SO VALID. This is EXACTLY the feeling being late identified and having undiagnosed family members.... I feel like my role in the UNIVERSE is to break generational patterns and NOT raise my kid the same! "You're FINE! BE GOOD! (or else...)" is medical gaslighting to a neurodivergent child presenting VALID special needs... Ignoring the kid's life experiences only complicates the unpacking in adulthood when it's EVEN HEAVIER DAILY DUTIES (as we know)! Much Love NDM! Thanks for the vid!
Hi I'm a neurodivergent mum to two neurodivergent kids I wanted so much to say thankyou for talking about the things most neurodivergents seem afraid to talk about I've been waiting so long for someone to really address the issues experienced my neurodivergent parents, autism advocacy communities rarely address these topics. Many will feel uncomfortable with what you have to say, but know that there are those of us who feel truly seen and heard by your words. Please don't stop talking about these issues even if it makes other people feel uncomfortable sometimes people need to hear the things that make them uncomfortable.
Thanks for saying that. A bit of encouragement goes a long way. We have the opportunity to see the consequences of our (and our parents) neurodivergence real time and do something about it real time - instead of waiting until our kids are adults or we are on our death beds.
Just found your channel a couple of weeks ago. I am a senior that only recently found about being on a spectrum. It was great to find this about myself although being much older now I cannot find the endurance needed to implement remedies. I find connection with you when your emotions arise in your talks . With all these years of therapy I had the therapists never appeared to understand my emotions. Thank you
Thank you for your videos! I’m also a late diagnosed AuDHD and only became aware of my brain type because my children were diagnosed. I moved back to my home town two years ago and I became aware of how neurodiverse my parents are. There is a lot of trauma associated with my childhood and your videos really help with my healing. Thank you!
I appreciate your feedback. If there's anything else that's puzzling or you just want a second opinion on, please share in a comment. I'm always looking for real issues faced by our community to make videos on.
My father was probably ADHD, my mother is likely Autistc which makes sense since I'm AuDHD. We were never sure if we were gonna have mellow dad or angry dad. His moods would change instantly. My mother has elevated black and white rigid thinking to an art form. Growing up in a rust belt town of NJ Hillbillies was no picnic either. Also my parents were older and had old fashioned authoritarian parenting ideas. You ate what you were given or went hungry. Meltdowns were spoiled bratty behavior and not tolerated. It is difficult to revisit all this stuff after diagnosis when you already thought you dealt with it years ago. ❤ Thanks for opening a forum for us.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It helps others to see that they are not alone and also helps others to see that things have changed and there is hope now.
Yeah uncomfortable, very uncomfortable. I think it's basically my worst fear that I'm not a good mom, that I'm doing damage to my kids. I know things that have happened r very bad, like things I have said, and my daughter will probably remember, maybe not my son, maybe they won't remember but they'll probably remember some stuff. I so often say things impulsively, I don't really filter, the idea of trying to filter what I say feels threatening in fact because I think if I tried to b more in control of it I would just b so in my head I'd completely stop being authentic, almost say nothing. People seem to often encourage really thinking things through before u say it but that's too much for me. I'm really feeling very anxious lately. Some stuff from my past is sort of affecting me, about my parents. I don't know how to handle it. I've been writing a lot, which is definitely good but idk, things r really hard right now.
I hope you are in a better place now. Just the realization that you are having right now about yourself as a parent are healing you and your kids. On the systemic level. Much love.
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SO VALID. This is EXACTLY the feeling being late identified and having undiagnosed family members.... I feel like my role in the UNIVERSE is to break generational patterns and NOT raise my kid the same! "You're FINE! BE GOOD! (or else...)" is medical gaslighting to a neurodivergent child presenting VALID special needs... Ignoring the kid's life experiences only complicates the unpacking in adulthood when it's EVEN HEAVIER DAILY DUTIES (as we know)! Much Love NDM! Thanks for the vid!
Hi I'm a neurodivergent mum to two neurodivergent kids I wanted so much to say thankyou for talking about the things most neurodivergents seem afraid to talk about I've been waiting so long for someone to really address the issues experienced my neurodivergent parents, autism advocacy communities rarely address these topics. Many will feel uncomfortable with what you have to say, but know that there are those of us who feel truly seen and heard by your words. Please don't stop talking about these issues even if it makes other people feel uncomfortable sometimes people need to hear the things that make them uncomfortable.
Thanks for saying that. A bit of encouragement goes a long way. We have the opportunity to see the consequences of our (and our parents) neurodivergence real time and do something about it real time - instead of waiting until our kids are adults or we are on our death beds.
Just found your channel a couple of weeks ago. I am a senior that only recently found about being on a spectrum. It was great to find this about myself although being much older now I cannot find the endurance needed to implement remedies. I find connection with you when your emotions arise in your talks . With all these years of therapy I had the therapists never appeared to understand my emotions. Thank you
Thank you for your videos! I’m also a late diagnosed AuDHD and only became aware of my brain type because my children were diagnosed. I moved back to my home town two years ago and I became aware of how neurodiverse my parents are. There is a lot of trauma associated with my childhood and your videos really help with my healing. Thank you!
I appreciate your feedback. If there's anything else that's puzzling or you just want a second opinion on, please share in a comment. I'm always looking for real issues faced by our community to make videos on.
My father was probably ADHD, my mother is likely Autistc which makes sense since I'm AuDHD. We were never sure if we were gonna have mellow dad or angry dad. His moods would change instantly. My mother has elevated black and white rigid thinking to an art form. Growing up in a rust belt town of NJ Hillbillies was no picnic either. Also my parents were older and had old fashioned authoritarian parenting ideas. You ate what you were given or went hungry. Meltdowns were spoiled bratty behavior and not tolerated. It is difficult to revisit all this stuff after diagnosis when you already thought you dealt with it years ago. ❤ Thanks for opening a forum for us.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It helps others to see that they are not alone and also helps others to see that things have changed and there is hope now.
Yeah uncomfortable, very uncomfortable. I think it's basically my worst fear that I'm not a good mom, that I'm doing damage to my kids. I know things that have happened r very bad, like things I have said, and my daughter will probably remember, maybe not my son, maybe they won't remember but they'll probably remember some stuff.
I so often say things impulsively, I don't really filter, the idea of trying to filter what I say feels threatening in fact because I think if I tried to b more in control of it I would just b so in my head I'd completely stop being authentic, almost say nothing. People seem to often encourage really thinking things through before u say it but that's too much for me.
I'm really feeling very anxious lately. Some stuff from my past is sort of affecting me, about my parents. I don't know how to handle it. I've been writing a lot, which is definitely good but idk, things r really hard right now.
I hope you are in a better place now. Just the realization that you are having right now about yourself as a parent are healing you and your kids. On the systemic level. Much love.
@@NeurodivergentMom well routine is about to re-enter with the start of school so hopefully that will b stabilizing