Perfect timing thank you, me and my ex of 2 years broke up 4 months ago officially through an argument (on different pages) 2/3 months later I accidently bumped into him with another woman, he pretty much ignored me and my communication after and this weekend I slipped up and checked his social media, I saw a picture of him and her on holiday at a place similar to where we used to go..it was a second punch in the stomach and has set me back again. I just don't understand how he can just move on like that ,4 months to me is short and to be going on holiday together, and I'm still processing and grieving..it seems so unfair (I know probably my ego talking) it's just so hard to accept the reality of how it's unfolded and I thought he wasn't like that💔 personal development and these sort of videos have kept me sane ..Thank you 🙏
I’m really sorry to hear that. It’s a horrible gut punch. Sadly, he is showing you exactly who he is. Believe him. We’re not required to understand someone else. We’re only required to understand ourselves. I hope you feel better. 😊
@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you Nick😊 it really has been, so hard to process and move through..he has shown me who he is unfortunately..it's a very sad realisation to come too when you loved the person but the writing was on the wall for sometime tbh I just chose to look the other way..maybe his time will come too when he has to face his demons, I guess you can't run forever..thanks for taking the time to reply and for the informative no bs content 😊
The pain still hurts 8 months later. I feel every day, that I get a little bit better. But after all the hurt and him monkey branching, I still miss him. It's just killed my self worth this year. Yesterday I wrote on my chalkboard, *"Your self worth is not determined by what he thinks of her."* I have to remind myself that what I think of myself, is most important. I have abandonment and rejection trauma, so it's been super tough to get through. I can't even bring myself to be ready to go on a date yet.
My ex left for his former partner - someone who cheated on him and plays two face. In feeling like I was worthless, I realize how powerful walking away from the entire situation truly is. Although you miss your ex, I think that you’re saving yourself lots of misery by not being with him. Better to be sad alone than sad with somebody else. 😊
I was good to her, I know it in my heart. Was I perfect, hell no. But I was good to her. And yet every time there was a problem, it was up to me to change. It was my fault. She could never take the responsibility of her half of the relationship. I just wonder if she will be the same way with this new guy. I wish I didn't care so much
It's the same i did..since i was working as a household..so no chance to look for him..well..i don't care if he is dating multiple..myself is very important than him😂😂
Best way to do it for sure comparison is the thief of joy. Not to mention people love to portray their relationship to be far better than it actually was. I've seen numerous relationships implode after seemingly damn near perfect according to posts.
Although having my success story and with a much better partner, I will admit that there will always be a part of me that will continue to love/miss my ex no matter how hard I tried to kill that last embers of feelings I have for my ex. I do know, however, that if and when I see my ex with someone new, a part of me will obviously be devastated, but of course, I've already come to terms with it as this is inevitable. Despite me failing to be the partner she needed me to be and the relationship, I'm grateful for the lessons learned from that failed relationship, and now I'm taking those lessons into my current one
Thank you for your honesty. I dare say, that’s most of us my friend. We can still have a place in our hearts for someone, but also know it’s not a good idea any longer. I’m glad you’re doing well.
@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you Nick, at this point I've come to terms with these feelings I have for my ex and that it will always be a part of me no matter how hard I try to fight it or snuff it out. I find my feelings relatable to Anakin becoming Darth Vader, he always told himself that he killed both Padme and Anakin Skywalker but no matter how hard he tried to believe that, no matter what he did as Vader or try to kill the last remaining parts of Anakin he was always at the end of the day Anakin Skywalker and it was really unfortunate that he only accepted this when Luke redeemed him in Return of the Jedi. And if I'm also gonna be honest, this breakup made me empathize so much about the tragedy and the character of Anakin. Lucas definitely knew what he was doing and it made me pick up the novelization of ROTS too!
My ex bounced between me and another guy throughout 3 months post break up, and chose to stay with him. 1 month has passed since we last met and talked. When we met she told me, that she loves me and has feelings for me,but everything is broken between us. One day later she tells me she fell in love with this guy and got attached to him. Even though she was left alone for a month before our meeting, because they got into an argument, and she thought that it's over between them. During that month it seemed as if she forgot about him. I did beg her, back then. But now after over a month of no contact, feeling much better now. Sometimes i still wonder is it a rebound relationship or not. Whether, factors like emotional wounds, not dealing with the feelings are still present in my situation. Thank you, for helping me get my head back straight, your videos really helped me.
Glad you’re getting through it buddy. Try not to guess if it’s a rebound or not. Only examine the truth of her actions, and why you’re attracted to someone who has those kinds of behaviours. Be the change you want to be, accept the situation for what it is, bear what you must. You’re doing fine. 😊
Things she did throughout those 3 months, made me realize that she is immature emotionally and she is scared of being alone. Although she did not lie to me, well.. the truth changed when that guy appeared again. She was not afraid to tell me her problems regarding of not being able to be alone or just be vulnerable with me even post breakup. As a matter of fact, that other dude doesn't even know about me or what happened, these past months. She basically cheated on him. But i know this thing well, relationship built on lies is doomed to crumble. Always stay truthful to yourself and others. As for her i believe it is not the end of her, just got to find strength to push her away next time.
Fuuuck “your perception Fueling your imagination” drop the mic thanks for the new uploads time is passing and these videos are fitting into different time line none the less very help full thank you I’m a keep listening had to pause for a moment when I heard that
Do you have any videos on how to handle this situation while sharing children? We share 3 and she just started introducing my 2 little ones to "mommy's friend". We have been amicable up to this point. Have been split for over a year. She said her new relationship slowly evolved over a years time. Pretty sure it started right as we split, most likely sooner. Having kids mean constant contact. Difficult to keep a level head. Your videos have already helped alot!
Sadly not, but I have coached MANY in one to one phone sessions with the same situation. It’s a case of being there for the kid, and discussing what role will the partner play (if any) in the kids life. I know it’s brutal, but you make a much bigger statement by staying on centre, showing up and don’t say anything about that new relationship. If you complain about the new relationship, you’ll only make that relationship stronger.
I agree 100%. Tough pill to swallow but gotta do it. Won't be long until the single mom of 3 kids is single again. I'm gonna grab some snacks and watch the show....Love your videos and will be calling shortly.
It’s brutal! It really is. You’re taking the pain now to feel better in the future. She’s taking the relief now and will feel worse in the future. You’ve got this.
3 month single now, i broke down for the 1st two month, she reached out, we have met up , slept together and even whent on a date. But she told me i was hoping for something she could not give, should i do NC ? I think ahe sees me as a friend or a cushion to heltp soften the blow
She’s told she can’t give you what you want! YES! YOU GO FULL NO CONTACT AND PUT BOUNDARIES IN PLACE! Don’t be the go to person for the person you can’t go to, and don’t be her emotional tampon!
He monkey branched with a woman who left her guy . We were together 19 years and he’s been gone 6 months and still said he wasn’t seeing anyone last time I spoke to him . I’ve not doojen to him for 7 weeks now 😢
I share children with my ex spouse.. whom I have full custody over. sometimes, I poke fun at her whenever she has to disappear all of a sudden. Like she has a hard time limit and can’t stay beyond 8oclock. 😂 I ask her , “why go back so soon? do you have a curfew or something.. “ lol 😅. Whatever. It’s her loss for walking away from us. Can’t imagine her being satisfied about missing out of the fun that she used to be entitled to over here together with me and our children.
"stay quiet, vanish, and create the 2.0 version of yourself"
Comparison is the thief of joy. Admittedly with everyone being so plugged into social media its harder to ignore them but it can still be done
Perfect timing thank you, me and my ex of 2 years broke up 4 months ago officially through an argument (on different pages) 2/3 months later I accidently bumped into him with another woman, he pretty much ignored me and my communication after and this weekend I slipped up and checked his social media, I saw a picture of him and her on holiday at a place similar to where we used to go..it was a second punch in the stomach and has set me back again. I just don't understand how he can just move on like that ,4 months to me is short and to be going on holiday together, and I'm still processing and grieving..it seems so unfair (I know probably my ego talking) it's just so hard to accept the reality of how it's unfolded and I thought he wasn't like that💔 personal development and these sort of videos have kept me sane ..Thank you 🙏
I’m really sorry to hear that. It’s a horrible gut punch.
Sadly, he is showing you exactly who he is. Believe him.
We’re not required to understand someone else. We’re only required to understand ourselves.
I hope you feel better. 😊
@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you Nick😊 it really has been, so hard to process and move through..he has shown me who he is unfortunately..it's a very sad realisation to come too when you loved the person but the writing was on the wall for sometime tbh I just chose to look the other way..maybe his time will come too when he has to face his demons, I guess you can't run forever..thanks for taking the time to reply and for the informative no bs content 😊
You’ve got this.
Take the pain feel it and heal it. Straight up On point! 🙌🏻
The pain still hurts 8 months later. I feel every day, that I get a little bit better. But after all the hurt and him monkey branching, I still miss him. It's just killed my self worth this year. Yesterday I wrote on my chalkboard, *"Your self worth is not determined by what he thinks of her."* I have to remind myself that what I think of myself, is most important. I have abandonment and rejection trauma, so it's been super tough to get through. I can't even bring myself to be ready to go on a date yet.
Exactly. His actions do not reflect your self worth. You’re doing fine. 😊
My ex left for his former partner - someone who cheated on him and plays two face. In feeling like I was worthless, I realize how powerful walking away from the entire situation truly is. Although you miss your ex, I think that you’re saving yourself lots of misery by not being with him. Better to be sad alone than sad with somebody else. 😊
I was good to her, I know it in my heart. Was I perfect, hell no. But I was good to her. And yet every time there was a problem, it was up to me to change. It was my fault. She could never take the responsibility of her half of the relationship. I just wonder if she will be the same way with this new guy. I wish I didn't care so much
I hear you man.
But your responsibility is this.
Why did you choose and stay with someone who didn’t appreciate what you did?
I think I just kept believing that we would work things out. That love will conquer all as they say. I feel pretty stupid now
Love is never enough, my friend.
I’ve her blocked on everything. And no chance I’ll bump into her unless I go looking for her
It's the same i did..since i was working as a household..so no chance to look for him..well..i don't care if he is dating multiple..myself is very important than him😂😂
💪💪😊😊
Best way to do it for sure comparison is the thief of joy. Not to mention people love to portray their relationship to be far better than it actually was. I've seen numerous relationships implode after seemingly damn near perfect according to posts.
Although having my success story and with a much better partner, I will admit that there will always be a part of me that will continue to love/miss my ex no matter how hard I tried to kill that last embers of feelings I have for my ex.
I do know, however, that if and when I see my ex with someone new, a part of me will obviously be devastated, but of course, I've already come to terms with it as this is inevitable.
Despite me failing to be the partner she needed me to be and the relationship, I'm grateful for the lessons learned from that failed relationship, and now I'm taking those lessons into my current one
Thank you for your honesty. I dare say, that’s most of us my friend.
We can still have a place in our hearts for someone, but also know it’s not a good idea any longer.
I’m glad you’re doing well.
@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you Nick, at this point I've come to terms with these feelings I have for my ex and that it will always be a part of me no matter how hard I try to fight it or snuff it out.
I find my feelings relatable to Anakin becoming Darth Vader, he always told himself that he killed both Padme and Anakin Skywalker but no matter how hard he tried to believe that, no matter what he did as Vader or try to kill the last remaining parts of Anakin he was always at the end of the day Anakin Skywalker and it was really unfortunate that he only accepted this when Luke redeemed him in Return of the Jedi.
And if I'm also gonna be honest, this breakup made me empathize so much about the tragedy and the character of Anakin. Lucas definitely knew what he was doing and it made me pick up the novelization of ROTS too!
Love a bit of Star Wars 😁
I turned my pain into motivation
Well done 💪💪🤟🤟
My ex bounced between me and another guy throughout 3 months post break up, and chose to stay with him. 1 month has passed since we last met and talked. When we met she told me, that she loves me and has feelings for me,but everything is broken between us. One day later she tells me she fell in love with this guy and got attached to him. Even though she was left alone for a month before our meeting, because they got into an argument, and she thought that it's over between them. During that month it seemed as if she forgot about him. I did beg her, back then. But now after over a month of no contact, feeling much better now. Sometimes i still wonder is it a rebound relationship or not. Whether, factors like emotional wounds, not dealing with the feelings are still present in my situation.
Thank you, for helping me get my head back straight, your videos really helped me.
Glad you’re getting through it buddy.
Try not to guess if it’s a rebound or not. Only examine the truth of her actions, and why you’re attracted to someone who has those kinds of behaviours.
Be the change you want to be, accept the situation for what it is, bear what you must.
You’re doing fine. 😊
Things she did throughout those 3 months, made me realize that she is immature emotionally and she is scared of being alone. Although she did not lie to me, well.. the truth changed when that guy appeared again. She was not afraid to tell me her problems regarding of not being able to be alone or just be vulnerable with me even post breakup. As a matter of fact, that other dude doesn't even know about me or what happened, these past months. She basically cheated on him. But i know this thing well, relationship built on lies is doomed to crumble. Always stay truthful to yourself and others. As for her i believe it is not the end of her, just got to find strength to push her away next time.
So in conclusion, she is not worth your time and energy. 😊
Fuuuck “your perception Fueling your imagination” drop the mic thanks for the new uploads time is passing and these videos are fitting into different time line none the less very help full thank you I’m a keep listening had to pause for a moment when I heard that
Appreciate it buddy, I hope you’re doing well.
Do you have any videos on how to handle this situation while sharing children? We share 3 and she just started introducing my 2 little ones to "mommy's friend". We have been amicable up to this point. Have been split for over a year. She said her new relationship slowly evolved over a years time. Pretty sure it started right as we split, most likely sooner. Having kids mean constant contact. Difficult to keep a level head. Your videos have already helped alot!
Sadly not, but I have coached MANY in one to one phone sessions with the same situation.
It’s a case of being there for the kid, and discussing what role will the partner play (if any) in the kids life.
I know it’s brutal, but you make a much bigger statement by staying on centre, showing up and don’t say anything about that new relationship.
If you complain about the new relationship, you’ll only make that relationship stronger.
I agree 100%. Tough pill to swallow but gotta do it. Won't be long until the single mom of 3 kids is single again. I'm gonna grab some snacks and watch the show....Love your videos and will be calling shortly.
It’s brutal! It really is.
You’re taking the pain now to feel better in the future.
She’s taking the relief now and will feel worse in the future.
You’ve got this.
THANK YOU!! It's just what we all need to hear..it's so painful but it's the truth..GOD BLESS YOU
I’m glad it could help. 😊
I took a lot of notes down from this one. Thank you! 💪🏼
I hope it helps. 😊
Can you please do a video on ex Breadcrumbing you n why this may be
3 month single now, i broke down for the 1st two month, she reached out, we have met up , slept together and even whent on a date. But she told me i was hoping for something she could not give, should i do NC ? I think ahe sees me as a friend or a cushion to heltp soften the blow
She’s told she can’t give you what you want!
YES! YOU GO FULL NO CONTACT AND PUT BOUNDARIES IN PLACE!
Don’t be the go to person for the person you can’t go to, and don’t be her emotional tampon!
He monkey branched with a woman who left her guy . We were together 19 years and he’s been gone 6 months and still said he wasn’t seeing anyone last time I spoke to him . I’ve not doojen to him for 7 weeks now 😢
I’m sorry to hear that. 19 years is a long time. 🫂🫂
I share children with my ex spouse.. whom I have full custody over.
sometimes, I poke fun at her whenever she has to disappear all of a sudden. Like she has a hard time limit and can’t stay beyond 8oclock. 😂
I ask her , “why go back so soon? do you have a curfew or something.. “ lol 😅.
Whatever. It’s her loss for walking away from us. Can’t imagine her being satisfied about missing out of the fun that she used to be entitled to over here together with me and our children.
I wouldn’t even poke fun. Let her do her and think happy happy thoughts. It’s a fantasy, nothing more.
I hope I run into her, I have a couple dates with girls this week who are very very cute 😈
Which won’t achieve the outcome you think it will.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I actually just wanna move on with my life and rub her face in it a little bit on the way out, I do not want her back anymore.