managing christmas with an eating disorder
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ธ.ค. 2022
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● how old are you?
20 years old :)
● where are you from?
hampshire, uk 📍
● what do you film with?
canon g7x mark ii and iPhone 13 pro
● what is your name / how do you say it?
my name is Roisin and it's pronounced ro-sheen, but i shorten it to Ro
timestamps:
1:23 - eating more / different foods
4:22 - the fear of weight gain
8:13 - comments from family / friends
11:22 - family triggers
15:48 - the guilt of ruining christmas
18:47 - practical things you can do
to help yourself through christmas
"that control that you feel you're in by not eating or by avoiding certain foods is such a farce it is not real control. Real control comes from honoring your body and giving your body what it needs and not listening to an eating disorder". I feel this so much. Thank you Ro for such a kind message.
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I try to change perspective and get excited about facing fears and weight restoring during 🎄. The faster the recovery the better. ❤
“You do not need to earn your food.” This is still difficult for me but I’m going to try and listen to you, my beaut. 💚
You deserve food!
"You were not put on this Earth to shrink yourself" Honestly, Ro, you should be a therapist or someone who gives you advices cause you really give the best ones. I love you so much and this video was very very helpful! Thank you xx
thank you !!! i love u 🫶🏻
Thank you so so so much for this video. "Anorexic people eat." Louder for the people in the back!!!! This was very comforting/validating. Thank you♡
This resonated with me so much. The stereotypes around anorexia make you feel so invalidated sometimes. Thank u Ro ♥️ xx
omg yessss,i felt the same
Something I've come to realize is that ironically, your eating disorder will end up controlling you. So regardless of how in control you think you are- you're really not when you listen to your ED.
Ro, your videos are so helpful and soothing. You truly are such a light to so many people. Thank you for making the videos you make ❤️
It‘s tough but everyone deserves a happy christmas :)
very true ❤️
Ro, thank you for making this video. The holidays are always the toughest times out of the year.
i hope it helps ❤️
I understand you so much i have struggeld with holidays and the whole resting time a lot, but now I can enjoy holidays and I can give my body the rest it needs. I wish for you that you can come in this point of your life soon, because you deserve it. You deserve break and resting and you deserve wonderfull holdidays. Wish you the best!💌🫂
What also helps me; The only way you can really ruin christmas for others is if you're hiding yourself alone in your bedroom. It's okay if you're not the happiest and it's okay if you're struggling. Your loved ones still love you and still want you to join just as you are. They accept the way you are, so it's the same at Christmas days. Be honest about your struggles, set boundries for yourself and try to be able to accept love and kindness from others.❤️
So frustrating when people comment “wow you just ate all that food?” Glad we have resources and leaders like yourself to get through this disease
i just got to my grandparents' house because my grandfather is unwell and there are a bunch of other family members staying here as well, and this morning some of the aunties were talking about how they're going to make foods especially for me because this was my first semester of college and i deserve home food and i just felt so guilty because in my mind i was like "no no no" but i'm going to try to focus on the love and not the calories in the food
I just began recovery and I'm on a meal plan where i can't control anything. I weirdly feel happy about the fact that it happened, the fact I'm not supposed to be in control in portions and foods anymore. Please wish me luck!
You can do it ❤️
my anorexia is the worst it's ever been atm and usually I love Christmas but this year it's super difficult for me. So thanks for this video, I found it to be really reassuring. Hope you have an awesome Christmas!
So glad you mentioned the topic of being worried about others judging you for eating and feeling invalid because I struggle with that so much and it keeps me stuck in my anorexia ways. This video was so helpful! honestly don't know what I would've done without your videos. You're a huge motivator and inspiration to me and many other I will forever be grateful to you for everything you post and do to help others who are struggling x Hope you have the best Christmas
sending you SO much love. i’m glad it was helpful!🥰 have a wonderful christmas x
I struggle with binge behaviours and restrictive thoughts and tendencies at the moment. 6 years ago when I developed an eating disorder I had anorexia, but over the years my eating disorder has morphed into many different forms. This video is super helpful, actually it’s invaluable to me. I think at any given Christmas over the past 6 years, I would have felt blessed to watch this video. But I definitely still find it helpful and so I’m super grateful I get to watch it now. Thank you.
Unfortunately I have family who are obsessed with diet culture, and it makes it really hard during the holidays for me. I’m in treatment / recovery right now for anorexia. I know they don’t mean to but it does trigger me. Thank you for making this video and I’m so happy I found this channel. I relate 100%.
This came at the perfect time, thank you. Stay safe everyone!
so thankful for you + your encouragement each and every day! what a light you are, dear heart! 🌷
I needed this video so badly! Thank you Ro ! ❤
Tysmm I rlly needed this.
what would i do without your videos, thank you ro thank you so much
thanks so so much for this video, the past few days ive been worrying about christmas a lot and i was getting really frustrated because i want to enjoy the holidays without stressing about what i will and won't eat. your videos always provide so much comfort for me and make me feel less alone sending lots of love xx
My god it sas exactly the video I needed🍀 you are saving me, thank you🫀
Thank you SO much for making this video! You addressed everything I was thinking/concerned about.
I just finished your video about "Eating like my suscribers for a day" and I saw this. Thank you Ro, you keep reminding me the things that I need to hear to beating my eating anxiety, enjoy the festivities sweetie 💖🎄🎉
this is so incredibly helpful and exactly what i needed to hear today, especially the ruining christmas and feeling watched, i’ve felt that like for the last few christmas’ and it’s so hard to not feel that way this year too. i always feel like i’m ruining family events and making it all about me when i don’t want to at all and i just needed to hear that.
you’ve given me the hope and motivation that maybe next year christmas will just be christmas, it’ll be joy and fun and freedom and family.
The time is getting closer and so does that unbearable tiny bit of anxiety. This will be the first Christmas after a bad period but I'm sure that this Christmas will be very very different from the last one 💜
you're such a light omg thank you a million times
hope everyone enjoys christmas!
this is my second christmas in recovery :D
Thank you so much for all of your content. You genuinely make people's days better. I'm so happy you have come this far. I'm not in my best moment with my ED and watching you grow gives me a spark of hope. I'm sure you and your videos mean the same to many more people struggling. Lots of love❤❤
The “you were not put on this earth to shrink yourself” rlly hits home. Thank you for being such an amazing person, Ro. I dealt with anorexia a few years ago, then I had lapses that lead to a relapse and developing mia this year. Right now I’m trying as hard as I can to recover and I’m so scared about this Christmas, but watching your videos help me a lot :)
This is and will be so helpfull on the actual day, thank you so much
Also I ADORE that jumper!! ♥️
Again, such an important and amazing video. I felt so ashamed by a lot of thoughts that you explained in the video. I feel less alone and weird now, thank you so much❤️
Ro, thank you so much ❤
Thank you so much for this very honest and insightful videos which addresses the very real problems surrounding Christmas with an Eating disorder . I've faced all of these issues throughout the years. Nowadays I spend Christmas alone or with just my sibling, so no pressure n the food really. We both just choose what we want to eat and do our own thing a mealtimes which makes the rest of the day far more pleasurable!!! Take care of yourself To and I hope you have a great Christmas and allow yourself full food freedom!🌲❤️✨
also something that helps me a lot, “i need to burn it off, i’ll lose it in the new year, i haven’t eaten X because of this dinner!” etc is a SOCIAL SCRIPT. people (generally) say these things because the world is so obsessed with dieting and just because they are saying these things, it doesn’t mean they are. most people are maintaining their weight without obsessing over calories, exercise etc and occasionally make these comments because that’s what is expected (doesn’t make it okay) in our society. it’s the same as saying “it’s so cold!” when you aren’t sure what to say in an awkward situation, following the social script doesn’t suddenly make you a weather expert and it doesn’t mean everyone is obsessed with the weather! 🤍❄️
You are so young but so wise and kind . Wishing you happiness and love ❤️❤️
I'm in tears. I really needed this reassurance, especially since it is so tremendously difficult for me to open up about my feelings (even to family). I was in the depths of my anorexia last Christmas, and so this year I'm really going to try and take the focus off the food like you said. I recently weighed myself and noticed my disordered thoughts trying to make me restrict so I could "get back on track". However, I realize now that that is definitely not a healthy mindset to be in. I'm going to stop weighing myself and just listen to what my body wants and needs. Thank you Ro. You truly deserve the most wonderful Christmas and time with those you love!
I’m so pleased for you & how well you’re doing on your journey! X
I was doing really well with my recovery but Christmas just hit so hard. Like I wasn’t ready for all these things you listed. Thank you for doing this, thank you for your words, you’re doing magical work for people out there 🤍 sending love ✨
Thanks for the great advice and comforting words ! you always make me feel better. Love your jumper btw
This is now my 10th Christmas since recovery and I would definitely say in the early days it's sometimes just about getting through it in one piece. Eating your normal recovery amounts at Christmas is a win, trying one thing all Christmas day you're scared of is a win. The better Christmases will come later, I promise!
I'm realizing I've never really had an individual experience when it comes to my ED. All the thoughts and experiences you described I've thought and done without ever saying any of it out loud. I don't feel so alone now so thank you
this is my first christmas with an ed and i am terrified but this video made me feel that bit more capable to deal with it. thank you ro
Ro, thank you SO much for this video. I find christmas so hard and it’s my first christmas in proper recovery and will absolutely be using these tips to survive the season. You always share the best tips and feel like talking to a wise friend, thank you ♥️
ahh have as wonderful a time as you can, you’ve got this ❤️x
I had a really bad binge/purge ‚session‘ (?) before watching this video, and I feel so ashamed and lonely. But your videos are so comforting and emotional to me. I was crying watching it, because of your beautiful words. I‘m really thankful for you just being you.
I‘d actually love to see more vlogs from you. You‘re such a funny and calming soul. Enjoy the week and stay gentle to yourself
I can't watch right now but i know you are always helpful so I can't wait!!! Hope your christmas is wonderful!!!
thank you!! and you!! x
You help me more than you know ro. So much love for you ❤❤
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thank you ro. i've been so scared and i'm dreading christmas eve so so much. i felt so safe and comforted watching this video Xx
i hope you enjoy it as much as you can - remember there’s no pressure. just do your best ✨🕊️🫶🏻
Very helpful. Thank you so much, Ro. Merry Christmas!! ❤️💙
Hi Ro I wanted to say that you have helped me so much over this past year. I was really struggling with eating this year and watching your videos motivated me so much!
ah i’m so glad to hear that 🥹🫶🏻
thank u so much ro i'm currently stressing ab the holidays but this is gonna help me so much!! 💗💗💗💗
all my love !! you’ll get through it ❤️
Ro; words can’t describe how much I love you
Thank you Ro from the bottom of my heart❣
Your voice is so calming and your words so warming and reassuring (even those times when they get a bit confusing😂) that make feel a little better about these holidays, after struggling with my mental health.
Surprisingly, your videos come exactly when I need them, so thank you again!
I really wish you to spend a good time this month and after in your future❣😊
ah thank you!! i do fumble my words a lot 😭
sending all my love ❤️🫶🏻
Thankyou Soo much for making this video, and all your others aswell. Your advice is literly life changing to me and I don't think I would have survived when I was in the depth of my eating disorder without you. Each video is now filled with joy, relief and wisdom and I really, really appreciate them and please continue making them.
You're awesome, and thankyou.
Thank u for such videos! 💞
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I'm so proud of you for everything you have achieved Ro. This video was really helpful, thankyou so so much 🖤
thank you 🤍🕊️
Hi ro! I love your videos and they’re super helpful thank you so much. My favorite video so far must be you eating like your brother, may we get a pt.2? :))
watching this the day before celebrating christmas, and the way you explain concepts is just wonderful. the perpective you have on eating is very comforting for me. keep doing what youre doing, this was incredibly helpful
With regards to drinking: equally, if you want to join in and have a glass of champagne or whatever with your family, but your scared of the “liquid calories”, just join in! It’s not going to make you gain weight, I promise you! 🥂
Great video Ro! I hope you have a great holiday. Sending lots of love to you! 🥰❤💕💕💕🎄🎄🎄
Thank you so much for this! I'm in just starting recovery, and as a young teen it's not easy! But your videos just make me and my mum feel so much better and at easy!
sending my love to you both !! keep going - it’s so worth it
Hi Ro, I wanted to ask for some tips on appreciating my body, and encouraging my self to eat, because it’s hard when I have depression and anxiety. I have a hard time eating at school and sometimes don’t eat at all. It’s really hard for me especially when my mom forces me to eat but she doesn’t eat enough herself. I’m doing a lot better this month but I still struggle to eat five out of seven days a week. Thanks so much for everything you do and for your channel. I love you so much. ❤️
Hey Ro, thank you so much for these videos they are very helpful. You have really helped me try to get myself to try and recover. Thanksgiving is next week for me and I am so scared but these tips were helpful for holidays in general too so Thankyou.
Hi Ro!! I‘ve been in recovery for a few months now, and your videos have been game changing for me. When I’m struggling, I pull up one of your what I eat in a day videos and have a meal with you. It’s so incredibly nice. I was wondering how you got around breaking your hardest food rules? Thank you so much for your content :)
you're amazing!
You are such an impressive person. I wish I had someone like you around 20 years ago when I started my recovery journey. I am so proud of you, and of everyone who works on themselves to get well 🥰
thank you so much ❤️
I'm almost 7 months in recovery but I'm so scared christmas so I'm so thankful dor this video!!💓
Thank you so much for making this video I really needed to hear the things you said this has helped me so much
my first Christmas in recovery and it feels strange considering where I was last year, I feel sooo much happier now that im recovered
can we talk about how GORGEOUS your pullover looks with your blue eyes and the nails???? AMAZINGGGG
ro, what do you do to prevent relapses? youre literal sunshine btw
Something that have really helped me was something my therapist said to me. She asked me i my friends would like me less if i weighed more, no they would care about me the same. Just as if your friends gained weight, would you care? No proboably not, beacuse it does not matter. Take care loves!! You deserve a happy christmas!
Love you Ro
ive been eating a lot this winter and gained a good amt of weight. i feel good abt it sometimes, others really awful. however, one thing that helps me is to acknowledge that an eating disorder will never bring me happiness. micromanaging my food, restriction, and control over my body will never bring me happiness. i eat whatever the hell i want 😭 i had a full 2 meals before christmas dinner and i still enjoyed the food. i also have safe foods that i eat on the daily due to neurodivergence, and allowing myself to eat those has been very liberating. i feel good!
wishing you a wonderful christmas and a happy new year. i am not where i want/need to be recovery wise but this video is, as all of your videos, really good. enjoy all the yummy meals and drinks
you’ll get there - give yourself time. thank you so much & i’m wishing you a wonderful christmas too ❤️
I love your videos❤ I think that anorexia is so misunderstood most of the times and you really really help me not to feel bad about eating. I always thought that I’m never going to recover and that I will gain weight from one meal, you literally helped more then when I was in treatment. Sending love and hugs❤
I hate eat around my family, it´s horrible, always have someone talk about how much I eat, and I feel so guilty because i can´t stop.
Have a lovely Christmas Ro :)
I'm kind of already recovered, I eat intuitively and nowadays I practice several sports because I love it, I run, I go to the gym, I'm also a ballerina and I play soccer at school. After having managed to reach a healthy weight I keep gaining weight because I'm gaining height (I'm a teenager) and gaining muscle mass and damn people keep talking but now the What matters most is that I'm nourished and doing what I love with the body I've always wanted! You deserve to recover and finally love your body! Merry Christmas!
You are going to have a happy(as it can be w/ your present circumstance) and healthy Christmas Day!🎉
I am in recovery from bulimia. I’ve suffered with bulimia for almost 30 years. I am 46years old, and it all began when I was 17. It has been nearly two years for me being in recovery (will be 2 years April 2023). this video is bang on. Thank you for making me feel like it’s not « just me » ❤ wishing you lifelong health and peace
There are stressers out there, an eating disorder can comfort one beyond the discomforts, and the food can be tolerated when it's fine, and in company of cheer.
16:48 that was such a good example !!
yay! enjoying this with my lunch (a pb banana bagel
Hi ! I hope my comment will help you ! Sometimes in recovery, because the body has been deprived of energy, it cannot send hunger signals, because it requires energy to do so. It will get better with recovery ! It's okay to eat even if you are not physically hungry !
That chunky sweater looks so comfortable and body safe 🥺 where did you get it from?✨♥️
Thanksss
You worded all of this do well I’m excited for Xmas but also very nervous ! Also random but have you redone your room the backgrounds looks different
Ro, I am on a really early stage of recovery and still can’t face fear foods. Do you have any tips on what should I do on the Christmas dinner??
Thank you so much for your content!! Your videos are amazing and very helpful to me ❤️
Hi Roe!
Question: I know this is not Christmas related, but if you feel comfortable, would you please talk about getting your period back during anorexia? I am in recovery from anorexia, and I have not fully gotten my period bad. I am finding it very hard. I got spotting for a couple of days and then I haven’t gotten it since and then I get weird cramps out of the blue every so often. I am also finding it hard emotionally too. Part of me wants it to come back but the eating disorder part of me doesn’t want to come back. I know this can be a very personal subject to some people, so only if your comfortable. But this is not talked about very often but I feel like it it’s one of the hardest things when your in late recovery from anorexia. At least it is for me. And I would love to hear your experience, and I think it would help many other people too.
Wonderful video as always! Thank you so much for talking about your experiences and for showing us that Christmas doesn’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to always be happy at Christmas. I though the topic about feeling guilty for “ruining” Christmas was very applicable for me.
Thank you!
Remember: You are Beautiful. You are Worthy. You are Enough. 💗
Honestly this time of year can feel like a lot of admin ! If ur struggling on Christmas Day I have some tips :
1) have a code word/phrase to use with a most trusted family member if ur feeling anxious or uncomfortable
2) if there’s nobody you trust enough , u can excuse yourself to a bathroom and walk on the spot for a few moments. Sounds disordered AF but it’s a psychological trick that makes ur brain think ur running away , and so are away from the ‘danger’.
Just some life advice ♥️💫 it works !
Hey! Question, have you gotten back into movement? Or how do you know when you’re ready? What did that look like for you? :)
I love you. Thank you so much for helping all of us. 💚
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As someone who has struggled with Christmas for too many years now this video is so helpful. I'm hoping this Christmas is different but im also fully aware that it is only one day and hopefully I can fake it till I make it 😆
😀💕🎄xx thanks Ro.
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I think my mom has an eating disorder along with anxiety. How do I encouraged her to seek treatment?
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Thinking about how many people this video is going to help makes me so happy❤ I’m celebrating my first Christmas in recovery this year and it feels SO AMAZING!! It’s sooo possible to recover and your wise words are INVALUABLE. Thank you Ro x
Hey ro, idk if you'll see this but I'm getting really worried about Christmas Dinner because I've never really eaten much at Xmas Dinner because I don't really like it that much, but since my family found out about my ed and I started recovery, they've been trying to get me to eat big meals and think that I'm trying to restrict when I don't. I always have preferred to eat little but very often. I eat like every hour but in smaller portions but my family don't seem to get that. And I rlly dont wanna be forced to eat a whole bunch of food I don't really enjoy or start an argument at Xmas Dinner. Idk what to do. Should I try talk to them or something :(
Hi. But how to cope with people commenting on how little we hv on plate. especially this holiday season, most of the food are our fear foods, so trying to eat em in normal people portion is scary
This is the first christmas of my life struggling with anorexia and im so worried bc my parents and grandparents always force me to eat and they are like "you lost weight again. You should do sth abt it" And "your clothes look so baggy on you"... Do you have any advice pls?