My new favorite sport is saying “You should’ve chosen better” when dudes complain about their wives and gfs. It’s so funny to watch them meltdown internally.
I always say this to them. And yes, they then ar6gue that how can we know if a person will change and all that. I say that is what mn say to wmn, so mn must follow their own advice 😂
@@manifest2203 exactly because this is exactly what they say to women who are victims of 🍇 or violence .. but somehow they don't apply this to themselves
I've noticed this channel is really growing, and women are waking up. Being single has been the best thing for me. The peace is priceless. It gets lonely, but I was lonely in my dysfunctional relationships.
Guys saying "I want a traditional woman, with traditional family values, homemaking and child rearing is top priority, that's submits to my leadership, defers to my knowledge, wisdom and decision making skills...... AND also work's and pays 50/50 bills...." Um ..... WTF?
@YC72 There are no gems in any of the videos I've seen from her so far because none of her conclusions I've seen are actually true and I used to listen to misogynists so that should give you pause
At 66, I wish that i could go back in time, with this smart little gals knowledge, to my 20's. Things would be SO different for me, and probably for many other women.
I agree. I was 10 when a man tried to grape and drown me. I’ve lost a job because of men’s behavior toward me, where it was easier for them to lay me off than to hold men accountable for harassment. I could have avoided so much trauma and the resulting PTSD if I had understood the horrible things men will do. My life would have been so much better.
Zero lies detected!! Sooo glad there is a young woman out there for women to hear before they make mistakes; too many have internalized misogyny or are pickmes who think they are special and wouldn't listen to older women who have lived out these situations
The same bible says a story about a man should have earn and deserve his wife by serving HER family for years first to prove his worth. So he has left his family to form a new one with his wife. Meanwhile they preach the contradiction and expect a woman to sacrifice everything and leave her support circle behind. In the name of ukhm ukhm love?
This is why my ex is a divorced and lonely meathead nearing his 50s. Meanwhile I’ve created a strong support system with my friends, family, and my therapist 😌
@@Krlowanigu-mg6eg not entirely, therapists can choose who they want to work with. Therapists invest in their profession so hugely that it almost always means the relationship is more than money. Especially for long-term processes.
@@Krlowanigu-mg6eg they get paid for their time just like any other job. If you see a therapist you feel is only in it for the money, you can and should find a different therapist. Surprise: therapists are people and they're all different!
Omg!! Why didn’t you start posting two years ago!!! Ladies the gym thing is sooooooo REAL! And he has a woman in mind of who he wants to impress with his new body too
most of these guys are somatic narcissists so they view bodybuilding as the dissociation acceptable to escape uncomfortable emotions, some pretend to be the Guru Type which HG Tudor describes as cerebral narcissism temporarily trying to cover it. Tate for example.
I dated someone who worked out for 5-7 hours a day, every single day. Sometimes consecutively. Not exaggerating. He was the biggest emotional toddler I've ever met. Edit: he loved David goggins (guru)
@seabreeze4559 No they aren't. That's unbelievably obvious, too, if you actually know what the typical male experience is, which you so clearly do not. You are looking for someone to blame.
First two point are that they’re selfish. Third point is that they’re dumb and mean for sport. And they have the nerve to threaten women that dying alone is worse than living around this
Men complaing about being "friendzoned" always pisses me off, when we've been supportive of and listened to male friends complain about things for years! And most of us give them advice on how to improve things for themselves without expecting anything in return. But men are so transactional that they can't see a female friend in their life as something positive, if s&x isn't involved. I used to enjoy male friendships, but over time they get emotionally exhausting, since I got so tired of hearing them complain about their wives, or make really derogatory "jokes" about women, etc. It just gets old after awhile. So, I'm more of a loner these days. I'm just tired of toxic RP garbage and so many men being brainwashed by it.
very funny female complaining about men being meh friends when even friendship with woman require wealth and attractiveness. male friend give place to stay when the dude is homeless, female friend kick out said guy. like f off m8.
He wanted me to be satisfied with his bare minimum 😅 My stupid ass hyped him up and stroked his ego then he got bold thinking he's such a fine choice for a man 😂
men say thats how they judge a man if she's lifting him up he's a manipulator they can play ball with and compete with but if she was talking bad about him then he's not a man to compete with he's not on the board to play ladder with.
@@emyywolf they have only just realized the birth rate decline soon either men will pick younger partners because they are unaware or they will actually acknowledge us!
“There’s only so much people will take from an extremely attractive / muscular person.” Literally describing my marriage. He was so beautiful but everything else was a train wreck.
Some of the worst men I've dated were physically beautiful. Heavy drinkers, irresponsible, extremely self centred, selfish etc. I concluded that because of their looks everyone had just always done everything for them so they never had to learn and develop and mature as people.
@@katec9893 The worst thing is that average or uggo guys are not better in character at all, always carrying some chip on the shoulder, revenge of the nerds fantasies from being snubbed all their youth. There is no winning, at least pretty guys would give pretty children idk.
I’ve had guys that I dated throw back in my face what they’ve done for me in the early dating phase. I even had one guy kept repeating me saying I spent $300 on you during the first week and had the nerve to add up gas money that he spent driving me around.
Lol I can do you one better. When I left my fiance he actually calculated all the money he spent during our *9* years together AND gave me an invoice for it, actually expecting me to pay him back. (And of course all the money I spent, plus all my unpaid labor, was not factored.) It took a session with a therapist as mediator before he finally dropped it. And that was just bc she firmly told him no one gets a reimbursement if a relationship doesn't work out bc relationships are not a transactional spreadsheet and he was bat crap crazy for expecting it.
Hey Lisa. Can you please make a video on how male friends the biggest waste of time? I feel like doing a bro purge is one of the most important parts of decentering men. Male friends use women for free labour. And they are never your friends but more like secret suitors ...it makes the friedships a dishonest slimy shady dirty low cost cheap courtship
I've moved several times and lived in several states and can say that it's difficult to maintain friendships, but every "male" friend has gone radio silence even before I've left state borders, so take what you will with that information. Also, don't take most men you meet on the road/travel seriously because they just want a warm body for that town/city for a few days.
Women build up their community! Therese Lee's podcasts: Jezebel Spirit discussed how during the gold rush and railroad expansion towards the west, 304 weres one helping built the communities and not the men working near those towns. Also, NGOs mostly focused on giving women money since it's likely that they'll use that money for their business and then spread it around their communities. History has continued due to women's effort, and it will continue to be so.
That was a great video actually. When women get together and support each other great things happen. I really hate hearing men degrade smex workers but they will take no responsibility for creating the demand for them and for funding the industry.
in the medieval era men would die needlessly in siege camps even though every man and commander knew how to dig trenches and make the place sanitizable all the men did jack shit praying for a woman to come to them via camp following or they'd go steal one or more and kidnap them for the sole reason to have her yell at them to get the place in order then they'd find it within them to dig those trenches, wash, and stop dying for preventable diseases! But these men want us to believe the built and did stuff for women.
Alll of this sooooo true! I’ve listened to a lot of men’s red pill and relationship videos on TH-cam and all of this is how men are led to relate to women and relationship. If I was single again, it would be a hard pass on men who operate like a self centred boy.
Red pill content and advice is really advice to prepare warriors for war. I noticed from the first red pill podcast I watched, at least one man or woman would say, "But men go fight in wars." Red pill is a USA war psyops to get men ready for WWIII.
Because they live in fear mode constantly competing for something or rising in the hierarchy. Red pill is founded in preparing men for war. I noticed in every red pill podcast at least one person would say, "... But men go fight in wars..." or a variation of it, sometimes mentioning conscription. Red pill is a psyops to get men ready for WWIII.
But you don't want to attract wrong crowd as well. I feel like step by step those who are ready to listen get recommended these videos. And more and more women are waking up.
they say you should've communicated better but then they complain about nagging and they don't listen to anything women say. they silence women in any instances.
I think it more often means "you deserved what you got, you stupid b1tch." Bc I see it a lot when women try to talk about men's abusive behavior. It's victim blaming, plain and simple, so men never have to change or become better.
There's no man who would take the time to listen to relationship podcasts to fix anything lmao. Seriously stop trying to fix shit when the guys don't care.
Yup! Here I was listening to financial podcasts, reading books about cross-class relationships, all kinds of stuff through relationship lens to understand what's going on and share, summarizing and sending him stuff, and he's watching rocket launching or submarine technology videos in his spare time 🙄 (better than porn I guess, but the bar is in hell) or choosing to fully dive into his career with absurdly long days and me expected to do anything at home when I work too - total self-investment, zero effort or thought into the relationship. I started changing what I was interested in consuming too, hence here I am (and single 💖)
@@strwbryblondi07 he is outsourcing the emotional labour to you, obviously. If you look at equally yoked, both parties have to try. Pull their own weight. Workaholism is dissociation.
@thesovereignwoman on your podcast can you and Lisa do a movie review of A Thin line between love and hate? I just finished watching it for the first time in a long time and it's filled with the stuff you both educate us on I think you'd have a field day analyzing it.
I wanted to say that a lot that you said in your videos happened to me in weird ways. I went on my first date ever with a guy that split the bill and I thought that it would get better but it just became worse and worse as I got to understand that he is a narcissist.I was able to go no contact after an episode of violent emotional abuse where he was threatening to killed himself and I was becoming his emotional punching ball. I saw throughout my relationship with him that I am incredibly and unconditionally giving but he needed me to be upset to take me out and was never giving any effort pretexting he was financially struggling. So I gave him grace and went on walking dates for a year. And at the end when I expressed my frustration u was met with “oh you need a rich man it seems”. I was always bringing him food, things for his family, medications and tea when he was sick and I was just always there for him. I made peace with the fact that I do not want men in my life anymore. I work very hard and I volunteer and try my best to be a better human and having opened that door made me incredibly stressed and unhappy and also dimmed my light.
Preach it little sister ! I am a Boomer and a granny. The info in your videos is spot on and the young ones coming up should listen to this on a continuous loop in their ipods. Thank you for making my day and I wish you all the best.💙😊
Anwar talked about man pretty and it's like acceptable femininity stuff it's all a distraction honestly to minimise their ad hominem attacks against us instead of competing with them.
In Hinduism, we have Ardhnaareshwar... a diety with half d body of Shiva(divine masculine) and the other half is d body of Shakti(divine feminine) We Hindus, being d oldest continued civilisation on this earth.. we have always known that d healthiest u can ever be/d ideal way to be, is by accepting both feminine n masculine qualities in yourself. We Hindus r not at our healthiest ourselves at this moment.. bcuz our colonial history distanced us from our own culture.. but d more Bharat and Hinduism regains its past glory(before Islamic n British invasion), the more the whole world will benefit..... we have so much to offer to the whole world... so much of collected wisdom over more than, at the very least, ten-fifteen Thousand years(that is the carbon dating of our oldest temples)
@Aelffwynn what do YOU make of d west killing millions across d whole world? ...r a p ing millions of women wherever their soldiers went.. stealing all d wealth of d native lands.. n building their own countries with that stolen wealth?
@Aelffwynn what do YOU make of d west killing millions across d whole world? ...assaulting millions of women wherever their soldiers went.. stealing all d wealth of d native lands.. n building their own countries with that stolen wealth
Y’all I’m glad you all want to share her, but she talks on extremely deep topics you know? I’m worried this might reach the wrong crowd, maybe let’s stick to building women only communities with her guidance
Whenever I see these sorts of relational advice videos I always come away thinking that these relationships are hostile environments. Maybe consider that the reason he's blowing her off to go to the gym is because she's reading some stupid book that tells her what conclusions to jump to instead of talking things out with the man?
Yes, invest in yourself. EVERYONE should work on themselves. It’s really telling on yourself that you think that’s bad. You can’t keep a person in a relationship if they don’t want to be there. If you love them, let them go. If they come back, then it’s love. If they don’t, there was never anything there. Grow up and stop acting like you can keep someone that doesn’t want to be there. Oh and transactional relationships? That modern women. Men are expected to sacrifice their happiness for their families but women will sacrifice their families for their happiness. Look at ALL the TikTok’s of women with laundry lists of demands so a man can just have some of her attention.
Yes, invest in urself that's actually never a bad thing like go and regulate your emotions, then come back and things can be sorted out better. But I think she is talking more about the men who go through a problem in the relationship and then just act like she doesn't exist anymore, it was just him and him. That's not only bad for women actually but also toxic for men as well. Investing in your relationships can also be a way of investing in yourself cause these relationships stay in your life and nourish your emotions etc.
Oh yes, men are sacrificing everything for their families, those poor, poor creatures. That must be why countless studies have shown that marriage/relationships directly most benefit men, while married women are the most unhappy group (bc they are the ones actually sacrificing everything - their career, their interests, their goals, their time, their interpersonal needs, their s3xual needs). Sorry to burst your bubble, sweetheart. But science proves you wrong. And experience shows you're just bitter about some personal experience where you were expectedly to contribute equally.
1 - why should a man expect to ONLY cater to what a woman want, while expecting nothing in return? 2 - why women have these expectations on men, knowing very well that women do EXACTLY the same? 3 - why you claim that women act in such "rational" manner, but whenever a men point the flaw in a women's argument, the women engage in a flood of sarcasm and attack the person who make the counter-argument?
I don't really understand why you are on TH-cam when you were on Tiktok. Oh yes we are now funneling everything off Tiktok onto the mainstream platform.
Okay, so for the first one, the reason why this is the case, is because when we invest more in others than we do on ourselves, other ppl, especially women start to see us as low status and lose interest in us
Since we're talking about statistics... women file for divorce as an absolute last resort when they've spent years (sometimes decades) putting everything into a relationship to make it work and have their needs met, only to be stonewalled and ignored or mocked. Women spend years telling their husbands what's wrong and why they're unhappy, and what can be done about it. And then men act all surprised when she files for divorce - "I don't know where this is coming from," "she didn't even give me a chance to change" - when the women finally had enough of mistreatment and realized nothing will ever get better. That's why women statistically file for divorce more than men, and I'm not even including all the DV relationships where women are filing for their safety. Meanwhile men will keep their wives around for all the free labor and all the benefits of marriage - "therapist, mother, maid, nymph then a virgin, nurse then a servant... just an appendage." Men benefit most from marriage while married women are the most unhappy group (another statistic). And while men are benefitting from all this labor they then go cheat on their wives with someone half their age who's too naive to catch on to the game, but not experienced enough to do all the above work. And men will continue to lead that double life until they've groomed the younger woman sufficiently. Only then do they file for divorce - once they've drained their wives of life and have a fresh new one ready to take her place. Or if the wife becomes ill (another statistic). Statistics are fun, my friend, but only if you actually read the whole article, not just the headline. 🤦♀️ Edit: typo
Why did you criticize the male behavior right before recommending that woman imitate the same behavior instead of recommending that woman do what you thought was the exemplary course of action that involved doing volunteer work. You basically just condemned male behavior and said that the retaliation was to imitate. Isn't that flattery?
She is talking about about not investing into someone who is not investing in you in return …. all the other stuff about investing in yourself and in a community etc is great for anyone to do at any time …. but when the person you are with is no longer having an equal two-way street relationship with you ( or never did in the past ) then it’s time to pull back and even pack up and move on …. that might change the others’ perceptions and actions and they might do a 180 and change their behavior …. but that will be determined by if they even give a **** …. and if they are good with just letting it all go then there is the answer to that …. the same goes for the opposite if a man is investing more than the woman …. that does happen sometimes …. but it is usually the woman in relationships who find themselves in these situations
@@yv_edit please talk about the good girl psyop we are taught being nice and emptying our cup to bail out men socially makes us virtuous when even the Bible disagrees and says young women learn from older women for example.
I am a man and here is my perspective: 1. Everybody should be in their best form, men and women. 2. Men pay for exclusivity, that's just how it is, if you don't want a transactional relationship go and date a broke man so you can pay for everything. 3. Insecurity is a human trait, applicable for both men and women, a result of evolution. I had a female boss once and because of her insecurities she treated other women like dirt.
1. But what is the "best form"? A lot of men think it is enough when they do stuff for themselves. They work out, they find a good job etc. For women it is way different. Yes, women should work out to - to look good for men. They should work but they should also do all the house chores - for the man (or the family). They should take care of the kids - so the men doesn't have to etc. A lot of men see women as servants that are only on this world to make life easier for men. And if we don't do that - if we want to be in our "best form" just for us, men get angry and aggressive. 2. If that's true I feel absolutely sorry for men. And if I believed that that was true I would not date a broke man - I would just not date any man at all. 3. Yes, but still a trait that can be found much more in men. And we allowe men to be insecure and still claim it as "strong". If a female boss acts like you said, she will be called out BIG time. Men treat women like dirt all the time and noone cares. That's the difference.
There's nothing dumber than a mansplainer who knows nothing, understands nothing, hears nothing, and gives advice that's not related to the subject under discussion.
Point by point, this video is very destructive. Here's why: 1. Wrong. Egregiously. Ladies, you ignore men who invest in you. You typically think they're weak. Read the psychology on it. It's a known phenomenon. You look for men who don't invest in you and then you invest in them. The solution is self-awareness. They give that advice because it's what works. You are demonstrating that you don't know what's really going on. Investing in oneself is absolutely necessary. There is no point to investing in others when they all ignore you (which is what men go through). Start *actually* listening to men. Men and women are very, very different. 2. No they aren't. They are traumatized. If you actually listened to men, you would notice that. Most men were absolutely raised to do things out of the goodness of their hearts. It's not appreciated. So, they stop. Pay attention to that and you can help them heal. Everyone can become bitter. Be self-aware. 3. So are women. Just about everyone has issues with security. Stop looking for someone else to focus on because of it. Your responsibility is you. Focusing on others' issues is destructive to yourself. Men have a hard time dealing with women's insecurities too. Stop caring so much about it. It won't be a big issue in a healthy relationship. Seriously. Women use cheating against men like this too, by the way. And that's when they DON'T just cheat out of lack of respect, honesty, effort, or proper communication. Stop focusing on cheating. You can't control other people. Stop complaining about patriarchy without providing a suitable replacement. Complaining where no progress is made is destructive. Focus on what you can control. *!!!* Domestic violence is *actually* more common by women against men. That is false information and there is documented proof of it. Stop focusing on the problem. Focus on solutions.
Aren't you a happily married woman? So you are doing this because of what the money? The likes the admiration. I couldn't talk about men all day it would bore me..
th-cam.com/video/QBv_wtvRBvo/w-d-xo.htmlsi=7pxJ_yA8eC5TYhrg. Pravin the psychologist Highly recommend this new channel as his previous interview on how feminism won't save men and stuff because men need to do the work was brill, also it's a channel for men so obviously wanna hear this
they really want that fiddy fiddy fake stuff though. They want all the perks of feminism and none of the costs. They want best of both, which is mutually exclusive.
@BoredOligarch th-cam.com/video/SPMOjevpQko/w-d-xo.htmlsi=gRVVCIZRyS5UPAP4 is the original channel, 2 years ago he did a bunch of interviews and then princella the queen maker interviewed him. He has some really interesting ideas and is the first man Ive seen with a clue Highly recommend it for understanding male violence etc, in the UK we had a bunch of women getting killed by complete strangers and so it puts the spotlight on male violence etc
Ive recommended him a lot. He literally says things like, “what the hell is wrong with men”? That they’re resentful of women because of women’s relationship with life through giving birth. They truly are not capable of dealing with raising children. To be better they really have to be raised right but even then he said they always have to keep themselves in check. It’s interesting “the origins of misogyny”. Previn Karian
My new favorite sport is saying “You should’ve chosen better” when dudes complain about their wives and gfs. It’s so funny to watch them meltdown internally.
😂😂😂😂 I bet they get maddddd lol
I always say this to them. And yes, they then ar6gue that how can we know if a person will change and all that. I say that is what mn say to wmn, so mn must follow their own advice 😂
😂😂😂❤
@@manifest2203 exactly because this is exactly what they say to women who are victims of 🍇 or violence .. but somehow they don't apply this to themselves
Same😂😂
Just had some men telling me it's wrong and bad for women to only want men who make their lives easier and better. 😂
buried my head in my hands and screamed after reading this lmao 😂 how can they be so close and still NOT GET IT!!!
Men keeping other men single 😂
@@yv_edit Close but no cigars also describes how they can't satisfy their women in bed. Its a theme with them
Wtf
Yet they look for women, who can make their lives easier and better.
A lot of men want to bully women into a ‘lack’ mindset.
I've noticed this channel is really growing, and women are waking up. Being single has been the best thing for me. The peace is priceless. It gets lonely, but I was lonely in my dysfunctional relationships.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Word
lookism only works for men, women get the femme fatale effect in research
"It gets lonely but I was lonely in my dysfunctional relationships " WORD💯
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Guys saying "I want a traditional woman, with traditional family values, homemaking and child rearing is top priority, that's submits to my leadership, defers to my knowledge, wisdom and decision making skills......
AND also work's and pays 50/50 bills...."
Um ..... WTF?
Yeah crazy right
They don't view what we do for them as work or anything worthy of appreciation
@@Elennar29Well, they're also broke.
She drops so many gems. She deserves all the likes.
@YC72 There are no gems in any of the videos I've seen from her so far because none of her conclusions I've seen are actually true and I used to listen to misogynists so that should give you pause
At 66, I wish that i could go back in time, with this smart little gals knowledge, to my 20's. Things would be SO different for me, and probably for many other women.
I agree. I was 10 when a man tried to grape and drown me. I’ve lost a job because of men’s behavior toward me, where it was easier for them to lay me off than to hold men accountable for harassment. I could have avoided so much trauma and the resulting PTSD if I had understood the horrible things men will do. My life would have been so much better.
I feel you
Yes.
If I could go back, I'd have my son, but I would never have gotten married. Marriage is a huge scam. It's everything yv says.
Zero lies detected!! Sooo glad there is a young woman out there for women to hear before they make mistakes; too many have internalized misogyny or are pickmes who think they are special and wouldn't listen to older women who have lived out these situations
meanwhile the BIBLE says for young women to learn from older ones, NOT men!
The same bible says a story about a man should have earn and deserve his wife by serving HER family for years first to prove his worth. So he has left his family to form a new one with his wife. Meanwhile they preach the contradiction and expect a woman to sacrifice everything and leave her support circle behind. In the name of ukhm ukhm love?
As much as i dont want this to be true - it is.
This is why my ex is a divorced and lonely meathead nearing his 50s. Meanwhile I’ve created a strong support system with my friends, family, and my therapist 😌
ironically all the testosterone they're taking shortens lifespan too
Dont count on therapist, they are there for money.
@@Krlowanigu-mg6eg not entirely, therapists can choose who they want to work with. Therapists invest in their profession so hugely that it almost always means the relationship is more than money. Especially for long-term processes.
@@Krlowanigu-mg6eg they get paid for their time just like any other job. If you see a therapist you feel is only in it for the money, you can and should find a different therapist. Surprise: therapists are people and they're all different!
@@Krlowanigu-mg6eg yes psychologists are.
Omg!! Why didn’t you start posting two years ago!!!
Ladies the gym thing is sooooooo REAL!
And he has a woman in mind of who he wants to impress with his new body too
Crazy. I just like looking at the muscles and moving heavy things for other women XD
most of these guys are somatic narcissists so they view bodybuilding as the dissociation acceptable to escape uncomfortable emotions, some pretend to be the Guru Type which HG Tudor describes as cerebral narcissism temporarily trying to cover it. Tate for example.
I dated someone who worked out for 5-7 hours a day, every single day. Sometimes consecutively. Not exaggerating. He was the biggest emotional toddler I've ever met.
Edit: he loved David goggins (guru)
@@seabreeze4559I like HG
@seabreeze4559 No they aren't. That's unbelievably obvious, too, if you actually know what the typical male experience is, which you so clearly do not. You are looking for someone to blame.
First two point are that they’re selfish. Third point is that they’re dumb and mean for sport. And they have the nerve to threaten women that dying alone is worse than living around this
Men complaing about being "friendzoned" always pisses me off, when we've been supportive of and listened to male friends complain about things for years!
And most of us give them advice on how to improve things for themselves without expecting anything in return.
But men are so transactional that they can't see a female friend in their life as something positive, if s&x isn't involved. I used to enjoy male friendships, but over time they get emotionally exhausting, since I got so tired of hearing them complain about their wives, or make really derogatory "jokes" about women, etc. It just gets old after awhile. So, I'm more of a loner these days. I'm just tired of toxic RP garbage and so many men being brainwashed by it.
very funny female complaining about men being meh friends when even friendship with woman require wealth and attractiveness. male friend give place to stay when the dude is homeless, female friend kick out said guy. like f off m8.
He wanted me to be satisfied with his bare minimum 😅 My stupid ass hyped him up and stroked his ego then he got bold thinking he's such a fine choice for a man 😂
men are like cats if spoil them they think they did something and actively start doing nothing, as if existing is enough, like Garfield
Same! 😂 he came crawling back 2 months later. Blocked!
They always come back when they discover they actually CANT do “better”
men say thats how they judge a man if she's lifting him up he's a manipulator they can play ball with and compete with but if she was talking bad about him then he's not a man to compete with he's not on the board to play ladder with.
@ so far he hasn't and i'm glad for the peace 🫶
Stopped dating men 4 years ago 😂
@@emyywolf they have only just realized the birth rate decline soon either men will pick younger partners because they are unaware or they will actually acknowledge us!
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4B. Gotta love the peace and freedom
“There’s only so much people will take from an extremely attractive / muscular person.” Literally describing my marriage. He was so beautiful but everything else was a train wreck.
Some of the worst men I've dated were physically beautiful. Heavy drinkers, irresponsible, extremely self centred, selfish etc. I concluded that because of their looks everyone had just always done everything for them so they never had to learn and develop and mature as people.
@@katec9893 The worst thing is that average or uggo guys are not better in character at all, always carrying some chip on the shoulder, revenge of the nerds fantasies from being snubbed all their youth. There is no winning, at least pretty guys would give pretty children idk.
I think ugly dudes are the worst.
I’ve had guys that I dated throw back in my face what they’ve done for me in the early dating phase. I even had one guy kept repeating me saying I spent $300 on you during the first week and had the nerve to add up gas money that he spent driving me around.
Lol I can do you one better. When I left my fiance he actually calculated all the money he spent during our *9* years together AND gave me an invoice for it, actually expecting me to pay him back. (And of course all the money I spent, plus all my unpaid labor, was not factored.) It took a session with a therapist as mediator before he finally dropped it. And that was just bc she firmly told him no one gets a reimbursement if a relationship doesn't work out bc relationships are not a transactional spreadsheet and he was bat crap crazy for expecting it.
@ yeah you definitely have me beat. The audacity of these males is crazy.
@@tynaangelici3023 The ones we encountered were definitely sh1t lol
damned if you do damned if you don't is the constant theme of patriarchy
Hey Lisa. Can you please make a video on how male friends the biggest waste of time? I feel like doing a bro purge is one of the most important parts of decentering men. Male friends use women for free labour. And they are never your friends but more like secret suitors ...it makes the friedships a dishonest slimy shady dirty low cost cheap courtship
Manifestelle has video about it too
That hasn't been my experience with male friends. I don't agree with Manifestella on this either. My male friends are great.
You are so right. That was a disappointing realization, when I had it.
Melanie Hamlett has talked about this before, but I'd always love to hear more from Lisa.
I've moved several times and lived in several states and can say that it's difficult to maintain friendships, but every "male" friend has gone radio silence even before I've left state borders, so take what you will with that information. Also, don't take most men you meet on the road/travel seriously because they just want a warm body for that town/city for a few days.
Women build up their community! Therese Lee's podcasts: Jezebel Spirit discussed how during the gold rush and railroad expansion towards the west, 304 weres one helping built the communities and not the men working near those towns. Also, NGOs mostly focused on giving women money since it's likely that they'll use that money for their business and then spread it around their communities. History has continued due to women's effort, and it will continue to be so.
That was a great video actually. When women get together and support each other great things happen. I really hate hearing men degrade smex workers but they will take no responsibility for creating the demand for them and for funding the industry.
@@heidithesausage Demand creates the industry. Women used to be bridenapped before Disney made propaganda films.
in the medieval era men would die needlessly in siege camps even though every man and commander knew how to dig trenches and make the place sanitizable all the men did jack shit praying for a woman to come to them via camp following or they'd go steal one or more and kidnap them for the sole reason to have her yell at them to get the place in order then they'd find it within them to dig those trenches, wash, and stop dying for preventable diseases! But these men want us to believe the built and did stuff for women.
what episode was this if you dont mind? id love to listen
@@RedResevoir Episode 1: Act Like A Man, Think Like a 304
Alll of this sooooo true! I’ve listened to a lot of men’s red pill and relationship videos on TH-cam and all of this is how men are led to relate to women and relationship. If I was single again, it would be a hard pass on men who operate like a self centred boy.
I second that.
Red pill content and advice is really advice to prepare warriors for war. I noticed from the first red pill podcast I watched, at least one man or woman would say, "But men go fight in wars."
Red pill is a USA war psyops to get men ready for WWIII.
Because they live in fear mode constantly competing for something or rising in the hierarchy.
Red pill is founded in preparing men for war.
I noticed in every red pill podcast at least one person would say, "... But men go fight in wars..." or a variation of it, sometimes mentioning conscription.
Red pill is a psyops to get men ready for WWIII.
Let’s get her video out there. She needs all the subscribers. Like and share
But you don't want to attract wrong crowd as well.
I feel like step by step those who are ready to listen get recommended these videos. And more and more women are waking up.
I am sending her channel to everyone I know.
they say you should've communicated better but then they complain about nagging and they don't listen to anything women say. they silence women in any instances.
Agree with all u said. Be selfish ladies and 2025 Will be our year
I am going for selfish all the way.
"You should have chosen better" means "you should've friendzoned him instead of me." Like 90% of the time.
I think it more often means "you deserved what you got, you stupid b1tch." Bc I see it a lot when women try to talk about men's abusive behavior. It's victim blaming, plain and simple, so men never have to change or become better.
There's no man who would take the time to listen to relationship podcasts to fix anything lmao. Seriously stop trying to fix shit when the guys don't care.
Yup! Here I was listening to financial podcasts, reading books about cross-class relationships, all kinds of stuff through relationship lens to understand what's going on and share, summarizing and sending him stuff, and he's watching rocket launching or submarine technology videos in his spare time 🙄 (better than porn I guess, but the bar is in hell) or choosing to fully dive into his career with absurdly long days and me expected to do anything at home when I work too - total self-investment, zero effort or thought into the relationship. I started changing what I was interested in consuming too, hence here I am (and single 💖)
@@strwbryblondi07omg, love is truly blind.
@@strwbryblondi07I’ve been doing the same.
dr john gray tries but men mostly mock him despite being ardent on research
@@strwbryblondi07 he is outsourcing the emotional labour to you, obviously. If you look at equally yoked, both parties have to try. Pull their own weight. Workaholism is dissociation.
I learn so much from your videos
I looooove this!!!
Love y’all’s podcast!
Love the podcast ❤
@thesovereignwoman on your podcast can you and Lisa do a movie review of A Thin line between love and hate? I just finished watching it for the first time in a long time and it's filled with the stuff you both educate us on I think you'd have a field day analyzing it.
Hey girl, here i am to comment some support! ❤🎉
Thanks!
Thank you so much!!! ☺️ your support means the world!!!
@@thefox8915 You could have gotten real dating coaching wisdom with that money
I wanted to say that a lot that you said in your videos happened to me in weird ways. I went on my first date ever with a guy that split the bill and I thought that it would get better but it just became worse and worse as I got to understand that he is a narcissist.I was able to go no contact after an episode of violent emotional abuse where he was threatening to killed himself and I was becoming his emotional punching ball. I saw throughout my relationship with him that I am incredibly and unconditionally giving but he needed me to be upset to take me out and was never giving any effort pretexting he was financially struggling. So I gave him grace and went on walking dates for a year. And at the end when I expressed my frustration u was met with “oh you need a rich man it seems”. I was always bringing him food, things for his family, medications and tea when he was sick and I was just always there for him. I made peace with the fact that I do not want men in my life anymore. I work very hard and I volunteer and try my best to be a better human and having opened that door made me incredibly stressed and unhappy and also dimmed my light.
I can’t wait for your Channel gets 1 mil+ subcribers
This channel is amazing. Women need to know this
Im from Brazil and im loving your content!
Im so happy this channel is picking up!!
Love you girl!
Lady, you’re my Person of the Year! Sending much love from Finland. ❤
Preach it little sister !
I am a Boomer and a granny. The info in your videos is spot on and the young ones coming up should listen to this on a continuous loop in their ipods.
Thank you for making my day and I wish you all the best.💙😊
Based.
This is such valuable information. I really like the way you do your videos. I feel like they should be shown in schools
They always tell on themselves coz they never shut up.
YV your insight is so surgical. It’s appreciated!💕
I luv this channel. ❤fr. You woke me up so much. '🎉
After the video ended an ad for a dating app played that started with a woman saying "men stop being so bice to women...". Kind of spooky 😅
Ew, read the room, ad algorithm.
Exactly right and spot on as always, liked 👍
For Lisa and the algorithm ❤🎉❤🎉❤
Facts!
One thing is sure, you are correct as always.
Anwar talked about man pretty and it's like acceptable femininity stuff it's all a distraction honestly to minimise their ad hominem attacks against us instead of competing with them.
so true
Commenting for the algorithm ❤
Love your hair these days. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you ❤
wow this is amazing!
Thank you for this
Well said 🙌🏼
Good points
In Hinduism, we have Ardhnaareshwar... a diety with half d body of Shiva(divine masculine) and the other half is d body of Shakti(divine feminine)
We Hindus, being d oldest continued civilisation on this earth.. we have always known that d healthiest u can ever be/d ideal way to be, is by accepting both feminine n masculine qualities in yourself.
We Hindus r not at our healthiest ourselves at this moment.. bcuz our colonial history distanced us from our own culture.. but d more Bharat and Hinduism regains its past glory(before Islamic n British invasion), the more the whole world will benefit..... we have so much to offer to the whole world... so much of collected wisdom over more than, at the very least, ten-fifteen Thousand years(that is the carbon dating of our oldest temples)
What do you make of the caste system?
@Aelffwynn what do YOU make of d west killing millions across d whole world? ...r a p ing millions of women wherever their soldiers went.. stealing all d wealth of d native lands.. n building their own countries with that stolen wealth?
@Aelffwynn what do YOU make of d west killing millions across d whole world? ...assaulting millions of women wherever their soldiers went.. stealing all d wealth of d native lands.. n building their own countries with that stolen wealth
Love it
❤ 🧠 the best and worth thing to happen to us men with mics….
They really do tell on themselves and think it's funny and love to insult your intelligence. 🙄🙄🙄
True!!!!!!!!
Y’all I’m glad you all want to share her, but she talks on extremely deep topics you know?
I’m worried this might reach the wrong crowd, maybe let’s stick to building women only communities with her guidance
💯💯💯
very helpful advice
Yes. Everything is ptojection with men online. I find it very strange.
Ugh thank you for articulating all this
How did you know that you could trust your husband? What makes you trust him now?
Who says she does?
Tell us about all your peersonal relationships now that we're at it. I demand that you respond.
She has an entire video on this. It's one of the most recent ones
1:01 what are these alleged men’s groups for community tho😅😅
The pettiness is what always kills me. Glad I walked away from all of this.
AMEN
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Wow fucking good advice
This ^ 100%
Lol it is annoying they can post 😂
😂 they are giving bad advice and you’re giving out worst advice
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Is this actually your channel?
Is that actually your face in the mirror? Weird, isn't it?
No, it's an illusion
*How people act on the internet = not how people act in real life*
Stop lying.
@@corimoon3360 Bitter because you don't go outside.
@@corimoon3360 Never lied.
@corimoon3360 Never lied. You should try not being bitter
Stay single nathan. You've proven you're very good at it 🤣
Whenever I see these sorts of relational advice videos I always come away thinking that these relationships are hostile environments. Maybe consider that the reason he's blowing her off to go to the gym is because she's reading some stupid book that tells her what conclusions to jump to instead of talking things out with the man?
Yes, invest in yourself. EVERYONE should work on themselves. It’s really telling on yourself that you think that’s bad. You can’t keep a person in a relationship if they don’t want to be there. If you love them, let them go. If they come back, then it’s love. If they don’t, there was never anything there. Grow up and stop acting like you can keep someone that doesn’t want to be there.
Oh and transactional relationships? That modern women. Men are expected to sacrifice their happiness for their families but women will sacrifice their families for their happiness. Look at ALL the TikTok’s of women with laundry lists of demands so a man can just have some of her attention.
Yes, invest in urself that's actually never a bad thing like go and regulate your emotions, then come back and things can be sorted out better. But I think she is talking more about the men who go through a problem in the relationship and then just act like she doesn't exist anymore, it was just him and him. That's not only bad for women actually but also toxic for men as well. Investing in your relationships can also be a way of investing in yourself cause these relationships stay in your life and nourish your emotions etc.
And girls, this is a textbook example of men projecting.^
Oh yes, men are sacrificing everything for their families, those poor, poor creatures. That must be why countless studies have shown that marriage/relationships directly most benefit men, while married women are the most unhappy group (bc they are the ones actually sacrificing everything - their career, their interests, their goals, their time, their interpersonal needs, their s3xual needs).
Sorry to burst your bubble, sweetheart. But science proves you wrong. And experience shows you're just bitter about some personal experience where you were expectedly to contribute equally.
1 - why should a man expect to ONLY cater to what a woman want, while expecting nothing in return?
2 - why women have these expectations on men, knowing very well that women do EXACTLY the same?
3 - why you claim that women act in such "rational" manner, but whenever a men point the flaw in a women's argument, the women engage in a flood of sarcasm and attack the person who make the counter-argument?
I don't really understand why you are on TH-cam when you were on Tiktok. Oh yes we are now funneling everything off Tiktok onto the mainstream platform.
She been on YT. She just wasn’t uploading as often. I’m not sure why it’s a problem tho?
She can reach more people since not everyone is on TikTok (like myself)...duh...
Have you not heard of people using more than one platform? Such a weird and pointless thing to bring up. 😂
What are you not understanding??
Okay, so for the first one, the reason why this is the case, is because when we invest more in others than we do on ourselves, other ppl, especially women start to see us as low status and lose interest in us
you cannot pour from an empty cup but we all fall for the good girl psyop
No, it’s when you’re investing in that super hot woman that doesn’t want you 😂
Is that how u feel when someone invests in you? That they are low status?
@@heidithesausage the servile role, subconsciously - giving tree minimisation
@@heidithesausagenailed it
If this is true, why most dovorce are filed by women whereas men are more likely to seek therapy?
It doesnt make sense.
Since we're talking about statistics... women file for divorce as an absolute last resort when they've spent years (sometimes decades) putting everything into a relationship to make it work and have their needs met, only to be stonewalled and ignored or mocked. Women spend years telling their husbands what's wrong and why they're unhappy, and what can be done about it. And then men act all surprised when she files for divorce - "I don't know where this is coming from," "she didn't even give me a chance to change" - when the women finally had enough of mistreatment and realized nothing will ever get better.
That's why women statistically file for divorce more than men, and I'm not even including all the DV relationships where women are filing for their safety.
Meanwhile men will keep their wives around for all the free labor and all the benefits of marriage - "therapist, mother, maid, nymph then a virgin, nurse then a servant... just an appendage." Men benefit most from marriage while married women are the most unhappy group (another statistic). And while men are benefitting from all this labor they then go cheat on their wives with someone half their age who's too naive to catch on to the game, but not experienced enough to do all the above work. And men will continue to lead that double life until they've groomed the younger woman sufficiently.
Only then do they file for divorce - once they've drained their wives of life and have a fresh new one ready to take her place. Or if the wife becomes ill (another statistic).
Statistics are fun, my friend, but only if you actually read the whole article, not just the headline. 🤦♀️
Edit: typo
Why did you criticize the male behavior right before recommending that woman imitate the same behavior instead of recommending that woman do what you thought was the exemplary course of action that involved doing volunteer work. You basically just condemned male behavior and said that the retaliation was to imitate. Isn't that flattery?
Nah it’s just matching energy. Sometimes you gotta take the low road!
She is talking about about not investing into someone who is not investing in you in return …. all the other stuff about investing in yourself and in a community etc is great for anyone to do at any time …. but when the person you are with is no longer having an equal two-way street relationship with you ( or never did in the past ) then it’s time to pull back and even pack up and move on …. that might change the others’ perceptions and actions and they might do a 180 and change their behavior …. but that will be determined by if they even give a **** …. and if they are good with just letting it all go then there is the answer to that …. the same goes for the opposite if a man is investing more than the woman …. that does happen sometimes …. but it is usually the woman in relationships who find themselves in these situations
This comment is such a pick me behavior. You didn't understand the video
@@yv_edit please talk about the good girl psyop we are taught being nice and emptying our cup to bail out men socially makes us virtuous when even the Bible disagrees and says young women learn from older women for example.
they over-do it, some self-care is needed. you cannot give to anyone from an empty cup. some selfishness is just self preservation.
I am a man and here is my perspective:
1. Everybody should be in their best form, men and women.
2. Men pay for exclusivity, that's just how it is, if you don't want a transactional relationship go and date a broke man so you can pay for everything.
3. Insecurity is a human trait, applicable for both men and women, a result of evolution. I had a female boss once and because of her insecurities she treated other women like dirt.
1. But what is the "best form"? A lot of men think it is enough when they do stuff for themselves. They work out, they find a good job etc. For women it is way different. Yes, women should work out to - to look good for men. They should work but they should also do all the house chores - for the man (or the family). They should take care of the kids - so the men doesn't have to etc. A lot of men see women as servants that are only on this world to make life easier for men. And if we don't do that - if we want to be in our "best form" just for us, men get angry and aggressive.
2. If that's true I feel absolutely sorry for men. And if I believed that that was true I would not date a broke man - I would just not date any man at all.
3. Yes, but still a trait that can be found much more in men. And we allowe men to be insecure and still claim it as "strong". If a female boss acts like you said, she will be called out BIG time. Men treat women like dirt all the time and noone cares. That's the difference.
Thank you for supporting getting this creator's message into the algorithm with your engagement
There's nothing dumber than a mansplainer who knows nothing, understands nothing, hears nothing, and gives advice that's not related to the subject under discussion.
Thanks for proving the video correct as the reason women should choose the 🐻 bear. Yall stay probing your women’s biggest ops.
You can’t afford exclusivity…
Point by point, this video is very destructive. Here's why:
1. Wrong. Egregiously. Ladies, you ignore men who invest in you. You typically think they're weak. Read the psychology on it. It's a known phenomenon. You look for men who don't invest in you and then you invest in them. The solution is self-awareness.
They give that advice because it's what works. You are demonstrating that you don't know what's really going on. Investing in oneself is absolutely necessary. There is no point to investing in others when they all ignore you (which is what men go through). Start *actually* listening to men. Men and women are very, very different.
2. No they aren't. They are traumatized. If you actually listened to men, you would notice that.
Most men were absolutely raised to do things out of the goodness of their hearts. It's not appreciated. So, they stop. Pay attention to that and you can help them heal.
Everyone can become bitter. Be self-aware.
3. So are women. Just about everyone has issues with security. Stop looking for someone else to focus on because of it. Your responsibility is you. Focusing on others' issues is destructive to yourself. Men have a hard time dealing with women's insecurities too. Stop caring so much about it. It won't be a big issue in a healthy relationship. Seriously.
Women use cheating against men like this too, by the way. And that's when they DON'T just cheat out of lack of respect, honesty, effort, or proper communication. Stop focusing on cheating. You can't control other people.
Stop complaining about patriarchy without providing a suitable replacement. Complaining where no progress is made is destructive. Focus on what you can control.
*!!!* Domestic violence is *actually* more common by women against men. That is false information and there is documented proof of it. Stop focusing on the problem. Focus on solutions.
lol. Nope. But nice try.
@bdott1538 Nope. The experts agree with me. You'll start noticing that when you start paying attention.
@bdott1538 Nope. The experts agree with me. You'll start noticing that when you start paying attention.
@bdott1538 Nope. The experts agree with me. You'll start noticing that when you start paying attention.
@bdott1538 The experts agree with me. You'll start noticing that when you start paying attention.
When women work on the relationship?
I see you're still bitter and single 🤣😂🤣
Aren't you a happily married woman? So you are doing this because of what the money? The likes the admiration. I couldn't talk about men all day it would bore me..
And yet here you are.😅
Personally, I prefer relationship advice from a happily married woman.
There's ways one Pick Me crying for the menz. Think of the menz!
th-cam.com/video/QBv_wtvRBvo/w-d-xo.htmlsi=7pxJ_yA8eC5TYhrg. Pravin the psychologist
Highly recommend this new channel as his previous interview on how feminism won't save men and stuff because men need to do the work was brill, also it's a channel for men so obviously wanna hear this
they really want that fiddy fiddy fake stuff though. They want all the perks of feminism and none of the costs. They want best of both, which is mutually exclusive.
Whoa thanks for recommending this channel. His video kinda blew my mind! I subscribed to him quick!
@BoredOligarch th-cam.com/video/SPMOjevpQko/w-d-xo.htmlsi=gRVVCIZRyS5UPAP4 is the original channel, 2 years ago he did a bunch of interviews and then princella the queen maker interviewed him. He has some really interesting ideas and is the first man Ive seen with a clue
Highly recommend it for understanding male violence etc, in the UK we had a bunch of women getting killed by complete strangers and so it puts the spotlight on male violence etc
Ive recommended him a lot.
He literally says things like, “what the hell is wrong with men”? That they’re resentful of women because of women’s relationship with life through giving birth. They truly are not capable of dealing with raising children. To be better they really have to be raised right but even then he said they always have to keep themselves in check.
It’s interesting “the origins of misogyny”. Previn Karian