This video hit me in the gut. I am that worker who keeps her head down and stays out of everything at the office. Honestly, I just want to do my job and go home. However, I see how my actions, well intended, make me look aloof and not a “team player.” Ugh. I just want to work from home! 😊
My dad used to say this : “Success is failure,” he would say. “And failure is also failure. Success is a delusion.” It took me a while to figure out what he meant, but I think his message was to do your best, be happy, and don’t use someone else’s definition of success to define yourself.
I enjoy the fact that I am respected at work & people know they can depend on me but not exploit me. I am not viewed as a threat to others but am known to be one who doesn't participate in or accept nonsense. I am above that.
I just started a new job and my boss thinks I've been killing it and gave me a raise 4 months in. They think I'm really bright with a huge work ethic but I really don't work that hard at all. I only put all my effort into work that's directly noticeable.
My success definition is all-encompassing. I define success as making enough money to sustain my lifestyle while also prioritizing the needs of those around me and contributing as much as I can to the world
Here is my thoughts on the last point "Office Politics" a mentor of mine (Global VP of a multi-billion $ company) she said "one thing I tried focused on when it came to office politics was I knew and understood the office politics, but I never got involved" i.e She would listen to others gossip about other coworkers or ideas and she aknlowge them, but NEVER agreed with them. So someone would come up and say "Did you hear about Suzy? This happened..." this would be her response "Hmm... interesting" and then she would talk to Suzy and see how she was doing. It goes to your 3rd point "Building Relationships"
My definition of success is to live a meaningful life. Money is a powerful tool to support that. To amplify the success, creativity is the key. This is the distinction between human and robots.
Money is an effective tool. I think that's why it's been villianized and there so much shame around money in our current social construct... because if internalize shame around effective tools, it centralizes control.
too much truth here - it's painful that I didn't know these things earlier in my career. This past year has been an eye opener to reality and this content creator is providing more of it whenever i watch her videos. I feel I'm pretty successful overall - but haven't reached all the goals I would like...mostly because I was just not seeing reality as Jennifer Brick here shows....I could have used a bit more mentoring early on, but that didn't happen and I'm now a bit frustrated as the realities of work are becoming quite clear. thankfully some of my decisions were good and I'm still in a good place in life - so not a disaster by any measure...so it's not all bad. I think the #1 frustration I learned after 30 years out of college is that being great and skilled in my profession means very little in moving up. I've seen incredibly talented people move up, but many many more incapable know nothings get ahead much more. As much as I love engineering - the personality part of it can create issues if not self aware early in a career.
My current definition of success is to achieve the work-life balance dream! I strive to get involved in interesting work while creating a meaningful life. It's important to realize that the definition of success will change with time, and I am thankful that I am at a phase of my career/life where external pressures do not drive my goals.
I agree that today people have lost focus on the priorities and just to show off you are doing amazing but you are miserable, really is that worth it? The most important is try to find out what you really want to be happy.
Building working relationships is a good thing but not if it's one sided. To many times have I tried to be a team player with the wrong kinds of collegues, although I gained experience in dealing with these sorts of people, ultimately all it did was waste my time. If someone is like this with you straight off the bat, give them 3 more (friendly) chances to work together and if they don't improve, seriously... just point blank ignore the hell out of them. Do not give them your time and effort (unless there's an apology involved). The harsh truth is that the majority of cases (when your not in comfortable job role), most people aren't willing to be, what I call, enjoyable colleagues... Most are usually to stressed from home or work life, stuck in small minded work patterns, expect people to follow suit and don't even know what the word teamwork means. They just use it interviews because it makes them look better than they actually are. Find the people that fit your mold best and be picky, I don't mean horrible picky, I mean smart picky... You want the people that support your efforts, improve your skills and help deliver a better work environment for everyone not just them selves.
Thanks Jennifer! This video is really helpful and reduced my guilt on the 40 hour work week. I “paid my dues” and used those toxic billable hour places as stepping stones. I’m grateful for a better work life balance. ☺️
Hey Jennifer! Amazing video as always! ☺️ Just one point I want to differ with is doing work that has a worthwhile impact. I see your point that all these truths are correlated with one another, but this one specific point requires a lot of things to go right. Especially having a supportive boss who isnt actively trying to sabotage you or your work. Thus, meanwhile we can feel bad about not getting the juicy project, I think one truth is that even if we do everything right , we still might not get that. And its not at all related with ourselves or our worth at the company, and that we are okay to feel bad about it and continue on with the journey 😇 So yea just wanted to put this out there Again, amazing job done! Keep shining!! 😇
Hi Jennifer: By watching your video, I recalled reading the book "48 rules of power" by Robert Greene. The first rule is "Never Outshine the Master" which is difficult if lazy Chad is your boss 😉.
Nope. most people at the place where I used to work hate the slacker Chad and still do. Manager tolerates him because he does the work that's about it.
I try to do this but the latest seems to be 'what can you do for me' and when you go to them to return the favor, they conveniently forget who you are. Also if a female states her idea as your example, she'll be told she's throwing shoes or being abrasive.
Thank you for these tips. I have been implementing your tips and they seem to help. I went from construction to working at a popular restaurant downtown. Totally different work places.
I have customers come to me at my job and told me that I was doing a good job doing what I do some even told me that I need to get a raise that’s how much they are impressed by my work
I'm struggling with my work culture. It's an engineering, fabrication, defense kind of business. I've got a ton of management education and experience. The culture is "the skilled" those with a trade skill, engineering, fabrication, even maintenance and the "unskilled" those without a technical background. They will tolerate anything from the skilled group. I've been sworn at and told to shut my mouth right in front of a supervisor and they just moved me out of an opportunity and into night security. I've offered suggestions to improve productivity, gone the extra mile by taking the initiative to perform highly visible tasks and done them well, tried to make friends with people that have influence, and turned the other cheek when offended. But I have boundaries. And when people step over those boundaries I'm going to do something about it. That is inconvenient in this workplace culture. I've asked for coaching to deal with difficult people. What do I do other than get out of there?
I think you're the first person I heard say define what "success, means to you". It really does mean different things to different people. I find it funny, that videos like this, that offer advice, revolve around corporate office jobs. Aren't there any other types of jobs? Don't people work in stores anymore?
There are hundreds of jobs which exist many most of us don't know about unless we look further than the usual one's which most people only talk about is because it's what they do and is the only thing they have ever done.
Working at Goodwill and just plain getting really burnt out feeling like a loser at the end of the day after 5 years of services not working fast enough not moving up never feeling confident in my self when I am walking to work in snow here in Klamath falls Oregon
As mentioned in this video relations are quite important for career sucess. However in one of the other video it was told that coworkers are not your friends. I understood the professional and unprofessional angle behind it. However can you please expand a bit more on how these professional relations look or can be built. Do share any video if it already exists
"Whenever we have two people, we have a game" -- If you can find win-win situations, where your successes mean successes for your boss, you've got it in the bag. If having your cake and eating it too turns out to also be your boss's cake, they'll be in your corner forever (or at least until you do something that pisses them off, if they're that kind of boss)
Jennifer, aren't some of these harsh truths the very reason the great resignation is occurring? People are sick of this cringy a$$ behavioir i feel like. I saw a study that even more people than the 4 million per month would be quitting if not for their dependence on company provided health insurance. I myself see this cringy behaviours from coworkers and I avoid them like the plague. Companies need to hang on to workers not the other way around. Times are changing.
Humans depend on overt and subtle cuts from those they interact with to determine if the person is trustworthy, knowledgeable, etc. Speaking with confidence instills more confidence. Are there exceptions, like if you present things the same way and relate to Rachel? Sure. But most people won't. That's why Chad is esteemed even if he's an idiot, he doesn't know it and most people trust him because he trusts himself.
@@JenniferBrick Great point - and so true. I've just had my fill of those who say nothing but with great confidence. So, per Dunning-Kruger, I'm more likely to defer to the uncertain person. I'm definitely in the minority though and I see conviction winning the day all the time.
What is YOUR definition of success? Declare it here!
Being satisfied with your job & having good health & reasonable wealth. Work life balance is underrated.
reaching FI. FI means I no longer depend on anyone for a wage.
Helping others achieve their goals for some reason. That’s why I’m an agile coach!
happy family and healthy body 😊
I want to do meaningful work and feel respected and like I can be myself.
This video hit me in the gut. I am that worker who keeps her head down and stays out of everything at the office. Honestly, I just want to do my job and go home. However, I see how my actions, well intended, make me look aloof and not a “team player.” Ugh. I just want to work from home! 😊
My dad used to say this : “Success is failure,” he would say. “And failure is also failure. Success is a delusion.” It took me a while to figure out what he meant, but I think his message was to do your best, be happy, and don’t use someone else’s definition of success to define yourself.
I enjoy the fact that I am respected at work & people know they can depend on me but not exploit me. I am not viewed as a threat to others but am known to be one who doesn't participate in or accept nonsense. I am above that.
I love that you've cultivated a no-BS reputation!
Inspiring aspect if I decide to stay.
Love this.
I just started a new job and my boss thinks I've been killing it and gave me a raise 4 months in. They think I'm really bright with a huge work ethic but I really don't work that hard at all. I only put all my effort into work that's directly noticeable.
My success definition is all-encompassing. I define success as making enough money to sustain my lifestyle while also prioritizing the needs of those around me and contributing as much as I can to the world
I especially love the part about helping others. The world needs so much more of this energy.
I just wish I knew these advice 20 years ago.
Here is my thoughts on the last point "Office Politics" a mentor of mine (Global VP of a multi-billion $ company) she said "one thing I tried focused on when it came to office politics was I knew and understood the office politics, but I never got involved" i.e She would listen to others gossip about other coworkers or ideas and she aknlowge them, but NEVER agreed with them. So someone would come up and say "Did you hear about Suzy? This happened..." this would be her response "Hmm... interesting" and then she would talk to Suzy and see how she was doing. It goes to your 3rd point "Building Relationships"
My definition of success is to live a meaningful life. Money is a powerful tool to support that. To amplify the success, creativity is the key. This is the distinction between human and robots.
Money is an effective tool. I think that's why it's been villianized and there so much shame around money in our current social construct... because if internalize shame around effective tools, it centralizes control.
50% game-playing
50% who you know
too much truth here - it's painful that I didn't know these things earlier in my career. This past year has been an eye opener to reality and this content creator is providing more of it whenever i watch her videos.
I feel I'm pretty successful overall - but haven't reached all the goals I would like...mostly because I was just not seeing reality as Jennifer Brick here shows....I could have used a bit more mentoring early on, but that didn't happen and I'm now a bit frustrated as the realities of work are becoming quite clear. thankfully some of my decisions were good and I'm still in a good place in life - so not a disaster by any measure...so it's not all bad.
I think the #1 frustration I learned after 30 years out of college is that being great and skilled in my profession means very little in moving up. I've seen incredibly talented people move up, but many many more incapable know nothings get ahead much more. As much as I love engineering - the personality part of it can create issues if not self aware early in a career.
DITTO, my friend!
My current definition of success is to achieve the work-life balance dream! I strive to get involved in interesting work while creating a meaningful life. It's important to realize that the definition of success will change with time, and I am thankful that I am at a phase of my career/life where external pressures do not drive my goals.
I agree that today people have lost focus on the priorities and just to show off you are doing amazing but you are miserable, really is that worth it? The most important is try to find out what you really want to be happy.
It's a crucial first step... and sadly one too many skip!
Building working relationships is a good thing but not if it's one sided. To many times have I tried to be a team player with the wrong kinds of collegues, although I gained experience in dealing with these sorts of people, ultimately all it did was waste my time. If someone is like this with you straight off the bat, give them 3 more (friendly) chances to work together and if they don't improve, seriously... just point blank ignore the hell out of them. Do not give them your time and effort (unless there's an apology involved).
The harsh truth is that the majority of cases (when your not in comfortable job role), most people aren't willing to be, what I call, enjoyable colleagues... Most are usually to stressed from home or work life, stuck in small minded work patterns, expect people to follow suit and don't even know what the word teamwork means. They just use it interviews because it makes them look better than they actually are. Find the people that fit your mold best and be picky, I don't mean horrible picky, I mean smart picky... You want the people that support your efforts, improve your skills and help deliver a better work environment for everyone not just them selves.
I love your videos full of truth!!!
Thanks to your videos now i notice that is better to be more likeable instead of more work!!
Thanks Jennifer! This video is really helpful and reduced my guilt on the 40 hour work week. I “paid my dues” and used those toxic billable hour places as stepping stones. I’m grateful for a better work life balance. ☺️
Any work done without the boss's knowledge is a waste of time and energy
To be successful,it takes time and dedication.
Hey Jennifer! Amazing video as always! ☺️
Just one point I want to differ with is doing work that has a worthwhile impact. I see your point that all these truths are correlated with one another, but this one specific point requires a lot of things to go right. Especially having a supportive boss who isnt actively trying to sabotage you or your work.
Thus, meanwhile we can feel bad about not getting the juicy project, I think one truth is that even if we do everything right , we still might not get that. And its not at all related with ourselves or our worth at the company, and that we are okay to feel bad about it and continue on with the journey 😇
So yea just wanted to put this out there
Again, amazing job done! Keep shining!! 😇
Hi Jennifer: By watching your video, I recalled reading the book "48 rules of power" by Robert Greene. The first rule is "Never Outshine the Master" which is difficult if lazy Chad is your boss 😉.
Lol facts
Nope. most people at the place where I used to work hate the slacker Chad and still do. Manager tolerates him because he does the work that's about it.
Chad was smart, the others are not.
I’m someone with social anxiety all my life, I struggle so much to get promoted 😞
How to build relationships when working for a remote-work-only company?
Reach out to others and take initiative.
love u jennifer. your work will be saving and impacting many lives.
Thank you .
I try to do this but the latest seems to be 'what can you do for me' and when you go to them to return the favor, they conveniently forget who you are. Also if a female states her idea as your example, she'll be told she's throwing shoes or being abrasive.
Politics aligned to values!!!!! I love it
#1 Start ur own business l.
Thanks.
I move learned that I’m going to use this channel to analyze my job security. Point blank.. ❤😂
Thank you for these tips.
I have been implementing your tips and they seem to help.
I went from construction to working at a popular restaurant downtown.
Totally different work places.
I have customers come to me at my job and told me that I was doing a good job doing what I do some even told me that I need to get a raise that’s how much they are impressed by my work
Wow, nice work 😎
God bless you 🌹
I'm struggling with my work culture. It's an engineering, fabrication, defense kind of business. I've got a ton of management education and experience. The culture is "the skilled" those with a trade skill, engineering, fabrication, even maintenance and the "unskilled" those without a technical background. They will tolerate anything from the skilled group. I've been sworn at and told to shut my mouth right in front of a supervisor and they just moved me out of an opportunity and into night security. I've offered suggestions to improve productivity, gone the extra mile by taking the initiative to perform highly visible tasks and done them well, tried to make friends with people that have influence, and turned the other cheek when offended. But I have boundaries. And when people step over those boundaries I'm going to do something about it. That is inconvenient in this workplace culture. I've asked for coaching to deal with difficult people. What do I do other than get out of there?
I think you're the first person I heard say define what "success, means to you". It really does mean different things to different people. I find it funny, that videos like this, that offer advice, revolve around corporate office jobs. Aren't there any other types of jobs? Don't people work in stores anymore?
There are hundreds of jobs which exist many most of us don't know about unless we look further than the usual one's which most people only talk about is because it's what they do and is the only thing they have ever done.
Amazing :-) Useful and inspiring info.
Working at Goodwill and just plain getting really burnt out feeling like a loser at the end of the day after 5 years of services not working fast enough not moving up never feeling confident in my self when I am walking to work in snow here in Klamath falls Oregon
All sad but true unfortunately.
As mentioned in this video relations are quite important for career sucess. However in one of the other video it was told that coworkers are not your friends. I understood the professional and unprofessional angle behind it. However can you please expand a bit more on how these professional relations look or can be built. Do share any video if it already exists
"Whenever we have two people, we have a game" -- If you can find win-win situations, where your successes mean successes for your boss, you've got it in the bag. If having your cake and eating it too turns out to also be your boss's cake, they'll be in your corner forever (or at least until you do something that pisses them off, if they're that kind of boss)
How does one get on radar of the biggies?
Jennifer, aren't some of these harsh truths the very reason the great resignation is occurring? People are sick of this cringy a$$ behavioir i feel like. I saw a study that even more people than the 4 million per month would be quitting if not for their dependence on company provided health insurance. I myself see this cringy behaviours from coworkers and I avoid them like the plague. Companies need to hang on to workers not the other way around. Times are changing.
I am in IT, my philosophy is learn as much as I can, negotiate a higher salary at the next job, that is why I do not bother with this crap.
Not thinking about defining success and not being in need for prioritizing relationship over competence.
Success= 1 million in dividend stocks so I can live on dividends and have my time free to do as I desire.
It is not normal to promote incompetent people just because they convinced others they are amazing.
And what happens if you are on the radar of the biggies but they still want to see you in the same role because they can't find someone better
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Slacker Chad ain't a slacker 😂
I would give way more deference to Rachel's idea (presented without conviction) than an idea given with confidence. Just me?
Humans depend on overt and subtle cuts from those they interact with to determine if the person is trustworthy, knowledgeable, etc.
Speaking with confidence instills more confidence. Are there exceptions, like if you present things the same way and relate to Rachel? Sure. But most people won't. That's why Chad is esteemed even if he's an idiot, he doesn't know it and most people trust him because he trusts himself.
@@JenniferBrick Great point - and so true. I've just had my fill of those who say nothing but with great confidence. So, per Dunning-Kruger, I'm more likely to defer to the uncertain person. I'm definitely in the minority though and I see conviction winning the day all the time.
@@anonanonymous1970 I think you have higher awareness than most. That big makes a difference IMHO.
@@JenniferBrick i think higher aware people get promoted way less. Cuz less aware people dont have to overcome the cringe of being fake at work.
#careerbestie
❤🎉
Your accent is interesting.
I'm the years you're the first person to remark on my accent without it being a bad thing (I hope!)
Canadian?
@@JenniferBrick Nice :)
Social change?? Worst coworkers ever
In other words: modern white woman exposing office politics to grow their “career”.