@@lavarelease2928doesn’t matter if they don’t like tattoos. You don’t get to tell your partner they can’t get a tattoo because you don’t like them. The name thing is ick and never a good idea. But either way her body
I will say, I married someone who said they would have children with me. After 3 years of marriage he changed his mind. 3 years later we divorced. I am now happily remarried and a mother of 4. Some things are none negotiable.
Exactly. Mine was the opposite. He changed his mind about wanting children. I had a range of genetic issues that made me completely infertile and I simply had no mothering instincts, unless it was four legged with fur. Broke my heart, but I needed to leave and I did. He met a lovely woman a couple years later and they had two beautiful daughters (we stayed in touch for a few years after the split - better friends than partners). I moved on with my life, found my happiness as well and 20 years later, no regrets.
7:30 my husband told me he didn’t want kids when we first got together. He used prophylactics but super fertile me got pregnant pretty quick. He wasn’t sure and I told him he could step away if he didn’t wanna be a dad. I didn’t want our son growing up with a father who had one foot in and one foot out, and who’s always disappointing him. But he chose to stay. We got married when our son was 10 months old. We just celebrated our twentieth wedding anniversary this past August 25. And added two more sons to our family. He even legally adopted my oldest son (his biological father died when my son was 5 months old). So a man who said he didn’t want kids or to get married ended up being the best father and husband anyone could ever hope for.
Ok but that’s your experience. If someone doesn’t want kids but you do you don’t get to force a child on anyone. Some of know and have always known we never want kids and know that won’t change
I’m not saying it’s right to get pregnant on purpose or anything if the guy doesn’t want kids. But it seems like guys are a lot of times not ready or will never say they’re ready or willing, but if a kid happens sometimes they’ll realize it’s awesome. Or even if they want kids they’ll have issues actually being like “ok let’s try” or whatever lol. Of course they may not and just nope out but I’ve seen many guys that were either not interested or didn’t really want kids end up good dads. Not to mention if you’re sexual active there’s almost also a possibility of getting pregnant lol. Vasectomy’s fail, BC fails all the time etc.
The way my JAW DROPPED when Caleb read that first story’s bit about the wife “slipping from under his control!” Lord… this man is wildly insane, but I’ve known many men like that. Caleb is just too pure for this one…. Bless his hawttt 🥰
@@jellykat5005 If *you* were to tell your partner that you explicitly did not like something, and your partner went and did exactly that thing, you would be mad, too. Anybody saying anything else is delusional. The issue is not the supposed "controlling behavior", nor is it about the tattoos. A marriage is a union of equals, and OP's wife is clearly demonstrating that she does not view OP as an equal, because she disregards OP's concerns twice, over the exact same issue.
@@stepgamerdadultimately OP asked if he was the asshole for making his wife remove the tattoo, to which the answer is yes. Regardless of how they got to the situation, he doesn’t get to decide what she can and can’t do with her body. Does he have a say with what she does with her body? A bit, he can tell her that the haircut she wants to get will be a bad idea, for example, and she can choose to heed his advice or not. But he can’t straight up tell her to get a specific haircut for him that’s too controlling
Don't know, sounds like he does things for her he'd rather not do and she doesn't, something permanent compared to shaving. Seems like they need to communicate things better, but I wouldn't call either an asshole. Even when they're commenting, he says "I know you wouldn't do that" and "you'd tell me".
My husband doesn't really care for tattoos. I had gotten 2 before we were married, during one of our break-ups (we've been together since I was in 9th grade 21years married 17.) I have since marriage gotten 7 more and had a couple the color sessions. He still doesn't care for tattoos but for our 15yr anniversary he surprisingly invited me to get matching tattoos which he picked out and the placement. It's the only one he has. I say all that to say he has never belittled me or talked about my appearance, or told me no when I've said that I have an appointment. I appreciate the respect he has for me.
Kids got to be mutual if one doesnt want them and one does then your not for each other and should be able to move on and still be friends if both choose to be.
Exactly. I have known since middle school I don’t want kids. I say up front while dating that as to not waste anyone’s time. However I have dated someone and then was in a serious relationship when they told me 4 years in they were hoping I would change my mind. I didn’t and told him it wasn’t going to work out because my mind isn’t changing.
@@sashacasson7325 it took a while to deal with. I ended up getting early onset menopause at the age of 33/34 and so being able to say I physically can’t has actually made it easier. It just sucks that it didn’t get easier until my mid 30s. Thank you though♥️
2:38 one of my friends was dating a guy for at least two years and as soon as she started wanting to get tattoos he was completely against so she broke it off now she’s a badass with muscles and tattoos and so much happier than when she was with him
i am in the process of getting my uterus taken out (still trying to convince my doctor) and i have a boyfriend te FIRST thing i did was talk about our futur with him and was ready to end our relationship if he wanted kids of his own cause i did not want to be the thing stopping him from having children, its okay to break up with someone over familly goals so long as you talk properly about it and stay polite
I´m happily childfree and before I had a bf I was always really clear from the first day of talking that I do not ever want kids, and also can´t physically have biological ones anyway. I told my boyfriends mother I can´t have kids the first time I met her lol. If my boyfriend told me tomorrow that he suddenly wants kids then he would have to find someone else no matter how bad that would suck because neither one of us should sacrifice something so huge in our lives, and all kids deserve parents who want them.
That's how I feel too. I do not want children and I make it very clear to anyone who romantically wants to be with me bc I'm not gonna take their chances of having a family away but I'm also not gonna make myself have a whole different life than what I planned bc they want a family with me. There are billions of ppl out there and I'm sure one will match me better than staying with someone who does want children no matter how bad I wanna be with them
I love Kris’s TikTok videos and I’ve watched oompa for YEARS. I was today years old when I realized that they are a power couple that I love more than life itself.
I knew a person that was trying to keep their partner (LDR) from getting their ears pierced, other piercings, tattoos, etc. When their partner one day did get ear-rings, said person nearly went crazy over how their partner could "sully" their body in that way. Needless to say I don't have any contact to that person anymore. Overbearingly controlling partners are a nogo.
My friend had a similar situation, wife got some random Harry Potter tattoo on her lower back and my friend was pissed for awhile, his wife used the 'my body' defense. He got over it after a little while and things moved on. About a year later he shaved his head and his wife kicked him out of the house until it grew back....I guess the 'my body' defense only works one way.
Ok but it is her body and it shouldn't matter for his hair either. Both sound immature and better apart. Who cares if she got a tattoo. It's not offensive or negative. I get if they have a boundary of discussing body modifications beforehand but you can't rly say no lol. You can leave if you don't like the tattoo but you can't say no. She can leave if she doesn't like his haircut but she can't tell him no. It works both ways if you can't respect your partners independence of their own body then don't date or marry another living individual bc they are gonna eventually make a choice you don't agree with bc they have their own life and body too you just happen to know them and be in their life too.
You two are literally me and my boyfriend personality and communication wise. It just cements the fact that he and I are meant to be together more. You two are the best
Why is no one mentioning that in story 1 the guy has made his preference clear and has set a boundary, which she 100% crossed. Bear in mind some people aren't compatible with each other for reasons that others find trivial, and that's their lives, their preferences, their choice. Needs more context but (given how strongly he feels about this) I feel safe assuming that this was discussed much earlier in their relationship, and the fact that they are now married means that either a compromise had been agreed upon or she outright chose that being with him was more important to her than getting tattoos. She then went against his wishes AND behind his back not once, but twice which screams to me wanting to have her cake and eat it too. "I've played nice long enough to get the man secured and locked down, now lets get those tattoos." To me it's the principle of the trust that has been broken by her actions, then to have the audacity to gaslight him to make him feel like the asshole. Then on top of that, for Kris and Caleb to openly mock him about this is actually quite horrible.
For the tattoo one, my only thought against her is the fact that she married a man that she was well aware did not like tattoos. Men that dont like tattoos always have to tell you ASAP. Told her before and after she got her first tattoo. Told her again when she joked about getting another neck tattoo. So she cant play the "I didn't know you had negative feelings about this" card. You did. You wanted the tattoo regardless of what he said (which is well within your right) and you got it. Own it and work through the consequences. No shame! But telling your spouse they are a child after they have told you a STRONG preference and believed you to be on the same page, is not it. Especially when you act like they are surprises for HIM. Like wtf?? Also him keeping a beard for respect for HER preferences, isn't something to laugh at. If he prefers to be clean shaven but she likes him scruffy, and he chooses to do what she likes because it makes her happy, that is his choice but you don't get to undermine it just because y'all refer beards yourself. That just seems like hate on him for no reason. Yes shaving and cutting hair isn't a large sacrifice on the surface, but he is still altering his preferred looks to match his wife's preference. IDK, maybe I just don't understand, but I could never just outright disrespect my husband like that. I wouldn't NOT get a tattoo if I wanted one. But I would have conversations with him about it, my feelings about it, why I want it, and letting him know when I will be getting the tattoo. My husband is so kind and loving to me so I would view his behavior as more of anxiety/OCD and I would manage it that way. Yes we are all adults but we can still have feelings and reactions we don't understand or aren't proud of. A supportive spouse would help them understand (to a point of course). I was fully committed to YTA for this one but as the story continued it just seemed like the husband trying to talk to his wife about her sudden behavior and her shutting him down because he wasn't happy about her choice. Then jumping to a rash response of "Then Ill have them removed if you hate them so much." THAT sounds like something a child would say. He has every right to not want to spend possibly thousands of $$$$ on a vacation that is ruined by this cloud hanging over the relationship. The tattoos are NOT the problem imo. The attitude of the wife is. I wouldnt pay for a vacation either until we had a civil conversation and I felt like I could actually enjoy it. We can just stay home if we are gonna fight the whole time. To add on to what I don't understand, people who act like random behavior changes aren't weird af. In my world a behavior change like not wanting a tattoo and then suddenly getting 2 visible tattoos even after having convos with your spouse about them genuinely not liking them, just no word suddenly getting a tattoo and then pretending there was never a previous convo about it.. it would make me ask my one friend if she was having a manic episode. Or my other friends/family if they are depressed/suicidal. Or some friends if they are having affairs. Because people don't just suddenly do things without reason. If she was a woman who frequently changed her appearance I would tell him to stuff it, you knew what you signed up for. But if you are driving down a lane steadily and then suddenly jerk the wheel hard to the left, dont be shocked when everyone else in the car with you lurches awake and asks questions.
my thoughts exactly. Getting another tattoo is fine, but the neck placement (especially if its easily seen) feels spiteful towards the husband. There are so many more discrete locations she could have chosen from that would have been more respectful of his opinion. If you are going to deliberately go against someone's wishes, at least have the decency to warn them. Springing it on him like its a happy surprise when she knows for a fact its not is setting them up for a fight. Then, when he is validly upset about the situation she tells him hes being too sensitive. In the story it sounds like the wife was the one who suggested removing it to appease him. While I dont think she needs to remove it if she genuinely likes it , this guy is getting the shit on more than he deserves. This is more of an ESH.
@@dylancobalt7807 thats right, it is her body and she has every right to cover it in tattoos if she wants. Your response to me says that you either didnt read my comment or you didnt understand it. So let me try to clarify for you with less noise. I think she has every right to get tattoos. But she should be open to having a conversation about them. If you never want to have a conversation about your choices then stay single. Please. It will save everyone involved the headache of trying to explain to you common courtesy, respect of your partner, respect for your relationship, compromise, and working towards a common goal.
@@counterwolf920 exactly! I dont get the blind hatred for the husband bc people dont seem to understand how to communicate effectively in a relationship. You can 100% get what you want and make your partner happy. And honestly wild to me she found a shop that was willing to do such visible placement so early on. The shops I go to require you to be pretty well inked before they will do anything above the shirt line. You MIGHT be able to get around it with a waiver. But usually a good artist takes into account if you are new bc it is so easy to regret a tattoo. Which is a headache for them.
Some people aren't compatible. Guy doesn't like tattoos. Girl likes getting them. Everyone has preferences. Nothing wrong with it. But it does suck when they don't agree on certain things.
I’ve had a few partners lie to me about wanting kids to get into a relationship with me. When I have found out I terminated the relationships. Not that they were the greatest partners to begin with but I tolerated a lot… but kids is something I’m very open about being a deal breaker for me.
I think I said this on another video but I got sick and Caleb and Kris got me through it individually and in these collab videos. Your serial killers and conspiracy videos got me through the worst cold I’ve ever had. Thank you for the awesome content!
I was married at 23.. 😢 wish I would have waited.. and we had a child 4 years later.. so 27.. I was happy and upset at the same time because I was going to leave my cheating ass husband.. . but I stayed with him for the sake of our child. Advice... If your husband or wife is cheating on you do not stay with them for ANY REASON! It doesn't matter if they say they will never do it again. THEY WILL!
With the first AITA he was clearly apposed to tattoos all together and compromised his beliefs the first time bacause it was his name. Then after being asked to not get any more tattoos, something he has established he dislikes, she get another one and acts like its not a problem.
But it is also her physical self. It’s like if someone gains weight or looses weight, it honestly has nothing to do with your partner. Break up. You can’t control someone’s body.
Still, it’s not normal to get that mad. It’s her body, and it was just a design on her neck, he could try to ignore it. She’s an adult. He said he didn’t want her to get a tattoo, she made a decision with that knowledge. If he leaves or gives her a reason to leave, good riddance
Exactly... clearly he felt strongly about it... then she not only gets it, but she sneaks around to do it. Talk things out people... if anyone in the comments is in a relationship, I have concerns regarding their communication skills with their partners lol
@@wynstonevatt6920 Yeah and it's his choice to dislike them, and she chose to ignore what he dislikes and do it as if in order to piss him off. He is right to be angry, she is right in doing whatever she wants, he is completely right to leave her
@@wynstonevatt6920I think you’re off the mark here. It’s not about it being her body. It’s about lack of communication and respect for your partner. What if he decided to get a heart tattoo of his ex-lover on his neck and on top of that didn’t tell her. No one in their right mind would argue “but it’s his body!”. We’d obviously see this as a major violation of trust in the relationship. Making a semi permanent alteration to your body of something your partner obviously wouldn’t like is not a “it’s my body” argument when it comes to the fact the relationships are about mutual feelings and people making long term decisions with consideration of their partner. I’m not saying she can’t be “allowed” to get a tattoo…but she has to be honest and think if this tattoo is more important to her than her relationship with this person. Maybe breaking up and then getting the tattoo you want is the right choice, instead of inviting conflict and mistrust in your relationship.
I don't think the guy who didn't want his wife to get tattoos is about control. I think he genuinely doesn't like tattoos on people. And he asked his wife not to get anymore but she did anyhow and it made him feel bad. I don't feel at all that she "went against his wishes" but rather that she did something she knew he felt was distasteful and was maybe a turnoff for him, but she did it anyhow even though she knew he wouldn't like it. Some people just don't like tattoos and find them unattractive.
My husband is like this. I have multiple tattoos and had a couple before we got married. I have more now and we're still married. He has always told me he doesn't really care for them. I don't get them to spite him. All of my tattoos were completely hidden by normal clothing until he asked me to get a couples tattoo with him on our 15 yr anniversary. I have 2 other regularly visible tattoos since that one. That is the only one he has. I say that to say it's not about spite or going against his wishes. I also don't do it behind his back and we have a full on discussion before hand. I'm entitled to be and look as I desire, as does he. I don't have a full sleeve as I want or my whole back as I want because I do want to be attractive in his eyes, but ultimately it's my body.
It is about control, when he tries to make her change or feel bad about it. She did something he didn't approve of, so he punishes her for that. This IS controlling behavior. Your partners opinion on something is to be considered, but in the end they should respect your choices and love you none the less.
@@inmay4446agreed but you also have to understand the consequences of your actions. If he doesn’t find it attractive and you get one and he in turn doesn’t find you attractive anymore then it it what it is
@@TrevReese81 agreed. And I would expect my partner to talk about it with me. Highly sus that she didn't. But honestly I would be glad to get rid of him. Because even if we don't alter our bodies by choice, our bodies will change with time. And if such a superficial thing is a dealbreaker, what happens if she gets wrinkly and old, or if she gains some weight (maybe due to a pregnancy)? Will someone like that just opt out because that's not attractive to him anymore?
I know it's a big trend to do these Reddit stories but I hope you and Caleb do more and I wouldn't mind a slightly longer one! Both of your perspectives are unique and I like hearing you talk through things when you don't agree on the verdict!
With regards to the tattoo story, I would say there were faults on both sides. As a married man myself, I know full well that my wife and I have to almost always sacrifice for each other, but we couldn't be happier. Of course a woman has every say of what's on her body, so if a boyfriend tried to stop her he would be in the wrong, but a married couple is a different situation in my opinion. It's all about mutual respect and ensuring both parties are happy with their own decisions as well as the decisions of their spouse.
tattoo story-- some guys are REALLY like that unfortunately and we don't find out til AFTER we've been together for awhile, or we don't think it's that serious. i used to date someone who hated tattoos and body piercings and "wouldn't allow" me to get any.... we broke up a few months later and i finally got the lip ring i always wanted. i now have 4 tattoos (and counting). no regrets.
Petition to make this the official intro. But like the Caleb playing the xylophone thingy as background music with Kris singing 😂😂😂😂 also I think someone should clip every time they sing or play music and make a video of it 😂
My EX husband told me he didnt want kids after we were married and together for 7 years. He went from Yes babies > Maybe Babies > One baby > Having a baby for you not for me > no babies. -.-
When my now husband and I were first together I thought I was willing to have kids, but felt like I had to and didn’t have much of a choice (how I was raised!! Not how this relationship went). But after about a year of marriage I had finally realized that having kids was something I never wanted, and I really could not see myself ever being a mother. I sat down with my husband and prefaced that I completely understood if he wanted to end our marriage after our conversation. I made sure he knew he had an out and I’d take all of the blame for our relationship and marriage ending, I did not want him to feel trapped. I told him I didn’t want kids and that I refused to have kids, and I told him all of my reasons. And made sure he knew that even if I ever “changed my mind” (everyone thinks that you’ll change your mind about not wanting kids🙃), I did not want biological kids. I’d be willing to look into fostering and possibly adopting older kids if I ever regretted not having kids or changed my mind. That man laughed at me and told me I was crazy for thinking he’d ever want to leave me, even if I didn’t want kids and he kind of did want them. I’ve brought it up a few times through the years to make sure he’s still okay with not having children, and made sure he knows that I could never hold it against him if he had to leave because of this. But he hasn’t, and won’t. We’ve talked very openly about all of this, and are on the same page. It was scary to have that conversation, I assumed it would be the end of us, but I HAD to be open and honest. I definitely vote that the second person is NOT the asshole. He changed his mind and their futures didn’t align because it was something extremely important to the OP. It’s a bummer that his mind changed, but I don’t think he’s the asshole either. He came to terms with how he truly felt and opened up to OP, but he had to know that not having kids could be a deal breaker for OP. I hope OP finds everything they want in life and their future hopes and dreams come to fruition with someone just as passionate about those hopes and dreams. But no one is the asshole and no one should feel bad.
For the first guy. I'm sorry but he's not the asshole. If you are really turned off by tattoos so you marry someone who does not have them and then they get one.... in such a public place..... No, he has a right to be upset. (I am a woman before you "her body her choice" me.
Disagree because of the force part. You can dislike tattoos and you can even tell your partner you prefer they don't have one. But if they get one and it's a deal breaker, you end the relationship and not force them to undergo a very painful surgical procedure
I do not think it’s a ‘her body, her choice’. I think it’s a human body thing. If I gain weight or loose weight and my partner doesn’t like it, I’m not getting surgery to change it. If you do not like someone’s physical changes, leave. Do not force them to change back. ‘Forced’ to remove is controlling language.
My dad is highly against Tattoos, and my mom got two tattoos and told my dad to suck it up because it's HER body and he doesn't OWN her body. If my dad was so highly against Tattoos, he should have married someone who had the same stance. My dad also says the same thing about me and my sister since we both have tattoos and says how "he likes it how he made us" and we both tell him we can decorate our bodies however we please
I have an opposite situation to my future husband as the second one. We both agreed NO CHILDREN... until his brother had a child. Now he demands one. I dont know if I should leave or just stand firm on "no." He cant take my birth control away from me, so not much he can do there. I dont know.
I'm of a different generation, so there's that, but my husband was triggered by tattoos--he hated them. I would never have even consider getting one because of that. I see both sides to that story, and his reaction was asshole-ish. But the fact that she got one where he had specifically said he didn't like them? Well there is definitely a problem there as well. If it IS about control, then he's an asshole, but it definitely could have been a total lack of consideration on her part as well.... why am I writing so much about this?! LOL
Re: tattoo removal. As someone who has about thirteen tattoos, most of them large pieces, I don’t think it’s about control. I think it’s about compromise and respect. I am with the love of my life, who does not have one stitch of ink on him. He has mentioned he does not care for neck tattoos or knuckle tatts, both of which I talked about getting. Because I LOVE him and RESPECT his feelings, I have let those ideas go. He is more important to me than my own selfishness. He also makes concessions for me, because he loves & respects me. If she really cared about him she wouldn’t go and do things he specifically tells her he doesn’t like……IMO. She should grow up. It sounds like she may be one of those toxic girls who purposely does things to start problems/ drama……self destructive. 😒🙄
In the first one, it does sound like she deliberately went against her husband and got the tattoo. They lack respect for each other. My husband would be really upset if I went and got a a tattoo but he has made it clear he doesn’t like tattoos, and I wouldn’t just go out and do it anyways because I love and respect him.
Thts how I viewed it. I saw it less than a control thing n more of a betrayal n lack of respect. Like if he openly expressed he doesn't like tatts n she went b behind his back n got one anyway. he described his distaste for them numerous times n she went teehee did it anyways n acted surprised at his reaction. Like wth did she think? Tht he'd magically b ok with it?
See this is something I disagree with. Unless you’re both inherently against tattoos. And even then, people change their minds. Otherwise, you’re controlling the other person’s body. Like no I probably won’t ever get a tattoo. The likelihood of me getting one is like 1% but I would feel iffy af if my partner tells me they forbid me of getting one. It just gives a bad precedent for other things. If I wanted someone to forbid me from doing things that have nothing to do with them, I’ll just go back to my parents.
@hajarmdn4883 If you told your partner you preferred them with longer hair and when you got together they had long hair. And all of a sudden decided they surgically made themselves permanently bald would you have an issue with that?
With that first story, the dude is most definitely the a-hole. But! Both parties are problematic. Yes, it all starts with the dude dismissing her autonomy because of his preferences. But that should have honestly been the reason that she just broke it off or, at the very least, said, "I want this, and I am getting it, period." But the fact that she entertained him and then went and got it behind his back makes it a two-way toxic street, in my opinion.
I love these vids, the way I laughed at the mustache finger tattoo comment.(don't worry i'm still tempted to get the mustache nose ring for funsies.) The controlling dude is a walking red flag, no hes a frigging blinking red strobe light. The engagement, not an ass, sometimes we grow and change and that leads to growing apart. Not a bad thing to leave when you see that the path is going away from what you were looking for. It would be worse to stay in a relationship out of settling.
I once had a guy tell me to remove my tattoos, so I said "ok. but you're paying for it." That shut him up real quick. Would've cost him *thousands*
Well that’s one way to shut up a man
🎶Geniusssss🎶
That's a bit different than your first tattoo being your SO's name when you know they don't like tattoos
@@lavarelease2928doesn’t matter if they don’t like tattoos. You don’t get to tell your partner they can’t get a tattoo because you don’t like them. The name thing is ick and never a good idea. But either way her body
@@mandachris7146 That was my main issue, the name. Just a bad omen
I will say, I married someone who said they would have children with me. After 3 years of marriage he changed his mind. 3 years later we divorced. I am now happily remarried and a mother of 4. Some things are none negotiable.
Exactly. Mine was the opposite. He changed his mind about wanting children. I had a range of genetic issues that made me completely infertile and I simply had no mothering instincts, unless it was four legged with fur. Broke my heart, but I needed to leave and I did. He met a lovely woman a couple years later and they had two beautiful daughters (we stayed in touch for a few years after the split - better friends than partners). I moved on with my life, found my happiness as well and 20 years later, no regrets.
7:30 my husband told me he didn’t want kids when we first got together. He used prophylactics but super fertile me got pregnant pretty quick. He wasn’t sure and I told him he could step away if he didn’t wanna be a dad. I didn’t want our son growing up with a father who had one foot in and one foot out, and who’s always disappointing him. But he chose to stay. We got married when our son was 10 months old. We just celebrated our twentieth wedding anniversary this past August 25. And added two more sons to our family. He even legally adopted my oldest son (his biological father died when my son was 5 months old). So a man who said he didn’t want kids or to get married ended up being the best father and husband anyone could ever hope for.
That’s sweet
Ok but that’s your experience. If someone doesn’t want kids but you do you don’t get to force a child on anyone. Some of know and have always known we never want kids and know that won’t change
@@mandachris7146 I’m not saying everyone will change their mind. I’m saying some people don’t know they want kids until they’re here.
@@mandachris7146 and you can be sure you don’t engage in the act that can make them if you can’t handle maybe creating them. Or sterilization.
I’m not saying it’s right to get pregnant on purpose or anything if the guy doesn’t want kids. But it seems like guys are a lot of times not ready or will never say they’re ready or willing, but if a kid happens sometimes they’ll realize it’s awesome. Or even if they want kids they’ll have issues actually being like “ok let’s try” or whatever lol. Of course they may not and just nope out but I’ve seen many guys that were either not interested or didn’t really want kids end up good dads. Not to mention if you’re sexual active there’s almost also a possibility of getting pregnant lol. Vasectomy’s fail, BC fails all the time etc.
"🎵 am i thee assssshhhhooollleeeee🎵"
Beautiful words
The camera couldn't decide who the lead singer was
am i the aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaassssssssssssholeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Caleb with the “tramp stamp” blurred out motions 😂😂😂
As men, we think tramp stamps are .... bad lol but if it's our girl, we love it. I don't understand either lol
@@Draco_Zakaiyou're so cringe 😅
honestly kris and caleb are definitely my favourite yt couple, so cute together
They are
I agree
if my relationship is not like that i don't want it
Right they kinda give Jenna and Julian vibes 💛🥹
I miss the pink shirt couple😭😭😭😭 my three favorites Brooke Monk and her boyfriend and obviously Kris and Caleb And Lexi and Austin.
I love how they match each other's vibe perfectly
Kris and Caleb are literally soulmates I love them both
The way my JAW DROPPED when Caleb read that first story’s bit about the wife “slipping from under his control!” Lord… this man is wildly insane, but I’ve known many men like that. Caleb is just too pure for this one…. Bless his hawttt 🥰
Caleb ad libbed that line about control.
@@stepgamerdadyeah but it’s pretty accurate to the story. “My wife did something I didn’t approve of so I’m mad”
@@jellykat5005 If *you* were to tell your partner that you explicitly did not like something, and your partner went and did exactly that thing, you would be mad, too. Anybody saying anything else is delusional.
The issue is not the supposed "controlling behavior", nor is it about the tattoos. A marriage is a union of equals, and OP's wife is clearly demonstrating that she does not view OP as an equal, because she disregards OP's concerns twice, over the exact same issue.
@@stepgamerdadultimately OP asked if he was the asshole for making his wife remove the tattoo, to which the answer is yes. Regardless of how they got to the situation, he doesn’t get to decide what she can and can’t do with her body. Does he have a say with what she does with her body? A bit, he can tell her that the haircut she wants to get will be a bad idea, for example, and she can choose to heed his advice or not. But he can’t straight up tell her to get a specific haircut for him that’s too controlling
Don't know, sounds like he does things for her he'd rather not do and she doesn't, something permanent compared to shaving. Seems like they need to communicate things better, but I wouldn't call either an asshole.
Even when they're commenting, he says "I know you wouldn't do that" and "you'd tell me".
My husband doesn't really care for tattoos. I had gotten 2 before we were married, during one of our break-ups (we've been together since I was in 9th grade 21years married 17.) I have since marriage gotten 7 more and had a couple the color sessions. He still doesn't care for tattoos but for our 15yr anniversary he surprisingly invited me to get matching tattoos which he picked out and the placement. It's the only one he has. I say all that to say he has never belittled me or talked about my appearance, or told me no when I've said that I have an appointment. I appreciate the respect he has for me.
Kids got to be mutual if one doesnt want them and one does then your not for each other and should be able to move on and still be friends if both choose to be.
Exactly. I have known since middle school I don’t want kids. I say up front while dating that as to not waste anyone’s time. However I have dated someone and then was in a serious relationship when they told me 4 years in they were hoping I would change my mind. I didn’t and told him it wasn’t going to work out because my mind isn’t changing.
@@mandachris7146 That sucks. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Especially when you put that much time into a relationship.
@@sashacasson7325 it took a while to deal with. I ended up getting early onset menopause at the age of 33/34 and so being able to say I physically can’t has actually made it easier. It just sucks that it didn’t get easier until my mid 30s. Thank you though♥️
4:47
Kris: *Gets a trampstamp*
Celeb: "Wtf?...... bedroom now"
That was funny asf😂
LMAOAO
I love how Kris and Caleb just progressively more chaotic and weird in a good way as their videos progress
0:05 ABSOLUTE VOCALSSSS JUST ASECENDED TO THE HEAVENS THANK U
9:37 bekky bekky boo boo👹
Iconic
2:38 one of my friends was dating a guy for at least two years and as soon as she started wanting to get tattoos he was completely against so she broke it off now she’s a badass with muscles and tattoos and so much happier than when she was with him
i am in the process of getting my uterus taken out (still trying to convince my doctor) and i have a boyfriend te FIRST thing i did was talk about our futur with him and was ready to end our relationship if he wanted kids of his own cause i did not want to be the thing stopping him from having children, its okay to break up with someone over familly goals so long as you talk properly about it and stay polite
Honestly, these 2 seem like such a perfect couple. Their chemistry just makes me smile every time
Every time Caleb and kris are together.
One piece of my life is happier
I´m happily childfree and before I had a bf I was always really clear from the first day of talking that I do not ever want kids, and also can´t physically have biological ones anyway. I told my boyfriends mother I can´t have kids the first time I met her lol. If my boyfriend told me tomorrow that he suddenly wants kids then he would have to find someone else no matter how bad that would suck because neither one of us should sacrifice something so huge in our lives, and all kids deserve parents who want them.
That's how I feel too. I do not want children and I make it very clear to anyone who romantically wants to be with me bc I'm not gonna take their chances of having a family away but I'm also not gonna make myself have a whole different life than what I planned bc they want a family with me. There are billions of ppl out there and I'm sure one will match me better than staying with someone who does want children no matter how bad I wanna be with them
@@AtlasintokyoDivorced men with kids will make a perfect match! 👍🥰
@@IN-hw8it6 they said they didn’t want kids so divorced men with kids won’t work….
I love Kris’s TikTok videos and I’ve watched oompa for YEARS. I was today years old when I realized that they are a power couple that I love more than life itself.
8:47 😂 they comb my mustache nooooooooo🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Kris and Caleb’s dynamic is everything, I want a relationship like that someday 😂
I knew a person that was trying to keep their partner (LDR) from getting their ears pierced, other piercings, tattoos, etc. When their partner one day did get ear-rings, said person nearly went crazy over how their partner could "sully" their body in that way. Needless to say I don't have any contact to that person anymore. Overbearingly controlling partners are a nogo.
Your point is you left that relationship. OP stated he was against them and she went ahead and got TWO anyway. So who is the controlling one here??
4:56 I think that the best part is that this part is blurred 😂😂😂
Real, Jay cooked
First guy should file for divorce and say "Good luck finding a guy with the same name."
*0:07* Love the way u and caleb harmonized 😂😂😂. The only thing we need is the guitar!!!
They're so Good even a Ukulele would work well for them! 😄
The harmonizing and the focus shifting was perfect 😂
My friend had a similar situation, wife got some random Harry Potter tattoo on her lower back and my friend was pissed for awhile, his wife used the 'my body' defense. He got over it after a little while and things moved on. About a year later he shaved his head and his wife kicked him out of the house until it grew back....I guess the 'my body' defense only works one way.
Ok but it is her body and it shouldn't matter for his hair either. Both sound immature and better apart. Who cares if she got a tattoo. It's not offensive or negative. I get if they have a boundary of discussing body modifications beforehand but you can't rly say no lol. You can leave if you don't like the tattoo but you can't say no. She can leave if she doesn't like his haircut but she can't tell him no. It works both ways if you can't respect your partners independence of their own body then don't date or marry another living individual bc they are gonna eventually make a choice you don't agree with bc they have their own life and body too you just happen to know them and be in their life too.
@@Atlasintokyo that’s a long comment
yeah, that didn't happen. this is one of your incel rage fantasies.
@@Morning4201 uhhh ok weirdo.
Kris and caleb are one of the best of couple on TH-cam
these are so entertaining! thank you so much kris for all that you do! love you so much!
MORE AM I THE ASSHOLE AND WE ALL CHEERED 🎉🥳
Need AITA vids daily😂
I creamed 🎉
A house with caleb and kris ia never silent nor boring 😂
You two are literally me and my boyfriend personality and communication wise. It just cements the fact that he and I are meant to be together more. You two are the best
I love seeing the two of you having so much fun in videos. ❤
0:07 Kris and Caleb should be an opera duo tbh.
I love how these two match eachovers energy perfectly-
I freaking love LOVE how silly you guys are together so so cute❤❤
It kills me how much Caleb is like my fiancée 😂 i love watching your guys’ relationship grow
My go to videos when i'm having a crap day, you and Caleb are such an iconic duo its hilarious! Ty!!
Also slaying the glasses!
Why is no one mentioning that in story 1 the guy has made his preference clear and has set a boundary, which she 100% crossed. Bear in mind some people aren't compatible with each other for reasons that others find trivial, and that's their lives, their preferences, their choice.
Needs more context but (given how strongly he feels about this) I feel safe assuming that this was discussed much earlier in their relationship, and the fact that they are now married means that either a compromise had been agreed upon or she outright chose that being with him was more important to her than getting tattoos. She then went against his wishes AND behind his back not once, but twice which screams to me wanting to have her cake and eat it too. "I've played nice long enough to get the man secured and locked down, now lets get those tattoos." To me it's the principle of the trust that has been broken by her actions, then to have the audacity to gaslight him to make him feel like the asshole. Then on top of that, for Kris and Caleb to openly mock him about this is actually quite horrible.
And to keep calling him controlling when I see it as her by doing exactly what she knows he has stated and a boundary but goes and does it anyway.
Making her the controlling one.
For the tattoo one, my only thought against her is the fact that she married a man that she was well aware did not like tattoos. Men that dont like tattoos always have to tell you ASAP. Told her before and after she got her first tattoo. Told her again when she joked about getting another neck tattoo. So she cant play the "I didn't know you had negative feelings about this" card. You did. You wanted the tattoo regardless of what he said (which is well within your right) and you got it. Own it and work through the consequences. No shame! But telling your spouse they are a child after they have told you a STRONG preference and believed you to be on the same page, is not it. Especially when you act like they are surprises for HIM. Like wtf??
Also him keeping a beard for respect for HER preferences, isn't something to laugh at. If he prefers to be clean shaven but she likes him scruffy, and he chooses to do what she likes because it makes her happy, that is his choice but you don't get to undermine it just because y'all refer beards yourself. That just seems like hate on him for no reason. Yes shaving and cutting hair isn't a large sacrifice on the surface, but he is still altering his preferred looks to match his wife's preference.
IDK, maybe I just don't understand, but I could never just outright disrespect my husband like that. I wouldn't NOT get a tattoo if I wanted one. But I would have conversations with him about it, my feelings about it, why I want it, and letting him know when I will be getting the tattoo. My husband is so kind and loving to me so I would view his behavior as more of anxiety/OCD and I would manage it that way. Yes we are all adults but we can still have feelings and reactions we don't understand or aren't proud of. A supportive spouse would help them understand (to a point of course).
I was fully committed to YTA for this one but as the story continued it just seemed like the husband trying to talk to his wife about her sudden behavior and her shutting him down because he wasn't happy about her choice. Then jumping to a rash response of "Then Ill have them removed if you hate them so much." THAT sounds like something a child would say.
He has every right to not want to spend possibly thousands of $$$$ on a vacation that is ruined by this cloud hanging over the relationship. The tattoos are NOT the problem imo. The attitude of the wife is. I wouldnt pay for a vacation either until we had a civil conversation and I felt like I could actually enjoy it. We can just stay home if we are gonna fight the whole time.
To add on to what I don't understand, people who act like random behavior changes aren't weird af. In my world a behavior change like not wanting a tattoo and then suddenly getting 2 visible tattoos even after having convos with your spouse about them genuinely not liking them, just no word suddenly getting a tattoo and then pretending there was never a previous convo about it.. it would make me ask my one friend if she was having a manic episode. Or my other friends/family if they are depressed/suicidal. Or some friends if they are having affairs. Because people don't just suddenly do things without reason.
If she was a woman who frequently changed her appearance I would tell him to stuff it, you knew what you signed up for.
But if you are driving down a lane steadily and then suddenly jerk the wheel hard to the left, dont be shocked when everyone else in the car with you lurches awake and asks questions.
Her body her choice
my thoughts exactly. Getting another tattoo is fine, but the neck placement (especially if its easily seen) feels spiteful towards the husband. There are so many more discrete locations she could have chosen from that would have been more respectful of his opinion. If you are going to deliberately go against someone's wishes, at least have the decency to warn them. Springing it on him like its a happy surprise when she knows for a fact its not is setting them up for a fight. Then, when he is validly upset about the situation she tells him hes being too sensitive. In the story it sounds like the wife was the one who suggested removing it to appease him. While I dont think she needs to remove it if she genuinely likes it , this guy is getting the shit on more than he deserves. This is more of an ESH.
@@counterwolf920 ya if my husband grew a mustache without my permission or got a tattoo definitely leave him. He is my property after all!
@@dylancobalt7807 thats right, it is her body and she has every right to cover it in tattoos if she wants. Your response to me says that you either didnt read my comment or you didnt understand it. So let me try to clarify for you with less noise.
I think she has every right to get tattoos. But she should be open to having a conversation about them. If you never want to have a conversation about your choices then stay single. Please. It will save everyone involved the headache of trying to explain to you common courtesy, respect of your partner, respect for your relationship, compromise, and working towards a common goal.
@@counterwolf920 exactly! I dont get the blind hatred for the husband bc people dont seem to understand how to communicate effectively in a relationship.
You can 100% get what you want and make your partner happy. And honestly wild to me she found a shop that was willing to do such visible placement so early on. The shops I go to require you to be pretty well inked before they will do anything above the shirt line. You MIGHT be able to get around it with a waiver. But usually a good artist takes into account if you are new bc it is so easy to regret a tattoo. Which is a headache for them.
4:43 a wild Sheldon Cooper makes a cameo
9:24 I DROPPED MY COKE WHEN SHE PICKED UP HER DRINK THE SAME TIME AS ME 😭
😂
I love that they joke around so much but Kris has to reassure her fans that it’s a joke all the time just in case 😂
Kris and Caleb are the best couple ever,with their funny energy!!❤😊
Yay a new video! It’s 4am in Sydney Australia and thus is just what I needed to wind down 🥰 Lots of love! 🩷
hey kris I love ur content so much and i can truthfuly say you have saved my life. Love u and keep up the good work❤️
The way Kris and Caleb always match eachothers energy! I love watching them together 😂😊
thanks for posting! just sprained my ankle and now I have something to watch while I'm UNABLE TO MOVE
Same.
@@eryuu4016 the kallmekris fandom has been cursed ._.
I was just watching the other ones, day has been made
Some people aren't compatible. Guy doesn't like tattoos. Girl likes getting them. Everyone has preferences. Nothing wrong with it. But it does suck when they don't agree on certain things.
I’ve had a few partners lie to me about wanting kids to get into a relationship with me. When I have found out I terminated the relationships. Not that they were the greatest partners to begin with but I tolerated a lot… but kids is something I’m very open about being a deal breaker for me.
telling her early on he doesnt like tattoos and she clearly wanted tattoos she shouldn’t have stayed with them since they have separate world views
I think the discussion of tattoos and body art and all that needs to happen BEFORE anything permanent is done.
0:07 beautiful singing intro 🙌🏻🙌🏻
I think I said this on another video but I got sick and Caleb and Kris got me through it individually and in these collab videos. Your serial killers and conspiracy videos got me through the worst cold I’ve ever had. Thank you for the awesome content!
I was married at 23.. 😢 wish I would have waited.. and we had a child 4 years later.. so 27.. I was happy and upset at the same time because I was going to leave my cheating ass husband.. . but I stayed with him for the sake of our child.
Advice... If your husband or wife is cheating on you do not stay with them for ANY REASON! It doesn't matter if they say they will never do it again. THEY WILL!
With the first AITA he was clearly apposed to tattoos all together and compromised his beliefs the first time bacause it was his name. Then after being asked to not get any more tattoos, something he has established he dislikes, she get another one and acts like its not a problem.
But it is also her physical self. It’s like if someone gains weight or looses weight, it honestly has nothing to do with your partner. Break up. You can’t control someone’s body.
Still, it’s not normal to get that mad. It’s her body, and it was just a design on her neck, he could try to ignore it. She’s an adult. He said he didn’t want her to get a tattoo, she made a decision with that knowledge. If he leaves or gives her a reason to leave, good riddance
Exactly... clearly he felt strongly about it... then she not only gets it, but she sneaks around to do it. Talk things out people... if anyone in the comments is in a relationship, I have concerns regarding their communication skills with their partners lol
@@wynstonevatt6920 Yeah and it's his choice to dislike them, and she chose to ignore what he dislikes and do it as if in order to piss him off. He is right to be angry, she is right in doing whatever she wants, he is completely right to leave her
@@wynstonevatt6920I think you’re off the mark here. It’s not about it being her body. It’s about lack of communication and respect for your partner. What if he decided to get a heart tattoo of his ex-lover on his neck and on top of that didn’t tell her. No one in their right mind would argue “but it’s his body!”. We’d obviously see this as a major violation of trust in the relationship. Making a semi permanent alteration to your body of something your partner obviously wouldn’t like is not a “it’s my body” argument when it comes to the fact the relationships are about mutual feelings and people making long term decisions with consideration of their partner.
I’m not saying she can’t be “allowed” to get a tattoo…but she has to be honest and think if this tattoo is more important to her than her relationship with this person. Maybe breaking up and then getting the tattoo you want is the right choice, instead of inviting conflict and mistrust in your relationship.
0:13 me and the gang:
Real
I don't think the guy who didn't want his wife to get tattoos is about control. I think he genuinely doesn't like tattoos on people. And he asked his wife not to get anymore but she did anyhow and it made him feel bad. I don't feel at all that she "went against his wishes" but rather that she did something she knew he felt was distasteful and was maybe a turnoff for him, but she did it anyhow even though she knew he wouldn't like it. Some people just don't like tattoos and find them unattractive.
My husband is like this. I have multiple tattoos and had a couple before we got married. I have more now and we're still married. He has always told me he doesn't really care for them. I don't get them to spite him. All of my tattoos were completely hidden by normal clothing until he asked me to get a couples tattoo with him on our 15 yr anniversary. I have 2 other regularly visible tattoos since that one. That is the only one he has. I say that to say it's not about spite or going against his wishes. I also don't do it behind his back and we have a full on discussion before hand. I'm entitled to be and look as I desire, as does he. I don't have a full sleeve as I want or my whole back as I want because I do want to be attractive in his eyes, but ultimately it's my body.
It is about control, when he tries to make her change or feel bad about it. She did something he didn't approve of, so he punishes her for that. This IS controlling behavior. Your partners opinion on something is to be considered, but in the end they should respect your choices and love you none the less.
@@inmay4446agreed but you also have to understand the consequences of your actions. If he doesn’t find it attractive and you get one and he in turn doesn’t find you attractive anymore then it it what it is
@@TrevReese81 agreed. And I would expect my partner to talk about it with me. Highly sus that she didn't. But honestly I would be glad to get rid of him. Because even if we don't alter our bodies by choice, our bodies will change with time. And if such a superficial thing is a dealbreaker, what happens if she gets wrinkly and old, or if she gains some weight (maybe due to a pregnancy)? Will someone like that just opt out because that's not attractive to him anymore?
@@inmay4446 completely agree. It’s all about communication in the end
My favorite duo! I love all the content you two make together :D
I know it's a big trend to do these Reddit stories but I hope you and Caleb do more and I wouldn't mind a slightly longer one! Both of your perspectives are unique and I like hearing you talk through things when you don't agree on the verdict!
With regards to the tattoo story, I would say there were faults on both sides. As a married man myself, I know full well that my wife and I have to almost always sacrifice for each other, but we couldn't be happier. Of course a woman has every say of what's on her body, so if a boyfriend tried to stop her he would be in the wrong, but a married couple is a different situation in my opinion. It's all about mutual respect and ensuring both parties are happy with their own decisions as well as the decisions of their spouse.
I absolutely love you two together!!
This AITA vids are jus top notch, i rreally love seeing Caleb and kris together and the stories are just so enterteining😍💕LOVE YA💞
tattoo story-- some guys are REALLY like that unfortunately and we don't find out til AFTER we've been together for awhile, or we don't think it's that serious. i used to date someone who hated tattoos and body piercings and "wouldn't allow" me to get any.... we broke up a few months later and i finally got the lip ring i always wanted. i now have 4 tattoos (and counting). no regrets.
Petition to make this the official intro. But like the Caleb playing the xylophone thingy as background music with Kris singing 😂😂😂😂 also I think someone should clip every time they sing or play music and make a video of it 😂
I'll have to watch this fully later. I'm off to work now. Love you Kris and Caleb
❤❤❤
My EX husband told me he didnt want kids after we were married and together for 7 years. He went from Yes babies > Maybe Babies > One baby > Having a baby for you not for me > no babies. -.-
YAY!! Aunty Krissss!!!!
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS SERIES IT'S SO FUN
When my now husband and I were first together I thought I was willing to have kids, but felt like I had to and didn’t have much of a choice (how I was raised!! Not how this relationship went). But after about a year of marriage I had finally realized that having kids was something I never wanted, and I really could not see myself ever being a mother. I sat down with my husband and prefaced that I completely understood if he wanted to end our marriage after our conversation. I made sure he knew he had an out and I’d take all of the blame for our relationship and marriage ending, I did not want him to feel trapped. I told him I didn’t want kids and that I refused to have kids, and I told him all of my reasons. And made sure he knew that even if I ever “changed my mind” (everyone thinks that you’ll change your mind about not wanting kids🙃), I did not want biological kids. I’d be willing to look into fostering and possibly adopting older kids if I ever regretted not having kids or changed my mind. That man laughed at me and told me I was crazy for thinking he’d ever want to leave me, even if I didn’t want kids and he kind of did want them. I’ve brought it up a few times through the years to make sure he’s still okay with not having children, and made sure he knows that I could never hold it against him if he had to leave because of this. But he hasn’t, and won’t. We’ve talked very openly about all of this, and are on the same page. It was scary to have that conversation, I assumed it would be the end of us, but I HAD to be open and honest.
I definitely vote that the second person is NOT the asshole. He changed his mind and their futures didn’t align because it was something extremely important to the OP. It’s a bummer that his mind changed, but I don’t think he’s the asshole either. He came to terms with how he truly felt and opened up to OP, but he had to know that not having kids could be a deal breaker for OP. I hope OP finds everything they want in life and their future hopes and dreams come to fruition with someone just as passionate about those hopes and dreams. But no one is the asshole and no one should feel bad.
Omg at 5:00 lmfao!
Am I the only one who misses calling it "Am I the scallywag?"
Yeah I liked that
THE QUEEN HAS POSTED! omg I love seeing videos with both Kris and Caleb, huge fan!
"I feel unreasonable for ending a relationship over [the most reasonable thing to end a relationship over]"
Anyone else agree with me that Kris and Celeb and Celina and Adam are the best couples on TH-cam??
Hi Kris , you light up the world and I love your content thank you for posting. You’ve helped me through so much❤❤
0:05 loving the vocals
I truly love it when you guys do these
For the first guy. I'm sorry but he's not the asshole. If you are really turned off by tattoos so you marry someone who does not have them and then they get one.... in such a public place..... No, he has a right to be upset. (I am a woman before you "her body her choice" me.
Yes! I don’t think it has to do with control I think it boils down to respect to your partner.
I just thought that this one is both of them suck
Disagree because of the force part. You can dislike tattoos and you can even tell your partner you prefer they don't have one. But if they get one and it's a deal breaker, you end the relationship and not force them to undergo a very painful surgical procedure
I do not think it’s a ‘her body, her choice’. I think it’s a human body thing. If I gain weight or loose weight and my partner doesn’t like it, I’m not getting surgery to change it. If you do not like someone’s physical changes, leave. Do not force them to change back. ‘Forced’ to remove is controlling language.
My dad is highly against Tattoos, and my mom got two tattoos and told my dad to suck it up because it's HER body and he doesn't OWN her body. If my dad was so highly against Tattoos, he should have married someone who had the same stance. My dad also says the same thing about me and my sister since we both have tattoos and says how "he likes it how he made us" and we both tell him we can decorate our bodies however we please
I LOVE U KRIS❤❤❤!! WHEN IM FEELING DOWN U ALWAYS PICK ME UP😊😊!!!
who agree that caleb and kris are like the weirdest couple😂😂 but the most sweetest🥰
5:33 how do you go five years without having this conversation 😅
It's so fun to see Kris so happy❤❤❤
I have an opposite situation to my future husband as the second one. We both agreed NO CHILDREN... until his brother had a child. Now he demands one. I dont know if I should leave or just stand firm on "no." He cant take my birth control away from me, so not much he can do there. I dont know.
I'm of a different generation, so there's that, but my husband was triggered by tattoos--he hated them. I would never have even consider getting one because of that. I see both sides to that story, and his reaction was asshole-ish. But the fact that she got one where he had specifically said he didn't like them? Well there is definitely a problem there as well. If it IS about control, then he's an asshole, but it definitely could have been a total lack of consideration on her part as well.... why am I writing so much about this?! LOL
I agree with you. I think they were both assholes to put it simply. They both need to be more respectful to each other and need better communication.
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH KRIS!!! YOU LITTERALLY FIXED MY ANXIETY
The intro song needs to happen EVERY TIME...Obsessed
Re: tattoo removal. As someone who has about thirteen tattoos, most of them large pieces, I don’t think it’s about control. I think it’s about compromise and respect. I am with the love of my life, who does not have one stitch of ink on him. He has mentioned he does not care for neck tattoos or knuckle tatts, both of which I talked about getting. Because I LOVE him and RESPECT his feelings, I have let those ideas go. He is more important to me than my own selfishness. He also makes concessions for me, because he loves & respects me. If she really cared about him she wouldn’t go and do things he specifically tells her he doesn’t like……IMO. She should grow up. It sounds like she may be one of those toxic girls who purposely does things to start problems/ drama……self destructive. 😒🙄
Has anyone noticed how mellow Kris becomes whenever she’s with Caleb 😭
You guys are such nerds together and i love it!
4:12 “She better 👀She has too 👀” 😂😂
I watched this video on two times speed because I was on my break and it was the funniest thing I’ve ever seen try re-watching this in two times speed
The intro was fire!
In the first one, it does sound like she deliberately went against her husband and got the tattoo. They lack respect for each other. My husband would be really upset if I went and got a a tattoo but he has made it clear he doesn’t like tattoos, and I wouldn’t just go out and do it anyways because I love and respect him.
Thts how I viewed it. I saw it less than a control thing n more of a betrayal n lack of respect. Like if he openly expressed he doesn't like tatts n she went b behind his back n got one anyway. he described his distaste for them numerous times n she went teehee did it anyways n acted surprised at his reaction. Like wth did she think? Tht he'd magically b ok with it?
On the same token, he could’ve respected her decision and her body to get one. He didn’t have to demand her to get it removed.
See this is something I disagree with. Unless you’re both inherently against tattoos. And even then, people change their minds. Otherwise, you’re controlling the other person’s body. Like no I probably won’t ever get a tattoo. The likelihood of me getting one is like 1% but I would feel iffy af if my partner tells me they forbid me of getting one. It just gives a bad precedent for other things. If I wanted someone to forbid me from doing things that have nothing to do with them, I’ll just go back to my parents.
@@mcrchickenluvr He didn't demand it though, she was the one who suggest it since he disliked it that much...
@hajarmdn4883 If you told your partner you preferred them with longer hair and when you got together they had long hair. And all of a sudden decided they surgically made themselves permanently bald would you have an issue with that?
With that first story, the dude is most definitely the a-hole. But! Both parties are problematic. Yes, it all starts with the dude dismissing her autonomy because of his preferences. But that should have honestly been the reason that she just broke it off or, at the very least, said, "I want this, and I am getting it, period." But the fact that she entertained him and then went and got it behind his back makes it a two-way toxic street, in my opinion.
OMG! When ya'll were talking about her toes, I swear to god, I thought he said, "She combs my mustache, but no, not my asshole." 🤣🤣🤣
I just have one question… when are yall getting married? 😂😂😂❤❤❤
I love these vids, the way I laughed at the mustache finger tattoo comment.(don't worry i'm still tempted to get the mustache nose ring for funsies.)
The controlling dude is a walking red flag, no hes a frigging blinking red strobe light.
The engagement, not an ass, sometimes we grow and change and that leads to growing apart. Not a bad thing to leave when you see that the path is going away from what you were looking for. It would be worse to stay in a relationship out of settling.