As an OCD sufferer who had therapy to overcome compulsions and intrusive thoughts it’s genuinely crazy to see ppl normalising the hotel routines and stuff like that is not normal functioning :(
OCD isn’t a blanket disease where everyone cleans a hotel room. A majority of people with OCD will see this video and not bat an eye. I don’t understand what you’re trying to say other than finding the routine insane, which everyone already knows.
I think they are trying to say that this is simply weird to do. People choose to follow the routines that are unsustainable and obviously unhealthy and that many people with mental struggles like people with ocd are trying to get rid of. They post it online like entertainment and don’t treat it with seriousness. This is the same type of tiktoks as when people start to glamorise mental illness because they think it’s edgy or some shit like that, when in fact it is just sad and shouldn’t be treated this lightly.
I completely understand what you mean. If my sister sees this Tiktok, she will believe it 100%. She can't think critically as to why someone would lie on the Internet to create engagement to make money. She saw a Tiktok that there's spiders eggs in grapes that can hatch inside your stomach if you eat them. So she doesn't eat grapes any more. She will live in a lot more fear if she watches this.
@@yamayam1389 Well my OCD sadly manifests in the stereotypical compulsive cleaning and germaphobia but living like that is relentless torture so I’m saying that CHOOSING to live like that is crazy to me. Even the lock checking reminds me of my cousin whose compulsions manifest in checking every plug socket and lock on repeat for hours before she can sleep. It’s not a cute or healthy way to live your life.
One thing that annoys me is the urban legend posts about supposed “human trafficker tactics” like leaving things on your car, like that’s not how human trafficking works. 99% of the time its grooming by someone you know
Yes!!! Fucking thank you! I was trying to explain to my gf that those stories are usually a bunch of bs. Why would they track some random lady with a tracker that is semi attractive, there are attractive women all over the place. They don't need to track you to your home or set up an elaborate trap in the Walmart parking lot. In real life you get trapped by dating some guy like Andrew Tate or getting smuggled into the US.
& 40% of human trafficking victims (specifically sex trafficking) in the US and Canada are American Indian or Alaskan Native. We’re less than 2% of the population. The non-Native victims are usually victims of immigration scams who get trapped in this. Suburban white women are not at all a target, despite what they’d have you believe.
It’s the same energy as the people that post every winter to open your hood in the morning to see if a cat crawled in it to sleep over night 😂 Just Facebook women who have been completely sheltered their entire life
I wanted the tik tok to keep going and she keeps setting more traps like marbles on the floor and then those cardboard cutouts from home alone to make it look like a party is happening at all times
Imagine having a heart attack due to extreme paranoia and the paramedics take half an hour to get through your defensive perimeter...like at that point, its just body retrieval, you're not getting resuscitated in time
You call it paranoia, we call it preventing what we have already experienced from happening again. This is specifically to the temporary door lock. My landlady has let herself into my locked bedroom before while I was in it. Girlies have people around that don't respect privacy or boundaries.
My brain sometimes does this and then i remember if someone really wants to get in they'll just break the windows. For some reason that makes it more of an 'it is what it is' and i don't spend time worrying about it
Exactly. I get caught up in paranoia sometimes, but reminding myself that I can't fortify windows always does the trick. Like oh, well I'll lock the door and leave it at that.
nah, most people won't break windows cuz they know it will alert people...they will try prying windows open though. that's the point of the alarms on windows. the sound will scare away intruders just like the sound of broken glass will
I am a woman and a veteran with PTSD amongst other mental and physical service related illness. I understand taking precautions and measures to feel safe, but its important to recognize when it begins getting unhealthy. It might be necessary to lean on these safety measures in the beginning, but please dont rely on them forever. It takes a lot of consistent and difficult work to heal, but its definitely worth it. 4yrs ago I couldnt even go to the grocery store without having a panic attack.
Agreed, as an abuse survivor with ptsd which became full blown agoraphobia. We gotta check ourselves at times or it’s so easy to make ourselves even sicker and more isolated.
Also the best deterrence is making seem like there are many people in the home. Locking everything down and closing the blinds makes it look like you are on vacation. Best way is to keep your cars in the driveway and keep the lights on visible to the outside on even during the night.
That's for burglars though. I think what these women are afraid of is rapists. Which, as far as I know it's pretty rare for a predator to actually break into private homes to assault you so I'd say all this is way overboard, extreme anxiety.
@@destituteanddecadent9106 yes its rare but the comment is still valid, a serial killer/rapist is more likely to break in when all the lights are off or they know there is no man in the house as its less dangerous for them. A dog/lights on is a pretty valid deterrent
I’m a complete nobody. I’ve had two stalkers. One male (an ex) and a former girlfriend. It was so traumatizing. I cannot imagine being Hasan and the stalker crap he deals with daily.
@@chichi8398 Thank you. I really appreciate the reminder. I’m trying to start my channel but unfortunately I still have the words stuck in my mind from my now ex boyfriend and narcissistic abuser telling me, “don’t start a TH-cam channel, that is absolutely ridiculous.” But thanks to people like you, if he can tear me down I can hear kind words like yours and build myself back up again! One day at a time. I’ve just gotta get _his_ words out of _my_ head. You know what I mean? Thanks again.
@@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers soon I'll be able to brag about being your 91st subscriber. I'm sorry those people were afraid of you growing--we will be proud of you!
So when I was in highschool I dated a girl who's mother was seriously paranoid about dirt coming into the house. Her and her younger brother would have to strip down naked and thoroughly shower after entering the front door. Sadly their mother eventually committed suicide from not being able to overcome her phobias. 😥
I work in a hotel and honestly not everything she was doing for the hotel room is crazy, people really will try to set up cameras in the rooms. I also will disinfect my room when first checking in too cause i have witnessed housekeepers not necessarily doing their jobs correctly
Yep the hotel routine is a thing I do a lot and I have the door locker that I use because I had once a guy knocking and trying to get in after I went to my room. The staff was fantastic but imagine if I was intoxicated or tired and did not close the door? Plus I clean just because you don’t know if the Housekeeper had time to their job especially in massive hotels
A lot of these are actually fine precautions. labeling it as "white women" doesn't make it any less misogynistic that yall are criticizing women for trying to stay safe in a world that is super violent towards them. Shit like the "rape whistle" that everyone was making fun of is actually super practical because loud sounds will most of the time work to deter people from assaulting you. When I was homeless I had the misfortune of putting this idea to use. I screamed as loud as I could for as long as I could when someone started assaulting me, and he took off running. A whistle is the same idea. Anything to attract attention that your assaulter doesn't want being drawn. You have to lose all your fear of seeming ridiculous to keep yourself safe. Love Hasan, but this is not it
Oh, and I've also had my house broken into lmao so saying "most of the time the person who is a danger to you is someone you know" to women is not only super patronizing cuz most already know that, it doesn't change the fact that IT STILL HAPPENS and is in many ways more traumatizing than being victimized by someone you know
@@mischr13 Rape whistles are effective in public with people around, not laying down in your bedroom. I don't think I'd hear that whistle from the living room let alone from across the street. Also your anecdote of having your own home broken into does not change the statistics, nor does it mean you need to buy random tiktok products to stay safe. Also if the people who broke into your house were truly strangers and did not know who lived there, it has nothing to do with being a woman or not, it's simply a crime of opportunity.
@@darcyroyce the problem is that it can't interrupt an assault. If someone is driven enough to break into her house past all her security precautions, they aren't going to care about a plastic whistle. If she actually wanted to protect herself she would've showcased a taser or some pepper spray, stuff that can actually do damage and impair an attacker. But that wouldn't exactly go with the "woe is me, I need my big strong man to come home so I can feel safe" vibe she had going on for the tiktok.
Hey guys … ex Adt Sales consultant (from San Francisco of all places) here, wanted to chime in to Hassan’s point on “security theater”…The biggest deterrence mechanism in a residential neighborhood is in fact a security sign in your yard; anything anybody else tells you is bs, you’re welcome. Also doorbell cameras suck.
yeah my parents only got a security system after a serial killer (timothy spencer) broke into their neighbor & friend’s house and killed her. after he was caught they stopped paying for it and just kept the sign up. never had a breakin 🤷🏽♀️
Doorbell camera literally caught the guy stealing shit from our front porch. Obviously not good for bne but saying they suck just sounds like you still have ADT in your blood
Around 5 years ago I lived the real fear & threat of that stuff. Those door stoppers with the alarm if they're pushed have been around for awhile and gave me a lot of peace of mind at the time. The alarm is super loud. I did it moreso for the alarm aspect and also every night pushed my living room couch against my apartment door. It's hell living like that. Every moment I thought I would be murdered and it was a legitimate probability. I had finally gotten away from my violent ex but knew he'd probably come for me. I even quit my job due to threats he made about coming to my work. I locked myself inside weeks afraid to go out. Sure enough a month after ending things he showed up at night and tried to break down my door to get to me. The terror was indescribable standing there hearing him screaming and seeing the door shake as he tried to break in. Fortunately my apartment door was an actual solid all the way through door with strong hinges. The police showed up before he was able to get inside. I really don't blame any woman for taking what may seem like over the top precautions. We've all encountered men whether they're a new first date, stranger at the store or partners who truly make us fear for our safety. I've been straight up interrogated by dudes at a store who don't like me saying no to their advances. I've been followed by men in their cars while walking my dogs. Unfortunately violence and fear are a part of the female experience. I'd rather be safe than sorry. I don't take over the top precautions now, naturally am pretty confident & don't get fearful easily but no matter what I know I will always face threats just for existing as a woman.
I’m sorry that happened to you, hope you’re safe and your ex got what he deserved. Being a woman is scary, I got followed by a stranger last week, also got stalked by an ex a couple years ago and despite knowing all the statistics and how rare it’s someone breaking into a house to do something violent, it’s hard to not be paranoid, I get what Hasan was saying and everything, but he’s also a giant man with guns, so yeah, TikTok girlie precautions are kinda silly and extra, but she isn’t wrong trying to protect herself, we all should have reasonable protections
It's not unreasonable to do, like, 1 maybe 2 of these things -- particularly in a hotel or cruise ship where others can access your room anytime. But like Hasan said, if they trap you in then they're a fire hazard.
random acts of violence definitely do exist. but as a person with schizophrenia, clinically paranoid all the time, someone will not feel calmer just because you try to appeal logically to them about there not being a reason go not feel safe. at the end of the day if someone could just let me know that i shouldn’t be paranoid and everything is fine i wouldn’t be mentally ill. it’s a hard fucking thing to overcome especially when it’s not particularly PTSD related and purely psychosis-bred. it’s impossible to ever feel truly safe when you live with that. i can understand why she did all that honestly. being alone as a woman is fucking scary
I know of women who have had actual strangers stood over their bed watching them sleep. I always have the doors locked while I’m at home. Nearly every week there’s something posted online that someone in my neighbourhood has had a stranger in their yard or trying to get inside
that happened at an old place of mine, i kept telling my two male roommates to lock the doors and windows. they had a female friend over and while she was sleeping on the couch she woke up to some guy staring through the open window at her. thank goodness she woke up and scared him away. luckily my neighborhood is reasonably safe but i still keep the blinds shut at night and the doors locked. idk tho the woman in this video took some dire precautions, like locking the doors and setting a security system up would have been enough
I've had it happen to me. It's ridiculous to act as though this is just paranoia. I don't go to these lengths but I do understand why someone would. This world is extremely dangerous for women and people perceived as women. I am very aware of how vulnerable I am especially when I don't have a man nearby cuz they're considered a deterrence by other men
Last week I was followed by a man that only decided to go the other way after I got my taser from my purse and started turning it on to repeatedly make that awufully loud buzzing sound looking directly at him. Some TikTok girlies for sure are paranoid, but how can we not be? Being a woman is traumatizing, all the time, all over the world, there are awful awful stories, every f***ing day I get catcalled and wonder if it will turn into something worse and I truly don’t think men can comprehend our fears, they don’t even get yelled obscene things walking down the street, If I, like Hasan, also thought that I would be just robbed or unalived, I would be just fine too, but things can definitely get much worse for us that aren’t 6’3. Every woman should go to the gym, put on some muscles, learn self defense, do enough cardio to be capable to escape a bad situation and yes, have multiple safety precautions and devices.
Hasan please I’m a fan of you as well as many other women and this is not it. You are a straight man speaking about how women should feel safer while in the same breath dropping statistics about missing people…Let women speak for themselves!
My rule is always prepare within reason. Like I keep pocket knives in my purse for utility or protection but I'm not constantly panicking in public. I put a bell ornament on my door so it jingles when it opens but I'm not like laying home alone traps and gadgets to catch a bad guy. If you let fear control you then you'll lash out at nothing, so find ways to satiate paranoia with non harmful methods
i like the bell ornament. very simple but gives you that extra peace of mind. i usually have a jingly toy for my cats on the door cause they like to paw at it, i guess it does the same thing functionally lol
As a woman myself lol I also always double check to make sure my doors are locked , windows etc ( I even have anti break in locks that you can close onto the door so the door is locked even if the original lock gets picked )but sad truth is , if someone wanted to find a way in they can . Anyone can easily follow you home wait for you to walk up to your door and force their self in when you are going in . I also own a firearm but let's be real if someone was to catch me at night by surprise from behind thats not any help either . But on the other hand .. as a someone who lives alone things like this do help me sleep better at night , even though I live in a " safe " area . Maybe I watch too much true crime but I just rather be safe than sorry . And I guess I should also add that I have had someone break into my house through a window that was left unlocked , not open just unlocked . So I guess after that I did become a little paranoid . I think Hasan underestimates how often things do happen . Something small can traumatize you and in that case you just want extra mental peace . I do think the lady in the video is doing a lot but I do get it . And I really think she is more so making these videos to show different things we can do for a little extra safety .
It feels like he is minimalizing the topic to women are paranoid. This is really not the usual hasan idk. Media plays a big part yes but whether its 8 or 8000 breakins/kidnappings etc what makes being prepared a dumb idea?
Yeah I see it more as women wanting to make themsleves feel safe vs genuinely thinking and believing they’re gonna get tracked down and murdered necessarily themselves , it’s nice to know u have options and measures in place in case u do end up in a scary situation and can make it easier to relax while alone I’ve always been a scaredy cat and hate the dark and being alone in my house always even now that I’m in my twenties and it’s embarrassing but also just frustrating cuz I have a a hard time relaxing and just going about my life normally cuz my Brian will start to pick up on every little noise and I just stay anxious but I’ve found strategies of making that experience more comfortable for myself and make me feel somewhat safe and relaxed than I would be without doing anything like having my door chimes and alarms on etc little things for peace of mind is important for some ppl , lots of anxious mofos out there and no matter how realistic the fear is , it does exist for many of us and we should try and deal with it in healthyish ways and manage any paranoia that comes up :)
I’m so happy to read this comment. Me and my boyfriend are sitting here watching this kind of surprised at how he was so dismissive of taking security measures in your home.
While I agree I think the main issue with the clip is the extent she goes to with security using a mixture of random devices vs an actual legitimate security system that actually contacts authorities.
The way Hasan describes at the very beginning the circumstances where it’s normal to feel unsafe meanwhile I was stalked while WORKING at Walmart, nearly abducted at the end of my shift from said stalker. Nowhere is fucking safe, Hasan.
This is one of those topics Hasan shouldn't comment on. Sure, most of the things these women are doing is useless, but based on how violent our society is towards women, you can't blame them for being "paranoid".
i really do NOT understand this take. so women who are hyper sensitive about their security (reminder you do not know what may have happened to them or their loved ones in their past) have to just not bother buying or doing things that at least help them FEEL more safe because it won't really matter and they'll be screwed if it happens anyway? And we're worried about this? Like this is something we're acutally having a hard time w and deserves an entire stream segment? It's an extension of fears from crimes against women so i'd say focus on that instead of how women lock their doors. also a paranoid woman w a gun is no less concerning than a child or paranoid man w a gun. advertising products that profit over fear is a different take - on the advertisers. but to be like "white women are so crime obsessed" is so condescending. WOMEN are afraid of MEN.
the protocol you follow when it comes to considering the likelihood of someone harming you is exactly what my therapist has taught me as a grounding technique i have complex PTSD from DV and was traveling to the state he grew up in to a nearby city and i was feeling a lot of anxiety about it, so she asked me to consider these three things specifically 1) the likelihood of him being there when he no longer lives there 2) the likelihood of him being in the same city as me when it’s not exactly where he grew up 3) the likelihood of me seeing him if he happened to be in the same city when 3 million people live there i’ve applied that style of statistical/ analytical thinking to a lot of my irrational anxieties since then and it’s been really helpful :)
My mother has lived like this her entire life. She made me insane when I was growing up. She really thought people walking by would look into our house and decide they wanted our stuff. Our second hand junk she bought from garage sales because she was so cheap. Paranoid narcissism.
I actually have the pink lock door thing and it works really well. I got it because i live alone in an apartment building and i haven’t changed my locks yet. Everything she’s doing is obsessive
When I was little We had people break into our house while we were sleeping to steal shit (we think it was friends of our drug addict cousin) they took off with the old block TV, some VHS and some other shit. So I grew up with bars on the window, multiple locks on the door and even a wooden beam blocking the back door. My grandpa was also mugged right outside our front door. We also live in a city where people break into houses all the time. We now have cameras facing every window a ring camera on the front door and I keep a gun by my bed. And I own a few of those gadgets for when I travel solo. And I walk to and from my car with pepper spray because of this creep that tried walking up to me when we were packing up the car in the morning but then instantly turn away when he saw my grandpa. Also: def check your hotel bed for bed bugs
there's no point granting credence to this type of paranoia where on one hand you have a 10 step verification to get into the house but it's a suburban paper house and ever detail is posted online. I can compare it to some of those "stay at home girlfriend" videos where it was super obvious that the person is doing an ad for a product like bloom drinks or whatever, selling an idyllic stay at home lifestyle to capitalise on the sense of being jaded by modern work culture. And in this case it's mostly home security equipment to capitalise on the rise of the cultural obsession with true crime. It's literally linked in this creator's linktree.
You really don't think this is trauma related? This isn't because of "the cultural obsession with true crime" it's because people genuinely experience trauma and are affected by it. These are the consequences of living in a rape culture, and in the states a gun violence culture on top of that!!
Dude, this one was disappointing. Even if u wanna skip the point of her being a woman and the implications and life experiences that could lead her to that point (i mean how funny all the comments saying they kinda get her its all women), you can criticize the fact that media have been pushing the narrative of crime and make a great point talking about the paranoia that it creates and how it truly affects people. No need for shaming anyone for their mental health, i just dont care how you cope with ur shit if u make that an universal way of feeling and doing.
I was selling some pretty small quantities of weed, and only to people i knew... A coworker came by to pick up and her boyfriend saw me comfortable in my home, letting it hang out. He decided that meant i was soft, and showed up a couple days later... walked right into my kitchen and broke my nose with a bat. I learned i can take it, and that when i have someone i really COULD hurt at my mercy ... that I'm still better than that. Still, a harsh lesson. Very small cash on hand, but there are always predators (drug problems) looking for a target.
Alright ima defend that pink lock the girl had, that thing actually works really well it also helps that it prevents people with the key to ur home from getting in.
@@KOmyself basic physics and working in construction actually building houses and see how doors are framed. But sure, you bought a door lock of Temu so you know more than me, I will concede that
I was robbed at work over 14 years ago. Was it scary? Absolutely! Do I let it consume me now? No. Everyone's trauma is different, but we can't overthink these things. As someone with anxiety I overthink stuff A LOT. Believe me when I say thats not helpful. It's fine to take precautions, but you need to be reasonable. If I let that incident control my life I think I'd go nuts!
My partner was stabbed nearly to death at the gas station right by our house. We still go to that gas station out of necessity. It took a little while for me to stop picturing his blood everywhere but it’s okay now. I mostly just get fear when he’s out without me. We live in a pretty dangerous area so being on edge at all times would literally kill us. We’re all gonna die someday. Some of us sooner. I have to try to redirect my thoughts for my own sanity.
The start was a very misogynist take. Many women live in constant fear due to the things theyve experienced. Even if its an ad, you are making fun of women's fears (which are extremely valid) and automatically make them out to be crazy and hysterical.
@@chisulover1235 and I personally couldn't ferl safe with a man that truly finds it in himself to disregard how a woman might feel - interestingly enough I came across very considerate takes from Hasan that's why I'm saying he's taking the piss because he craves a bit of back talk. He emotionally regulates with a bit of antagonising. Gotta know the man. 😂🙏
@@darcyroyce I've been watching a long time and I know that. The problem is that his audience looks up to him and takes that as gospel. The chat was filled with misogyny too.
@@chisulover1235 that IS the problem... xxx that's why the quality of discourse is not solely defined by his takes... but by the interaction between him, the source of info, and those that engage with it... It's all too easy to think that there's not a symbiotic relationship between leader and community, when there is... In effect, he's the supply, this specific kind of audience needs and wants. Make of it what you will. 🙏x
As someone with really bad anxiety I’ve learnt over the years to just not think about it, unless when it comes to natural disasters, luckily where I currently live is safe from them apart from bushfires
Well, I can almost guarantee that portable door lock is worthless and you have to be very careful with electronic locks of any kind. A lot of them take shortcuts that have easy bypasses. Also...portable door lock...right next to door-height window, so they can just break it and reach into open the door.
Bro as a girl I understand that I’m 100% not cautious enough (I walk alone at night and I don’t even bother taking one headphone out I blast that shit) but like this is just mental
This is just how paranoia works it's not really rational, so explaining to people why the thing they're so worried about is extremely unlikely to happen doesn't actually help get rid of their issue most of the time
Right, but and I don't think that's what Hasan's trying to combat when he explains the low probability of these things happening. The issue I think he's taking with this is that this type of fear mongering online is perpetuating a narrative that r***, human trafficking, etc. are things that constantly happen which is often used as a way to validate prejudices towards groups of people (who are often actually more likely to experience these things). I don't take it as him invalidating people's experience
as someone who just stayed at an all-inclusive hotel... I'm a bit OCD about the cleanliness of rooms now. They never swept, just mopped the dirty floor so you'd find clumps of hair and dirts everywhere, and surfaces weren't wiped. Even dining dishes were sometimes dirty, so I got to clean your hotel room. But there is a BIG problem with these tiktoks. like, I, don't need to be more paranoid than I already am?
Before I always go to bed to give me peace of mind I always lock the doors, but I know my house can be easily broken into if someone wanted to. Like the amount of times I’ve forgotten my own keys and had to break into my own house 😭
It’s not healthy. My mom is a survivor and is even worse than this lady. This level of anxiety is going to make me lose her early and it makes me so upset
@@LexieLouLou I’m so sorry to hear that. I’ve experienced a few very traumatic events that have led me to this point. I’m working through it in therapy but every night is still a challenge. I hope your mom can seek help for the sake of her family. Even if she won’t do it for herself maybe she can do it for you. Sending love. ❤️
If the neighbourhood I was in had frequent crime and break ins I’d be totally understandable as to why she’s doing it, luckily my neighbourhood is safe cause the amount of times I’ve managed to break into my own house when I forgot the keys would be concerning 😭
Within 40 years I've known of two home invasions in my closer surroundings. One was in my own home when I was a kid. 'Luckily' the guy was just a peeping tom and my dad chased him off with a baseball bat. The other case was of one of my mom's friends who was living with her brother and mother in a flat on the 4th floor. The guy came in and walked around the flat while they were sleeping, and nobody got up because everyone on hearing the noise of someone walking just thought it's one of the other people living in the house. That guy too weirdly didn't take anything but apparently just got a kick of being able to get it. He left the same way he came. In both cases the intruder came... drumroll... through the balcony...
I feel like a lot of the comments are missing the point; it's not that these measures are never reasonable for any woman ever, it's that this tiktoker is being paid to market these products as if EVERY woman needs them. She is making a profit by encouraging other women to be more worried for their safety than they already were and telling them that buying these things will fix the problem. It's the same principal of creating demand behind makeup marketing, "Remember ladies, your bare face is UGLY but our products will fix that!", "Remember ladies, you are NEVER SAFE ANYWHERE EVER but our products will fix that!"
Her advice isn't even good in the situation where an attacker is trying to get in. If you have multiple points of entry (windows, backdoors, etc.) then barricading one door much more heavily than the other is just a trap for yourself. If you're going to be a paranoid home-defense person, always have a secure exit strategy.
I forgot who but I've heard a serial killer/repost say he would just try random doors and if it was unlocked he saw it as a sign.... If it was locked he'd move on.
The hotel room one cracks me up. The case is left propping the door open whilst she’s re-cleaning the bathroom and fitting toilet seat covers. Someone could have just walked in and her escape route would be blocked. Where’s the logic?
It is insane to normalize this, I struggle with some bad paranoia but even i know when it’s over the top behaviour. My MIL didn’t want me to get an apartment on the ground floor because someone could climb in the window… houses also have ground level windows so how am I in greater danger than she is? Also the odds that someone would break in to my specific apartment is basically 0, even if they did I have literally nothing to steal and I have cameras to watch my dog so I’m sure I’d be fine.
As a victim of abuse,stalking and someone literally coming in my house to attack me( it was the police) I started off by locking my doors and learning self-defense and getting counseling and coping mechanisms. But then all of a sudden I was like nah this is mid tier... So what I did was paint myself invisible and stand against my wall 24/7 so no one can see me , now I'm better...🙄😮💨it helps if I pretend that I'm John Cena
Hasan can talk about this cause he also has real fears and experiences he is not demeaning her she is actively explaining why what she is doing is furthering the fear mongering that got her to this point in the first place
If someone irrationally broke into my house I would likely help them steal all my shit. If these crazy paranoid people realized that they are just souls trapped in a meat suit they may realize life is not that important. And even if someone was trying to break into your house for anything worse than more than stealing your materialistic crap, one could easily beg the question “Is this house over secured because they have some awesome shit to steal?”
I have OCD and have had episodes of psychosis, so if this is a result of someone being mentally unwell I get it. But if this is just someone who's deeply uninformed of how crime happens it's pretty goofy.
So for the hotel and cruise ship wouldn't it be far more likely for someone to steal your bag or enter your room as your checking it to attack you. seems like you leaving yourself more exposed over invisible threats by leaving the door open that whole time.
I don't do this because i hardly stay in hotels, especially alone, but I first saw this recommended by flight attendants YEARS ago when i was considering applying to be one. They stay in a lot of hotels all over the world. I've seen a few say that either they, or another flight attendant on their flight, have gone into their room and someone was inside hiding/waiting to rob/attack them. Obviously this is rare, but I think it makes sense that the more you stay in hotels the more likely you are to have the rare thing happen. Like break ins aren't common, but if you owned 1000 houses the chances of any 1 being broken into is much higher. in this video the girl is stupid, obviously you wouldn't clean the place before grabbing your bag, but it should only take you a few seconds to see there's no one in the room, so leaving your suitcase leaves the door open for a quick escape, and if you yell others are more likely to hear you. and as for someone stealing your bag or coming in after you, it's much easier to see/hear if anyone is in the hallway before going in. Like i said, i don't do this, but if you stay in hotels a lot and taking 5 seconds makes you feel better, by all means
A movie that comes to mind is Perfect Blue its an anime movie that does go into the idea of death threats, stalkers, etc. for idols who leave that spotlight and move into something new or even is still currently a celebrity in some sort of way
I understand that there is a line that can be crossed, and may have even been crossed in this case regarding women’s paranoia. HOWEVER, Hassan is a man… why does he get to judge women on whether or not their fears are valid?? Why is he dictating what ok for us to do?? This video actually made me nauseas to watch. I’ve been sexually harassed and followed on multiple occasions, so I take a lot of the same precautions as the woman in these videos. Shit like this happens to women far too often for us to be comfortable.
"you're too big to kidnap" I always forget that when you're a man or tall or whatever silly reasoning people have you now become immune to being held hostage with a gun. People are so emotional it's funny like yeah I'm sure if hasan had a gun to his head he'd just start laughing and go "don't you know I'm a 6'6 male" yeah I don't think that would work very well guys, yes women are more vulnerable to violence but the idea that being a big guy will save you from everything is just unserious. also those portable door locks were marketed as very secure but Mcnallyofficial opens one with a empty milk jugg in one of his shorts in about 1.5 seconds and the video he featured was actually an ad for the lock which basically did the same thing these videos did where they pretend to be a random tiktoker but it's actually paid promotion.
Its not that it will necessarily save him but you'd imagine robbers/etc will somewhat pick their targets. Who are you more likely to Rob? An 85 year old woman with a cane or a 6'4 MMA fighter? Obviously a gun can keep both in check but most people won't target people they anticipate will be more trouble.
Maybe it won’t prevent every possible bad thing, but as a large man, I breeze through situations that should be dangerous to normal people. It’s the opposite side of the world being dangerous for women. Everybody is afraid of you, for better or worse
Security theater was already taking off 20-25 years ago, with 24/7 media and 9-11... cant imagine growing up deep in the psychological brain rot. Glad I'm old.
The lock pick guy who shows how easy it is to break locks has already shown (if I remember correctly) that type of portable door lock has flaws and can be unlocked with like a credit card
I have to say the "what are you going to do, play the flute? When the rapist death squad comes through your window"? Made me laugh way too damn hard haha
I feel like some scumbag is gonna come across her content and take it as a challenge to dismantle her strange obsessive security measures successfully and documenting all of this shit is opening herself up to more potential danger and bad actors than she would’ve been to begin with if she just kept it to herself idk are public figures more prone to stalker situations or something there’s gotta be some stats on that but hope I’m wrong I guess I don’t wanna know what this lady would do if her fears were confirmed and someone did break into her space like she seems irrationally paranoid enough as is I don’t want her to like crack and hide out in an underground for the rest of her life or something crazy
As an OCD sufferer who had therapy to overcome compulsions and intrusive thoughts it’s genuinely crazy to see ppl normalising the hotel routines and stuff like that is not normal functioning :(
OCD isn’t a blanket disease where everyone cleans a hotel room. A majority of people with OCD will see this video and not bat an eye.
I don’t understand what you’re trying to say other than finding the routine insane, which everyone already knows.
I think they are trying to say that this is simply weird to do. People choose to follow the routines that are unsustainable and obviously unhealthy and that many people with mental struggles like people with ocd are trying to get rid of. They post it online like entertainment and don’t treat it with seriousness. This is the same type of tiktoks as when people start to glamorise mental illness because they think it’s edgy or some shit like that, when in fact it is just sad and shouldn’t be treated this lightly.
I completely understand what you mean. If my sister sees this Tiktok, she will believe it 100%. She can't think critically as to why someone would lie on the Internet to create engagement to make money.
She saw a Tiktok that there's spiders eggs in grapes that can hatch inside your stomach if you eat them. So she doesn't eat grapes any more.
She will live in a lot more fear if she watches this.
@@yamayam1389 Well my OCD sadly manifests in the stereotypical compulsive cleaning and germaphobia but living like that is relentless torture so I’m saying that CHOOSING to live like that is crazy to me. Even the lock checking reminds me of my cousin whose compulsions manifest in checking every plug socket and lock on repeat for hours before she can sleep. It’s not a cute or healthy way to live your life.
@@lightasmr9225 yah perfectly said!
One thing that annoys me is the urban legend posts about supposed “human trafficker tactics” like leaving things on your car, like that’s not how human trafficking works. 99% of the time its grooming by someone you know
Yes!!! Fucking thank you! I was trying to explain to my gf that those stories are usually a bunch of bs. Why would they track some random lady with a tracker that is semi attractive, there are attractive women all over the place. They don't need to track you to your home or set up an elaborate trap in the Walmart parking lot. In real life you get trapped by dating some guy like Andrew Tate or getting smuggled into the US.
& 40% of human trafficking victims (specifically sex trafficking) in the US and Canada are American Indian or Alaskan Native. We’re less than 2% of the population. The non-Native victims are usually victims of immigration scams who get trapped in this. Suburban white women are not at all a target, despite what they’d have you believe.
Those urban legends have been around even before the widespread Internet use. It's sad
It’s the same energy as the people that post every winter to open your hood in the morning to see if a cat crawled in it to sleep over night 😂
Just Facebook women who have been completely sheltered their entire life
@@nuudelz3711my mom killed her neighbors cat when it got caught in her serpentine belt during the winter.
I wanted the tik tok to keep going and she keeps setting more traps like marbles on the floor and then those cardboard cutouts from home alone to make it look like a party is happening at all times
bet she was about to hire the tunnel lady to make her an escape hatch
Hasan out here looking like Freddie Mercury
his outfits are so fire sometimes it is unbelievable
Geraldo more so
carry on.... carry on....
I think he looks like Thrag from Invincible
I love the look lol
Imagine having a heart attack due to extreme paranoia and the paramedics take half an hour to get through your defensive perimeter...like at that point, its just body retrieval, you're not getting resuscitated in time
She's gonna get her suitcase stolen at a hotel is what's most likely to happen, lol
That or get attacked while setting up to film these ridiculous rituals
Lol. I thought the same thing. In the hour it took you to sanitize everything, you left your luggage in plain, unmonitored view to be stolen.
You call it paranoia, we call it preventing what we have already experienced from happening again. This is specifically to the temporary door lock. My landlady has let herself into my locked bedroom before while I was in it. Girlies have people around that don't respect privacy or boundaries.
Most rapists and abusers are someone the victim knows and presumably someone who has the keys to the door.
I hope you sue her. That's just unacceptable
THANK YOU. Like seriously, why tf is Hassan dictating what fears are valid for women??? This video actually made me sick to watch
My brain sometimes does this and then i remember if someone really wants to get in they'll just break the windows. For some reason that makes it more of an 'it is what it is' and i don't spend time worrying about it
Exactly. I get caught up in paranoia sometimes, but reminding myself that I can't fortify windows always does the trick. Like oh, well I'll lock the door and leave it at that.
nah, most people won't break windows cuz they know it will alert people...they will try prying windows open though. that's the point of the alarms on windows. the sound will scare away intruders just like the sound of broken glass will
Tbh makes me glad to live in a gated apartment on the 4th floor.. Having ground level windows would creep me out unless I had a fence or something
I have ground level windows and I'm more worried about bears than I am about people@@Quzga
@@marylawrence2218 i live in sweden, bears here are very nice!
I am a woman and a veteran with PTSD amongst other mental and physical service related illness. I understand taking precautions and measures to feel safe, but its important to recognize when it begins getting unhealthy. It might be necessary to lean on these safety measures in the beginning, but please dont rely on them forever. It takes a lot of consistent and difficult work to heal, but its definitely worth it. 4yrs ago I couldnt even go to the grocery store without having a panic attack.
Agreed, as an abuse survivor with ptsd which became full blown agoraphobia. We gotta check ourselves at times or it’s so easy to make ourselves even sicker and more isolated.
Well done! Glad you’re getting better.
Also the best deterrence is making seem like there are many people in the home. Locking everything down and closing the blinds makes it look like you are on vacation. Best way is to keep your cars in the driveway and keep the lights on visible to the outside on even during the night.
bonus points if you have community/family members you can trust to just stop by your house while you're gone and make sure it's all lookin alright
All that and a big fucking dog. If they aren't deterred by all my front house lights being on, Hercules takes care of the rest.
Or get a big dog
That's for burglars though. I think what these women are afraid of is rapists. Which, as far as I know it's pretty rare for a predator to actually break into private homes to assault you so I'd say all this is way overboard, extreme anxiety.
@@destituteanddecadent9106 yes its rare but the comment is still valid, a serial killer/rapist is more likely to break in when all the lights are off or they know there is no man in the house as its less dangerous for them. A dog/lights on is a pretty valid deterrent
I’m a complete nobody. I’ve had two stalkers. One male (an ex) and a former girlfriend. It was so traumatizing. I cannot imagine being Hasan and the stalker crap he deals with daily.
Oi brother- don’t call yourself a nobody! Your life has intrinsic value!
@@chichi8398 Thank you. I really appreciate the reminder. I’m trying to start my channel but unfortunately I still have the words stuck in my mind from my now ex boyfriend and narcissistic abuser telling me, “don’t start a TH-cam channel, that is absolutely ridiculous.” But thanks to people like you, if he can tear me down I can hear kind words like yours and build myself back up again! One day at a time. I’ve just gotta get _his_ words out of _my_ head. You know what I mean? Thanks again.
@@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers Say less I’ll support you! You’ve got a new sub
@@chichi8398 Thank you. 🙏
@@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers soon I'll be able to brag about being your 91st subscriber. I'm sorry those people were afraid of you growing--we will be proud of you!
So when I was in highschool I dated a girl who's mother was seriously paranoid about dirt coming into the house. Her and her younger brother would have to strip down naked and thoroughly shower after entering the front door. Sadly their mother eventually committed suicide from not being able to overcome her phobias. 😥
That's so sad. 😔 I hope they get some balance and peace in their lives.
I work in a hotel and honestly not everything she was doing for the hotel room is crazy, people really will try to set up cameras in the rooms.
I also will disinfect my room when first checking in too cause i have witnessed housekeepers not necessarily doing their jobs correctly
Yep the hotel routine is a thing I do a lot and I have the door locker that I use because I had once a guy knocking and trying to get in after I went to my room. The staff was fantastic but imagine if I was intoxicated or tired and did not close the door? Plus I clean just because you don’t know if the Housekeeper had time to their job especially in massive hotels
A lot of these are actually fine precautions. labeling it as "white women" doesn't make it any less misogynistic that yall are criticizing women for trying to stay safe in a world that is super violent towards them. Shit like the "rape whistle" that everyone was making fun of is actually super practical because loud sounds will most of the time work to deter people from assaulting you. When I was homeless I had the misfortune of putting this idea to use. I screamed as loud as I could for as long as I could when someone started assaulting me, and he took off running. A whistle is the same idea. Anything to attract attention that your assaulter doesn't want being drawn. You have to lose all your fear of seeming ridiculous to keep yourself safe. Love Hasan, but this is not it
Oh, and I've also had my house broken into lmao so saying "most of the time the person who is a danger to you is someone you know" to women is not only super patronizing cuz most already know that, it doesn't change the fact that IT STILL HAPPENS and is in many ways more traumatizing than being victimized by someone you know
@@mischr13 Rape whistles are effective in public with people around, not laying down in your bedroom. I don't think I'd hear that whistle from the living room let alone from across the street. Also your anecdote of having your own home broken into does not change the statistics, nor does it mean you need to buy random tiktok products to stay safe. Also if the people who broke into your house were truly strangers and did not know who lived there, it has nothing to do with being a woman or not, it's simply a crime of opportunity.
Dunno about everyone, but I ain't making fun of anything that can interrupt an assault, or rhe threat of one.
@@darcyroyce the problem is that it can't interrupt an assault. If someone is driven enough to break into her house past all her security precautions, they aren't going to care about a plastic whistle. If she actually wanted to protect herself she would've showcased a taser or some pepper spray, stuff that can actually do damage and impair an attacker. But that wouldn't exactly go with the "woe is me, I need my big strong man to come home so I can feel safe" vibe she had going on for the tiktok.
Hey guys … ex Adt Sales consultant (from San Francisco of all places) here, wanted to chime in to Hassan’s point on “security theater”…The biggest deterrence mechanism in a residential neighborhood is in fact a security sign in your yard; anything anybody else tells you is bs, you’re welcome. Also doorbell cameras suck.
yeah my parents only got a security system after a serial killer (timothy spencer) broke into their neighbor & friend’s house and killed her. after he was caught they stopped paying for it and just kept the sign up. never had a breakin 🤷🏽♀️
Doorbell camera literally caught the guy stealing shit from our front porch. Obviously not good for bne but saying they suck just sounds like you still have ADT in your blood
@@nuudelz3711wireless cameras are incredibly vulnerable to external viewing
Around 5 years ago I lived the real fear & threat of that stuff. Those door stoppers with the alarm if they're pushed have been around for awhile and gave me a lot of peace of mind at the time. The alarm is super loud. I did it moreso for the alarm aspect and also every night pushed my living room couch against my apartment door. It's hell living like that.
Every moment I thought I would be murdered and it was a legitimate probability. I had finally gotten away from my violent ex but knew he'd probably come for me. I even quit my job due to threats he made about coming to my work. I locked myself inside weeks afraid to go out. Sure enough a month after ending things he showed up at night and tried to break down my door to get to me. The terror was indescribable standing there hearing him screaming and seeing the door shake as he tried to break in. Fortunately my apartment door was an actual solid all the way through door with strong hinges. The police showed up before he was able to get inside.
I really don't blame any woman for taking what may seem like over the top precautions. We've all encountered men whether they're a new first date, stranger at the store or partners who truly make us fear for our safety. I've been straight up interrogated by dudes at a store who don't like me saying no to their advances. I've been followed by men in their cars while walking my dogs. Unfortunately violence and fear are a part of the female experience. I'd rather be safe than sorry. I don't take over the top precautions now, naturally am pretty confident & don't get fearful easily but no matter what I know I will always face threats just for existing as a woman.
I’m sorry that happened to you, hope you’re safe and your ex got what he deserved. Being a woman is scary, I got followed by a stranger last week, also got stalked by an ex a couple years ago and despite knowing all the statistics and how rare it’s someone breaking into a house to do something violent, it’s hard to not be paranoid, I get what Hasan was saying and everything, but he’s also a giant man with guns, so yeah, TikTok girlie precautions are kinda silly and extra, but she isn’t wrong trying to protect herself, we all should have reasonable protections
It's not unreasonable to do, like, 1 maybe 2 of these things -- particularly in a hotel or cruise ship where others can access your room anytime. But like Hasan said, if they trap you in then they're a fire hazard.
random acts of violence definitely do exist. but as a person with schizophrenia, clinically paranoid all the time, someone will not feel calmer just because you try to appeal logically to them about there not being a reason go not feel safe. at the end of the day if someone could
just let me know that i shouldn’t be paranoid and everything is fine i wouldn’t be mentally ill. it’s a hard fucking thing to overcome especially when it’s not particularly PTSD related and purely psychosis-bred. it’s impossible to ever feel truly safe when you live with that. i can understand why she did all that honestly. being alone as a woman is fucking scary
yeah it's disappointing that this kind of behaviour is met with derision by so many people and not compassion or empathy.
I know of women who have had actual strangers stood over their bed watching them sleep. I always have the doors locked while I’m at home. Nearly every week there’s something posted online that someone in my neighbourhood has had a stranger in their yard or trying to get inside
that happened at an old place of mine, i kept telling my two male roommates to lock the doors and windows. they had a female friend over and while she was sleeping on the couch she woke up to some guy staring through the open window at her. thank goodness she woke up and scared him away.
luckily my neighborhood is reasonably safe but i still keep the blinds shut at night and the doors locked. idk tho the woman in this video took some dire precautions, like locking the doors and setting a security system up would have been enough
USA is so crash 😮
I live in a pretty safe IN suburb, but I still always have my door locked bc you just never know and why tempt fate?
I've had it happen to me. It's ridiculous to act as though this is just paranoia. I don't go to these lengths but I do understand why someone would. This world is extremely dangerous for women and people perceived as women. I am very aware of how vulnerable I am especially when I don't have a man nearby cuz they're considered a deterrence by other men
Last week I was followed by a man that only decided to go the other way after I got my taser from my purse and started turning it on to repeatedly make that awufully loud buzzing sound looking directly at him. Some TikTok girlies for sure are paranoid, but how can we not be? Being a woman is traumatizing, all the time, all over the world, there are awful awful stories, every f***ing day I get catcalled and wonder if it will turn into something worse and I truly don’t think men can comprehend our fears, they don’t even get yelled obscene things walking down the street, If I, like Hasan, also thought that I would be just robbed or unalived, I would be just fine too, but things can definitely get much worse for us that aren’t 6’3. Every woman should go to the gym, put on some muscles, learn self defense, do enough cardio to be capable to escape a bad situation and yes, have multiple safety precautions and devices.
Hasan please I’m a fan of you as well as many other women and this is not it. You are a straight man speaking about how women should feel safer while in the same breath dropping statistics about missing people…Let women speak for themselves!
I'm not worried about randos breaking into my house, I'm worried about my ex finding out where I live.
Luckily, my ex is a kind, tender, gem of a man. Never felt unsafe in his presence or since we seperated.
She forgot to hide under her covers with the blanket over her head. Everybody knows the monsters can't get you then.
yup, happened to me when i was 6 years old
My rule is always prepare within reason. Like I keep pocket knives in my purse for utility or protection but I'm not constantly panicking in public. I put a bell ornament on my door so it jingles when it opens but I'm not like laying home alone traps and gadgets to catch a bad guy. If you let fear control you then you'll lash out at nothing, so find ways to satiate paranoia with non harmful methods
i like the bell ornament. very simple but gives you that extra peace of mind. i usually have a jingly toy for my cats on the door cause they like to paw at it, i guess it does the same thing functionally lol
My doorbell is covered in anthrax
@@Notllamalord ....very simple. but gives you that extra peace of mind.
@@mightymeatymech exactly. Plus when you have guests over they're not gonna hear an ear splitting alarm coming in the door
@@Notllamalord you're telling me if I break in I get a little treat?
As a woman myself lol I also always double check to make sure my doors are locked , windows etc ( I even have anti break in locks that you can close onto the door so the door is locked even if the original lock gets picked )but sad truth is , if someone wanted to find a way in they can . Anyone can easily follow you home wait for you to walk up to your door and force their self in when you are going in . I also own a firearm but let's be real if someone was to catch me at night by surprise from behind thats not any help either .
But on the other hand .. as a someone who lives alone things like this do help me sleep better at night , even though I live in a " safe " area . Maybe I watch too much true crime but I just rather be safe than sorry .
And I guess I should also add that I have had someone break into my house through a window that was left unlocked , not open just unlocked . So I guess after that I did become a little paranoid . I think Hasan underestimates how often things do happen . Something small can traumatize you and in that case you just want extra mental peace . I do think the lady in the video is doing a lot but I do get it . And I really think she is more so making these videos to show different things we can do for a little extra safety .
It feels like he is minimalizing the topic to women are paranoid. This is really not the usual hasan idk. Media plays a big part yes but whether its 8 or 8000 breakins/kidnappings etc what makes being prepared a dumb idea?
Yeah I see it more as women wanting to make themsleves feel safe vs genuinely thinking and believing they’re gonna get tracked down and murdered necessarily themselves , it’s nice to know u have options and measures in place in case u do end up in a scary situation and can make it easier to relax while alone I’ve always been a scaredy cat and hate the dark and being alone in my house always even now that I’m in my twenties and it’s embarrassing but also just frustrating cuz I have a a hard time relaxing and just going about my life normally cuz my Brian will start to pick up on every little noise and I just stay anxious but I’ve found strategies of making that experience more comfortable for myself and make me feel somewhat safe and relaxed than I would be without doing anything like having my door chimes and alarms on etc little things for peace of mind is important for some ppl , lots of anxious mofos out there and no matter how realistic the fear is , it does exist for many of us and we should try and deal with it in healthyish ways and manage any paranoia that comes up :)
I’m so happy to read this comment. Me and my boyfriend are sitting here watching this kind of surprised at how he was so dismissive of taking security measures in your home.
While I agree I think the main issue with the clip is the extent she goes to with security using a mixture of random devices vs an actual legitimate security system that actually contacts authorities.
The way Hasan describes at the very beginning the circumstances where it’s normal to feel unsafe meanwhile I was stalked while WORKING at Walmart, nearly abducted at the end of my shift from said stalker. Nowhere is fucking safe, Hasan.
This is one of those topics Hasan shouldn't comment on. Sure, most of the things these women are doing is useless, but based on how violent our society is towards women, you can't blame them for being "paranoid".
i really do NOT understand this take. so women who are hyper sensitive about their security (reminder you do not know what may have happened to them or their loved ones in their past) have to just not bother buying or doing things that at least help them FEEL more safe because it won't really matter and they'll be screwed if it happens anyway? And we're worried about this? Like this is something we're acutally having a hard time w and deserves an entire stream segment? It's an extension of fears from crimes against women so i'd say focus on that instead of how women lock their doors. also a paranoid woman w a gun is no less concerning than a child or paranoid man w a gun. advertising products that profit over fear is a different take - on the advertisers. but to be like "white women are so crime obsessed" is so condescending. WOMEN are afraid of MEN.
the protocol you follow when it comes to considering the likelihood of someone harming you is exactly what my therapist has taught me as a grounding technique
i have complex PTSD from DV and was traveling to the state he grew up in to a nearby city and i was feeling a lot of anxiety about it, so she asked me to consider these three things specifically
1) the likelihood of him being there when he no longer lives there
2) the likelihood of him being in the same city as me when it’s not exactly where he grew up
3) the likelihood of me seeing him if he happened to be in the same city when 3 million people live there
i’ve applied that style of statistical/ analytical thinking to a lot of my irrational anxieties since then and it’s been really helpful :)
My mother has lived like this her entire life. She made me insane when I was growing up. She really thought people walking by would look into our house and decide they wanted our stuff. Our second hand junk she bought from garage sales because she was so cheap. Paranoid narcissism.
I love the idea of putting a lot of shitty locks on a door FULL OF GLASS PANELS
I actually have the pink lock door thing and it works really well. I got it because i live alone in an apartment building and i haven’t changed my locks yet. Everything she’s doing is obsessive
When I was little We had people break into our house while we were sleeping to steal shit (we think it was friends of our drug addict cousin) they took off with the old block TV, some VHS and some other shit. So I grew up with bars on the window, multiple locks on the door and even a wooden beam blocking the back door. My grandpa was also mugged right outside our front door. We also live in a city where people break into houses all the time.
We now have cameras facing every window a ring camera on the front door and I keep a gun by my bed. And I own a few of those gadgets for when I travel solo. And I walk to and from my car with pepper spray because of this creep that tried walking up to me when we were packing up the car in the morning but then instantly turn away when he saw my grandpa.
Also: def check your hotel bed for bed bugs
there's no point granting credence to this type of paranoia where on one hand you have a 10 step verification to get into the house but it's a suburban paper house and ever detail is posted online. I can compare it to some of those "stay at home girlfriend" videos where it was super obvious that the person is doing an ad for a product like bloom drinks or whatever, selling an idyllic stay at home lifestyle to capitalise on the sense of being jaded by modern work culture. And in this case it's mostly home security equipment to capitalise on the rise of the cultural obsession with true crime. It's literally linked in this creator's linktree.
A drywall saw could get you past all of these security measures lickety split
You really don't think this is trauma related? This isn't because of "the cultural obsession with true crime" it's because people genuinely experience trauma and are affected by it. These are the consequences of living in a rape culture, and in the states a gun violence culture on top of that!!
Dude, this one was disappointing. Even if u wanna skip the point of her being a woman and the implications and life experiences that could lead her to that point (i mean how funny all the comments saying they kinda get her its all women), you can criticize the fact that media have been pushing the narrative of crime and make a great point talking about the paranoia that it creates and how it truly affects people. No need for shaming anyone for their mental health, i just dont care how you cope with ur shit if u make that an universal way of feeling and doing.
He's provoking you - listen closely, he's describing his own shaky mental stability all through this video... Noone is that oblivious. ❤
I was selling some pretty small quantities of weed, and only to people i knew...
A coworker came by to pick up and her boyfriend saw me comfortable in my home, letting it hang out.
He decided that meant i was soft, and showed up a couple days later... walked right into my kitchen and broke my nose with a bat.
I learned i can take it, and that when i have someone i really COULD hurt at my mercy ... that I'm still better than that.
Still, a harsh lesson.
Very small cash on hand, but there are always predators (drug problems) looking for a target.
Alright ima defend that pink lock the girl had, that thing actually works really well it also helps that it prevents people with the key to ur home from getting in.
I highly doubt it works at all. A chair under the door handle would likely work better
@@ThompsonFlash9999ok Thomson
@@ThompsonFlash9999 Trust me it works, from personal experience.
@@ThompsonFlash9999okay and you thinking is based off?? i’m assuming you’ve never even tried both
@@KOmyself basic physics and working in construction actually building houses and see how doors are framed. But sure, you bought a door lock of Temu so you know more than me, I will concede that
Hasan I’m begging u to stop saying “one hundo pee” 💀
I was robbed at work over 14 years ago. Was it scary? Absolutely! Do I let it consume me now? No. Everyone's trauma is different, but we can't overthink these things. As someone with anxiety I overthink stuff A LOT. Believe me when I say thats not helpful. It's fine to take precautions, but you need to be reasonable. If I let that incident control my life I think I'd go nuts!
My partner was stabbed nearly to death at the gas station right by our house. We still go to that gas station out of necessity. It took a little while for me to stop picturing his blood everywhere but it’s okay now. I mostly just get fear when he’s out without me. We live in a pretty dangerous area so being on edge at all times would literally kill us. We’re all gonna die someday. Some of us sooner. I have to try to redirect my thoughts for my own sanity.
Imagine not just letting yourself fall into the hotel bed right after arriving.
Somebody can always throw a cinder block through a window or bust down a door
The start was a very misogynist take. Many women live in constant fear due to the things theyve experienced. Even if its an ad, you are making fun of women's fears (which are extremely valid) and automatically make them out to be crazy and hysterical.
Privilege, baby.
@@darcyroyce Exactly. Few men actually try to even think of how it feels, instead most of them just dont understand and make fun of it.
@@chisulover1235 and I personally couldn't ferl safe with a man that truly finds it in himself to disregard how a woman might feel - interestingly enough I came across very considerate takes from Hasan that's why I'm saying he's taking the piss because he craves a bit of back talk. He emotionally regulates with a bit of antagonising. Gotta know the man. 😂🙏
@@darcyroyce I've been watching a long time and I know that. The problem is that his audience looks up to him and takes that as gospel. The chat was filled with misogyny too.
@@chisulover1235 that IS the problem... xxx that's why the quality of discourse is not solely defined by his takes... but by the interaction between him, the source of info, and those that engage with it... It's all too easy to think that there's not a symbiotic relationship between leader and community, when there is... In effect, he's the supply, this specific kind of audience needs and wants. Make of it what you will. 🙏x
As someone with really bad anxiety I’ve learnt over the years to just not think about it, unless when it comes to natural disasters, luckily where I currently live is safe from them apart from bushfires
Well, I can almost guarantee that portable door lock is worthless and you have to be very careful with electronic locks of any kind. A lot of them take shortcuts that have easy bypasses.
Also...portable door lock...right next to door-height window, so they can just break it and reach into open the door.
Bro as a girl I understand that I’m 100% not cautious enough (I walk alone at night and I don’t even bother taking one headphone out I blast that shit) but like this is just mental
This is just how paranoia works it's not really rational, so explaining to people why the thing they're so worried about is extremely unlikely to happen doesn't actually help get rid of their issue most of the time
Right, but and I don't think that's what Hasan's trying to combat when he explains the low probability of these things happening. The issue I think he's taking with this is that this type of fear mongering online is perpetuating a narrative that r***, human trafficking, etc. are things that constantly happen which is often used as a way to validate prejudices towards groups of people (who are often actually more likely to experience these things). I don't take it as him invalidating people's experience
as someone who just stayed at an all-inclusive hotel... I'm a bit OCD about the cleanliness of rooms now. They never swept, just mopped the dirty floor so you'd find clumps of hair and dirts everywhere, and surfaces weren't wiped. Even dining dishes were sometimes dirty, so I got to clean your hotel room. But there is a BIG problem with these tiktoks. like, I, don't need to be more paranoid than I already am?
Before I always go to bed to give me peace of mind I always lock the doors, but I know my house can be easily broken into if someone wanted to. Like the amount of times I’ve forgotten my own keys and had to break into my own house 😭
most of the women I know who have become super paranoid are also hardcore addicted to social media.
Hasan I have trauma. Leave me and my locks alone. It’s mainly for peace of mind. 😭
It’s not healthy. My mom is a survivor and is even worse than this lady. This level of anxiety is going to make me lose her early and it makes me so upset
@@LexieLouLou I’m so sorry to hear that. I’ve experienced a few very traumatic events that have led me to this point. I’m working through it in therapy but every night is still a challenge. I hope your mom can seek help for the sake of her family. Even if she won’t do it for herself maybe she can do it for you. Sending love. ❤️
I'm so tired of the sneak peak of the video at the beginning only to play that clip again 45 sec later..
The only thing i see on a cruise is death by boredom.. btw did he spread this wisdom to austin?😂😂
Best chat comment "invest in caltrops"
The stache is rockin’ dude.
If the neighbourhood I was in had frequent crime and break ins I’d be totally understandable as to why she’s doing it, luckily my neighbourhood is safe cause the amount of times I’ve managed to break into my own house when I forgot the keys would be concerning 😭
I feel like she’s so much more vulnerable to random attacks after making very public TikToks
Once my ex husband traveled and they tried to break into my house.
It was me, a machete and them.
They didn't get in.
😮😂🙏
Within 40 years I've known of two home invasions in my closer surroundings. One was in my own home when I was a kid. 'Luckily' the guy was just a peeping tom and my dad chased him off with a baseball bat. The other case was of one of my mom's friends who was living with her brother and mother in a flat on the 4th floor. The guy came in and walked around the flat while they were sleeping, and nobody got up because everyone on hearing the noise of someone walking just thought it's one of the other people living in the house. That guy too weirdly didn't take anything but apparently just got a kick of being able to get it. He left the same way he came.
In both cases the intruder came... drumroll... through the balcony...
I feel like a lot of the comments are missing the point; it's not that these measures are never reasonable for any woman ever, it's that this tiktoker is being paid to market these products as if EVERY woman needs them. She is making a profit by encouraging other women to be more worried for their safety than they already were and telling them that buying these things will fix the problem. It's the same principal of creating demand behind makeup marketing, "Remember ladies, your bare face is UGLY but our products will fix that!", "Remember ladies, you are NEVER SAFE ANYWHERE EVER but our products will fix that!"
Her advice isn't even good in the situation where an attacker is trying to get in. If you have multiple points of entry (windows, backdoors, etc.) then barricading one door much more heavily than the other is just a trap for yourself. If you're going to be a paranoid home-defense person, always have a secure exit strategy.
I forgot who but I've heard a serial killer/repost say he would just try random doors and if it was unlocked he saw it as a sign.... If it was locked he'd move on.
Husband gone. Must close shades and sit in dark room till he come back. no outside. cause scary!
No cruises, no helicopters 💯
"A door is only as secure as the windows ten feet away from it"
I bet her favorite Disney princess is Rapunzel.
😂😂😂❤
What's even worst is the locks are very easily bypassed with a swift kick.
i think about what if there is a fire and u have 10 locks to open before u can get out
The hotel room one cracks me up. The case is left propping the door open whilst she’s re-cleaning the bathroom and fitting toilet seat covers. Someone could have just walked in and her escape route would be blocked. Where’s the logic?
It is insane to normalize this, I struggle with some bad paranoia but even i know when it’s over the top behaviour. My MIL didn’t want me to get an apartment on the ground floor because someone could climb in the window… houses also have ground level windows so how am I in greater danger than she is? Also the odds that someone would break in to my specific apartment is basically 0, even if they did I have literally nothing to steal and I have cameras to watch my dog so I’m sure I’d be fine.
This fit goes unimaginably hard
He’s definitely had real people come to his house or basket court or the gym, and that shit could be terrifying even to a 6’4 wall
She just got a lot of ops
😭😭💀
As a victim of abuse,stalking and someone literally coming in my house to attack me( it was the police) I started off by locking my doors and learning self-defense and getting counseling and coping mechanisms. But then all of a sudden I was like nah this is mid tier... So what I did was paint myself invisible and stand against my wall 24/7 so no one can see me , now I'm better...🙄😮💨it helps if I pretend that I'm John Cena
Hasan can talk about this cause he also has real fears and experiences he is not demeaning her she is actively explaining why what she is doing is furthering the fear mongering that got her to this point in the first place
If someone irrationally broke into my house I would likely help them steal all my shit. If these crazy paranoid people realized that they are just souls trapped in a meat suit they may realize life is not that important. And even if someone was trying to break into your house for anything worse than more than stealing your materialistic crap, one could easily beg the question “Is this house over secured because they have some awesome shit to steal?”
I have OCD and have had episodes of psychosis, so if this is a result of someone being mentally unwell I get it. But if this is just someone who's deeply uninformed of how crime happens it's pretty goofy.
So for the hotel and cruise ship wouldn't it be far more likely for someone to steal your bag or enter your room as your checking it to attack you. seems like you leaving yourself more exposed over invisible threats by leaving the door open that whole time.
I don't do this because i hardly stay in hotels, especially alone, but I first saw this recommended by flight attendants YEARS ago when i was considering applying to be one. They stay in a lot of hotels all over the world. I've seen a few say that either they, or another flight attendant on their flight, have gone into their room and someone was inside hiding/waiting to rob/attack them. Obviously this is rare, but I think it makes sense that the more you stay in hotels the more likely you are to have the rare thing happen. Like break ins aren't common, but if you owned 1000 houses the chances of any 1 being broken into is much higher.
in this video the girl is stupid, obviously you wouldn't clean the place before grabbing your bag, but it should only take you a few seconds to see there's no one in the room, so leaving your suitcase leaves the door open for a quick escape, and if you yell others are more likely to hear you. and as for someone stealing your bag or coming in after you, it's much easier to see/hear if anyone is in the hallway before going in. Like i said, i don't do this, but if you stay in hotels a lot and taking 5 seconds makes you feel better, by all means
A movie that comes to mind is Perfect Blue its an anime movie that does go into the idea of death threats, stalkers, etc. for idols who leave that spotlight and move into something new or even is still currently a celebrity in some sort of way
I would honestly use that door lock for my room when I’m in vr since I hate the idea of someone looking at me when I don’t know
19:34 if only Iran followed his advice 😂
If her home ever catches fire, she isn't escaping.
I understand that there is a line that can be crossed, and may have even been crossed in this case regarding women’s paranoia. HOWEVER, Hassan is a man… why does he get to judge women on whether or not their fears are valid?? Why is he dictating what ok for us to do?? This video actually made me nauseas to watch. I’ve been sexually harassed and followed on multiple occasions, so I take a lot of the same precautions as the woman in these videos. Shit like this happens to women far too often for us to be comfortable.
Home "security" companies survive off of making people paranoid. Both the ones that make the stuff and the ones that install them.
Most criminals stake out a target before attacking. Not likely someone just gonna walk by and say that house looks as good as any.
Wow, they keep justifying my fear of them.😨
You could get through that window by that door really fast
1:53 don’t forget the windows
If you live in this kind of fear, what keeps you from eating a gun to escape that constant terror?
Being afraid that you wont be able to handle it correctly due to fear:P
What a disgusting comment.
"you're too big to kidnap"
I always forget that when you're a man or tall or whatever silly reasoning people have you now become immune to being held hostage with a gun.
People are so emotional it's funny like yeah I'm sure if hasan had a gun to his head he'd just start laughing and go "don't you know I'm a 6'6 male" yeah I don't think that would work very well guys, yes women are more vulnerable to violence but the idea that being a big guy will save you from everything is just unserious.
also those portable door locks were marketed as very secure but Mcnallyofficial opens one with a empty milk jugg in one of his shorts in about 1.5 seconds and the video he featured was actually an ad for the lock which basically did the same thing these videos did where they pretend to be a random tiktoker but it's actually paid promotion.
Its not that it will necessarily save him but you'd imagine robbers/etc will somewhat pick their targets. Who are you more likely to Rob? An 85 year old woman with a cane or a 6'4 MMA fighter? Obviously a gun can keep both in check but most people won't target people they anticipate will be more trouble.
Maybe it won’t prevent every possible bad thing, but as a large man, I breeze through situations that should be dangerous to normal people. It’s the opposite side of the world being dangerous for women. Everybody is afraid of you, for better or worse
Well this video made me paranoid about every person I know now :D
Security theater was already taking off 20-25 years ago, with 24/7 media and 9-11... cant imagine growing up deep in the psychological brain rot. Glad I'm old.
The lock pick guy who shows how easy it is to break locks has already shown (if I remember correctly) that type of portable door lock has flaws and can be unlocked with like a credit card
I have to say the "what are you going to do, play the flute? When the rapist death squad comes through your window"? Made me laugh way too damn hard haha
Hasan cosplaying Ron burgundy
I feel like some scumbag is gonna come across her content and take it as a challenge to dismantle her strange obsessive security measures successfully and documenting all of this shit is opening herself up to more potential danger and bad actors than she would’ve been to begin with if she just kept it to herself idk are public figures more prone to stalker situations or something there’s gotta be some stats on that but hope I’m wrong I guess I don’t wanna know what this lady would do if her fears were confirmed and someone did break into her space like she seems irrationally paranoid enough as is I don’t want her to like crack and hide out in an underground for the rest of her life or something crazy
Either that, or she'll act out of pure instinct. Let's hope she hasn't got a baseball bat and some muscle memory.
It’s True-crime Brainworms basically
Even then, most of the true crime stories I hear are family members just 2nd amendmenting each other in the middle of the day
This is the female version of the nuclear bunker guy.
Hasan looking too sexy in this vid, can’t focus at all 😔
i love the lockipicking lawyer idea, its hilarious
Hasan it's time your mustache had its own channel
10:45 😂😂 idk why but the way she looked just cracked me up .