Feel good about feeling bad
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Dude ur literally my online therapist
This comment here. Anna is the bee's knees....no one says that. #angularbeeappendage. ( Much better =) )
Same haha
Relate! Anna helps me bear with myself daily
Same ! But the only problem is that vídeos are coming very separate every time, she use to make them weekly, then every 15 days or once a month ... Hey i am not a hater i just miss her, And her advices!!! I suscribe to her since all her vídeos help me in a terrible time
amy lieu are you doing okay?
"Every feeling you have is trying to help you" yep!!
why no one bothered to reply? lmao
This was a realization for me, @lashk001.
*who needs a therapist when you have Anna Akana*
All of us she is not a professional, she just has good advice
Me
Betterhelp(dot)com
everyone who says this
Serously, she has helped me soooo much since i started watching her vids 💕
“ I’m really tired of being the person who makes me feel the worst” loved that Anna! Love your insights
That's basically if not literally everyone in this planet...
I was just about to type this! Because - same 🙌
This is basically the plot of Inside Out
Inside Out is literally my therapist
It can be the inside out 2
"you are not your emotions."
feeling angry does not mean you are an angry person. feeling jealous does not mean you are a jealous person. detach yourself from your feelings. accept each feeling as they come. they'll eventually go. (and come back!) but that's okay
learnt this from a book called "The Art of Fear" :)
Thor in Infinity War and Endgame was a good inspiration for many. You are not your anger and grief. And your depression does not make you less worthy.
Thank you
Insyirah I’ve found my next read :)
The insecurity crystal is sooo so cute🤧💖
😂😂😂
I know right I want it.. ohh wait! I do. We all do haha
Your videos are well made, visually pleasing, and well presented.
And informative, usefull and funny!
Thank you sir
And cats
"What you resist, persists."
- Carl Jung
Awesome quote!
this is such good advice. when we are children we're often told things like "don't get angry!" or "don't be sad!" which causes us to label those emotions as bad, undesirable things but if we feel things it can be very unhealthy to just dismiss them. giving them some kind of individuality might really help dealing with them properly. thanks, anna
Purpose of emotions (based on research and experts):
1. Communicate to self - Anna covered this.
2. Communicate to others - Emotions communicate just as much if not more so than words.
3. Motivate - Motivate us to use that emotion effectively to act on what it's communicating to us.
a. Sadness - get support. (Like in the movie Inside Out)
b. Anger happens when our boundaries are broken. Anger motivates us to reset our boundaries and make sure they aren't broken again (attacking the other person in the mean time is a very ineffective use of this emotion.)
c. Love - Express it!
d. Fear - An unknown that's perceived as danger. Turn this into curiosity unless you know it's objectively dangerous. In this day an age, we tend to think the unknown is dangerous when it's often not. Curiosity helps us asses the unknown without freaking out.
Etc. The list goes on as to the cause of emotions and how to use the effectively.
@@son0fhobs-again Is there anywhere one can look for more emotional responses like these?
Wow Insecurity is so adorable
May Gao thanks, wait-
Agreed
*Wow, okay this was interesting; most of the time I feel BAD for feeling BAD. Which does not help the situation at all.*
theFitty omg you’re everywhere hahahaha hows your 100 ab challenge going? You holding up?
Oh boy this is me
theFitty OMG I SEE YOU ON BOO’s CHANNEL ALL THE TIME!1!!1!1!111
Thassa good thing though, love ingrid
Same!
Yeah, ur crystal voice is super adorable!! 😊😊
@Emily its a compliment!
amy lieu well that’s irrelevant...
@@cupcakexlindsay no its not, her voice is part of her body andI was complimenting her body!
same. thankyou. thats what i was thinkingggg
@@violadash4374 you people are body shamers..disgusting
Is it bad that Anna has helped me more in a few vids than all my therapists over the past 18 yrs???
I agree!! She has helped me a lot too!! I am what I am today just because of her and the holistic psychologist!! @the.holistic.psychologist has also helped me a lot!! You should definitely go and follow her on ig!! She combines modern science with ancient wisdom and helps you heal and also encourages you to become a self healer!! She also has a TH-cam channel...
YES! Very Very BAD
Not in every case your real life experience equals to the things that we've learnt. At times people learn things even without experience which is by observing their surroundings.
Not at all!
Forget the way of the sword - this is 2022 & we have the Way of Akana!
My anxiety has been very... extra... extra bad in the past 4 weeks, are you reading my mind Miss Akana?
SAAAAAME
You are not alone. The same thing has been happening with me
*Six Fries!!! What*
Dude your everywhere XD First Daniel Chon know here XD
if someone told me i could only eat 6 fries, i would shoot them in the face with a hadron collider.
So helpful i love u
Xø Queen exactly!! Are these waffle fries? Regular fries? Curly fries?! I need answers!
I'm choosing to assume it's a maximum of 6 fries per bite so you don't choke.
me: *sad*
also me: time to binge anna again
"Every feeling you know is trying to help you. It's trying to let you know something"
Everybody is talking about six fries, but can we take a moment to appreciate the return of *stay awesome, Gotham*
i will try this because why not!
Anna gets naked in the tv show corporate
What people often get wrong is that emotions aren't there to be 'controlled.' They exist to guide you. Emotions are essentially a compass. Everybody is born with the exact same capacity for emotions. Chances are, if you are a person who feels "very emotional" a lot of the time, what you really are is emotionally repressed. You feel shame or fear because your emotions were invalidated when you were little. You feel emotional because you don't KNOW what significance to assign emotions, because you never learned it as a child. Maybe your parents weren't particularly attuned to you, maybe they were a bit neglectful (I know mine were). But it's okay once you understand this it stops being a burden and you start to feel more in alignment with yourself.
This is literally me and my past, and it effects me so much in my adult life now and I'm trying to understand myself and what to do. Could you elaborate on what you meant by you don't know what significance to assign emotion??
@@PrincessPoine sure thing. by that I mean, you may feel sad without understanding why... And you feel bad about feeling sad "for no reason". This could be because you grew up in an environment that looked down in negativity. Your parents might have made you feel like you were ungrateful rather than helping you understand that sometimes its okay to feel sad, because sadness could be part of grief, or a sense of loss, etc. And if you meditate or go to therapy you can begin to understand why you feel sad and then feeling sad no longer feels like a burden but a natural reaction to things in your life, and that's okay.
Really insightful! I think a lot of people can relate to this
Can you please write a book? I wanna read more about this.
Thanks for this comment. I'm a sensitive person Growing up, my big sister called me 'moody' all the time and would make fun of me. I quickly learned to suppress my emotions since I would be shamed when I showed it, which ultimately led to me being even more sad. As an adult I am now working on embracing my emotions more and not judging myself for feeling them.
Of course this is in my recommendations while I’m going through a break up...
That's sad :(, how are you doing?
Sweet Serenade xX I’ve felt lonely and sad lately but spending time with my friends and family is making me feel a little better, thanks for asking
N.a I hope you’re doing better now, 3 months later!
Heyyyy now worries I'm getting over a handsome crush of 3 years!!! It's all right... believe in yourself
I'm going through a break up too. Hope you feel better
Anna’s videos always seem to come out whenever I absolutely need one haha
Saaaaame!!!
I love you Anna, but can we go back to the "six fries" deal?
I can solve this for you: You should only eat six fries per 10 seconds. You're welcome.
@@Kareragirl 10 seconds every minute, every day, every week, every month or every year. Elaborate for all us. 😜
@UCbuRfHKKSdbIoPfOljmzyrg Once you start, you cannot stop. You have to continue to eat 6 every 10 seconds forever.
@@mrsjamat86 ALWAYSSSSS! >:(
I'm choosing to assume it's a maximum of 6 fries per bite so you don't choke.
The reference to Inside Out 😂😍
The crystal's eyes are so damn cute. Your voice too 🥰
"i'm really tired of being the person who makes me feel the worst"
GURL i didn't expect to be attacked
So true, it is important sometimes to just let yourself feeling the negative emotions and let them go. Otherwise, they get all tangled up in things. Just be sad sometimes, it's okay
I always embrace my favorite negative emotion which is fear. Even though I know i won't be able to sleep or close the bathroom door, and I will feel an eerie presence following me for the next 3 days, I still watch Insidious alone in my room at night.
Yeah my crushing depression talks too much.
I really like this because I do this without having a word for this. I get a lot of headaches, and sometimes they're debilitating. What I do then is imagine there are sharp small rocks in the softy flesh of my brain, and all I need to do is pull them out. As I pull them out, I feel better. It's not a perfect fix, but it reduces the pain so I can function
Its called introspection. Its honestly a good tool.
Damn.. when people ask me if I have a therapist, I'm like yeah I do her name is Anna Akana lolll this was amazing. Rly needed this
Found your videos a few days ago and they're great. They really align with how I'm approaching my mental health while providing constructive tools and insight.
I have found journaling one of the two best ways to resolve my negative feelings along side of exercise. Writing the words in my head down gives me a focus other than those thoughts, while still thinking about them, and lets me examine them as an external problem. I can put a thought/feeling down on paper rather than letting it rattle around in my skull From there I can look directly at it and it's much easier to rationalize or manipulate the "problem" on paper.
that schamalayan turn of events when you took my judgement and used it to prove your point. damn anna you're good.
You mean the guy who ruined the ATLA movie
When you're depressed and are OK with it
Without feeling bad we would never feel good, we need something to compare our mood (and everything else to). 🙂
I keep repeating to myself "this too shall pass"! 🙂
THIS IS BRILLIANT. I came up with the same idea a few months ago and it has been working brilliantly. "Negative" emotions are still VALID emotions because YOU feel them, so figure out why you feel them instead of pretending that you don't.
When Anna said "Im alone"? i FELT that
100% agree with you, you have to take the bad with the good and not just brush it aside.
Butters said it best in South Park when the goth kids saw him crying after his girlfriend dumped him. One of the Goth kids asked if his girlfriend stepped on his heart with stiletto shoes and told him he could hang out with them and write poems about death and how pointless life is. Butters declined and explained that even though he is sad, at the same time he's really happy that something could make him feel that sad.
Wow what is butter? Where can i get more such stories
SHE FINALLY SAID IT, IT'S BEEN SO LONG!! ❤
Stay awesome, Gotham
Yes, 100% agree about the “these are physical cues that something is wrong part”. If you had a headache or an aching back, these are cues that something is wrong. The same thing goes for feelings of loneliness or jealousy; these are cues and you need to better evaluate why they are there.
Lovely videos, Anna ❤️
I know I feel a lot of fear of impending doom when things are going good for me. Actually what I really want is to be grateful for things. Thanks for helping me realize that, Anna.
*Mr. Stark... I don’t feel so good*
Watch Anna Akana Peter.
Wrong universe, she talks to Gotham.
@G. *Im from all universes*
Yeah but what does that feeling look like and why is it here?
Anna, I’ve been feeling this exact way recently and had no idea how to approach it. Literally, your timing could not be any better. Thank you so, so much!!
Me asking my acne spots "WHY ARE YOU HERE?" hahahahahahah
2:12 That dramatization is HILARIOUS! BRAVO! Well done!!!
Hey Anna! I am a subscriber of yours for a really long time now and I just needed to say that you are really cool person and I love your creative videos and topics you talk about. ❤ just felt that I never comment on your videos and had to say something 😊
Stay awesome Gotham! 😎
This channel has been giving me hope for once I've been negative for a while and your videos have made me come out of my comfort zone!
I am unable to articulate how amazingly useful this is so here's a thanks in all caps:
THANKS
This helped me a lot.
That one thing got me thinking. Negative feelings are just misunderstood and helps me to avoid from facing hurt. But I can turn it into something better if that makes sense
I cried.... This is exactly the way I feel about everything and everyone.
Thank you. I know I am capable of so much more, but I feel like my negative feelings/ emotions are getting in my way of being the best me i can be. I want to spread so much love but I still seem to be afraid to receive it as well.
"HE'S GONNA DIE SOMEDAY AND YOU'RE GONNA BE DEVASTATED" --- omfg this is my crying over my cats daily. DO OTHER PEOPLE THINK THESE THINGS TOO???? AM I NOT ALONE? MY BABIES WHY MUST TIME EFFECT YOU
p.s. this is exactly like therapy sessions. I'm so glad you make this accessible to everyone.
Coming back to this 5 years later. The message still applies.
Damm you are right... God.
I don't really have words..
You are really smart!
You really help me be a better me and you are pessing it to us in such a fun and interesting way!!
THANK YOU!
“I’m alone” when she said it - I felt that
When it comes to negative emotions, love them and let them go!
Inside Out taught me this back in 2015 and I forgot and here comes Anna with her infinite wisdom to remind me and make my life better.
There's something just right about insecurity being the cutest little thing. It doesn't know how precious it is, just like we don't.
I love how the production quality of your videos just continues to improve hahahaha
2:44 OOF THOSE GUNS THOUGH
Gun? Where?
Anuradha Joshi her arm muscles lol it’s just a phrase
Was looking for this comment 🤣
@@strawberry1429 oh I was thinking like Waaa nice arms then wondered what the comment meant LMFAO😂
TY opps
Anuradha Joshi lol yeahh the more u know
But what if you just feel bad about something and dont even know what that emotion is? Like theres this sinking feeling thats just bringing you down and you dont even know what the feeling is? What if its a mix of feelings and theyre irrational to the point where you dont even understand why youre feeling that way, so you can't know how they could be trying to protect you????
Imagine it like a ball of emotional yarn which has to be untangled. You need to work one loose string at a time. Those might be repressed emotions (your imaginary self wouldn't allow your real self to feel emotions because it deems them wrong) and the best solution is to find a therapist, but I also recommend journaling (which has to be as sincere as any therapy session otherwise it woludn't work).
Then you log in to betterhelp(dot)com
I don’t really know if this will help but if it is a matter of not knowing what to call it, picturing the feeling as an object really helps because you don’t have to name it you just have to think of the feeling itself. I did this exercise and I didn’t know what emotion I was feeling I just knew that it felt like a granite bowl of lava so I just talked to the lava and understood the feelings better.
Firstly, you'll likely have to sit with it and try to focus on one at a time in order to describe it to the best of your ability. It will be an intuitive process. That will tell you a lot so that you can move forward from there as for what it is. Often cases like that are usually more tied to your past, like childhood. So once you have figured out one or more, you can then try to trace it back to when you first felt that way; and it should also help you remember what triggers that emotion in the first place and how it relates to the present issue. Just remember that any memory you have was created by an impactful moment, usually an extreme emotion. Also I must admit that some memories will have an image while others may not. We are capable of having emotional memories with no image which happens if you were very young or had a traumatic experience that forced you to block it out. This will also be an intuitive and meditative like process where you let the answer come to you if you are unable to remember when actively trying to. As things come up, make sure to question it if you need further clarification. Besides that, my only question would be whether or not you were taught to suppress emotions because not being able to identify emotions most often happens when we are taught that they are unacceptable and/or didn't have someone to help us understand them when we were having a hard time with them as children. (Sorry if it sounds weird, but I did this a year ago and it helped me. Looking into beliefs that you were taught as a child about yourself and the world is also important so that you know what is true to you verses what you were taught to believe. I feel you and I really hope all these comments help).
Brittany Patton thank you stranger. so much.
Emotions are neither negative nor positive. They're the inside of your head trying to get outside. They're there to motivate you to do something. Whether you want to do it, and the resulting comfort level you feel associated to said motivation is what makes people interpret that.
I think this might be my favorite of your videos so far. Couldn't agree more with every single word, the vibes you're putting off, the honesty and vulnerability, and most especially the way your using those feelings and your charisma to give by lending us your strength.
Wow this is actually really helpful! Thank you!
Im pretty sure its 6 fries every second! Thats just logical 😉😂
And I have *six fries* I wish I could have ALL THE FRIES, how many fries are too many fries
There's no such number
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That fusion reminds me crystal gems being two separate and INDIVIDUAL entities joining forces as one crystal gem! That was really wholesome and i hope i utilize that if i can
I have trouble being vulnerable to the person in front of me. Idk how you do it in front of millions of viewers. thank you so much for your videos, they legit help me through life. keep doing you!
Oh wow Anna. Please do more videos like this, this is so insightful and I think it will really help me. Thank you :)
love you Anna! what a great way to start off my morning ☺️
I feel like we need a crystal animated series now. I need to see a whole world of my emotions talking to me about my lived experiences.
This is so interesting and actually helpful. The thing I'd find a bit difficult is trying to interpret the feeling, because it might be a mix of a lot of emotions, and it's not always easy to pinpoint the exact emotional that has emerged. You just feel weird and uncomfortable inside sometimes.
I really needed this!
Anna! You're greaaat. Believe me Senpai 🙆📈💯❤️
"I'm really tired of being the person who makes me feel the worst"
Ice got a lot on my plate right now and that just put me in tears.
This is such a great way to put it..Thank you for articulating it so well 💞
I have social anxiety and I seriously dk how to apply this method
It could be because you're afraid of not being accepted or not being good enough so instead you should rather feel vulnerable and take a chance
This is really smart. Congrats.
You're really wonderful.
for me understanding that emotions don't need to be judged as positive or negative and knowing that all they are is clues you send yourself to kick start and figure out your thought process needed to understand the situation you're in was (and still is) a very big part of learning how to deal with my erratic and impulsive hyperemotional behaviour.
i have BPD, and i can now say i can control the way i react when i feel emotions and can semi-clearly see (or predict) the thought process that may come after, to then decide if i can keep going or need to sway to a different path a little. now, that doesn't mean i desire or want or even need to change my emotions in any way shape or form, since emotions always have purpose, like i said before (just wanted to clarify).
the mindfullness exercise you showed could be very helpful for a lot of people, so thanks for putting it in!!
Its human nature to have a negative bias in your thought process. Foreseeing terrible outcomes is a form of preparation and defense. It has gotten humans this far. Recognizing this as my body having my back helps me not get too worked up about those thoughts appearing in the first place.
can you be my life coach?? you are so motivational and help me so much
GET IN LIIIIIIIINE.
Everyone's different. Everyone processes things differently. Negative feelings are supposed to be there for a reason and for me it's self-improvement.
Some people just make you feel guilty for taking any risk, my mom does this a lot by telling me I can’t trust and rely on anyone. That in mind don’t take things people say too serious, your opinions matter too.🤍🖤🤍🖤
The fact that I wasn't anxious person or overthinker before I go to college well I was a depressed one but the fact that I just found Anna at this stage of my life I'm so grateful
Never been this early
you are so brave for putting your emotions and insecurities out there, and showing those who feel the same way as you, that we are not alone ❤️
This is related to a form of therapy, IFS (Internal Family Systems). It's the practice of discussing your feelings and thoughts (as if they are separate entities) and working through your issues. In one case, you may talk to your perfectionist part, who only criticizes you so much to motivate and make sure you're working to the highest potential, and have to make them realize their negative effects on you but give them a new purpose (create a better relationship). Through this practice, people can relieve passed-downed insecurities, trauma, and self-hatred, I've personally found this to be a means to improve my relationship with myself and to love every part of me. If anyone is looking into getting therapy or is in midst of finding a new social worker, look for someone who is professionally trained in IFS. All you need to do is have an open heart and mind. I hope this helps someone, and remember that you are always valuable and necessary.
I'm Alone TOO!😑
BUT!!!!........
"The BROKEN are the MORE evolved."😁😁
I am in Therapy and I learnt everything you share and I found it so cool that you share it on TH-cam and help I'm sure lots of people
I honestly love your content! I've told people that allowing yourself to feel these emotions is literally being human! To ignore them in an attempt to only feel positive emotions is not only disingenuous but harmful to you and those around you! We are human these emotions are necessary for growth.
*6 fries i was only 4*
I love you Anna! Can you please voice a character for my audio book project? Please? :)
Its a very important project.
I bet she would love to do it, whatever project that is.
You help so many people everyday for so many different problems.
I know that sometimes things are difficult and other thoughts take over and blind you from how amazing you are.
But thank you, thank you from us all.
Xx
negative emotions are just markers of information! a bit like an "annoying" but ultimately helpful mum, it's tempting to ignore their advice but the more you do this, the worst things get. also bad if you follow this advice blindly. the way i think about it is basically - don't be a brat! don't ignore them, they come with a heap of wisdom, they're on your side ❤️
It felt nice to hear her say “stay awesome, Gotham” again
I’m glad someone is being a realist. Accepting and understanding your “negative” emotions. 😃
What she's describing is sort of like mindfulness, whereby you notice every thoughts that you have and every action you take, understanding the meaning behind why you do them. Meditation helps and would definitely make you a better person!
You are like my best online therapist. I've been in a low point in my mental health for the past 2 days so I'm going through your videos to find a way to cope and turn my life back around. And it's really helping me reflect on myself and my feelings. Just wanted to say thank you Anna!
This helped me a lot because I accidentally physically hurt a friend and I was feeling really bad about it. It wasn't completely my fault, but inside me, it felt like it was completely my fault. So I tried this method and it cooled down my anxiety. Thank you