I'm an estp and you pretty much nailed it! One my favorite quote is from Maya Angelou saying, if you don't like something change it, if you can't change it, change your attitude, but don't complain! That's pretty much how I see things in life, living in the present and trying to make the best out of it!
ESTP here. Totally agree on the "if you can do something to change it and you don't, don't complain about it" thing. Also the uselessness of worrying about / crying over things you can't change.
I would say that ESTPs too know how to work hard and play hard. Their attitude to me is badassery to the core. One of my best friends is an ESTP. I waste time worrying about what I should do, while he just goes out there and does it. Super honest, direct and cheerful person. His authenticity is something stunning and I'm proud to call him my friend =) Do ESFP next ^^
Wow someone who said something nice about ESTP s That was super accurate. The other operational component of an ESTP after all is INFJ. thanks from an ESTP
Hi Meghan, most of us ESTPs want to help others to be successful (I guess that can also be seen as making an impact). Your video makes me feel loved for what I do.
First of all thank you for understanding us/me so well, I feel like a lot of especially the FJ types see us as complete jerks or assholes whenever we give advice rather than emotional support, they confuse that lack of not putting emotions first for being insensitive and unaware of peoples feelings, we see the emotion and see how it makes you run in circles around a difficult situation and better yet know that the solution lies away from it(the feelings). That feelings are to be felt because it is who we are but its only by thinking outside our emotions can we see the best fit for a situation, and only then do we incorporate our emotions to the solution. I dont know if that makes sense but it is undisputed, again thank you for seeing us, I was wondering whether my INFJ girlfriend will ever stop seeing me as selfish and self centered, you are hope that she will see me completely for who I am. Thank you
I have two sisters one is an isfj an one is an estp,as an infp who pretty much lives in a dream world I just don't know what would happen if I didn't have them in my life. My estp sister is the first person I call when I'm struggling with how to do something ,in a split second she will give me one very affective solution. As a person with an se blind spot what I've learned from my estp sister is how to appreciate the present moment because if I give in to my ne and my introverted nature I will never see the present moment. What I love about estps is how true to themselves they are ,they (or at least my sister ) don't take things personally and always know how to turn any situation in their favor.
Entrepreneur checking in. You are for the most part right. There are differences between estp’s and maturity matters. Im 29 and I can confirm that we are risk takers with no regard of what other people think. I have the perfect job where I am my own boss. This gives me the freedom i need to solve problems effectively. We are passionate and we sometimes combat boredom by piling on even more risky activity. My best friend is also a so called entrepreneur”. We’ve been best friends for 27 years and we always have a blast. Institutions like school is intolerable to me. I have never had a plan and I have always fixed problems as I go. To more reserved people we may come across as incentive bastards, not everyone can handle the face to face direct approach. We mean well, and we are definitely misunderstood by many. Life is fun don’t dwell on things you cannot change. Cheers from Norway.
estp here. I describe myself very generous to people who I love. I want to do whatever I can to help them, even though they don't ask for help. When they are with me, I make sure they enjoy themselves and having a good time. I also like to encourage them to try new things. And I only show my sensitive side and real feelings to people who I trust. I like to say to people "if you never try then you will never know". Not sure about other ESTPs, but for me I am extremely impulsive. When I have an idea or something I can't stop thinking about, I have to do it no matter how people say this is crazy, it's too much risk. There are many times I don't have any expectations or plans for things I am getting myself into, and I just jump in, improvise with whatever will come to me. Many times if we think too much, we will get fear for things we are about to do. So I like to tell people stoping thinking so much just do it, whether it will work or not, it is life.
thank you for the response, i really appreciate it! and yeah, I agree, I don't know why google says that, no matter what your opinion is on him i don't think he comes off as an estp :)
agreed! I think he WISHES he is an ESTP and his persona he has created is him playing the role of an ESTP. but he is definitely a feeler and doesn't use logic, he is charismatic and taps into people's values
i totally agree with you! i think the business aspect of an estp is pretty spot on with trump, but the logic/feelings aspect you are also very accurate with about him! :)
Very accurate. I have become aware that my realistic view of life can be considered as uncaring by some people. I don’t worry about things I cannot control. I fix what I can and move on. I spend the majority of my time reassuring people around me that things will be ok. I love to see people happy and living life. Thank you for being so perceptive.
Im an ESTP and you're absolutely right about socionics being more concise and accurate than MBTI. My father is an ENFJ and its funny how I feel like Im listening to him talk as Im watching. I feel like NFJs understand us better than anyone. Great vid!
This helped me(ENFP) understanding my ESTP husband so much! Everything you said was so relatable. He is not good at describing how his mind processes so this video was eye opening to me. I think you just saved so many future arguments I would have had if I didn’t watch this.
Thank you for appreciating us ESTP's! I love how you've discussed the reasons why we act and think because it really is all rational - emotions are out of the question. I was with two friends today at the beach and a bunch of other people I didn't know. My friends were eating food with them in which they were distracted by their phones and my friends weren't getting the attention they deserve. I notice this behaviour instantly about people and their ego, so I don't even focus on those people. I am always looking for something stimulating and if that means running up and down the beach alone, so be it. My friends kept begging me to stay but we weren't truly satisfied even if they didn't really realise it and I knew we could have way more of a bubbly conversation between ourselves. But in understanding that self control/patience needed to be practiced, I stayed for a few minutes longer doing nothing and eventually my friends figured out what I was able to instantly notice. We left, got burgers and had enlightening conversation.
exactly, we estpq can notice if someone is with us immediatly and wont waste time on people who are not important. and we are also okay with just leaving the situation. we wont overthink what others may think about us.
A bit too much "go for it dude" is assumed for most IMO, that's a bit of stereotype. We do consider things carefully, at least the smart ones LOL. But you are correct about the ability to accept what is real and what isn't. We don't like spending a lot of time/energy on hopeless causes. We tend to see a lot of N thinking as being hopelessly naive, unrealistic or romantic, therefore to automatically think "So how the frick is that going to happen?" That can come off as "Debbie Downer" to some, but more often, as we have some Fe, we learn to shut up and try not to roll our eyes. OTOH, if we get behind your idea, we can be supportive allies. BTW my spouse is ENFJ.
Yes, "go for it' is a stereotype, BUT you'd be surprised how much people struggle with this when ESTPs just don't tend to struggle with taking action when they want to.
Well, I'm probably a lot more contemplative than most ESPs, and think that I tend to "overthink" things. OTOH, from an outside perspective, I would guess that I seem fairly true to type.
Yes! I completely agree. People think I'm just being negative but I don't see the point in wasting resources time and energy on something if it doesn't seem... reasonable.
My results changed from ENTP to ESTP after I started working and living on my own. I definitely identify more closely to this type and I feel like your explanation was on point. Sorry to anyone who might've thought I was dismissive towards you!
ESTP female here and I love you. Good mix of S and N types in my circles but always drawn irresistibly to N as I feel they help me grow and their unique and otherworldly insights give me a Ti thrill and perk my often nihilistic Ni ears up. I think you are 100% right - we have huge hearts and strong values, and our compassion and help of others is genuine in its delivery as it is adapted with Ti, delivered with Fe, and anchored in Se realism. I laugh to think Donald is an ESTP but who cares if he is.. There are villains in every type and maybe not such a surprise one of ours is so obnoxious ;) I get my kicks out of helping people in my whirlwind fashion but maintaining my independence. Not afraid of pushing boundaries or making people uncomfortable however. ESTPs can be very polarising. What are your thoughts on sx/sc/sp variants and the types’ predispositions to them? Keep posting bby g x
Hey, an ESTP here :) That's the most accurate ESTP video I've ever seen. I guess there is still a lot missing - but what you discussed is 100% true! :)
Hello Meghan! Thanks for the positive words on an ESTP. Most people dont appreciate that we try to make the world a better place, regardless of the toes we step on. The truth hurts but its still the truth and the faster you accept it, the faster you can move on and improve! It wasnt until a couple years ago when i learned that i was an ESTP and i learned why i thought and acted like i did. I grew up thinking i was a bit crazy. In my teens and 20's, i didnt give a shit what anybody thought about me. I would also go out of my way to help someone. Being blunt and having no filter was an understatement. Also i was somewhat reckless and was always looking to have a good time and wanted others to have a good time.... Now that im in my late 30's, i care more about the relationships of the people around me and im more driven in my business. Im still blunt and honest but with a little more tact. After several motorcycle wrecks, im less of a risk taker but still if im not pursuing a fun life then im dying inside. Hope this helps from another ESTP perspective! The "16 personalities test" really helped me and i would encourage all to go there and just read about the types to understand others and not judge there character.
I watched this video a few years ago (when I was ill and didn't have any energy to live my life) and just rewatched it. You are spot on. I feel NFs get us. Also, I've had a couple of great fun friendships with ESFPs. I am literally in the process of fixing my life , doing what I can, leaving the rest, and " trusting the process" only using my energy on my plan and people I value. Thank you for this video, your explanation will help those who think we are heartless or cold when in fact we care A LOT.
ESTP here. My mom gave me a copy of the Serenity Prayer when I was 17. It really resonated with me and I repeated to myself whenever I get frustrated or stuck and I feel better. I feel like you really see ESTPs.
As an ESTP I sincerely want to thank you for this video. I acknowledge sometimes we can be so focused on what our Se and Ti tell us is the concrete, clear solution right in front of us that we can forget not everyone else will see the solutions and necessary actions we believe will solve a problem. I'm so used to seeing stereotypes of us as party animals who are super insensitive, but they miss the intricacies you detail in this video. So again, thank you for such an insightful, and frankly thoughtful, video!
I think you were pretty accurate, thanks for uploading. You're also very right at the end about ESTPs trying to make others more rational and get them into the present. - ESTP
ESTP here I greatly enjoyed watching this video. A lot of the information hit home for me. A lot of what you communicated showed the best side of this personality type. However, I think it's also important to recognize the complexities as well. For example, Estps can use their secondary functions whenever they want to. However, when they're isolated or not given the freedom that they need, the can become manipulative and or chronically stuck in overthinking. I really appreciate your thoughts!
This was a great video. Really spot on for me as an estp. I appreciate you shining insightful light on some of the traits that aren't maybe the best but it's just how we are. For example, I don't always feel the necessity to sugarcoat things, because I don't think it will be helpful and I don't have that kind of time, but I also don't think I take other's peoples feelings into account when I'm being blunt. On one hand, I want to get to the point and move on and as I grow a newer part of me wishes I had more empathy for how other people internalize things I say. It's hard because I don't always understand sensitive people. It's something I've been working on and this video helped me understand these points and have a little validation on some of the better traits.
ESTP here. I got into the MBTI to help with sales. 2 years later I am now killing it at sales! Basically when you're confident at just being a conqueror. You come across too blunt. But if you can tell if you're dealing with an ENTJ or an ESTJ in a sales meeting you'll know how to navigate the conversation.
The way you were choking means there is something that was said to you by an ESTP that deeply affected you; hopefully it was a positive one. You do realise ESTP listens more and asks more questions about yourself rather than them talking unless there is a story of their experience which is related to yours. ESTP does a lot of profiling once engaged in conversations for the best way to approach an individual in future. Great video. - From an ESTP
I am glad someone mentioned this and actually used the word profiling :D because thats 110% what I am doing with all of my interactions (unless in the rare case I am really really tired and not so interested for the moment). I d like to add to the fact that we try to see the world around us as it truely is that we are very curious to find out more about it. I know that with my natural tendencies as ESTP I am viewing things differently then other types. Getting their insight simply on how others perceive their surroundings (as wrong as I might personally think they could be) because it helps me to understand the "truth" the other person is experiencing.
ESTP here! I've been interested in Carl Jung's work off and on throughout my life, but I really started to dig and learn as much as I could when I married an INFJ (who happens to have narcolepsy, btw!!)
I recently become close friends with someone and they have this personality type (maybe a mixture of another...they are not 100% sure). I am ENFJ. Usually I make close friendships with introverts, so this was a suprise. So far I love their honesty, spontaneous energy, deeply caring nature towards their friends and loved ones, and drive to make life good for their family and themselves. They balance out my introspective "what if" and worries about future and uncontrollable possibilities. They keep me grounded in the here and now whilst we can also dream together for the future. Its really fun and very reassuring
I so agree. Just told my best friend's boyfriend he was ESTP and he read the 16 personalities profile and didn't jive with it and was kind of sad haha but when I read it I said I thought it was pretty inaccurate to what those functions mean. ESTP guy 100% fits what you said in this video, however. He has a way of not letting people whine, but not because he's being mean or bullying about it, more just that he's able to divert the whining person's attention to a positive opportunity in the moment.
I'm an ESTP, am here. I just listened through what you had to say about ESTPs. It is interesting to have it hear from an ENFJ, ENFJ being the woman that I have a complicated relationship with. We're too different. Beyond female/male differences.
INFJ here and this video popped up in my TH-cam feed. I’m here to learn more about ESTP’s and also ISTP’s. I’m trying to figure out which one my father was.
That can be an amazing thing to pay attention to =) I figure, for INFPs, some ESTP behaviours can turn out to be eye opening in what they make you accomplish. I wonder though, how that would work for ESTPs. Learning from the duals is great, it has helped me moving forward as well and I would recommend anyone to have a good look at them ^^
It makes sense why you relate to them so much, and here's why I say that: I remember one Socionics description in particular that was within this article called _The Clock of the Socion: Energy Dynamics of Quadra and Benefit Rings_ by Gulenko: _"Next comes the implementer of beta quadra - SLE, the Marshall - the organizer, volitional sensing type. He pushes forward not with emotions, but with resources i.e. he finds resources for implementation. People have already been mobilized and organized (this was the mission of EIE) and now resources are needed to make plans and ideas materialize. Nothing can happen without sensorics."_
This one is close but there is another one where you mention ESTP is jealousy that's a joke. ESTP s run their own race. Like you say it's about the things they can change how practical is jealousy???
ESTP-A here, I think you are right on. I have a few ENTP in my life and I wanna see a video comparing how both types think! I would 100% say the best description for an estp is a doer, like my ENTP friends just talk and talk and talk and never do anything. Many people I talk to do a lot of worrying and do not take the actions they know they should take, this to me is mind boggling. I'm always like sooo why don't you just do it?
You did well Meghan. You probably don't hear a lot from ESTPs because we're too busy running around doing stuff. Unless you ask more than once, I guess we don't feel it's actually needed for us to make a comment. It all comes down to where we put our attention at the moment.
I was married to ESTP for 30!years . He was a wonderful man. He got “driven” after loosing his job. His anger got the better of him. It caused our family to break down because this type must win at all cost. This is great as a couch or CEO attorney, but in a family as a husband and father they are like a bulldozer and if you are a “feeler”. I suggest you make sure you have a very independent and financially secure self. These personalities seek self then team. Feelers seek team then self. I have learned the hard way both are Great. But if you don’t understand ESTP, have a strong sense of self and want them to focus on the family before their NEED to drive in success in the outer world, you will misunderstand both greatness in a self driven for the team vs team driven for self.
Are you sure he was an ESTP? Your description sounds more like ESTJ or ENTJ who have inferior Fi, so don't care about their own feelings let alone someone else's. The ESTP I know dislikes when my emotionality (I'm an INFP) throws him into his feeling mode because he can't navigate his Fi very well. We tend to lock horns in such situations. But most of the time can be very emotionally supportive and caring, and definitely cares about family and friends more than career (though this is important too).
Balls to the wall yes exactly !!! Gosh love it!! I just wish I had another ESTP to calm me down when I get stressed...hehe Your description is perfect! -ESTP
Hi and thanks for the kind words about us ESTPs. I think you managed to nail pretty much all the nice aspects of our personality but would have liked to hear more about the negatives. I have been married to my ENTJ wife for 20+ years and and boy does it help to have another thinker to team up with, by which I mean someone who thinks more than 15 min ahead 😉.
12:28 I recognize that prayer! Here's what I searched up on Wikipedia: _The Serenity Prayer is the common name for a prayer written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr[1][2] (1892-1971). The best-known form is:_ _"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,_ _Courage to change the things I can,_ _And wisdom to know the difference."_
INFJ watching just studying MBTI and doing comparisons to my own type. I have dubbed ESTPs as INFJ's shadow side, not opposite (that would be ESTJ) to see how my cognitive functions act in reverse. And just wanna say, you're amazing. They say these 4 types (ESTP, ESTJ, & ENFJ, & ENFP) always ending having the best chemistry and compatibility with INFJs as extroverted companions of some sort. Watched your videos for a while and I remember you talking about your INFJ girlfriend. Hope you guys are still meshing. How would you feel about an updated interpretation of your views on my type. I know we can be extremely private to the point of obscurity, and nervously ask our partners to fall off the grid with us, but I don't think I've heard you mention her aside from that one video. But anyways hiiiii! Thank you for great content and I hope everything is awesome for you. Namaste.
Hi, Im from Poland and I dont know how I get to this video, but I just wanted to say is you are 10/10 right about ESTPs. But paralel You are saying truth about ESTPs, We can play with life too, play with destroying people to build them from scratch again. Sometimes temptation of new experience put us in very uncomfortable position, corner which can destroy us. Reason why We can survive difficulties, which would destroy other personality types, is what I got from my experience - talent to adapt Yourself to people around You, new job, stress. If ESTP is enough experienced with they weeknesses They can be whatever They want to.
I am an ESTP. Good video. I will like to add that you touched on a great skill set of ESTPs that’s consistent with the Individualization strength in Gallup Strength Finder. Most ESTPs rank high on this skill on Gallup Strength Finder.
I am an ESTP, I'm only typing to let you know we exist. The text below is my experience as an ESTP, but my quick response for you: I type my mom is an ENFJ and she worries a lot to the point of creating conspiracy theories putting other's loyalty into question... Its pretty suffocating, I'd say. lol Keep ya head up you're doing great with this channel if it somehow popped in my recommended. (: Since you asked where could my type be: I'm often caught up in the early stages of content creation and community building which is a cold hard reality a lot of people are too lazy to do for themselves or wait until they suddenly blow up. (My anecdote comes from the gaming space. I don't know how real it is outside the sphere.) Anyways, I only learned I was an ESTP in the last year 'cause I never cared about typology until recently going through the rabbit hole and shifting information. The more I looked into it, the more I accepted that its pretty helpful information as long as one ignores the crap information available out there, plus whatever I am doing generally helps me defuse a situation much more efficiently using typology. Quite often it is all about how one says things that'll determine whether you're listened to or ignored. As for me, I had a semi-identity crisis since all Templar types are known to mirror and in various ways I believe I did mirror an INFJ lover. Fast forward many years later I became determined to will myself out of depression and seek out my purpose which as only recently led me to typology since I never really tried it. Now I'm hoping to better myself since I have NO EXCUSES lol!
ESTP here. Good job. Spot on about us being the catalyst for change. I just kicked the hornets nest this past thanksgiving by calling out the fake, dysfunctional family dynamics my family has but tries to pretend doesn’t exist during the holidays. Reality check. Looks like some meaningful conversation will come from it, only time will tell
Nice comment there. Me too I was tested in tests ans enfj enfp Entp but some say i am estp. Can you look a bit my channel and tell me the vibe you get if i am estp
words like this actualy makes me feel alot better, think about myself as estp better imho all this very true. i always been like "if you can change it- stop whining and change it. if you can not- calm down and try something else or make it less crapier". its like..use a simple logic. "did you loose your phone? did you check every possible places? did you asked people? so dont worry" . also think that there are no bad people. every bad deed/action has its reasons. so even my worse apponent can be my friend after "battle" also about friends and partys. i am such a party mom...or dad? if i see someone get bored ill try to fix it. i watch everyone get their drinks and snacks as it should be. everyone havin a good time, everything is right one cool skill estps have- almost never fall on ice or crush my head into lampposts or such. bc of Se i suppose? (sorry for misstapes and bad grammatic)
Meghan..this video has encouraged me so much..I am apparently an ESTP..I have an adult INFJ and I have sadly struggled a lot with my understanding about her although I of course love and like her but I don’t know how to help her much 😔
This video (and a few of the comments) are.. sort of emotionally disrupting me. (Not that that was anyone’s intent). My heart started to pound, my adrenaline started to surge, and I began to breathe shorter faster breaths. I briefly dated an individual whom I very heavily suspect is ESTP, while at the same time, displaying definite narcissistic traits. This individual was emotionally abusive toward me - and I keep trying to understand and go back to learn as much as I can. Thankfully, I wasn’t in the relationship for very long. This is coming from someone the complete opposite - an INFJ. I will say, I took on some of the “hardness” of this person. It’s..been an interesting and hard year. I..don’t think I can even finish this video. I already need a break. Regardless, thank you for your informative insight.
Bravooooooo girly!!! 💐💐I am ENFJ with best friends made up of ESFJ, ISFJ and then ... the most inspiring one for me when I am down my beautiful ESTP!! She gets me like no others(don’t tell them🤭🤫😅), I mean she is so to the point but encouraging in the process! She get me going, and also is on deep awe by my energy and intuition too!! Anyhow just had to say this as because of her I love ESTP dearly 💯😍byes but don’t care 😜😁😂
What is Trump if he’s not an ESTP? I relate to him a LOT and I’m an ESTP. It’s also worth noting that enneagram can make a big difference. Having met 7w6 and 8w7 (Trump) ESTPs it’s just not the same (I’m 7w8). Like many have said, he probably has NPD and BPD.
Do immature ENFJs manipulate their partners to get a reaction? Do they purposefully try to incite jealousy on their partners or do things that they know would piss off their partners for whatever reason? Thank you.
Underlying Motivations currently what is happening with an ENFJ I just started talking to. Which is why I’m researching and landed on this comment which rectified that he is trying to incite jealousy and now I’m not texting him. What a dick!
I'm an ENFJ and I would literally NEVER do that. I don't like jealousy in people. I might try to bug someone if they bug me but don't take the initiative on this either.
Kim Roberts Care to elaborate a little bit more on the ''bugging someone if they bug me?'' Does that mean if someone, for instance, stops talking to you, do you answer back with those petty tactics? Or if there is something that you want and that is bugging you, do you appeal to the jealousy tactic in order to get the attention or whatever that you want?
Underlying Motivations I meant, for example, retaliate if someone is teasing me I might tease them back. If I don't care about them I doubt I would even do this. I suppose the teasing back would just be to let them know not to engage me in that way bc i find it irritating. Yes this is passive aggressive I realize. I might also just tell them how it hit me. Don't get me wrong I like a little teasing but there's a limit to everything.
Im the afformentiond four letter guy.. So0! Dude, man. Like guys... or dudettes. Estps aren't here for a long time. We are here for a good time! We want to use exclamation marks in all of our sentences! Just recognize that! Stop being trigggered by it! Hehehe im being extra on purpose btw, it's fun. We go with the flow and hope that you can to 😊 good vibes to you Amen
I'm an estp and you pretty much nailed it!
One my favorite quote is from Maya Angelou saying, if you don't like something change it, if you can't change it, change your attitude, but don't complain!
That's pretty much how I see things in life, living in the present and trying to make the best out of it!
I love that quote! I think Maya Angelou is an ENFJ
ESTP here. Totally agree on the "if you can do something to change it and you don't, don't complain about it" thing. Also the uselessness of worrying about / crying over things you can't change.
I would say that ESTPs too know how to work hard and play hard. Their attitude to me is badassery to the core. One of my best friends is an ESTP. I waste time worrying about what I should do, while he just goes out there and does it. Super honest, direct and cheerful person. His authenticity is something stunning and I'm proud to call him my friend =)
Do ESFP next ^^
Wow someone who said something nice about ESTP s That was super accurate. The other operational component of an ESTP after all is INFJ. thanks from an ESTP
Hi Meghan, most of us ESTPs want to help others to be successful (I guess that can also be seen as making an impact). Your video makes me feel loved for what I do.
I thought i was an infj, but Joyce meng typed me an ESTP. As one, i fully agree with your message. Best video on estps on youtube! This is soo true
First of all thank you for understanding us/me so well, I feel like a lot of especially the FJ types see us as complete jerks or assholes whenever we give advice rather than emotional support, they confuse that lack of not putting emotions first for being insensitive and unaware of peoples feelings, we see the emotion and see how it makes you run in circles around a difficult situation and better yet know that the solution lies away from it(the feelings). That feelings are to be felt because it is who we are but its only by thinking outside our emotions can we see the best fit for a situation, and only then do we incorporate our emotions to the solution. I dont know if that makes sense but it is undisputed, again thank you for seeing us, I was wondering whether my INFJ girlfriend will ever stop seeing me as selfish and self centered, you are hope that she will see me completely for who I am. Thank you
I have two sisters one is an isfj an one is an estp,as an infp who pretty much lives in a dream world I just don't know what
would happen if I didn't have them in my life.
My estp sister is the first person I call when I'm struggling with how to do something ,in a split second she will give me one very affective solution.
As a person with an se blind spot what I've learned from my estp sister is how to appreciate the present moment because if I give in to my ne and my introverted nature I will never see the present moment. What I love about estps is how true to themselves they are ,they (or at least my sister ) don't take things personally and always know how to turn any situation in their favor.
Entrepreneur checking in. You are for the most part right. There are differences between estp’s and maturity matters. Im 29 and I can confirm that we are risk takers with no regard of what other people think. I have the perfect job where I am my own boss. This gives me the freedom i need to solve problems effectively. We are passionate and we sometimes combat boredom by piling on even more risky activity. My best friend is also a so called entrepreneur”. We’ve been best friends for 27 years and we always have a blast. Institutions like school is intolerable to me. I have never had a plan and I have always fixed problems as I go. To more reserved people we may come across as incentive bastards, not everyone can handle the face to face direct approach. We mean well, and we are definitely misunderstood by many. Life is fun don’t dwell on things you cannot change. Cheers from Norway.
estp fellow, how in the world did you manage to be your own boss...
estp here. I describe myself very generous to people who I love. I want to do whatever I can to help them, even though they don't ask for help. When they are with me, I make sure they enjoy themselves and having a good time. I also like to encourage them to try new things. And I only show my sensitive side and real feelings to people who I trust. I like to say to people "if you never try then you will never know".
Not sure about other ESTPs, but for me I am extremely impulsive. When I have an idea or something I can't stop thinking about, I have to do it no matter how people say this is crazy, it's too much risk. There are many times I don't have any expectations or plans for things I am getting myself into, and I just jump in, improvise with whatever will come to me.
Many times if we think too much, we will get fear for things we are about to do. So I like to tell people stoping thinking so much just do it, whether it will work or not, it is life.
You literally described us so well and lovable. Finally someone who gets us. Or me at least.
ESTP here! whats up! I think this was crazy accurate! Watched it with an INFJ and we both think it was spot on!
Yesss I’m so glad!!
as an estp over here you crushed this!!! i hate telling my friends i'm an estp and then them thinking i'm like trump??
haha! I don't even think Trump is an ESTP at all. :D
thank you for the response, i really appreciate it! and yeah, I agree, I don't know why google says that, no matter what your opinion is on him i don't think he comes off as an estp :)
agreed! I think he WISHES he is an ESTP and his persona he has created is him playing the role of an ESTP. but he is definitely a feeler and doesn't use logic, he is charismatic and taps into people's values
i totally agree with you! i think the business aspect of an estp is pretty spot on with trump, but the logic/feelings aspect you are also very accurate with about him! :)
Very accurate. I have become aware that my realistic view of life can be considered as uncaring by some people. I don’t worry about things I cannot control. I fix what I can and move on. I spend the majority of my time reassuring people around me that things will be ok. I love to see people happy and living life. Thank you for being so perceptive.
Im an ESTP and you're absolutely right about socionics being more concise and accurate than MBTI. My father is an ENFJ and its funny how I feel like Im listening to him talk as Im watching. I feel like NFJs understand us better than anyone. Great vid!
This helped me(ENFP) understanding my ESTP husband so much! Everything you said was so relatable. He is not good at describing how his mind processes so this video was eye opening to me. I think you just saved so many future arguments I would have had if I didn’t watch this.
Thank you for appreciating us ESTP's! I love how you've discussed the reasons why we act and think because it really is all rational - emotions are out of the question. I was with two friends today at the beach and a bunch of other people I didn't know. My friends were eating food with them in which they were distracted by their phones and my friends weren't getting the attention they deserve. I notice this behaviour instantly about people and their ego, so I don't even focus on those people. I am always looking for something stimulating and if that means running up and down the beach alone, so be it. My friends kept begging me to stay but we weren't truly satisfied even if they didn't really realise it and I knew we could have way more of a bubbly conversation between ourselves. But in understanding that self control/patience needed to be practiced, I stayed for a few minutes longer doing nothing and eventually my friends figured out what I was able to instantly notice. We left, got burgers and had enlightening conversation.
exactly, we estpq can notice if someone is with us immediatly and wont waste time on people who are not important. and we are also okay with just leaving the situation. we wont overthink what others may think about us.
redbunny311 thanks for your input! Only saw this eight months later after rewatching the video 😅
Love how you're seeing the whole picture and not stigmatising us as a dumb jock.
A bit too much "go for it dude" is assumed for most IMO, that's a bit of stereotype. We do consider things carefully, at least the smart ones LOL.
But you are correct about the ability to accept what is real and what isn't. We don't like spending a lot of time/energy on hopeless causes. We tend to see a lot of N thinking as being hopelessly naive, unrealistic or romantic, therefore to automatically think "So how the frick is that going to happen?" That can come off as "Debbie Downer" to some, but more often, as we have some Fe, we learn to shut up and try not to roll our eyes. OTOH, if we get behind your idea, we can be supportive allies.
BTW my spouse is ENFJ.
Yes, "go for it' is a stereotype, BUT you'd be surprised how much people struggle with this when ESTPs just don't tend to struggle with taking action when they want to.
Well, I'm probably a lot more contemplative than most ESPs, and think that I tend to "overthink" things. OTOH, from an outside perspective, I would guess that I seem fairly true to type.
Yes!
I completely agree.
People think I'm just being negative but I don't see the point in wasting resources time and energy on something if it doesn't seem... reasonable.
My results changed from ENTP to ESTP after I started working and living on my own. I definitely identify more closely to this type and I feel like your explanation was on point. Sorry to anyone who might've thought I was dismissive towards you!
ESTP female here and I love you. Good mix of S and N types in my circles but always drawn irresistibly to N as I feel they help me grow and their unique and otherworldly insights give me a Ti thrill and perk my often nihilistic Ni ears up. I think you are 100% right - we have huge hearts and strong values, and our compassion and help of others is genuine in its delivery as it is adapted with Ti, delivered with Fe, and anchored in Se realism. I laugh to think Donald is an ESTP but who cares if he is.. There are villains in every type and maybe not such a surprise one of ours is so obnoxious ;) I get my kicks out of helping people in my whirlwind fashion but maintaining my independence. Not afraid of pushing boundaries or making people uncomfortable however. ESTPs can be very polarising. What are your thoughts on sx/sc/sp variants and the types’ predispositions to them? Keep posting bby g x
It's the Se-renity Prayer.
ESTP here. You’re REALLY good! We mean well and are MISunderstood!
Thank you!!
Hey, an ESTP here :) That's the most accurate ESTP video I've ever seen. I guess there is still a lot missing - but what you discussed is 100% true! :)
I am an Estp and I can greatly identify with your description. Refreshing to hear because it seems that most people just view us as simple minded.
Hello Meghan! Thanks for the positive words on an ESTP. Most people dont appreciate that we try to make the world a better place, regardless of the toes we step on. The truth hurts but its still the truth and the faster you accept it, the faster you can move on and improve!
It wasnt until a couple years ago when i learned that i was an ESTP and i learned why i thought and acted like i did. I grew up thinking i was a bit crazy. In my teens and 20's, i didnt give a shit what anybody thought about me. I would also go out of my way to help someone. Being blunt and having no filter was an understatement. Also i was somewhat reckless and was always looking to have a good time and wanted others to have a good time.... Now that im in my late 30's, i care more about the relationships of the people around me and im more driven in my business. Im still blunt and honest but with a little more tact. After several motorcycle wrecks, im less of a risk taker but still if im not pursuing a fun life then im dying inside. Hope this helps from another ESTP perspective!
The "16 personalities test" really helped me and i would encourage all to go there and just read about the types to understand others and not judge there character.
I watched this video a few years ago (when I was ill and didn't have any energy to live my life) and just rewatched it. You are spot on. I feel NFs get us. Also, I've had a couple of great fun friendships with ESFPs. I am literally in the process of fixing my life , doing what I can, leaving the rest, and " trusting the process" only using my energy on my plan and people I value. Thank you for this video, your explanation will help those who think we are heartless or cold when in fact we care A LOT.
ESTP here. My mom gave me a copy of the Serenity Prayer when I was 17. It really resonated with me and I repeated to myself whenever I get frustrated or stuck and I feel better. I feel like you really see ESTPs.
This is one of the most important ESTP videos out here! Spot on! And you're so well-spoken too, keep doing what you do :)
As an ESTP I sincerely want to thank you for this video. I acknowledge sometimes we can be so focused on what our Se and Ti tell us is the concrete, clear solution right in front of us that we can forget not everyone else will see the solutions and necessary actions we believe will solve a problem. I'm so used to seeing stereotypes of us as party animals who are super insensitive, but they miss the intricacies you detail in this video. So again, thank you for such an insightful, and frankly thoughtful, video!
I think you were pretty accurate, thanks for uploading. You're also very right at the end about ESTPs trying to make others more rational and get them into the present.
- ESTP
ESTP here I greatly enjoyed watching this video. A lot of the information hit home for me. A lot of what you communicated showed the best side of this personality type. However, I think it's also important to recognize the complexities as well. For example, Estps can use their secondary functions whenever they want to. However, when they're isolated or not given the freedom that they need, the can become manipulative and or chronically stuck in overthinking. I really appreciate your thoughts!
This was a great video. Really spot on for me as an estp. I appreciate you shining insightful light on some of the traits that aren't maybe the best but it's just how we are. For example, I don't always feel the necessity to sugarcoat things, because I don't think it will be helpful and I don't have that kind of time, but I also don't think I take other's peoples feelings into account when I'm being blunt. On one hand, I want to get to the point and move on and as I grow a newer part of me wishes I had more empathy for how other people internalize things I say. It's hard because I don't always understand sensitive people. It's something I've been working on and this video helped me understand these points and have a little validation on some of the better traits.
ESTP here. I got into the MBTI to help with sales. 2 years later I am now killing it at sales! Basically when you're confident at just being a conqueror. You come across too blunt. But if you can tell if you're dealing with an ENTJ or an ESTJ in a sales meeting you'll know how to navigate the conversation.
Interesting. Sales is not a common occupation for ESTPs unless they really believe in the product.
The way you were choking means there is something that was said to you by an ESTP that deeply affected you; hopefully it was a positive one.
You do realise ESTP listens more and asks more questions about yourself rather than them talking unless there is a story of their experience which is related to yours.
ESTP does a lot of profiling once engaged in conversations for the best way to approach an individual in future.
Great video.
- From an ESTP
I am glad someone mentioned this and actually used the word profiling :D because thats 110% what I am doing with all of my interactions (unless in the rare case I am really really tired and not so interested for the moment).
I d like to add to the fact that we try to see the world around us as it truely is that we are very curious to find out more about it. I know that with my natural tendencies as ESTP I am viewing things differently then other types. Getting their insight simply on how others perceive their surroundings (as wrong as I might personally think they could be) because it helps me to understand the "truth" the other person is experiencing.
ESTP here! I've been interested in Carl Jung's work off and on throughout my life, but I really started to dig and learn as much as I could when I married an INFJ (who happens to have narcolepsy, btw!!)
Infj married to an estp here! Never boring.
Great description Meghan! I feel lucky everyday cause I’m married to an ESTP. 💕
I recently become close friends with someone and they have this personality type (maybe a mixture of another...they are not 100% sure). I am ENFJ.
Usually I make close friendships with introverts, so this was a suprise. So far I love their honesty, spontaneous energy, deeply caring nature towards their friends and loved ones, and drive to make life good for their family and themselves.
They balance out my introspective "what if" and worries about future and uncontrollable possibilities. They keep me grounded in the here and now whilst we can also dream together for the future. Its really fun and very reassuring
I so agree. Just told my best friend's boyfriend he was ESTP and he read the 16 personalities profile and didn't jive with it and was kind of sad haha but when I read it I said I thought it was pretty inaccurate to what those functions mean. ESTP guy 100% fits what you said in this video, however. He has a way of not letting people whine, but not because he's being mean or bullying about it, more just that he's able to divert the whining person's attention to a positive opportunity in the moment.
I'm an ESTP, am here. I just listened through what you had to say about ESTPs.
It is interesting to have it hear from an ENFJ, ENFJ being the woman that I have a complicated relationship with.
We're too different. Beyond female/male differences.
ESTP here! I agree with everything you said and I believe you captured my values quite well.
I wasn’t quite sure if I’m estp but after your video I just realized how estp I am.
INFJ here and this video popped up in my TH-cam feed. I’m here to learn more about ESTP’s and also ISTP’s. I’m trying to figure out which one my father was.
I'm an ESTP, 8w7, and this is 100% accurate. You really know us.
I've been appreciating learning more and more from my duals perspective. Def smart people.
That can be an amazing thing to pay attention to =) I figure, for INFPs, some ESTP behaviours can turn out to be eye opening in what they make you accomplish. I wonder though, how that would work for ESTPs. Learning from the duals is great, it has helped me moving forward as well and I would recommend anyone to have a good look at them ^^
ESTP here ! Spot on ! Get along very well with the ENFJ ! 👍
It makes sense why you relate to them so much, and here's why I say that: I remember one Socionics description in particular that was within this article called _The Clock of the Socion: Energy Dynamics of Quadra and Benefit Rings_ by Gulenko:
_"Next comes the implementer of beta quadra - SLE, the Marshall - the organizer, volitional sensing type. He pushes forward not with emotions, but with resources i.e. he finds resources for implementation. People have already been mobilized and organized (this was the mission of EIE) and now resources are needed to make plans and ideas materialize. Nothing can happen without sensorics."_
I love that quote!!!
This one is close but there is another one where you mention ESTP is jealousy that's a joke. ESTP s run their own race. Like you say it's about the things they can change how practical is jealousy???
ESTPs are great leaders like my Scout Master. He would always tell us the present is what matters.
ESTP-A here, I think you are right on. I have a few ENTP in my life and I wanna see a video comparing how both types think!
I would 100% say the best description for an estp is a doer, like my ENTP friends just talk and talk and talk and never do anything.
Many people I talk to do a lot of worrying and do not take the actions they know they should take, this to me is mind boggling. I'm always like sooo why don't you just do it?
You did well Meghan. You probably don't hear a lot from ESTPs because we're too busy running around doing stuff. Unless you ask more than once, I guess we don't feel it's actually needed for us to make a comment. It all comes down to where we put our attention at the moment.
I’m an ESTP, and you’re right on.
I was married to ESTP for 30!years . He was a wonderful man. He got “driven” after loosing his job. His anger got the better of him. It caused our family to break down because this type must win at all cost. This is great as a couch or CEO attorney, but in a family as a husband and father they are like a bulldozer and if you are a “feeler”. I suggest you make sure you have a very independent and financially secure self. These personalities seek self then team. Feelers seek team then self. I have learned the hard way both are Great. But if you don’t understand ESTP, have a strong sense of self and want them to focus on the family before their NEED to drive in success in the outer world, you will misunderstand both greatness in a self driven for the team vs team driven for self.
Are you sure he was an ESTP? Your description sounds more like ESTJ or ENTJ who have inferior Fi, so don't care about their own feelings let alone someone else's. The ESTP I know dislikes when my emotionality (I'm an INFP) throws him into his feeling mode because he can't navigate his Fi very well. We tend to lock horns in such situations. But most of the time can be very emotionally supportive and caring, and definitely cares about family and friends more than career (though this is important too).
Balls to the wall yes exactly !!! Gosh love it!! I just wish I had another ESTP to calm me down when I get stressed...hehe
Your description is perfect!
-ESTP
ESTP here. Thank you so much! I fully agree! (:
ESTP here, thanks for the kindness.
Hi and thanks for the kind words about us ESTPs. I think you managed to nail pretty much all the nice aspects of our personality but would have liked to hear more about the negatives. I have been married to my ENTJ wife for 20+ years and and boy does it help to have another thinker to team up with, by which I mean someone who thinks more than 15 min ahead 😉.
I'm ESTP and I know this for several years now ... I'm very self-aware being ESTP and love my strenghts and weaknesses.
I’m an ESTP and this is a super accurate video !
Estp here and I was feeling so down tonight and then I seen this video thank-you for appreciating us =D
12:28 I recognize that prayer! Here's what I searched up on Wikipedia:
_The Serenity Prayer is the common name for a prayer written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr[1][2] (1892-1971). The best-known form is:_
_"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,_
_Courage to change the things I can,_
_And wisdom to know the difference."_
This ESTP approves this video 😎
Patricia Stefanski haha and we are always wearing shades or using the 😎 emoji haha -ESTP
Notice my pic... bawhawhaha, your no fool. True story 😂
Estp here! This video was very good and I really relate to all of that!
I FEEL SO VALIDATED! Wow
INFJ watching just studying MBTI and doing comparisons to my own type. I have dubbed ESTPs as INFJ's shadow side, not opposite (that would be ESTJ) to see how my cognitive functions act in reverse.
And just wanna say, you're amazing. They say these 4 types (ESTP, ESTJ, & ENFJ, & ENFP) always ending having the best chemistry and compatibility with INFJs as extroverted companions of some sort.
Watched your videos for a while and I remember you talking about your INFJ girlfriend. Hope you guys are still meshing. How would you feel about an updated interpretation of your views on my type. I know we can be extremely private to the point of obscurity, and nervously ask our partners to fall off the grid with us, but I don't think I've heard you mention her aside from that one video.
But anyways hiiiii! Thank you for great content and I hope everything is awesome for you. Namaste.
ESTP Here.... Interesting video. I related to a lot of it.
Hi, Im from Poland and I dont know how I get to this video, but I just wanted to say is you are 10/10 right about ESTPs. But paralel You are saying truth about ESTPs, We can play with life too, play with destroying people to build them from scratch again. Sometimes temptation of new experience put us in very uncomfortable position, corner which can destroy us. Reason why We can survive difficulties, which would destroy other personality types, is what I got from my experience - talent to adapt Yourself to people around You, new job, stress. If ESTP is enough experienced with they weeknesses They can be whatever They want to.
You basically described me, felt good to know there are other people similar to me😊😊
O M G Y E S THANK YOU -all estp's ever
Im ESTP and i enjoy life every second. Play hard or Die Hard. Im usally doing Party Hard.
I am an ESTP. Good video. I will like to add that you touched on a great skill set of ESTPs that’s consistent with the Individualization strength in Gallup Strength Finder. Most ESTPs rank high on this skill on Gallup Strength Finder.
Interesting, that was my top strength actually when I took the test!
Meghan LeVota you surely have some ESTP in you then😂
I like your approach to type theory of examining each for the life lessons they offer
I am an ESTP, I'm only typing to let you know we exist. The text below is my experience as an ESTP, but my quick response for you: I type my mom is an ENFJ and she worries a lot to the point of creating conspiracy theories putting other's loyalty into question... Its pretty suffocating, I'd say. lol Keep ya head up you're doing great with this channel if it somehow popped in my recommended. (:
Since you asked where could my type be: I'm often caught up in the early stages of content creation and community building which is a cold hard reality a lot of people are too lazy to do for themselves or wait until they suddenly blow up. (My anecdote comes from the gaming space. I don't know how real it is outside the sphere.)
Anyways, I only learned I was an ESTP in the last year 'cause I never cared about typology until recently going through the rabbit hole and shifting information. The more I looked into it, the more I accepted that its pretty helpful information as long as one ignores the crap information available out there, plus whatever I am doing generally helps me defuse a situation much more efficiently using typology. Quite often it is all about how one says things that'll determine whether you're listened to or ignored.
As for me, I had a semi-identity crisis since all Templar types are known to mirror and in various ways I believe I did mirror an INFJ lover. Fast forward many years later I became determined to will myself out of depression and seek out my purpose which as only recently led me to typology since I never really tried it. Now I'm hoping to better myself since I have NO EXCUSES lol!
I’m estp ...took the test twice to make sure lol I like how you said we like to have fun with a stressed out face lol
ESTP here. Good job. Spot on about us being the catalyst for change. I just kicked the hornets nest this past thanksgiving by calling out the fake, dysfunctional family dynamics my family has but tries to pretend doesn’t exist during the holidays. Reality check. Looks like some meaningful conversation will come from it, only time will tell
Nice comment there. Me too I was tested in tests ans enfj enfp Entp but some say i am estp. Can you look a bit my channel and tell me the vibe you get if i am estp
words like this actualy makes me feel alot better, think about myself as estp better
imho all this very true. i always been like "if you can change it- stop whining and change it. if you can not- calm down and try something else or make it less crapier". its like..use a simple logic. "did you loose your phone? did you check every possible places? did you asked people? so dont worry" . also think that there are no bad people. every bad deed/action has its reasons. so even my worse apponent can be my friend after "battle"
also about friends and partys. i am such a party mom...or dad? if i see someone get bored ill try to fix it. i watch everyone get their drinks and snacks as it should be. everyone havin a good time, everything is right
one cool skill estps have- almost never fall on ice or crush my head into lampposts or such. bc of Se i suppose?
(sorry for misstapes and bad grammatic)
This made me smile so much cause it’s true!
HOLY u are totally right in everything almost u say im an ESTP male 24 from Europe and its totally true
Stop worrying about things u cant change i cant translate it precisely
In my language its
Przestań się przejmować rzeczami na które nie masz wpływu 😄
Meghan..this video has encouraged me so much..I am apparently an ESTP..I have an adult INFJ and I have sadly struggled a lot with my understanding about her although I of course love and like her but I don’t know how to help her much 😔
in conclusion we estps are underrated
This video (and a few of the comments) are.. sort of emotionally disrupting me. (Not that that was anyone’s intent). My heart started to pound, my adrenaline started to surge, and I began to breathe shorter faster breaths.
I briefly dated an individual whom I very heavily suspect is ESTP, while at the same time, displaying definite narcissistic traits. This individual was emotionally abusive toward me - and I keep trying to understand and go back to learn as much as I can. Thankfully, I wasn’t in the relationship for very long.
This is coming from someone the complete opposite - an INFJ. I will say, I took on some of the “hardness” of this person. It’s..been an interesting and hard year. I..don’t think I can even finish this video. I already need a break. Regardless, thank you for your informative insight.
You said you feel seen by ESTPs. Letting you know I appreciate being "seen" by you.
Im an ESTP and I do feel like this describes me(: thanks!
That was so well said!
Bravooooooo girly!!! 💐💐I am ENFJ with best friends made up of ESFJ, ISFJ and then ... the most inspiring one for me when I am down my beautiful ESTP!! She gets me like no others(don’t tell them🤭🤫😅), I mean she is so to the point but encouraging in the process! She get me going, and also is on deep awe by my energy and intuition too!! Anyhow just had to say this as because of her I love ESTP dearly 💯😍byes but don’t care 😜😁😂
What is Trump if he’s not an ESTP? I relate to him a LOT and I’m an ESTP. It’s also worth noting that enneagram can make a big difference. Having met 7w6 and 8w7 (Trump) ESTPs it’s just not the same (I’m 7w8). Like many have said, he probably has NPD and BPD.
Infj married to an estp and I approve this msg.
ESTP here:) thank you for your perspective on ESTPs .nice to Get your birds eye view :)
Spot on!!!!!!
never overthink
-estp
I hope to get my ego fed.
Spot on.....
im an estp :) hello. you explained very well.
| Scott Schwefel - has a Great TED Talk...
I laughed so hard when you mentioned about the Nike slogan! That is so me lol. Good job, Meghan! You understand us 👍🏼
ESTP
Do immature ENFJs manipulate their partners to get a reaction? Do they purposefully try to incite jealousy on their partners or do things that they know would piss off their partners for whatever reason? Thank you.
Underlying Motivations currently what is happening with an ENFJ I just started talking to. Which is why I’m researching and landed on this comment which rectified that he is trying to incite jealousy and now I’m not texting him. What a dick!
Yes. A relationship should be built on mutual trust and understanding, without the needs of petty games for attention or whatever. Dump those ENFJs.
I'm an ENFJ and I would literally NEVER do that. I don't like jealousy in people. I might try to bug someone if they bug me but don't take the initiative on this either.
Kim Roberts Care to elaborate a little bit more on the ''bugging someone if they bug me?'' Does that mean if someone, for instance, stops talking to you, do you answer back with those petty tactics? Or if there is something that you want and that is bugging you, do you appeal to the jealousy tactic in order to get the attention or whatever that you want?
Underlying Motivations I meant, for example, retaliate if someone is teasing me I might tease them back. If I don't care about them I doubt I would even do this. I suppose the teasing back would just be to let them know not to engage me in that way bc i find it irritating. Yes this is passive aggressive I realize. I might also just tell them how it hit me. Don't get me wrong I like a little teasing but there's a limit to everything.
Estp here:)!
First time coming across you. Estp female here and yes I totally agree. And I Ike the fact that Trump is a estp either lol
Im the afformentiond four letter guy.. So0!
Dude, man. Like guys... or dudettes. Estps aren't here for a long time. We are here for a good time! We want to use exclamation marks in all of our sentences! Just recognize that! Stop being trigggered by it!
Hehehe im being extra on purpose btw, it's fun. We go with the flow and hope that you can to 😊 good vibes to you
Amen
I'm honestly jealous of se doms