We had our first 3 children within 3 years ...then experienced 7.5 years with no babies and then all of a sudden the Lord decided to give us 3 more babies in a row! Y'all are absolutely right to desire peace and contentment and keep trusting the Lord that He knows best no matter what.🙏💕
I was never blessed with any Children. I had a dream once where God told me I would be the Mother of Many Children. Much later, I worked in the mental health system, in a Drop In Center in Southeastern PA. After a while, the People began to call me Mom. There were so many. Some were much older and much younger than me! I love them All. God Bless You!
This is a beautiful, honest, heart wrenching video. Having been in the same situation, you described the emotions exactly. Prayers for peace and happiness to the Stivers family.
Good for your baby girl. I did IVF 3x & had a beautiful boy. God gives you what you can handle, i wonder bc. Michael's fine now in remission but graduated engineering physics 20' while doing chemo. Brave guy. Good luck in life
Same! I always wanted many children. I wanted five but struggled to have one. Ultimately we had one perfect, beautiful daughter via IVF and feel like the luckiest people on the planet to have our one. I would love to have more children but I've accepted it is probably not in the cards. It's a tough pill to swallow but I'll always be grateful for my daughter, she lights up our world.
Well, you asked God for a large family, and you got 48.8k of us! The very first video I saw was the one where you talked about how you had been heading for a divorce. You plant the plant the seeds, you grow the garden, God will grow your family. Love you all! ❤️
I was a foster mom for several years and had the opportunity to adopt one of them. I too wanted to have more kids but it didn't work out. I have a wonderful handsome son who is now 23 years old. We got him as a foster child at 7 days old and he went to Honduras with his mom for 4 months. Then we went to visit him and were asked to bring him back with us. We did and 5 1/2 years later we adopted him. Sometimes it's not how you get the baby, but when. I was 40 years old when he was born. I will be praying that you will be blessed and happy no matter what life brings you.
Wow from 1 who got seriously messed up over fertility problems , your sister is an inspiration.. now I gave up at about 26 because the trying stopped been fun and it was having a bad affect on us as a couple, od jad a lot of miscarriages after having an ectopic removed but 6 month after we gave up the 1 time we decided to do the dirty because it had been missing in our relationship and bam , less the stress of trying made a huge difference, so we managed our 1 miracle but omg it ant half true about how time flys when your having fun ..shes 19 now and I've no clue where that 20 years went..it zipped by..shes just like me animal mad so off to vet college next September, ..can you pass on congratulations to your sister, after I had Abbie that was it I couldn't get pregnant again after that, I was sorry we didn't start trying as teens as were together since pre school..
I just came across this poem that helped me during difficult times - I came back to this video to share it with you. It was written by Corrie Teen Boom - an amazing person that was sent to the concentration camps but a clerical mistake was made and she was released. She wrote the book "Hiding place" about when she was in the concentration camp and how her sister Betsy helped her to see things in a different way. Wonderful book. Here is the poem - I hope it blesses you as much as it did and does for me. My life is but a weaving Between my God and me. I cannot choose the colors He weaveth steadily. Oft’ times He weaveth sorrow; And I in foolish pride Forget He sees the upper And I the underside. Not ’til the loom is silent And the shuttles cease to fly Will God unroll the canvas And reveal the reason why. The dark threads are as needful In the weaver’s skillful hand As the threads of gold and silver In the pattern He has planned He knows, He loves, He cares; Nothing this truth can dim. He gives the very best to those Who leave the choice to Him.
That's a wonderful poem. Corri Ten Boom. She was in very bad situations, first in hiding, then in a concentration camp where it was impossible for her to do anything to change her situation. Their faith in God saw them through. It was a miracle she was spared.
I am a 57 yr old new subscriber after seeing y'all say the honest to God truth about babies. Know what? I have learned so much from both of you today. It has nothing to do with having children either. You have reminded me to be a grateful, humble and prayerful person. Most important is that it's ok to wonder "why me or why not me" but not to linger there for too much time. There are so many other things I got from both of you that I will carry in my heart, so thank you.
I am adopted. I love both of my parents to this day even though both have passed on. Your parents are the people who love and care for you. When people ask me if I want to find my real mom I always say “Your mom is the person who holds your head out of the toilet with a cool cloth when you’re throwing up at 2:30 in the morning - I know exactly where my real mom is.”
I completely understand what you're saying as well as what you're feeling, at least for the most part. I've never known my biological father ALTHOUGH I DID meet him once by pure accident. I didn't find out that the man that my mom and I ran into at the mall when I was about to turn 10 years old, until I was just entering my 3rd trimester with my son. Anyhow, to keep this as short as possible, I get what you mean because my mom had been married to my step-dad for a little under 2 years when this happened. I don't consider my step-dad my step-dad BUT INSTEAD I consider him to be my REAL father because he raised BOTH my brother and I as his own when the man I now refer to as my sperm donor didn't bother to do a single thing AND SO BECAUSE I WAS RAISED by a man who didn't owe it to my brother and I to raise us as he did, I call him dad because he truly is one helluva man!!!!!!!! ❤❤😊❤❤
We tried for 6 yrs, even our fertility specialist finally pulled aside and said we were out of options and that we might consider adoption. We lost so many to miscarriage. We gave up, quit everything, a few months later, I was pregnant and carried our beautiful boy to term. Prayers are with you and your family! Bless you!!
My name is Judy I know exactly what you are going through. Having one son at 18 then 3 miscarriages and at 29 having cancer, we couldn't have more children. We always wanted at least 7. Never wanted a only child. It was very hard on him wanting a sister or brother. I am now 74 years our son is 55 married with no children. We still miss not having the big family, but God has blessed us with a beautiful 56 years of marriage. Keep smiling you have great things in store for you in the future!
I'm in Bell County KY. I lost my son 2015 .He has a twin sister I still grieve today. The Lord and gardening has kept me sane. The Lord will bless you.
I'm truly sorry for your loss. My niece was killed in an accident a few years ago now and a day doesn't go by that I don't think of her and miss her. Even having this close family death, I still cannot imagine how hard it would be to lose a child. As I said earlier, I'm so, so very sorry for your unimaginable loss.
I am a mom of boy/girl twins who are 7. Your comment literally took my breath away. I'm so sorry for your loss (and your daughter's loss). I would be absolutely destroyed. Not only did you lose your son, but you watched your daughter lose the person she was so bonded to. You are incredibly strong. May God continue to comfort you and your daughter ❤
I have a 32 year old a 26 year old and a 4 and 5 year old who were born 2/23/2016 02/22/2017. I will be 50 may 27th and I have 4 grandchildren ages 4,6,8,9
Wow, well done. My parents were in their 40s when I popped up, my brothers were grown up and it was a wonderful, happy time, my parents are now long gone and I miss them with all my heart and I wouldn’t change any of it. Just, one thing though, I’m in my 60s and lots of my friends still have their parents but that’s the only drawback. Also my kids are spaced out, from 45 to 32 to 26 and I love the relationship they have.
Today this video came up and I truly felt led to comment. I've been a follower and friend so to speak for a while but never saw this...until today. I am going to be keeping you both in prayer specifically for this. I lost my husband this February 13, 2021. Although my pain is different than yours my heart truly has been moved . You two have the life he and I wanted. I can easily see Styles Family Homestead every time I see your videos. So I totally get that feeling of not jealousy but the "I wish that were me/us" You both dont know how much smiles and laughter and just happy feelings you have brought to me in the months of my Tommy's passing. I say all this just for you to know that you both are a blessing. I truly will be praying for peace as you've asked but also that God blesses you with all that you long for. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. From my home in Southern Maryland we send love and prayers♡
I'm 49 y/o and I was adopted at birth. My parents told me when I was 11. There is no possible way that I could have been loved more (except by God). I grew up knowing that I was loved, cherished and most of all, wanted. Adoption is a beautiful thing.
Yes it is!!! I’m the oldest of 14. All but one of us is adopted. My brother and I were adopted by our dad shortly after he married mom. The others were adopted by both parents. I feel no different love for them than I do my full bio brother. I often forget when filling out family history at the doctors, lol. Recently we lost our 3rd youngest baby sister very suddenly and unexpectedly. I helped raise her the 25 years she had on this earth. I was “mama”, sister and best friend. I can’t imagine I would grieve any harder than were she biologically related. Adoption is a powerful, bittersweet, most beautiful God ordained thing. I am so blessed to be a part of it in so many ways.
My birth mother died when I was 15 months old. Out of society values and guilt, my aunt took me in. She was not mentally equipped to have more than one child, even though she birthed two of her own. And for me to be a reminder in 1955, that her sister was an unwed mother, probably caused her alot of turmoil. She was all about appearances. I had a Dad in my uncle who was so loving and kind, but it couldn't make up for not having a Mom. It was frequently implied that I was less than the rest by my "mother-aunt". It kinda makes me sick when people gush over missing their moms. I never had the emotional nurturing a child needs. Always had food and clothes. That's how I developed an obsession with food and got up to 305 pounds, now 200, so still not my best at age 66.
Jen, I just turned 40 I didn't have my daughter till I was 34 and then had had to have my tubes tied because it was to dangerous for me to have more. I tell you this not to say be grateful for what you have because I know you are I tell you this cause even if you don't have more, it is okay to grieve for what you wanted and feel the pain of unfulfilled dreams. You will continue to live and love and will always be proud of what you have. Give your self the freedom to feel what you feel.
Yes!! Feel what you feel and keep asking God, who already knows what you want and need, to provide you with what will be best. Then, keep your hearts and eyes open for opportunities. ❤️
@@LisaPFrampton I have autoimmune issues that causes issues. I have a blood clotting disorder exasperated by hormone changes and then had heart failure after.
I understand those feelings all too well. I never was able to conceive, and every birth announcement was joy and pain. Praying your peace through the journey. 🙏🏼
My mom wanted babies all her life. My sister was born 19 years after me. My mom said she had 19 years between miracles. I had a wonderful mom and dad. They were so happy to have both of their girls ! May God take care of you !
Such a courageous part of your story! I accepted that my first miracle baby was "enough"...20 years later God sent my 2nd miracle baby. We say it's because God has a sense of humor. Absolutely prating that God provide you with comfort & peace. Everyone's journey is so different & God is faithful in it all. 💜 From a 40+ year old momma with a 22 y.o. & a 2 y.o. (both naturally) huge hugs!!
Gods grace to all that hears his words.Thanks for sharing ur story.Bless to the new one!!,and all the others.Husband as well!!!And we dont want to forget you too!!!
The more I get to know you 2 the more I want to just sit in your living room and chat, offer hugs, laugh with you as you giggle over your love. I pray for your continued happiness.
My husband and i had been married 12 years. I was 35 and decided to have a tubal because of my high blood pressure and age. Went to the doctor and had my bloodwork, signed the forms ready to get it done. Next thing i know the doctor calls and said we are not doing the surgery you are pregnant. I had a high risk pregnancy but praise God i had a healthy baby boy at 36. My miracle from God!!! God is still in the miracle making business. Prayers and hugs.
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What a sweet video. When my daughter died at 32 I was consumed with why. I think this is normal and just human. I was driving in the car one day 6 months later and laughed at something my husband said, then broke into tears as how could I laugh? For me I began to find peace when I was able to ask "what" do I do now that this sorrowful thing has happened? Sounds like you are there. It does not make the sorrow go away but it helps you move on in your life.
Hugs. Life is challenging. I am 62. Never married. No kids. My life was full of events that lead me to this. In my 30's I was surrounded by pregnant friends and going to many weddings. It was painful to be single. God has different plans for me. I was a teacher for 36 years. My students became my kids. My friends became more like family. Prayers for you. You are lucky that you have your family.
I am also in my 60's. I always wanted kids, marriage, farm life, etc. Everyone thought I would be the first of us 4 kids to get married, etc. Nothing fell into place. Even when I got married at 42, it wasn't right, and didn't last. I'm now retired and have my farm and gardens, and my 'kids' are 4-legged. I have to remind myself sometimes to quit looking back and 'what might have been' and look to what makes me happy and fulfilled now and for the future.
I feel guilty for feeling the feelings I have,but compelled to reply to your post. I couldn’t find someone who wanted to be with me ,who loved me enough to marry me,to be together for life..but,at 40 ,I met someone. We married .we have been together ten years,married for eight in may. I never thought I’d be a wife. I haven’t got children,there were health reasons before I married mand also old fashioned marry and gave a baby. I decided I would take a risk and try for a child before marrying. Nothing happened,so we both went off for tests. His wasn’t good,but mine I was not expecting.they did not predict getting pregnant was likely. I was surprised I took it hard because I’d lived my life thinking no babies,as advised by the dr. At 49 ,I do share some of your feelings...because upto recent years,I was in the exact same position. 🙏🏻💕
I understand and cry with you. I have 3 grown daughters the oldest had several miscarriages and then had to have a hysterectomy. She still cries if someone ask her when she is going to have kids. The middle one had 3 beautiful children then the 3rd daughter just turned 40 and has never been able to have children. Its very hard for both my girls but life goes on and they have family to support them in whatever way we can.
I know this was a year ago, but I'm really praying for you all. Praying for complete peace and healing for you two. I understand what it is like to live with something that you struggle to have peace with and I'm just praying you two find peace ❤️💕
I feel your pain. My husband and I went through the same thing and we were never able to have any. My husband is passed and now I'm alone . I really am praying for your hearts to heal. God bless your family.❣️❣️❣️
All I ever wanted was to be a wife, barefoot and pregnant here I am almost 60 and it never happened. I still have dreams of being pregnant, being a mom and it still hurts. What did I wrong to not deserve to be a mom.
Same here I'm almost 51 years old this month and I have not been able to have children and I was never blessed to have found a Godly compatible man. Sometimes life is a journey one that will lead you in many different directions but stay strong and have faith in Christ Jesus and he will guide you. But it's a blessing you guys got two kids and their beautiful kids and they're hilarious and they have two lovely parents who will give them lots of love lots of attention and have them walk in Christ and to be genuinely loving and caring people. It's a blessing truly it is
My story is similar, had a boy at 23 and a girl at 26, wanted more but they never came. I enjoyed them both so much , I raised them, never in daycare or babysitters. They grew up and married and I gained a daughter and son then the grand babies came. Only 2 a girl 25 and a boy 14. I was involved in raising them every day. I have been so happy and blessed and although I wanted 5 children, I ultimately ended up with them. Please be happy and if it happens what a wonderful thing it will be!! If not then you will still have a very blessed life.
This is my story too. I wanted 4, God gave me 2; a boy at 23 and a girl at 28. Both with very difficult pregnancies. My son is married with 2 beautiful girls which I have helped to raise. My daughter just married last year. Im sure I will help raise her kids. God always answers our prayers.
What an moving video. I’m so proud of you guys for moving forward in a very positive way. What you both have gone through is one of the biggest heartaches any couple can go through. You both are amazing people and I’m sure your children are just as amazing.
I’m so sorry for the hurt y’all are experiencing. I heard something this week on K-LOVE and it has stuck with me. When you are faced with a rough time/diagnosis/situation instead of asking why, ask what is God trying to do through that situation. Just from this video I see several things. It’s bringing you closer to him. Y’all sharing your story to encourage others. While you may not be pregnant yet, y’all are right where you are meant to be in your journey. Praying for y’all!
It is so difficult to adopt in Australia, I had considered it but have never known where to start. All the best to you and to those people whose countries make it easier to adopt
They will not allow you to foster if you are off grid. I dont know what this family does medically. But IF they dont vax either, well then there is no option to foster due to that either.
@@kellybyrne7844 oh my...I felt so sad when I read your story. I live in America. It's not easy to adopt here either. Paper work galore, interviews, someone going thru your life and finances, etc. It takes months. Years even. And to get a baby is nearly impossible if you don't have allot of money. Allot of kids are older and no one wants them. If you can find it in your heart to accept someone older, you might find a gem in that mix no one wants. They are all precious souls going thru life with no family of their own. Sharpen your pencil and start filling out those papers!! Good luck!!💜✌️🦋🙏
@@kellybyrne7844 They're not adopted. They're fostered and eventually, maybe you'd be a foster failure and be able to adopt. It gets the children out of a temporary setting and into a stable environment, so they can hopefully flourish.
Maybe it will happen, maybe it won’t , only the Lord knows for certain BUT as an adoptive mom of two children from the Foster care system, please don’t forget that there are lots of children out there who would be blessed to be part of your family ( and you would be blessed by the addition ♥️♥️♥️)
Soooooo many babies need love and protection in this world, perhaps God has plans for you to foster or adopt the next part of tour family. Your faith will guide you. Blessings.
Thank you for having the courage to share your journey with us. Your transparency about the situation and the feelings you’re expressing with such raw honesty is such an encouragement. Sending positive vibes and thoughts to your family 🥰
This is the first video I've ever seen of y'alls. I love the honesty and realness. I know you are reaching so many people with your testimony. I just subbed. Just love y'all!! I'm praying for y'all.
I had to take pills to get pregnant because of hormonal issues. Got a beautiful daughter. Lost two after that and gave up. God decided to bless us with our son 11 yrs later.
My favorite saying, which was told to me by my daughter’s birthmother, is “It is what it is.” I love this because it helps me to accept life on life’s terms. With acceptance, you can think about what else do I want to do? My husband and I took all of the foster classes, we tried everything but IVF, then finally adopted through an adoption agency. We have 2 beautiful girls. Life is a journey and everyone has a story. This is a part of your life story that is unique and special to you. Now you know what it is to have children and to have infertility issues. You’re wiser than most.
“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” You're right, there's nothing anyone can say or do to make this better. I pray God gives you peace, His peace, about this situation. You're a brave women to look this straight in the face. God bless y'all from SC!
God love you too, I'm 57 years old I've always wanted to have children and never have been blessed with one, so I want to say to you too, you have two beautiful children that God has blessed you with ,enjoy your time with them, you will have a long joyful journey with them, God bless both of you and your two blessings 💕🙏✝️🕊️💖🇺🇸
I just happened across this video this morning. Not having known you or your journey or struggles before, I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for your honesty and authenticity and raw truth. Thank you for loving as much as you both do and for being so humble and kind in the process. May you find the peace you both deserve 💜
Lete encourage y'all. My husband and I were married nearly 10 years before our baby came along. 2 doctors told me I'd never have one. We couldn't afford the fancy invitro stuff. God gave us a baby at 35. We have a friend. She and her husband were together 15 or 16 years. Just accepted there were to be no children, and BOOM! Here came 2, one right after the other. Keep your chin up! ❤️
Did you happen to be on antibiotics months before conceiving like from the dentist theirs a bacteria in the cervix that can cause a miscarriage or infertility. . I went to the library to get a book on pregnancy they were all check out except one the infertility solution . . It was about the bacteria. Turns out I was pregnant at the time didn’t know it and had been to the dentist 3 months earlier. My vet and his wife were on their third failed invitro I gave them the book they had Two kids
Yes indeed. I adopted a 6.5 month old baby boy it took one second to make the decision. He will Always be my son and I will always none his Mom he will be 15 6.9.06
Just discovered and subscribed to your channel. Sorry about the health issues. This is such a precious video. Think it can help to talk about our struggles, releasing a bit of the pain, disappointment, sadness. We're all just humans. I have two children, adults now, also had an ectopic and a miscarriage. It's hard for sure. Sending y'all hugs. God loves you and I pray you often feel his loving arms around you ✌️
I’m living this right now. My husband and I lost a baby (our son), and had multiple miscarriages. But we were blessed with a daughter 4 years ago. She is my world. We have tried for another baby for over 3 years with no success. I’ll be praying for you and your beautiful family. You can be grateful for the kids you do have and still be sad for what you don’t. I totally get that! Love you guys, praying for peace!
Wouldn't it be nice if life just followed our plans... Just know that God does have a plan. The "why" question is just so maddening and difficult to deal with. Love you guys.
I lost my son at age 17 and all of those questions you asked God, I've been asking for almost 4 years now! I don't understand and never will but I have to live for today and I can't give up! Thanks for sharing your story! This was the first video I have watched of yours and I def had to subscribe!!
You are not alone. My husband and I are going through the same journey as well. Thank you for being so courageous to share your story. You have blessed and encouraged me so much.
I'm so sorry. We went through years of infertility and understand how much it hurts when others get pregnant when you're trying. Praying for you both!!
My wife and I have been married for 30 years and were never able to have biological children. We tried for 13 years and are extremely familiar with the pain. We adopted our daughter in 2003 and she is as much my daughter as a biological child could be. Let me encourage you to pray about adopting a child. There are so many of them that need loving families.
Please consider adoption. I have a very sad story behind my story however if my adoption was based on parents having so much love in their hearts to give, my life would have been so much different. There are so many children without a house to call home, stability and knowing what unconditional love feels like. I'm always willing to open up on the good and ugly truth of adoption, feel free to reach out. You can also reach out to adoption agencies in your state, they have classes you can take that explain a ton behind the masked "adoption is beautiful". It's not all rainbows and butterflies but what kid is? 🥰
I know exactly how you feel. I understand your hurt and pain. I’ve been there and and share your pain. Thank you for your honesty and sharing your life with us. Prayers for y’all
After 4 years of marriage and no baby I gave up. Began thinking adoption. One day my husband told me he thought I was pregnant. I told him he was being mean and why would he say that. His response. Because your crying about everything. I then realized I was crying. Baby boy # 1. Babies happen when you least expect them. Clear your minds and bodies. Baby will come. ❤️U.
Jenn I'm so sorry but be happy with your two that you have. If it's to be it will be. God is in control of everything. Quit worrying about it and it may happen when you least expect it. Either way live in peace, joy and good health. Many prayers to you! I love you guys. I will be praying for you!!!💗💗💗
You two are the definition of grace. I pray for peace in the Stiver's Homestead and for God's loving arms to comfort you. In Jesus' name, amen. We love you! ❤️❤️❤️
We had one baby and could never have another. I even took fertility drugs which in hindsight so glad they didn’t work cause could have had six or more. Finally decided one was all God had for us.God is good all the time! Prayers for you.
Same! We have one and went though fertility treatment (minus drugs, since my husband and I both decided to not mess with them due to my hormonal problems going in.) I wonder sometimes if I should have but I also realized that our one son is our miracle (he’s now 19) and God doesn’t make mistakes! God bless you! Thankful he blessed us both with one!🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🤗
I’m sure your intentions are pure, but as a woman who has struggled with infertility for over 10 years, this is one of the most frustrating things someone can say. If someone is longing for a child you don’t need to remind them of adoption. They know. It is often an extremely expensive process that most can’t afford. If you’d like more advice of some helpful things to say I’d love to share what has encouraged me. Blessings to you.
Oh gosh, my heart breaks for you. It's so tough watching everyone else receive what your heart longs for. I had seen glimpses of the heaviness in Zack and wondered what it was about. In Proverbs there is a verse that says hope deferred makes the heart sick, and it is so very true. When a desire is not met and our hope is deferred it is a very hard thing sometimes. I know the enemy of our faith can attack with thoughts trying to tempt us to dispair, but I am so so thankful you guys are solid in your faith. The grief we feel when something longed for is let go of can be overwhelmingly powerful. How good it is to know that God sees and the Lord understands our sorrows. My heart wraps around you in this season...I am so thankful you are holding on to God and His plan and care for you. I will be praying for God's grace to be yours as you continue forward in your lives in HIS will and for joy to be restored in full as you go from here. Love you guys very much. ~Patty~
I am going out in another limb here.. I’m about to turn 52 in 2 weeks and my last child, my daughter, is about to graduate from high school. My oldest son has graduated from college and is married and My middle son is 2nd year in college. I’m having such a hard time right now with the fact that my babies are grown up. Please please take this time And enjoy your babies while they are young. Relish in every moment with them, take it all in with every age they are. People tell you they grow up fast, but you don’t understand until they are all grown. It’s killing me to know that I won’t have kiddos in and out of my house all day and the giggles and laughter around my house. Don’t get me wrong, I’m so very proud of them and I know I’ve raised them to be successful in life, but it’s so hard for me knowing that part of being a mom is all but over with. Really spend dime with your two precious babies and put everything into them now. Build a lifetime of memories together! Love you all! ❤️🙏🏻
I sure understand what you are going through ❤️ we’ve been married 43 years this year, we were high school sweethearts, dated 3 years, married, had 2 girls 3 years apart. Just like they say it goes way to fast and the grew up! Then came 2004, what a year. The oldest daughter got married in March, youngest daughter graduated from high school in June and went away to college in Sept and our dog was old and getting to the end of her life. Our house went from kids, kids friends, and a dog to just the two of us again. It was an adjustment.... helped having great friends! This is now a new time in our lives, we have two beautiful granddaughters, and today is the 4th week of my husbands retirement. He’s worked so hard for so many years owning and running a business. Still getting used to not having set an alarm clock. But here for both of our moms who are 88 and 81, and live close, we can do more for them now. Life is good ❤️💕
I can so relate. I have seven beautiful angels. My youngest is now 23. Six years ago, my brother & I went through foster parent classes & got awarded custody of a baby, who is a family member. Although, the state was aware we wanted him from birth, they placed him in foster care. When the foster family knew we wanted him, they also pursued custody. Custody was given to us, but we never got him. So much time had gone by due to the system & the ineptitude of the social workers that we decided that it was best to leave him with his foster family & allow them to adopt him. This was extremely painful. I was adopted so I have experience with that. Anyhow, God put it on my heart that I wanted to be a foster parent. I wanted to care for teenagers. I was devastated that did not happen. Then one day I realized that it had happened. God gave me a stepson. He gave me a stepson whose mother has had nothing to do with him in over a decade. He graduated high school last year. I still miss the chaos that once was. J has given me his child to love & together we have a puppy who we love as a child. Sometimes when your heart really longs for something, you have a preconceptions idea of what that something looks like & then it comes to you in an entirely unexpected or different way.
1000% agree. It goes way too fast and quick. Very well said. My precious beautiful two babies are grown now. My son is going to be 34 on April 2oth. And he is sill single and doesn't have any children. And my daughter going to be 30 on August 7th. She is married and has two daughters. My first grand daughter is 6 years old and going to be 7 in December. My second grand daughter is 2 years old and going to be 3 in August. And my granddaughters are getting big so fast . And it going quickly with them. I tell my daughter and my son in law and everyone who has precious little ones. To enjoy and cherish their precious babies as much as possible. Because it goes really fast and quick. Before you know it they are grown and married and having their own family. 💗🙏🕊👍🇺🇸😍🌷
Hi guys, 5 year’s infertility here, but it worked finally! Never give up hope that you will get what you want. Doing necessary things from day 8 of cycle starting and every day until at least day 14, and putting a pillow under your hips after each time. Zinc tablets for guys and prenatal for women. I was 41 when my youngest arrived; you guys have got this xx ( the infertility online community is so very supportive and understanding and full of extra information)
My son and his wife could not have their own children. He has a heart condition and she has health issues but they were blessed to adopt a new born baby boy and the family loves him so much and has brought so much joy into our lives. You guys are good parents and good people. If its the lords will he will allow you to have another baby one way or another. God Bless you!
I adopted two children that were older when they came to my home. My ex and I tried for years to have our own child and it never happened. Your lives were meant to follow a different path, and keep your hearts and souls open to except whatever comes your way. Blessings to you all.
So many things I want to say to you guys....this is such a raw, real window into your life together; I cried with you. Jenn, I completely understand what you’re going through, I wanted to expand our family last year but my husband did not. It’s a very hard situation, especially as a women to realize you might never bring life into this world again. It was one of the hardest internal battles I ever had to face but peace will and did come for me. You already know HE is in control but also know that I’m praying for you both everyday. I wanted to say this the other night on the live but like you said “words are hard” 😂🤚🏻🤦🏻♀️ .... You’re videos & channel helped me through a very dark time in my life, so much so it’s hard for me to put into words. I’m a better wife, mother & person because of you both. You show us all being human is a beautiful thing. So in your dark times, know there are people who love and support you and are always rooting you on! ❤️ Oh...and side note...just because you’re on TH-cam showing us portion of your lives, does not mean you owe anyone explanations. Don’t feel pressure to share something when you’re not ready, or apologize for things already posted, or get down on yourself at any point in your process. As someone who binged watched every episode in about a months time....you guys have come a very long way in a short amount of time....and you’re only going to continue that path. Big things are happening for you and your family, I know it. Feel confident knowing the movement & community you have already created for so many, and don’t give weight to the negative bs. Sending you both virtual hugs! Keep on keeping on! ❤️ Much love!
I don't think it's a bad thing to step away from what triggers you to question why God isn't allowing you to grow your family. I've been in a similar situation, and sometimes just taking a break from having it in your face, is good for you. God doesn't want you to be in pain, and He will see you through to finding new joys in everyday. Doesn't mean there won't be times when you still question it, but know that there are many of us praying for that peace that you so desperately need right now.
Just be grateful for what you have and continue to be the best parents you can be. Now it's time to keep moving on. Be grateful and thankful for the two you have.
I also had this happen When I got pregnant, it was like once they told me I was then my body said hey I guess I need to stop showing up every month.... LoL it was like my body had to be told... LoL...
I was told I would never have children. It took until I was 40 when I finally got pregnant with my only son. I will pray for you and your family and for peace either way❤
You two are so sweet. God bless you in your pain. It is real. So proud of you as a fellow Kentuckian. Know that God feels your pain beachside your are part of him and it would be impossible for him not to.
As a woman who has desperately wanted children of her own but have not been able...please know that I know the pain you're feeling. I am also familiar with that joyful sting. I have always felt like it was wrong for me to feel that mix of joy and jealousy. I've never wanted to feel that way but I couldn't help it. My heart goes out to you because I truly KNOW that pain. I cannot thank you enough for sharing such an intimate message. It touches my heart in ways that words cannot express ❤
We had our first 3 children within 3 years ...then experienced 7.5 years with no babies and then all of a sudden the Lord decided to give us 3 more babies in a row! Y'all are absolutely right to desire peace and contentment and keep trusting the Lord that He knows best no matter what.🙏💕
I was never blessed with any Children. I had a dream once where God told me I would be the Mother of Many Children. Much later, I worked in the mental health system, in a Drop In Center in Southeastern PA. After a while, the People began to call me Mom. There were so many. Some were much older and much younger than me! I love them All. God Bless You!
I love when God writes the story, he knew you needed to hear that word mom
Precious story
That's beautiful.
Amen!
That gave me chills! You are special!
This is a beautiful, honest, heart wrenching video. Having been in the same situation, you described the emotions exactly. Prayers for peace and happiness to the Stivers family.
I wanted ten children, then 6. After years of infertility and ivf, I was blessed with one precious girl who is now a law student. So grateful. 🥰🥰
Good for your baby girl. I did IVF 3x & had a beautiful boy. God gives you what you can handle, i wonder bc. Michael's fine now in remission but graduated engineering physics 20' while doing chemo. Brave guy. Good luck in life
I wanted at least 4. Got 2. Have had issues since sadly. Thankful for the 2 but it does get upsetting at times
Same! I always wanted many children. I wanted five but struggled to have one. Ultimately we had one perfect, beautiful daughter via IVF and feel like the luckiest people on the planet to have our one. I would love to have more children but I've accepted it is probably not in the cards. It's a tough pill to swallow but I'll always be grateful for my daughter, she lights up our world.
Same here. Wanted many kids, but have 1 blessing of a child after IVF etc. So grateful.
Oh wow
Well, you asked God for a large family, and you got 48.8k of us! The very first video I saw was the one where you talked about how you had been heading for a divorce. You plant the plant the seeds, you grow the garden, God will grow your family. Love you all! ❤️
Beautiful, beautiful, yes! One big family.😊💞
We are here with you, we love you!
What a great comment.
Amen!
Couldnt have been said better, Amen!
Yes❤
I was a foster mom for several years and had the opportunity to adopt one of them. I too wanted to have more kids but it didn't work out. I have a wonderful handsome son who is now 23 years old. We got him as a foster child at 7 days old and he went to Honduras with his mom for 4 months. Then we went to visit him and were asked to bring him back with us. We did and 5 1/2 years later we adopted him. Sometimes it's not how you get the baby, but when. I was 40 years old when he was born. I will be praying that you will be blessed and happy no matter what life brings you.
My sister had her first baby at 41 after trying for 24 years. Never give up. 💜
Me too!
Prayers to your sis. It took me 13yrs & i was 35yrs when i had him back in 97.
Wow from 1 who got seriously messed up over fertility problems , your sister is an inspiration.. now I gave up at about 26 because the trying stopped been fun and it was having a bad affect on us as a couple, od jad a lot of miscarriages after having an ectopic removed but 6 month after we gave up the 1 time we decided to do the dirty because it had been missing in our relationship and bam , less the stress of trying made a huge difference, so we managed our 1 miracle but omg it ant half true about how time flys when your having fun ..shes 19 now and I've no clue where that 20 years went..it zipped by..shes just like me animal mad so off to vet college next September, ..can you pass on congratulations to your sister, after I had Abbie that was it I couldn't get pregnant again after that, I was sorry we didn't start trying as teens as were together since pre school..
@@bigbiemacaw great story! So happy for you! She'll do GREAT!
I just came across this poem that helped me during difficult times - I came back to this video to share it with you. It was written by Corrie Teen Boom - an amazing person that was sent to the concentration camps but a clerical mistake was made and she was released. She wrote the book "Hiding place" about when she was in the concentration camp and how her sister Betsy helped her to see things in a different way. Wonderful book. Here is the poem - I hope it blesses you as much as it did and does for me.
My life is but a weaving
Between my God and me.
I cannot choose the colors
He weaveth steadily.
Oft’ times He weaveth sorrow;
And I in foolish pride
Forget He sees the upper
And I the underside.
Not ’til the loom is silent
And the shuttles cease to fly
Will God unroll the canvas
And reveal the reason why.
The dark threads are as needful
In the weaver’s skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver
In the pattern He has planned
He knows, He loves, He cares;
Nothing this truth can dim.
He gives the very best to those
Who leave the choice to Him.
Thank you for the poem, I love it❤
So beautiful 💜💜💜✝️
That's a wonderful poem. Corri Ten Boom. She was in very bad situations, first in hiding, then in a concentration camp where it was impossible for her to do anything to change her situation. Their faith in God saw them through. It was a miracle she was spared.
Brilliant. 😊Thanks for sharing
Beautiful
I am a 57 yr old new subscriber after seeing y'all say the honest to God truth about babies. Know what? I have learned so much from both of you today. It has nothing to do with having children either. You have reminded me to be a grateful, humble and prayerful person. Most important is that it's ok to wonder "why me or why not me" but not to linger there for too much time. There are so many other things I got from both of you that I will carry in my heart, so thank you.
hello how are you doing my friend
Pray for the Kneady Homesteaders family.
Amen 🙏
Amen.
🙏
Absolutely. I pray for them daily
Yes, 🙏✝️
I am adopted. I love both of my parents to this day even though both have passed on. Your parents are the people who love and care for you. When people ask me if I want to find my real mom I always say “Your mom is the person who holds your head out of the toilet with a cool cloth when you’re throwing up at 2:30 in the morning - I know exactly where my real mom is.”
I think you should still look for bio mom coz it's really hard for mother's to give up their babies.
My two grandsons are adopted, and we could not love them any more! Babies are such a blessing. God bless the Stivers🙏🏻
I’m adopted also and I did find my birth parents. Sometimes that can be disappointing 🤷🏼♀️
I completely understand what you're saying as well as what you're feeling, at least for the most part. I've never known my biological father ALTHOUGH I DID meet him once by pure accident. I didn't find out that the man that my mom and I ran into at the mall when I was about to turn 10 years old, until I was just entering my 3rd trimester with my son. Anyhow, to keep this as short as possible, I get what you mean because my mom had been married to my step-dad for a little under 2 years when this happened. I don't consider my step-dad my step-dad BUT INSTEAD I consider him to be my REAL father because he raised BOTH my brother and I as his own when the man I now refer to as my sperm donor didn't bother to do a single thing AND SO BECAUSE I WAS RAISED by a man who didn't owe it to my brother and I to raise us as he did, I call him dad because he truly is one helluva man!!!!!!!! ❤❤😊❤❤
I wish my daughter felt this way.
We tried for 6 yrs, even our fertility specialist finally pulled aside and said we were out of options and that we might consider adoption. We lost so many to miscarriage. We gave up, quit everything, a few months later, I was pregnant and carried our beautiful boy to term. Prayers are with you and your family! Bless you!!
hello Gina
My name is Judy I know exactly what you are going through. Having one son at 18 then 3 miscarriages and at 29 having cancer, we couldn't have more children. We always wanted at least 7. Never wanted a only child. It was very hard on him wanting a sister or brother. I am now 74 years our son is 55 married with no children. We still miss not having the big family, but God has blessed us with a beautiful 56 years of marriage. Keep smiling you have great things in store for you in the future!
God's peace and everlasting love be with you both.
Thanks for your transparency. It is very encouraging for those who go through the same thing to realize that they are not alone.
I'm in Bell County KY. I lost my son 2015 .He has a twin sister I still grieve today. The Lord and gardening has kept me sane. The Lord will bless you.
I'm truly sorry for your loss. My niece was killed in an accident a few years ago now and a day doesn't go by that I don't think of her and miss her. Even having this close family death, I still cannot imagine how hard it would be to lose a child. As I said earlier, I'm so, so very sorry for your unimaginable loss.
I am a mom of boy/girl twins who are 7. Your comment literally took my breath away. I'm so sorry for your loss (and your daughter's loss). I would be absolutely destroyed. Not only did you lose your son, but you watched your daughter lose the person she was so bonded to. You are incredibly strong. May God continue to comfort you and your daughter ❤
We have a 34 year old and a 3 year old. Don't give up on miracles.
I have a 32 year old a 26 year old and a 4 and 5 year old who were born 2/23/2016 02/22/2017. I will be 50 may 27th and I have 4 grandchildren ages 4,6,8,9
Whaaaaaaaaa?????? And I'm worried about trying again and my kids being twelve years apart.
Wow, well done. My parents were in their 40s when I popped up, my brothers were grown up and it was a wonderful, happy time, my parents are now long gone and I miss them with all my heart and I wouldn’t change any of it. Just, one thing though, I’m in my 60s and lots of my friends still have their parents but that’s the only drawback. Also my kids are spaced out, from 45 to 32 to 26 and I love the relationship they have.
Beautiful Blessings
Wow !
Today this video came up and I truly felt led to comment. I've been a follower and friend so to speak for a while but never saw this...until today. I am going to be keeping you both in prayer specifically for this. I lost my husband this February 13, 2021. Although my pain is different than yours my heart truly has been moved . You two have the life he and I wanted. I can easily see Styles Family Homestead every time I see your videos. So I totally get that feeling of not jealousy but the "I wish that were me/us" You both dont know how much smiles and laughter and just happy feelings you have brought to me in the months of my Tommy's passing. I say all this just for you to know that you both are a blessing. I truly will be praying for peace as you've asked but also that God blesses you with all that you long for. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. From my home in Southern Maryland we send love and prayers♡
I'm 49 y/o and I was adopted at birth. My parents told me when I was 11. There is no possible way that I could have been loved more (except by God). I grew up knowing that I was loved, cherished and most of all, wanted. Adoption is a beautiful thing.
Yes it is!!! I’m the oldest of 14. All but one of us is adopted. My brother and I were adopted by our dad shortly after he married mom. The others were adopted by both parents. I feel no different love for them than I do my full bio brother. I often forget when filling out family history at the doctors, lol.
Recently we lost our 3rd youngest baby sister very suddenly and unexpectedly. I helped raise her the 25 years she had on this earth. I was “mama”, sister and best friend. I can’t imagine I would grieve any harder than were she biologically related.
Adoption is a powerful, bittersweet, most beautiful God ordained thing. I am so blessed to be a part of it in so many ways.
Amen!
My birth mother died when I was 15 months old. Out of society values and guilt, my aunt took me in. She was not mentally equipped to have more than one child, even though she birthed two of her own. And for me to be a reminder in 1955, that her sister was an unwed mother, probably caused her alot of turmoil. She was all about appearances. I had a Dad in my uncle who was so loving and kind, but it couldn't make up for not having a Mom. It was frequently implied that I was less than the rest by my "mother-aunt". It kinda makes me sick when people gush over missing their moms. I never had the emotional nurturing a child needs. Always had food and clothes. That's how I developed an obsession with food and got up to 305 pounds, now 200, so still not my best at age 66.
@@crochetcate777 very sorry for your loss 💔
@@ORSkie thank you 💜
Jen, I just turned 40 I didn't have my daughter till I was 34 and then had had to have my tubes tied because it was to dangerous for me to have more. I tell you this not to say be grateful for what you have because I know you are I tell you this cause even if you don't have more, it is okay to grieve for what you wanted and feel the pain of unfulfilled dreams. You will continue to live and love and will always be proud of what you have. Give your self the freedom to feel what you feel.
Beautiful advice.
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Why couldn't you have more? Did something happen?
Yes!! Feel what you feel and keep asking God, who already knows what you want and need, to provide you with what will be best. Then, keep your hearts and eyes open for opportunities. ❤️
@@LisaPFrampton I have autoimmune issues that causes issues. I have a blood clotting disorder exasperated by hormone changes and then had heart failure after.
Sometimes God withholds what we really want so he can give us something even better. Keep leaning on each other and on God. You two are amazing!
I understand those feelings all too well. I never was able to conceive, and every birth announcement was joy and pain. Praying your peace through the journey. 🙏🏼
My mom wanted babies all her life. My sister was born 19 years after me. My mom said she had 19 years between miracles. I had a wonderful mom and dad. They were so happy to have both of their girls ! May God take care of you !
Such a courageous part of your story! I accepted that my first miracle baby was "enough"...20 years later God sent my 2nd miracle baby. We say it's because God has a sense of humor. Absolutely prating that God provide you with comfort & peace. Everyone's journey is so different & God is faithful in it all. 💜 From a 40+ year old momma with a 22 y.o. & a 2 y.o. (both naturally) huge hugs!!
Gods grace to all that hears his words.Thanks for sharing ur story.Bless to the new one!!,and all the others.Husband as well!!!And we dont want to forget you too!!!
hi Kim
The more I get to know you 2 the more I want to just sit in your living room and chat, offer hugs, laugh with you as you giggle over your love. I pray for your continued happiness.
me too!
@@nancyjohnson5901 me too!!!
Hugs. I cried with you hun. Hang tight. In God's time you will be blessed again. I know the waiting is a killer.
We appreciate your honesty. I’m sure this was not an easy video 😘 sending love and hugs to you both 💜
Just be grateful you have the two beautiful children you have. I was never able to have any and for years I cried about it several times a day.
That is absolutely right!
Im so sorry Mariah!
Who says they’re not grateful? Wanting a child is not a choice it comes from inside. It’s nature.
I'm sorry I'm praying for you. God has a different plan. I don't know what but I promise.
My husband and i had been married 12 years. I was 35 and decided to have a tubal because of my high blood pressure and age. Went to the doctor and had my bloodwork, signed the forms ready to get it done. Next thing i know the doctor calls and said we are not doing the surgery you are pregnant. I had a high risk pregnancy but praise God i had a healthy baby boy at 36. My miracle from God!!! God is still in the miracle making business. Prayers and hugs.
Women have had babies even after her tubes was fixed
Congratulations!
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@@Sketchbook999 Thanks for the info.
@@susansmith4749 Thank u
What a sweet video. When my daughter died at 32 I was consumed with why. I think this is normal and just human. I was driving in the car one day 6 months later and laughed at something my husband said, then broke into tears as how could I laugh? For me I began to find peace when I was able to ask "what" do I do now that this sorrowful thing has happened? Sounds like you are there. It does not make the sorrow go away but it helps you move on in your life.
Hugs. Life is challenging. I am 62. Never married. No kids. My life was full of events that lead me to this. In my 30's I was surrounded by pregnant friends and going to many weddings. It was painful to be single. God has different plans for me.
I was a teacher for 36 years. My students became my kids. My friends became more like family. Prayers for you.
You are lucky that you have your family.
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I am also in my 60's. I always wanted kids, marriage, farm life, etc. Everyone thought I would be the first of us 4 kids to get married, etc. Nothing fell into place. Even when I got married at 42, it wasn't right, and didn't last. I'm now retired and have my farm and gardens, and my 'kids' are 4-legged. I have to remind myself sometimes to quit looking back and 'what might have been' and look to what makes me happy and fulfilled now and for the future.
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I feel guilty for feeling the feelings I have,but compelled to reply to your post.
I couldn’t find someone who wanted to be with me ,who loved me enough to marry me,to be together for life..but,at 40 ,I met someone. We married .we have been together ten years,married for eight in may.
I never thought I’d be a wife.
I haven’t got children,there were health reasons before I married mand also old fashioned marry and gave a baby.
I decided I would take a risk and try for a child before marrying.
Nothing happened,so we both went off for tests. His wasn’t good,but mine I was not expecting.they did not predict getting pregnant was likely. I was surprised I took it hard because I’d lived my life thinking no babies,as advised by the dr. At 49 ,I do share some of your feelings...because upto recent years,I was in the exact same position. 🙏🏻💕
Thyroid disorder also if left unstable can lead to loss of babies
Jen, I cried when you cried. My heart is with you both. You will definitely be in my prayers.
Bless you very much in your journey. Prayers for all of you.
Such sweet humility. Prayers work ! Let’s all pray , God hears them and with a lot of us praying it can’t hurt. God Bless you guys!
Don't give up guys. Yall are 2 very strong people. Sending our prayers from NE Texas
Thank you for being vulnerable. Praying with you. Blessings.
You are still together that is what matters most!!
I understand and cry with you. I have 3 grown daughters the oldest had several miscarriages and then had to have a hysterectomy. She still cries if someone ask her when she is going to have kids. The middle one had 3 beautiful children then the 3rd daughter just turned 40 and has never been able to have children. Its very hard for both my girls but life goes on and they have family to support them in whatever way we can.
You are just a thoughtful, respectful couple. God bless you and keep you safe.
I know this was a year ago, but I'm really praying for you all. Praying for complete peace and healing for you two. I understand what it is like to live with something that you struggle to have peace with and I'm just praying you two find peace ❤️💕
I feel your pain. My husband and I went through the same thing and we were never able to have any. My husband is passed and now I'm alone . I really am praying for your hearts to heal. God bless your family.❣️❣️❣️
I just came across your channel. Thank you for sharing this beautiful, heartbreaking and uplifting story. May God bless y'all with every joy.
All I ever wanted was to be a wife, barefoot and pregnant here I am almost 60 and it never happened. I still have dreams of being pregnant, being a mom and it still hurts. What did I wrong to not deserve to be a mom.
Hugs and love to you my sweet friend. ❤️
@@StiversHomestead thank you, taught me that my passion and desire don't fade, but my trust that God knows what's best for had grown
@Living A Rogue Life
You did nothing wrong. 🙏💖
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Same here I'm almost 51 years old this month and I have not been able to have children and I was never blessed to have found a Godly compatible man. Sometimes life is a journey one that will lead you in many different directions but stay strong and have faith in Christ Jesus and he will guide you. But it's a blessing you guys got two kids and their beautiful kids and they're hilarious and they have two lovely parents who will give them lots of love lots of attention and have them walk in Christ and to be genuinely loving and caring people. It's a blessing truly it is
My story is similar, had a boy at 23 and a girl at 26, wanted more but they never came. I enjoyed them both so much , I raised them, never in daycare or babysitters. They grew up and married and I gained a daughter and son then the grand babies came. Only 2 a girl 25 and a boy 14. I was involved in raising them every day. I have been so happy and blessed and although I wanted 5 children, I ultimately ended up with them. Please be happy and if it happens what a wonderful thing it will be!! If not then you will still have a very blessed life.
God meets our story in such amazing ways. I love your story
This is my story too. I wanted 4, God gave me 2; a boy at 23 and a girl at 28. Both with very difficult pregnancies. My son is married with 2 beautiful girls which I have helped to raise. My daughter just married last year. Im sure I will help raise her kids. God always answers our prayers.
What an moving video. I’m so proud of you guys for moving forward in a very positive way. What you both have gone through is one of the biggest heartaches any couple can go through. You both are amazing people and I’m sure your children are just as amazing.
hi Beth
I’m so sorry for the hurt y’all are experiencing. I heard something this week on K-LOVE and it has stuck with me. When you are faced with a rough time/diagnosis/situation instead of asking why, ask what is God trying to do through that situation. Just from this video I see several things. It’s bringing you closer to him. Y’all sharing your story to encourage others. While you may not be pregnant yet, y’all are right where you are meant to be in your journey. Praying for y’all!
There’s nothing wrong with having “ only two”. Maybe consider being foster parents. There are so many children out there who need a loving home!
It is so difficult to adopt in Australia, I had considered it but have never known where to start. All the best to you and to those people whose countries make it easier to adopt
They never said it was wrong. It’s a grief they are feeling, worry, sadness, fear.
They will not allow you to foster if you are off grid. I dont know what this family does medically. But IF they dont vax either, well then there is no option to foster due to that either.
@@kellybyrne7844 oh my...I felt so sad when I read your story. I live in America. It's not easy to adopt here either. Paper work galore, interviews, someone going thru your life and finances, etc. It takes months. Years even. And to get a baby is nearly impossible if you don't have allot of money. Allot of kids are older and no one wants them. If you can find it in your heart to accept someone older, you might find a gem in that mix no one wants. They are all precious souls going thru life with no family of their own. Sharpen your pencil and start filling out those papers!! Good luck!!💜✌️🦋🙏
@@kellybyrne7844 They're not adopted. They're fostered and eventually, maybe you'd be a foster failure and be able to adopt. It gets the children out of a temporary setting and into a stable environment, so they can hopefully flourish.
I love the two of you!!! As a believer in Jesus, you bless my life with encouragement
Maybe it will happen, maybe it won’t , only the Lord knows for certain BUT as an adoptive mom of two children from the Foster care system, please don’t forget that there are lots of children out there who would be blessed to be part of your family ( and you would be blessed by the addition ♥️♥️♥️)
we had two. then 22 yrs later we adopted two foster kids. I don't suggest waiting that long. If you go that way. Hang in there. peace
Soooooo many babies need love and protection in this world, perhaps God has plans for you to foster or adopt the next part of tour family. Your faith will guide you. Blessings.
Praying for peace and a life full of Love ❤🙏
Thank you for having the courage to share your journey with us. Your transparency about the situation and the feelings you’re expressing with such raw honesty is such an encouragement. Sending positive vibes and thoughts to your family 🥰
This is the first video I've ever seen of y'alls. I love the honesty and realness. I know you are reaching so many people with your testimony. I just subbed. Just love y'all!! I'm praying for y'all.
I had to take pills to get pregnant because of hormonal issues. Got a beautiful daughter. Lost two after that and gave up. God decided to bless us with our son 11 yrs later.
Amen, God is so Good
My favorite saying, which was told to me by my daughter’s birthmother, is “It is what it is.” I love this because it helps me to accept life on life’s terms. With acceptance, you can think about what else do I want to do? My husband and I took all of the foster classes, we tried everything but IVF, then finally adopted through an adoption agency. We have 2 beautiful girls. Life is a journey and everyone has a story. This is a part of your life story that is unique and special to you. Now you know what it is to have children and to have infertility issues. You’re wiser than most.
“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” You're right, there's nothing anyone can say or do to make this better. I pray God gives you peace, His peace, about this situation. You're a brave women to look this straight in the face. God bless y'all from SC!
God love you too, I'm 57 years old I've always wanted to have children and never have been blessed with one, so I want to say to you too, you have two beautiful children that God has blessed you with ,enjoy your time with them, you will have a long joyful journey with them, God bless both of you and your two blessings 💕🙏✝️🕊️💖🇺🇸
Peace of God which passeth all understanding, shall keep your heart and minds through Christ Jesus. 🙏
Same here Teresa. 57, no children, or husband. Sometimes still hurts but it won't matter when I'm in heaven someday.
@@juliam1099 we'll have plenty of children in heaven 💞
@@iseetheglory4593 - not sure about that, but it's a sweet thought.
Thanks!
I just happened across this video this morning. Not having known you or your journey or struggles before, I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for your honesty and authenticity and raw truth. Thank you for loving as much as you both do and for being so humble and kind in the process. May you find the peace you both deserve 💜
Lete encourage y'all. My husband and I were married nearly 10 years before our baby came along. 2 doctors told me I'd never have one. We couldn't afford the fancy invitro stuff. God gave us a baby at 35. We have a friend. She and her husband were together 15 or 16 years. Just accepted there were to be no children, and BOOM! Here came 2, one right after the other. Keep your chin up! ❤️
Did you happen to be on antibiotics months before conceiving like from the dentist theirs a bacteria in the cervix that can cause a miscarriage or infertility. . I went to the library to get a book on pregnancy they were all check out except one the infertility solution . . It was about the bacteria. Turns out I was pregnant at the time didn’t know it and had been to the dentist 3 months earlier. My vet and his wife were on their third failed invitro I gave them the book they had Two kids
@@lulubelljingles9701 No antibiotics or meds for me. It was totally the Lord. 😊
Yes indeed. I adopted a 6.5 month old baby boy it took one second to make the decision. He will Always be my son and I will always none his Mom he will be 15 6.9.06
Just discovered and subscribed to your channel. Sorry about the health issues. This is such a precious video. Think it can help to talk about our struggles, releasing a bit of the pain, disappointment, sadness. We're all just humans. I have two children, adults now, also had an ectopic and a miscarriage. It's hard for sure. Sending y'all hugs. God loves you and I pray you often feel his loving arms around you ✌️
Those feelings are so hard to conquer. Praying that God answers your plea for peace! 🙏🙏🙏
I’m living this right now. My husband and I lost a baby (our son), and had multiple miscarriages. But we were blessed with a daughter 4 years ago. She is my world. We have tried for another baby for over 3 years with no success. I’ll be praying for you and your beautiful family. You can be grateful for the kids you do have and still be sad for what you don’t. I totally get that! Love you guys, praying for peace!
Praying for you also.
Praying for you !
Stop trying. That's usually when it finally happens. Mine are almost 12 years apart.
Many can't conceive & carry as their body doesn't have enough progesterone. But when supplements taken are able to carry & deliever a healthy baby
@@sharonsharp5535 I had to do the shots my entire pregnancy with my daughter.
Thank you for this moving video. You are two very, very good people. God bless you both.
Wouldn't it be nice if life just followed our plans... Just know that God does have a plan. The "why" question is just so maddening and difficult to deal with. Love you guys.
I lost my son at age 17 and all of those questions you asked God, I've been asking for almost 4 years now! I don't understand and never will but I have to live for today and I can't give up! Thanks for sharing your story! This was the first video I have watched of yours and I def had to subscribe!!
You are not alone. My husband and I are going through the same journey as well. Thank you for being so courageous to share your story. You have blessed and encouraged me so much.
I had 2 boys 16 months apart when I was 19 and 21. 12 years later my 3rd child came along. Y’all are great. Let go and let God, he is ABLE!
Let go and let god, great advice, thank you
I'm so sorry. We went through years of infertility and understand how much it hurts when others get pregnant when you're trying. Praying for you both!!
Ok you 2 have me in tears today. I am praying for your peace and your miracle. Prayers and God bless you both for your raw honesty.
The almighty gives us peace in the mids of the storm. Be bless.
My wife and I have been married for 30 years and were never able to have biological children. We tried for 13 years and are extremely familiar with the pain. We adopted our daughter in 2003 and she is as much my daughter as a biological child could be. Let me encourage you to pray about adopting a child. There are so many of them that need loving families.
Look up at my comment. GMTA! (Great Minds Think Alike)
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Please consider adoption. I have a very sad story behind my story however if my adoption was based on parents having so much love in their hearts to give, my life would have been so much different. There are so many children without a house to call home, stability and knowing what unconditional love feels like. I'm always willing to open up on the good and ugly truth of adoption, feel free to reach out. You can also reach out to adoption agencies in your state, they have classes you can take that explain a ton behind the masked "adoption is beautiful". It's not all rainbows and butterflies but what kid is? 🥰
But you were able to adopt. So many people can't even do that. You're blessed.
@@spoetryqueen I would never qualify to be able to adopt. I was adopted.
I know exactly how you feel. I understand your hurt and pain. I’ve been there and and share your pain. Thank you for your honesty and sharing your life with us. Prayers for y’all
After 4 years of marriage and no baby I gave up. Began thinking adoption. One day my husband told me he thought I was pregnant. I told him he was being mean and why would he say that. His response. Because your crying about everything. I then realized I was crying. Baby boy # 1. Babies happen when you least expect them. Clear your minds and bodies. Baby will come. ❤️U.
Life is a journey. You are strong good people. Stay strong.
Jenn I'm so sorry but be happy with your two that you have. If it's to be it will be. God is in control of everything. Quit worrying about it and it may happen when you least expect it. Either way live in peace, joy and good health. Many prayers to you! I love you guys. I will be praying for you!!!💗💗💗
Much love an blessings I give to you, my favorite homestead family!❤🙏
I think you’re wonderful!! Bless you and your kids. I encourage you to consider fostering at a later time in your life. You are truly great humans.
You two are the definition of grace. I pray for peace in the Stiver's Homestead and for God's loving arms to comfort you. In Jesus' name, amen. We love you! ❤️❤️❤️
We had one baby and could never have another. I even took fertility drugs which in hindsight so glad they didn’t work cause could have had six or more. Finally decided one was all God had for us.God is good all the time! Prayers for you.
Same! We have one and went though fertility treatment (minus drugs, since my husband and I both decided to not mess with them due to my hormonal problems going in.) I wonder sometimes if I should have but I also realized that our one son is our miracle (he’s now 19) and God doesn’t make mistakes! God bless you! Thankful he blessed us both with one!🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🤗
God bless you guys abundantly with peace and endless love!!! You both are amazing!! Sending love you way
Adopt, there are so many kids out there that need a good, loving home like yours!
I’m sure your intentions are pure, but as a woman who has struggled with infertility for over 10 years, this is one of the most frustrating things someone can say. If someone is longing for a child you don’t need to remind them of adoption. They know. It is often an extremely expensive process that most can’t afford. If you’d like more advice of some helpful things to say I’d love to share what has encouraged me. Blessings to you.
Adoption isn't easy or cheap. Its a great idea but in practice its not easy....
@@AprilHamLincoln22 Preach!!!
You aren't listening!!!
Oh gosh, my heart breaks for you. It's so tough watching everyone else receive what your heart longs for. I had seen glimpses of the heaviness in Zack and wondered what it was about. In Proverbs there is a verse that says hope deferred makes the heart sick, and it is so very true. When a desire is not met and our hope is deferred it is a very hard thing sometimes. I know the enemy of our faith can attack with thoughts trying to tempt us to dispair, but I am so so thankful you guys are solid in your faith. The grief we feel when something longed for is let go of can be overwhelmingly powerful. How good it is to know that God sees and the Lord understands our sorrows. My heart wraps around you in this season...I am so thankful you are holding on to God and His plan and care for you. I will be praying for God's grace to be yours as you continue forward in your lives in HIS will and for joy to be restored in full as you go from here. Love you guys very much. ~Patty~
I will absolutely praying for peace for the both of you & the children God Bless you & your family
I got my son, then my daughter 2 years later and 15 YEARS later had my second daughter! Never give up, sending prayers!
I am going out in another limb here.. I’m about to turn 52 in 2 weeks and my last child, my daughter, is about to graduate from high school. My oldest son has graduated from college and is married and
My middle son is 2nd year in college. I’m having such a hard time right now with the fact that my babies are grown up. Please please take this time
And enjoy your babies while they are young. Relish in every moment with them, take it all in with every age they are. People tell you they grow up fast, but you don’t understand until they are all grown. It’s killing me to know that I won’t have kiddos in and out of my house all day and the giggles and laughter around my house. Don’t get me wrong, I’m so very proud of them and I know I’ve raised them to be successful in life, but it’s so hard for me knowing that part of being a mom is all but over with. Really spend dime with your two precious babies and put everything into them now. Build a lifetime of memories together! Love you all! ❤️🙏🏻
I sure understand what you are going through ❤️ we’ve been married 43 years this year, we were high school sweethearts, dated 3 years, married, had 2 girls 3 years apart. Just like they say it goes way to fast and the grew up! Then came 2004, what a year. The oldest daughter got married in March, youngest daughter graduated from high school in June and went away to college in Sept and our dog was old and getting to the end of her life. Our house went from kids, kids friends, and a dog to just the two of us again. It was an adjustment.... helped having great friends! This is now a new time in our lives, we have two beautiful granddaughters, and today is the 4th week of my husbands retirement. He’s worked so hard for so many years owning and running a business. Still getting used to not having set an alarm clock. But here for both of our moms who are 88 and 81, and live close, we can do more for them now. Life is good ❤️💕
I can so relate.
I have seven beautiful angels. My youngest is now 23.
Six years ago, my brother & I went through foster parent classes & got awarded custody of a baby, who is a family member. Although, the state was aware we wanted him from birth, they placed him in foster care. When the foster family knew we wanted him, they also pursued custody. Custody was given to us, but we never got him. So much time had gone by due to the system & the ineptitude of the social workers that we decided that it was best to leave him with his foster family & allow them to adopt him. This was extremely painful. I was adopted so I have experience with that.
Anyhow, God put it on my heart that I wanted to be a foster parent. I wanted to care for teenagers. I was devastated that did not happen. Then one day I realized that it had happened. God gave me a stepson. He gave me a stepson whose mother has had nothing to do with him in over a decade. He graduated high school last year.
I still miss the chaos that once was. J has given me his child to love & together we have a puppy who we love as a child.
Sometimes when your heart really longs for something, you have a preconceptions idea of what that something looks like & then it comes to you in an entirely unexpected or different way.
1000% agree. It goes way too fast and quick. Very well said. My precious beautiful two babies are grown now. My son is going to be 34 on April 2oth. And he is sill single and doesn't have any children. And my daughter going to be 30 on August 7th. She is married and has two daughters. My first grand daughter is 6 years old and going to be 7 in December. My second grand daughter is 2 years old and going to be 3 in August. And my granddaughters are getting big so fast . And it going quickly with them. I tell my daughter and my son in law and everyone who has precious little ones. To enjoy and cherish their precious babies as much as possible. Because it goes really fast and quick. Before you know it they are grown and married and having their own family. 💗🙏🕊👍🇺🇸😍🌷
Prayers you get the piece you are asking for & your faith will help you deal with what happens
Hi guys, 5 year’s infertility here, but it worked finally! Never give up hope that you will get what you want. Doing necessary things from day 8 of cycle starting and every day until at least day 14, and putting a pillow under your hips after each time. Zinc tablets for guys and prenatal for women. I was 41 when my youngest arrived; you guys have got this xx
( the infertility online community is so very supportive and understanding and full of extra information)
My son and his wife could not have their own children. He has a heart condition and she has health issues but they were blessed to adopt a new born baby boy and the family loves him so much and has brought so much joy into our lives. You guys are good parents and good people. If its the lords will he will allow you to have another baby one way or another. God Bless you!
Amen!
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I pray that you have peace in your hearts. God bless you and your beautiful family.
If it’s meant to be it shall come your way. Remember there’s always future grand-
children to fill your hearts and luv upon. 🥰
So very true! I wanted a fourth child, which I was never able to have. My children and my grandchildren are the joys of my life today!
I adopted two children that were older when they came to my home. My ex and I tried for years to have our own child and it never happened. Your lives were meant to follow a different path, and keep your hearts and souls open to except whatever comes your way. Blessings to you all.
Bless you both !!! My heart goes out to the both of you!!
So many things I want to say to you guys....this is such a raw, real window into your life together; I cried with you. Jenn, I completely understand what you’re going through, I wanted to expand our family last year but my husband did not. It’s a very hard situation, especially as a women to realize you might never bring life into this world again. It was one of the hardest internal battles I ever had to face but peace will and did come for me. You already know HE is in control but also know that I’m praying for you both everyday. I wanted to say this the other night on the live but like you said “words are hard” 😂🤚🏻🤦🏻♀️ .... You’re videos & channel helped me through a very dark time in my life, so much so it’s hard for me to put into words. I’m a better wife, mother & person because of you both. You show us all being human is a beautiful thing. So in your dark times, know there are people who love and support you and are always rooting you on! ❤️
Oh...and side note...just because you’re on TH-cam showing us portion of your lives, does not mean you owe anyone explanations. Don’t feel pressure to share something when you’re not ready, or apologize for things already posted, or get down on yourself at any point in your process. As someone who binged watched every episode in about a months time....you guys have come a very long way in a short amount of time....and you’re only going to continue that path. Big things are happening for you and your family, I know it. Feel confident knowing the movement & community you have already created for so many, and don’t give weight to the negative bs.
Sending you both virtual hugs! Keep on keeping on! ❤️ Much love!
They are so blessed to have such a supportive subscriber/friend.
@@lindakrause8793 thank you! I still love being a part of this great community they started!
I don't think it's a bad thing to step away from what triggers you to question why God isn't allowing you to grow your family. I've been in a similar situation, and sometimes just taking a break from having it in your face, is good for you. God doesn't want you to be in pain, and He will see you through to finding new joys in everyday. Doesn't mean there won't be times when you still question it, but know that there are many of us praying for that peace that you so desperately need right now.
Thank you for sharing your pain. It helps those of us with the same pain to not feel alone. I will be praying for peace.
The story of Abraham and Sarah shows how important it is to wait upon God and his faithfulness.
Just be grateful for what you have and continue to be the best parents you can be. Now it's time to keep moving on. Be grateful and thankful for the two you have.
My prayers are with you. I too have known that heartbreak. May God give you the peace you so richly deserve
i had 3 periods before they figured out i was 4 months pregnant. no tests showed positive. Believe for that miracle! God Bless! Praying for you guys
Now that's rare.
I've heard that, that can happen as well.
Hi from New Zealand, I had that happen too with both of my sons. They were babies 4 and 5
I also had this happen When I got pregnant, it was like once they told me I was then my body said hey I guess I need to stop showing up every month.... LoL it was like my body had to be told... LoL...
I had my period up to 2 months pregnant with both my kids.
I was told I would never have children. It took until I was 40 when I finally got pregnant with my only son. I will pray for you and your family and for peace either way❤
You two are so sweet. God bless you in your pain. It is real. So proud of you as a fellow Kentuckian. Know that God feels your pain beachside your are part of him and it would be impossible for him not to.
As a woman who has desperately wanted children of her own but have not been able...please know that I know the pain you're feeling. I am also familiar with that joyful sting. I have always felt like it was wrong for me to feel that mix of joy and jealousy. I've never wanted to feel that way but I couldn't help it. My heart goes out to you because I truly KNOW that pain. I cannot thank you enough for sharing such an intimate message. It touches my heart in ways that words cannot express ❤