The feelings aren’t as strong as they once were. But I remember at the beginning of my break up I really wanted to reach out to my ex to see how he was doing and holidays were the worst because I wanted to reach out to him then too. But whenever I would get those urges I would turn on Coach Lee videos. And trust me watching these videos kept me from doing anything stupid.
Trust me guys I never thot I would be posting a comment here.... coach Lee's videos have given me strength at every stage and every word he speaks is true. I had been in no contact for almost a year i was blocked everywhere from social media to calls everywhere....i did everything i could to convince him to be with me trust me everything..... but nothing worked n at last i had no option but to remain silent. And guess what he's back after almost a year begging me to meet him. He almost waited out in the cold for 5hrs begging me to meet him for 15mins because he just wanted to hug me. Trust me Silence is the best Language for people who do not understand your words. 😊
That's very unusual. Was it a healthy relationship in the first place? How long were you together? Who likely caused the breakup and why? I hope it works out this time - in a healthy and lasting way.
@@jakesmith5281the funny thing is wen you are completely done with them that's wen they reappear. But the question will your feelings remain the same....
I don't really watch your videos anymore since I'm not going through a breakup currently, but man Lee your videos REALLY helped me last Summer. A girl I was dating for 8 months ghosted me out of nowhere, never even said we were breaking up I just saw on my phone I was blocked everywhere and she got right on dating apps. I was going through a real tough time that whole Summer and I was practically binging youe videos for weeks. I can't explain it but it meant alot to me brother. Don't stop posting.
@@LeeEverett1 Thanks for that input. My girlfriend of 2 years left me, stating "you aren't the right guy for me" even though our relationship was near perfect. Even she stated that I was the best boyfriend she had ever had. I was so devastated that I couldn't fly and nearly ruined my career.. I'm still a mess. I'm glad you're healing. I'm on my journey too. Stay strong brother..
I wish I came across these videos sooner, but right after she left me I was begging and pleading and it only resulted to me being blocked ever since been on no contact focusing on myself hoping she comes back but if even she doesn't I will be healed and a better version for the next person. thank you coach Lee
Coach Lee, you, Coach Ken, and my own therapist have saved me during this breakup. You have such a calming and rational way of explaining things. I am so grateful for your videos.
Coach Lee, I'm on NC but doing it for myself. I've decided I don't want my ex anymore. I'm giving up on him. But I bought your Reunion Blueprint to support you and also to learn more! Thank you for all you do. Your videos are a source of comfort and encouragement for me during these hard times. Thank you!❤
Coach Lee's videos have been instrumental in helping me maintain no contact. Thank you, Coach Lee, for all that you do - it's truly making a difference.
Crach Lee u are absolutely the best coach it gets I recommend every body to u before all others u have made my days much more exceptable and brighter ❤❤❤❤
My ex broke up with me cause even though we are later in life she was not ready to settle down LOL I went straight into no-contact after a few weeks she dropped me on social media, that certainly made no-contact even easier. thanks to good advise from Coach Lee I am moving on and feeling better about myself every day. Your advise about the right person would not do this in the first place really resonates! Thanks Coach
You're later in life? My friend, I'm nearly 60 years old and my 58 year old girlfriend broke up with me. Really? She wants to reenter the dating scene at 58 years old? It's insane..
@@boeing757pilot Yea mate I am almost 51 and she was 50. I get what you are saying, mine said the same thing, not ready to settle down...I am in my 50's but would not say settling down is anywhere near my plate. Hope you are doing well, she wants to date, her loss it is mess out there LOL
Beard looks good on you coach Lee…😍😍😍 Now make a video explaining how to handle an ex who doesn’t love one, want them out of their shared space, I.e apartment, but wants to stay friends.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😆
I want to say thank you coach Lee I’m going through a 10 year break up right now it’s hard but I’m willing to put in the work to come out successful on the other side
Coach Lee just hearing your teaching I’m stronger by the day the fog has gotten more clear perhaps if he or she doesn’t take the broken hearted devastating mind isn’t as mature and understood such as yours I found no reason to sit and weep that someone like u even exist
Im 43 years old and have been married for almost 22 years! This new year of 2025 as not been easy as my wife said she wants to divorce! I ask her not to do this to me but she made already her decision! Im giving her space now and we barely speak to each other... Silence hopefully would make her feel that was a bad decision! 😢
Learn from me…I kept communicating thinking we could talk it out. I should have followed my gut and stayed gone that first day, never coming back until he was on his knees begging me. Lessons learned.
I am at day 56 of no contact. At day 28 she reach out and we had a friendly but casual conversation. At day 46 she commented on my whatsapp status and we had a short casual conversation. Through out the no contact process she has viewed all my whatsapp statuses but have never viewed any of her statuses. No contact has not been easy some days you're down, some days you're okay. I really love my Ex and I believe she is a good girl. If we can both work on ourselves and willing to put more effort in the relationship. It can work out.
We're both older. Funny how we process challenges and emotional pain differently. I'm all about these videos, podcasts, coach talks, counseling, meditation, etc whereas she probably wouldn't be caught dead looking at content like this. That being said, she has a lot more immedate and daily human support than I do. The only thing we probably have in common in terms of processing emotions, growth, etc is that we're both in counseling. She started it before our breakup - I think for many reasons not related to our relationship. She's the one who's done the no contact and I don't think this is about manipulation. It's about me accepting the reality that she isn't coming back. And this is the 2nd NC period since last January. There's a lot of us out there responsible for the breakup but ultimately not wanting it but they won't come back. There's a lot of us respecting the NC boundaries, working on ourselves, but quietly dying inside because we know we can do right again given chance. Egg shell walking - if I try and communicate to her or any her friends or family, it can get worse for me. And no, this was not an abuse situation, not a narcissist. Nothing like that.
He never talks about if the GUY messed up really BAD and drank too much after a house drinking game night.. Then was drunk on the car ride home and yelled at his gf and said some mean things.. she feels scared now and ghosted him saying she doesn't feel safe around you. FYI her previous 2 BFs physically abused her and now she has extreme trauma and fear.. Me yelling caused her to break up a few days later.. I apologized and took all steps to change for the better and 2 weeks later she still feels the same.. she still doesn't want to see or hear from me again.. We were together for 4 months.. most serious and intimate relationship she ever had even if it was short.. We talked about marriage and were saying I love you.. Next day she just leaves like nothing after a really bad fight..
Yeah because he doesn't encourage people to go back to a toxic relationship. Any relationship that involves drugs or alcohol does not and will never work. The thing is if you did it once, you'll do it again and if you were already screaming and yelling at her after only 4 months, she's not coming back anytime soon maybe in a year or so to see if you've changed any. Your actions did not match the words "I love you".
i found out that my ex was cheating on me with another guy 4 months before she broke up with me last year and shes still with him today. she doesent know that ik what she did. i couldnt believe it
I wish I had found these videos before. Apr 2023 my husband said he wanted out of the 21 year relationship and for 5 months I felt my marriage falling apart and I panicked. I did all the wrong things out of desperation. He left home Sept 2023 saying he needed to be away but would consider coming back home. During this time we had contact but not very much. Jan 2024 he said he decided not to come back home. It's now been a year and he we have almost no contact and the same with our son. He is now with someone else that has 3 children when he can't even be a dad to his own teen son. I wish that I had looked for help back in Apr 2023. This may have changed the whole dynamic 😢
I seriously wish I had this information earlier in life. I’ve only had one break up that crushed me later in life, but I chased for a bit too long, but finally stopped. He did come back around, but only to bread crumb and I went NC. Ugh, how I regret ever chasing him now and with time/distance I’ve realized he was never “The One”.
Currently one month into no contact. It was somewhat LD (3 hours away from each other) and unfortunately she ended it over the phone. I borrowed a book that belonged to her brother a few weeks before it ended, and she asked for it back the last time I saw her in person before the break up. As stupid as it may seem, does the fact that I sent the book back to her a week after the breakup (no letters or anything, just the book) breaking no contact? I didn’t mean anything by it, just thought it would be weird to keep it and not give it back 😂 appreciate this is kinda a dumb question, but I’m hoping she hasn’t seen it as some stupid way of reminding her I exist… 😅
Been broken up 3 months now.. no contact for almost 2.. it’s funny after about a month or so I tried to talk to her twice.. after the 2nd time she told me she wanted no contact.. and to respect her wishes.. and removed me from most but not all social media and contact methods. So now it’s been another 2 months.. I haven’t said anything but I’m still dwelling and wondering why she wanted this and could move on so easily.. I think she will ever come back but I want to hope that she will.. idk what to do because moving on has been one of if not the hardest thing I’ve had to do in life, I spent my whole life waiting for the one and I finally thought she was it.. but she just gave up and now wants nothing and no contact.. it sucks.
He dumped me because of one misunderstanding and a communication error, where I came across selfish when I was only trying to set realistic expectations for him about what he can expect visiting me in the middle of my life's most important exam month. When he was already at the airport which I did not know, I've said that he should not expect lots of cuddles and intimacy bc I will not have time for it. To give him the choice to not come so I could save my exam and basically my life, which was my priority at that time. Obviously he felt very hurt and after spending the weekend with me he abruptly broke up. I'm afraid I have f*cked things up way too much for NC to even work.
She dumped me. I told her i dont love her anymore after that. we both were toxic. I apologized for my actions i did love her but she rebounded i offered her my friendship because i care about our connection she thinks im in the wrong i only went on 1 date and the breakup was 4 months ago i dont even expect to date her anymore but i told her i still want to be in her life causr we both were immature but i admit that and she thinks shes innocent while hurting me thinking im a narcissist but she literally has multiple mental illnesses and it was hard to deal with. I just hope she will come back as my bestfriend still we were each others first relationship lasted 6.5 years ups and downs and all
My ex left me and then made plans to leave the country... I wish you would make a video on something like that. All i can do is keep up no contact i guess. Both my ex and I were struggling with mental issues and didnt communicate which led to her leaving me... i still love her but she says she doesn't love me as i pushed her away, but can feelings of over a decade just disappear like that? anyways, i would love for Coach Lee to make some videos regarding mental health etc...
I’m not sure what you mean. If you mean that there was a breakup before and you are asking if continuing to work on it is good, generally speaking, yes.
We've been in no contact for 4 months now and she's blocked and unblocked several times.She has written a book of poetry about me too what do I make of this and more importantly what do I do?
Iv done this all ready yes iv got this now and he must think omg she’s madly in love and stalker yur so right. Iv even rang the pub he drank in. After a year now it’s afull yes my mother in law told me how can he ever mis yu if yur all ways texting
I wasn’t afraid at all, just not sure of how I would respond. I did eventually open it. It wasn’t a message but an actual call. I remember now because I refuse to answer at the time. Because of the missed notification, I thought it was a message. The next day/yesterday, I responded with question marks, which usually means what’s up? -to acknowledge I saw her missed call. Nothing more sense. Bread crumbs? I’m guessing it was a pocket dial? Either way, I want to confirm as Coach has mentioned in the past, calls do come even if it was a pocket dial. I truly never ever expected any response. It has been tough, I’ve done the work and I’m finding my peace. This is Very Serious and my heart truly goes out to the good guys who seemingly finish last. Key word seemingly. The “work” and progress is 100% worth the initial pain. If and when we endure the proper response. I’m still not totally compete with the “unknown” but I AM BECOMING A BETTER ME and I like it. Why does a part of me almost rejoice in the rejection and pain I initially felt? Because I’ve survived the worst part! -and I see a promising future for my confidence and security. Time can seriously impact those initial sharp excruciating pains of anxiety, insecurity, doubt and fear. Excuse my language but I was seriously emotionally BROKEN then but today, I’m a badd mf! 🙏🏿🙌🏿
Coach Lee. What about if they cheated on you , went silent for a week then came back. I’ve been with my ex for 17 yrs. He apologized he said he doesn’t want us done but his communication is limited and it’s on his terms. I did what most ppl do with non stop texts and emails and finally realized what am I doing and last night said when he cheated it messed me up and now I see how bad so he doesn’t need to worry about sorting through millions of messages again. Everytime he’s messed up I always have taken him back so I know he’s like oh right you’ll message me tomorrow. But I’m only day 1 but he hates being ignored. Does no contact even work with someone like that. He has left the door open for us but he cheated so Will no contact make him realize what he did. And that he might actually this time lose me.
I wrote him letters for 6 months. I’m that crazy ex, I’m also a borderline so breakups are like death to me. Is it too late to recapture his attraction? I’ve been no contact since New Year’s Day. He’s also mentally unstable fyi lol. We’re so perfectly matched…🥰 I like #3. I’m no longer writing him & I know he’s noticing that & wondering why.
Coach Lee. If she did a reverse discard, or she did everything she could to make me go, am I really the break upper? Coach she made me end it. She is the break upper. So my no contact is from the position of the dumped. Right?
hi, how are you feeling? This is also my question. My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago but most of the time I kind of pushed him away :( So I felt like I pushed him to his limit to end the relationship but he was the one that said we are officially broken up. So he is the dumper here and I am the one get dumped?
Breakup no good God Engry All so my Lover Rejected no problem my luck bad I am pray God gave him good boy and God gave him happiness Ameen my Age64 I don't know How much life God gave me I am see happy woman thanks take care God bless you
She break up with me again last year we were seperate for 4 months we finally get together last year and now 6 months later she told me i dont want you anymore.we were 10 years together what can i do i still love her
👍 Super vidéo ! C'est toujours compliqué les ruptures, mais l'amour ça peut être beau, il ne faut pas se décourager... 💖🙂 Bah, les filles, en complément, personnellement, si vous voulez trouver un homme sincère qui vous ira comme un gant, je vous conseille le livre "SÉDUIRE L'HOMME DE VOS RÊVES", de Nathan Stone. Le gars est psychologue et tout apparemment. Une copine m'a dit qu'il y a tout ce qu'il faut savoir, clair, pas de discours superflu, le top. Elle dit que ça a changé sa vie et ses relations carrément ! 👌
She blocked me everywhere right after she broke up with me. It’s been almost 9 weeks now. I treated her well, but I believe a little too well. Do you think she’ll come back?
From my experience it depends on the length of the relationship. The longer the relationship the more time she had to check out mentally & they hardly ever come back. Short term relationship you have a better chance. Also you have to really look at the relationship & keep it real with yourself... were you a good partner? Were you the cause of the breakup? Those things matter. I'm usually a pretty good guy & all my exes have come back. Although the breakups were technically my fault because I poured too much into them. Made them bored & they'd leave. They find out the grass isn't greener & they'd come back. I never wanted them back until this recent one. First time I missed a woman. And what's crazy she's not even the best one I've been with 🤷🏽♂️
@@chainz7006 lot of u guys are hurt so bad and insecure. U tellin this man she probably had another dude is ridiculous and assuming. Not all breakups are because there's another dude or woman in the picture. And it's always the hurt guys who got cheated on that make this same comment over and over. Here's my advice to you... don't take her back when she shows up. Obviously she left you for another guy judging by your comment. So definitely in your case stay no contact forever.
she broke up with me, although we talked more after and we agreed on going no contact for 2 months and reconnecting in the new year after winter break. we're in school so its the first week of class and still radio silence. she blocked me on instagram but nothing else and still follows my dog account so nevertheless i'm very confused. we are on a break but we are definitely broken up. i've been doing the work, listening to what she said for me and learning more and reflecting. do i reach out if she doesnt within the next 2 weeks?? i know the answer is probably no.. the balls in her court. she needs to want it and me reaching out on a bad day for her might push her away. i think we had something good. she reached out 5 days into no contact telling me she knows it seemed like she was checked out but that she still cares and hopes we can find our way back.. i believe her. I just havent heard anything since.
Do you be with a person that want you then dont want you thats my issue she brakes up with me due to a disagreement i stay away then she comes back but goes again when we have a disagreement . What do i do
Do you recommend getting out of or not participating in her family group messenger? Typically we would share photos or tell everyone something funny the kids said. Should I remove her from my family messenger?
I suggest you get out Caleb. If this is a dating relationship that broke up, get my $7 Reunion Blueprint at ReunionBlueprint.com. If this is a marriage that is separated or where she has left you, I suggest you get my free mini-course on saving your marriage at www.marriageradio.com/mini-course-to-save-your-marriage/
When they start interacting with you and you've met up a bunch are you allowed to initiate contact sometimes? I think he might be giving up because i don't ever initiate, I just respond. Keep in mind he hasn't said a word about getting back together and this has been going on for 9 months
I have a holiday coming up with my ex in march we are currently in no contact how would I approach this I’m not sure if I feel comfortable with them on holiday? I want to get back together with them would it be too soon?
Coach lee, could you tell me if its okay to apologize for something important on my behalf 2 weeks after no contact? we had met up cuz he reached out for a relationship, but i messed up partly. After that i needed space for myself cuz he messed up too.
Hi! My ex breakup with me one month a go after 5 years of relationship because we argued a lot during the last 6 months. since that day I haven't contact him. He reached out on december 25th just to say marry christmas and I responded politely, but nothing more. every time I post some photos he sees that immediately, so I guess he is in the "curiosity stage", but I'm not so sure. he posted a photo saying "you can't rule the heart" and I strongly believe it was referred to me, but I'm not sure. I don't know what to think or what to do, help me please!! Should I continue to post sometimes or it's better silence? I'm afraid he won't reach me out! I made the mistake of chasing him the first time he left me, then we tried another time but he left me again. right now it's been 45 days of NC, since he left me. I know I don't have to break no contact, but I can't tell if it's working, I'm afraid of loosing him. Help me please!
Hi Coach, This is also my question. My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago but most of the time I kind of pushed him away :( So I felt like I pushed him to his limit to end the relationship but he was the one that said we are officially broken up. So he is the dumper here and I am the one get dumped? so I am the one that will do the NC?
Yes, if he is the one who said you are broken up, he is the dumper. That is especially true if he knew that you didn't want the breakup. Yes, no contact. I also suggest my $7 Reunion Blueprint at ReunionBlueprint.com.
@@RealCoachLee Thanks Coach Lee for your reply! Will he still get back if I use NC when his reason for breaking up is he doesn't see me on his 5 years from now (future)?
she breadcrumbed me during no contact for 6 months after she finally left me (8 month fade) was i right to finally tell her to not contact me again and blocked her? I refused to just be friends.
It doesn’t matter, she hasn’t texted for 6 or 7 weeks now, I think she got the message that it’s not ok to text with no purpose. I’m happier without her in my life than regressing to friends like she wants
That's not true. My ex left me because she wanted to chase her dream of being a circus juggler. The pressure of juggling is too much for anyone so I'm moving on.
Should i try getting her an "anymous" gift for valentines with stuff only id know she'd want, basically hinting its me with a note in it? Or would that be too overwhelming/ intimidating? Please i need help
@steven3461 idk, cause I was planning to leave a note inside one of the gifts and leave a hint that its me, I highly doubt she'll expect it especially from me cause it'd be so random
@basicinfo2022 I broke up with her in the summer, cause she had previously been off her pills and constantly asked why I was still with her, she said why are you even still with me and stuff like that and would say she wasn't good as a gf, and at work I had started talking to some girl and, cause me and her didn't see each other that much since the school year had ended so I found it easy to tell her I wanted a break, 3 weeks later she contacts me asking if I still wanna be with her, I was mad so I told her to f ing wait, couple days pass and she says it's ok if you wanna leave, a month passes school starts and about 2 months later I see her with some dude and quickly regret breaking up with her, she broke up with him like 5 months later but they still talk and it's been about a year and half since we broke up and last talked, we still see each other in the hallways everyday and have a class together and I think about her everyday, I regret leaving her so much
@ It will not change anything about how she feels. Trust me brother why would she have a sudden change of heart just because you bought her something? If that's all it would take, she would still be with you. I would advise you don't spend anymore money on her. Spend it on yourself.
Money problem not so much .My personl account is also in canada.but wanna is false not true.If he come to the India I could afford him the half expediture including ticket and other payment.He was inviting I could come in the Eroplane.I thought no use.
I see it work every single day. Just because it didn’t work in your case or hasn’t yet, doesn’t mean that it “doesn’t work.” It doesn’t work in every case - what does? But it works a lot snd a heck of a lot better than the opposite approach.
I left a comment here this afternoon, but it has disappeared for some reason...I'll try again: I have been in serious NC with my ex fiancee (we had been together for 11 years...she broke it off, is undiagnosed Borderline, and broke things off right after we finished building a brand new home!) since our last contact through attorneys at a mediation. She has shown up at my neighbor's home at my lake house twice this summer (this was after she accused me of stalking... ridiculous...Coach Ken has been super helping me through this). I doubt I'll hear from her again...I wonder, though. During this last year, God has rebuilt so many things in my life after her destructive behavior, personal and professional. It's a terrible shame... We seemed super solid during our 11 years before she became someone I don't recognize. Who knows if I'll hear from her again?
The feelings aren’t as strong as they once were. But I remember at the beginning of my break up I really wanted to reach out to my ex to see how he was doing and holidays were the worst because I wanted to reach out to him then too. But whenever I would get those urges I would turn on Coach Lee videos. And trust me watching these videos kept me from doing anything stupid.
Trust me guys I never thot I would be posting a comment here.... coach Lee's videos have given me strength at every stage and every word he speaks is true. I had been in no contact for almost a year i was blocked everywhere from social media to calls everywhere....i did everything i could to convince him to be with me trust me everything..... but nothing worked n at last i had no option but to remain silent.
And guess what he's back after almost a year begging me to meet him. He almost waited out in the cold for 5hrs begging me to meet him for 15mins because he just wanted to hug me.
Trust me Silence is the best Language for people who do not understand your words. 😊
@@luminousvictory8662 Interesting! This is good to hear. Looking forward to hear the success story.
Good story but waiting a year sounds like death. I’m dying 2 weeks in.
Sounds like it didn't work out with the other girl...
That's very unusual. Was it a healthy relationship in the first place? How long were you together? Who likely caused the breakup and why? I hope it works out this time - in a healthy and lasting way.
@@jakesmith5281the funny thing is wen you are completely done with them that's wen they reappear. But the question will your feelings remain the same....
I don't really watch your videos anymore since I'm not going through a breakup currently, but man Lee your videos REALLY helped me last Summer. A girl I was dating for 8 months ghosted me out of nowhere, never even said we were breaking up I just saw on my phone I was blocked everywhere and she got right on dating apps. I was going through a real tough time that whole Summer and I was practically binging youe videos for weeks.
I can't explain it but it meant alot to me brother. Don't stop posting.
@@LeeEverett1 Thanks for that input. My girlfriend of 2 years left me, stating "you aren't the right guy for me" even though our relationship was near perfect. Even she stated that I was the best boyfriend she had ever had. I was so devastated that I couldn't fly and nearly ruined my career.. I'm still a mess. I'm glad you're healing. I'm on my journey too. Stay strong brother..
I wish I came across these videos sooner, but right after she left me I was begging and pleading and it only resulted to me being blocked ever since been on no contact focusing on myself hoping she comes back but if even she doesn't I will be healed and a better version for the next person. thank you coach Lee
Coach Lee, you, Coach Ken, and my own therapist have saved me during this breakup. You have such a calming and rational way of explaining things. I am so grateful for your videos.
Right! If u can’t understand there’s even somebody a man that such exist. The more he teaches the more I realize i been wasting my time ❤
Coach Lee, I'm on NC but doing it for myself. I've decided I don't want my ex anymore. I'm giving up on him. But I bought your Reunion Blueprint to support you and also to learn more! Thank you for all you do. Your videos are a source of comfort and encouragement for me during these hard times. Thank you!❤
I really appreciate your comment and your purchase of Reunion Blueprint! It sounds like you are in a strong position!
Coach Lee's videos have been instrumental in helping me maintain no contact. Thank you, Coach Lee, for all that you do - it's truly making a difference.
Crach Lee u are absolutely the best coach it gets I recommend every body to u before all others u have made my days much more exceptable and brighter ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for this comment and for your very kind words Audra!
@@RealCoachLee coach lee u are more then welcome. If countless of words with gratitude of thankfulness was ever enough I recommend you top #1 🎉
@@audrahashleycannon Very well said. He is 1 of the best 1's on sm👌
My ex broke up with me cause even though we are later in life she was not ready to settle down LOL I went straight into no-contact after a few weeks she dropped me on social media, that certainly made no-contact even easier. thanks to good advise from Coach Lee I am moving on and feeling better about myself every day. Your advise about the right person would not do this in the first place really resonates! Thanks Coach
You're later in life? My friend, I'm nearly 60 years old and my 58 year old girlfriend broke up with me. Really? She wants to reenter the dating scene at 58 years old? It's insane..
@@boeing757pilot Yea mate I am almost 51 and she was 50. I get what you are saying, mine said the same thing, not ready to settle down...I am in my 50's but would not say settling down is anywhere near my plate. Hope you are doing well, she wants to date, her loss it is mess out there LOL
@Ravid394 Yes, bizarre that they want to reenter the dating pool at these ages.. Good luck.. Thanks for the comment. Take care of yourself...
Beard looks good on you coach Lee…😍😍😍 Now make a video explaining how to handle an ex who doesn’t love one, want them out of their shared space, I.e apartment, but wants to stay friends.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😆
I want to say thank you coach Lee I’m going through a 10 year break up right now it’s hard but I’m willing to put in the work to come out successful on the other side
You're welcome and I suggest you get my $7 Reunion Blueprint at ReunionBlueprint.com. It will walk you through the process and expectations.
Me too alittle pass 10 years coach Lee is the best it gets no clearer then this. Following him we gone be ok 👍
Coach Lee just hearing your teaching I’m stronger by the day the fog has gotten more clear perhaps if he or she doesn’t take the broken hearted devastating mind isn’t as mature and understood such as yours I found no reason to sit and weep that someone like u even exist
Im 43 years old and have been married for almost 22 years! This new year of 2025 as not been easy as my wife said she wants to divorce! I ask her not to do this to me but she made already her decision! Im giving her space now and we barely speak to each other... Silence hopefully would make her feel that was a bad decision! 😢
how old is she?
@lilep666 is that relevant?
Learn from me…I kept communicating thinking we could talk it out. I should have followed my gut and stayed gone that first day, never coming back until he was on his knees begging me. Lessons learned.
Same for me... 😢
I am at day 56 of no contact. At day 28 she reach out and we had a friendly but casual conversation. At day 46 she commented on my whatsapp status and we had a short casual conversation. Through out the no contact process she has viewed all my whatsapp statuses but have never viewed any of her statuses. No contact has not been easy some days you're down, some days you're okay. I really love my Ex and I believe she is a good girl. If we can both work on ourselves and willing to put more effort in the relationship. It can work out.
your feelings are completely understandable but dont look back man... trust me.i might be an stranger but it will definitely help u later in life
I always love the force feeding analogy haha
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2 years together, 1 year engaged. 6 months since nonsensical, off the cuff, temper tantrum discard. 4 months NC. No way he hasn't monkey branched.
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We're both older. Funny how we process challenges and emotional pain differently. I'm all about these videos, podcasts, coach talks, counseling, meditation, etc whereas she probably wouldn't be caught dead looking at content like this. That being said, she has a lot more immedate and daily human support than I do. The only thing we probably have in common in terms of processing emotions, growth, etc is that we're both in counseling. She started it before our breakup - I think for many reasons not related to our relationship.
She's the one who's done the no contact and I don't think this is about manipulation. It's about me accepting the reality that she isn't coming back. And this is the 2nd NC period since last January. There's a lot of us out there responsible for the breakup but ultimately not wanting it but they won't come back. There's a lot of us respecting the NC boundaries, working on ourselves, but quietly dying inside because we know we can do right again given chance.
Egg shell walking - if I try and communicate to her or any her friends or family, it can get worse for me. And no, this was not an abuse situation, not a narcissist. Nothing like that.
He never talks about if the GUY messed up really BAD and drank too much after a house drinking game night.. Then was drunk on the car ride home and yelled at his gf and said some mean things.. she feels scared now and ghosted him saying she doesn't feel safe around you. FYI her previous 2 BFs physically abused her and now she has extreme trauma and fear.. Me yelling caused her to break up a few days later..
I apologized and took all steps to change for the better and 2 weeks later she still feels the same.. she still doesn't want to see or hear from me again..
We were together for 4 months.. most serious and intimate relationship she ever had even if it was short.. We talked about marriage and were saying I love you.. Next day she just leaves like nothing after a really bad fight..
Yeah because he doesn't encourage people to go back to a toxic relationship. Any relationship that involves drugs or alcohol does not and will never work. The thing is if you did it once, you'll do it again and if you were already screaming and yelling at her after only 4 months, she's not coming back anytime soon maybe in a year or so to see if you've changed any. Your actions did not match the words "I love you".
Walking constantly on eggshells with a broken woman is so tiring.. i understand your frustration and culpabilty
You need to come up with a video of how you met your wife!
i found out that my ex was cheating on me with another guy 4 months before she broke up with me last year and shes still with him today. she doesent know that ik what she did. i couldnt believe it
I wish I had found these videos before. Apr 2023 my husband said he wanted out of the 21 year relationship and for 5 months I felt my marriage falling apart and I panicked. I did all the wrong things out of desperation. He left home Sept 2023 saying he needed to be away but would consider coming back home. During this time we had contact but not very much. Jan 2024 he said he decided not to come back home. It's now been a year and he we have almost no contact and the same with our son. He is now with someone else that has 3 children when he can't even be a dad to his own teen son. I wish that I had looked for help back in Apr 2023. This may have changed the whole dynamic 😢
I seriously wish I had this information earlier in life. I’ve only had one break up that crushed me later in life, but I chased for a bit too long, but finally stopped. He did come back around, but only to bread crumb and I went NC. Ugh, how I regret ever chasing him now and with time/distance I’ve realized he was never “The One”.
I asked her to block me and ill block her as well because I'm tired of the breadcrumbs..
Currently one month into no contact. It was somewhat LD (3 hours away from each other) and unfortunately she ended it over the phone. I borrowed a book that belonged to her brother a few weeks before it ended, and she asked for it back the last time I saw her in person before the break up. As stupid as it may seem, does the fact that I sent the book back to her a week after the breakup (no letters or anything, just the book) breaking no contact? I didn’t mean anything by it, just thought it would be weird to keep it and not give it back 😂 appreciate this is kinda a dumb question, but I’m hoping she hasn’t seen it as some stupid way of reminding her I exist… 😅
Been broken up 3 months now.. no contact for almost 2.. it’s funny after about a month or so I tried to talk to her twice.. after the 2nd time she told me she wanted no contact.. and to respect her wishes.. and removed me from most but not all social media and contact methods. So now it’s been another 2 months.. I haven’t said anything but I’m still dwelling and wondering why she wanted this and could move on so easily.. I think she will ever come back but I want to hope that she will.. idk what to do because moving on has been one of if not the hardest thing I’ve had to do in life, I spent my whole life waiting for the one and I finally thought she was it.. but she just gave up and now wants nothing and no contact.. it sucks.
He dumped me because of one misunderstanding and a communication error, where I came across selfish when I was only trying to set realistic expectations for him about what he can expect visiting me in the middle of my life's most important exam month. When he was already at the airport which I did not know, I've said that he should not expect lots of cuddles and intimacy bc I will not have time for it. To give him the choice to not come so I could save my exam and basically my life, which was my priority at that time. Obviously he felt very hurt and after spending the weekend with me he abruptly broke up. I'm afraid I have f*cked things up way too much for NC to even work.
She dumped me. I told her i dont love her anymore after that. we both were toxic. I apologized for my actions i did love her but she rebounded i offered her my friendship because i care about our connection she thinks im in the wrong i only went on 1 date and the breakup was 4 months ago i dont even expect to date her anymore but i told her i still want to be in her life causr we both were immature but i admit that and she thinks shes innocent while hurting me thinking im a narcissist but she literally has multiple mental illnesses and it was hard to deal with. I just hope she will come back as my bestfriend still we were each others first relationship lasted 6.5 years ups and downs and all
My ex left me and then made plans to leave the country... I wish you would make a video on something like that. All i can do is keep up no contact i guess. Both my ex and I were struggling with mental issues and didnt communicate which led to her leaving me... i still love her but she says she doesn't love me as i pushed her away, but can feelings of over a decade just disappear like that? anyways, i would love for Coach Lee to make some videos regarding mental health etc...
Is it alright to work on a relationship that is broken before?
I’m not sure what you mean. If you mean that there was a breakup before and you are asking if continuing to work on it is good, generally speaking, yes.
We've been in no contact for 4 months now and she's blocked and unblocked several times.She has written a book of poetry about me too what do I make of this and more importantly what do I do?
Iv done this all ready yes iv got this now and he must think omg she’s madly in love and stalker yur so right. Iv even rang the pub he drank in. After a year now it’s afull yes my mother in law told me how can he ever mis yu if yur all ways texting
Just got a text.
4 months later. I can’t open it.
You're afraid to open it?
Open it and take a look.
I wasn’t afraid at all,
just not sure of how I would respond.
I did eventually open it.
It wasn’t a message but an actual call.
I remember now because I refuse to answer at the time.
Because of the missed notification, I thought it was a message.
The next day/yesterday,
I responded with question marks, which usually means what’s up? -to acknowledge I saw her missed call.
Nothing more sense.
Bread crumbs?
I’m guessing it was a pocket dial?
Either way, I want to confirm as Coach has mentioned in the past, calls do come even if it was a pocket dial.
I truly never ever expected any response.
It has been tough, I’ve done the work and I’m finding my peace.
This is Very Serious and my heart truly goes out to the good guys who seemingly finish last.
Key word seemingly.
The “work” and progress is 100% worth the initial pain.
If and when we endure the proper response.
I’m still not totally compete with the “unknown” but
I AM BECOMING A BETTER ME and I like it.
Why does a part of me almost rejoice in the rejection and pain I initially felt?
Because I’ve survived the worst part! -and I see a promising future for my confidence and security.
Time can seriously impact those initial sharp excruciating pains of anxiety, insecurity, doubt and fear.
Excuse my language but I was seriously emotionally BROKEN then but today,
I’m a badd mf!
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I did.
@@TravisBridges And? I hope it's good news for you..
Guys you can heal from any break up if you have other relationship which you think is best than x
You can't have a healthy relationship if it's a rebound Firstly you need to heal then you can start dating
Coach Lee. What about if they cheated on you , went silent for a week then came back. I’ve been with my ex for 17 yrs. He apologized he said he doesn’t want us done but his communication is limited and it’s on his terms. I did what most ppl do with non stop texts and emails and finally realized what am I doing and last night said when he cheated it messed me up and now I see how bad so he doesn’t need to worry about sorting through millions of messages again.
Everytime he’s messed up I always have taken him back so I know he’s like oh right you’ll message me tomorrow. But I’m only day 1 but he hates being ignored.
Does no contact even work with someone like that. He has left the door open for us but he cheated so
Will no contact make him realize what he did. And that he might actually this time lose me.
I wrote him letters for 6 months. I’m that crazy ex, I’m also a borderline so breakups are like death to me. Is it too late to recapture his attraction? I’ve been no contact since New Year’s Day. He’s also mentally unstable fyi lol. We’re so perfectly matched…🥰 I like #3. I’m no longer writing him & I know he’s noticing that & wondering why.
@@Staciamm It's possible don't give up yet.
@@trendingstoriesglobe2733 thank you 🖤
Coach Lee. If she did a reverse discard, or she did everything she could to make me go, am I really the break upper? Coach she made me end it. She is the break upper. So my no contact is from the position of the dumped. Right?
hi, how are you feeling? This is also my question. My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago but most of the time I kind of pushed him away :( So I felt like I pushed him to his limit to end the relationship but he was the one that said we are officially broken up. So he is the dumper here and I am the one get dumped?
6 months heard nothing from her
Breakup no good God Engry All so my Lover Rejected no problem my luck bad I am pray God gave him good boy and God gave him happiness Ameen my Age64 I don't know How much life God gave me I am see happy woman thanks take care God bless you
She break up with me again last year we were seperate for 4 months we finally get together last year and now 6 months later she told me i dont want you anymore.we were 10 years together what can i do i still love her
I think she is testing you.
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👍 Super vidéo ! C'est toujours compliqué les ruptures, mais l'amour ça peut être beau, il ne faut pas se décourager... 💖🙂 Bah, les filles, en complément, personnellement, si vous voulez trouver un homme sincère qui vous ira comme un gant, je vous conseille le livre "SÉDUIRE L'HOMME DE VOS RÊVES", de Nathan Stone. Le gars est psychologue et tout apparemment. Une copine m'a dit qu'il y a tout ce qu'il faut savoir, clair, pas de discours superflu, le top. Elle dit que ça a changé sa vie et ses relations carrément ! 👌
When you throw away your trash don't take it back
She blocked me everywhere right after she broke up with me. It’s been almost 9 weeks now.
I treated her well, but I believe a little too well. Do you think she’ll come back?
she will. trust coach lee.
From my experience it depends on the length of the relationship. The longer the relationship the more time she had to check out mentally & they hardly ever come back. Short term relationship you have a better chance. Also you have to really look at the relationship & keep it real with yourself... were you a good partner? Were you the cause of the breakup? Those things matter. I'm usually a pretty good guy & all my exes have come back. Although the breakups were technically my fault because I poured too much into them. Made them bored & they'd leave. They find out the grass isn't greener & they'd come back. I never wanted them back until this recent one. First time I missed a woman. And what's crazy she's not even the best one I've been with 🤷🏽♂️
she prob had another guy lined up before she left u it happened to me
@@chainz7006 lot of u guys are hurt so bad and insecure. U tellin this man she probably had another dude is ridiculous and assuming. Not all breakups are because there's another dude or woman in the picture. And it's always the hurt guys who got cheated on that make this same comment over and over. Here's my advice to you... don't take her back when she shows up. Obviously she left you for another guy judging by your comment. So definitely in your case stay no contact forever.
@ she did she was cheating for months with him for months i found out after a while
she broke up with me, although we talked more after and we agreed on going no contact for 2 months and reconnecting in the new year after winter break. we're in school so its the first week of class and still radio silence. she blocked me on instagram but nothing else and still follows my dog account so nevertheless i'm very confused. we are on a break but we are definitely broken up. i've been doing the work, listening to what she said for me and learning more and reflecting. do i reach out if she doesnt within the next 2 weeks??
i know the answer is probably no.. the balls in her court. she needs to want it and me reaching out on a bad day for her might push her away. i think we had something good. she reached out 5 days into no contact telling me she knows it seemed like she was checked out but that she still cares and hopes we can find our way back..
i believe her. I just havent heard anything since.
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Do you be with a person that want you then dont want you thats my issue she brakes up with me due to a disagreement i stay away then she comes back but goes again when we have a disagreement .
What do i do
Been in no contact with ex for over a month now, and have just noticed that she has unfollowed me on social media. Is this a bad sign,and the end ?
Don’t want her back
I’m silent because it’s over
Coach lee.. Can you tell me? My Ex is creating new memories with new people. It means he ll forget about me
Do you recommend getting out of or not participating in her family group messenger? Typically we would share photos or tell everyone something funny the kids said. Should I remove her from my family messenger?
I suggest you get out Caleb. If this is a dating relationship that broke up, get my $7 Reunion Blueprint at ReunionBlueprint.com. If this is a marriage that is separated or where she has left you, I suggest you get my free mini-course on saving your marriage at www.marriageradio.com/mini-course-to-save-your-marriage/
@@RealCoachLee this is my wife and we have two kids
What if you have multiple break ups and the she came again back and now the same thin what can you do
Choose yourself.
It is entirely okay to set boundaries and limits.
When they start interacting with you and you've met up a bunch are you allowed to initiate contact sometimes? I think he might be giving up because i don't ever initiate, I just respond. Keep in mind he hasn't said a word about getting back together and this has been going on for 9 months
I have a holiday coming up with my ex in march we are currently in no contact how would I approach this I’m not sure if I feel comfortable with them on holiday? I want to get back together with them would it be too soon?
Coach lee, could you tell me if its okay to apologize for something important on my behalf 2 weeks after no contact? we had met up cuz he reached out for a relationship, but i messed up partly. After that i needed space for myself cuz he messed up too.
Hi! My ex breakup with me one month a go after 5 years of relationship because we argued a lot during the last 6 months. since that day I haven't contact him. He reached out on december 25th just to say marry christmas and I responded politely, but nothing more. every time I post some photos he sees that immediately, so I guess he is in the "curiosity stage", but I'm not so sure. he posted a photo saying "you can't rule the heart" and I strongly believe it was referred to me, but I'm not sure. I don't know what to think or what to do, help me please!! Should I continue to post sometimes or it's better silence? I'm afraid he won't reach me out! I made the mistake of chasing him the first time he left me, then we tried another time but he left me again. right now it's been 45 days of NC, since he left me. I know I don't have to break no contact, but I can't tell if it's working, I'm afraid of loosing him. Help me please!
Hi Coach, This is also my question. My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago but most of the time I kind of pushed him away :( So I felt like I pushed him to his limit to end the relationship but he was the one that said we are officially broken up. So he is the dumper here and I am the one get dumped? so I am the one that will do the NC?
Yes, if he is the one who said you are broken up, he is the dumper. That is especially true if he knew that you didn't want the breakup. Yes, no contact. I also suggest my $7 Reunion Blueprint at ReunionBlueprint.com.
@@RealCoachLee Thanks Coach Lee for your reply! Will he still get back if I use NC when his reason for breaking up is he doesn't see me on his 5 years from now (future)?
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she breadcrumbed me during no contact for 6 months after she finally left me (8 month fade) was i right to finally tell her to not contact me again and blocked her? I refused to just be friends.
Don't block her, just move on, don't ask her not to contact you again, just don't pick her calls incase she reaches out!
It doesn’t matter, she hasn’t texted for 6 or 7 weeks now, I think she got the message that it’s not ok to text with no purpose. I’m happier without her in my life than regressing to friends like she wants
That's not true. My ex left me because she wanted to chase her dream of being a circus juggler. The pressure of juggling is too much for anyone so I'm moving on.
What if I have to pick up some thing at her house , how should I act
if shes the one that didnt want to be with you, then be indifferent and polite.
I’d have a mutual impartial friend pick up my belongings for me.
Just leave it..if it's not any significant to u' act like u don't care anymore...n" u moving on.
She deleted all our pictures on facebook but she remained 2-3 pictures of me. What does it mean? We broke up december 30 2024
Should i try getting her an "anymous" gift for valentines with stuff only id know she'd want, basically hinting its me with a note in it? Or would that be too overwhelming/ intimidating? Please i need help
Don't do it bro, she will know it's you. Don't spend money on someone who doesn't want you.
why did she want to breakup?
@steven3461 idk, cause I was planning to leave a note inside one of the gifts and leave a hint that its me, I highly doubt she'll expect it especially from me cause it'd be so random
@basicinfo2022 I broke up with her in the summer, cause she had previously been off her pills and constantly asked why I was still with her, she said why are you even still with me and stuff like that and would say she wasn't good as a gf, and at work I had started talking to some girl and, cause me and her didn't see each other that much since the school year had ended so I found it easy to tell her I wanted a break, 3 weeks later she contacts me asking if I still wanna be with her, I was mad so I told her to f ing wait, couple days pass and she says it's ok if you wanna leave, a month passes school starts and about 2 months later I see her with some dude and quickly regret breaking up with her, she broke up with him like 5 months later but they still talk and it's been about a year and half since we broke up and last talked, we still see each other in the hallways everyday and have a class together and I think about her everyday, I regret leaving her so much
@ It will not change anything about how she feels. Trust me brother why would she have a sudden change of heart just because you bought her something? If that's all it would take, she would still be with you. I would advise you don't spend anymore money on her. Spend it on yourself.
Money problem not so much .My personl account is also in canada.but wanna is false not true.If he come to the India I could afford him the half expediture including ticket and other payment.He was inviting I could come in the Eroplane.I thought no use.
I asked them visiter can not draw money .For some emergency I can take.
Doesn’t work
I see it work every single day. Just because it didn’t work in your case or hasn’t yet, doesn’t mean that it “doesn’t work.” It doesn’t work in every case - what does? But it works a lot snd a heck of a lot better than the opposite approach.
@ I mean I’ve been watching your videos for years and I’ve been in NC for 5 months trying to move on but hasn’t worked for me
I left a comment here this afternoon, but it has disappeared for some reason...I'll try again:
I have been in serious NC with my ex fiancee (we had been together for 11 years...she broke it off, is undiagnosed Borderline, and broke things off right after we finished building a brand new home!) since our last contact through attorneys at a mediation. She has shown up at my neighbor's home at my lake house twice this summer (this was after she accused me of stalking... ridiculous...Coach Ken has been super helping me through this).
I doubt I'll hear from her again...I wonder, though. During this last year, God has rebuilt so many things in my life after her destructive behavior, personal and professional. It's a terrible shame... We seemed super solid during our 11 years before she became someone I don't recognize. Who knows if I'll hear from her again?
I’m automatically in “silence” coz my ex blocked me 4 days I sent him message how I feel how he treated me. It’s hurts but life must moved on.