Some states are better than others about paternal rights. In this story it was because OP's GF moved states. If she had stayed where they were when she got prenant, he wouldn't have had all the paperwork and court case to deal with.
Op's ex: "you can't seriously want to be a single dad? Think about how badly that looks on ME. what about MY feelings?" Screw her. That made me lose all respect for op's baby mama. Her main concern should have been how op planned to provide for this kid and not how op raising the child on his own would reflect on her. It says a lot about her willingness to go through with a pregnancy but not the steps making sure her child is going to be in good hands with the baby daddy that clearly wants to raise the baby. Lol the mental gymnastics to claim op is a baby stealer when he stepped up after the baby mama was willing to ditch her responsibility. I think the real issue is baby mama's family doesn't want to admit baby mama is a deadbeat mom who threw away her child. It looks bad when the baby daddy is willing to step up and make sacrifices but not the mother of that child. So they're trying to damage op's credibility as a father and as a person. Story 2 - woooooow. Op's father is garbage and op is the apple that dropped straight down from that tree full of trash. Op sucks. Her father caused the end of a 30+ year marriage and was indirectly responsible for the betrayed spouse to unalive himself but op thinks "yeah my dad still deserves an invite to my wedding". That's a really sick sense of humor, op. Op doesn't care about her fiancee. She only cares about her dream wedding. He was right to ghost op.
Story 2 - OP is beyond stupid 😂😂. She picked having her dad walk her down the aisle over her fiance's comfort. Did she really think her fiance wants to see the man who screwed his mom causing hurt to his father at his wedding😒😒
S1: I'm thinking that the ex lied to her parents, like him forcing her to give up her child. Either that or the grandparents saw the granddaughter and fell in love with her but chose to blame the father instead of their daughter
@@David-kr1xvBecause she picked having her dad walk her down the aisle over her fiance's comfort. U think her fiance wants to see the man who screwed his mom causing hurt to his father at his wedding
@@David-kr1xv Her dad literally had an affair with her fiance's mother, which led to the death of her fiance's dad and him cutting off his own mother. And she wanted the man responsible for breaking up her fiance's family, for the death of his father, and for the loss of a relationship with his mother, to walk her down the isle in her and his own wedding. It is absolutely batshit insane that she even considered inviting him, let alone inviting him, let alone fucking walk her down the isle. It's just insane!
@@jacksonwhittier3646 And how do you plan to protect kids / parents who are single because their partner was deadly and abusive??? like thats just stupid. you don't give a shit about kids if you think thats anywhere near a good idea. So many kids have been killed through the courts doing that.
@@jacksonwhittier3646You SHOULD still be allowed to as a single parent... In states that don't support abortion, as horrible as the adoption system is, that's the only option for single mothers that can't support a child. I do agree the other parent needs to be considered first, but there needs to be a case by case basis for that to work.
@@lildarkmatter8373 I mean in theory it seems like the right thing to do but what about cases where the sperm contributor assaulted the baby carrier or is in prison or is some sort of narcissist or sociopath who would use the baby against the birth mother and that's why they need to put the kid up for adoption, to protect it? Like imagine a scenario where a 16 year old gets raped and doesn't want to keep it but her family is religious and forces her to carry it to term. And imagine she was assaulted by a family member who decides they want to keep the baby if it's a girl so they can assault it down the line. Now say she tells the police but there's not enough evidence to put the uncle or cousin or whatever away for rape. Now this kid is at risk of being adopted by the very same monster that created them because legally she has to make her abuser aware of her pregnancy and ask if he wants to adopt it? Nah.
@@sweeety969 This. It can be so easily exploited and frankly having to share personal details on these kinds of scenarios is re-traumatizing. I live in a state where abortion was banned and here's a more likely scenario; ex or whoever that was abusive and wants that kid as leverage or worse. This is why I said case by case BUT. I agree nothing ever works out as clearly as on paper, and I can see that system failing a number of kids.
Yeah, a new level of obliviousness. Or I call it “sheer moronic brain dead stupidity.” And she made a surprise Pikachu face when fiancé ghosted her… I am pretty sure no one saw that coming! 😂
@@adefgsdfsgsdgabsolutely hilarious. He very clearly broke up with her. I think if he'd refused to leave the house and forced her to leave you'd be calling him unstable, manipulative and abusive. I really wonder if OP was male and the fiancée a woman, would you be talking like this? I doubt it
S1: she seemed like she was hoping for him to travel or pay? Girl was smart to give up her child, too egocentric. No way should he have to travel with the child just for her to see the kid, and he’s already spending money to raise her, why is he supposed to pay for the mom to travel to them? Honey ask your family, not a single parent just starting out in their career.
S2: so, apple really doesn't fall far from the tree... both OP and her father are selfish people who put their own wants above all else. I can't IMAGINE doing what OP did. Her father (along with fiance's mother, don't get me wrong) tore her fiance's family apart and was indirectly a cause to her fiance's dad's death. It has nothing to do with guilt of her father's sins - it has everything to do with being unsympathetic to her own future husband's feelings and grief. He lost his dad. He pretty much lost his mom, too. And she's going on and on about ✨her dream✨ Good for the fiance to dump her selfish ass
More likely she didn’t want to pay child support. OP raises his baby himself, ex-gf (depending on the state they live in) will have to pay child support even if she signs away her parental rights.
@@sweeety969 Because she made it clear that she did not want to be seen as a deadbeat. She's concerned about how her image is going to be affected in the eyes of other people. She's not concerned at all about what happens to this baby, but how people are going to judge her.
I think it's more than that. It makes her judge herself. If baby had been adopted, she could have just told herself she did the best thing for the baby and mentally moved on. Now she has to balance that OP stepped up for their child and she didn't and live with the guilt of that.
@harleyquinn5774 That, and she may be getting flack for it by her family. Sure, the exs' family is shitting on OP, but I feel like that's because they lost their grandchild and their daughter "shamed" them, I guess.
Your situation is tough, but it shows your commitment to your child. Seeking legal advice can help ensure your rights are protected amidst the family conflict. Stay strong.
How the hell is mother the one picking first and middle names for the baby she gives zero Fs about? You don't get to name a baby you're throwing out the window forever, leave it to people who will actually get to call her that name every day. Like whatever, choose the second name, but leave choice of the first one to real parent
What's stupid is that people act like "how did this happen?" And act surprised when they get pregnant You participated in activities that lead to pregnancy. What you wanted is over when you have a kid It's not about you anymore People are so friggin selfish. "My body, my choice? " Yeah you chose to open your legs with someone you didn't want kids with. What's crazy is that females want their baby daddies to pay child support and demand this and that from them. At the same time they don't wanna give the dad any rights to say yes or no to an abortion or adoption. You want him to take responsibility for the baby and not put it all on you? You gotta do the same thing. No one should be allowed to have an abortion or put a baby up for adoption without the consent of the father. I saw a video of a man sobbing outside an abortion clinic. He was begging the girl "DON'T KILL OUR BABY!" but no. No one cares about him. He has no rights. The women have rights right? When you give your body to someone else and you get pregnant? It's not your body anymore "I'm not ready" You were ready to have sex. Deal with it
I can definitely understand u bro ..In my country they treat such things as a murder and a betrayal to your beloved ( true though)..😢.. Because of their rash decisions two humans suffer ( baby and its dad)..
Last story sounds like a telenovela. I'm deadass thinking of checking bold and beautiful or days of our lives to see what it's ripped out of because it sounds so bizarre. I'm invested though, I wanna hear an update where he sneaks in when she's gone to get his shit back from her or whatever. This is lowkey hilarious.
For that last story, ESH. Sure, the woman shouldn’t have insisted to have her dad walk her down the isle, but bruh man ghosting her and clearly letting all his close people know not to let her know anything is shxtty behavior too. If I was her, I would cancel the wedding and start moving out to be a single woman, because abandonment is a hard no for me. Even if you get mad and need to leave to get some air, _just say that._ Nah, he would return to an empty house and I’d block anyone even minorly associated to him, and would move on with my life. Two can play the ghosting game.
She is hella wrong!!! The fact that she wants to invite her dad (the same person that destroyed ex bf family) to the wedding knowing damn way that ex bf cut them both off and shes stuck on "Her Dream" rather than her ex bf comfortable. She even doubled down so why in the hell should she be the one hurt?
@@boredpersonstory553 but it is not just the person who destroyed the ex’s family it is also the ops dad who raised her and cared for her since birth its not as black and white as people think but ngl if he comes back in Ops life she should ghost him as well
@daniaorgill9006 why would he go back to her when blatantly showed she doesn't care for his feels, wants or needs. She's not marrying her dad but ExBF she has no right to be upset at all nor will she get the chance to "ghost him" bc he's done with her and her selfishness.
Daniel might be wrong for ghosting her, but I do not have the heart to call him an asshole for his reaction. Op’s father did irreparable damage that cannot be undone. I can’t imagine the pain Daniel must be going through from his father‘s passing. Not only that he didn’t lose him to natural causes, his own mom and future father-in-law killed his father essentially. I can’t imagine reacting rationally to somebody wanting that piece of shit to come to my wedding.
It’s around the middle of the story. He just did not seem fully committed to taking the baby from a woman who was willing to hand it off to a stranger. Sure he did it in the end but without Reddit pushing I don’t see this having the same ending
@@billcutting2681He really gave it thought. That's wholly different from his ex who just wanted it to be over woth and no bond whatsoever. He just gave her the chance to make up her mind again. He would have taken his kid in anyway obviously, he is damn responsible for his age.
It's crazy that you have to jump through so many legal hoops just to parent your own child as the father.
Some states are better than others about paternal rights. In this story it was because OP's GF moved states. If she had stayed where they were when she got prenant, he wouldn't have had all the paperwork and court case to deal with.
Op's ex: "you can't seriously want to be a single dad? Think about how badly that looks on ME. what about MY feelings?"
Screw her. That made me lose all respect for op's baby mama. Her main concern should have been how op planned to provide for this kid and not how op raising the child on his own would reflect on her. It says a lot about her willingness to go through with a pregnancy but not the steps making sure her child is going to be in good hands with the baby daddy that clearly wants to raise the baby.
Lol the mental gymnastics to claim op is a baby stealer when he stepped up after the baby mama was willing to ditch her responsibility. I think the real issue is baby mama's family doesn't want to admit baby mama is a deadbeat mom who threw away her child. It looks bad when the baby daddy is willing to step up and make sacrifices but not the mother of that child. So they're trying to damage op's credibility as a father and as a person.
Story 2 - woooooow. Op's father is garbage and op is the apple that dropped straight down from that tree full of trash. Op sucks. Her father caused the end of a 30+ year marriage and was indirectly responsible for the betrayed spouse to unalive himself but op thinks "yeah my dad still deserves an invite to my wedding". That's a really sick sense of humor, op. Op doesn't care about her fiancee. She only cares about her dream wedding. He was right to ghost op.
People really don't believe fathers should have any rights to their own child. 🙄
Story 2 - OP is beyond stupid 😂😂. She picked having her dad walk her down the aisle over her fiance's comfort. Did she really think her fiance wants to see the man who screwed his mom causing hurt to his father at his wedding😒😒
S1: I'm thinking that the ex lied to her parents, like him forcing her to give up her child. Either that or the grandparents saw the granddaughter and fell in love with her but chose to blame the father instead of their daughter
The second op is so stupid
Why?
@@David-kr1xvBecause she picked having her dad walk her down the aisle over her fiance's comfort. U think her fiance wants to see the man who screwed his mom causing hurt to his father at his wedding
@@David-kr1xv Her dad literally had an affair with her fiance's mother, which led to the death of her fiance's dad and him cutting off his own mother. And she wanted the man responsible for breaking up her fiance's family, for the death of his father, and for the loss of a relationship with his mother, to walk her down the isle in her and his own wedding.
It is absolutely batshit insane that she even considered inviting him, let alone inviting him, let alone fucking walk her down the isle. It's just insane!
That ex-wife wasnt ready to be a mother or a reasonable human being. A baby isnt made with one person. Like really ex-wife's family
Story 2: Sure, my dad killed your dad, but MEEEEEEEEE!
Story 1:
OP = NTA; MVP CHAD DAD 💯🔥🦾
The best dad, the one who's around, the one who fights for you and the one who cares about you.
Hate to break it to people, but giving your kid up for adoption will still probably be seen as being a deadbeat parent.
You shouldn't be allowed to as a single parent, the other parent should be the first person the courts call.
@@jacksonwhittier3646 And how do you plan to protect kids / parents who are single because their partner was deadly and abusive??? like thats just stupid. you don't give a shit about kids if you think thats anywhere near a good idea. So many kids have been killed through the courts doing that.
@@jacksonwhittier3646You SHOULD still be allowed to as a single parent... In states that don't support abortion, as horrible as the adoption system is, that's the only option for single mothers that can't support a child. I do agree the other parent needs to be considered first, but there needs to be a case by case basis for that to work.
@@lildarkmatter8373 I mean in theory it seems like the right thing to do but what about cases where the sperm contributor assaulted the baby carrier or is in prison or is some sort of narcissist or sociopath who would use the baby against the birth mother and that's why they need to put the kid up for adoption, to protect it?
Like imagine a scenario where a 16 year old gets raped and doesn't want to keep it but her family is religious and forces her to carry it to term. And imagine she was assaulted by a family member who decides they want to keep the baby if it's a girl so they can assault it down the line. Now say she tells the police but there's not enough evidence to put the uncle or cousin or whatever away for rape. Now this kid is at risk of being adopted by the very same monster that created them because legally she has to make her abuser aware of her pregnancy and ask if he wants to adopt it? Nah.
@@sweeety969 This. It can be so easily exploited and frankly having to share personal details on these kinds of scenarios is re-traumatizing. I live in a state where abortion was banned and here's a more likely scenario; ex or whoever that was abusive and wants that kid as leverage or worse. This is why I said case by case BUT. I agree nothing ever works out as clearly as on paper, and I can see that system failing a number of kids.
I hope everything goes well for this guy.
Asking for the killer of your husband's dad to attend the wedding 😂
Yeah, a new level of obliviousness. Or I call it “sheer moronic brain dead stupidity.”
And she made a surprise Pikachu face when fiancé ghosted her… I am pretty sure no one saw that coming! 😂
It takes two to tango and clearly the guy who up and disappears is not the more stable of the two.
@@adefgsdfsgsdg ???
@@adefgsdfsgsdgabsolutely hilarious. He very clearly broke up with her. I think if he'd refused to leave the house and forced her to leave you'd be calling him unstable, manipulative and abusive.
I really wonder if OP was male and the fiancée a woman, would you be talking like this? I doubt it
@@obtuse186Someone that dense won't understand what you wrote in reply lol
S1: she seemed like she was hoping for him to travel or pay? Girl was smart to give up her child, too egocentric. No way should he have to travel with the child just for her to see the kid, and he’s already spending money to raise her, why is he supposed to pay for the mom to travel to them? Honey ask your family, not a single parent just starting out in their career.
The dad wanted to do all of the work but she didn't want to give him the option to do that. She is incredibly evil.
S2: so, apple really doesn't fall far from the tree... both OP and her father are selfish people who put their own wants above all else.
I can't IMAGINE doing what OP did. Her father (along with fiance's mother, don't get me wrong) tore her fiance's family apart and was indirectly a cause to her fiance's dad's death. It has nothing to do with guilt of her father's sins - it has everything to do with being unsympathetic to her own future husband's feelings and grief.
He lost his dad. He pretty much lost his mom, too. And she's going on and on about ✨her dream✨ Good for the fiance to dump her selfish ass
Story 2 OP is delusional. Her fiance dodge a bullet
I have no sympathy for the ex. She is so against OP raising their baby as a single father … because it would hurt her pride.
More likely she didn’t want to pay child support. OP raises his baby himself, ex-gf (depending on the state they live in) will have to pay child support even if she signs away her parental rights.
Wtf does that have to do with her pride? I feel like you're projecting sum 😂
@@sweeety969 Because she made it clear that she did not want to be seen as a deadbeat. She's concerned about how her image is going to be affected in the eyes of other people. She's not concerned at all about what happens to this baby, but how people are going to judge her.
I think it's more than that. It makes her judge herself. If baby had been adopted, she could have just told herself she did the best thing for the baby and mentally moved on. Now she has to balance that OP stepped up for their child and she didn't and live with the guilt of that.
@harleyquinn5774 That, and she may be getting flack for it by her family. Sure, the exs' family is shitting on OP, but I feel like that's because they lost their grandchild and their daughter "shamed" them, I guess.
Story1: When it said new updates I actually thought it had new update but there was none which was very disappointing
Your situation is tough, but it shows your commitment to your child. Seeking legal advice can help ensure your rights are protected amidst the family conflict. Stay strong.
How the hell is mother the one picking first and middle names for the baby she gives zero Fs about? You don't get to name a baby you're throwing out the window forever, leave it to people who will actually get to call her that name every day. Like whatever, choose the second name, but leave choice of the first one to real parent
Here in PA, tge Father has to sign off on the adoption as well. So if he contacts the adoption agency and woll refuse to adopt the child
Girl is worried about appearances. She wouldn’t make a good mom.
You can also go on welfare that will help you with child care cost
If she signs her rights away. No going back
What's stupid is that people act like "how did this happen?" And act surprised when they get pregnant
You participated in activities that lead to pregnancy.
What you wanted is over when you have a kid
It's not about you anymore
People are so friggin selfish. "My body, my choice? "
Yeah you chose to open your legs with someone you didn't want kids with.
What's crazy is that females want their baby daddies to pay child support and demand this and that from them. At the same time they don't wanna give the dad any rights to say yes or no to an abortion or adoption.
You want him to take responsibility for the baby and not put it all on you?
You gotta do the same thing. No one should be allowed to have an abortion or put a baby up for adoption without the consent of the father.
I saw a video of a man sobbing outside an abortion clinic. He was begging the girl "DON'T KILL OUR BABY!"
but no. No one cares about him. He has no rights.
The women have rights right?
When you give your body to someone else and you get pregnant? It's not your body anymore
"I'm not ready"
You were ready to have sex.
Deal with it
What a terrible woman. It may have been her choice, but the man has a word as well
@@Tuturial464yeah but he step it in
I can definitely understand u bro ..In my country they treat such things as a murder and a betrayal to your beloved ( true though)..😢.. Because of their rash decisions two humans suffer ( baby and its dad)..
wild story!
Last story sounds like a telenovela. I'm deadass thinking of checking bold and beautiful or days of our lives to see what it's ripped out of because it sounds so bizarre. I'm invested though, I wanna hear an update where he sneaks in when she's gone to get his shit back from her or whatever. This is lowkey hilarious.
You wanted your father
Yta
If he is smart he will run
The female should have kept her legs closed if she didn't want a baby all male and female should not have sex until they are ready to support a baby
For that last story, ESH. Sure, the woman shouldn’t have insisted to have her dad walk her down the isle, but bruh man ghosting her and clearly letting all his close people know not to let her know anything is shxtty behavior too. If I was her, I would cancel the wedding and start moving out to be a single woman, because abandonment is a hard no for me. Even if you get mad and need to leave to get some air, _just say that._ Nah, he would return to an empty house and I’d block anyone even minorly associated to him, and would move on with my life. Two can play the ghosting game.
She is hella wrong!!! The fact that she wants to invite her dad (the same person that destroyed ex bf family) to the wedding knowing damn way that ex bf cut them both off and shes stuck on "Her Dream" rather than her ex bf comfortable.
She even doubled down so why in the hell should she be the one hurt?
@@boredpersonstory553just wanted to say you’re speaking facts 👍🏼
@@boredpersonstory553 but it is not just the person who destroyed the ex’s family it is also the ops dad who raised her and cared for her since birth its not as black and white as people think but ngl if he comes back in Ops life she should ghost him as well
@daniaorgill9006 why would he go back to her when blatantly showed she doesn't care for his feels, wants or needs.
She's not marrying her dad but ExBF she has no right to be upset at all nor will she get the chance to "ghost him" bc he's done with her and her selfishness.
Daniel might be wrong for ghosting her, but I do not have the heart to call him an asshole for his reaction. Op’s father did irreparable damage that cannot be undone. I can’t imagine the pain Daniel must be going through from his father‘s passing. Not only that he didn’t lose him to natural causes, his own mom and future father-in-law killed his father essentially. I can’t imagine reacting rationally to somebody wanting that piece of shit to come to my wedding.
He honestly sounds like he’s trying to weasel his way out of being a single parent like lure her back into parenting the baby
Where did u get that from, exactly?
Are we listening to the same story?
You need to use your braincells more.
It’s around the middle of the story. He just did not seem fully committed to taking the baby from a woman who was willing to hand it off to a stranger. Sure he did it in the end but without Reddit pushing I don’t see this having the same ending
@@billcutting2681He really gave it thought. That's wholly different from his ex who just wanted it to be over woth and no bond whatsoever. He just gave her the chance to make up her mind again. He would have taken his kid in anyway obviously, he is damn responsible for his age.