Robert, your green eyeshadow here is Gorgeous! That lime in the corner, and the shimmer- It looks great on you! (And that purple underneath, *chefskiss*) I know all your makeup is amazing, but this is just visually hitting right this morning.
I agree to you....I was working much much closer to People, I'm a Midwife over 40 years and working in Germany as a "free" working as also most of the Time as an employed Midwife, but when they invited me (oh man: so often!) it feels really as they want to put me into their Family! But I had to take a lot of Care of this ‼️🫣🤗 I Loved (till now!) my People/Patients really from the Bottom of my Heart, and often I met some, and their Son's or Daughter's are grown up and get Kids by their own (sometimes, 10, 15 Years ago I helped to Delivery "my now grown-up Girls" with their own Birth and Labour their Babies, too 🤗💞✌🏼) I had to learn this very fast in the beginning of my Profession Career! And understand me well: I LOVED my young Mothers - but they could and try to "eat you up", they don't realize, that they are not the only Ones which had a Labour and delivered a Baby with your/my Help. Okay: this is a "bit different" Situation ..but at the other Side understandable same same! 🤗🥰🫣‼️ You explained it so well....Thank you ❣️ 🤗
I think that’s the saddest part. She’s completely unaware, and aloof in a way that reminds me of how some people on the spectrum perceive their surroundings. Mainly the inability to pick up on unspoken rules/ nonverbal social cues or the inability to tell when someone’s upset or uncomfortable. I do feel bad in that sense, and hope she can learn these skills, because they are very necessary in her line of work.
@@galacticcactus5530 This is not how people on the spectrum generally do things. Going back after being aggressively told to leave is very deliberate. Playing (very publicly) a victim is deliberate. A person on the spectrum is not interested of getting other people’s attention (although it might happen by being oblivious). This person was all about having the attention of the world on her and making everything about her feelings. This is more how people with borderline personality would do things. It’s not a perfect example as Tourette’s is not ASD but the behaviours between neurospicy and BPD can be seen between Ethan Klein (sometimes oblivious) and Trisha Paytas ( need for attention to be able to stabilize her emotional turmoil). This is giving more Trisha than Ethan. ** edit: if anyone sees this is as a diagnosis or villainizing, you need help… with reading comprehension. It’s an example of differences in behaviours, an obvious generalization ie. how it might present. A disorder is a pattern of behaviour, this is one isolated case in this person’s life. Didn’t even think to add this part cos I thought it would be… obvious to anyone. All behaviour is neutral, until people pour their own judgement and expectations into things.
The thing is, there are certain people out there that have no concept of boundaries. They couldn't tell you what being professional even means, other than being polite and on time.
@@galacticcactus5530 don't pull a 'autism' card on this, personally as a autistic person it's annoying, this was someone overstaying their welcome not a autistic person, as one I ask for permission for sharing art I made for someone and I only will if the person is comfortable Don't use autism as a damn excuse for this type of behavior and don't imply this person is autistic, thank you /srs
@@91SSoso let’s just not diagnose her and agree she was being an ass. to say a symptom of bpd is wanting all all the attention is not only just plain wrong but also just as harmful as saying her symptoms are linked to being on the spectrum. we only know about 2 instances of her acting this way at a wedding she was contracted to work, nowhere near enough evidence to even theorize if she has any mental disorders. need i remind you, she got cheated on just a few days prior. it’s the reason she was crying for a good portion of the day. she was clearly in a bad mental state and hasn’t given herself the time to grieve. and actually, i saw several comments saying that with weddings she worked for in the past she didn’t intrude and was very professional. this could mean that this was awful timing and she should’ve been more in check with herself. so, let’s not make a habit out of diagnosing people we barely know. let’s also not refer to neurodivergence as “neurospicy” especially in this context. it takes away from the gravity of the topic.
25:04 She is so unprofessional made that whole day all about herself instead of the bride, and the sad thing is that she does not see it, which means nothing will change. she never once got the hint to leave and also the husband has every right to say no he didn’t want to do the videos and he’s like what another one no, we just got married. He’s just trying to relax and dance and eat some food. . smeone close to her to explain what we all are trying to say because she’s not getting them and also stop crying so much
29:18 Yeah, you see that is just too much. I think they would agree to just showing the hair and make up like any other normal make up artist does but to make it all about her and to make like you said the bride work for her or get free content essentially is insane .
Her logic gives so much main character energy 😭😭😭😭 no bride would ever want to spend their wedding day, the most beautiful day of their life, taking care of and consoling a stranger who was only there for a service 💀💀
Eating up all the food, getting drunk crying, getting kicked out ,the bride consoling YOU on her day , they paid thousands for her to do her job and she probably stayed to get extra money. Your not supposed to be the main character at another woman wedding
She has absolutely no boundaries. It's actually sad. She reminds me of the clingy middle school friend who hasn't learned self-awareness. Until she learns, she will continue to bring pain onto herself.
@@jenem9618 The Content Co-ordinator for this wedding was at the other wedding the make up artist mentions the day before & that same make-up artist got kicked out of there too.
@@serendpity3478 Interesting, and sad (again). She's amazing at actual makeup artistry, but her relational toxicity is about to cost her her job. She's not functioning in society at the level she should be. Time to get help.
I am MORTIFIED! The fact that she called them out using real names and real faces! Can you imagine being the groom who doesn’t like social media and to have his face and name blasted for the world to see painted as an asshole?! WOW! I would sue the MUA! Way to put a damper on someone’s wedding day… unreal.
@@prettyprincess8187 She mentioned that she was the only Black vendor that she noticed at the wedding, and she suspected this might why she was being treated the way she was.
Too many boundaries were crossed but the worst was calling the bride over when you were asked to leave. For all you know, the bride just didn't feel comfortable confronting you directly but now you're going to do it to her? Let her enjoy her wedding and leave her alone!
right and the other worst part is that she said the bride was actually comforting her. Like imagine comforting a crying makeup artist who was hired to do a job on your wedding day. She pretty much made the whole day about her and not the couple
My mouth fell open when she said she went over to the bride after she was asked to leave. Why would you do that to someone on their wedding day!! Just go!
The craziest part of all this was that the wedding was UNPLUGGED (no phones) and she filmed EVERYTHING and posted it online for the world to see before the couple could even see their own event.
That's so unacceptable. I love people's compassion and empathy towards her situation but she deliberately did so much harm to this couple. I don't care how good her work is, she doesn't deserve to be hired again if this is how she treats her paying clients
My sister is a professional MUA and whenever she's invited to stay, she literally changes into wedding appropriate clothing and sit back and wait to do touch ups throughout the party. She is not acting like one of the wedding party members. But that's ONLY if the bride request her to stay. Otherwise, she is gone!
I can't imagine how frustrating it is to be hired as a photographer/videographer for a wedding and be expected to produce excellent photos and videos when there's someone trying to film a Tiktok and ruining your angles 😭
It sounds like she overstayed her welcome. It's the groom's wedding too and if he's sending out signals that he is annoyed by you, you need to back off. Also major faux pas to partake of the cocktail hour as a vendor. no no no. This gave me secondhand embarrassment because seriously what are you thinking? And then her bit about "this is my business, this is my reputation," girl the worst thing for your business and reputation is to drag your customers to the whole world on social media. Yikes.
She thought she was going to be one of the black people that cries racism (even when there’s not) and then receives an outpouring of support from other blacks who don’t care if she’s in the wrong or not, but luckily this time it backfired. I’ve seen them do it numerous times to innocent Whites, Asians, etc. and they usually get away with it.
right like she was already told that the groom doesn't like tik tok, and then you're going to try to make him do a bunch of takes for a tik tok dance throughout the day (whihc you weren't asked to do). and then to keep saying you did nothing to be treated like that? I would've been annoyed also if I was the groom
Exactly - why is everyone only concerned about the bride? It's his day too! And for all we know he may be footing the bill. Triangulating strangers is so innapropriate. She would have beeb asked to stop with the extraness during the actual makeup by me let alone after - I don't want the most intimate moment of my life (getting ready to marry my life partner) splashed all over tiktok. It's tacky and annoying.
@@lawrencole1964 and apparently allegedly, her cOnTeNt had already been posted to tiktok before the bride had seen her own official video of the day. (you know from the professional they actually hired to film the wedding lol)
I feel SO bad for that poor bride. That MUA was extraordinarily self-centred and unprofessional. For her it's a day at work, but that's was that bride's wedding day. What the actual fuck.
I felt bad for her at the start, but by the end she was completely delusional. So unprofessional. Imagine being asked to leave by the groom and then coming back and claiming racism. Wtf
not the first time she has acted like this the part that made me want to puke was in her first video some of the photos on her wall was of that wedding so she went home printed them off and stuck them on her wall then made her fake ass video
My thought as well. I understand considering if certain actions are racially motivated but no other vendors stayed past their job being done. She was done hours ago even past the additional time. I also find the bride not defending her husband to be pretty bad. He was clearly bothered and she told the MUA to stay anyway and ignore him. He could have said things without cursing at her but the bride shouldn't have automatically dismissed his feelings
Using “racism” as excuse is truly not gonna get you far in the business world. Suck it up, swallow, your pride, take your lumps , and own up to your mistakes.
Using “racism” as excuse is truly not gonna get you far in the business world. Suck it up, swallow, your pride, take your lumps , and own up to your mistakes.
I have seen fellow Jews talking about this and like we keep pointing out the BIG DEAL people are missing ... The husband snapped because this woman interrupted a specific PRIVATE moment that happens in Jewish weddings called Yichud. Yichud is LITERALLY a moment where a couple who has just finished their wedding ceremony goes into a room together ALONE. It's a huge deal because this is the moment where the bride and groom can be in seclusion with each other *because* they are married. (In orthodoxy, a single unmarried man and woman cannot be in a room alone together without like...chaperones/other people.) even among more liberal Jews, Yichud (literally "seclusion") is a beautiful moment where they get a moment of peace and togetherness before going forwards towards like, the reception! It's a check-in moment. The alone-togetherness of Yichud is acceptable because now you're a married couple who could be having sex lol. (I mean, people don't actually have sex during Yichud but like, symbolically it means you're a married couple who can do married couple alone time and no one will OBJECT or interrupt or supervise!!.) Sometimes it's also the moment the couple can break their fast (some couples fast before the wedding). Basically if someone interrupted the Yichud moment at my wedding I would damn well HOPE my partner would snap, because if they didn't, I would!!! Like because this cultural context is missing, I really feel like no one is realizing how massively bad it was this woman interrupted their seclusion and why the groom finally snapped.
I thought that what that was when she interrupted them in the private room. A light bulb went off in my head and I was worried that's what she walk into. A personal private time is important and I'm not even faithful and I would probably ask my groom to tell her to leave immediately because I'm shy but if I ever get married I plan on having something like this as well. Even if I'm practicing anymore, it just tradition because my I want to have similar wedding to my parents
Thank you. I didn't know of this tradition, but it sounds beautiful. I think regardless, you don't interrupt a bride and groom having a moment alone in the bridal suite on their wedding day, but the added context makes it even worse. I appreciate that you took the time to educate!
Why does she need "content" of the entire day?! Pro MUA and esthetician here. I have NEVER even considered taking photos of anything besides my work on the bridal parties. I have never stayed for the ceremony unless paid to do touchups for the photos. I am horrified at the unmitigated gall of this MUA. Crying?! Bumming smokes?! Getting in the way of the photographers?! Insane.
That's what really made me annoyed with her. She kept saying she was doing it for the content. Who's content?? The answer is HER content, not her clients. She's being hired for one thing and that was makeup. That does not give her the right to turn this couple's day into a tiktok side hustle.
I also like how she acts like eating the food at the venue was okay. Wedding catering services are expensive! Even if she consumed only something as simple as crackers and cheese, those hors d’oeuvres will be the most expensive items you ever eat! lol
Oh thank you, I was going to ask that! Because some people might like a make-up touch up, especially if there have been tears. If I was the bride, I would want you to have a refreshment and to be comfortable, but I wouldn't want my make up artist filming my entire wedding - it's not my thing. I'm not a social media person either, but I would totally expect a make-up / hair artist to want to take photos for their page, to show their work. ❤
Been there done that. Retired aesthetician and mua. When doing brides and bridesmaids did my job stayed for phtosession then boogied. Didn't eat or drink their food and never expected to. This mua really overstepped bigtime
exactly what i was thinking. it's terrible what happened to her personally, but she tried to replace that relationship with the bride and wedding party and way overstepped boundaries.
💯. I saw this from a psychological perspective. I thoroughly believe that she was feeling a major void and just use the wedding to make herself feel better. There's nothing wrong with that but you have to know it's not all about you. She made it all about her the entire day and talked about how much people valued her. She needs to find that value within herself.
As a wedding MUA… I knew this was going south when she filmed AS WALKING IN THE HOTEL ROOM DOOR! Someone was not even dressed and has someone walking in the room with their camera out. So unprofessional. The rest just got worse and worse. She owes them a refund and then some.
Even if it *wasn't* a formalised sacred moment, she interrupted a private moment between the newly-weds, something rare and precious during your wedding day. Even with total ignorance of the structure of a Jewish wedding, that's so obviously inappropriate! That she was interrupting an actual ceremonial moment adds insult to the injury.
@AD_AP_T exactly. It's worse because it was a sacred part but interrupting such a moment is only something I would forgive from a small child who escaped their parents' supervision. Or maybe there is an emergency and we need to evacuate. Anything else is out of line. This MUA was probably not working well as she had just learnt she had been cheated on but even if, this is no excuse for being so out of line.
I already believe the makeup artist is COMPLETELY in the wrong. I applaud the husband for standing up for himself and the bride. Reading the comments someone else also mentioned that the makeup artist interrupted a very important and special part of the wedding as a Jewish couple where the groom and bride are alone together and enjoy and embrace being together alone and the significance of that. Reading that makes the situation so much worse and makes me even more pissed off at the make up artist and explains why the husband was even more pissed off.
literally it should be a separate form saying "I would like to record some content, may I? . Not yeah opt out if you read properly...if not your wedding is my content. Ridiculous.
@@simplementemagiaFor some reason, this reminded me of when my dog needed planned surgery. We got her there, got all the paperwork done, got informed about the procedure, risks, costs etc etc... And then a nurse comes in with a final consent form; can we post pictures of your pet on social media?
I'm stunned at the patience of the bride here. I got married two months ago and my makeup artist was SO lovely, but little things she was doing towards the end was really pushing my patience. After I had put on my SUPER heavy gown (and desperately needed to sit), she insisted on me moving to different parts of my house + outside in the July heat for better angles/lighting for her own social media content (mind you, she got plenty while I was in the makeup chair). She kept asking me to also request that my family get out of the way for photos, too. I finally set some boundaries and said, uhm no that's okay. That tiny incident left a bad taste in my mouth for a moment and as though she had overstayed her visit, lol. I cannot IMAGINE how this bride felt!!!!
Not patience push over. The bride should never have had to deal with that but the woman should have told her to leave ESPECIALLY when hubby was annoyed
Going back was the most delusional choice…”go back, get what you need, don’t let anybody break you down.” What more did you need when you were only hired for beauty services???
I know! They aren't trying to break you down. They are trying to get you to leave a place where you aren't wanted and have no place being in the first place. I still don't get how she was so clueless.
The social media footage she was getting was purely for herself and her own financial benefit. She should have been paying the bride and groom for it, and beyond that, cleared it beforehand. Clearly the groom didn’t want it. Don’t take advantage of people not wanting to say “no” and bring the vibes down.
She was trying to profit from the bride and groom, when she was hired to do makeup. The groom had already stated he didn't like TicToc. She ignored that. If she wanted to be a wedding videographer she should go into that field. She made the wedding day about her and took away from the bride and groom. She took advantage of the very kind bride to push her own self interests. This really made me angry
Exactly! I feel terrible for the bride and groom, when they look back at their wedding day they're going to remember this unnecessary drama. Just shameful.
Right?? No one told her to or asked her to do all the extra stuff that she did. She encroached on them and forgot her place because she was still trying to keep her heartbreak at bay. Like, nevermind the fact that these people are strangers to her and the groom put up with her despite saying he hated tiktok. How could someone really not feel that they were overstaying their welcome like that?
The sad thing about this now is that this poor woman's wedding has gone viral for all the wrong reasons and I can imagine that she felt so awkward on the day as a result of this....not making the best memories for her or anyone tbh
She made the whole wedding about her, her feelings and took what she needed. Crying to the bride on her freaking wedding day 🙈 I got married on Friday and I can’t imagine someone I hire cry to me during the night when I was trying to enjoy and talk to all the guests. And then she posted everything on tt and made it about herself!
@@windy-fei thank you so much! My makeup artist actually cancelled on me like a week before my wedding. 🥲 I ended up doing my own makeup and it turned out great, also was holding good! We had a quite casual wedding but very well planned with closest family and friends and it was really perfect!
i don’t blame her for crying tbh. life happens. however, she did end up making this whole wedding about herself, for sure. and not everybody wants every single part of their wedding to be filmed and put on tiktok.
Her business is at a tipping point for sure - the quality of your work (and in this case it’s very high) will only compensate for a certain amount of other stuff before brides, wedding planners, etc. won’t work with you. There are MANY talented people who can be hired instead. That’s the part where I just think her business sense as the head of a brand needs to mature a bit more. On Day 1, being that emotional (which is understandable), it would have been better to says she was ill & left - if you have a good team, they can get the job done when LIFE happens. For the 2nd wedding, there was definitely a miscommunication between her, the bride, & the groom. But, I do agree with the general consensus that a lot of what she was filming was a videographer’s job & not what she was hired for, so if she wants to add that as a service, then make that clear from the beginning. The ambiguity definitely left room for such a negative reaction from the bride & groom.
@@JessicaRamirez91622Absolutely. I don’t think she was expecting the reaction she got to her TTs at all. She thought it would go a completely different way.
100% She did not post this to show her mistakes, she just wanted to be the victim so bad. Even managed to make it about race at the end there. Anything but her fault.
It looks like she thinks that being hired as the MUA makes her part of the bridal party, or at the very least an automatic guest of the wedding. Which is why she can't figure out what she did wrong. She can't even see the boundaries she's stomping all over.
I hope no one books her for a while so she can reflect. She should NEVER have posted this “story time” about her client. She overstepped, pushed them to make content they didn’t want to do, accused the husband of being racist and then blasted all of this on social media to try and hurt the reputation of the clients who paid her thousands for a BAD experience. She needs some perspective. Her makeup work is good, but her business practices are poor.
She was probably hoping to leave with a groomsman to fill the hole her bf left. We all know people like that, who don’t know how to be alone and enjoy their own company or be still.
@@lolacookie453 exactly! she wanted one of them to think “poor girl, imma take care of her after the ceremony” and that’s probably why she overstayed too
let alone to go out there with the goal of using the footage to build your business on social media ... and instead you ruined it. i cannot see anyone hiring her in the future.
@@joephoenixstudio1153 and that has nothing to do with the bride or the groom or the rest of the bridal party/wedding. She burst into tears doing their make up! After falling apart at work in front of clients like that, you don't then stick around after your job is done to do things that NO ONE asked you to do... that's just wild lmao.
Some people are so confused: you’re sad and processing the end of your relationship, that doesn’t mean you can leach of other people’s happiness/relationship . This girl needs to get good counseling. I’m sorry for the couple
No matter how good her work is, she is messy, unprofessional, and lacks any self-awareness. This poor couple hired her to do a job and now they have to be involved in unnecessary drama online for the world to see as newlyweds, all because the makeup artist thought she was also the videographer, wedding planner, and event coordinator. The audacity to make it all about herself is astonishing. Do the makeup, have fun while you’re there, then go home.
Other vendors at the wedding and a bridesmaid have made videos stating how the MUA's content creation was interfering with photography, taking prime photography position, blocking shots and using allotted time for herself, making vendor's jobs very difficult. The MUA also did not take many hints that it was time for her to go. She overstepped, overstayed and ruffled feathers.
@@Natasha___.To find it all in one place, Markie has a few videos on this. He has all the usernames too. I found this through his videos. Then went down my own rabbit hole.
@@Natasha___.You should check out the videos MARKIE made on this. He covers it all and has all the usernames. That's where I first heard of this situation.
I was wondering about that when she said something along the lines of directing people in the shoot to get shots that the photographer and videographer were missing. That told me a lot about her conduct on the day outside of interactions with the bridal party. I bet the other professionals were so annoyed by her insistence on being part of everything. Like, wouldn’t she be pissed if the florist suddenly came up to her while doing the bride’s makeup and started doing touch ups and directing the look? If it’s not your job, don’t step on everyone’s toes. I feel badly for her about what she was going through because that pain is real. But as the owner of the business, you’ve gotta maintain appropriate boundaries. She literally admits to crying with tears down her face while doing a bridesmaid’s makeup-how uncomfortable must that have been on the day you’re supposed to be happily celebrating your friend or family member who is getting married? And then later taking time away from the bride at her wedding to cry and complain more?! Maybe the MUA should have relied on her team to handle this event on their own because she was clearly not able to be professional-if it had been a quick cry during a break or one little thing, that’s no biggie because we’re all human but this was far more than that and now the bride and groom will always remember that thorn in their sides on their special day.
It's crazy to me how she bursts into tears in front of the bride after the groom was reasonably fed up with her. She had the bride consoling her and made the day about HER. She took someone elses wedding and made it about herself. I don't think she intended for things to go that far but she was definitly overstepping a professional boundary.
I've seen this on other channels, but something new that got on my nerves is her talking about how she told the bride she'd be there for her for anything she needed. If I was a bridesmaid, especially maid of honor, I'd be stepping in to say thanks for the offer, but we got this. Yes there can be drama in a bridal party, but most times the bride is already surrounded by people who want to make her day the best it can be. Just another bit of main character energy from the MUA, assuming her help is more important to the bride than anyone else's.
I can’t imagine anyone hiring her after what she did. She’ll be forever known as the crazy make up lady. If she had actually done so many weddings before this one, getting so much content wouldn’t be so important. I actually think she’s done very few outside of family & close friends.
@@veronica5lmaa calling her a terrible human being is quite drastic. Clearly she’s hurting and made a horrible mistake that impacted the wedding and her business. People are allowed to make mistakes in life, even though this was a major one. And it seems like her awareness was a little low, causing further issues. But it doesn’t seem like she’s a horrible person..
^ her reaction was to insinuate that the bridal party was racist for not wanting her there. That’s a dangerous first reaction for a POC woman with a TikTok obsession to be pointing towards anyone and everyone with no basis 🤨 these people gotta get checked more often
The MUA clearly doesn't recognize social cues at all and lacks all adult maturity. The fact the bride had to comfort her is horrifying. We had a family friend marry shortly after my husband of 23 years died suddenly. I was not a professional working at the wedding and actually a close friend, but no, I kept my emotions to myself, which took so much effort and work. I didn't want her wedding to be remembered as my tragedy, which is far more devastating that a break-up with a boyfriend. I can't even imagine having the bride comforting me on her happy day. This woman is so overbearing. The fact she tried to imply it was a racial issue is disgusting, and she should be embarrassed.
Excellent point! And I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes, she should possess the professional maturity of knowing her own emotional limits and leave when her job is done.
You are so right. I'm so sorry for your loss, yet proud of you for your strength in times of such hardship. Although you could not have gone, it was sweet that you still went to support and share your family friend's happy occasion. You are absolutely right, this woman was completely unprofessional in so many ways.
Oooh her attitude about the lighter is not it! You don't borrow things from other people and misplace them and then act like they're irrational for being annoyed. And y'know... people who have lighters carry them for a reason. I just imagine the groom on a highly stressful day needing a smoke break and this lady is like "oopsie sorry idk where your lighter is... Now can we get more Fiancé Anthem footage? 😊"
@@thoriscorner518 YES. That's the issue. People usually understand if you apologize and do what you can about it, especially when you are representing YOUR business. I think you're right and that's when he had it. NOBODY is happy when you tell them losing their stuff isn't a big deal.
@@purplepixie274 That's the first thing I thought when she said she could have "just gone to the car to get him another one." What if it was one of those engraved Zippo lighters that belonged to his late great-grandpa or something (the "something old" for a wedding). If it were me, I would have been PISSED if somebody had lost something so precious to me and behaved in such a flippant manner.
Whats crazy is when the planner went to tell her the couple wants you to leave and her response was "the couple wants me to leave? What did I do?" is wild. UR STILL THERE! THAT'S what you did! Like how doesn't she get that AT ALL is just beyond everyone.
And what does she expect to happen when she pulls the bride away to get confirmation and I believe starts crying? If she doesn't cry then she had cried a number of times before. Sure some very confident women will tell her to leave but many more would comfort her, try to smooth things over, and possibly realize they had an emotional, volatile person on their hands who was capable of posting videos exactly like she did and was trying to avoid that. At a minimum, smoothing things over would prevent a very uncomfortable situation where after the MUA left she would now be thinking of that situation and not just having fun at her own wedding.
And also: it doesn't matter why the couple wants you to leave when you don't have a personal relationship with them; it's their day and you don't have any personal ties to one another, so leave.
The absolute AUDACITY of this woman! She was acting as if she was a family member/guest and actually RETURNED to the venue after being asked to leave! To take the bride's attention away from her own event is absolutely disgusting.
I agree~ When she said she went back and was sitting with the groomsmen, I was shocked. They don't even know her, she was intruding on such a special time for the wedding party!
I found it so patronizing that she was also directing videographers and photographers that the couple hired on what to do too?? She really took over this wedding just because of personal reasons
@@bathory313 I will say, the bride telling her "not to worry about [the groom's] statements", was a LITTLE confusing. In a vacuum. However, I think it's pretty obvious that the bride was trying to do damage control. If it were me, I would be MORTIFIED by making someone cry on my wedding, and I'd feel the urge to comfort someone. The ISSUE is that it is NOT YOUR JOB, to comfort someone who CAUSED THE ISSUE. I've had to learn that the hard way in life.
@@originofsky it was frustrating to hear the mixed messages from the bride from the beginning of the story. if they truly were so unconfortable from the very begening (since aparently the moment she cried early on, they all were now from there on uncomfy with her pressence), then tell her early on that you would prefer if they left. no mixed messaging . I know some people will be reluctant to blame her since "it was her wedding day", but NO. you don't wait till 8 hours later when everyone is fed up while still being unclear about wether or not you want that person to stay ("why don't you join" "yeah it's ok don't worry" "sure stay!" "no he is just cranky" wathever....don't say anything of the sort at all if you then want to be taken seriously when saying you wanted her to leave). You cut the bs out, you don't have to be disrespectful, but shit happens and you need to have a backbone and make decissions, take her to the side, be like hey, i'm sorry i see you are crying i don't know what happened, you can tell me if you want and we can and we can chat or talk over a coffee during the week, but i hope you understand that we can't switch focus on a day like this, and it's better if you go take some time off and rest. i really have to ask you to leave, you know how important this is to me, our big day, we have to get ready, and everyone is a little unconfortable right now, and i wouldn't ask you to stay while feeling this bad. it sucks to ask you this i know but i hope you can understand. we've been planning this day for months. You know, any variation on something like that. You tell her that the moment shit gets weird. no "yeah come stay, sure no problem haha" and then wondering why she hasn't gotten the message. i see this happen at workplaces way too much. people keep up the friendly bs for a multitude of reasons, from genuinly being the naive people pleaser personality type, to wanting to keep the "happy go lucky team" facade at their workplace, to just not having practice in actually saying no or stating boundaries. and it only leads to further misunderstandings and annoyance for everyone involved. Now, the part about coming back for support from the bride after the groom was evidently and clearly pissed? that is 100% some weirdo boundary crossing behavior from the MUA no doubt. nothing changes that. But why the heel was the groom the only one aparently after all those hours of what supposedly was very upsetting and annoying, the one to say it clearly, that late, directly to her? Why not a clear cut conversation early on to avoid any further drama? and if you were to do so and THEN they wouldn't leave? then clearly it was weirdo behaviour and not some weird mixmessaging after you got her emotionally involved in your party, like come on, seriously. your makeup was done and you were, like in this story, saying stuff like yeah join!? and then complain?????? Please stop saying the opposite of what's needed just to be polite or wathever. you don't have to be unnecesarily cruel or wathever, but part of being proffessional and an adult is to be able to handle unpleasant news and also deliver them- Would it have been great if the mua didn't have a bad day in the first place, or realised early on her own that it was best to leave? 100%. but it didn't happen, now it's on you to decide how you are going to procede about it if the person in question doesn't get the memo on their own. you don't wait till everyone gets messages on their own, much less on important stuff, you approach them and be clear about it.
So not only did she potentially ruin their wedding she then posted a video on tik tok trying to shame the couple. And put their faces all over social media while shaming them! This is possibly the most unprofessional thing I’ve ever seen. They didn’t hire you to make social media content, they hired you to do makeup. Posting footage of you doing the makeup is one thing but insisting on them doing a dance they never agreed to is crazy. And then after being asked to leave she came back to continue getting content?! It’s just 🤯
And she posted it confidently, because in her contract it say she can 😭 She even mentioned it in her recap video, after she mentioned she’s going to take it all down
I'm sure when the bride signed the contract about being filmed for content--she would have presumed--as it should have been--content involving makeup application. Primarily before and after shots seemed reasonable. Even filming touch-ups wasn't really necessary. After the initial makeup was done, that should have been it. The MUA completely lost any sympathy I had for her after she helped herself to the CATERED wedding food & cocktails? Even with buffets, food is prepared according to the number of guests and possibly any dietary requirements. Breaks and meals should have been discussed during contract negotiations. And then she tried to make the guests PERFORM for her video? Weddings and receptions events are carefully planned. Maybe she interrupted something else the couple had planned as part of their celebration.
Do people not know when they are getting a "pity" or "just to be polite" invitation? She KNEW the groom didn't really feel comfortable or want to be included in social media stuff and she STILL recorded them. This just kept getting worse & worse.
Exactly. It speaks to a lack of social skills when people have an inability to read social cues or perceive unspoken awkwardness. Why does the bride need to be the only opinion she’s willing to accept? If your presence makes the photographer or one random guest uncomfortable AND you’ve completed your contract work, you need to leave.
@@kimberly3706sbecause she knew the bride would be nice and tell her she really wanted her there. Some people are very good at reading people to get what they want.
@@kirielbranson4843 Excellent point…it could be an indication of highly developed manipulation skills rather than a deficiency of social skills. I guess I was too generous in attributing kind (misguided but not cruel) intentions. I should keep in mind that there is a significant percentage of narcissists in the wild. 🙂
@@kimberly3706s I'm autistic, reading social cues or unspoken awkwardness aren't my strong suits. HOWEVER, I don't think that's the case with the MUA and certain traits of my disability are, for lack of a better way of putting it, need some rework since it causes issues for both myself AND those around me
I'm a violinist, and have played more weddings over the years than I can count. Even if I'm invited to stay and eat by the family, I leave when I finish performing. I feel badly for this bride that she will have memories from her wedding of her makeup artist crying and having to spend time consoling her. I know the MUA was going through some things, but she needs to remember that she was working!
the fact that she was obv going through it should've been a huge indicator for her *not* to stay actually. she's throwing professionalism to the wind and making the whole experience weird as hell for the couple bc she's got some shit going on in her life that she's deciding to work through at a stranger's wedding reception.
@@lacey892 I agree. She definitely has some personal issues to deal with before they destroy her business. It's also sad that the bride and groom will have some negative memories from their wedding caused by hiring this MUA. I would have felt terrible to have come between the bride and groom on their wedding day!
Heck, even if it was the bride's sister who just got cheated on, you don't freaking make the bride or groom feel bad on their wedding day. Let alone this was a perfect stranger who stayed wayyyy past they were done their work they were hired for!
Her eating and drinking on the bride's dime, then borrowing and losing the groom's lighter, and seeing nothing wrong about it is what's unacceptable and disrespectful. Honestly, if I were the maid/matron of honor, I would have stepped in during the crying jag and taken that girl aside, gotten her a damp washcloth and a seltzer, and had her assistant step in until she could compose herself. Nobody wants tears and snot running while their face is being touched! I just think a lot of people don't know what to do about situations.
1000% when she acted like the groom was unreasonable when she lost his lighter..?? I think the bridal party was originally concerned that if they said something the makeup wouldn’t be done
She, as owner of a business that specialises in events, is expected to have a "vice CEO" / 1st assistant who steps in when she is ill or unable to work. She shouldn't have gone to work or should have at least stayed at the side while her team does the job, and then left
The longer this story went on, the more and more astounded I was. Going to the cocktail party, then standing in the back of the wedding, then going to the reception, then being asked to leave and GOING BACK and sitting with the groomsmen? That’s crazy.
Calling the couple racist because she overstepped so many boundaries was probably the worse thing she could have done, I really don't see anyway someone else would book her if it meant risking their reputation
Sorry, I own a very large hair and makeup company that does hundreds of weddings per year. Her conduct was unacceptable. She made this all about herself. No one cares what you are going through on their wedding day. It is about them, not you. We never ask brides, bridal parties or the like for "content" We get the photographers email, reach out to them and they happily share photos (if the bride wants them to) and we tag the photographers. We may get a quick photo if there is time. We get asked occasionally to come. We laugh and say thanks but we do not go (unless it is a 2 look wedding and we need to be onsite) Although i feel bad for her I hope if she continues in this field she revamps her performance in the future.
@@Alyssa_M513 because she wanted to use the couple's entire wedding for content to benefit herself. having the entire wedding party dancing for a tiktok for HER social media account. the delusion is incredible.
RIGHT. Everything is about her and now that wedding is forever marred by this fool crying and the bride and groom disagreeing on letting this evil chick continue to crash their wedding
That's the difference between a true professional wedding vendor and a social media influencer wannabe. No sane person wants to film TikToks all day at their wedding. It's an expensive, very serious and important occasion and the one place where people should be present and not stuck in their phone. Shame because she's good at makeup but horribly unprofessional and clueless. She's lucky the couple are really nice people because I'd be taking her to court to get the money back I paid due to her ruining the day and I would probably even go after her for emotional damages and possibly slander.
I get the vibe that she is living vicariously through her clients. It's sad, horrifyingly embarassing, and she needs to seek help. This behavior is unacceptable and she basically used these people to have a party. This is not YOUR wedding, lady :/
It’s unfortunate how things like TikTok have made it so that people feel pressured to not only be an amazing artist but to also be this insane content creator, otherwise you’re irrelevant. Her work is beautiful and should speak for itself. Doing too much just makes you look unprofessional and intrusive. Not everyone wants to be plastered all over social media for your benefit.
It's SO weird. I don't even post stuff for my family on Facebook anymore. We all have cell phones, we can text. I don't want my kids all over social media, I don't want to be on social media and I'm definitely not posting people I don't know. On the rare occasion I do post a picture of my youngest son, if his friends are in the photo I color over their faces or ask their parents if I can post it to my account, which is private and I only have like 86 people which are relatives and a few close friends. The whole concept of making content of any and everything is so bizarre to me.
One thing is obvious from this comment thread and the backlash: a ton of upcoming brides will be making sure there are no "content" rights in their vendor contracts!
yup. it kind of scares me that a few businesses surrounding weddings will insist on filming as a part of a contract 💀 now i know to make sure any individual or company i end up working with on my wedding will not be shoving a phone in my face all day for the sake of content lmao
She lacks boundaries snd self awareness, poor girl. Good luck to her because her business is going to suffer, unfortunately because of her own actions.
Unfortunately, I think she was living through the bride. This woman needs severe intervention in her life. She needs to apologize to all parties involved, get these videos taken down on the wedding, refund the couple all their money, and if their photos etc. were ruined, offer to foot the bill for that. It is clear that she is not happy with her life and was trying to live through the bride.
Love that you're covering this. It astonished me that she accused an interracial jewish couple of racism. I had a hairstylist who only took pics of my hair and only my hair. No random tiktoks
That was my first thought. Like she thought she was doing something saying she’s the “only black vendor” … grl half the people at the wedding was black like ur math isn’t mathing😭😭 it’s so hard for some people to admit their character is the problem and that reality transcends race, religion, and gender!
She’s dangerous because if she were to falsely accuse a couple of racism in which neither were the same race as her, people might actually believe her and it could ruin the couples lives.
Oh man, I would have been so upset if that happened on my wedding day. All of my vendors were invited to all parts of the wedding, including eating food and having drinks. This was discussed beforehand. They were not obligated to stay, but they were invited. All my vendors knew each other and chose to stay to enjoy the experience. Nobody took out their phones. Nobody asked for content. They didn’t interact with guests, though I wouldn’t have minded. As a courtesy, the hair and makeup artist made sure everything stayed in place, but they did such a great job that they never needed to actually touch up anything. None of them were in any of our photos. It was a beautiful day and I’m so thankful for such professionalism, while being so pleasant to spend time with on my special day. Proof that it can be done.
unfortunately i feel like she just tanked her whole business with this video series. she was WILDLY unprofessional and crossed soooo many boundaries. and to say she felt targeted as a black woman as if the bride wasn’t also black…. i think she does incredible work, but i don’t think she’ll get booked again which is devastating considering her potential if she just got rid of the whole social media thing she’s trying to do.
That part was so yikes to me! She definitely tried to imply “I was the only black vendor so I was targeted” - like wtf. I would sue for defamation. I’m blasian, and that race baiting sht is disgusting. I hope she never gets hired again, at least until she fixes her attitude.
"I didn't do anything to anyone." Um, yes she did. She more or less crashed their wedding. She ate food and had drinks that were for the wedding guests. She was not a wedding guest. She was hired to do a job which she did. When your job is done you leave. She more than overstayed her welcome and she was kind of in people's personal spaces making content. I get it that she was having a hard time personally, but sometimes you just have to suck it up and do your job and fall apart later. Part of me feels like she didn't want to leave because she didn't want to have to go back home and have to wallow in her sadness all alone.
Imagine being hired for a job, doing the job, then just staying like you’re a guest, then being upset when someone finally says something without worrying about your little broken heart. Bro.
That she has any videos complaining about a client on social media, whether it was completely on the client or not, is outrageous and a red flag for her business
on top of that, complaining and USING FOOTAGE OF THE COUPLE. that feels vaguely threatening cuz now you're putting a face to your complaints. it's one thing to complain to friends in private, it's another to post identities and do a whole storytime with the internet
I think even worse than her conduct on that day was posting the videos about it, showing their wedding, their faces, their wedding parties, all in the context of venting about being treated badly and being kicked out. She humiliated them in front of the whole world.
In a job where you directly work with clients, sometimes you’ll see them having a great time while you’re stressing out and working your ass off. You might feel “hey, I want some of that too!” Remind yourself, that that’s LITERALLY WHY YOU’RE BEING PAID. 😅 I work in a school wellness center, and we have plushies, beanbags, colorings books, lots of things for students to regulate their emotions and let us help them. If I’m on the clock, they’re not gonna find me lounging on the beanbags chilling (unless it’s to help someone feel relaxed). I’m not the one receiving a service, I’m the one providing it. What got my alarm bells ringing was when she was talking about how much fun she was having. It’s fine to enjoy your job, but she was basically giving herself the wedding-guest experience and getting PAID for it. 😀
I’m glad the groom stepped up and said no so very aggressively because obviously his wife is too nice and appreciates the work that the artist has done and you know she has tried to do her best and be nice but she’s overstepping her bounds in the wife doesn’t wanna say anything she’s obviously can find it in her husband that she wants to leave so he steps in and defends her n that’s a GOOD MAN!!
Agreed. I lm one of those people that would say oh no it's OK you can stay because I don't want conflict even though I really want the person to leave.
I can personally see not wanting to cause a scene. But I can see at some point that switch would flip if the woman wasn't taking the hint to stop recording and leave.
The number of times she emphasized all the good energy she was bringing to the event tells me she knows (even if subconsciously) that she was bringing the vibe down....
She was taking THEIR good energy. Maybe she contributed to the pool of good energy while she was doing her job at the start of the day, but after her part was over she was being an energy vampire (so to say) and not acknowledging it to herself.
it’s the way this event was not just one day where she was off her game.. she did the same thing the day before and others have shared stories of her doing similar things for a while! she’s so unaware it’s insane
The epitome of doing way too much and crossing boundaries. Such talent and so much unprofessionalism. Literally living vicariously through the bride and her groom on their wedding day🤦🏽♀️
I ... Feel like her interpretation of "going above and beyond" is questionable. That doesn't mean going above and beyond boundaries to benefit yourself. But this is why I wouldn't hire a business I HAVE to allow to make content out of a huge event in my life. I would just expect that they're going to be a problem. Don't understand why you need 60 days notice to tell them they can't make content, either. Weddings involve a lot of people, you might find out later it's a problem for your guests. Edit: She really confronted the bride after being told they wanted her to leave and doesn't understand why security is looking ready to drag her ass out.... Girl go home 😭
I agree. She didn’t know her place and actually even if the bride wanted her to stay and the husband didn’t she should have taken the responsibility to go. And the bride should not have gone against her new husband’s wishes. Not sure how long this marriage will last. I’m just saying 😵💫
I don’t think you did. Because that’s what I heard and I’m thinking the same thing. Like why can’t you just NOT do it?? People might be okay with it in the moment of signing the contract, but once they think on it or the day arrives they could always change their minds. What are they gonna do then? NOT do the makeup because they can’t make content? That’s wild to me lol
@@judymcdougall THANK YOU, I thought I might be the only one who thought the bride should have stood by him on that. She didn't need to be rude or anything, just tell her "hey I mentioned before that my husband isn't comfortable with the TikTok thing. I was under the impression that you only needed content from the hair and makeup bts." She also could have mentioned she already did hire someone for content creation and she didn't want to be disrespectful to them. I don't want to be dramatic but I agree, I don't think it's the best sign if the bride was letting this happen and even blaming him for being grouchy... And it's their wedding day 😭
I want to know how 'content' was explained in the contract, because if she just filmed the getting ready, her and her team doing the hair and makeup, that would be content.
What is left out apparently, is that when the groom "snapped" at her, he told her to leave. This is when she left but THEN turned her car around and went back!
The fact that she said “go back, get what you need, don’t let anyone bring you down” “I’m not letting anyone break me down” Like girl, that’s not just “anyone,” it’s the GROOM and it’s HIS wedding.
@@VeronicaSparkexactly! The cost divided up per person at a wedding is a lot. If I’m paying thousands for my event, you best believe I’m only inviting people that I want there. On top of that, she didn’t even bring a gift! How rude! She could’ve offered the bride a discount for the free content, and for the food/drinks she’s consuming at the wedding. Otherwise, she should’ve just completed her job, and then leave.its common decency
It's not a bride's job to keep checking if the makeup artist is getting her feelings hurt on her wedding day! As an MUA as well, this made me so annoyed. Here in Mexico you'll get invited to stay at a lot of weddings, the family always provide breakfast or something for lunch, but I always bring snacks and water for me and my team anyway and if we get invited, we stay in the back to watch the ceremony and do touch-ups if required, and then we leave, it's not our party, family or friends, it's better to leave and then send some thank you notes to your clients.
People offer things out of politeness that they do not intend you to take them up on. It’s confusing, but it’s a fact of life that people have to be clued into even if it hurts to hear. They’re just being nice, now be nice back by refusing.
I've been uncomfortable at weddings I've been *invited* too due to not knowing very many people beyond the bride (or groom). At least I had an invitation though! Can't imagine how awkward it would be to stay at a wedding I was hired to do a pre-ceremony service for.
@@RobertWelsh While I feel like she had good intentions I definitely think she overstepped boundaries. I think she was using this event to disassociate and not deal with the personal issues she was having. I do genuinely feel bad for her though.
@@RobertWelsh I'm wondering if all of this would have happened if her own personal situation had not happened so soon before, I believe it was 2 days prior? But then according to the 2nd bride she has a problem not understanding boundaries. 🤔
I think she was asked to leave simply because she overstayed her welcome. Her work was beautiful. Things just got off track! Great video, Robert!! ✌🏻💚🙏🏻
iv been following this and its crazy she has a history of acting like this all three wedding had problems with her the bride from the main video has came out and said no she was not asked to stay and everyone telling her oh you look tired it was a nice way to say go away, her not so subtle hint at racism really annoyed me like girl what color was the bride and the wedding planner was a lady of color no need to bring that into the fact you behaved inappropriate (again)
I think she lost someone she may have been really close to due to the breakup and getting very hyped and ended up filling that void with her clients. I feel for her and it's a lesson to learn from. Also people online need to stop sharing "controversial" monents online for people to debate about. If you really respect your clients you wouldn't have posted this. That's the most disrespectful part after all this. Talk to your friends, family and therapist, not the internet.
This!!! Like I get it if you had a terrible week or month or whatever and you end up doing something stupid because you're vulnerable. Who hasn't done that? But in the moment you sit down and rewatch the videos and write all the captions, now that is when you need to take a deep breath and really think about everything that happened and just deal with it IN PRIVATE
Omg this, so so much. That's the worst part for me, too! Like as a whole, this would have been annoying, but could have been overlooked and forgotten about in time, it's the fact she put it on tic toc and now people are debating it (although I don't see how, she was 100% in the wrong, but ok) and the people who got married probably got harassed over this, and that's just unforgivable in my opinion.
using footage of their day for her storytimes, talking about their big day, trying to justify her intrusion into their big day with "I did everything for them." okay??? and??? girlie, you are a stranger and a contracted worker. you don't get special treatment for that, and you certainly don't get to essentially harass your clients when you don't get it
Her recounting her side from 21min onwards is like watching a car crash. Shes terrible! She returned to a place she was not invited to, she interrupted the bride and groom multiple times and bursting out in tears at a wedding shes not invited to, taking the attention away from the bride and groom. She says "I went back.... go back and get what you need", there is NOTHING she needed, her service was paid for and over! Shes been told twice to leave, she confronts the bride and shes still "What did I do". Ummm, cause drama
I've seen a lot of people's takes on this be mostly about social unawareness, social ques being missed, loneliness, etc, all of which are valid. But I think it's really about someone who is so obsessed with content creation they can't participate in reality.. like whatever "this" is reminds me of MomToks where the child is clearly being used for content and the adult thinks they're just going above and beyond at being a parent 🥴
I would absolutely HATE if i was asked to dance for a stupid a tik tok at MY WEDDING. After she did the makeup she lost defenetly should have left. I think she actually was ruining their wedding. If you as a hired help are medeling with their wedding, making the groom do stuff he said he isn't intrested in doing - you are in the wrong. Aaaaand then she pulls out the race card. Absolutely redicilous
@@smitty5641she said security was watching her ready to drag her out (after she pulled the bride for a chat) and then she mentioned she was the only black vendor. Someone in the comments said it wasn’t even security it was just the bride’s brother. 🤷🏻♀️
For me it was how you can hear her telling these people what to do after throwing that camera and bright ahh ring light in their face. So many of them are just caught off guard and don't want to seem rude on camera, it feels like coercion at times.
If I'm signing a contract that specifies they can do social media, I'm expecting it to be make up related ONLY and not infringing on other things and getting in the way of other people hired to photographs etc I also think that when people were saying to her "you look tired" they were trying to nicely hint that she should leave
Yeahhh when she kept telling people how she'd been there all day, all I could think was "you did that to yourself! You should be home resting by now so why are you still here?"
yeah LITERALLY like even the contract allowing content to be filmed would only be between the bride / bridesmaids and the makeup artist right? the husband didn't even receive a service from her so how does she think it's okay to make him do a dance for HER content! I would also think that the content would solely be about the makeup (like before after stuff) and not a free for all making the customer whatever is trending at the moment for a strangers Tiktok. oh and imagine attending your family / friends wedding and there's a whole ass videographer next to just a strange lady filming content on her phone FOR HER COMPANY with you in the background? I wouldn't consent to that either. a wedding video is completely okay to be filmed at a wedding and sure if you're a private person (like the bride herself) wanting to film a stupid Tiktok I can join it's whatever. but you're not going to see me in some COMPANIES Tiktok for free! bruh
I, as a former pro MUA who did weddings, would NOT have stayed and NOT have made content. I would have done my job, as per contract, and peaced out. That part was unprofessional. She's there to do her job.. and that's it. I'd have asked her to leave if I was the bride.. I would have been mortified.. to assume an off hand "please stay" meant to stay and film... no no no. But that's just me. *edit to add* she's a STUNNING MUA.. they did right by hiring her.
I'm probably in the wrong but I would have been annoyed at all the filming instead of working. Like Robert said, filming things directly related to her work: ✅ Filming dresses, and shoes, ambushing people in the room: ❌❌❌
for real. even if the clients were cool w/ her policy of posting her work to social media, i'm sure they (righteously) assumed the content would be about the hair/makeup... maybe some bts of the bride or some photos of the bridal party all together if you really wanna take full advantage of making content for that job. but that should be IT. running around all night trying to film tiktok dances of the whole damn wedding party (for your own benefit, not the bride's) is absolutely WILD.
I bet the other vendors were so mad at her! Accessing the reception hall before anyone else, recording footage of the decorations, eating the apparently limited food, getting in the photographer's way. I appreciate what she was trying to do but it was a huge overstep
I’m getting married in 3 weeks and I would’ve filmed me sacking her for proof, refuse to pay and proceed with suing + reporting to whatever ombudsman if she kicked up. Absolutely disgusting behaviour
The fiance anthem was killing me bc seriously why would an mua have that on their page? The only vendor that would be appropriate for is content or photography/videography
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I agree to you....I was working much much closer to People, I'm a Midwife over 40 years and working in Germany as a "free" working as also most of the Time as an employed Midwife, but when they invited me (oh man: so often!) it feels really as they want to put me into their Family!
But I had to take a lot of Care of this ‼️🫣🤗
I Loved (till now!) my People/Patients really from the Bottom of my Heart, and often I met some, and their Son's or Daughter's are grown up and get Kids by their own (sometimes, 10, 15 Years ago I helped to Delivery "my now grown-up Girls" with their own Birth and Labour their Babies, too 🤗💞✌🏼)
I had to learn this very fast in the beginning of my Profession Career!
And understand me well: I LOVED my young Mothers - but they could and try to "eat you up", they don't realize, that they are not the only Ones which had a Labour and delivered a Baby with your/my Help.
Okay: this is a "bit different" Situation ..but at the other Side understandable same same! 🤗🥰🫣‼️
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I think the groomsmen telling her ‘you look tired’ was the first attempt at getting her to leave honestly.
it’s wild at that point she had already left then decided to go back
@@Cocoacowgirl right! And being all "I've been here all day!" as if she didn't do it to herself and should've been relaxing at home long before then 😂
@@bunji_beansexactly.. there’s no more makeup to do byeee
@@caro31099fr she acted like she owed it to the bride, like it was her duty to come back and stick it out.. girl y’all are not friends 😂😂
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The worst is that I don’t think this MUA understands how insensitive and unprofessional she was
I think that’s the saddest part. She’s completely unaware, and aloof in a way that reminds me of how some people on the spectrum perceive their surroundings. Mainly the inability to pick up on unspoken rules/ nonverbal social cues or the inability to tell when someone’s upset or uncomfortable. I do feel bad in that sense, and hope she can learn these skills, because they are very necessary in her line of work.
@@galacticcactus5530 This is not how people on the spectrum generally do things. Going back after being aggressively told to leave is very deliberate. Playing (very publicly) a victim is deliberate. A person on the spectrum is not interested of getting other people’s attention (although it might happen by being oblivious). This person was all about having the attention of the world on her and making everything about her feelings. This is more how people with borderline personality would do things. It’s not a perfect example as Tourette’s is not ASD but the behaviours between neurospicy and BPD can be seen between Ethan Klein (sometimes oblivious) and Trisha Paytas ( need for attention to be able to stabilize her emotional turmoil). This is giving more Trisha than Ethan. ** edit: if anyone sees this is as a diagnosis or villainizing, you need help… with reading comprehension. It’s an example of differences in behaviours, an obvious generalization ie. how it might present. A disorder is a pattern of behaviour, this is one isolated case in this person’s life. Didn’t even think to add this part cos I thought it would be… obvious to anyone. All behaviour is neutral, until people pour their own judgement and expectations into things.
The thing is, there are certain people out there that have no concept of boundaries. They couldn't tell you what being professional even means, other than being polite and on time.
@@galacticcactus5530 don't pull a 'autism' card on this, personally as a autistic person it's annoying, this was someone overstaying their welcome not a autistic person, as one I ask for permission for sharing art I made for someone and I only will if the person is comfortable
Don't use autism as a damn excuse for this type of behavior and don't imply this person is autistic, thank you /srs
@@91SSoso let’s just not diagnose her and agree she was being an ass. to say a symptom of bpd is wanting all all the attention is not only just plain wrong but also just as harmful as saying her symptoms are linked to being on the spectrum. we only know about 2 instances of her acting this way at a wedding she was contracted to work, nowhere near enough evidence to even theorize if she has any mental disorders. need i remind you, she got cheated on just a few days prior. it’s the reason she was crying for a good portion of the day. she was clearly in a bad mental state and hasn’t given herself the time to grieve. and actually, i saw several comments saying that with weddings she worked for in the past she didn’t intrude and was very professional. this could mean that this was awful timing and she should’ve been more in check with herself.
so, let’s not make a habit out of diagnosing people we barely know. let’s also not refer to neurodivergence as “neurospicy” especially in this context. it takes away from the gravity of the topic.
Imagine not being invited to a wedding, then publicly complaining there’s not enough food
I don’t understand why she felt entitled to be at the wedding, do your job and leave
It’s like if you walked into your neighbours house and got mad that they didn’t have a spare bed set up for you to sleep in
I don't get it. If you do weddings all the time why would you not know to bring some food for yourself? Some granola bars or something in your bag?
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She is so unprofessional made that whole day all about herself instead of the bride, and the sad thing is that she does not see it, which means nothing will change.
she never once got the hint to leave and also the husband has every right to say no he didn’t want to do the videos and he’s like what another one no, we just got married. He’s just trying to relax and dance and eat some food. .
smeone close to her to explain what we all are trying to say because she’s not getting them and also stop crying so much
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Yeah, you see that is just too much. I think they would agree to just showing the hair and make up like any other normal make up artist does but to make it all about her and to make like you said the bride work for her or get free content essentially is insane .
Her logic gives so much main character energy 😭😭😭😭 no bride would ever want to spend their wedding day, the most beautiful day of their life, taking care of and consoling a stranger who was only there for a service 💀💀
yesss I was gonna comment "main character energy is waaay to intense with her."
Eating up all the food, getting drunk crying, getting kicked out ,the bride consoling YOU on her day , they paid thousands for her to do her job and she probably stayed to get extra money. Your not supposed to be the main character at another woman wedding
She has absolutely no boundaries. It's actually sad. She reminds me of the clingy middle school friend who hasn't learned self-awareness. Until she learns, she will continue to bring pain onto herself.
@@jenem9618 The Content Co-ordinator for this wedding was at the other wedding the make up artist mentions the day before & that same make-up artist got kicked out of there too.
@@serendpity3478 Interesting, and sad (again). She's amazing at actual makeup artistry, but her relational toxicity is about to cost her her job. She's not functioning in society at the level she should be. Time to get help.
I am MORTIFIED! The fact that she called them out using real names and real faces! Can you imagine being the groom who doesn’t like social media and to have his face and name blasted for the world to see painted as an asshole?! WOW! I would sue the MUA! Way to put a damper on someone’s wedding day… unreal.
& on top of that being called racist
@@annaw27 she called him racist?? It was literally an interracial wedding😂
Agree
@@prettyprincess8187 She mentioned that she was the only Black vendor that she noticed at the wedding, and she suspected this might why she was being treated the way she was.
Probably why she did the apology video.
It’s the calling her MY BRIDE over and over again for me. It’s saying a lot…
Yeah, i gasped at that.
Same.
Yeah, the impression she owns them is ... Weird.
She should have been kicked out of within an hour of her obnoxious and intrusive behavior.
Too many boundaries were crossed but the worst was calling the bride over when you were asked to leave. For all you know, the bride just didn't feel comfortable confronting you directly but now you're going to do it to her? Let her enjoy her wedding and leave her alone!
EXACTLY!
right and the other worst part is that she said the bride was actually comforting her. Like imagine comforting a crying makeup artist who was hired to do a job on your wedding day. She pretty much made the whole day about her and not the couple
My mouth fell open when she said she went over to the bride after she was asked to leave. Why would you do that to someone on their wedding day!! Just go!
Also it's the groom's wedding too what he wants matters too
@cutecheerfreak1 exactlyyy! This!
The craziest part of all this was that the wedding was UNPLUGGED (no phones) and she filmed EVERYTHING and posted it online for the world to see before the couple could even see their own event.
That's so unacceptable. I love people's compassion and empathy towards her situation but she deliberately did so much harm to this couple. I don't care how good her work is, she doesn't deserve to be hired again if this is how she treats her paying clients
That’s absolutely wild…
Actual psycho who wouldn't be respectable enough for even any other customer involved job.
So rude
Be careful doing stuff like this folks be glad they didn't consult their lawyer I WOULD HAVE
My sister is a professional MUA and whenever she's invited to stay, she literally changes into wedding appropriate clothing and sit back and wait to do touch ups throughout the party. She is not acting like one of the wedding party members. But that's ONLY if the bride request her to stay. Otherwise, she is gone!
This!! Acting on the clock, period.
I'm a videographer. These sidefilmers make my job soooo hard. Just let me do MY job and you do yours 😭😭
Everyone with a camera pretending to have your job
Everyone with a camera pretending to have your job
I can't imagine how frustrating it is to be hired as a photographer/videographer for a wedding and be expected to produce excellent photos and videos when there's someone trying to film a Tiktok and ruining your angles 😭
And I bet they believe they are also a videographer of equal caliber to you
I audibly gasped when she said "getting stuff the videographer was missing..." what?!?
It sounds like she overstayed her welcome. It's the groom's wedding too and if he's sending out signals that he is annoyed by you, you need to back off. Also major faux pas to partake of the cocktail hour as a vendor. no no no. This gave me secondhand embarrassment because seriously what are you thinking? And then her bit about "this is my business, this is my reputation," girl the worst thing for your business and reputation is to drag your customers to the whole world on social media. Yikes.
She thought she was going to be one of the black people that cries racism (even when there’s not) and then receives an outpouring of support from other blacks who don’t care if she’s in the wrong or not, but luckily this time it backfired.
I’ve seen them do it numerous times to innocent Whites, Asians, etc. and they usually get away with it.
right like she was already told that the groom doesn't like tik tok, and then you're going to try to make him do a bunch of takes for a tik tok dance throughout the day (whihc you weren't asked to do). and then to keep saying you did nothing to be treated like that? I would've been annoyed also if I was the groom
Exactly - why is everyone only concerned about the bride? It's his day too! And for all we know he may be footing the bill. Triangulating strangers is so innapropriate. She would have beeb asked to stop with the extraness during the actual makeup by me let alone after - I don't want the most intimate moment of my life (getting ready to marry my life partner) splashed all over tiktok. It's tacky and annoying.
@@lawrencole1964 and apparently allegedly, her cOnTeNt had already been posted to tiktok before the bride had seen her own official video of the day. (you know from the professional they actually hired to film the wedding lol)
This is spot on!
I feel SO bad for that poor bride. That MUA was extraordinarily self-centred and unprofessional. For her it's a day at work, but that's was that bride's wedding day. What the actual fuck.
I felt bad for her at the start, but by the end she was completely delusional. So unprofessional. Imagine being asked to leave by the groom and then coming back and claiming racism. Wtf
EXACTLY! Especially when the couple and guests were multiracial! 🤦🏻♀️ Crazy!
not the first time she has acted like this the part that made me want to puke was in her first video some of the photos on her wall was of that wedding so she went home printed them off and stuck them on her wall then made her fake ass video
My thought as well. I understand considering if certain actions are racially motivated but no other vendors stayed past their job being done. She was done hours ago even past the additional time. I also find the bride not defending her husband to be pretty bad. He was clearly bothered and she told the MUA to stay anyway and ignore him. He could have said things without cursing at her but the bride shouldn't have automatically dismissed his feelings
Using “racism” as excuse is truly not gonna get you far in the business world. Suck it up, swallow, your pride, take your lumps , and own up to your mistakes.
Using “racism” as excuse is truly not gonna get you far in the business world. Suck it up, swallow, your pride, take your lumps , and own up to your mistakes.
I have seen fellow Jews talking about this and like we keep pointing out the BIG DEAL people are missing ... The husband snapped because this woman interrupted a specific PRIVATE moment that happens in Jewish weddings called Yichud. Yichud is LITERALLY a moment where a couple who has just finished their wedding ceremony goes into a room together ALONE. It's a huge deal because this is the moment where the bride and groom can be in seclusion with each other *because* they are married. (In orthodoxy, a single unmarried man and woman cannot be in a room alone together without like...chaperones/other people.) even among more liberal Jews, Yichud (literally "seclusion") is a beautiful moment where they get a moment of peace and togetherness before going forwards towards like, the reception! It's a check-in moment. The alone-togetherness of Yichud is acceptable because now you're a married couple who could be having sex lol. (I mean, people don't actually have sex during Yichud but like, symbolically it means you're a married couple who can do married couple alone time and no one will OBJECT or interrupt or supervise!!.) Sometimes it's also the moment the couple can break their fast (some couples fast before the wedding).
Basically if someone interrupted the Yichud moment at my wedding I would damn well HOPE my partner would snap, because if they didn't, I would!!! Like because this cultural context is missing, I really feel like no one is realizing how massively bad it was this woman interrupted their seclusion and why the groom finally snapped.
that’s so messed
I thought that what that was when she interrupted them in the private room. A light bulb went off in my head and I was worried that's what she walk into. A personal private time is important and I'm not even faithful and I would probably ask my groom to tell her to leave immediately because I'm shy but if I ever get married I plan on having something like this as well. Even if I'm practicing anymore, it just tradition because my I want to have similar wedding to my parents
I just think that she overstepped the mark with boundaries. She wasn’t a guest and was after content . I don’t feel it has anything to do with Yichud.
Thank you. I didn't know of this tradition, but it sounds beautiful.
I think regardless, you don't interrupt a bride and groom having a moment alone in the bridal suite on their wedding day, but the added context makes it even worse. I appreciate that you took the time to educate!
@@marsy1480 it could be both.
crying to the bride, asking the bride to come here to confront her over being asked to leave?!... That was just diabolical
Why does she need "content" of the entire day?! Pro MUA and esthetician here. I have NEVER even considered taking photos of anything besides my work on the bridal parties. I have never stayed for the ceremony unless paid to do touchups for the photos. I am horrified at the unmitigated gall of this MUA. Crying?! Bumming smokes?! Getting in the way of the photographers?! Insane.
That's what really made me annoyed with her. She kept saying she was doing it for the content. Who's content?? The answer is HER content, not her clients. She's being hired for one thing and that was makeup. That does not give her the right to turn this couple's day into a tiktok side hustle.
I also like how she acts like eating the food at the venue was okay. Wedding catering services are expensive! Even if she consumed only something as simple as crackers and cheese, those hors d’oeuvres will be the most expensive items you ever eat! lol
Oh thank you, I was going to ask that! Because some people might like a make-up touch up, especially if there have been tears. If I was the bride, I would want you to have a refreshment and to be comfortable, but I wouldn't want my make up artist filming my entire wedding - it's not my thing. I'm not a social media person either, but I would totally expect a make-up / hair artist to want to take photos for their page, to show their work. ❤
Also licensed here. I agree entirely
Been there done that. Retired aesthetician and mua. When doing brides and bridesmaids did my job stayed for phtosession then boogied. Didn't eat or drink their food and never expected to. This mua really overstepped bigtime
It's called transference. She tried to use the wedding and the party to fill a void. Unprofessional , yes It's not the brides job to be her shoulder.
THANK YOU. The makeup artist needs professional mental healthcare. She has boundary issues.
exactly what i was thinking. it's terrible what happened to her personally, but she tried to replace that relationship with the bride and wedding party and way overstepped boundaries.
@@therealJamieJoy Agreed
💯. I saw this from a psychological perspective. I thoroughly believe that she was feeling a major void and just use the wedding to make herself feel better. There's nothing wrong with that but you have to know it's not all about you. She made it all about her the entire day and talked about how much people valued her. She needs to find that value within herself.
@@noprogressionisregression6854 people seem to be surprised that medical professionals watch skincare/makeup channels... We need entertainment too 😁
As a wedding MUA… I knew this was going south when she filmed AS WALKING IN THE HOTEL ROOM DOOR! Someone was not even dressed and has someone walking in the room with their camera out. So unprofessional. The rest just got worse and worse. She owes them a refund and then some.
Here's the thing though... She interrupted sacred parts of their Jewish ceremony. 😬
Even if it *wasn't* a formalised sacred moment, she interrupted a private moment between the newly-weds, something rare and precious during your wedding day. Even with total ignorance of the structure of a Jewish wedding, that's so obviously inappropriate! That she was interrupting an actual ceremonial moment adds insult to the injury.
I’m so sad for them, they don’t get that moment back. Now that intrusion is part of that memory forever.
@AD_AP_T exactly. It's worse because it was a sacred part but interrupting such a moment is only something I would forgive from a small child who escaped their parents' supervision. Or maybe there is an emergency and we need to evacuate. Anything else is out of line. This MUA was probably not working well as she had just learnt she had been cheated on but even if, this is no excuse for being so out of line.
It's terrible that the bride has to deal with all the drama on her special day. MUA made this about herself.
I already believe the makeup artist is COMPLETELY in the wrong. I applaud the husband for standing up for himself and the bride. Reading the comments someone else also mentioned that the makeup artist interrupted a very important and special part of the wedding as a Jewish couple where the groom and bride are alone together and enjoy and embrace being together alone and the significance of that. Reading that makes the situation so much worse and makes me even more pissed off at the make up artist and explains why the husband was even more pissed off.
Requiring a 60 day notice not to take photos? For a service I’m paying for? That’s insane
Thats her way of saying she's more interested in content than being an actual mua
@@shanchan8247it just seems very 🧐. Content is short clips she was making a reality show
literally it should be a separate form saying "I would like to record some content, may I? . Not yeah opt out if you read properly...if not your wedding is my content. Ridiculous.
@@simplementemagiaFor some reason, this reminded me of when my dog needed planned surgery. We got her there, got all the paperwork done, got informed about the procedure, risks, costs etc etc... And then a nurse comes in with a final consent form; can we post pictures of your pet on social media?
Worse is the brides naturally assume the content is what MUA's take...of the makeup. No one signed up for dance TikToks of the groom and the guests.
I'm stunned at the patience of the bride here. I got married two months ago and my makeup artist was SO lovely, but little things she was doing towards the end was really pushing my patience. After I had put on my SUPER heavy gown (and desperately needed to sit), she insisted on me moving to different parts of my house + outside in the July heat for better angles/lighting for her own social media content (mind you, she got plenty while I was in the makeup chair). She kept asking me to also request that my family get out of the way for photos, too. I finally set some boundaries and said, uhm no that's okay.
That tiny incident left a bad taste in my mouth for a moment and as though she had overstayed her visit, lol. I cannot IMAGINE how this bride felt!!!!
Not patience push over. The bride should never have had to deal with that but the woman should have told her to leave ESPECIALLY when hubby was annoyed
Going back was the most delusional choice…”go back, get what you need, don’t let anybody break you down.” What more did you need when you were only hired for beauty services???
I know! They aren't trying to break you down. They are trying to get you to leave a place where you aren't wanted and have no place being in the first place. I still don't get how she was so clueless.
What she "needed" was to be the Main Character at someone else's wedding. Smdh
The social media footage she was getting was purely for herself and her own financial benefit. She should have been paying the bride and groom for it, and beyond that, cleared it beforehand. Clearly the groom didn’t want it. Don’t take advantage of people not wanting to say “no” and bring the vibes down.
Nd food
She was trying to profit from the bride and groom, when she was hired to do makeup. The groom had already stated he didn't like TicToc. She ignored that. If she wanted to be a wedding videographer she should go into that field. She made the wedding day about her and took away from the bride and groom. She took advantage of the very kind bride to push her own self interests. This really made me angry
Exactly! I feel terrible for the bride and groom, when they look back at their wedding day they're going to remember this unnecessary drama. Just shameful.
Right?? No one told her to or asked her to do all the extra stuff that she did. She encroached on them and forgot her place because she was still trying to keep her heartbreak at bay. Like, nevermind the fact that these people are strangers to her and the groom put up with her despite saying he hated tiktok. How could someone really not feel that they were overstaying their welcome like that?
Yessss 😡
Also did the rest of her team leave? Where were they?
These men probably don't like Tic Toc because they have side chicks and don't want them to see that they are married.
The sad thing about this now is that this poor woman's wedding has gone viral for all the wrong reasons and I can imagine that she felt so awkward on the day as a result of this....not making the best memories for her or anyone tbh
I hope she learned to set boundaries after all of this.
She made the whole wedding about her, her feelings and took what she needed. Crying to the bride on her freaking wedding day 🙈
I got married on Friday and I can’t imagine someone I hire cry to me during the night when I was trying to enjoy and talk to all the guests. And then she posted everything on tt and made it about herself!
glad you didn't have an experience like this 😅congrats on your wedding!!! ❤
@@windy-fei thank you so much!
My makeup artist actually cancelled on me like a week before my wedding. 🥲 I ended up doing my own makeup and it turned out great, also was holding good! We had a quite casual wedding but very well planned with closest family and friends and it was really perfect!
i don’t blame her for crying tbh. life happens. however, she did end up making this whole wedding about herself, for sure. and not everybody wants every single part of their wedding to be filmed and put on tiktok.
Congrats! I hope y'all had a great time! 🥰 And I hope the peeps you hired acted right and left when they were supposed to. 😅
🥝💚🖤
🥝💚🖤
Her business is at a tipping point for sure - the quality of your work (and in this case it’s very high) will only compensate for a certain amount of other stuff before brides, wedding planners, etc. won’t work with you. There are MANY talented people who can be hired instead. That’s the part where I just think her business sense as the head of a brand needs to mature a bit more. On Day 1, being that emotional (which is understandable), it would have been better to says she was ill & left - if you have a good team, they can get the job done when LIFE happens. For the 2nd wedding, there was definitely a miscommunication between her, the bride, & the groom. But, I do agree with the general consensus that a lot of what she was filming was a videographer’s job & not what she was hired for, so if she wants to add that as a service, then make that clear from the beginning. The ambiguity definitely left room for such a negative reaction from the bride & groom.
She only apologized because she realized she was ruining her reputation and business. I truly think she doesn't see that she did anything wrong.
I think if people agreed with her, she never would have apologized. She really thought people would agree she did nothing wrong
@@JessicaRamirez91622Absolutely. I don’t think she was expecting the reaction she got to her TTs at all. She thought it would go a completely different way.
100% She did not post this to show her mistakes, she just wanted to be the victim so bad. Even managed to make it about race at the end there. Anything but her fault.
Yes, the apology came off as insincere. She really does not realize how unprofessional and wrong her behavior was.
It looks like she thinks that being hired as the MUA makes her part of the bridal party, or at the very least an automatic guest of the wedding. Which is why she can't figure out what she did wrong. She can't even see the boundaries she's stomping all over.
I hope no one books her for a while so she can reflect. She should NEVER have posted this “story time” about her client. She overstepped, pushed them to make content they didn’t want to do, accused the husband of being racist and then blasted all of this on social media to try and hurt the reputation of the clients who paid her thousands for a BAD experience. She needs some perspective. Her makeup work is good, but her business practices are poor.
*cringe* when she said she sat down with the groomsmen looking for sympathy....Oh my God!! No girl, that isn't okay! boundaries..boundaries smh
And I have the feeling their comments about her looking tired were subtle ways of saying she should leave.
She was probably hoping to leave with a groomsman to fill the hole her bf left. We all know people like that, who don’t know how to be alone and enjoy their own company or be still.
@@lolacookie453 exactly! she wanted one of them to think “poor girl, imma take care of her after the ceremony” and that’s probably why she overstayed too
Main Character vibes ugh 🤢
@jellyen- It's giving "desperation for a one-night stand" vibes
The lack of awareness is astonishing.
Right it's cringey. I'm embarrassed for her!
let alone to go out there with the goal of using the footage to build your business on social media ... and instead you ruined it. i cannot see anyone hiring her in the future.
She was emotionally broken
Someone who just got cheated on and goes to a wedding......that's emotional damage😂😂😂😂😂
@@joephoenixstudio1153 and that has nothing to do with the bride or the groom or the rest of the bridal party/wedding.
She burst into tears doing their make up! After falling apart at work in front of clients like that, you don't then stick around after your job is done to do things that NO ONE asked you to do... that's just wild lmao.
Some people are so confused: you’re sad and processing the end of your relationship, that doesn’t mean you can leach of other people’s happiness/relationship . This girl needs to get good counseling. I’m sorry for the couple
For her to imply that she was asked to leave the reception because of racism (and not as a result of her own actions,) is very frustrating
My exact thoughts
Especially confusing because the bride also appeared to be a poc😭
@@lydiamv21 The bride was black
@@lydiamv21she is, not “appeared” 😭
@lydiamvaughan the wife is noticeably black. I understand you 😂.
No matter how good her work is, she is messy, unprofessional, and lacks any self-awareness. This poor couple hired her to do a job and now they have to be involved in unnecessary drama online for the world to see as newlyweds, all because the makeup artist thought she was also the videographer, wedding planner, and event coordinator. The audacity to make it all about herself is astonishing. Do the makeup, have fun while you’re there, then go home.
Agree well said
SHE ATE THEIR CATERING 😵💫
tbf, sometimes couples do feed their vendors. my cousin did at her wedding
@@owl.feathersbut she was meant to stay only for the makeup and leave
Then complained that there isn't enough as if she was factored in 🥲
@@owl.feathers she invited herself to the food
Other vendors at the wedding and a bridesmaid have made videos stating how the MUA's content creation was interfering with photography, taking prime photography position, blocking shots and using allotted time for herself, making vendor's jobs very difficult. The MUA also did not take many hints that it was time for her to go. She overstepped, overstayed and ruffled feathers.
Do you know the mua’s username or something to help me search for more content about this?
@@Natasha___.To find it all in one place, Markie has a few videos on this. He has all the usernames too. I found this through his videos. Then went down my own rabbit hole.
@@Natasha___.You should check out the videos MARKIE made on this. He covers it all and has all the usernames. That's where I first heard of this situation.
I was wondering about that when she said something along the lines of directing people in the shoot to get shots that the photographer and videographer were missing. That told me a lot about her conduct on the day outside of interactions with the bridal party. I bet the other professionals were so annoyed by her insistence on being part of everything. Like, wouldn’t she be pissed if the florist suddenly came up to her while doing the bride’s makeup and started doing touch ups and directing the look? If it’s not your job, don’t step on everyone’s toes.
I feel badly for her about what she was going through because that pain is real. But as the owner of the business, you’ve gotta maintain appropriate boundaries. She literally admits to crying with tears down her face while doing a bridesmaid’s makeup-how uncomfortable must that have been on the day you’re supposed to be happily celebrating your friend or family member who is getting married? And then later taking time away from the bride at her wedding to cry and complain more?! Maybe the MUA should have relied on her team to handle this event on their own because she was clearly not able to be professional-if it had been a quick cry during a break or one little thing, that’s no biggie because we’re all human but this was far more than that and now the bride and groom will always remember that thorn in their sides on their special day.
I think they just weren't letting me post handles. Sorry. 🤔
It's crazy to me how she bursts into tears in front of the bride after the groom was reasonably fed up with her. She had the bride consoling her and made the day about HER. She took someone elses wedding and made it about herself. I don't think she intended for things to go that far but she was definitly overstepping a professional boundary.
She was using triangulation (narcissistic technique 101) with the husband and the wife, ON THEIR WEDDING DAY. Unforgivable
And, according to her, the bride was supportive of her. That is a red flag. I feel bad for the groom.
Overstepping is saying is mildly. She was a down right lunatic. Can’t imagine her after a couple of dates.
@@ohionaturegirl7686’according to her ‘… well, she’s pretty delusional.
I am sure she is jealous of people with good love lives and wanted to upstage the wedding. This woman should stay very far away from brides.
I've seen this on other channels, but something new that got on my nerves is her talking about how she told the bride she'd be there for her for anything she needed. If I was a bridesmaid, especially maid of honor, I'd be stepping in to say thanks for the offer, but we got this.
Yes there can be drama in a bridal party, but most times the bride is already surrounded by people who want to make her day the best it can be. Just another bit of main character energy from the MUA, assuming her help is more important to the bride than anyone else's.
She should refund the couple. She ruined their wedding in multiple ways.
I can’t imagine anyone hiring her after what she did. She’ll be forever known as the crazy make up lady. If she had actually done so many weddings before this one, getting so much content wouldn’t be so important. I actually think she’s done very few outside of family & close friends.
Not just the wedding, the honeymoon too. What a terrible human being
@@veronica5lmaa calling her a terrible human being is quite drastic. Clearly she’s hurting and made a horrible mistake that impacted the wedding and her business. People are allowed to make mistakes in life, even though this was a major one. And it seems like her awareness was a little low, causing further issues. But it doesn’t seem like she’s a horrible person..
^ her reaction was to insinuate that the bridal party was racist for not wanting her there. That’s a dangerous first reaction for a POC woman with a TikTok obsession to be pointing towards anyone and everyone with no basis 🤨 these people gotta get checked more often
@@ZoriaShanelle what she did was ruin someone’s day. It’s fine to call someone who ruins another person’s day, “terrible”.
The MUA clearly doesn't recognize social cues at all and lacks all adult maturity. The fact the bride had to comfort her is horrifying. We had a family friend marry shortly after my husband of 23 years died suddenly. I was not a professional working at the wedding and actually a close friend, but no, I kept my emotions to myself, which took so much effort and work. I didn't want her wedding to be remembered as my tragedy, which is far more devastating that a break-up with a boyfriend. I can't even imagine having the bride comforting me on her happy day. This woman is so overbearing. The fact she tried to imply it was a racial issue is disgusting, and she should be embarrassed.
Excellent point! And I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes, she should possess the professional maturity of knowing her own emotional limits and leave when her job is done.
You are so right. I'm so sorry for your loss, yet proud of you for your strength in times of such hardship. Although you could not have gone, it was sweet that you still went to support and share your family friend's happy occasion. You are absolutely right, this woman was completely unprofessional in so many ways.
This.
She should have canceled if she's emotionally exhausted or not able to pull herself together.
@@Marina_7the race part is what upset me as a black person
I really can't believe she made the bride console her on her own wedding day. I just can't
Oooh her attitude about the lighter is not it! You don't borrow things from other people and misplace them and then act like they're irrational for being annoyed.
And y'know... people who have lighters carry them for a reason. I just imagine the groom on a highly stressful day needing a smoke break and this lady is like "oopsie sorry idk where your lighter is... Now can we get more Fiancé Anthem footage? 😊"
People skip over that. She probably was acting like the lighter wasn't a big deal after she misplaced it. That could probably have annoyed the groom.
It might even be a special one to him
@@thoriscorner518 YES. That's the issue. People usually understand if you apologize and do what you can about it, especially when you are representing YOUR business. I think you're right and that's when he had it. NOBODY is happy when you tell them losing their stuff isn't a big deal.
Also lighters can also be gifts or heirlooms and she's just busy using and losing it
@@purplepixie274 That's the first thing I thought when she said she could have "just gone to the car to get him another one." What if it was one of those engraved Zippo lighters that belonged to his late great-grandpa or something (the "something old" for a wedding). If it were me, I would have been PISSED if somebody had lost something so precious to me and behaved in such a flippant manner.
Whats crazy is when the planner went to tell her the couple wants you to leave and her response was "the couple wants me to leave? What did I do?" is wild. UR STILL THERE! THAT'S what you did! Like how doesn't she get that AT ALL is just beyond everyone.
And what does she expect to happen when she pulls the bride away to get confirmation and I believe starts crying? If she doesn't cry then she had cried a number of times before. Sure some very confident women will tell her to leave but many more would comfort her, try to smooth things over, and possibly realize they had an emotional, volatile person on their hands who was capable of posting videos exactly like she did and was trying to avoid that. At a minimum, smoothing things over would prevent a very uncomfortable situation where after the MUA left she would now be thinking of that situation and not just having fun at her own wedding.
And also: it doesn't matter why the couple wants you to leave when you don't have a personal relationship with them; it's their day and you don't have any personal ties to one another, so leave.
AFTER the groom made her know he was not happy with her presence! 😮
like is she going to sleep over?????
HAHAHAHAHAHA @@ladydiamond6611 now THIS comment sent me!😂
The apology video excluded the groom, but he was 50% of the party
The absolute AUDACITY of this woman! She was acting as if she was a family member/guest and actually RETURNED to the venue after being asked to leave! To take the bride's attention away from her own event is absolutely disgusting.
I agree~ When she said she went back and was sitting with the groomsmen, I was shocked. They don't even know her, she was intruding on such a special time for the wedding party!
I found it so patronizing that she was also directing videographers and photographers that the couple hired on what to do too?? She really took over this wedding just because of personal reasons
I know! I nearly fell off my chair at that part. As if she was done dirty and was going to get back her dignity by returning. The cheek of it!
@@bathory313 I will say, the bride telling her "not to worry about [the groom's] statements", was a LITTLE confusing. In a vacuum. However, I think it's pretty obvious that the bride was trying to do damage control. If it were me, I would be MORTIFIED by making someone cry on my wedding, and I'd feel the urge to comfort someone. The ISSUE is that it is NOT YOUR JOB, to comfort someone who CAUSED THE ISSUE. I've had to learn that the hard way in life.
@@originofsky it was frustrating to hear the mixed messages from the bride from the beginning of the story. if they truly were so unconfortable from the very begening (since aparently the moment she cried early on, they all were now from there on uncomfy with her pressence), then tell her early on that you would prefer if they left. no mixed messaging .
I know some people will be reluctant to blame her since "it was her wedding day", but NO. you don't wait till 8 hours later when everyone is fed up while still being unclear about wether or not you want that person to stay ("why don't you join" "yeah it's ok don't worry" "sure stay!" "no he is just cranky" wathever....don't say anything of the sort at all if you then want to be taken seriously when saying you wanted her to leave).
You cut the bs out, you don't have to be disrespectful, but shit happens and you need to have a backbone and make decissions, take her to the side, be like hey, i'm sorry i see you are crying i don't know what happened, you can tell me if you want and we can and we can chat or talk over a coffee during the week, but i hope you understand that we can't switch focus on a day like this, and it's better if you go take some time off and rest. i really have to ask you to leave, you know how important this is to me, our big day, we have to get ready, and everyone is a little unconfortable right now, and i wouldn't ask you to stay while feeling this bad. it sucks to ask you this i know but i hope you can understand. we've been planning this day for months.
You know, any variation on something like that.
You tell her that the moment shit gets weird. no "yeah come stay, sure no problem haha" and then wondering why she hasn't gotten the message. i see this happen at workplaces way too much. people keep up the friendly bs for a multitude of reasons, from genuinly being the naive people pleaser personality type, to wanting to keep the "happy go lucky team" facade at their workplace, to just not having practice in actually saying no or stating boundaries. and it only leads to further misunderstandings and annoyance for everyone involved.
Now, the part about coming back for support from the bride after the groom was evidently and clearly pissed? that is 100% some weirdo boundary crossing behavior from the MUA no doubt. nothing changes that. But why the heel was the groom the only one aparently after all those hours of what supposedly was very upsetting and annoying, the one to say it clearly, that late, directly to her? Why not a clear cut conversation early on to avoid any further drama? and if you were to do so and THEN they wouldn't leave? then clearly it was weirdo behaviour and not some weird mixmessaging after you got her emotionally involved in your party, like come on, seriously. your makeup was done and you were, like in this story, saying stuff like yeah join!? and then complain??????
Please stop saying the opposite of what's needed just to be polite or wathever. you don't have to be unnecesarily cruel or wathever, but part of being proffessional and an adult is to be able to handle unpleasant news and also deliver them-
Would it have been great if the mua didn't have a bad day in the first place, or realised early on her own that it was best to leave? 100%. but it didn't happen, now it's on you to decide how you are going to procede about it if the person in question doesn't get the memo on their own. you don't wait till everyone gets messages on their own, much less on important stuff, you approach them and be clear about it.
So not only did she potentially ruin their wedding she then posted a video on tik tok trying to shame the couple. And put their faces all over social media while shaming them! This is possibly the most unprofessional thing I’ve ever seen. They didn’t hire you to make social media content, they hired you to do makeup. Posting footage of you doing the makeup is one thing but insisting on them doing a dance they never agreed to is crazy. And then after being asked to leave she came back to continue getting content?! It’s just 🤯
And she posted it confidently, because in her contract it say she can 😭 She even mentioned it in her recap video, after she mentioned she’s going to take it all down
I'm sure when the bride signed the contract about being filmed for content--she would have presumed--as it should have been--content involving makeup application. Primarily before and after shots seemed reasonable. Even filming touch-ups wasn't really necessary. After the initial makeup was done, that should have been it. The MUA completely lost any sympathy I had for her after she helped herself to the CATERED wedding food & cocktails? Even with buffets, food is prepared according to the number of guests and possibly any dietary requirements. Breaks and meals should have been discussed during contract negotiations. And then she tried to make the guests PERFORM for her video? Weddings and receptions events are carefully planned. Maybe she interrupted something else the couple had planned as part of their celebration.
She was absolutely unhinged. Be professional, pack up and go home sis. The audacity of using that couples wedding as a backdrop for her business.
Do people not know when they are getting a "pity" or "just to be polite" invitation? She KNEW the groom didn't really feel comfortable or want to be included in social media stuff and she STILL recorded them. This just kept getting worse & worse.
Exactly. It speaks to a lack of social skills when people have an inability to read social cues or perceive unspoken awkwardness. Why does the bride need to be the only opinion she’s willing to accept? If your presence makes the photographer or one random guest uncomfortable AND you’ve completed your contract work, you need to leave.
@@kimberly3706sbecause she knew the bride would be nice and tell her she really wanted her there. Some people are very good at reading people to get what they want.
@@kirielbranson4843 Excellent point…it could be an indication of highly developed manipulation skills rather than a deficiency of social skills. I guess I was too generous in attributing kind (misguided but not cruel) intentions. I should keep in mind that there is a significant percentage of narcissists in the wild. 🙂
@@kimberly3706s I'm autistic, reading social cues or unspoken awkwardness aren't my strong suits. HOWEVER, I don't think that's the case with the MUA and certain traits of my disability are, for lack of a better way of putting it, need some rework since it causes issues for both myself AND those around me
I'm a violinist, and have played more weddings over the years than I can count. Even if I'm invited to stay and eat by the family, I leave when I finish performing. I feel badly for this bride that she will have memories from her wedding of her makeup artist crying and having to spend time consoling her. I know the MUA was going through some things, but she needs to remember that she was working!
the fact that she was obv going through it should've been a huge indicator for her *not* to stay actually. she's throwing professionalism to the wind and making the whole experience weird as hell for the couple bc she's got some shit going on in her life that she's deciding to work through at a stranger's wedding reception.
@@lacey892 I agree. She definitely has some personal issues to deal with before they destroy her business. It's also sad that the bride and groom will have some negative memories from their wedding caused by hiring this MUA. I would have felt terrible to have come between the bride and groom on their wedding day!
Heck, even if it was the bride's sister who just got cheated on, you don't freaking make the bride or groom feel bad on their wedding day. Let alone this was a perfect stranger who stayed wayyyy past they were done their work they were hired for!
Her eating and drinking on the bride's dime, then borrowing and losing the groom's lighter, and seeing nothing wrong about it is what's unacceptable and disrespectful. Honestly, if I were the maid/matron of honor, I would have stepped in during the crying jag and taken that girl aside, gotten her a damp washcloth and a seltzer, and had her assistant step in until she could compose herself. Nobody wants tears and snot running while their face is being touched! I just think a lot of people don't know what to do about situations.
1000% when she acted like the groom was unreasonable when she lost his lighter..?? I think the bridal party was originally concerned that if they said something the makeup wouldn’t be done
I bet she kept it to keep under her pillow like a love token
She, as owner of a business that specialises in events, is expected to have a "vice CEO" / 1st assistant who steps in when she is ill or unable to work. She shouldn't have gone to work or should have at least stayed at the side while her team does the job, and then left
And its probably a very nice actual silver Zippo or something and not a plastic Bic lighter.
@@ChristinaFromTH-cam maybe even a monogrammed gift from the bride!
The longer this story went on, the more and more astounded I was. Going to the cocktail party, then standing in the back of the wedding, then going to the reception, then being asked to leave and GOING BACK and sitting with the groomsmen? That’s crazy.
Calling the couple racist because she overstepped so many boundaries was probably the worse thing she could have done, I really don't see anyway someone else would book her if it meant risking their reputation
Sorry, I own a very large hair and makeup company that does hundreds of weddings per year. Her conduct was unacceptable. She made this all about herself. No one cares what you are going through on their wedding day. It is about them, not you. We never ask brides, bridal parties or the like for "content" We get the photographers email, reach out to them and they happily share photos (if the bride wants them to) and we tag the photographers. We may get a quick photo if there is time. We get asked occasionally to come. We laugh and say thanks but we do not go (unless it is a 2 look wedding and we need to be onsite) Although i feel bad for her I hope if she continues in this field she revamps her performance in the future.
Asking the photographer for photos makes sense, wonder why she didn't think of that.
@@Alyssa_M513 because she wanted to use the couple's entire wedding for content to benefit herself. having the entire wedding party dancing for a tiktok for HER social media account. the delusion is incredible.
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RIGHT. Everything is about her and now that wedding is forever marred by this fool crying and the bride and groom disagreeing on letting this evil chick continue to crash their wedding
That's the difference between a true professional wedding vendor and a social media influencer wannabe. No sane person wants to film TikToks all day at their wedding. It's an expensive, very serious and important occasion and the one place where people should be present and not stuck in their phone. Shame because she's good at makeup but horribly unprofessional and clueless. She's lucky the couple are really nice people because I'd be taking her to court to get the money back I paid due to her ruining the day and I would probably even go after her for emotional damages and possibly slander.
I get the vibe that she is living vicariously through her clients. It's sad, horrifyingly embarassing, and she needs to seek help. This behavior is unacceptable and she basically used these people to have a party. This is not YOUR wedding, lady :/
She ate and drank? There's a reason there's a head count for weddings! They pay for every plate!
It’s unfortunate how things like TikTok have made it so that people feel pressured to not only be an amazing artist but to also be this insane content creator, otherwise you’re irrelevant. Her work is beautiful and should speak for itself. Doing too much just makes you look unprofessional and intrusive. Not everyone wants to be plastered all over social media for your benefit.
Absolutely!
I am planning my wedding right now and am now checking to make sure the vendors I'm looking at aren't on TikTok. It's a red flag at this point 😬
It's SO weird. I don't even post stuff for my family on Facebook anymore. We all have cell phones, we can text. I don't want my kids all over social media, I don't want to be on social media and I'm definitely not posting people I don't know.
On the rare occasion I do post a picture of my youngest son, if his friends are in the photo I color over their faces or ask their parents if I can post it to my account, which is private and I only have like 86 people which are relatives and a few close friends.
The whole concept of making content of any and everything is so bizarre to me.
Most of it has nothing to do with her work anyway
She put that pressure on herself
I love how compassionate you are in your videos. You called her put for her behaviour but in a gentle way
"So I'm gonna go back in there, get what i need"... babes what more do you need?
This. At this point it's YOU, the MUA, who 'needs', not the bride or the wedding. You've done your job. Go. Home. Read the room and leave.
Attention 😂😂😂
One thing is obvious from this comment thread and the backlash: a ton of upcoming brides will be making sure there are no "content" rights in their vendor contracts!
yup. it kind of scares me that a few businesses surrounding weddings will insist on filming as a part of a contract 💀 now i know to make sure any individual or company i end up working with on my wedding will not be shoving a phone in my face all day for the sake of content lmao
She lacks boundaries snd self awareness, poor girl. Good luck to her because her business is going to suffer, unfortunately because of her own actions.
Unfortunately, I think she was living through the bride. This woman needs severe intervention in her life. She needs to apologize to all parties involved, get these videos taken down on the wedding, refund the couple all their money, and if their photos etc. were ruined, offer to foot the bill for that. It is clear that she is not happy with her life and was trying to live through the bride.
Love that you're covering this. It astonished me that she accused an interracial jewish couple of racism. I had a hairstylist who only took pics of my hair and only my hair. No random tiktoks
That was my first thought. Like she thought she was doing something saying she’s the “only black vendor” … grl half the people at the wedding was black like ur math isn’t mathing😭😭 it’s so hard for some people to admit their character is the problem and that reality transcends race, religion, and gender!
I get so pissed by people who pull the race card.
I didn't know the bride was blk until now, she was ridiculous before, but now I have NO SYMPATHY AT ALL. NONE
She’s dangerous because if she were to falsely accuse a couple of racism in which neither were the same race as her, people might actually believe her and it could ruin the couples lives.
Side note. That green eyeshadow is everything!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you! 🖤🖤🖤
It's giving Beetlejuice and I'm inspired so much 💚💜
@@victrive I came on to say the same; Beetlejuice vibes. Has anyone tried the NYX Beetlejuice collab? I was a bit disappointed by the colours.
This look is inspiring me so much. When the video started I was immediately like "woah eyes" 😍
Like a beautiful dragon.
Oh man, I would have been so upset if that happened on my wedding day. All of my vendors were invited to all parts of the wedding, including eating food and having drinks. This was discussed beforehand. They were not obligated to stay, but they were invited. All my vendors knew each other and chose to stay to enjoy the experience. Nobody took out their phones. Nobody asked for content. They didn’t interact with guests, though I wouldn’t have minded. As a courtesy, the hair and makeup artist made sure everything stayed in place, but they did such a great job that they never needed to actually touch up anything. None of them were in any of our photos. It was a beautiful day and I’m so thankful for such professionalism, while being so pleasant to spend time with on my special day. Proof that it can be done.
unfortunately i feel like she just tanked her whole business with this video series. she was WILDLY unprofessional and crossed soooo many boundaries. and to say she felt targeted as a black woman as if the bride wasn’t also black…. i think she does incredible work, but i don’t think she’ll get booked again which is devastating considering her potential if she just got rid of the whole social media thing she’s trying to do.
That part was so yikes to me! She definitely tried to imply “I was the only black vendor so I was targeted” - like wtf. I would sue for defamation. I’m blasian, and that race baiting sht is disgusting. I hope she never gets hired again, at least until she fixes her attitude.
"I didn't do anything to anyone." Um, yes she did. She more or less crashed their wedding. She ate food and had drinks that were for the wedding guests. She was not a wedding guest. She was hired to do a job which she did. When your job is done you leave. She more than overstayed her welcome and she was kind of in people's personal spaces making content. I get it that she was having a hard time personally, but sometimes you just have to suck it up and do your job and fall apart later. Part of me feels like she didn't want to leave because she didn't want to have to go back home and have to wallow in her sadness all alone.
Imagine being hired for a job, doing the job, then just staying like you’re a guest, then being upset when someone finally says something without worrying about your little broken heart. Bro.
It struck me that even though her contract says she can film content, that doesn’t mean the bridal party is obligated to participate in that content.
Yes film makeup content and or touch ups .. not the whole wedding.. the bride already had a videographer and photographer for all that
That she has any videos complaining about a client on social media, whether it was completely on the client or not, is outrageous and a red flag for her business
on top of that, complaining and USING FOOTAGE OF THE COUPLE. that feels vaguely threatening cuz now you're putting a face to your complaints. it's one thing to complain to friends in private, it's another to post identities and do a whole storytime with the internet
I think even worse than her conduct on that day was posting the videos about it, showing their wedding, their faces, their wedding parties, all in the context of venting about being treated badly and being kicked out. She humiliated them in front of the whole world.
In a job where you directly work with clients, sometimes you’ll see them having a great time while you’re stressing out and working your ass off. You might feel “hey, I want some of that too!”
Remind yourself, that that’s LITERALLY WHY YOU’RE BEING PAID. 😅
I work in a school wellness center, and we have plushies, beanbags, colorings books, lots of things for students to regulate their emotions and let us help them.
If I’m on the clock, they’re not gonna find me lounging on the beanbags chilling (unless it’s to help someone feel relaxed). I’m not the one receiving a service, I’m the one providing it.
What got my alarm bells ringing was when she was talking about how much fun she was having. It’s fine to enjoy your job, but she was basically giving herself the wedding-guest experience and getting PAID for it. 😀
I’m glad the groom stepped up and said no so very aggressively because obviously his wife is too nice and appreciates the work that the artist has done and you know she has tried to do her best and be nice but she’s overstepping her bounds in the wife doesn’t wanna say anything she’s obviously can find it in her husband that she wants to leave so he steps in and defends her n that’s a GOOD MAN!!
Agreed. I lm one of those people that would say oh no it's OK you can stay because I don't want conflict even though I really want the person to leave.
I can personally see not wanting to cause a scene. But I can see at some point that switch would flip if the woman wasn't taking the hint to stop recording and leave.
The number of times she emphasized all the good energy she was bringing to the event tells me she knows (even if subconsciously) that she was bringing the vibe down....
She was taking THEIR good energy. Maybe she contributed to the pool of good energy while she was doing her job at the start of the day, but after her part was over she was being an energy vampire (so to say) and not acknowledging it to herself.
it’s the way this event was not just one day where she was off her game.. she did the same thing the day before and others have shared stories of her doing similar things for a while! she’s so unaware it’s insane
The way she keeps saying she's so tired and been on her feet all day, Girl go home!!! lol
The epitome of doing way too much and crossing boundaries. Such talent and so much unprofessionalism. Literally living vicariously through the bride and her groom on their wedding day🤦🏽♀️
SELF REFLECTION GIRL , she got on my damn nerves too. People like this , do things for themselves and not for others.
I ... Feel like her interpretation of "going above and beyond" is questionable. That doesn't mean going above and beyond boundaries to benefit yourself. But this is why I wouldn't hire a business I HAVE to allow to make content out of a huge event in my life. I would just expect that they're going to be a problem.
Don't understand why you need 60 days notice to tell them they can't make content, either. Weddings involve a lot of people, you might find out later it's a problem for your guests.
Edit: She really confronted the bride after being told they wanted her to leave and doesn't understand why security is looking ready to drag her ass out.... Girl go home 😭
I agree. She didn’t know her place and actually even if the bride wanted her to stay and the husband didn’t she should have taken the responsibility to go. And the bride should not have gone against her new husband’s wishes. Not sure how long this marriage will last. I’m just saying 😵💫
& it was the bride’s brother not security lol the MUA is confused & I hope she takes time to reflect & recover
I don’t think you did. Because that’s what I heard and I’m thinking the same thing. Like why can’t you just NOT do it?? People might be okay with it in the moment of signing the contract, but once they think on it or the day arrives they could always change their minds. What are they gonna do then? NOT do the makeup because they can’t make content? That’s wild to me lol
@@judymcdougall THANK YOU, I thought I might be the only one who thought the bride should have stood by him on that. She didn't need to be rude or anything, just tell her "hey I mentioned before that my husband isn't comfortable with the TikTok thing. I was under the impression that you only needed content from the hair and makeup bts." She also could have mentioned she already did hire someone for content creation and she didn't want to be disrespectful to them.
I don't want to be dramatic but I agree, I don't think it's the best sign if the bride was letting this happen and even blaming him for being grouchy... And it's their wedding day 😭
It’s the fact that she left (when she went and cried in the car and filmed it) and then came back! No wonder security was called!!!
I didn't realize it was possible to cringe for almost 25 solid minutes, but I just have
Please stay hydrated and heal from the unregulated amounts of cringe ❤
Bruh I wanted to cry i was cringing
I want to know how 'content' was explained in the contract, because if she just filmed the getting ready, her and her team doing the hair and makeup, that would be content.
What is left out apparently, is that when the groom "snapped" at her, he told her to leave. This is when she left but THEN turned her car around and went back!
The fact that she said “go back, get what you need, don’t let anyone bring you down” “I’m not letting anyone break me down”
Like girl, that’s not just “anyone,” it’s the GROOM and it’s HIS wedding.
what??? does she understand boundaries
@@bubba94290 Also: no one was trying to break her down; they were just asserting boundaries.
@@VeronicaSparkexactly! The cost divided up per person at a wedding is a lot. If I’m paying thousands for my event, you best believe I’m only inviting people that I want there. On top of that, she didn’t even bring a gift! How rude! She could’ve offered the bride a discount for the free content, and for the food/drinks she’s consuming at the wedding. Otherwise, she should’ve just completed her job, and then leave.its common decency
No way!! the woman is insane
It's not a bride's job to keep checking if the makeup artist is getting her feelings hurt on her wedding day! As an MUA as well, this made me so annoyed. Here in Mexico you'll get invited to stay at a lot of weddings, the family always provide breakfast or something for lunch, but I always bring snacks and water for me and my team anyway and if we get invited, we stay in the back to watch the ceremony and do touch-ups if required, and then we leave, it's not our party, family or friends, it's better to leave and then send some thank you notes to your clients.
"Thank you" notes are a beautiful gesture! 🥰
People offer things out of politeness that they do not intend you to take them up on. It’s confusing, but it’s a fact of life that people have to be clued into even if it hurts to hear. They’re just being nice, now be nice back by refusing.
I've been uncomfortable at weddings I've been *invited* too due to not knowing very many people beyond the bride (or groom). At least I had an invitation though! Can't imagine how awkward it would be to stay at a wedding I was hired to do a pre-ceremony service for.
@@FairbrookWingates totally!
@@alexia3552 totally!
She STILL does not understand why anyone was upset and doesn’t even seem to try to understand why they would be upset.
Since I edited this … the MUA has made more apologies about other separate situations
That was quick..
@@RobertWelsh While I feel like she had good intentions I definitely think she overstepped boundaries. I think she was using this event to disassociate and not deal with the personal issues she was having. I do genuinely feel bad for her though.
@@RobertWelsh I'm wondering if all of this would have happened if her own personal situation had not happened so soon before, I believe it was 2 days prior? But then according to the 2nd bride she has a problem not understanding boundaries. 🤔
I think she was asked to leave simply because she overstayed her welcome. Her work was beautiful. Things just got off track! Great video, Robert!! ✌🏻💚🙏🏻
iv been following this and its crazy she has a history of acting like this all three wedding had problems with her the bride from the main video has came out and said no she was not asked to stay and everyone telling her oh you look tired it was a nice way to say go away, her not so subtle hint at racism really annoyed me like girl what color was the bride and the wedding planner was a lady of color no need to bring that into the fact you behaved inappropriate (again)
I think she lost someone she may have been really close to due to the breakup and getting very hyped and ended up filling that void with her clients. I feel for her and it's a lesson to learn from. Also people online need to stop sharing "controversial" monents online for people to debate about. If you really respect your clients you wouldn't have posted this. That's the most disrespectful part after all this. Talk to your friends, family and therapist, not the internet.
This!!! Like I get it if you had a terrible week or month or whatever and you end up doing something stupid because you're vulnerable. Who hasn't done that? But in the moment you sit down and rewatch the videos and write all the captions, now that is when you need to take a deep breath and really think about everything that happened and just deal with it IN PRIVATE
Omg this, so so much. That's the worst part for me, too! Like as a whole, this would have been annoying, but could have been overlooked and forgotten about in time, it's the fact she put it on tic toc and now people are debating it (although I don't see how, she was 100% in the wrong, but ok) and the people who got married probably got harassed over this, and that's just unforgivable in my opinion.
This is the one! It’s unfortunate.
using footage of their day for her storytimes, talking about their big day, trying to justify her intrusion into their big day with "I did everything for them." okay??? and??? girlie, you are a stranger and a contracted worker. you don't get special treatment for that, and you certainly don't get to essentially harass your clients when you don't get it
True. This was screaming COPE.
Nothing to do with the crazy story but I just have to say, the way you speak is so lovely, I could hear you talk for hours, very soothing!
Definitely feels like she stayed there to distract herself and then overstepped her boundaries because doing all that was not her job
Her recounting her side from 21min onwards is like watching a car crash. Shes terrible! She returned to a place she was not invited to, she interrupted the bride and groom multiple times and bursting out in tears at a wedding shes not invited to, taking the attention away from the bride and groom. She says "I went back.... go back and get what you need", there is NOTHING she needed, her service was paid for and over! Shes been told twice to leave, she confronts the bride and shes still "What did I do". Ummm, cause drama
I've seen a lot of people's takes on this be mostly about social unawareness, social ques being missed, loneliness, etc, all of which are valid. But I think it's really about someone who is so obsessed with content creation they can't participate in reality.. like whatever "this" is reminds me of MomToks where the child is clearly being used for content and the adult thinks they're just going above and beyond at being a parent 🥴
I would absolutely HATE if i was asked to dance for a stupid a tik tok at MY WEDDING. After she did the makeup she lost defenetly should have left. I think she actually was ruining their wedding. If you as a hired help are medeling with their wedding, making the groom do stuff he said he isn't intrested in doing - you are in the wrong. Aaaaand then she pulls out the race card. Absolutely redicilous
What did she say about race? The bride was black also🤔
@@smitty5641she said security was watching her ready to drag her out (after she pulled the bride for a chat) and then she mentioned she was the only black vendor. Someone in the comments said it wasn’t even security it was just the bride’s brother. 🤷🏻♀️
@@abbielindell oh I missed that. Crazy
@@smitty5641the bride being black as well is what makes the mua pulling the race card so ridiculous
@@smitty5641 then she was saying “I don’t think there’s room in this industry for a girl like me”
For me it was how you can hear her telling these people what to do after throwing that camera and bright ahh ring light in their face. So many of them are just caught off guard and don't want to seem rude on camera, it feels like coercion at times.
Robert's eyes look so striking in this look. Absolutely stunning ❤✨️
So inappropriate & unprofessional. Even if you are invited, you politely decline.
If I'm signing a contract that specifies they can do social media, I'm expecting it to be make up related ONLY and not infringing on other things and getting in the way of other people hired to photographs etc
I also think that when people were saying to her "you look tired" they were trying to nicely hint that she should leave
Yeahhh when she kept telling people how she'd been there all day, all I could think was "you did that to yourself! You should be home resting by now so why are you still here?"
Her staff had left already too
Not even that. Any agreement should be opt in not opt out. Obviously maybe is clearly stated on the agreement big and clear, but is should be opt in.
yeah LITERALLY like even the contract allowing content to be filmed would only be between the bride / bridesmaids and the makeup artist right? the husband didn't even receive a service from her so how does she think it's okay to make him do a dance for HER content! I would also think that the content would solely be about the makeup (like before after stuff) and not a free for all making the customer whatever is trending at the moment for a strangers Tiktok.
oh and imagine attending your family / friends wedding and there's a whole ass videographer next to just a strange lady filming content on her phone FOR HER COMPANY with you in the background? I wouldn't consent to that either. a wedding video is completely okay to be filmed at a wedding and sure if you're a private person (like the bride herself) wanting to film a stupid Tiktok I can join it's whatever. but you're not going to see me in some COMPANIES Tiktok for free! bruh
@@anma9217 like I am there to enjoy my wedding not to work!
It’s one thing to overstay your welcome but to GO BACK??? TO. GO. BACK???? GIRL NOOOOO
I, as a former pro MUA who did weddings, would NOT have stayed and NOT have made content. I would have done my job, as per contract, and peaced out. That part was unprofessional. She's there to do her job.. and that's it. I'd have asked her to leave if I was the bride.. I would have been mortified.. to assume an off hand "please stay" meant to stay and film... no no no. But that's just me.
*edit to add* she's a STUNNING MUA.. they did right by hiring her.
I'm probably in the wrong but I would have been annoyed at all the filming instead of working.
Like Robert said, filming things directly related to her work: ✅
Filming dresses, and shoes, ambushing people in the room: ❌❌❌
for real. even if the clients were cool w/ her policy of posting her work to social media, i'm sure they (righteously) assumed the content would be about the hair/makeup... maybe some bts of the bride or some photos of the bridal party all together if you really wanna take full advantage of making content for that job. but that should be IT.
running around all night trying to film tiktok dances of the whole damn wedding party (for your own benefit, not the bride's) is absolutely WILD.
I’m so happy that she shared this so everyone knows not to book her. Incredibly unprofessional and she crossed all boundaries!
I cringed at her response and apology. And the bride and groom were much nicer than I would have been
I bet the other vendors were so mad at her! Accessing the reception hall before anyone else, recording footage of the decorations, eating the apparently limited food, getting in the photographer's way. I appreciate what she was trying to do but it was a huge overstep
If I were the caterer, she would have gotten major side eye at the very least.
I’m getting married in 3 weeks and I would’ve filmed me sacking her for proof, refuse to pay and proceed with suing + reporting to whatever ombudsman if she kicked up. Absolutely disgusting behaviour
The fiance anthem was killing me bc seriously why would an mua have that on their page? The only vendor that would be appropriate for is content or photography/videography
This MUA is my nightmare. Just leave. Don't make me make you leave when I'm supposed to be having a good day.