It’s abandonment trauma from being raised in a facility, it’s peer bonding instead of family bonding which guarantees dependency on what another thinks about you, it’s not learning healthy conflict resolution due to never seeing it modeled, avoidant attachment and the emeshed mother/son relationships are so high on the lists as to why men seek to avoid intimacy (no clue how to be kind and have good boundaries do they choose walls)
That’s why you shouldn’t idolise someone. You get to know them first, so that you don’t have a massive feeling of depression if they don’t like you. It’s so simple
@@rejectionisprotection4448I think it’s different levels to this. Sure men care about how a woman looks but it really doesn’t take much for a man to be attracted to a woman, like she doesn’t have to check every box. Men just aren’t as picky as women, we can see this in nature, that’s just what it is but I think with social media it’s been kinda heightened in a sense where it’s kinda getting ridiculous. But please know that not all women are like this. I think a lot of men are just feeling like dating, courting just feels like a grueling job interview at times
@@UzitheSaintAbsolutely not. Men will openly without a warning pin point all your flaws no matter how small. The lack of empathy makes is easier for them to critique non stop. While women are out there dating Jaba the hut looking fellows because " they have a good heart " or " potential". Even the most hideous creature believes that he deserves a VS model after a woman gives him a chance. Their ego is unmatched.
Mid 30’s millionaire woman in fitness can’t find a man. Don’t make me laugh she has 10’s of thousands of options. Her demands and standards must be ludicrous.
He must be a 7ft11 trillionaire with 12 pack abs though, who's an entrepreneur, professional athlete, must be empathetic and kind, but also an ex-convict because she has a thing for bad boys.
How do you be tall? Women always want this. What do you do if you are under 6 feet look for a woman that is 4 feet tall? They all want a man that towers over them i've seen many couples at the store the man is at least 1 foot taller 95% of the time.
Tbh you need practice and if she says that okay, you gained experience. Also I understand that but a) most girls don’t use loser in their vocabulary, and b) if they do say that, they are not girls that deserve anyone for that matter it’s insecurity showing. At most they would show pity
Here's what I don't understand. It's 2024. Men and women are equal. If men aren't to approach women, women need to step up and approach the men they're interested in.
Bring of equal value and being allowed to work does not mean women and men don't have innate differences. Two things that are different can be of equal value. Women still in innately want men to be masculine and want to able tobe in a feminine state.
@@Elle44289 . It's 2024. Men and women are equal. If men aren't to approach women, women need to step up and approach the men they're interested in. You cannot say "don't approach women" and also argue men approach women.
Modern relationships are not worth the risk. Men have realized this, and have checked out. You can’t expect a man to dedicate his life to someone who is only there because of what you provide in the moment.
This is exactly what it is…my dad doesn’t understand that after 4-5 failed relationships at 24years old I’m so damn tired of trying to provide for someone that doesn’t want to grow with you. Yeah I’m not exactly where I want to be in life but I work hard everyday trying to figure this world out. These modern women will not stick around in your tough times and if they do… hold on to them…tightly
Im a woman, and I agree with this. I don't expect a man to take care of me in anyway. I do expect a partnership where we care for each other equally (maybe in different ways, as men and women are different) but an equally engaging loving relationship. Men deserve to know that they will get what they put in. And any woman who is looking for someone who will only "provide" for her deserves nothing when the relationship ends. I offered to sign a prenup with my boyfriend, we're not getting married but we are buying a home together, but the majority of the financial portion is coming from him. The only part that will be mine is what I eventually end up putting in to it. That's it.
It’s 2024…most women are out earning men, that’s why we’re rejecting men in droves…the only thing that kept us around were patriarchal norms that didn’t allow women to take care of themselves, now that we can we really don’t want to be bothered with men….and we’re out pacing men in education…men need a “software update” the version of men that exist large scale are outdated and incompatible with the modern woman
"The next" mindset in society today is damaging relationships. As it often prevents individuals from addressing the underlying issues within their current relationships. Instead of confronting challenges, communicating effectively, and resolving conflicts, people may simply opt to move on to the next relationship in hopes of finding something better. Just to end up right back what they left.
A bigger problem is do men even want to pursue women anymore? The fact that she can make any interaction positive or negative and the consequences can be destructive is enough to at minimum use caution. Too many with mental issues to pick ones who are sane. It has become unbearable to involve them in your life
I’m 46 and all I’ve ever had from women is lies, demands, criticism, drama, and heartbreak. I’m 6’3, handsome, home owner, business owner, 6 figure income, NW almost £1.5m, they almost always bring very little to the table, but yeah, I need to do better 🤷🏻♂️
Maybe you're using all those traits to subconsciously and unknowingly manipulate them, if so they will return the favour and females are the masters of manipulation, don't know if you've read it but I can recommend feeling good together by Dr. D Burns.
@bdoubleeb3039 I've had the same experience with them as well. I came to the same conclusion 16yrs ago and went MGTOW. It was the best decision I ever made. Protect Yourself from these harpies, You've done extremely well for Yourself, and they deserve absolutely no benefits from Your hard work whatsoever! Stay Safe out there!
Can I just say that I LOVE how articulate, nuanced, and respectful you guys are when talking about the relationship between the sexes? It's SO refreshing to hear two normal people talking about real issues without blaming one side or the other
Everything in moderation. It only ruins it if the real life experience is not worth taking the risk for. Given EVERYTHING that women have been saying about men how they can instantly just create false accusations out of thin air against any man whenever they feel like doing so with the ultimate risk to man of destroying his entire life, i.e. Ruining his career and alienating him from his friends and family, men have chosen video games and porn because it's the logically superior option, at the moment, until women, the justice system and society's almost automatic guilty until proven innocent stance for men changes. I only video game from time to time, I limit my porn to when I actually need to relieve myself maybe once or twice a week now (which is not excessive or any more or less than the typical sexual activity of a couple in their 30s, I'm 35). I last went on my PS5 properly at around Christmas time and recently went on it twice in the last 3 weeks. What I have been doing is socialising a LOT and watching films to wind down. I have a fantastic career and I'm now in the top 10-15% of UK earners for ALL ages. Do you really think I want to jeopardise that by approaching a random woman I know NOTHING about at all, with regard to her character, the sort of social circle she has, what she's done in the past, what she could do to me in any negative way when the fact of the matter is is that she has less risks to face than me? It's highly likely she will be earning less money than me, her career won't be as advanced and given that I'll be in a public place with people always around the risk to her of anything negative is almost minimal. Even if I get rejected I just have to politely walk away and try again and we both carry on our lives. The only women I ever have approaching me are single Moms, and this is because fundamentally they are desperate, and/or want a guy helping financially support them and/or just simply want to have fun because they've already had their kids and don't want any more. It is a really really REALLY tragic state of affairs we live in right now and I'm sorry but most of the burden here is on women to stop being negative and so dishonest and actually being optimistic and genuine with guys again for the sake of all of humanity. We can't go on like this.
@@MysticLuv3r It's a necessary evil in the current climate I'm afraid. Men did not create video games or porn out of curiosity, they did it through technological advances when humanity was actually thriving and men and women lived in pretty good harmony. The anecdote of how Bill Gates asked his future wife on a date shouldn't ever be considered creepy, in fact the opposite. As one of the founding members of Microsoft and CEO, he voluntarily sacrificed his time for his baby (effectively because he built it from the ground up) just so that there was time to go on a date with her. The man didn't have a free slot for THREE WEEKS yet she thought that was unreasonable, so he went above and beyond to make her happy. Women literally have no idea they're born today, the entire world has been built to protect them and carry on the human race. If it hadn't, we simply wouldn't be here right now having this conversation, would we? Because humans would have died off a long long time ago if men didn't care about protecting women.
Everything is about mindset.... So young men and women should not allow the world to influence their mindset in un-healthy ways. For example, television or even social media not always show healthy programs, they want to sell something. It´s interesting that spiritual people or some of my religious cousins have very positive, humble, joyful marriages, They have always smile on their faces, as they probably know what is important in life, family, good meal, good conversations with family members, enjoying guitar, or some hobby, music, sport or going on trip etc. Some of them have kids that are currently adults as well. tHeir kids are exacty copy of their parents, very decent and humble, creative smart. But hope that future kids will not be parented with phones in hand.
As some say we have human self and spiritual self and human self has very different laws and values, than the spiritual self. The spiritual self is more about, love, gratitude, empathy, ethics, humor, values, joy, bliss, creativity etc
I think the question is flawed to some extent because of the focus of it. Men have been told to be better forever and they have improved and kept up on many levels. Today's men are more civilised than ever before for example and more educated than ever before on broad issues. But rather than focus on that at what point is it unrealistic to ask men to be better and better and better and perhaps acknowledge that something else is going wrong in our culture today.
Could it be people waking up to the manipulation of the ruling "elite"? Even under Chris's sedation theory is it not possible to be aware of exactly whats going on and act accordingly? We have been in the information age for a while and truth does come to light but we talk about censorship like its the weather and repeat it like we're clever.
I hear all the time that men have to be better, I just end up thinking that I will never be enough. If I'm never going to be enough why try finding anyone?
Based on these comments and the comments on other similar podcasts it just seems like straight men and straight women really don't like one another. That must be very difficult.
No thanks, even though I’m only 39, whenever I feel like getting back into dating, I just go polish my Porsche one more time, knowing the reason I got it is because I didn’t waste time and money with women and instead invested in my own business!
My wife messaged me on a dating app first. We have been married for 10 years so far. I was pretty much ready to give up on dating apps by that time since I was getting nothing. Women need to do the approaching.
Im 29 ,started going to the Gym from almost a year to get back fit .now im decent in my opinion ,working 6 days a week from 15:00-22:00 sometimes 23 ....considering the fact i really bad time for free to try meet someone the few times i had chances to meet and aproach someone last year i Simply got rejected and sometimes got "humiliated" (once one asked me how much i earn cause She knows her value so she Needs to know mine ...) .tryied online to ,results were ,interest for few weeks till i show clear interest to meet and at least take a coffe even i dint drink it 😅 and than it turn into "your nice but i feel pressured from you " (funny cause she was the one writing me everyday) and the other one said she felt repulse against me at the end ,kinda disgust ...and that one hurted way more
If you needed men to be aggressive and you shutdown their porn and video games, that most certainly would piss them off. But they won't necessarily turn their rage on the invading enemy. Considering how Western society has treated men, they would be just as likely to turn that aggression on their country.
There are no unattractive lines but unattractive males. The difference between flirting and being charged with sexual harassment depends on how hot the guy is.
Lads, sound off- when was the last time you met a woman who did NOT have one or more of the following? -phone addiction -alcohol addiction -vape addiction -credit/debt addiction -hasn't cracked a book since school -zero practical money-saving skills I'm pretty good at talking to women but I'm routinely disappointed. Last woman i met was 35, unemployed, believed in volcano magic and thought she could manifest a house in Hawaii. Is it really men who need to change?
@@PerspicaciousMindset This was at a large public event, nothing but a friendly conversation. I attract a wide range of people because I'm tall, strong, confident and well dressed. There are intelligent and worthwhile women, but they are few in number. Those are the ones I date but it takes months to years to find one. Got another swing in ya, little guy?
@@aaronlandis7929 You posted a comment on this channel 5 months ago about why you are so good, so strong etc. Maybe you just literally have shitty personality and that might be your reason (what no one will tell you online).
You know that meme where a guy sees some self defense move online and then tries it out IRL and is instantly in heaven? Thats what guys see when approaching females today, but it's instant jail 😂
And how exactly should one "fix" the institution of marriage? Besides abolishing coveture laws, which was clearly a good thing, what even has changed about marriage as an institution? I think the problem is people marrying unprepared or not taking it seriously enough.
@@ErezElene Just prevent no-fault divorce, like how it was in the past, and add some punishment for infidelity. Done. Bettina Arndt and Karen Straughan did a lot of research on this. Do you know anything about history? People used to marry as teens and would have very happy life-long marriages.
@AkiRa22084 That's not fixing marriage, that's fixing divorce laws. And yes, I've read history--I guarantee more than you have. Happy marriages, especially between teenagers, were the minority. You need to take off your rose colored glasses.
@@ErezElene Divorce is a failure of marriage. Fixing divorce laws fixes marriage. Are you okay? Why are simple concepts difficult for you to grasp? Why are you letting your evil ideology blind you? You have no clue about history. Most marriages were extremely happy, due to GSA and a lack of rumination.
It's interesting how these two keep missing the hypergamy point on various videos. Because they are afraid to call out women. The issue is if youre of higher socioeconomic status with refined social skills or old you can talk to women...if not youre a creep. Yet women dont place such restrictions on other women. Women can be low status, poor social skills, unattractive and they can talk to other women without being creepy. Untill women start to treat men with the equality they give other women this problem will continue. THAT'S the real issue here.
I met my husband on online dating back in 2010 when it was still a friendly, new, exciting way to meet someone (that's my experience, anyway)... fast forward 12 years later, a painful divorce, and then going back to online dating... it's gotten so incredibly toxic... I've been ghosted, scam profiles, treated like dirt, sexted so much... I'm not even attractive and I'm always branded as "too nice" despite men stating they want someone genuine... turns out to be just bullshit to get a woman to reach out... we're not stupid!! I'm *very* lucky to have found a lovely, genuine man who I am building a connection and relationship with now.
It’s the men you pick. I support young people in the leaving care industry. All the young ladies are only interested in drug dealing bad boys. The so called “toxicly masculine men”
To be honest, unless you are seen as attractive and/or loaded, it is seen as inappropriate. The majority of relationships have become extremely transactional, the traditional system is broken. Men do not have to face the risk of being hash tagged when they can transact to get the physical interaction. 80+% of women want the top 10-20% of men (rated on their socio-economic status).
It's more a lack of motivation to approach women. That's what I see in men nowadays. I go to the gym, and men barely ever speak about women, and when they do, it isn't in a positive light. This wasn't the situation a few years ago. When the motivation is there, you'll do nearly anything despite fear.
It’s good to understand that women have been on guard and defending their lives, their personal freedoms since they were born, they come into this world, having a weaker body then when they get older, they realize they do have a super power their sensuality. But most women want to use that to get a husband and love their husband and their husband is supposed to protect them. They don’t use that on every man that would make them evil. If you see a wedding ring on a woman’s finger don’t talk to her or flirt with her that makes you evil and she knows that right off the bat as soon as you talk to her she knows you’re from the devil and you’re no good you’re not even worth her time , a guy like that should know that there are men in this world much better than they are they have better character, integrity, honesty, wisdom, honor. a good man don’t mess with a woman that’s married or taken or engaged a good man don’t go out, trying to hurt other men by messing with their women that woman found her man don’t tempt her out of that relationship because women unfortunately can be easily tempted, and that’s a sad truth
Yes, decent comment. Also never mess with a married man or man with girlfriend + kids. Financial shortages can cause him to think of how much better life could be untethered and with a decent woman. Never messing with a married man will save you a whole bunch of drama and heartache.
You claim that women don't use their super-power of sexuality to every man and that they want to use that power to find a husband. That is most definitely not correct. While they don't want to use it on every man out there merely targeting specific men, in practice when they dress the way they dress in public and when they behave the way they behave (e.g. in nights out, in gyms etc.) they radiate their sexuality to every single man out there. And even in terms of numbers, most women in the western world have a very increased body count to the point that in the majority of marriages today the wife has a higher body count than the husband if we do not count professional women (e.g. prostitutes etc.). Women most definitely are not into marriage, they are not striving to find a husband but only at the very last moment before menopause hits, just to have their 1 and a half kid. This is not an opinion. This is a fact measured by governmental statistics.
How often do we hear men nowadays saying i want a feminine woman, who will marry, have my children, look after the home....for life...and as soon as they have this, they re prowling the internet looking for the exact opposite because they re bored. Men dont know what they want? Women have also, however, lost their feminity, their love of feminine qualities. ( childbirth, agreeableness etc)
non rational men do not know what they want. If leave because they bored mean they non rational type and people focused personality. I am intp male. I never said I want feminine women but tomboyish women. reason being I feel more likely to get along with that kind of women. Women not lost their feminity because most of them still act like women. Instead the toxic feminine qualities have increased. An intp male never leaves a relationship if he is bored. Instead he leaves because there is too much drama.
The only way to win is to not play. Don't cold approach, let them get to know you first through normal interaction. Let her become comfortable with you first so her guard can come down. Don't listen to these Chads, they have no idea what us regular guys have to go through.
Dopamine is the main driver here. With all you can eat buffet for gal videos in a pocket, addicts don’t even know they are addicted and their behavior has been hacked.
I know a few women who have kids, are with a husband...they still work a lot. Especially in this economy. Both parents for the most part HAVE TO WORK. Have to. So you're single...it's a problem. Single house holds...a problem. Even people with kids and relationships "marry" are likely to end in divorce. People struggling. 😅 So what's worse? Kids...divorce...single? Single....single...single?
@@AkiRa22084 lol are you a kid? In the US, both parents have to work because it is expensive to maintain children and a home. It doesn't matter what neighborhood you're from.
@@MartilyRamagado Move to Europe then. And there are rural places in murica that are cheap to live in. Women have the privilege to marry someone rich. Men do not have that option.
Being stuck between a fist and the stove sounds like a fun experience for one of the sexes. There's a difference between simply acknowledging the inherent differences between the sexes and their strengths versus going all out patriarchy where women have no real say in anything.
@@diamond852 No it's society that needs luck. Our entire society will be replaced and is being replaced by another people who haven't thrown away their culture and values.
that worked for Bill Gates for 3 reasons: 1) she knew he was going to be rich, or already was rich at that point. 2) he was in a position of power to give her special treatment. 3) probably most important - she communicated what she wanted, and he was able to provide it.
Is it a job you don't care to lose? I have done that before and when we broke up a couple months later the work place was bad. I had to quit. Hope it works for you.
@@Sheyshel I am just saying that you might want to think about it. I use to ask out all kinds of women. It's good for men builds confidence. Just think about the consequences of where and when.
@@Matt-iz8wf No I really don’t think my job would care plus we’re in different departments (areas of the place) anyway. Yea, It’s new in the way that only the past 2 weeks she’s been beautiful (she’s Hispanic doesn’t speak the best English) but about half the time in passing there’s some shy eyes 🙈 (flirty eyes?) it’s just always in passing cause my department is usually busy or the other way around plus there’s a bit of a communication gap and the times I’ve tried to talk if we are it’s job oriented and we’re both smily but the communication gap fs there😂. Any thoughts 💭
First things first: men grab onto their car keys too. We too, feel fear when walking back home at night, and some shady figure is going to cross our path. This is so obvious, it feels ridiculous to have to mention it. It's like women's advocates have never spent 1 second in their life thinking about men's experience and they've never asked any guy what his experience is like.
Chris kind of gets what's like. Steve has got no idea though. So many young boys and men out there who are really suffering and nobody cares or wants to help turn it around. Post-MeToo dating and Young Male Sedation are only the tip of the iceberg Chris...
Right he's acting like the world's just gonna fix itself out of....good will? The female/feminist dreamworld is a bee colony, where 98% of men have zero romance/intimacy and stay invisible quietly working keeping our infrastructure afloat, while the majority of women get access to the 2% of men. And obviously this is a dream scenario for elites in power too, with no disruptive men challenging their position. I see no incentive that would push back against this outcome. No reason why women and those in power wouldnt continue to design this sweet ideal
In 1990 I met my future husband in a nightclub. We spotted each other, ended up kissing without even speaking, had sex in a park then went our separate ways after swapping land line numbers. We are still together and happily married today. We equally had an attraction and then built on getting to know each other over time. We have a brilliant sex life still in our 50’s. It’s sad to hear young people now struggle to make connections and maintain relationships. It’s such a basic human instinct and need like food and oxygen. Like most things now people make too much of a big deal about it. If you fancy someone just go for it and be more proactive. Try and meet in real life situations and forget the Apps ❤
Back then as today, what you did, i..e meeting a man in a nightclub, kissing him without even having spoken, and going out to have sex in the park, ends up in 99,999% in just that : a random Saturday night out hook-up. Not in marriage. Your anecdotal case is thus so rare that it should not be even mentioned. You would not want your daughter to start trying to meet men like that, for sure. Forgetting the apps, is one thing for sure, but hooking-up randomly with total strangers is even worse than the apps.
I dream of being a house husband, it's very hard to find a partner who will work to support "us' like it was in the 70s & 80s, she can go off to work 40 hour weeks while I keep the home in check, dream come true... The main problem being one salary can't support one person these days, let alone two people... let alone two people and some kids. Where does it all end ?
I wish there were more men like you my age. I haven't met any guy so far who would be comfortable with being a house husband while I go out to work 40 hrs, which I'd really like. Heck, I haven't even met any guys who'd be willing to be the stay at home parent even one day a week--they think parenting their own kids is emasculating or something smh.
"playing the game" is absolutely pointless,homie... ignore em and live your life. If you gotta rub 1 out,do that then go back to doing your own thing that makes YOU happy in life.😒💯💯💯🤷🏾♂️
Cause your signals were not direct. I get it girls don't want to be seen as slutty so your signals are weak and most men just think you are being nice. We call it being forward but I think it's just being honest. We all need to learn to get offended by actions not words.
Men are afraid to approach women, and I love it. All I need to do is just talk to any guy I like. I will say anything that crosses my mind, anything! Then on our first official date, they usually say to me : "I don't normally approach women, but with you it was different". They don't even realize I made it easy for them.
Kudos to you. You're doing exactly what needs to happen. As a man, we're told not to chase and be clingy. And let's be honest, sometimes we just miss the hints so we don't pursue. If the woman immediately bypasses the most difficult barrier for a man, we can then lead and be in our masculine frame from then on in the relationship knowing without a shred of doubt that she's into us. If more women pursued first, that would fix many of the issues in today's dating landscape. Not all of them, obviously, but it would still help.
Well.. women are selectors. Now you have full control (since men are emasculated, sedated and under patriarchal control) to choose who you like. The balls in your court. The rest of the dudes… tough luck on their genes passing to the next generation. You guys control the market because you’re technically the shoppers. Men competing over women and them selecting is natural, but in this emasculated state, by all means. The problem is most women won’t do what you will. Lol We’re all kinds of screwed.
Its social engineering to keep us down as a bunch of pussies a ultimately so we don’t reproduce and create families. We are meant to approach and lead. But through the media, films and articles masculinity is frowned upon and they try to make us ashamed of being a man and do basic things like a respectfully approaching a woman
Nobody knows what the social rules are anymore.They also don't know how to behave like adults. Not all the women approached by Weinstien capitulated, there's always a costs for holding your ground in situations involving powerful men with influence.I fully agree with Chris on the young male hypothesis I would also add drugs like marijuana to the list of sedatives.Brave new world stuff.
Truth be told, I just never know what women are available. I mean sure, you could just spray and pray dates at every woman in your vicinity but that kinda builds a bad rep for you. Focus your efforts towards a couple and you find out like, at least 80% of them are taken. I still try of course, but it's just never been easy.
Good luck out there champ...Just remember, you missed the golden era of dating pre social media and internet, and you are now blessed with the struggle that is courting/dating the modern woman. Enjoy.
Precisely... Women don't not have boyfriends; they have catalogues, they 'monkeybranch'..... The question is: Are you the guy she's going to 'monkeybranch' on to?
Yeah, if Chris looked like Ron Jeremy I bet he would have a very different outlook about society and dating. Thing are objectively skewed against men, doesn't take effort to notice.
The head of a Kent Law firm was (on 19 June 24) suspended from acting as a solicitor for two years for having consensual sex with an employee. So, approaching a woman in work is now longer possible. Thirty years ago most people met their long-term sexual partner at work. So what's left? dating apps; they are a shit show. So where do people meet each other? The less contact men and women have the worse the interactions become. No wonder young men are opting out. BTW, I'm retired, so I'm not in the game.
I generally like his podcast guests but his incessant need to nickname basic ideas with his own made up terms is pretty infuriating. ‘I came up with this theory the other day called: “The Paradox of Starvation Prevention within Compelled Conditions”. It seys: “individuals who are hungry whilst working for an employer are unable eat whenever they like and must relieve this ancient drive within approved temporal windows, despite the superficial nature of workplace rules/culture when compared to the ancient and integral need for sustenance when starving’ ‘… Chris, did you just word salad Lunchbreaks…?’ ‘… uhhhh n- no no, it’s the “Paradox of-‘ ‘Oh for Christ’s sake shut up man!’
It’s always been difficult to approach women, I remember 40 years ago encouraging a friend to approach a woman in a bar, it went like this, him “Hi I …..”, her “F*ck off you little creep”, 😂here’s a tip for anyone really struggling, play the numbers game, ask 15 women across different bars or clubs for their phone number, almost all will decline, some of them rudely, but one or two of them will give you their number , don’t be drunk, just be kind and friendly, used to work all the time for me back in the day, but it only works if you make the effort to ask!, so in short 1.ask, 2.numbers. thankfully I have been happily married for years so haven’t had to bother but just saying, it’s always been difficult to meet someone, today’s struggles are nothing new.
You have to bring something to the table as men and women but many modern woman aren't offering much at the moment other than access to sex(which eventually stops or dwindles anyway) just a shopping list of expectations and demands.
Whatever difficulties you think you are facing in talking to women and relationships, the healthy men's reaction is not to pull back, throw themselves on the floor crying and saying how women are not worth it or the world is cruel etc. You can of course feel certain ways about any situation but you need to start all over and try again, do it better. Thats a fact. I mean does not matter what rejection or humiliation you suffered by evil, heartless ladies you have met before, ultimately it all comes down to the nice women out there waiting to meet kind men. And i am a happily married woman (43) by the way just in case my name does not say. Cheers from Hungary, Eastern Europe
Two interviewers with similar haircuts, facial hair, black t-shirts, developed biceps, watches on their left wrists excellent communication skills chatting. One is wearing a neck chain. Good interview ... I'm just saying.
Hosts like this are the problem. Until we acknowledge that women are half of the relationship and bear some accountability, it’ll never get better. Women have to be part of the solution, it’s not just an issue of why aren’t men better.
It’s not the details it’s the INTENTION, are you intentionally a creep or not. Women can suss this out usually well because we have to for survival. See what happens when we say no to a man it leads to brutal insults or at worst physical injury or loss of life. Most women are not able to say no. When we do say no it’s because we have made about 1000 calculations in our head that it’s safe to do so that we can walk away with our lives in tact. We don’t owe every man our time and body - why is this hard for men to accept?
@@rejectionisprotection4448 this is not talking about humanity this phrasing to talk about animals - yes humans are mammals but we do have more complexity… leave it to dudes to simplify it in basic very basic science they really know nothing about besides laymen’s terms.
@@dalmalifemore I used it deliberately because ultimately it's sex (and its cousins ie status, dominance, control etc) which underpins all of men's actions towards women. Scott Galloway's continued use of that phrase really irked me and now I realise it was because he was doing it deliberately to dehumanise women.
@@rejectionisprotection4448 exactly all these responses by men dehumanize women so it’s easier to treat us badly if we are not seen as human - via studies and stats that are probably created by men via “scientific” babble.
The defeatist attitude a lot of young guys have around relationships does not bode well. There are too many excuses and generalisations that are becoming beliefs. You create your reality.
For men, afraid to approach women, you need to approach all women and all situations without outcome in mind. You’ll learn how to make conversation and develop the proper physical stature to have a good communication with a woman then you can step it up to a pressure situation, where you’re actually trying to get somewhere with a potential mate
Bro only 2 times. I dont believe that. Some nights at the club I have 3 or 4 girls come up and talk to me. Sometimes they come and introduce themselves, Sometimes they just come and sit right next to you and not say anything or stand and stare at you hoping you will say something.
If you are tall and good looking they night find it charming. If not, you will be called a creep at best, reported for harassment if you are unlucky. And women will always be believed, especially since metoo. It's simply not worth it. And when you go on a dating app its even worse. Women made this problem.
He only appears smart.... He's not that smart at all. BUT IF HE IS, he actually has no honor. Just cowardly. To say things like it actually is. But he's scared.
I don't think he was downplaying, just stating it somewhat facetiously. I don't think too many people including Chris would ever think any of what he did was anything short of being a despicable creep
So, most of the time rejection puts us on our rightful path. Thus, random approaching can only work if both people's eyes connect or if there is love at first sight - a strange feeling of knowing. But for the most part, NOT EVERYONE IS FOR EVERYONE.
I'm one of those who didn't intend to not be a parent, OR find myself divorced in my early 40's and no longer trusting of online dating, which seem to have an overwhelming amount of people who are NOT looking for an actual long-term committed relationship, or there are red flag disturbing characteristics. So, it seems that I've now programmed myself to believe that I'm unworthy due to self-identified barriers which may have shut out the few who might be interested beyond the shallow. Plus, I've now entered my 6th decade, albeit a fairly youthful 60, and the options are increasingly less viable. Fuk, she says. 🙃 Thank goodness for a sense of humour, good friends/neighbours, and the neighbour's dog which I take for walks. 💖 Lol
It’s the fear of not only rejection, but public humiliation.
It’s abandonment trauma from being raised in a facility, it’s peer bonding instead of family bonding which guarantees dependency on what another thinks about you, it’s not learning healthy conflict resolution due to never seeing it modeled, avoidant attachment and the emeshed mother/son relationships are so high on the lists as to why men seek to avoid intimacy (no clue how to be kind and have good boundaries do they choose walls)
Lol, from talking to a woman?
@@JeansiByxan you must be older
@@nathanielalderson9111 Ok, but talk about skipping ahead. You don't have to marry her to have a beer with her.
That’s why you shouldn’t idolise someone. You get to know them first, so that you don’t have a massive feeling of depression if they don’t like you. It’s so simple
If you're attractive they'll like it, if you're not attractive they won't like it.
Not just attractive, unreasonably attractive and tall.
L.O.L...Nailed it 100%.
And that's a problem? You wouldn't approach them if they WEREN'T attractive would you?
@@rejectionisprotection4448I think it’s different levels to this. Sure men care about how a woman looks but it really doesn’t take much for a man to be attracted to a woman, like she doesn’t have to check every box.
Men just aren’t as picky as women, we can see this in nature, that’s just what it is but I think with social media it’s been kinda heightened in a sense where it’s kinda getting ridiculous.
But please know that not all women are like this. I think a lot of men are just feeling like dating, courting just feels like a grueling job interview at times
@@UzitheSaintAbsolutely not. Men will openly without a warning pin point all your flaws no matter how small. The lack of empathy makes is easier for them to critique non stop. While women are out there dating Jaba the hut looking fellows because " they have a good heart " or " potential". Even the most hideous creature believes that he deserves a VS model after a woman gives him a chance. Their ego is unmatched.
Mid 30’s millionaire woman in fitness can’t find a man. Don’t make me laugh she has 10’s of thousands of options. Her demands and standards must be ludicrous.
He must be a 7ft11 trillionaire with 12 pack abs though, who's an entrepreneur, professional athlete, must be empathetic and kind, but also an ex-convict because she has a thing for bad boys.
Or her emotional insecurities or social conditioning might be ludicrously distorted.
Likley equivalent to her percieved worth.
Hypergamy at its best!
Chris is overly sympathetic to women..It's astounding Chris is not called out on his bias...
1. Be attractive. 2. Don't be unattractive. 3. Be good looking. SNL advice
I remember that skit. 100% accurate
SNL?
th-cam.com/video/PxuUkYiaUc8/w-d-xo.html
@@Being_Jeff
@@Being_Jeff Saturday Night Live (tv show) [implied - before it was trash, approx. < 2015 CE].
How do you be tall? Women always want this. What do you do if you are under 6 feet look for a woman that is 4 feet tall? They all want a man that towers over them i've seen many couples at the store the man is at least 1 foot taller 95% of the time.
"That's the creep that approached me yesterday, on the street. What a loser." That's why.
Tbh you need practice and if she says that okay, you gained experience. Also I understand that but a) most girls don’t use loser in their vocabulary, and b) if they do say that, they are not girls that deserve anyone for that matter it’s insecurity showing. At most they would show pity
@@Aaa-dv3oi Meanwhile in the real world....
@@Aaa-dv3oi, facts.
How tall was the guy? I ask because that might not have been just "creepy"; that could have been legitimate sexual assault if he was 5'10" or shorter.
Diddums.
Here's what I don't understand. It's 2024. Men and women are equal. If men aren't to approach women, women need to step up and approach the men they're interested in.
Yes, though “equality” is not real, and woman generally are not going to approach men.
Men and women aren’t equal and they will never be… that doesn’t mean they can’t be treated fairly…the both of them.
Bring of equal value and being allowed to work does not mean women and men don't have innate differences. Two things that are different can be of equal value.
Women still in innately want men to be masculine and want to able tobe in a feminine state.
@@Elle44289 . It's 2024. Men and women are equal. If men aren't to approach women, women need to step up and approach the men they're interested in. You cannot say "don't approach women" and also argue men approach women.
@@jackphantom men should approach women. Dont be pansies.
Modern relationships are not worth the risk. Men have realized this, and have checked out. You can’t expect a man to dedicate his life to someone who is only there because of what you provide in the moment.
Exactly, I am never going to marry without a prenup 😂
This is exactly what it is…my dad doesn’t understand that after 4-5 failed relationships at 24years old I’m so damn tired of trying to provide for someone that doesn’t want to grow with you. Yeah I’m not exactly where I want to be in life but I work hard everyday trying to figure this world out. These modern women will not stick around in your tough times and if they do… hold on to them…tightly
Im a woman, and I agree with this. I don't expect a man to take care of me in anyway. I do expect a partnership where we care for each other equally (maybe in different ways, as men and women are different) but an equally engaging loving relationship. Men deserve to know that they will get what they put in. And any woman who is looking for someone who will only "provide" for her deserves nothing when the relationship ends. I offered to sign a prenup with my boyfriend, we're not getting married but we are buying a home together, but the majority of the financial portion is coming from him. The only part that will be mine is what I eventually end up putting in to it. That's it.
lmao you offered because you're a sucker or you know you're not attractive enough to say no @@amandafortin640
It’s 2024…most women are out earning men, that’s why we’re rejecting men in droves…the only thing that kept us around were patriarchal norms that didn’t allow women to take care of themselves, now that we can we really don’t want to be bothered with men….and we’re out pacing men in education…men need a “software update” the version of men that exist large scale are outdated and incompatible with the modern woman
Just be charming, just be funny, just be confident, just be good looking, as if it's like putting on a different coat.....
And even if you could, what would you have achieved?
"The next" mindset in society today is damaging relationships. As it often prevents individuals from addressing the underlying issues within their current relationships. Instead of confronting challenges, communicating effectively, and resolving conflicts, people may simply opt to move on to the next relationship in hopes of finding something better. Just to end up right back what they left.
A bigger problem is do men even want to pursue women anymore? The fact that she can make any interaction positive or negative and the consequences can be destructive is enough to at minimum use caution. Too many with mental issues to pick ones who are sane. It has become unbearable to involve them in your life
I’m 46 and all I’ve ever had from women is lies, demands, criticism, drama, and heartbreak. I’m 6’3, handsome, home owner, business owner, 6 figure income, NW almost £1.5m, they almost always bring very little to the table, but yeah, I need to do better 🤷🏻♂️
Probably it is something else whats wrong not the things you have listed above. Could be a personality trait or sg. And it might not even be you...
Maybe you attract leechers or something..
Maybe you're using all those traits to subconsciously and unknowingly manipulate them, if so they will return the favour and females are the masters of manipulation, don't know if you've read it but I can recommend feeling good together by Dr. D Burns.
@bdoubleeb3039 I've had the same experience with them as well. I came to the same conclusion 16yrs ago and went MGTOW. It was the best decision I ever made. Protect Yourself from these harpies, You've done extremely well for Yourself, and they deserve absolutely no benefits from Your hard work whatsoever! Stay Safe out there!
@@orsolyabende8101 Have you seen the average woman these days?
Can I just say that I LOVE how articulate, nuanced, and respectful you guys are when talking about the relationship between the sexes? It's SO refreshing to hear two normal people talking about real issues without blaming one side or the other
Nobody is blaming any side. We men don't want to approach anymore. I thought we were equals now to women. Women need to start to approach.
I knew exactly what Chris was going to say at 9:57, and he's right. Hell, I don't even go to the gym anymore. I work out 5-6 days a week at home.
Porn has ruined it for all of us. Men and women.
@Sheyshel More so video games as far as my own personal experience is concerned, but yeah, I'm in complete agreement with you.
Everything in moderation. It only ruins it if the real life experience is not worth taking the risk for.
Given EVERYTHING that women have been saying about men how they can instantly just create false accusations out of thin air against any man whenever they feel like doing so with the ultimate risk to man of destroying his entire life, i.e. Ruining his career and alienating him from his friends and family, men have chosen video games and porn because it's the logically superior option, at the moment, until women, the justice system and society's almost automatic guilty until proven innocent stance for men changes.
I only video game from time to time, I limit my porn to when I actually need to relieve myself maybe once or twice a week now (which is not excessive or any more or less than the typical sexual activity of a couple in their 30s, I'm 35). I last went on my PS5 properly at around Christmas time and recently went on it twice in the last 3 weeks. What I have been doing is socialising a LOT and watching films to wind down.
I have a fantastic career and I'm now in the top 10-15% of UK earners for ALL ages. Do you really think I want to jeopardise that by approaching a random woman I know NOTHING about at all, with regard to her character, the sort of social circle she has, what she's done in the past, what she could do to me in any negative way when the fact of the matter is is that she has less risks to face than me? It's highly likely she will be earning less money than me, her career won't be as advanced and given that I'll be in a public place with people always around the risk to her of anything negative is almost minimal. Even if I get rejected I just have to politely walk away and try again and we both carry on our lives.
The only women I ever have approaching me are single Moms, and this is because fundamentally they are desperate, and/or want a guy helping financially support them and/or just simply want to have fun because they've already had their kids and don't want any more. It is a really really REALLY tragic state of affairs we live in right now and I'm sorry but most of the burden here is on women to stop being negative and so dishonest and actually being optimistic and genuine with guys again for the sake of all of humanity. We can't go on like this.
@@BryJovi17I’m spreading this comment around like wildfire. Preach. We will not be silenced.
@@MysticLuv3r It's a necessary evil in the current climate I'm afraid. Men did not create video games or porn out of curiosity, they did it through technological advances when humanity was actually thriving and men and women lived in pretty good harmony.
The anecdote of how Bill Gates asked his future wife on a date shouldn't ever be considered creepy, in fact the opposite. As one of the founding members of Microsoft and CEO, he voluntarily sacrificed his time for his baby (effectively because he built it from the ground up) just so that there was time to go on a date with her. The man didn't have a free slot for THREE WEEKS yet she thought that was unreasonable, so he went above and beyond to make her happy.
Women literally have no idea they're born today, the entire world has been built to protect them and carry on the human race. If it hadn't, we simply wouldn't be here right now having this conversation, would we? Because humans would have died off a long long time ago if men didn't care about protecting women.
They're too afraid of being rejected or just not interested in the women available
I always looked at it as if I don't talk to them it's automatically ,NO. If I do, it could be YES.
Not interested in the woman available, most are man bashing feminists or Botoxed up clones 🤡🤮
Everything is about mindset....
So young men and women should not allow the world to influence their mindset in un-healthy ways.
For example, television or even social media not always show healthy programs, they want to sell something.
It´s interesting that spiritual people or some of my religious cousins have very positive, humble, joyful marriages, They have always smile on their faces, as they probably know what is important in life, family, good meal, good conversations with family members, enjoying guitar, or some hobby, music, sport or going on trip etc. Some of them have kids that are currently adults as well. tHeir kids are exacty copy of their parents, very decent and humble, creative smart.
But hope that future kids will not be parented with phones in hand.
As some say we have human self and spiritual self
and human self has very different laws and values, than the spiritual self.
The spiritual self is more about, love, gratitude, empathy, ethics, humor, values, joy, bliss, creativity etc
@@Matt-iz8wfIf men didn't have wills and initiative, our species would've never evolved. If everything depended on her, nothing would exist.
I think the question is flawed to some extent because of the focus of it. Men have been told to be better forever and they have improved and kept up on many levels. Today's men are more civilised than ever before for example and more educated than ever before on broad issues. But rather than focus on that at what point is it unrealistic to ask men to be better and better and better and perhaps acknowledge that something else is going wrong in our culture today.
Yeah. After a while, men need to tell themselves that they are enough. Society, the economy, and dating are just really messed up right now.
Could it be people waking up to the manipulation of the ruling "elite"? Even under Chris's sedation theory is it not possible to be aware of exactly whats going on and act accordingly? We have been in the information age for a while and truth does come to light but we talk about censorship like its the weather and repeat it like we're clever.
I hear all the time that men have to be better, I just end up thinking that I will never be enough. If I'm never going to be enough why try finding anyone?
Based on these comments and the comments on other similar podcasts it just seems like straight men and straight women really don't like one another. That must be very difficult.
80/20%
We're basically in an extreme version of battle of the sexes and it's amplified by social media and TH-cam. I don't know if it can be healed.
got nothing to do with not liking them, got everything to do with understanding them
Mgtow men hate women
I still love women but I still don't understand what they want.
No thanks, even though I’m only 39, whenever I feel like getting back into dating, I just go polish my Porsche one more time, knowing the reason I got it is because I didn’t waste time and money with women and instead invested in my own business!
You can’t polish it forever.
Work on your self and belief in God.
I’ll just go play golf instead. 😂
My wife messaged me on a dating app first. We have been married for 10 years so far. I was pretty much ready to give up on dating apps by that time since I was getting nothing. Women need to do the approaching.
So for anyone you doesn't have Chris' looks and money... try his suggestions and see how far you get.
😂😂😂
Im 29 ,started going to the Gym from almost a year to get back fit .now im decent in my opinion ,working 6 days a week from 15:00-22:00 sometimes 23 ....considering the fact i really bad time for free to try meet someone the few times i had chances to meet and aproach someone last year i Simply got rejected and sometimes got "humiliated" (once one asked me how much i earn cause She knows her value so she Needs to know mine ...) .tryied online to ,results were ,interest for few weeks till i show clear interest to meet and at least take a coffe even i dint drink it 😅 and than it turn into "your nice but i feel pressured from you " (funny cause she was the one writing me everyday) and the other one said she felt repulse against me at the end ,kinda disgust ...and that one hurted way more
If you needed men to be aggressive and you shutdown their porn and video games, that most certainly would piss them off. But they won't necessarily turn their rage on the invading enemy. Considering how Western society has treated men, they would be just as likely to turn that aggression on their country.
I can't really speak for everyone but I do think that generally women don't actively look for men/dates/sex in night clubs.
Used too , but those times are long gone
Where do they look for sex then?
What are thy doing there then? What's the point of those horrible places?
@AkiRa22084 Attention. They still need men to turn down to keep their self-esteem afloat.
@@sczr1186 Yeah, that does seem to be it.
There are no unattractive lines but unattractive males.
The difference between flirting and being charged with sexual harassment depends on how hot the guy is.
Just treat us like humans instead of acting like we're something else 🤗
@@JadeElouise lol
That's a bunch of BS.
OP: Why don't you try being her friend first? Women want a man she feels safe with and can trust.
@@Pink_Torch Why would you friend-zone yourself on purpose?
Wives of criminals do not agree with you on what women want.
Lads, sound off- when was the last time you met a woman who did NOT have one or more of the following?
-phone addiction
-alcohol addiction
-vape addiction
-credit/debt addiction
-hasn't cracked a book since school
-zero practical money-saving skills
I'm pretty good at talking to women but I'm routinely disappointed. Last woman i met was 35, unemployed, believed in volcano magic and thought she could manifest a house in Hawaii.
Is it really men who need to change?
Yes, because like attracts like. The women you attract is a refelection of you
@@PerspicaciousMindset This was at a large public event, nothing but a friendly conversation.
I attract a wide range of people because I'm tall, strong, confident and well dressed.
There are intelligent and worthwhile women, but they are few in number. Those are the ones I date but it takes months to years to find one.
Got another swing in ya, little guy?
@@aaronlandis7929 Yeah ofcourse you're not gonna find anyone with that attitude bro
@@PerspicaciousMindset Such a substantive rebuttal!
Truly my life is brighter after contact with your lucent mind. Simply incredible!
@@aaronlandis7929 You posted a comment on this channel 5 months ago about why you are so good, so strong etc.
Maybe you just literally have shitty personality and that might be your reason (what no one will tell you online).
You know that meme where a guy sees some self defense move online and then tries it out IRL and is instantly in heaven? Thats what guys see when approaching females today, but it's instant jail 😂
No, you won't end up in jail approaching a women - be real.
Why should men improve when marriage has been ruined?
Fix the institution of marriage and men will rise to the task automatically.
And how exactly should one "fix" the institution of marriage? Besides abolishing coveture laws, which was clearly a good thing, what even has changed about marriage as an institution? I think the problem is people marrying unprepared or not taking it seriously enough.
@@ErezElene Just prevent no-fault divorce, like how it was in the past, and add some punishment for infidelity. Done.
Bettina Arndt and Karen Straughan did a lot of research on this.
Do you know anything about history? People used to marry as teens and would have very happy life-long marriages.
@AkiRa22084 That's not fixing marriage, that's fixing divorce laws.
And yes, I've read history--I guarantee more than you have. Happy marriages, especially between teenagers, were the minority. You need to take off your rose colored glasses.
@@ErezElene Divorce is a failure of marriage. Fixing divorce laws fixes marriage.
Are you okay? Why are simple concepts difficult for you to grasp? Why are you letting your evil ideology blind you?
You have no clue about history. Most marriages were extremely happy, due to GSA and a lack of rumination.
Why can’t we just accept that modern women aren’t worth approaching?
I have never dated, and I will never date or have any relationship there is no point fo it.
Edit: Why is always the man's fault?
That is why these 2 gentlemen have no credibility they don't assess the female role in this equation !
@@contracthit9839 What _is_ the female role in the equation?
It's interesting how these two keep missing the hypergamy point on various videos. Because they are afraid to call out women. The issue is if youre of higher socioeconomic status with refined social skills or old you can talk to women...if not youre a creep. Yet women dont place such restrictions on other women. Women can be low status, poor social skills, unattractive and they can talk to other women without being creepy. Untill women start to treat men with the equality they give other women this problem will continue. THAT'S the real issue here.
They want to keep their channels unbanned whilst pretending to actually know or care of the plight of issues men face.
Strange that men and women have the same complaints. Lies, unfaithful, unfair, money and greed. Lucky to have met my friend’s cousin. Great guy!
The risk is too great. A woman can blindly accuse a man of anything. Crimes and false parentage is how bad it is
I met my husband on online dating back in 2010 when it was still a friendly, new, exciting way to meet someone (that's my experience, anyway)... fast forward 12 years later, a painful divorce, and then going back to online dating... it's gotten so incredibly toxic... I've been ghosted, scam profiles, treated like dirt, sexted so much... I'm not even attractive and I'm always branded as "too nice" despite men stating they want someone genuine... turns out to be just bullshit to get a woman to reach out... we're not stupid!! I'm *very* lucky to have found a lovely, genuine man who I am building a connection and relationship with now.
It’s the men you pick. I support young people in the leaving care industry. All the young ladies are only interested in drug dealing bad boys. The so called “toxicly masculine men”
it was probably Tinder. I made better experiences with Bumble and Hinge
To be honest, unless you are seen as attractive and/or loaded, it is seen as inappropriate. The majority of relationships have become extremely transactional, the traditional system is broken. Men do not have to face the risk of being hash tagged when they can transact to get the physical interaction. 80+% of women want the top 10-20% of men (rated on their socio-economic status).
It's more a lack of motivation to approach women. That's what I see in men nowadays. I go to the gym, and men barely ever speak about women, and when they do, it isn't in a positive light. This wasn't the situation a few years ago. When the motivation is there, you'll do nearly anything despite fear.
Or, you can just avoid women all together, go fishing, and not end up in jail on some false harassment charge.
Incels avoiding women is a blessing. Be true to your word!
@@Daemonette_ Says the women crying on camera all over the internet.
The line between the two is that most men are not trying to force their agenda on all mankind.
I refuse to give women the power of rejection and judgment over me.
Looks like you know yourself pretty well. Good luck
@diamond852 I don't care when women control dating & sex and the system is entirely rigged in their favor.
If anything, believe me when I say that women are WAY more pleasant and welcoming outside of....
....the West.
Just get a passport.
It’s good to understand that women have been on guard and defending their lives, their personal freedoms since they were born, they come into this world, having a weaker body then when they get older, they realize they do have a super power their sensuality.
But most women want to use that to get a husband and love their husband and their husband is supposed to protect them. They don’t use that on every man that would make them evil. If you see a wedding ring on a woman’s finger don’t talk to her or flirt with her that makes you evil and she knows that right off the bat as soon as you talk to her she knows you’re from the devil and you’re no good you’re not even worth her time , a guy like that should know that there are men in this world much better than they are they have better character, integrity, honesty, wisdom, honor. a good man don’t mess with a woman that’s married or taken or engaged a good man don’t go out, trying to hurt other men by messing with their women that woman found her man don’t tempt her out of that relationship because women unfortunately can be easily tempted, and that’s a sad truth
Yes, decent comment. Also never mess with a married man or man with girlfriend + kids. Financial shortages can cause him to think of how much better life could be untethered and with a decent woman. Never messing with a married man will save you a whole bunch of drama and heartache.
@@cascade00 For ages above 30, plenty of women actually prefer married women, because they are pre-selected, tested.
You claim that women don't use their super-power of sexuality to every man and that they want to use that power to find a husband. That is most definitely not correct. While they don't want to use it on every man out there merely targeting specific men, in practice when they dress the way they dress in public and when they behave the way they behave (e.g. in nights out, in gyms etc.) they radiate their sexuality to every single man out there. And even in terms of numbers, most women in the western world have a very increased body count to the point that in the majority of marriages today the wife has a higher body count than the husband if we do not count professional women (e.g. prostitutes etc.). Women most definitely are not into marriage, they are not striving to find a husband but only at the very last moment before menopause hits, just to have their 1 and a half kid. This is not an opinion. This is a fact measured by governmental statistics.
How often do we hear men nowadays saying i want a feminine woman, who will marry, have my children, look after the home....for life...and as soon as they have this, they re prowling the internet looking for the exact opposite because they re bored. Men dont know what they want? Women have also, however, lost their feminity, their love of feminine qualities. ( childbirth, agreeableness etc)
non rational men do not know what they want. If leave because they bored mean they non rational type and people focused
personality. I am intp male. I never said I want feminine women but tomboyish women. reason being I feel more likely to get along with that kind of women. Women not lost their feminity because most of them still act like women. Instead the toxic feminine qualities have increased. An intp male never leaves a relationship if he is bored. Instead he leaves because there is too much drama.
The only way to win is to not play. Don't cold approach, let them get to know you first through normal interaction. Let her become comfortable with you first so her guard can come down. Don't listen to these Chads, they have no idea what us regular guys have to go through.
I thought the guy asking the questions sounded like a chump.
Women should try to be more approachable too.
"I'm 19, have a dolphin tattoo on my neck, and don't know what my body count is"................................ pass.
Leave them to their own devices …. The girl boss sisterhood will always take care of them
Dopamine is the main driver here. With all you can eat buffet for gal videos in a pocket, addicts don’t even know they are addicted and their behavior has been hacked.
Succinctly said! It's like we've all been drugged by dopamine and also sedated by social media, as per Chris's point from @11:11.
I know a few women who have kids, are with a husband...they still work a lot. Especially in this economy. Both parents for the most part HAVE TO WORK. Have to.
So you're single...it's a problem. Single house holds...a problem. Even people with kids and relationships "marry" are likely to end in divorce. People struggling. 😅 So what's worse? Kids...divorce...single?
Single....single...single?
You only "have to" work if you live in an expensive neighborhood.
@@AkiRa22084 lol are you a kid? In the US, both parents have to work because it is expensive to maintain children and a home. It doesn't matter what neighborhood you're from.
@@MartilyRamagado Move to Europe then. And there are rural places in murica that are cheap to live in.
Women have the privilege to marry someone rich. Men do not have that option.
Single. Living with my folks. Not terribly exciting or stimulating... but on the same note, it is peaceful, pretty damn stress-free.
@@MartilyRamagado Ran away, huh?
Men and women roles should've remained how it was before the 60's. Until that comes back I won't bother anymore.
Lmao. Good luck
@diamond852 don't need luck, it's society who needs luck and help.
Being stuck between a fist and the stove sounds like a fun experience for one of the sexes. There's a difference between simply acknowledging the inherent differences between the sexes and their strengths versus going all out patriarchy where women have no real say in anything.
@@adamsultana8380 actually, you do.
@@diamond852 No it's society that needs luck. Our entire society will be replaced and is being replaced by another people who haven't thrown away their culture and values.
that worked for Bill Gates for 3 reasons:
1) she knew he was going to be rich, or already was rich at that point.
2) he was in a position of power to give her special treatment.
3) probably most important - she communicated what she wanted, and he was able to provide it.
This was the video I needed to see… I’m going to ask out this girl I work with let’s gooo😬😂🙏
Is it a job you don't care to lose? I have done that before and when we broke up a couple months later the work place was bad. I had to quit. Hope it works for you.
@@Matt-iz8wf Let this man be a man
@@Sheyshel I am just saying that you might want to think about it. I use to ask out all kinds of women. It's good for men builds confidence. Just think about the consequences of where and when.
@@Matt-iz8wf No I really don’t think my job would care plus we’re in different departments (areas of the place) anyway. Yea, It’s new in the way that only the past 2 weeks she’s been beautiful (she’s Hispanic doesn’t speak the best English) but about half the time in passing there’s some shy eyes 🙈 (flirty eyes?) it’s just always in passing cause my department is usually busy or the other way around plus there’s a bit of a communication gap and the times I’ve tried to talk if we are it’s job oriented and we’re both smily but the communication gap fs there😂. Any thoughts 💭
These days you might be even accused of serial assault for asking a lady out in the work place or anywhere for that matter.
First things first: men grab onto their car keys too. We too, feel fear when walking back home at night, and some shady figure is going to cross our path. This is so obvious, it feels ridiculous to have to mention it. It's like women's advocates have never spent 1 second in their life thinking about men's experience and they've never asked any guy what his experience is like.
Chris kind of gets what's like. Steve has got no idea though. So many young boys and men out there who are really suffering and nobody cares or wants to help turn it around. Post-MeToo dating and Young Male Sedation are only the tip of the iceberg Chris...
Right he's acting like the world's just gonna fix itself out of....good will?
The female/feminist dreamworld is a bee colony, where 98% of men have zero romance/intimacy and stay invisible quietly working keeping our infrastructure afloat, while the majority of women get access to the 2% of men. And obviously this is a dream scenario for elites in power too, with no disruptive men challenging their position.
I see no incentive that would push back against this outcome. No reason why women and those in power wouldnt continue to design this sweet ideal
Your title is erroneous. I was approached by a man at the grocery store this week who paid me a compliment. Everything is energy
What happened? Did you guys go out on a date?
Why bother, damned if you do and damned if you don't. It's the same reason men aren't sticking up for women anymore either, why bother?
Exactly why I'm 39 no kids and monk mode
In 1990 I met my future husband in a nightclub. We spotted each other, ended up kissing without even speaking, had sex in a park then went our separate ways after swapping land line numbers. We are still together and happily married today. We equally had an attraction and then built on getting to know each other over time. We have a brilliant sex life still in our 50’s. It’s sad to hear young people now struggle to make connections and maintain relationships. It’s such a basic human instinct and need like food and oxygen. Like most things now people make too much of a big deal about it. If you fancy someone just go for it and be more proactive. Try and meet in real life situations and forget the Apps ❤
That is a nice anecdote, but I doubt that was even common back then let alone today.
Thats feels like it is/was a 1 in a million experience. Some cant even dream about something like that.
So your advice for women is to have sex with a guy straight after ''meeting'' him?
You should be a Hollywood Rom Com screenwriter
Back then as today, what you did, i..e meeting a man in a nightclub, kissing him without even having spoken, and going out to have sex in the park, ends up in 99,999% in just that : a random Saturday night out hook-up. Not in marriage. Your anecdotal case is thus so rare that it should not be even mentioned. You would not want your daughter to start trying to meet men like that, for sure. Forgetting the apps, is one thing for sure, but hooking-up randomly with total strangers is even worse than the apps.
I dream of being a house husband, it's very hard to find a partner who will work to support "us' like it was in the 70s & 80s, she can go off to work 40 hour weeks while I keep the home in check, dream come true...
The main problem being one salary can't support one person these days, let alone two people... let alone two people and some kids.
Where does it all end ?
I wish there were more men like you my age. I haven't met any guy so far who would be comfortable with being a house husband while I go out to work 40 hrs, which I'd really like. Heck, I haven't even met any guys who'd be willing to be the stay at home parent even one day a week--they think parenting their own kids is emasculating or something smh.
It's a good analogy that porn has sedated men against women but an even better one I think is it's inoculated them against women
"playing the game" is absolutely pointless,homie... ignore em and live your life. If you gotta rub 1 out,do that then go back to doing your own thing that makes YOU happy in life.😒💯💯💯🤷🏾♂️
Stephens ability to facilitate a conversation is second to none. He should be interviewing presidents.
I asked my husband out and he' did not pick up on my direct signals before that lol
Some people don't want to meet strangers in a bar lol
Cause your signals were not direct. I get it girls don't want to be seen as slutty so your signals are weak and most men just think you are being nice. We call it being forward but I think it's just being honest. We all need to learn to get offended by actions not words.
Hahaha direct signals hahahahaha
You're clearly sending signals on the wrong frequency if he didn't acknowledge or recieved it 😅
@@illustrious1 Direct meaning that time she showed delight in a common interest. Why didn't that idiot pick up on it?!
Commendable action. So glad it worked out well for you in the end
Men are afraid to approach women, and I love it. All I need to do is just talk to any guy I like. I will say anything that crosses my mind, anything! Then on our first official date, they usually say to me : "I don't normally approach women, but with you it was different". They don't even realize I made it easy for them.
Kudos to you. You're doing exactly what needs to happen. As a man, we're told not to chase and be clingy. And let's be honest, sometimes we just miss the hints so we don't pursue. If the woman immediately bypasses the most difficult barrier for a man, we can then lead and be in our masculine frame from then on in the relationship knowing without a shred of doubt that she's into us. If more women pursued first, that would fix many of the issues in today's dating landscape. Not all of them, obviously, but it would still help.
Well.. women are selectors. Now you have full control (since men are emasculated, sedated and under patriarchal control) to choose who you like. The balls in your court. The rest of the dudes… tough luck on their genes passing to the next generation.
You guys control the market because you’re technically the shoppers. Men competing over women and them selecting is natural, but in this emasculated state, by all means.
The problem is most women won’t do what you will. Lol We’re all kinds of screwed.
As a man if you approach a woman and she doesn’t like what she sees, isn’t in the mood, or having a bad day…. He’s going straight to jail.
Its social engineering to keep us down as a bunch of pussies a ultimately so we don’t reproduce and create families. We are meant to approach and lead. But through the media, films and articles masculinity is frowned upon and they try to make us ashamed of being a man and do basic things like a respectfully approaching a woman
Use your privilege responsibly, please.
Nobody knows what the social rules are anymore.They also don't know how to behave like adults. Not all the women approached by Weinstien capitulated, there's always a costs for holding your ground in situations involving powerful men with influence.I fully agree with Chris on the young male hypothesis I would also add drugs like marijuana to the list of sedatives.Brave new world stuff.
Truth be told, I just never know what women are available. I mean sure, you could just spray and pray dates at every woman in your vicinity but that kinda builds a bad rep for you. Focus your efforts towards a couple and you find out like, at least 80% of them are taken. I still try of course, but it's just never been easy.
Good luck out there champ...Just remember, you missed the golden era of dating pre social media and internet, and you are now blessed with the struggle that is courting/dating the modern woman. Enjoy.
Precisely... Women don't not have boyfriends; they have catalogues, they 'monkeybranch'..... The question is: Are you the guy she's going to 'monkeybranch' on to?
Yeah, if Chris looked like Ron Jeremy I bet he would have a very different outlook about society and dating. Thing are objectively skewed against men, doesn't take effort to notice.
The head of a Kent Law firm was (on 19 June 24) suspended from acting as a solicitor for two years for having consensual sex with an employee. So, approaching a woman in work is now longer possible. Thirty years ago most people met their long-term sexual partner at work. So what's left? dating apps; they are a shit show. So where do people meet each other? The less contact men and women have the worse the interactions become. No wonder young men are opting out. BTW, I'm retired, so I'm not in the game.
can't stand williamsons pseudo-intellictual broscience theories............
I generally like his podcast guests but his incessant need to nickname basic ideas with his own made up terms is pretty infuriating.
‘I came up with this theory the other day called:
“The Paradox of Starvation Prevention within Compelled Conditions”.
It seys: “individuals who are hungry whilst working for an employer are unable eat whenever they like and must relieve this ancient drive within approved temporal windows, despite the superficial nature of workplace rules/culture when compared to the ancient and integral need for sustenance when starving’
‘… Chris, did you just word salad Lunchbreaks…?’
‘… uhhhh n- no no, it’s the “Paradox of-‘
‘Oh for Christ’s sake shut up man!’
It’s always been difficult to approach women, I remember 40 years ago encouraging a friend to approach a woman in a bar, it went like this, him “Hi I …..”, her “F*ck off you little creep”, 😂here’s a tip for anyone really struggling, play the numbers game, ask 15 women across different bars or clubs for their phone number, almost all will decline, some of them rudely, but one or two of them will give you their number , don’t be drunk, just be kind and friendly, used to work all the time for me back in the day, but it only works if you make the effort to ask!, so in short 1.ask, 2.numbers.
thankfully I have been happily married for years so haven’t had to bother but just saying, it’s always been difficult to meet someone, today’s struggles are nothing new.
I would have said to her after her insult, I am here asking if you have finished cleaning the toilets yet, not to try and pick you up.
1:28 : You can put that on an experiment on your channel and see if does work.
I don’t think I have much experiential overlap with this guy considering he’s basically a male model 😂😅
There's no fear of approaching women, we just know the downside when we do and why risk it when you been there more times than you want to admit.
You have to bring something to the table as men and women but many modern woman aren't offering much at the moment other than access to sex(which eventually stops or dwindles anyway) just a shopping list of expectations and demands.
Whatever difficulties you think you are facing in talking to women and relationships, the healthy men's reaction is not to pull back, throw themselves on the floor crying and saying how women are not worth it or the world is cruel etc. You can of course feel certain ways about any situation but you need to start all over and try again, do it better. Thats a fact. I mean does not matter what rejection or humiliation you suffered by evil, heartless ladies you have met before, ultimately it all comes down to the nice women out there waiting to meet kind men. And i am a happily married woman (43) by the way just in case my name does not say. Cheers from Hungary, Eastern Europe
Men aren't crying on the floor. I'm just going to do my own thing.
future divorce.. get into a serious elationshipo for a few years then play the hero, lol.. what a numbhead
Two interviewers with similar haircuts, facial hair, black t-shirts, developed biceps, watches on their left wrists excellent communication skills chatting. One is wearing a neck chain. Good interview ... I'm just saying.
Oh boy... this is going to get juicy. The comments on this video will be gold
men have remained relatively unchanged, even becoming less masculine. Women have done the majority of the changing.
Hosts like this are the problem. Until we acknowledge that women are half of the relationship and bear some accountability, it’ll never get better. Women have to be part of the solution, it’s not just an issue of why aren’t men better.
Super intresting conversation aswell as very good insight.
I always knew i was a "strange" woman. I have no problem making the first move 🤣
Steve, I’m so glad that you corrected him on the Harvey situation because he is a monster! 😮 who would want to entertain a man like that?
How about. How can women do better. A guy coming to talk has become a risk, even if your decent.
Repeat after me guys. It’s all his fault.
It's very simple math - there is little to no ROI. What's more, potential negatives abound.
The pendulum has swung too far left, woman need to give men a place, we can't do it all ladies, we need a good quality man.
Absolutely cringe conversation by two Forrest Gumps.
Hahahahaha 😂
It’s not the details it’s the INTENTION, are you intentionally a creep or not. Women can suss this out usually well because we have to for survival. See what happens when we say no to a man it leads to brutal insults or at worst physical injury or loss of life. Most women are not able to say no. When we do say no it’s because we have made about 1000 calculations in our head that it’s safe to do so that we can walk away with our lives in tact. We don’t owe every man our time and body - why is this hard for men to accept?
Because it's takes away sexual access or "mating opportunities" as Scott Galloway says.
@@rejectionisprotection4448 gross
@@rejectionisprotection4448 this is not talking about humanity this phrasing to talk about animals - yes humans are mammals but we do have more complexity… leave it to dudes to simplify it in basic very basic science they really know nothing about besides laymen’s terms.
@@dalmalifemore I used it deliberately because ultimately it's sex (and its cousins ie status, dominance, control etc) which underpins all of men's actions towards women. Scott Galloway's continued use of that phrase really irked me and now I realise it was because he was doing it deliberately to dehumanise women.
@@rejectionisprotection4448 exactly all these responses by men dehumanize women so it’s easier to treat us badly if we are not seen as human - via studies and stats that are probably created by men via “scientific” babble.
The defeatist attitude a lot of young guys have around relationships does not bode well. There are too many excuses and generalisations that are becoming beliefs.
You create your reality.
"You create your reality" You might want to think about that phrase.
For men, afraid to approach women, you need to approach all women and all situations without outcome in mind. You’ll learn how to make conversation and develop the proper physical stature to have a good communication with a woman then you can step it up to a pressure situation, where you’re actually trying to get somewhere with a potential mate
Not tryna get locked up or lose everything I own ...
Chris is right about the prescription but there are nearly zero chances to practice with girls outside Instagram
Hey Chris! I think you and Thai Talk with Dan should talk! He is so lovely! You will like him, I promise!
Absolutely spot in.... Motivation sadly also gone from men... Porn/video games /social media not helpful here!
He talked about Weinstein not even knowing the details of that monster's actions! And compared him to Bill Gates 😖
Risk mitigation,
Why bother,
Life is nothing without risk.
Bro only 2 times. I dont believe that. Some nights at the club I have 3 or 4 girls come up and talk to me. Sometimes they come and introduce themselves, Sometimes they just come and sit right next to you and not say anything or stand and stare at you hoping you will say something.
If you are tall and good looking they night find it charming. If not, you will be called a creep at best, reported for harassment if you are unlucky.
And women will always be believed, especially since metoo. It's simply not worth it.
And when you go on a dating app its even worse. Women made this problem.
1:00 What a ridiculous strawman. Chris is usually smart, what happened?
He only appears smart.... He's not that smart at all. BUT IF HE IS, he actually has no honor. Just cowardly. To say things like it actually is. But he's scared.
@@asparrow9876 I'm guessing he was "hiding his powerlevel" in front of this guy.
@@AkiRa22084 LMFAOOO
I'm lonely I wish I had a wife.
Williamson shockingly downplays Weinstein's criminal behaviour by saying "He had no boundaries." Stopped listening to anything else he has to say.
I don't think he was downplaying, just stating it somewhat facetiously. I don't think too many people including Chris would ever think any of what he did was anything short of being a despicable creep
@@RichardHartl If Weinstein was good looking there would have never been a #metoo movement. Be real.
Do you think Williamson should know everything?
Sandbox approach anxiety: Kind of nasty prospects for people who are over 34 and Didn’t technically learn this
So, most of the time rejection puts us on our rightful path. Thus, random approaching can only work if both people's eyes connect or if there is love at first sight - a strange feeling of knowing. But for the most part, NOT EVERYONE IS FOR EVERYONE.
I'm one of those who didn't intend to not be a parent, OR find myself divorced in my early 40's and no longer trusting of online dating, which seem to have an overwhelming amount of people who are NOT looking for an actual long-term committed relationship, or there are red flag disturbing characteristics.
So, it seems that I've now programmed myself to believe that I'm unworthy due to self-identified barriers which may have shut out the few who might be interested beyond the shallow.
Plus, I've now entered my 6th decade, albeit a fairly youthful 60, and the options are increasingly less viable.
Fuk, she says. 🙃
Thank goodness for a sense of humour, good friends/neighbours, and the neighbour's dog which I take for walks. 💖 Lol
just be super attractive and tall, and ultra wealthy. super easy
At first i liked this video, then i watched it.Approaching women is really not very fun anymore...
I wonder if this pertains to those living in London? Curious.