My question to married women with husbands like this is how do you remain attracted to them? Imagine being the default adult in your relationship having to "parent" your incompetent husband... How does the romance not d*e immediately?
Oh it does! The more my ex did stuff like this the less I wanted him… til eventually I had to leave. I don’t see how anybody could feel like a man’s mother and stay attracted to him 🫢
It does. I clocked out for like 5 months, we had a big blow up…. It’s been 3 years, we’ve had 0 issues since. Stop doing it. If he loves you, he’ll figure it out.
They don’t remain attracted to them. Hence why many divorce for “irreconcilable differences.” Hence why they have smexless marriages. Others stay out of “duty” 😵💫🤢
so someone did a deep dive into this specific topic and posted it on reddit. It was all the posts titled why is my partner mad at me for not setting their alarm to wake them up/make sure they wake up when their alarm rings. The amount of posts of women's stories of how their partner got mad at them because they chose to sleep instead of waking up when the alarm simply went off and instead blame them is honestly insane.
I misplace items occasionally, like normal people do, but with my husband, he can't find ANYTHING, EVER. He screams because he can't find the giant pyrex bowl and to get him to quit screaming, I'll find it. In the fridge. Full of whatever disgusting crap he made JUST YESTERDAY & stored in it. This happens multiple times a day. Yeah I left.
If I'm talking/dating a guy I pretend I don't know how to do certain things, so he can get it out of his mind that he can ever depend on me for that. I've even downplayed my cooking skills.
OMG I do the same thing.🤭 I'm actually a pretty decent cook and absolutely love baking, but always act like I'm not good in the kitchen. Had a guy on the first date ask me, when I would be "coming over to his house to do his laundry"🤢 Immediately put me off, told him that day that we are not compatible and I have no interest in picking up after him. I knew immediately he was looking for a maid he didn't have to pay🙄 I hate how married women laugh and make jokes about how their husbands are basically like their children, like, how is being the default adult in your relationship funny? How do you look at your incompetent husband whom you have to parent and remain attracted to him? I'm childfree, I refuse to parent anyone that includes men.
I don’t do 💩. I tell them that from the start, I don’t cook, I don’t clean, I don’t sew, I don’t iron, I don’t nurture, I don’t organise. I work very hard to afford a housekeeper & if you can’t maintain that same lifestyle then I don’t need you & you should lower your gaze. Simple
I used to have all the answers to any questions anyone in my life posed to me. I felt good knowing I could help others. It took years before it finally dawned on me that my “helpful” attitude was making them lazy and irresponsible for the smallest things in their lives. I also realised that I wasn’t getting any help from anyone in return. And if I was scared or vulnerable or unwell they would turn on me like I’d betrayed them and treat me like my situation didn’t matter. So, I stopped pleasing people and turned my attention instead to myself who I had neglected for years. It was hard at first to stop having the answers for everyone, to stop giving to them constantly and to stop helping them with things they could do for themselves. Now I stay silent. I offer no help or information or suggestions. I don’t involve myself unless I’m asked and even then I say “I have no idea.” The shock they exhibit when I say I don’t know is delicious. It’s taken a while but I’ve changed my patterns as well as theirs and now people don’t ask me anything about 99% of the time.
I lived with my boyfriend for the past two years and he cooked everyday, cleaned our apartment every Sunday and we did the laundry together. I would get pancakes most sunday mornings. now we are long distance and I miss him so much. I think he ruined me for other men. I don't think if we were ever to break up, that I would be with a man who couldn't cook and look after himself.
I honestly wonder if we as women are failing to raise good hearted, respectful, independent and capable men bc they're dealing with these type of partners themselves and is a never ending cycle. Yes, there are some parents that have cracked the code but it feels like they're only a few
I told my husband when we first started dating that I am not his mother and I expect him to help around the house and he said that he wouldn't even let me be stressed out about cleaning.
Basically every man I dated treated me like their mother. And whenever I brought up their issues, ironically they’d say “your’e not my mom, stop nagging me”. Complaining that I don’t need to tell them how to be a good person because their mom did that apparently 😒
I think I'd have hit the ultimate low if I had to beg a man to do things necessary for his OWN survival...and he wasn't dying or something 'Please get a job, please wash your clothes...don't forget to go to the dentist appointment I booked for you'. I think that's the kind of second-hand embarrassing ish that'd wake at least a few of my ancestors from their great beyond tea party to smack me to hell for giving such humiliating amo to their great nemesis Mabel.
I’ve been single forever because I fully expect the princess treatment if I’m gonna wear a man’s ring on my finger. I’m autistic and I have a lot of heart to give to a home, but I really don’t have the capacity to be someone’s mommy and personal assistant.
As a autistic girl, same😂 my standards are high, especially since I don't care about being single. There needs to be great reasons for me to want someone to take up alot of my time and energy
Another autistic princess here and I hit the jackpot. Dont settle for less than you want. My partner is ND as well so he gets me very well and my needs and wishes are his command. Thats why my mental health got so much better when we got together. But unless he's carrying you anywhere and knows your routines and interests by HEART, save your energy.
Don’t let them be incompetent and useless while lording their patriarchy over you. The moment you make it known that you want princess treatment and they look at you like “who the hell do you think YOU are?” That’s your answer.
GURL THANK YOU! Every time I tell people captain jack sparrow and legolas are the loves of my life they're like oh so you like Jonny depp and Orlando bloom and I'm like no no no nope. I did not stutter. Sparrow and Legolas. 😂
I know a lady who took her husband’s CDL test. I know a few women who fill out applications and look for jobs for boyfriend and or husband because they went months without working. Gratefully none of them are related to me…
I work in construction management and I see girlfriends/wives filling out applications and new hire paper work for their boyfriends/husbands all the time. They will even call for them and ask if we hiring. They drive them around looking for jobs. They will bring them to work and pick them up. These same men then turn around and proceed to cheat. The level of laziness and disrespect I see is astonishing.
My mother-in-law would fly cross country to woop his ass if my husband stepped a pinky toe out of line. She already told him if he fucks up with me that she'll keep me and the grandbabies in the divorce and get rid of him. She taught him to be accomplished, resourceful, competent, and helpful not dead weight. He ain't the best cook but he helps and can do the minimum to make healthy food for our kid. Usually that's grilling or sheet pan dinners. But she would be enraged if he made her look like a bad mom who didn't raise her son right. Rural southern mommas are different from the vast majority of the other cultural areas in the USA. They take no shit and put up with no misrepresentation of how they raised their kids.
If I get with a man, it's because I want him, not because I need him. Therefore I ain't making no compromises and I'm not throwing away my principles for any man. I have some standards that I'm not lowering for any man, cuz if the result of upholding those standards is men avoiding me, I ain't missing or losing anything, quite the contrary! For example, I'm not doing laundry or cooking or cleaning the house/yard for a man under any circumstance except maybe if he's physically unable to do it for himself (but not forever, once or twice max). I choose to get with a man because I wanna share my life with him, have fun together, make this life more bearable, NOT to be his obedient slave, NOT to "submit" to him, NOT to be led/guided by him, NOT to give up on my dreams & goals for him cuz I wouldn't want a man to do that for me.
This is why I am divorced. I was called cruel and mean. I was tired of the Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma all day---from my ex husband. I was also an executive Director in a hospital, one of two females in management. I clearly remember the day I had to set six men straight, as they sat there and planned a "picnic" for the staff and tried to default to me. I stayed silent. Didn't make contact. Two weeks later, I cannot tell you how many times I was asked how to do something? Where was this or that? And it was the same questions over and over, as they were trying to set up this picnic. I took my laptop, disappeared to another office and showed up and filled up a plate and enjoyed my bbq.
I just had a guy say to me he doesn't want a partner he wants a wife. I asked what does that mean and he said someone that is nice, nurturing, helpful, supportive that's my fan. He literally said he didn't care if she worked fast food or a brain surgeon. As long as she doesn't have opinions and never nags him. That's your Momma sir.
This! The amount of times I’ve had this conversation with grown ssa men is insane. To men like that, Marriage is something they do TO women not WITH women. Their wives are only valued for what she does to serve him. Her needs and desires aren’t important and rarely considered. Ironically these men feel they are most entitled to a wife. 🤦🏽♀️
This guy I was talking to kept hinting that he needed his resumé updated…I changed the subject every single time 😂 Figure it out or pay someone to do it!
Its like they enjoy seeing us fail ,i started thinking differently when women had to ask men about losing great opportunities because he is your leader? But when you need something he can't give you ! Thats crazy.
My mom didn't play 3 girls and 4 boys and we were all in the kitchen. We all had to learn to cook bake do dishes sweep and clean the front and back yard. We each had our own clothes basket and was taught to do our own laundry. I also chise a partner who does everything i do. He cooks, cleans does laundry sweeps, and cleans the house. He'll even plan daddy daughter time with our youngest. He's involved in everything school relates and He is a true helpmate.
Mmmhmm. My husband has been entertaining the idea of homeschooling our children. And putting our son in soccer. I said okay sounds good. So I asked him what days he plans on teaching the children? He looked confused🫤 Then I asked how he will take our son to soccer practice with his current schedule? 🤔 He really assumed I would just take on those extra things alone. He was wrong. 🤷🏽♀️ Unless he’s willing to put in the work don’t ask me. I wont be struggling and stressed trying to keep a toddler, Infant and my daughter who is an eloper, busy for an hour and a half every evening in the heat and mosquitoes. The packing and planning, the stroller and lifting and extra bottles I have to pump. These soccer leagues cost a grip and require lots of travel. They don’t think about all that goes into certain tasks.
Sorry your children deserve all of that you choose to be a mother. Yes figure it out and let him do his part but they deserve sport and all of the extra
They're always so generous with our time, lol. Then when you say, "Great idea, how will you do that?" They suddenly realize it's too hard but looked forward to heaping it on you.
@@JannatHerzallah Motherhood is not synonymous with unnecessary stress and taking care of children ALONE! I’m sorry you were taught that it was. Our children DESERVE a present and involved father. Period. So he can adjust and rearrange his schedule to prioritize his kids needs. He will figure it out.
My mom's response to "Where is my..." question was always "It's where you put it...how am I supposed to know where you put it?" Growing up around a woman responding like this to a man shielded me from sooooooo many toxic relationships.
I worked in healthcare for 15 years and I found that for almost all instances an 18 year old woman could book her own appointments, but guys needed their mommies to book their appointments deep into their 20’s. After 25, they seem to be able to manage that for themselves, with some exceptions.
That's so strange, but now I know why many doctors were so confused by me. At 40 I got a breastcancer diagnosis and I went to all appointments completely alone. My dad, sister and friends wanted to come but I refused that, and was like "Nope! My body, my illness, my life, my choice all along!" Many male doctors couldn't handle that and acted like I was an alien 👽 😂
This conversation is bringing second hand embarrassment for me. Long time ago I was that girl in a relationship with a man advocating for his employment with a prospective employer. He stayed on mute nearly the whole time😑. Take heed ladies to the advice here and learn from others mistakes. Do not heavy lift for NO MAN! Signed Ex-Build a Bear/BarbdaBuilder
Its like they enjoy seeing us fail ,i started thinking differently when women had to ask men about losing great opportunities because he is your leader? But when you need something he can't give you ! Thats crazy.
My sister and i were just talking about this. My husband won't even cook 😔 i even brought HelloFresh, and he won't even attempt. Wont clean unless i start, then he wants to jump in. And he wonders why i dont even want to touch him. He thinks going to work and coming home is his only obligation to this marriage. Believe me, i am unhappy
My ex husband would step out of his dirty underwear, and leave them right in the exact spot. So imagine a bedroom with dirty underwear on his side of the bed or on the bathroom floor. I stopped picking them up. The scenario went like this: Ex: Do I have any clean underwear? Me: Unless you washed any, then no. I washed what was in the hamper. If it wasn't in the hamper then it didn't get washed. Ex: Well you washed the kids clothes. Me: You're a grown ass man. I'm not picking up your dirty 💩 off the floor, because you're too damn lazy to put it in the hamper. Plus what kind of comparison is that? They're kids and even they know where dirty clothes go. And seeing as how I'm their mother, it's my job. I could have sworn I only gave birth to 2 kids, not 3. Ex: Pikachu face, then proceeds to pick up and wash his filthy drawls. At that point all I could think about was the fact that he was wasting detergent since it wasn't a full load.😠
Im trying so hard to make sure my son is not a doofus. ...I'm struggling. 😅 But I won't give up. He WILL memorize the rules of doing laundry someday! 😂
My biggest worry about being a mother of a son. And HOW do their mothers not say anything about this 😭 horrible behavior? I would be so embarrassed. I might disown them publicly because these types of videos are everywhere nowadays 😂.
@@Bubbles-kk9zs Girl I'm a mother to a son and I don't play that sh*t. He cleans his room and separates clothes, does laundry, helps with cleaning the home and I am getting him in the kitchen to teach him cooking and measurements and he is 8 up. He picks out his own clothes and dresses himself and has done so since he was 4yo. He knows his days to wash his own hair and does so without help. His hygiene routine he has for himself is really cool. He keeps his closet organized very well and me and his dad don't have to tell him to do so. He wants to learn about growing food so we will be buying him some fruit trees soon enough and start with herbs in grow bags. He is in 3rd grade and I'm currently trying to get his reading level to 8th grade by the end of the year as well because I want him to start some spelling bees sometime next year. Me and his father are not raising a punk we literally discussed last night of keeping him in line so that he can have resources and the financial means by the time he is a legal adult so that he can find the best mate to marry but in order for us to have the educated daughter in law we desire for him we have to stay on our course with him. He is homeschooled and is a straight A student. We get him involved in our business as well so he can take it over one day if he chooses but we want him to be a suitable mate to his wife and that starts with him being educated and not a useless ass turd. He will one day want children and he needs to understand his wife is risking her life for him so his father stays on him and ushers him into how to be a true covering for a woman and his children even at this age. Everything we do is for our son to be the ultimate mate and man because he will be out of the house one day and it'll just be me and his dad alone again. We refuse to send an asshat into the world. My husband doesn't play about respecting women at all so I'm thankful for that. I stay on top of my son. He is a really good child too but I keep him busy. If you don't keep a young man occupied and on a schedule, teach him responsibility and hold hima accountable....teach him discipline and emotional regulation...he will be a fkn tyrant to society! Not my son, I will not allow it.
Wow!!! my mother did that, I used to see her every Saturday, early in the morning at the kitchen table, with all the bills spread out on the table, and she used to tell me, daddy always give her all the money, for her to pay all the bills😳😳
I remember when my ex husband came to my job acting a fool. At that moment I told him I wanted a divorce. We went directly to the courthouse to get the paperwork and he threw a fit because I wouldn't help him fill them out. Because of this, he also got slapped with a restraining order.
My gay brother’s ex had to be convinced that you’re not supposed to place your hand on a hot stovetop. Dude couldn’t even open a door with one occupied hand🤦🏿♂️ Blamed it on autism and ADHD, but had no problems cheating
I look at this video and I say to myself that it pays to be single and to come from a helicopter single mom! 😆 Growing up, my mother made sure my brother & I handled business and important matters with precision, to always advocate for yourself. I say this b/c in some cases, the willful ignorance could come from them coming from mothers that enable such behavior. Short Storytime. After my dad left my mom and ending up marrying the other women, their kids grew up to be spoiled individuals. The youngest one is still living with the stepmother & has 2 kids.
I raised my son same as my daughters 💯… he cooks, cleans, knows how to change a diaper, works and pays his own bills. I would be so embarrassed if he was a dirty slob in a relationship. So I made sure to do the best I could to ensure that not happen 😊 I have been divorced for 27 yrs and I do not miss the weaponized incompetence from most men. I am happy and have no chaos in my life ❤
The WORST thing we as women were taught is that its all about "give and take" and that "compromise is the key to a healthy relationship". Hell to the naw! Seriosuly, F compromise! DO not get involved with a man unless you are compeltely on board with everthing, set boundaries and same goals for the future. That when you both look at your life, 20 years down the line, they should look very similar. Like for example, I hate to cook. I know its not very feminine of me but I just dont like it. Honestly, if it wasnt for my boyfriend I would probably starve. If I had to compromise by cooking eveyday or even every other day, it would be a miserable existence! I do however love to clean, do laundry, organize, decorate, plan dates etc. But not only that, we have the same outlooks on life, politics, religion (both Catholic), both dont want children, both love the city. Some city girls end up dating guys that want that country life (or vice versa) and therefore someone is eventually going to have to compromise and you should ALWAYS assume that person will be you! If you cant find your match, stay single. Thats what cats and vibraors are for 😂 One more little piece advice.. don't to be scared to age up. I know so many happy couple that have a 10+ year age gap. For me its 15 years difference and same for my parents. It took me a while to find him but Ive never felt so secure and fulfilled in my life. Unless he's old and still doesnt have his shi together... in which case ... RUN!!!
Dating men it’s not worth the energy I dated a guy he couldn’t get his own apartment Dated a guy he couldn’t get his own car Legally Dated a guy that was codependent Dated a guy said he suffered wit mental breakdowns Dated a guy said he just couldn’t commit Dated a guy said he was a football coach for middle and high schoolers Could he stay at my apartment for a couple days 😳😳
0:20 Girl, you betta talk about it!! I for one am here for anything you wish to share. I’m not able to do it myself so I certainly appreciate you curating the tea, the mess, the nonsense and need-to-know of the day; as well as your take on it all. You’re doing great a very good job 🤗🥰
Let's not with the American comment because we see all women from every DN background crying about how their men ain't ish and how they are lazy.... especially women from the continent. All online telling all the business about how they are encouraged to stay in abusive marriages with men who won't even lift a finger to help them clean the homes they share with their wives. Women abroad are doing silly ish for men stop with pretending that it's only over here because it's not and you and I both know it. If they ain't filling out resumes where you're at I'm sure they're getting cheated on and staying, cleaning up behind grown ass men where you at...I bet some of them are in your own family. Be for real babes...you know women like this, we all do!
I met a woman who said that she and her husband were in school but she dropped out to have kids but was still doing his work for him. He graduated. Then a man told me that the mother of his child also did his college work for him. Both graduated but she doesn’t work and he pays child support. I was and still am DISTURBED by this information 😂 I WOULD NEVER!!! 🤢🤭
5:47 So true, my 'partner' keeps giving the excuse of "I didn't grow up in a functional family" for not being able to do basic house hold chores, up-keep, and repairs even though he's moved out of his parents' place over a decade now... Keep in mind I had to teach myself most things through trial and error or TH-cam. No one taught me how to do laundry, cook, clean, sew, paint, organization, random house repairs like fixing the hinge on a door, etc. My dad showed me a few car things, and I also self taught myself a few car things through TH-cam, but my partner acts like he needs his hand held and everything done for him! He acts so helpless because 'my dad didn't show me how to do x specific thing' and wants sympathy and for YOU to do it for him instead, when he could also just look up how to do it online too. 😒 Needless to say, currently making my movements in silence to leave.
I keep telling myself this but others should remember this too. Just because a guy is grown doesn’t mean he’s a man. A guy no matter how old can still be a little boy in a adult body that doesn’t automatically make him a man
Ms Priscilla you can do what BurbnBougie does, she'll splice together different topics into one video if you feel like you can't post something or want to post more but all together
I am that girl to a man that knew nothing but abuse and neglect in his young life and in turn he tries to act as human as possible to me and whatever he gets he gives to me
I feel like this is about to swing too far to the other side now lol. I love cooking and keeping a clean house for friends and family. If I have a bf, he will also get a taste of this so he KNOWS this is what he can have if we end up married. This is what I do for people I choose to be part of my life. I don't believe in babying them of course, but doing "nothing" for them is a terrible way to have a relationship, I'm sorry. Every woman should choose where that line is for her and how labor will be split in their relationship.
Why are you expecting to keep the house clean behind a grown man once you marry? Why is he not able to cook and clean for himself? I know you mean well and most women are social conditioned to believe this is what a “good wife” does. However, Mature grown men who are seeking a wife should be keeping his own home clean and cooking his own meals. This should be a wife’s expectation of her prospective husband as well. It’s great that you enjoy a clean home and cooking food for others but the point of the video is to ask yourself would he do the same for you? Or better yet himself? If the answer is no? You’re going to end up being his mom and resenting that man.
@@Nitra813 I see what you're trying to catch me on but I already said I don't believe in babying him. That includes "expecting to keep the house clean behind a grown man once you marry." I personally wouldn't ever choose someone who can't take care of themselves or their own space HOWEVER it's an added perk of knowing me that you're gonna get fed. I invite people over when I cook or bake something and I would do the same for him because these people are folks who *I've* chosen. And for a good reason! I don't have friends that mooch, I don't speak with neighbors of bad character, and I don't let family who I don't like mooch off of me either. With this logic, I wouldn't have a man that did either. Why would anyone choose someone who didn't match their efforts? A good spouse contributes. BOTH spouses should be contributing and I'm glad for videos like this that remind women of their worth
@@oliviaw.2842I think you’re missing the point slightly. You loving to cook isn’t something you’re offering in a relationship, it’s just a passion you have. It’s like if you’re dating a person who is an artist and paints for their passion - they’re not offering painting services to their spouse, but I’m sure they still definitely paint their spouse or paint for their spouse. Having a passion is for you, while others may benefit, this isn’t something you “offer”. Only offer things you get paid for, everything else is just you doing you.
No catch dear. And it could be that I misconstrued your statement of “so he knows what he can have if we end up getting married” As the comment above mentions, YOUR passion is cooking and baking. My passion was baking as well. I was known for my cake business and was always having friends over to taste and try and tell me their thoughts. The point is you weren’t auditioning for your guests to be seen as “wifey material,” you were simply being a good host. One would hope if you went to your bfs home he would be just as hospitable to you. He doesn’t have to be as passionate about cooking as you are but he also shouldn’t assume he doesn’t need to worry about cooking at all since you do. You’re right you must talk about these things prior to getting serious because sadly this attitude usually pours over into the household and child rearing responsibilities as well. “You do it so I don’t have to think about “that” stuff. It’s a tired excuse.
I've always had this theory that women who enjoy treating these dudes like their sons are lowkey PDfiles themselves... because you do EVERYTHING for your child, no?
The point of the video is for women to stop assuming positions that a man should already be capable of doing himself. If he won’t do it for himself or for his marriage or household why is he assuming or expecting his wife to do it for him?
First things first. Stop partner shaming! Do you love your partner or what? Second thing second. Yes girlfriends and wives will do things that moms and therapists do. Just like boyfriends and husbands will do things that dad's and therapists do. It's called having a relationship. He didn't inherently mean you're expected to make dinner when he asked what's for dinner. It's an open-ended question. Basically it's another way of saying what would you like for dinner. Either love your partner or get out of the relationship. I'm sick and tired of both sides shaming their significant others.
“What’s for dinner” never means “what would you like for dinner” please stop reaching just because you’re butt hurt. Hetero relationships have long been women pouring into men while getting little to nothing in return. He does what a dad would do? Let’s talk about it, what would a dad do? The same dads that leave majority of the parenting and child rearing to the mothers and using weaponized incompetence? Yeah guess they do move like dads. If it don’t apply let it fly but don’t try to derail this critical moment of enlightenment for women because you can’t keep your pick me-ism in check. Girl bye.
I’ve personally never understood “what’s for dinner “ as being asked what I wanted for dinner. That pretty much means what am I offering for dinner . I’d actually bet my 401k it means that to almost every woman in miserable relationships. It’s actually funny that you think it’s the norm that men want to figure out dinner for everyone lol
@@CONGLOMERATE32THANK YOU. She’s DELUSIONAL. If these males were out here doing it all, the divorce rate wouldn’t be so high. I mean MOST women are literally SEEING women all o we social media and in person complaining bitterly how lazy and useless the males are and how they do absolutely nothing in the home.🙄🙄🙄
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My question to married women with husbands like this is how do you remain attracted to them?
Imagine being the default adult in your relationship having to "parent" your incompetent husband...
How does the romance not d*e immediately?
Oh it does! The more my ex did stuff like this the less I wanted him… til eventually I had to leave. I don’t see how anybody could feel like a man’s mother and stay attracted to him 🫢
@@susanmclare This absolutely makes sense.😊
It does. I clocked out for like 5 months, we had a big blow up…. It’s been 3 years, we’ve had 0 issues since. Stop doing it. If he loves you, he’ll figure it out.
This! My vajajay would dry up faster than the Sahara desert.
They don’t remain attracted to them. Hence why many divorce for “irreconcilable differences.” Hence why they have smexless marriages.
Others stay out of “duty” 😵💫🤢
Don't ever think for one minute that he CAN'T do it. They know you will do it for them.
🤦♀️. If you have to baby him, then y'all both have problems.
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so someone did a deep dive into this specific topic and posted it on reddit. It was all the posts titled why is my partner mad at me for not setting their alarm to wake them up/make sure they wake up when their alarm rings. The amount of posts of women's stories of how their partner got mad at them because they chose to sleep instead of waking up when the alarm simply went off and instead blame them is honestly insane.
I misplace items occasionally, like normal people do, but with my husband, he can't find ANYTHING, EVER. He screams because he can't find the giant pyrex bowl and to get him to quit screaming, I'll find it. In the fridge. Full of whatever disgusting crap he made JUST YESTERDAY & stored in it. This happens multiple times a day. Yeah I left.
They always scream the most logical 🙄
If I'm talking/dating a guy I pretend I don't know how to do certain things, so he can get it out of his mind that he can ever depend on me for that. I've even downplayed my cooking skills.
I don't want to lower myself to their level. Single is better.
Sure but when he makes an attempt to treat you like your stupid or take advantage you will find out the consequences. Tried that before
OMG I do the same thing.🤭
I'm actually a pretty decent cook and absolutely love baking, but always act like I'm not good in the kitchen.
Had a guy on the first date ask me, when I would be "coming over to his house to do his laundry"🤢
Immediately put me off, told him that day that we are not compatible and I have no interest in picking up after him. I knew immediately he was looking for a maid he didn't have to pay🙄
I hate how married women laugh and make jokes about how their husbands are basically like their children, like, how is being the default adult in your relationship funny? How do you look at your incompetent husband whom you have to parent and remain attracted to him?
I'm childfree, I refuse to parent anyone that includes men.
I don’t do 💩. I tell them that from the start, I don’t cook, I don’t clean, I don’t sew, I don’t iron, I don’t nurture, I don’t organise. I work very hard to afford a housekeeper & if you can’t maintain that same lifestyle then I don’t need you & you should lower your gaze. Simple
I used to have all the answers to any questions anyone in my life posed to me. I felt good knowing I could help others. It took years before it finally dawned on me that my “helpful” attitude was making them lazy and irresponsible for the smallest things in their lives. I also realised that I wasn’t getting any help from anyone in return. And if I was scared or vulnerable or unwell they would turn on me like I’d betrayed them and treat me like my situation didn’t matter.
So, I stopped pleasing people and turned my attention instead to myself who I had neglected for years. It was hard at first to stop having the answers for everyone, to stop giving to them constantly and to stop helping them with things they could do for themselves. Now I stay silent. I offer no help or information or suggestions. I don’t involve myself unless I’m asked and even then I say “I have no idea.” The shock they exhibit when I say I don’t know is delicious. It’s taken a while but I’ve changed my patterns as well as theirs and now people don’t ask me anything about 99% of the time.
I lived with my boyfriend for the past two years and he cooked everyday, cleaned our apartment every Sunday and we did the laundry together. I would get pancakes most sunday mornings. now we are long distance and I miss him so much. I think he ruined me for other men. I don't think if we were ever to break up, that I would be with a man who couldn't cook and look after himself.
I honestly wonder if we as women are failing to raise good hearted, respectful, independent and capable men bc they're dealing with these type of partners themselves and is a never ending cycle. Yes, there are some parents that have cracked the code but it feels like they're only a few
I told my husband when we first started dating that I am not his mother and I expect him to help around the house and he said that he wouldn't even let me be stressed out about cleaning.
Basically every man I dated treated me like their mother. And whenever I brought up their issues, ironically they’d say “your’e not my mom, stop nagging me”. Complaining that I don’t need to tell them how to be a good person because their mom did that apparently 😒
I told my ex "if I were your mom, you wouldn't be so useless now 😅"
I think I'd have hit the ultimate low if I had to beg a man to do things necessary for his OWN survival...and he wasn't dying or something 'Please get a job, please wash your clothes...don't forget to go to the dentist appointment I booked for you'. I think that's the kind of second-hand embarrassing ish that'd wake at least a few of my ancestors from their great beyond tea party to smack me to hell for giving such humiliating amo to their great nemesis Mabel.
I like your humor 😂 well said
I’ve been single forever because I fully expect the princess treatment if I’m gonna wear a man’s ring on my finger. I’m autistic and I have a lot of heart to give to a home, but I really don’t have the capacity to be someone’s mommy and personal assistant.
Absolutely deserve the princess treatment! 🐸☕️
As a autistic girl, same😂 my standards are high, especially since I don't care about being single. There needs to be great reasons for me to want someone to take up alot of my time and energy
Another autistic princess here and I hit the jackpot. Dont settle for less than you want. My partner is ND as well so he gets me very well and my needs and wishes are his command. Thats why my mental health got so much better when we got together. But unless he's carrying you anywhere and knows your routines and interests by HEART, save your energy.
Same autistic single and no longer in any hurry! I have a lot of heart to give and it needs to be totally right. I don’t want to compromise.
Don’t let them be incompetent and useless while lording their patriarchy over you.
The moment you make it known that you want princess treatment and they look at you like “who the hell do you think YOU are?” That’s your answer.
This is why I love my male fictional characters because they dont exist.
😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 that is a good one...
Same. SAME. The ML of my novels is a baby man who grows tf up before he gets a surprise wife. And he is so ready to woo her, with her consent.
GURL THANK YOU! Every time I tell people captain jack sparrow and legolas are the loves of my life they're like oh so you like Jonny depp and Orlando bloom and I'm like no no no nope. I did not stutter. Sparrow and Legolas. 😂
I know a lady who took her husband’s CDL test. I know a few women who fill out applications and look for jobs for boyfriend and or husband because they went months without working. Gratefully none of them are related to me…
I work in construction management and I see girlfriends/wives filling out applications and new hire paper work for their boyfriends/husbands all the time. They will even call for them and ask if we hiring. They drive them around looking for jobs. They will bring them to work and pick them up. These same men then turn around and proceed to cheat. The level of laziness and disrespect I see is astonishing.
My mother-in-law would fly cross country to woop his ass if my husband stepped a pinky toe out of line. She already told him if he fucks up with me that she'll keep me and the grandbabies in the divorce and get rid of him. She taught him to be accomplished, resourceful, competent, and helpful not dead weight. He ain't the best cook but he helps and can do the minimum to make healthy food for our kid. Usually that's grilling or sheet pan dinners. But she would be enraged if he made her look like a bad mom who didn't raise her son right. Rural southern mommas are different from the vast majority of the other cultural areas in the USA. They take no shit and put up with no misrepresentation of how they raised their kids.
If I get with a man, it's because I want him, not because I need him. Therefore I ain't making no compromises and I'm not throwing away my principles for any man. I have some standards that I'm not lowering for any man, cuz if the result of upholding those standards is men avoiding me, I ain't missing or losing anything, quite the contrary! For example, I'm not doing laundry or cooking or cleaning the house/yard for a man under any circumstance except maybe if he's physically unable to do it for himself (but not forever, once or twice max). I choose to get with a man because I wanna share my life with him, have fun together, make this life more bearable, NOT to be his obedient slave, NOT to "submit" to him, NOT to be led/guided by him, NOT to give up on my dreams & goals for him cuz I wouldn't want a man to do that for me.
This is why I am divorced. I was called cruel and mean. I was tired of the Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma all day---from my ex husband. I was also an executive Director in a hospital, one of two females in management. I clearly remember the day I had to set six men straight, as they sat there and planned a "picnic" for the staff and tried to default to me. I stayed silent. Didn't make contact. Two weeks later, I cannot tell you how many times I was asked how to do something? Where was this or that? And it was the same questions over and over, as they were trying to set up this picnic. I took my laptop, disappeared to another office and showed up and filled up a plate and enjoyed my bbq.
I just had a guy say to me he doesn't want a partner he wants a wife. I asked what does that mean and he said someone that is nice, nurturing, helpful, supportive that's my fan. He literally said he didn't care if she worked fast food or a brain surgeon. As long as she doesn't have opinions and never nags him. That's your Momma sir.
Doesn’t have opinions??!! Girl bye that’s a pet 💀
@@suoris
Not even pets are that vapid.
I’ve had many an argument with my dog 😁
This! The amount of times I’ve had this conversation with grown ssa men is insane.
To men like that, Marriage is something they do TO women not WITH women. Their wives are only valued for what she does to serve him.
Her needs and desires aren’t important and rarely considered. Ironically these men feel they are most entitled to a wife. 🤦🏽♀️
They have that Gaston syndrome. From the Beauty and the Beast.
Its good that he does not care if she is a brain surgeon or works a normal job
But that part of not nagging wow
4B Movement ladies 🚺 and 2nd Amendment Rights ladies 🚺
And first cuz we’re gonna say wtf we want too 😂
Absolutely 💯
This guy I was talking to kept hinting that he needed his resumé updated…I changed the subject every single time 😂 Figure it out or pay someone to do it!
Its like they enjoy seeing us fail ,i started thinking differently when women had to ask men about losing great opportunities because he is your leader? But when you need something he can't give you ! Thats crazy.
My mom didn't play
3 girls and 4 boys and we were all in the kitchen. We all had to learn to cook bake do dishes sweep and clean the front and back yard. We each had our own clothes basket and was taught to do our own laundry.
I also chise a partner who does everything i do. He cooks, cleans does laundry sweeps, and cleans the house. He'll even plan daddy daughter time with our youngest. He's involved in everything school relates and He is a true helpmate.
5:12 oooh sing it sister 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
They think we are search and rescue dogs.
Mmmhmm. My husband has been entertaining the idea of homeschooling our children.
And putting our son in soccer.
I said okay sounds good.
So I asked him what days he plans on teaching the children? He looked confused🫤 Then I asked how he will take our son to soccer practice with his current schedule? 🤔
He really assumed I would just take on those extra things alone.
He was wrong. 🤷🏽♀️
Unless he’s willing to put in the work don’t ask me. I wont be struggling and stressed trying to keep a toddler, Infant and my daughter who is an eloper, busy for an hour and a half every evening in the heat and mosquitoes.
The packing and planning, the stroller and lifting and extra bottles I have to pump. These soccer leagues cost a grip and require lots of travel.
They don’t think about all that goes into certain tasks.
Sorry your children deserve all of that you choose to be a mother. Yes figure it out and let him do his part but they deserve sport and all of the extra
They're always so generous with our time, lol. Then when you say, "Great idea, how will you do that?" They suddenly realize it's too hard but looked forward to heaping it on you.
@@j.munday7913 Exactly! 😅
@@JannatHerzallah Motherhood is not synonymous with unnecessary stress and taking care of children ALONE! I’m sorry you were taught that it was.
Our children DESERVE a present and involved father. Period. So he can adjust and rearrange his schedule to prioritize his kids needs. He will figure it out.
@@Nitra813well said!
My mom's response to "Where is my..." question was always "It's where you put it...how am I supposed to know where you put it?" Growing up around a woman responding like this to a man shielded me from sooooooo many toxic relationships.
Ooooh...This is a good one.
I worked in healthcare for 15 years and I found that for almost all instances an 18 year old woman could book her own appointments, but guys needed their mommies to book their appointments deep into their 20’s. After 25, they seem to be able to manage that for themselves, with some exceptions.
That's so strange, but now I know why many doctors were so confused by me.
At 40 I got a breastcancer diagnosis and I went to all appointments completely alone. My dad, sister and friends wanted to come but I refused that, and was like "Nope! My body, my illness, my life, my choice all along!"
Many male doctors couldn't handle that and acted like I was an alien 👽 😂
This conversation is bringing second hand embarrassment for me. Long time ago I was that girl in a relationship with a man advocating for his employment with a prospective employer. He stayed on mute nearly the whole time😑.
Take heed ladies to the advice here and learn from others mistakes. Do not heavy lift for NO MAN!
Signed
Ex-Build a Bear/BarbdaBuilder
If he wants you to be his secretary, tell him your daily rate.
Its like they enjoy seeing us fail ,i started thinking differently when women had to ask men about losing great opportunities because he is your leader? But when you need something he can't give you ! Thats crazy.
The biggest gag of life: these protectors and providers wanting a wife to run their entire life 😂
My sister and i were just talking about this. My husband won't even cook 😔 i even brought HelloFresh, and he won't even attempt. Wont clean unless i start, then he wants to jump in. And he wonders why i dont even want to touch him. He thinks going to work and coming home is his only obligation to this marriage. Believe me, i am unhappy
Leave him, love.
Good luck with planning your departure from that relationship ❤
Leave quietly. He knows you're unhappy but not enough to fix things proactively.
@@j.munday7913This part!
Go on strike.
Its not just relationships either! My son said if he doesnt cook his roommates will just be hungry all night or order door dash 😒
My ex husband would step out of his dirty underwear, and leave them right in the exact spot. So imagine a bedroom with dirty underwear on his side of the bed or on the bathroom floor. I stopped picking them up. The scenario went like this:
Ex: Do I have any clean underwear?
Me: Unless you washed any, then no. I washed what was in the hamper. If it wasn't in the hamper then it didn't get washed.
Ex: Well you washed the kids clothes.
Me: You're a grown ass man. I'm not picking up your dirty 💩 off the floor, because you're too damn lazy to put it in the hamper. Plus what kind of comparison is that? They're kids and even they know where dirty clothes go. And seeing as how I'm their mother, it's my job. I could have sworn I only gave birth to 2 kids, not 3.
Ex: Pikachu face, then proceeds to pick up and wash his filthy drawls.
At that point all I could think about was the fact that he was wasting detergent since it wasn't a full load.😠
“I was your lover and your secretary”….Why was I singing alongggg. I felt that
8:39 ...do you have one little job for him? 😂😂😂
I do WHAT I WANT, WHEN I WANT for my husband, he is the same. ❤
Im trying so hard to make sure my son is not a doofus. ...I'm struggling. 😅 But I won't give up. He WILL memorize the rules of doing laundry someday! 😂
My son is 18, and he's still a doofus, but at least he tries not to be one. Hang in there!
My biggest worry about being a mother of a son. And HOW do their mothers not say anything about this 😭 horrible behavior? I would be so embarrassed. I might disown them publicly because these types of videos are everywhere nowadays 😂.
@@Bubbles-kk9zs Girl I'm a mother to a son and I don't play that sh*t. He cleans his room and separates clothes, does laundry, helps with cleaning the home and I am getting him in the kitchen to teach him cooking and measurements and he is 8 up. He picks out his own clothes and dresses himself and has done so since he was 4yo. He knows his days to wash his own hair and does so without help. His hygiene routine he has for himself is really cool. He keeps his closet organized very well and me and his dad don't have to tell him to do so. He wants to learn about growing food so we will be buying him some fruit trees soon enough and start with herbs in grow bags. He is in 3rd grade and I'm currently trying to get his reading level to 8th grade by the end of the year as well because I want him to start some spelling bees sometime next year. Me and his father are not raising a punk we literally discussed last night of keeping him in line so that he can have resources and the financial means by the time he is a legal adult so that he can find the best mate to marry but in order for us to have the educated daughter in law we desire for him we have to stay on our course with him. He is homeschooled and is a straight A student. We get him involved in our business as well so he can take it over one day if he chooses but we want him to be a suitable mate to his wife and that starts with him being educated and not a useless ass turd. He will one day want children and he needs to understand his wife is risking her life for him so his father stays on him and ushers him into how to be a true covering for a woman and his children even at this age. Everything we do is for our son to be the ultimate mate and man because he will be out of the house one day and it'll just be me and his dad alone again. We refuse to send an asshat into the world. My husband doesn't play about respecting women at all so I'm thankful for that. I stay on top of my son. He is a really good child too but I keep him busy. If you don't keep a young man occupied and on a schedule, teach him responsibility and hold hima accountable....teach him discipline and emotional regulation...he will be a fkn tyrant to society! Not my son, I will not allow it.
Wow!!! my mother did that, I used to see her every Saturday, early in the morning at the kitchen table, with all the bills spread out on the table, and she used to tell me, daddy always give her all the money, for her to pay all the bills😳😳
I remember when my ex husband came to my job acting a fool. At that moment I told him I wanted a divorce. We went directly to the courthouse to get the paperwork and he threw a fit because I wouldn't help him fill them out. Because of this, he also got slapped with a restraining order.
My gay brother’s ex had to be convinced that you’re not supposed to place your hand on a hot stovetop. Dude couldn’t even open a door with one occupied hand🤦🏿♂️ Blamed it on autism and ADHD, but had no problems cheating
Had no problems cheating! Lolol
I’m so early whaaat 🎀✨🎀
LOVE YOUR VIDS hello from Morocco 🇲🇦!!!
Hi welcome aboard ❤❤
I look at this video and I say to myself that it pays to be single and to come from a helicopter single mom! 😆 Growing up, my mother made sure my brother & I handled business and important matters with precision, to always advocate for yourself. I say this b/c in some cases, the willful ignorance could come from them coming from mothers that enable such behavior. Short Storytime. After my dad left my mom and ending up marrying the other women, their kids grew up to be spoiled individuals. The youngest one is still living with the stepmother & has 2 kids.
I raised my son same as my daughters 💯… he cooks, cleans, knows how to change a diaper, works and pays his own bills. I would be so embarrassed if he was a dirty slob in a relationship. So I made sure to do the best I could to ensure that not happen 😊
I have been divorced for 27 yrs and I do not miss the weaponized incompetence from most men. I am happy and have no chaos in my life ❤
Absolutely not!😂😂 Y's are so tiring.
Yeah no way he can’t inquire about work himself! Bs!! 🙄
Damn I always associated that pins colada song with the comedy Grown Ups. Shit is ironic 😂
Me too😂
The WORST thing we as women were taught is that its all about "give and take" and that "compromise is the key to a healthy relationship". Hell to the naw! Seriosuly, F compromise! DO not get involved with a man unless you are compeltely on board with everthing, set boundaries and same goals for the future. That when you both look at your life, 20 years down the line, they should look very similar. Like for example, I hate to cook. I know its not very feminine of me but I just dont like it. Honestly, if it wasnt for my boyfriend I would probably starve. If I had to compromise by cooking eveyday or even every other day, it would be a miserable existence!
I do however love to clean, do laundry, organize, decorate, plan dates etc. But not only that, we have the same outlooks on life, politics, religion (both Catholic), both dont want children, both love the city. Some city girls end up dating guys that want that country life (or vice versa) and therefore someone is eventually going to have to compromise and you should ALWAYS assume that person will be you! If you cant find your match, stay single. Thats what cats and vibraors are for 😂
One more little piece advice.. don't to be scared to age up. I know so many happy couple that have a 10+ year age gap. For me its 15 years difference and same for my parents. It took me a while to find him but Ive never felt so secure and fulfilled in my life. Unless he's old and still doesnt have his shi together... in which case ... RUN!!!
Dating men it’s not worth the energy
I dated a guy he couldn’t get his own apartment
Dated a guy he couldn’t get his own car Legally
Dated a guy that was codependent
Dated a guy said he suffered wit mental breakdowns
Dated a guy said he just couldn’t commit
Dated a guy said he was a football coach for middle and high schoolers Could he stay at my apartment for a couple days 😳😳
This y I'll be a rich virgin fuckem
0:20 Girl, you betta talk about it!! I for one am here for anything you wish to share. I’m not able to do it myself so I certainly appreciate you curating the tea, the mess, the nonsense and need-to-know of the day; as well as your take on it all. You’re doing great a very good job 🤗🥰
Wait are yall Americans writing resume for a grown adult like am genuinely curious 🤔😃
Let's not with the American comment because we see all women from every DN background crying about how their men ain't ish and how they are lazy.... especially women from the continent. All online telling all the business about how they are encouraged to stay in abusive marriages with men who won't even lift a finger to help them clean the homes they share with their wives. Women abroad are doing silly ish for men stop with pretending that it's only over here because it's not and you and I both know it. If they ain't filling out resumes where you're at I'm sure they're getting cheated on and staying, cleaning up behind grown ass men where you at...I bet some of them are in your own family. Be for real babes...you know women like this, we all do!
I love the singing woman.
Thank you for letting the spirit guide you because I needed this today
I met a woman who said that she and her husband were in school but she dropped out to have kids but was still doing his work for him. He graduated. Then a man told me that the mother of his child also did his college work for him. Both graduated but she doesn’t work and he pays child support. I was and still am DISTURBED by this information 😂 I WOULD NEVER!!! 🤢🤭
5:47 So true, my 'partner' keeps giving the excuse of "I didn't grow up in a functional family" for not being able to do basic house hold chores, up-keep, and repairs even though he's moved out of his parents' place over a decade now... Keep in mind I had to teach myself most things through trial and error or TH-cam. No one taught me how to do laundry, cook, clean, sew, paint, organization, random house repairs like fixing the hinge on a door, etc. My dad showed me a few car things, and I also self taught myself a few car things through TH-cam, but my partner acts like he needs his hand held and everything done for him! He acts so helpless because 'my dad didn't show me how to do x specific thing' and wants sympathy and for YOU to do it for him instead, when he could also just look up how to do it online too. 😒
Needless to say, currently making my movements in silence to leave.
How come they can't do hard things? Or new things? Lacking a growth mindset thats why they don't grow up no matter how old they get
I keep telling myself this but others should remember this too. Just because a guy is grown doesn’t mean he’s a man. A guy no matter how old can still be a little boy in a adult body that doesn’t automatically make him a man
POST MORE PRISCILLA!! POST IT ALL MULTIPLE TIMES PER DAY 💕
Ms Priscilla you can do what BurbnBougie does, she'll splice together different topics into one video if you feel like you can't post something or want to post more but all together
Learnt helplessness. His sisters and mother picked after him
I would like to see the video you were debating to film
Oh really ok then.
I am that girl to a man that knew nothing but abuse and neglect in his young life and in turn he tries to act as human as possible to me and whatever he gets he gives to me
I feel like this is about to swing too far to the other side now lol. I love cooking and keeping a clean house for friends and family. If I have a bf, he will also get a taste of this so he KNOWS this is what he can have if we end up married. This is what I do for people I choose to be part of my life. I don't believe in babying them of course, but doing "nothing" for them is a terrible way to have a relationship, I'm sorry. Every woman should choose where that line is for her and how labor will be split in their relationship.
Why are you expecting to keep the house clean behind a grown man once you marry?
Why is he not able to cook and clean for himself?
I know you mean well and most women are social conditioned to believe this is what a “good wife” does.
However, Mature grown men who are seeking a wife should be keeping his own home clean and cooking his own meals.
This should be a wife’s expectation of her prospective husband as well.
It’s great that you enjoy a clean home and cooking food for others but the point of the video is to ask yourself would he do the same for you? Or better yet himself?
If the answer is no? You’re going to end up being his mom and resenting that man.
@@Nitra813 I see what you're trying to catch me on but I already said I don't believe in babying him. That includes "expecting to keep the house clean behind a grown man once you marry." I personally wouldn't ever choose someone who can't take care of themselves or their own space HOWEVER it's an added perk of knowing me that you're gonna get fed.
I invite people over when I cook or bake something and I would do the same for him because these people are folks who *I've* chosen. And for a good reason! I don't have friends that mooch, I don't speak with neighbors of bad character, and I don't let family who I don't like mooch off of me either. With this logic, I wouldn't have a man that did either. Why would anyone choose someone who didn't match their efforts?
A good spouse contributes. BOTH spouses should be contributing and I'm glad for videos like this that remind women of their worth
@@oliviaw.2842I think you’re missing the point slightly. You loving to cook isn’t something you’re offering in a relationship, it’s just a passion you have. It’s like if you’re dating a person who is an artist and paints for their passion - they’re not offering painting services to their spouse, but I’m sure they still definitely paint their spouse or paint for their spouse. Having a passion is for you, while others may benefit, this isn’t something you “offer”. Only offer things you get paid for, everything else is just you doing you.
No catch dear. And it could be that I misconstrued your statement of “so he knows what he can have if we end up getting married”
As the comment above mentions, YOUR passion is cooking and baking. My passion was baking as well.
I was known for my cake business and was always having friends over to taste and try and tell me their thoughts.
The point is you weren’t auditioning for your guests to be seen as “wifey material,” you were simply being a good host.
One would hope if you went to your bfs home he would be just as hospitable to you.
He doesn’t have to be as passionate about cooking as you are but he also shouldn’t assume he doesn’t need to worry about cooking at all since you do.
You’re right you must talk about these things prior to getting serious because sadly this attitude usually pours over into the household and child rearing responsibilities as well.
“You do it so I don’t have to think about “that” stuff. It’s a tired excuse.
EVERYBODY was 💯in this video👏
7:30 nah this is WILD. Wtf
Yeah it's a huge ick, cringe and turn off.
Lois from family guy is the perfect wife. 🥰
I've always had this theory that women who enjoy treating these dudes like their sons are lowkey PDfiles themselves... because you do EVERYTHING for your child, no?
So I assume men shouldn't do anything for women either, right??? We should strictly be intimate, but neither do anything for the other
The point of the video is for women to stop assuming positions that a man should already be capable of doing himself.
If he won’t do it for himself or for his marriage or household why is he assuming or expecting his wife to do it for him?
@Nitra813 That's not what I got out of it at all. Every woman said don't do anything for a man. Period
Who said men were getting intimacy? lol
First things first. Stop partner shaming! Do you love your partner or what? Second thing second. Yes girlfriends and wives will do things that moms and therapists do. Just like boyfriends and husbands will do things that dad's and therapists do. It's called having a relationship. He didn't inherently mean you're expected to make dinner when he asked what's for dinner. It's an open-ended question. Basically it's another way of saying what would you like for dinner. Either love your partner or get out of the relationship. I'm sick and tired of both sides shaming their significant others.
“What’s for dinner” never means “what would you like for dinner” please stop reaching just because you’re butt hurt. Hetero relationships have long been women pouring into men while getting little to nothing in return. He does what a dad would do? Let’s talk about it, what would a dad do? The same dads that leave majority of the parenting and child rearing to the mothers and using weaponized incompetence? Yeah guess they do move like dads. If it don’t apply let it fly but don’t try to derail this critical moment of enlightenment for women because you can’t keep your pick me-ism in check. Girl bye.
I’ve personally never understood “what’s for dinner “ as being asked what I wanted for dinner. That pretty much means what am I offering for dinner . I’d actually bet my 401k it means that to almost every woman in miserable relationships. It’s actually funny that you think it’s the norm that men want to figure out dinner for everyone lol
Hey, "what's for dinner" and "what would you like for dinner" are completely different questions.
So us proof that men do what dads and therapists do? Show us the proof. I’ll wait😂😂😂😂
@@CONGLOMERATE32THANK YOU. She’s DELUSIONAL. If these males were out here doing it all, the divorce rate wouldn’t be so high. I mean MOST women are literally SEEING women all o we social media and in person complaining bitterly how lazy and useless the males are and how they do absolutely nothing in the home.🙄🙄🙄
7:44 was she using an AirPod as a microphone. Who’s tripping me or or her? Did they always do that?