This relocation will make my marriage in Jesus name 🙏 just relocated with my husband, and just had a baby via c-section , good Lord, it has not been easy relocation plus school plus being a first Time mum, recovery, no help but we have only each other, virtual omugwo 😅 it is well and will be well is all I can say . Timely video #solutions
We moved to Canada a couple of months back and I agree with everything you said. From having two nannies back in Nigeria to having to do everything by ourselves. Whoosh! My hubby too is trying to UNLEARN the NAIJA Chilling husband ways and making efforts to help out with chores and tending to the kids. Work from home has altogether changed the dynamics of work too. TOGETHER 24/7😩 It's m honestly not easy. This video is so on point! See finish can happen for real, being petty too. Lol. Being aware and intentional about navigating marriage abroad is critical to the success of your marriage. I am in the process of navigating this new life. I say AMEN to your prayers 🙏 We will not destroy our homes because we failed to use wisdom in Jesus name. amen.
You have 2nannies in Nigeria; you must be living large back home. I hope it's a wise decision for you moving to Canada. Welcome to the world of relentless work and bills, social isolation and credit traps.
Thank you so much for having this discussion. This isn't about cross continental thing, it is about relocating both locally or internationally. I recently got married and had to relocate from my family and friends, hmmm, no community yet in my new place... Let me just say; God is my only comforter. Staying far away from my siblings and friends is really telling on me.
The exact conversation I was having with my 2 friends yesterday. This things is real! Before you “Japa” please do your research and make it make sense!! People need to talk about these things, especially income. You are blessed that your husband got a job, when a couple moves and one person (more so the man) doesn’t get a job, that’s another level of pressure!!! As try as possible try and sort this prior. A man should not move “blind” as much as possible cos in this economy, jobs aren’t abundant in the abroad also lol.
Thank you for talking about this. It is definitely a topic no one talks about but it’s very important. My relocation story is very long, I can’t type is here 😂. However, you touched on most of them. I just wanted to add that prayers are very important. If you’re not a praying couple, start learning how to because it takes grace, in fact, extra grace. Much love from your Alberta sister ❤
Great topic! my only advice to younger couples relocating abroad: “DON’T have kids right away!” Wait a few years before having kids, get on family planning if needed. But make sure you understand your new environment first, build support systems, be comfortable with housing, work, medical system, and your surroundings before bringing kids in! Not having kids right away will allow you ease into the new environment better, and make it a lot less stressful! If you are carrying a baby around, things will be more hectic, and your relationship with your partner will be more strained. Just my two cents sha. Also be intentional about spending quality time with each other.
Like, I was telling a friend recently that I really want to share my story someday. Even family prayer time is a serious war! May God continue to guide us and ease the journey for us. Thanks for this❤
So I saw a clip recently where a couple just reunited after 8 years of being apart! No visits, nothing. Me I don't know how people do these things sha. Thanks for this sis. Your hair is giving 😍 👌
AHH! You are so on point. The separation aspect is tough and can cause permanent damage. The seeing each other everyday which ALWAYS brings see finish and frustration. Lack of nanny and neighbour help. Crazy!
This Tolu, is so so relatable! I and my husband were separated for a while when we relocated and it definitely took a toll on my mental health more than I like to admit actually! I am definitely going to talk about this on my channel too! Thank you for sharing
My marriage experience has fully been abroad and so I think im just learning to roll with it. I do wish services like cleaning and laundry were more affordable in Canada. Love what you said about long distance, honestly I would never advice anyone to relocate without a concrete plan and timeline set of when they would be reunited with the rest of the family, long distance is hard especially for one person to do everything, care for kids etc alone in a country wr childcare is expensive 🙆♀️
I’ve been a silent follower but ama comment today. Thank you so much for this mehn. It can be really emotionally stressful but we thank God for his strength. Love you ❤
I enjoyed this so much. We have seen it all in our marriage. Right now we are in the cruise season and what we learnt from our trials is that if it wasn’t for being abroad we wouldn’t have grown closer to God to help us. (Don’t know how to explain into details)
Oh I totally get this! You had to come to a place where God was the only way out. Not love, not location, just God! Enjoy your hard earned season! May you cruise till Jesus comes!
Love this! I spent majority of my life in “the abroad” and met my husband here, but can relate in that we moved to diff cities and community is everything for a married couple!! It doesn’t have to be a lot of ppl, but find a solid couple (whose head is on straight and love being married) that you both have a great relationship with, and it is a game changer! Ideally one with similar interests and same age range, so you can get together and do life with. Compared to back home, with the community and activity, it can get lonely. How does this happen? For me, prayer! The Holy Spirit is the best connector!
It takes grace,prayers and understanding to be in marriage these days👌👌👌its really a lot you guys in diaspora without help but having a partner that understands when it gets so overwhelming is key👏👏👏beautiful video Tolu❣️
I did a video about this , I relocated with my family to the Uk. I guess I don’t have enough audience yet lol but I spoke on this on my channel as well ❤
Thank you for discussing this issue. This topic is near and dear because it's something I'm literally living and fighting through currently. I was pregnant during the pandemic with absolutely no help from either sides of the family as I had migrated to meet my fiancé. Untop of that, the pressures from everyday duties added up and eventually exploded. Unless you've lived through it you won't understand how real this issue is. Subscribed!
I relocated to join my husband. 3 months later i got pregnant. He was in school. I had to start working when baby was 3 months old to support us. She's 10 now. We've struggled. Communication isnt our strong suit. We let things slide n keep.it moving. Less than 2 years boom ready or not baby #2 on the way ( if i could get rid of it, i would, almost lost the baby because i didn't see how i coukd care for 2 babies while he's still in school and am working. No family support. My mom couldn't come till just last yr. The struggle is real. Every December im afraid we will go our separate ways. But God! He always steps in and we make it through another yr and another year. He's working , earns well, thank God, i have gone back to finish my own school. Mom has been able to come help so i can do that but we have new struggles. Mom wanting to raise the kids the African way n with all these laws, thats not acceptable and her frustration is apparent. Im always stepping in and i have to deal with school too. Its a different dynamic but still new struggles. Timely topic. By Gods grace we ate growing gradually. Lord is our helper. This is sooo on point.
My husband and I are planning to relocate soon, and this video is a word in season. It's like taking a tutorial for a coming exam😊. Thanks, Tolulope Solutions
The pressure of not having community can affect your relationship with your spouse ,I absolutely agree.You need a community preferable from church .I miss my cell/house fellowship community.Most of the churches don’t have that abroad and that is where some foundational relationships are built
Hmm, i couldn't hold back my tears when you mentioned the 3rd point. Thats my situation right now. my husband left for greener pastures in 2020, i have not hug or touch my husband for over 2 years now.😢and i dont even know when i will be able to hug him again. is just me and our 3 year old here ,our parents and families live far away in another city. hmmm,is not easy but God's words and promises has give me so much peace.. and i know he will make all things right at the perfect time. 👍thanks for this.
Ehhhy sis! I'm wearing these same shoes as well. My husband has been away for over a year now, it has just been me and my baby. I can relate with everything you've said and I really hope the distance barrier is broken for us soon. One love sis.💕
Living abroad in general takes you on a real journey but the perks are that you get to create a new family. If you know what I mean! Thanks mama for sharing.
The pressure is real definitely. The 3rd thing you mentioned was worth mentioning. Living apart can affect the marriage permanently. Keep it up Tolulope
Nice 1 Sis! Great spot light topic! 👌 By the way all SO TRUE! Some people see others who have the understanding to make it work with deliberate efforts and think it's all perfect on their end and feel alone in the pressures they go through... My advice find real people you talk to... Sharing is caring... Until I started talk with people going through some marital / relationship stuffs I used to feel I was paranoid or alone on this... I discovered some people have it worse than me, then I appreciated my situation and deliberately started working through it and it's been good and God all the way (over 10 years now). Point of advice, never leave in self denial and find a good church community, it helps both the marriage and the kids here! We try to make the most of our free times here as a family. Two way communication is super Important. Not only you feels hurt, your spouse might be hurting more too... talk and find out. Almost 2 years in Canada now with my family and it can only get better. We leave our size per time. No follow follow and God has been faithful. By the way Tolu, a little advice from my end on the pimples/acne, I had it as well shortly after relocating to Canada. My super smooth face suddenly became very bumpy and was a concern to my husband and family... I decided to watch what it could be... Apparently, I love chocolates with stuffs in it and not plain... Precisely Sneakers and M&M peanuts... I used to eat them as well back in Nigeria + groundnuts and had no issues no matter the quantity... But I discovered the peanuts here where the reason for the pimples/acne.. as soon as I stopped eating sneakers and m&m despite my cravings, it all cleared out! (Funny, my Nigerian groundnut here doesn't make me react). Once in a while I'm tempted to do longer-throat and boom! 1 or 2 pops up and I stay away again! My 2 cents!🙏🏽
Not married yet came across you channel 2019 Mum.when l first walk away from unhealthy relationship and u really motivate me in ever day life,l learnt something new today.... Marital issues don't just come out as one big issue,it comes little by little,here and there, unresolved issues all come out as one Big issues..Noted for the future .God bless you Maama
@Nickesha Walters, I agree with you, also try to reduce stress level and avoid certain nuts that may contain Aflatoxins e.g peanuts/ groundnuts which causes this type of skin breakout.
She's been working on her skin. She made it clear on her instagram when people kept saying this that she has a dermatologist that has given her options she would try once she stops breastfeeding. Sometimes skin issues are hormonal. Let's focus on the message she gets enough of this on social media and I see the comments and I wonder how she feels when she sees it.
You have really explained lt very well, before you relocate you need to plan especially when you are travelling with kids, as you need to follow the routine around kids, especially when you are not financially stable, as when you are new government don't support you, but people don't tell others the real reality of life.
You are spot on on been in each others face. Have your own life yes inside of a very close knit relationship find you own ecpression sports, out door walking, dancing, bowling. Swimming. Hiking group outing with other women, swimming local group jogging. PTA etc
True to that baby girl relocating can build or rebuild. In my case the marriage ended we relocated from Zambia and our marriage ended up 10 months after we relocated. Good episode bay girl keep it up 👍 👏👏👏how is my big sis Rev Funke Felix Adejumo? I love her 😍 🎈💕
@@TolulopeSolutions you inspire me a lot . God has given you wisdom to impact many even us your moms . You born the same month and year as my daughter Frilancy Hoyle . She is a blogger check out for her. I always tell her about you . Greet my grandchildren and my son in love. I love the great mother and daughter in love relationship you have with my big sister Funke Felix Adejumo. You remind me of the relationship my late mom had with my father’s mom which in not common in Africa. I plan to visit her one day in Nigeria if Jesus tarries. We need more women like her . God bless you and your family. Your admirer mom Judith KM Onassis ❤️🌹❤️💕🙏🏻🙏🏻
Its great to read your comment Judith. I am zambian as well, not married yet but I will be traveling to Canada for school this December. Tolulope, I really love your channel and your personality and I learn alot. Thankyou for this conversation
They say seeing is believing, I will say experience is the best teacher. People don't understand when you tell them all these things and I'm glad you have experienced it and you're putting it out there. Living abroad is not easy at all especially when you think of all the comforts back home, househelp, driver, social life, family etc. As a couple it is even ok I always advise single girls most espeically to think twice because to find a partner here is worse, no social activity, now we are in winter it gets dark quickly, it's too cold, people work round the clock and you can go on and on before you know it a whole year has gone. Having a community is not the solution because you have to be careful who you associate yourself with forget about them being Christians we are all human beings, in this same community you find those who gossip, those who are envious, competitive, mean, people also need their space, some work shifts etc. Lets be real it is a lonely place and you just have to live with it.
I live abroad finding a partner is not hard. It just depends on your Knowledge of communication, preferences ( if you hell bent on marrying a Nigerian, then Abroad is not for you, but if you keep your options OPEN the you will find a godly man of another ethnicity)networking and social life (I am introvert).
I like that you are speaking on it as well, my experience in the UK as a student is slightly different but I totally relate and I shared my experiences living in the UK as a student with my family
Awww this was such a beautiful & thoughtful video, especially for us who actually got married here & gist about how people in Nigeria have it with guaranteed community & cheaper support systems/structures there. This video takes me back to the conversation on my channel with Tayo - the adult immigrant and I remember she talked so much on the dynamics of doing family life abroad being totally different as well. Welldone mama & this thumbnail girlll🙌🏼🙌🏼 coming to book some lessons even though schedule be scheduling me right now😫😫😫
Thanks for sharing. I can see how it’s a different ball game for you who got married here! But still on still, waters need to be navigated. Well done mama
It is overwhelming. I got married in May we only dated for 10months and then got married in May and moved to Canada in August. We are in different cities because we already had relocation plans before we met so we are almost like separate individuals here. I’m schooling plus the financial responsibilities of fees paying rents in two different places. It’s crazy and honestly I get moved to tears most times because it’s overwhelming
Ahh ça!! I really loved this because I am actually faced with this. We relocated to Canada two months ago and my husband had to go to back home for some work n I have been here with our two kids alone! It has been soo overwhelming! With NO community in Mississauga 🥹From home with soo much help and family to here alone! N I like how you put it sometimes you start feeling resentful ohh I am here with the kids and you are having fun 😂 meanwhile he is trying to fend for us because relocation in itself and expenditure! Thank you soo much for this I think it was extremely timely for me! And I am grateful😫 At least amidst the loneliness I can listen to you talk.☺️ God bless you. For some reason I am smiling to bed☺️
Thank you for sharing I and hubby newly got married in August I moved to the UK in September , hubby will join me in the first quarter of next year by Gods grace. Uhhhh All I can say is, may God see us through
Hey dear I love your channel really much. I have a little recommendation for you about your acne. I used to have acne even more than you. I have used somany things to resolve it but it wasn't working. So few months ago I decided to stop using any acne treatments again. So I will watch my face with baby bodywash and lotion it with baby lotion. An now my face is really looking good now. You can try it. It is just a recommendation.
Thank you for your recommendation. There’s no assurance that it will work for me simply because it worked for you. I know my options and would explore them with my dermatologist once I’m done breastfeeding. Appreciate your concern 💜
I have been here donkey years my advice is to ensure you engage yourselves some spouses if left on their own especially men can get into cyber things I will rather not mention here. Before you say they are not born again think twice. Prayer, bible reading family timè and date nights spend your free time together go out together and with friends God fearing ones. Cook and clean together, sing together laugh together cry togethet if possible. You need spontaneous weekend off together to spice things as stress is the fun killer.
You nailed it honestly. All the points are so true. I wish I was rich enough to get a live in nanny. We would gladly take it because my husband is tired of fixing plates into the dishwasher already 😩😩
This relocation will make my marriage in Jesus name 🙏 just relocated with my husband, and just had a baby via c-section , good Lord, it has not been easy relocation plus school plus being a first Time mum, recovery, no help but we have only each other, virtual omugwo 😅 it is well and will be well is all I can say .
Timely video #solutions
I was grieved at him,and I opened TH-cam and HE said....watch this. Instant peace.
So good to hear! 💜
We moved to Canada a couple of months back and I agree with everything you said. From having two nannies back in Nigeria to having to do everything by ourselves. Whoosh! My hubby too is trying to UNLEARN the NAIJA Chilling husband ways and making efforts to help out with chores and tending to the kids. Work from home has altogether changed the dynamics of work too. TOGETHER 24/7😩 It's m honestly not easy. This video is so on point! See finish can happen for real, being petty too. Lol. Being aware and intentional about navigating marriage abroad is critical to the success of your marriage. I am in the process of navigating this new life. I say AMEN to your prayers 🙏 We will not destroy our homes because we failed to use wisdom in Jesus name. amen.
Thank you for sharing! Naija chilling husband had me 😂
You have 2nannies in Nigeria; you must be living large back home. I hope it's a wise decision for you moving to Canada. Welcome to the world of relentless work and bills, social isolation and credit traps.
AMEN 🙏
God be with you and keep you guys in Jesus' name
We all adjusted ooo. We came to Canada years back, chai! It was not easy adjusting . But now…. It’s so awesome . Welldone sis
What a brilliant comment! May God bless our marriages. Solutions thank you💖💖💖💖
Tolu great communication skills and vocabulary. I respect your intelligence
Thank you so much for having this discussion. This isn't about cross continental thing, it is about relocating both locally or internationally. I recently got married and had to relocate from my family and friends, hmmm, no community yet in my new place... Let me just say; God is my only comforter. Staying far away from my siblings and friends is really telling on me.
The exact conversation I was having with my 2 friends yesterday. This things is real!
Before you “Japa” please do your research and make it make sense!!
People need to talk about these things, especially income. You are blessed that your husband got a job, when a couple moves and one person (more so the man) doesn’t get a job, that’s another level of pressure!!! As try as possible try and sort this prior. A man should not move “blind” as much as possible cos in this economy, jobs aren’t abundant in the abroad also lol.
Pressure reveals cracks.
Many people are in unhealthy, selfish marriages
Thank you for talking about this. It is definitely a topic no one talks about but it’s very important. My relocation story is very long, I can’t type is here 😂. However, you touched on most of them. I just wanted to add that prayers are very important. If you’re not a praying couple, start learning how to because it takes grace, in fact, extra grace. Much love from your Alberta sister ❤
Prayer is the key 🔑! Thank you for sharing
Tolu you’re a beautiful woman I hope you know that… and you’re blessed
I definitely do 💁🏽♀️. Thank you 💜
Great topic! my only advice to younger couples relocating abroad: “DON’T have kids right away!” Wait a few years before having kids, get on family planning if needed. But make sure you understand your new environment first, build support systems, be comfortable with housing, work, medical system, and your surroundings before bringing kids in! Not having kids right away will allow you ease into the new environment better, and make it a lot less stressful!
If you are carrying a baby around, things will be more hectic, and your relationship with your partner will be more strained. Just my two cents sha. Also be intentional about spending quality time with each other.
Like, I was telling a friend recently that I really want to share my story someday. Even family prayer time is a serious war! May God continue to guide us and ease the journey for us. Thanks for this❤
So I saw a clip recently where a couple just reunited after 8 years of being apart! No visits, nothing. Me I don't know how people do these things sha. Thanks for this sis. Your hair is giving 😍 👌
AHH! You are so on point. The separation aspect is tough and can cause permanent damage. The seeing each other everyday which ALWAYS brings see finish and frustration. Lack of nanny and neighbour help. Crazy!
This Tolu, is so so relatable! I and my husband were separated for a while when we relocated and it definitely took a toll on my mental health more than I like to admit actually! I am definitely going to talk about this on my channel too! Thank you for sharing
My marriage experience has fully been abroad and so I think im just learning to roll with it. I do wish services like cleaning and laundry were more affordable in Canada. Love what you said about long distance, honestly I would never advice anyone to relocate without a concrete plan and timeline set of when they would be reunited with the rest of the family, long distance is hard especially for one person to do everything, care for kids etc alone in a country wr childcare is expensive 🙆♀️
I’ve been a silent follower but ama comment today. Thank you so much for this mehn. It can be really emotionally stressful but we thank God for his strength. Love you ❤
I enjoyed this so much. We have seen it all in our marriage. Right now we are in the cruise season and what we learnt from our trials is that if it wasn’t for being abroad we wouldn’t have grown closer to God to help us. (Don’t know how to explain into details)
Oh I totally get this! You had to come to a place where God was the only way out. Not love, not location, just God!
Enjoy your hard earned season! May you cruise till Jesus comes!
Love this! I spent majority of my life in “the abroad” and met my husband here, but can relate in that we moved to diff cities and community is everything for a married couple!! It doesn’t have to be a lot of ppl, but find a solid couple (whose head is on straight and love being married) that you both have a great relationship with, and it is a game changer! Ideally one with similar interests and same age range, so you can get together and do life with. Compared to back home, with the community and activity, it can get lonely.
How does this happen? For me, prayer! The Holy Spirit is the best connector!
Oh.. Thank you for the last paragraph. I said a quick prayer on reading that. Holy spirit, please connect us right.
@@topelaoye wow...I did the same when I read the last sentence 😂
These points are so valid thank you.. I newly moved to Germany and I had to face the community issue
It takes grace,prayers and understanding to be in marriage these days👌👌👌its really a lot you guys in diaspora without help but having a partner that understands when it gets so overwhelming is key👏👏👏beautiful video Tolu❣️
Very insightful. Been in each other's face can cause issues. Staying away from each other can also causr issues. That's so right
Have been waiting for ur vlogggggggggssss birthday vlog I missed you ............ hope to see u in Canada soon
I did a video about this , I relocated with my family to the Uk. I guess I don’t have enough audience yet lol but I spoke on this on my channel as well ❤
Thank you for discussing this issue. This topic is near and dear because it's something I'm literally living and fighting through currently. I was pregnant during the pandemic with absolutely no help from either sides of the family as I had migrated to meet my fiancé. Untop of that, the pressures from everyday duties added up and eventually exploded. Unless you've lived through it you won't understand how real this issue is. Subscribed!
I relocated to join my husband. 3 months later i got pregnant. He was in school. I had to start working when baby was 3 months old to support us. She's 10 now. We've struggled. Communication isnt our strong suit. We let things slide n keep.it moving. Less than 2 years boom ready or not baby #2 on the way ( if i could get rid of it, i would, almost lost the baby because i didn't see how i coukd care for 2 babies while he's still in school and am working. No family support. My mom couldn't come till just last yr. The struggle is real. Every December im afraid we will go our separate ways. But God! He always steps in and we make it through another yr and another year. He's working , earns well, thank God, i have gone back to finish my own school. Mom has been able to come help so i can do that but we have new struggles. Mom wanting to raise the kids the African way n with all these laws, thats not acceptable and her frustration is apparent. Im always stepping in and i have to deal with school too. Its a different dynamic but still new struggles. Timely topic. By Gods grace we ate growing gradually. Lord is our helper. This is sooo on point.
This is so beautiful ❤️. Thank you Solutions mama. Much love from Cameroon 🇨🇲
My husband and I are planning to relocate soon, and this video is a word in season. It's like taking a tutorial for a coming exam😊. Thanks, Tolulope Solutions
The pressure of not having community can affect your relationship with your spouse ,I absolutely agree.You need a community preferable from church .I miss my cell/house fellowship community.Most of the churches don’t have that abroad and that is where some foundational relationships are built
It's been a minute Mama Sols, it's good to be here again. Happy Sunday ma. 😊❣️
Hmm, i couldn't hold back my tears when you mentioned the 3rd point. Thats my situation right now. my husband left for greener pastures in 2020, i have not hug or touch my husband for over 2 years now.😢and i dont even know when i will be able to hug him again. is just me and our 3 year old here ,our parents and families live far away in another city. hmmm,is not easy but God's words and promises has give me so much peace.. and i know he will make all things right at the perfect time. 👍thanks for this.
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Sending you love 😘😘
Ehhhy sis! I'm wearing these same shoes as well. My husband has been away for over a year now, it has just been me and my baby.
I can relate with everything you've said and I really hope the distance barrier is broken for us soon.
One love sis.💕
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So sorry to hear this. Praying God makes a way for a reunion speedily. 🤗
I live in the UAE with my husband and our Son and I can relate 💯 with everything you have said.
Living abroad in general takes you on a real journey but the perks are that you get to create a new family. If you know what I mean! Thanks mama for sharing.
The pressure is real definitely. The 3rd thing you mentioned was worth mentioning. Living apart can affect the marriage permanently. Keep it up Tolulope
Great. God bless
Thanks for being vonurabl ok, bless you
So good🔥🔥, God bless you mama solutions!! Honestly anyone that listens to you just has to get better🔥
True talk. You are so right ✅️ 👏. Especially when you are by self. You will be overwhelmed.
Nice 1 Sis! Great spot light topic! 👌 By the way all SO TRUE!
Some people see others who have the understanding to make it work with deliberate efforts and think it's all perfect on their end and feel alone in the pressures they go through...
My advice find real people you talk to... Sharing is caring...
Until I started talk with people going through some marital / relationship stuffs I used to feel I was paranoid or alone on this...
I discovered some people have it worse than me, then I appreciated my situation and deliberately started working through it and it's been good and God all the way (over 10 years now).
Point of advice, never leave in self denial and find a good church community, it helps both the marriage and the kids here!
We try to make the most of our free times here as a family. Two way communication is super Important. Not only you feels hurt, your spouse might be hurting more too... talk and find out.
Almost 2 years in Canada now with my family and it can only get better.
We leave our size per time. No follow follow and God has been faithful.
By the way Tolu, a little advice from my end on the pimples/acne, I had it as well shortly after relocating to Canada. My super smooth face suddenly became very bumpy and was a concern to my husband and family... I decided to watch what it could be... Apparently, I love chocolates with stuffs in it and not plain... Precisely Sneakers and M&M peanuts... I used to eat them as well back in Nigeria + groundnuts and had no issues no matter the quantity...
But I discovered the peanuts here where the reason for the pimples/acne.. as soon as I stopped eating sneakers and m&m despite my cravings, it all cleared out! (Funny, my Nigerian groundnut here doesn't make me react).
Once in a while I'm tempted to do longer-throat and boom! 1 or 2 pops up and I stay away again!
My 2 cents!🙏🏽
You know, this topic has been on my mind recently.
Not married yet came across you channel 2019 Mum.when l first walk away from unhealthy relationship and u really motivate me in ever day life,l learnt something new today.... Marital issues don't just come out as one big issue,it comes little by little,here and there, unresolved issues all come out as one Big issues..Noted for the future .God bless you Maama
Thanks for sharing and I’m glad I was a part of your journey towards wholesomeness
Very well said dear! You're truly filled with wisdom! May God continue to bless your union!🙏
Nice video. I have a recommendation for your skin if you dont mind. Try the simple line of products. Also, avoid makeup until your skin is healed.
I really was going to say avoid make up, but held it to avoid any sort of dragging from other viewers. Love her 💕
@@TheRealDealWithAmaka I understand. But it is one of the best remedies tho
@@nickeshawalters6235 true
@Nickesha Walters, I agree with you, also try to reduce stress level and avoid certain nuts that may contain Aflatoxins e.g peanuts/ groundnuts which causes this type of skin breakout.
She's been working on her skin. She made it clear on her instagram when people kept saying this that she has a dermatologist that has given her options she would try once she stops breastfeeding. Sometimes skin issues are hormonal. Let's focus on the message she gets enough of this on social media and I see the comments and I wonder how she feels when she sees it.
You have really explained lt very well, before you relocate you need to plan especially when you are travelling with kids, as you need to follow the routine around kids, especially when you are not financially stable, as when you are new government don't support you, but people don't tell others the real reality of life.
You are spot on on been in each others face. Have your own life yes inside of a very close knit relationship find you own ecpression sports, out door walking, dancing, bowling. Swimming. Hiking group outing with other women, swimming local group jogging. PTA etc
So true. These activities have helped me a lot.
This video is inspiring.I concur with the using of disposable plates to ease the stress of tidying up.
Truth ! Never knew you felt all this, seems perfect 🎉 Beautiful video
True to that baby girl relocating can build or rebuild. In my case the marriage ended we relocated from Zambia and our marriage ended up 10 months after we relocated.
Good episode bay girl keep it up 👍 👏👏👏how is my big sis Rev Funke Felix Adejumo?
I love her 😍 🎈💕
Thank you for sharing. Mama is doing well
@@TolulopeSolutions you inspire me a lot . God has given you wisdom to impact many even us your moms . You born the same month and year as my daughter Frilancy Hoyle . She is a blogger check out for her. I always tell her about you . Greet my grandchildren and my son in love. I love the great mother and daughter in love relationship you have with my big sister Funke Felix Adejumo. You remind me of the relationship my late mom had with my father’s mom which in not common in Africa. I plan to visit her one day in Nigeria if Jesus tarries. We need more women like her .
God bless you and your family. Your admirer mom Judith KM Onassis ❤️🌹❤️💕🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@judithm2992 Thank you Ma! 💜
Its great to read your comment Judith. I am zambian as well, not married yet but I will be traveling to Canada for school this December.
Tolulope, I really love your channel and your personality and I learn alot. Thankyou for this conversation
Thanks for sharing your journey with us. Remain tremendously blessed
Nothing but the truth. God bless u Tolu. May God continue to help us to navigate the marriage relationship.
Amen!
You’re looking so good 😍 makeup and hair on fleek
You are so sweet. Thank you.
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Thank you for this video, it is really a blessing and helpful .
Thank you so much for this information. God richly bless you and your home and fill it with endless love and laughter. 🙏🙏🙏
They say seeing is believing, I will say experience is the best teacher. People don't understand when you tell them all these things and I'm glad you have experienced it and you're putting it out there. Living abroad is not easy at all especially when you think of all the comforts back home, househelp, driver, social life, family etc. As a couple it is even ok I always advise single girls most espeically to think twice because to find a partner here is worse, no social activity, now we are in winter it gets dark quickly, it's too cold, people work round the clock and you can go on and on before you know it a whole year has gone. Having a community is not the solution because you have to be careful who you associate yourself with forget about them being Christians we are all human beings, in this same community you find those who gossip, those who are envious, competitive, mean, people also need their space, some work shifts etc. Lets be real it is a lonely place and you just have to live with it.
📌 All you said 💯
I live abroad finding a partner is not hard. It just depends on your Knowledge of communication, preferences ( if you hell bent on marrying a Nigerian, then Abroad is not for you, but if you keep your options OPEN the you will find a godly man of another ethnicity)networking and social life (I am introvert).
@@sadraolaedo4733 Obviously we are not saying it applies to everyone but that’s the reality.
@@estherelufowoju3166 please why do you think it is hard for Nigerian lady to find a partner abroad? 🙄
Omg. I laughed so good!! 🤣🤣
Wowu Soo much edification in one video ❤
You literally hit the nail on the head, Tolulope.. More wisdom
Your hair!!!!😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
This was absolutely fun listening u touch lots of areas well done...
You are so on point. Goodness Gracious. God Bless U
Solutions with the content! Always transfixing😍
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I like that you are speaking on it as well, my experience in the UK as a student is slightly different but I totally relate and I shared my experiences living in the UK as a student with my family
Awww this was such a beautiful & thoughtful video, especially for us who actually got married here & gist about how people in Nigeria have it with guaranteed community & cheaper support systems/structures there. This video takes me back to the conversation on my channel with Tayo - the adult immigrant and I remember she talked so much on the dynamics of doing family life abroad being totally different as well. Welldone mama & this thumbnail girlll🙌🏼🙌🏼 coming to book some lessons even though schedule be scheduling me right now😫😫😫
Thanks for sharing. I can see how it’s a different ball game for you who got married here! But still on still, waters need to be navigated. Well done mama
“The reality of this is where you live now, youre not on vacation sha”😂😂😂😂 then booom winter/autumn kicks in! Lord have mercy.
Best in beauty 😍❤️
Keep glowing in God's grace mama
You are so on point,as always. More grace
I missed you last week 🥺❤️. Wow thank you for sharing this , love this video.
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@@Ella_Babygirl mummy Gee🌚
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It is overwhelming. I got married in May we only dated for 10months and then got married in May and moved to Canada in August. We are in different cities because we already had relocation plans before we met so we are almost like separate individuals here. I’m schooling plus the financial responsibilities of fees paying rents in two different places. It’s crazy and honestly I get moved to tears most times because it’s overwhelming
I can imagine your pain, God help you
Keep doing the Lord`s work Ma`am! Thank you.
Ahh ça!! I really loved this because I am actually faced with this. We relocated to Canada two months ago and my husband had to go to back home for some work n I have been here with our two kids alone! It has been soo overwhelming! With NO community in Mississauga 🥹From home with soo much help and family to here alone! N I like how you put it sometimes you start feeling resentful ohh I am here with the kids and you are having fun 😂 meanwhile he is trying to fend for us because relocation in itself and expenditure! Thank you soo much for this I think it was extremely timely for me! And I am grateful😫 At least amidst the loneliness I can listen to you talk.☺️ God bless you. For some reason I am smiling to bed☺️
🤗 🤗 Hey Neigbour
it's always a time to learn on your channel. nice one Solutions
Thank you for sharing
I and hubby newly got married in August
I moved to the UK in September , hubby will join me in the first quarter of next year by Gods grace.
Uhhhh
All I can say is, may God see us through
Amen! All the best!
@@TolulopeSolutions thank you so much
Well said ma'am 🤗
May God continue to use u to help other families. God bless you
I missed you ma’am
And thank you for this 😊
Thank You for sharing ❤ #teamSolutions for life by God’s Grace
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So good!!! God bless you for shedding light.
Thank you for sharing.
May God be with all families going through tough times. In Jesus name.
Thank you for sharing these truths. Very helpful.
God bless you. 🙏
Hey dear I love your channel really much. I have a little recommendation for you about your acne. I used to have acne even more than you. I have used somany things to resolve it but it wasn't working. So few months ago I decided to stop using any acne treatments again. So I will watch my face with baby bodywash and lotion it with baby lotion. An now my face is really looking good now. You can try it. It is just a recommendation.
Thank you for your recommendation. There’s no assurance that it will work for me simply because it worked for you.
I know my options and would explore them with my dermatologist once I’m done breastfeeding.
Appreciate your concern 💜
@@TolulopeSolutions A gracious response ❤🥰 Take your time please
Thanks for talking about it l live in Germany too thanks
You look is giving ❤️❤️❤️
Very insightful. Thanks Tolu.
Solutions is here again, I have been waiting
Thanks for sharing
I have been here donkey years my advice is to ensure you engage yourselves some spouses if left on their own especially men can get into cyber things I will rather not mention here. Before you say they are not born again think twice. Prayer, bible reading family timè and date nights spend your free time together go out together and with friends God fearing ones. Cook and clean together, sing together laugh together cry togethet if possible. You need spontaneous weekend off together to spice things as stress is the fun killer.
Thanks for this video.
Thank you mama
Noted 😍
Thank you so much for bringing this to our attention. It was eye-opening.
Good to know. Thank you for watching.
Thank you for sharing
You nailed it honestly. All the points are so true. I wish I was rich enough to get a live in nanny. We would gladly take it because my husband is tired of fixing plates into the dishwasher already 😩😩
It is not even the community. But as for nanny is the most important thing. I lived through it in US with 3 children.
Very insightful! Thank you!
Solution for life, thanks for sharing
Thanks for sharing.. you just enlightened someone(ME!!😊)
Helpful.
Thank you❤️
Very insightful ….. thank you ma
Totally enjoyed watching this.
Thank you Solutions.... also you look so beautiful 😍 ❤
Thanks for sharing ma’am...you look stunning 🥰