@@AfrahAfzal1997 that’s really not the point we’re making here. Just as if your child had a physical health problem, you listen to them, you believe them, and you take them to their pediatrician (an expert in childhood physical health) to evaluate what is going on. That’s the same for mental health. You listen to them, you believe them, and you take them to a child psychologist (an expert on childhood mental health) to evaluate what is going on. You can listen to children and believe them while also knowing that they are mentally ill-equipped to make such decisions, hence why parents exist and why mental health experts exist
This is a world set on rules ...is your child prepared to follow the rules and laws of this land? If not followed there will be consequences. Not setting rules at home is not preparing them for the real world...just saying.
I'm all for children having some freedom and making decisions because some parents are way too controlling and hard on their children. However this lifestyle is not gonna be good in the long run because when they're adults they won't know how to cope with the real world because in day to day life you have to follow rules.
@@meizhen2265 she did explain that it’s not about saying yes but giving them alternative options and to give them the understanding of what’s a good choice. She did say it’s not about no discipline but gentle discipline
@@claireemily1983 yeah but they still let them do whatever, the point is that in life you cant just do whatever you want and that is the problem, by putting limits and saying no sometimes you're giving them the tools to be able to deal with the adult world where you will get refused things and people will say no !
I’m guessing they’ll be like our great great great grandparents- grandma and grandpa that couldn’t afford school, had to work on the farm, and they didn’t have modern medicine. We’ve already been there, done that. Low levels of education, high mortality rates, hunter gatherer/agricultural/pre-industrial society.
That's my thoughts exactly.. i think deeply that's what they wanted. They will literally either be so comfortable they will stay at home to the age of 30 or the straight opposite, they will rebel and run from home. Two bad extremes
They're not exactly preparing their kids for the "real world" so hopefully they will be able to acclimate when the time comes. Surely there will be many hard lessons and surprises.
That might cause some anxiety and stress as they might not adapt into society plus if they don’t work how will they eat if they parents don’t provide for them anymore?
The real world is changing though. You couldn’t make millions off the internet 15 years ago for example, unless you made a website. Why not innovate the real world rather than conform to it. I think realistically a balance is needed.
It’s kind of known that children thrive best with routines and boundaries, especially when they are quite young. It will be VERY interesting to see how they adjust later in life….
Life can be very stressful for children who are raised in so-called 'conventional' families, with so much pressure , especially from the school system, to reach certain goals by certain ages. Chronic stress is very damaging long-term, leading to poor mental and physical health. This family look genuinely happy and the children look so carefree and relaxed. I hope that this will continue for the children as they grow up, and that they are able to pursue their interests.
@@zebandscott well I think there’s a healthy balance to be found with both. Child-led parenting isn’t exactly the best alternative to strict parenting because, lo and behold, children aren’t exactly equipped to make decisions on their own. Maybe for what they would like to eat or how they want to play but not for the bigger decisions such as health and education. Setting healthy boundaries lets a child live with little stress (it’s been found in research that no stress can actually be as bad as high stress) while also having them know that they can’t exactly do whatever they want, just like the real world. There’s expectations to be made and if you want to succeed, you need to meet those expectations. I hate strict parenting just like you but child-led parenting isn’t the alternative to the problem either
She lost me at having no limits with screen time. The destructive nature of excess screen time in kids is well-established. There's a reason tech moguls like Steve Jobs have famously limited their kids' access to it. Kids also don't naturally have discipline regarding internet use. (Heck, neither do most adults.) So kids need that guidance, as they can't possibly appreciate the long-term damage they're inflicting on themselves.
I don’t believe it’s as well established as we say it is. Social media is still relatively new. I have been someone to take breaks from the computer myself but have found that screen time is a scapegoat for other problems. For example, I use the computer so much because I don’t have someone to speak to in real life. I don’t think it’s about limiting screen time, it’s about having a more full, balanced life that you don’t feel the need to constantly be on the computer.
I was raised with no rules and I can confirm these children will probably end up resenting them. Im 20 now and litterally have no idea how to function as a person Im in therapy and dont really want anything to do with my family. I became unaware of consequences. Ive made terrible decisions and I have biological children I gave up, Ive struggled with addiction for a couple years and I never been able to regulate or limit myself.. or keep a job, please keep your children structured. BTW I have a brother whos been missing since he was 16 🤷🏽♀️ now he’s a sex offender Update: I'm doing a lot better for myself now♡
@theroadlesstraveled3993 Your right, I guess I was just completely neglected. Thank you, I appreciate your perspective. I still disagree with having no rules beacuse as an adult we have no choice but to abide by rules it helps us function as a society and work so we can provide, and schedules and sleep and diet and vital for healthy living
I’m so sorry. 💔 my heart goes out to you. I’m so glad you’re doing better now. Thank you for your first hand experience with this opinion. A lot of people don’t know what this can cause.
Glad you’re doing better. I relate to your situation very heavily. I’m also 20, almost 21. I’ve struggled a lot with becoming an adult from my lack of structure and discipline. My family loves me very much, and is very supportive, and I’m very grateful for that, but there were some pretty major decisions made that affected my life greatly. I’m also doing much better. I’ve found a relationship with God, and He is shaping me into the man I want to be. Hope you’re still well!
I love that their kids get to Make big and daily choices, because we often times make them and don’t ask a child their point of view. BUT…I’m turning my head when they started talking about unschooling. While I think it’s wonderful they’re being exposed to things in the real word, I just hope they know basic math, science and reading. I feel as though navigating this world can certainly be challenging if you can’t handle money, read for direction, and such. But who knows, maybe they’ll one day wake up and have an itch for mathematician or want to attempt going to a “regular” school.
Whole heartedly agree, however my 3 yr old has and is learning that on his own. He will still be attending school like other kids when times right so he can learn social skills plus reading writing and arithmetic. But some of my other kids could have never picked up without school.
My Bible reminds me to 'TRAIN a child up in the way that they Should go and they will never depart'...Children need structure, if not, what are we here for?
@Kayla Sweet, all parents are here to destroy their children’s lives and line the pockets of tomorrow’s therapists. These people are utterly ridiculous.
Unless the children are willing to live outside society once they grow up, it is going to be very hard for them to adapt and find oneselves. I see this parenting style as a form of neglect.
I have a 9 year old who is home schooled. She naturally goes to bed at 9 and wakes up around 7. She brushes her teeth twice a day without being reminded and only gets sweets once a week. That was a mutual decision of whether she gets random sweets she may not like throughout the week or if she waits and gets to pick two candies she actually likes, and the latter was her choice. She has choices she makes daily, she gets to be around children her age, she definitely doesn't have unlimited screen time, internet is the wildwest in a sense, so that's a big no. She's wonderful and I'm proud of who she's becoming.
I think it's awesome to give kids choices however there has to be some structure. I like the mix that you have and I can imagine how that's going to hear your child for success.
I guess we won't know if this was a good idea or not until they're much older. Unfortunately, at that point it'll be too late to intervene, seeing as they will have already passed through their formative years. All I can say is that I *sincerely* hope it all turns out well.🤞
This style of parenting falls into the permissive parenting category (the extreme spectrum of it I suppose). There’s been research on pessimistic parenting and it’s effects. The outcome is usually pretty bad. Kids this age need order and guidance. Without it, they’re likely to fail as adults
It's called a "permissive" parenting style. There are 4 parenting styles as the theory by Diana Baumrind. They will struggle academically, have no tools to self-regulate. They will have low-self esteem and as adults will report a lot of sadness. They have higher risks for health problems. They will develop unhealthy habits and grow fear to engage the world. They are likely to fail in the job market and not take initiative to start projects or tasks . This isn't anything new. It's been done and it's a fail for children..
You explained it beautiful this is my life as an adult who was raised like this thankfully I was able to trade sex to survive and my husband takes care of me very well
@@redbeard7376 no story just was completely lost when I went into the world didn’t know how to interact with other people my age still it have any friends my age even in my 30s low self esteem started sleeping with any man who paid attention to me no self respect didn’t really do much in life got a GED failed out of the military but I did become really good at sex and eventually I was lucky and found my husband his a great guy and takes care of me financially and emotionally
I truly feel that children do much better with a structured lifestyle, I was very structured with my first 5 children and my last one not as much and I truly see the difference. I would love to see how they will deal with getting up early to go to work after not having a bed time
That is the least of their worries. As a teen I stayed up til 8am, slept til 4pm. When I worked briefly and went to college I got up every single morning at 4:45 am to get ready. I was still young during college so I stayed up til 1am. When I worked however, I was asleep by 11pm. Sometimes by 10pm. You sort that out pretty quick if you're not completely dense/immature. However, their problem is going to come not finding work because they won't have any education period. No highschool deploma or whatever Britain's equivalent is. No one will hire them for them to even worry about a work schedule. 🤷🏻♀️ This is their biggest issue. Tending to chickens and practicing ballet won't suffice in getting them hired.
Do you have a good relationship with your parents? I am blessed that my kids think of me as a mom and a friend and tell me everything. I have 8 children but wish I could have had more, 6 boys and 2 girls, the boys were harder at a younger age but the girls in there teen were a nightmare lol. Please just remember that a good work ethic is everything and will get you far. Good luck honey and take care
@barbourbih This is fascinating. Pray tell us more. I had teachers as parents, so my life was very structured, and I felt very safe and secure in that environment as a child. My best friend could do whatever and she told me after she had her 1st child, she used to wish she could come and live at mine.
I'm just worried they're going to have a very hard time relating to other people when they're away from the home. Honestly, the school system isn't really about classes - it's about learning to exist successfully in the world with others. Sure, your kids aren't missing out on much as far as lessons and grades are concerned, but this unlearning thing is only nice while they're children. When they're adults, it'll be a very different story.
I believe in giving children freedoms of expression and not being too strict on house rules but this is taking it too far. They’re small children who don’t know any better. Your job as a parent is to guide them to be respectable, functioning individuals of society
I wonder the long term affects of this parenting style when the children become teenagers and adults. I’m not knocking this at all, because I was born into a family of the complete opposite, so I personally have recognized my own long term affects from being restricted a lot. It’s pretty just interesting to see how carefree and unrestricted these kids are !
Same. Everything has its pros and cons. It feels like this could work out ok for them and there will be other people it wouldn't work for. Unless there is a glaring obvious problem with a parenting style then people should do what works best for them and their children. I hope it all works out
At least if they were working and not relying on the British taxpayers to pay for their 'lifestyle', house, etc, I would respect them a bit. But since they don't work and live on welfare social benefits I just see them as 'parasites' .......
They are setting thier children up for suffering in the future once they become young adults and have to face the fact the real world has rules. Not to mention the potential burden or outright threat to society they could become. Part of giving children rules in the home isn't just to help the family unit function; its to prepare them for life in the rest of our world.
This is why I love being married to a biologist, there is so much you don’t understand about modern medicine if you’re ignorant enough to basically cut it out some or entirely 🤦♂️
@@AmyLeeAngelLove To stay healthy, obviously. You get vaccines to prevent you from getting a virus, that's how it works. We eradicated so many deseases thanks to modern medicine, it's a shame all the work done by professionals are being questioned by people like you.
@@AmyLeeAngelLove I mean everyone kinda needs it, not just for you but for others like I got the covid vaccine with my family so I don’t get a old person or a baby sick and your own immune system isn’t enough to fight against measles or smallpox
I genuinely feel like this is child abuse in a form. It may seem to work now, but children need to learn structures and rules and routines in order to survive in the real world. By denying them those things, you're going to make them dependant on you longer than they need to be, which will only hurt them. You can parent responsively and gently without denying your child their right to education and proper healthcare.
The reason adults typically make decisions for their children is not because adults are all power maniacs, it’s because kids are haven’t been alive as long, they don’t have experience, their brains aren’t fully developed and they lack critical thinking skills. It’s an adult’s job to develop those areas, but it takes a whole childhood and adolescence to gather enough knowledge, wisdom, experience and development to be able to make smart decisions, which is why the parent does it on behalf of the child. You can foster critical thinking by explaining the reason you’re making a certain decision, to them. You don’t have to put all the power in their hands.
I guess I'm confused bc as adults we all have rules/laws we have to follow or there are consequences. I learned to follow the rules as a child, and now I know how to follow rules/laws as an adult.
It's understandable that many see it this way because that's how we were raised to believe it has to be. I think people assume that no rules equals they get to be rude or inconsiderate and will naturally choose to be. That isn't how it works. No rules but still guidelines and principles. Guidance and communication is key here. Kids learn by our example and when in a situation where they are being disruptive, for example, we don't just say go ahead do whatever you want. We still guide and teach, just respectfully and gently. Sometimes compromise is necessary. It requires a lot of time and effort. More so than a rules and punishment system, which is basically more convenient for the parent, but really nothing is accomplished in terms of character or actually instilling principles within the child. It's more of a fear based power and control. No other relationship should function that way and neither should our relationship with our kids.
I feel like when parents aren't as restrictive, kids are less likely to break any rules. It's like that sense of freedom that holds you back from acting out. My mom was like this with me and I feel like I became a lot more independent because of it. It taught me how to make my own choices from an early age. My mom did make sure I went to public school tho. Home school was mostly for creepy bible thumpers and weirdos back in the 90s. Now it's a lot more common. I think these kids are very well-behaved for not having any restrictions. The schooling is the only issue.
I feel like your mom also set boundaries for you, not completely child-led. I believe there’s a healthy balance to be found with both parenting styles. Of course, restrictive parenting will lead a child to rebel and break rules as well as increase stress from impossibly high standards. But children also need structure and boundaries, which is where I’m finding an issue with their parenting style. Children can’t make every decision on their own, that’s why parents are deemed legally responsible for them. The schooling and especially the health one are my biggest concerns. They’re truly lucky that we live in an age where herd immunity is a thing because… unfortunately, they wouldn’t have lasted very long if this were only 200 years ago
Yeah.. No, not happening.. Do these parents go to work? "Kids eat and sleep when they want".. what about you? I need my sleep and other routines, or everything would be total chaos.. and "unschooling" is definitely not something I agree with.. that will hurt them in the future..
This is kind of setting up the children for failure when they grow up and decide to move out. Society is based on structure and rules. Holistic remedies only go so far, if one of kids breaks a bone or gets a big gash, are they going to bring them to the emergency room or just rub herbs on it? That also brings up their healthcare situation, which I'm guessing is none. They have some good points but I think they are taking it the the extreme. It's good to let kids explore but they shouldn't have complete free range of anything. Say no (with a good reason attached) is sometimes a good thing. I need an update when they are all teenagers and "rebelling".
What kind of career are they gonna have if they never do school the lil girl even said she want to write they holding them back instead of helping them
They're too young to make decisions on their own. Rules should be implemented early to at least provide the child with a healthy understanding for authority, then as they get older, rules slowly die off as the child now implements healthy rules for themselves.
Parents are supposed be be laying down the foundation to help their children grow into productive, accepted members of society. Not sending them to school? They will struggle with the basic understanding of the world. They will have zero social skills they'd normally get in a classroom setting, but at least they let them interact with others for the girls' gymnastic/ballet courses, but they aren't socializing every single day - the effect will be limited. Also, what marketable qualities are they instilling in their kids to help them qualify for ANY work? How will they support themselves and any family they might want in the future? And since they don't believe in doctors or hospitals, will they just let the children die of otherwise preventable diseases (such as cancer or diabetes)?
The parents don't work and rely on welfare social benefits so I suppose the kids will be social 'parasites' just like the parents. Their 'alternative' lifestyle, their house, etc are all paid by the British taxpayers .....
The one thing that makes me nervous for them is modern medicine/doctors as a last resort. If you’d rather find alternative herbs/extracts/etc for healing that’s fine, but it’s still good to see a doctor for an exam to make sure if a medical condition develops that it is caught early. Also, things like childbirth (I remember seeing this family in another video and the mom said she birthed at home with no doctor around) because you never know if the baby could get stuck in the pelvis or be put under excessive stress, swallow meconium, etc., which those things call for emergency action right then and there.
This type of parenting DOES NOT WORK. Kids like this grow up to be anxious adults with poor social skills and sometimes a DANGEROUS lack of personal boundaries, I've seen it first hand. Children need to learn discipline, boundaries, and social skills or else REAL LIFE ends up slapping them in the face. Many children raised like this grow up to have drug addictions, intimacy issues, lack of motivation, and personal/sexual boundary issues.
They seem so sweet and happy. In “the real world when they’re adults” they will respect others boundaries and expect the same in return. I’m sure they understand right and wrong. Sleeping when tired and eating when hungry is how I wish I grew up 🤷🏾♀️
However those aren’t the only things in life. If they aren’t learning basic maths and literature then I’m not sure they will be able to be functional adults with jobs.
I definitely have some ideas in how I am raising my children differently. At the same time, I am also aware we cannot avoid the way at which our society is ran. I do feel it is important for children to be heard and their needs are provided for and even some of their desires. My thought is geared more toward how they will be able to co-exist with others as they grow older and may or may not be able to connect with others around them bc their way of learning & freedoms conflict with the “outside” world.
Very well said, was thinking exactly the same. They don't see the true colors of our society in this modern age, and they will be used to some sort of fantasy living. They will have such a hard time with So many important pillars of life
Kids don't know what they like if they aren't exposed to it. Hence school subjects. I hated science from a young age and then in high-school realized how awesome our world (science) is. Last time I checked gymnastics and ballet doesn't pay the bills as adults(unless your amazing at it and can do it professionally)
This is all well and good, but raising your kids outside societial norms has one big con. What happens to them when they have to rejoin society in their adulthood? They are going to have a hard time adjusting to the real world.
I was raised very similarly with the exception of attending private and public school until sophomore year of high school. My mom decided to home school me when I began modeling abroad full time. But as a kid, when I was home, I could do what I wanted and never had a bedtime or eating schedule. I will say I naturally wanted to eat and sleep on my parent’s schedule. I am now 23 and have a very productive and creative schedule and have everything I could need/providing for myself.
I don’t see this working well when they’re teenagers though. So if your daughter is 14 and wants to date a 25 year old man, you’d let her? Or vice versa with the sons? I try and be open minded but teenagers are SO different than toddlers and you’re eventually going to have to put boundaries and rules in place, or your kids are going to possibly get themselves into danger.
For them to say that plants do not have side effects is VERY irresponsible. I was raised with holistic medicine being just as important and vital as conventional medicine and many times it being preferred over. The side effects of valerian root is upset stomach, dulled affect, vivid dreams, headache, and long term use can trigger withdrawal symptoms when you stop taking it. It’s extremely useful and a wonderful plant, however all plants needs to be taken seriously and not like it’s absolutely harmless. SMDH.
“…how they’re gonna live when they are older, that’s gonna be their choice”. Nope. Because you’ve taken away from them all choices which require education. The proper statement would be “…how they’re gonna live when they are older, that’s gonna be their problem”
I’m a free range parent, but I have known parents like this.. and tbh their kids grow up very normal and very independent. All and all kids just need love and support and turn out okay.
I have mixed feelings about this one. I was unschooled myself but these folks are much nicer than my own parents and seem quite sensible and emotionally intelligent. However the thing that really concerns me is the junk food and the screens, both can be highly addictive and children don't have that kind of impulse control or the ability to understand the consequences of their choices. It was basically the same in my household with disastrous results. My youngest sister, who was the opposite of the rest of us and didn't really have any restrictions, became an emotionally and socially stunted person because she was given the choice to eat junk food and use the computer all day. I think it effected her physically as well because she didn't seem to go through puberty really and is much shorter than everyone else. I hope there is more to this than meets the eye, after all this is only a 9-minute segment. However I would like to say that having rules and limitations is not unloving. I think some people react to experiences of being restricted and feeling like they were not accepted for who they are, by believing love is the opposite, it means no restriction, no intervention, and accepting everything. But that also means giving people the freedom to destroy their own lives. Is that love? And is it loving to yourself if you have to put your feelings aside all the time so someone else can do whatever they want? For me I had a very destructive relationship with myself because this was how I viewed things, only to find I started to love myself when I started putting limits on some behaviours and having some rules to follow. Having self-control improved my mental well-being, I feel safe now for the first time in my life because it's self-care to me. I don't think freedom needs to be a free-for-all for you to say you're free. Being emotionally free is the only freedom that matters, and it takes some self-restraint at times but it's completely worth it. Rules by themselves aren't unloving, it's all about how they are used.
I hope Truly continues to follow this family. I find the unconventional concepts that these parents are raising their children with, very interesting. In a society that has many good and not so good ways about it, we need people like this to push the boundaries so that we can see change in a different light.
People in the comments are outraged. Yet if it was a video about somebody letting their kid fully transition and deciding the want to take hormone blockers everybody would be clapping and saying "well done". I swear this channels viewers are the worst.
@@AmyLeeAngelLove Thanks. I just don't understand how people can be outraged that these people let their children decide their own bedtime ect. Yet they seem totally fine with a young kid making decisions to irreversibly affect their natural development. It's virtue signaling at its absolute worst.
I actually disagree. You'd find just as many outraged comments there as you would here... I've seen it. Read more closely. This is the internet. People are outraged everywhere whether it's for a good reason or not.
Also, again, read more closely. People aren't outraged over kids deciding their own bedtimes. People are outraged over their views on not vaccinating their kids, not giving their kids formal education, and saying "yes" to everything. I'm not saying I agree or disagree to any of these nor am I saying that all of these claims are correct; but claiming the comments are outraged over bedtimes is a gross oversimplification of the heart of what is bothering people here. They're unhappy with what they're perceiving is a complete lack of guidance and support from the parents on the real nature of the world and its inhabitants and how young minds aren't equipped to make some of these more heavy-caliber decisions.
I honestly laugh at the comments most of you make, this couple really gives their children 100% every day and strengthens their free will unlike the mass that brings children into the world to satisfy their own repressed (a fake superficial love), and prepares them to become the next good robots of the system. I don't know do you feel proud for bringing lifes in this worl and making them just copy paste of your own desires? At least they are working every day really hard with their children and guess what? This is love , true love .. Not just an effort that when the child will grow up you can give a good answer..like Child: where have you been when I was child? Parent: I was working all day so you could have everything (I was a good robot to help you be a good robot as well so I was paying a nanny to give you my love). Child: But I only wanted was your love and your presence. Parent: Yes but I had to work to afford all your needs and that is how you became a successful person in society. Child: Ok maybe you are right but you know something? Although your pride for me and my success ..still I am not a happy person. I feel like I missed something on my way. I smile a lot every day but is not real. It looks like a to do list for being part of society. Deep inside me I feel empty and like all we are pretending we are happy because we achieved social goals and that is how we are supposed to be. Parent: .......
I wonder how it's legal for parents to fill their children's heads with religious nonsense 🤷♀️ that's straight up child abuse as far as I'm concerned.
@@Kc-dq7zj it's not black or white. You don't need to be like them nor be like you said. Me and my friends weren't raised like them nor by a radical religious family and we are well, we weren't abused
@@yukononun I don’t believe anyone should be blindly faithful to anything. But I also don’t think everything is a conspiracy. I just think it’s foolish not to take it when it’s there.
I met an unschooled kid in my senior year of high school. Had a family a lot like this….they were wholly unprepared for the world and had a hard time keeping a job and dropped out of college because things like writing a paper and meeting a deadline were foreign to them. Fantastic imagination and was naturally smart but after watching their life unfold I don’t think unschooling has a high success rate. I’m sure there are success stories but I think the lack of exposure to conflicting ideas and diverse people can be extremely detrimental in the long run.
Definitely disgusting- these kids are being set up for failure and will not be prepared for the real world at all. You can be a kind parent yet still discipline your children.
How are you able to determine this, and their future. This is the way the world is going, this is the future of parenting. Unless you are extremely educated in the field of child development I would refrain from making such judgements. You sound ignorant.
I definitely don't agree with ALL of their choices. Giving children options I certainly believe in. Everything we need to know we do learn in kindergarten, most Everything we were taught in school I will never use. Vaccines are important, that's why we have them. In my opinion when these kids are adults they will not appreciate this way of life. How will they get good jobs? Where are the social skills needed to form relationships outside of the family? Sure they may not need their hepatitis vaccine right now... because they are never around other people, but one day they will be and that makes me scared for them.
At least she breast fed her children. She's already doing better then most parents just by doing that one thing for her children's health. Wish my mom did the same for me, maybe I wouldn't have developed so many autoimmune issues. I'm not mad at her, she didn't know any better and at least she breast fed her last-born daughter.
I don't think breastfeeding would have saved you from autoimmune issues. Breastfeeding may help you to strengthen your immune system against pathogens. But I don't think it would have prevented your immune system to attack your own body. It's just my opinion, feel free to teach me how it would have helped you
Parents are literally there to make sure the children grow into responsible, disciplined, and healthy adults. Hearing the phrase “respecting the child’s autonomy” is rage inducing. They aren’t capable of independence, or autonomy. That is LITERALLY WHAT PARENTS ARE FOR. Holh crap these kids are gonna be hellions. Hopefully they’ll straighten out sometime, but it’s going to be incredibly hard for them. These “parents” should be ashamed.
The funny thing is that even though this seems foreign is really not, this is how ppl used to live. I might not raise my kids this way but that's their choice and I completely respect it. Why do ppl get so bothered by someone else's choice that doesn't affect them? Geez!
I believe a child should be free, but guidance is important! And as a parent you manipulated your children even when you don’t want to! But the trick is to give more than one option that they can befit from! So they can start making their own personality and choice with some flavour of their parent(s). When you listen to what kids have to say when they small, they will listen to what you have to say when they become bigger! Mutual respect is the key!
I think it would be only fair to let the kids visit a public school and see what they are missing. If you want the kids to be autonomous and make their own choices, then they should see what school is like.
I've met adults who cannot read or write at my work before as they were never taught as children and they're always embarressed at having to ask staff to read or write things for them because they cannot themselves. It's cruel to not teach your children necessary life skills they need to get by in adulthood.
Just because they aren't forced to learn when and how the system recommends, doesn't mean they won't learn. As unscoolers we allow them to learn at their pace and facilitate an environment that fits their passions and interests. They eventually realize writing and spelling are important to communicate or to reach their goals. Common misconception, but I assure you unschoolers learn to read and write too lol I agree it is cruel to not teach your kids necessary life skills. That's why we don't send them to a government institution ran by a bunch of strangers. We teach them the life skills that actually matter.... academics are not life skills and are just a small part of education.
@@theroadlesstraveled3993 I agree it's never too late but i do think it is easier to learn new things while your brain is still developing before adulthood. It's definitely not impossible to learn to read or write when you're older but I do think it is more difficult for the brain to remember information. I know most unschoolers do teach there kids when they think they're ready for it but unfortunately there are also a few who do not. I also agree education isn't everything too as my own father dropped out of school because he just couldn't sit still behind a desk all day he needed to be working with his hands doing manual labour.
Wouldn’t be surprised if the whole lot of them end up either in jail, shunned by society or both. They need rules and boundaries. These parents are setting their children up for absolute disaster.
I’m all for progressive parenting styles, but there are still boundaries that should be considered. Outside of doing something physically dangerous and getting hurt, are the children learning that actions have consequences? Also, if the children never “decide” that they want to learn how to count money, cook, or read what will they do when they need to use these skills and a parent is not around to assist them? They will need to rely on a stranger to assist them or be lost in that moment until they learn to do it themselves. Or, they may become heavily dependent on another person to do things for them at older ages which is not the best or safest lifestyle to meet basic needs. I hope they are teaching them the fundamentals of life and strong moral values but just did not include that in this video.
I agree that the modern schooling system isn’t for everyone and is failing a lot of kids. I love this way of parenting and the attachment style care giving
would love to know what they’d do if one of their children were to have epilepsy and seizures which could require blood tests, hospital visits, medication and maybe even surgery
Children aren’t equipped mentally to make those types of decisions. That’s what parents are for.
Exactly right.
That’s a load of crap… where did you get that information ?
But they sure are equipped to decide their gender and go on hormone therapy eh
@@AfrahAfzal1997 that’s really not the point we’re making here. Just as if your child had a physical health problem, you listen to them, you believe them, and you take them to their pediatrician (an expert in childhood physical health) to evaluate what is going on. That’s the same for mental health. You listen to them, you believe them, and you take them to a child psychologist (an expert on childhood mental health) to evaluate what is going on. You can listen to children and believe them while also knowing that they are mentally ill-equipped to make such decisions, hence why parents exist and why mental health experts exist
@@lolli2943 load of crap ?? So i believe these children can pay the bills ok their own and work right now and earn money at this age ??
Your children Your choice on how you raise them. Just be prepared for whatever consequences that may come your way
If that were totally true the USA would have no laws on forcing kids to school, be it homeschool or actual school but hey, they do.
They're in the UK. Not in the US.
This is a world set on rules ...is your child prepared to follow the rules and laws of this land? If not followed there will be consequences. Not setting rules at home is not preparing them for the real world...just saying.
@@americamarquez4318 You are just 100% saying the facts of life! Which these parents are not preparing their children for :o(
@@americamarquez4318 souls that can’t take rules will make new ones why keep on living in a system that obviously isn’t working?
I'm all for children having some freedom and making decisions because some parents are way too controlling and hard on their children. However this lifestyle is not gonna be good in the long run because when they're adults they won't know how to cope with the real world because in day to day life you have to follow rules.
Yep, if they always say "yes" to their children then when they grow up and the first person to tell them "no"...😮 that's gonna be their face lol
@@meizhen2265 she did explain that it’s not about saying yes but giving them alternative options and to give them the understanding of what’s a good choice. She did say it’s not about no discipline but gentle discipline
@@claireemily1983 yeah but they still let them do whatever, the point is that in life you cant just do whatever you want and that is the problem, by putting limits and saying no sometimes you're giving them the tools to be able to deal with the adult world where you will get refused things and people will say no !
@@gloomysunday9534 So true that’s just life and part of growing- learning to accept, learn from it and move on.
Exactly
I can’t wait to see how they are 10 years from now.
They’re not gonna have any tact and are probably gonna violate rules and laws due to not having any growing up
Right?!!😳
I’m guessing they’ll be like our great great great grandparents- grandma and grandpa that couldn’t afford school, had to work on the farm, and they didn’t have modern medicine. We’ve already been there, done that. Low levels of education, high mortality rates, hunter gatherer/agricultural/pre-industrial society.
Probably dead because they don't go to doctors
@@lp9092 they still had rules tho, if anything parenting was stricter
seems like a great way to raise your kids to never leave your home
That's my thoughts exactly.. i think deeply that's what they wanted. They will literally either be so comfortable they will stay at home to the age of 30 or the straight opposite, they will rebel and run from home. Two bad extremes
Just curious, if they and where they make friends?
@@whulme3553 On the street like we used too?
@@whulme3553 usually in the neighborhood, at classes they choose to take, or through unschooling groups
Exactly
They're not exactly preparing their kids for the "real world" so hopefully they will be able to acclimate when the time comes. Surely there will be many hard lessons and surprises.
That might cause some anxiety and stress as they might not adapt into society plus if they don’t work how will they eat if they parents don’t provide for them anymore?
I grew up in a 'normal' household but nothing could prepare me for adulthood!
The real world is changing though. You couldn’t make millions off the internet 15 years ago for example, unless you made a website. Why not innovate the real world rather than conform to it. I think realistically a balance is needed.
It’s kind of known that children thrive best with routines and boundaries, especially when they are quite young. It will be VERY interesting to see how they adjust later in life….
Life can be very stressful for children who are raised in so-called 'conventional' families, with so much pressure , especially from the school system, to reach certain goals by certain ages. Chronic stress is very damaging long-term, leading to poor mental and physical health. This family look genuinely happy and the children look so carefree and relaxed. I hope that this will continue for the children as they grow up, and that they are able to pursue their interests.
@@zebandscott It's unfortunate that most people don't know that.
I would be happy to marry Ostarra if that helps solve the problem
@@zebandscott sort of makes you wonder about the rising mental health crisis affecting children and most adults doesn’t it?
@@zebandscott well I think there’s a healthy balance to be found with both. Child-led parenting isn’t exactly the best alternative to strict parenting because, lo and behold, children aren’t exactly equipped to make decisions on their own. Maybe for what they would like to eat or how they want to play but not for the bigger decisions such as health and education. Setting healthy boundaries lets a child live with little stress (it’s been found in research that no stress can actually be as bad as high stress) while also having them know that they can’t exactly do whatever they want, just like the real world. There’s expectations to be made and if you want to succeed, you need to meet those expectations. I hate strict parenting just like you but child-led parenting isn’t the alternative to the problem either
She lost me at having no limits with screen time. The destructive nature of excess screen time in kids is well-established. There's a reason tech moguls like Steve Jobs have famously limited their kids' access to it. Kids also don't naturally have discipline regarding internet use. (Heck, neither do most adults.) So kids need that guidance, as they can't possibly appreciate the long-term damage they're inflicting on themselves.
Exactly! Even us adults are "addicted" to our phones. It's in the nature of these devices and apps we use.
My thoughts exactly.
I don’t believe it’s as well established as we say it is. Social media is still relatively new. I have been someone to take breaks from the computer myself but have found that screen time is a scapegoat for other problems. For example, I use the computer so much because I don’t have someone to speak to in real life. I don’t think it’s about limiting screen time, it’s about having a more full, balanced life that you don’t feel the need to constantly be on the computer.
Yeah these parents are just lazy shitheads. No way in hell I’d let my hypothetical children become addicted to a screen at such a young age
It took you as long as screen time?!
I was raised with no rules and I can confirm these children will probably end up resenting them. Im 20 now and litterally have no idea how to function as a person Im in therapy and dont really want anything to do with my family. I became unaware of consequences. Ive made terrible decisions and I have biological children I gave up, Ive struggled with addiction for a couple years and I never been able to regulate or limit myself.. or keep a job, please keep your children structured. BTW I have a brother whos been missing since he was 16 🤷🏽♀️ now he’s a sex offender
Update: I'm doing a lot better for myself now♡
That isn't what unschooling is. No rules doesn't mean no guidance or hands off. Sorry you had that experience.
@theroadlesstraveled3993 Your right, I guess I was just completely neglected. Thank you, I appreciate your perspective. I still disagree with having no rules beacuse as an adult we have no choice but to abide by rules it helps us function as a society and work so we can provide, and schedules and sleep and diet and vital for healthy living
I’m so sorry. 💔 my heart goes out to you. I’m so glad you’re doing better now. Thank you for your first hand experience with this opinion. A lot of people don’t know what this can cause.
Glad you’re doing better. I relate to your situation very heavily. I’m also 20, almost 21. I’ve struggled a lot with becoming an adult from my lack of structure and discipline. My family loves me very much, and is very supportive, and I’m very grateful for that, but there were some pretty major decisions made that affected my life greatly.
I’m also doing much better. I’ve found a relationship with God, and He is shaping me into the man I want to be. Hope you’re still well!
Were your parents emotionally healthy, loving parents? From what I've seen this is the biggest factor.
she wasn't pro-choice about vaccines on her social media before she removed them. she was very aggressively anti-vaxx.
I think I'm their previous video she spoke about it
“If your vaccines work so well then we shouldn’t need them” clearly she’s done rEsEarcH 🙄
People are allowed to change their minds, learn, and grow…. Unlike most people that think they know everything, even if it’s proven wrong
@@Emi8ly Wait, shouldn't people do what they want to their own bodies.. or does that only apply to certain ones?
@@AmyLeeAngelLove Nope, most pro-vax people don't believe in "my body, my choice".
I love that their kids get to Make big and daily choices, because we often times make them and don’t ask a child their point of view.
BUT…I’m turning my head when they started talking about unschooling. While I think it’s wonderful they’re being exposed to things in the real word, I just hope they know basic math, science and reading. I feel as though navigating this world can certainly be challenging if you can’t handle money, read for direction, and such. But who knows, maybe they’ll one day wake up and have an itch for mathematician or want to attempt going to a “regular” school.
And if they are so pro choice and the kids do want to try public schooling, I hope they give them that freedom to try it to see if they do like it
@@vickyvkusnyatina6126 They're not liberals, so they will.
Whole heartedly agree, however my 3 yr old has and is learning that on his own. He will still be attending school like other kids when times right so he can learn social skills plus reading writing and arithmetic. But some of my other kids could have never picked up without school.
My Bible reminds me to 'TRAIN a child up in the way that they Should go and they will never depart'...Children need structure, if not, what are we here for?
@Kayla Sweet, all parents are here to destroy their children’s lives and line the pockets of tomorrow’s therapists. These people are utterly ridiculous.
Unless the children are willing to live outside society once they grow up, it is going to be very hard for them to adapt and find oneselves. I see this parenting style as a form of neglect.
And to learn to obey simple rules,like standing in line patiently. If they have never had to obey rules then how do they learn it later?
I have a 9 year old who is home schooled. She naturally goes to bed at 9 and wakes up around 7. She brushes her teeth twice a day without being reminded and only gets sweets once a week. That was a mutual decision of whether she gets random sweets she may not like throughout the week or if she waits and gets to pick two candies she actually likes, and the latter was her choice. She has choices she makes daily, she gets to be around children her age, she definitely doesn't have unlimited screen time, internet is the wildwest in a sense, so that's a big no. She's wonderful and I'm proud of who she's becoming.
Good job! 💕 Best wishes.
I don't have children of my own, but I'm already planning to home school them. I consider it a great decision.
@@marinattysegura5844 public school is a mess in my personal opinion :/
I think it's awesome to give kids choices however there has to be some structure. I like the mix that you have and I can imagine how that's going to hear your child for success.
I'm sure she is proud of you too.
I guess we won't know if this was a good idea or not until they're much older. Unfortunately, at that point it'll be too late to intervene, seeing as they will have already passed through their formative years. All I can say is that I *sincerely* hope it all turns out well.🤞
This style of parenting falls into the permissive parenting category (the extreme spectrum of it I suppose). There’s been research on pessimistic parenting and it’s effects. The outcome is usually pretty bad. Kids this age need order and guidance. Without it, they’re likely to fail as adults
@@aname69420 my bad. That’s what I meant tho
It's called a "permissive" parenting style. There are 4 parenting styles as the theory by Diana Baumrind. They will struggle academically, have no tools to self-regulate. They will have low-self esteem and as adults will report a lot of sadness. They have higher risks for health problems. They will develop unhealthy habits and grow fear to engage the world. They are likely to fail in the job market and not take initiative to start projects or tasks .
This isn't anything new. It's been done and it's a fail for children..
You explained it beautiful this is my life as an adult who was raised like this thankfully I was able to trade sex to survive and my husband takes care of me very well
@@virginiaarthur5 I feel like there is either punchline to follow this, or, there is an amazing story.
@@redbeard7376 no story just was completely lost when I went into the world didn’t know how to interact with other people my age still it have any friends my age even in my 30s low self esteem started sleeping with any man who paid attention to me no self respect didn’t really do much in life got a GED failed out of the military but I did become really good at sex and eventually I was lucky and found my husband his a great guy and takes care of me financially and emotionally
@@virginiaarthur5 Well I'm happy for you. I hope you continue to find happiness.
I truly feel that children do much better with a structured lifestyle, I was very structured with my first 5 children and my last one not as much and I truly see the difference. I would love to see how they will deal with getting up early to go to work after not having a bed time
100%
That is the least of their worries. As a teen I stayed up til 8am, slept til 4pm. When I worked briefly and went to college I got up every single morning at 4:45 am to get ready. I was still young during college so I stayed up til 1am. When I worked however, I was asleep by 11pm. Sometimes by 10pm. You sort that out pretty quick if you're not completely dense/immature. However, their problem is going to come not finding work because they won't have any education period. No highschool deploma or whatever Britain's equivalent is. No one will hire them for them to even worry about a work schedule. 🤷🏻♀️ This is their biggest issue. Tending to chickens and practicing ballet won't suffice in getting them hired.
Do you have a good relationship with your parents? I am blessed that my kids think of me as a mom and a friend and tell me everything. I have 8 children but wish I could have had more, 6 boys and 2 girls, the boys were harder at a younger age but the girls in there teen were a nightmare lol. Please just remember that a good work ethic is everything and will get you far. Good luck honey and take care
@@rlpittard You could try adoption or fostering.
@barbourbih This is fascinating. Pray tell us more. I had teachers as parents, so my life was very structured, and I felt very safe and secure in that environment as a child. My best friend could do whatever and she told me after she had her 1st child, she used to wish she could come and live at mine.
I'm just worried they're going to have a very hard time relating to other people when they're away from the home. Honestly, the school system isn't really about classes - it's about learning to exist successfully in the world with others. Sure, your kids aren't missing out on much as far as lessons and grades are concerned, but this unlearning thing is only nice while they're children. When they're adults, it'll be a very different story.
I don’t thinks there’s just one right way to raise children but I’m not sure I agree with this style of parenting…😬
I believe in giving children freedoms of expression and not being too strict on house rules but this is taking it too far. They’re small children who don’t know any better. Your job as a parent is to guide them to be respectable, functioning individuals of society
Exactly 💯
Exactly! That’s right.
Agreed
If my parents were like theirs for even a day, I most definitely would think that the world was ending...just saying
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LOL.
Omg 😂
I wonder the long term affects of this parenting style when the children become teenagers and adults. I’m not knocking this at all, because I was born into a family of the complete opposite, so I personally have recognized my own long term affects from being restricted a lot. It’s pretty just interesting to see how carefree and unrestricted these kids are !
Same. Everything has its pros and cons. It feels like this could work out ok for them and there will be other people it wouldn't work for. Unless there is a glaring obvious problem with a parenting style then people should do what works best for them and their children. I hope it all works out
The virtue is in the middle point...
At least if they were working and not relying on the British taxpayers to pay for their 'lifestyle', house, etc, I would respect them a bit. But since they don't work and live on welfare social benefits I just see them as 'parasites' .......
@@louloulapetiterenarde8573 what!?😳
@@ayrenbethancourt9379 they live on welfare social benefits and don’t work . ☹️
Allowing children do whatever they want, whenever they want? What if they want to do something really bad? You just let them? Wow.
She did say it's not like that, it's more about setting boundaries with kindness without hurting their feelings. So no, they won't let them
They are setting thier children up for suffering in the future once they become young adults and have to face the fact the real world has rules. Not to mention the potential burden or outright threat to society they could become. Part of giving children rules in the home isn't just to help the family unit function; its to prepare them for life in the rest of our world.
Yup the entitlement is going to be insane
Absolutely agree!
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Sigh....and you know this how?
Mine are 20 and 16, definitely not as you assumed they'd turn out.
This is why I love being married to a biologist, there is so much you don’t understand about modern medicine if you’re ignorant enough to basically cut it out some or entirely 🤦♂️
If you don't need it, you don't need it. Why force it on healthy people?
@@AmyLeeAngelLove Exactly.
@@AmyLeeAngelLove To stay healthy, obviously. You get vaccines to prevent you from getting a virus, that's how it works. We eradicated so many deseases thanks to modern medicine, it's a shame all the work done by professionals are being questioned by people like you.
@@AmyLeeAngelLove I mean everyone kinda needs it, not just for you but for others like I got the covid vaccine with my family so I don’t get a old person or a baby sick and your own immune system isn’t enough to fight against measles or smallpox
@@froggyyyy107 Did you miss the news everywhere that uncovered the lie that getting the vaxx would stop you from spreading COVID to others?
I genuinely feel like this is child abuse in a form. It may seem to work now, but children need to learn structures and rules and routines in order to survive in the real world. By denying them those things, you're going to make them dependant on you longer than they need to be, which will only hurt them. You can parent responsively and gently without denying your child their right to education and proper healthcare.
Wait till they are teenagers💀
The reason adults typically make decisions for their children is not because adults are all power maniacs, it’s because kids are haven’t been alive as long, they don’t have experience, their brains aren’t fully developed and they lack critical thinking skills.
It’s an adult’s job to develop those areas, but it takes a whole childhood and adolescence to gather enough knowledge, wisdom, experience and development to be able to make smart decisions, which is why the parent does it on behalf of the child.
You can foster critical thinking by explaining the reason you’re making a certain decision, to them. You don’t have to put all the power in their hands.
I guess I'm confused bc as adults we all have rules/laws we have to follow or there are consequences. I learned to follow the rules as a child, and now I know how to follow rules/laws as an adult.
It's understandable that many see it this way because that's how we were raised to believe it has to be. I think people assume that no rules equals they get to be rude or inconsiderate and will naturally choose to be. That isn't how it works. No rules but still guidelines and principles. Guidance and communication is key here. Kids learn by our example and when in a situation where they are being disruptive, for example, we don't just say go ahead do whatever you want. We still guide and teach, just respectfully and gently. Sometimes compromise is necessary. It requires a lot of time and effort. More so than a rules and punishment system, which is basically more convenient for the parent, but really nothing is accomplished in terms of character or actually instilling principles within the child. It's more of a fear based power and control. No other relationship should function that way and neither should our relationship with our kids.
I feel like when parents aren't as restrictive, kids are less likely to break any rules. It's like that sense of freedom that holds you back from acting out. My mom was like this with me and I feel like I became a lot more independent because of it. It taught me how to make my own choices from an early age. My mom did make sure I went to public school tho. Home school was mostly for creepy bible thumpers and weirdos back in the 90s. Now it's a lot more common. I think these kids are very well-behaved for not having any restrictions. The schooling is the only issue.
@@mikedenison121 I'm ugly how are you
I feel like your mom also set boundaries for you, not completely child-led. I believe there’s a healthy balance to be found with both parenting styles. Of course, restrictive parenting will lead a child to rebel and break rules as well as increase stress from impossibly high standards. But children also need structure and boundaries, which is where I’m finding an issue with their parenting style. Children can’t make every decision on their own, that’s why parents are deemed legally responsible for them. The schooling and especially the health one are my biggest concerns. They’re truly lucky that we live in an age where herd immunity is a thing because… unfortunately, they wouldn’t have lasted very long if this were only 200 years ago
So.... The son was almost in first grade breastfeeding?
Creepy
Yeah.. No, not happening..
Do these parents go to work? "Kids eat and sleep when they want".. what about you? I need my sleep and other routines, or everything would be total chaos.. and "unschooling" is definitely not something I agree with.. that will hurt them in the future..
They might live off their land judging by the farm or own a small business.
@@NotaPizzaGRL They have to have staff, if the parents live according to their kids whims..
Child: “has cancer”
Parents: here child have some chamomile tea
Sadly she'll be like "maybe you're chakra is out of balance here's some herbs and spices to make it feel better"
Ikr
This is kind of setting up the children for failure when they grow up and decide to move out. Society is based on structure and rules. Holistic remedies only go so far, if one of kids breaks a bone or gets a big gash, are they going to bring them to the emergency room or just rub herbs on it? That also brings up their healthcare situation, which I'm guessing is none. They have some good points but I think they are taking it the the extreme. It's good to let kids explore but they shouldn't have complete free range of anything. Say no (with a good reason attached) is sometimes a good thing. I need an update when they are all teenagers and "rebelling".
What kind of career are they gonna have if they never do school the lil girl even said she want to write they holding them back instead of helping them
They're too young to make decisions on their own. Rules should be implemented early to at least provide the child with a healthy understanding for authority, then as they get older, rules slowly die off as the child now implements healthy rules for themselves.
I Agree
Yes obey
I’m an educator and I know that children crave structure and routines. Hopefully these children adjust later in life when they have to follow rules.
Parents are supposed be be laying down the foundation to help their children grow into productive, accepted members of society. Not sending them to school? They will struggle with the basic understanding of the world. They will have zero social skills they'd normally get in a classroom setting, but at least they let them interact with others for the girls' gymnastic/ballet courses, but they aren't socializing every single day - the effect will be limited. Also, what marketable qualities are they instilling in their kids to help them qualify for ANY work? How will they support themselves and any family they might want in the future? And since they don't believe in doctors or hospitals, will they just let the children die of otherwise preventable diseases (such as cancer or diabetes)?
The parents don't work and rely on welfare social benefits so I suppose the kids will be social 'parasites' just like the parents. Their 'alternative' lifestyle, their house, etc are all paid by the British taxpayers .....
I would LOVE to see an updated video when these children are entering adulthood and how they are coping in the world!
The one thing that makes me nervous for them is modern medicine/doctors as a last resort. If you’d rather find alternative herbs/extracts/etc for healing that’s fine, but it’s still good to see a doctor for an exam to make sure if a medical condition develops that it is caught early. Also, things like childbirth (I remember seeing this family in another video and the mom said she birthed at home with no doctor around) because you never know if the baby could get stuck in the pelvis or be put under excessive stress, swallow meconium, etc., which those things call for emergency action right then and there.
This type of parenting DOES NOT WORK. Kids like this grow up to be anxious adults with poor social skills and sometimes a DANGEROUS lack of personal boundaries, I've seen it first hand. Children need to learn discipline, boundaries, and social skills or else REAL LIFE ends up slapping them in the face. Many children raised like this grow up to have drug addictions, intimacy issues, lack of motivation, and personal/sexual boundary issues.
They seem so sweet and happy. In “the real world when they’re adults” they will respect others boundaries and expect the same in return. I’m sure they understand right and wrong. Sleeping when tired and eating when hungry is how I wish I grew up 🤷🏾♀️
However those aren’t the only things in life. If they aren’t learning basic maths and literature then I’m not sure they will be able to be functional adults with jobs.
@@_frenchie_ do more research.😉 These are common misconceptions.
I definitely have some ideas in how I am raising my children differently. At the same time, I am also aware we cannot avoid the way at which our society is ran. I do feel it is important for children to be heard and their needs are provided for and even some of their desires. My thought is geared more toward how they will be able to co-exist with others as they grow older and may or may not be able to connect with others around them bc their way of learning & freedoms conflict with the “outside” world.
Very well said, was thinking exactly the same. They don't see the true colors of our society in this modern age, and they will be used to some sort of fantasy living. They will have such a hard time with
So many important pillars of life
Kids don't know what they like if they aren't exposed to it. Hence school subjects. I hated science from a young age and then in high-school realized how awesome our world (science) is. Last time I checked gymnastics and ballet doesn't pay the bills as adults(unless your amazing at it and can do it professionally)
This is all well and good, but raising your kids outside societial norms has one big con. What happens to them when they have to rejoin society in their adulthood? They are going to have a hard time adjusting to the real world.
This is why son has a schedule I am sorry I wouldn't be able to sleep if he was like this family
@London yes thank you so much ❤️
Kids will get a rude awakening in the real world.
I was raised very similarly with the exception of attending private and public school until sophomore year of high school. My mom decided to home school me when I began modeling abroad full time. But as a kid, when I was home, I could do what I wanted and never had a bedtime or eating schedule. I will say I naturally wanted to eat and sleep on my parent’s schedule. I am now 23 and have a very productive and creative schedule and have everything I could need/providing for myself.
Example of bad parenting
I don’t see this working well when they’re teenagers though. So if your daughter is 14 and wants to date a 25 year old man, you’d let her? Or vice versa with the sons? I try and be open minded but teenagers are SO different than toddlers and you’re eventually going to have to put boundaries and rules in place, or your kids are going to possibly get themselves into danger.
I do want to add that I see nothing wrong with respecting Ulysses’s wishes with not wanting to be on camera.
For them to say that plants do not have side effects is VERY irresponsible. I was raised with holistic medicine being just as important and vital as conventional medicine and many times it being preferred over. The side effects of valerian root is upset stomach, dulled affect, vivid dreams, headache, and long term use can trigger withdrawal symptoms when you stop taking it. It’s extremely useful and a wonderful plant, however all plants needs to be taken seriously and not like it’s absolutely harmless. SMDH.
The key issue with this approach is that at some point the children inevitably find out that life has rules, and will struggle facing them.
Can’t wait to see how they turn out as adults…bet they’re going to be outstanding citizens
Yeah that ain’t gonna last. Just wait until those youngins become teens 🙄 they’re gonna become nightmares.
Children don't know what's best for themselves
“…how they’re gonna live when they are older, that’s gonna be their choice”. Nope. Because you’ve taken away from them all choices which require education. The proper statement would be “…how they’re gonna live when they are older, that’s gonna be their problem”
I’m a free range parent, but I have known parents like this.. and tbh their kids grow up very normal and very independent. All and all kids just need love and support and turn out okay.
Same here,and mine are very well adjusted/respectful and hardworking adults now. They thank me for my parenting approach
These children aren't old enough to parent themselves and make healthy decisions
I'm sorry, but the dad looks totally defeated 😂
I have mixed feelings about this one. I was unschooled myself but these folks are much nicer than my own parents and seem quite sensible and emotionally intelligent. However the thing that really concerns me is the junk food and the screens, both can be highly addictive and children don't have that kind of impulse control or the ability to understand the consequences of their choices. It was basically the same in my household with disastrous results. My youngest sister, who was the opposite of the rest of us and didn't really have any restrictions, became an emotionally and socially stunted person because she was given the choice to eat junk food and use the computer all day. I think it effected her physically as well because she didn't seem to go through puberty really and is much shorter than everyone else.
I hope there is more to this than meets the eye, after all this is only a 9-minute segment. However I would like to say that having rules and limitations is not unloving. I think some people react to experiences of being restricted and feeling like they were not accepted for who they are, by believing love is the opposite, it means no restriction, no intervention, and accepting everything. But that also means giving people the freedom to destroy their own lives. Is that love? And is it loving to yourself if you have to put your feelings aside all the time so someone else can do whatever they want? For me I had a very destructive relationship with myself because this was how I viewed things, only to find I started to love myself when I started putting limits on some behaviours and having some rules to follow. Having self-control improved my mental well-being, I feel safe now for the first time in my life because it's self-care to me. I don't think freedom needs to be a free-for-all for you to say you're free. Being emotionally free is the only freedom that matters, and it takes some self-restraint at times but it's completely worth it. Rules by themselves aren't unloving, it's all about how they are used.
Children have the right to receive a proper education with qualified professionals
This is how children grow up to be grown babies, horrible parenting
I hope Truly continues to follow this family. I find the unconventional concepts that these parents are raising their children with, very interesting. In a society that has many good and not so good ways about it, we need people like this to push the boundaries so that we can see change in a different light.
People in the comments are outraged. Yet if it was a video about somebody letting their kid fully transition and deciding the want to take hormone blockers everybody would be clapping and saying "well done". I swear this channels viewers are the worst.
Spot on
THANK YOU!!! Exactly! I wish I could like your comment a million times.
@@AmyLeeAngelLove Thanks. I just don't understand how people can be outraged that these people let their children decide their own bedtime ect. Yet they seem totally fine with a young kid making decisions to irreversibly affect their natural development. It's virtue signaling at its absolute worst.
I actually disagree. You'd find just as many outraged comments there as you would here... I've seen it. Read more closely. This is the internet. People are outraged everywhere whether it's for a good reason or not.
Also, again, read more closely. People aren't outraged over kids deciding their own bedtimes. People are outraged over their views on not vaccinating their kids, not giving their kids formal education, and saying "yes" to everything. I'm not saying I agree or disagree to any of these nor am I saying that all of these claims are correct; but claiming the comments are outraged over bedtimes is a gross oversimplification of the heart of what is bothering people here. They're unhappy with what they're perceiving is a complete lack of guidance and support from the parents on the real nature of the world and its inhabitants and how young minds aren't equipped to make some of these more heavy-caliber decisions.
I honestly laugh at the comments most of you make, this couple really gives their children 100% every day and strengthens their free will unlike the mass that brings children into the world to satisfy their own repressed (a fake superficial love), and prepares them to become the next good robots of the system. I don't know do you feel proud for bringing lifes in this worl and making them just copy paste of your own desires? At least they are working every day really hard with their children and guess what? This is love , true love .. Not just an effort that when the child will grow up you can give a good answer..like
Child: where have you been when I was child?
Parent: I was working all day so you could have everything (I was a good robot to help you be a good robot as well so I was paying a nanny to give you my love).
Child: But I only wanted was your love and your presence.
Parent: Yes but I had to work to afford all your needs and that is how you became a successful person in society.
Child: Ok maybe you are right but you know something? Although your pride for me and my success ..still I am not a happy person. I feel like I missed something on my way. I smile a lot every day but is not real. It looks like a to do list for being part of society. Deep inside me I feel empty and like all we are pretending we are happy because we achieved social goals and that is how we are supposed to be.
Parent: .......
My children have no limits when it comes to their consumption of crack cocaine. We believe in a child-led approach to the weening off of hard drugs 😊
This isn’t parenting at all this is no parenting and neglect
I love how they said not to film the boy and suddenly we got a back shot of his head 💀💀💀
How is this nonsense legal? Those poor children.
I wonder how it's legal for parents to fill their children's heads with religious nonsense 🤷♀️ that's straight up child abuse as far as I'm concerned.
@@Kc-dq7zj it's not black or white. You don't need to be like them nor be like you said. Me and my friends weren't raised like them nor by a radical religious family and we are well, we weren't abused
@@Kc-dq7zj who said anything about being religious? So having rules means being religious?
This lifestyle really is not a big deal. I just don’t understand the distrust in modern medicine.
How will they develop tolerance to frustration if there is no frustration to begin with?
@@chinchillamdgamer what ?
I don't understand blind faith in modern medicine, to be honest.
@@yukononun I don’t believe anyone should be blindly faithful to anything. But I also don’t think everything is a conspiracy. I just think it’s foolish not to take it when it’s there.
I met an unschooled kid in my senior year of high school. Had a family a lot like this….they were wholly unprepared for the world and had a hard time keeping a job and dropped out of college because things like writing a paper and meeting a deadline were foreign to them. Fantastic imagination and was naturally smart but after watching their life unfold I don’t think unschooling has a high success rate. I’m sure there are success stories but I think the lack of exposure to conflicting ideas and diverse people can be extremely detrimental in the long run.
That isn't unschooling, that's poor parenting.
It's wrong, wrong and again wrong.
Definitely disgusting- these kids are being set up for failure and will not be prepared for the real world at all. You can be a kind parent yet still discipline your children.
How are you able to determine this, and their future. This is the way the world is going, this is the future of parenting. Unless you are extremely educated in the field of child development I would refrain from making such judgements. You sound ignorant.
Ulysses doesn’t seem right
These parents are freaking nuts.
I definitely don't agree with ALL of their choices. Giving children options I certainly believe in. Everything we need to know we do learn in kindergarten, most Everything we were taught in school I will never use. Vaccines are important, that's why we have them. In my opinion when these kids are adults they will not appreciate this way of life. How will they get good jobs? Where are the social skills needed to form relationships outside of the family? Sure they may not need their hepatitis vaccine right now... because they are never around other people, but one day they will be and that makes me scared for them.
Are you telling me that basic maths, physics, biology, geography you will never use??
This type of parenting makes psychopaths
At least she breast fed her children. She's already doing better then most parents just by doing that one thing for her children's health. Wish my mom did the same for me, maybe I wouldn't have developed so many autoimmune issues. I'm not mad at her, she didn't know any better and at least she breast fed her last-born daughter.
I don't think breastfeeding would have saved you from autoimmune issues. Breastfeeding may help you to strengthen your immune system against pathogens. But I don't think it would have prevented your immune system to attack your own body. It's just my opinion, feel free to teach me how it would have helped you
You let your kids do whatever? Are there any boundaries? If your child where about to walk into traffic, would you allow that?
Parents are literally there to make sure the children grow into responsible, disciplined, and healthy adults. Hearing the phrase “respecting the child’s autonomy” is rage inducing. They aren’t capable of independence, or autonomy. That is LITERALLY WHAT PARENTS ARE FOR. Holh crap these kids are gonna be hellions. Hopefully they’ll straighten out sometime, but it’s going to be incredibly hard for them. These “parents” should be ashamed.
They have a nice house for people that don't work. It seems like the Mom is the ringleader and the Dad just goes along with it.
The funny thing is that even though this seems foreign is really not, this is how ppl used to live. I might not raise my kids this way but that's their choice and I completely respect it. Why do ppl get so bothered by someone else's choice that doesn't affect them? Geez!
I believe a child should be free, but guidance is important! And as a parent you manipulated your children even when you don’t want to! But the trick is to give more than one option that they can befit from! So they can start making their own personality and choice with some flavour of their parent(s). When you listen to what kids have to say when they small, they will listen to what you have to say when they become bigger! Mutual respect is the key!
I think they’re just lazy job/tax dodgers.
I think it would be only fair to let the kids visit a public school and see what they are missing. If you want the kids to be autonomous and make their own choices, then they should see what school is like.
I've met adults who cannot read or write at my work before as they were never taught as children and they're always embarressed at having to ask staff to read or write things for them because they cannot themselves. It's cruel to not teach your children necessary life skills they need to get by in adulthood.
Just because they aren't forced to learn when and how the system recommends, doesn't mean they won't learn. As unscoolers we allow them to learn at their pace and facilitate an environment that fits their passions and interests. They eventually realize writing and spelling are important to communicate or to reach their goals.
Common misconception, but I assure you unschoolers learn to read and write too lol
I agree it is cruel to not teach your kids necessary life skills. That's why we don't send them to a government institution ran by a bunch of strangers. We teach them the life skills that actually matter.... academics are not life skills and are just a small part of education.
@@theroadlesstraveled3993 I agree it's never too late but i do think it is easier to learn new things while your brain is still developing before adulthood. It's definitely not impossible to learn to read or write when you're older but I do think it is more difficult for the brain to remember information. I know most unschoolers do teach there kids when they think they're ready for it but unfortunately there are also a few who do not. I also agree education isn't everything too as my own father dropped out of school because he just couldn't sit still behind a desk all day he needed to be working with his hands doing manual labour.
So basically they're not children, they're just roommates
At least they are enjoying their childhood
Wouldn’t be surprised if the whole lot of them end up either in jail, shunned by society or both. They need rules and boundaries. These parents are setting their children up for absolute disaster.
wait so if one of the kids set the house on fire the mum will be chill?
The definition of crunchy… Also, I could read when I was FOUR. How can her parents let her wait until what would be 3rd grade to become literate?
Unschooling and math don't go together 😢
I’m all for progressive parenting styles, but there are still boundaries that should be considered. Outside of doing something physically dangerous and getting hurt, are the children learning that actions have consequences? Also, if the children never “decide” that they want to learn how to count money, cook, or read what will they do when they need to use these skills and a parent is not around to assist them? They will need to rely on a stranger to assist them or be lost in that moment until they learn to do it themselves. Or, they may become heavily dependent on another person to do things for them at older ages which is not the best or safest lifestyle to meet basic needs. I hope they are teaching them the fundamentals of life and strong moral values but just did not include that in this video.
I don't blame them for not sending their kids to school with all the school shootings happening nowadays.
School shootings in England? The latest mass shooting in England occurred in 1996.
@@notsureiL ya I was kind of thinking that but I live in US
I agree that the modern schooling system isn’t for everyone and is failing a lot of kids. I love this way of parenting and the attachment style care giving
Hell, when I was little, I couldn't even get to choose what I was going to wear...
would love to know what they’d do if one of their children were to have epilepsy and seizures which could require blood tests, hospital visits, medication and maybe even surgery
What happened to you?
I was un-schooled at home!
Love it, love it, love it !!!! Love hearing others story's & view on this way of living we very much chose to do with our children.
If works for the family is what matters, lovely family🥰
Agreed
If In a. Long term don't affect other persons, then I don't care
What matters is that, while this is easiest for the parents, for the children, it’s developmentally detrimental and harmful to the point of neglect.
I wish my mother was like this💀💕
Mine to lol
I parented my kids this way,now they are super well adjusted/employed and happy adults. All with high iq's and kind hearts