TOPIC IDEA: I'd love to hear how you all connect and grow spiritually. Do you study and/or pray together? Keep it completely separate and trust/hope? Etc.
This podcast intimidated me at first, being as though I am single. Watching it weekly for the past 3 months has been quite beneficial. I feel like I am better equipped to communicate my thoughts and feelings so THANK YOU!
I LOVE YOUR PODCAST SOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!! Melissa, you are gifted and this is your purpose. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO WALK IN IT!! There are too many of us that need what God has placed in you! #78 #Ineedanewbra
I'm one of the high-desire wives out there. I totally feel Kev on his accelerators. Ain't no non-sexual accelerators in here!!!! Not even the kids. We got a lock on the bedroom door!. He wanna go at 2pm on a Sunday afternoon, LET'S GO!!!!!
I totally empathize with the church girl mentality. Now I didn’t wait until marriage but I do think the brainwashing has hindered me when I got to marriage and at 30 I still struggle with it smh. We love y’all btw, saw yall in Charlotte a few years back ❤️ 78
The intro to the Love hour videos always changes my mood! I am so stressed from college but when i hear it I just feel so peaceful and happy! I love you guys! 💕78💕
This is where I'm listening to the #LoveHourPodcast from now on. Melissa you need to shout out your channel more Sis💕 so imma be supporting from here now
I'm grateful for this & I'm processing being overwhelmed with anger at so many influences that negatively impacted my mind & heart towards my partner & sex. I'm focusing on the fact that this purity complex has kept me from a lot of pain, but being aware of the source of these brakes as well as other details that I can only share in private, is low-key infuriating. I'm actively forgiving the people who harmed me & I'm reminded that righteous anger can go hand in hand with healing & motivation to keep striding towards overcoming the guilt & shame & manipulation & deception. Every time I learn something helpful, I remember so many women I trusted telling me I couldn't trust myself or my partner due to their own experiences. That has haunted what was supposed to be a beautiful event. Then, I remember that their entry into sexuality was grounded in trauma. So, they repeated what they were taught. I keep finding new anger. I have to take a breather.
Oh my gosh! It was overwhelming to reach satisfaction with him. He got me there but (& I've already shared this with him) it was so intense I didn't know how to continue. I know that aggravated him & I wish we'd had the understanding of each other that we have now because we could've talked about it & we could've reassured each other. I shared my misconceptions & irrational fears with him much later & he definitely became kinder & I imagine he felt like he'd done something wrong for a long time because that was the response available to me at the time. We don't have to keep apologizing for everything. We can literally do it better.
To be fair, there are things we both mishandled but the part where walls went back up everywhere contributed to anger, sadness, & mistreating one another in ways we have begun to overcome. I'm feeling better after I've processed some more but I'm receiving grace to be honest with myself that my understanding is still very much a work in progress & so is his.
Helping me feel safe & cared for in general helps me feel safer about sex. Humor helps me to relax as long as it's not directed at insulting me & I have worked on the same & will probably need it pointed out when I do make mean comments as they are a fear response. Lack of safety & affection are hard brakes. From what I've observed over the years, we both have attention deficits & sometimes spread ourselves too thin to the point where there's hardly any attention or consideration left for one another & that's something I don't want to repeat with our family. Example: I could become so involved with the baby that I ignore him. And then justify it instead of correcting course. That's an easy way to lose focus. Work, friends, etc. Carving out (schedule) time helps me stay excited. Physical answer is easy, he's already a 10 body wise for me. Body hair, whoo hoo.
I was waiting for your show on Thursday on your husband's page and was so disappointed until I saw it was posted on Friday on his page and now I'm watching it on your page b/c you mentioned it on his page and now I see it was posted on Thursday on your page! Now I know! Keep these coming! I look forward to these videos every week! You guys be dropping knowledge like none other! Thank you for stepping out and being obedient! This is changing lives and current/future marriages with the wisdom you are dropping! #78
78! I have been watching this podcast for the past couple of months and I am inspired! I am a single lady and use the podcast for inspiration and tips for when I do get married. Thank you for always being honest , creative, and entertaining.
Thank you both so much for sharing your thoughts on the topics you discuss every week! My boyfriend got me hooked on the Love Hour, we send it to each other to watch every week! 78 ☺️
78. These episodes are always equal parts educational and entertaining. Incredible balance! 🙌🏾 Keep it up !! I really love what you guys are offering to us as viewers/listeners!
I can understand what y’all were saying about the church teaching about sex being wrong/bad. There’s so much neg talk from the Saints about anything related it makes you suppress your desires to the point where even flirting feels wrong. As a single I worry about this issue when I get married. Thanks for being transparent!!
Same here sis! That's why I love this podcast! This conversation is important for singles as well. For those of us who are saving ourselves for marriage, we don't need to go off exploring or anything but we do need to prepare your hearts and minds. Amen saints! LOL! jk But seriously, I think we should explore what intimacy looks like beyond the physical and unpack our beliefs about sex. Because many of us were taught that it's sin before marriage and that's it! As Melissa stated, sex is not just intercourse, it's our psychological beliefs and social constructs that drives us to desire sex! This makes so much sense! #Unlearn
Yeah exactly, if we aren’t allowed to acknowledge these things until we’re married it’s too late. There’s no magic switch that undoes everything we’ve been taught to feel about our sexuality.
So 10 years into my marriage I discovered "Intimate Issues: Twenty-One Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex" by Linda Dillow and it opened my eyes about the effects of the way the church addressed the subject of sex and helped me break out of the "sex is bad" mindset. It's been 17 years since I read it, so I don't remember all of the content to say how good a reference it is, however, at the time, I tried to get a group of women from church to use the book as a married women's bible study, and once they got the book and reviewed it, nobody wanted to openly discuss it.
!!!78!!! I have been on the fence and to the website 100 times since the first time they sponsored you guys! I just hate shopping online for fear that I'd have to return or exchange ANYTHING!
I love y'all!!!! I can comment whoo hoo!! I can't wait til the the tour hits NJ. I love the office space and I got so excited when this popped up on my YT. The "making my way downtown" Took me OUUUUUTTT!!!! Please continue the discussion it's super helpful and y'all are so practical,realistic and are helping .
@melissa I have an idea about the concerns you have with 2 part episodes: prerecord them... Do an extended episode and then release like a to be continued like on TV.
78! Love your podcast, by the way! I have gotten my boyfriend into listening as well, and we are having such great conversations that will aid when we decide to get married. Thank both of your for all you do, and your voice! It's truly necessary to hear, especially from Christians. Be Blessed!
78 I totally feel the same way as Melissa Saw y’all in San Diego... loved the whole show... thank you for being honest and taking your time to speak on things every day friends won’t even speak on...
78 Love this topic! My husband and I love the fact that you guys talk about real life things. We have only been married for a year and a half (and just had a baby) and it’s nice to know that there are other Christians out there who do not sugar coat life and marriage.
I feel like Mrskevonstage is me in this podcast and I thank you for speaking because now I have courage and an outline to use for my opportunity to speak up. Thank you and thank God!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💪🏾🧡🧡
I love y’all! Melissa, I love your open mindedness and venture for knowledge and truth! So refreshing. And listening to righteous & ratchet, I can see the effects of that on your hubby! 78
78. Thank you! Your transparency has helped me so much in my relationship! Also, thank you Melissa for responding to messages when you can. You are appreciated!
Listen! These podcasts be so on point and HILARIOUS! & I wish my husband I could go to the conference ='( We already booked Jamaica for those dates, but we gone catch y'all at the 2nd annual in the name of Jesus! okayyyy 78
I'm a young wife and I appreciate you sharing your perspective of taking responsibility of your sexuality and taking responsibility to brain storm what are my turn on and offs as a new wife
Yeah I can make a comment! You guys are cute together. Melissa, your laugh and smile is awesome such a pretty lady. Love the podcast. Keep em coming🙂 our marriages need all the encouragement we can get!
78!!! 78!!!! 78!!! Love you Mrs. Liss! keep eating the meat off the bone! We can’t get enough, so please never feel like it’s not. Your content is ALWAYS great
78!!!!!!! Thank you for this episode! I feel so normal now! Lol.. Definitely looking forward to reading that book. This is by far my FAVORITE part of the week. Thank you guys!
Thanks for this podcast, helped me understand some of my baggage and understanding why I was feeling so guilty about sex. Now I can deal with it better.
78.. My insides are so sore from laughing so hard. And my brain is on fire from the amount of information I just received on this topic. 😄 You both are the BEST Marriage Champions on social media. I haven't met my guy YET (I believe it will happen) to have the second chance at marriage, but I get so much information to store up to take into my future marriage. I've learned so much on what I should have done in my previous marriage. Thank you guys for being so transparent and helping people start having much needed conversations to keep love, respect and communication at the forefront of marriage. Can't wait for the Love Hour tour to come to VA this Summer. 💚💚💚🔥🔥🔥😄
I just realized I had a huge list of brakes and didn’t have any accelerators that I could readily identify. I also think if I told my husband “ my accelerators are XYZ” that he would try to do all all the time and it would then turn me off cause I would be like you’re just doing that to get laid 🤦🏾♀️
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TOPIC IDEA: I'd love to hear how you all connect and grow spiritually. Do you study and/or pray together? Keep it completely separate and trust/hope? Etc.
Ooooo this is such a good idea!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
This podcast intimidated me at first, being as though I am single. Watching it weekly for the past 3 months has been quite beneficial. I feel like I am better equipped to communicate my thoughts and feelings so THANK YOU!
Please do a podcast on the things I learned in church that ended up being untrue!
RENEE ROSS and I ooop
I LOVE YOUR PODCAST SOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!! Melissa, you are gifted and this is your purpose. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO WALK IN IT!! There are too many of us that need what God has placed in you! #78 #Ineedanewbra
This is the best podcast ever. 78
Truth!!!
Mellissa you are so classy in her responses. Well thought out and true to herself and Kev
Rotflmao Kevin loves making Melissa uncomfortable 🤣🤣🤣
I love this podcast. Having both male and female perspectives is extremely hopeful!! And the transparency makes this so relatable.
78 and I'm not married but these topics still resonate with me and please don't ever stop
Ok, I’m ashamed it took listening to this on KevOnStage’s page to find out THIS page existed! I’m up on game now!
Oh, and 78!
I'm one of the high-desire wives out there. I totally feel Kev on his accelerators. Ain't no non-sexual accelerators in here!!!! Not even the kids. We got a lock on the bedroom door!. He wanna go at 2pm on a Sunday afternoon, LET'S GO!!!!!
So funny @kevonstage said "lovehour" for ThirdLove the way they said "r&r" on righteous and ratchet for the sponsors! It works lol
MakeUp Together I came back to find out when he started that! “I laahk it”
I totally empathize with the church girl mentality. Now I didn’t wait until marriage but I do think the brainwashing has hindered me when I got to marriage and at 30 I still struggle with it smh. We love y’all btw, saw yall in Charlotte a few years back ❤️
78
I look forward to this podcast every week! Thank you 78 million times!
I see what you did there... I like it
The intro to the Love hour videos always changes my mood! I am so stressed from college but when i hear it I just feel so peaceful and happy! I love you guys! 💕78💕
We (wife and I) were so confused that I didn’t see this on kevonstage or kevonstagestudios...didn’t think to look here for the lovehour episode :)
78
This is where I'm listening to the #LoveHourPodcast from now on. Melissa you need to shout out your channel more Sis💕 so imma be supporting from here now
ReWatching THIS WAS GOOODDDDD
I'm grateful for this & I'm processing being overwhelmed with anger at so many influences that negatively impacted my mind & heart towards my partner & sex. I'm focusing on the fact that this purity complex has kept me from a lot of pain, but being aware of the source of these brakes as well as other details that I can only share in private, is low-key infuriating. I'm actively forgiving the people who harmed me & I'm reminded that righteous anger can go hand in hand with healing & motivation to keep striding towards overcoming the guilt & shame & manipulation & deception. Every time I learn something helpful, I remember so many women I trusted telling me I couldn't trust myself or my partner due to their own experiences. That has haunted what was supposed to be a beautiful event. Then, I remember that their entry into sexuality was grounded in trauma. So, they repeated what they were taught. I keep finding new anger. I have to take a breather.
Oh my gosh! It was overwhelming to reach satisfaction with him. He got me there but (& I've already shared this with him) it was so intense I didn't know how to continue. I know that aggravated him & I wish we'd had the understanding of each other that we have now because we could've talked about it & we could've reassured each other. I shared my misconceptions & irrational fears with him much later & he definitely became kinder & I imagine he felt like he'd done something wrong for a long time because that was the response available to me at the time. We don't have to keep apologizing for everything. We can literally do it better.
To be fair, there are things we both mishandled but the part where walls went back up everywhere contributed to anger, sadness, & mistreating one another in ways we have begun to overcome. I'm feeling better after I've processed some more but I'm receiving grace to be honest with myself that my understanding is still very much a work in progress & so is his.
Helping me feel safe & cared for in general helps me feel safer about sex. Humor helps me to relax as long as it's not directed at insulting me & I have worked on the same & will probably need it pointed out when I do make mean comments as they are a fear response. Lack of safety & affection are hard brakes. From what I've observed over the years, we both have attention deficits & sometimes spread ourselves too thin to the point where there's hardly any attention or consideration left for one another & that's something I don't want to repeat with our family. Example: I could become so involved with the baby that I ignore him. And then justify it instead of correcting course. That's an easy way to lose focus. Work, friends, etc. Carving out (schedule) time helps me stay excited. Physical answer is easy, he's already a 10 body wise for me. Body hair, whoo hoo.
I was waiting for your show on Thursday on your husband's page and was so disappointed until I saw it was posted on Friday on his page and now I'm watching it on your page b/c you mentioned it on his page and now I see it was posted on Thursday on your page! Now I know! Keep these coming! I look forward to these videos every week! You guys be dropping knowledge like none other! Thank you for stepping out and being obedient! This is changing lives and current/future marriages with the wisdom you are dropping! #78
78! I have been watching this podcast for the past couple of months and I am inspired! I am a single lady and use the podcast for inspiration and tips for when I do get married. Thank you for always being honest , creative, and entertaining.
Thank you both so much for sharing your thoughts on the topics you discuss every week! My boyfriend got me hooked on the Love Hour, we send it to each other to watch every week! 78 ☺️
You guys should do a love hour cruise!!!
78. These episodes are always equal parts educational and entertaining. Incredible balance! 🙌🏾 Keep it up !! I really love what you guys are offering to us as viewers/listeners!
I can understand what y’all were saying about the church teaching about sex being wrong/bad. There’s so much neg talk from the Saints about anything related it makes you suppress your desires to the point where even flirting feels wrong. As a single I worry about this issue when I get married. Thanks for being transparent!!
Same here sis! That's why I love this podcast! This conversation is important for singles as well. For those of us who are saving ourselves for marriage, we don't need to go off exploring or anything but we do need to prepare your hearts and minds. Amen saints! LOL! jk But seriously, I think we should explore what intimacy looks like beyond the physical and unpack our beliefs about sex. Because many of us were taught that it's sin before marriage and that's it! As Melissa stated, sex is not just intercourse, it's our psychological beliefs and social constructs that drives us to desire sex! This makes so much sense! #Unlearn
Yeah exactly, if we aren’t allowed to acknowledge these things until we’re married it’s too late. There’s no magic switch that undoes everything we’ve been taught to feel about our sexuality.
So 10 years into my marriage I discovered "Intimate Issues: Twenty-One Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex" by Linda Dillow and it opened my eyes about the effects of the way the church addressed the subject of sex and helped me break out of the "sex is bad" mindset. It's been 17 years since I read it, so I don't remember all of the content to say how good a reference it is, however, at the time, I tried to get a group of women from church to use the book as a married women's bible study, and once they got the book and reviewed it, nobody wanted to openly discuss it.
!!!78!!!
I have been on the fence and to the website 100 times since the first time they sponsored you guys! I just hate shopping online for fear that I'd have to return or exchange ANYTHING!
78!! And now I am creeping through the previous videos on this channel because I SOMEHOW didn’t realize this channel existed
This conversation was great, it's great that you guys can talk like this, this is so essential in a relationship!!!
I love y'all!!!! I can comment whoo hoo!! I can't wait til the the tour hits NJ. I love the office space and I got so excited when this popped up on my YT. The "making my way downtown" Took me OUUUUUTTT!!!! Please continue the discussion it's super helpful and y'all are so practical,realistic and are helping .
78!
Great topic. I really enjoyed listening to it. Also the focus is more on women getting pregnant and being pure.
@melissa I have an idea about the concerns you have with 2 part episodes: prerecord them... Do an extended episode and then release like a to be continued like on TV.
78!!!! I love your podcast, you guys have taught me so much about marriage and bring laughter and light into my life!
Kevvvvvvviiin lol "turn lil kev into BIG KEV" hilarious
78!
Love your podcast, by the way! I have gotten my boyfriend into listening as well, and we are having such great conversations that will aid when we decide to get married. Thank both of your for all you do, and your voice! It's truly necessary to hear, especially from Christians. Be Blessed!
78 !! This is my first the love hour and yall are an amazing couple...the communication is impeccable
78
I totally feel the same way as Melissa
Saw y’all in San Diego... loved the whole show... thank you for being honest and taking your time to speak on things every day friends won’t even speak on...
78
Love this topic!
My husband and I love the fact that you guys talk about real life things. We have only been married for a year and a half (and just had a baby) and it’s nice to know that there are other Christians out there who do not sugar coat life and marriage.
78!! Melissa's makeup looks amazing (as always)!!
78!!!! I love you guys, keep continuing to put the Lord 1st in your relationship and keep shining a light on healthy African American marriage!!!
I feel like Mrskevonstage is me in this podcast and I thank you for speaking because now I have courage and an outline to use for my opportunity to speak up. Thank you and thank God!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💪🏾🧡🧡
My husband and I listen to your podcast!! It’s been so helpful💜 thank you! 78!!!!!
78!!
I just love y'all!! It's so helpful to me in this season!
I love y’all! Melissa, I love your open mindedness and venture for knowledge and truth! So refreshing. And listening to righteous & ratchet, I can see the effects of that on your hubby! 78
This was spot on with how men and women differ! Loved it! 78!
78! 78! 78! Father, Son, & Holy Spirit! Lol 😉🙂 Btw, I love that 3rd Love gives to homeless women 🙌
The fact that I've had bras chilling in my cart on Third Love waiting and you talked about them now is a sign I need to go ahead and get them. 78💜
78!!! Love ya'll so much. Appreciate the transparency behind your marriage.
Great episode y’all.
Rewatching this and even better
Lisssss!!!!! We love yall!
78! You all are the best!
78. Thank you! Your transparency has helped me so much in my relationship! Also, thank you Melissa for responding to messages when you can. You are appreciated!
Listen! These podcasts be so on point and HILARIOUS! & I wish my husband I could go to the conference ='( We already booked Jamaica for those dates, but we gone catch y'all at the 2nd annual in the name of Jesus! okayyyy
78
78!!
I love this podcast and the way you love each other!!
All 3 of Kev's top accelerators are the exact same thing 🤣🤣🤣
I'm a young wife and I appreciate you sharing your perspective of taking responsibility of your sexuality and taking responsibility to brain storm what are my turn on and offs as a new wife
Yeah I can make a comment! You guys are cute together. Melissa, your laugh and smile is awesome such a pretty lady. Love the podcast. Keep em coming🙂 our marriages need all the encouragement we can get!
78!! You guys are fantastic! I love y'alls communication!
This helps me and my husband in our fresh new marriage. I love you guys! And "drumroll please" 78!!!!!!
78!
These past couple episodes have been so informative! Thanks for the bomb book selections, Melissa. ❤️
Thank you for another great conversation!
Just saw a video of the explosion - WOW!!!
AWESOME podcast. It has definitely helped me pay more detailed attention to my wife's moods,feelings and behaviors. #Trying to grow
78! Seventy-Eight! Because 70+8=78 and 100-22=78 also, 39 x 2=78 and 156/2=78 so basically ya’ll get the point😉
The love our song intro is so sweet
78!!! 78!!!! 78!!! Love you Mrs. Liss! keep eating the meat off the bone! We can’t get enough, so please never feel like it’s not. Your content is ALWAYS great
I love your podcast and your insight, 78!
I love Kev's facial expressions!
78!!!!!!!
Thank you for this episode! I feel so normal now! Lol.. Definitely looking forward to reading that book.
This is by far my FAVORITE part of the week. Thank you guys!
I'm Single and I love listening to you guys
78!!!
Thanks for this podcast, helped me understand some of my baggage and understanding why I was feeling so guilty about sex. Now I can deal with it better.
I love and appreciate these podcasts.
78.. My insides are so sore from laughing so hard. And my brain is on fire from the amount of information I just received on this topic. 😄 You both are the BEST Marriage Champions on social media. I haven't met my guy YET (I believe it will happen) to have the second chance at marriage, but I get so much information to store up to take into my future marriage. I've learned so much on what I should have done in my previous marriage. Thank you guys for being so transparent and helping people start having much needed conversations to keep love, respect and communication at the forefront of marriage. Can't wait for the Love Hour tour to come to VA this Summer. 💚💚💚🔥🔥🔥😄
78! Great topics, love you two! Hubby and I listen faithfully! Keep up the great work.
Staying tuned for the things!!😁
78!!! It was awesome meeting you Kev in April in Cincinnati. Hope to meet Melissa soon
Sleepy Kevin has no filter!!! OMG!!! 😂😂😂😂
Gonna try to get my hubby to watch this one with me. We were just discussing this like two nights ago. I dont know what my turn ons are.. no idea!!
78! I love you guys. I'm saving to get my tickets to the conference
78! There should be a link to this channel from Kevin's channel. I didn't know this existed till he said it.
I love this show
78 and bootyscooch for the win! Y'all keep me rolling and continuously put my thoughts into words. THANK YOU.
Hey..78!!! 78...you all are AWESOME.. kev! U r too funny!!
Loved this episode by the way... super informative. ❤️
78.
And I’m looking out for what you have for singles at the conference.
love the podcast! 78!
Naynay and Nono omg I spit my drink out at work!! Y'all are gonna get me fired! 😂
I just realized I had a huge list of brakes and didn’t have any accelerators that I could readily identify. I also think if I told my husband “ my accelerators are XYZ” that he would try to do all all the time and it would then turn me off cause I would be like you’re just doing that to get laid 🤦🏾♀️
Love love love the podcast!! 78!
78 love this podcast!
78!! This was such a good episode! Love you guys!
78! Come through third love!
I really want to try this brand. 78! 🙂
I absolutely love the podcast! I look forward to it every week! 78!!!!! 78!!!!
78!!! I love your podcast!!! It is very inspirational and eye opening!!!
78! I’m so excited for this book club Liss
78!!! My fiancé and I love you guys!!!
I would love to try 3rd love! I also find it difficult to find my size. 78!78!78!
I was wondering why the podcast was so late 🤔 but i was only looking on Kev's channel! #78 now I'm subscribed to Melissa too!
Glad the comments are on here. Feel like I have to go back and comment on other videos. 78
78. Single. Love the love hour. Be blessed to you both