Thank you for mentioning Mr. Rogers. The neighborhood was a calm place of learning and acceptance, where emotions were openly discussed in relation to the activities of the world. One additional thing I do to maintain my sanity is to identify items for which I am grateful - small successes, the beauty and heath of my gardens, something that made me laugh. It pivots the mind away from the constant negativity.
1) allow yourself to feel the weight of the emotions and reflect on it. Do journaling and write a letter but don’t send it. 2) take care of yourself by having water 💧 and get enough sleep 💤. Take care of a plant 🌱 or an animal 🦓. 3) accept that you can’t change other peoples minds since it is a very personal decision. 4) set boundaries! Broken 😞 record technique really works! 5) look for the helpers and look for the good in other people. Look for local charities either online or in person. Stop 🛑 focusing on the trolls! Also vote 🗳. 6) create things during your times of strife and express yourself. 7) spend time with people who are different than you. Open yourself up to new experiences. Shown in a Netflix documentary. 8) model kindness and empathy with your children 👦. Change the world 🌎 one person at a time. 9) one act of kindness at a time 10) what everyone else thinks of you is none of your business.
Bots. Bots everywhere. I dropped off social media just about a year ago and haven't looked back. I figured if I see any of my FB/Snapchat friends IRL again, we can just catch up then. I've learned at the beginning of the year point #3 and just did my own thing. Not a perfect solution, but it has helped. Also mindfulness does help slightly with everything else going on.
I needed to hear the bit about social media. It's so true: if I get all upset about something controversial and then post on FB, it may help relieve my feelings for a moment but then I can't handle the backlash. I always end up losing sleep and feeling terrible about myself for days. It's just not worth it.
The social media thing. Honestly I was so against it and then leapt in. Damaged me (and I caused damage too). I'm recently self-diagnosed ASD\ADHD combo (I don't know why I feel I have to say self-diagnosed but you know). I've got rid of all of it and for so many reasons my life has become both easier and better. As I've said before - love your videos, constantly resonate with me.
Hey Matt...I self diagnosed last year...it's difficult not slamming trolls...but it draws you into their world... Stay strong, stay safe... Welcome to this world...
Nicely done, Tay...I'm going to put on my "be kind to everyone" tee shirt...(after I dry my eyes)lol...you are that example of kindness we need to be....thank you for sharing your heart... God bless you and your family...
Thank you for the lovely video! I know for myself, I work in a cubical area so some days are difficult. Realizing I couldn't change minds helped a lot, as well as reminding myself that I was the source of my happiness instead of them. Also I've been working more on the #1. I've been So lately I've been trying to recognize my negative and validate them. Like I was crying about something and I had myself say, "it's okay, fear, I know (life thing) is scary, and we don't know but it's okay not to know, we'll do our best." And as I let myself cry and comfort myself, I eventually found myself feeling better than if I just let my fear run my brain tired and later shame myself.
I’m so glad you brought this up. A lot of times we might think “if I start crying I’ll never stop” or “it will hurt too much to process this.” But in reality, the tears will stop and often stop sooner than we think they will. It’s a release for the body and it’s so much easier than continually carrying about mental baggage by not dealing with it.
@@MomontheSpectrum Great comment/response! So many of us had been told not to cry when we were little, so it makes sense that we often think that our tears would be endless. If we give our feelings the option to run free (except for ones in which we might act out violently against someone), they don’t last more than a few short minutes. Self-regulation is important, but not to the point that we shut ourselves down.
I'm definitely guilty of stuffing emotions away only for them to bubble over later. Thanks for tackling this tough but important topic! 💞 PS: I have a family reunion next month so this is very helpful! I actually do have an Uncle Larry that has different views than me. 😂
It’s so important in all these things to notice and judge our own thoughts, to see if they are growing or deteriorating our emotional health. The carnal mind will always pull us away from good thoughts, so it does take effort to catch our thoughts and steer them to what is healthy. Sometimes we have to put the handcuffs on our thoughts, take them aside and deal with them through processing what is going on, and bringing about intentional change. This is where accountability is good, because accountability helps keeps our behaviour in check.
Thank you so much for making this I really needed to hear it. I often forget that sharing things on Facebook doesn't actually change people's minds. I have been so upset lately over the world and I just really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much.
One point in favor of your last strategy that I would add: you're much more likely to see direct positive effects resulting from those actions, and it is impossible to overstate how good that can be for your mental health. Who doesn't love seeing reminders that they were there, they did something, and it mattered?
Thank you for the great video... There's been something on my mind that's been troubling me... I always try my best to be the kindest I can, and when I don't I always make sure to apologize... Recently I have had someone I thought was my friend betray my trust, say very hurtful things about me and then told my other friends lies about me... And it bothers me a lot that he got rid of all my friends because they believed him instead of me... And he didn't even say sorry and I really don't understand why... Why not be kind and forgive others for the hurt you have caused them... Again thank you for the video, it was beautiful.
Thank you for this video, again. I wish I could be there later today… There is one thing I would add that could complement your strategies. I’m not a doctor or anything either, just my two cents. One strategy that I use when news are way too overwhelming is to give myself a 24 or 48-hour news blackout. I don’t seek headlines, I shut down the radio when the news bulletin is on, etc. The world won’t change that much in 48 hours and it gives myself time to process a bit. In a way, it goes with your first strategy. Take care and know that you too are loved. ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing these strategies Taylor! Recently I had a discussion with one of my girlfriend and we came to the conclusion that we work for living and not live for work. For us working 35 hours per week is enough and we want to have time to live outside of this. Keeping our boundering with people, especially when you are in a stressful environment, is hard but so worthy for your own self-respect :)
Thank you ❤ really FELT your words. You inspired me to more purposefully seek out doing even small acts of kindness. I felt lightness in my chest area when you asked to feel the difference. Wishing you the most wonderful day ✉🌻
Taylor, you're amazing and an inspiration! Thanks for sharing this wisdom. I've had a tough few years and on a 2 year waiting list for ASD diagnosis. Your channel is uplifting and so helpful!
Sooo not the takeaway for the video but this is where i am at so i want to say before i forget: i also struggle making my three like that, it feels weird on my hand, but the european(?)/asian “three” done with the pointer, middle, and thumb (such as a peace sign with your thumb out) feels a little more natural on my hands! Random but i thought i would share anyways x
Thank you for all your videos! I’ve learned so much! I’ve scheduled a autism evaluation they can’t do it till next year bc of my insurance and they are swamped with people that need it.
It sounds like we have similar issues . I am trying to work on emotional regulation and boundaries. I love how you suggest things that will help us especially when some of us have not been diagnosed as being on spectrum but we know. THANKYOU for your kindness. It helps when you know your not alone.
Thank you for mentioning Mr. Rogers. The neighborhood was a calm place of learning and acceptance, where emotions were openly discussed in relation to the activities of the world.
One additional thing I do to maintain my sanity is to identify items for which I am grateful - small successes, the beauty and heath of my gardens, something that made me laugh. It pivots the mind away from the constant negativity.
Thank you for sharing this. Small successes are definitely worth celebrating and reflecting upon.
1) allow yourself to feel the weight of the emotions and reflect on it. Do journaling and write a letter but don’t send it.
2) take care of yourself by having water 💧 and get enough sleep 💤. Take care of a plant 🌱 or an animal 🦓.
3) accept that you can’t change other peoples minds since it is a very personal decision.
4) set boundaries! Broken 😞 record technique really works!
5) look for the helpers and look for the good in other people. Look for local charities either online or in person. Stop 🛑 focusing on the trolls! Also vote 🗳.
6) create things during your times of strife and express yourself.
7) spend time with people who are different than you. Open yourself up to new experiences. Shown in a Netflix documentary.
8) model kindness and empathy with your children 👦. Change the world 🌎 one person at a time.
9) one act of kindness at a time
10) what everyone else thinks of you is none of your business.
To Praveen, great wrap up...
@@Wiz.37083 thank you
Bots. Bots everywhere.
I dropped off social media just about a year ago and haven't looked back. I figured if I see any of my FB/Snapchat friends IRL again, we can just catch up then. I've learned at the beginning of the year point #3 and just did my own thing. Not a perfect solution, but it has helped. Also mindfulness does help slightly with everything else going on.
I needed to hear the bit about social media. It's so true: if I get all upset about something controversial and then post on FB, it may help relieve my feelings for a moment but then I can't handle the backlash. I always end up losing sleep and feeling terrible about myself for days. It's just not worth it.
The social media thing. Honestly I was so against it and then leapt in. Damaged me (and I caused damage too). I'm recently self-diagnosed ASD\ADHD combo (I don't know why I feel I have to say self-diagnosed but you know). I've got rid of all of it and for so many reasons my life has become both easier and better. As I've said before - love your videos, constantly resonate with me.
thanks so much for your comment matt. glad you're here!
I only use TH-cam as my only social media and closed all my other social media accounts about 7 years ago
Hey Matt...I self diagnosed last year...it's difficult not slamming trolls...but it draws you into their world...
Stay strong, stay safe...
Welcome to this world...
@@PraveenSrJ01 same although was two years ago for me. I’ve only just started commenting on TH-cam last couple of weeks
@@Wiz.37083 thanks very much! So glad to finally realise how this old brain is wired :)
Nicely done, Tay...I'm going to put on my "be kind to everyone" tee shirt...(after I dry my eyes)lol...you are that example of kindness we need to be....thank you for sharing your heart... God bless you and your family...
💞
Thank you for the lovely video! I know for myself, I work in a cubical area so some days are difficult. Realizing I couldn't change minds helped a lot, as well as reminding myself that I was the source of my happiness instead of them. Also I've been working more on the #1. I've been So lately I've been trying to recognize my negative and validate them. Like I was crying about something and I had myself say, "it's okay, fear, I know (life thing) is scary, and we don't know but it's okay not to know, we'll do our best." And as I let myself cry and comfort myself, I eventually found myself feeling better than if I just let my fear run my brain tired and later shame myself.
I’m so glad you brought this up. A lot of times we might think “if I start crying I’ll never stop” or “it will hurt too much to process this.” But in reality, the tears will stop and often stop sooner than we think they will. It’s a release for the body and it’s so much easier than continually carrying about mental baggage by not dealing with it.
@@MomontheSpectrum
Great comment/response!
So many of us had been told not to cry when we were little, so it makes sense that we often think that our tears would be endless. If we give our feelings the option to run free (except for ones in which we might act out violently against someone), they don’t last more than a few short minutes. Self-regulation is important, but not to the point that we shut ourselves down.
I'm definitely guilty of stuffing emotions away only for them to bubble over later. Thanks for tackling this tough but important topic! 💞
PS: I have a family reunion next month so this is very helpful! I actually do have an Uncle Larry that has different views than me. 😂
May the force be with you! 😁 thanks for suggesting this topic! As soon as I read your message it just felt right.
@@MomontheSpectrum thanks lol and my pleasure! I 💞
It’s so important in all these things to notice and judge our own thoughts, to see if they are growing or deteriorating our emotional health. The carnal mind will always pull us away from good thoughts, so it does take effort to catch our thoughts and steer them to what is healthy. Sometimes we have to put the handcuffs on our thoughts, take them aside and deal with them through processing what is going on, and bringing about intentional change. This is where accountability is good, because accountability helps keeps our behaviour in check.
Agreed! Awareness can bring a lot of clarity and healing.
Just realized I wasn't subscribed. That was an easy decision--I love your content. It has become a safe space for me.
I’m glad you feel safe here and so happy you’re officially part of the community!
Thank you so much for making this I really needed to hear it. I often forget that sharing things on Facebook doesn't actually change people's minds. I have been so upset lately over the world and I just really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much.
you're welcome. thanks for your comment
Thank you for sharing Amanda 😇
One point in favor of your last strategy that I would add: you're much more likely to see direct positive effects resulting from those actions, and it is impossible to overstate how good that can be for your mental health. Who doesn't love seeing reminders that they were there, they did something, and it mattered?
So much fantastic advice. Especially the Facebook part, I did that during the beginning of the pandemic and it was so damaging to me x
It’s exhausting!!
Thank you for the great video... There's been something on my mind that's been troubling me... I always try my best to be the kindest I can, and when I don't I always make sure to apologize... Recently I have had someone I thought was my friend betray my trust, say very hurtful things about me and then told my other friends lies about me... And it bothers me a lot that he got rid of all my friends because they believed him instead of me... And he didn't even say sorry and I really don't understand why... Why not be kind and forgive others for the hurt you have caused them...
Again thank you for the video, it was beautiful.
Thanks mom, I really need to hear this 😊
💞
Thank you Taylor! X
Your heart…… ❤️🙏🏼🌈
Thank you for this video, again. I wish I could be there later today… There is one thing I would add that could complement your strategies. I’m not a doctor or anything either, just my two cents.
One strategy that I use when news are way too overwhelming is to give myself a 24 or 48-hour news blackout. I don’t seek headlines, I shut down the radio when the news bulletin is on, etc. The world won’t change that much in 48 hours and it gives myself time to process a bit. In a way, it goes with your first strategy. Take care and know that you too are loved. ❤️
Yes! Totally forgot to mention this. I would like to share this on the livestream today. Thank you. 🙏🏼
Please do!
Excellent advice for everyone. Well done Tay ✌️💕
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Thank you so much for sharing these strategies Taylor! Recently I had a discussion with one of my girlfriend and we came to the conclusion that we work for living and not live for work. For us working 35 hours per week is enough and we want to have time to live outside of this. Keeping our boundering with people, especially when you are in a stressful environment, is hard but so worthy for your own self-respect :)
Thanks, great advice. You are really inspiring!
Beautiful stuff 🙂
Great advice! Love your channel💜💜💜
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing and opening up! 💜
This video was so awesome! Thank you.
You’re very welcome.
I thought of a rocking chair!! I love them! I wish I had one just being in motion is so soothing!
Thank you ❤ really FELT your words. You inspired me to more purposefully seek out doing even small acts of kindness. I felt lightness in my chest area when you asked to feel the difference. Wishing you the most wonderful day ✉🌻
this comment makes me so happy! Thank you for taking the time to share this with me!
Taylor, you're amazing and an inspiration! Thanks for sharing this wisdom. I've had a tough few years and on a 2 year waiting list for ASD diagnosis. Your channel is uplifting and so helpful!
Hi Ruby. Thanks for your comment! So glad you're here.
Beautifully spoken❤
Thank you! 🙂
Sooo not the takeaway for the video but this is where i am at so i want to say before i forget: i also struggle making my three like that, it feels weird on my hand, but the european(?)/asian “three” done with the pointer, middle, and thumb (such as a peace sign with your thumb out) feels a little more natural on my hands! Random but i thought i would share anyways x
Thank you for all your videos! I’ve learned so much! I’ve scheduled a autism evaluation they can’t do it till next year bc of my insurance and they are swamped with people that need it.
Thank You so much for this!
It sounds like we have similar issues . I am trying to work on emotional regulation and boundaries. I love how you suggest things that will help us especially when some of us have not been diagnosed as being on spectrum but we know. THANKYOU for your kindness. It helps when you know your not alone.
you're welcome. Thanks for your comment.
Kind of an off topic question! Are you aware of the link between autism and synesthesia? Maybe you could make a video about it.
I know there is a link but I haven’t done much research. Thanks for the suggestion!
It is said that people on the spectrum have a strong sense of social justice. I see it in myself.
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New sub, but nevertheless, I see the ghosts of trumps past hulking behind you.
you're pretty