WHY WOULD AN ALTER EGO BE CLINICAL? SHE DIDN'T SAY A DISSOCIATIVE PERSONALITY, SCHIZOPHRENIA, ETC....BEYONCE LITERALLY HAS SASHA FIERCE AS AN ALTER EGO, EMINEM HAS SLIM SHADY, NICKI MINAJ HAS ROMAN POLANSKI...ETC. LIGHTHEN UP
@@semiramisbonaparte1627 the use of these kinds of alter egos harm ppl with clinical illnesses whether or not theyre performative and makes it harder for ppl with clinical illnesses to live in peace AND WAY HARDER for ACTUAL persecutors to fucking change and th term "alter" shouldnt even be used like this stfu
Some people do have actual alter egos but this woman does not. You cannot just change whenever you want, it is a thing caused by a negative or emotional thing happening to the person. I don’t have it myself but I have done numerous research as I am so interested in it. Sometimes, some people may be able to communicate with their alter egos if they are at the front. Not as much as this mum does though! Just a thought, if she does has it, then I’m sorry but my research disagrees!
which is so silly because all the systems in the internet world talk about system responsability. I guess that's something worked on in therapy because it's kind of hard to be held accountable for others action but still... Same body=same responsability, same as you apologies when your close friend/family messes up!
@@fibonaccisequins4637 I didn't talk about DID either, no controversies here ^^. I said system as a generic word to refer to someone having more than one single "self" aka a person + 1 alter ego, which is what they claim that lady has... :/ Not all systems have confirmed DID diagnosis, there is more than one disorder causing dissociation issues from what I heard ;)
There a shit tone of these monstermoms i have one of my own (she doesnt wants me to marry my bf, or having kids with him and stuff like that) but the thing is most people need to learn to cut them out of their life and start living theyll only trap you down
This mom is ridiculous, can you imagine growing up with a mom like that? She does something horrible to you and then turns around and blames it on some "alter ego" . horrible.
Yeah I bet whenever the mother said anything bad oh it's tawanda, it's usually called gaslighting this is just so awful to watch someone being bullied like that 🤬🤬🤬🤬
Sure, there are people with multiple personalities. It is called Dissociative Identity Disorder DID and it is very different to what is being seen here. This is just someone playing a role and trying not to be responsible for her actions. Every system will at least cringe when they see this. No system deserves to be compared with that woman putting on her alter ego show
When her mom threatened to bring out her bad side that made me want to punch her in the face. You don't threaten your daughter so that she'll get the wedding dress you want. She deserves the worst mother of the year award. It's her daughter's wedding not hers. It's her job to support her daughter not to boss her around
Cat M I think she has been drinking bong water. Alter ego?? Hmmmm, an excuse to open her mouth without responsibility for hurting her daughter. Nasty!!
I don't think she's faking it, she's like anyone else that says they have an alter ego but that's just what they call themselves when they want to get away with saying mean things. I just think they're making more out of it. She's just rude and they give her a pass when they dang well shouldn't.
@@samaryechic people with DID can’t switch their Alters on command she is clearly faking it, she’s just using an Alter ego as an Excuse to get away with being rude. She doesn’t have DID
@@sunsetdots19 I'm not disagreeing, she DOESN'T have it. But I also don't think she's referencing a DID alter, but an alter ego like I mentioned in another comment. All in all, she's pretending so that her bad behaviour is excused. Neither is ok.
“It’s my alter ego towanda!” No that’s called dissociating from your bad behaviour by claiming it’s an alter ego so you don’t have to feel guilty for being a bad person
@@tstarr8314 they don’t being dissociating like the mental process but dissociation as in separating herself from her actions. Dissociate doesn’t always mean the former option
@@deidremontrose4379 that’s a disgusting thing to say. There are plenty terrible things about their personalities. picking on their bodies is lazy grasping at low hanging fruit
Towanda is a reference to the movie Fried Green Tomatoes where "Towanda" is meant to be you true, authentic self, free of expectations. Beautiful movie, so touching..But this? This is not Towanda, this is psycho in the most literal terms possible. The only kind of fitting part is when in the movie the main character takes Towanda the wrong way as well at first, and purposefully runs into somebody's car 9 times after they make fun of her..She seems like she'd do it.
That's an abusive mother, she put on a different name to abuse her daughter and make her associate the name to the abuser... But mom, mom is mom, not twanda so I can still love her. That's super manipulative and disgusting, that lady shouldn't be a mother
"To Wanda" was an inspiring quote/words whatever from Fried Gteen Tomatoes that was supposed to be about positive women empowerment. This mom has made it a nasty alter ego.
The fact that the mum doesn’t even dissociate between “switches” sets off red flags for me. Her voice doesn’t change nor do her mannerisms. My gut feeling is that she’s using it as an excuse to be cruel
She doesn't have DID, but created her own little alter ego, like you said, as an excuse to be cruel and also to distance herself from the bad person she is.
The mum is just being a silly twit she knows exactly what she's doing, acting crazy, no disorders these just her way of being "cute" (pain in the ass I meant) about how she has no filter or manners
Someone else said she looked like a pill popper. I can believe it. She didn't put any effort into her appearance, looked like she'd just rolled out of bed and threw on the clothes from the day before.
This woman doesn’t have a personality disorder; she clearly made up the “Towanda” character. People who have a personality disorder have no control of change of personality.
Yes! I have DID, and although I can try to talk to my alters and ask if they’d like to present themselves, they don’t usually do it if you ask? Its a trigger kinda thing, positive or negative. I would NEVER use my alters to get what I want, that is purely vile and disgusting, and paints those with real DID in a bad light
Ankita Roy Narcissistic Personality Disorder with delusions. These delusions are not psychosis like schizophrenia, but delusions that come about when a person convinces themselves of something. Think of it as like when a person lies to themselves to the point where they begin to believe their own lie. Narcissists often have mild delusions of grandeur because they convince themselves of their own self-importance to the point where it distorts their reality. The ending of “repressing Towanda” seemed like a mixture of a last-ditch effort to get her to pick the dress she liked, as well as attention-seeking. That being said, some people DO actually have “alternate personalities” that are actually psychotic delusions. They aren’t faking their symptoms, it’s just not coming from Dissociative Identity Disorder. You see this in patients on the schizophrenia spectrum, as well as Bipolar Type 1, which comes with psychotic features. Source: Studied personality disorders, specifically Cluster B Personality Disorders (like Narcissism).
It just a way to manipulate others. There is no “other personality “ it is all her. She says it it’s someone else so she can be as nasty and controlling as she wants without consequence.
@Pine Trees she doesnt. People with personality disorders have no control over when they switch. "Towanda" is a sad excuse to be toxic to het daughter and anyone around her.
I see your point but you can be a lot more polite about it than comparing her to a sausage. A bride doesn't need that extra negativity, especially one with already low self esteem!
Who gives a flower what that mom thinks? Her mom just invented that other personality to explain her cruelty towards people. She is just an ugly person, no need to bring out that T friend of hers
The bride: “Towanda and I disagree on just about everything!” My brain instantly: You mean “My mom and I”, stop enabling her toxicity and abusive tendencies that she blames on some fake personality to brush off the abuse like it isn’t her fault.
@@kesiasajji7345 I do think that if someone has DID it should be taken seriously. I know I cannot speak to the truth of this situation, but I know there are certain mothers out there who make life a living hell for their children. The mother may actually have mental challenges or disabilities that caused this to happen, but she may also just be using this as an excuse to treat her daughter poorly. Many mothers or other family members choose to treat those in their family badly for various reasons. So it isn’t unheard of; we just don’t really know the nature of the relationship and we aren’t perfectly aware of the facts of the situation.
@@hayleephillips7409 from what I've read and seen online, people with DID can't switch their personalities like that on their own will. You can't threaten to do something that is not in your control. But she's clearly threatening her daughter to do what she wants in the name of "Towanda"...
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That poor bride has a nightmare for a mother. All the Mom did was laugh at her and pretend that she had this alter personality. I'm glad that the bride stood her ground.
No wonder the bride is overweight. She had to have something to cling to with this mother in her life. I sinscerely hope she will go to live somewhere else with her husband, somewhere far away from the mother and be happy at last.
I HAD ONE JUST LIKE HER. NEVER HEARD AN ENCOURAGING WORD FROM HER. IF I WAS INSECURE SHE WOULD COMMENT CONSTANTLY ON MY INSECURITIES, N FEED THEM ALL. THEN, ONE DAY SHE DIED. AND I LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER... 😏
This mother is pure evil OUT OF SPITE. She should have left her mother home. She would have had a better experience picking dresses out. The mother is childish and making fun of mental health, which is no joke.
Amanda Fogg TLC tells the guests who to bring, an unknown thing about the show, they tell you who you can and can’t bring on the show (for the most drama)
[ Please read the replies first before replying, thank you.] “ Don't make me bring out Towanda” Instantly proved that the alter ego is a fake excuse to be toxic. Because people with personality disorders/alters can't control the switches. *I rest my case.*
I agree, however it actually is common for someone who suffers from DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) to be able to “summon” their alters. Usually this only happens when they are in a stressful situation though. However, like I said before, I do agree with you because that is definitely unusual behavior if she really does have a personality disorder.
@@khaotics3663 , Of course, I know about that! Triggers! Something as simple as a person speaking ill of them can bring back some bad memories, causing an episode of DID. Or positive triggers when an alter fronts because they heard the music they like to play! Which are both still bad for you because you shouldn't force yourself to dissociate, it can cause headaches, memory loss and such. So It wouldn't be just switching alters like a light switch as she makes it seem. Thanks for being so nice about your reply! :)
That Towanda crap is just a bunch of bull. She uses her "alto ego" to bully her daughter into getting what she wants and it just pisses me off. She should not be able to act like that towards her own daughter. They shouldn't have to add stuff to make the parents like the dress. If this were to happen to me, I would just say screw you. This is my choice. You don't get to body-shame me and bully me into getting what YOU want.
When you grow up with that type of abuse, you hunker down and take the hits to survive until the next episode. My honey is pulling me out of that type of situation. I didn't even see it clearly until he started pointing it out to me and insisting I put distance between my family and myself.
That poor girl! It’s her special day, not her moms. She needs to his hand be supportive. When my daughter got married she made me promise to tell her honestly if something was unflattering. I didn’t have to do that- she already knew what looked good and what didn’t. When she put on the dress that she ultimately chose, I teared up. She saw my face before she got a good look at herself and said “It’s that good?” I just shrugged and said see for yourself. She turned around and loved it. It was a special moment.
I don’t get why the rest of the party validates “Towanda” as if the mom has DID. Like no, she’s just using this “character” as an excuse to be annoying. She’s acting like a child. If she did have DID that would be different but clearly that’s not what’s happening
@@sagastjerneklev6111 I wouldn't go that far, loads of people have alter egos look at drag queens. Most people have 2 sides to them like when your angry or when your calm people act very differently.
@@SH-fz9dy Dissociative Identity Disorder is where you have multiple separate personalities, but cannot often control when you 'switch.' I can absolutely see how this is offensive to someone with this illness.
they need to start just ignoring the "alter ego". don't give her a reaction, treat her like she's exactly the same when "towanda" is out. if it doesn't accomplish its goal she'll stop doing it.
It's really disgusting that they gave her bitchy side a name. It's not a different person, it's you not wanting to let go of the control you have on your daughter.
I think they did it to make her look like a joke, which she is as well as to hopefully embarrase the crap out of her for her behavior, like honestly she's acting like a 5 year old
god bless the editors i can’t stop laughing at this. like the way they inverted her to look like the alter ego is a different person and the evil laughs has me dying
No offence; I don’t really care who the family member is, if the bride likes it, wear it. The amount of influence from family members is kind of ridiculous
What an appalling woman!😡 The disrespect she showed her daughter (&all present) is sick. The mother wants all the attention and is out to diminish her daughter. It should’ve been a wonderful day for her daughter but instead she had to trash it.
in these kinds of mental disorders, alter egos are actually different people with a different name, personality, and style. But I'm 100% sure Towanda is fake anyways. People can't control their alter egos.
True, but she could have blended in some kindness with her honesty. " That IS a pretty dress, but I think we need to look at a variety of styles as I don't think that this particular dress is the best one for you" . I can't imagine laughing at a bride to be when she is trying on dresses. 😒😣
Ok fake alter ego excuses aside, help me figure out the logic: Is this YOUR daughter or "towanda's" daughter? Who the heck cares what Towanda thinks in this situation?
I get so sick of all these mother’s who expect the daughter to buy a dress they want instead of what the daughter wants. Sheesh, grow up already it’s NOT your wedding dress.
My mom did that to me, picked my dress for my wedding. 😑😑 Horrible dress!! I will never forget. It's not love what this lady did to her daughter, she's abusive
The clothes the bride's mom was wearing is beyond revolting. If my mother ever dressed like that ( thank God she doesn't), I wouldn't even have her present while I'm picking my wedding gown.
It’s more about being jealous about seeing the daughter beautiful and confident, some mothers just gotta take them down a few pegs to make themselves feel better about being old
Towanda is in Fried Green Tomatoes. She's literally an out lit for a suppressed woman who finds out how to stand up for herself and better herself as a human. The mother is using it as an excuse to be a bully and control her daughter. Trash
I don't know why some of the people on these shows say such cruel things to each other when they try on dresses. I don't see this with the Asian bridal shows that I watch. Those customers try to be more tactful.
I'm sorry but to say you have a alter ego to cover up the fact that you're just outright rude is wrong on so many levels! The day is about your daughter not YOU! I'm glad she was able to find her dress that she wanted not what her mother wanted.
After watching several dozens of these videos, I can't believe how many supposedly adult women can't come up with their own decision of what they like. We have three daughters and when they announced their engagements, we gave them a cash gift and told them the choices were theirs.
I was expecting her to suddenly have an "urban" accent. Tbh, I was disappointed that they had to resort to a voice filter to differentiate between these two so-called egos.
You could tell the mother was going to be a problem the first moment when she had that pissy look on her face. Then when she opened her mouth with the Tawanda nonsense, that just confirmed the worst. My advice to the groom: move your wife at lest 15 hours drive away from the in laws and don’t ever let them around the kids.
Tracy Edmonson the name is a common name amongst black women that was used in the movie. I know a lot of women with that name that were definitely born before that movie.
Her “alter ego” is not clinical, it’s an excuse to misbehave
WHY WOULD AN ALTER EGO BE CLINICAL? SHE DIDN'T SAY A DISSOCIATIVE PERSONALITY, SCHIZOPHRENIA, ETC....BEYONCE LITERALLY HAS SASHA FIERCE AS AN ALTER EGO, EMINEM HAS SLIM SHADY, NICKI MINAJ HAS ROMAN POLANSKI...ETC. LIGHTHEN UP
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@@semiramisbonaparte1627 why are you shouting? Chill with the all caps.
@@semiramisbonaparte1627 their alter egos are perfomative, this woman’s one is just to have bad behavior and get away with it
@@semiramisbonaparte1627 the use of these kinds of alter egos harm ppl with clinical illnesses whether or not theyre performative and makes it harder for ppl with clinical illnesses to live in peace AND WAY HARDER for ACTUAL persecutors to fucking change and th term "alter" shouldnt even be used like this stfu
honestly the 'alter ego' is just an excuse for being toxic
I think so too....I feel bad for the poor girl having an abusive mother
I know this is off-topic but that profile pic is 👌
I am the 666th liker-
Aki Zuki fitting to the video much?
@@lucky._starzz_ ye it was unrelated sorry 😂
“Alter ego”= I don’t want to take responsibility for being abusive.
100%
say it louder for the people in the back
Some people do have actual alter egos but this woman does not. You cannot just change whenever you want, it is a thing caused by a negative or emotional thing happening to the person. I don’t have it myself but I have done numerous research as I am so interested in it. Sometimes, some people may be able to communicate with their alter egos if they are at the front. Not as much as this mum does though! Just a thought, if she does has it, then I’m sorry but my research disagrees!
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@@Starlight-rb3sp that’s a disorder it’s not called an alter ego it’s multiple personality
The editor really did everything they could to make towanda look like a joke. I love it. I hope she reflected a lot on her behavior when this aired.
Tawanda is this mom's manipulative way of abusing others without being held accountable for her actions.
which is so silly because all the systems in the internet world talk about system responsability. I guess that's something worked on in therapy because it's kind of hard to be held accountable for others action but still... Same body=same responsability, same as you apologies when your close friend/family messes up!
@@annabees no one even said that this woman has DID
@@fibonaccisequins4637 I didn't talk about DID either, no controversies here ^^. I said system as a generic word to refer to someone having more than one single "self" aka a person + 1 alter ego, which is what they claim that lady has... :/ Not all systems have confirmed DID diagnosis, there is more than one disorder causing dissociation issues from what I heard ;)
@@annabees they didn’t say she had any damn disorder 🙄
@@fibonaccisequins4637 what do you understand in "alter ego" ? (honest question)
“don’t make me bring out Towanda” that’s just manipulative and disgusting. it’s the bride’s day not that poor excuse of a mother
That reminds me of my dad said
*"Don't make me bring out the belt"
It made me cringe, as someone with DID I cant just, threaten to use my alters like that! Thats so wrong, and NOT how it works lol
It kinda proves she probably doesn’t have DID and is using it as an excuse because that’s not how alters work
There a shit tone of these monstermoms i have one of my own (she doesnt wants me to marry my bf, or having kids with him and stuff like that) but the thing is most people need to learn to cut them out of their life and start living theyll only trap you down
You do know this show is not for real?
This mom is ridiculous, can you imagine growing up with a mom like that? She does something horrible to you and then turns around and blames it on some "alter ego" . horrible.
Yeah I bet whenever the mother said anything bad oh it's tawanda, it's usually called gaslighting this is just so awful to watch someone being bullied like that 🤬🤬🤬🤬
But sometimes people do have multiple/ split personality.
Sure, there are people with multiple personalities. It is called Dissociative Identity Disorder DID and it is very different to what is being seen here. This is just someone playing a role and trying not to be responsible for her actions. Every system will at least cringe when they see this. No system deserves to be compared with that woman putting on her alter ego show
I don’t know if my mom actually has the split personality thing but she does get like that sometimes
@@nicoleweber4994 thank you ❤ your explanation is on point 👍
When her mom threatened to bring out her bad side that made me want to punch her in the face. You don't threaten your daughter so that she'll get the wedding dress you want. She deserves the worst mother of the year award. It's her daughter's wedding not hers. It's her job to support her daughter not to boss her around
And it's honestly insulting to people with real DID or mental illnesses. It's not a joke!
@@bellerain381 she could have did and is extremely manipulative, sounds like she had a spiritual and mental illness of some sort
Who else thinks “Towanda” is just an excuse to say terrible things and get away with it?
Absolutely. If this were legitimate she would go from personality to personality without and not be aware.
Me
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"Don't make me bring Towanda out."
Yeah right, she just wants to control the bride's choice of dress.
Geekling Girl literally
Whoever did the editing on this video deserves a pay raise - I legitimately almost spat my drink out when the devil voice came in
ME TOO OMG 😂
And the switching from "good mom" to "bad mom" was epic
Too over the top in my opinion! XD
@@sirjana8955 it's a way of bullying her daughter and getting away with it. Claiming that her "alter ego" did it.
Piper Lee ikr?
“Don’t make me bring out Tawanda” sounds like an abuser saying “don’t make me hit you”. Disgusting use of “””DID”””” to be a terrible person.
People with DID can’t control switches. This woman is disgusting she needs therapy. I feel bad for the daughter she doesn’t deserve this.
That is really awful of that “mom” to do. I agree with you and your amazing username!
She definitely needs therapy she is making fun of DID it's "don't make me .." statements are definitely those of abusers.
🤣 I just saw Evelyn hitting that slug bug over and over when tawanda was mentioned.
That is not did, that is someone who has named the negative part of her personality as a sort of excuse
The editing for this was hilarious but no mom should ever treat her daughter like this, watching this made me sad and laugh at the same time.
Mom is rude, disrespectful, unkempt, and looks like she’s drunk.
A WHOLE drunk 😂😂😂😂😂
I was thinking the same thing. Absolutely horrid.
Stop ✋🏼 😂😂😂
This drunken mother has watched Fried green tomatoes one too many times. She needs to be slapped.
Cat M I think she has been drinking bong water. Alter ego?? Hmmmm, an excuse to open her mouth without responsibility for hurting her daughter. Nasty!!
It's not an alter ego. It's mom being a two year old to get her own way when she has no right to. It's a label on the bullying of her child.
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From seeing people with real alters, this is so right
mhm
Thank you! Agreed!!! I am offended on behalf of people with actual DID. It's not an excuse to act like a spoiled toddler!
The mom is so rude and disgusting. AND she’s faking DID. What a horrible human
DID?
@@nataliethoresen4127 It stands for dissociative Identity disorder
I don't think she's faking it, she's like anyone else that says they have an alter ego but that's just what they call themselves when they want to get away with saying mean things. I just think they're making more out of it. She's just rude and they give her a pass when they dang well shouldn't.
@@samaryechic people with DID can’t switch their Alters on command she is clearly faking it, she’s just using an Alter ego as an Excuse to get away with being rude. She doesn’t have DID
@@sunsetdots19 I'm not disagreeing, she DOESN'T have it. But I also don't think she's referencing a DID alter, but an alter ego like I mentioned in another comment. All in all, she's pretending so that her bad behaviour is excused. Neither is ok.
I love the editing, the demon voice, and the fact that when shes being toxic, the change the brides mom’s name to towanda. 🤣
LMAOAOAOAO
I really hate how everyone was playing into this alter ego. I would ignore that’s shit so hard
Imagine being raised by a person like that. Also, I agree!
agree - very sad idea who came up with it to make it the focus of this particular show 🙄
Right !! That drove me crazy
She sets it up as a threat, which is not to be catered to.
It made me really uncomfortable.
“It’s my alter ego towanda!”
No that’s called dissociating from your bad behaviour by claiming it’s an alter ego so you don’t have to feel guilty for being a bad person
PERIOD!
It's not even dissociating. It's just straight up abuse.
@@tstarr8314 they don’t being dissociating like the mental process but dissociation as in separating herself from her actions. Dissociate doesn’t always mean the former option
These girl@ s hold lose weighth
@@deidremontrose4379 that’s a disgusting thing to say. There are plenty terrible things about their personalities. picking on their bodies is lazy grasping at low hanging fruit
whoever edited this needs a raise the sound effects SENT MEEEE
@Cat & Billi in this sentence what she said was right
@Cat & Billi nope....her grammar was correct 🙃😊
@Cat & Billi Double check her sentence, Please. 😁
IKRR I'm dying. They didn't have to do all that!
@Cat & Billi No, sorry :)
Towanda is a reference to the movie Fried Green Tomatoes where "Towanda" is meant to be you true, authentic self, free of expectations. Beautiful movie, so touching..But this? This is not Towanda, this is psycho in the most literal terms possible. The only kind of fitting part is when in the movie the main character takes Towanda the wrong way as well at first, and purposefully runs into somebody's car 9 times after they make fun of her..She seems like she'd do it.
It's not "psycho" it's someone faking mental illness stop using psycho as a term for anything that pisses u off
Face it girls...I'm older and I have more insurance....
"don't make me bring out Towanda." is one of the most loudest trumpets for abuse I have ever heard
Fr I thought she was talking about a bat when she said, “Towanda.” 💀
Yup. She actually invented a different person so she could be nasty and blame it on someone else if held accountable. What a piece of shit
„Towanda“ is from the movie.... „Fried Green Tomatoes“ from 1991
Typical Karen,poorly educated trumpet😂
the fact that they even put “Towanda” on the interviews actually made me cry of laughter-
They even put a filter over her voice wth😂
Right lol
This “Towanda” episode may be my all time favorite. Oh my gosh I was dying laughing!
Sameeeee 😂
@@breemarie5264 😂😂😂😂😂
That's an abusive mother, she put on a different name to abuse her daughter and make her associate the name to the abuser... But mom, mom is mom, not twanda so I can still love her. That's super manipulative and disgusting, that lady shouldn't be a mother
I dont know how her dougher is so sweet having a Mother like this
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I also love the irony of how a lot of the moms will insult the bride’s weight when they aren’t exactly the skinniest either...
Is ‘Towanda’ a reference to Fried Green Tomato’s?
I know I felt so bad for her. 🥺
"To Wanda" was an inspiring quote/words whatever from Fried Gteen Tomatoes that was supposed to be about positive women empowerment. This mom has made it a nasty alter ego.
The effects and monty's "she is here" had me 😂😂
Saaaaaame 😂
The editors had fun with this one😂
It was hilarious!
The voice effect and the separate nametag for “Towanda” had me rolling😭
😂😂 I saw this comment before the video started...I was not expecting that 😂❤️
The editors really had a field day with this one
fr i think they had to chug a few bottles to stay sane lmao
Ikr🤣
LMAOOO
Imagine if they made her a meme tho 😭
It’s some good editing alright
The fact that the mum doesn’t even dissociate between “switches” sets off red flags for me. Her voice doesn’t change nor do her mannerisms. My gut feeling is that she’s using it as an excuse to be cruel
She doesn't have DID, but created her own little alter ego, like you said, as an excuse to be cruel and also to distance herself from the bad person she is.
She is using an excuse to be cruel
The mum is just being a silly twit she knows exactly what she's doing, acting crazy, no disorders these just her way of being "cute" (pain in the ass I meant) about how she has no filter or manners
Yes it's not an alter ego, it's an attempt to be a total cow and avoid any repercussions
Yup. This isn't DID. This is being cruel
Her friend with the eyeliner was so supportive of her! I’d be really thankful to have a friend like that there
Why are they humouring the mother? The alter ego is just an excuse for her to be rude!
She's incredibly rude and unkind. Thankfully, the bride seems to have a sweet personality.
Exactly, when you blame your immaturity, bad manners and desperate need to be the center of attention on an "alter ego.", you just need to be ignored.
Someone else said she looked like a pill popper. I can believe it. She didn't put any effort into her appearance, looked like she'd just rolled out of bed and threw on the clothes from the day before.
Seriously!!!!!
The mum maybe paying for it also the belt can come off on the day , if it sways mum why not
I hope she cuts ties with her mother. She’s abusive.
she would guilt trip her forever if she did that
@@cerenb7909 Can't be guilt-tripped by someone you have no contact with. That's the beauty of eliminating toxic personalities from your life.
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I totally agree. She's a lovely person and her husband is real cute she needs to get rid of this toxic person asap
This woman doesn’t have a personality disorder; she clearly made up the “Towanda” character. People who have a personality disorder have no control of change of personality.
That's not true it's just harder to keep control
@@litephoenix6000 There are positive and negative triggers to bring particular alters out, but "bringing her out" it's just bs.
Yes! I have DID, and although I can try to talk to my alters and ask if they’d like to present themselves, they don’t usually do it if you ask? Its a trigger kinda thing, positive or negative. I would NEVER use my alters to get what I want, that is purely vile and disgusting, and paints those with real DID in a bad light
Well she does feel like a psychiatric patient.. narcissistic personality disorder maybe ?
Ankita Roy Narcissistic Personality Disorder with delusions.
These delusions are not psychosis like schizophrenia, but delusions that come about when a person convinces themselves of something.
Think of it as like when a person lies to themselves to the point where they begin to believe their own lie.
Narcissists often have mild delusions of grandeur because they convince themselves of their own self-importance to the point where it distorts their reality.
The ending of “repressing Towanda” seemed like a mixture of a last-ditch effort to get her to pick the dress she liked, as well as attention-seeking.
That being said, some people DO actually have “alternate personalities” that are actually psychotic delusions. They aren’t faking their symptoms, it’s just not coming from Dissociative Identity Disorder. You see this in patients on the schizophrenia spectrum, as well as Bipolar Type 1, which comes with psychotic features.
Source: Studied personality disorders, specifically Cluster B Personality Disorders (like Narcissism).
The mom genuinely needs therapy for disassociating from her terrible behavior to get away with it.
it’s upsetting that her mother is pinning her horrible comments and actions on a fake personality, it’s still her mom saying those things ?
Ofc it's the mom towanda is just a name she uses to cover her evil works
It just a way to manipulate others. There is no “other personality “ it is all her. She says it it’s someone else so she can be as nasty and controlling as she wants without consequence.
Thts wht she puts into herself.she is very controlling and have an evil personality
Exactly. She doesn't have a personality disorder, and "Towanda" is just an excuse to be toxic to her daughter.
@Pine Trees she doesnt. People with personality disorders have no control over when they switch. "Towanda" is a sad excuse to be toxic to het daughter and anyone around her.
“Ding Dong towanda’s dead” this is why I love monte😂😂.
he is amazinggggg
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Haha 😂 🤣
She probably means Karen 😩😂
When she said her daughter looked like a sausage my jaw dropped. You can tell the daughter is used to the insults and that's just so sad.
I see your point but you can be a lot more polite about it than comparing her to a sausage. A bride doesn't need that extra negativity, especially one with already low self esteem!
It was so rude. Also, has the mom looked in a mirror recently? If I were her I wouldn’t dare comment on anyone looking heavy or being overweight.
@@prlegal411 yeah her mom looked like gollum from lotr
@Smileyrie.yeppoon You can still be tactful and respectful
I know how rude!
I hate when so many of these mothers just don't seem to care they're ruining their daughters' dress shopping experience.
She came looking to ruin her daughter's special day..and she was just pathetic
Lori and Monte looked ready to fight her
Monte is the second main-side character in this anime
Who gives a flower what that mom thinks? Her mom just invented that other personality to explain her cruelty towards people. She is just an ugly person, no need to bring out that T friend of hers
The bride: “Towanda and I disagree on just about everything!”
My brain instantly: You mean “My mom and I”, stop enabling her toxicity and abusive tendencies that she blames on some fake personality to brush off the abuse like it isn’t her fault.
AMEN!!!
She probably thinks that her mom actually has DID... I mean who would want to ruin their daughter's self esteem like that??
@@kesiasajji7345 I do think that if someone has DID it should be taken seriously. I know I cannot speak to the truth of this situation, but I know there are certain mothers out there who make life a living hell for their children. The mother may actually have mental challenges or disabilities that caused this to happen, but she may also just be using this as an excuse to treat her daughter poorly. Many mothers or other family members choose to treat those in their family badly for various reasons. So it isn’t unheard of; we just don’t really know the nature of the relationship and we aren’t perfectly aware of the facts of the situation.
@@hayleephillips7409 from what I've read and seen online, people with DID can't switch their personalities like that on their own will. You can't threaten to do something that is not in your control. But she's clearly threatening her daughter to do what she wants in the name of "Towanda"...
it was all just so ignorantly stupid
Whoever edited this is the best person ever while watching this then towanda came out and her voice was demonic I choked on my water 😂
HA YOU THOUGHT I WAS GONNA SAY THANK YOU FOR ALL THE LIKES WHEN IM ACTUALLY HERE TO SPILL TEA SOME BITCH STOLE MY EDIT AND I FOUGHT HER ON IG LMAO! SUBSCRIBE TO ME 😂🥴🤠
Haa😂
AHAHAHAHHAHAHA I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING BC THIS EDITING....I CANT
Whoever did that needs a raise 💀😂😂😭😭😭😭I dieddddddd
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That poor bride has a nightmare for a mother. All the Mom did was laugh at her and pretend that she had this alter personality. I'm glad that the bride stood her ground.
Imagine growing up with a mom like that. Poor girl.
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It just bothers me that her mom blames her rudeness on an alter ego.
@@hannahmitchell8683 hi
No wonder the bride is overweight. She had to have something to cling to with this mother in her life.
I sinscerely hope she will go to live somewhere else with her husband, somewhere far away from the mother and be happy at last.
I HAD ONE JUST LIKE HER. NEVER HEARD AN ENCOURAGING WORD FROM HER. IF I WAS INSECURE SHE WOULD COMMENT CONSTANTLY ON MY INSECURITIES, N FEED THEM ALL. THEN, ONE DAY SHE DIED. AND I LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER... 😏
The editor must've had a lot of fun with this episode. (kudos to them they did a great job)
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I was thinking the same thing. They got to make a horror movie 🤣
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Yeah the waterphone really sold it for me lmao
I know right I want more of this in Say Yes to the Dress. Editing is ALWAYS what makes reality tv, for good and bad.
She said her daughter looks like a sausage while looking like an actual potato I can't-
I’m convinced some mothers are straight up jealous of their daughters.
Her mom... Pot calling the kettle black... Mom is not exactly a runway model!
how could she say this to her child? she is not nurturing at all, could you see her picking on her grand children! she is toxic
So close to 666 🤣
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If someone acts like this on national television, imagine what a mother she must have been like.
This mother is pure evil OUT OF SPITE. She should have left her mother home. She would have had a better experience picking dresses out. The mother is childish and making fun of mental health, which is no joke.
She is mental.
Should have left her home? Nope, should have left her at a junkyard somewhere and sold her off to function as the junkyard guard dog.
Amanda Fogg TLC tells the guests who to bring, an unknown thing about the show, they tell you who you can and can’t bring on the show (for the most drama)
@@marionisabelzipperlephd6041 yeah but its not the disorder she's faking
[ Please read the replies first before replying, thank you.]
“ Don't make me bring out Towanda”
Instantly proved that the alter ego is a fake excuse to be toxic. Because people with personality disorders/alters can't control the switches. *I rest my case.*
THANK YOU
Exactly!
Reminder before anyone comments this is copied: It wasn't intentional,
I hadn't seen the other comments
I agree, however it actually is common for someone who suffers from DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) to be able to “summon” their alters. Usually this only happens when they are in a stressful situation though. However, like I said before, I do agree with you because that is definitely unusual behavior if she really does have a personality disorder.
@@khaotics3663 , Of course, I know about that! Triggers! Something as simple as a person speaking ill of them can bring back some bad memories, causing an episode of DID.
Or positive triggers when an alter fronts because they heard the music they like to play!
Which are both still bad for you because you shouldn't force yourself to dissociate, it can cause headaches, memory loss and such.
So It wouldn't be just switching alters like a light switch as she makes it seem.
Thanks for being so nice about your reply! :)
That Towanda crap is just a bunch of bull. She uses her "alto ego" to bully her daughter into getting what she wants and it just pisses me off. She should not be able to act like that towards her own daughter. They shouldn't have to add stuff to make the parents like the dress. If this were to happen to me, I would just say screw you. This is my choice. You don't get to body-shame me and bully me into getting what YOU want.
I think they added a belt so the daughter can remove it when the big day comes. Because she liked the original dress.
@@phoenixwaddell6093 True
You go girl!!
When you grow up with that type of abuse, you hunker down and take the hits to survive until the next episode. My honey is pulling me out of that type of situation. I didn't even see it clearly until he started pointing it out to me and insisting I put distance between my family and myself.
Fried Green Tomatoes movie
That poor girl! It’s her special day, not her moms. She needs to his hand be supportive. When my daughter got married she made me promise to tell her honestly if something was unflattering. I didn’t have to do that- she already knew what looked good and what didn’t. When she put on the dress that she ultimately chose, I teared up. She saw my face before she got a good look at herself and said “It’s that good?” I just shrugged and said see for yourself. She turned around and loved it. It was a special moment.
Everyone, let's take a moment to appreciate both Monte, his crazy sayings such as "Ding dong, Towanda's dead" and the editor.
Yes, the two best parts for sure :)
Evil spirits are now breaking into the wedding industry now and monty WILL CRUSH THEM
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Not just Monty but also Randy and Gok.
True very true
Randy, Lori, and Monty will destroy the bitchy Moms of weddings
Monty: Bridal Consultant/Exorcist Extraordinaire
I don’t get why the rest of the party validates “Towanda” as if the mom has DID. Like no, she’s just using this “character” as an excuse to be annoying. She’s acting like a child. If she did have DID that would be different but clearly that’s not what’s happening
Exactly what I was thinking! This mothers acting feels like a hit in the face for the DID community
It looks like mama is paying for the dress because she's the one who spoke about the budget. Otherwise they wouldn't have to listen to her.
Narcissist
@@sagastjerneklev6111 I wouldn't go that far, loads of people have alter egos look at drag queens. Most people have 2 sides to them like when your angry or when your calm people act very differently.
@@SH-fz9dy Dissociative Identity Disorder is where you have multiple separate personalities, but cannot often control when you 'switch.' I can absolutely see how this is offensive to someone with this illness.
I felt bad for the young lady. The mother uses Towanda to threaten friends and family! Shame on her. I hope she leaves mommy dearest in the dusts!!!
That alter ego is literally an excuse to be rude. And the editors had way too much fun with this 😂
LMAOOOOO "She's hereeeeeeeeeeee"
they need to start just ignoring the "alter ego". don't give her a reaction, treat her like she's exactly the same when "towanda" is out. if it doesn't accomplish its goal she'll stop doing it.
But then they won't make good reality television!
And if THAT doesn't work, tell the Mom to KNOCK THE HELL OFF! (Yes, I'm shouting!)
Gray rock method.
It's really disgusting that they gave her bitchy side a name. It's not a different person, it's you not wanting to let go of the control you have on your daughter.
I think they did it to make her look like a joke, which she is as well as to hopefully embarrase the crap out of her for her behavior, like honestly she's acting like a 5 year old
god bless the editors i can’t stop laughing at this. like the way they inverted her to look like the alter ego is a different person and the evil laughs has me dying
I’m just mad that they said monster moms and completely missed the opportunity to say momsters
That's cool world
No offence; I don’t really care who the family member is, if the bride likes it, wear it. The amount of influence from family members is kind of ridiculous
I do feel bad for the daughter
She truly wanted her mom to compliment her and smile as she tried on dresses
I think it's because they're the one paying for it.
@@m-jgomis7195 yet who’s the one getting married? Not the parent. The one GETTING MARRIED will be the one wearing it.
I agree. I really and truly do not understand the concept of shopping with family members when you're no longer a child.
“I think Ashley’s crazy” woman, you’re the one pretending to have an alter ego so you can bully your child
This mother has absolutely no room to criticize anyone🤮. Great sound effects to the video crew👍
She was dead set on brining Towanda out, I’m sad, to think this poor girl had to grow up with this.
Tbh the “Towanda” thing is just plain cringe af
Shes Hereee
"There's nothing you can do to make me like this dress."
"Aside from asking you to leave?"
Or call in a Priest?
@@Calliope0954 And three exorcists
The mother sounds like a narcissist! She needs to go no contact
Sounds like a devil too 🤣🤣
I agree. I haven’t spoken to my monster of a mother in 19 years and I couldn’t be happier with my decision.
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The mother would of had her mouth super glued. The alter ego is an excuse for rudeness and lack of feeling.🇬🇧😡
the voice effect, the editing, the music, the dramatic music, makes the mom 10x possessive.
girl annabelle is taking over her body.
DAMN THAT VOICE SCARED ME, NEXT TIME PUT A WARNING lmfao
Haha. I know, right!
Yeahhh 😅
ummm Did they purposefully make it sound like that?
😂👍
@@luna07430 yes
Her calling this batshit behavior “Towanda” is an insult to Fried Green Tomatoes.....
Now I want to see “Fried Green Tomatoes” again.
Completely agree!
@@lolafitzgerald6881 I love that movie 😂😂
That's what I thought when I heard it
Name of the anime girl?..
What an appalling woman!😡 The disrespect she showed her daughter (&all present) is sick. The mother wants all the attention and is out to diminish her daughter. It should’ve been a wonderful day for her daughter but instead she had to trash it.
The fact that they acknowledge “Towanda” as an actual different person is weird af
Right! They are pandering to her and it's disgusting.
I think they mean it in a kind of mocking sarcastic way?
in these kinds of mental disorders, alter egos are actually different people with a different name, personality, and style. But I'm 100% sure Towanda is fake anyways. People can't control their alter egos.
@@evelynesophiaa5444 that's DID. we can control alter ego. but yeah, that "towanda" is a fake.
Leave mama at home lmaooo mama thinks this is about her but she was right about the first dress it was not flattering on her at all lol
True, but she could have blended in some kindness with her honesty. " That IS a pretty dress, but I think we need to look at a variety of styles as I don't think that this particular dress is the best one for you" . I can't imagine laughing at a bride to be when she is trying on dresses. 😒😣
Diane Dizayee why would she do that when she doesn’t care about her daughters feelings.
Leave mama at home and never come back honestly. I hate this
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Ok fake alter ego excuses aside, help me figure out the logic: Is this YOUR daughter or "towanda's" daughter? Who the heck cares what Towanda thinks in this situation?
Good one 👏
Lol
One problem is the daughter is used to being abused. Still has some spunk. But the other problem may be the mother is paying for the dress.
I can't ever picture a situation like that where my mother would EVER laugh at me.
I get so sick of all these mother’s who expect the daughter to buy a dress they want instead of what the daughter wants. Sheesh, grow up already it’s NOT your wedding dress.
My mom did that to me, picked my dress for my wedding. 😑😑 Horrible dress!! I will never forget. It's not love what this lady did to her daughter, she's abusive
This mother makes me sick
this happens to me all the time, she always picks out my clothes and I don't get to chose anything
The clothes the bride's mom was wearing is beyond revolting. If my mother ever dressed like that ( thank God she doesn't), I wouldn't even have her present while I'm picking my wedding gown.
It’s more about being jealous about seeing the daughter beautiful and confident, some mothers just gotta take them down a few pegs to make themselves feel better about being old
Towanda is in Fried Green Tomatoes. She's literally an out lit for a suppressed woman who finds out how to stand up for herself and better herself as a human. The mother is using it as an excuse to be a bully and control her daughter. Trash
Legit i always thought they were saying 'To Wanda' xD
I'm sorry, do you mean "outlet"?
@Zonra yes I did, oops. Thanks for catching that!
Yes!!! I was reading through comments to see if anyone else caught the reference
“Towanda” is just an excuse the mom
gave herself to be toxic.
4:46
The way her laugh was cut off💀
Why is “Towanda” validated, her people need to stop accepting the bad behavior. And stop being afraid, just stop feeding the beast.
I was reading your comment and I was half a sleep and I read quit feeding the breast instead of beast 😂 that made my day better 😊
"I'm used to dealing with moms that are possessive, but one that's possessed, that's first" LMFAOO
She's cruel about it but mum is right about the shape of the first dress 🤷
It's true.. unfortunately.
I don't know why some of the people on these shows say such cruel things to each other when they try on dresses. I don't see this with the Asian bridal shows that I watch. Those customers try to be more tactful.
@@marymcquaid7291 Very likely scripted - at least partially.
whatdonow I agree...looks terrible. 🙄🙄🙄
@@BasicYTHandle Scripted and edited for drama.
An alter ego. What a fun way of taking no responsibility for your own wretched behavior.
I'm sorry but to say you have a alter ego to cover up the fact that you're just outright rude is wrong on so many levels!
The day is about your daughter not YOU! I'm glad she was able to find her dress that she wanted not what her mother wanted.
Tabbie cat congratulations on all the likes
I feel like she's just trying to sabotage her day out of jealousy
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Whoever edit "ToWaNdAs" voice is just ... I can't even describe it 😂
Honestly, I'm in love with the editor 😂😂
After watching several dozens of these videos, I can't believe how many supposedly adult women can't come up with their own decision of what they like. We have three daughters and when they announced their engagements, we gave them a cash gift and told them the choices were theirs.
so.. the alter ego being called "Towanda" isn't a red flag? okay.
I thought the same...
Mom obviously watched Fried Green Tomatoes one too many times.
I don't get it
QUANÁ towanda is her mother’s way of getting away with being nasty. That Poor daughter
I was expecting her to suddenly have an "urban" accent. Tbh, I was disappointed that they had to resort to a voice filter to differentiate between these two so-called egos.
You could tell the mother was going to be a problem the first moment when she had that pissy look on her face. Then when she opened her mouth with the Tawanda nonsense, that just confirmed the worst. My advice to the groom: move your wife at lest 15 hours drive away from the in laws and don’t ever let them around the kids.
True.. never leave the children with that kind of grandmother
She looks like she just woke up from a 20 hour nap....
Good Laaawwd, the fact that the daughter actually acknowledges that Towanda "exists" is telling as to how dysfunctional this family is.
She should have taken her meds before leaving the house....sad.
The mum's laughter evil,her attitude is evil.
AGREE!
Who else think that the name “tawanada” has racist undertones.
Yep. It sounds hella racist.
Yup. Shoulda been Karen.
Thought I was the only one..
I think it might be a reference to fried green tomatoes but you might be right
Its from the movie fried green tomatoes
I was waiting on them to call towanda her “inner black woman” which was really going to be annoying 🤦🏾♀️
Why would they call it that
Ayah Malouhi I’m pretty sure that towanda is a black woman’s name but I’m not sure
So why did you have to say it
The name became famous from the movie/book “Fried Green Tomatoes”
Tracy Edmonson the name is a common name amongst black women that was used in the movie. I know a lot of women with that name that were definitely born before that movie.
Whoever edited this needs a raise. Also I think the dress she chose is perfect for her!
The editing team really took the ball and rolled with it when this lady appeared 😂 these edits have me dead
My Hispanic self in quarantine:
*"Mami get the holy water esta vieja necesita a Jesús!!"*
😂😂😂😂😂
Is the Best comment I have read😂😂
Amén! Yo te ayudo sacarle ese demonio que tiene dentro😂😂
La reprendo en el nombre de Jesús amén
@@dennelyzarazua1571 your welcome lol
Ummm no. Moms “alter ego” is just an excuse to misbehave and be a horrible old bat
I have just discovered Say Yes To The Dress. All I can say is “ Where has Monty been all my life?!”
WHAT IS THIS EDITING LMFAOOO
What kind of voice filter-
Hahahaa I'm sorry but I laughed when I heard that voice when the screen warped and squished 😂
SAME I WAS LIKE "WTF SKFJSFKKSJFKAJFUEUZB"
Yeah
They even put Towanda as the subtitle 😂😂😂😂😂
They even put Towanda as the subtitle 😂😂😂😂😂
Same I can’t stop laughing
Anybody here a Redditor? This is both r/raisedbynarcissists and r/JUSTNOMIL personified
YESSSSS
I WAS JUST ABOUT TO WRITE THIS. Spot onnnnn 🙌🏻
Also r/insaneparents
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R/iamatotalpieceofsh*t
3:47 Highclass damn be like: