Hi! I realized I wasn't very clear in explaining something about the bamboo container. I mentioned using it for little candles, but obviously for storing them, not for burning them in the container. :) That wouldn't be safe haha. So no worries about that! I meant for storing the little candles in, so that when a candle somewhere else in my home burns out, I can grab a new one from my cute bamboo container.
Hi Vera, as someone who tries to maintain an uncluttered and somewhat minimal home aesthetic, I am usually very selective about decorative items coming into my home. However I recently made an impulse purchase: a tissue box cover that looks like a slice of cake 🍰 it’s bright pink with white icing and cherries around the top, kinda pricey too. I have no idea where I’m going to put it 😂😂
I have one more tip: when you feel like shopping, you can either go for a walk or clean your home. Cleaning your home makes you realize once again that you already have stuff and that you wouldn't know where to put new things, and going for a walk in nature tends to make me forget anything else and just appreciate what's around.
As it goes, I was feeling a little like this today (boxing day) but decided to make a bread and go for a walk whilst the dough proves. I feel so much better having made that decision. There’s nothing I need but it’s amazing how the brain can try to want us to fill gaps
Yeah I agree with that one. It's like shopping with your eyes. You see it, stand and appreciate it and then walk away. When we really think about it, the item unless we really need it and are going to use it is just a waste of money and causes clutter.
Your videos definitely helped me a lot during my minimalist no shopping journey. I am on day 50 now of no shopping after trying to quit for 16 years!!! That’s the longest I’ve gone with tour shopping. During the last prime days I browsed a lot, this past prime event this week? I didn’t browse at all!! I’m so proud of myself
The biggest tip about not buying things came from you, Vera in one of your earlier videos. The tip is: YOU CAN LIKE THINGS WITHOUT NECESSARILY OWNING THEM. Now this was such a HUUUUUGE eye-opener, I cannot even tell you. Thank you so much for it, Vera! I heard it a couple of weeks ago and it has already saved me substantial money, I think. It is such a joy when I can walk in a shop, see some nice things and instead of feeling my thoughts racing in the directions of "Oh, I need it! Where do I put it? Can I afford it? Will I buy one or more? Maybe a set? Oh, I need it, I need it!!!", I can just appreciate the object, maybe touch it, hold it in my hand, think "this is a beautiful craft; this is a lovely peace of pottery, this is a lovely notebook, these earring would look great with my red dress" and then put the object back and walk away. No regrets, no afterthought, just this lovely feeling as if I have chatted to a nice, valuable object, but then I don't get extra clutter at home - especially the one that doesn't go well with one another! And another tip I can share when it comes to kitchen supplies, like spices or tea, or tins and cans which I sometimes happen to have too much of: just make a commitment that every day I use one piece of it. So if I cook sth, I will necessarily use some of the spices that I want to finish. I will also drink at least a mug of the tea I want to see ended. And so on. Minimalism is great! I am not saying it's the only right way in life, but I personally adore it and I am trying to master it as much as I can. Thank you Vera for inspiring us for it!
Love that so much, thank you! 🤗❤️ And yes, such a nice feeling to just be able to appreciate something without feeling the need to buy it. Much less stressful too, because you like said, there's no need to think about whether or not to get it, if you can afford it, where to put it in your home, etc. Treating stores like museums for pretty things :) And then just going home haha. Glad that has helped you so much already!
Ditto, also I like and have used it’s like seeing treasures I can appreciate and not buy them and not have to spend any of my sacred money, but like the eye candy!
I'm someone who loves clothes and the best advice I've gotten is to not buy it unless you have tangible plans to wear it. I'm often buying for my fantasy self or some occasion that doesn't happen so the clothes stay hung up in my closet so this has helped me a lot.
I didn’t realize it until this video, but one of the ways I cope with wanting to shop for all things cozy is by baking cozy and seasonal recipes! It’s “new stuff” and I get to share with friends and family!
My tip would be, when you feel an urge to shop, distract yourself by focusing on something that makes you feel happy/fulfilled instead. (For me that's reading, going on a long walk or a day trip, doing something creative.) When you make time for things that nourish you, I find that the urge to shop often goes away by itself 🙂
And also there's so much you can do for free without spending money. I've recently got into borrowing digital audio books from my local library (it's easier for me to listen to stories then physically read them) and I'm having such a good time with them I don't feel the need to spend money. I just borrow, enjoy and return it for someone else to enjoy. I will buy small things like flowers, puzzle book and candles but I'm intentional with what I buy and use everything. Clothes I think is the worst for everybody, it's so easy to be dissatisfied as there's always new looks and clothing available. Everybody has got such good tips and points on this video about shopping and minimalism I could talk hours with everybody 😀 I'm really looking to make spending less a part of my lifestyle, particularly with cost of living so find these videos really helpful. 🙏
Aw thanks!! 🤗 Yes haha, sometimes it's tricky when you're trying to start recording, because how it looks on the little viewfinder on the camera is a bit different from how it'll look when you watch it on your phone for example. So when I'm just here by myself, sometimes I overthink how my video shot looks.
I have this feeling that "I need something new" in autumn too. A really good way I found to deal with it is making something new from things I already have, like upcycling old clothes and such. Then I have something new without buying anything, revived the old thing AND done something creative. It's a win-win-win for me 😀
If I feel I need something new with clothing I try to get second hand which is a fraction of the price but am very intentional with the item and visualise where and when I am going to wear this. I'd feel guilty buying something expensive and then experiencing the reality I'm not using it much. But I do think clothing is the hardest thing for people to curb, we all want to look good! 😀
I always find myself feeling calmer after I spend time with you, Vera. Thank you for sharing your insight. I think so much of this consumer culture comes down to being mindful - so many people don’t even stop to think, they just buy because it’s what we do.
Hi there, my tip is to become aware of the feeling, snd my thoughts behind it. Then i ask myself what i actually want .... often, i get the urge to shop because im feeling not enough, or i feel that im ignoring my needs for rest, self care, or im lonely or bored. Once i know the underlying need, i find a way to satisfy that need. Like remind myself of all the ways i am enough, finding healthy ways to care for myself, etc.
The one-in/one-out rule has helped me greatly in order to keep a handle on how much "stuff" I have in my home. It also makes me consider what I'm willing to give up in order to bring the new item into my home and a lot of the time, the cost/benefit analysis I do in my head makes me realize I didn't want the new item enough to give up anything I already have which just makes me appreciate what I already have all the more and diminishes the want/need to shop just a little bit more each time.. You and your videos are so delightful and a breath of fresh air at the end of my week.
Yes that's such a good point! If we're going to replace something when we buy something new, it makes us question if the new item is even worth it, or even that much better than what we already have :)
Goede tips!!! Ik maak zelf foto's van het item dat ik wil kopen. En bekijk het thuis weer rustig na in mij eigen comferd zone zonder afleiding en prikkels en merk ik dat die behoefte er vaak niet meer Is.
Oh yeah I'm in this obsession with borrowing free audio books from my local library recently. It's all free, all I need is my phone and I get great information and stories. I even borrowed a German course for free that I've been listening to so I've got multiple pros of no money spent at all, a productive way to spend my time (instead of watching TV) and thirdly learning new skills.
This is so true. The cocooning instinct kicks in at this time and we want to feel cozy and have a cozy nest. Usually i need a few seasonal things but it gets less and less every year. This year i am repairing purses and boots and "making do." That has been my philosophy all year!
You’re so right about wanting to buy more this time of the year but thanks to your inspiring videos, I can easily get rid of this ‘want’ (especially when I see how my savings account is growing 😉). What I also love to do is go through my house, look at all my stuff and tell myself ‘how I love this house and the people & pets in it’; this makes me feel so grateful 💓
A welcome vlog just now. Books (mostly fiction) are my weakness, and I love beautiful editions of classics. I've given myself a one-year moratorium just to catch up on all the ones already on my bookshelf which I haven't read yet. I probably have 3 or 4 years' worth of solid reading even if I buy nothing new! If I succeed, I will try to extend it for another year. I think it's a question of breaking bad habits, not easy to do.
@@patdennis2586 Yes, it's too easy to buy on kindle! I have lots there too. The Japanesehave a word for buying more books than you can read... Tsundoku 😊
Same for me with books… I have too many waiting to be read, yet I‘m still buying new books as I always find something interesting. I will use your advice and try to read what I have first. 🫶🏼
I find that sometimes my urge to buy something, particularly to update my home, can be assuaged by knitting! I usually have a knitting project going, and although I don’t crank out a lot of products from knitting, it’s more of a meditative and creative outlet. I think the knitting takes care of the urge to do some creative decorating In other words,, turn to a craft, a hobby, or even a physical activity to get past the urge to acquire something new. In other words, trade the urge to create by buying something new with a creative activity. I have found that this works for me quite well, even though I have never had a real problem with over shopping because of finances, I am also susceptible to all the creative advertising and such that is in our space all the time
I also feel the itch to shop this time of year. I deal with it by coloring/ painting seasonal pictures. It’s a calm and quite thing to do and it helps me celebrate the season without shopping or eating.
23:00 I am not sure about an increased urge to buy things but I have definitely noticed that things nowadays are not meant to last like they used to. I am not sure if people buy more things because they last less or if it is the other way around, but it is definitely something I worry about.
Yes!!! It really does seem apparent that appliances, tools, and most things in between just “aren’t built like they used to be.” Cost-cutting everywhere. Then since we’re saving money on crappier products, we can buy more in general AND need to replace things more often. (And if something doesn’t work well, we replace it more readily because the investment wasn’t huge to begin with.) These days I definitely find myself spending more for brands I think will stand behind their products more, but also appreciating older items more and being sure to take care of them properly, to avoid having to replace it with something newer and of potentially lower quality.
I definitely think the root cause of shopping compulsions is boredom so I figured if you're busying your mind with other things, you don't think about shopping.
@@21cormorantsthis is why I buy vintage and second hand. It's made better and lasts longer. I rarely buy new things now as it breaks so easily. I mean in terms of build look at the great pyramids at Giza, they've been there for centuries and still standing!
This is my favorite type of video! Thank you so much for sharing! I’m always looking for new perspectives to help me not want more material things as much.
I understand your feeling. What I do when the crazy season is coming is look on my house what are the things that are starting to look old or that are not working for me anymore I donate them or sell them AND wait until the sales begins, if I notice that in that two weeks I dont need them ITS ok AND I only buy the things I really need. Grettings from México. Love your videos.
My urge to shop increases every time I have a hectic, busy day at work, more than usual. Most of the time it's interior decoration, as I see my home as a safe space to deal with my professional stress. At this time of year, I've bought an analog radio and I've also bought quite a few books. Surprisingly, after 3 months of listening to classical music and reading for 30 minutes to 1 hour before going to bed, my stress levels have fallen slightly. And my urge to make impulse purchases has reduced considerably.
Wow, all of these are excellent observations! Finding ways to minimize stress could definitely have a huge knock-on impact on our reliance upon retail therapy. It makes perfect sense but it’s never occurred to me previously. Thank you!
I love this channel! Years ago I realized I could enjoy a lot of things, views, houses, clothes, without actually owning them! I don't really want the upkeep, so it's better to admire only. About your appearance: you're beautiful, voice, everything! No need to stress.
One thing I've been doing is that whenever I see a product I want to help with some little issue, I ask myself: How can I solve this problem without spending money? It has made me get more creative with the things I already have. I've felt a diminished urge to spend as I've been learning to keep my home clean and organized... Spending all that time with the things I already have, caring for them and arranging them pleasingly, has done a lot to curb the shopping impulse. Your videos have been a welcome complement to my Zen practice. It has replaced the doom scrolling with positive reflections. Thank you!
I went to Hobby Lobby for a small item yesterday. They already have 50% of Christmas items. The store is just packed with beautiful things. I went in and looked at everything. It was fun and enjoyable. Then I purchased the item I went in for and left. I agree we do want to make our home more inviting for these months ahead. Mostly just because we feel trapped inside. Thank you Vera. Yes, I was one of those people who was addicted to DIY videos. I had to stop watching them. ☮️🌎🌲
So nice you just had a good time looking at the beautiful things in the store, and then just leaving with only the item you went in to purchase. That's great!!
Thank you for sharing this Vera. This is something I still struggle with. As much as I try to resist temptation I end up giving in and buying something new regardless whether I need it or not.
You're so welcome, hopefully the tips in this video have helped a little! No need to beat yourself up I think, just trying different tips to see which can work for us :) Good luck and have a wonderful Sunday!
I love how this video comes out the exact same minute I want to browse the Steam store to see if there's any new games I want to buy. Even though consciously I know that the only time I can ever truly enjoy a game is when it's specifically what I want, wait for it, and buy it when it releases. Almost always, the games I get from curious browsing just get thrown into a backlog of games I never actually play or only play very little of before getting bored. Only a few are ones I actually stick long enough to beat. I think it's the promise of future positive emotion associated with the novelty of a new game, but also the dopamine hit in the present of just spending money. There's something about using what you've earned to exchange it for future fun that feels good. But alas, I've curbed most of my impulse buying urges in recent years and I'm all the better for it. The thing I always ask myself when it comes to buying anything is: will I enjoy this right now, right away, and for a long time or am I saving it for a rainy day? If the answer is yes two the former, then it's good to go. If it's the latter, then that's when I know it's just wanting to feel good about buying something without actually using it for its true value. That rainy day actually never comes.
I'm in this conundrum as well with video games. I really enjoy them as a little wind down time but I'm finding myself purchasing them digitally (always at sale price!) but then wondering am I going to have time to play them, am I really going to love playing it and the backlog of them mounts. I will play it for a few hours but then I end up forgetting about it and moving on to another game like a grasshopper mind. And then a new game comes out and I like the look of that and so it carries on. And then your backlog of like 50+ games becomes so overwhelming you just wouldn't have the spare time to play them all so that's an area I need improving on. Movies are different though, you just watch for 2 hours and that's it!
@@SimpleHappyZenDo you ever end up with a backlog for your video games? Or do you have that discipline to buy it, be fully invested in that one game and complete it? Because I really struggle with that!
@@greenkitty82 Right which is why you should only buy something you'll know you'll play immediately after buying, implicitly meaning only buying one game at a time instead of how those sales tempt you to buy them in bulk. Also you shouldn't look at it as a backlog, rather a LIBRARY that depicts your taste in games. You have to accept that you're either never gonna beat every last game in your library, let alone even give them a try, but let them stand a testament to your taste. Obviously, though, that's not that big of a feeling than actually playing something you truly truly want to invest in. This is why I appreciate demos so much. If I can get a sense of a game's overall feel in 30 minutes or so, then I know I'm getting it. If not then bye bye bye.
A couple weeks ago, I was so wanting to buy some new Halloween decorations now that I have my first house. I added a bunch of stuff to my cart online as I browsed the website, then I went to the cart and saw how much everything added up to and it was a lot. I then removed a few things, but I still didn't check out because a little voice in the back of my head was telling me that I didn't really need the items, I didn't really want to spend the money, and I didn't want to have to worry about where to store the items when Halloween is over. I also thought about what it would be like when the actual package would arrive and what a chore it would be to open the cardboard box, unpack everything, deal with all of the packaging material that I'd have to throw out, and breaking down the cardboard box to fit into my recycle bin. All of this ended up not making the purchase feel worthwhile, so I emptied the cart and closed the tab. It really does help to sit and think about a purchase before you actually make it, especially if it's an online purchase. Those can be so tempting, especially when there are offers for free shipping if you spend just a few more dollars or if they make it seem so easy to return something if you change your mind. It's shocking to learn about how often returns that are shipped back to retailers often just end up getting thrown away instead of restocked and sold to someone else.
That’s so good. I don’t like halloween - the trick or treat begging with threat, so find it easy to not buy anything for that 😂 It is tempting to want to feel cosy though, so Vera’s tip of looking at what you already have and using that is great 😊
I also had a friend in grade school that came from a well off family. She was really sweet and nice to talk to. I didn't realize the difference in our situations until I noticed she never wore the same thing twice. When three weeks went by and I realized this I was surprised. I visited her house and her room was huge. The closet had racks of things to choose from. She did not say anything about my smaller apartment bedroom or my lack of a wardrobe, she was just a sweet person. Thanks for today's video.
This is definitely the most difficult time of year for me when it comes to wanting to purchase new things. The darker days, cooler weather, and coziness of the season really test my willpower. If I do buy something new I try to get rid of something else. Thanks for the helpful tips😊
Love your videos always Vera❤ I have a friend I went shopping with and she was pondering whether or not to purchase something and then she simply said “I would rather just have the money“
Thank you Erika! As a video creator, sometimes I worry about what the video 'shot' looks like in terms of colors, whitebalance and lighting. Not so much what I look like myself, if that makes sense :) But I know it's not really that important hahaha, sometimes I get stuck in an overthinking mood.
@@SimpleHappyZenVera you look absolutely beautiful in your videos, lovely face, clothing and beautiful hair - don't worry about a thing 🌷❤️❤️ You Dutch are a good looking bunch! ❤️
Dear Vera, I totally get this urge you described around this time of year, especially when it comes to kids’ stuff (I have three). The industry reminds us (ads, prime days, special deals etc.) that it’s Christmas soon (not really, right ?!) and the earlier you start the more money you will end up spending for gifts. Also, the thought that we will spend less time outside when the weather is bad makes me want to stock up on nice indoor activities (crafts, board games, …) for my kids. My way around this is the public library and the public ludotheque, a kind of „toy library“ which we have everywhere in Belgium. It gives you a shopping feeling but other than with real shopping in a book- or toy store, you don’t have to be rich to afford the items you see. You can have them immediately, pay a little fee (in the ludotheque) or no fee at all in the library and take them home. The best part is, once they have been read or played with, things often lose their initial appeal so my kids are just as fine with parting with the items after a few weeks as I am :-)
I feel this feeling in the fall & spring and I agree with you Vera completely that all the ads and influencers can make you feel like you have to buy something for that new season and I feel a lot of anxiety sometimes because I feel like I have to do something different like add something in my home for that season. I have always liked the idea of having a couple of things to change up twice a year, example: couch pillows, a vase, different color candle….these are very simple ways to make things feel different for me when the seasons change. I do not invest a lot of money and keeping 3-4 little things in a box helps me to feel like my home is comfortable for that time of year. Here in Florida we do not get much of a fall & winter so it can get pretty boring having the same weather all year round (except for the hurricanes 🙄😵💫) so it’s a way to change things up! I get pulled by influencers also with the “autumn hauls” so it can make you feel like you’re not included in the fun 🍂🍁…these reminders are so good for us not to get caught up and that we can control how much social media we watch during this time, instead maybe a nice long walk with your grandkids or spouse picking fall leaves and putting them in a basket on the table and baking some yummy desserts 🥧🪁🚶♀️🌻🚴♀️
One of my Buddhist teachers said that flipping through a catalog is training yourself to want things. Ever since, I give myself 2-3 days before I order anything online.
Hi Vera, I‘m a long term (silent) follower of yours and absolutely love all your videos and what you do and stand for❤ I truly believe that you’re one of the most precious content creators there is on YT! Saying that I wanted to ask if you could film an updated wardrobe tour for us? I get so much inspiration and also motivation out of them which helps me keeping my wardrobe small (in a sensible way). Been re-watching your old wardrobe declutterring videos regularly to remind myself that I don’t need more clothes and your videos help me so much with that (not only with my wardrobe but in all areas in life. The wardrobe ones I just like the most😉) Lots of love from South Germany💕 Susi
Hi Susi, thank you so much for your kind and fun comment and for being a long term follower of the channel!! Yes, I've been thinking of doing a big wardrobe declutter/reorganizing video sometime within the next couple of weeks, but I'm not sure how I want to go about it yet. I might have to purchase a big container for storing some bedding so I have more room available for coats and stuff haha. Things like that. So not making any promises, but there's a chance there will be a new wardrobe video in the coming weeks :)
I quit all social media a few years ago and one reason was I noticed it was causing me to buy a lot of stuff that I didn't even want. I am seeing that I need to be very selective about what I watch on youtube as well so you are not alone in that!
Your story about your friend reminds me of a gal I worked with, we were college age and were going out for the evening, so I met her at her house. I about fell over when I saw how many clothes she had, it was crazy. I remember being wowed but not being jealous. We need to stop normalizing this kind of overconsumption, it has gotten so much worse in recent years.
I have some seasonal items I pull out of my closet when the seasons change. I have a dark brown medium size statue of squirrel with an acorn, and a decorative orange pumpkin for autumn; and for spring I have some fake cherry blossom flowers. So I have something seasonal and it also feels a little bit new, but when the season is over I store it again. And in the lighter seasons, late spring and summer, I store the candles also, and pull them out when autumn begins again. So there is some change and ‘newness’ in the livingroom, but so don’t have to buy things. Or not all the time, only when I see something that really adds value :) sometimes I do like to switch some seasonal things out with something new and then I buy something at the thriftstore and donate the thing that no longer suits me. Oh and, thank you for your video’s, they are helpful! 🩵 groetjes uit Alkmaar 😄
Yes, someone else commented about our 'gathering' instinct as well, that's an interesting point that I didn't consider :) Makes total sense. And also, YAAAAY for fall recipes!!!
I think you have hit the nail on the head. Maybe a bit of foraging like blackberry picking, pick your own fruit, or going to a farmers market can help meet that gathering harvesting urge.
Thank you! I like the change of the seasons and pack away seasonal stuff. When you unpack it a year later, it feels like rediscovering it all over again! Such fun
I agree! I change my seasonal decor by pulling out different curtains, throw blankets, pillows, candle holders, etc., that I have in storage. It feels like having new stuff, but there is no buying involved.
Not being philosophical but if you have set a higher goal for yourself than your need and desires, everything else becomes secondary. Thank you for your calm presence ❤
Happy Saturday, Vera! Thanks for the tips! ❤ Yes, this wanting to shop thing can be an issue for me as well. I will sometimes think in terms of “will this haunt me and will I regret not getting it a year or two from now” when I see something I’d really like to buy. I’m also practicing “do I really need it.” BTW, I noticed the beautiful pattern on your lovely white shirt before you mentioned it so honestly I don’t think there was too much white. 😊
Aw thanks! Sometimes it's tricky when you're trying to start recording, because how it looks on the little viewfinder on the camera is a bit different from how it'll look when you watch it on your phone for example. So when I'm just here by myself, sometimes I overthink how my video shot looks. Anyway, glad you enjoyed the video! 🤗💕 “will this haunt me and will I regret not getting it a year or two from now” made me laugh
Yes, I am a fan of both Nick Lewis and Elin Lesser. Elin has a unique way of looking at things, as do you and you both add a lot to my simple life/minimalist journey! I'm always amazed that after all this time there are still new and fresh ways to look at minimalism, like the viewpoint you mentioned in the book you recommended.
Definitely, I feel the urge to "nest" and buy cosy stuff as the weather cools down/ end of the year approaches. I agree on reducing consumption/ viewing things, if it leads to wanting new things, it's a really good idea! Think I also need to put this into action, thank you. I find lists really help me - if I write the thing I want and why I want it/ if I have something already similar to it/not, it makes decisions much easier. Sort of a use-case defense 😊 why do I need to buy it, why now, when will I use it, how often, can it wait, etc. Plus a 2 week wait before buying, or more if it is more expensive and I should rather save up for it.
Utilizing my local library is a great way to scratch that shopping itch. Scoping out the online catalogue or library stacks for new reads is like shopping! Also the local libraries in my area of the US all now have “Library of Things” collections where you can check out games, tools, all sorts of things, like telescopes for star gazing even! One can also get free/discounted admissions to museums and other local attractions.
I'm in year 2 of a long term death cleaning project, and im jonesing on clearing out some more stuff. I found good venues and methods for rehoming things this year, can't wait to muster some energy & clear out a new space!
Even as a minimalist, I’ve had to restrain myself this season from buying all of the things, haha. This season, I got a new planner, some fall treats that are easy to bake, and Luigi’s Mansion 3. Listening to nostalgic tunes from the likes of The Smashing Pumpkins, Imogen Heap, and Weezer. lol On your topic of being mindful of what we’re allowing to influence ourselves, I’m in the “cozy gamer” space of TH-cam and find it really interesting because it opened me up to explore things in a way that I wouldn’t typically-“romanticize” is the word that comes to mind. However, I’ve made a conscious effort to avoid joining Discord communities within that space because I don’t want to be compelled to buy or do stuff just for the aesthetic and put a lot of value on function. Sometimes, it’s good to remind ourselves that we all have those boundaries. ❤️
Love what you shared about being mindful about the spaces we're in online :) Also yay for the smashing pumpkins!! I also have a song from Weezer I really like, I never skip it when it comes on in my shuffle :)
I love your content Vera. I don't buy any Halloween decorations or autumnal stuff.I do admire the colours for the season outdoors. When is getting colder outside I read books ,drink hot drinks and cook lots of healthy soups and dishes. The colder,darker months are perfect for me to save money and plan future road trips and adventures🍂🍂.
I hate the run up to Christmas. It feels like a tsunami of gabage hits the stores to join the mountains of garbage already there. The meaning of Christmas has been hijacked by manufacturers and corporations and threatens to destroy it and we let it. I got a pop up on my phone to tell me that there are massive discounts on Temu. This bombardment of advertising and promotions for stuff has reached the stage now where it almost makes me feel ill and disorientated. It feels like drowning in a plastic swamp.
It can definitely be a lot. I would say try to decrease the exposure to excessive ads when you can, like delete shopping apps that give you those notifications, if possible. We decide what the Christmas season means to us and take back control by ignoring what doesn't bring us value as best we can.
I agree 100%… with everything you said… I walk around the big stores these days in shock at just how much random stuff is being sold and how many people are shopping… it’s overwhelming… I’ll be staying away from the big plazas and big box stores for the next 3 months! I’ll be Deleting shopping site apps and unsubscribing immediately the second a site sends an add.
Vera, this episode was absolutely fantastic and perfect timing indeed! Such great advice to get us ready for the silly season. I Love how real and honest you were in this vlog. It was like a warm friendly chat with a good friend. And, btw, your white top looked super pretty and your hair is always gorgeous!
We do so little holiday shopping these days. Every holiday, family members get a Mix book of our son that my husband put together with photos over the last year (they LOVE this.) Our son (who is four) gets four gifts: Something you want, something you need, something you wear, something you read. We just decided we didn't want to feed the materialism of this season. Our kid doesn't know any different, he's just happy to get presents. Me and my husband exchange one item or we enjoy a meal out if we really want to make it special. It's so low key and stress free. Then when the holidays are over I take all the money we saved for the holidays, but didn't spend, and donate it.
I have been struggling with wanting to go shopping a lot more lately. I always feel this way when the holidays roll around. There’s a deep desire I have to shop as a form of self care but I can barely afford to live and am seriously trying to shift this mentality. Your content helps. Thank you
My mantra is: shop your house first. This works great. This year I added a Stoptober challenge. I do not by any clothes or gadgets in October. And I feel perfectly happy about this until now.
Hi! I like your videos very much and I also like how kind and nice you are ❤. I resonate with a lot of your opinions. I also watch Nick's videos and noticed the same thing, how I started to look around my house and think about what I could change to make it more appealing 😄. I also decided to take a break and instead of focusing on what I dislike/would like to change about my house, to appreciate how nice my house is and how blessed I am for everything, especially considering that there are people who don't even have a house at all 🙁. I also watch Elin's videos. 😊. Thank you for all your beautiful content!
Yes. I am feeling more desere to shop. I like autumn and I see in one app a lot of things about it. And when I realize I was put somethings in 🛒. I stop and little by little delete things. In the end I get 2 things that was the reason for open the app. Shop is nice but can make you addict. Because we think more is better. No true! Shop something that you need, really like and can pay is better than have much stuff.
vera I just wanted to tell you that I just finished to watch all the videos of your chanel! it was one of my goals for this year and I have learned so many things about myself and the peace I want in my life, I'm looking forward to continuing enjoying your videos for a long time, and keep growing as a person little by little. By the way, I'm from Colombia! and I found your channel during the pandemic in 2020 so it was a ray of light for me ❤
I’ve had major financial problems during & since the pandemic so I can’t buy anything thing except really needed things-I’m amazed at what I don’t need to buy!
It was lovely seeing your home in the evening with the cosy muted lights 😍 It struck me that #1 and #2 kinda contradict each other. I really agree with the idea that when we buy something, it's the not having to think about the item anymore that makes us happy rather than the item itself. But when we bookmark something or start researching it, we sometimes create the conditions for overthinking until we need to buy it in order to stop thinking about it - if that makes sense 😅 I do generally find bookmarks very helpful, but sometimes they backfire because it's so much easier to go back to that item and fuel the desire to buy it 😂
Thanks! I love our home at night because of the lights we have, it gets really cozy :) Also yes, that's a good point about #1 and #2. Definitely good to stay intentional and not just bookmark everything, or to a point where you become obsessed with thinking about it and researching stuff. For me, I find that bookmarking it helps me to let go of it for a while, because I know I've bookmarked it and therefore I won't forget where I found it and stuff. So my mind is free to let go of it for now. But it's always good to review how these internal processes work for us, because they might work differently for different people. :)
I am glad I don't get out much. I don't like things being pushed in my face way before the actual holiday - you're so spot on. I had to replace a tiny iron for quilting and loved the research. Your lamp is so lovely! So you. x's lj
I luv it -u are right on the pulse; Nick Lewis: I went through the SAME thing this very week. So I employ concepts you’ve mentioned, & pause on it. I also find it useful to enjoy the resources & design elements he demonstrates & apply it to those things we already have, or plan for the future in terms of colors, materials we favor. Consciously declining on the ‘buy impulse & putting that gratitude of what we have & what’s to come- in place. Like as you mention… making your simple yoga moment Everything. That mindset is what I continuously strive to. Satiating the ‘More’ impulse, over the ‘Enough’ moment- in this time… is a challenge universal.
3:58 I'll put tampons in it lol! It looks a lot like a stationery holder or something to store coasters. Maybe not cutlery, unless they are already dry.
I was doing the same thing with the videos of nick Lewis! But I wasn't really aware of it... But the feeling of having to buy or even to do something is not a nice feeling to be left with after watching a video. In stead getting the feeling of content and 'it is finished' is so much nicer!! That's what I come here for 😊
Love your videos and your aura ❤ I’m not a minimalist but try to be more intentional with my spending (work in progress) for the last decade. I find back to school time definitely pushes people to spend and go to the stores. I also want to spend on decor and home goods because I’ve moved and I am in limbo. Haven’t hung pictures but also haven’t had the energy to do so. Maybe this winter when I stuck inside more I’ll get into decorating 😅
Something that helps me is remembering the last thing I really wanted and bought because I didn’t want to miss a deal, and still ended up disappointed (even after checking reviews!) An example is hair products, in always looking for the next thing that will help hydrate and soften my hair :(
Ah yes that makes total sense. Also, my hair has also always been really dry and I can tell you from experience that I don't think there's a product out there that can really hydrate and soften it haha. Hydrating products make it a bit better, but that's the best they can do. So I've stopped looking for that ultimate product, I don't think it exists :) Even the products my hairdressers have recommended specifically for my hair type end up disappointing a bit.
Have you tried castor oil? I have dry hair and I used to put veg / olive oil on it every few weeks. Left it on for half an hour then washed it off. People did used to comment on my hair looking healthy. It's a quite messy process though. Like I ended up using plastic bags to wrap my hair in to reduce the mess.
I love Nijntje! Everytime I go to Hema here in Belgium I'm tempted to buy something from Nijntje but never have ( voor 1 of andere reden schrijf ik mijn comment altijd in het Engels😁) glad I'm not the only one who feels like that. Dille & Kamille is another store I always want to buy something . Luckily I 'm fine with just enjoying the items at the store without have to purchase something everytime. Bedankt voor de video Vera!♥️
YESSS Dille & Kamille is a great example too. Even though I very rarely buy things there, I love going there to browse and look at all the pretty things :)
3:58 your little wooden item with the bunny head on it…I believe the word you are thinking for is “tea light” but your container looks to be wood which would be a fire hazard with a real candle…battery operated not so much. You could use it as a pen/pencil holder on your desk. Good post.❤
I'm a little bit opposite in this regard, in that as autumn continues and winter approaches I've noticed I have a big urge to declutter! I think it's because the longer nights make me feel more 'closed in' in some way and so I crave more space and simplicity. I have to resist the urge to declutter things which I know I will need or that I know I don't really want to part with. The one exception is yarn for crochet and knitting. Something about wanting to feel cosy during this chillier time of year makes we want to buy yarn - which I have to resist as I currently have enough lol
Hahaha yes I would say that makes sense! I always get that urge in the springtime, but I can totally imagine that happening during this season. I do feel a wardrobe declutter coming on... haha!
I loved the story you told about your friend when you were a child and how she had so much but was not happy. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on all this. I think the only thing I tend to want to shop for are clothes in the changing seasons (I don't even own many but I ruin most of what I wear). I enjoy Elin Lesser's videos! I have been subbed to her for maybe half a year or more now.
Aw thanks! :) I love this blouse too, I've had it for a couple of years already but usually don't wear it on camera. Might do that more often in the future :)
Presumably the urge to shop in the autumn is to do with evolutionary experiences- hunter gathering and storing to be safe and secure for the upcoming winter. And then, potentially, the reverse phenomenon in spring - wanting to clear out (declutter/clean) the old nest
Hi Vera, listened to your video only today. Just to say you look lovely in white as you always do.l felt you were a little upset today as if something was bothering you, l do hope that that feeling had now passed. I too actually dread the dark, wet winter months especially now I'm in my 60s. Your videos always cheer me up and inspire me, you are a wonderful person, and entertaining and informative to watch. Never doubt that. Much love.
Thanks, Vera! Getting ready to move cross-country really motivates us not to buy items that we have to pack! ❤ I have constantly "❤" items or add them to my wish list, favorites, etc. Sometimes, it is helpful when someone asks "What do you want for Christmas, your birthday, our anniversary?"
Hello, I love your videos so much thank you for every eye-opening perspective, they bring me so much joy... Maybe I know very well everything you mentioned, maybe in my brain there is a voice telling me girl you already know that come on you can also think that by yourself but listening and watching you makes me realize these topics more thoroughly, pushing me to bring those ideas to life, makes me want to really happy simple life. I want to thank you for that 💜
I'm going to say happy weekend to you now Vera (before actually watching) as I have to download your video and listen during my over hour long drive into the city for a Thanksgiving family get-together. 🥧
@francineh.7825 That's so interesting, I never knew people in Canada celebrated Thanksgiving in October. Google says it's because it's further north, harvest comes earlier to avoid the cold of winter. Makes sense :)
Thank you, this was such a good video, one I needed to hear right now. I'll check out the book you shared, "When Things Don't Go Your Way." You said that, basically, the opposite of consumerism is deep appreciation for what we already have. I heard an echo of that in a book on spending more mindfully, Jeremy Shapiro's kindle book "How to Get More Happiness from Less Stuff: Make the Psychology of Money Work for You (The Psychology of Money and Happiness Book 2)." I put a homemade poster on my fridge to remind me that gratitude is the counter to spending compulsion- not having.
I love your videos. I love to shop but after watching you and taking some of your advice I hold back and want to be happy with all that I have and enjoy doing with less, thanks so much
Im doing some decorating to make the house nicer for winter. Not buying new stuff apart from paint and storage. It seems to be distracting me from online shopping.
I am so happy i saw that ypu made a video about that because i already told all of my friends that i don’t know why but i just have such an urge to buy something new since fall came around and since i got a new job at the start of the year i don’t make as much money as before and can’t just buy stuff(wich i love so much because i had quite an addiction at that point for buying) and i did soooooo well the whole year and considered everything very good if i really would need it but now omg i just WANT to have some cozy new things and i am kind of glad to know that maybe it’s just because of the season and all the ads and not because i am falling into old habbits again your video was very helpfull thank you so much i will definitely try your tips🥰🥰🥰
Your white blouse on white background is lovely. I see a clean, minimal, elegant young woman. I think this actually perfectly represents your aesthetic🥰🌟
Great video 😊. I am very into fashion so this time of year ( change of seasons ) I definitely feel more of an urge to buy things. I often put things on wishlists and this helps. Or I will watch videos of content creators who are more into sustainable fashion and who promote shopping and playing in your own closet rather than buying something new all the time.
I find shops promote any way they can to make us want the item. I find asking myself, "Would I want that if I didn't know about it?" helps. I make a wish list where I think about it for a couple of months. I find then I can think through about it. If not wanting the item, it's off the list. If wanting it, I will check what is in stores and the price ❤ It also has to be do I love it, and it is useful ❤
Nick’s program is fun but it really does still encourage you to buy and that what you have may not be “trendy” anymore. This season of the year is bad for me too. I did buy a new long sleeved shirt for fall but I thought about it for days first. I do love it and it is fall themed. I also struggle in the winter with more sadness and have been thinking about getting one of those lights that’s supposed to help with that. I need to do research first. And then where do I put it? I have no tips, I’m struggling myself right now. When the weather gets cooler we turn our attention to our indoors space as we are spending more time inside. I think that’s why we want to buy. But really we will never make our home as beautiful as nature so maybe we need to lower our expectations for our home to thrill us the way nature and being outside does.
If the light is expensive for you or space is limited, etc., if your insurance allows it, it may be beneficial to have your doctor test your Vitamin D levels. If low, they may suggest affordable otc vitamins to help, which might potentially help with your mood. (I’m no doctor however, but it may not hurt to look into it!)
@belindagritter1572 Yes, good point! Having a beautiful come to curl up and relax during this cozy season is nice, but we still need to try and go outside and be in nature when we can, and not expect to get that same experience indoors. :) Also good luck with the research about the light, and let me know if you find something that works for you :) Also might be a good idea to talk to a physician, like @21cormorants said :) Take care!!
Thanks a million, once again, for your helpful, kind and to the point video. I have for myself, slready created a busy, but contented, life woth full time work as a single mum and a young dog to walk three times a day. So, basically I am "trapped" most of my days in a state, where I simply cannot shop, unless online: By the rnd of each day, I am tired from my commitments, but also happy, fulfilled and proud, do that shopping feels like a completely absurd idea. 😅
Hi! I realized I wasn't very clear in explaining something about the bamboo container. I mentioned using it for little candles, but obviously for storing them, not for burning them in the container. :) That wouldn't be safe haha. So no worries about that! I meant for storing the little candles in, so that when a candle somewhere else in my home burns out, I can grab a new one from my cute bamboo container.
Watching you and seeing you makes my heart so happy. Wow! You are a treasure!
Hi Vera, as someone who tries to maintain an uncluttered and somewhat minimal home aesthetic, I am usually very selective about decorative items coming into my home. However I recently made an impulse purchase: a tissue box cover that looks like a slice of cake 🍰 it’s bright pink with white icing and cherries around the top, kinda pricey too. I have no idea where I’m going to put it 😂😂
I have one more tip: when you feel like shopping, you can either go for a walk or clean your home. Cleaning your home makes you realize once again that you already have stuff and that you wouldn't know where to put new things, and going for a walk in nature tends to make me forget anything else and just appreciate what's around.
That's a really good tip marine. Getting out in nature certainly makes you forget about material desires as you are absorbed in the beauty around you.
What a clever idea!
That's so true
As it goes, I was feeling a little like this today (boxing day) but decided to make a bread and go for a walk whilst the dough proves. I feel so much better having made that decision. There’s nothing I need but it’s amazing how the brain can try to want us to fill gaps
Good idea! I clean or even declutter and it makes me feel the same - I have enough! And have put my energy into good use 😝
My favourite tip - which I think is one of yours- is to treat shops as museums, you don’t need to own the objects to appreciate them. 😁
Yeah I agree with that one. It's like shopping with your eyes. You see it, stand and appreciate it and then walk away. When we really think about it, the item unless we really need it and are going to use it is just a waste of money and causes clutter.
Fumio Sasaki said that in Goodbye,Things.
Your videos definitely helped me a lot during my minimalist no shopping journey. I am on day 50 now of no shopping after trying to quit for 16 years!!! That’s the longest I’ve gone with tour shopping. During the last prime days I browsed a lot, this past prime event this week? I didn’t browse at all!! I’m so proud of myself
Oh you can definitely be proud of yourself, way to gooooo!!! 🤗💕
I'm so proud of you too! 50 days! (55 by now, I'm guessing) Well done, from an internet rando. 😊
The biggest tip about not buying things came from you, Vera in one of your earlier videos. The tip is: YOU CAN LIKE THINGS WITHOUT NECESSARILY OWNING THEM.
Now this was such a HUUUUUGE eye-opener, I cannot even tell you. Thank you so much for it, Vera! I heard it a couple of weeks ago and it has already saved me substantial money, I think. It is such a joy when I can walk in a shop, see some nice things and instead of feeling my thoughts racing in the directions of "Oh, I need it! Where do I put it? Can I afford it? Will I buy one or more? Maybe a set? Oh, I need it, I need it!!!", I can just appreciate the object, maybe touch it, hold it in my hand, think "this is a beautiful craft; this is a lovely peace of pottery, this is a lovely notebook, these earring would look great with my red dress" and then put the object back and walk away. No regrets, no afterthought, just this lovely feeling as if I have chatted to a nice, valuable object, but then I don't get extra clutter at home - especially the one that doesn't go well with one another!
And another tip I can share when it comes to kitchen supplies, like spices or tea, or tins and cans which I sometimes happen to have too much of: just make a commitment that every day I use one piece of it. So if I cook sth, I will necessarily use some of the spices that I want to finish. I will also drink at least a mug of the tea I want to see ended. And so on.
Minimalism is great! I am not saying it's the only right way in life, but I personally adore it and I am trying to master it as much as I can. Thank you Vera for inspiring us for it!
This tip is incredible amazing... Thanks.
Love that so much, thank you! 🤗❤️ And yes, such a nice feeling to just be able to appreciate something without feeling the need to buy it. Much less stressful too, because you like said, there's no need to think about whether or not to get it, if you can afford it, where to put it in your home, etc. Treating stores like museums for pretty things :) And then just going home haha. Glad that has helped you so much already!
Same here! That tip was an eye-opener. I actually was just applying it today to something I was contemplating buying haha
Ditto, also I like and have used it’s like seeing treasures I can appreciate and not buy them and not have to spend any of my sacred money, but like the eye candy!
@@SimpleHappyZen Treating stores like museums for pretty things LOL that's basically the Steam and Humble Bundle stores for me now.
I'm someone who loves clothes and the best advice I've gotten is to not buy it unless you have tangible plans to wear it. I'm often buying for my fantasy self or some occasion that doesn't happen so the clothes stay hung up in my closet so this has helped me a lot.
I didn’t realize it until this video, but one of the ways I cope with wanting to shop for all things cozy is by baking cozy and seasonal recipes! It’s “new stuff” and I get to share with friends and family!
My tip would be, when you feel an urge to shop, distract yourself by focusing on something that makes you feel happy/fulfilled instead. (For me that's reading, going on a long walk or a day trip, doing something creative.) When you make time for things that nourish you, I find that the urge to shop often goes away by itself 🙂
So true, love that! Thanks for sharing :)
That's what my therapist told me too :)
And also there's so much you can do for free without spending money. I've recently got into borrowing digital audio books from my local library (it's easier for me to listen to stories then physically read them) and I'm having such a good time with them I don't feel the need to spend money. I just borrow, enjoy and return it for someone else to enjoy. I will buy small things like flowers, puzzle book and candles but I'm intentional with what I buy and use everything. Clothes I think is the worst for everybody, it's so easy to be dissatisfied as there's always new looks and clothing available.
Everybody has got such good tips and points on this video about shopping and minimalism I could talk hours with everybody 😀 I'm really looking to make spending less a part of my lifestyle, particularly with cost of living so find these videos really helpful. 🙏
The shirt and hair is perfect 👌 Don't overthink it😊
Aw thanks!! 🤗 Yes haha, sometimes it's tricky when you're trying to start recording, because how it looks on the little viewfinder on the camera is a bit different from how it'll look when you watch it on your phone for example. So when I'm just here by myself, sometimes I overthink how my video shot looks.
You look great! Agree with this comment - no need to overthink it
You look just fine ! Don't worry about it
I have this feeling that "I need something new" in autumn too.
A really good way I found to deal with it is making something new from things I already have, like upcycling old clothes and such. Then I have something new without buying anything, revived the old thing AND done something creative.
It's a win-win-win for me 😀
That's absolutely amazing, thanks for sharing!!
I think it is because every fall my Mom.and I would go shopping for "back to school" and our birthdays (both October) so it is ingrained in me 😂
If I feel I need something new with clothing I try to get second hand which is a fraction of the price but am very intentional with the item and visualise where and when I am going to wear this. I'd feel guilty buying something expensive and then experiencing the reality I'm not using it much. But I do think clothing is the hardest thing for people to curb, we all want to look good! 😀
That's how I started quilting!
I always find myself feeling calmer after I spend time with you, Vera. Thank you for sharing your insight. I think so much of this consumer culture comes down to being mindful - so many people don’t even stop to think, they just buy because it’s what we do.
Hi there, my tip is to become aware of the feeling, snd my thoughts behind it. Then i ask myself what i actually want .... often, i get the urge to shop because im feeling not enough, or i feel that im ignoring my needs for rest, self care, or im lonely or bored. Once i know the underlying need, i find a way to satisfy that need. Like remind myself of all the ways i am enough, finding healthy ways to care for myself, etc.
The one-in/one-out rule has helped me greatly in order to keep a handle on how much "stuff" I have in my home. It also makes me consider what I'm willing to give up in order to bring the new item into my home and a lot of the time, the cost/benefit analysis I do in my head makes me realize I didn't want the new item enough to give up anything I already have which just makes me appreciate what I already have all the more and diminishes the want/need to shop just a little bit more each time.. You and your videos are so delightful and a breath of fresh air at the end of my week.
Yes that's such a good point! If we're going to replace something when we buy something new, it makes us question if the new item is even worth it, or even that much better than what we already have :)
I'm going to have to save this video to my favourites and keep relooking at the comments as everyone's comments are like Gold 😃😃 Fantastic tip.
Goede tips!!! Ik maak zelf foto's van het item dat ik wil kopen. En bekijk het thuis weer rustig na in mij eigen comferd zone zonder afleiding en prikkels en merk ik dat die behoefte er vaak niet meer
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I rediscovered the library recently! so amazing, shopping feeling without shopping
Nice!!! 😁
Oh yeah I'm in this obsession with borrowing free audio books from my local library recently. It's all free, all I need is my phone and I get great information and stories. I even borrowed a German course for free that I've been listening to so I've got multiple pros of no money spent at all, a productive way to spend my time (instead of watching TV) and thirdly learning new skills.
@@greenkitty82 viel Spaß ;)
@@lamureon Danke schön. Ich werde. 🙂
@@greenkitty82 *werde ich. if I may 😆
This is so true. The cocooning instinct kicks in at this time and we want to feel cozy and have a cozy nest. Usually i need a few seasonal things but it gets less and less every year. This year i am repairing purses and boots and "making do." That has been my philosophy all year!
That's awesome, yay for repairing stuff!
You’re so right about wanting to buy more this time of the year but thanks to your inspiring videos, I can easily get rid of this ‘want’ (especially when I see how my savings account is growing 😉). What I also love to do is go through my house, look at all my stuff and tell myself ‘how I love this house and the people & pets in it’; this makes me feel so grateful 💓
Love that so much 🤗💕
A welcome vlog just now. Books (mostly fiction) are my weakness, and I love beautiful editions of classics. I've given myself a one-year moratorium just to catch up on all the ones already on my bookshelf which I haven't read yet. I probably have 3 or 4 years' worth of solid reading even if I buy nothing new! If I succeed, I will try to extend it for another year. I think it's a question of breaking bad habits, not easy to do.
Same here! My Kindle library is full and 3 paperback books have snuck (?) into my house.
Yes, that's such a great tip!! I also always read everything I haven't read yet, before getting a new book. Books deserve to be read :)
@@SimpleHappyZen Exactly!
@@patdennis2586 Yes, it's too easy to buy on kindle! I have lots there too. The Japanesehave a word for buying more books than you can read... Tsundoku 😊
Same for me with books… I have too many waiting to be read, yet I‘m still buying new books as I always find something interesting. I will use your advice and try to read what I have first. 🫶🏼
I find that sometimes my urge to buy something, particularly to update my home, can be assuaged by knitting! I usually have a knitting project going, and although I don’t crank out a lot of products from knitting, it’s more of a meditative and creative outlet.
I think the knitting takes care of the urge to do some creative decorating
In other words,, turn to a craft, a hobby, or even a physical activity to get past the urge to acquire something new. In other words, trade the urge to create by buying something new with a creative activity.
I have found that this works for me quite well, even though I have never had a real problem with over shopping because of finances, I am also susceptible to all the creative advertising and such that is in our space all the time
I also feel the itch to shop this time of year. I deal with it by coloring/ painting seasonal pictures. It’s a calm and quite thing to do and it helps me celebrate the season without shopping or eating.
Oooooh nice!!!! ❤️❤️
Huh! That's an idea!
23:00 I am not sure about an increased urge to buy things but I have definitely noticed that things nowadays are not meant to last like they used to. I am not sure if people buy more things because they last less or if it is the other way around, but it is definitely something I worry about.
Yes!!! It really does seem apparent that appliances, tools, and most things in between just “aren’t built like they used to be.” Cost-cutting everywhere. Then since we’re saving money on crappier products, we can buy more in general AND need to replace things more often. (And if something doesn’t work well, we replace it more readily because the investment wasn’t huge to begin with.) These days I definitely find myself spending more for brands I think will stand behind their products more, but also appreciating older items more and being sure to take care of them properly, to avoid having to replace it with something newer and of potentially lower quality.
I definitely think the root cause of shopping compulsions is boredom so I figured if you're busying your mind with other things, you don't think about shopping.
@@21cormorantsthis is why I buy vintage and second hand. It's made better and lasts longer. I rarely buy new things now as it breaks so easily. I mean in terms of build look at the great pyramids at Giza, they've been there for centuries and still standing!
This is my favorite type of video! Thank you so much for sharing! I’m always looking for new perspectives to help me not want more material things as much.
Happy to hear you enjoyed it Sarah!! Have a wonderful weekend 🤗💕🍵
I understand your feeling. What I do when the crazy season is coming is look on my house what are the things that are starting to look old or that are not working for me anymore I donate them or sell them AND wait until the sales begins, if I notice that in that two weeks I dont need them ITS ok AND I only buy the things I really need. Grettings from México. Love your videos.
Hahaha calling it 'the crazy season' sounds very appropriate 😁 Love the tip you shared!! Have a lovely weekend
Perfect timing! 12:30am and I've been obsessively "researching" adult loft beds and furniture to go with them.
Hahahaha except for the time (I fall asleep way earlier) this is very relatable.
My urge to shop increases every time I have a hectic, busy day at work, more than usual. Most of the time it's interior decoration, as I see my home as a safe space to deal with my professional stress.
At this time of year, I've bought an analog radio and I've also bought quite a few books. Surprisingly, after 3 months of listening to classical music and reading for 30 minutes to 1 hour before going to bed, my stress levels have fallen slightly. And my urge to make impulse purchases has reduced considerably.
Wow, all of these are excellent observations! Finding ways to minimize stress could definitely have a huge knock-on impact on our reliance upon retail therapy. It makes perfect sense but it’s never occurred to me previously. Thank you!
Love what you shared, thank you!! Take good care 💕🤗📖🍵
I love this channel! Years ago I realized I could enjoy a lot of things, views, houses, clothes, without actually owning them! I don't really want the upkeep, so it's better to admire only.
About your appearance: you're beautiful, voice, everything! No need to stress.
One thing I've been doing is that whenever I see a product I want to help with some little issue, I ask myself: How can I solve this problem without spending money? It has made me get more creative with the things I already have. I've felt a diminished urge to spend as I've been learning to keep my home clean and organized... Spending all that time with the things I already have, caring for them and arranging them pleasingly, has done a lot to curb the shopping impulse.
Your videos have been a welcome complement to my Zen practice. It has replaced the doom scrolling with positive reflections. Thank you!
I went to Hobby Lobby for a small item yesterday. They already have 50% of Christmas items. The store is just packed with beautiful things. I went in and looked at everything. It was fun and enjoyable. Then I purchased the item I went in for and left. I agree we do want to make our home more inviting for these months ahead. Mostly just because we feel trapped inside. Thank you Vera. Yes, I was one of those people who was addicted to DIY videos. I had to stop watching them. ☮️🌎🌲
So nice you just had a good time looking at the beautiful things in the store, and then just leaving with only the item you went in to purchase. That's great!!
Thank you for sharing this Vera. This is something I still struggle with. As much as I try to resist temptation I end up giving in and buying something new regardless whether I need it or not.
You're so welcome, hopefully the tips in this video have helped a little! No need to beat yourself up I think, just trying different tips to see which can work for us :) Good luck and have a wonderful Sunday!
I love how this video comes out the exact same minute I want to browse the Steam store to see if there's any new games I want to buy. Even though consciously I know that the only time I can ever truly enjoy a game is when it's specifically what I want, wait for it, and buy it when it releases.
Almost always, the games I get from curious browsing just get thrown into a backlog of games I never actually play or only play very little of before getting bored. Only a few are ones I actually stick long enough to beat.
I think it's the promise of future positive emotion associated with the novelty of a new game, but also the dopamine hit in the present of just spending money. There's something about using what you've earned to exchange it for future fun that feels good.
But alas, I've curbed most of my impulse buying urges in recent years and I'm all the better for it.
The thing I always ask myself when it comes to buying anything is: will I enjoy this right now, right away, and for a long time or am I saving it for a rainy day? If the answer is yes two the former, then it's good to go. If it's the latter, then that's when I know it's just wanting to feel good about buying something without actually using it for its true value. That rainy day actually never comes.
Really good points! 🤗 And very relatable. I also only buy a new game when I want to start playing it immediately, and not for my backlog.
I'm in this conundrum as well with video games. I really enjoy them as a little wind down time but I'm finding myself purchasing them digitally (always at sale price!) but then wondering am I going to have time to play them, am I really going to love playing it and the backlog of them mounts. I will play it for a few hours but then I end up forgetting about it and moving on to another game like a grasshopper mind. And then a new game comes out and I like the look of that and so it carries on. And then your backlog of like 50+ games becomes so overwhelming you just wouldn't have the spare time to play them all so that's an area I need improving on. Movies are different though, you just watch for 2 hours and that's it!
@@SimpleHappyZenDo you ever end up with a backlog for your video games? Or do you have that discipline to buy it, be fully invested in that one game and complete it? Because I really struggle with that!
@@greenkitty82 Right which is why you should only buy something you'll know you'll play immediately after buying, implicitly meaning only buying one game at a time instead of how those sales tempt you to buy them in bulk. Also you shouldn't look at it as a backlog, rather a LIBRARY that depicts your taste in games. You have to accept that you're either never gonna beat every last game in your library, let alone even give them a try, but let them stand a testament to your taste. Obviously, though, that's not that big of a feeling than actually playing something you truly truly want to invest in. This is why I appreciate demos so much. If I can get a sense of a game's overall feel in 30 minutes or so, then I know I'm getting it. If not then bye bye bye.
@@TheSinlessAssassin great advice, thanks.
A couple weeks ago, I was so wanting to buy some new Halloween decorations now that I have my first house. I added a bunch of stuff to my cart online as I browsed the website, then I went to the cart and saw how much everything added up to and it was a lot. I then removed a few things, but I still didn't check out because a little voice in the back of my head was telling me that I didn't really need the items, I didn't really want to spend the money, and I didn't want to have to worry about where to store the items when Halloween is over. I also thought about what it would be like when the actual package would arrive and what a chore it would be to open the cardboard box, unpack everything, deal with all of the packaging material that I'd have to throw out, and breaking down the cardboard box to fit into my recycle bin. All of this ended up not making the purchase feel worthwhile, so I emptied the cart and closed the tab. It really does help to sit and think about a purchase before you actually make it, especially if it's an online purchase. Those can be so tempting, especially when there are offers for free shipping if you spend just a few more dollars or if they make it seem so easy to return something if you change your mind. It's shocking to learn about how often returns that are shipped back to retailers often just end up getting thrown away instead of restocked and sold to someone else.
That’s so good. I don’t like halloween - the trick or treat begging with threat, so find it easy to not buy anything for that 😂 It is tempting to want to feel cosy though, so Vera’s tip of looking at what you already have and using that is great 😊
I also had a friend in grade school that came from a well off family. She was really sweet and nice to talk to. I didn't realize the difference in our situations until I noticed she never wore the same thing twice. When three weeks went by and I realized this I was surprised. I visited her house and her room was huge. The closet had racks of things to choose from. She did not say anything about my smaller apartment bedroom or my lack of a wardrobe, she was just a sweet person. Thanks for today's video.
This is definitely the most difficult time of year for me when it comes to wanting to purchase new things. The darker days, cooler weather, and coziness of the season really test my willpower. If I do buy something new I try to get rid of something else. Thanks for the helpful tips😊
So true haha. Let's keep trying to be intentional :) Have a lovely Sunday!!
@@SimpleHappyZen Yes! I’m trying to stay in that mindset the best that I can haha. Thank you. Hope you’ve had a wonderful weekend!
Love your videos always Vera❤ I have a friend I went shopping with and she was pondering whether or not to purchase something and then she simply said “I would rather just have the money“
I listen to your videos rather than watch so it doesn't matter what you wear. It is your soothing words rather than what you look like or show. ❤
Thank you Erika! As a video creator, sometimes I worry about what the video 'shot' looks like in terms of colors, whitebalance and lighting. Not so much what I look like myself, if that makes sense :) But I know it's not really that important hahaha, sometimes I get stuck in an overthinking mood.
@@SimpleHappyZenVera you look absolutely beautiful in your videos, lovely face, clothing and beautiful hair - don't worry about a thing 🌷❤️❤️ You Dutch are a good looking bunch! ❤️
Love it, Vera! Love it when you distilled a wisdom from different interesting books in a single video❤That is making your videos extremely valuable🎉
Aw thank you!!! 🥰 Have a lovely rest of your weekend!
Dear Vera, I totally get this urge you described around this time of year, especially when it comes to kids’ stuff (I have three). The industry reminds us (ads, prime days, special deals etc.) that it’s Christmas soon (not really, right ?!) and the earlier you start the more money you will end up spending for gifts. Also, the thought that we will spend less time outside when the weather is bad makes me want to stock up on nice indoor activities (crafts, board games, …) for my kids. My way around this is the public library and the public ludotheque, a kind of „toy library“ which we have everywhere in Belgium. It gives you a shopping feeling but other than with real shopping in a book- or toy store, you don’t have to be rich to afford the items you see. You can have them immediately, pay a little fee (in the ludotheque) or no fee at all in the library and take them home. The best part is, once they have been read or played with, things often lose their initial appeal so my kids are just as fine with parting with the items after a few weeks as I am :-)
I feel this feeling in the fall & spring and I agree with you Vera completely that all the ads and influencers can make you feel like you have to buy something for that new season and I feel a lot of anxiety sometimes because I feel like I have to do something different like add something in my home for that season. I have always liked the idea of having a couple of things to change up twice a year, example: couch pillows, a vase, different color candle….these are very simple ways to make things feel different for me when the seasons change. I do not invest a lot of money and keeping 3-4 little things in a box helps me to feel like my home is comfortable for that time of year. Here in Florida we do not get much of a fall & winter so it can get pretty boring having the same weather all year round (except for the hurricanes 🙄😵💫) so it’s a way to change things up! I get pulled by influencers also with the “autumn hauls” so it can make you feel like you’re not included in the fun 🍂🍁…these reminders are so good for us not to get caught up and that we can control how much social media we watch during this time, instead maybe a nice long walk with your grandkids or spouse picking fall leaves and putting them in a basket on the table and baking some yummy desserts 🥧🪁🚶♀️🌻🚴♀️
One of my Buddhist teachers said that flipping through a catalog is training yourself to want things.
Ever since, I give myself 2-3 days before I order anything online.
Hi Vera, I‘m a long term (silent) follower of yours and absolutely love all your videos and what you do and stand for❤ I truly believe that you’re one of the most precious content creators there is on YT! Saying that I wanted to ask if you could film an updated wardrobe tour for us? I get so much inspiration and also motivation out of them which helps me keeping my wardrobe small (in a sensible way). Been re-watching your old wardrobe declutterring videos regularly to remind myself that I don’t need more clothes and your videos help me so much with that (not only with my wardrobe but in all areas in life. The wardrobe ones I just like the most😉) Lots of love from South Germany💕 Susi
Hi Susi, thank you so much for your kind and fun comment and for being a long term follower of the channel!! Yes, I've been thinking of doing a big wardrobe declutter/reorganizing video sometime within the next couple of weeks, but I'm not sure how I want to go about it yet. I might have to purchase a big container for storing some bedding so I have more room available for coats and stuff haha. Things like that. So not making any promises, but there's a chance there will be a new wardrobe video in the coming weeks :)
I quit all social media a few years ago and one reason was I noticed it was causing me to buy a lot of stuff that I didn't even want. I am seeing that I need to be very selective about what I watch on youtube as well so you are not alone in that!
Your story about your friend reminds me of a gal I worked with, we were college age and were going out for the evening, so I met her at her house. I about fell over when I saw how many clothes she had, it was crazy. I remember being wowed but not being jealous. We need to stop normalizing this kind of overconsumption, it has gotten so much worse in recent years.
I have some seasonal items I pull out of my closet when the seasons change. I have a dark brown medium size statue of squirrel with an acorn, and a decorative orange pumpkin for autumn; and for spring I have some fake cherry blossom flowers. So I have something seasonal and it also feels a little bit new, but when the season is over I store it again. And in the lighter seasons, late spring and summer, I store the candles also, and pull them out when autumn begins again. So there is some change and ‘newness’ in the livingroom, but so don’t have to buy things. Or not all the time, only when I see something that really adds value :) sometimes I do like to switch some seasonal things out with something new and then I buy something at the thriftstore and donate the thing that no longer suits me. Oh and, thank you for your video’s, they are helpful! 🩵 groetjes uit Alkmaar 😄
Thank you so much i literally needed to hear this! I will stick to using up what I have before I get anything new.
You're so welcome, glad you enjoyed the vid :) Have a great weekend!!
It is the season of gathering, maybe it's built into us and we can redirect it to stock up the pantry and try some fall recipes.
Yes, someone else commented about our 'gathering' instinct as well, that's an interesting point that I didn't consider :) Makes total sense. And also, YAAAAY for fall recipes!!!
I think you have hit the nail on the head. Maybe a bit of foraging like blackberry picking, pick your own fruit, or going to a farmers market can help meet that gathering harvesting urge.
Thank you! I like the change of the seasons and pack away seasonal stuff. When you unpack it a year later, it feels like rediscovering it all over again! Such fun
I imagine it's like a little treasure box :)
I agree! I change my seasonal decor by pulling out different curtains, throw blankets, pillows, candle holders, etc., that I have in storage. It feels like having new stuff, but there is no buying involved.
Not being philosophical but if you have set a higher goal for yourself than your need and desires, everything else becomes secondary. Thank you for your calm presence ❤
Very true, always good to focus on what really matters to us most in life :)
Happy Saturday, Vera! Thanks for the tips! ❤ Yes, this wanting to shop thing can be an issue for me as well. I will sometimes think in terms of “will this haunt me and will I regret not getting it a year or two from now” when I see something I’d really like to buy. I’m also practicing “do I really need it.”
BTW, I noticed the beautiful pattern on your lovely white shirt before you mentioned it so honestly I don’t think there was too much white. 😊
Aw thanks! Sometimes it's tricky when you're trying to start recording, because how it looks on the little viewfinder on the camera is a bit different from how it'll look when you watch it on your phone for example. So when I'm just here by myself, sometimes I overthink how my video shot looks. Anyway, glad you enjoyed the video! 🤗💕 “will this haunt me and will I regret not getting it a year or two from now” made me laugh
@@SimpleHappyZen I totally hear you about the overthinking thing… I’m HSP, too. 😊 You do a great job! ❤️
Your white shirt gave me an idea about sewing cool shirt style. Thank you for wearing it!
Yes, I am a fan of both Nick Lewis and Elin Lesser. Elin has a unique way of looking at things, as do you and you both add a lot to my simple life/minimalist journey! I'm always amazed that after all this time there are still new and fresh ways to look at minimalism, like the viewpoint you mentioned in the book you recommended.
Nice! Yes I agree haha, always nice to hear about minimalism from others, because there are so many possible ways of looking at it.
Definitely, I feel the urge to "nest" and buy cosy stuff as the weather cools down/ end of the year approaches. I agree on reducing consumption/ viewing things, if it leads to wanting new things, it's a really good idea! Think I also need to put this into action, thank you. I find lists really help me - if I write the thing I want and why I want it/ if I have something already similar to it/not, it makes decisions much easier. Sort of a use-case defense 😊 why do I need to buy it, why now, when will I use it, how often, can it wait, etc. Plus a 2 week wait before buying, or more if it is more expensive and I should rather save up for it.
Utilizing my local library is a great way to scratch that shopping itch. Scoping out the online catalogue or library stacks for new reads is like shopping! Also the local libraries in my area of the US all now have “Library of Things” collections where you can check out games, tools, all sorts of things, like telescopes for star gazing even! One can also get free/discounted admissions to museums and other local attractions.
I'm in year 2 of a long term death cleaning project, and im jonesing on clearing out some more stuff.
I found good venues and methods for rehoming things this year, can't wait to muster some energy & clear out a new space!
Even as a minimalist, I’ve had to restrain myself this season from buying all of the things, haha. This season, I got a new planner, some fall treats that are easy to bake, and Luigi’s Mansion 3. Listening to nostalgic tunes from the likes of The Smashing Pumpkins, Imogen Heap, and Weezer. lol
On your topic of being mindful of what we’re allowing to influence ourselves, I’m in the “cozy gamer” space of TH-cam and find it really interesting because it opened me up to explore things in a way that I wouldn’t typically-“romanticize” is the word that comes to mind. However, I’ve made a conscious effort to avoid joining Discord communities within that space because I don’t want to be compelled to buy or do stuff just for the aesthetic and put a lot of value on function. Sometimes, it’s good to remind ourselves that we all have those boundaries. ❤️
Love what you shared about being mindful about the spaces we're in online :) Also yay for the smashing pumpkins!! I also have a song from Weezer I really like, I never skip it when it comes on in my shuffle :)
I love your content Vera.
I don't buy any Halloween decorations or autumnal stuff.I do admire the colours for the season outdoors.
When is getting colder outside I read books ,drink hot drinks and cook lots of healthy soups and dishes.
The colder,darker months are perfect for me to save money and plan future road trips and adventures🍂🍂.
I hate the run up to Christmas. It feels like a tsunami of gabage hits the stores to join the mountains of garbage already there. The meaning of Christmas has been hijacked by manufacturers and corporations and threatens to destroy it and we let it.
I got a pop up on my phone to tell me that there are massive discounts on Temu. This bombardment of advertising and promotions for stuff has reached the stage now where it almost makes me feel ill and disorientated. It feels like drowning in a plastic swamp.
It can definitely be a lot. I would say try to decrease the exposure to excessive ads when you can, like delete shopping apps that give you those notifications, if possible. We decide what the Christmas season means to us and take back control by ignoring what doesn't bring us value as best we can.
I agree 100%… with everything you said… I walk around the big stores these days in shock at just how much random stuff is being sold and how many people are shopping… it’s overwhelming… I’ll be staying away from the big plazas and big box stores for the next 3 months! I’ll be Deleting shopping site apps and unsubscribing immediately the second a site sends an add.
Vera, this episode was absolutely fantastic and perfect timing indeed! Such great advice to get us ready for the silly season. I Love how real and honest you were in this vlog. It was like a warm friendly chat with a good friend. And, btw, your white top looked super pretty and your hair is always gorgeous!
We do so little holiday shopping these days. Every holiday, family members get a Mix book of our son that my husband put together with photos over the last year (they LOVE this.) Our son (who is four) gets four gifts: Something you want, something you need, something you wear, something you read. We just decided we didn't want to feed the materialism of this season. Our kid doesn't know any different, he's just happy to get presents. Me and my husband exchange one item or we enjoy a meal out if we really want to make it special. It's so low key and stress free. Then when the holidays are over I take all the money we saved for the holidays, but didn't spend, and donate it.
I have been struggling with wanting to go shopping a lot more lately. I always feel this way when the holidays roll around. There’s a deep desire I have to shop as a form of self care but I can barely afford to live and am seriously trying to shift this mentality. Your content helps. Thank you
Such a beautiful episode filled with wisdom. Thank you for the inspiration.
Aw thank you! Happy you enjoyed it :)
My mantra is: shop your house first. This works great. This year I added a Stoptober challenge. I do not by any clothes or gadgets in October. And I feel perfectly happy about this until now.
Awesome, love it!
Hi! I like your videos very much and I also like how kind and nice you are ❤. I resonate with a lot of your opinions. I also watch Nick's videos and noticed the same thing, how I started to look around my house and think about what I could change to make it more appealing 😄. I also decided to take a break and instead of focusing on what I dislike/would like to change about my house, to appreciate how nice my house is and how blessed I am for everything, especially considering that there are people who don't even have a house at all 🙁. I also watch Elin's videos. 😊. Thank you for all your beautiful content!
You’re so good at simplifying things!
Yes.
I am feeling more desere to shop.
I like autumn and I see in one app a lot of things about it.
And when I realize I was put somethings in 🛒.
I stop and little by little delete things. In the end I get 2 things that was the reason for open the app.
Shop is nice but can make you addict.
Because we think more is better. No true!
Shop something that you need, really like and can pay is better than have much stuff.
vera I just wanted to tell you that I just finished to watch all the videos of your chanel! it was one of my goals for this year and I have learned so many things about myself and the peace I want in my life, I'm looking forward to continuing enjoying your videos for a long time, and keep growing as a person little by little. By the way, I'm from Colombia! and I found your channel during the pandemic in 2020 so it was a ray of light for me ❤
I’ve had major financial problems during & since the pandemic so I can’t buy anything thing except really needed things-I’m amazed at what I don’t need to buy!
I am so thankful I found your channel, and especially this one. Perfect timing.
It was lovely seeing your home in the evening with the cosy muted lights 😍
It struck me that #1 and #2 kinda contradict each other. I really agree with the idea that when we buy something, it's the not having to think about the item anymore that makes us happy rather than the item itself. But when we bookmark something or start researching it, we sometimes create the conditions for overthinking until we need to buy it in order to stop thinking about it - if that makes sense 😅 I do generally find bookmarks very helpful, but sometimes they backfire because it's so much easier to go back to that item and fuel the desire to buy it 😂
Thanks! I love our home at night because of the lights we have, it gets really cozy :) Also yes, that's a good point about #1 and #2. Definitely good to stay intentional and not just bookmark everything, or to a point where you become obsessed with thinking about it and researching stuff. For me, I find that bookmarking it helps me to let go of it for a while, because I know I've bookmarked it and therefore I won't forget where I found it and stuff. So my mind is free to let go of it for now. But it's always good to review how these internal processes work for us, because they might work differently for different people. :)
I am glad I don't get out much. I don't like things being pushed in my face way before the actual holiday - you're so spot on. I had to replace a tiny iron for quilting and loved the research. Your lamp is so lovely! So you. x's lj
Thank you, I love the new lamp too :)
I love that book, thanks Vera❤ Happy Autumn 😊 Take care always. Greetings from Finland❤
Nice you love the book too!! Have a wonderful Sunday!
I luv it -u are right on the pulse; Nick Lewis: I went through the SAME thing this very week. So I employ concepts you’ve mentioned, & pause on it. I also find it useful to enjoy the resources & design elements he demonstrates & apply it to those things we already have, or plan for the future in terms of colors, materials we favor. Consciously declining on the ‘buy impulse & putting that gratitude of what we have & what’s to come- in place. Like as you mention… making your simple yoga moment Everything. That mindset is what I continuously strive to. Satiating the ‘More’ impulse, over the ‘Enough’ moment- in this time… is a challenge universal.
The wooden cup is so cute. It would make a good makeup brush holder.
I've thought of that actually :) But right now, I use a glass makeup brush holder that can go in the dishwasher, and I think I prefer that.
“I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dreamed of, so they will know that it’s not the answer.”
Jim Carrey
3:58 I'll put tampons in it lol! It looks a lot like a stationery holder or something to store coasters. Maybe not cutlery, unless they are already dry.
I was doing the same thing with the videos of nick Lewis! But I wasn't really aware of it... But the feeling of having to buy or even to do something is not a nice feeling to be left with after watching a video. In stead getting the feeling of content and 'it is finished' is so much nicer!! That's what I come here for 😊
Aw thank you, that means a lot 🤗💕
I appreciate your videos and look forward to seeing you and listening to you. Thank you!
Love your videos and your aura ❤ I’m not a minimalist but try to be more intentional with my spending (work in progress) for the last decade. I find back to school time definitely pushes people to spend and go to the stores. I also want to spend on decor and home goods because I’ve moved and I am in limbo. Haven’t hung pictures but also haven’t had the energy to do so. Maybe this winter when I stuck inside more I’ll get into decorating 😅
Thrifting makes me happy at this time of year.
Me too 🙏⭐🌙🌈 ALL time of the year 😂😂
Love autumn it very romantic especially if have a log fire my favourite seasons
Something that helps me is remembering the last thing I really wanted and bought because I didn’t want to miss a deal, and still ended up disappointed (even after checking reviews!)
An example is hair products, in always looking for the next thing that will help hydrate and soften my hair :(
Ah yes that makes total sense. Also, my hair has also always been really dry and I can tell you from experience that I don't think there's a product out there that can really hydrate and soften it haha. Hydrating products make it a bit better, but that's the best they can do. So I've stopped looking for that ultimate product, I don't think it exists :) Even the products my hairdressers have recommended specifically for my hair type end up disappointing a bit.
Have you tried castor oil? I have dry hair and I used to put veg / olive oil on it every few weeks. Left it on for half an hour then washed it off. People did used to comment on my hair looking healthy. It's a quite messy process though. Like I ended up using plastic bags to wrap my hair in to reduce the mess.
I love Nijntje! Everytime I go to Hema here in Belgium I'm tempted to buy something from Nijntje but never have ( voor 1 of andere reden schrijf ik mijn comment altijd in het Engels😁) glad I'm not the only one who feels like that. Dille & Kamille is another store I always want to buy something . Luckily I 'm fine with just enjoying the items at the store without have to purchase something everytime. Bedankt voor de video Vera!♥️
YESSS Dille & Kamille is a great example too. Even though I very rarely buy things there, I love going there to browse and look at all the pretty things :)
3:58 your little wooden item with the bunny head on it…I believe the word you are thinking for is “tea light” but your container looks to be wood which would be a fire hazard with a real candle…battery operated not so much. You could use it as a pen/pencil holder on your desk.
Good post.❤
Yes Vera, this time of the year it is hard not to buy things. But I do manage not to. Thank you so much for sharing your insights.❤❤
Good that you manage not to shop more during this time of year :) Have a happy Sunday!!
I'm a little bit opposite in this regard, in that as autumn continues and winter approaches I've noticed I have a big urge to declutter! I think it's because the longer nights make me feel more 'closed in' in some way and so I crave more space and simplicity. I have to resist the urge to declutter things which I know I will need or that I know I don't really want to part with. The one exception is yarn for crochet and knitting. Something about wanting to feel cosy during this chillier time of year makes we want to buy yarn - which I have to resist as I currently have enough lol
Hahaha yes I would say that makes sense! I always get that urge in the springtime, but I can totally imagine that happening during this season. I do feel a wardrobe declutter coming on... haha!
Thanks for always sharing your thoughts about minimalism. Love your videos! 🫶🏻
I loved the story you told about your friend when you were a child and how she had so much but was not happy.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on all this. I think the only thing I tend to want to shop for are clothes in the changing seasons (I don't even own many but I ruin most of what I wear). I enjoy Elin Lesser's videos! I have been subbed to her for maybe half a year or more now.
I love the white shirt, it looks very pretty on you
Aw thanks! :) I love this blouse too, I've had it for a couple of years already but usually don't wear it on camera. Might do that more often in the future :)
Presumably the urge to shop in the autumn is to do with evolutionary experiences- hunter gathering and storing to be safe and secure for the upcoming winter. And then, potentially, the reverse phenomenon in spring - wanting to clear out (declutter/clean) the old nest
Hi Vera, listened to your video only today. Just to say you look lovely in white as you always do.l felt you were a little upset today as if something was bothering you, l do hope that that feeling had now passed. I too actually dread the dark, wet winter months especially now I'm in my 60s. Your videos always cheer me up and inspire me, you are a wonderful person, and entertaining and informative to watch. Never doubt that. Much love.
Don’t forget to look into vitamin supplements for “S.A.D.” Seasonal Affective Disorder which is a real struggle for many. Vitamin D3 is helpful. ❤
Thanks, Vera! Getting ready to move cross-country really motivates us not to buy items that we have to pack! ❤ I have constantly "❤" items or add them to my wish list, favorites, etc. Sometimes, it is helpful when someone asks "What do you want for Christmas, your birthday, our anniversary?"
Hello, I love your videos so much thank you for every eye-opening perspective, they bring me so much joy... Maybe I know very well everything you mentioned, maybe in my brain there is a voice telling me girl you already know that come on you can also think that by yourself but listening and watching you makes me realize these topics more thoroughly, pushing me to bring those ideas to life, makes me want to really happy simple life. I want to thank you for that 💜
I'm going to say happy weekend to you now Vera (before actually watching) as I have to download your video and listen during my over hour long drive into the city for a Thanksgiving family get-together. 🥧
Happy weekend to you too Francine! 🤗 Isn't Thanksgiving a few weeks away? :)
@@SimpleHappyZen I'm in Canada and we have our Thanksgiving this weekend 🙂
It’s not even Halloween yet lol
@@itsjorgeroblox1779 I live in Canada not the US.
@francineh.7825 That's so interesting, I never knew people in Canada celebrated Thanksgiving in October. Google says it's because it's further north, harvest comes earlier to avoid the cold of winter. Makes sense :)
Thank you, this was such a good video, one I needed to hear right now. I'll check out the book you shared, "When Things Don't Go Your Way."
You said that, basically, the opposite of consumerism is deep appreciation for what we already have.
I heard an echo of that in a book on spending more mindfully, Jeremy Shapiro's kindle book "How to Get More Happiness from Less Stuff: Make the Psychology of Money Work for You (The Psychology of Money and Happiness Book 2)." I put a homemade poster on my fridge to remind me that gratitude is the counter to spending compulsion- not having.
Definitely feeling the urge to shop lately, I’m so glad that you shared this video! So helpful to have reminders ❤️
I love your videos. I love to shop but after watching you and taking some of your advice I hold back and want to be happy with all that I have and enjoy doing with less, thanks so much
Im doing some decorating to make the house nicer for winter. Not buying new stuff apart from paint and storage. It seems to be distracting me from online shopping.
I am so happy i saw that ypu made a video about that because i already told all of my friends that i don’t know why but i just have such an urge to buy something new since fall came around and since i got a new job at the start of the year i don’t make as much money as before and can’t just buy stuff(wich i love so much because i had quite an addiction at that point for buying) and i did soooooo well the whole year and considered everything very good if i really would need it but now omg i just WANT to have some cozy new things and i am kind of glad to know that maybe it’s just because of the season and all the ads and not because i am falling into old habbits again your video was very helpfull thank you so much i will definitely try your tips🥰🥰🥰
Your white blouse on white background is lovely. I see a clean, minimal, elegant young woman. I think this actually perfectly represents your aesthetic🥰🌟
Great video 😊. I am very into fashion so this time of year ( change of seasons ) I definitely feel more of an urge to buy things. I often put things on wishlists and this helps. Or I will watch videos of content creators who are more into sustainable fashion and who promote shopping and playing in your own closet rather than buying something new all the time.
I love Nick Lewis and Elin Lesser! they are both amazing
I find shops promote any way they can to make us want the item. I find asking myself, "Would I want that if I didn't know about it?" helps. I make a wish list where I think about it for a couple of months. I find then I can think through about it. If not wanting the item, it's off the list. If wanting it, I will check what is in stores and the price ❤ It also has to be do I love it, and it is useful ❤
Nick’s program is fun but it really does still encourage you to buy and that what you have may not be “trendy” anymore. This season of the year is bad for me too. I did buy a new long sleeved shirt for fall but I thought about it for days first. I do love it and it is fall themed. I also struggle in the winter with more sadness and have been thinking about getting one of those lights that’s supposed to help with that. I need to do research first. And then where do I put it? I have no tips, I’m struggling myself right now. When the weather gets cooler we turn our attention to our indoors space as we are spending more time inside. I think that’s why we want to buy. But really we will never make our home as beautiful as nature so maybe we need to lower our expectations for our home to thrill us the way nature and being outside does.
If the light is expensive for you or space is limited, etc., if your insurance allows it, it may be beneficial to have your doctor test your Vitamin D levels. If low, they may suggest affordable otc vitamins to help, which might potentially help with your mood. (I’m no doctor however, but it may not hurt to look into it!)
@belindagritter1572 Yes, good point! Having a beautiful come to curl up and relax during this cozy season is nice, but we still need to try and go outside and be in nature when we can, and not expect to get that same experience indoors. :) Also good luck with the research about the light, and let me know if you find something that works for you :) Also might be a good idea to talk to a physician, like @21cormorants said :) Take care!!
Thanks a million, once again, for your helpful, kind and to the point video.
I have for myself, slready created a busy, but contented, life woth full time work as a single mum and a young dog to walk three times a day. So, basically I am "trapped" most of my days in a state, where I simply cannot shop, unless online: By the rnd of each day, I am tired from my commitments, but also happy, fulfilled and proud, do that shopping feels like a completely absurd idea. 😅
Sounds like a really nice and fulfilling life! :)