Getting Rid of OCD Patterns!
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- Getting Rid of OCD Patterns!
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Getting Rid of OCD Patterns!
You may think that to get rid of OCD you have to stop yourself from doing the patterns. Discipline. But OCD just preys on discipline, often turning it around against you.
Self-judgment and guilt feed the OCD, so wouldn't it make sense to stop those? If you stop those, you don't have to put effort into stopping the patterns. They stop on their own.
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i think what she is saying is dont push back against the thoughts. just let them be. but its also important not to do the rituals.the golden rule is it's not what you think but what you do that makes all the diffrents
Yep! I explain it better here: th-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/w-d-xo.html
Yes you're totally right, because the most important tip to get rid of it is not to engage on the rituals which are the ones that give OCD power.
I started bawling when you said "it takes it away." I've been struggling with OCD since I was a born. My mom would have to fix things for me until they were right as per the directions I gave her by pointing from my crib as a baby. As I grew up it kept getting worse and worse. Every second of every single day I'm continuously counting and repeating phrases in my head or rotating my left arm over and over. At one point I even stopped breathing because I felt I had to exhale properly before I could take in my next breath.
I can't wait to try this out because this OCD is so unbearable at times. Glad I found others on the internet who feel my pain as well because other people don't seem to understand the struggle.
Jasmine Rossol I can relate to you in so many ways! I do the same thing when it comes to breathing. It's drives me insane. It's good to hear that I'm not alone.
Jasmine Rossol of course other people don't seem to understand our struggle with OCD and when we tell them that they think that we are responsible for these bad thoughts but we indeed can't stop our thoughts
Ya!
OCD does go away and fades. It takes time though. But it can be done
Jasmine Rossol I think I've had OCD for as long as I can remember. And hearing everything that Jodi Aman said in this video were things I've done and still do as an OCD sufferer.
I understand completely and you're right. You're not alone.
One tip I picked up a while ago is a mental technique called Parallel thinking. When you get a negative thought, you counteract it by telling your brain to do the opposite of what you want it to do.
For example: you tell your brain to not think about a pink elephant. And what's the first thought that comes into your head? A Pink elephant.
I hope that helps.
And what Jodi has said is advice I've heard before where you just let the intrusive thoughts just sit there. You don't give them power, they just get less and less.
This is terrible advice. If I just obey the OCD, then I will develop the habits even more, making them harder to break. How I tamed my OCD was to treat my OCD as a little tweenager with a shitty Walmart Xbox headset screaming at me to do something; that way, I can develop a feeling of contempt towards my OCD, and, thus, not take it seriously.
I do see the risk on this suggestion. But I see also this one is a long fade out to get rid of ocd too. The thing is how long..
But treating the ocd as a yelling kid is one piece of great advice! Wonderful! Thanks!!!
I like your idea lol I'll try this from now on lol
Josh Hummel nice
kulik03 how can we obey orders of OCd wat sought of advice is this ?????! plz explain
Dont listen to this shit its bullshit... my ocd is pretty much cured and all i did was keep my self occupied
I find that if I give in to my OCD compulsions it only makes it way worse.
same
Yes
Just let it rot your brain then you heal
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OCD takes over your life.
It seems honestly hopeless at times, and it's easy to cling to moments where you weren't as occupied and feel as if you'll never be happy again.
But don't worry. Stay positive and keep fighting. OCD won't go away overnight, but it will subside and you can learn to live easily over time. Let's fight this together.
I could not agree more.
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The thoughts are ridicluous. Your birthday and the speech are relatively unrelated. Don't let the anxiety trick you into thinking they are connected. This is just a power tactic. It needs you to believe it. Ask yourself: Why do you believe it? Use your intellegence to realize you have nothing to wrry about and then when the thoughts come distract yourself. Throw yourself into a creative endeavor to keep you busy.
I have really bad ocd wich is very personal and makes you think if you don't do this something will happen to things you care about
+Phoenix dragonlord Girl me 2
can u give me your number so that personally i can contact with u for the solution .
Navida Saher plz help me m also suffering with ocd.......madaharg@gmail.com
Jodi Aman hey I have OCD bad thoughts and I tell myself to not think about don't ask your mom your just giving in and I keep thinking about more and more till I get a head ach and I don't know what to do!?
No, the 1% of us who actually do have severe OCD this is a load of crap
Right? Haha.
That belief will keep OCD in your life.
Jodi Aman, thank you.
As someone who has suffered with OCD for most of my life, it's comforting to know there is advice from supportive people like yourself who know how to understand and help people.
I appreciate the advice. Thank you very much
Thanks so much! OCD has been taking over my life for years and now I watched this and used the tips, it's starting to to away slowly! Thank you
You are so welcome!
I suffered with terrible thoughts and worries in my head when I was a teenager. I didn’t understand what I had until fairly recently from watching TH-cam and doing research on the internet. I used to read papers and watch the depressing stories on the news and think I would go on to commit some of the horrible crimes I would see mentioned. I know I would never do any of those things. I’m a good person and I have never done harm to anybody. At the time I just couldn’t stop the thoughts coming into my head though. I took terrible panic attacks.
Thanks for sharing this, I’ll give this a try and hopefully it will help. The thing is, I don’t think that any of my family believes I have this kind of OCD. But I understand, because they haven’t had OCD and it’s hard to imagine what it’s really like and to feel like you HAVE to touch the door knob 4 times before you can leave or something bad will happen. Anyway, I’ll hope this works. Thanks.:)
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Getting rid of ocd pattern = don't fight it, go with it.
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tldr; she says to do what ocd tells you to do
good tip, very good tip
Clearly Jodi, you have never expierienced OCD
There is no other way to handle ocd if u don't what ocd asks you to do but this is what we all ocd patients do n guess what this become worse n worse
That is not what I'm saying.
Just stop all of your compulsions.
You will feel terrible for 3 weeks , but after that it's gone.
Trust me , I did it .
My life is now infinitely more productive .
yeah, I've got to do this. OCD has taken over my life to the point where I can't function. As you say, you have to stop the compulsions and let anxiety flood you.
You are right bro...thats exactly what i did...and my ocd is much better
I’m crying rn because I’ve never felt so relieved in my life BLESS THIS VIDEO AND I hope you have a way better life than mine
Giving in to complusions for me really didn't work well, no matter what attitude I had towards my compulsions. I tried this way of doing it, it really didn't work,it made it much much worse. The ONLY thing that worked was ignoring my compulsions completely, not doing them no matter how hard it was or how it made me feel. It was very very difficult to do that but I did it. I am now at a place where I am rarely triggered or have ocd episodes.
I had terrible fear of contamination/germs/chemicals ocd since I was a child. One day I literally just said ”enough. you fix this or it’s over for you.” and I stopped EVERYTHING unnecessary and started leaving the house and doing things even when my mind was screaming at me. Now I’m 23 and my ocd is so much better that I can live without being preoccupied by thoughs and compulsions.
I have OCD for having OCD.
Just Some Guy Without Hair yessss. Ever since i did more research on it, I felt like it got worse
That does happen
I have OCD myself and I really relate to all that you are saying! But what works with me is to not give in to all the patterns that I have to do. You say that it is okay to do all the patterns but I think that by trying to not do them it really makes progress to get rid of them. To all the people with OCD I wanna say that it can go away! Even though sometimes it don't feel like it.
Yes because many of the patterns ocd wants us to do are compulsions. And we must eliminate compulsions, not give in
Thanks
I've had OCD since I was 5 and I was diagnosed at 19. Today I am 52 and despite the huge amount of time and effort and research put into treating my condition with CBT, SSRI/SNRI medication, benzodiazapines, augmentation with neuroleptics such as Risperadal, ACT mindfulness, in patient treatment, etc we have really come no further in better treatment strategies since the 90's. Even Deep Brain Stimulation and Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (which I have tried) are not new and are still only used in trials. It's very sad that a condition as treatment refractory and debilitating as OCD is still not taken serious by the scientific community in comparison to say depression and psychotic disorders like schizophrenia. The personal cost to OCD is a wasted life or a life seriously compromised from living to one's fullest. On top of this the socio economic cost to society is even bigger with people being unable to work, pay tax, etc. The sooner we have effective treatments for all forms of OCD or a cure the sooner the suffering and wasted lives will end.
people with OCD refuse to be uncomfortable or think they might be even though they are safe and it will be temporary. This is why people keep it so long.
Im from russia and i have ocd. And in russia no researches has been made on it. Nothing at all. Very little information about ocd you can find on the russian sites. And so much i found on the foreign sites. Thanks god i know a bit of english, while most of the russians dont.
And in my country psycho problems are really not taking seriously. Its bit of shame you feel when you have them.
This is what I came up with and works 100%
Good enough is good enough thing doesn't have to be perfect
So you give into your compulsions in order to stop them?
Peter, You want to take away the energy of the compulsion. Shift it and not be stressed. Watch this where I explain more. th-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/w-d-xo.html
Your words hit me and I realized that that's what OCD is. It's just wanting perfection which is impossible. Thanks for that. I'm gonna keep trying.
duck everybody who says that it doesn't work.
i tried it for a day with everything i have a ocd with.
and you know what? it ducking works
things that usually took me half an hour, i can now do in 3 minutes
just want to say thanks for the advice
So you just kept doing your compulsions, and now you don't have them anymore, or they've reduced a lot?
Peter Melillo Peter, No.
Did you watch my other video on OCD th-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/w-d-xo.html
It explains it better. Just doing the compulsions is NOT the answer. Read through my answers to others asking the same question AFTER you watch the other video IF you still don't understand.
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Right, so do the compulsions but don't worry that you're doing them? Like if you try not to do them, you're saying that is not the right thing to do, right? So if I was reading a book and this obsession to go back and reread the sentence so that it "sounds right", I should just go back and do that but say "No big deal, it's okay to do this." That's what's you're saying as far as I understand?
Sort of. Don't try to figure out whether to DO them or not. Just stop hating yourself for feeling compelled to do them. Stop being annoying or shameful for doing them. By asking me, you are still worrying about them. THIS, and getting what I am saying right is becoming another obsession. You are thinking too hard. Just play with it and see what works. There is no right or wrong here. Just get rid of guilt that you may be wrong.
Jodi Aman my mum has OCD everyday THE OCD BOTHERS HER!! I FELL SAD FOR HER I HOPE YOU CAN HELP ME MY MUM STARTS WORKING 15 HOURS A DAY SEE ISN'T HEALTHY ME AND MY FAMILY TELL HER TO STOP BUT SHE NEVER STOPS IT!!! PLEASE HELP!!
this just gave me immediate relief wow. I developed several rituals with my breathing and hard eye blinks I could not get myself to stop doing, and it has been driving me crazy. I have never been diagnosed but i have struggled with this most of my life to varying degrees. Just the idea of relaxing as this lady suggested immediately calmed me down and subdued them. Thank you
Sorry, but it doesn't work long term....maybe a day or two but builds up again and irritates the sufferer.
Jason Riddle OCD irrates, you have to keep practicing getting rid of shame.
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. Don't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
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I have ocd and my family doesnt belive me 😭
Same here
that shit is hard.
my fam cant understand me
I'm kinda scared to tell them. What if they don't understand me. Is there any hope? I do think I have OCD and it's getting alot more worse lately. I just thought of commenting 5 times because I commented 2 times and 5 is the number I obsess with. Help me.
My family teases me abut it I'm so sad:(
+im Sad I'm very sorry. That's not fair. They seem uncomfortable. Remember to not judge yourself at ALL. This is the only way their teasing can bother you- if you are judging yourself for the same thing.
Indeed, The consequences of OCD are much easier to nullify if you percieve OCD as a midget instead of a dragon. But a real expert on OCD would never advise to act on your compulsions.
Nor am I. I'm saying forgive your compulsions and you won't have to act. I reshot the video, but this one gets more traffic. Sorry!
Very inspiring, Im going to try this approach. I'm just a little woried about what you're saying in the end because honestly, Im almost 21 struggling with OCD and my life would probably be a lot easier if I had gotten help 10 years ago. I've been in therapy for several years but my patterns have manifested a lot over time, even though I am making progress. Fighting my mental disease takes literally almost all my time and energy, early intervention could have prevented this.
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Terrible advice. If you have ocd and are watching this video. You are not to give into the compulsion. I have confessional OCD and like any OCD it feeds off that feeling of relief and like a drug it wants more and more of that feeling and will stop at nothing to get it. Once I confess I feel better and then something new comes in to confess. The Cycle never stops. It will never be satisfied. If I did as the video says, I wouldn't have a job, wife, or friends. I would confess right down to not liking the shoe laces your wearing.
Confession OCD is directly related to guilt. You feel compused to relieve guilt. Take away the guilt and you take away your problem. You didn't get the video. Try this one. I explain better: th-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/w-d-xo.html
+Jodi Aman I still can't relate. I'm 4 years sober and my guilt and shame come from when I was drinking. And my compulsion is to confess it all to my wife, right down to every little detail. I feel I need to do this in hopes of preventing something coming up in the future. Why me telling her or it coming up on its own matters. I don't know. My wife has flat out told me, she does not want to hear it anymore, which has been extremely difficult not getting the reassurance. But my mind is getting better at not finding new stuff or dwelling on what's in there.
+Jodi Aman can you help me?
+mchockey3 yes, this is what I do. Http://jodiaman.com/counseling
mchockey3 I agree!
thank you so much its really hurt when having an ocd because this started aug 8 2021 i cant get enough sleep
U got this xx
I understand your pain my friend, I have had mine since early 2019, but just fight, I know its hard, but it will be okay
I'm so sorry. Please talk to a counselor. Don't try to do this yourself. You may really like my book: Anxiety...I'm So Done with You!, too.
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i've done this it works
I have it too but i just cant
Mines with my bed sheets or if the tv I play on for video games is not straight or the right angle or it takes over my day.
You got over your OCD by giving into compulsions?
Thanks!
I have had OCD since I was 12 or 13...i honestly believe that you have to force yourself to stop... it's hard but it doesn't work if you allow yourself... it never goes away. I allow myself a few things but they have never gone away... ever.
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This advice is brilliant, I have overcome a lot this last 8mths then I fell for a second time since last Christmas and have went back a bit but I was determined to move forward when the ocd brought forward the fear of blinking.
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Great video and share! Awareness is everything and makes a huge difference! Subbed to your channel and found inspiration here for mine! Keep doing you!
Hi I have major OCD and I'm going to try it tomorrow hope it works wish me luck
Thank you for this video!
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Dear Jodi,
I have suffered from OCD for 10 years, and I didn't expect that you would solve my problem completely. I used medications and went to many psychiatrists, and nothing helped. Your 5 minute video changed my whole life. I was thinking about quitting my job, and all of a sudden, I started to look for administrative work and be higher and higher in my career. Thank you so much for this memorable help. You helped someone beyond the oceans after years of despair and failure. Let me explain how this happened.
I have eye contact OCD for 10 years, and this is one of the horrible diseases you would ever imagine. Please those who do not have it, do not say anything about it until you go through it because it coincides with all aspects of your social life (work, family, etc). You will be a big loser! I started to withdraw from the community and I started to hate meeting people. Now, I am happy to meet with them for any period of time. Once I started Jodi's strategy, I noticed a huge progress in a few days. So wonderful. I am still hearing her saying "it is amazing", and I couldn't believe her until I found the truth. It is really amazing.
During these days, I failed terribly in one conversation and sweated, but I resisted and said: remember what Jodi says: no anxiety, be excited about yourself; let them say whatever they say about you. I noticed that other partners are getting nervous with me too, because I got out of control; they really noticed that I am not OK but I resisted again and again. I didn't want to surrender. I started to laugh at them being clumsy and being afraid of me lol while saying to myself: I am ok with this, let them say whatever about me, but I am happy about myself. You can call me names and whatsoever. I do not care. I swear after a few seconds, the conversation suddenly took a new course of confidence and strength to the degree that I asked the other partner to keep talking rather than going. I became totally normal, and even the partners stopped looking at me as abnormal. I noticed that clearly. This is a proof of success. In the past, I was hoping that they go, but at that time I wanted them to stay more and more. What a great change that I have never had in 10 years.
Now, I do not want to see other solutions or videos about OCD but the video above. I am not promoting anything, but I swear I reached the solution. There are many solutions, but Jodi's solution solved mine, and for this reason, I am very grateful to her. I didn't even read the comments below, because I do not want to read that people cast doubt on this helpful strategy and get back to this OCD, because it completely works for me. But let me convince others how this happened to help people understand how effective it is. I am part of you and I want to help you too after I got helped, so read carefully.
OCD consists of three stages: obsessions (obsessive ideas) ==> anxiety (fear) ==> compulsions (obligatory behaviors) and the cycle goes on and on. I realized that my obsessive ideas/thoughts are not special with me, I noticed that normal people are thinking about them, too (that is the first discovery: I am normal like them). I also realized that my actions are done by normal people too, not special with me (another wonderful discovery). Yet, I realized that anxiety is the only thing I have that normal people do not have (this is the first realization that I am ABNORMAL). I found that anxiety is the link that I have alone. I am so anxious and nervous about the ideas, I am afraid of judgement, afraid of rejection, afraid of shame and guilt, afraid of being let alone, afraid of being judged as bad, afraid of being unwanted, clumsy, worth laughing at etc. I then reached the conclusion that if I overcome this anxiety, the link between "obsessive ideas/thoughts" and "compulsory behaviors" shown about will be broken. If this link is really broken, then, I will think about the same ideas like normal people, but I will never be anxious to do actions repetitively.
After I saw this video, now, I do not care about what other people say about me. I am not worried, and I feel much better and better in my entire life. What a big jump I made, and what a relief I have. This OCD is totally gone. In fact, I started to say: I do not have OCD (although I am diagnosed with it), but I have anxiety. Anxiety is the whole problem and fear of others' judgement. Trust me, no cure will be helpful if you cannot overcome this anxiety, and do not say that my type of OCD is different, because we all share the same problem: anxiety. Let other say whatever they say about you, but be happy and excited about what you are doing and do not feel your actions are wrong. Laugh at people who reacted negatively with you so much and say "it is ok, do not be afraid, what I am doing is fantastic lol". This shameful feeling is the obstacle for all OCD people. If you cannot get over this, maybe no progress will be felt which is the ugly truth. If you are behaving carzily once the idea is coming, this is the anxiety not the idea. Without anxiety you will be relaxed. I am part of your community, I really know that it will be so hard for you to know that people are judging you badly, but over time, you will realize that this hardness is the start of hope and cure. I had a10 year suffering and was fearful of my OCD, and now it is totally gone. Thank you Jodi for this, and I am mentioning your name because you made a great impact on my terrible life even if people are negative with you, you taught us to accept ourselves. I wrote this long essay because I got the solution, and I realized how many people are suffering and waiting for people to help and I wanted to help them too. The first days, they will be hard on you, you might need days or weeks, but eventually you will be normal. Once I said to myself: Will I really be back to normal again? Is this possible? I had no hope. I didn't realize that it is totally possible if this anxiety is gone. You will behave automatically as a normal person. Abnormality is associated with anxiety.
Again, it will be hard on you to listen to your whispering self saying: people are now judging you badly. You are being bad, what is wrong with you? come one! get out of here, be nervous and get lost!! It is really hard to accept this process, but once you accept it, you have no OCD at all, that's the truth and nobody can judge you any longer later on in your life because you will never need to act abnormally. You will be totally fine because you have no abnormal actions to be judged on. I swear I wrote this long essay just for you so please do not say anything about me or so and so, or you can say it because I really do not f**king care. I hated my life because of this fear. Your judgement of me is now much easier in my life to tackle than having OCD. Life is short.
Thank you!
This may works when it comes to physical behavioural compulsions. But when it is regarding mental compulsions, letting us not holding back from counting numbers and doing other rituals will only make it worse. The more you let count numbers and do rituals in mental compulsions, it wil become lyk a habit, and you can't avoid it. Other things lyk how you said about touching things, if u keep on doing, u may not bother much.
This may explain it better. If you have no shame for the obsessions, it is easier to stop the compulsions is what I mean th-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/w-d-xo.html&lc=UgzG0FCE8mpnqLqXkiV4AaABAg
I'll give this a go. Hope it works!
+Terry Bb Go for it!
+Jodi Aman Thanks Jodi. Just realised I've been doing this a long time. E.g. I have been washing my hands and not getting agitated for a while. It's only started bothering me because had a bad stomach recently and need to wash my hands after the bathroom so its time consuming. Did the people you spoke to give you a timeline for the compulsions to go away? How did it go away if they gave in to it? Im really concerned now to get rid of it.
+Terry Bb You are not giving into them. You are not being bothered. It's a change in attitude towards them. Then You don't have as much energy or stress and they go away. All kinds of time scenarios.
Thanks Jodi. I've never been so stressed in my life and greatly appreciate your response.
Thank you for such a great advice 👍
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Does something bad actually happen?
no
Hi Jodi, I've been having CBT and this therapy has been all about trying to get me to stop doing my rituals. I'm now in two minds whether to continue trying to stop doing them or not, what would you suggest please?
You stop letting them bother you admit is easy to stop.Watch my other video. This one seems to confuse people. I am not saying do them. I'm saying don't let them bother you to take attachment away.
I Have SO STRONG Ocd, it's so hard to get all perfect!
Same my thoughts are really scary and it kills me .
The perfectionism is OCD.
I have a question. Okay so what if there are 2 events coming up for me...(for example) 1 event being my birthday and 2nd event being giving a speech or doing somthing that makes me really nervous.
My birthday is coming up first, and I feel that if I have my birthday before I do the speech my birthday will be ruined. But I have no choice. I can't change my birthday or the day of my speech. What do I do about that. My thoughts are saying that if I don't do the speech my birthday will be ruined. And to be honest I don't mind giving the speech. But I am getting really anxious. I don't know what to do.
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. Don't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
Honestly one cure is is watching old vines with some chips
i really thought i had beaten ocd but something happened and its came back much worst. i really hate living like this. but your video helped a bit. thanks
+splinters band I'm so glad it helped! Best, Jodi
Jodi Aman
thank you
Thanks, that was really helpful. :)
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My OCD gets me in trouble by my Mom😢
Sorry, hope got better
Same 😭😭
How would you use this advice for people with harm OCD?
Valerie Wilhelm of course yes, and please see a therapist if you feel ocd is really hurting you and your life. You deserve help.
Seek help!
Jizz u scare me with the intro laugh
This is good. I lived with undiagnosed OCD for 35 years and worrying that you are actually having the thoughts is 90% of it. I have to say, in my opinion, this is a better mindset for the intrusive thoughts and not the compulsions. Also, she should become a bit more educated about OCD. You should not say to someone suffering from OCD Harm (or really OCD in general) "Okay, I'll do it!" Because you have no idea what is going on in their mind. It might not be something like taking the second plate, lol. If you suffer from OCD Harm (or Pure OCD) when the terrorizing thoughts come into your mind, take control for a moment. Try saying something like, "Everyone has weird thoughts sometimes, it's not a big deal." Then get back to what you were doing, laundry, going to the bathroom, taking care of a loved one or pet. You're going to panic a number of times doing that, but don't give up. The intrusive thoughts will start feeling like a memory of actually thinking it. Keep going, you can be completely free from OCD. This is a complicated subject and only those who suffer can truly know what a hell it is. If you ever feel alone, know my thoughts and prayers are always with you.
Thank you for sharing!
It's weird how I wished to have OCD and I love having it! My dream came true and guess what who ever has OCD you are rare you are loved you are different that makes it awesome.
SmileyFlash it's not awesome at all...it's more like torture.
sometime I feel like I'm being ripped appart by this. I hate it
Not everyone feels this way.
I’m not sure if this is ocd, but I have to make everything even... if I blink to hard on one eye, I have to blink hard in the other. You know stupid stuff like that... it’s really annoying all the little habits like that.
yes you don't have to!
I struggle with semi-mild OCD, that fucks me up a lot but also tends to be *somewhat* managable on my own, and I think the advice given here is pretty good for people like that. What she talks about is pretty much stuff I've realized on my own, after trying really hard to improve. Not sure that goes for someone with really heavy OCD, though. But I'm not entirely sure
My pattern is when I go to close the door I have to touch it multiple times or my family will be hurt :(
this helped me so much thank you
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Taking the second plate isn’t normal? I must be in terrible shape then lol
well, I agree with the part that we experience anxiety sometimes when doing some compulsions but not the part that do the compulsion and relax about it! compulsions are addictive, besides what about the harm obsessions, checking the stove obsessions, what is the advice here, go harm someone and relax about it? according to researches ERP is the most successful treatment, am not sure under what group of treatment this video falls.
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. Don't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
Isn't this a short-term fix though? Of course you'll feel less anxious if you just listen to what's compelling you, but it comes back and it will keep coming back because you listened and felt reassured. I'd be walking and then I get this feeling like I have to walk with my hands held above my head to 'expose to embrassment and humility', and I would do this and i'd be okay for a day or so, then it would come back.
You've got to let OCD flail and get pissed the fuck off until it leaves for good. I think this is what is best.
It's all about not attaching to it. Not giving it energy any way you can. If you defend OCD, you are giving it energy.
My ocd has to do with not being sure if I just did what I did, I'm sure it has to deal with memory too. Not being sure that the door is locked and come back to check and doubt yourself is the worst feeling of all, then walking out not being sure if the door is wide open has to do with memory issues.
My heart goes out to you. I hope the video was helpful.
Hey. I have the same shit happening to me. Have you figured out what it is?
Do not feed it your thought.......That’s what he did in the MOVIE BEAUTIFUL MIND......He stopped feeding the thoughts
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“Just stop worrying about it”...this is the worse advice I’ve ever heard, some people like me have had severe OCD issues where it may effect how you people see you in public. By simply not caring not only makes it worse (from personal experience) and makes you look really weird and awkward, I think I would know. I’ve had OCD for 15 years
I never suggested 'just don't worry about it." Defend your limitations and you keep them.
Yay finally I hate letting ocd take control
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I suffer from a horrible number ocd where I have to do things in 2s and 4s and if I don’t do a certain something in a way I feel something bad will help and when I try to ignore it I get really bad anxiety off it like I’m being punished for it
That anxiety is lying. Once you know that, it will be easier to stop the compulsion to do things in 2 or 4s.
I'm searching for ways to help my son and his obsessive hand washing. I think this method could work. To those who say it doesn't work, you are probably right. I think you have to view it in the light of how we go about meditating. You will have distracting thoughts, but you find peace by not pushing at them. Let them be. Allow them their space and they like their power over you. Not everyone will understand this. It would do you well to study how to meditate.
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What about making noises or deep breathing repitively? It feels like you will suffocate if you don't do it.
But you KNOW your body breathes involuntarily. It's just anxiety. It's a lie.
+Jodi Aman you are absolutely right. My daughter asked why do you keep making noise. So embarrassing because I didn't know anyone could hear it... Actually headed to the doctor now, I hate this & not a fan of meds. Thank you for responding!
I have the same thing! It's the most annoying thing ever.
This isn't bad advice, but it's simplistic. It's not like you pick one method and then your OCD goes away forever. It comes back. It changes strategy, changes direction. It's a lifelong struggle, and it has no cure. When people talk about being "cured" of OCD, I think that either 1) they've learned to live with it, 2) they're currently in remission and will suffer a relapse sooner or later, 3) they've learned to suppress their behaviors so that the impulse isn't as strong. To tell people that they can just shrug their shoulders and stop caring is misinformation at best. Also, there are different types of OCD, and this method probably doesn't work for everyone.
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this works! have you ever heard the saying what you resist persists, well that's what happening when we try to force something away from us. this method is saying its OK don't resist - so what, its not a big deal... and then it just goes away anyway. :)
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If she gave advice on how to stop ocd rituals, I must have missed it. All I heard was ‘continue doing what you’re doing, and don’t let it bother you.’ Really?? What ludicrous, harmful advice! There’s a reason that therapists who treat OCD agree that the best method for dealing with compulsions is to resist the urge to act on them, and to redirect your thoughts toward something positive, in order to reduce anxiety. You’re literally retraining your brain to recognize what is rational behavior, and what isn’t. It’s difficult initially, but it gets easier over time. - The advice in this video will worsen OCD behavior. - Also, what’s with the odd, inappropriate laughter at the beginning? Very strange.
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Sorry, but every therapist out there that treats severe OCD doesn't make you carry on doing them and not caring about them. The whole point of severe OCD is that the compulsions are damaging to your own mental well-being and need to stop so you can get back to living your life. End of story.
So you break it down and start refusing to give in a little at a time, then keep analysing the outcome: Did anything bad happen by not giving in? Gradually you realise, apart from the initial agitation, that by not partaking in your OCD nothing bad actually happened. Sure enough, your brain slowly 'retrains' itself to a new normal.
when you stop caring, then it is easier not to do them. I understand this video is confusing so I made updated it. th-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/w-d-xo.html
What if you have OCD about Religions and which Church to go to or changing decor around - CONSTANTLY???!!!
You need to put something else in your mind for it to do.
I would like to get help but I don't know if I have OCD.
I don't really have a bunch of thoughts that pop up. It's one big lingering fear and taunt in the background I'm going to commit blasphemy. I feeI have a weird feeling like my head is going to pop with anxiety and I'm going to have a break down and lose my salvation. This fear has been here for months. There's also a weird unwanted "urge" that I want to do it. I hope this is OCD and not something else.
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I have a tooth that’s about to fall out and I push it in but then I wanna do it on the other side and I can’t stop. Then my jaw hurts if I don’t do it.
Hope it's better now
I constantly wash my hands because I’m scared of germs. I get really dry hands and my hands start bleeding and I still continue to wash my hands. I hate it ☹️. It’s soo hard to stop.
Your hate for it feeds it. It makes it harder to stop.
Same here
I wash my hands around 50 times a day
My “rituals” only take place in my house. As soon as I get home stress builds up when I see that my family has caused “mess” causing rearrangement in things I have previously arranged the day before and I feel like I’m in a continuous pattern. However if I don’t do this pattern I feel lazy and unmotivated and start crying over the fact that I let the house get so unorganised. I don’t understand it. But when I let myself do these compulsions, I realise more and more different objects are out of place and start to add more to my “routine”. It ruins my life because I end up accomplishing nothing considering I have to repeat these steps every single day of my life. I don’t have negative thoughts though. I don’t feel like my family is in danger so I’m not even sure if it is considered ocd. My friends and family think it’s all a big joke for attention considering this routine only takes place in my living space (including rooms I am “living” in during a holiday / vacation). I just feel hopeless to control it when if I carry on, I get more stressed. But if I don’t I also get stressed. It’s a continuous loop.
So get out of your house as much as possible!
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madam I am a student.whenever I see any sharp items I feel it that it is stabbed in my stomach even though I'm trying to ignore it but whatsoever in a day I get completely obsessed with this thoughts so can u plz provide a solution for this
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. DOn't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
Damn 2nd plate down is a great idea 💡
Glad to help.
Ocd is a monster living within your head and it only gets its energy by giving it atention and this is my own experience as soon as i make my self to don't give a shit about a thing it stops the best thing what you need to do is trust (YOUR SELF) just trust your own self that yes i had already chcked the stove and its cloed its fine when you don't trust your self that is what triggers your obsesions for doing it again and again try to concentrate on the thing what you are doing make a mental note that yes its done and than its all done.....
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I can’t stop washing my hands 😭
Yes, you can stop.
@@doctorjodi it’s slowing down now I have made amazing progress but when I go outside I can’t go near anything
I touch the middle of things and this makes me sound fat and it bothers me but I eat a lot
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Today my OCD got destructive! I got sick of it of how it ruined part of my fav blanket by burning it(while trying to disinfect) and ripped my pants' belt 😢 I can try this tip, though I doubt it... Hope it works!
Relax CreatorM search Katie d’Ath, she specializes OCD and Anxiety therapy
Yeahh she helped me
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Hey Jodi, I was wondering, if you simply do what the OCD wants you to, then how does that get rid of the OCD?
it doesn't it makes it worse.
Because it gets rid of guilt that feeds the OCD. If you have no guilt, no pressure and frustration, the compulsion has no power. So it just stops on its own. People often don't try it because it seems counterintuitive but if you understood OCD and why it stays pwerful, you'll see that this works. It doesn't hurt to try it and you'll see for yourself.
Deya Masri hi! This is what Eckhart Tolle calls being the space for it to happen. When fully observed with total awareness but not labeled or judged, it loses its power over you. He says it is like putting the unconscious into the spotlight, the darkness will be transformed (if I remember it right). Just know that it is happening , observe what it makes u feel at that moment, if there are thoughts coming do the same. Putting attention to them makes them weaker and weaker each time. I have heard someone do this with addiction and it works also. When catching urself anxious, it will be helpful to be very conscious of the thoughts and any sensations it brings. Usually being aware of this will lessen it gradually until u don't feel the need anymore. It worked for me. Bring awareness while doing it without resistance. Just saying.
Very sorry for the late response, but I now realize (and sort of guessing) that this is CBT? Where you would expose yourself to shat makes you anxious and then handle differently i.e. bot washing your hands constantly rechecking... Is this correct?
Even if it doesn't "work", it will probably placebo it's way. The power of belief is an amazing thing.
So helpful. Thank you so much
Glad it was helpful!
I hope this works!
Did it?
There is not a permanent treatment for ocd. You must always be allert. Do not take it too complex. Just do not do stupid things and wait. You can have anxiety but wait. That's all. That will end. Nothing lasts long time . Sorry for english.
I already have OCD and here you stole my name!
Nice name!
Easier said than done😕
I hav esvere OCD, I need to even my hearing. Like if there is a sound coming to the left i have to let my right ear hear the same thing
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Jodi Aman thx the video did help.... atleast enough
How about intrusive thought associated with religious? If I stop caring whatever intrusive thoughts about religious that pop up in my head, will I commit sin? :(
If I commit sin, I will never do anything successfully :(((
jirawit jiracheewee No you will not commit sin, because you are not that kind of person. You don't need to be obessed to avoid sin, you avoid it because you are a good person. Your OCD stems from guilt and shame, so you need to do this more than anyone!
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Just don't let it bother you. Oh okay.
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i thought doing compolsions make it worse? but youre saying to do them?
no I'm not. I'm saying don't have the guilt and shame and it will be easier not to do them. The guilt and shame feed them.
Man wiped his hands ON HIS PANTS. HE DOES NOT HAVE OCD 😂
Anything can be a pattern. Compulsions are anything under the sun. And many don't make sense.
Are you working with Lily Pons???🙁She has OCD 😔She struggles a lot poor lele
I mean lele Pons
I only have ocd at nice like for example i have to go to the toilet even tho i dont need it i need to count to a certain number ect i want to get rid of it but its so extremely hard
Don't hesitate to seek professional help when necessary
@@doctorjodi i told my mam about it, and shes helped me a lot i now dont have to do most of those things :))
Thank you, this was helpful.
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There is nothing to be ashamed of except shame itself. 😁
yes!
I have to disagree with you, the way to conquer OCD is to NOT give into compulsions, if your OCD is telling you that you "don't love you girlfriend"(rocd- pure O) or you can't sit in a chair without blah blah blah happening, you are supposed to go against it. Let the anxiety be there when you choose to not follow a compulsion, eventually, after repeating this the anxiety lessens and that compulsions because obsolete but you must keep up with it. It's call exposure and response prevention
What I am saying is not disagreeing with this. What I am saying is that if ou get rid of the guilt, it is infinietly easier NOT to do the compulsion. The anxiety lessens and you move on. Yes, I believe in exposure. But one has to learn to lesson the energy behind the anxiety. Lessen what is feeding it. This equals freedom.
I am suffering from OCD from last 5years rally loosed my hope to overcome with that i believe that I have committed the great sin now my hell is confirmed , this Terrible thought doesn't let me live I want some who listen to me and help me with that 😥😥really
I liked your comment Ocd really steals from my life, i;m doing a few videos on it as i;m fed up with being bullied by it.
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don't agree with this advice !
I see how it could work for some people but it doesn't work for me unfortunately.
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Not true. EPT is different with giving OCD. If you allow your current obbsession one, twice then three, you stuck in there forever....And you'll soon will get into new obsession soon. It's like a cycle never stop because you won't ever feeling satisfy if you giving it all the time. Like i'm obsessed with flannel shirts right now and if as this video said, i allowed into my ocd, i will spending all day staring at it and never be satisfy. :/
You are using obsessions to mean compulsions. You are supposed not feel guilty about the obsessions, and so you don't do the compulsions.
i NEVER get the top plate!! lol But, I just thought about this and you know fingers probably touched the next plate UGH! Guess I will bring my own plate next time :)
I'm so glad that so many people can relate to what I am feeling. I have recently been struggling with so many OCD actions and thoughts. For example, I have to hold down the light switch for five seconds until I let it go. If I don't, I have to start over and it gives me anxiety. Another one is if I touch something with my right hand I have to touch it with my left and make it even. If drives me crazy. This video helped a lot, thank you!
You are welcome!