This advice sounds like begging someone to talk to them.. to be honest I feel like no one should have to say please call me I’m ready to talk to you, or I’m hurt. Or asking your partner for an apology! If it doesn’t come from their heart why should we ask for it!? They should apologize because they want to not because you ask for it..
Exactly. This doesn't work on someone who can turn their feelings for you on and off. Especially the self righteous sadistic type. The nicer you are the longer the treatment, this will only work with mature empathic adults .
My mom always taught me if I have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I use the silent treatment in my last long term relationship. Now, I know it is not an effective way to resolve a conflict.
He literally starts a fight- says mean things and sleeps like a baby! Like he is so satisfied for what he did! Don’t give a crap about me crying next to him
Same here!! I walked out of the relationship. Trust me it hurt me very much but as the days passed by I forgot about him within one month. Whenever I missed him I reminded myself the moments when I was broken beside him and he didn't even cared and it did good for me as the days passed by my love turned into hatred toward him now I don't give a fuck about him, he lost me!!
After every argument she would give me the silent treatment for four or five days at a time. The last time was for TEN days, we both knew it was over by then tho. I'm no contact now and will remain so.
Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your story Andy. Yes, that is extremely excessive to not talk for that long, and a very unhealthy situation to be in.
@@KristinCoaching my girlfriend and I had big fright I sleep on couch how i made up with her everytime i want make up with her she walk off and told me leave her alone my girlfriend kiss me but pull way she know i am taken why my girlfriend upset with me and Jealous of my ex ???. she is 45 and i am 35 .
I liked this, except for asking for an apology. In my opinion you should never ask for an apology, it defeats the whole purpose. It will either lead to an argument or an insincere apology.
Some apology are insincere but people apologize anyways cause it is the right thing to do. You may not understand what you did wrong, but seeing how it hurt the person you should apologize regardless. 🤷🏽♀️
It works too. But give a duration how long it is. 1 Week is not good in any relationship with out talking. But I guess ignore him will work or maybe don't hehe
I'm happy to hear you are seeing someone right now. 3 months is a very long time and seems like a punishment almost. Not a healthy way to handle things.
All I have left is leaving. I’m dating the kind of narcissist that forces you to break up with them so they don’t have to no matter what happens to me. They would rather ruin everything and me than just see themselves. 6-7 years later and they haven’t changed a bit while I had to change a lot to stay. I deserve much better. Thank you for this.
My girlfriend does this constantly sometimes days after the event.. she gets upset we talk about it she’s fine then days later she gets upset and decides to ignore me it is super hurtful and it’s always over the smallest things .. I hate arguments and negative energy
You need to dig deeper. When we women act this way, there is still some remaining unresolved issues which = resentments communicate better. Think tone and word choices. Try it and good luck! :)
I have realised that just observing a guy go silent and how long it takes for him to reengage is a good way to figure out how emotionally mature he is. If he doesn’t talk for 1 week straight, that’s a big sign that he is not mature enough to be in a relationship. Let him know that’s not gonna work long term and be willing to walk away. My mum used to give me silent treatment all the time and that hurt me a lot. I won’t allow my partner to do the same to me!
Whenever I get ignored after a fight it really puts me in this rage of texting multiple messages & calling. I get anxiety …. How do I control my emotions?
Yes, me too I'm crying. I'm in this new relationship we've been talking on and off for about 2 months now, but for a week now he's been giving me the silent treatment and ignoring my messages. It's so frustrating 😫 I miss the thrill of talking and meeting him. 😶😶😶😔😭😭😭😭💔
my bf said an inappropriate sexual comment to me about another girl which he defended was just a joke. Hours before a nerve-wrecking job interview, I hung up on him immediately after he said the comment because I was hurt by it even if it was a joke or not. After I told him that his comment offended me and that's why i reacted in such a way. His response was to insult me, insult our relationship, call me jealous, an idiot etc. After somehow he turned it around on me and I ended up apologizing!! After trying to reconcile and talk about what happened i found out i am blocked on every platform by him and there is no way to contact him. I am at a complete loss, I don't even know how to react.
Hi there, I'm so sorry that happened. Yes, that's not a good sign that he's not able to take personal responsibility for his actions that hurt you. And him turning it around on you was his way of being defensive and not owning up to his actions. That is not good. And the things he said to you are really disrespectful and should not be said in a relationship. there is never an excuse for name calling. And his actions of blocking you shows a level of immaturity. That makes me worried for the future because how will you two be able to get through really hard times if this type of behavior occurs. You need to be able to communicate effectively. I think for now, there's nothing you can do. He obviously doesn't want to talk, but when he eventually reaches out (because he will), you can put some boundaries in place that this type of behavior cannot happen again. And tell him how this made you feel and how it impacted you. It's important to be honest and authentic when you have the opportunity.
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I felt this so much. And this is helping me cope. I haven’t seen my significant other in almost a month but I have spoke to him within a week. But I feel like it’s drawn out and even if we don’t get back together I just want closure so my heart can heal
Its sounds easier than it is...Its so hard to approach someone that's projecting a "dont u dare" vibe and it can feel very intimidating and causes fear,anger,anxiety etc...when I try to talk he looks and listens but still says NOTHING
Thank you so much for the advice. This has saved my relationship. Even though it wasn't broken or anything, it was just leading a not so happy way. Thank youn
Are all of the comments by people that are in love with avoidant attachment style people? The most recent man I was dating gave me the silent treatment after a small disagreement. He refused to be an adult and speak in person or at least a phone conversation? Instead his last text to me was open ended and yet he put me on silent treatment for 3 weeks now. I am certain he is avoidant type meanwhile I am anxious attachment and it just won’t work. I’m trying to work on becoming more secure type.
My bf says horrible things when we argue, he tells me that my own family doesn't like me and that I should move to another area because nobody likes me". I believe some words can't be taken back after saying it. What he says is way to personal and I resent him for it now
That is what is happening to me right now, my boyfriend won’t talk to me and when ever I want to try to solve the problem he don’t want to hear me talking which sucks… I am crying as I am hearing this video it totally relates with me right now ;( …
Yes it is ! I'm glad you said that. I was thinking you were goin to promote the use of it. It is the COMPLETE OPPOSITE OF LOVE to totally ignore someone for anything more than an hour or so When it goes into days- That's just EVIL. Shame on anyone who thinks thats ok. It's what a narcisit will do.
Currently been on hold for 11 days. 11 long days and counting since she's showing no signs of wanting to resolve anything or even talk (quite contradictive since she did say she loved me and that she wasn't ignoring me the last time she spoke to me). I have tried to communicate openly, clearly and respectfully but she took offense and never addressed the actual issue that led up to this. She went into defense mode and kept changing the subject and projected things unto me to throw me off. Zero agency. And then she hit me with complete radio silence to top it off. I won't lie, it was rough.. but I've gone through the worst now, the sleepless nights and the anxiety over not talking/not knowing where we stand etc is over and I have come to accept this for what it is and it's so liberating letting go of this angst that never belonged to me in the first place. Not sure what her goal was but the only thing she accomplished with this stunt was to condition us both into not talking to each other and feel indifferent about it so the joke's on her. She can keep quiet all she wants because I've made peace with the silence and thanks to her immaturity I no longer miss her. So now I'm focused on me, my job, my buddies and the rest of the things in my life that needs my attention. And all that while she holds on to the bad shit on her end not knowing that I already moved on. Plot twist.
He will ignore me FOR DAYS. No response to my texts and phone calls at all. I have tried saying everything you’ve said, I’ve been trying for 2 years. But it does not work. He knows it hurts me. There’s no way to get him out of it. Then when he decides to talk to me he unleashes a rant of everything I did to upset him. I have never been with someone like this before.
I have a crush, and he likes me back. Two days ago, we fought. We argued about a promise I didn't keep. He's still ignoring me. I'm more worried since he's a bit different from the others. I want him back.
I heard and seen here in TH-cam have the same topic as yours but you are the only one who advice to have a communication and to have clarify everything with their partners. Most of the coaches says don't message him or her let him be.. don't approach him if he gives a silent treatment. And somehow that's work but most of the time lack of communication can kill any relationship. I'll take your advice and thank you so much mam
My partner did something to me that i disliked, i tried letting him know how i felt but he doesnt understand. So instead of arguing, I've just been ignoring him for 5 days now. I expect him to understand that I'm hurt and that he needs to apologise. But no, he just does the same and ignoring me back. So we're both have been ignoring each other for 5 days. Its very tiring. I just want him to understand my feelings.
This is almost exactly the situation that ive just went threw a few weeks ago and my boyfriend actually packed his things and left me .he really hurt my feelings and just like you i wanted him to understand where i was coming from i didn't expect this outcome at all ..and i really feel like he used this situation and left because he wanted to
@@missferlie8570 no, i still haven't resolved it sadly. Well he apologized but the same things keep repeating. So now I've just left home for a couple of days to ger some air.
@@atropabelladonna997 i haven't. More of these episodes has been happening so I've just pack some clothes and got out of the hoise without him knowing. I'll come back, but i just need to calm myself
I wouldn’t engage them until they decide to reach out. Then I’ll have the conversation about the impact etc. But before that, I’m ok with responding to silence w silence. Mentally and emotionally preparing to disengage permanently if necessary.
My husband always does that to me... I am dying inside. It’s been 7 years of marriage and now with a toddler it’s been intolerable for me now sometimes 😭what should I do please tell me..
I think I may have a problem. If you’re not talking to me for more than 2 days, I’m mourning the relationship already. I’m seeing people holding out for up to a month.
I’m sorry to say I’m guilty of this, but I do not do this to be cruel. I do it for as long as I am upset because I do not want to say something that I cannot take back.
Mine starts it during communication, everything is an argument 🤦🏻♀️ shuts down doesn’t participate never actually hears me unless it’s bad or he only takes away the bad when he’s pushed it into being a negative experience instead of hearing me. I’m getting to the point silence is where I’m just having to go.
The problem that I'm having is that, we haven't' seen each other since the day we had an argument/miscommunication. It's been almost 2 weeks now and he is not responding to my messages online. He keeps on ignoring me and not throwing me back any single words. So it feels like he left me hanging in the dark and there's no assurance that he will come back.
My bf after any type of small or big argument start giving silent treatment n he shows me that he is completely out of what just happened.n then he starts avoiding me for days .he doesn't receive my calls .my msges .n started blaming me for everything .he thinks he has changed a lot coz of d tortures; I HV made to him during our past days.it make me crazy sometimes .when he is cool he says he love me d most.he will do anything for me.he has done many sacrifices for me.etc etc.after my apology to him he says u r responsible for my this bhv.he postpones every discussion after our fight .even if m trying to contact with him.but whenever he reacts like he just dnt care for anything I loss my coolness n start arguing with him.n then he blame for this what should I do ?? I love him so much .I dnt want to break this relationship but his negative mentality is killing me day by day.how could he blame me for everything.no single thing is there for which he takes his responsibility n apologize..but yes when is cool he is a good person .he is very cool m calm at that time.but i can't convince him for anything that he has done to me is wrong n he should apologize .
It sounds like both of you can improve your communication skills. he can open up more and express himself and you can practice not losing your cool and learning to express yourself without escalating emotions. I think that if this goal can be a priority for your both, your relationship will benefit entirely.
My bf is quite similar 💔 n I too don't wanna let go... Also they always make u feel u at fault and put the blame on u... But won't even try to apologize or make peace.... Are u guys any better now?
@@deliannchetty_ no...he is still d same.bt yes we r together.coz I think it's ohk ...u can't make themm understand who dnt want to understand.give him time he will be back.m practicing to stay calm these days..Nd it's working ....though it doesn't help him realize his faults bt fighting can be prevented 😊
I dont play games i txt and reach out always be the first to say sorry but if he doesnt want to i dont force it,im just happy to give my best,i dont want to wait,its good to be honest i tried and if he doesnt thats his problem and if i dont bother after that.
I accidently forgot areally loosely planned date with a friend. And made plans with my boyfriend. Now my friend has given me the silent treatment for about 2 weeks during the Christmas break instead of talking it out. I wish I found this video earlier because I've been texting and calling her all week long, about me apologizing, trying to make it up to her and telling her I'm disappointed in how shes acting and asking if she would talk it out with me. This has hence forth sparked my depression by a lot, happy new year to me :,). Now at this point I am not sure what to do (she's also done this before)
It's up to your friend to be mature and express how she feels. You did your part, and you went above and beyond to try and make amends. So now give her the space. Sometimes people do this for attention to, and like a said, a way to punish others. So now it's time to take care of yourself by disengaging and allow her to come to you. It's immature and cruel to give you the cold shoulder for so long. I wish you the best.
The advice is good, and mature. But if it's the same person doing it all the time, the mature attitude turns into auto humilliation. You can only do so much. A solicited apology is not a sincere apology. 1 second ago
My husband does this, I've tried everything. Explained to him this isn't healthy, he's agreed to try to not do it again, but nothing ever changes. He does it every day now, I'll try to communicate with him about something normal, like a question about planning our vacation, first he'll refuse to answer saying it's "too early in the morning" (to even answer a yes/no question? wth) Then if I say anything else about it he gets even weirder and shuts down and doesn't answer me which leaves me feeling okkk what the heck, if I continue with the topic he loses it, gets irrational and goes away being silent for days. It's insane, he literally cannot communicate or act like a grown up.
I need help please Me and my girlfriend had an argument and I called her to talk but she said she is sick and needs some space I said okay and we are not speaking for 2 days now I’m planning to see her in 4 days We didn’t saw each other for month or two
i’m going through the same thing but i’m in a LDR, my girlfriend had fallen into depression lately so her mood and her lack of energy towards me has changed, it’s not the same thing like before, shes been distancing herself from me a lot right now and takes 40 mins or 2 hours to reply to me, at times i think she lost interest in me or she’s tired of me. but in your situation try asking her what’s wrong only once, if she says nothing don’t ask again, she will tell you when she’s ready, if she’s ignoring u ignore her back, it may hurt to do it but it will cause her to miss u and come back to see what’s going on.
@@wacky_strawberry1233 She actually messaged me saying something bout her nails And Talk for Lil And then i i stopped cause i can’t pretend Like nothing happend so im going to see her
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As I watch this, I'm crying 😭😭😭worried about my relationship...I think i messed on my part but I've been apologizing but nun is working...I really really live my boyfriend but hz not talking to me😭😭😭😭😭😭is he still cooling? It's been 3 days now since we had an argument....the silence is killing me
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Hi dear this video was worth watching thanku for amazing content... I m 25 and i've never been in any kinda relationship but during a fight or argument with my sibs or frnds i m always a person who used to give silent treatment to them.. I want u to make a video for my kinda people...for whome starting a conversation is soo much difficult, its like not in not in my control. And this situation hurts me way more than the other person is experiencing.. My condition becomes so pathetic, i feel so lonely and left out but still i cant help myself out... Those people are so lucky who can start a conversation even after a serious fight, they are God gifted and i love them soo much... If i find such people in my life i'll never want to lose them because i can't change my this bad habit its very tough for me... Once i tried and i remember how difficult it was for me.. 😭I don't care whatever u may call it, an insecurity or blah blah But plz help me with that because i m so scared to have a guy in my life who will give me the silent treatment because it will only get prolonged and none of us will make a start😭😥
I felt my boyfriend distance himself after he got covid or sick. Then after the changes in him when we hangout, even when we don’t fight and haven’t fought really just affected me. Then I expressed to him that and he goes I’m okay, just not feeling well. Then a few weeks go by and I explain something that hurt me and we get into a bad argument and he just shuts down and doesn’t wanna actually work out the issue with me and now I’m ignored. He literally attacked me with words instead of wanting to resolve the problems I felt I needed to bring up. We haven’t talked since yesterday when we had the argument and he just left me in the cold. This morning after controlling my emotions and calming down, I messaged him clearing up everything and trying to explain what maybe I didn’t make clear yesterday and made it clear I just wanna find a solution and my feelings were hurt and I also said his probably were to. I just want to have a conversation and he’s okay to text me when he’s ready to talk. He didn’t respond. My petty ass wants to ignore him but now that I have watched this, I will be verbal with him about how hurt this space and the ignoring me has made me feel. I’m hoping he apologizes and accepts that he did that, and explains why and doesn’t do it again.
When i speak and communicate..he walks away...when im silent he runs back to me..i told him im tired just freakn listen and talk ish out!...so i walked away all together...
I'm in this situation right now. No communication at all . It's been 4th day he did not contact me.. especially we are far from each other. I'm here in Canada and his in Uae :( . I tried calling him like 28times in his number even in what's app and Facebook.. and it's freaking me out .. what should I do? He doesn't even want to talk or approach me.
Don't bother him for a week. Give him time to cool off like 1 or 2 weeks.. just tell him you are willing to have a conversation when he's ready. That's it. Leave him alone give him time to cool off. We have the same situation right now. I haven't heard from him 1 week and I message him earlier asking are you willing to talk to me?. Waiting for his reply right now .lol
Has there been any progress.. Should I also just stop texting My bf and tell him cool off... Do u think guys do this to avoid saying it's over but then actually it is?
One of my family members said some out of the way things to me about being hurt over a guy and my felt like it has been stabbed real bad. I had my tearful break downs & decided not to say a word to my parents. Sometimes you have to use silent treatment in order to teach someone a lesson for hurting you & making you feel worse.
Not accurate for everyone if my partner argued with me in the past intensely it would take me a few days to get over it and I would need a few days to get myself mental health back to normal again and would need genuine space for a few days at least. Not out of ill will at all
I hate to admit it but I recently had to give someone I love the silent treatment...It was the only way to get them to listen after the way they've been acting recently... I text them that I needed some space and to cool off... That scared them so bad they started frantically texting me and they cried the whole time... I only let it happen between my lunch hour until the time I got home... We went to dinner and talked it out... We have made up but I told them just how bad I was hurt and could not take it that I love them and trust them I'm just protecting my heart... It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do... But when someone is just so stubborn you have to get dramatic tears me up that I had to hurt them so bad to get them to listen...
Well Atleast u had the decency to say u need time to cool off... N u guys made a way to make up... My bf has not been giving a dam. 💔.. All he said was 'I'm tired, all I want is peace of mind.. Stop sending this messages. Let me be' what dies this mean?
we fight now but i dont want me first always i want him sorry on me not me all the time. so much better i keep silent let see if he text me and say sorry😢
Telling him to stop talking to me cause i really pissed off and he actually really stop talking to me for 24 hours now, makes me feel awkward to say hi again.
My husband won’t talk to me for days the longest was 2 weeks he don’t eat my dinner I make him. He gives snare looks. Just last week he ignore me for 3 days straight then he tried to fix it by making me breakfast but we didn’t discuss it at all. I was trying to be respectful and give him his space. I didn’t see it as a sign of emotional abuse. I look at it as he needed space and I need to allow him to have that. I was trying to be a respectful wife especially since the fight was more my fault in the first place. I was very emotionally abusive to him criticize and name calling being a really crazy immature unhealthy person in my relationship. He had enough and just wanted me to leave him alone so I did exactly what he requested. I wasn’t always this way now when we fight I just want to hurt him cuz I been hurt by him the way he not supportive or respectful or validating my feelings and needs. It’s very unhealthy and toxic and want it to a stop and start fresh with him again. Believe it not we truly do love each other just a lot has been going on this past year my health deteriorated tremendously etc.
Many things he has done told me that he doesn't care about me like he used to, so once I text about this to express myself how I feel mad about it and now he is quiet and doesn't reply anything for 3 days now. Is that call silent treatment? And what should I do?
From now on i will not be getting involved with anyone that uses this disgusting cowardly behaviour. Seriously just find an adult instead you'll make yourself ill trying to cope.
Hey ! Me and my boyfriend got into a fight both of us , then he went so silent... i showed up and called 2 days after the fight and tried to apologise ; and he just ignored me so badly ... a week passed by and i posted a cute picture of mine on Snapchat ( private just for him to see it ) guess what he unfriended me on snapchat ...
My crush( he's my friend) and I fought on Tuesday and all bcoz of stupid stuff like who was a good advisor am actually the type of person that doesn't stand bullying so I defended one of my friends and he was like u should have taken the case to the teacher instead of fighting and I got angry and told him to get lost and now he doesn't even make an eye contact with me I miss him so badly 💔💔💔💔😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I got response but it was completely ignoring the text that acknowledges the silent treatment. Wrote it exactly like the tips in this video. Basically texted me that he was eating and a song not even relevant to situation. I’m disheartened.
My girlfriend is doing that to me she isn't talking with me at the moment 😔 but I didn't send her a message couple of days ago telling her to forgive me and what I felt and she saw it but nothing yet I miss her alot haven't seen her.. I hope this tips help me alot with her .
I need help. On Christmas day my gf and I had a fight on our way home from exploring lit-up Xmas neighborhoods. I video called my dad to say Hi and she demanded I hang up and instead be present with her and our 23month daughter instead. I stopped talking to her after I called her out for being controlling. I think she felt i wasnt being present and attentive to her and our daughter. It has been 4 days and we completely avoid eachother and I've sleeping in another bed alone. She is also 4 months pregnant. Today I txt her and said "When you feel comfortable, I would like to apologize and reconnect." New years eve 2021 is around the corner and if this continues I'm afraid for our relationship. Help... anyone....?
how about guys give silent treatment to girl after a fight coz they just wanted to calm the fuck down and struggle for healing before coming back because they don't want to continue to escalate the situation. sometimes it is not abuse, it's self healing.
I must admit that I am the one who gives the silent treatment.Ok,not days, max 1.But believe me or not, is not the reaction I want to have, but I just feel stuck in this reaction. I don t have THE ENERGY to talk.Any advises? my mom was the same ...
It's okay that you need space. Just let them know that you need space and that you'll get back to them as soon as you feel better. Leaving without any info is wrong. That is abuse. Self care ain't.
Silent treatment is considered as emotional abuse and what lead to silent treatment isnt..strange..People.usually talk if the other person says sorry genuinly..no one wants to give silent treatment all.life.
Hi..... I was talking to my boyfriend later I heard him talk Sam things that is no good I ask him twice, becz of that he get mad why are u asking me twice while I told you I cannot say that, I told him there’s no any problem for me to ask you twice becz I want to know if is true what i hear or what.... But later he cut the call i texted him he say leave me alone and now is 3 day he hasn’t call or text.... what should I don’t???? And most of time he do like that and I don’t like that thing
The first person who reaches out is the one losing. If he is giving the silent treatment after a fight and you are the one reaching out then you lose and he will know he can just step on you and it affects you. You gives them power. Bad advice!
I have a question to ask when you are having problem with your girlfriend,like i cause the argument my self but by talking to her in bad manner but apologise later but she said she don't want to see me because i invited her for us to see because i really think she has forgiven me but she haven't but rejecting my invitation and telling me she come over to see me tomorrow if she wants,,the wost part of it now she is not replying to my chatts.so i will like to know how to go on with this her silence pls?
How can I break my partner from the silent treatments? I want to find a video on how does the silent treatments effect the one doing it? How did they get that way their history of why? What good purpose is it??? Can’t that know that it is not good if they truly love you. I want to know about them, I see countless of videos of people being the victim. I want to know how this ticks on the silent treatments doer. Any videos on this subject? Great video. Kudos to you hun 💐🌹👍.
Ok I also read that the doer doing the silent treatment it is unhealthy and for the victims, it has built up anger in my partner to where she has heart problems 😮. Is this true it affects the doer’s Health?
Thank you so much for the comment and the video suggestion. Great questions by the way :) The silent treatment is common for men who are passive aggressive. There are other reasons why the silent treatment happens, but for a lot of men, this tends to be the most common. They completely shut down when confrontations happen with their partner. This could have stemmed from being yelled at too many times or being controlled by certain people in their life. The purpose of the silent treatment is a way to punish and control their partner. It definitely affects BOTH people in the relationship because nothing ever gets resolved. The silent treatment is cruel to do. The best way to break them from the silent treatment is to tell him that you know what he's doing and that it doesn't resolve anything. Be calm and matter of fact. You can talk to him, even if he doesn't talk back. Let him know that you're not okay with being treated like this and that it is damaging to the relationship. Most likely he'll still stay silent, and that's fine. Let him do what he does. All you control is you. The key is for him to listen to what you have to say, because what you have to say is important. You model for him how to communicate. That will help teach him how to talk to you the next time he's upset. Thank you again for the great comment. I hope this answered your question :)
Iam watching this and crying 🙂
Me too
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Me too and I’m pregnant of his baby
This advice sounds like begging someone to talk to them.. to be honest I feel like no one should have to say please call me I’m ready to talk to you, or I’m hurt. Or asking your partner for an apology! If it doesn’t come from their heart why should we ask for it!? They should apologize because they want to not because you ask for it..
This is true but it's so difficult when you in the situation...
Exactly. This doesn't work on someone who can turn their feelings for you on and off. Especially the self righteous sadistic type. The nicer you are the longer the treatment, this will only work with mature empathic adults .
I was just about to type this
Stop romantizicing this shit. People don't read minds. If something is wrong, it needs to be addressed. Simple as that
@@IDontHaveTheAnswers EXACTLY
My ex LOVED watching me squirm with anxiety with his silent treatment.
Ugh, that sounds awful. It's such a torturous thing to do to someone.
Do the same
@@hourounmaqsourat i already do the same but he doesn't give a fuck 😂😭
That’s why he’s an ex hey!!
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My mom always taught me if I have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I use the silent treatment in my last long term relationship. Now, I know it is not an effective way to resolve a conflict.
How did it go mate?
He literally starts a fight- says mean things and sleeps like a baby! Like he is so satisfied for what he did! Don’t give a crap about me crying next to him
Same here!! I walked out of the relationship. Trust me it hurt me very much but as the days passed by I forgot about him within one month. Whenever I missed him I reminded myself the moments when I was broken beside him and he didn't even cared and it did good for me as the days passed by my love turned into hatred toward him now I don't give a fuck about him, he lost me!!
That is narcissism
After every argument she would give me the silent treatment for four or five days at a time. The last time was for TEN days, we both knew it was over by then tho. I'm no contact now and will remain so.
Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your story Andy. Yes, that is extremely excessive to not talk for that long, and a very unhealthy situation to be in.
@@KristinCoaching my girlfriend and I had big fright I sleep on couch how i made up with her everytime i want make up with her she walk off and told me leave her alone my girlfriend kiss me but pull way she know i am taken why my girlfriend upset with me and Jealous of my ex ???. she is 45 and i am 35 .
I liked this, except for asking for an apology. In my opinion you should never ask for an apology, it defeats the whole purpose. It will either lead to an argument or an insincere apology.
Yep especially when dealing with men who God forbid you make them feel like you're "telling them what to do"
Some apology are insincere but people apologize anyways cause it is the right thing to do. You may not understand what you did wrong, but seeing how it hurt the person you should apologize regardless. 🤷🏽♀️
Ignore them right back
Work every time 🙌
Every time I have mimicked a man’s ignore behavior, it turns into a week of silence and then he is onto the next one.
Janell Hihi so me, and it works 😂😂😂
Yes i agree.
It works too. But give a duration how long it is. 1 Week is not good in any relationship with out talking. But I guess ignore him will work or maybe don't hehe
3 months of the silent treatment. I'm having
to see a counselor. Unbelievable.
I'm happy to hear you are seeing someone right now. 3 months is a very long time and seems like a punishment almost. Not a healthy way to handle things.
Might be a Narcissistic
leave him
All I have left is leaving. I’m dating the kind of narcissist that forces you to break up with them so they don’t have to no matter what happens to me. They would rather ruin everything and me than just see themselves. 6-7 years later and they haven’t changed a bit while I had to change a lot to stay. I deserve much better. Thank you for this.
Great video. Great advice. Don't give up on the person who is giving you the silent treatment, but make them aware and give them a chance to change.
My girlfriend does this constantly sometimes days after the event.. she gets upset we talk about it she’s fine then days later she gets upset and decides to ignore me it is super hurtful and it’s always over the smallest things .. I hate arguments and negative energy
You need to dig deeper. When we women act this way, there is still some remaining unresolved issues which = resentments communicate better. Think tone and word choices. Try it and good luck! :)
Dump her.
I have realised that just observing a guy go silent and how long it takes for him to reengage is a good way to figure out how emotionally mature he is. If he doesn’t talk for 1 week straight, that’s a big sign that he is not mature enough to be in a relationship. Let him know that’s not gonna work long term and be willing to walk away. My mum used to give me silent treatment all the time and that hurt me a lot. I won’t allow my partner to do the same to me!
Whenever I get ignored after a fight it really puts me in this rage of texting multiple messages & calling. I get anxiety …. How do I control my emotions?
Right!
I hate how humiliating this feels
I feel second hand embarrassment bc this is me
I have seen silent treatment make men resort to mass texting/ calling from anxiety too😂
@@millionshadesofdarkness2165you think its funny? Seek help for your discusting attitude
Yes. I’m crying too. I want this to be over. I wanna hear from him again.
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Yes, me too I'm crying. I'm in this new relationship we've been talking on and off for about 2 months now, but for a week now he's been giving me the silent treatment and ignoring my messages. It's so frustrating 😫 I miss the thrill of talking and meeting him. 😶😶😶😔😭😭😭😭💔
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My bf is giving me the silent treatment. Going into our 3rd day. He did it last week too. It's really draining.
Girl eventually if you don't dump him, it will be relief.
Leave him
my bf said an inappropriate sexual comment to me about another girl which he defended was just a joke. Hours before a nerve-wrecking job interview, I hung up on him immediately after he said the comment because I was hurt by it even if it was a joke or not. After I told him that his comment offended me and that's why i reacted in such a way. His response was to insult me, insult our relationship, call me jealous, an idiot etc. After somehow he turned it around on me and I ended up apologizing!! After trying to reconcile and talk about what happened i found out i am blocked on every platform by him and there is no way to contact him. I am at a complete loss, I don't even know how to react.
Hi there, I'm so sorry that happened. Yes, that's not a good sign that he's not able to take personal responsibility for his actions that hurt you. And him turning it around on you was his way of being defensive and not owning up to his actions. That is not good. And the things he said to you are really disrespectful and should not be said in a relationship. there is never an excuse for name calling. And his actions of blocking you shows a level of immaturity. That makes me worried for the future because how will you two be able to get through really hard times if this type of behavior occurs. You need to be able to communicate effectively. I think for now, there's nothing you can do. He obviously doesn't want to talk, but when he eventually reaches out (because he will), you can put some boundaries in place that this type of behavior cannot happen again. And tell him how this made you feel and how it impacted you. It's important to be honest and authentic when you have the opportunity.
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😂😂you got ghosted it’s game Over you might aswell do onlyfans for me
Grow up
I always do it after a fight. Thx for letting me know its bad to do this
I felt this so much. And this is helping me cope. I haven’t seen my significant other in almost a month but I have spoke to him within a week. But I feel like it’s drawn out and even if we don’t get back together I just want closure so my heart can heal
Its sounds easier than it is...Its so hard to approach someone that's projecting a "dont u dare" vibe and it can feel very intimidating and causes fear,anger,anxiety etc...when I try to talk he looks and listens but still says NOTHING
Thank you so much for the advice. This has saved my relationship. Even though it wasn't broken or anything, it was just leading a not so happy way. Thank youn
Are all of the comments by people that are in love with avoidant attachment style people? The most recent man I was dating gave me the silent treatment after a small disagreement. He refused to be an adult and speak in person or at least a phone conversation? Instead his last text to me was open ended and yet he put me on silent treatment for 3 weeks now. I am certain he is avoidant type meanwhile I am anxious attachment and it just won’t work. I’m trying to work on becoming more secure type.
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They know good and well how it impacts you, validating so gives them satisfaction. Live your life, be unbothered. They feed off begging and pleading.
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My bf says horrible things when we argue, he tells me that my own family doesn't like me and that I should move to another area because nobody likes me". I believe some words can't be taken back after saying it. What he says is way to personal and I resent him for it now
That is what is happening to me right now, my boyfriend won’t talk to me and when ever I want to try to solve the problem he don’t want to hear me talking which sucks… I am crying as I am hearing this video it totally relates with me right now ;( …
Yes it is ! I'm glad you said that. I was thinking you were goin to promote the use of it.
It is the COMPLETE OPPOSITE OF LOVE to totally ignore someone for anything more than an hour or so
When it goes into days- That's just EVIL.
Shame on anyone who thinks thats ok.
It's what a narcisit will do.
Wulf Claw exactly I think that is very wrong..
Relationships can turn so cruel
Currently been on hold for 11 days. 11 long days and counting since she's showing no signs of wanting to resolve anything or even talk (quite contradictive since she did say she loved me and that she wasn't ignoring me the last time she spoke to me). I have tried to communicate openly, clearly and respectfully but she took offense and never addressed the actual issue that led up to this. She went into defense mode and kept changing the subject and projected things unto me to throw me off. Zero agency. And then she hit me with complete radio silence to top it off. I won't lie, it was rough.. but I've gone through the worst now, the sleepless nights and the anxiety over not talking/not knowing where we stand etc is over and I have come to accept this for what it is and it's so liberating letting go of this angst that never belonged to me in the first place. Not sure what her goal was but the only thing she accomplished with this stunt was to condition us both into not talking to each other and feel indifferent about it so the joke's on her. She can keep quiet all she wants because I've made peace with the silence and thanks to her immaturity I no longer miss her. So now I'm focused on me, my job, my buddies and the rest of the things in my life that needs my attention. And all that while she holds on to the bad shit on her end not knowing that I already moved on. Plot twist.
Ignoring them for more than 24 hours is really damaging to emotional self esteem and the person who experiences it starts to resent their partner.
He will ignore me FOR DAYS. No response to my texts and phone calls at all. I have tried saying everything you’ve said, I’ve been trying for 2 years. But it does not work. He knows it hurts me. There’s no way to get him out of it. Then when he decides to talk to me he unleashes a rant of everything I did to upset him. I have never been with someone like this before.
I have a crush, and he likes me back. Two days ago, we fought. We argued about a promise I didn't keep. He's still ignoring me. I'm more worried since he's a bit different from the others. I want him back.
These relationship coaches are responsible for more breakdowns than ever , this lady looks about 14 how the hell is she giving advice
I took my ex bf back after he gave me the silent treatment for two weeks,but I ended up resenting him for it so I decided to let him go.
Two weeks!? Damn that's long. . .
Good!
I heard and seen here in TH-cam have the same topic as yours but you are the only one who advice to have a communication and to have clarify everything with their partners. Most of the coaches says don't message him or her let him be.. don't approach him if he gives a silent treatment. And somehow that's work but most of the time lack of communication can kill any relationship. I'll take your advice and thank you so much mam
My partner did something to me that i disliked, i tried letting him know how i felt but he doesnt understand. So instead of arguing, I've just been ignoring him for 5 days now. I expect him to understand that I'm hurt and that he needs to apologise. But no, he just does the same and ignoring me back. So we're both have been ignoring each other for 5 days. Its very tiring. I just want him to understand my feelings.
Hi. How did you resolve this issue?
Oh its so miserable situation dear how did u cope with it...? Because i think i m just like u so plz guide me how to deal with it?
This is almost exactly the situation that ive just went threw a few weeks ago and my boyfriend actually packed his things and left me .he really hurt my feelings and just like you i wanted him to understand where i was coming from i didn't expect this outcome at all ..and i really feel like he used this situation and left because he wanted to
@@missferlie8570 no, i still haven't resolved it sadly. Well he apologized but the same things keep repeating. So now I've just left home for a couple of days to ger some air.
@@atropabelladonna997 i haven't. More of these episodes has been happening so I've just pack some clothes and got out of the hoise without him knowing. I'll come back, but i just need to calm myself
I wouldn’t engage them until they decide to reach out. Then I’ll have the conversation about the impact etc. But before that, I’m ok with responding to silence w silence. Mentally and emotionally preparing to disengage permanently if necessary.
This really hit me hard. Thanks for the advice.
You're very welcome!
My husband always does that to me... I am dying inside. It’s been 7 years of marriage and now with a toddler it’s been intolerable for me now sometimes 😭what should I do please tell me..
I think I may have a problem. If you’re not talking to me for more than 2 days, I’m mourning the relationship already. I’m seeing people holding out for up to a month.
I’m sorry to say I’m guilty of this, but I do not do this to be cruel. I do it for as long as I am upset because I do not want to say something that I cannot take back.
It’s one thing if you make that known to the other party. It’s another if you say nothing and let things fester.
Don’t give the narcissist what they want!!!!! Let them cool down but never give in to them….
these responses worked for me😂😂he reengagged after silent treatment…Thanku😇😇
Does anyone else’s mom get offended by literally nothing and then give your dad the silent treatment even though he did nothing wrong ?
It's awesome, that you have noticed this, stay aware... for yourself in life .... blessings
Role reverse my dad wud act thateeay
I can’t believe this is happening to me and others smh.
I just called him and we spoke hopefully things will get resolved
Mine starts it during communication, everything is an argument 🤦🏻♀️ shuts down doesn’t participate never actually hears me unless it’s bad or he only takes away the bad when he’s pushed it into being a negative experience instead of hearing me. I’m getting to the point silence is where I’m just having to go.
The problem that I'm having is that, we haven't' seen each other since the day we had an argument/miscommunication. It's been almost 2 weeks now and he is not responding to my messages online. He keeps on ignoring me and not throwing me back any single words. So it feels like he left me hanging in the dark and there's no assurance that he will come back.
Hey, what happened now? Did her ever respond to you? You guys are still together?
My bf after any type of small or big argument start giving silent treatment n he shows me that he is completely out of what just happened.n then he starts avoiding me for days .he doesn't receive my calls .my msges .n started blaming me for everything .he thinks he has changed a lot coz of d tortures; I HV made to him during our past days.it make me crazy sometimes .when he is cool he says he love me d most.he will do anything for me.he has done many sacrifices for me.etc etc.after my apology to him he says u r responsible for my this bhv.he postpones every discussion after our fight .even if m trying to contact with him.but whenever he reacts like he just dnt care for anything I loss my coolness n start arguing with him.n then he blame for this what should I do ?? I love him so much .I dnt want to break this relationship but his negative mentality is killing me day by day.how could he blame me for everything.no single thing is there for which he takes his responsibility n apologize..but yes when is cool he is a good person .he is very cool m calm at that time.but i can't convince him for anything that he has done to me is wrong n he should apologize .
It sounds like both of you can improve your communication skills. he can open up more and express himself and you can practice not losing your cool and learning to express yourself without escalating emotions. I think that if this goal can be a priority for your both, your relationship will benefit entirely.
he is an introvert .I'll definitely try from my side to improve our communication skills n make him speak .😁thnq dear
My bf is quite similar 💔 n I too don't wanna let go... Also they always make u feel u at fault and put the blame on u... But won't even try to apologize or make peace.... Are u guys any better now?
@@deliannchetty_ no...he is still d same.bt yes we r together.coz I think it's ohk ...u can't make themm understand who dnt want to understand.give him time he will be back.m practicing to stay calm these days..Nd it's working ....though it doesn't help him realize his faults bt fighting can be prevented 😊
@@kangkanatalukdar5483 hay good to know u guys are fine... ☺️
I dont play games i txt and reach out always be the first to say sorry but if he doesnt want to i dont force it,im just happy to give my best,i dont want to wait,its good to be honest i tried and if he doesnt thats his problem and if i dont bother after that.
I accidently forgot areally loosely planned date with a friend. And made plans with my boyfriend. Now my friend has given me the silent treatment for about 2 weeks during the Christmas break instead of talking it out. I wish I found this video earlier because I've been texting and calling her all week long, about me apologizing, trying to make it up to her and telling her I'm disappointed in how shes acting and asking if she would talk it out with me. This has hence forth sparked my depression by a lot, happy new year to me :,). Now at this point I am not sure what to do (she's also done this before)
It's up to your friend to be mature and express how she feels. You did your part, and you went above and beyond to try and make amends. So now give her the space. Sometimes people do this for attention to, and like a said, a way to punish others. So now it's time to take care of yourself by disengaging and allow her to come to you. It's immature and cruel to give you the cold shoulder for so long. I wish you the best.
@@KristinCoaching Thank you so much for the advice, I felt so in the dark. I will definetly follow it!
@@thatgirl5410 you are so welcome. Best of luck to you little teacup ;)
The advice is good, and mature. But if it's the same person doing it all the time, the mature attitude turns into auto humilliation. You can only do so much. A solicited apology is not a sincere apology.
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Thank you! 👏🏻
My husband does this, I've tried everything. Explained to him this isn't healthy, he's agreed to try to not do it again, but nothing ever changes. He does it every day now, I'll try to communicate with him about something normal, like a question about planning our vacation, first he'll refuse to answer saying it's "too early in the morning" (to even answer a yes/no question? wth) Then if I say anything else about it he gets even weirder and shuts down and doesn't answer me which leaves me feeling okkk what the heck, if I continue with the topic he loses it, gets irrational and goes away being silent for days. It's insane, he literally cannot communicate or act like a grown up.
Look up grey rocking
I need help please
Me and my girlfriend had an argument and I called her to talk but she said she is sick and needs some space
I said okay and we are not speaking for 2 days now
I’m planning to see her in 4 days
We didn’t saw each other for month or two
i’m going through the same thing but i’m in a LDR, my girlfriend had fallen into depression lately so her mood and her lack of energy towards me has changed, it’s not the same thing like before, shes been distancing herself from me a lot right now and takes 40 mins or 2 hours to reply to me, at times i think she lost interest in me or she’s tired of me. but in your situation try asking her what’s wrong only once, if she says nothing don’t ask again, she will tell you when she’s ready, if she’s ignoring u ignore her back, it may hurt to do it but it will cause her to miss u and come back to see what’s going on.
@@wacky_strawberry1233 She actually messaged me saying something bout her nails
And Talk for Lil And then i i stopped cause i can’t pretend Like nothing happend so im going to see her
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As I watch this, I'm crying 😭😭😭worried about my relationship...I think i messed on my part but I've been apologizing but nun is working...I really really live my boyfriend but hz not talking to me😭😭😭😭😭😭is he still cooling? It's been 3 days now since we had an argument....the silence is killing me
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And what happens if they know how much it hurts you, yet continue to do it in future arguments?
Hi dear this video was worth watching thanku for amazing content...
I m 25 and i've never been in any kinda relationship but during a fight or argument with my sibs or frnds i m always a person who used to give silent treatment to them.. I want u to make a video for my kinda people...for whome starting a conversation is soo much difficult, its like not in not in my control. And this situation hurts me way more than the other person is experiencing.. My condition becomes so pathetic, i feel so lonely and left out but still i cant help myself out... Those people are so lucky who can start a conversation even after a serious fight, they are God gifted and i love them soo much... If i find such people in my life i'll never want to lose them because i can't change my this bad habit its very tough for me... Once i tried and i remember how difficult it was for me.. 😭I don't care whatever u may call it, an insecurity or blah blah
But plz help me with that because i m so scared to have a guy in my life who will give me the silent treatment because it will only get prolonged and none of us will make a start😭😥
You should’ve seen my face when you said ask them to apologize 😭 but I understand why and I don’t mind apologizing at all
I felt my boyfriend distance himself after he got covid or sick. Then after the changes in him when we hangout, even when we don’t fight and haven’t fought really just affected me. Then I expressed to him that and he goes I’m okay, just not feeling well. Then a few weeks go by and I explain something that hurt me and we get into a bad argument and he just shuts down and doesn’t wanna actually work out the issue with me and now I’m ignored. He literally attacked me with words instead of wanting to resolve the problems I felt I needed to bring up. We haven’t talked since yesterday when we had the argument and he just left me in the cold.
This morning after controlling my emotions and calming down, I messaged him clearing up everything and trying to explain what maybe I didn’t make clear yesterday and made it clear I just wanna find a solution and my feelings were hurt and I also said his probably were to. I just want to have a conversation and he’s okay to text me when he’s ready to talk. He didn’t respond. My petty ass wants to ignore him but now that I have watched this, I will be verbal with him about how hurt this space and the ignoring me has made me feel. I’m hoping he apologizes and accepts that he did that, and explains why and doesn’t do it again.
But it's after if they re-engage I'm scared I'm going to screw things up again. I probably need coaching with this which I cannot afford.
What if her silent treatment isn’t silent, but really short and nothing to do with you trying to reconcile? Then what?
When i speak and communicate..he walks away...when im silent he runs back to me..i told him im tired just freakn listen and talk ish out!...so i walked away all together...
I'm in this situation right now. No communication at all . It's been 4th day he did not contact me.. especially we are far from each other. I'm here in Canada and his in Uae :( . I tried calling him like 28times in his number even in what's app and Facebook.. and it's freaking me out .. what should I do? He doesn't even want to talk or approach me.
Don't bother him for a week. Give him time to cool off like 1 or 2 weeks.. just tell him you are willing to have a conversation when he's ready. That's it. Leave him alone give him time to cool off. We have the same situation right now. I haven't heard from him 1 week and I message him earlier asking are you willing to talk to me?. Waiting for his reply right now .lol
Has there been any progress.. Should I also just stop texting My bf and tell him cool off... Do u think guys do this to avoid saying it's over but then actually it is?
Thank you Kristie. I really needed it.
what about friends? if I said something harmful in anger and I try to fix it and say sorry but get silent treatment?
5 years of silent treatment from 2 sisters. Very childish behavior in my humble opinion. Time for people to grow up
One of my family members said some out of the way things to me about being hurt over a guy and my felt like it has been stabbed real bad. I had my tearful break downs & decided not to say a word to my parents. Sometimes you have to use silent treatment in order to teach someone a lesson for hurting you & making you feel worse.
My bf is just reading my messages and not replying to me after a fight. This is the first time he’s done this... TT I don’t know what to do.
Whenever we fought before, he usually still tells me he loves me and try not to make things big. It drives me nuts he’s doing this now
렉시Lexy BRUh Same it’s been almost 2 months now tho slsbsosb
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@@nekonewa72 girl i hope you moved on ik this comment is from 10 months ago
Not accurate for everyone if my partner argued with me in the past intensely it would take me a few days to get over it and I would need a few days to get myself mental health back to normal again and would need genuine space for a few days at least. Not out of ill will at all
I hate to admit it but I recently had to give someone I love the silent treatment...It was the only way to get them to listen after the way they've been acting recently... I text them that I needed some space and to cool off... That scared them so bad they started frantically texting me and they cried the whole time... I only let it happen between my lunch hour until the time I got home... We went to dinner and talked it out... We have made up but I told them just how bad I was hurt and could not take it that I love them and trust them I'm just protecting my heart... It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do... But when someone is just so stubborn you have to get dramatic tears me up that I had to hurt them so bad to get them to listen...
Well Atleast u had the decency to say u need time to cool off... N u guys made a way to make up... My bf has not been giving a dam. 💔.. All he said was 'I'm tired, all I want is peace of mind.. Stop sending this messages. Let me be' what dies this mean?
What if your partner and their family threatens you to call the police on you if you go to their house to talk.
we fight now but i dont want me first always i want him sorry on me not me all the time. so much better i keep silent let see if he text me and say sorry😢
In your opinion what is the difference between no contact vs silent treatment
if he is irritable check his health he might have adhd google if u have time...
Telling him to stop talking to me cause i really pissed off and he actually really stop talking to me for 24 hours now, makes me feel awkward to say hi again.
My husband won’t talk to me for days the longest was 2 weeks he don’t eat my dinner I make him. He gives snare looks. Just last week he ignore me for 3 days straight then he tried to fix it by making me breakfast but we didn’t discuss it at all. I was trying to be respectful and give him his space. I didn’t see it as a sign of emotional abuse. I look at it as he needed space and I need to allow him to have that.
I was trying to be a respectful wife especially since the fight was more my fault in the first place. I was very emotionally abusive to him criticize and name calling being a really crazy immature unhealthy person in my relationship. He had enough and just wanted me to leave him alone so I did exactly what he requested. I wasn’t always this way now when we fight I just want to hurt him cuz I been hurt by him the way he not supportive or respectful or validating my feelings and needs. It’s very unhealthy and toxic and want it to a stop and start fresh with him again. Believe it not we truly do love each other just a lot has been going on this past year my health deteriorated tremendously etc.
Many things he has done told me that he doesn't care about me like he used to, so once I text about this to express myself how I feel mad about it and now he is quiet and doesn't reply anything for 3 days now. Is that call silent treatment? And what should I do?
I do it because I need days to cool off
From now on i will not be getting involved with anyone that uses this disgusting cowardly behaviour. Seriously just find an adult instead you'll make yourself ill trying to cope.
Hey ! Me and my boyfriend got into a fight both of us , then he went so silent... i showed up and called 2 days after the fight and tried to apologise ; and he just ignored me so badly ... a week passed by and i posted a cute picture of mine on Snapchat ( private just for him to see it ) guess what he unfriended me on snapchat ...
Maybe he's hurt so badly
My crush( he's my friend) and I fought on Tuesday and all bcoz of stupid stuff like who was a good advisor am actually the type of person that doesn't stand bullying so I defended one of my friends and he was like u should have taken the case to the teacher instead of fighting and I got angry and told him to get lost and now he doesn't even make an eye contact with me I miss him so badly 💔💔💔💔😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I got response but it was completely ignoring the text that acknowledges the silent treatment. Wrote it exactly like the tips in this video. Basically texted me that he was eating and a song not even relevant to situation. I’m disheartened.
What if they filed a no trespass order? No way to contact....
It been 10 days and his still not reaching out. :(
3 rd day any suggestions kezia.....
5 months of relationship, and then 2 months of silent treatment, I think so we've broke up i don’t know ☹️
Me "Hey I know that your using silent treatment, talk to me when you're ready to engage"
Message is left on read for four days.
My girlfriend is doing that to me she isn't talking with me at the moment 😔 but I didn't send her a message couple of days ago telling her to forgive me and what I felt and she saw it but nothing yet I miss her alot haven't seen her.. I hope this tips help me alot with her .
There's not a problem with them talking, but they act like nothing happened, that's the part that drives me nuts because nothing gets solved
It's crazy because it's not my fault, it's my grandma's fault because she doesn't like him, and he is very upset :( I'm shattered
I need help. On Christmas day my gf and I had a fight on our way home from exploring lit-up Xmas neighborhoods. I video called my dad to say Hi and she demanded I hang up and instead be present with her and our 23month daughter instead. I stopped talking to her after I called her out for being controlling. I think she felt i wasnt being present and attentive to her and our daughter. It has been 4 days and we completely avoid eachother and I've sleeping in another bed alone. She is also 4 months pregnant. Today I txt her and said "When you feel comfortable, I would like to apologize and reconnect."
New years eve 2021 is around the corner and if this continues I'm afraid for our relationship. Help... anyone....?
how about guys give silent treatment to girl after a fight coz they just wanted to calm the fuck down and struggle for healing before coming back because they don't want to continue to escalate the situation. sometimes it is not abuse, it's self healing.
I must admit that I am the one who gives the silent treatment.Ok,not days, max 1.But believe me or not, is not the reaction I want to have, but I just feel stuck in this reaction. I don t have THE ENERGY to talk.Any advises? my mom was the same ...
It's okay that you need space. Just let them know that you need space and that you'll get back to them as soon as you feel better. Leaving without any info is wrong. That is abuse. Self care ain't.
Try 2 months
That's such a long time! I'm so sorry to hear that. Has this ever happened in your relationship before?
Silent treatment is considered as emotional abuse and what lead to silent treatment isnt..strange..People.usually talk if the other person says sorry genuinly..no one wants to give silent treatment all.life.
I was definitely going to hit the silent treatment today 🥴🙄 ig I can't
Hi..... I was talking to my boyfriend later I heard him talk Sam things that is no good I ask him twice, becz of that he get mad why are u asking me twice while I told you I cannot say that, I told him there’s no any problem for me to ask you twice becz I want to know if is true what i hear or what.... But later he cut the call i texted him he say leave me alone and now is 3 day he hasn’t call or text.... what should I don’t???? And most of time he do like that and I don’t like that thing
The first person who reaches out is the one losing. If he is giving the silent treatment after a fight and you are the one reaching out then you lose and he will know he can just step on you and it affects you. You gives them power.
Bad advice!
Thats how a narcissist would think.
Relationships are not a power game or a cock fight
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I have a question to ask when you are having problem with your girlfriend,like i cause the argument my self but by talking to her in bad manner but apologise later but she said she don't want to see me because i invited her for us to see because i really think she has forgiven me but she haven't but rejecting my invitation and telling me she come over to see me tomorrow if she wants,,the wost part of it now she is not replying to my chatts.so i will like to know how to go on with this her silence pls?
Be a man bro…when a girl pulls back never chase
No no no you shouldn’t tell a narc that you’re hurting
How can I break my partner from the silent treatments? I want to find a video on how does the silent treatments effect the one doing it? How did they get that way their history of why? What good purpose is it??? Can’t that know that it is not good if they truly love you. I want to know about them, I see countless of videos of people being the victim. I want to know how this ticks on the silent treatments doer. Any videos on this subject? Great video. Kudos to you hun 💐🌹👍.
Sorry for the misspelling and goof up words..
Ok I also read that the doer doing the silent treatment it is unhealthy and for the victims, it has built up anger in my partner to where she has heart problems 😮. Is this true it affects the doer’s Health?
Thank you so much for the comment and the video suggestion. Great questions by the way :) The silent treatment is common for men who are passive aggressive. There are other reasons why the silent treatment happens, but for a lot of men, this tends to be the most common. They completely shut down when confrontations happen with their partner. This could have stemmed from being yelled at too many times or being controlled by certain people in their life. The purpose of the silent treatment is a way to punish and control their partner. It definitely affects BOTH people in the relationship because nothing ever gets resolved. The silent treatment is cruel to do. The best way to break them from the silent treatment is to tell him that you know what he's doing and that it doesn't resolve anything. Be calm and matter of fact. You can talk to him, even if he doesn't talk back. Let him know that you're not okay with being treated like this and that it is damaging to the relationship. Most likely he'll still stay silent, and that's fine. Let him do what he does. All you control is you. The key is for him to listen to what you have to say, because what you have to say is important. You model for him how to communicate. That will help teach him how to talk to you the next time he's upset. Thank you again for the great comment. I hope this answered your question :)
he's been ignoring me for 3 days lol