SELFISH DECISIONS TO MAKE IN YOUR 20s l LUCY BENSON

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  • @MyLucyBenson
    @MyLucyBenson  ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Hey My loves❤ I am aware there is a Telegram scam going on using my name and pictures, IT IS NOT ME!! ITS A SCAM please be careful and stay safe❤ Thank you ❤️

  • @frenchgirl5878
    @frenchgirl5878 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    1. Move away from your city/hometown/country if it’s holding you back
    2. Quit your job if its not making you happy or serving your purpose
    3. Prioritize your mental health (set strong boundaries)
    4. Don’t settle down or at the very least settle down but don’t have kids
    5. Cut people off (people who disrespect you, people who ignore your boundaries, toxic people)

  • @cynthiaebijie
    @cynthiaebijie ปีที่แล้ว +10

    All the points are very crucial and not talked about enough. Especially the marriage one. Alot of women desperately getting into relationships so they can secure a life partner cos they think they are running out of time, and they end up accepting the worst from their partners.

  • @SindyAkpolo
    @SindyAkpolo ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Intentionally picking people who come into your life as friends is key 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 don’t be afraid to cut off people or friends that is not serving you 👏🏾👏🏾 friendship is not by force. Spot on

  • @gloriabaiden1659
    @gloriabaiden1659 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Aw lucy....is there a video on how ladies should control your finances and unnecessary wants in your 20's

  • @Lucylu723
    @Lucylu723 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I have unapologetically cut off a friend before in the past. Prior to cutting the friend off we had an hours long conversation of me expressing aspects of the friendship that I was concerned about and how if things continued I would end it. They agreed and said they'd change. Long story short they did not. Events occured and they did something that was the last straw and I cut them off. It was hard, but if I could go back in time I would do it all over again because getting rid of that friendship was the start of me healing and learning to establish healthy relationships with people. I think it took me around 6 months to fully get over it.
    A year later they got in contact with me via other people seeing as they were blocked everywhere else. I had already forgiven them. But what I want to make clear is that I reconciled the friendship enough that they are more so an acquaintance more than anything. We will never be the way we once was but at least they're in my life at a safe enough distance that does not affect my health and wellbeing.

  • @ZainabJuliana
    @ZainabJuliana ปีที่แล้ว +7

    it’s crazy because the moment i turned 20 , i’ve seen a lot of videos like these and everything is true ❤

  • @Lucylu723
    @Lucylu723 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    You've gotta love Lucy for keeping it realistic. Reminding us that it's okay to make mistakes, to learn, to grow, to go at your own pace. It's okay❤

  • @dorothymithamo5960
    @dorothymithamo5960 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You people stop pretending you can't see how beautiful she looks in that hairstyle...am in love with it ... beautiful 😍

  • @gloriaamashegh1004
    @gloriaamashegh1004 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    How can you not love her with the words of wisdom coming from her mouth ❤

  • @zhenxxx
    @zhenxxx ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I could literally watch you talk the entire day. You say what we don’t know that we already know ❤. You are so wise and as someone entering into their 20’s soon I sure learn a lot from you, thank you momma for being the light we all need, shine brighter ❤

  • @jadassolitude78
    @jadassolitude78 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I’m 18 and this really changed my perspective…thank you ❤️

  • @amberpalmer3708
    @amberpalmer3708 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Just started watching! I’m 22 and have been thinking these past few weeks of selfish choices I’m gonna make! Perfect timing and thank you for this video Lucy ❤

    • @annahnolet1873
      @annahnolet1873 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      22 you are so young. This information is life. I wish I heard this at 22. 😘

    • @binnyhamlyn7581
      @binnyhamlyn7581 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes you need this to guide your through your youth. Donot force relationships, keep only positive people around you. Avoid people who drain you emotionally. Donot overspend your earnings. Start saving now.

  • @Dntwatchmyglowup
    @Dntwatchmyglowup ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I had my baby early (23) wasn’t planned but I don’t regret it . I love being a mom it honestly made me more focused & mature

  • @annieprechiy
    @annieprechiy ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The joy in my heart when I open youtube and see your face cannot still be explained. Love you Lucy❤️

  • @magdalene6844
    @magdalene6844 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wow Lucy,Lucy,Lucy,this video was absolutely for me . I made a decision that really hurt me but I know one day it would be worth it .
    I am taking risk
    I am putting strong boundaries
    I am cutting off unapologetic
    I am prioritizing my mental health
    I am making the difficult decision off late and it’s paying off positively.
    Thank you and I love you. Keep encouraging and giving positive videos and advice. God bless you for me and sharing this as well .I will definitely share a testimony on my channel oneday. ❤❤❤❤
    In Jesus Name Amen 🙏 .

  • @effeerichardson
    @effeerichardson ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much Lucy ❤. I started listening to you few months before I turned 20 this year. The year is about to end and I’m so grateful and proud of myself. I started my small hair salon business, started TH-cam today ❤ and making a big decisions for myself. God bless you 😊

  • @Olajumoke.E
    @Olajumoke.E ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This video was made for me (just finished my service year)you spoke to my soul and am definitely going to prioritize myself❤

  • @missmaryfabela98
    @missmaryfabela98 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm 24 and I needed to hear this,thank you so much for this❤️👏

  • @Lizbethefe
    @Lizbethefe ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are just a blessing from God because your videos come at the right time. I literally said thank you from the beginning to the end of the video. Thanks Lucy 😊

  • @Princessm1320
    @Princessm1320 ปีที่แล้ว

    As soon as I saw the no kid no marriage in the thumbnail I clicked. 6 months ago a relationship ended that I thought would never end. After 3 months I went on a date with a guy who I started liking, but things didn’t work out, so I went back to focusing on me fully. This girl asked me out(I’m bi) and I said sure but I told her we have to wait until my classes end in May. Now that it’s May, I don’t want to date anyone. I want to focus on me and my education.

  • @ellaochechema3283
    @ellaochechema3283 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My fav youtuber I’m always excited when I see your video. You motivate me to always be consistent on my TH-cam channel

  • @haveasitatmytablepodcast
    @haveasitatmytablepodcast ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Lucy, i most certainly have to learn how to cut off people without any explanations. Even hearing you say people have a mind and brain of their own and will do what they want is powerful.🥰

  • @Adebisi_Rahmot5
    @Adebisi_Rahmot5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am 17 and yet I face most of this things you talk about especially the three major life challenges you had which is fear, over thinking... I really love your videos 💖

  • @nafisaosman9188
    @nafisaosman9188 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m in my 20s and I’m experiencing all what u said. Taking notes and advice. I started putting myself first and I was told I’m selfish

  • @SindyAkpolo
    @SindyAkpolo ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Put yourself first 👏🏾 atleast exploring options, don’t stay in a job that you don’t like. Lucy spot on always sharing gems 😊😊

  • @elvaduring274
    @elvaduring274 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hey Lucy, I'm just starting my 20s, and your vids are really guiding me. Thanks for everything❤️.

  • @annahnolet1873
    @annahnolet1873 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    LUCY!!! I am so happy to listen to you videos. I love hearing you speak. It's like my big sis is talking to me. I am 28 so you might be my little sister. Thank you for posting this video. ❤️

  • @Mihlesdairy
    @Mihlesdairy ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for that session love, I literally listened to it twice that's how much I needed it

  • @blessingokorafor939
    @blessingokorafor939 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Don't have kids if u haven't healed from your trauma! It's a very big one to be very honest! You might become what you hate...thanks Lucy💓

  • @jessicaamrich
    @jessicaamrich ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Girl I love this video. You make a whole lot of sense

  • @blessedonyedikanwabuzor7509
    @blessedonyedikanwabuzor7509 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It just feels like you are talking to me 🥺 thanks Lucy❤️

  • @abejidebunmi2728
    @abejidebunmi2728 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If only I can like this video as many times as possible
    Am in my 30s but its so helpful ❤️ thank you 🤗

  • @camijade2209
    @camijade2209 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I turned 29 a few days ago, I have so much I want to achieve this year!

  • @elitaahiakwo
    @elitaahiakwo ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lucy give us TH-cam mom vibes I love it😂❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @angelicaroland9139
    @angelicaroland9139 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just find your channel and I’m in love it’s really what I was looking for ur such a vibe ❤ keep doing ur great job

  • @melaniecharles7652
    @melaniecharles7652 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You truly help me a lot,thank you

  • @ashleymorgan8687
    @ashleymorgan8687 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Finally early for once, hi Lucy thank you for your guidance through all these months. Keep up the good work. Proud of You!!!!!!💗

  • @Rekasspace
    @Rekasspace ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was very well needed. Thank you.

  • @Lisathafinest
    @Lisathafinest ปีที่แล้ว

    This is you talking to me I am 22 and about to finish university this December nd I am happy I saw this video. just telling me what I need ...thank you

  • @nandi8412
    @nandi8412 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One thing about you ,you are an angel sent ❤️

  • @ThisisMeggy
    @ThisisMeggy ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Not me agreeing with everything Lucy says😍Thank you for the video ❤️

  • @lady_staphenie
    @lady_staphenie ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much Lucy for this video, it came just at the perfect time ❤️😘

  • @marianapo1969
    @marianapo1969 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    First time being number one on yr page😂i usually just download to save data🙈😂❤
    I love u❤

  • @Dottiebonds
    @Dottiebonds ปีที่แล้ว

    🥰😍😍oh my myyy that HAIR IS EVERYTHINGGGGG!!!

  • @garenanighoro3722
    @garenanighoro3722 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I thoroughly enjoyed this video.
    Great tips Lucy!

  • @lillauser9483
    @lillauser9483 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    👏👏👏so motivational. And beautiful hair!!!

  • @maryamchan2400
    @maryamchan2400 ปีที่แล้ว

    you are pretty I love your accent and your mindset and your personality , I subscribed ❤

  • @-Lerato-Moleko-
    @-Lerato-Moleko- ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m new here and I love it here!❤

  • @WendyLiving
    @WendyLiving ปีที่แล้ว +1

    See I really needed this ! I was literally in a such state rn, and this video was the right thing I needed to watch.. Thanks

  • @Staarrxxx
    @Staarrxxx ปีที่แล้ว

    The advice here is priceless ❤️

  • @laurynluvanda1605
    @laurynluvanda1605 ปีที่แล้ว

    I never comment on TH-cam but I’ve to say, I love this video, thank you!

  • @EverydaylifewithGael
    @EverydaylifewithGael ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was thinking about this just today
    Even tho I have a baby already…My 20’s are still for me ,I feel like I know nothing and so ready to grow and explore with my baby

  • @mi_mie
    @mi_mie ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank God I'm seeing this video

  • @Being.Benedicta
    @Being.Benedicta ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Lucy for this great reminder 🤗

  • @giftewomazinosjourneys
    @giftewomazinosjourneys ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awwwn, thank you so much Lucy😍💜

  • @nietah325
    @nietah325 ปีที่แล้ว

    Luccyyyy with the gems

  • @wamiegunya4384
    @wamiegunya4384 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    First to comment :-)💖🙈and am already loving it here can't wait to finish the video

  • @Joyce1345-z1n
    @Joyce1345-z1n ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Been waiting for your video

  • @absatujalloh4931
    @absatujalloh4931 ปีที่แล้ว

    🎯🎯 this is an advise we need to get frequently, thanks Lucy

  • @MissChayBella
    @MissChayBella ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Lucy! 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @josiaharchibald7165
    @josiaharchibald7165 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sending love to you sis 💜 all the way from 🇹🇹
    Great advice!
    p.s. I'm using my child device

  • @susannannozi6637
    @susannannozi6637 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lucy Is "that" big Sis🤗💕Sure the best!!😘😘🥰

  • @baloguntemitope9221
    @baloguntemitope9221 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Honestly speaking this is first time I actually enjoyed ur content for the first time 😂keep it up and I hope you too you learning from someone else too because thousands are watching your channel which is really good. Please practice what you preach.

  • @miracleakiewa6751
    @miracleakiewa6751 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If anyone is toxic in your life please do well to cut them off

  • @goodygoody52
    @goodygoody52 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    @Lucy Benson I so much love all ur content and this particular video I was lost admiring ur wig nd ur beauty.

  • @paulineoiva8543
    @paulineoiva8543 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Lucy

  • @chelseabangoura6845
    @chelseabangoura6845 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You always help me thank you 😌

  • @risamaratv
    @risamaratv ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lucy, you are just the best 🥰💝🥰🙌🏿

  • @anitagreamson407
    @anitagreamson407 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Lucy…just turned 25 and already feeling that I have failed

  • @otegabrume
    @otegabrume ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video is for me🎉

  • @siyamamkelanompula-msomi1616
    @siyamamkelanompula-msomi1616 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey Lucy can you share your lip combo 💓 it's beautiful

  • @adegboyegasunkanmi9079
    @adegboyegasunkanmi9079 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Lucy 👋 u just got a new subscriber 💓💓love your content on here 😊

  • @ezinnechukwuma7828
    @ezinnechukwuma7828 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lucy with the lines

  • @Gift_Etokudo
    @Gift_Etokudo ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks sis for this video, I really learn a lot.

  • @registerednut9117
    @registerednut9117 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lucy!! You are beautiful. Please share the link to that hair!!

  • @adetilda5486
    @adetilda5486 ปีที่แล้ว

    This job part 🥺🥺, I literally started a job I hate. It’s almost a month, and I am already tired. Tomorrow is Monday, and I am already not at peace. But the thing is, nothing else is really working 😢.

  • @everythingwithmartha9408
    @everythingwithmartha9408 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey Lucy ..what if you already have a child for someone who clearly doesn’t want you anymore.. and you desperately want to leave but you are not financially ok to move out😢?

  • @esthermutua1287
    @esthermutua1287 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks alot for this so informative ✍️❤️❤️❤️❤️💯

  • @marcia_antonio
    @marcia_antonio ปีที่แล้ว

    Gosh! Lucy! ❤

  • @mccnbinnie9840
    @mccnbinnie9840 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you 💜

  • @alimabangura9531
    @alimabangura9531 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg sis🥺Thank you🙏🏽

  • @blehsynadel
    @blehsynadel ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for this❤️

  • @abgnortoeelorm7908
    @abgnortoeelorm7908 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you 💕💕 sis

  • @Thependapamseffect
    @Thependapamseffect ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank u for this ❤

  • @kahundedoreen
    @kahundedoreen ปีที่แล้ว

    Your right girl 🤍

  • @mariexoxo1282
    @mariexoxo1282 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love you so much and thank you!🙏🏾❤️

  • @busayobanjoko
    @busayobanjoko ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this video

  • @jenniferkoranteng8691
    @jenniferkoranteng8691 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks dear❤️

  • @foyinlolasworld6072
    @foyinlolasworld6072 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you gurl

  • @NadiaWeekly
    @NadiaWeekly ปีที่แล้ว +1

    03:00 - Move out of your hometown, city - sign from God🤲🏻✨

  • @michelleambani4522
    @michelleambani4522 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love you girl

  • @rosemarytuzie3733
    @rosemarytuzie3733 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice one. More grace. Watching you from china.

  • @happym3585
    @happym3585 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing 🎉

  • @dialaonyinyechi
    @dialaonyinyechi ปีที่แล้ว

    Good morning Lucy..I have a problem,a girl assisted me with accomodation for some months and later asked me to live cox a relation was coming to live with her(well that's what she said) while I was with her she talked me down n treated me like trash n even told me I didn't have a choice cox she was doing better than me. I have left her place since 2 months. Do u think I should cut her off cox she was toxic and rubbed it to my face that I had nothing, I even had to replace every bottle of water that I drank in her house

    • @deesworld6643
      @deesworld6643 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Please do
      That’s not a friend

  • @Kenyan-kitchen
    @Kenyan-kitchen ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🤗🤗notification gang❤

  • @jiejoudom5521
    @jiejoudom5521 ปีที่แล้ว

    ouuu damn you look amazing

  • @77ruby
    @77ruby ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ♥️

  • @neneverse
    @neneverse ปีที่แล้ว

    Lucyyyyyyyyy🥰🥰🥰🥰

    • @neneverse
      @neneverse ปีที่แล้ว

      I love love you, girllllllll…. A big fan here💙 Not ashamed to do what you do here on my channel, too😊🥰

  • @nursebernice206
    @nursebernice206 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    👏 ❤