My experience has been totally positive so far. Most men that comment on the beard are usually telling me that they wish theirs grew in thick like mine. Apparently it really is an insecurity for a lot of men. My advice to them is “grow what you can, and style it appropriately.”
Haters have nothing better to do but hate. I take thier jealousy as a sign of their weakness and only pushes me more. Most don't realize it's far more than just not shaving, and buying a bigger comb. God forbid we men start to take care of ourselves. Anyone can just shave their face and toss on a suit to look good.
I’ve found that when people say things about others, beard related or not, it’s usually saying much more about themselves than it ever could about me or what I have going on. Take the power away from them, smile, nod and go on with your day. I’ve always been blessed to be able to stand strong in whatever style or fashion I wanted to rock or wear, so I haven’t been as phased by bad beard comments when I happen to get them. As David Goggins famously says, “Can’t hurt me” - 🙌
Hey Dan! I 1000% agree with your assessment that it comes from a place of insecurity! I grew a beard for the first time this year at age 49. My experience has been overwhelmingly positive! I volunteer a lot at the OSU campus and I frequently get compliments on my beard. Just two weeks ago a Buddhist monk who was volunteering in the Oval complimented my beard! They shave completely and have forsaken all attachments and he still recognized an awesome beard when he saw one and had to speak up! Be confident and forget people who come up with negative remarks! Thank you for your wonderful content!
So I only started my beard journey 4 months ago. I’m 57 and asked my wife next time she was out.to buy me a blow dryer of my own. Humbling? Could’ve been but I stood fast and refused to have my man card revoked. Rock what you got guys .
I don't think so, but I'm a Great Diva about it. Usually the HATERS or Trash talkers are the ones who can't grow a Beard. I tell them at least I can GROW ONE
I definitely feel like there is a stigma in society regarding men and taking care of either hair on the head or beards. I felt that before and have always tried to keep as minimal "product" as possible for taking a shower. As I have gotten older, I stopped caring what others thought, but still kept the minimal approach going. Once I found this channel and started growing/taking care of my beard, has not really crossed my mind much. Love these discussion videos! Thanks Dan!!
Yes, Dan I agree with you. I get told all the time that I am barely because I take care of my beard and I’m packed and about my beard so I say who cares what the world thinks I’m happy with the way I grow my beard and what I do to take care of it, God bless
Dan when this sort of thing comes up the first quote that pops into my head is “why accept criticism from those you wouldn’t accept advice from?” The vast majority of folks that regurgitate something like “did you lose your razor” are simply just following suit with things they’ve heard others say. They’re just parrots that haven’t put any real thought into what they’re saying. No sweat off my back. For those that double down and want to try to turn it into an argument or debate I simply point out that they have grey hair or long hair or short hair and that I’m not offended by that at all, why should they be offended by my beard? More often than not the conversation ends there. If I tell them I enjoy it, it’s therapeutic, and it makes me happy then the situation is diffused entirely. You can’t make everyone happy, but you can do what makes you happy and that’s all there is to it.
Hiya Dan 😊 Hope your keeping well. Im proud of having a sharp well groomed Beard. Take pleasure in using great products. Oils, Butters and wash. Use our lasses Hairdryer more than she does. But enjoy it. Keep posting your great vids Dan. Take care ❤
Dan C Bearded, the trusted Therapist! Excellent advice and comparisons on this topic. I feel bad for that guy or guys that listen to stuff and give in. It’s one thing to not have the right DNA to pull off a bigger beard and listen to others about trimming it up a bit, then to take negative comments and cut the beard off because of there insecurity.
I am the youngest in my workplace with the thickest beard. Yes I am genetically blessed but before finding this channel I knew my beard wasn’t at its best. But I found out your channel and crazy how better it has become. Thanks for all the powerful knowledge 🙏
I have found a lot of these "just kiddin'" guys are the ones who spend a ton of $$$ on clothes, cars, and stuff but fail to care for them properly or at all. As if price tag alone should impress everyone. There's nothing girlie or feminine about taking care something you love and take pride in. And I feel bad when some of these "jokers" have their kids with them when making fun/insulting people...some great life lessons right there. Sorry for the late comment, I missed this one somehow.
Great Video Dan i agree 110 percent it is them being insecure keep the great videos coming Someone said a negative thing to me the other day and i actually asked them what is wrong with Growing a Beard 😃
Couldn't agree more! Wish more men had our opinions. I do have a question though not related to this video but as I've been watching you for a long time, I do know you've said in videos that beard oil has a shelf life and there are ways to keep those products from losing their effectiveness quicker and ways to make sure you are getting all the goodness from them like shaking them before use. My question is; if someone has a collection of oils they've had for a year or however long the shelf life is, are their any negative side effects using "old oil" on your face? For reference, specifically for me -- I am in the military so I only have a mustache now but look forward to growing out my first yeard. Love the content you make -- always gets my thumbs up!
Spot on with what Leo said! As long as it doesn’t smell or show obvious signs of change, you are totally fine. Plant oils will let you know when there is a problem
I was a Disco Club DJ back in the late 70’s and early 80’s. Think Saturday Night Fever, Michael Jackson, Prince Etc…. Part of playing the role was using all kinds of hair products for the job and dressing up for it. It was fashionable back then for men to style their hair. Fast forward to today. I am 65 years old and getting close to a YEARD for my first time and I love it now that I am bald by choice (shaving) and still have hair to work with! Dan as always I love your conversational videos! Godspeed as always to you and your beautiful family 😍
I have the exact same thoughts Dan. I've been on the receiving end of being said my beard care is "girly" from both men and women. its the ones who don't have beards, or facial hair for that matter. Its the women who don't care of beards and/or facial hair. That's from my experiences. The ones I have not heard it from are the men who are well groomed, the women who appreciate men who are well groomed and put in the time and effort to look that way. People who understand the effort we put into making sure our man manes are looking good are the ones giving the head nods, the ones saying "nice beard", the ones who give a high five and you know why without any words spoken. Getting complements on my beard feels just as good as giving them too. So folks, don't be afraid to give the random person a complement on their beards (or facial hair for that matter). Yu might be surprised as to how goo it makes you feel too.
I have found that you can usually tell if someone is looking for a confidence booster, wanting to know ow if it is really ok to care for their beard. If that’s the case then those are great conversations to have. And you can tell if someone is just having fun and joking around with you. Which great as well. We could all use a little humor and laughter in our lives. And you can always tell if someone is being a jerk due to their own insecurities. And if that’s the case, here is a great response to shut them down. Simply state in your most polite and sophisticated manner just say “Unlike you sir, I am most confident in my masculinity.” Give them a polite smile and carry on. Or something like that to convey the same message
no one should ever be ashamed or let anyone tell them that what they enjoy doing is wrong or something to be ashamed of (taking care of their beard..or whatever) if it doesn't harm anyone else and isn't illegal, then enjoy doing what makes you happy, my beard is literally purple and not one women or man has said its girly, and if they did their opinion doesn't matter.
“Taco meat on the chest!” 🤣🤣 I gotta use that one in conversation! 😂🤣 But yeah I whole heartedly agree with you on this one Dan. We are manly men with our more purposeful beards and those negative people/comments are just insecure and 💯 jealous. 👊🤘
Second comment, because I made my first one halfway through the video and then made it to the end and had a second thiught: you did a carrier oil 101 series. Please also do a "Dan's Soapbox" series. You hint at a lot of things that bug you in a lot of videos, but I know a lot of us would enjoy a bunch of videos of Dan just slapping his desk and calling stereotypes out.
I really appreciate that! I have felt like these videos can be “cheap” because there isn’t much research or planning involved. However, I really do enjoy them and LOVE the conversations that emerge are unbelievable.
1000% agree with you on everything you just said in this video. Everything I thought of you said . The best is when you get the beard nod from other beardsmen or when ppl reply “ Holy Beard!”
Any comments I get have been positive. I’m actually surprised how few people actually say something, not sure if that is good or bad, lol. I do like to joke with people that I now have more hair products than my wife, but honestly my beard has been such a confidence booster and my morning and evening care routines are a pick me up in my day.
Love how you engage your subscribers with whatever controversial topics come to mind. Thing is I don’t think enough men pay attention to their health or appearance. How many guys preach skin care? How many even focus on their mental health and meditate? The more I take care of myself the better I feel which projects positively on everyone on interact with throughout the day. That saying about loving yourself first before anyone else can’t be any more valid than it already is. It may seem girly but you’re only trying to be your best self and that’s what counts in the end.
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Nice topic. My answer is: No. When men comment on my beard I challenge them to grow one themselves. So many times they tell they would like to try but are not allowed bij their wife or girlfriend. That's what I call girly! I am very open about taking care of the beard so men and women understand that having a beard is more then not shaving, but a choice and proof of self confidence and taking care of yourself. My beard is a boost for me. Never without again!
@@DanCBearded It is strange, but also very embarrassing for the male sex to be so smothered and to allow it! It is very cool to talk to other bearded men about grooming. You can learn from each other and talking about the beard is a very nice opening to deeper conversations. Since I have the beard I feel a kind of brotherhood of men with beards. Very valuable and I would not have wanted to miss it.
Outstanding! Your comment that is was the opposite because only men have beards is brilliant! You described yourself as being deliberately different, but you still are in no way a “slob”. At first, I thought the issues of products, tools, and routine was due to grooming in public. For those too young to have had the pleasure of “77 Sunset Strip”, there is “Kookie, Kookie, lend me your comb” to address that. Otherwise, what matters is what you called caring for yourself and being purposeful. Those with Military or First Responder experience know that care for one’s person and, as the Brits say, one’s “kit” is essential beyond question. You talked about confidence and insecurity. I’d add integrity and self-respect. It seems to me that this started with comments that were not asked for. I think there is too much to consider for a standard response other than saying nothing, and certainly even more to think about before acting as if the comment is valid. After all, such comments say much more about who is making the comment than what the comment itself is about.
I genuinely love the way you intake information, process, rationalize, and add your own flare in such a beneficial way. Thank you for the friendship and continued interactions Leo. You are a very positive influence in my life 🤝
Having hygiene is girly smh ..as a beardsmen that lost his beard dude to chemo and just started regrow, the beard community is amazing and if it's girly to have a good sense of self and taking care of yourself is girly then OK THEN !! #WEHAVETHISBEARDBECAUSEWEAREMEN 👌
Ive got these comments too. Or "cavemen didn't need beard oil".....yeah but they looked and smelled like cavemen with haggard beards. Like what? I take so much pride in my beard care that nothing said can make me feel down.
There are men who think it's girly/gay for a man to take care of his skin, hair, and beard, or to put effort into how he dresses beyond slapping on a random shirt in the morning. Just feels like an excuse to stay ignorant on how they can better care for themselves, and to bolster one's own masculinity by undermining that of others.
Beard care is self-care. We may make fun of people that have a long morning routine, but taking care of your beard is the furthest thing from being "girly". Side note: it can't be girly if it's not something women can naturally grow.
Hey Dan, I'm having troubles with my beard and saying to myself I look good and confident. Could really really use some advice. I fell asleep with gum in mouth and had to cut a tiny bit off. Did I ruin it completely?
The “ haha GIRL!!!” I thought you was about to say “ GAY!!!” 😂😂😂😂 But no it’s definitely not girly! Would they rather we not take care of ourselves and look a mess?? 🙄. If I could say to that guy that shavers his beard , I would say keep doin you!! Don’t let no insecure person gate keep your life. GROW IT BACK!! 🙌✊🏾
Many many folks comment on how my beard looks so good, so different, than others that don’t care. Sometimes they dig deeper and I comment on products, care, barber etc. how about beard ponytails? What do any of you say about that?
I've been in law enforcement for 20 years and growing my beard for the last five or so. I certainly have to be confident- because some people think its unprofessional. Of course, that's just the haters, because alot of people tell me that they can tell I'm well-groomed and that my beard looks better than other peoples' because of the care I give my beard- and that's not feminine, being groomed and caring for your looks / etc is something that's not owned by a specific gender.
I think caring for a beard shows a sense of maturity, that you can keep up with a routine. I cannot speak to the female perspective, but I would think being with a guy who takes care of their beard would be a benefit as their partner would understand their hair routine better.
Most women typically have long hair and it requires extra care to maintain that healthy look. It is not much different for the fraction of men that choose to grow their beards long, with somewhat the same amount of effort. Part of displaying masculinity is showing that you have the self-discipline to keep good touch ups on your appearance.
Beardriff is not girly, that is why I first started, lol. I've never heard someone say girly, it is usually a cliche like Moses or Santa. I know a vet who does not seem to like it, but he just jokes. Most comments I hear are at church or my family. Thank you for answering all our questions and comments.
I am a teacher and because of that I work in a very feminine environment. I get this all of the time. Then some men associated within education tell me they cannot take the same amount or more as their wife does to get ready in the morning.
What do you do with strands deep within the beard that get tangled and hard. I only have one or two of em but when I push my fingers through my hair they feel wierd so I plucked them out.
Taking care of your self as a man in general is seen as girly...thts why its so hard when you try to find what works for you, cause nen dont explore it enough
Well here it goes taking care of yourself is a manly thing just like all my hand tools and All the equipment I have I was raised to take care of everything you have so I guess when a Man shaves I'll almost guarantee he will use aftershave Im speaking about everything if you have it take care of it I agree 100% with Dan c
I’ve have never had a girly comment.women say I can tell you take of your beard or it fits you or you wear it well. Men ask me do you trim it yourself or who’s is your barber or how do you get it to look like that what products do you use. I have never had a negative comment.
Having a corporate job, I have to look well kept and put together. A well kept beard creates a commanding pressance in a room. Besides I feel a certain obligation to the beard growing community to keep my beard looking as good as I can.
A man with a well groomed beard, will get more action than a man with a scraggly wild beard. Luckily I get mostly positive remarks along how I get it to look so good and then I take them down the rabbit hole of beard care
My wife oftentimes jokingly call me Barbie while I style me beard (which takes me a good 20 minutes to do it properly), but in reality she don't want me to stop doing it because she loves my beard too much 🙃
No, taking care of yourself and your appearance is not "girly"! It is slightly ironic that you end up using tools and products that are associated with girl care and I have often mentioned to people that I learned more about "girly products" when I grew my manly beard. Years ago before I had ever heard of or considered using beard oil, butter, wash, conditioner, etc. I liked having a long goatee and I never took care of it and it showed. Once I went full beard, I randomly came across a couple of beard care channels, yours and Scuba. For reference, I remember when you made the video about emulsifying and how you had misused the term until you learned what it meant. I figured if you dedicated a video to correcting yourself you were probably telling the truth. I also found that I preferred how informative you were and that you cared enough to research and educate yourself so you could share it with others. My beard appearance today has a lot to do with your sharing of information and actually trying out your recommendations for routines, styling and yes, products. I am happy to share this with everyone who asks as well as referring them to your channel. I can recall emailing you questions and requests for product recommendations and you always took the time to reply. I am on my 2nd journey at this time and just about at the end of the awkward uncooperative mid length stage. My 1st journey was interrupted by some difficult life events that led to some depression and I stopped caring for my beard properly and the hair got some damage and I chose to cut it with the 5 guard and start over rather than trim the damaged portion and save as much as I could. I get many compliments on the beard and generally if they are coming from another beardsman, it's a great opportunity to strike up a conversation about care and products and share what I have learned. Thanks my bearded brother!!!
Thanks bro! Yeah, the difficulty has been dealt with and going forward, I can take along what I learned from that to better deal with future difficulties. They will come and they will pass. It doesn't rain everyday if you get my drift!
My mustache has really come about because of a comment at work. The first time I tried to put little baby handlebars in, one guy at work told me: "That's the dumbest thing I've ever seen"... I just responded: "You haven't seen dumb looking yet!" 🤣 Now for years later, my mustache has a life of it's own!!! Last month walking The Strip in Vegas, every third person HAD to stop me to compliment it... The best compliments I received were the ones that said "You look so purposefully put together!" That was the ultimate compliment for me...
All the time I get you are worse than a girl! I love it and embrace it! I even go as far as braiding my own beard! Now that's taking care of your hair but imagine if we didn't do anything, the thought that people have that beards are dirty would be true!
At a black and white level: Taking of your masculanine body is masculine. Taking care of your femanine body is femanine. Men and women use soap. Men and women use shampoo. Why is anything beyond that "girly" or femanine? But I get it. The number of people that talk about me having an amazing beard and then turning around and talking s4!T about the number of beard products I have or the routine are..... excessive. Which do you want?
Wait the bearded guy shaved his beard because someone told him that it was girly useing all thing's beard related. Who cares right better that then to shave it down to a short stubble because what happens then said people will find something else to focus on and the once bearded guy will be unhappy inside and wished he kept it. The standard remark i actually get like every time i see a certain OAP Mr original i call him is let me give you a trim i tell said member of my local community why would I want that a trim it goes against every thing I stand for a longish wild beard ( you really shouldn't care what others think ). Like I said before what's the point people are going to judge you beard or not
There is nothing more masculine than having a beard. When I take care of my beard it makes me feel masculine. Ladies do their hair, their nails etc...to make them presentable to men. My wife likes my beard, and what I do with it makes me more presentable to her. Let's face it, the Viking digs have archeologically found that Viking men went to great lengths to keep their hair and beards stylish. They were conquerors. Can we do anything less?
In my experience, I've had several great looking ladies tell me that they can tell I "take care of my beard" and that it's attractive to them. That being said, who cares if another dude says taking care of their beards is "girly"? 🤷♂️
Is caring for your beard "girly"? No. And, if someone ever expressed such foolishness to me, I'm comfortable enough in my masculinity to keep on keeping on. #BeardGang
I don’t think taking care of your beard is girly because most women don’t have beards and can’t grow beards , taking care of your beard is more manly than girly. When I had really long hair some people used to tell me I looked like a woman , but that was only from other guys not women, all the women liked my hair, I didn’t change because of the haters, when I changed to a shorter hair style it was when I wanted to change not because of someone telling me to change. When I decided I wanted to have a beard it was because I chose to grow one not because it was popular, the only thing popularity did was make it more normalized for men to have beards, so no negative comments, unlike if you grew a mustache on its own , there would be all these weird unnecessary stereotypes that people would tell you when you are growing it out.
There is absolutely no way that caring for one's beard would or should be considered "girlie." I'm sorry that the gentleman felt compelled to shave his beard because of rude comments. In my 69 years, I learned a long time ago that comments don't matter. Of course I sometimes offer a few choice words in reply, but you simply cannot lset others words affect you. Grow your beard. Wash it and blow dry it if you so wish. Use your butters and oils. Live your life (you only get one) to its fullest. That's my 2 cents.
The only person who’s ever mentioned beard routines as girly in my direction was my dad. 😂 He just has this little stubble junk. 😂 Now that I think a bit harder, a long time buddy of mine also believes beard care is for girls. So funny because I’ve never seen a woman with a lush, long, healthy beard. Just occasional junk on their face. 😂😂😂
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My experience has been totally positive so far. Most men that comment on the beard are usually telling me that they wish theirs grew in thick like mine. Apparently it really is an insecurity for a lot of men. My advice to them is “grow what you can, and style it appropriately.”
It really is, you are spot on
It is, and you handled it well
The ladies love a masculine, well groomed beard. The naysayers are just jealous! 😂
It’s actually true though!
"Girly never crossed my mind when it comes to beard.
Being a man is confidently standing up for truth with charity, always.
Thank you Dan!
Absolutely!
I'm 63 years old.... At this point in my life, I couldn't care less on what people think of me!! Life is short....you do you!!
Love that!! Very freeing feeling
Haters have nothing better to do but hate. I take thier jealousy as a sign of their weakness and only pushes me more. Most don't realize it's far more than just not shaving, and buying a bigger comb. God forbid we men start to take care of ourselves. Anyone can just shave their face and toss on a suit to look good.
Facts!!
I love grooming and sharing my routine with others and super positive about sharing what I have learned from this channel 💪
Love that!
It's not a girly thing at all, a beard is a man's mane, and men should be proud to have one.
I’m proud!
I’ve found that when people say things about others, beard related or not, it’s usually saying much more about themselves than it ever could about me or what I have going on. Take the power away from them, smile, nod and go on with your day.
I’ve always been blessed to be able to stand strong in whatever style or fashion I wanted to rock or wear, so I haven’t been as phased by bad beard comments when I happen to get them. As David Goggins famously says, “Can’t hurt me” - 🙌
Facts! Insecurities project themselves in strange ways
The compliments alone from strangers justifies any argument. 🤷♂️
Tons of compliments!
Hey Dan! I 1000% agree with your assessment that it comes from a place of insecurity! I grew a beard for the first time this year at age 49. My experience has been overwhelmingly positive! I volunteer a lot at the OSU campus and I frequently get compliments on my beard. Just two weeks ago a Buddhist monk who was volunteering in the Oval complimented my beard! They shave completely and have forsaken all attachments and he still recognized an awesome beard when he saw one and had to speak up! Be confident and forget people who come up with negative remarks! Thank you for your wonderful content!
That is awesome!! We just were in Columbus last week and had an amazing time! I work with the Crew on content
So I only started my beard journey 4 months ago. I’m 57 and asked my wife next time she was out.to buy me a blow dryer of my own. Humbling? Could’ve been but I stood fast and refused to have my man card revoked. Rock what you got guys .
Rock what you got!
you hit the nail on the head Dan.
Thanks Keith!
If someone says that to me I ask them if that's their way of saying they hate that they can't grow a manly beard like mine.
Love that!
I don't think so, but I'm a Great Diva about it. Usually the HATERS or Trash talkers are the ones who can't grow a Beard. I tell them at least I can GROW ONE
For sure!
I definitely feel like there is a stigma in society regarding men and taking care of either hair on the head or beards. I felt that before and have always tried to keep as minimal "product" as possible for taking a shower. As I have gotten older, I stopped caring what others thought, but still kept the minimal approach going. Once I found this channel and started growing/taking care of my beard, has not really crossed my mind much. Love these discussion videos! Thanks Dan!!
That’s great to hear!
Yes, Dan I agree with you. I get told all the time that I am barely because I take care of my beard and I’m packed and about my beard so I say who cares what the world thinks I’m happy with the way I grow my beard and what I do to take care of it, God bless
Absolutely!
Dan when this sort of thing comes up the first quote that pops into my head is “why accept criticism from those you wouldn’t accept advice from?” The vast majority of folks that regurgitate something like “did you lose your razor” are simply just following suit with things they’ve heard others say. They’re just parrots that haven’t put any real thought into what they’re saying. No sweat off my back. For those that double down and want to try to turn it into an argument or debate I simply point out that they have grey hair or long hair or short hair and that I’m not offended by that at all, why should they be offended by my beard? More often than not the conversation ends there. If I tell them I enjoy it, it’s therapeutic, and it makes me happy then the situation is diffused entirely. You can’t make everyone happy, but you can do what makes you happy and that’s all there is to it.
That’s a great approach!
Dan C Bearded, the BEST beard TH-cam channel by far.
PS- definitely not girly.
I really appreciate that!!
Hiya Dan 😊 Hope your keeping well. Im proud of having a sharp well groomed Beard. Take pleasure in using great products. Oils, Butters and wash. Use our lasses Hairdryer more than she does. But enjoy it. Keep posting your great vids Dan. Take care ❤
Thanks Kev!
Dan C Bearded, the trusted Therapist! Excellent advice and comparisons on this topic. I feel bad for that guy or guys that listen to stuff and give in. It’s one thing to not have the right DNA to pull off a bigger beard and listen to others about trimming it up a bit, then to take negative comments and cut the beard off because of there insecurity.
Absolutely all around!
I am the youngest in my workplace with the thickest beard. Yes I am genetically blessed but before finding this channel I knew my beard wasn’t at its best. But I found out your channel and crazy how better it has become. Thanks for all the powerful knowledge 🙏
Love to hear that!!
I think there's way to many guys that are unconfident these days. I like being different and sticking out. Never worry about fitting in.
Agreed FULLY!
I have found a lot of these "just kiddin'" guys are the ones who spend a ton of $$$ on clothes, cars, and stuff but fail to care for them properly or at all. As if price tag alone should impress everyone. There's nothing girlie or feminine about taking care something you love and take pride in. And I feel bad when some of these "jokers" have their kids with them when making fun/insulting people...some great life lessons right there.
Sorry for the late comment, I missed this one somehow.
Great observations Jim!
Great Video Dan i agree 110 percent it is them being insecure keep the great videos coming Someone said a negative thing to me the other day and i actually asked them what is wrong with Growing a Beard 😃
Facts!
Couldn't agree more! Wish more men had our opinions.
I do have a question though not related to this video but as I've been watching you for a long time, I do know you've said in videos that beard oil has a shelf life and there are ways to keep those products from losing their effectiveness quicker and ways to make sure you are getting all the goodness from them like shaking them before use. My question is; if someone has a collection of oils they've had for a year or however long the shelf life is, are their any negative side effects using "old oil" on your face?
For reference, specifically for me -- I am in the military so I only have a mustache now but look forward to growing out my first yeard. Love the content you make -- always gets my thumbs up!
If your old oil doesn’t smell rancid it is good to use. It may lose or change its scent, but that’s not harmful. Store cool and away from sunlight.
Spot on with what Leo said! As long as it doesn’t smell or show obvious signs of change, you are totally fine. Plant oils will let you know when there is a problem
I was a Disco Club DJ back in the late 70’s and early 80’s. Think Saturday Night Fever, Michael Jackson, Prince Etc…. Part of playing the role was using all kinds of hair products for the job and dressing up for it. It was fashionable back then for men to style their hair. Fast forward to today. I am 65 years old and getting close to a YEARD for my first time and I love it now that I am bald by choice (shaving) and still have hair to work with! Dan as always I love your conversational videos! Godspeed as always to you and your beautiful family 😍
Thank you!
I have the exact same thoughts Dan. I've been on the receiving end of being said my beard care is "girly" from both men and women. its the ones who don't have beards, or facial hair for that matter. Its the women who don't care of beards and/or facial hair. That's from my experiences.
The ones I have not heard it from are the men who are well groomed, the women who appreciate men who are well groomed and put in the time and effort to look that way. People who understand the effort we put into making sure our man manes are looking good are the ones giving the head nods, the ones saying "nice beard", the ones who give a high five and you know why without any words spoken.
Getting complements on my beard feels just as good as giving them too. So folks, don't be afraid to give the random person a complement on their beards (or facial hair for that matter). Yu might be surprised as to how goo it makes you feel too.
Loveee giving the compliments too!
I have found that you can usually tell if someone is looking for a confidence booster, wanting to know ow if it is really ok to care for their beard. If that’s the case then those are great conversations to have. And you can tell if someone is just having fun and joking around with you. Which great as well. We could all use a little humor and laughter in our lives. And you can always tell if someone is being a jerk due to their own insecurities. And if that’s the case, here is a great response to shut them down.
Simply state in your most polite and sophisticated manner just say
“Unlike you sir, I am most confident in my masculinity.” Give them a polite smile and carry on.
Or something like that to convey the same message
Agreed all the way around
Excellent video Dan! Nothing about beard care or Grooming is girly.
Thank you Saad!
no one should ever be ashamed or let anyone tell them that what they enjoy doing is wrong or something to be ashamed of (taking care of their beard..or whatever) if it doesn't harm anyone else and isn't illegal, then enjoy doing what makes you happy, my beard is literally purple and not one women or man has said its girly, and if they did their opinion doesn't matter.
Even a few illegal things are fun! Haha jk jk. Very true!
“Taco meat on the chest!” 🤣🤣 I gotta use that one in conversation! 😂🤣
But yeah I whole heartedly agree with you on this one Dan. We are manly men with our more purposeful beards and those negative people/comments are just insecure and 💯 jealous. 👊🤘
Taco meat appropriately dropped… is a mic drop moment 😂😂
Second comment, because I made my first one halfway through the video and then made it to the end and had a second thiught: you did a carrier oil 101 series. Please also do a "Dan's Soapbox" series. You hint at a lot of things that bug you in a lot of videos, but I know a lot of us would enjoy a bunch of videos of Dan just slapping his desk and calling stereotypes out.
I really appreciate that! I have felt like these videos can be “cheap” because there isn’t much research or planning involved. However, I really do enjoy them and LOVE the conversations that emerge are unbelievable.
@@DanCBearded Even anecdotal evidence is evidence and can be disputed.
1000% agree with you on everything you just said in this video. Everything I thought of you said . The best is when you get the beard nod from other beardsmen or when ppl reply “ Holy Beard!”
Heck yeah!
Any comments I get have been positive. I’m actually surprised how few people actually say something, not sure if that is good or bad, lol. I do like to joke with people that I now have more hair products than my wife, but honestly my beard has been such a confidence booster and my morning and evening care routines are a pick me up in my day.
Love that it’s a confidence booster!
Love how you engage your subscribers with whatever controversial topics come to mind. Thing is I don’t think enough men pay attention to their health or appearance. How many guys preach skin care? How many even focus on their mental health and meditate? The more I take care of myself the better I feel which projects positively on everyone on interact with throughout the day. That saying about loving yourself first before anyone else can’t be any more valid than it already is. It may seem girly but you’re only trying to be your best self and that’s what counts in the end.
Men and stigmas have a long ways to go, and I’m all here for the conversations!
If anything, it's more girly to be clean shaven.
Indeed.
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In a way, yes.
Beards looking dang good
My man 🤝
Great video dan hey bro what's your advice on a patchy beard my sides is thin what advice would you give??
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Nice topic. My answer is: No. When men comment on my beard I challenge them to grow one themselves. So many times they tell they would like to try but are not allowed bij their wife or girlfriend. That's what I call girly! I am very open about taking care of the beard so men and women understand that having a beard is more then not shaving, but a choice and proof of self confidence and taking care of yourself. My beard is a boost for me. Never without again!
Ohhhh, good call on the female(s) [don’t forget mom lol] not LETTING them. That’s insane
@@DanCBearded It is strange, but also very embarrassing for the male sex to be so smothered and to allow it! It is very cool to talk to other bearded men about grooming. You can learn from each other and talking about the beard is a very nice opening to deeper conversations. Since I have the beard I feel a kind of brotherhood of men with beards. Very valuable and I would not have wanted to miss it.
Outstanding! Your comment that is was the opposite because only men have beards is brilliant! You described yourself as being deliberately different, but you still are in no way a “slob”. At first, I thought the issues of products, tools, and routine was due to grooming in public. For those too young to have had the pleasure of “77 Sunset Strip”, there is “Kookie, Kookie, lend me your comb” to address that. Otherwise, what matters is what you called caring for yourself and being purposeful. Those with Military or First Responder experience know that care for one’s person and, as the Brits say, one’s “kit” is essential beyond question. You talked about confidence and insecurity. I’d add integrity and self-respect. It seems to me that this started with comments that were not asked for. I think there is too much to consider for a standard response other than saying nothing, and certainly even more to think about before acting as if the comment is valid. After all, such comments say much more about who is making the comment than what the comment itself is about.
I genuinely love the way you intake information, process, rationalize, and add your own flare in such a beneficial way. Thank you for the friendship and continued interactions Leo. You are a very positive influence in my life 🤝
@@DanCBearded Oh, Wow! I appreciate and thank you for every one of those words, particularly “friendship”!
Having hygiene is girly smh ..as a beardsmen that lost his beard dude to chemo and just started regrow, the beard community is amazing and if it's girly to have a good sense of self and taking care of yourself is girly then OK THEN !! #WEHAVETHISBEARDBECAUSEWEAREMEN 👌
I hope you are doing well 🤝
@@DanCBearded thank you 🙏 I am doing well thank you love the channel
Ive got these comments too. Or "cavemen didn't need beard oil".....yeah but they looked and smelled like cavemen with haggard beards. Like what?
I take so much pride in my beard care that nothing said can make me feel down.
Same, I just chuckle lol borderline enjoy it
There are men who think it's girly/gay for a man to take care of his skin, hair, and beard, or to put effort into how he dresses beyond slapping on a random shirt in the morning. Just feels like an excuse to stay ignorant on how they can better care for themselves, and to bolster one's own masculinity by undermining that of others.
Love that take!
Beard care is self-care. We may make fun of people that have a long morning routine, but taking care of your beard is the furthest thing from being "girly". Side note: it can't be girly if it's not something women can naturally grow.
Truly is self-care!
Hey Dan, I'm having troubles with my beard and saying to myself I look good and confident. Could really really use some advice. I fell asleep with gum in mouth and had to cut a tiny bit off. Did I ruin it completely?
I would have to see to know and give an honest answer. Reach out and send a pic! Instagram is best but my email is in the description as well
The “ haha GIRL!!!” I thought you was about to say “ GAY!!!” 😂😂😂😂
But no it’s definitely not girly! Would they rather we not take care of ourselves and look a mess?? 🙄.
If I could say to that guy that shavers his beard , I would say keep doin you!! Don’t let no insecure person gate keep your life. GROW IT BACK!! 🙌✊🏾
Facts!
Many many folks comment on how my beard looks so good, so different, than others that don’t care. Sometimes they dig deeper and I comment on products, care, barber etc. how about beard ponytails? What do any of you say about that?
I love those conversations!
I've been in law enforcement for 20 years and growing my beard for the last five or so. I certainly have to be confident- because some people think its unprofessional. Of course, that's just the haters, because alot of people tell me that they can tell I'm well-groomed and that my beard looks better than other peoples' because of the care I give my beard- and that's not feminine, being groomed and caring for your looks / etc is something that's not owned by a specific gender.
It’s so silk you have to even deal with that
I have no shame, so someone calling my routine girly, wouldn't bother me. My wife loves it & that's the only opinion besides my own that matters
Facts!
I think caring for a beard shows a sense of maturity, that you can keep up with a routine. I cannot speak to the female perspective, but I would think being with a guy who takes care of their beard would be a benefit as their partner would understand their hair routine better.
So true!
Most women typically have long hair and it requires extra care to maintain that healthy look. It is not much different for the fraction of men that choose to grow their beards long, with somewhat the same amount of effort. Part of displaying masculinity is showing that you have the self-discipline to keep good touch ups on your appearance.
Good perspective!
Beardriff is not girly, that is why I first started, lol. I've never heard someone say girly, it is usually a cliche like Moses or Santa. I know a vet who does not seem to like it, but he just jokes. Most comments I hear are at church or my family. Thank you for answering all our questions and comments.
Of course!
I frickin dig your hat!!
Thank you!
My experience has been that literally everyone is impressed when I explain my beard grooming.
Very cool!
I am a teacher and because of that I work in a very feminine environment. I get this all of the time. Then some men associated within education tell me they cannot take the same amount or more as their wife does to get ready in the morning.
I know that wayyy too well!
Well said Brother! Some of the comments we see on ours posts🙄
Exactly!!
I tell everybody I’m a girl when it comes to my beard and my long hair. 😂 And I’m proud about it!
Nice!
What do you do with strands deep within the beard that get tangled and hard. I only have one or two of em but when I push my fingers through my hair they feel wierd so I plucked them out.
I either trim them or let them be
I usually use as an icebreaker.. oh I’m like a woman with my beard😂😂😂 gotta own it and rock it🍻🍻🍻
Haha nice
Taking care of your self as a man in general is seen as girly...thts why its so hard when you try to find what works for you, cause nen dont explore it enough
Soooo true!
@@DanCBeardedreally appreciate what you're doing, binged watch your videos for about 3 hrs straight learned so much thanx alot
I appreciate that 🤝
Well here it goes taking care of yourself is a manly thing just like all my hand tools and All the equipment I have I was raised to take care of everything you have so I guess when a Man shaves I'll almost guarantee he will use aftershave Im speaking about everything if you have it take care of it I agree 100% with Dan c
Absolutely my friend 🤝
I’ve have never had a girly comment.women say I can tell you take of your beard or it fits you or you wear it well. Men ask me do you trim it yourself or who’s is your barber or how do you get it to look like that what products do you use. I have never had a negative comment.
That’s fantastic!
Its not girly..
I think its society & caltural thoughts..
Who talk like that!
Love you from BD🇧🇩
Much love!
Absolutely! Not girly!
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Vikings were well groomed and clean and most of them carried a comb or pick with them. They weren’t girly…
That’s a fact!
If it is, I am in touch with my feminine side, and so is my wife! Which is a good thing IMO.
Right!?
i dont care if taking care of your beard is girly, a man without a beard do we call a women
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Having a corporate job, I have to look well kept and put together. A well kept beard creates a commanding pressance in a room. Besides I feel a certain obligation to the beard growing community to keep my beard looking as good as I can.
I agree fully. Helping stigmas not hurting
A man with a well groomed beard, will get more action than a man with a scraggly wild beard.
Luckily I get mostly positive remarks along how I get it to look so good and then I take them down the rabbit hole of beard care
Absolutely true!
My wife oftentimes jokingly call me Barbie while I style me beard (which takes me a good 20 minutes to do it properly), but in reality she don't want me to stop doing it because she loves my beard too much 🙃
Sounds like a healthy relationship!
No, taking care of yourself and your appearance is not "girly"!
It is slightly ironic that you end up using tools and products that are associated with girl care and I have often mentioned to people that I learned more about "girly products" when I grew my manly beard. Years ago before I had ever heard of or considered using beard oil, butter, wash, conditioner, etc. I liked having a long goatee and I never took care of it and it showed. Once I went full beard, I randomly came across a couple of beard care channels, yours and Scuba. For reference, I remember when you made the video about emulsifying and how you had misused the term until you learned what it meant. I figured if you dedicated a video to correcting yourself you were probably telling the truth. I also found that I preferred how informative you were and that you cared enough to research and educate yourself so you could share it with others. My beard appearance today has a lot to do with your sharing of information and actually trying out your recommendations for routines, styling and yes, products. I am happy to share this with everyone who asks as well as referring them to your channel. I can recall emailing you questions and requests for product recommendations and you always took the time to reply. I am on my 2nd journey at this time and just about at the end of the awkward uncooperative mid length stage. My 1st journey was interrupted by some difficult life events that led to some depression and I stopped caring for my beard properly and the hair got some damage and I chose to cut it with the 5 guard and start over rather than trim the damaged portion and save as much as I could. I get many compliments on the beard and generally if they are coming from another beardsman, it's a great opportunity to strike up a conversation about care and products and share what I have learned. Thanks my bearded brother!!!
I’m glad you are back around my guy, and I hope that challenges have settled for you 🤝 thank you for the kind words and I am always happy to help!
Thanks bro! Yeah, the difficulty has been dealt with and going forward, I can take along what I learned from that to better deal with future difficulties. They will come and they will pass. It doesn't rain everyday if you get my drift!
How many years did it take for the length of you beard now?
If I started over again, it would likely be around 2 years
@@DanCBearded nov 15th of this year will be my 1 year mark I would upload a pic of my beard but it doesn’t allow it
@brianproffer9115 awesome!
My mustache has really come about because of a comment at work. The first time I tried to put little baby handlebars in, one guy at work told me: "That's the dumbest thing I've ever seen"... I just responded: "You haven't seen dumb looking yet!" 🤣
Now for years later, my mustache has a life of it's own!!!
Last month walking The Strip in Vegas, every third person HAD to stop me to compliment it... The best compliments I received were the ones that said "You look so purposefully put together!" That was the ultimate compliment for me...
What an origin story!!
@@DanCBeardedI'm one of those "Don't tell me I can't, I'll prove you wrong" guys... 😂
My beard gives me confidence
Heck yeah!
All the time I get you are worse than a girl! I love it and embrace it! I even go as far as braiding my own beard! Now that's taking care of your hair but imagine if we didn't do anything, the thought that people have that beards are dirty would be true!
Absolutely my friend!
At a black and white level: Taking of your masculanine body is masculine. Taking care of your femanine body is femanine. Men and women use soap. Men and women use shampoo. Why is anything beyond that "girly" or femanine?
But I get it. The number of people that talk about me having an amazing beard and then turning around and talking s4!T about the number of beard products I have or the routine are..... excessive. Which do you want?
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I never was called girlie when caring for my beard
That’s great!
My daughter calls it the 'Princess Beard'...😅
Haha nice
I just need to find a good stylist/barber to give me a good shape trim. Lol 🤣 that's the only reason it doesn't look as well as it could.
There are some great beard barbers out there!
Wait the bearded guy shaved his beard because someone told him that it was girly useing all thing's beard related. Who cares right better that then to shave it down to a short stubble because what happens then said people will find something else to focus on and the once bearded guy will be unhappy inside and wished he kept it. The standard remark i actually get like every time i see a certain OAP Mr original i call him is let me give you a trim i tell said member of my local community why would I want that a trim it goes against every thing I stand for a longish wild beard ( you really shouldn't care what others think ). Like I said before what's the point people are going to judge you beard or not
People will judge, that’s for sure
There is nothing more masculine than having a beard. When I take care of my beard it makes me feel masculine. Ladies do their hair, their nails etc...to make them presentable to men. My wife likes my beard, and what I do with it makes me more presentable to her. Let's face it, the Viking digs have archeologically found that Viking men went to great lengths to keep their hair and beards stylish. They were conquerors. Can we do anything less?
So true!
In my experience, I've had several great looking ladies tell me that they can tell I "take care of my beard" and that it's attractive to them. That being said, who cares if another dude says taking care of their beards is "girly"? 🤷♂️
Couldn’t be more correct!
Bingo! The ladies opinion only matters.
Taco meat on the chest? Ok... I done heard it all!
😂😂 translation = chest hair
Is caring for your beard "girly"? No. And, if someone ever expressed such foolishness to me, I'm comfortable enough in my masculinity to keep on keeping on.
#BeardGang
Facts!
Not girly 🤙🏽👊🏼
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The only thing girly about my beard care is the way I fry bacon.
😂😂😂
Immediately after watching this video, I saw a meme that said, "Haters will see you walk on water and say it's because you can't swim. "
My wife says it's vanity, so I told her to stop brushing her hair and wearing makeup.
All spot on!
Good morning
Morning!
I doubled down, I have long hair, an earring and a beard
Get it!
Geez, Id hate for the naysayers to see me put some very manly body butter on! 😂😂😂
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Haha for sure
I luckily never got this
Nice
I don’t think taking care of your beard is girly because most women don’t have beards and can’t grow beards , taking care of your beard is more manly than girly. When I had really long hair some people used to tell me I looked like a woman , but that was only from other guys not women, all the women liked my hair, I didn’t change because of the haters, when I changed to a shorter hair style it was when I wanted to change not because of someone telling me to change. When I decided I wanted to have a beard it was because I chose to grow one not because it was popular, the only thing popularity did was make it more normalized for men to have beards, so no negative comments, unlike if you grew a mustache on its own , there would be all these weird unnecessary stereotypes that people would tell you when you are growing it out.
Thanks for sharing Aaron!
Oh, rats! I thought I was girly. Oh, well.JUST KIDDING,DAN!😅😅 Good topic. Thanks, DC.
You can be whatever you want 😂
@@DanCBearded NOT GIRLY!
There is absolutely no way that caring for one's beard would or should be considered "girlie." I'm sorry that the gentleman felt compelled to shave his beard because of rude comments. In my 69 years, I learned a long time ago that comments don't matter. Of course I sometimes offer a few choice words in reply, but you simply cannot lset others words affect you. Grow your beard. Wash it and blow dry it if you so wish. Use your butters and oils. Live your life (you only get one) to its fullest. That's my 2 cents.
Comments truly do not matter, if you don’t let them
Well… if taking of a beard makes a man "girly", call me a pansy a have a nice day.
That’s all is needed to be said :)
Spot on! Call me whatever you want
The only person who’s ever mentioned beard routines as girly in my direction was my dad. 😂 He just has this little stubble junk. 😂 Now that I think a bit harder, a long time buddy of mine also believes beard care is for girls. So funny because I’ve never seen a woman with a lush, long, healthy beard. Just occasional junk on their face. 😂😂😂
It’s very interesting!
How many girls do you know have beards?? 😂
Right!?
No 👎 It's not.😂❤❤🎉😊
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It’s always from beardless guys lol , I don’t think it’s girly
Always lol