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Strict Mom Covers The Entire House With Cameras & Forces Her Daughters to Study or Face Punishment
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 พ.ย. 2022
- A very strict mother uses the latest technology to learn why her daughter ended things for herself only to discover she really didn't know her daughter at all.
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The fact that crazy mom was the one that pushed her daughter to suicide and yet thinks it's everyone else's fault.
You'll be surprised it is not uncommon.
Because she will go insane if she accepts that it's actually her fault, she literally cannot handle that, and I mean that she may kill herself too bc of the guilt
I do agree with you that it's bad to blame everyone else for her own fault, but it's also understandable the reason she blame other people for her daughter's death
@@Leia9913 ok so we're gonna let her just make more of her children commit suicide because of her?
or should we let her suffer the guilt and either become A a better mother or B a problem no more if she took her life
@@wagahagwa6978 Understanding doesn't mean agreeing. Psychologists can understand patient's situation, while not agreeing of patient's action.
It's a hallmark of narcissistic abuse. I wish more ppl know about its warning signs.
The term “parents know best” absolutely boils my blood to no end. If this is what knowing what’s best is to you get your ass in therapy
Im glad my parents know how to admit when they are wrong
@@Simon_Azrael_The_Doctor unfortunately for mine they don’t, once I move to Japan I ain’t contacting them no more
i think the parents that are more "traditional" use this kind of method to their children..
- every parents want the best for their child..but they sometimes do mistakes..
Theyre so detached they forgot "time changed"
@@HowToChangeName u cant blame them really..
- maybe thats all they've got..and that they teach the best way they know to their children..
- if u have a children of ur own, u understand what i am trying to say..
- there are no solid "Parental Guidance" of being a parents..we learn by mistakes..and if we careless, the mistakes leads to another mistakes..untill it goes beyond repair..
Surprised no one is commenting on the father. Yes, he may have stood up to the mother a couple of times but he never stood up to her for his kids. He neglected the kids just as much as the mother emotionally abused them. Being a father doesn't mean just bringing home the bacon and your done with fatherhood. He should've protected his kids but he just stares at his phone the moment he gets home. And the sad truth is this is quite typical in Asian households. A controlling mother and a distant father.
It seemed to me like she abused him too. Unfortunately I saw this with my dad's parents; his mom was abusive to both the kids and her husband and it destroyed their health. My dad is the only one who somehow broke the cycle and made it out reasonably normal.
Men are useless but yet always get a pass.
she abused him too.he is afraid of her.sometimes victims doesnt speak up even if they want too.
Yuh it's my family rn even though I'm 18 i still get yelled at with all those harsh words by my mom😅 and I'm used to it tho..well all my siblings are used to it
It's called being an enabler. They don't stand up to the abuser because it's easier for themselves not to. They only think of doing what they can to keep the status quo of someone else suffering the abuse, even if it's their own innocent children, so they don't have to. If their child ever stands up for themselves, they get upset and angry because suddenly the enabler has become the target of the abuse or has to directly deal with the insufferable behavior of the abuser, and they'd prefer have their scapegoat back to shield them rather than be an adult, call out the abuse, and do whatever they can to stop it.
The fact that this was my mom. As an African woman, I pray for my Asian brother and sisters in this same predicament. May you find joy and freedom away from your toxic parents.
You know that just a few people right
the generational trauma that poc families suffer with is truly saddening...we must change.
I’ve said it before parents are overrated why even have a child in the first place if this is how you treat your kids
children are supposed to be a member of the family NOT a means to make more money for your sake
My Dad never wanted me to go to school but I forced him to take me there, he wasn't strict on school but wanted me to have what I wanted, the only problem had was bullies and man does it suck to be bullied in Africa 💀
My mother was strict and sometimes controlling but never on my academics and career, instead she always encouraged and prayed for me. My dad was a freewill guy, was not controlling at all, and also encouraged me.
I grew up in Ghana, Nigeria, and the US, I don't think it's fair to paint all of us with a broad brush.
Every parent should watch this and understand that each child that they bring into this world or adopt is a huge responsibility, to be loved, cherished, protected, nurtured and to be understanding, only then they can reach their full potential and thrive as they should be.
No matter what excuse people use it is abuse plain and simple parenting with fear is not parenting at all and people wonder why we have some of the problems that we have in this world
this is so true
my mom watched this and commented, "wow she is such a strict and crazy mom" while being UNAWARE she is also like this lmao. Literally not helping 🤣
My mom used to be quite strict and physically beat me often. I had to get Good grade always. Finally I had a mental breakdown in 5th grade. My private tutor, god bless him, explained to mom that the pressure on me was becoming too much and I was just a child. Fortunately mom understood that and took me on a relaxing vacation. It took me a year to become completely normal child, but I think she really loves me More than my grade cuz she never forced me to study ever again. She also understands depression now. I'm really one of the luckiest Asian kid who was born in the 90s .
It's really sweet she understands and loves you, she was probably treated that way from her parents
The mother's forceful behaviour and the father's indifferent attitude are what causing pain and suffering to the kids.
Mom: why can’t you be more like your sister, Mollie??
*steps out to balcony*
Say less
Dead 😭😭😭😭😭
Yesss 😭✋🏻
@@heitthanderson3708 mollie is too 💀
@@heitthanderson3708 just like mollie
i have a sister named molly, and she has all A's while i have one a mostly b's and a c. and im the one with diagnosed depression
“and then she hugs the air as if that could truly comfort her.” lmao that caught me off guard, what a cold ending for such a sad movie😭😭
My parents weren’t to this level but they did always make me feel like nothing I did was ever good or right. If anyone is feeling like this, pls just hang in there. It WILL end. You’ll become an adult and then you can live your life for you. Pls don’t check out early. I know when you’re young, everything you’re going through feels like it’ll be that way forever. It won’t. Just hang on and know that this is all temporary. Get away the moment you turn 18. It’s all gonna be alright.
😘🤗 your a sweetheart. 💖 bless you. 😊
Running away is not the answer. Ive also been treated by my parents like this. Only stopped once i almost gave up only at 18, 19
It did mess me up relationship wise trust issue wise. But im trying to work though it. My parents are also trying hard now to understand and accept that i as a child had a lot to stress about and i had problems.
26 now have a good relationship with my parents tho still worki g on it.
If you run away you solve nothing carrying hate and sadness which later on whether u want to or not u will reciprocate these feelings to someone like your children and start that cycle again. I myself still think about my childhood days i get angry but im past the point of blaming my parents they didnt know better.
No, it‘s not. I‘ve attempted more times as an adult than I have as a child. One day I will succeed.
@@BentleyBohemian_96 The difference is your parents are trying to understand what they did wrong. But even then,
IT IS OK to go no contact with anyone that is negatively impacting your mental health (yes, even your parents), especially if you're at the point of being _suicidal._ And just because you cut them off doesn't mean you're automatically going to repeat that behavior with your own children and it's bullshit to claim otherwise. It is absolutely possible to seek healing _without_ the involvement of the people who hurt and abused you. You don't automatically have to go around being sad and angry for the rest of your life.
@@OverdramaticAngel yeah its OK i agree but its not everyones solution
This resonates so much with an Asian culture to the point where the ending here is positive. It is positive because the mother has finally “woken up” but in real life, many narcissistic parents will still control their child even in adulthood because to them, if their children becomes independent it’s another loss of control for them to mould them to perfection.
Seeing a psychologist is considered a bad thing in some Asian culture.
@@jacquelines9966 oh its not a bad thing, its not even a thing.
HAD SOMONE I KNEW - That wanted to keep an eye on their 16 year old son to make sure he was studying and not doing anything they didn't want him to do. Installed cameras all around the house. Including his bedroom (which I thought was way over the top). The kid attempted suicide and eventually ran away from home at 17.
How is he now?
This is why antinatalism is a thing. There really need to be mandated parental licenses.
@@jman9936 This was years ago. He eventually moved in with his Aunt & Uncle. They helped him finish high school and eventually go and graduate college a few years later. Last I heard, he had a $100+K job and girlfriend he was living with... I don't think he talks to his parents much if at all.
@@ericinla65 Well at least he's doing well and away from his toxic/control freak parents
Wait so not everyone had cameras in their room??
I'm sorry/not sorry for saying this, but any parent who treats their kids like this should deserve the WORSE kind of moment in their lives.
They will get that moment , but it will be too late for kids
Probably started long before they were parents. Just blaming people without understanding the whole context leaves a half picture. History is full or wicked expectations that foster generations after generations.
@@harrisonanderson6844 your right, but sometimes you want help and you help too much so beacuse of caring and helping more than normal you make things worse , and yes in most cases its the past that make people to care too much for their loved ones beacuse they want best things for thier loved ones
For example if your parents are making you quite school and this will stop you from geting what you want in your life (this is a very bad thing and its the start of a bad cycle) so you want to stop this by being like your parents forcing your children to be some one that they dont want, beacuse you thought that quiting school was the main reason but you got forced to be some one else and this is the main reason you didnt get what you want in your life so here you should break this bad cycle instead of continuing it by forcing your children be some one that they dont want to be.
@@harrisonanderson6844 The whole picture doesn't make them better parents
I would’ve said “I hate you!” to the strict parents.
This story looks to be amazing. It didn't have what I would consider a predictable ending where the mother ends her life. She has to live with the guilt and loss. Truly a sad story.
Moral of the story to all parents out there:
I don't mean you have to spoil your kids, but you should at least give some respect to your kids by showing intrest in what THEY like. You gave birth to them, but that doesn't necessarily mean they think the same as you.
and If you control your kids behind their back, trust me, they will do more behind your back.
So true.
A typical movie about how asian households neglect mental health and then become shocked kids dont have the best state of mind lol
Ikr
It's not just mental health. They don't respect you as a person at all
What's the name of this movie ?
The fact that its so obvious yet the mom still doesnt know, and treat her second daughter the same
When I failed to reach 80% in my finals,my mom never stopped scolding me and shouting that I was wasting her money. Some parents just don't understand.
OMG... I am so sorry
Lol parents like Mrs Lin and the father deserve all the hate they get. This is a fictional movie with very real life people. Playing the "bumbling idiot" and "not wanting to get involved" makes you equally insufferable. And if my parents saw themselves on a memory machine like that they're like "well, some parents leave their babies in dumpster at birth" and be very smug about themselves. This movie may be set in China, but the people and their behaviour is universal
If they would really say that then they don’t deserve to have kids
The pressure to be perfect from society and our parents, sometimes becomes too much for us to handle. This is the sad reality that we can't deny. Not all parents are the same but most of them are.
This is the reason why I’m afraid of having children. I’ve seen so many parents (my dad being one of them) being toxic to their children and it didn’t do them any good. So if I’ll be the cause of my own child’s trauma, I think i’d rather not have one at all.
That's why you should be the change and be the best parent you can be
I feel this too but I also know, I still don’t want kids lol. If you feel you want them, follow the other commment, but if you truly feel it, that you don’t want kids, don’t have or you’ll be that shit parent, yo fear you possibly could be and neglect and resent them.
@@kimandawalsh3494 lol I see you but I don’t think involving another human being just to see if it’s worth taking that risk, would be good
My mom is a narcissist with bipolar disorder. She was just like this mother in the movie; so controlling and always gaslighting me after I did everything to try and make her look my way. It was never enough so I turned to self-harm as I would fantasize about committing the unthinkable. I almost did the deed in October of 2021 although I backed-out after thinking about my autistic younger brother who is feeling the same pressure and heartache. Eventually, I enrolled in a trade program in May of 2022 where I met my supportive boyfriend and his caring family, it helped me overlook my past and it gave me the courage to finally cut-ties and stand-up against my toxic parents after all of the physical and verbal abuse. Although this movie is just a movie, the chaos is real and traumatic.
just your leave your mother, she's got mental breakdown
Congrats to ur success
We love doctors/phycologist that even when pressured won’t share private patient things
Funny how she does everything only not to accept the fact her daughter's suicide is actually her fault. I live with parents who are almost the same as these ones, mom is the one who starts an argument for no particular reason, pressures me for something I have no interest in, threatening me with god knows what anymore, and my dad doesn''t just keep himself out of it, he defends HER all the time, no matter if she's the one who begins first. Let's just put aside that my sister ran away at 21 cuz she cannot handle our mom's abuse anymore. Mom still talks shit about her, even tho it's been 5 years since her departure, which explains she still didn't move on. It all got to the point where I can't even tell her anything anymore, as she would get pissed off for even the slightest reason. Don't tell me that I'm still young or any other non-sense crap, 17 years living with anybody else is more than enough to get to know them better. Sorry if it's a bit long, there were things that had to be said. :D
Have you been in contact with your sister? Im so sorry for what you have been suffering... maybe your Sister can help you, even if its just emocional help
@@alexia3046 Unfortunately, even if she wants to, there is nothing or barely anything she can do, since we barely share few words, coz I don't know if my parents would follow me, it's too risky. Even to this day, they curse her and her own daughter (THEIR OWN GRANDDAUGHTER HEY!!!).
@@mickeypeters9902 yeah, its bad. But i belive you will be able to free yourself from them, at some point. Untill than, be safe and good luck. Hope they come to their senses ❣️
My parents are the damn same you are lucky u used to have a sister by your side I have no one, I remember once I got 50/50 in my science which was the best score anyone ever got in the school and my mum was happy she wasn’t like really happy she was just normal happy and my friend who got 42 her highest score ever on a science test said her mum was soo happy that they went shopping and she could buy anything she wanted for £50 and I was just like I give up next year the test got harder and it was out of 63 I still got the highest which was 59 and my mum couldn’t be more disappointed the next day I said iam sorry and if she was okay she said so much mean things to me that I never never forget it like it was yesterday, anyways one day u will happy and free, I will when I grow up move to Japan or South Korea it’s my dream even after everything my parents did like destroy my childhood I will always help them in their worst situations😊
@@Japanandkorealover Sorry to hear that, hope you'll be able to move and achieve whatever you've planned as soon as possible. I am planning to apply for VISA so I could move to Germany and work as a truck driver for some time, until I aquire my degree for Economy & Business, since there is nothing left to do here in Serbia, and even if there is something to do, the pay is not promising enough for living.
My asian parents placed so much academic pressure on my sister and I until my sister developed an eating disorder. We both suffered from depression and social anxiety for years. I had abusive grandparents, a verbally and emotionally abusive and distant dad who loved punishing us for nothing. This nightmare went on for a decade. My mum was mostly too meek to stand up for us. Now I'm 20, my dad's changed for the better, my mum is more assertive, and our family is more balanced.
Sometimes I can't believe what it takes for parents to realise what they're doing to their children is detrimental. I hope the parents of today will break the cycle of punishing their children over something as trivial as grades. Make learning fun; love and hug your children. Putting so much pressure on your children only has the opposite effect. On the other hand, loving your children unconditionally has no negative effect. It will build them up to be confident, resilient people in the future. It is not spoiling them. Teach your children right from wrong, and don't punish them if you haven't taught them anything. Be a role model if you want your children to be good people. Walk the talk, be self-aware and don't be hypocritical.
I also wonder why these kind of parents think it is okay to do this. Don't they ever feel the pain of being overly-pressured and controlled before? It puzzles me. I am glad your parents actually did change. But yeah, doing these things to children actually have a lasting effect. It is sad. I hope you and your sister are doing better now; look forward to future and be strong. You still have a lifetime to experience many other things.
A beautiful comment.
This movie is hurts….I feel bad for any child stuck in a household like this
"I spent so much time and money on you"
Well too bad, I didn't ask to be born did I?
Moral of the story - Try to understand your family as humans, not robots or investments.
Amen
Wow... I have no words to describe the level of crazy this mother shows
im so glad that more people are seeing this show,,,, its one of my favorites
what's the name of this show?
@@maishahossain5661 the name is "on children" and u can watch it on netflix.
@@seulty Thanks
As an asian I confirmed this is pretty accurate
Same. I’m also asian.
My parents had high hopes for me and wanted me to be a doctor (lol) when they were fully neglecting even my basics like food and clothing and were emotionally distant...they had a lot of money saved up, just didn't want to spend it. I remember my mother telling me she Was glad she didn't come see place 2nd in a state wide neurological competition when I was 15 cos I only came 2nd...but later that day she attended my younger sister's music recital (she could have made both if she wanted to). Yeah there's some golden child syndrome here as well. Anyways I became a stripper 1 year out of high school and that shut my parents up about whatever career I pursued next, almost anything was an improvement in their eyes
Sorry to hear that. And what do you do now?
Would you say your decision to become a stripper was a form of rebellion or retaliation to their behaviour?
Anything, if you are safe happy and loved
@@dave1T yes, and a way to make money. I finished a degree and then joined the navy
@@user-yg2uy8bc8q thank you. After joining the navy (not my thing) I left on a pension and have been breeding fish and raising horses ever since, and working on my novel 💕
@@lizxu322 wow that sounds good. Well wishing you.
Coming from an asian household, I am so lucky and grateful that my parents never pressurize me too much regarding studying or anything they want me to be the best at. They do ask me from time to time how I am doing at school and all that, they care about that. But never did they really pressurize me. They were strict with our study routine of 1 hour a day when I was a child but now that we have grown up they don't force me to do anything. This really helped me because now I study so as to not disappoint them and break their trust. It's motivational. I don't get the best grades I'm a mediocre student but they tell me that they are satisfied with it. It might be because they have lost hope for me but it is still reassuring for me to know that whatever grade I show them after exams, they will love me as long as I try to do better than I last did, rather than how everyone else did. I'm really thankful to them for all they give me. I cannot imagine being forced and pressurized to study or do anything at all till you grow sick and tired of it can feel. I'm really sorry to anyone that has to face these kinds of situations.
How could any parent be like this, degrade your own child for choosing a profession that you don’t agree with..
Toxic Asian parents NEVER wants to admit their faults
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Toxic Asian parents focus on having a good reputation instead of treating their children properly.
They're so hell-bent on making sure that people always speak good things about them.
This recap brought tears to my eye, I had a friend and his mothers was like that. Even after he grownup his mother still try to control his life. He got depressed and committed the unthinkable😞😞. He was young and super smart, he just want his mom to support. My husband had a Tiger mom as well as my friend, but he was able to over come his mom after he grownup. My husband stop talk with mom after he become 18 year, since then he doesn't care about her.
1:25 "the subject that matters is math because Molly had to go to medical school" what? 😂
Some of the comments are comforting, my parents weren't this toxic but I did come Close to ending it a couple of times, this movies has brought back dark times of my life, it feels weird looking back at it now like a bad dream that's almost over.
She went through the stages of grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. 💀
Every academically pressured kid has told their parents "I never asked to be born"
People who set up cameras in their living room and bedrooms and heck maybe in the restrooms, seek help bruh.
My fathee threatened to do this.
My mother has them everywhere and threaten to put them in our rooms if we don’t stop misbehaving
@@Remoony_Lupin I would reply that’s she’s a pervert and pedophile
Cameras in the living room makes sense, since that's usually where the most expensive electrics would be, and would be the most likely target for intruders.
The weight of the dread on your conscience made your whole body feel like you were moving in slow motion. It felt like you were in a hole so deep you couldn't see the light at the top. Each day was like watching a movie, you weren't really there, you just watched the motions that your body happened to go through and your conscience was along for the ride. Seeing friends interact with their Mom's in a loving manner was so foreign that you didn't know what normal was until your 20's. You just existed in this inescapable fear that whatever you were doing you were doing wrong. Watching this was hard because it briefly brought back the nightmare.
So sorry you went through that, but now you can help others who have gone through it or may still be experiencing this type of pressure.
What's funny is they already have a nice looking house. Why would you want to rely on your children to do well in your own life at that point?
they want to keep their kids in line and to preserve their reputation. cause if they fail their grades then the family will lose face.
I remember being bullied in school so much when i was just 10 and as a kid i was afraid of dark but i was so depressed I always stayed in my room with lights off so no one would see me crying and I would cry every morning begging my parents not to send me to school and all they said was you are making excuses because you don’t want to study and shit and it’s really hard to not being able to make decisions for myself, no one is believing you and you don’t know how to express yourself, just hang in there it getts better as you grow up but that phase sure is hell I remember taking off the sharperener blade and trying to cut my wrist bc I thought that’s how people die and in the end couldn’t must up the courage to do more than a few scratches
I'm so sorry and I hope you are beter now
Man I hope you are fine now and in better place
So sad how many cultures this resonates with. I’m not Asian but my Hispanic mother went just as hard, if not harder.
This is why I think Tiger Parenting should be illegal
this is like my mom. she always say that she is doing this for our good and not for hers. but she is not like this level of control.
I read a Webtoon story the other day called “Raising a Success” and it’s about a mom who uses a wind up key on her daughter to make her daughter study more all because her daughters grades weren’t good enough for this special study group. It was messed up at the end.
Wow I saw this webcomic as well!! it kind of relates to this movie recaps! But its much more horryifying and sad in the end.
my father continually told me I would be nothing... that being a musician was a waste of time and to get a real job.... I worked my "real" jobs for 30 years and did nothing with music. Don't listen to parents that don't understand what YOUR talent is and what YOUR desire to be is. I have one regret in life and that is listening to my father. I was a very talented young man and everyone I knew at the time thought I would be able to break into the scene.... maybe I would have, maybe not - but it would have been mine and not some going through the motions for too many years of a life where time is the only limitation we cannot overcome.
Thank God for my parents.
The mom saying she is the only self aware one, oof
I get it parent want to show off our achievement and are proud, but I literally hate it. It just put too much pressure on me to not ever disappoint them. That's how anxiety and depression are born
I have always been that person who never shows my real emotions and always act the opposite to my emotions I act like a stupid person which laughs at small things and has a good life but it’s actually the opposite I am a dead serious person with a worse like then molly my parents just pressure me so much and they say so many mean thing I don’t know how to deal with it but one day I will move far away from England and go to South Korea or Japan my favourite countries but I will never forget my parents and always help them even after they destroyed my whole child hood, I once asked someone in my class who the most depressed person was I thought they were all going to say a silent kid in our class or something but to my shock they said me ( I didn’t expect this because I always controled my feelings ) they said me because they said last time I got 48/50 in my math test and got the highest in school but I was still stabbing my hand and crying which shows my life
Almost had the same experience without the cctv. Glad I’m over with it (more than 10 years ago already haha) Now that I’m a mom too I pledge not be this kind of parent to my baby.🤚🏼
The sentence, "she wishes her mum to see (her scars) one day and apologize is just too real.
The answer could literally be written on her face, and she still would be in denial. Wow
Blessed my mom is more chill than any western parents I seen, she never forced me to do anything because she remembered how it felt when she was a kid and swore she will never do that if she becomes a mother
"im the only one self aware"
No lady windows vistas more self aware than you
the worst thing is that this is all but reality, albeit a little tamer than the sci-fi stuff found here. moms are so strict and expect so much out of their children. and they also refuse to take responsibility for things their child has done because of them.
Sad story. Happened to many and I never knew that. To all the kids, stay strong and talk to someone about your life and problems x
Damn this hits home. Even the part "cleaning after them even after a snack". I visit home once evey two years.
Watching this is painful, my parents are the same it can be suffocating. On my grading my dad was disappointed because I didn't get a scholarship, said I was useless and a burden. I played it off and explained how scholarship works but I just felt like no matter how hard I try it will never be good enough for them. I am nothing to them
Then don't. One, be whatever you want, and keep on pushing. Two, if your parents begging you for help, ditch them and cut ties with them, then ask them, "who is nothing now?"
@@andytan2960 😂 definitely doing that
I wouldn’t say you’re nothing to them. They most likely were parented like this. All you can do is your best until you’re old enough to go. And then you can do what you like and have a conversation about how you felt as a child.
My parents are chill but I understand the feelings of others. You don't have to worry. Even if your parents don't show that they love you, they do inside their hearts. It's gonna be ok.
"Both of them have valid points, but i still want to punch them both"
-microwave society
East and South Asian parents should watch this
I really hate it when the movie reminded why I left my obsessive mother at first place
I am a therapist and many of my clients stories are similar
Thank you for doing what you do... You are saving lives ❤️
I've been witnessing my friend's kid suffering from this kinda abuse. Hence, I go easy with my kids, accepting and celebrating their strengths as well as their weaknesses.
Another aspect that I don’t was mentioned is the fact that the mother is projecting. I feel she secretly resented giving up her job to be a sahm and is putting all the hopes she had for success onto her daughter.
Damn the mom makes me wanna throw my phone at how pissed i am lol
Well a girl who is in the same class as me (we're in different sections tho) is watched over by her dad through the camera in her hostel room. Her father keeps track of whatever she does and does not allow any sort of entertainment.
It's amazing how crazy toxic molly's mother goes hardcore denile about being the cause of their child commiting scuicide even when using a machine to view her dead daughters memories she still refused to see her fault and go batsh*t crazy when others do and continued to blame other while being even harder on her youngest, it's only until she looks at molly's memories of her from molly's perspective does she finally realise how toxic , over controlling, verbally/emotionally abusive and borderline physically abusive she was towards molly and how she didn't treat like a daughter only a work project does mrs lin finally realise and admit it was her fault her daughters death, hopefully this will make her stop being so hard on her youngest daughter and mend their relationship going forward.
Probably too late for that
@@andytan2960 well considering the younger sister hasn't ran away or committed suicide yet, their might be a chance to change their relationship.
@@espionheart6780 Well, depends on whether her daughter wants to forgive her or not.
@@andytan2960 true, not to mention Mrs lin will have to go through serious therapy to help her deal with all of her issues, starting with apologising and taking down the camera's, seriously if people found out they'd think they were crazy control freaks.
@@espionheart6780 Worst case scenario, the daughter would end up run away, since that house only consists of "dead & torture" memories.
*the subject that matters is maths cause she wanted to go to medical school* got me
i wish my parents could be proud of my acomplishments
yet when i got 90% on final tests
they only cared about my math test and went like: oh, nice but you failed math
This made me cry. Unfortunately this is too relatable as the scapegoat and success object of the family.I used to be a straight A student because it made my family happy but I finally saw their true colors and now I'm struggling and failing miserably. I'm in 9th Grade and have my exams tomorrow.Wish me luck and just pray I don't die.
you shouldn't be failing school just to spite your family, it will harm you the most. you can get away from them if you do good in school, in turn your career.
Parents that protect their child in a way which is strict enough to be considered psychotic don't deserve the privileges of existing.
This is why a lot of kids are either cutting off contact with their parents. It's either the golden child or pressuring them they don't want to be. My cousin ended up emancipated herself from my aunt and didn't want to be around her. All my cousin did at age 15 was come home, take care of the kids, do the chores, and study, that's just it. She hasn't talked to her mom in 10 years, and I never gave out her location.
This is the show called "Your child is not your child" from Taiwn, highly recommend to check it out.
the scary part about this movie is... this is pretty much a reality for most Asian households
This movie can classify itself as horror.
I still remember i was lectured for scoring 99 marks 😂 i thought i was going to die when i got B ! The crazy thing is my mom didn't even graduate from secondary school. All i could say is don't rely on your children for achievement, you should work for your own achievement!!!
A low-key boss of this movie would the lady psychiatrist. She was professional & correct of her to protect Molly's personal details from her narcisssistic mother. The psychiatrist knew her mother won't accept the truth m, even if she give it to her straight early on. Professional psychiatrists usually divert very stubborn patients like Mrs. Lin to not seek psychiatrists help anymore but to encourage them to find out the answers themselves. Nobody, not even the best psychiatrists can make you accept the truth but yourselves in the end. Real-life narcisssists, however, unlike Mrs. Lin won't accept truth until they die. They'll always recreate reality to deny their messy situations of their own making till they're 6 feet under.
Looks like most of us have been/in the same predicament. My experience taught me how not to be like my "parents".
i’m so sorry for the people that can relate to this.
My mother treats me like this and has sheltered me my whole life because of her depression
Sadly, if one were to actually show this movie to a controlling parent to try to make them see some sort of light of truth, the parent would only be offended and reply something along the lines of, "I'm not like that." or "Why did you show me such an irrelevant movie?"
I have experienced the same, having an abusive father. The trauma never goes away. The worst thing is the community that I grew up in (a third-world SEA country with popular Buddhism beliefs) thinks it's a norm for parents to beat and shame their children just because they are parents. No matter how old you are, no matter how abusive your parents are, you have to respect and treat them like they are gods, if not you will be assumed as a sinner. A very toxic mindset for sure.
Shit i didnt knew buddhists acted this way
@@gimmekromer1151 I thinl it's mostly about the traditional thinking of third-world countries regardless of religions.
If that's the case, then I'm ashamed to be born a Buddhist
@@andytan2960 You shouldn't be ashamed of what you believe. I don't either. Buddha taught to spread love, not acts of violence. After all, it's the blind followers and people that modify the religion to their favor.
@@moesam5055 Guess you're right, the religion is not the problem, it's the person him / herself.
If you are a strict parent then you suck as a parent! Stop controlling and just lead the way or point to the right direction!
That makes me feel so lucky as my parents never did such a thing...
Yes they want me study but never pressurizing me for that
I got really good grades 2 years back but this year at the end of high school my grades dropped much but all my mom did was to say 'You can do better in your college entrances' and she was sad..
I hope i can make her feel better in the chance i have 😔
Lesson here: Do not live your life through your children, they are human not a robot
Molly taking her bad life as inspiration for her writing, sharing her pain with the world... Isn't this a metaphor for the author... you know, somebody wrote this story too. I wouldn't be surprised if the original maker of this story is Molly, or well, came really close to ending up like her.
I’m lucky I don’t have such mother😅 Parents always hope the best for their children which children can never understand why. Never urge young children or young adult too persistently, this only stressed them out not helping them. Think after all, PATIENCE + MUTUAL TRUST & RESPECT are the most important yet powerful factor to improve relationships.
God!! Can't believe such parents do exist. Im thankful to almighty God that im blessed with the best parents in the world🤲🤲🤲
Did anyone else see their parent as Mrs. Lin? The criticizing, the pressure, and the guilt.
I still go through this but its from both parents. At this point, I have considered doing what Mollie did. The pressure of always having to get straight As and becoming a doctor genuinely has taken such a huge toll on me. I feel sorry for anyone who has to go through the same thing.
I think she still hasn't repented. She's just upset about her own failure.
This movie hits too close to home.. 🥺☹
i got chills watching this and realizing this is basically my parents
This was a nice movie! Tho my mother is not like this, I knew someone whose mother is like this. I gotta phone her now
Please don't. telling someone her mother is a control freak or a narcissist or whatever similar label is never a good thing except when you try to comfort her such as if it would help her calm down. If you want to help her, instead of comparing her mother to a villain in a movie, just remind her she has her own free will.
@@whiteblackgreyyellowred That was never my intention of phoning her. I was just checking up on her. I never would say her mother is that to her face. It's just my observation.
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@@GamingGoRithmSA 0:01
Asian parents vs Gamers who never touched grass and also droped out of school for gaming:
Yes...Tiger Parenting
Still a very common practice among Asian Parents