OP's statement was morally wrong but the intention was justified to me. I feel like the school community is fine with racism but pretends to act like a saint when it comes to poor people.
The last OP gets 0/5 from me. I was bullied in school and I tried everything to get him to leave me alone. He would thump my ear, steal my comics, and one time even threw my bookbag out of the bus window. The only way I got him to stop was by taking and throwing HIS bag out of the window. Return-fire is all you have, and this girl took a LOT of abuse before firing back. She's justified in my opinion.
OP was being nice imo. I bit all of my bullies that the school didn't take the necessary steps to make stop. Worked every time, Elementary through high school.
I agree. I was bullied a lot too, and the girl who lived down the street from me was the worst. She would get the rest of the neighborhood kids to gang up on me too, even kids who I never met. They would even throw snowballs at me if I left the house during the wintertime. I couldn’t even go outside without being harassed. We tried everything to get the harassment to stop, going as far as calling the police, but nothing worked. Then one day we were waiting for school to start when she got 15 other kids to start chanting “losers” at me and the two friends I still had. I finally snapped and punched her in the nose. Her family called the school to try to get me into trouble, but of course they didn’t do anything. After that, she and the other kids finally left me alone. The only way to stop it was to return fire and getting violent but it worked, and she still hasn’t forgotten about the time I punched her.
Absolutely I was physically impaired when I was 9 and endured relentless bullying by multiple people. I wish I could have found a way to make it stop. Anyway would have been great.
In dutch we have a saying that goes 'if someone doesn't want to HEAR, they have to FEEL' which means if you've told someone politely to get off your back but they don't wanna listen, they'll have to deal w the consequences. I was bullied a lot as well & the one time my main bullies actually left me alone was when I shouted 'I AM NOT YOUR PET OR YOUR PROPERTY. STOP COMMANDING ME & BOMBARDING ME W QUESTIONS. I OWE YOU NOTHING'. Since I was usually someone who didn't speak A WORD with anyone but teachers, everyone was gobsmacked but at least they shut up.
The fact that the daughter can aptly describe gaslighting would have been my first clue that she was telling the truth...actually, if any child runs from an adult like that, you have to believe something happened.
as for what she went through I think 'Amy' (i know it isn't her real name) needs to see psychologist about the emotional abuse (I would make "Helen" pay for it, if she is really sorry then she will do it). It's better to have 'Amy' talk with a qualified professional, I have a relative who works with young people and 'Amy' might need professional help
What kind of parent complete ignores the cry of help from their own children and take the side of her sister without having proof that shed really done something bad?
unfortunately when spiteful parents ge the ear of their child they can manipulate the child to think their husband or wife is a crazy violent person, because people think kids cant make this type of shit up, but sayin that only a hardarse person would not even think that there is some type of truth to what they say straight away. There have even been cases documented where women who were meant to care for and test children to see if they have been violated, to twist and manipulate the childs thought process, just so they look good by their piers because they clamed the child was abused by the father just after they saw how the child behaved without talking to them.
I was about to edit my comment to include this very thing. You don’t force your child to accept an apology from an abuser, and you don’t force them to be together. Give that poor kid her rights back. Total a**hole move.
That parent sounds so much like mine, my mum screamed at 11 or 12 year old me for not saying anything when my older sister screamed slurs and abuse so loud they could hear from the house. They justified it by saying I was manipulative by staying quiet so the neighbours (too far away to hear) would think my sister was this awful person and I was a sweet angel. This is why I’m planning on moving out age 16 lol
"Amy called me a butthole and said things that really hurt my feelings" oh no, the mother misunderstood her, she said those hurtful things out of loooOOoooove 😉😑
"Hey person one. I hate everything about you!" Later "Person two said this..." "oH tHeY jUsT sAiD iT oUt oF LoVE" If it's offensive or with the intention to be rude, it's not out of love Btw ur funny and i liked the comment u made
I'm having a hard time believing the guy himself wasn't in any way complicit. In any case I think the potential donor was completely justified in backing out and is only feeling bad because they're a good person
If your parents use your income, more than the disposable part to buy unnecessary things and milk your work and money without consent, they should go to jail. Also that's not borrowing money from your child. There's an elaborate word, IDENTITY THEFT.
Yea it's a felony for a reason. If your parents attacked you and broke your arm you'd also go to the police or CPS. Just that identity theft is so much worse than a broken arm, which heals within a few months. Identity theft will ALWAYS follow you forever, unless you talk to the cops and a lawyer.
Bully: **calls someone racial slurs and makes fun of their accent** Students: **laughs** OP: **calls bully poor** Students: THATS SO RUDE OMG HOW DARE YOU
Something similar happened to me, minus the casual racism. It was my first choir competition and we had two choirs in school, the all girls choir and the mixed choir. I was in the girls choir and one of my best friends in there was a girl on the chubby side but she was far from fat. She was also battling an eating disorder and had came a long way even though she was heavily bullied for her weight and I was so proud of her. She and I were getting dressed and this was after school hours but she forgot something in the choir room. She had on a sports bra and a pair of leggings and she ran into the choir room like that, grantide she was showing maybe an inch of her stomach and her arms, it wasn't like she was walking around buck naked. But the moment she went inside the choir room all hell broke loose as some of the snobby mixed choir girls shrieked like my friend murdered somebody and began to berate her for "walking around half naked at school when she's so over weight" and "did she think the boys would like looking at a pig like that?" She started to cry and she ran to the bathroom. I looked at the main girl full of fury and yelled that she was straight up mean and the worst person I ever met before running off to comfort my friend. She was making herself throw up when I got back the the bathroom and crying really hard. I just remember holding her and shaking with so much rage as she cried her heart out. I eventually went to go grab her stuff for her out of the choir room and on the way back the girl I yelled out was balling her eyes out and her friends started telling me how terrible I was for yelling at her. I told them they were terrible for yelling at my friend and making her throw up. They said it's what she got for looking like a fat whore. I told them that what I said to her wasn't even that bad and what they said to my friend was way worse and I told the girl if she really wanted to cry I could drag her ass behind the school and they backed off. My friend was so upset she decided to miss our first competition and went home. They never got in trouble and thankfully neither did I but that girl and her crew avoided me and my friend like the plague after that.
@@justsomerandombananawithin3705 ugh i have a family member like this, without much detail we'll say that in younger life in a functional family they would be very involved. And now after not seeing him for over 6 months(even months before corona happened) but gritting my teeth and speaking to him a few months ago i haven't heard from him. Usually he'd at least call my sister. When another close family member found out she said it was likely he was doing drugs again. He did when i was very young so no surprise lol
@@thatoneperson6388 *your, cause you're is short for you are. You know, the apostroph and stuff. (btw, I don't want to offend you, I'm just noticing how many people have problems with you're and your. I'm German btw.)
Yep, the wife is essentially responsible for the death. Which I suppose was the point. Like if she wanted her husband to survive, she wouldn't have caused false charges to be brought to the family planning to donate a piece of their body to great risk to their own body. Seems like this was a very elaborate plan for an early inheritance.
You’re all aware that his wife didn’t steal correct? She was doing her job and it looked like she was stealing. The person who stole was the bosses wife. I read this story already and this was the update. Ops wife did nothing wrong
😂 I read that as: the Monster... Was fitting before the 2nd post op made. But the fact that she even punnished her daughter when she finally told her why she wanted nothing to do with the aunt was a monstrous move.
“My daughter has explained to me all the abusive things her aunt has done to her, and I understand and believe her, but it hurt her abusers feelings so I’m going to force her to spend time with her abuser. AITA???” What a living piece of crap
she did apologize and i guess they moved on; however, im torn between lowering my 4.2/5 butthole score for her or leaving it be bc we dont know how much of this behavior is present in other parts of that family's life that don't concern one member abusing another, so it is kinda a 50/50 on she was the a-hole just this one time in this particular life struggle and it might never happen vs she is naturally an a-hole in other aspects of her daughter's life and this incident is only the tip of the iceberg.
@@tristenbailey8442 I at least appreciate that she was conflicted enough to post on this subreddit and let herself be pointed in the right direction. Some parents--and people--need extra help making good decisions for their loved ones
@@constantdisappointment5658 i never said i didnt appreciate that she consulted reddit for help? idk where u got that from a comment about the uncertainty of how often the op of this story was an a-hole in her everyday life. also, i have a stepfather who is kinda leaning on the a-hole side of alot of things, even if his intentions are good, so thats y i was torn bc i more or less knew how Amy felt in this story.
@@constantdisappointment5658 oohh i thought u said "at least I"; sorry about that, i read it too fast; after dealing with some idiot on insta who refused to acknowledge my reminders that Johnny Depp more than proved himself innocent when Heard took him to court with that judge who was friends with Heard and her team, I think i lost a few brain cells tbh; he basically wrote off my evidence and belief that not all celebs were corrupted by their riches and were kind and truthful as hype for Johnny Depp then proceeds to use his brother who he basically said ut of 13 gfs he has one wife as an example to try to prove me wrong (basically, he tried to use a womanizer (which technically is a fancy word for cheater) to debunk my literal proven evidence, and last i checked, between 8/10 to 9/10 cheaters are not doing it because they have a relationship with a bad partner.
Right?! Mom is in SERIOUS denial that her sister is a narcissistic mentally abusive person! Quit making excuses for your family members abusive behavior! This mom should be ashamed of herself! Her kid will never trust her again!
@@traceej4685 Good thing she made an edit saying she realized what she has done and has plans to rectify those mistakes. I honestly don't think of her as an a- hole after that, but she was the a- hole in that situation.
i’m lowkey heated at that last one. an actual quote that just left my mouth “here’s a bucket to cry in, after you get finished you can finally take a shower!”
@@sourcandy6469 it really isn't. It should be considered, legally speaking, some type of assault. So should misogyny, misandry, xenophobia, any other type of hateful attitude towards someone for things they have no control over
Nope that last story was completely justified. Racists can't take what the dish. She deserved it. Ignoring it doesn’t work, OP defended herself and that’s it. Put racists in their place.
Such illogical torment such as racial discrimination deserves a calculated and effective deterrent. Never fight racism with racism because the result will be a worse quality of life for all parties involved.
rslash "you reep what you sow they had it coming to them" also rslash "you stooped to her level" let me refrase that last story "aita for defending myself against a bully"
For the last story, if the school can't deal with it and no one is on her side (everyone supporting the trailer girl), then she is completely justified to defend herself. You have to put a bully in their place before it starts affecting the victim's mental health.
I have to say in the last one I agree. I wish I had done the same as a child when I was bullied but my parents would... day after day after day drive in to me that I could not retaliate to bullies or stoop to their level. I tried to one time, ONE TIME. My parents heard and punished me for it and I was from an age where spanking was a punishment. "They would stop if I ignored it." I was constantly told this and it never stopped but I couldn't tell my parents that. They never had my back against bullies and I grew up socially alone. Now as an adult I find myself afraid to even meet people on most days, what if they hate me? What if the are mean about aspects of my life? I suffer so much social anxiety I can't even talk to people at length out of fear they will make fun of me or reject me out of something they hear about my life that they don't like. I would not wish this sort of mental state on anyone. STAND UP TO YOUR BULLIES. Even if the system isn't standing with you, if I could go back and do it again I would have let myself be punished if it meant the bullying would stop.
According to RSlash, if you amicably try to solve something the correct by the book way that is unjust, then retaliate verbally to an abusive racist who publicly humiliates you for no reason you get 1.5 out of 5 buttholes...
@@FretLevelMidnight I can understand why he may have made this judgement. It's plain and simple, he hasn't experienced humiliation to this degree. I personally think bullying needs more attention in schools and even workplaces, because it is a very severe problem in our society. This way, I feel more victims that are prone to this mental abuse can feel more comfortable in approaching someone for help.
@@azumarill5325 I've been bullied before. So I can speak from experience, although mine will differ from everyone else's. When I was bullied, I told the teacher everytime. Unlike OP, my school took actions. However, that dose not mean the bullying didnt affect me years down the line. (It takes time for events to sink in for me and actually affect me.) For awhile I believed I was worthless because of my past, those bullies were proof I was undeserving of friends and finding out the friends I had from irl school and such had been gossiping about me did not help. It only made me fall deeper. But... I got back up. I learned something valuable from it. Bullies only bully others because they are self conscious of themselves, and their "bullying" sometimes dosent even seem that way in their minds. In their minds, it's normal and that is how they make friends. Which is why, I still agree with r/slash ruling of YTA to OP. Stooping down to someone's level is never the answer. You have to hold yourself to a standard of not doing that, but also not tolerating behavior like that from your friends. What I think OP should have done is at least try to get the school involved, and if they end up not caring, then change the situation around. How? By confronting the bully with words that will not hurt her, offend her, nor accuse her and only explain that the comments being said to you are not appreciated and youd like it to stop. This assertive confrontation has a high chance of getting her to stop, but to still approach you in a different way. People can respect someone who stood up to them, someone who has confidence that they themselves lack, and will naturally realize you did not use any words to harm them but only told them to stop saying such hurtful comments and theyll actually consider doing so because you yourself did not use any. This can form the start of a friendship instead. And there you have it, situation changed to something nicer. I am aware this may not be realistic, but I truly believe if we learn to befriend our enemies instead of hating them, it would be better for everyone involved. And if not befriend them, then go separate ways in mutual agreement. Thanks for reading.
The guy getting bullied doesn’t deserve not even one out five. He was being bullied for a while, school didn’t do anything and he stood up for himself. Nah man. He’s good.
Yeah, I've been in that situation before, all that crap about being the bigger person, violence is never the answer, KIDS DON'T CARE, they aren't gonna stop and go "oh look how mature they are going to the principle instead we should be more like them" if the proper authorities do nothing then you have more than a right to handle things your own way
Or maybe the mum just said that so people would stop calling her an Asshole, in reality, she probably never apologized for her actions and just continued as she was going. Or she could be genuinely sorry. Idk
Just knowing that she needed reddit to open her eyes make her a living piece of crap that deserve nothing, "Let's my daughter met her abuser hehe". The type of people are so selfish than she will continue to do bad thing like that, again and again till she broke her dayghter, she deserve to finish her life alone with her sister far away from her child.
glad she realized she was in the wrong but applause isn't needed for not being a terrible parent tbh, idc how she was raised, she shouldnt have punished her child for speaking their mind
I'm Not Applauding An Adult Woman Who Should Know Basic Parenting. Ridiculous That I Actually See Adults Asking For Advice About THEIR Children. THEY Created That Child So How Dare THEY Make Themselves A Victim With These Pathetic Stories. Don't Have Kids If You're Going To Be A Loser Of A Parent In The Future.
Honestly, with how much Amy was over at Helens house when she was a child, her avoidance and her outburst, I would be worried about sexual abuse. I know some might find that a stretch, but Helen had full supervision over Amy for who knows how long at an extremely vulnerable age. I hope that isn't the case, but it could be and it breaks my heart.
If it was "Uncle Alan" instead of "Aunt Helen", everybody would take it more seriously, but ton of retarded sexists still believe that women can't be abusive, especcially not physically~ This Aunt Helen ATLEAST mentally scarred that kid, and there are CERTAINLY changes that it doesn't end there.
My dad is the one who works with sexually abused kids, not me, so I don't to say that I'm an expert or I can speak for him. But in situations where we were reading about someone who got sexually abused, my dad noticed it WAY faster than I did (tbf I was only 14 at the time), and my alarm bells were instantly ringing from the moment this girl started trying to avoid her aunt, just from what I've learned from him and Reddit. He is a rather good judge of character in my experience, and I have MORE than a bit of a hunch he would be BEYOND suspicious of this woman.
Agreed, and a lot of csa and psychological abuse go hand in hand (guilt tripping/gaslighting/threatening/etc so they don't tell), speaking firsthand, Amy definitely shouldn't have been through that and if she can should seek therapy
Last story NTA. So what if they stoop down to her level? Being passive doesn’t stop it, the school wasn’t going to stop it. Why is it when someone stands up to someone by hurting their feelings they’re vilified for it? No, I disagree with your ruling.
Yeah. OP was definitely brutal but that girl asked for it. She harassed him, was racist and top of that did it in public to get some credit. "Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves", same should be said about attacking someone. She deserved it, she was prepared to humiliate this guy, he humiliated her in response. Plus, it is very toxic and dangerous to do something like that. Some people were "inspired" by much less. Some people stopped drinking Corona and got aggressive towards Asians simply because it all started in China and the Covid-19 is a Coronavirus. That kind of comment would have invited others to harass too. He showed them that he won't be a victim. NTA
I agree. It wasn’t friendly banter but it was proper bullying, the bullying that could lead to dark results, just because of something so stupid. Yeah, it was harsh. It sometimes in life, you got to sacrifice something to win a battle. Plus, if you can’t take back an insult, don’t insult anyone in the first place. Simples. But overall, what OP did had to be done to stop the bully, as the school wouldn’t do much, so it was the only thing that can be done. NTA
I’ve been in the victim’s position so many times, all but one of my schools never dealt with bullies physically and mentally hurting me. My PARENTS were getting question whether they were abusing me once because I was covered in bruises from the assault of the bullies. OP will never be the butthole in that story.
Exactly I doesn't matter if OP stooped to her level, if she couldn't take what she dished out then she shouldn't have dished it OP gets no AH points in my book
You don't get to decide how someone else approaches their trauma. You do not get to tell them how they feel. You do not get to tell them that it's ok because it happened years ago.
Honestly for the first on, there should be no guilt. If you try to save someone's life, and in turn they try to sue your loved one, you made the right decision.
With the last story, cyberbullying is no joke. People have literally committed suicide from it. Unlike regular bullying where the bully can see how their victim reacts to decide when to stop. Cyberbullying separates them and the bully will continue until they get bored. The fact the school administration did nothing is appalling and might be illegal depending on where OP lives.
When It comes to the Aunt Helen story I disagree with rslash. Instead of 3/5, I would say 5/5 because what is happening is emotionally traumatizing and can lead to very melancholy thoughts. I've had this happen to me so I feel exactly how Amy feels Edit: rslash rated it 3.5 I still think that the way Helen treated Amy is unjustifiably
Straight up 5/5, for sure. So, the daughter, as a young child, gets abused by the aunt in the name of "unfiltered honesty" or whatever the mother wants to label it as, it majorly affects her and her mental state regarding said aunt and probably other areas of her life, she finally opens up to the mother about it, wanting and NEEDING support, comfort, and solace, and the mother basically says, "HOW DARE YOU?! SHE WOULD NEVER!! I'M PUNISHING YOU!!" Even if the mother did actually apologize, she'll be lucky if her daughter ever confides anything to her again. And she's gonna have to do a hell of a lot to earn her kid's trust back.
as Kelso would say "BURN!!!!" lets be real tho she was totally justified, granted you never wanna stoop down to somebody else's level, but when you're being bullied you don't just let them bully you, always fight back and defend yourself. OP totally roasted her tho, it was pretty funny
@@theparalyzedarmy3836 I'm pretty sure OP has a long way to go before stooping down to the bully's level, since the bully had already been harassing them for months.
“I need an organ. Your a match. Could you donate an organ to me?” “Yeah sure!” *Week before the surgery* “IM ACCUSING YOUR WIFE OF THEFT” That is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard
No shit this girl is 16 that's almost an adult shouldn't have to converse with someone if they don't like them for any reason parenthood isn't about dictating everything your child does it's about raising them with ideals, hope beliefs teaching them right from wrong but definitely never forcing them to do something they don't want to do specially if they give you a very valid reason in the first place
If it makes you feel better the Mom was overwhelming considered the a-hole; she eventually came back and admitted she was an a-hole. She also told her sister to stop visiting for awhile.
My Dad used to force me to go to family gatherings and afterwards he'd criticize me for not talking to anyone or when I did socialize, not doing it good enough. Now I hate family gatherings and never go. My Dad still gets the surprised Pikachu face when I refuse invitations
My dad tried to get me and one of my relatives to interact. I told both of them repeatedly that I do not want to talk to him. Dad still tries to set things up so that we'll meet, and keeps telling the guy to try to talk to me. Guess who doesn't go to Dad's anymore... I'm not putting up with that.
@@SilverThreads your dad and my mom should hang out, now that I'm an adult and live kinda far from home she's always saying "spending time with family is important" no thanks, I'm finally happy and I don't miss the days when I cried myself to sleep everytime I saw these people
Third story: no OP. I wouldn’t want to have a relationship with my parents if they were sexist either. They obviously aren’t really sorry. I bet it’s only because of the kid you’re expecting. They are the ones being immature.
Opening up ties with the OP's parents should be based on them changing their sexist views. You only get one family in this life. Hopefully, they see how they were wrong and change so they can have a healthy relationship. I don't think it's fair to ask for $100,000 though.
@@drewinsch2916 In a way, I feel like OP was exaggerating about 100k, it had more of a "you never gave me support, so this is what you should have supported me in". Not saying that they were asking a lot, but the tone felt different.
@@drewinsch2916 I think it is fair since they paid for the male kids college but not hers. She wants to be treated as equal, she wants to see a sign of that. That would be sign. If they paid for 3 kids college they probably have enough to pay for hers.
Last story, OP gets 0/5 for me. As a fellow Asian that went to a school predominantly white, it wasn't fun. This was even before the pandemic, so I'm sure bullying has gotten so much worse for my fellow Asians. OP's bully was being a literal racist, and in my opinion, racists get no sympathy. Can't treat everyone equally, then you get treated like how you think other should be treated.
*Don't fucking dish out what you can't take.* If you insult someone over something they have no control over (financial status, ethnicity etc.), don't be surprised when the victim stands up for themselves and roots you with the truth and nothing but the truth. I applaud OP for their courage for actually saying something even though all the other kids joined in the laughter
I agree. One of the few times I don’t agree with poster. Bully was constantly harassing her. School turned a blind eye. So she defended herself. I truly hope that when the idiots who whined, “she can’t help being born poor “ actually answered, “And I can help being born Asian!?!?” I’m glad OP is transferring, that moronic atmosphere would have harmed her in the end.
(Last story, OP gets 0/5 for me) oh I so agree. I would have taken that physical. And it would have ended in the police coming and her going to the ICU or maybe the morgue. But OP just used words to settle the conflict. not only does she get zero butt holes, she also gets a gold star. I don't think I could have done that as good as OP did. I aspire to be as strong as OP is.
I would still give OP a 1/5 to be honest. I think OP was right to retaliate though. I mean, sometime being a butthole is what is fair (doesn't mean you are not being a butthole, just that you are justified in doing so)
I'm on Amy's side here. That mothers judgement is so clearly biased and she's disregarding her childs emotional state. Having family that psychologically abuse you and hearing from your parent that you are to 'get over it and accept the apology' is horrible. Words are shallow and that aunt will continue to make snide comments or give looks. What an awful mother.
Despite the mother in the “Amy” story being ignorant to her daughter’s suffering, I feel comfort it knowing that this actually helped her realise she was wrong, and she’ll hopefully fix things.
Yea exactly and I can't believe people said " well it's not her fault that she's poor" yea it's not her fault she's poor but entirely the other girl fault because some guy ate a bat
I always wonder why some people says "just let them bully you and don't fight back" to bullied kids. Especially if they have power to stop it. Maybe they just ultimately lazy?
@@AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH-y5f let me phrase it better. "No one is allowed to fight back when they're hurt. Only us can set the punishment." That's the mentality of the authorities. And literally people on r/AITA. Just find some stories where OP fight back and some of the judgement said ESH or even YTA just because OP fight back to the bullies.
If high schools aren’t going to punish racist comments, then they can’t be shocked when the victim of a bully talks back. It is so humiliating and degrading to have someone make racist comments towards you, and receive no punishment. I’m glad the girl stood up for herself. If it were me, I would have said something meaner. 0/10
Bully: *punches me repeatedly* Me: *punches back* My parents: Good job standing up for yourself. The law: That's fine, it was self-defence. Schools: That sin cannot be forgiven.
It’s not all teachers, I would have been on that bully immediately. That stuff is not out up with in my classroom (and most younger teachers’ as well...usually...meaning under 45-50). I honestly don’t think many older teachers even see and/or don’t care (it varies). It’s very generational but they need to be willing to learn (and some of their generation just refuse to learn. We try to teach them...and they just don’t/won’t seem to understand). It’s really frustrating. Especially ehen tbey are still the administrators (and refuse to retire). Our hands are usually tied when we take it higher (please consider that before throwing dirt a teachers. So often it’s the principals that deserve it).
The second OP's relationship with her parents is already damaged. They took advantage of her and would eventually send her into worse debt. I'd say she ought to report to the police.
@@WobblesandBean Absolutely they are not being parents they are being thieves. GOOD parents do all they can to help you have a better life, and you do all you can when they need you, but you do NOT take an identity and do horrific things to others credit especially not your child! You legit work for your loved ones, or stay and care for them when sick. You do NOT do this crap!
Agreed. I would also recommend OP start the process of getting a legal name change. It won't stop them from using the DOB or SSN, but it will help when debt collectors try to garnish wages, etc. as the bank account and paychecks will show a different person. The companies would likely then also initiate their own fraud investigation, and bring legal charges to the parents themselves.
OK I have to ask. Is you profile pic custom or generic? I've been thinking lately that it's about time someone made a profile pic that mimics the generic ones. and considering that you profile pic is you entier name
I love the story where the victim got even with the bully... no, I’ve been bullied, and to this day I still get bullied....... when bullies get what they deserve then I applaud !!! Not all heroes wear capes !!!!
Great. Making your child who you HAVE TO PROTECT interact with someone the child says is abusing them. This parent is never seeing their child after moving out
According to the update, Mom realized that she was wrong and is starting to move forward in fixing her relationship with her daughter. So that's good, hopefully.
And one of the updates for this story the mom admitted that she was an a****** to her daughter. She also apparently asked her sister, the aunt, to stop visiting for a few weeks.
Yea like have some God damn common sense if you think or know it's going to hurt some one then don't tell them well you can but just say it nicer like instead of "hey op your outfit is ugly as shit" it could have been "hey op I don't think that outfit looks good mabye you could try something else on"
There are four forms of communication. Passive, passive-aggressive, aggressive, and good. My sister doesn't differentiate between good communication and aggressive communication. It can make some of her statements hurtful. Example: you need to find somewhere else to live. Context: an older relative w/ dementia was hostile towards me. I had already decided that I didn't want to live with that person, so I was already looking for somewhere else, but yeah could really have phrased that better, and I told her that.
@@justsomerandombananawithin3705 I love how the dad thats just how her sister is and "she cant help it" likes first thats bullshit because shes an adult she can control what comes out of her damn mouth she just chooses not to stop making excuses
First story: OP really should not let those people make him feel guilty after the guy he was willing to save tried to frame his GF for a very serious crime. Second story: TOXIC! Super Toxic! OP should call the police on her patents cause they (potentialy) destroyed her life after commiting fraud/ I.D. theft. Third: Play stupid games, gain stupid prizes. OP was being more that fair by just agreeing to meet with her parents. I see no reason why OP should even let them back into her life, let alone in the life of her new family. Three NTAs in a row. Wow. I think this is a first for RSlash. As for the 4th story..... well OP better hope her daughter does not cut all contact with her once she moves out. 110% Grade A Ahole
What is more disturbing to me about the last story is that the school blew off bullying and blatant racism. As somebody who was relentlessly bullied in her early schooling years up to middle school (in the 90s and early 2000s), that has been something I've had to face for a long time. It always breaks my heart when I hear that a bullying victim is swept under the rug by the very people who should be there to make the school a safe place to learn. I can't help but wonder if, like every other case where a school would do that, the parents of the bully were friends with a superintendent or something like that. Even if you're poor, you could have friends in high places and have stuff like this swept under the rug. It's actually disgusting that this kind of thing is still happening in schools in 2020/2021.
first story. My mom just donated her liver to my grandma. It's a HUGE deal. so so so much testing and waiting and tears. So many appointments and honest conversations about what could happen. and afterwards an 8 week recovery. So, the fact that the boss would do something so heartless ONE WEEK before the date is so horrible. Absolutely not OP's fault. NTA.
I was happy to see in the Amy and Helen update that the mother owned up to her mistake and apologized to Amy and to talk to her when she was ready . she told Helen to stay away for a few weeks and is waiting for Amy to talk before she confronts her.
Mom: "Daughter, can you tell me why you're avoiding you're aunt? She really wants to spend time with you." Daughter: "She's been emotionally abusing me whenever I talk to her." Mom: "Like your feelings matter lol"
"These comments were made YEARS ago" So what? I can tell from personal experience that being told I should keep an eye on what I'm eating by close family members spun around in my head for years and, upon other things, made me develop an eating disorder. I remember everything negative that was said to me, even over ten years ago.
Legit gave me a flash back to party where my aunt commented on the fact I was eating "too many crisps" , cuz I didn't like any of the food :/ it kinda hurt. Not what she said that was bad, but how they said it and the looks I got
Also the distance to the comments and the reaction seen when Amy is a teenager tells me something more happened between them that Helen will never admit happened and Amy is to scared to tell her parents about
I feel so bad for the OP and his girlfriend in the first story. She was literally framed! I would’ve backed out of the surgery to! He did nothing wrong. And now all these people are harassing him when they should be harassing the wife. She’s the one that caused her husband to die because of her actions.
For the last story: it absolutely doesn’t matter, what race that bully was! OP is absolutely NTA here! I’m majoring in sinology/Chinese studies, and what I’ve heard from my Asian friends (not all of them are Chinese), since this pandemic has started is absolutely disgusting! What’s wrong with some people?!? I mean, I got friends there, whose parents are from Japan/Vietnam/Taiwan and who themselves were born in Germany (where I’m from) and haven’t been to anywhere in Asia in years, yet they were shunned by such idiots, since „all Chinese folks have the virus“! Every time I hear a story like that, I get SO angry!
Couldn't help notice that Helen, who "really loves" Amy, was happy when she was told Amy would be required to stay and didn't seem to mind the effect on her.
Honestly, people who tell people who are bullied to "ignore them" and to "not stoop to their level" are usually the people who've never actually experienced bullying. Bullies pick on the quiet and those they perceive as 'weak', so not reacting is just validating that they think you're easy pickings. 99/100 bullies stop when their target fights back, because they're not the weak prey the bully wants, they're like sharks, they're scavengers and bottom feeders, they want to pick on the weak and helpless and the best way to get rid of one is a solid punch to the face, either physically or verbally. If the people in positions of authority don't step in to stop it (which they won't because they don't want to be held liable for what's going on between the kids, they'd rather plead ignorance to cover their asses), it's up to the bullied to show they're not the weakling or as easy pickings that the bully thought.
Plus, I'm pretty sure it would take a lot more than a single provoked insult to stoop to the bully's level, since she had been harassing OP for months at that point.
Yeah, the "stooping to her level" was basically victim blaming. I'm sorry, but etiquette and social rules only apply if everyone follows them. Don't start crying because someone ended something you started.
I agree with this 99%. I fully agreed that “sToOPiNg TO tHeIR lEvEL” is stupid to say, but ignoring them rarely does work. Depends on how determined they are and how severe the bullying is. If it’s physical bullying... Don’t ignore it. Just don’t. I’ve been bullied before but not physically, however, it isn’t difficult to figure out. Fight back yourself with any method you prefer.
@@UnderscoreKikimo yeah; imo, it would be better to attack verbally before physically bc if actions speak louder than words, doing the action of using the quieter of the two (words) means you for damn sure are not the one who should be punished at all
The one where OP punished her daughter for avoiding an emotionally abusive person: The OP was an asshole. She was also a bit blind to how her sister was a different person when she wasn't around. The last story: While what OP said was a little mean, it wasn't being an asshole. OP tried going to the school to get them to help, but they did nothing. She tried ignoring the idiot, but as soon as school starts back up the idiot is back to it. OP handled it in a way that while maybe going to far, was effective in the moment to get the idiot to stop.
The number of times schools that do jack about bullying is alarming. But when the victim turns the tables and gives the bully a taste of his/her own medicine, schools basically say “so you have chosen death.”
The last story, I think OP should have zero because why would the other girl start crap and not be able to take a hit back. Like why dish it out if you can't handle it yourself
The last one I think she was more than justified. Even if she said something cruel, you don’t keep harassing a minority then call them mean when they bite back. Don’t poke sticks at the bear and be surprised when you get bit. 0/5
I'm glad that Amy's story had a happy ending. To me that's the whole idea, other people to help put things into perspective and ultimately improve the situation
First story: Even after saying you'd do it, you have absolutely no obligation to do it whatsoever. I'm like rSlash, I would only donate organs to immediate family and the closest of friends. I wouldn't even have been tested to see if I'm a match for this guy I have no real connection with. And I also would have backed out after the charges were pressed. Like... wtf duh. Set up my spouse for serious crimes, of course I'm not doing anything special for you, never mind donating my literal organs. And the harassment OP received after is literally illegal and he could report every one of those entitled douchebags.
First story: OP are you insane? This person was going to send your wife to prison. Your loyalty to your wife is what makes you an amazing person. I hope she appreciates you to the moon and back you're awesome for even considering it. Much love and respect and excuse my first sentence 😅😁
3:24 WRONG, It's like the guy is saying "If you touch me, I will accuse you of raping/assaulting me and beating me up." So either you help him and preper for maybe years of dragging court to court, risk your reputation, mental health and jail time or you will protect yourself, which could or could not lead to the death of this person.
11:20 this is ACTUALLY triggering my childhood ptsd omg. This mother is 100% a manipulative abusive woman. No good mother talks about their daughter like that.
Daughter: opens up about aunt gaslighting her Mother: IMMEDIATELY GASLIGHTS HER WTAF!!?!?? Edit: Holy shit the most likes I’ve ever gotten was like maybe 10. Over 700 wow thanks guys! This is exciting!
what her mother did was terrible but im so grateful that she realized what she was doing and apologized, set boundaries for amy, and didnt speak for amy. so many awful parents just double down when told theyre the one in the wrong
iamawesomelol1 here’s an example of gas lighting My brother doesn’t feed cat Me hey brother you have to feed the cat My brother I already fed the cat your insane for saying I didn’t feed the cat Me there’s no food in his bowl My brother yes there is your insane Me questions my own sanity
I'm really glad that in the story with aunt Helen the mother realised her mistake and cleared things up with her daughter after reading the comments she got. A lot of parents won't accept any kind of criticism about their parenting and it shows that she is willing to learn. It's sad that she couldn't believe her child in the first hand but at least she'll be more likely to understand her in the future.
I would get both sides of the story first, extensively. Make sure neither side is lying about anything, although I'd have sided with my kid if I had one and was in this kind of situation. So yeah, with you on that.
NTA. The liver story was just sad, OP did the right thing by defending his partner but the boss died by doing so. It wasn't OP's fault that they died, but I see where they coming from and feeling.
That second story hits pretty close to home for me. My mom signed up for cable, internet, and phone service in my name, then moved away without returning the cable boxes and modem. When I turned 18 I had almost $7000 (yes, thousand) in bad debt and my credit was trashed
I have to strongly disagree with rslash on the last story. That old saying "he who lives in a glass house shouldn't throw stones" definitely applies here. If you can't take it dont dish it out. The only way that op comes off as the butthole here is if she said that stuff unprovoked
Omg. Rslash as a dad and step dad i love you for your honesty. No person should be allowed to emotionally torture our kids. No matter who they r. And if the kids dont like them because of what they've done, then they shouldn't be forced to interact.
17:08 the perfect sentence would probably be something like "stop making fun me of something a can't control or else i'm going too make fun of you for the things you can't control'' btw sorry for bad grammer i'm not a native english man or amerikan
I want to help you with your spelling, grammar and some other things. -I’m needs to be capitalized -I instead of a -To not too -of me, not me of -grammar, not grammer -“native English man” you mean a Brit? -American, not amerikan. Also American needs to be capitalized. That’s all the errors I found. Good job with the rest!
I really like how that mother changed her mind after reading the comments and apologized to her daughter. This makes me feel like people really are able to become better.
@@asmith8692 There is no such thing as a casually occasionally racist. You either are or you are not a racist. There is no in between. So your sister is a f****** racist. Racism is racism. Racism by any other name is still racism. Don't get mad at other people for calling your sister out on her bull shit.
If I was the again person at the end, when the girl asked if I was eating bat, I would've responded with, "I sure am! Want some?", and then just walk away
The identity theft story sounded a LOT like my childhood but my parents didn't wait till I was an adult to put bills in my name... I was about 14 with a $2,500 bill to the electric company... SUPER FUN to find out about when you get your first place and can't get your electric turned on! Good thing I had a roommate... I found out it was them because it was an old address that we lived at... Mom claimed she never put an electric bill in my name just cable bills! Yet another "fun surprise" that I owe $700 to the only cable company around! I don't even want to get into all the birthday money they "borrowed" for bill and was never seen again...
Fifth story: OMG no OP. You even told the school and they brushed it off. They are supposed to stop bullying! Yeah no. She needed a taste of her own medicine. Ever heard of the Golden Rule? Treat others the way you want to be treated. Bullies deserve to get their butts handed to them.
Schools are useless when it comes to bullies. Students should deal with their bullies, and if the school comes down on them, then the parents have a responsability to hold their useless ass in the fire of their own making.
@@trinalgalaxy5943 I had a science teacher in 7th grade who I (and literally everyone else students teachers I’m not even exaggerating) hated. Once these girls were yelling at me right in front of him and I was struggling not to either scream at them or cry and all he did about the situation was tell *me* to calm down while the girls were still yelling at me and getting all in my face! He didn’t tell them to stop or anything! Jerk was fired before the end of the year for a string of unrelated reasons (dude was constantly absent apparently each time because he’d been put on administrative leave while under investigation I only know the reason for 1 of these times which was he sent 1 of his black students to the office but not before telling her something along the lines of “we don’t have time for your kind here” so yeah safe to say the guy was a douchebag jerkwad sorry excuse of a dude who I’m not even sure how he was ever qualified to teach science to 7th graders as he didn’t really teach us anything just told stories about his daughter telling “hilarious” (his words not mine) inappropriate and extremely messed up and just plain disgusting jokes, how he thought a doctor hypnotized him when he went to get his arm looked at after it wasn’t working when he got electrocuted unplugging a chord from a wall socket at school (he thought this he said because the doctor said it would be better in 48 hours and in 48 hours it was), and about him going on “paid research sabbaticals” to the “very bottom” of the Mariana Trench with a “vacuum thing” to clean up plastic trash that was down there (this was the story he told us after coming back after being out on administrative leave for the incident I mentioned above that I knew about he even changed his story for the next class period as we didn’t believe him this time claiming he went on vacation to Hawaii) and I honestly would not care if he ended up homeless in the streets) sorry for my little rant but I absolutely HATED that guy
@@trinalgalaxy5943 here is the full story of the Mariana Trench incident th-cam.com/video/fN2BNCm46gs/w-d-xo.html And this 1 is another incident that happened that same week th-cam.com/video/xu4XiwkRRis/w-d-xo.html
@@rosepuppy1984 this isnt to say I havent had good teachers, but they are an extremely rare breed and not enough to keep me from saying fuck all teachers and damn their union to hell.
@@trinalgalaxy5943 my parents are teachers. Good ones too. I’ve also had mostly good teachers. But I do understand where you’re coming from 1 can only stand to have so many bad teachers.
She was spot on! Sometimes you have to hit a bully in the face. Example: my daughter was being bullied by her younger half brother. I said to my daughter "it sounds as though YHB is going to end up a criminal like his father." After my weekend visitation he resumed his bully/entitled tactics. My daughter said to him "you keep this up and you are going to end up a criminal like your father!" He cried and left her alone from then on. Fortunately my ex defended her statement to the boy's father. But my ex was PO'd at me. Didn't care still don't.
12:34 not only does she invalidate her feelings, but when the DAUGHTER hurts her feeling because "ShE SaiD MeAN StUFf" she gets upset... THE HYPOCRACY!
I actually had a friend who’s mother opened a credit card under her name- my friends mom had a really bad credit and had a history of not paying back her cards on time. The card my friends mother opened under her name was without my friends permission. She had called to confront her mother which the mother mother said “oh it’s ok. I’m your mom.” When my friend confided this in me (we were in collage, both of us 19 at the time) I told her that that was illegal to open a card under someone else’s name AND that her mom could fuck up her credit and that could cause irreversible damage. She asked me if she should call her husband (he was deployed in South Korea at the time and would return in a few months) to see if he should help her resolve it. I said yes, because he likely had more knowledge on what to do. Over that week she talked with her husband and his family, in which they agreed to help get in contact with police and her bank to shut the card down. Luckily her husband’s family were very nice to her and loved her. She said at the end of the week that if she took it to court her mom could be charge with fraud- that of course was true and it was exactly what her mom had done. She told me she felt like a total asshole for possibly getting her mom sent to jail. It’s worth mentioning I knew her father was in and out of jail, and in general her mom sounded very entitled and abusive... that my friend seemed more like a punching bag to her own mother. I let her know that she was absolutely NOT the butthole in this situation and that her mom, as an adult, made this choice on her own and the mother was the butthole for trying to use her own daughters credit at her expense. I haven’t spoken to her in over a year (life happens, and when her husband moved back to America they moved states) but last I heard she did take her mother to court and won. Not sure the ending or if her mom served any time, but my friend did dodge a bullet. I sincerely hope her and her husband are doing well and that they’re living happily now.
For the last one: being mean in response to a bully is literally a non-issue. Not only was the girl a bully, not only were the adults with power doing absolutely nothing, but the girl was a bigoted POS. Like OP said, she can't control that she's Asian. And being Asian is nothing to be made fun of to begin with anyway. So, OP is NOT the a-hole, and just because OP hurt the bully's feelings doesn't automatically make the bully the victim. Like you literally said in this exact video, actions have consequences and enacting those consequences does not make you the a-hole.
Yea I would've given him 0/5 because he did everything right . He went to the school and they did nothing so the next thing is to confront her. And that ended it.
-Mom, your sister is verbally abusing me!
-Shut up, you're punished.
You forgot the part where she ASKED WHAT FOR THE REASON. Asking for a reason and getting mad at the answer... smh
@@fen4613 r/woosh
Jorge A Mitchell C ....do you even know what r/woooosh is? Because it doesn’t apply here.
@@fen4613 yeah dud u didn't get the joke man
Jorge A Mitchell C i’m 100% certain this person understood the joke and you don’t understand how r/wooosh works
Aww, the bully got a taste of her own medicine and didnt like it...shocking.
*shocked Pikachu face*
Fucking typical. They can dish it out, but can't take it.
That story was bullshit for sure.
Went sans on her
OP's statement was morally wrong but the intention was justified to me. I feel like the school community is fine with racism but pretends to act like a saint when it comes to poor people.
Person: *is racist*
Students: *laugh*
Victim: *says something rude back*
Students: “no that’s not how you’re supposed to play the game”
The last OP gets 0/5 from me. I was bullied in school and I tried everything to get him to leave me alone. He would thump my ear, steal my comics, and one time even threw my bookbag out of the bus window. The only way I got him to stop was by taking and throwing HIS bag out of the window. Return-fire is all you have, and this girl took a LOT of abuse before firing back. She's justified in my opinion.
Yes i was physically abused he would crush my feet everyday so i beated the hell out of him it worked dont let yourself up
OP was being nice imo. I bit all of my bullies that the school didn't take the necessary steps to make stop. Worked every time, Elementary through high school.
I agree. I was bullied a lot too, and the girl who lived down the street from me was the worst. She would get the rest of the neighborhood kids to gang up on me too, even kids who I never met. They would even throw snowballs at me if I left the house during the wintertime. I couldn’t even go outside without being harassed. We tried everything to get the harassment to stop, going as far as calling the police, but nothing worked. Then one day we were waiting for school to start when she got 15 other kids to start chanting “losers” at me and the two friends I still had. I finally snapped and punched her in the nose. Her family called the school to try to get me into trouble, but of course they didn’t do anything. After that, she and the other kids finally left me alone. The only way to stop it was to return fire and getting violent but it worked, and she still hasn’t forgotten about the time I punched her.
Absolutely I was physically impaired when I was 9 and endured relentless bullying by multiple people. I wish I could have found a way to make it stop. Anyway would have been great.
In dutch we have a saying that goes 'if someone doesn't want to HEAR, they have to FEEL' which means if you've told someone politely to get off your back but they don't wanna listen, they'll have to deal w the consequences.
I was bullied a lot as well & the one time my main bullies actually left me alone was when I shouted 'I AM NOT YOUR PET OR YOUR PROPERTY. STOP COMMANDING ME & BOMBARDING ME W QUESTIONS. I OWE YOU NOTHING'.
Since I was usually someone who didn't speak A WORD with anyone but teachers, everyone was gobsmacked but at least they shut up.
The fact that the daughter can aptly describe gaslighting would have been my first clue that she was telling the truth...actually, if any child runs from an adult like that, you have to believe something happened.
as for what she went through I think 'Amy' (i know it isn't her real name) needs to see psychologist about the emotional abuse (I would make "Helen" pay for it, if she is really sorry then she will do it). It's better to have 'Amy' talk with a qualified professional, I have a relative who works with young people and 'Amy' might need professional help
What kind of parent complete ignores the cry of help from their own children and take the side of her sister without having proof that shed really done something bad?
unfortunately when spiteful parents ge the ear of their child they can manipulate the child to think their husband or wife is a crazy violent person, because people think kids cant make this type of shit up, but sayin that only a hardarse person would not even think that there is some type of truth to what they say straight away.
There have even been cases documented where women who were meant to care for and test children to see if they have been violated, to twist and manipulate the childs thought process, just so they look good by their piers because they clamed the child was abused by the father just after they saw how the child behaved without talking to them.
I was about to edit my comment to include this very thing. You don’t force your child to accept an apology from an abuser, and you don’t force them to be together. Give that poor kid her rights back. Total a**hole move.
That parent sounds so much like mine, my mum screamed at 11 or 12 year old me for not saying anything when my older sister screamed slurs and abuse so loud they could hear from the house. They justified it by saying I was manipulative by staying quiet so the neighbours (too far away to hear) would think my sister was this awful person and I was a sweet angel. This is why I’m planning on moving out age 16 lol
"Amy called me a butthole and said things that really hurt my feelings" oh no, the mother misunderstood her, she said those hurtful things out of loooOOoooove 😉😑
"Hey person one. I hate everything about you!"
Later
"Person two said this..."
"oH tHeY jUsT sAiD iT oUt oF LoVE"
If it's offensive or with the intention to be rude, it's not out of love
Btw ur funny and i liked the comment u made
Idk if the aunt is the kindest person on earth, Amy shouldn't be forced to spend time with her.
Sounds like the bosses WIFE is to blame for him dying, having chosen to accuse your GF for her crime is what caused the offer to be withdrawn.
You're right, I haven't seen many comments talking about the bosses wife who is the true antagonist here
Why is rSlash’s comment section infested with bots?
WorldTravel1518 wdym?
Ditto.
I'm having a hard time believing the guy himself wasn't in any way complicit. In any case I think the potential donor was completely justified in backing out and is only feeling bad because they're a good person
If your parents use your income, more than the disposable part to buy unnecessary things and milk your work and money without consent, they should go to jail. Also that's not borrowing money from your child. There's an elaborate word, IDENTITY THEFT.
Yea it's a felony for a reason.
If your parents attacked you and broke your arm you'd also go to the police or CPS.
Just that identity theft is so much worse than a broken arm, which heals within a few months.
Identity theft will ALWAYS follow you forever, unless you talk to the cops and a lawyer.
Identity theft is identity theft, even when it's your parents 🤷♂️
I can’t find the original post on Reddit any help on that?
IDENTITY THEFT IS NOT A JOKE JIM
Don't forget it's also theft because they used HER money without her consent.
Bully: **calls someone racial slurs and makes fun of their accent**
Students: **laughs**
OP: **calls bully poor**
Students: THATS SO RUDE OMG HOW DARE YOU
So accurate.
Racism runs deep in that school.
Something similar happened to me, minus the casual racism. It was my first choir competition and we had two choirs in school, the all girls choir and the mixed choir. I was in the girls choir and one of my best friends in there was a girl on the chubby side but she was far from fat. She was also battling an eating disorder and had came a long way even though she was heavily bullied for her weight and I was so proud of her. She and I were getting dressed and this was after school hours but she forgot something in the choir room. She had on a sports bra and a pair of leggings and she ran into the choir room like that, grantide she was showing maybe an inch of her stomach and her arms, it wasn't like she was walking around buck naked. But the moment she went inside the choir room all hell broke loose as some of the snobby mixed choir girls shrieked like my friend murdered somebody and began to berate her for "walking around half naked at school when she's so over weight" and "did she think the boys would like looking at a pig like that?" She started to cry and she ran to the bathroom. I looked at the main girl full of fury and yelled that she was straight up mean and the worst person I ever met before running off to comfort my friend. She was making herself throw up when I got back the the bathroom and crying really hard. I just remember holding her and shaking with so much rage as she cried her heart out. I eventually went to go grab her stuff for her out of the choir room and on the way back the girl I yelled out was balling her eyes out and her friends started telling me how terrible I was for yelling at her. I told them they were terrible for yelling at my friend and making her throw up. They said it's what she got for looking like a fat whore. I told them that what I said to her wasn't even that bad and what they said to my friend was way worse and I told the girl if she really wanted to cry I could drag her ass behind the school and they backed off. My friend was so upset she decided to miss our first competition and went home. They never got in trouble and thankfully neither did I but that girl and her crew avoided me and my friend like the plague after that.
@LeviFangirl 308
I hope that your friend is doing better now. You did the right thing yelling at those bastards
I love democracy (sarcasm)
The aunt story its really annoying that she was like "it hurt my feelings"
Well she got told to not visit for awhile, the mom admitted that she was being an a-hole to her daughter.
I agree the aunt is acting like a child "WAHHHH I'm sad because someone doesn't want to see me all because I've emotionally abused them WAHHHH
Allyson W why do I think that was fake so people were less annoyed
@@justsomerandombananawithin3705 ugh i have a family member like this, without much detail we'll say that in younger life in a functional family they would be very involved. And now after not seeing him for over 6 months(even months before corona happened) but gritting my teeth and speaking to him a few months ago i haven't heard from him.
Usually he'd at least call my sister. When another close family member found out she said it was likely he was doing drugs again. He did when i was very young so no surprise lol
Right? How does she expect sympathy from others in regards to her feelings when she completely invalidates her daughters?!?! Where’s the logic lmao.
When that racist girl started crying it felt like a bully was punching someone and when the kid punched back the bully started crying
The bully started crying... And made absolutely sure everyone around heard her. "O I'm such a victim😭"
Asian girl: gets bullied
Also Asian girl: bullys back once
People around her: "you fucking killed her dude!"
the bully was hitting someone.... and got hit back with a 1911 chambered in 12 gauge...
Fafnier Studios yo wtf.
I’m Asian and I would have said the same thing cause I don’t let racism towards me or my friends slide at all
For the sexist parents, it's obvious the parents doesn't want a relationship with op but with her child to raise it the way they want it
in a minor way, thats a stretch but it is also safe to assume that
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@@thatoneperson6388 *your, cause you're is short for you are. You know, the apostroph and stuff.
(btw, I don't want to offend you, I'm just noticing how many people have problems with you're and your. I'm German btw.)
@@Nikita_Akashya sorry English is not my first language Im still in the process of learning difference in words
@@thatoneperson6388 Nah, it's fine. Just try to memorize the thing with the apostroph and you'll be ok. You'll is short for you will btw.
Hope everyone's having a good weekend!
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The first story, if anyone’s to blame it’s the wife, she framed OP’s significant other and soiled the relationship, OP’s fine
Yep, the wife is essentially responsible for the death.
Which I suppose was the point.
Like if she wanted her husband to survive, she wouldn't have caused false charges to be brought to the family planning to donate a piece of their body to great risk to their own body.
Seems like this was a very elaborate plan for an early inheritance.
But then does the husband deserve to die for having a shitty wife?
That poor woman is getting the blame, all she did was steal😡, she did nothing wrong
You’re all aware that his wife didn’t steal correct? She was doing her job and it looked like she was stealing. The person who stole was the bosses wife. I read this story already and this was the update. Ops wife did nothing wrong
@@locusxe1411 Actually read the story, Op doesn't have a wife he has a girlfriend, they where talking about the bosses wife
The mother who realized how awful she had treated her daughter restored some of my faith in humanity
@JayTheBlue
I think it's ironic
😂 I read that as: the Monster...
Was fitting before the 2nd post op made. But the fact that she even punnished her daughter when she finally told her why she wanted nothing to do with the aunt was a monstrous move.
“My daughter has explained to me all the abusive things her aunt has done to her, and I understand and believe her, but it hurt her abusers feelings so I’m going to force her to spend time with her abuser. AITA???” What a living piece of crap
she did apologize and i guess they moved on; however, im torn between lowering my 4.2/5 butthole score for her or leaving it be bc we dont know how much of this behavior is present in other parts of that family's life that don't concern one member abusing another, so it is kinda a 50/50 on she was the a-hole just this one time in this particular life struggle and it might never happen vs she is naturally an a-hole in other aspects of her daughter's life and this incident is only the tip of the iceberg.
@@tristenbailey8442 I at least appreciate that she was conflicted enough to post on this subreddit and let herself be pointed in the right direction. Some parents--and people--need extra help making good decisions for their loved ones
@@constantdisappointment5658 i never said i didnt appreciate that she consulted reddit for help? idk where u got that from a comment about the uncertainty of how often the op of this story was an a-hole in her everyday life. also, i have a stepfather who is kinda leaning on the a-hole side of alot of things, even if his intentions are good, so thats y i was torn bc i more or less knew how Amy felt in this story.
@@tristenbailey8442 I was just trying to help by adding a positive to the situation, since you were torn
@@constantdisappointment5658 oohh i thought u said "at least I"; sorry about that, i read it too fast; after dealing with some idiot on insta who refused to acknowledge my reminders that Johnny Depp more than proved himself innocent when Heard took him to court with that judge who was friends with Heard and her team, I think i lost a few brain cells tbh; he basically wrote off my evidence and belief that not all celebs were corrupted by their riches and were kind and truthful as hype for Johnny Depp then proceeds to use his brother who he basically said ut of 13 gfs he has one wife as an example to try to prove me wrong (basically, he tried to use a womanizer (which technically is a fancy word for cheater) to debunk my literal proven evidence, and last i checked, between 8/10 to 9/10 cheaters are not doing it because they have a relationship with a bad partner.
“She started crying, probably just to guilt trip me”
.........what?
Right?! Mom is in SERIOUS denial that her sister is a narcissistic mentally abusive person! Quit making excuses for your family members abusive behavior! This mom should be ashamed of herself! Her kid will never trust her again!
@@traceej4685 Good thing she made an edit saying she realized what she has done and has plans to rectify those mistakes. I honestly don't think of her as an a- hole after that, but she was the a- hole in that situation.
That’s like Taking WiFi Rights Because You Dont Do Your Online Classes
@@henrywhat6007 how exactly?
@@LucarioBot you can’t do online classes without wifi
i’m lowkey heated at that last one. an actual quote that just left my mouth “here’s a bucket to cry in, after you get finished you can finally take a shower!”
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
racism isn't taken serious enough imo. Why tf did the school not punish that girl I just don't get it
I'm gonna start using it.
@@sourcandy6469 it really isn't. It should be considered, legally speaking, some type of assault. So should misogyny, misandry, xenophobia, any other type of hateful attitude towards someone for things they have no control over
BOOM! 💣💣💣👍👍👍
“stop trying to get sent to a hospital when you can’t afford healthcare”
i will never forget that line for the rest of my days.
what a savage response
Ridiculous for everyone outside of the USA
@@alesiazimmermann5511 yeah, it really hammers home how ridiculous the american system is.
That feeling when you're european and don't have to pay medical bills
Is this some kind of american joke I'm too european to understand?
Nope that last story was completely justified. Racists can't take what the dish. She deserved it. Ignoring it doesn’t work, OP defended herself and that’s it. Put racists in their place.
Such illogical torment such as racial discrimination deserves a calculated and effective deterrent. Never fight racism with racism because the result will be a worse quality of life for all parties involved.
@@pronukespontaneous8090 I bet you're one of those "all lives matter" people, aren't you.
@@WobblesandBean lmaoo
@@pronukespontaneous8090 probably white aren't ya
@@pronukespontaneous8090 That might deserve a spot on r/Iamverysmart
rslash "you reep what you sow they had it coming to them"
also rslash "you stooped to her level"
let me refrase that last story "aita for defending myself against a bully"
For the last story, if the school can't deal with it and no one is on her side (everyone supporting the trailer girl), then she is completely justified to defend herself. You have to put a bully in their place before it starts affecting the victim's mental health.
I have to say in the last one I agree. I wish I had done the same as a child when I was bullied but my parents would... day after day after day drive in to me that I could not retaliate to bullies or stoop to their level. I tried to one time, ONE TIME. My parents heard and punished me for it and I was from an age where spanking was a punishment. "They would stop if I ignored it." I was constantly told this and it never stopped but I couldn't tell my parents that. They never had my back against bullies and I grew up socially alone. Now as an adult I find myself afraid to even meet people on most days, what if they hate me? What if the are mean about aspects of my life? I suffer so much social anxiety I can't even talk to people at length out of fear they will make fun of me or reject me out of something they hear about my life that they don't like. I would not wish this sort of mental state on anyone.
STAND UP TO YOUR BULLIES. Even if the system isn't standing with you, if I could go back and do it again I would have let myself be punished if it meant the bullying would stop.
According to RSlash, if you amicably try to solve something the correct by the book way that is unjust, then retaliate verbally to an abusive racist who publicly humiliates you for no reason you get 1.5 out of 5 buttholes...
@@FretLevelMidnight I can understand why he may have made this judgement. It's plain and simple, he hasn't experienced humiliation to this degree. I personally think bullying needs more attention in schools and even workplaces, because it is a very severe problem in our society. This way, I feel more victims that are prone to this mental abuse can feel more comfortable in approaching someone for help.
@@azumarill5325 I've been bullied before. So I can speak from experience, although mine will differ from everyone else's.
When I was bullied, I told the teacher everytime. Unlike OP, my school took actions. However, that dose not mean the bullying didnt affect me years down the line. (It takes time for events to sink in for me and actually affect me.) For awhile I believed I was worthless because of my past, those bullies were proof I was undeserving of friends and finding out the friends I had from irl school and such had been gossiping about me did not help. It only made me fall deeper.
But... I got back up. I learned something valuable from it. Bullies only bully others because they are self conscious of themselves, and their "bullying" sometimes dosent even seem that way in their minds. In their minds, it's normal and that is how they make friends.
Which is why, I still agree with r/slash ruling of YTA to OP. Stooping down to someone's level is never the answer. You have to hold yourself to a standard of not doing that, but also not tolerating behavior like that from your friends.
What I think OP should have done is at least try to get the school involved, and if they end up not caring, then change the situation around. How? By confronting the bully with words that will not hurt her, offend her, nor accuse her and only explain that the comments being said to you are not appreciated and youd like it to stop. This assertive confrontation has a high chance of getting her to stop, but to still approach you in a different way. People can respect someone who stood up to them, someone who has confidence that they themselves lack, and will naturally realize you did not use any words to harm them but only told them to stop saying such hurtful comments and theyll actually consider doing so because you yourself did not use any. This can form the start of a friendship instead. And there you have it, situation changed to something nicer.
I am aware this may not be realistic, but I truly believe if we learn to befriend our enemies instead of hating them, it would be better for everyone involved. And if not befriend them, then go separate ways in mutual agreement.
Thanks for reading.
@The abyss it's not a very good one though so less parents use it now.
The guy getting bullied doesn’t deserve not even one out five. He was being bullied for a while, school didn’t do anything and he stood up for himself. Nah man. He’s good.
Sometimes you need to stoop down and that bs about being the bigger person. F that, it rarely works and when it does it never lasts
Yeah, I've been in that situation before, all that crap about being the bigger person, violence is never the answer, KIDS DON'T CARE, they aren't gonna stop and go "oh look how mature they are going to the principle instead we should be more like them" if the proper authorities do nothing then you have more than a right to handle things your own way
Op is a she.
Can we get a round of applause for the mom who realized she was in the wrong and apologized to her child??? Amazing
Or maybe the mum just said that so people would stop calling her an Asshole, in reality, she probably never apologized for her actions and just continued as she was going.
Or she could be genuinely sorry. Idk
Just knowing that she needed reddit to open her eyes make her a living piece of crap that deserve nothing, "Let's my daughter met her abuser hehe". The type of people are so selfish than she will continue to do bad thing like that, again and again till she broke her dayghter, she deserve to finish her life alone with her sister far away from her child.
glad she realized she was in the wrong but applause isn't needed for not being a terrible parent tbh, idc how she was raised, she shouldnt have punished her child for speaking their mind
I'm Not Applauding An Adult Woman Who Should Know Basic Parenting. Ridiculous That I Actually See Adults Asking For Advice About THEIR Children. THEY Created That Child So How Dare THEY Make Themselves A Victim With These Pathetic Stories. Don't Have Kids If You're Going To Be A Loser Of A Parent In The Future.
It's pretty sad it took reddit to make her see that though.
Honestly, with how much Amy was over at Helens house when she was a child, her avoidance and her outburst, I would be worried about sexual abuse. I know some might find that a stretch, but Helen had full supervision over Amy for who knows how long at an extremely vulnerable age. I hope that isn't the case, but it could be and it breaks my heart.
If it was "Uncle Alan" instead of "Aunt Helen", everybody would take it more seriously, but ton of retarded sexists still believe that women can't be abusive, especcially not physically~
This Aunt Helen ATLEAST mentally scarred that kid, and there are CERTAINLY changes that it doesn't end there.
Either way, the child needs to be at a trauma counselor to figure it out!! Some people just don’t deserve kids!
As some who was abused the same way from my grandparents not sexually I've had crying outburst like that mental abuse is still super powerful.
My dad is the one who works with sexually abused kids, not me, so I don't to say that I'm an expert or I can speak for him.
But in situations where we were reading about someone who got sexually abused, my dad noticed it WAY faster than I did (tbf I was only 14 at the time), and my alarm bells were instantly ringing from the moment this girl started trying to avoid her aunt, just from what I've learned from him and Reddit.
He is a rather good judge of character in my experience, and I have MORE than a bit of a hunch he would be BEYOND suspicious of this woman.
Agreed, and a lot of csa and psychological abuse go hand in hand (guilt tripping/gaslighting/threatening/etc so they don't tell), speaking firsthand, Amy definitely shouldn't have been through that and if she can should seek therapy
Last story NTA. So what if they stoop down to her level? Being passive doesn’t stop it, the school wasn’t going to stop it. Why is it when someone stands up to someone by hurting their feelings they’re vilified for it? No, I disagree with your ruling.
Yeah. OP was definitely brutal but that girl asked for it. She harassed him, was racist and top of that did it in public to get some credit.
"Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves", same should be said about attacking someone. She deserved it, she was prepared to humiliate this guy, he humiliated her in response.
Plus, it is very toxic and dangerous to do something like that. Some people were "inspired" by much less. Some people stopped drinking Corona and got aggressive towards Asians simply because it all started in China and the Covid-19 is a Coronavirus. That kind of comment would have invited others to harass too. He showed them that he won't be a victim.
NTA
I agree. It wasn’t friendly banter but it was proper bullying, the bullying that could lead to dark results, just because of something so stupid. Yeah, it was harsh. It sometimes in life, you got to sacrifice something to win a battle. Plus, if you can’t take back an insult, don’t insult anyone in the first place. Simples. But overall, what OP did had to be done to stop the bully, as the school wouldn’t do much, so it was the only thing that can be done. NTA
I’ve been in the victim’s position so many times, all but one of my schools never dealt with bullies physically and mentally hurting me. My PARENTS were getting question whether they were abusing me once because I was covered in bruises from the assault of the bullies. OP will never be the butthole in that story.
Op get TA because she’s Asian lol
Exactly I doesn't matter if OP stooped to her level, if she couldn't take what she dished out then she shouldn't have dished it OP gets no AH points in my book
You don't get to decide how someone else approaches their trauma. You do not get to tell them how they feel. You do not get to tell them that it's ok because it happened years ago.
Absolutely
Honestly for the first on, there should be no guilt. If you try to save someone's life, and in turn they try to sue your loved one, you made the right decision.
Seems like the wife of the dead guy did this on purpose. Early inheritance.
The boss made that decision not Op
@@niyablake It was the boss' wife's fault
@@pollypockets508 If this is the case, then the people that made the accusations against OP'S girlfriend are a special kind of stupid.
@Redux Studio Skyfall That actually might be the case. Hope it was worth it because it definitely wasn't.
With the last story, cyberbullying is no joke. People have literally committed suicide from it. Unlike regular bullying where the bully can see how their victim reacts to decide when to stop. Cyberbullying separates them and the bully will continue until they get bored. The fact the school administration did nothing is appalling and might be illegal depending on where OP lives.
Commuted
@@loghtsy8057 I'm making a joke making a joke is common
Woah really?
It’s happens because OP is an Asian lol.
Bro just turn off the screen just close your eyes it’s online as if they’re gonna meet you
When It comes to the Aunt Helen story I disagree with rslash.
Instead of 3/5, I would say 5/5 because what is happening is emotionally traumatizing and can lead to very melancholy thoughts.
I've had this happen to me so I feel exactly how Amy feels
Edit: rslash rated it 3.5 I still think that the way Helen treated Amy is unjustifiably
Straight up 5/5, for sure. So, the daughter, as a young child, gets abused by the aunt in the name of "unfiltered honesty" or whatever the mother wants to label it as, it majorly affects her and her mental state regarding said aunt and probably other areas of her life, she finally opens up to the mother about it, wanting and NEEDING support, comfort, and solace, and the mother basically says, "HOW DARE YOU?! SHE WOULD NEVER!! I'M PUNISHING YOU!!"
Even if the mother did actually apologize, she'll be lucky if her daughter ever confides anything to her again. And she's gonna have to do a hell of a lot to earn her kid's trust back.
I think 5/5 is reserved for parents who abandon and horribly abuse their kids.
The last one,the girl who defended herself was absolutely justified.people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones as the saying goes...
as Kelso would say "BURN!!!!"
lets be real tho she was totally justified, granted you never wanna stoop down to somebody else's level, but when you're being bullied you don't just let them bully you, always fight back and defend yourself. OP totally roasted her tho, it was pretty funny
Agreed
Exactly
@@theparalyzedarmy3836 I'm pretty sure OP has a long way to go before stooping down to the bully's level, since the bully had already been harassing them for months.
Yes, If calling her poor is enough to make her cry then why did she ever think she could get away with picking on anybody?
*OP on the last story:* Insulting someone's dental hygiene
*Ad ten seconds later:* Are you suffering from poor dental hygiene?
Even ads are making fun of her, oof.
I saw an ad for teeth whitening
God damn do ads hurt sometimes
love the irony in that
The ads be sending a message nowadays.
“I need an organ. Your a match. Could you donate an organ to me?”
“Yeah sure!”
*Week before the surgery*
“IM ACCUSING YOUR WIFE OF THEFT”
That is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard
It’s pathetic!
The wife was the one who framed her.
You know who the real murder is in this story? The Bosses' wife
@thefemalethunddperbirdsnerd3214
Never ever Force somebody to be social with somebody that to me strikes me as very very very wrong
No shit this girl is 16 that's almost an adult shouldn't have to converse with someone if they don't like them for any reason parenthood isn't about dictating everything your child does it's about raising them with ideals, hope beliefs teaching them right from wrong but definitely never forcing them to do something they don't want to do specially if they give you a very valid reason in the first place
If it makes you feel better the Mom was overwhelming considered the a-hole; she eventually came back and admitted she was an a-hole. She also told her sister to stop visiting for awhile.
My Dad used to force me to go to family gatherings and afterwards he'd criticize me for not talking to anyone or when I did socialize, not doing it good enough. Now I hate family gatherings and never go. My Dad still gets the surprised Pikachu face when I refuse invitations
My dad tried to get me and one of my relatives to interact. I told both of them repeatedly that I do not want to talk to him. Dad still tries to set things up so that we'll meet, and keeps telling the guy to try to talk to me.
Guess who doesn't go to Dad's anymore... I'm not putting up with that.
@@SilverThreads your dad and my mom should hang out, now that I'm an adult and live kinda far from home she's always saying "spending time with family is important" no thanks, I'm finally happy and I don't miss the days when I cried myself to sleep everytime I saw these people
Third story: no OP. I wouldn’t want to have a relationship with my parents if they were sexist either. They obviously aren’t really sorry. I bet it’s only because of the kid you’re expecting. They are the ones being immature.
My thoughts exactly!!
Opening up ties with the OP's parents should be based on them changing their sexist views. You only get one family in this life. Hopefully, they see how they were wrong and change so they can have a healthy relationship. I don't think it's fair to ask for $100,000 though.
@@drewinsch2916 In a way, I feel like OP was exaggerating about 100k, it had more of a "you never gave me support, so this is what you should have supported me in". Not saying that they were asking a lot, but the tone felt different.
Abusive parents seem to suddenly be sorry when they catch news of a grandchild
@@drewinsch2916 I think it is fair since they paid for the male kids college but not hers. She wants to be treated as equal, she wants to see a sign of that. That would be sign. If they paid for 3 kids college they probably have enough to pay for hers.
The story about the aunt:
It's so obvious theres something worse going on behind that relationship
Last story, OP gets 0/5 for me. As a fellow Asian that went to a school predominantly white, it wasn't fun. This was even before the pandemic, so I'm sure bullying has gotten so much worse for my fellow Asians.
OP's bully was being a literal racist, and in my opinion, racists get no sympathy. Can't treat everyone equally, then you get treated like how you think other should be treated.
*Don't fucking dish out what you can't take.*
If you insult someone over something they have no control over (financial status, ethnicity etc.), don't be surprised when the victim stands up for themselves and roots you with the truth and nothing but the truth.
I applaud OP for their courage for actually saying something even though all the other kids joined in the laughter
i give her -2/5, she should have retaliated way earlier
I agree. One of the few times I don’t agree with poster. Bully was constantly harassing her. School turned a blind eye. So she defended herself. I truly hope that when the idiots who whined, “she can’t help being born poor “ actually answered, “And I can help being born Asian!?!?” I’m glad OP is transferring, that moronic atmosphere would have harmed her in the end.
(Last story, OP gets 0/5 for me) oh I so agree. I would have taken that physical. And it would have ended in the police coming and her going to the ICU or maybe the morgue. But OP just used words to settle the conflict. not only does she get zero butt holes, she also gets a gold star. I don't think I could have done that as good as OP did. I aspire to be as strong as OP is.
I would still give OP a 1/5 to be honest. I think OP was right to retaliate though. I mean, sometime being a butthole is what is fair (doesn't mean you are not being a butthole, just that you are justified in doing so)
I'm on Amy's side here. That mothers judgement is so clearly biased and she's disregarding her childs emotional state. Having family that psychologically abuse you and hearing from your parent that you are to 'get over it and accept the apology' is horrible. Words are shallow and that aunt will continue to make snide comments or give looks. What an awful mother.
Despite the mother in the “Amy” story being ignorant to her daughter’s suffering, I feel comfort it knowing that this actually helped her realise she was wrong, and she’ll hopefully fix things.
It was mean, but justified. Reddit needs a 'justified ahole' option. Someone aholes need to be put down with similar behavior.
Which one?
@@hallgrim98 the sub definitely needs one
@@GiordanDiodato No, I mean which story, sorry if I made you misunderstood
@@hallgrim98 The last story. The racist girl. DESERVED.
I agree
The last one is 0/5. In order to get rid of bullies you need to hit them back just as hard.
Yea exactly and I can't believe people said " well it's not her fault that she's poor" yea it's not her fault she's poor but entirely the other girl fault because some guy ate a bat
I always wonder why some people says "just let them bully you and don't fight back" to bullied kids. Especially if they have power to stop it.
Maybe they just ultimately lazy?
Well that never worked for me. Nothing i did worked to get the bullies to stop.
@@ReigoVassal Its because our society thinks violence is bad when sometimes its good. There is a reason the military and cops exists.
@@AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH-y5f let me phrase it better.
"No one is allowed to fight back when they're hurt. Only us can set the punishment."
That's the mentality of the authorities. And literally people on r/AITA.
Just find some stories where OP fight back and some of the judgement said ESH or even YTA just because OP fight back to the bullies.
Of course the engineering girl's parents want a relationship. Because their grand child might be a BOY
If high schools aren’t going to punish racist comments, then they can’t be shocked when the victim of a bully talks back. It is so humiliating and degrading to have someone make racist comments towards you, and receive no punishment. I’m glad the girl stood up for herself. If it were me, I would have said something meaner.
0/10
So many school administrators and teachers are racist AF.
@@DD-d6d3 or sexist
Bill Cipher or homophobic
Bully: *punches me repeatedly*
Me: *punches back*
My parents: Good job standing up for yourself.
The law: That's fine, it was self-defence.
Schools: That sin cannot be forgiven.
It’s not all teachers, I would have been on that bully immediately. That stuff is not out up with in my classroom (and most younger teachers’ as well...usually...meaning under 45-50). I honestly don’t think many older teachers even see and/or don’t care (it varies). It’s very generational but they need to be willing to learn (and some of their generation just refuse to learn. We try to teach them...and they just don’t/won’t seem to understand). It’s really frustrating. Especially ehen tbey are still the administrators (and refuse to retire). Our hands are usually tied when we take it higher (please consider that before throwing dirt a teachers. So often it’s the principals that deserve it).
The second OP's relationship with her parents is already damaged. They took advantage of her and would eventually send her into worse debt. I'd say she ought to report to the police.
I agree. They need to be reported IMMEDIATELY.
@@WobblesandBean Absolutely they are not being parents they are being thieves. GOOD parents do all they can to help you have a better life, and you do all you can when they need you, but you do NOT take an identity and do horrific things to others credit especially not your child! You legit work for your loved ones, or stay and care for them when sick. You do NOT do this crap!
@@ekramer2478 Yeah, it's financial abuse. Good parents wouldn't hit their kids and good parents wouldn't steal from them or ruin their finances.
Agreed. I would also recommend OP start the process of getting a legal name change. It won't stop them from using the DOB or SSN, but it will help when debt collectors try to garnish wages, etc. as the bank account and paychecks will show a different person. The companies would likely then also initiate their own fraud investigation, and bring legal charges to the parents themselves.
OK I have to ask. Is you profile pic custom or generic?
I've been thinking lately that it's about time someone made a profile pic that mimics the generic ones. and considering that you profile pic is you entier name
I love the story where the victim got even with the bully... no, I’ve been bullied, and to this day I still get bullied....... when bullies get what they deserve then I applaud !!!
Not all heroes wear capes !!!!
I don't get what he was thinking giving her a 1/5 rating. Bully gets 3/5, and OP gets 0/5.
Great. Making your child who you HAVE TO PROTECT interact with someone the child says is abusing them. This parent is never seeing their child after moving out
According to the update, Mom realized that she was wrong and is starting to move forward in fixing her relationship with her daughter. So that's good, hopefully.
And one of the updates for this story the mom admitted that she was an a****** to her daughter. She also apparently asked her sister, the aunt, to stop visiting for a few weeks.
In this case mother's not a bad person. Just a moron.
I’m so sick of the “I say what’s on my mind and don’t hold back” excuse for really just being a rude *grunt*
Yea like have some God damn common sense if you think or know it's going to hurt some one then don't tell them well you can but just say it nicer like instead of "hey op your outfit is ugly as shit" it could have been "hey op I don't think that outfit looks good mabye you could try something else on"
You're only allowed to do that in therapy where the therapist's job is to listen and help you. And even still the therapist can fire you as a client.
If you lack that much inhibition you might have a neuropsychiatric disorder. And might need professional help.
There are four forms of communication. Passive, passive-aggressive, aggressive, and good. My sister doesn't differentiate between good communication and aggressive communication. It can make some of her statements hurtful. Example: you need to find somewhere else to live. Context: an older relative w/ dementia was hostile towards me. I had already decided that I didn't want to live with that person, so I was already looking for somewhere else, but yeah could really have phrased that better, and I told her that.
@@justsomerandombananawithin3705 I love how the dad thats just how her sister is and "she cant help it" likes first thats bullshit because shes an adult she can control what comes out of her damn mouth she just chooses not to stop making excuses
Seeing how healthy is RSlash’s mentality towards a lot of things and how emotional intelligent he seems to be, he will be a great father.
true. and now he is
First story: OP really should not let those people make him feel guilty after the guy he was willing to save tried to frame his GF for a very serious crime.
Second story: TOXIC! Super Toxic! OP should call the police on her patents cause they (potentialy) destroyed her life after commiting fraud/ I.D. theft.
Third: Play stupid games, gain stupid prizes. OP was being more that fair by just agreeing to meet with her parents. I see no reason why OP should even let them back into her life, let alone in the life of her new family.
Three NTAs in a row. Wow. I think this is a first for RSlash.
As for the 4th story..... well OP better hope her daughter does not cut all contact with her once she moves out. 110% Grade A Ahole
You gotta be the first guy i agree 100% of when it comes to these videos.
Kowalski, analysis
@@adrianjohansson8937 cool
@@anonymous_bacon2383 lol
Random Trinidadian Haha i literally said the same thing about the three NTA in a row
Welcome to r/EntitledParents, where OP's parents get surprised Pikachu faces when they get arrested for stealing from her!
What is more disturbing to me about the last story is that the school blew off bullying and blatant racism.
As somebody who was relentlessly bullied in her early schooling years up to middle school (in the 90s and early 2000s), that has been something I've had to face for a long time. It always breaks my heart when I hear that a bullying victim is swept under the rug by the very people who should be there to make the school a safe place to learn. I can't help but wonder if, like every other case where a school would do that, the parents of the bully were friends with a superintendent or something like that. Even if you're poor, you could have friends in high places and have stuff like this swept under the rug. It's actually disgusting that this kind of thing is still happening in schools in 2020/2021.
first story. My mom just donated her liver to my grandma. It's a HUGE deal. so so so much testing and waiting and tears. So many appointments and honest conversations about what could happen. and afterwards an 8 week recovery. So, the fact that the boss would do something so heartless ONE WEEK before the date is so horrible. Absolutely not OP's fault. NTA.
Agreed, this really isn’t something easy like donating blood.
@@fen4613 facts. Blood takes 20 mins, liver took 2 years.
Hope everything is going well with your grandma!
I'm proud of OP in the last story for standing up for themselves. The bully deserved it 100%. Not the asshole.
I was happy to see in the Amy and Helen update that the mother owned up to her mistake and apologized to Amy and to talk to her when she was ready . she told Helen to stay away for a few weeks and is waiting for Amy to talk before she confronts her.
Mom: "Daughter, can you tell me why you're avoiding you're aunt? She really wants to spend time with you."
Daughter: "She's been emotionally abusing me whenever I talk to her."
Mom: "Like your feelings matter lol"
"These comments were made YEARS ago" So what? I can tell from personal experience that being told I should keep an eye on what I'm eating by close family members spun around in my head for years and, upon other things, made me develop an eating disorder. I remember everything negative that was said to me, even over ten years ago.
Legit gave me a flash back to party where my aunt commented on the fact I was eating "too many crisps" , cuz I didn't like any of the food :/ it kinda hurt. Not what she said that was bad, but how they said it and the looks I got
Also the distance to the comments and the reaction seen when Amy is a teenager tells me something more happened between them that Helen will never admit happened and Amy is to scared to tell her parents about
I feel so bad for the OP and his girlfriend in the first story. She was literally framed! I would’ve backed out of the surgery to! He did nothing wrong. And now all these people are harassing him when they should be harassing the wife. She’s the one that caused her husband to die because of her actions.
For the last story: it absolutely doesn’t matter, what race that bully was! OP is absolutely NTA here! I’m majoring in sinology/Chinese studies, and what I’ve heard from my Asian friends (not all of them are Chinese), since this pandemic has started is absolutely disgusting! What’s wrong with some people?!? I mean, I got friends there, whose parents are from Japan/Vietnam/Taiwan and who themselves were born in Germany (where I’m from) and haven’t been to anywhere in Asia in years, yet they were shunned by such idiots, since „all Chinese folks have the virus“! Every time I hear a story like that, I get SO angry!
Same! Being Chinese myself, I say the bully should deserve more
@@chinagamer3332 yeah give 'em morrrree
If they are spanish rasicts, say, stay away from me too cause spanish people have the spanish flu
Being poor is a race now?
@@chinagamer3332 'Spanish' Flu came from the USA. It just killed the most, in Spain.
So 2nd story is basically: We stole your indentity and you should be GRATEFUL!
And everyone else: What for?
Couldn't help notice that Helen, who "really loves" Amy, was happy when she was told Amy would be required to stay and didn't seem to mind the effect on her.
Honestly, people who tell people who are bullied to "ignore them" and to "not stoop to their level" are usually the people who've never actually experienced bullying. Bullies pick on the quiet and those they perceive as 'weak', so not reacting is just validating that they think you're easy pickings. 99/100 bullies stop when their target fights back, because they're not the weak prey the bully wants, they're like sharks, they're scavengers and bottom feeders, they want to pick on the weak and helpless and the best way to get rid of one is a solid punch to the face, either physically or verbally.
If the people in positions of authority don't step in to stop it (which they won't because they don't want to be held liable for what's going on between the kids, they'd rather plead ignorance to cover their asses), it's up to the bullied to show they're not the weakling or as easy pickings that the bully thought.
Plus, I'm pretty sure it would take a lot more than a single provoked insult to stoop to the bully's level, since she had been harassing OP for months at that point.
you seen that video of that larger kid that slammed his bully into the ground, it stopt the bullying
Yeah, the "stooping to her level" was basically victim blaming. I'm sorry, but etiquette and social rules only apply if everyone follows them. Don't start crying because someone ended something you started.
I agree with this 99%. I fully agreed that “sToOPiNg TO tHeIR lEvEL” is stupid to say, but ignoring them rarely does work. Depends on how determined they are and how severe the bullying is. If it’s physical bullying... Don’t ignore it. Just don’t.
I’ve been bullied before but not physically, however, it isn’t difficult to figure out. Fight back yourself with any method you prefer.
@@UnderscoreKikimo yeah; imo, it would be better to attack verbally before physically bc if actions speak louder than words, doing the action of using the quieter of the two (words) means you for damn sure are not the one who should be punished at all
The one where OP punished her daughter for avoiding an emotionally abusive person: The OP was an asshole. She was also a bit blind to how her sister was a different person when she wasn't around.
The last story: While what OP said was a little mean, it wasn't being an asshole. OP tried going to the school to get them to help, but they did nothing. She tried ignoring the idiot, but as soon as school starts back up the idiot is back to it. OP handled it in a way that while maybe going to far, was effective in the moment to get the idiot to stop.
The number of times schools that do jack about bullying is alarming. But when the victim turns the tables and gives the bully a taste of his/her own medicine, schools basically say “so you have chosen death.”
The last story, I think OP should have zero because why would the other girl start crap and not be able to take a hit back. Like why dish it out if you can't handle it yourself
The last one I think she was more than justified. Even if she said something cruel, you don’t keep harassing a minority then call them mean when they bite back. Don’t poke sticks at the bear and be surprised when you get bit. 0/5
Something that someone said to me once that applies pretty well with this: “Don’t serve what you won’t eat”
Boss: *Accuses OP's partner for theft*
OP: *Backs out of giving boss the liver*
*Boss dies*
Boss: *Dead Surprised Pikachu Face*
@Rhys Griffiths It is a joke, bruh.
The surprised pikachu face is engraved on the tombstone
Let me tell you something, even if you are stealling from me... If getting your partenr's liver... I let you and fired you later.
He should pay for another like a normal person
@@coreythecasualoddity2734 Yep, exactly that.
I'm glad that Amy's story had a happy ending. To me that's the whole idea, other people to help put things into perspective and ultimately improve the situation
First story:
Even after saying you'd do it, you have absolutely no obligation to do it whatsoever. I'm like rSlash, I would only donate organs to immediate family and the closest of friends. I wouldn't even have been tested to see if I'm a match for this guy I have no real connection with.
And I also would have backed out after the charges were pressed. Like... wtf duh. Set up my spouse for serious crimes, of course I'm not doing anything special for you, never mind donating my literal organs.
And the harassment OP received after is literally illegal and he could report every one of those entitled douchebags.
First story: OP are you insane? This person was going to send your wife to prison. Your loyalty to your wife is what makes you an amazing person. I hope she appreciates you to the moon and back you're awesome for even considering it. Much love and respect and excuse my first sentence 😅😁
Those parents... wow
They would rather possibly ruin the financial future of their child than pay bills
The first story he needs counseling! Survivor’s guilt is the worst! It takes a lot of work to come to terms with!
3:24 WRONG, It's like the guy is saying "If you touch me, I will accuse you of raping/assaulting me and beating me up."
So either you help him and preper for maybe years of dragging court to court, risk your reputation, mental health and jail time or you will protect yourself, which could or could not lead to the death of this person.
Yeah agreed, that's a better analogy. I wouldn't hold it against anyone who does the first option.
I disagree.
Oreagle okay, what’s your take on it?
@@SilverVolo... And??? What's your reason???
11:20 this is ACTUALLY triggering my childhood ptsd omg. This mother is 100% a manipulative abusive woman. No good mother talks about their daughter like that.
The girl in the last story didn't "stoop down to her level". She snapped and fought back with one comment against a racist bully.
Daughter: opens up about aunt gaslighting her
Mother: IMMEDIATELY GASLIGHTS HER
WTAF!!?!??
Edit: Holy shit the most likes I’ve ever gotten was like maybe 10. Over 700 wow thanks guys! This is exciting!
what her mother did was terrible but im so grateful that she realized what she was doing and apologized, set boundaries for amy, and didnt speak for amy. so many awful parents just double down when told theyre the one in the wrong
iamawesomelol1 It’s when when you cause someone to question they’re own sanity/judgement
iamawesomelol1 Here’s from Google “manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.”
iamawesomelol1 here’s an example of gas lighting
My brother doesn’t feed cat
Me hey brother you have to feed the cat
My brother I already fed the cat your insane for saying I didn’t feed the cat
Me there’s no food in his bowl
My brother yes there is your insane
Me questions my own sanity
iamawesomelol1 no problem
I'm really glad that in the story with aunt Helen the mother realised her mistake and cleared things up with her daughter after reading the comments she got. A lot of parents won't accept any kind of criticism about their parenting and it shows that she is willing to learn. It's sad that she couldn't believe her child in the first hand but at least she'll be more likely to understand her in the future.
If my daughter(son) says someone abuse them I don’t care who it is say away form my kid
I would get a restraining order
U spelled gaming wrong in ur name btw
I would get both sides of the story first, extensively. Make sure neither side is lying about anything, although I'd have sided with my kid if I had one and was in this kind of situation. So yeah, with you on that.
Theia_Loki yeah you have to get both sides. It I’m trusting my kid first
Stinky Blinky I know but I like it better this way
NTA. The liver story was just sad, OP did the right thing by defending his partner but the boss died by doing so. It wasn't OP's fault that they died, but I see where they coming from and feeling.
That second story hits pretty close to home for me. My mom signed up for cable, internet, and phone service in my name, then moved away without returning the cable boxes and modem. When I turned 18 I had almost $7000 (yes, thousand) in bad debt and my credit was trashed
The second story is literally an entitled Karen, “ your my DAUGHTER so I can take money from you”
I love my parents but I would cut them out SO hard if they started doing that to me
I have to strongly disagree with rslash on the last story. That old saying "he who lives in a glass house shouldn't throw stones" definitely applies here. If you can't take it dont dish it out. The only way that op comes off as the butthole here is if she said that stuff unprovoked
Omg. Rslash as a dad and step dad i love you for your honesty. No person should be allowed to emotionally torture our kids. No matter who they r. And if the kids dont like them because of what they've done, then they shouldn't be forced to interact.
Girl in last story
Brutal
Savage
Rekt
17:08 the perfect sentence would probably be something like "stop making fun me of something a can't control or else i'm going too make fun of you for the things you can't control''
btw sorry for bad grammer i'm not a native english man or amerikan
Don't worry too much about your grammar. You got your point across pretty well.
I want to help you with your spelling, grammar and some other things.
-I’m needs to be capitalized
-I instead of a
-To not too
-of me, not me of
-grammar, not grammer
-“native English man” you mean a Brit?
-American, not amerikan. Also American needs to be capitalized.
That’s all the errors I found. Good job with the rest!
I really like how that mother changed her mind after reading the comments and apologized to her daughter. This makes me feel like people really are able to become better.
"she does things out of love and cant help it" why do I taste vomit?
The "can't help it" is particularly gross. She's an adult, not an AI designed to spew emotional abuse
Kinda sounds like the same bullsh*t excuse as "boys will be boys"
"Its not her fault she's poor!"
"Its not my fault I'm asian!"
"Oh"
And I'm not rascist or anything that is what some with people were saying to a Asian friend of mine so it's usually white people who be rascust
@@og7577 it's sad that so many people are racist
They cant help the way they where born
They're still humans like the rest of us
I try not to be racist, but my sister is occasionally casually racist. Even she doesn't blame Corona on Americans of Asian descent.
@@og7577 hol up those are not friends cut them off
@@asmith8692 There is no such thing as a casually occasionally racist. You either are or you are not a racist. There is no in between. So your sister is a f****** racist. Racism is racism. Racism by any other name is still racism. Don't get mad at other people for calling your sister out on her bull shit.
If I was the again person at the end, when the girl asked if I was eating bat, I would've responded with, "I sure am! Want some?", and then just walk away
The identity theft story sounded a LOT like my childhood but my parents didn't wait till I was an adult to put bills in my name... I was about 14 with a $2,500 bill to the electric company... SUPER FUN to find out about when you get your first place and can't get your electric turned on! Good thing I had a roommate... I found out it was them because it was an old address that we lived at... Mom claimed she never put an electric bill in my name just cable bills! Yet another "fun surprise" that I owe $700 to the only cable company around! I don't even want to get into all the birthday money they "borrowed" for bill and was never seen again...
You....were 14. Take that s*** to court!!!
Knew a guy whose mom did that when he was 3. She has no idea he's married and has twins.
Fifth story: OMG no OP. You even told the school and they brushed it off. They are supposed to stop bullying! Yeah no. She needed a taste of her own medicine. Ever heard of the Golden Rule? Treat others the way you want to be treated. Bullies deserve to get their butts handed to them.
Schools are useless when it comes to bullies. Students should deal with their bullies, and if the school comes down on them, then the parents have a responsability to hold their useless ass in the fire of their own making.
@@trinalgalaxy5943 I had a science teacher in 7th grade who I (and literally everyone else students teachers I’m not even exaggerating) hated. Once these girls were yelling at me right in front of him and I was struggling not to either scream at them or cry and all he did about the situation was tell *me* to calm down while the girls were still yelling at me and getting all in my face! He didn’t tell them to stop or anything! Jerk was fired before the end of the year for a string of unrelated reasons (dude was constantly absent apparently each time because he’d been put on administrative leave while under investigation I only know the reason for 1 of these times which was he sent 1 of his black students to the office but not before telling her something along the lines of “we don’t have time for your kind here” so yeah safe to say the guy was a douchebag jerkwad sorry excuse of a dude who I’m not even sure how he was ever qualified to teach science to 7th graders as he didn’t really teach us anything just told stories about his daughter telling “hilarious” (his words not mine) inappropriate and extremely messed up and just plain disgusting jokes, how he thought a doctor hypnotized him when he went to get his arm looked at after it wasn’t working when he got electrocuted unplugging a chord from a wall socket at school (he thought this he said because the doctor said it would be better in 48 hours and in 48 hours it was), and about him going on “paid research sabbaticals” to the “very bottom” of the Mariana Trench with a “vacuum thing” to clean up plastic trash that was down there (this was the story he told us after coming back after being out on administrative leave for the incident I mentioned above that I knew about he even changed his story for the next class period as we didn’t believe him this time claiming he went on vacation to Hawaii) and I honestly would not care if he ended up homeless in the streets) sorry for my little rant but I absolutely HATED that guy
@@trinalgalaxy5943 here is the full story of the Mariana Trench incident th-cam.com/video/fN2BNCm46gs/w-d-xo.html
And this 1 is another incident that happened that same week th-cam.com/video/xu4XiwkRRis/w-d-xo.html
@@rosepuppy1984 this isnt to say I havent had good teachers, but they are an extremely rare breed and not enough to keep me from saying fuck all teachers and damn their union to hell.
@@trinalgalaxy5943 my parents are teachers. Good ones too. I’ve also had mostly good teachers. But I do understand where you’re coming from 1 can only stand to have so many bad teachers.
16:02
“I can excuse racism, but I draw the line at being classist”
“…you can excuse racism?”
That aunt isn't the only abusive gaslighter, the mom is too
I mean yeah she did realize her errors, but yeah that was very surreal
She was spot on! Sometimes you have to hit a bully in the face. Example: my daughter was being bullied by her younger half brother. I said to my daughter "it sounds as though YHB is going to end up a criminal like his father." After my weekend visitation he resumed his bully/entitled tactics. My daughter said to him "you keep this up and you are going to end up a criminal like your father!" He cried and left her alone from then on. Fortunately my ex defended her statement to the boy's father. But my ex was PO'd at me. Didn't care still don't.
12:34 not only does she invalidate her feelings, but when the DAUGHTER hurts her feeling because "ShE SaiD MeAN StUFf" she gets upset... THE HYPOCRACY!
I actually had a friend who’s mother opened a credit card under her name- my friends mom had a really bad credit and had a history of not paying back her cards on time. The card my friends mother opened under her name was without my friends permission. She had called to confront her mother which the mother mother said “oh it’s ok. I’m your mom.” When my friend confided this in me (we were in collage, both of us 19 at the time) I told her that that was illegal to open a card under someone else’s name AND that her mom could fuck up her credit and that could cause irreversible damage. She asked me if she should call her husband (he was deployed in South Korea at the time and would return in a few months) to see if he should help her resolve it. I said yes, because he likely had more knowledge on what to do. Over that week she talked with her husband and his family, in which they agreed to help get in contact with police and her bank to shut the card down. Luckily her husband’s family were very nice to her and loved her. She said at the end of the week that if she took it to court her mom could be charge with fraud- that of course was true and it was exactly what her mom had done. She told me she felt like a total asshole for possibly getting her mom sent to jail.
It’s worth mentioning I knew her father was in and out of jail, and in general her mom sounded very entitled and abusive... that my friend seemed more like a punching bag to her own mother.
I let her know that she was absolutely NOT the butthole in this situation and that her mom, as an adult, made this choice on her own and the mother was the butthole for trying to use her own daughters credit at her expense.
I haven’t spoken to her in over a year (life happens, and when her husband moved back to America they moved states) but last I heard she did take her mother to court and won.
Not sure the ending or if her mom served any time, but my friend did dodge a bullet. I sincerely hope her and her husband are doing well and that they’re living happily now.
5/5 for the mother keeping her daughter interacting with an abusive family member
12:28 that mother is so bad omg I hope the girl never talks to her.
For the last one: being mean in response to a bully is literally a non-issue. Not only was the girl a bully, not only were the adults with power doing absolutely nothing, but the girl was a bigoted POS.
Like OP said, she can't control that she's Asian. And being Asian is nothing to be made fun of to begin with anyway. So, OP is NOT the a-hole, and just because OP hurt the bully's feelings doesn't automatically make the bully the victim. Like you literally said in this exact video, actions have consequences and enacting those consequences does not make you the a-hole.
Yea I would've given him 0/5 because he did everything right . He went to the school and they did nothing so the next thing is to confront her. And that ended it.
@@shin_l8072
It was a girl, but yeah
2nd one sounds like a Judge Judy case. But yeah 2nd OP is NTA
I had an out of body experience seeing a Rabwitch-cavelady here
Nice pic
@@fen4613 Its my lord and savior Jenna Marbles
@@guttedcandi7230 Ty
You reap what you sow, that was what I needed to gear today for my relationship with my family. Thank you!
The story with Amy and Helen op deserves 5/5. When your kid tells you they’re being abused, BELIEVE THEM