She had the wedding booked for over a year. Her sister got pregnant after she booked everything. I wouldn't reschedule something that has been planned over a year. She can't expect everyone to put their lives on hold for the wedding but her sister also can't expect other people to put their stuff on hold because of her pregnancy.
Yeah and theres a chance she wont give birth on the due date, it could be a week later for all we know (unless its scheduled, and why would you schedule it for the same day as your siblings wedding?)
yea why isn't anyone blaming the sister for getting pregnant 9 months before the wedding. I get might of been a surprise pregnancy but she's the one to be blamed
Not only that, but the cancellation fees and having to rebook all over again. It would be extremely expensive to change the dates. Not even considering redoing and resending invitations, forcing family and friends to cancel flights, etc. etc. etc. We're talking thousands of dollars for this ordeal. It sucks sister may not be able to attend, but OP gave her options to be fair to everyone.
“rescheduling” a wedding would literally be paying for a second wedding as they dont just let you change dates once you pay for things. if the sister cant make it, she cant make it.
not to mention, only about 5% of women give birth on the due date (and that actually seems higher than I thought it would be as I have never known anyone who actually gave birth on the due date, some very close, but none on the actual day, even when it was a planned c-section)
Plus all the guests who may have already booked time off work / flights/ hotels. It's a really odd (maybe even AH) request to ask the couple to reschedule .
As someone who has 2 kids, the date is not 100% set unless it's a scheduled c-section. 😂 It varies. Weddings are usually saved and planned for years. Childbirth is so random it can't be 100% set in stone. Not the AH
Right, I know I kinda screwed with the doctors when I got born. I didn't come out at the due date and when they set a new date I decided to come out before that date.
Came to the comments to say just that. The odds of the sister going into labor the morning of the wedding is fairly slim. "Due" dates are just estimates and if it is a scheduled c-section then the pregnant party would be the a-hole for scheduling it on the day of the wedding.
Also why are they pretending the sister is gonna be in the room... Is she a doctor? Is she gonna bring that baby in this world? At the earliest she would be visiting the day after, so she can have her wedding just fine
First story: I, as a guest for an upcoming wedding next month, am going to be flying from halfway across the world to be there. Travel visas had to be obtained, time off work had to be requested, accommodation had to arranged and flight tickets have to be bought. Alot of money, time and effort had to go into planning this. And I'm only a GUEST. One of many. There are far more stakeholders involved in a wedding than a birth. I'm not going to compare which of the two milestones are more important because that's a matter of perspective, but a wedding has arguably more factors to be considered.
100%, once you get engaged and married your partner becomes your closest family and should be your top priority. not that that means your sister or parents arent important, but you are building a future family with your partner and that should be focused on first.
Yeah but not only that but breaking venue and vendor contracts can get so expensive then having to repay for the wedding to be later it makes it more expensive than before and I completely agree with you
I was going to say the cost. Some weddings get into 5 digits cost, and she is just expected to say oh well, guess I will lose that money then have to spend all of it again? What happens if she replans then her sister gets pregnant, and is due around that time again?
I think the sister and mother resenting the bride for not wanting to lose all that money on deposits and change everything for so many guests make them a-holes. That's the worst part of that first story.
@@NlNEFlNGERS I mean the parents chose their future grandchild over one of their children despite not having an exact date of the pregnancy. Plus, the wedding was set before the sister got pregnant. It's not like they couldn't have a smaller ceremony or get together with immediate family after the birth either.
@@NlNEFlNGERS Well, OP's family is her future husband, sister and parents are now secondary. And we can all be high and mighty about money not being important, but face it - weddings are very expensive, there are many nonrefundable deposits, rescheduling everything on a short notice (remember - the wedding was planned a year ahead) would be insanely expensive. That is money they might not have, or money they want to put towards a house or college funds for future kids. Not to mention all the guests, who might have booked flights, accomodation, got time off work. They might not be able to come for the new date. That includes OP's fiance's family. Yes, his family is also important. It may be dissapointing to not be able to attend your sisters wedding, because you are giving birth, but it is extremely selfish to assume that the whole wedding should be moved because of it. Especially since due dates are an estimate and it may naturally happen several days before or after, not to mention the posibility of a premature birth.
The simple solution for the first reddit post read is ask the family that is siding with pregnant sister if they are willing to cover the cost of deposits lost and whatever it will cost to re-do the save the dates as well as being willing to offer their time to help with everything that the bride now has to do all over again. If they aren't willing to then they can't expect OP to change squat.
Yes, that is an excellent solution! If the family is harassing OP to change all these things for her wedding that she's had planned for over a year (and was planned before the sister got pregnant. Not to say that conceiving the baby was deliberately planned to be the same day, because there is limited control over that kind of thing. More to point out that obviously OP did not schedule her wedding to be the same day as sisters due date), then the family can cover the money and time that OP is now out. *And it's called "estimated due date." Baby will most likely come early or late, I think it's like 5% chance that baby will actually come on their due date. So many stories of "My family says I'm an a-hole for not giving this person money that I have no obligation to give them" or "My family says I should sacrifice something that I spent a lot of money on just because my sibling wants something." I'm always thinking what you said- "Then tell family they can pay for it themselves!" A couple stories like that: 1. My ex wants me to pay 'child support' for a kid that's not mine. My family/sister say I should just pay it to help her out. 2. I give money to help my parents each month. My brother is a bum. Last month I gave parents 2K extra for 'house repair' and apparently they gave bum brother the 2K. I argued with my parents about it. I told them I would no longer give them money because I refuse to allow my hard earned cash to go to him. Now parents have to go to food bank, so my aunt is mad at me and says I should just help them out still. Answer to those situations: then family can pay for it! If they are going to harass you about it, then they can pay it to help the person out.
Right away, first story, "family should come first" , what is OP? Chopped liver?? Fck you, the wedding date came first and it's just as important and expensive as your baby. Both can be celebrated, and the baby will still be there. If they're in close proximity, they can even go visit the baby after the ceremony then go party at the reception. I don't know why everyone has to make it so complicated. Side note: I just got married to my wonderful husband last month, it was outside the courthouse in a park with a few family members and friends, people honked from the street and we laughed. Then we had a bbq reception at our property. No formalities, just come and eat food with us because we got hitched. But when people fork over the money for catering and florals and a venue, no. Your baby will still be around, a wedding is one day. You can't just reschedule all of those things. Some people just can't stand not being the center of attention.
A livestream or Zoom call is a great idea in the event the sister can't be there due to her baby being born. The bride even said they'd visit her between the ceremony and reception, maybe even bring her some cake or food(if allowed to do so). The sister is being extremely selfish and it's clear that she's the favorite of the parents(probably the younger sibling).
On the first story I have a couple things: first, if the sister has an exact date for her baby’s delivery then it’s most likely she being induced. So why can’t she get the doctor’s office to reschedule knowing your wedding date has been set for a year. Second, your family is saying you should put family first but are you not family? You’re losing money and having everyone involved change their plans and most likely flights. So changing the wedding date isn’t just affecting you and your spouse to be. There’s a lot more to consider when changing a wedding date versus being induced.
@@tayzebenson6190 if she has been planning this wedding for over a year, sending out invites and planning and putting deposits down on venders and such, are her parents going to pay for everything to be rescheduled, they don’t even know for sure if the baby will be born that day unless it’s a scheduled induction or C-section! So what happened if they reschedule and the baby is two weeks late or a month early! All that money and planning and time requested off would be for absolutely nothing! I tell you one thing if I was invited to a wedding, I took time off work bought plane tickets booked my hotel. I’d be pretty irritated if they rescheduled it last minute.
Yeah, no. There is so much work that goes into a wedding and having someone say, "I may or may not have a baby on that day, you have to reschedule..." is exceptionally selfish on the sister's part because SO many people have already scheduled their time around that date. Add to that all the vendors, who may have already purchased supplies and most likely have turned down other weddings in order to do this one will get ROYALLY screwed over by the change. If she planned just a moderate wedding, she could be out over $10 grand for changing the date. There is SO much work that goes into a wedding and it gets tripled when you cancel and rebook. Sure, weddings may not be a big deal to you; however, to my family they are a sacrament and a once in a lifetime occasion. So having to put three times the effort in because the sister might go into labor around that time? No. And what about all of the guests and wedding party who were flying in for the occasion? How many of them will get a refund for air fare? One of my bridesmaids delivered shortly before my wedding and we already had contingency plans in place because of it. Would I have canceled my wedding because she couldn't be there? No. I sure the hell would not have inconvenienced ALL the guests and ALL the vendors because at the last moment the doc changed the due date. Because I guarantee, you will not be getting all those vendors back.
Weddings don’t mean a lot to me but I get the amount that goes into a wedding it’s not something you can just reschedule things are paid for and the amount to have a wedding is insane let alone rescheduling it
3rd story with the health guy for the pregnant lady is an almond dad, he's going to give the kid an eating disorder, as someone who had an almond mom.The woman mentioned growing up in an household of eating disorders, but she hasn't strayed far, he just has a different type and the fact he admitted to wanting control is a very serious issue.
I agree, he will give that child some issues with food. If he has issues with food, then he needs to realize this, it's not fair that OH YOU'RE HORRIBLE for eating Mcdonalds. Leave her alone, she's basically healthy, and normal people will have sweets and/or fast food now and then. And when she has this baby he will try to control again what she's eating or not eating and if she's breast feeding she needs a lot of calories, no he's the AH and needs to realize that he probably needs help with his eating issues. And that OCD robot wasn't being mean, that is what he appears to be.
Yeah. That almond parent crap is straight up child abuse imo. As the statistically most fatal mental illness, those types of parents are setting their children up for a slow miserable death. Sorry not sorry. I feel for the parents because they’re struggling themselves, but if you’re gonna do that, you shouldn’t have kids until you’ve got a handle on it first. Sorry. I’m so triggered by it
Okay here's my take on the first one. 1) she had the wedding booked for a YEAR. Some places have such a LOOOOONG wait-list that sometimes will take up to ANOTHER year just to book it again. Then you add on the fact that the deposits for, probably not even the venue, but for hair, makeup, photography, etc. That's THOUSANDS of bucks wasted because they keep those deposits. And sometimes they won't be available for the new date if you rebook everything so now you would have to find new people and everything as well. 2) her sister got pregnant with her baby AFTER she booked the wedding. And if she SET UP the date for EXACTLY that date of the wedding, she is more self absorbed in herself and what's going on with her than with people around her. However if that's just the due date and they arent aware of when baby is coming out, then you don't know if that baby is gonna come out before or after the wedding either. So rebooking for that is completely unnecessary as well. 3) expecting your daughter, who has spent THOUSANDS of bucks for her wedding (WEDDINGS AREN'T CHEAP Y'ALL) to rebook knowing what stress that would put her under just because "your sister is family!" Uh uh. That's toxic AF. If they can't care about your wedding, they don't need to be there. Period. I understand a baby is super important and everything but like I said in the last point, you don't know who exactly that baby is coming AND if she chose that date SPECIFICALLY to have her baby (induction) then that's on her sister. Not on the OP.
I agree and it will be expensive for a lot of guests. I can imagine some not being able to attend the new wedding date because they couldn't get the day off from work. Even though a lot of their guests are family, most aren't even going to be attending the baby's birth or visiting them in the hospital even if the wedding wasn't happening. Usually it's only close family that goes to the hospital or spend time with the baby after it's born when they get home. Also, isn't OP family as well? The parents seem to be so focused on the sister and they are literally saying she comes first. Another commentor said the same thing I was thinking, what if they did reschedule the wedding, say a year from now, and the sister gets pregnant again during that time, would they have to reschedule their wedding again?
Saying births are more important than weddings is a harsh blanket mindset. Every situation is different. I cannot have children. So my wedding day was so very important to me! I just dont think we can say for sure without the background. Weddings are crazy expensive
Baby story: if she’s not doing anything destructive the occasional mc D fries isn’t going to hurt her. I was 90lbs when I got pregnant with my first(with ED)- my oldest literally saved my life, but had me aggressively craving weird stuff. My second pregnancy? I couldn’t eat anything except cravings for 6 months without barfing it back up 🤷♀️ absolutely no problem with eating clean- but honestly? Meal prep “clean” eating stuff is gross. Pregnant or not, very little seasoning if at all. His thing is 100% a control thing and he needs to get in to see a therapist asap. A couple of red flags and makes me nervous for her and their kid.
On top of that babies are born close to the due date but mom would be in recovery my aunt gave birth two months back her daughter was born a week early but so much was going on the newborn check up appointments and stuff and just healing and recovering from birthing a human being that my aunt rarely left the house the first month after giving birth and that was from a natural birth
A teenager earning $2,000 - $3,000 a month, most likely isn't thinking of putting that money away for college. I saw a poll once that said, "Nowadays the most desired job teenagers want is influencers, content creators, or streamers." If he's this successful at his age, he might not even be considering college. But if he gets annoyed enough, he might consider moving out, since he has the money. And then the parents can watch their utilities bill go down. Sounds like it works out for everyone. In all seriousness, teaching him to budget money at his age is a smart thing to do. How many times have we seen young celebrities (internet or otherwise) come into massive money, go crazy, then crash and burn. I get what the dad is saying. Personally, I feel like he's in the right. To each their own though. I definitely agree with Kris too, that the mom is being a mommy. Are you planning to set up a PO Box like you had before? I'm sure your fans would love to reach out.
Not only that, he used extortion to dangle her college funds over her head with the threat of not paying if she didn't keep the secret. What kind of insecure butthole forces that kind of secret onto a 16 year old? And what would he have done if he found out she wasn't his? Would he be all like, "oh, well, I know I raised you for 16 years and I'm the only dad you have, but fuck you, because your mom's a whore." What a piece of garbo.
You can do a paternity test in secret (just grab some hair from a brush 🤷🏼♀️) ... also I kind of wonder if he was thinking about getting a divorce and thinking about child support, so if he could prove the mom was unfaithful that could be his reason for divorce.. and if the child wasn’t his, he would get out of paying child support (also in my state, if parents get divorced, they are each required by law to pay 1/3 of college tuition for the kids) 🤷🏼♀️ Just a thought 🤷🏼♀️... also I feel like he made himself believe this kid wasn’t his so he has probably had resentment brewing for 16 years which is why he was so mean🤷🏼♀️ Genetics interact differently so kids can always look different.. some genes are dominant and some are recessive (so sometimes a kid looking a certain way isn’t possible).. plus parents can f up their genes depending on what they put in their body and the environment they are in 🤷🏼♀️ U can always have wonky eggs or sperm
We don’t know the full context. It’s entirely possible she really doesn’t look like him. Also him wanting to make it a secret is probably the best way to do it. He obviously doesn’t want to show his suspicions. And the daughter honestly sounds rude. Don’t tell your dad or any parent to F off just for that. We don’t know the full context but I think the daughter shouldn’t have don’t that. Or at least done it better. Also anyone feel bad for the other kids? Dads are incredibly important and vital. Those kids are now in a broken marriage.
Yeah, weddings aren't super easy to just move. It's not like a dinner reservation or backyard barbecue in a lot of cases where you can just shift it a little bit without any issues. They take months or years to plan. Deposits are paid, vendors contracted, venue set up way in advance. Asking her to postpone is unreasonable. And I know childbirth is a big deal too, but OP and her parents aren't exactly going to be in the delivery room, and OP's sister is probably not going to want to go to a wedding shortly after giving birth, so now even if they could move the wedding for her, they're going to be asked to postpone something important to them for potentially years with the way OP's family seems to be. Or they'll move it, then get asked to move it again or allow the baby to come because sis says so.
17:36 You can't really say that he should be paying bills because he's 17 and pretty much an adult because you would not be saying the same thing if an adult was trying to sleep with him. You can't just pick and choose when 17 is an adult or a child. I am siding with the mother on this one. Until the day the kid turns 18, he should not have to be responsible for a single penny in that household and he should be saving it for college and his first apartment. I have a child myself and I would never make them pay a single dime until at least 18 years old regardless of how much money they make. It is never the child's responsibility to take care of any bills or rent. If the price was that much of a difference they would have said something to him before he started making all that money and asked him to stop
100% Agree I think OP is seeing an uptick in bills and thinking about his future college payments and seeing these checks coming in from his son and is thinking “well then this little shit can pull some weight for these upcoming expenses and I can get that bitchin Truck i wanted…” But in all seriousness if you really wanted to teach him money management and responsibility for a young man about to go out on his own then discuss with your wife frame it as covering his portion of the bills save it in an account to teach him about saving and bill paying and as one of his graduation presents give him a check back with all the money he paid back. He learned about budgeting and saving an income, he is rewarded for doing it, and he doesn’t feel like his Dad is taking advantage of him for being successful. Wow look at what a great Dad OP became by not stealing your sons earning😂
Story 3: dude is a control freak!! Massive MASSIVE red flag when he actually said “I’m struggling Bc I don’t have control over this pregnancy like you do” to his wife. If this baby is a girl, expect this asshole to police her body, her meals, everything. This poor kid is going to suffer terribly. He needs therapy NOW to help with his control issues and possible OCD tendencies. This is a ticking time bomb.
I feel the same way. He can’t carry this child in his body and he’s not okay with that because he thinks his wife is incapable of doing a good job that women have been doing since the beginning of time!! He has a problem to deal with inside his brain!! I’d get out now!
Plus, when you are carrying a child you have less control over some of the things your body craves. I wish they could give him the extra hormones she's dealing with and see what he goes through. The scenario when Phoebe craves meat when she's carrying the triplets isn't that far off from reality.
Yeah, needing to have that much control is not good. Hearing how much he regiments himself I wouldn't be surprised if he had an ED. I'm in recovery for an ED and there is a place for "fun" food in someone's diet. Her eating behaviors sound completely normal.
Weddings are planned sometimes for years. Sister knew what she was doing if she planned this pregnancy. If she didn't plan the pregnancy, then still not the bride's problem.
I’ve been watching Kris for a while and I noticed lately, I feel as though she is changing her outlook on certain things when she’s with Caleb vs her family. She switches things back and forth a little too much now. I still love you Kris and want the best for you!
What do you mean? I don’t understand what you’re trying to reference. (Also, your comment feels weirdly “about” Kris and Caleb in a way that isn’t kind or helpful or healthy.)
I've noticed that too. She'll start saying her opinion and when his differs, all of the sudden she changes her stance to agree with him. Most of the time it's great to hear different people's opinions and viewpoints. It's okay to disagree on things as we all have our own experiences in life. It's possible to have differences of opinion and have a respectful conversation around why we view things a certain way. Sometimes we learn about something we never considered by listening to others.
3:45 in. I’m scratching my head here. She’s just been nodding along, laughing when he says a man just wants this to be over with when it comes to his own wedding, and then she sort of snaps out of it and says “no, actually I’m not agreeing with you,” but then softly states that they need more context… (breathing in through clenched teeth) yeah… something feels off here for sure.
@@haleymason4236 I don’t know a ton about them really, but as I have seen them interact more in these videos it feels like I see Kris lose herself, in a way. Like she very much defers or will change her opinion in order to match what he is saying, even though you know she may not fully agree. I don’t know. And I just feel like some of his takes are pretty immature and not well thought out, and not great with relational prioritization. And then she will just agree like all is good… even though it’s not good. lol.
@@racheljane_glad someone else has noticed this. I feel like she changed a lot for him. Still love her and will support her content but just a sad change
Nobody is flying in or taking time off work or planning trips/to be there for baby's birth except the soon-to-be grandparents, maybe siblings. Everyone else (the guests) are scheduling to be at the wedding. Not to mention the vendors/venue. This must be the first grandchild, because after that the excitement does wane a bit. So she has the baby during your wedding... Set up a livestream where she can show off baby to all these relatives and friends that are there for your wedding! How cool would that be! And then every year you get to go to your niece/nephews birthday party, then go have anniversary date with hubs!
I think the parents saying “family comes first,” as if the person she is marrying isn’t going to become family the same way her parents became family when they got married, tells me that they actually mean “whatever we want comes first.”
For the first one… unless everyone wanting me to cancel or postpone my wedding is willing to help with the loss on all the deposits I would not cancel. Not everyone has money like that and it sounds like the wedding is very important to them. The birth could happen early too and then your loss was for nothing.
Sorry, are they serious on this one? Change your wedding date, lose thousands of dollars and inconvenience lots of people and we will just postpone the wedding? Wow. Ok!
meliss1123 Do you have something against Caleb? I mean, lots of people don’t view weddings as a big deal and they both seem like the type to value their overall relationship over a single moment. Also, neither of them seem, to my knowledge, very religious and that is a big reason that most people consider their wedding is a big deal.
@@NoPersonalHumanInfo Caleb has a lot of red flags. He has truly terrible opinions. When Kris voices her opinion first, Caleb will chime in with the opposite opinion and she immediately changes her mind to agree with him. That's very alarming. A lot of people are worried about how Caleb treats Kris.
Last story: I actually do agree with the mother because it's not as though the son is over 18, and I really liked how she said that it is putting unnecessary tension on the relationship. I believe that fostering a good and supportive relationship with your child as they are transitioning into adulthood is more valuable than the lesson of responsibility. He will be an adult soon, and the opportunity to teach this lesson will come up naturally as he begins this next phase of life (career/college/moving out) and when you as the parent are able to be there as a guide, it builds trust instead of possibly building resentment when you ask for your child to pay utilities. If the son was older and kind of had the plan to remain at his parents' house to pursue this indefinitely (or if the family was struggling financially), it would be completely different, and he absolutely should be chipping in. But he's still just a kid. Let him be a kid for a little while longer, and it would be great to help him save up for his future.
#3...she's PREGNANT! Her body is telling her what she needs. He needs to shut-up and sit down! Also, if she grew up around unhealthy relationships with food, the LESS criticism the better! I 100% understand her here. I too grew up around unhealthy relationships with food and caused me a lot of food stress.
For that wedding one, I would literally just ignore my family and go on with the wedding because the amount of time and money that was put into that is a lot, so I would just visit my sister after and not reschedule it.
I think yall severely underestimate the cost and scheduling stress of a wedding lol you have to plan years in advance. Can’t just push it back unless it’s a backyard wedding lol venues, food, people coming from out of town, work etc. NTA
I never go on AITA because I don't want to get sucked in and read for hours, so I appreciate you doing these so I can at least hear some! I love the banter. Top tier entertainment right here
Story 1 : it would cost SO much money to reschedule a wedding that has already been planned for a year. At that point you would lose all of your deposit money . Not to mention the time you would have to put into planning a whole new wedding. She offered such a reasonable solution. I understand her sister really wants to be there with her while she gets married but expecting that is way too much. I would tell them if they are willing to rebook (with their own money) all the same vendors and venue. As well as save the dates, invitations. Rebooking flights for anyone who already booked (with their own money) . If they think it’s too much money then they shouldn’t expect HER to be spending that amount of money
Coming from a pregnant woman who is LITERALLY 20 weeks pregnant: YOU CAN CRAVE ANYTHING salmon (didn’t like it before pregnancy) to air heads candy. as long as you know you are still eating healthy, it’s ok to have random salty, sweet or spicy snacks/foods here and there. Although I am not eating every single healthy thing I can, I’m still gaining the recommended weight, and everything is healthy for baby so far. 10:51
First story: Personally, I have no plans to get married but I completely understand the absolute nightmare of planning one and how difficult it would be to postpone one short notice. Wedding vendors and venues get booked years in advance because spots can fill up that far back. They could lose hundreds if not thousands of dollars worth of deposits and may have already spent hundreds sending out invitations. Guests would have to be notified who may have already booked flights, hotel rooms, car rentals, tux/dress rentals, etc. Then they would have to orchestrate with all of the venues, vendors, and guests to see when it could be postponed until which may not be for months or even years later. Long story, short....postponing a wedding can turn outrageously expensive and impact dozens or hundreds of people, guests and vendor employees included who were counting on this work. The sister is absolutely the A-hole for not only asking to postpone it but saying family comes first when she is belittling he own sisters big day as something less important than hers. The chance she will actually go into labor on that day is small and if she does, they could have the wedding videographer or someone set up a camera so she can watch it through Zoom or something.
Absolutely! I doubt the family would be willing to pay for the additional expenses that rescheduling would occur for both the wedding and guests. It's terrible that they are trying to guilt OP by saying "family comes first", while ignoring the fact that OP is ALSO family. Most family members wouldn't even be at the hospital for the birth of the baby or be visiting them when they get back home so it won't matter if most of their family is at the wedding. If they did reschedule, what if the sister gets pregnant again?
I have seen a lot of sisters fight over whether or not to change a wedding date. Even though I am with Kris and Caleb and hate other peoples' weddings, I will always side with the sister that is getting married. You WILL lose a lot of money trying to switch things around. Also, a lot of wedding vendors are booked months in advance. So, you may lose your flowers, or your DJ, or your caterer, or your entire venue and church. And, what about people who already arranged to travel in for the wedding? They may lose money, too. In my opinion, it is always the sister who is asking for the wedding date to be moved is the selfish and shallow one. On top of that, if it is THAT important to the pregnant sister, she can see about getting induced early. This is NOT on the sister that is getting married at all.
Okay I’m glad the comments are agreeing on the first story. She had it planned for a year already.. I don’t think it’s fair to expect them to change out their important date because you got pregnant knowing the wedding date? You got pregnant knowing that risk.. if the wedding wasn’t that important and they hadn’t put so much money and planning then I’d be a little more hesitant to disagree but just because having your child is important doesn’t make their wedding any less important to them.. yknow?
No, they don't know because financially successful youtubers don't live in the real world with the rest of us. Honestly their take kind of pissed me off.
For the first one, she’s definitely not the AH. If she had the date set for a whole year then no. And wedding venues are often booked solid years in advance they can’t just move it. Hell no.
@@SamIAmWich my Dr had told me that if I start to crave things like paint chips, that it’s normal. Mine ended up being gourmet gummy candies from a specific place in the middle of the freaking desert. What was your craving?
@@Itchy-eyes I haven't had a kid yet. But my cousin (raised like sisters) had 4 and I have seen and heard all about her cravings. And the foods she couldn't eat anymore lol
The first one, about postponing the wedding. No. They're not the a**hole, in my opinion. If it was a small gathering, that's one thing; but they stated they had been planning for over a year. You already have a venue, vendors, multiple guests coming, etc. not to mention they said they didn't even know the Sister was pregnant while planning. Obviously it was found out, at some point, why wouldn't it be brought up before last minute. You can't expect someone to be like, "oh, sorry guests, I know you took time off of work/out of yer daily life/planned/booked hotels/babysitters/reservations/etc. but my Sister is due to give Birth that day(which as y'all mentioned is a predicted date, not definite), so we ALL have to change Our lives around, again, to accommodate her being able to be there." Nah. I'm not big on Weddings, if/when I ever get married, it would not be anything big; probably going to a Courthouse and having an after party, which wouldn't be a big deal to change stuff up, at that point, but there are a lot of people who put so much money, time, effort, and stress into planning a wedding(hence "Bride Zilla's"). You cannot expect that, in that situation, and for their Family to try and gaslight them over it, is horrendous, in my opinion.
You guys have youtube money. most people can't afford to reschedule a wedding, you often lose deposits and not everything might be available at the next date. wedding stuff is usually planned a year in advance because of that.
On the first story: "family comes first" THE OP IS ALSO FAMILY THOUGH P.S. the pregnant sister had nine months to let the couple know the due date but she waited until "the last minute." OP is NTA
The pregnant woman’s husband has a problem with how the wife is carrying the baby in her body and he can’t. He wants to be in control of the baby’s health while in utero but sadly he cannot and i think this is a problem for him. He thinks the wife is incapable of being a good nutritionist for their child .
I'm a late diagnosed autistic and for so many years people told me that I had a eating desorder because I measure how much food I eat , but the thing is that I have trouble knowing when I'm hungry or full so I eat too much or I forget and eat nothing at all for many many hours. I find that measuring and having an alarm for meals is what works for me the best. Also learned to measure my macros cause I've had malnutrition in the past
3:41 after marriage and a childbirth I’m gonna say wedding deposits are expensive and babies almost never come on their due date 😂 have the dang wedding, girl!
Rescheduling a wedding that has been planned for a year would mean losing hundreds or thousands of dollars in deposits, I’m sure. It’s not easy to just reschedule a wedding.
14:49 when you’re pregnant your baby will take whatever it needs from you. As long as you are taking your prenatal vitamins and eating a relatively balanced diet and eating enough calories this is not a thing that he needs to worry about.
The first story, if the bride and groom are paying for everything and have for the past year plus, weddings now run normally 12k or more. And if the grooms family is helping they’re also out on a portion of that money because of the sister due date. I do understand if this baby is the first grandchild and whatever it is a big deal, and in the scope of things a wedding in the future is really only important to the couple. Don’t cancel your wedding, if they can be there great if they can’t great. You were willing to compromise and still come see them if the baby came that day. Family comes first is going to be a rude awakening for your parents, because your husband is now you primary family
10:24 if this guy isn’t meal-prepping for her then he’s just looking for control. Also if she’s having cravings it could be her body is looking for missing macros
Story 1: The wedding date is exact, but the actual day of birth can vary plus or minus some days. It's an estimate. The thing I want to know is: How far is the wedding location from the sister's maternity hospital? If going to the wedding does not involve long distance travel, like an airline flight or overnight car trip, it won;t put the expectant mom in any danger, so no reason why they can't just wait and see. If the sister whelps on the same exact day as the wedding, and she cannot be there, so be it. I get that a child being born is more "be there or else", but peoples' weddings get stupid large and very expensive. People can get financially ruined over weddings. If anything, the other AITA episodes you did about weddings show just how testy other people can be over having wedding planned altered even one bit. Even D-Day had to do a bit of "wait and see", so I think the pregnant sister and the parents can try to be a bit pragmatic.
I feel like with the wedding one, i wouldn’t call OP the AH. They were put in a hard position. Their wedding was planning for over a year. And as someone who had a full wedding planned and had to postpone it, we lost over 10k and that was just for the venue and food, not counting everyone who bought tuxes/suits, dresses, the flower arrangements, a DJ, wedding planner, cake and appetizers for the guests during photos, all prepaid and the list goes on. And all of that money is just lost. And if it took them a long time to save for that wedding I would not be postponing for someone to give birth. I would absolutely go visit them after the ceremony if they did in fact give birth then, but I wouldn’t postpone after over a year of planning. Especially when most of the time, people don’t want an entire entourage in the room for them to give birth anyway. They want people to visit after the fact.
I think the problem is not that the pregnant sister wanted her sister in the birth of the baby, she just want to go to the wedding and she can't while being in a hospital, thats why the bride offered to stream the ceremony. The pregnant woman is the selfish one
Lets be clear about one thing. The dad wants his son to pay him now because he's doing well. It has nothing to do with the hydro bill. MAYBE if you have unlimited internet, its 15$ extra a month. 100$ a month if you're going to be reasonable. He's 17 years old, do they also charge him for the extra food he's been eating because he's growing up?.. good lord.. Give him a year and then start charging him. My parents said 18, that's when you start paying to live here.
Exactly he is 17 at least wait until he's 18 and the most the kid would be paying is for electric which probably would be $50 for his consumption maybe a bit more so how big of a deal is it really that the dad needs to make this big of a deal of it
ive never understood charging kids rent personally. i understand back in the day when obtaining a home was financially easier but nowadays it is extremely unlikely to move out at 18 especially if you live in a major city (for example i live in boston and even rent is VERY expensive just for a 1 bedroom). dont have kids if you cant accept that you are a parent even after they are 18
For the first one, the OP stated that her sisters due date was the day of the wedding. More than half the babies that were born weren’t actually born on their due date. My cousins due date was in early-middle September, but she was born on august 2nd this year. So she was around a month early but she is COMPLETELY healthy! So I’m saying that the sister can just go to the wedding, and if her water breaks at the wedding, a member of her family can drive her to the nearest hospital. And if the baby is born before the wedding, she randomly got prego and the wedding/date of the wedding was scheduled and planned over a year before it would take place. If the sister wants the OP to reschedule the date more than a week later, it’s gonna cost a lot and if it’s not nearby(like New York to Florida or smth), all the guests are gonna lose money too if they’re taking a plane and booked a hotel or something. No one is really the a hole but the OP’s sister and family are more of the a hole than the OP.(omg I wrote a lot lol)
My problem with the first story is that money is on the line, and it's not like they scheduled for that date after learning the baby's due date. Some people can't just lose money and throw more around. It's unfortunate if the sister has to miss the wedding, but it is what it is. It's not malicious, it's just an unavoidable coincidence. It's life. The wedding should go forward as planned.
this is old but i wanted to give some thoughts on the pregnancy one: maybe he could meal prep for her? eating out isnt bad, but maybe she’s doing it because it’s easier? maybe if he helped her stay on track with her meals and snacks that would make him feel like he can keep it healthier while also her keeping her bodily autonomy and having some cravings. communication is so needed in every form of relationship and i hope that her post opened that up for them!
Bride-to-be isn’t the AH in my opinion. Like Kraleb said, the baby isn’t likely to even be due on the actual date anyways. So, I think a huge ordeal like a wedding that took a year to plan is a valid reason to miss the immediate delivery of a niece or nephew that you’ll see possibly still on their birthday if not a few hours afterwards. 🤷🏻♀️
The birth is undetermined as the wedding is. An induced labor can be moved. The sister knew the wedding date before getting pregnant and can’t expect life to stand still.
A wedding with all the stuff that comes with it are very expensive. Church, wedding hall, cake, dj/band, wedding planner, florist, photographer video guy and whatever else isn’t cheap. That’s the most important thing Money! If the sister wants to reimburse for those costs so the wedding can’t take place later then reschedule, otherwise no don’t.
If one of my family members had a baby on the day of another family members wedding. The wedding would still continue, the pay would’ve just been like “ so and so couldn’t make it because she’s in labor” and the wedding would’ve still continued. But I get that not all families are the same so don’t bash me for speaking MY OPINION about how my family would handle it.
For the first story: -As a person who very often has to take a flight to make it to friends’ weddings, if someone last minute said they were rescheduling for any reason, I would be extremely upset. Plane tickets are never less than $200, at the LEAST, and that’s if you’re flying the sketchiest airline possible. -Plus, many jobs these days have really strict requirements for when you can request time off, meaning half the guests might not even be able to make it if it were rescheduled. -AND: Both Weddings and Childbirth are extremely expensive ventures. Both in their case are inevitable.
My wife had 3 kids. When they crave they are basically identifying what they need. If she wants hamburger on her ice cream then get out the scoup and the frying pan.
I really don't think the first OP is the AH in this situation. That's A LOT of money to lose when everything is already scheduled, not to mention the stress of having to basically replan everything and reschedule it. Personally, it seems unfair that everyone is calling her the AH when her concerns and reservations (pun partially intended) regarding rescheduling everything are so valid. And some places may not even give any refund depending on how close the date of the wedding is to when she would cancel, so that is even more money lost. it seems like a lot to ask
First off the first one she’s been planning this way before she was pregnant neither one can help when she’s due. She shouldn’t have to readjust her life for her sister Omg the second one you should never put your child in that position
NTA: She should’ve mentioned sooner she was pregnant. Once you have the venue set it’s a ton of money you lose for rescheduling, and people may have already requested days off just to attend the wedding, and the hassle of it will be chaotic to reschedule the wedding. 2:27
I disagree with the kids paying utilities. I get the perspective of growing up low income and needing to pitch in in order to survive, but children are NEVER suppose to do that. Children did not ask to be put into this world and it is the job of the parents to provide for their children. I get teaching the kid to be responsible, but making them pay your bills is not it.
Also the rent comment is an ick. AGAIN Children should never have to pay your bills because they are suppose to be supported during their time as a minor so when they do become an adult they know how to function as one. And this comes by teaching them through example not forcing them TO PAY YOUR BILLS..
My mom was pregnant w/ me for 10 months. Babies rarely come on the exact day. I think it’s dumb to demand people plan anything around a specific due date when they can’t truly predict when the baby will show up.
The last story, bit of utilities, maybe rent or board but it goes in a bank account. Give it to him as a gift for stuff he needs when he moves out. Don't tell him you are saving it though, it helps to learn how to manage money.
Weddings can be very expensive, and rescheduling vendors can add even more loss of money. Not everyone can afford these things multiple times for the sake of others especially if they aren’t offering to help pay for the rescheduling.
I had a child with an ex. What i learned is if she rolls over at 2am and says I NEED a mcchicken with that no playing around tone. You get your ass up and find a damn mcchicken.
Charge the kid $50 a month to pitch in, toss it into a savings and then give it back to him when he moves out. He learned to pay bills on time and mom gets to give her son all his money.
Dude, the first story WILD. She is NOT the AH! It's not like it hasn't been planned. You have to plan years in advance to get everything worked out and the fact that her family is on the other side? Obviously, they are not paying for the wedding. I'll go as a stand in for her sister.
Anybody else prefer when kris reads aita with her sister(s) vs her agreeing with everything caleb says or changing her opinion half way through because he dosen't agree? Just seems like she speaks her mind/opinions a little more with them vs with him
She had the wedding booked for over a year. Her sister got pregnant after she booked everything. I wouldn't reschedule something that has been planned over a year. She can't expect everyone to put their lives on hold for the wedding but her sister also can't expect other people to put their stuff on hold because of her pregnancy.
Yeah and theres a chance she wont give birth on the due date, it could be a week later for all we know (unless its scheduled, and why would you schedule it for the same day as your siblings wedding?)
That's what I said... I would never expect ANYONE to move their wedding for myself. I get it, babies are important, so are weddings. Iyiyiyiyiy 🤦♀️
yea why isn't anyone blaming the sister for getting pregnant 9 months before the wedding. I get might of been a surprise pregnancy but she's the one to be blamed
Not only that, but the cancellation fees and having to rebook all over again. It would be extremely expensive to change the dates. Not even considering redoing and resending invitations, forcing family and friends to cancel flights, etc. etc. etc. We're talking thousands of dollars for this ordeal. It sucks sister may not be able to attend, but OP gave her options to be fair to everyone.
@@SunnyxBoy and maybe they have spent their budget and having to cancel reschedule and paying all the fees would put then in a financial hole.
“rescheduling” a wedding would literally be paying for a second wedding as they dont just let you change dates once you pay for things. if the sister cant make it, she cant make it.
not to mention, only about 5% of women give birth on the due date (and that actually seems higher than I thought it would be as I have never known anyone who actually gave birth on the due date, some very close, but none on the actual day, even when it was a planned c-section)
Plus all the guests who may have already booked time off work / flights/ hotels. It's a really odd (maybe even AH) request to ask the couple to reschedule .
This.
Hey! You got a pretty cool name 😎😏
Will the pregnant sister pay for her sisters cancelation fees?
As someone who has 2 kids, the date is not 100% set unless it's a scheduled c-section. 😂 It varies. Weddings are usually saved and planned for years. Childbirth is so random it can't be 100% set in stone. Not the AH
Agreed the day I went in to schedule my c section I was in labor for 24 hours already. lol so mine was that day🎉
Right, I know I kinda screwed with the doctors when I got born. I didn't come out at the due date and when they set a new date I decided to come out before that date.
Came to the comments to say just that. The odds of the sister going into labor the morning of the wedding is fairly slim. "Due" dates are just estimates and if it is a scheduled c-section then the pregnant party would be the a-hole for scheduling it on the day of the wedding.
Also why are they pretending the sister is gonna be in the room... Is she a doctor? Is she gonna bring that baby in this world? At the earliest she would be visiting the day after, so she can have her wedding just fine
Was coming to say this
First story:
I, as a guest for an upcoming wedding next month, am going to be flying from halfway across the world to be there. Travel visas had to be obtained, time off work had to be requested, accommodation had to arranged and flight tickets have to be bought. Alot of money, time and effort had to go into planning this. And I'm only a GUEST. One of many. There are far more stakeholders involved in a wedding than a birth.
I'm not going to compare which of the two milestones are more important because that's a matter of perspective, but a wedding has arguably more factors to be considered.
IN MY OPINION- “family first” meant me and my wife. We scheduled our wedding for when worked for US. If you can show up show up. If you can’t, don’t.
100%, once you get engaged and married your partner becomes your closest family and should be your top priority. not that that means your sister or parents arent important, but you are building a future family with your partner and that should be focused on first.
I applaud you, this is how aa family you create should be!!
Perfect explanation
Yeah but not only that but breaking venue and vendor contracts can get so expensive then having to repay for the wedding to be later it makes it more expensive than before and I completely agree with you
I was going to say the cost. Some weddings get into 5 digits cost, and she is just expected to say oh well, guess I will lose that money then have to spend all of it again? What happens if she replans then her sister gets pregnant, and is due around that time again?
I think the sister and mother resenting the bride for not wanting to lose all that money on deposits and change everything for so many guests make them a-holes. That's the worst part of that first story.
Hmm money or family what ever would I choose
@@NlNEFlNGERS I mean the parents chose their future grandchild over one of their children despite not having an exact date of the pregnancy. Plus, the wedding was set before the sister got pregnant. It's not like they couldn't have a smaller ceremony or get together with immediate family after the birth either.
@@NlNEFlNGERS Well, OP's family is her future husband, sister and parents are now secondary. And we can all be high and mighty about money not being important, but face it - weddings are very expensive, there are many nonrefundable deposits, rescheduling everything on a short notice (remember - the wedding was planned a year ahead) would be insanely expensive. That is money they might not have, or money they want to put towards a house or college funds for future kids. Not to mention all the guests, who might have booked flights, accomodation, got time off work. They might not be able to come for the new date. That includes OP's fiance's family. Yes, his family is also important. It may be dissapointing to not be able to attend your sisters wedding, because you are giving birth, but it is extremely selfish to assume that the whole wedding should be moved because of it. Especially since due dates are an estimate and it may naturally happen several days before or after, not to mention the posibility of a premature birth.
@@nikdo0816 do whatever you want I'm just saying personally I'm not missing a family birth for my wedding
@@NlNEFlNGERS same, do whatever you want with YOUR wedding, but dont be mean to OP just because they chose differently.
The simple solution for the first reddit post read is ask the family that is siding with pregnant sister if they are willing to cover the cost of deposits lost and whatever it will cost to re-do the save the dates as well as being willing to offer their time to help with everything that the bride now has to do all over again. If they aren't willing to then they can't expect OP to change squat.
Yes agreed
Not meaning to side with Oompa but I heard the baby is said to hate sour boys candy. I'll have to go with the wedding. Jk I don't give a shit.
Well said!
Yes, that is an excellent solution! If the family is harassing OP to change all these things for her wedding that she's had planned for over a year (and was planned before the sister got pregnant. Not to say that conceiving the baby was deliberately planned to be the same day, because there is limited control over that kind of thing. More to point out that obviously OP did not schedule her wedding to be the same day as sisters due date), then the family can cover the money and time that OP is now out. *And it's called "estimated due date." Baby will most likely come early or late, I think it's like 5% chance that baby will actually come on their due date.
So many stories of "My family says I'm an a-hole for not giving this person money that I have no obligation to give them" or "My family says I should sacrifice something that I spent a lot of money on just because my sibling wants something." I'm always thinking what you said- "Then tell family they can pay for it themselves!" A couple stories like that:
1. My ex wants me to pay 'child support' for a kid that's not mine. My family/sister say I should just pay it to help her out.
2. I give money to help my parents each month. My brother is a bum. Last month I gave parents 2K extra for 'house repair' and apparently they gave bum brother the 2K. I argued with my parents about it. I told them I would no longer give them money because I refuse to allow my hard earned cash to go to him. Now parents have to go to food bank, so my aunt is mad at me and says I should just help them out still.
Answer to those situations: then family can pay for it! If they are going to harass you about it, then they can pay it to help the person out.
Right away, first story, "family should come first" , what is OP? Chopped liver??
Fck you, the wedding date came first and it's just as important and expensive as your baby. Both can be celebrated, and the baby will still be there. If they're in close proximity, they can even go visit the baby after the ceremony then go party at the reception.
I don't know why everyone has to make it so complicated.
Side note: I just got married to my wonderful husband last month, it was outside the courthouse in a park with a few family members and friends, people honked from the street and we laughed. Then we had a bbq reception at our property. No formalities, just come and eat food with us because we got hitched.
But when people fork over the money for catering and florals and a venue, no. Your baby will still be around, a wedding is one day. You can't just reschedule all of those things. Some people just can't stand not being the center of attention.
Congratulations on getting married! Wish you the best.
@@muckyesyesindisguise3854 Thanks!
saying f you is just odd
A livestream or Zoom call is a great idea in the event the sister can't be there due to her baby being born. The bride even said they'd visit her between the ceremony and reception, maybe even bring her some cake or food(if allowed to do so). The sister is being extremely selfish and it's clear that she's the favorite of the parents(probably the younger sibling).
On the first story I have a couple things: first, if the sister has an exact date for her baby’s delivery then it’s most likely she being induced. So why can’t she get the doctor’s office to reschedule knowing your wedding date has been set for a year. Second, your family is saying you should put family first but are you not family? You’re losing money and having everyone involved change their plans and most likely flights. So changing the wedding date isn’t just affecting you and your spouse to be. There’s a lot more to consider when changing a wedding date versus being induced.
❤ I agree 💯!
I 100% agree with this, why is one more important then the other when it comes to family
Family of inconsiderate people and bullies
Their mother and possibly father won't show up to the wedding if the child is being born at the same time
@@tayzebenson6190 if she has been planning this wedding for over a year, sending out invites and planning and putting deposits down on venders and such, are her parents going to pay for everything to be rescheduled, they don’t even know for sure if the baby will be born that day unless it’s a scheduled induction or C-section! So what happened if they reschedule and the baby is two weeks late or a month early! All that money and planning and time requested off would be for absolutely nothing! I tell you one thing if I was invited to a wedding, I took time off work bought plane tickets booked my hotel. I’d be pretty irritated if they rescheduled it last minute.
Yeah, no. There is so much work that goes into a wedding and having someone say, "I may or may not have a baby on that day, you have to reschedule..." is exceptionally selfish on the sister's part because SO many people have already scheduled their time around that date. Add to that all the vendors, who may have already purchased supplies and most likely have turned down other weddings in order to do this one will get ROYALLY screwed over by the change. If she planned just a moderate wedding, she could be out over $10 grand for changing the date. There is SO much work that goes into a wedding and it gets tripled when you cancel and rebook.
Sure, weddings may not be a big deal to you; however, to my family they are a sacrament and a once in a lifetime occasion. So having to put three times the effort in because the sister might go into labor around that time? No.
And what about all of the guests and wedding party who were flying in for the occasion? How many of them will get a refund for air fare?
One of my bridesmaids delivered shortly before my wedding and we already had contingency plans in place because of it. Would I have canceled my wedding because she couldn't be there? No. I sure the hell would not have inconvenienced ALL the guests and ALL the vendors because at the last moment the doc changed the due date. Because I guarantee, you will not be getting all those vendors back.
Weddings don’t mean a lot to me but I get the amount that goes into a wedding it’s not something you can just reschedule things are paid for and the amount to have a wedding is insane let alone rescheduling it
3rd story with the health guy for the pregnant lady is an almond dad, he's going to give the kid an eating disorder, as someone who had an almond mom.The woman mentioned growing up in an household of eating disorders, but she hasn't strayed far, he just has a different type and the fact he admitted to wanting control is a very serious issue.
I agree, he will give that child some issues with food. If he has issues with food, then he needs to realize this, it's not fair that OH YOU'RE HORRIBLE for eating Mcdonalds. Leave her alone, she's basically healthy, and normal people will have sweets and/or fast food now and then. And when she has this baby he will try to control again what she's eating or not eating and if she's breast feeding she needs a lot of calories, no he's the AH and needs to realize that he probably needs help with his eating issues. And that OCD robot wasn't being mean, that is what he appears to be.
Yeah. That almond parent crap is straight up child abuse imo. As the statistically most fatal mental illness, those types of parents are setting their children up for a slow miserable death. Sorry not sorry.
I feel for the parents because they’re struggling themselves, but if you’re gonna do that, you shouldn’t have kids until you’ve got a handle on it first. Sorry. I’m so triggered by it
Okay here's my take on the first one. 1) she had the wedding booked for a YEAR. Some places have such a LOOOOONG wait-list that sometimes will take up to ANOTHER year just to book it again. Then you add on the fact that the deposits for, probably not even the venue, but for hair, makeup, photography, etc. That's THOUSANDS of bucks wasted because they keep those deposits. And sometimes they won't be available for the new date if you rebook everything so now you would have to find new people and everything as well.
2) her sister got pregnant with her baby AFTER she booked the wedding. And if she SET UP the date for EXACTLY that date of the wedding, she is more self absorbed in herself and what's going on with her than with people around her. However if that's just the due date and they arent aware of when baby is coming out, then you don't know if that baby is gonna come out before or after the wedding either. So rebooking for that is completely unnecessary as well.
3) expecting your daughter, who has spent THOUSANDS of bucks for her wedding (WEDDINGS AREN'T CHEAP Y'ALL) to rebook knowing what stress that would put her under just because "your sister is family!" Uh uh. That's toxic AF. If they can't care about your wedding, they don't need to be there. Period. I understand a baby is super important and everything but like I said in the last point, you don't know who exactly that baby is coming AND if she chose that date SPECIFICALLY to have her baby (induction) then that's on her sister. Not on the OP.
I agree and it will be expensive for a lot of guests. I can imagine some not being able to attend the new wedding date because they couldn't get the day off from work. Even though a lot of their guests are family, most aren't even going to be attending the baby's birth or visiting them in the hospital even if the wedding wasn't happening. Usually it's only close family that goes to the hospital or spend time with the baby after it's born when they get home.
Also, isn't OP family as well? The parents seem to be so focused on the sister and they are literally saying she comes first. Another commentor said the same thing I was thinking, what if they did reschedule the wedding, say a year from now, and the sister gets pregnant again during that time, would they have to reschedule their wedding again?
Saying births are more important than weddings is a harsh blanket mindset. Every situation is different. I cannot have children. So my wedding day was so very important to me! I just dont think we can say for sure without the background. Weddings are crazy expensive
Baby story: if she’s not doing anything destructive the occasional mc D fries isn’t going to hurt her. I was 90lbs when I got pregnant with my first(with ED)- my oldest literally saved my life, but had me aggressively craving weird stuff. My second pregnancy? I couldn’t eat anything except cravings for 6 months without barfing it back up 🤷♀️ absolutely no problem with eating clean- but honestly? Meal prep “clean” eating stuff is gross. Pregnant or not, very little seasoning if at all. His thing is 100% a control thing and he needs to get in to see a therapist asap. A couple of red flags and makes me nervous for her and their kid.
yes!! she is growing a whole child, its okay to enjoy some damn fries once in a while
Also, for the first story, I just looked it up and less than 10 percent of babies are actually born on their due date so definitely NTA
On top of that babies are born close to the due date but mom would be in recovery my aunt gave birth two months back her daughter was born a week early but so much was going on the newborn check up appointments and stuff and just healing and recovering from birthing a human being that my aunt rarely left the house the first month after giving birth and that was from a natural birth
A teenager earning $2,000 - $3,000 a month, most likely isn't thinking of putting that money away for college. I saw a poll once that said, "Nowadays the most desired job teenagers want is influencers, content creators, or streamers." If he's this successful at his age, he might not even be considering college. But if he gets annoyed enough, he might consider moving out, since he has the money. And then the parents can watch their utilities bill go down. Sounds like it works out for everyone. In all seriousness, teaching him to budget money at his age is a smart thing to do. How many times have we seen young celebrities (internet or otherwise) come into massive money, go crazy, then crash and burn. I get what the dad is saying. Personally, I feel like he's in the right. To each their own though. I definitely agree with Kris too, that the mom is being a mommy.
Are you planning to set up a PO Box like you had before? I'm sure your fans would love to reach out.
That dad who wanted a paternity test on his daughter who was SIXTEEN. THATS JUST WILD.
Not only that, he used extortion to dangle her college funds over her head with the threat of not paying if she didn't keep the secret. What kind of insecure butthole forces that kind of secret onto a 16 year old? And what would he have done if he found out she wasn't his? Would he be all like, "oh, well, I know I raised you for 16 years and I'm the only dad you have, but fuck you, because your mom's a whore." What a piece of garbo.
Still not as stupid as the guy demanding a paternity test on ONE of a set of twins.
You can do a paternity test in secret (just grab some hair from a brush 🤷🏼♀️) ... also I kind of wonder if he was thinking about getting a divorce and thinking about child support, so if he could prove the mom was unfaithful that could be his reason for divorce.. and if the child wasn’t his, he would get out of paying child support (also in my state, if parents get divorced, they are each required by law to pay 1/3 of college tuition for the kids) 🤷🏼♀️ Just a thought 🤷🏼♀️... also I feel like he made himself believe this kid wasn’t his so he has probably had resentment brewing for 16 years which is why he was so mean🤷🏼♀️ Genetics interact differently so kids can always look different.. some genes are dominant and some are recessive (so sometimes a kid looking a certain way isn’t possible).. plus parents can f up their genes depending on what they put in their body and the environment they are in 🤷🏼♀️ U can always have wonky eggs or sperm
@@GhostBear3067 not as stupid as the woman that thought that her partner cheated on her and the kid she gave birth to was not hers.....
We don’t know the full context. It’s entirely possible she really doesn’t look like him. Also him wanting to make it a secret is probably the best way to do it. He obviously doesn’t want to show his suspicions. And the daughter honestly sounds rude. Don’t tell your dad or any parent to F off just for that. We don’t know the full context but I think the daughter shouldn’t have don’t that. Or at least done it better. Also anyone feel bad for the other kids? Dads are incredibly important and vital. Those kids are now in a broken marriage.
“Family should come first” so what about HER she’s family! Ugh
Family that's most likely already spent a LOT of money on deposits for vendors and the venue!
Yeah, weddings aren't super easy to just move. It's not like a dinner reservation or backyard barbecue in a lot of cases where you can just shift it a little bit without any issues. They take months or years to plan. Deposits are paid, vendors contracted, venue set up way in advance. Asking her to postpone is unreasonable. And I know childbirth is a big deal too, but OP and her parents aren't exactly going to be in the delivery room, and OP's sister is probably not going to want to go to a wedding shortly after giving birth, so now even if they could move the wedding for her, they're going to be asked to postpone something important to them for potentially years with the way OP's family seems to be. Or they'll move it, then get asked to move it again or allow the baby to come because sis says so.
17:36 You can't really say that he should be paying bills because he's 17 and pretty much an adult because you would not be saying the same thing if an adult was trying to sleep with him. You can't just pick and choose when 17 is an adult or a child. I am siding with the mother on this one. Until the day the kid turns 18, he should not have to be responsible for a single penny in that household and he should be saving it for college and his first apartment. I have a child myself and I would never make them pay a single dime until at least 18 years old regardless of how much money they make. It is never the child's responsibility to take care of any bills or rent. If the price was that much of a difference they would have said something to him before he started making all that money and asked him to stop
100% Agree I think OP is seeing an uptick in bills and thinking about his future college payments and seeing these checks coming in from his son and is thinking “well then this little shit can pull some weight for these upcoming expenses and I can get that bitchin Truck i wanted…” But in all seriousness if you really wanted to teach him money management and responsibility for a young man about to go out on his own then discuss with your wife frame it as covering his portion of the bills save it in an account to teach him about saving and bill paying and as one of his graduation presents give him a check back with all the money he paid back. He learned about budgeting and saving an income, he is rewarded for doing it, and he doesn’t feel like his Dad is taking advantage of him for being successful. Wow look at what a great Dad OP became by not stealing your sons earning😂
Story 3: dude is a control freak!! Massive MASSIVE red flag when he actually said “I’m struggling Bc I don’t have control over this pregnancy like you do” to his wife.
If this baby is a girl, expect this asshole to police her body, her meals, everything. This poor kid is going to suffer terribly. He needs therapy NOW to help with his control issues and possible OCD tendencies. This is a ticking time bomb.
I feel the same way. He can’t carry this child in his body and he’s not okay with that because he thinks his wife is incapable of doing a good job that women have been doing since the beginning of time!! He has a problem to deal with inside his brain!! I’d get out now!
Plus, when you are carrying a child you have less control over some of the things your body craves. I wish they could give him the extra hormones she's dealing with and see what he goes through. The scenario when Phoebe craves meat when she's carrying the triplets isn't that far off from reality.
Yeah, needing to have that much control is not good. Hearing how much he regiments himself I wouldn't be surprised if he had an ED. I'm in recovery for an ED and there is a place for "fun" food in someone's diet. Her eating behaviors sound completely normal.
Thank you! Yes, when he complained about not having control over the pregnancy I immediately, out loud, said “it’s not yours to control” like wth
Enough said!! Exactly what I was thinking. Like you said, ticking time 💣
Weddings are planned sometimes for years. Sister knew what she was doing if she planned this pregnancy. If she didn't plan the pregnancy, then still not the bride's problem.
I’ve been watching Kris for a while and I noticed lately, I feel as though she is changing her outlook on certain things when she’s with Caleb vs her family. She switches things back and forth a little too much now. I still love you Kris and want the best for you!
Completely agree, certain little things
What do you mean? I don’t understand what you’re trying to reference. (Also, your comment feels weirdly “about” Kris and Caleb in a way that isn’t kind or helpful or healthy.)
@@Suleclo stop being weird and parasocial
I've noticed that too. She'll start saying her opinion and when his differs, all of the sudden she changes her stance to agree with him. Most of the time it's great to hear different people's opinions and viewpoints. It's okay to disagree on things as we all have our own experiences in life. It's possible to have differences of opinion and have a respectful conversation around why we view things a certain way. Sometimes we learn about something we never considered by listening to others.
3:45 in. I’m scratching my head here. She’s just been nodding along, laughing when he says a man just wants this to be over with when it comes to his own wedding, and then she sort of snaps out of it and says “no, actually I’m not agreeing with you,” but then softly states that they need more context… (breathing in through clenched teeth) yeah… something feels off here for sure.
Your guys’ take on the wedding/childbirth one is CRAZY to me, lol.
Honestly Oompas takes aren’t my favorite and he’ll say something and Kris always agrees… in every video …
@@haleymason4236 I don’t know a ton about them really, but as I have seen them interact more in these videos it feels like I see Kris lose herself, in a way. Like she very much defers or will change her opinion in order to match what he is saying, even though you know she may not fully agree. I don’t know.
And I just feel like some of his takes are pretty immature and not well thought out, and not great with relational prioritization. And then she will just agree like all is good… even though it’s not good. lol.
@@racheljane_glad someone else has noticed this. I feel like she changed a lot for him. Still love her and will support her content but just a sad change
why is it crazy?
@@racheljane_ also how do you know for sure that "she may not fully agree"? While with the same breath you said you don't know them really....
Nobody is flying in or taking time off work or planning trips/to be there for baby's birth except the soon-to-be grandparents, maybe siblings. Everyone else (the guests) are scheduling to be at the wedding. Not to mention the vendors/venue. This must be the first grandchild, because after that the excitement does wane a bit. So she has the baby during your wedding... Set up a livestream where she can show off baby to all these relatives and friends that are there for your wedding! How cool would that be! And then every year you get to go to your niece/nephews birthday party, then go have anniversary date with hubs!
I think the parents saying “family comes first,” as if the person she is marrying isn’t going to become family the same way her parents became family when they got married, tells me that they actually mean “whatever we want comes first.”
For the first one… unless everyone wanting me to cancel or postpone my wedding is willing to help with the loss on all the deposits I would not cancel. Not everyone has money like that and it sounds like the wedding is very important to them. The birth could happen early too and then your loss was for nothing.
Sorry, are they serious on this one? Change your wedding date, lose thousands of dollars and inconvenience lots of people and we will just postpone the wedding? Wow. Ok!
They said, for them. That's what THEY would do. However, they acknowledge that other people may have different factors, such as money etc.
@@brooke9108Caleb gave his horrible opinion and then Kris went along with it. It's unhealthy.
@meliss1123 The "horrible" opinion in question: I'd reschedule but I understand why others wouldn't
meliss1123 Do you have something against Caleb? I mean, lots of people don’t view weddings as a big deal and they both seem like the type to value their overall relationship over a single moment. Also, neither of them seem, to my knowledge, very religious and that is a big reason that most people consider their wedding is a big deal.
@@NoPersonalHumanInfo Caleb has a lot of red flags. He has truly terrible opinions. When Kris voices her opinion first, Caleb will chime in with the opposite opinion and she immediately changes her mind to agree with him. That's very alarming. A lot of people are worried about how Caleb treats Kris.
Last story:
I actually do agree with the mother because it's not as though the son is over 18, and I really liked how she said that it is putting unnecessary tension on the relationship.
I believe that fostering a good and supportive relationship with your child as they are transitioning into adulthood is more valuable than the lesson of responsibility.
He will be an adult soon, and the opportunity to teach this lesson will come up naturally as he begins this next phase of life (career/college/moving out) and when you as the parent are able to be there as a guide, it builds trust instead of possibly building resentment when you ask for your child to pay utilities.
If the son was older and kind of had the plan to remain at his parents' house to pursue this indefinitely (or if the family was struggling financially), it would be completely different, and he absolutely should be chipping in. But he's still just a kid. Let him be a kid for a little while longer, and it would be great to help him save up for his future.
#3...she's PREGNANT! Her body is telling her what she needs. He needs to shut-up and sit down!
Also, if she grew up around unhealthy relationships with food, the LESS criticism the better!
I 100% understand her here. I too grew up around unhealthy relationships with food and caused me a lot of food stress.
For that wedding one, I would literally just ignore my family and go on with the wedding because the amount of time and money that was put into that is a lot, so I would just visit my sister after and not reschedule it.
I think yall severely underestimate the cost and scheduling stress of a wedding lol you have to plan years in advance. Can’t just push it back unless it’s a backyard wedding lol venues, food, people coming from out of town, work etc. NTA
They don't underestimate it. They're rich and don't have to care.
@@davidlionheart2438yuppp. They have thousands and thousands to throwaway but not everyone is so lucky
I never go on AITA because I don't want to get sucked in and read for hours, so I appreciate you doing these so I can at least hear some! I love the banter. Top tier entertainment right here
But sometimes you get the best updates that aren't included in these type of videos lol
Story 1 : it would cost SO much money to reschedule a wedding that has already been planned for a year. At that point you would lose all of your deposit money .
Not to mention the time you would have to put into planning a whole new wedding.
She offered such a reasonable solution. I understand her sister really wants to be there with her while she gets married but expecting that is way too much.
I would tell them if they are willing to rebook (with their own money) all the same vendors and venue. As well as save the dates, invitations. Rebooking flights for anyone who already booked (with their own money) . If they think it’s too much money then they shouldn’t expect HER to be spending that amount of money
Coming from a pregnant woman who is LITERALLY 20 weeks pregnant: YOU CAN CRAVE ANYTHING salmon (didn’t like it before pregnancy) to air heads candy. as long as you know you are still eating healthy, it’s ok to have random salty, sweet or spicy snacks/foods here and there. Although I am not eating every single healthy thing I can, I’m still gaining the recommended weight, and everything is healthy for baby so far. 10:51
First story: Personally, I have no plans to get married but I completely understand the absolute nightmare of planning one and how difficult it would be to postpone one short notice. Wedding vendors and venues get booked years in advance because spots can fill up that far back. They could lose hundreds if not thousands of dollars worth of deposits and may have already spent hundreds sending out invitations. Guests would have to be notified who may have already booked flights, hotel rooms, car rentals, tux/dress rentals, etc. Then they would have to orchestrate with all of the venues, vendors, and guests to see when it could be postponed until which may not be for months or even years later.
Long story, short....postponing a wedding can turn outrageously expensive and impact dozens or hundreds of people, guests and vendor employees included who were counting on this work. The sister is absolutely the A-hole for not only asking to postpone it but saying family comes first when she is belittling he own sisters big day as something less important than hers. The chance she will actually go into labor on that day is small and if she does, they could have the wedding videographer or someone set up a camera so she can watch it through Zoom or something.
Absolutely! I doubt the family would be willing to pay for the additional expenses that rescheduling would occur for both the wedding and guests. It's terrible that they are trying to guilt OP by saying "family comes first", while ignoring the fact that OP is ALSO family. Most family members wouldn't even be at the hospital for the birth of the baby or be visiting them when they get back home so it won't matter if most of their family is at the wedding. If they did reschedule, what if the sister gets pregnant again?
petition for Caleb to change his username to CallMeCaleb (edit: this is satire guys)
Nah Oompaville is way too iconic
I HAVE SIGNED THE PETITION.😂
YESSSSS 😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤ IT WOULD BE HILARIOUS
Maybe for a second channel like this one
no, they’re their own people they don’t have to match. Also KallmeKris and Oompaville are too iconic to be matching.
I have seen a lot of sisters fight over whether or not to change a wedding date. Even though I am with Kris and Caleb and hate other peoples' weddings, I will always side with the sister that is getting married. You WILL lose a lot of money trying to switch things around. Also, a lot of wedding vendors are booked months in advance. So, you may lose your flowers, or your DJ, or your caterer, or your entire venue and church. And, what about people who already arranged to travel in for the wedding? They may lose money, too. In my opinion, it is always the sister who is asking for the wedding date to be moved is the selfish and shallow one.
On top of that, if it is THAT important to the pregnant sister, she can see about getting induced early. This is NOT on the sister that is getting married at all.
Okay I’m glad the comments are agreeing on the first story. She had it planned for a year already.. I don’t think it’s fair to expect them to change out their important date because you got pregnant knowing the wedding date? You got pregnant knowing that risk.. if the wedding wasn’t that important and they hadn’t put so much money and planning then I’d be a little more hesitant to disagree but just because having your child is important doesn’t make their wedding any less important to them.. yknow?
No, they don't know because financially successful youtubers don't live in the real world with the rest of us. Honestly their take kind of pissed me off.
For the first one, she’s definitely not the AH. If she had the date set for a whole year then no. And wedding venues are often booked solid years in advance they can’t just move it. Hell no.
Just because the baby is due that day doesn't always mean it will be born on that day unless it's a scheduled C section
Dude, that baby story is crazy.
Pregnancy cravings are a thing.
Even your Dr will tell you to follow your cravings.
I had to scroll way too far to find any comment about this. Like, the body craves things for a reason when pregnant. Listen to your body
@@SamIAmWich my Dr had told me that if I start to crave things like paint chips, that it’s normal. Mine ended up being gourmet gummy candies from a specific place in the middle of the freaking desert. What was your craving?
@@Itchy-eyes I haven't had a kid yet. But my cousin (raised like sisters) had 4 and I have seen and heard all about her cravings. And the foods she couldn't eat anymore lol
My mom is allergic to citrus. When she was pregnant was the only time she can drink Orange juice.
"Family should come first" shows us who the favorite kid is
The first one, about postponing the wedding. No. They're not the a**hole, in my opinion. If it was a small gathering, that's one thing; but they stated they had been planning for over a year. You already have a venue, vendors, multiple guests coming, etc. not to mention they said they didn't even know the Sister was pregnant while planning. Obviously it was found out, at some point, why wouldn't it be brought up before last minute. You can't expect someone to be like, "oh, sorry guests, I know you took time off of work/out of yer daily life/planned/booked hotels/babysitters/reservations/etc. but my Sister is due to give Birth that day(which as y'all mentioned is a predicted date, not definite), so we ALL have to change Our lives around, again, to accommodate her being able to be there." Nah. I'm not big on Weddings, if/when I ever get married, it would not be anything big; probably going to a Courthouse and having an after party, which wouldn't be a big deal to change stuff up, at that point, but there are a lot of people who put so much money, time, effort, and stress into planning a wedding(hence "Bride Zilla's"). You cannot expect that, in that situation, and for their Family to try and gaslight them over it, is horrendous, in my opinion.
You guys have youtube money. most people can't afford to reschedule a wedding, you often lose deposits and not everything might be available at the next date. wedding stuff is usually planned a year in advance because of that.
Yeah statistically only 4-6% babies are born on there due date, so there no reason to move the wedding (the first story)
There are a lot of non refundable deposits that go into planning a wedding. As well as family and friends taking the time off.
The wedding, if I would lose a lot of money I wouldn't reschedule.
I think teaching a 17yr old to budget and pay a small portion of bills especially when making that much a month is a great lesson for the future!
totally agree
On the first story: "family comes first"
THE OP IS ALSO FAMILY THOUGH
P.S. the pregnant sister had nine months to let the couple know the due date but she waited until "the last minute." OP is NTA
Y’all are the most CHAOTIC duo of all time- literally perfect for eachother
The pregnant woman’s husband has a problem with how the wife is carrying the baby in her body and he can’t. He wants to be in control of the baby’s health while in utero but sadly he cannot and i think this is a problem for him. He thinks the wife is incapable of being a good nutritionist for their child .
I'm a late diagnosed autistic and for so many years people told me that I had a eating desorder because I measure how much food I eat , but the thing is that I have trouble knowing when I'm hungry or full so I eat too much or I forget and eat nothing at all for many many hours. I find that measuring and having an alarm for meals is what works for me the best. Also learned to measure my macros cause I've had malnutrition in the past
3:41 after marriage and a childbirth I’m gonna say wedding deposits are expensive and babies almost never come on their due date 😂 have the dang wedding, girl!
Rescheduling a wedding that has been planned for a year would mean losing hundreds or thousands of dollars in deposits, I’m sure. It’s not easy to just reschedule a wedding.
14:49 when you’re pregnant your baby will take whatever it needs from you. As long as you are taking your prenatal vitamins and eating a relatively balanced diet and eating enough calories this is not a thing that he needs to worry about.
Okay but the deposit on wedding venues is anywhere from 20 to 50%. So if they lose their deposit they lose hundreds to thousands of dollars.
has kris ever made a video about how she styles her hair, her bangs are always so perfect! I gotta figure it out
I’m so used to these videos with Kris doing someone’s hair
And I'm used to seeing her do these videos without mindlessly agreeing with Caleb's moronically bad takes.
@@davidlionheart2438 Kris probably doesn’t agree with what all he’s saying but she is very happy with him
The first story, if the bride and groom are paying for everything and have for the past year plus, weddings now run normally 12k or more. And if the grooms family is helping they’re also out on a portion of that money because of the sister due date. I do understand if this baby is the first grandchild and whatever it is a big deal, and in the scope of things a wedding in the future is really only important to the couple. Don’t cancel your wedding, if they can be there great if they can’t great. You were willing to compromise and still come see them if the baby came that day. Family comes first is going to be a rude awakening for your parents, because your husband is now you primary family
10:24 if this guy isn’t meal-prepping for her then he’s just looking for control. Also if she’s having cravings it could be her body is looking for missing macros
Story 1: The wedding date is exact, but the actual day of birth can vary plus or minus some days. It's an estimate.
The thing I want to know is: How far is the wedding location from the sister's maternity hospital?
If going to the wedding does not involve long distance travel, like an airline flight or overnight car trip, it won;t put the expectant mom in any danger, so no reason why they can't just wait and see. If the sister whelps on the same exact day as the wedding, and she cannot be there, so be it.
I get that a child being born is more "be there or else", but peoples' weddings get stupid large and very expensive. People can get financially ruined over weddings.
If anything, the other AITA episodes you did about weddings show just how testy other people can be over having wedding planned altered even one bit.
Even D-Day had to do a bit of "wait and see", so I think the pregnant sister and the parents can try to be a bit pragmatic.
I feel like with the wedding one, i wouldn’t call OP the AH. They were put in a hard position. Their wedding was planning for over a year. And as someone who had a full wedding planned and had to postpone it, we lost over 10k and that was just for the venue and food, not counting everyone who bought tuxes/suits, dresses, the flower arrangements, a DJ, wedding planner, cake and appetizers for the guests during photos, all prepaid and the list goes on. And all of that money is just lost. And if it took them a long time to save for that wedding I would not be postponing for someone to give birth. I would absolutely go visit them after the ceremony if they did in fact give birth then, but I wouldn’t postpone after over a year of planning. Especially when most of the time, people don’t want an entire entourage in the room for them to give birth anyway. They want people to visit after the fact.
I think the problem is not that the pregnant sister wanted her sister in the birth of the baby, she just want to go to the wedding and she can't while being in a hospital, thats why the bride offered to stream the ceremony. The pregnant woman is the selfish one
Lets be clear about one thing. The dad wants his son to pay him now because he's doing well. It has nothing to do with the hydro bill. MAYBE if you have unlimited internet, its 15$ extra a month. 100$ a month if you're going to be reasonable. He's 17 years old, do they also charge him for the extra food he's been eating because he's growing up?.. good lord.. Give him a year and then start charging him. My parents said 18, that's when you start paying to live here.
Exactly he is 17 at least wait until he's 18 and the most the kid would be paying is for electric which probably would be $50 for his consumption maybe a bit more so how big of a deal is it really that the dad needs to make this big of a deal of it
💯%!
ive never understood charging kids rent personally. i understand back in the day when obtaining a home was financially easier but nowadays it is extremely unlikely to move out at 18 especially if you live in a major city (for example i live in boston and even rent is VERY expensive just for a 1 bedroom). dont have kids if you cant accept that you are a parent even after they are 18
Kid is 17, asking him to pay bills is ridiculous...
Kris & Caleb remind me soooo much of my parents. Happily married, deeply in love, don't care about small stupid shit for these last 50 years! 😂😂😂😂❤
For the first one, the OP stated that her sisters due date was the day of the wedding. More than half the babies that were born weren’t actually born on their due date. My cousins due date was in early-middle September, but she was born on august 2nd this year. So she was around a month early but she is COMPLETELY healthy! So I’m saying that the sister can just go to the wedding, and if her water breaks at the wedding, a member of her family can drive her to the nearest hospital. And if the baby is born before the wedding, she randomly got prego and the wedding/date of the wedding was scheduled and planned over a year before it would take place. If the sister wants the OP to reschedule the date more than a week later, it’s gonna cost a lot and if it’s not nearby(like New York to Florida or smth), all the guests are gonna lose money too if they’re taking a plane and booked a hotel or something. No one is really the a hole but the OP’s sister and family are more of the a hole than the OP.(omg I wrote a lot lol)
My problem with the first story is that money is on the line, and it's not like they scheduled for that date after learning the baby's due date. Some people can't just lose money and throw more around. It's unfortunate if the sister has to miss the wedding, but it is what it is. It's not malicious, it's just an unavoidable coincidence. It's life. The wedding should go forward as planned.
this is old but i wanted to give some thoughts on the pregnancy one:
maybe he could meal prep for her? eating out isnt bad, but maybe she’s doing it because it’s easier? maybe if he helped her stay on track with her meals and snacks that would make him feel like he can keep it healthier while also her keeping her bodily autonomy and having some cravings. communication is so needed in every form of relationship and i hope that her post opened that up for them!
3:12 if I was a person pretending to care abt weddings
My new fav quote😂
Bride-to-be isn’t the AH in my opinion. Like Kraleb said, the baby isn’t likely to even be due on the actual date anyways. So, I think a huge ordeal like a wedding that took a year to plan is a valid reason to miss the immediate delivery of a niece or nephew that you’ll see possibly still on their birthday if not a few hours afterwards. 🤷🏻♀️
The birth is undetermined as the wedding is. An induced labor can be moved. The sister knew the wedding date before getting pregnant and can’t expect life to stand still.
15:20 his text sounded polite but it sounded so polite to the point of passive agressive, like he is sending her an email about her work ethics
A wedding with all the stuff that comes with it are very expensive. Church, wedding hall, cake, dj/band, wedding planner, florist, photographer video guy and whatever else isn’t cheap. That’s the most important thing Money! If the sister wants to reimburse for those costs so the wedding can’t take place later then reschedule, otherwise no don’t.
I love how caleb makes a voice and kris converses with him in the same voice they are so cute together
If one of my family members had a baby on the day of another family members wedding. The wedding would still continue, the pay would’ve just been like “ so and so couldn’t make it because she’s in labor” and the wedding would’ve still continued. But I get that not all families are the same so don’t bash me for speaking MY OPINION about how my family would handle it.
For the first story:
-As a person who very often has to take a flight to make it to friends’ weddings, if someone last minute said they were rescheduling for any reason, I would be extremely upset. Plane tickets are never less than $200, at the LEAST, and that’s if you’re flying the sketchiest airline possible.
-Plus, many jobs these days have really strict requirements for when you can request time off, meaning half the guests might not even be able to make it if it were rescheduled. -AND: Both Weddings and Childbirth are extremely expensive ventures. Both in their case are inevitable.
the first one , cancel the big wedding , get married at the court house , telling family afterward , and resent the child forever LOL 😇
My wife had 3 kids. When they crave they are basically identifying what they need. If she wants hamburger on her ice cream then get out the scoup and the frying pan.
I really don't think the first OP is the AH in this situation. That's A LOT of money to lose when everything is already scheduled, not to mention the stress of having to basically replan everything and reschedule it. Personally, it seems unfair that everyone is calling her the AH when her concerns and reservations (pun partially intended) regarding rescheduling everything are so valid. And some places may not even give any refund depending on how close the date of the wedding is to when she would cancel, so that is even more money lost. it seems like a lot to ask
Disappointed that I didn't get to hear Caleb say 'am I the scallywag' whilst grooming his stash 😭
0:33 bro he was so set forward 🤣
First off the first one she’s been planning this way before she was pregnant neither one can help when she’s due. She shouldn’t have to readjust her life for her sister
Omg the second one you should never put your child in that position
in the US at least, for the major internet companies (ATT, comcast, etc) if you go over 1TB, they start tacking on additional fees per 25 or 50GB.
NTA: She should’ve mentioned sooner she was pregnant. Once you have the venue set it’s a ton of money you lose for rescheduling, and people may have already requested days off just to attend the wedding, and the hassle of it will be chaotic to reschedule the wedding. 2:27
I disagree with the kids paying utilities. I get the perspective of growing up low income and needing to pitch in in order to survive, but children are NEVER suppose to do that. Children did not ask to be put into this world and it is the job of the parents to provide for their children. I get teaching the kid to be responsible, but making them pay your bills is not it.
Also the rent comment is an ick. AGAIN Children should never have to pay your bills because they are suppose to be supported during their time as a minor so when they do become an adult they know how to function as one. And this comes by teaching them through example not forcing them TO PAY YOUR BILLS..
Absolutely not the ahole for not rescheduling a wedding.
i love AITA videos lol, yall are so funny, but the stories are kinda crazy sometimes😂
I'm sick and feel awful. Been sleeping a lot and also restless. I opened YT and I thought it'd be nice to watch a Kris video. 😁 Wish granted.
My mom was pregnant w/ me for 10 months. Babies rarely come on the exact day. I think it’s dumb to demand people plan anything around a specific due date when they can’t truly predict when the baby will show up.
Weddings are EXPENSIVE! It’s time CONSUMING AND PLANNED WAY AHEAD, so canceling will just be way more stressful and expensive yet again
I love how Kris an Caleb match eachother's energy all the time
Right!? It’s awesome ✨
Oh, you mean how she mindlessly agrees with his jaw-droppingly bad takes.
@@davidlionheart2438ooh!! Im glad someone said it
@@davidlionheart2438I'm so glad others see this
The last story, bit of utilities, maybe rent or board but it goes in a bank account. Give it to him as a gift for stuff he needs when he moves out. Don't tell him you are saving it though, it helps to learn how to manage money.
Rescheduling only makes sense if they can get their deposit back and no one was planning to travel/ bough plane tickets
Weddings can be very expensive, and rescheduling vendors can add even more loss of money. Not everyone can afford these things multiple times for the sake of others especially if they aren’t offering to help pay for the rescheduling.
I had a child with an ex. What i learned is if she rolls over at 2am and says I NEED a mcchicken with that no playing around tone. You get your ass up and find a damn mcchicken.
Charge the kid $50 a month to pitch in, toss it into a savings and then give it back to him when he moves out. He learned to pay bills on time and mom gets to give her son all his money.
Dude, the first story WILD. She is NOT the AH! It's not like it hasn't been planned. You have to plan years in advance to get everything worked out and the fact that her family is on the other side? Obviously, they are not paying for the wedding. I'll go as a stand in for her sister.
Anybody else prefer when kris reads aita with her sister(s) vs her agreeing with everything caleb says or changing her opinion half way through because he dosen't agree? Just seems like she speaks her mind/opinions a little more with them vs with him
It's so much better with her sisters. When it's with Caleb, he always has the worst opinions and she goes along for some reason.