new lipstick once every fall or spring). Why do I need all that other shit? I only use my skincare routine stuff and a few pieces of makeup. My husband buys electronics components that he uses in his synth building hobby and does the one in one out with clothes too. If we worry that *we* are over consuming, what are these people doing?!? Are they thinking about retirement?! You can’t retire on your bed full of drunk elephant crap haha.
I’m just coming in to say this. I work in private aviation. All the millionaires I see from day to day, pull up wearing button up shirts or normal clothes. People who have money don’t actually flash it constantly. Yeah, they will have some nice cars, but most just run around in a regular car. I asked one I got to know well about it. The idea is why would I flash it and be a target when I already know I’m wealthy. No need to prove it. It changed how I view money. I’m early 30s driving an old Toyota Corolla. But I have zero debt now and a nice cushion to fall on if something goes wrong. My money is working for me now in safe investments for long term growth. I may look like a “loser” to everyday people, but my net worth is more than most average Americans….all because I quit spending on things to impress others and put it into things that bring me returns.
I’m soooo glad I’m not trying to keep up with anyone!!! I only buy what I want FOR ME!!! I typically only buy a few new clothes every year (because I still like most of my clothes from the years before, LOL), I drive an old, but very nice & classy, well kept, luxury car that’s been paid for for over five years (NO car payment!!), and I bought it used too, LOL (a new car is the WORST investment out there-no thanks), I also color and cut my own hair (I also don’t trust hairdressers, haha, and it saves me time and stress too!). I DO spend a fortune on food and personal care products though, because you kind of have to if you want to avoid pesticides and toxins. I eat organic, grassfed, pasture raised, and I try to use non toxic products. I’m also a content person. I bought lots of fall decor years ago, and I still love it and am still using the same decorations. I don’t get tired of stuff I love. That decor was an investment in my future happiness, and I do little decorations for all the seasons-nothing major or expensive, but little things that make a big difference. I don’t know, I just try to be sensible and practical. I also like being different, so if there’s a popular brand, I’ll probably avoid it just because I’m rebellious that way. 😂
If social media could shut down for a whole week we’d definitely see a lot of changes and I’d think it would be good for us, being forced outside and to actually interact, no recoding or taking pictures and videos of strangers to post, I think it could be nice 😊
22:29 though i understand it came from a good spot, sewing your own clothes is not nearly as cheap as everyone thinks. i wanted to start doing so but having to buy quality fabrics, thread, a machine, needles, possibly patterns if youre a beginner, etc, all that adds up. i do sew, but its just fixing a small hole. i would love to have the time and money to make my own wardrobe from scratch, though.
These videos on overconsumption really helped me to reduce my spending! I was never nearly as bad as any of the people shown but I used to spend compulsively and bought things because I "wanted" them not because I needed them. Having spent time reflecting, and watching these videos, I realized that it's literally a waste of money and it can lead down a bad and even addictive road... Now I feel repulsed by these insane spending videos - it does not make me feel like I miss out and I am not jealous, I literally feel like it's disgusting and sometimes even sad! It's sad cause this insane spending and constant "reward" of owning new things and buying new things alters your brain chemistry, things lose value and you stop feeling genuine joy when getting something new. It's such a destructive thing, not only for the environment but also for the person participating and their mental health.
I WISH making my own clothes would be cheaper than buying them but honestly it sometimes gives me heartburn when I take on a new project. I don't sew very often, and I am not a very talented seamstress. I can do a few things. I love the pieces I've made for myself and others, but they were by no means fast for me to make or cheap in terms of materials. I love the idea of making my own clothes or having someone make or tail their clothes for me and knowing that they are getting paid fairly to do it. It's just not something I can do all the time. Seriously making one shirt can take me HOURS. Love the idea of cultivating new hobbies rather than doom scrolling and having FOMO. And reading! Reading is awesome.
I used to be a big spender of money for cosmetics. I realized how overwhelmed i got. I had 97 eyeshadow palettes down to 14 palettes and still have a ways to go. Honestly, get rid of social media. Get rid of these influencers
Used to be called "keeping up with the Joneses". Ngl the novelty ice is super fun. Also, as a 'tism, I like the containers and keeping food separate and washed, or pre-prepped. Veg goes in veg box, raw meat-raw meat box, safe meat-safe meat box etc. types of foods groups, or sorted by usage, or time of day you eat it. I love it so much. No more piles of bagged veg piled in each other. Also washing and prepping your veg makes it last longer and not spoil. Opening and seperately packaging your raw meat into portions keeps it good longer.
18:56 I think we should start buying stuff at thrift stores. Like hipsters in the 2010s. I’m sure we’ll find something after looking at all that waste. Good grief.
One of my favorite things to do is when talking to hoarders and "minimalists" alike is to tell them that I buy books, read them, and give them away, and watch them lose their ever loving minds because I refuse to hoard books. Somehow, this is a universal trigger
most of my clothes are pieces I had since middle and high school, or something my family members had. and if there's an outfit I want but can't get I just diy.
Overconsumption and glamour aside, I can't stand the clutter. I'm by no means a minimalist (though i do admire them), but I do not like having a ton of stuff. If I can't keep count or keep mental inventory of what I own, it's too damn much. So many people are drowning in their possessions.
I don't even mind if people want to make fancy ice or something if that makes them happy. It's the people feeling like they NEED all this crap to be successful, happy, loved, etc. It's so sad
We can’t buy houses and have nothing to live for so why not over consume on things that give you tiny dopamine hits. We don’t have anything else we can look forward to. A lot of us don’t have family, hobbies cost money and not all of us live in safe areas to go out alone as women. “Work words buying a house” is such an out of touched statement in this economy. The 500sqft. House that looks like a shed that I rent cost half a million to buy.
Knitter and sewer here! Sewing is actually a very costly hobby, fabric is expensive and the issue of shrinkflation is so so real, the quality dipping while the price stays the same. It's a great hobby, but unless you're clever and thrifty it won't be saving you money
It's not only the wasted money and resources BUT THE POLLUTION all of this over-consumption causes our planet. I feel like women need to collectively address our hoarding and overspending tendencies. We absolutely look stupid because THIS IS STUPID BEHAVIOR.
@@alexbennet4195 they didn’t say all women, I think “collectively adress” is a silly way to word things since most women don’t do this but most people that do are women
Last year I gave 13 trash bags of clothes to the Salvation Army. I still have two closets full of clothes and clothes in bins. I was absolutely a slave to overconsumption. Think about all of the thousands of dollars I could have in my savings account right now if I didn’t spend it all 😭
Dooney and bourke bags are priced right, well made, and get the job done. I'm glad I'm not all about ridiculous designer bags and their ridiculous prices. It's just incredibly shallow to be so in to brands.
I have one eyeliner, one mascara, and one small eye-shadow palette. Totally happy and it takes me five minutes at most. Too little time and money for all this silliness.
So I had worked at a thrift store years ago, it was just like that! Even then. Thrift stores around me are permanently closing bc of losing business during C-19... Heartbreaking. Who needs new stuff when you could have this system in place!? I am almost 50yo I still have clothes, and glasses from when I was in elementary school that I wear. My daughter (who is almost 30yo) wore my clothes until she got taller and out grew them. She gave them back to me. So... also I kept her clothes from when she was a child, and her daughter who is almost 3yo (but in size 5, very tall as well) is wearing her clothes now LOL it's actually really awesome to see the pictures of this happening over the course of generations. My mum is 72yo and we swap clothes when we need a change. It's funny showing up in something we forgot we switched, and had looked for 😅
My thing is, when people switch from a maximalist to minimalist life style and they purge all of their stuff. We should remember to make the most out of what we have.
I'm guilty of having sooo many lippies but only because of the different colours, shades, finishes etc. I've only finished using some of them. 🙃 I don't see myself stopping from buying anytime soon but I usually finish all of the others beauty products I've got.
The over consumption and spending is out of control. Since 2020 it has gotten worse. When people are bored they shop. It’s a “hobby” that is not a hobby at all. I am guilty of this trap. In the last 6 months I have changed so much. When I actually need something I buy it second hand. I make sure before buying new disposable items I don’t have one I can use or utilize something and repurpose. Watch the documentary buy now! Horrifying.
I bet decreasing social media intake would solve a lot of our problems
I stopped using most social media in 2017 and now only really use youtube. I never know what's going on with trends or what people are buying and I'm totally fine with that. I think it massively helped me. I don't spend my days mindlessly scrolling and it's wonderful. Due too health problems in my family, we're living on a low fixed income. We can't afford to buy things that aren't necessities. I haven't even bought any new clothes for myself since like 2016. I worry about what my son needs and that's it. Being on social media made me feel like I was missing out. Not being on it now, I don't even care what I'm missing.
@@Xessa82 I still have social media but I mostly use TH-cam. Being on TikTok made me want to buy things. I will say most of my money goes to food and transportation and it needs to stop…well decrees
I agree. I deleted my FB in 2013 & I don't have any social media except for YT or Reddit.... I don't have to constantly compare myself and it does wonders for ur self-esteem
@@ambersummer2685I stoped tik tok too. Now since the tik tok shop it it’s one big advertisement
I deleted all my accounts
Remember when your CD or DVD collection was the deciding factor of how cool you were. Those were the days.
Or what band T-shirt you were wearing 😂. So miss that!
@@katoyoyo6454or brand of jeans!
At least dvds and cds don't expire. 😆
I remember when having crossy road, flappy bird and minecraft made you cool 😔
Well I kept my movies, and all my friends have dozens of subscriptions because whatever they want to watch is being de-listed, so I really feel like I came out on top with my DVDs.
I thought my shoebox filled with skincare was overconsumption… but a whole beds worth of skincare is EXTREMEconsumption.
Right, especially considering one person can never use all that crap before it expires. Getting 3 different subscription boxes for a few years is what made me realize I was collecting too much bs I could never use.
Same I literally feel guilty about subscribing to one quarterly sub box and having a shoebox sized stash of stuff I’ll definitely use.
I have a shoebox full too... I use maybe a sixth of it daily, it stresses me out seeing the other products and I force myself to use them so they don't go to waste. I can't imagine having more, I would lose my mind.
I’m the same way but with makeup (I only have 1 or 2 foundations but I have quite a few pallets and lip products)I don’t really have any skin care because I just have naturally clear skin but I’d just about go crazy trying to manage both my makeup and skincare. I’m already going crazy trying use all of my pallets and lip glosses.
mannnn i have five products (planning to buy one or two more bc it's necessary) and I was thinking "oh man is this too much, especially with the few more things I plan on buying?" and then I see that skincare bed and immediately feel normal
I heard a lot of these influencers return these luxury items just so they can post luxury content on their socials.
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I believe it, open it, review or feature it and return like kids too 😮
It’s very true. I worked one at Sephoras NYC locations. They put a limit on the amount of returns customers are allowed to make per year bc sooo many people were buying “haul amount” of products and turning around and returning them
@@HoneyBunchesOfOhNos wow returning makeup? Was it used?
Yeah, I heard a lot of them do that.
I grew up in a time where going out to eat at a restaurant with my family was a big deal. When we finally did purchase an exciting new gadget that the whole family could use it was a huge deal. We enjoyed our day to day life with our family and friend relationships and exercised personal responsibility. When a treat did come our way it was a million times sweeter because it was somewhat rare. Go out and help someone or volunteer somewhere or exercise or enjoy your family, friends or pets. These are the things that will keep you going and content.
I love that 🥹 Something about those childhood memories are so special. I feel like "new things" didn't come as often back then, but that's what made Christmas SO wonderful.
Same. I remember when my family got a wii for Christmas in like 2010. It was amazing haha! Our first family game system. That was a very big deal.
Under my bed there's only dust. Time to do some cleaning 🤪😂
When I was a kid, my Dad refused to hire people to do anything in our house. He installed the tv antenna, removed the old roof and replaced it, spent weeks stripping all the old paint off of our. two storey house and repainting it, fixed his own car, made his own peanut butter, did all the gardening, etc. etc. He even built our TV set from a kit! This was in the 1970s.
Yes I remember getting the PS2 and losing our lil minds lol@@Cassie-xx5fb
I have a hue shopping problem and am in a TON of debt. I am on the road to recovery, I know what my triggers are and why I do it... shopping online is like THREE hits of dopamine! The first one when you buy, the second one is when you think about how it's on the way and it's something to look forward to, and the third one when you get it and open it!
Then you're literally looking for the next hit. This video was fantastic, and definitely helps me!
I'm sorry for your addiction. I hope you take responsibility for it and seek help.
You CAN move out of it. You'll do it!
You’re amazing for allowing yourself that awareness. Your post gives me hope. I wish you luck
What helps me is writing about what I already have !!!! And planning how I'm gonna use what I already have! (On a paper list) It reminds your brain that you still have good stuff and retrains the dopamine craving to saving money.
i would recommend yoga, really helps. but yeah probably you don't need advice but some support. i feel for you.
Its called: ✨Trying to keep up even if im broke af and influencing others to do it✨ N ✨Spending my money on useless stuff so i can seem rich✨
Or trying to fill up my empty self.
@@JuliaB1955try filling up on snacks instead, I promise you it’s way more fulfilling 🎉❤
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It’s gross. “If you wear this basement bargained priced shirt, fragrance, shoes, sneakers, FILL IN THE BLANK, you’ll look so rich, you’ll smell so rich, blah blah rich blah blah” They’re fooling no one that will end up getting to know them and cheating themselves.
Being rich is a lie. Quit chasing the lie.
I adopted a senior dog this year he’s about 16/17 years old. And man the way my shopping addiction got curved was like overnight. Yes obviously I bought a few things for him, but as he’s a senior dog he really doesn’t need much (or want much lol). Since he sleeps in his crate in my room it became increasingly more important to me to make sure that my room was a safe place, so no toxic to dogs products, nothing he could trip on or get into. I think more and more we are living in a selfish society without even realizing it. But man having another living thing to care for brought back the emotional intelligence I had as a child, that deep connection to the world around me that was dulled by social media. So many people say that by adopting Bailey I’ve probably giving him more life than he ever had. But I think Bailey helped give me back my life at 22.
Bless you 💛 senior dogs deserve all the love we can give
This is so beautiful, thank you for sharing your story ❤
That's so beautiful ❤❤
You dropped this! 👑
Awww I am so glad you guys found each other! 🤗💝🐶💐
The advice of getting a hobby is so real. I unfortunately sometimes doom scroll and it really gets me, but playing fiddle and building legos have kept me in check. Great video as usual!
Building Legos was shockingly therapeutic to me, too! As is building puzzles! I love it!
Those are great hobbies! :)
Hobbies like that also improves attention span, keep that up!
I find it really overwhelming. There is too much of everything. Travelling multiple times a year, going out to eat multiple times a week, buying new outfits for each occasions is just not normal or achievable. But we can’t afford it, it feels like something is wrong with us.
@KC-2049 It helps if you have good role models who live within their means and don't depend on material things to make them happier.
At least travelling or eating are experiencies who last in our memory and enrich ourselves, but spending so much money on make up or clothes is insane to me
Fostering or volunteering at your local animal shelter or rescue feels amazing and gives all the dopamine, highly recommend over consuming crap we don’t really need. Donating to them helps too! If you’re gonna spend money on stuff you might not need, why not spend it on cat food and dog toys for shelters? 😊
TheCouch: I Agree! If people can find an interest or love (animals, reading, exercise, etc) the volunteer opportunities are endless! You really will feel that dopamine high! I used to volunteer tutor English language to non native speakers and would come home so incredibly happy! We can also get used to feeling "content." We don't necessarily need to feel insanely happy constantly. Have a great day, everyone!
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I've never been on TikTok and don't plan to. I don't understand the fascination with watching over made-up nobodies showing off to their followers.
I thought the same, but ended up on there because of the politics and feminism… you curate your feed, so everything I get is intersexual feminism/politics (which is important stuff imo). 🤷♀️
I don’t even see this overconsumption stuff. I get ads for games, but just skip past them
Same 🙋♀️🙋♀️
Same here. I watch these videos on TH-cam about TikTok insanity, and it's like a glimpse into a parallel universe.
Exactly! I don´t give a fuck about any of these strangers and their twisted opinions. I don´t feel inadequate. Tiktok is a hellsite for the brainwashed and I will never go there!
I have a sweater that is THE PERFECT SUMMER sweater…..I have had it since 2001. It will never be thrown away.
My absolute favourite Jean shorts from high school finally gave up the ghost this year. I’m 37 😂😂 definitely my longest running piece of clothing. Hero status.
using clothing items for decades is something that runs in my family lol. my favorite flannel shirt is one my mom made for herself by hand in the 80s. one of my favorite button ups is one of my grandma's from the 60s-70s. one of my favorite t-shirts is from a school trip to a museum 12 years ago, others are ones I've gotten from friends again many years ago. I do have some new clothes from the past month, because I really needed some, but honestly it's all because that's the way I like it, wearing clothes with memories and history, and keeping them for as long as I can. I also hate shopping for clothes, so that helps curb any desire for buying the New Trend.
my mom, for example, just had her 20 year old favorite summer linen shorts tear a bit in the inner thigh, and she's gonna mend it! the shorts will get a couple stitches and be back up for the next summer. she's also the one who taught me how to mend clothes and the value of it, passed down to her by her grandmother. I remember as a kid watching her mend and darn socks while watching TV, or patching my pants that got torn from playing, and later she taught me how to do it all myself (I'm sure her ancestors were looking down on her in pride for teaching a SON how to sew and mend clothes). a lot of the clothes and shoes she wears daily are at least a decade old, and often from the last century. the only reason she has a lot of new clothes is because she works in the fashion industry and has to conform to the standard, which means new dresses and blouses and pantsuits. it's not quite fast fashion since these are items made to last, but they do take up a lot of space. regardless, she'll rewear even those whenever possible.
sorry for the rant, the topic is just one that is very like ingrained in how I was raised and how I still live.
I think radical minimalism is nearly as bad (not for the environment so much but financially and mentally), because if you throw stuff away and then realize that you need it again, you have to buy it again. If you only have one shirt, you have to use the washing machine every day, instead if you have 7 shirts, you can wash only once a week - better for your electricity bill and the environment. Everyone has their own ideal number of items and it's okay, if you don't go to extremes on either end.
No one is talking about having a singular shirt. Just that in reality you are always wearing the same clothes and all of those clothes that you arent using/buying new ones and not using them etc thats the shitty part. Having minimalist clothes means having a good dressing base with good quality clothing that will last longer and that you can wear most of the time
@@lug358 The blond woman in one of the clips literally said she only had one fitness top. If you do sports more than one day a week or so, you will have to use the washing machine half empty multiple times a week. I was simplifying the details because everyone will have different ideas about how many shirts etc. one needs, but I still stand by it that having extremely few things is a matter of extreme privilege because it takes more energy and cost more in the long run. People have been pressuring everyone to get rid of their stuff, it's as asinine and unsustainable as hoarding consume goods as in this video.
radical minimalism and the beige mom aesthetic are the home decor version of diet culture (and previously some of hgtv, older home decor media did this too)
Balance is key.
@KC-2049 Yes, privileged folks that are able bodied, have the time to do that every day and with sweaty sportswear it's still a bit nasty, I would rather have several tops and put them on the washing machine to ensure it gets cleaned properly. Sports clothing isn't delicate, I hand wash my wool stuff that would suffer in the machine, but synthetic robust clothing, there is nothing to gain by hand washing that.
In my teen years going to shopping was such a big deal! I remember saving money for months along with my best friend, planned the DATE, dressed up and made a whole day program out of it, just to buy 3 pieces of Tally Weijl shirts. (Basically 9$) :) Bought a coke and some chinese food and chatted all day! It was such a thing! Shopping was a big deal and a real reward, specially when you were not from a rich family. Couldn't wait to show up in our new shirts in school. We really appreciated whatever we had.
Same. Still have pics of shopping trips with my best friend in which we spent maybe 20$ each. I know I’m old but I miss malls and window shopping. Was an experience not a click away anytime.
Glad you’re around! As a 42 year old I’m shocked by how this has become so big among young girls. It’s insane! I love this video and I loved that last girl who is a luxury minimalist. That’s how I was raised: don’t spend money you don’t have. If you want something really nice, save up for it and it’ll give you so much more pleasure when you CAN afford it.
I loved this video. Wanting to buy new things can be very tempting, but I always have to remind myself that I hate clutter. I hate thinking about organizing things, and cleaning takes so much more time when you have clutter everywhere! Over the years, I have gotten rid of so much stuff, and I've noticed how it brought peace to my mind and my life. I love the things that I have, but I don't let clutter take control over my life. ❤
If I didn't adore you before, I would now, Lael. My big sister/best friend forever just did a gentle but firm Intervention with me about how my room was looking and she reminded me that Hoarding runs in our family on BOTH sides. My estranged paternal grandmother and both of our parents. I was defensive at first but when I really thought about it, I realized she was right. She saw that I was about to Spiral and she saved me. I'm gonna talk to my therapist and psychiatrist about making a Plan to get the situation handled because it's not enough to clean the mess once. Hoarding is a mental thing and thankfully, I'm already used to dealing with mental things due to my PTSD, General Anxiety Disorder, and Bipolar 1 with Mania. Getting this notification is perfect because I save all videos that are important in the Discord I have with my siblings and I'll be sure to come back to it as much as possible. Thank you! ❤️❤️
good luck!
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I’m so happy you have somebody in your life who you can have those tough conversations with and have it be positive for both of you. I love to see it, and I’m wishing the best for both of you. ❤️
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💛 Good luck! Having someone who's willing to be honest with you about worrying habits you've developed is incredible, I'm so glad there's someone like that in your life. I hope you're able to find a way to work on that habit in a healthy way, I believe in you!
Easy access makes you spend so muuuch money! I was in Dubai for 8 years where everything is delivered so fast to your doorstep that you don't even sweat, you just clic/swap to get it. Now I am in Lisbon where ........deliveries are very different. I have to move my ass to get what I need and I buy so much less and I feel so much better and richer!!!
It’s true! Shipping where I am is ridiculously slow (it takes literal weeks), so I find myself buying less just because it’s faster to go to the store. I don’t like shopping in person for most things, so I don’t browse around the same way I would online, so I end up just buying the one thing I came for so I can get out asap. 😂
@@ReturnToSenderzim the opposite. I have to touch, see irl. Im older and never bought huge amounts, but now its even less because you learn how to control yourself as you become experienced. Online seems alot of mucking around, i cant be bothered. Ive bought 3 things online my entire life. Its funny how we are all diffrrent. *i also find shopping in store annoying bec of the noise, crowds..so usually in and out pretty quick.
I'm lucky in a way that I physically can't buy most things people usually buy a lot of online because I'm very sensitive to the texture of my clothes and have to physically check before purchasing whether it's a tolerable texture for me (this also means that I rarely buy clothes and don't buy much when I do, since I hate the shopping process). I also have allergies which means that I really shouldn't buy any cosmetics or skincare without patch testing them on my skin in case of a reaction. puts a bit of a stop on ordering the most frequent offenders for over consumption and online shopping.
The saddest is that all other world has adopted it looking at America. In Russia, we have the same: people buy what they basically can’t afford and what they don’t even need just to feel accepted and to seem successful. Mind-blowing🤯
I worked in a thrift store, I sorted through the product. The amount of product that got baled (tossed out) is insane.
Yep
Thank you for calling this out. The makers of the products you buy in excess are laughing all the way to the bank, while you suffer in debt.
They get rich; you get poor.
I’ve been turning old eyeshadow palettes into paint - that way I can still enjoy the colors without risking an eye infection 🎨👩🏻🎨🖼️
Edit: There are better ways to do it, but here is how I did it:
1. Pick a color
2. Scrape it out into a container (one with a lid for storage)
3. Grind it into a fine powder with a mortar or a spoon
4. Add a little bit of mineral oil (I used the all-purpose oil that came with my Singer Sewing Machine, lol)
5. Mix until liquid smooth (I used a knife to really smooth out the tiny gritty lumps)
6. I wanted to make it glow in the dark, so I added glow-in-the-dark Mod Podge (clear glue works too if you don’t want the glow in the dark effect)
There are tons of methods out there, and it depends on what you want to use it for, but it worked out well for me!
There are plenty of tutorials on YT and TikTok that show more professional methods.
EDIT2:
To add a little bit of context… I used to work at Ulta during the “beauty guru” YT era, and definitely got suckered into buying unnecessary crap. I had my employee discount which made me feel as if it was okay to overindulge, which I regret, but I am an artist so I can at least find other ways to use them (hence turning them into paint).
I’m also a ghost tour guide/actor, so I have been using a lot of my makeup for that as well, and thankfully have enough to last me a while.
I love that idea! I have a mini makeup pouch that I've had for over 2 years (I might need to throw it out, actually...) and all the makeup that I'll be picking up for my Halloween costume will be kept and used to the fullest. As will the dress and boots. I went into planning the costume (Persephone the Queen of the Underworld) with the mindset of keeping everything and using it, even the fake flowers and pomegranates.
Can you explain? Do they end up like watercolor paints? This is a great idea.
that's so cool!!
Nice!
How?!?!?
The whole “decanting everything into matching containers” trend is the definition of creating a problem to solve imo. Unless the original packaging isn’t airtight (like bags of flour) or literally doesn’t fit into the space you have (like a ridiculously tall box of cereal), it’s usually just more work and expense to make it harder to find what you’re looking for. People get paid a lot of money to make it easy to tell one product from another at a glance, and it absolutely works.
This is such an important conversation
It really is. I overstock food. I have got to stop before it gets worse. 😢 At least I'll have something in the slow cooker for a while, but some of it's going to be slightly stale. 🤷
Crumbl Cookie is the prime example of overconsumption. People will buy the same 6 cookies for the 7 days a week they're out, and don't get me started on the celeb collabs in certain areas that people will go to for the cookie
Never had the desire to try it. Just looks sickly sweet like crispy creme. Id try some bites if free but would prob give away, freeze or toss some of it which is also wasteful. So many better things to eat on cam but guess they want the views
@@sarahjaye4117 i tried it once, my dad brought some home and ur right its super sweet to where u can only eat a little bit without getting sick lol
Batch Box >
@@sarahjaye4117 hey Krispy Kreme is actually good tho. Crumbl is good in one bite and anything beyond that is too much. It is sweet and hurts the teeth. I don't have that issue with Krispy Kreme.
Wow! The video I didn't know I needed. Over consumption is a serious issue and I'm trying to break the cycle I've been on for a lifetime.
Just in time for Prime Day…I need this
Is Prime Day really something people really look forward to? When I'm out shopping I consider where I would put it. I guess I'm one of those people (and there seem to be few of us) that want to touch the item. I will never understand how people can purchase clothing, shoes and purses they didn't hold in their hands.
Having so much 'stuff' around me, would make me unwell, not to mention the financial strain the whole family would be plunged into. Its shameful and incredibly wasteful. As for having the time to repackage all of my shopping into containers I had to clean, that take up too much space, rather than leave them in the package with the date on it, ingredients...idk, other useful info.
When it comes to quality clothing I suggest to everyone to learn to knit and or crochet.
You can make absolutely stunning garments with quality materials. The process is calming and enjoyable. Not to mention the dopamine hit and sence of pride you get once it's done.
Oh ya there is also a whole community of makers so if you're lonely you have the possibility of making some friends 🙂👍
I’m a cosplayer, a lot of cosplayers find things in the thrift stores and goodwill and modify/upcycle it. I can tell the quality of a piece of clothing from touching it. I never throw away any scraps and have ripped apart foam weapons and props and ripped the seams out of old clothes and costumes to make new things. I just made hand grenades for my resident evil cosplay out of buzz balls since I got a couple for my mom to be nice and from my bag of random scrap foam 😂
SMS: Agree!!!!!! 100 percent!
My adhd self cant handle sewimg. Never tried crocheting, that one might be relaxing. I admire people who sew though 😊
I want to learn to sew. I just don't have the patience to crochet a lot of things (as in, I want gratification not instantly, but soon-ish and the fact that I am a slow crocheter makes it really hard to get gratification). However, sewing seems a lot more fun cause ever step of the way would be a new challenge for me and I like being challenged. Also, I have been getting really disappointed with the quality of clothes in the market nowadays and it's also really hard to find clothes that I find comfortable while complementing my body type AND even the things that are good at those two aspects don't come in the colors that suit my skin tone. So, sewing seems like a great way to make clothes that make me look and feel good while also giving me clothes that will last a long time. Because I like clothes that I can wear a thousand times. (I get attached to the clothes I like lol).
I've had the same shirts, pants, shorts , and shoes for years. I also have multiple of the same stuff. I am a cartoon character.
Same. I pack the same things on trips too. The kids get older in the vacation photos but I always look the same 😂
I just bought a pair of name brand sneakers (Sketchers) for the first time in over 5 years and I only did it because I could feel gravel getting into my shoes as I walked. And I was pissed that they were nearly 80 bucks but these folks are just NUTS! Like I'm about to do, they need to speak to a mental professional about why they're doing what they're doing. It's not just for the Trends, man...
This is so true. Yes, cost of living is at an all time high. People are struggling to pay normal bills . We can admit to this problem with the economy, while also taking responsibility for our over spending as a society.
It isn't just on stuff either. It is on getting nails done every week, and hair salon visits, and expensive lashes, and fillers, botox, and plastic surgeries, etc. We overspend as a society to the extreme!
Budgeting is hard, but once you start, you really can see how much useless stuff you spend money on. I still struggle in areas, but I am getting better and trying to live a life of simplicity.
Thank you so much for being such an eloquent voice of reason. The overconsumption triggers me, it's just SO much and I get overwhelmed. How are they able to afford it? The late comedian George Carlin did funny bits about all of the stuff that people buy, then they have to go buy bigger houses to put all of their growing mounds of stuff they buy. Such a waste of money.
It's scary because I see so many people around me give up an earlier retirement for the sake of having the "sparkles" by no means am I frugal but I focus on getting things that make sense to me. Definitely said no to my daughter when she saw her friends getting stanleys, I explained to her why I am not getting her one, and why they're such a bad product in place of a much lighter, easier to carry and leak proof water bottle. Also.. who the hell has time for a 25 step skin routine.. I'm lucky if I do two steps most days >.> 🤣
Went to an art event at Chinatown LA. The under consumer creative clothing is what I look forward to. No one with luxury purses with jewelry on it but super unique hand bags or shoes.
2:08 okay, but I have to be honest here: I like this one organiser for eggs. Especially since when I buy and store eggs in those paper ones, I often find myself breaking it with eggs in.
I have a co- worker who constantly buys off Temu and a couple of other apps. She is always complaining about being broke, not being able to afford things for her kid, groceries, etc. I used to feel bad for her. USED TO.
Lifelong artist and bibliophile here ☺️. My daughter owned an independent bookstore here in town for a time. I agree with absolutely EVERYTHING you’ve said… our only rules regarding overconsumption are that it’s not hoarding if it’s art supplies, or books 😉.
It is difficult sometimes when you deal with MDD, or even less severe forms of depression because as you stated, we quite literally have the world at our fingertips nowadays. I, nor my children grew up during the internet age, so at times that ‘quick fix rush of dopamine’ is hard to resist.
It’s always good to be reminded that we need to actively practice underconsumption.
Thank you so very much for your videos, Lael. You are wise beyond your years.
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Thank you for such a kind comment & for watching! A bookstore?! That sounds wonderful! 😍 I agree, Amazon is so tempting it's ALWAYS whispering my name 😭 I think a bit more thought before taking the plunge on purchases will always benefit us in the long run. Making informed purchases always!
@@LaelHansen 💖💖
I moved about a month ago. Whilst packing and unpacking I thought to myself no one needs this amount of skincare, Haircare and makeup. I’m now using what I have up and will only buy what I absolutely need from here on in. It’s absolutely ridiculous how much stuff some people have.
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
it's definitely bs, you can't attract things in your life
Currently knitting and crocheting myself a new wardrobe! Loved your take on this!!!
OMG teach me! I tried crocheting years ago and could never get it right... I would love to see your creations! 😍
Honestly, once i got rid of social media, a lot of the anxiety and urge to impulse buy subsided. its really hard when you see all these moms doing this and buying that for thier kids, for me it made me feel like i wasnt A good enough mom if my kids didn’t have everything that I saw the other moms buying for thier kids. And when its for your kids, its so easy to rationalize. What ive learned is that as long as they have everything they need, that money is much more valuable spent on fun outings and experiences together ❤ the most valuable thing I can give them is my time and energy and love ❤ other moms out there, your doing a great job. And you are enough ❤❤❤
You have motivated me to clean out my drawers and closets (I don’t have excessive amounts of stuff) but I would rather have a few high quality items instead! Thank you for this video!
Me too. I know one day my children will have to clean out my house.
You will not believe how much Goodwill and nonprofits have to throw away because it's not actually able to be resold.
Considering my clothes, I'm really glad I did what I did: I saved up my pocket money back then to buy a few, but higher quality clothes, I did the same when I was a young adult, now I have everything I need. I just have to replace something if something is really no longer wearable (some nightgowns were see-through, so that was my last purchase last year). The oldest piece of clothes I own belonged to my Grandma, a coat, which she purchased in the late 50s; I think the oldest thing of clothes I purchased myself is bought in about 1996, a jacket and a body, both a still fine. Same with shoes, I just replace something if necessary.
I'm however not that good with bags and jewellery, I definitely have more than I would need. But I enjoy them 😊. ❤
off topic but girl you look gorgeous!! Your hair is so shiny 😍
4:46 isn't this hoarding?!
She need more faces, she can never use up 1% before they expire 😢❤❤
it is.
Yes. Over consumption in general could easily fall into hoarding
For the last 4 years (starting during Covid) I try to be super mindful with my spending, when I want clothes I buy the fabrics and design it myself and went to seamstress, it is high quality tho costs a lots but bcs I love wearing it I feel I don't need to buy several cheap clothes that I don't even love wearing it
For make up I own 1 foundation, 1 blush, 4 lippies, 1 contour, 1powder, 1 setting spray, 3 kind of make up aplicators
Skincare I own 4 face lotion based on my skin problems, 1 sunscreen, 1 milk cleanser, 4 perfume (3 of them already finished)
I make sure finished each one of them until nothing left before buying the next one (very satisfying lol)
I don't own credit card, do not have any loans, do not have debt
Really, we do not need hedonism to be happy
There was a time when I got sucked into overconsumption, buying "trendy" stuff that didn’t really suit me or I didn’t even like, especially clothes. I’d also buy gadgets I thought I had to have, but they ended up being useless. Luckily, I’ve moved past that, and for over a year now I’ve barely made any impulsive purchases. I’ve finally accepted that my style is basic and kinda boring, and I’m never gonna be a fashionista. I like simple stuff, minimal colors, no patterns or trendy cuts, so I don’t get tricked into buying random viral things that pop up on Instagram anymore.
Now I stick to buying less but higher-quality pieces that go with everything I already own. When it comes to accessories, I keep it super simple-two items in easy-to-match colors. That’s it for shoes, bags, belts, etc. So, I’ve got two bags-one black, one brown, two belts, and for each season, two or three pairs of shoes (I’ve got typical spring, summer, fall, and winter weather here). They’re pricier shoes but last me a good 3-4 years, sometimes more. In winter, I rotate between five wool sweaters that’ll probably last me forever since they’re such good quality. I’m not into heels, blazers, or skirts, so I don’t own a single one, and I don’t even bother looking at them in stores. I’ve got two pairs of gold earrings, one necklace, and two rings-that’s all my jewelry, and it goes with everything and never wears out.
Honestly, this whole approach has been super freeing. I feel awesome about how I live now. I don’t feel like I’m missing out or jealous of people showing off their shopping hauls every few days.
In August I made the intentional decision "to be the best version of myself I could be...." and since then I do feel like things are naturally falling into place.
good for you 🎉🎉
Every year for Christmas, my grandfather will get me and my 2 cousins big BUT practical gifts like winter coats, matching suitcases, and even car maintenance items once we started driving. He gave us toys when we were kids, since he saved up a lot for retirement, but he always balanced it with practical gifts. Even now as an adult, I literally got excited at getting new floor mats for my car from Easter.
Shopping does NOT give me dopamine, it gives me anxiety ! Lol I'm only watching this because I like your other videos that you've been posting lately, but I really can't relate to this one. I'm currently recovering from extreme minimalism. I haven't worn or owned makeup or even hair accessories in over a decade. I have a husband and a daughter and we literally have each a fork, a spoon and a plate and we all share the same butterknife. We make above average income in the states..it isn't that I'm "frugal" cause I'm definitely not. I never go for the deals/steals, I go for quality which is more often than not, the more expensive option. I just feel so much more at peace and in my calm in rooms that are nearly empty and clear of clutter. For years my apartment livingroom only had a recliner and a tapestry in it. No shelves, no lamps, no decor.. I have finally reached a point of trying to furnish more..this year we got a sofa, a shoe cubby, a mushroom chair, a treadmill, some bar stools, some curtains and a rug. It still isn't very much, the walls are still bare, we still don't have shelves or a coffee table or end tables. We haven't owned a TV in like 4 or 5 years. So you could imagine how stressful it is for me to see people buying all this clutter..what if you have to move ?! You'll have soo much more packing to do !! Why are people like this..?
my friend works at sephora and yesterday they hosted a birthday for a damn tween... LEFT AN OPEN TAB FOR THEM TO SPEND!!!!!😮
WHAT.THE.FUCK????
And here I am feeling bad about my Dr. Squatch soap collection. It takes up less than half of a plastic tub but these folks have whole dressers full of products that they will NEVER use! They're WILDING!
Ughhhh
Can someone please explain how the girl Mikela (?) can be so famous? She either looks beautiful with or without all that makeup. And that voice... Yikes!!! Please explain her popularity..
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She was "down to earth" with that accent and slightly more relatable, once upon a time
Did you mean “neither”?
She is fake. Her videos and pictures are heavily edited and filtered and her accent is completely fake too.
@@aLa-Rabut the accent is 100 percent fake. Lol
Thank you for the way you speak, we need that truth as bitter as it seems sometimes, it can save some of us!! Specially money! I was at one point buying skin care like crazy and I end up wasting money, having to throw them away!! But now I just keep it simple, I think all of that is not necessary
It's not even bitter. Back 20 years ago, people actually were more mindful of what to buy and why.
THANK YOU! I see so many comments on these plastic bs videos about how everyone loves these stupid organizers. God i hate it so f'ing much. We need more people shaming this bullshit.
And here I am proud to recycle everything, thrifting my clothes and kitchen ware, dumpster diving or thrifting all my cool old furniture that were build long ago to last generations.
I only own what I need now and buy more if needed.
These influencers almost made me be ashamed of what I was so proud of.
But honestly all I needed was some common sense that that life style is not functional or sustainable.
0:49 somewhere in the latter 19th century.
The industrial revolution is often blamed for the onset of over consumption. Before then, we only consumed what we needed because of the amount of time, labor and risk to self and others that it took to acquire things. My point: I believe you're correct. 👍😊
Didn’t it start to get really bad in the 1950s? Swear I’ve watched a “disposable life” documentary about it somewhere. Wish I could remember. Maybe PBS 🤷🏼♀️
@angiebear8727 that sounds about right. There was a huge boom after WW2: Babies (the Boomers), suburbs, interstates, etc. Need products to produce and furnish all of that. 👍
Until I began working I used to buy cheap clothes from a big retail store. They used to last for a year or two max, but it was fine.
When I started spending my own money to buy clothes I tried doing that again, now they last like a couple of months max, even something simple like PJs. It got to me cuz my wardrobe was getting constantly faded and I would lose the pieces I loved the most so easily.
Then I found this boutique store that makes clothes in our national territory, sure, it was more expensive. But, holy crap I wear those comfy dresses so much and they look perfect. The fabric is more comfy, I don't have to worry about washing them and having to replace them. I don't buy jeans anymore, I don't buy fast fashion anymore and it made me so much happier.
I LOVE that! I wish I had a store near me like that. It's bizarre thinking back and remembering the quality of items even just 15 years ago and how much better they were compared to today. Everything is poorly made, and even popular brands relabel their clothing from SHEIN and sell it to customers... I'm on the train of "buy once cry once" and just finding quality pieces.
I use a ziploc bag as my make-up purse bag. My purse has no designer label nor do my clothes. My entire wardrobe fits comfortably in my walk-in closet: no crowding and plenty of extra room that just stays empty. My car is a basic car and our house is a lovely but rather ordinary house.
But our bank account/investment accounts/ stock portfolios have over 10 million dollars in value.
So keep your designer goods (that the truly wealthy would never be caught dead in) and I will be happy with our financial freedom.
On June my credit card expired and I had to get the new one. I was "without" amazon until September and couldn't buy online. It HEALED me, and now on October I planned a no buy month challenge too, just to stretch that no buy period even longer. No more overconsumption for me ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
"Survive the winter elements in nothing but a loincloth," Heck the St Lawrence Iroquois were wearing deerskin leggings and fur capes when the French appeared here in 1534...as per the ship's log written by Jacques Cartier.
Seeing this content doesn't make me want to keep up. It actually stresses me out and makes me happy that I don't live like that.
My husband and I are so lucky- we don’t want for anything, and we both have hobbies we like to do and we occasionally worry that we are consuming too much. These people make me realize that we aren’t even close lol. I’ll purchase maybe one or two items of clothes or accessories a month every once in a while or get a couple new seasonal things twice a year and have started doing a “one in one out to consign or donate” with clothes. I used to love new skincare and makeup but the past few years I just buy the products I need and that’s it (maybe a new lipstick once every fall or spring). Why do I need all that other shit? I only use my skincare routine stuff and a few pieces of makeup. My husband buys electronics components that he uses in his synth building hobby and does the one in one out with clothes too. If we worry that *we* are over consuming, what are these people doing?!? Are they thinking about retirement?! You can’t retire on your bed full of drunk elephant crap haha.
I’m just coming in to say this. I work in private aviation. All the millionaires I see from day to day, pull up wearing button up shirts or normal clothes. People who have money don’t actually flash it constantly. Yeah, they will have some nice cars, but most just run around in a regular car.
I asked one I got to know well about it. The idea is why would I flash it and be a target when I already know I’m wealthy. No need to prove it. It changed how I view money.
I’m early 30s driving an old Toyota Corolla. But I have zero debt now and a nice cushion to fall on if something goes wrong. My money is working for me now in safe investments for long term growth.
I may look like a “loser” to everyday people, but my net worth is more than most average Americans….all because I quit spending on things to impress others and put it into things that bring me returns.
I’m soooo glad I’m not trying to keep up with anyone!!! I only buy what I want FOR ME!!! I typically only buy a few new clothes every year (because I still like most of my clothes from the years before, LOL), I drive an old, but very nice & classy, well kept, luxury car that’s been paid for for over five years (NO car payment!!), and I bought it used too, LOL (a new car is the WORST investment out there-no thanks), I also color and cut my own hair (I also don’t trust hairdressers, haha, and it saves me time and stress too!).
I DO spend a fortune on food and personal care products though, because you kind of have to if you want to avoid pesticides and toxins. I eat organic, grassfed, pasture raised, and I try to use non toxic products.
I’m also a content person. I bought lots of fall decor years ago, and I still love it and am still using the same decorations. I don’t get tired of stuff I love. That decor was an investment in my future happiness, and I do little decorations for all the seasons-nothing major or expensive, but little things that make a big difference.
I don’t know, I just try to be sensible and practical.
I also like being different, so if there’s a popular brand, I’ll probably avoid it just because I’m rebellious that way. 😂
If social media could shut down for a whole week we’d definitely see a lot of changes and I’d think it would be good for us, being forced outside and to actually interact, no recoding or taking pictures and videos of strangers to post, I think it could be nice 😊
Spending money that they don't have, to buy things that they don't need, to impress people they don't know.
22:29 though i understand it came from a good spot, sewing your own clothes is not nearly as cheap as everyone thinks. i wanted to start doing so but having to buy quality fabrics, thread, a machine, needles, possibly patterns if youre a beginner, etc, all that adds up. i do sew, but its just fixing a small hole. i would love to have the time and money to make my own wardrobe from scratch, though.
These videos on overconsumption really helped me to reduce my spending! I was never nearly as bad as any of the people shown but I used to spend compulsively and bought things because I "wanted" them not because I needed them.
Having spent time reflecting, and watching these videos, I realized that it's literally a waste of money and it can lead down a bad and even addictive road...
Now I feel repulsed by these insane spending videos - it does not make me feel like I miss out and I am not jealous, I literally feel like it's disgusting and sometimes even sad! It's sad cause this insane spending and constant "reward" of owning new things and buying new things alters your brain chemistry, things lose value and you stop feeling genuine joy when getting something new. It's such a destructive thing, not only for the environment but also for the person participating and their mental health.
I WISH making my own clothes would be cheaper than buying them but honestly it sometimes gives me heartburn when I take on a new project. I don't sew very often, and I am not a very talented seamstress. I can do a few things. I love the pieces I've made for myself and others, but they were by no means fast for me to make or cheap in terms of materials. I love the idea of making my own clothes or having someone make or tail their clothes for me and knowing that they are getting paid fairly to do it. It's just not something I can do all the time. Seriously making one shirt can take me HOURS. Love the idea of cultivating new hobbies rather than doom scrolling and having FOMO. And reading! Reading is awesome.
I think everyday people are more depressed than ever, so we just consume consume consume.
I used to be a big spender of money for cosmetics. I realized how overwhelmed i got. I had 97 eyeshadow palettes down to 14 palettes and still have a ways to go. Honestly, get rid of social media. Get rid of these influencers
Imagine the stree of choosing the products to do your make-up with, when you have 20 items of each product....
“even though they don't even drink water” first degree buuuuurn
as a straight man, way ahead of you. Zero skin care products, no bags, 1 pair of shoes
Maybe she's 15 LOL
We need bags because we don't have pockets😂
My mom sews, the cost of materials has gone up - it's now more expensive to make your own clothes then to buy new.
That’s one reason my grandma quit making quilts
Our ancestors fought for us to get…here.
😳 It's insanity
Used to be called "keeping up with the Joneses".
Ngl the novelty ice is super fun.
Also, as a 'tism, I like the containers and keeping food separate and washed, or pre-prepped. Veg goes in veg box, raw meat-raw meat box, safe meat-safe meat box etc. types of foods groups, or sorted by usage, or time of day you eat it. I love it so much.
No more piles of bagged veg piled in each other. Also washing and prepping your veg makes it last longer and not spoil. Opening and seperately packaging your raw meat into portions keeps it good longer.
18:56 I think we should start buying stuff at thrift stores. Like hipsters in the 2010s. I’m sure we’ll find something after looking at all that waste. Good grief.
One of my favorite things to do is when talking to hoarders and "minimalists" alike is to tell them that I buy books, read them, and give them away, and watch them lose their ever loving minds because I refuse to hoard books. Somehow, this is a universal trigger
most of my clothes are pieces I had since middle and high school, or something my family members had. and if there's an outfit I want but can't get I just diy.
Overconsumption and glamour aside, I can't stand the clutter. I'm by no means a minimalist (though i do admire them), but I do not like having a ton of stuff. If I can't keep count or keep mental inventory of what I own, it's too damn much. So many people are drowning in their possessions.
0:14 right like why they do that.
I don't even mind if people want to make fancy ice or something if that makes them happy. It's the people feeling like they NEED all this crap to be successful, happy, loved, etc. It's so sad
We can’t buy houses and have nothing to live for so why not over consume on things that give you tiny dopamine hits. We don’t have anything else we can look forward to. A lot of us don’t have family, hobbies cost money and not all of us live in safe areas to go out alone as women. “Work words buying a house” is such an out of touched statement in this economy. The 500sqft. House that looks like a shed that I rent cost half a million to buy.
Knitter and sewer here! Sewing is actually a very costly hobby, fabric is expensive and the issue of shrinkflation is so so real, the quality dipping while the price stays the same. It's a great hobby, but unless you're clever and thrifty it won't be saving you money
It's not only the wasted money and resources BUT THE POLLUTION all of this over-consumption causes our planet. I feel like women need to collectively address our hoarding and overspending tendencies. We absolutely look stupid because THIS IS STUPID BEHAVIOR.
Women?? Excuse me??
@@alexbennet4195 it’s women doing this, not an offensive thing to say.
@@Gobbler72 it’s not… normal women??
@@alexbennet4195 they didn’t say all women, I think “collectively adress” is a silly way to word things since most women don’t do this but most people that do are women
I'm so glad I've never fallen for this.
I have a really hard time buying new things.
you are not alone I'm with you 🙋♀️ #minimalism
Last year I gave 13 trash bags of clothes to the Salvation Army. I still have two closets full of clothes and clothes in bins. I was absolutely a slave to overconsumption. Think about all of the thousands of dollars I could have in my savings account right now if I didn’t spend it all 😭
Dooney and bourke bags are priced right, well made, and get the job done. I'm glad I'm not all about ridiculous designer bags and their ridiculous prices. It's just incredibly shallow to be so in to brands.
I have one eyeliner, one mascara, and one small eye-shadow palette. Totally happy and it takes me five minutes at most. Too little time and money for all this silliness.
At some point hopefully these girlies will realize that happiness comes from within and not from material things
Absolutely, there's so much beauty to be seen in the world! You finally see it when you stop obsessing over social media all the time...
So I had worked at a thrift store years ago, it was just like that! Even then. Thrift stores around me are permanently closing bc of losing business during C-19...
Heartbreaking.
Who needs new stuff when you could have this system in place!?
I am almost 50yo
I still have clothes, and glasses from when I was in elementary school that I wear. My daughter (who is almost 30yo) wore my clothes until she got taller and out grew them. She gave them back to me. So... also I kept her clothes from when she was a child, and her daughter who is almost 3yo (but in size 5, very tall as well) is wearing her clothes now LOL it's actually really awesome to see the pictures of this happening over the course of generations. My mum is 72yo and we swap clothes when we need a change. It's funny showing up in something we forgot we switched, and had looked for 😅
im over STUFF ...
My thing is, when people switch from a maximalist to minimalist life style and they purge all of their stuff. We should remember to make the most out of what we have.
I'm guilty of having sooo many lippies but only because of the different colours, shades, finishes etc.
I've only finished using some of them. 🙃 I don't see myself stopping from buying anytime soon but I usually finish all of the others beauty products I've got.
The over consumption and spending is out of control. Since 2020 it has gotten worse. When people are bored they shop. It’s a “hobby” that is not a hobby at all. I am guilty of this trap. In the last 6 months I have changed so much. When I actually need something I buy it second hand. I make sure before buying new disposable items I don’t have one I can use or utilize something and repurpose. Watch the documentary buy now! Horrifying.
This feels like LARPing as a shopkeeper except you don’t sell any of your products…
Kind of like anyone who claims to “sell” Mary K.
Did you mean an MLM seller? They have YEARS worth of stuff that they'll never use or sell. Most of it is expired, too!
@@arielsierra747 SAME WAVELENGTH! I didn't see your reply before I typed mine but MLM Hunbots and Bros are notorious for overconsumption.