Terima kasih, your vid sangat helpful bah! Especially appreciate you providing examples of how to “give face” to other people. And although I had noticed by observation during several months in Sabah, KL, and Penang that Malaysians often pause and spend a while to think before providing a response, it wasn’t until I watched your video now, that I leaned this is standard in Malaysia and considered that by taking time and being given time to think before responding, shows that a) you have truly listened to what the other person has said and give respect and weight to what they are saying to you b) taken time to carefully consider what is the best response c) being intelligently thoughtful rather than hasty. I very, very much appreciate this aspect of Malaysian culture! Although I was born & raised in the US, I always hated how in US East Coast culture & also in the culture of any big cities of the US typically the pace of conversation is almost rapid-fire response…conversation can move so quickly that people not really even listening to each other, when the other person is talking the 2nd one rather than listening is already coming up with their response in their head, and then also when it is a new person’s turn to speak typically not given any time to pause and carefully consider the response… if someone pauses to think before responding, then in mainstream US culture that is often interpreted as “this person is not very sharp-witted” or as “ok I guess they don’t have the answer” or even as “¿what are they trying to hide that they don’t give an answer right away?”. US overall has an extremely hasty culture to the point of unhealthy, and to the point of people not truly listening to and respecting each other, as well as often not taking the time to think before speaking. I much prefer and appreciate Malaysian pace of speaking and pace of life, which i experience as much more balanced, and more focused on respectful & connected social interactions / social ties are emphasized over “getting tasks done”, which is the opposite of (what I hate about) US culture that focuses on “getting tasks done quickly / checking off items on the list” to the point of sacrificing social ties and failing to even give respectful interaction with other people. To me it is much more important to have respectful & connected human interaction, which leads to taking time for conversations, taking time to do things, not being hasty, and having a more balanced pace of life. Also, I have definitely learned that when it comes to social gatherings, I have been functioning on “Malaysian time” (arrive 30-45 mins late for house party) my whole life! 😂
In Malaysia now 1 week in. I wish I found this earlier. That said, I am American, we do not like sugar coating. I think this is a problem in a work environment. I am a bit frustrated because of the sugar coating. In America, we value honesty but we do it by first saying what is good or could be good, then give the bad news.
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Terima kasih, your vid sangat helpful bah!
Especially appreciate you providing examples of how to “give face” to other people.
And although I had noticed by observation during several months in Sabah, KL, and Penang that Malaysians often pause and spend a while to think before providing a response, it wasn’t until I watched your video now, that I leaned this is standard in Malaysia and considered that by taking time and being given time to think before responding, shows that a) you have truly listened to what the other person has said and give respect and weight to what they are saying to you b) taken time to carefully consider what is the best response c) being intelligently thoughtful rather than hasty. I very, very much appreciate this aspect of Malaysian culture! Although I was born & raised in the US, I always hated how in US East Coast culture & also in the culture of any big cities of the US typically the pace of conversation is almost rapid-fire response…conversation can move so quickly that people not really even listening to each other, when the other person is talking the 2nd one rather than listening is already coming up with their response in their head, and then also when it is a new person’s turn to speak typically not given any time to pause and carefully consider the response… if someone pauses to think before responding, then in mainstream US culture that is often interpreted as “this person is not very sharp-witted” or as “ok I guess they don’t have the answer” or even as “¿what are they trying to hide that they don’t give an answer right away?”. US overall has an extremely hasty culture to the point of unhealthy, and to the point of people not truly listening to and respecting each other, as well as often not taking the time to think before speaking.
I much prefer and appreciate Malaysian pace of speaking and pace of life, which i experience as much more balanced, and more focused on respectful & connected social interactions / social ties are emphasized over “getting tasks done”, which is the opposite of (what I hate about) US culture that focuses on “getting tasks done quickly / checking off items on the list” to the point of sacrificing social ties and failing to even give respectful interaction with other people. To me it is much more important to have respectful & connected human interaction, which leads to taking time for conversations, taking time to do things, not being hasty, and having a more balanced pace of life.
Also, I have definitely learned that when it comes to social gatherings, I have been functioning on “Malaysian time” (arrive 30-45 mins late for house party) my whole life! 😂
In Malaysia now 1 week in. I wish I found this earlier.
That said, I am American, we do not like sugar coating. I think this is a problem in a work environment. I am a bit frustrated because of the sugar coating. In America, we value honesty but we do it by first saying what is good or could be good, then give the bad news.
I just got to Malaysia and wanted to make sure I do thing properly and this video was soooo interesting!
Hii! Thank you for this video! I have just moved to Malaysia for my studies, so this video is very helpfull!
here in 10 seconds 😂😍
there must be a lot of shoe theft in malasiya.