TIME STAMPS (Skip ahead or go back) 0:24 About the channel 0:42 Plateau 1:07 Comparison 1:44 Perfectionism 2:32 Not performing 3:12 No Focus 3:53 Not memorising 4:43 Poor setup 5:46 Learning Sequence 7:02 Impostor Syndrome 8:40 Fear 9:24 Join this community
Okay my fear of not being able to memorize as a senior just got trashed. I’m on the 30 Day Ukulele Challenge. I can now play and sing You Are My Sunshine. Now that I’ve done that I’m freaked out how well I can play if I know the song by heart. I get the joy of listening to it too.
Bernadette ! 1st let me say I have been somewhat playing the Uke for at lest a yr now and I can relate to the comparison, I sing lead in a small trio group with two acoustic guitar players and often wanted to b able to play guitar or ukelele and sing , which will happen😊 2nd focus. Anyhow may I say I have listen to many teachers online and by far u are the best ! Your teaching is way above board.Being transparent is a good thing it keeps us humble. You r good at why u do !🎶😎😇
Well. I just ordered a new Ohana Tenor, as the ukadelic saprano that I bought my kids feels too small. So I hope to continue learning. Thanks you for explaining about your 30 day challenge to learn in the right order. I will certainly be following that series. I also have taken your advice in choosing a ukulele. Enya seems to be your favorite, and I looked at them, but I didn't care for the flowers on the fret board. So I chose Ohana based on other channel reviews. Thank you for your channel, I am learning a lot from you.
Miss B, I don't know if this helps but you absolutely deserve the audience you have. I've met a few people who have a Uke but only know 1 or 2 songs and hardly pick it up. My immediate recommendation every time is for them to start from the beginning with your 30 day challenge, just like I did. I follow a few tutorial channels here on TH-cam but nowhere have I seen such a thorough and sequential lesson series that takes you from knowing nothing to actually playing songs and feeling confident. Sometimes when I'm following along and the tempo is too fast, you have a way of knowing how many times is necessary to repeat until I get it. You offer extra encouragement when the chords are tough. You have a sense of empathy for the struggles of others that some of the other teachers (even the ones I like a lot) don't have to the same extent. Yours was the first channel I ever set notifications on for thanks to your multi-day challenges. I wouldn't be half as good as I am now if it weren't for you. Thank you for all your hard work.
Stephen Lee I told her once that there has to be some witchcraft involved cus she knows exactly when to say “ok that didn’t feel right let’s do this again” or “you can do this, pause the video do it a couple of times and come back” hahaha but it’s amazing to feel that connection! Loved your comment I agree and relate with everything you’ve said! Good ukings for you!
@@thespas9678 I like it when she she says "Put your ukulele down and look up, watch my hands.....Look up!". She knows I'm slipping in a few sneaky strums LOL
MARIA JACKSON hahahahah I knooow I like those bits too! But I’m a teacher too so usually when she says to put it down and look I usually do it 🤪 but I imagine everyone else still trying hahaha that’s what my students always do 🤗 but I love it means we are eager to try and she’s eager for us to learn it well! Perfection!
MARIA JACKSON don’t feel bad!! That’s actually hilarious it means avengers to you hahahahaha it only proves she’s a real teacher! Students talk back sometimes when they get frustrated and specially when the teacher is right
I am a 60 year old grandma. My mother and several others in her family were musicians. I LOVE music, and want to play SOMETHING so badly! I have enough musical instruments in my house to start my own band and I cannot play any of them! BUT! Because of your EXCELLENT teachings, I am starting to play the ukulele thats been sitting in my closet since 2020. THANK YOU so much!
I started playing my ukulele at 38 years old and I am afraid I started too late in life to get really good. I think about it every time I sit down to play my ukulele.
Same here. I was a few weeks shy of 39 when I started. I think about the same thing. I then play some of my favorite songs and think about how far I've come. Do it because you love it. Not because of how good you are or want to be.
BERNADETTE, YOU LISTEN TO ME PLEASE You were so, so instrumental (pun unintended) to me while I was learning how to play the ukulele, and I'm confident there are thousands of people who wouldn't be where are they are right now with their uke if it weren't for you. You have no idea how much you mean to all of us. You're going above and beyond to help us all, and I'm very sorry that you feel like that sometimes. You aren't a fraud by any means, and we appreciate you so much. Thank you for taking the time out of your life to help us become better musicians. This video was so raw yet helpful, and I'm so glad you decided to make it. We all care about you so much and think you're one of the best teachers out there. Thank you for everything, and I hope you always keep playing music. 💜
I know this is an older video, but my goodness, you have been an absolute postive force in my life and made me really fall in love with playing music again. Thank you so much for building this community and making music accessible and fun. I went through your 30 day ukelele challenge and am so so thankful! I’m excited to now be a part of your patreon community and recommend it to all my friends!
comparison is the thief of joy, I choose to keep the joy , thanks, I needed your insight, its good to know we are not alone in feelings we never share... maria from Annapolis,, p.s. there is a ukeannapolis meeting at edgewater library Saturday jan 19 from 1 till 4 if anyone is in the area you are welcome to stop by
I originally wanted to start playing ukelele because my husband and I moved to hawaii In March (he is also in the navy) and I became mesmerized with the instrument. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for over 2 years now, and after treatments and procedures, still nothing. So, me being a crazy person, I thought that playing the uke could be something I could do when I'm pregnant, and play for a baby, and then something that I could take away from the island that would always be with me, that I could teach to our kids. And then my brain starts spinning, like, "what if I was the cool mom who played the happy birthday song on the ukelele for birthday parties...and Christmas traditions of singing Christmas songs together, and all that mushy gushy stuff!" So my fear, I guess, is that what if I never get pregnant, i don't want to avoid and despise the instrument because I establish it with children and family. But then it goes the other way to I cant sing. and what if I dont get good enough to want to play and sing and teach my children. I've loved our time in Hawaii so far and learning and loving this instrument, and I don't want to lose this beautiful part of the culture here, that I've had to pleasure of learning from you. Now that my deep dark ramblings are over... I just want to say thank you! You truly are a bright presence in the community and a great teacher!
I have the ' no focus ' problem, when im learning a new song i just learn most of the times the first part of the song and then move on to another song. I definitely need to get better on this. Awesome video btw ♥
Your honesty about your impostor syndrome is exactly why you have this community. You're a great teacher. My daughter and i have learned a lot from you. Thank you.
On action, a luthier or guitar tech can help, but a third alternative is a player who has done setups on his or her own instruments. Most good ukuleles can be made quite playable by doing three things: lowering the saddle, filing the nut and leveling the frets. A caveat: filing the nut and leveling the frets requires some very specific tools (NOT a nail file and NOT a sanding block!), so if your helpful friend does not have those, stay clear. But, I frequently set up ukes for friends, and show them how as I do it. It saves them a little time and money, and it helps me to stay in practice, as setting up is a perishable skill. So, ask when you go to jams. Chances are good that you’ll find someone who can correct the action on your uke in less than half an hour.
Maybe you are not a perfect player - I can't say it as I'm just a bit better than a beginner - but it doesn't matter. You taught me - and others - who did not know anything the basics and with your kind personality and you step by step challenges you made me keep going. My problem is the plateau... If I want to play a a new song it is not a problem. There are many songs I can play with the chords I'm able to play. But I want more... some finger pickings, some different strumming patterns... some days I find some on my own and am really proud. Sometimes I can't figure out how to make it more interessting and then I'm frustrated. But nothing makes me more calm down tgan playing my Uke
I find it so upsetting that someone so talented could feel not deserving of their talent or the business they have built because of their talent. This community built your channel to what it is, BUT your talent, sincerity, qualifications, and effort is what built the foundation on which we rely on. I, for one, have never doubted you or your abilities. I feel as though you are my friend. I trust you. Thank you for this video! I'm feeling more motivated already!
I began my ukulele journey because I love music. Ukulele seemed like it would be simple fun and mostly, do-able. I bought one uke and shortly after, bought a second. A tenor first,; then a soprano. You, Bernadette, have been the ONE who have been my favorite GO-TO person for my adventure! I am a retired art teacher. I know how to teach. You are the best. Others are trying, but they are not doing the teaching the way it needs to be done. Thank you for doing this! Fight the negativity... we know where that comes from (a hot place which smells like smoke and sulfur)..😉 Keep up the good work... I will eventually show you my progress...❤️
You are super nice. I have been trying to learn for almost one year and often get frustrated too. Here is a link to a friend's video. th-cam.com/video/4Lj5KFQDnSM/w-d-xo.html Best wishes, Bob
As others have mentioned, you deserve all of your success. Much of it is due to your openness and vulnerability. Sharing your emotions and letting us see "behind the scenes" makes you real to others and they feel that they know you personally and love you for all that you do. Your generosity is inspirational and your teaching is first class. Keep up the good work and know that we all love and appreciate you.💖☮👍
Dear Bernadette, your succsess is being close to us ordinary people. I don't have time nor will for Gurus or You tube "divinity" from whom I could learn more or better. That is why I choose you and one of your female colleagues. Sometimes less is more, I'm dooing just fine with you in only four months and I keep being involved. Keep going girl, your path is clear andy shiny!!! :*
Fear of rejection, negative and mean comments can also be demeaning! Especially for a perfectionist also makes it difficult to put yourself out there! 😞
#1 reason to keep playing ukulele; Having Bernadette as a teacher. She is by far, the best teacher for beginners. She teaches in a way to make it easy to understand. And she also throws in some challenges to help you advance your skills. She makes her channel educational, interesting, entertaining, and just fun to watch. She has great guests and brings in her husband sometimes who is funny too. You will be at 100,000 subscribers very soon. And you get that because you are very good at what you do.... ;) Wishing you and your husband a Happy New Year.....
Oh Berni!!!!!! You are amazing and I feel (even though I have never met you) you are one of the most genuine, caring and smart people I have seen especially when it comes to caring about your viewers and learning the ukulele. My biggest fear is thinking I cannot sing well enough to continue playing the uke. I am a part of a uke group in my local community and we have many opportunities to get up on stage to sing and play and it totally freaks me out. My original teacher always tried to encourage me as she says I am a great player but I guess it is the self doubt of myself and fear of singing out of key or tune that scares me the most. When I watch your tutorials I see myself sometimes and you should be so proud of yourself being able to put yourself out there to so many people and help them be the best they can be on ukulele. I for one am very grateful for your presence. You go girl 🤙💪👊🏼❤️
Imposter syndrome is what kept me from teaching private lessons for so long. I am not Advanced but I have enough skills to teach others what I know. Because of your videos I decided to step out and begin teaching lessons. I love the quote "When you learn teach, when you get give" by Maya Angelou. It keeps me going! I don't have to know it all to be an effective teacher and when I learn something new I need to share it. You are fabulous and the type of teacher a lot of us need. When you learn you share, when you get you give and I and many other music teachers are so grateful..May God continue to bless you and this channel. You are fantastic!
Bernadette, It is so easy to doubt oneself. Staying the course can be difficult, especially when only you and those closest to you know what you are feeling. You wear your emotions on your sleeve and people love you for it. Never try to be something you are not. Never try to be what you think people want you to be for you would be wrong. People initially tune in for many reasons but come back for only one, it’s because you are you. Someday TH-cam will be over and when you look back it’s important to know you did your best, you were true to your values and you made a difference. Take care, Wes
Thank you for this honest video! I kind of am the no focus person, but somehow it goes on and I am making progress, yay! But I have to confess that I've learned two complete songs for christmas :D
I really liked this video! very sincere, emotional and encouraging. I think you almost cried when you confessed about the personal sabotage syndrome ... do not worry about those feelings, you are very good at what you do and you have almost 100,000 people who always remind you with their likes, their comments and their shares. you are excellent and little by little you will be improving more and more and more! in my case, I think I have lived several times in which I practically let my fears stop me ... in my opinion, the most dangerous are: compare yourself with others and sabotage us by thinking that we are not good or that we are a fiasco. It's hard to deal with those feelings..
Your videos are genuine and inspiring. I fall into a couple of those reasons but haven't given up yet, but am taking things slower than I would like. Watching your videos encourages me to continue. Please don't ever stop.
Bernadette, I get so much from your videos. You are in no way a fraud. My personal challenges are two: achieving a good strumming sound, especially on the up strums, and remembering chords I’ve learned. I can get around the first, until I learn how to strum, by using a pick. The second, though, is a matter of age. I’m 65. I’ll learn a chord, then encounter it the next day and it’s like I’ve never seen it before. So I have to keep learning and learning it until it’s internalized.
Immediately related to the video just from the first reason. I will do my best to continue playing the ukulele for a long time though :) by the way, please don't feel like you're not worth this channel. You are one of the greatest ukulele teachers in this community, I mostly learn from your videos not others. You're doing your job well and I hope you keep it that way. ❤
I've just started the 30 days challenge. My 5 years old daughter got an ukelele for christmas, nobody in the family play and we have the necessity to learn just to teach her a little bit before we can find an ukelele's teacher nearby. So my husband and I are new members of the ukelele's 30 days challenge. We will take care not to fall on those recommendations. Keep going and thank you so much for your help on this, you are so great!
Excellent video. I never knew there was a actual name for number 9! I experience it with art, singing and playing ukulele . It keeps me from doing those things... However, I am learning that I must do what I love and not care so much what others think. Easier said then done😉 The real reason I am writing is to say YOU are a gifted teacher. That’s your gift and you give it away every day. Like all wonderful teachers your other gift is encouragement! You can’t be one without the other! Thank you for all you do and for giving of yourself to all of us. There is no greater gift than that. The Lord has made you this way for a purpose. Keep running with it. You go girl! PS I found this video very helpful! Thank you!!!😘
So far the only issue I have is that the cords on my Baritone are not the same as a reg Uke.. I enjoy the deeper sound the baritone makes, but most of the online lessons are for a reg Uke. If I had to do over I would just buy a reg Uke and stay away from that grief.
Rider of A Pale Horse she’s going to start doing more stuff with baritones!!! And you can still get a regular one eventually and then play both!!! Don’t get discourage baritone tutorials are coming soooon!!!
Oh dearest Bernadette, you deserve every bit of success you have! Don’t doubt yourself! You are kind, you are strong, you are sincere, and you are an incredible person! Can’t say enough good about you, and you need to believe it! Can I tell you the reason I see most of my students quit ukulele (and other instruments), lots of them perceive that it will be “easy” to learn, and then when they realize it’s more challenging than they thought, they quit. This usually happens at the first roadblock they face, no matter what it is. Don’t doubt your success, you are not an imposter, you are a teacher, and you are teaching us great things! You are a teacher, and you are building a community! These are all things good teachers do. Have a joyous day sweet girl! (Leah not Anna;-)
Much of this seems to apply to me. Toss in some major health problems and it’s easy to become discouraged. Instead, I’ve just decided to take a break. I can always come back to playing the ukulele and given a little time I think I will. Thanks for your encouragement.
Imposter syndrome...really..I remember a video of you and a young lady playing Bodysurfing...how dare you doubt your talents..I think we all wish we were more talented...I think I totally suck...I have been at this only 19 months...and I do perform for friends and family...and sometimes just going to the park and playing and maybe a stranger will wander by...I was photographing a rugby tournament...had already shot for 4 hours and there was a 45 minute break while the brackets were adjusted and new pairings set up...so i went to my vehicle...opened the back of my suv ...hopped in drank some water ...ate a protein bar...and pulled out my ukulele...and started practicing in the parking lot...well it was time to get back to the pitch and start shooting rugby...I packed my uke away...grabbed my camera gear and was heading back to the playing field...when I heard a voice...." Did you just play Hotel California on a ukulele ? That was awesome ." Luckily I was playing Hotel California...sometimes when I am discouraged it is little things like this incident to help keep me going...it seems to happen a lot...as for your singing...I can't sing very well either...so i am learning chord melodies...for me that is so much more gratifying than just strumming...don't get me wrong...sometimes when I am in a strumming mood...I will really bang it out...as for memorizing songs...I am older and i wish I could put more RAM in my brain...but it seems that I can't keep much more than 3 or 4 songs at a time in my memory....I learned Christmas Time is Here this Christmas season...chord melody...my goal was to learn one Christmas song well...I practiced that everyday for a month...and when I played it for people...they loved it...and they sang along...but my main reason for continueing to play the uke is I felt I was losing the use of my hands..I still have a bad day now and then...but so many more good days....and i have you to thank for that...you can doubt your abilities as a musician...i don't ...but your strength is in your teaching skills..I don't think there is a better one out there...and your dedication to this channel....I was a food blogger a while ago and that was like a full time job...so I know how hard you work at this....Love you Bernadette...Be well
I feel very called out by this video, nearly all the reasons apply to me, and not only for the ukulele, often for instruments or sports or just hobbies I've done and given up before. Thank you for this incredibly honest video, I think it's gonna spark a lot of interesting conversation. It's so important to share the uncomfortable things too.
Lu Bold hey you are amazing! You may feel all of this but tell your brain to go (insert swear word here) himself! You’re brilliant and an amazing part of all this experience! 😘
I identified with many of your comments. I'm autistic but my diagnosis came years after my personality had become set in stone. Perfectionism and fear of failure go hand in hand with me. If I am not perfect I am no good. If I make a mistake I am a failure. This leads to me being totally stressed rather than relaxing and just enjoying the music. My defense mechanism over the years has been to ridicule myself before others got the chance to, but people who constantly put themselves down don't end up with many friends (even worse if like me you have weird obsessions). Sore fingertips or not, I'm going to watch more of your videos now. Thank you. xxx
The first reason is hitting pretty close to home. I feel like I'm plateauing and have met a block with strumming and barre chords and at times I'm afraid I will never learn these skills. I'm also not so good at celebrating my achievements. I might find strumming and barre chords harder than I'd like, but I've been getting more comfortable playing four finger chords.
Great post!!! Forewarned is forearmed. I will keep these in mind to stay on course. I know you have repeatedly apologized for your your singing voice. Stop! Few of us have great singing voices. Your ukulele and your sax are your musical voices and they are just fine. If I want to hear great singing, I’ll listen to Ariana Grande. If I want to listen to great ukulele playing, I’ll listen to Jake Shimabukuro. Because I want a great ukulele teacher for a beginning player, I listen to you. When it comes to teaching, you are no imposter. Your teaching certificate and TH-cam following are evidence! Keep up the good work! I look forward to future tutorials and reviews.
I'm 72 and determined to learn how to play the ukelele. I have played the piano so understand most of music. I find that your videos are the best on TH-cam. They have already helped me immensely. Thank you.
I so needed to hear this!! It brought me to tears. I struggle with some of the same issues. Just remember. You are where you are suppose to be and helping people like me. I am too overwhelmed with some of the “better teachers”. The ability to teach is a rare gift. You have that gift! Thank you for not quitting!!! I still go back and watch some of your basic lessons. Timeless!
You seem like the sweetest and most kind person. Don’t give up teaching on TH-cam because there’s other teachers that do differently; everyone learns a little different. While one person teaches something you may have a even the smallest hint of a difference teaching something that maybe 50% of others couldn’t pick up from another teacher. I love to sing but can’t; I love music even more and learning an instrument is a great gift! Thanks for your videos I’ve learned a lot in just one week!! (My daughter got a ukulele that she asked for for Christmas but she’s not showing much interest but I’m loving it lol)
Love your honesty. I am still having problems . But don't want to give up. I keep trying. Your finger picking lesson twinkle twinkle has taken me 10 days to memorize. But i finally got it down .so far i am better at finger picking then strumming. I am ok with my thumb on the down strum but not on the up strum. Trying to up strum with my pointer finger dosen't sound good. Down strum in ok. But not great. Thanks for being you.
A reason why I still play ukulele today is because I watch your videos! In your song tutorials, you take it very slow so beginner like me 2 years ago can actually have the feeling of success that they learned a song! Thank you for continuing your TH-cam channel to encourage people to keep playing ukulele!
Great video! And one I’m sure we all can relate to. I used to experience imposter syndrome a lot. (I never knew there was a name for it.) Especially in my career as a music therapist. The music therapy program where I went to college was kind of at a crossroads at the time. It lacked quality instructors and real life experiences. As a result, I really had to kind of teach myself techniques through trial and error and observing other music therapists after I graduated. I’m kind of over it now because I realized that if you are constantly trying to hide your weaknesses, you cannot work on them. So my solution was to be realistic and get to know myself- my strengths and my shortcomings. I try my best to be comfortable with that. Unapologetic even. And that leaves me space to ask questions about things I don’t know, work on my shortcomings and embrace my strengths. ❤️
I love your channel! I think it is the best ukulele channel I have found. Whenever I recommend you, I say that you are a music teacher so you not only know how to play but, "how to teach". There are lots of great players but, they really don't have it in them to teach well, they really just don't get it. You are a natural. I think my biggest challenge right now is that I haven't memorized any music. I have to play with the sheet music in front of me. It's limiting when and how I play. Do you have any memorizing tip? It seems overwhelming to think of having to memorize each chord change in every song so I just haven't started that.
The first time I came home and wanted to start playing Ukulele but no person made it easy for me to understand YOU were there. You have a talent, you're amazing, I belive that you deserve so much more. Xoxo Sending strong hugs 2 u from mexico💜
I loved the detailed written explanation you provided below this video. I copied it to a Word document and saved it for future reference. Thanks! You are obviously very talented as I have seen you play various instruments; however, TH-cam has the skill sets of Jake and Taimane to entertain us in that arena. Your fame is based on your personality and ability to connect with people coupled with the very rare ability to explain techniques in the way it is needed to help others in their quest to learn. I suspect you would get a standing ovation after teaching an Eskimo tribe how to make ice. LOL… You know I watch your channel because I am learning your teaching techniques; thanks, you are excellent!
Woah this was actually very insightful! I have finished the 30-day challenge and I am so happy with my simple accomplishment. I never knew that my perfectionism would actually harm me! I don't know if it's just because I'm just beginning with ukulele, but every time I almost fall into the plateau stage, I always grab my ukulele and just play random chord progressions. I am glad my curiosity kept me going. Also, the printable totally helped me (it added on more info alongside the video's info). Dang! I think I might have a small case of imposter syndrome only due to the fact that sometimes, I just feel my accomplishments aren't as amazing as others perceive it to be. Thank you so much for this video!
Jenny Chen I’m sure you are amazing, I think that everyone who finishes the 30 day challenge is, if you think about it, all you know now, where you were and where you’re at, it’s amazing! Just keep at it! 💪
Great post today, about reasons to stop playing. Well organized & presented. Everyone has that imposter syndrome inside them, you’ve got to learn to bury it to grow & continue. (I’ve been practicing architecture for 35 years and that syndrome still surfaces but, as I’m not forcing myself on anyone, It’s easy enough to ignore) Students will always advance beyond their teachers, but that is testimony to the effectiveness of the teacher. Life would be much less wonderful if the ukulele teachers were all top singers. You sing way better than most of us and that’s okay. I can’t sing a note myself but started sending my family & friends singing ukulele birthday videos since I started learning uke with you about a year ago. It’s all good. You’re a wonderful teacher! Thanks for this important post.
I love your how sincere you are Bernadette, I don't think any of us could see you as fraud. You always kept in real and I think you've always been authentic to who you are. Whether it sharing bits and pieces of yourself through your videos and videos like this where you share your own struggle and insecurities. Your videos are truly insightful.
WOW!!! finally had time to watch this. I have so many mixed emotions right now. Happy knowing not alone in having all the stated anxieties or sad as you hit the nail on the head. I have been frustrated, doubted my progress and questioned where to go from where I am. Your videos and challenges have given me direction and focus. What an amazingly genuine person you are Bernadette. Seriously thank you!!!!! (and Jose) without your help I would have a Ukulele hanging on the wall as a glorified decoration. You have given me a love for playing this instrument. I still have frustrations when playing and a lot of anxiety on posting the challenges you offer but "Eat the Frog" and do it.
WOW!!!!!! “Coach”, i think this is by far - YOUR BEST YOU-TUBE EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So transparent......So open.......So SINCERE💕💕💕. Especailly the way you shared reasons that even YOU yourself would want to quit. (Thank you for doing that❤️) I could totally relate at each point you mentioned. Because of your teaching - (compared to my attempts from other channels....) - i have been able to play my MOST FAVORITE SONGS:....”What a Wonderful World”.....”Hallelujah”.....”House of the Rising Sun”......”Can’t Help Falling in Love”.......”Stand by me”......”Somewhere Over the Rainbow”........and ”Have you ever seen the rain” (which was your 1st song Tutorial).......**I cannot play any of these songs on my guitars........But i can on my Uke.......I’ve been taking my Ukulele to Family/Social Gatherings........I start PLAYING......because I CAN now......and i loooooove PLAYING.......THANKS “COACH”👏👏👏 (This is why you DESERVE this channel - you’re a teacher.....and you taught me). I suffered loss in 2017 - The UKULELE has been a WONDERUL outlet of JOY😍😍😍. 🤔Love the point you talked about re Memorizing. Will try to do that in 2019🤔. My #1 purpose to play an instrument is the COGNITIVE Benefits - Memorizing is KEY. *This LESSON is sooooo POWERFUL. Wonder if you should play it twice a year.......Definitely Once-a-year because you cover Very Important Points......e.g that a person can quit at an Advanced level.........Hope i never quit.....After watching this........I Promise i never will❤️. Thanks again “COACH”❤️ You are so SPOT ON!!!!!! with what you teach in this video🎉🎉🎉
That video is really helpful as to know that I'm not alone with this. I'm definitely a perfectionist, but still struggle with how to strum the uke. Apparently, the way I felt comfortable with is wrong. :/ And I can't perform, because I can't sing and songs without lyrics are usually ... just repetitive.
This video came out at such a right time for me. I have been on break from school and now that I have more time to play I don't. I already learned some songs, and don't think I'm a complete beginner anymore. Yet, I don't feel ready for intermediate songs either. So I feel stuck in that in between.
Bernadette, you're a great teacher! My wife is learning ukulele as a complete beginner and is picking up many things. I'm a guitarist of many years and I'm learning for fun & to help my wife learn. I think someday I may take up the tenor uke (with a low G) to be a uke player like a guitarist capo'ed at the 5th fret. I'm guilty of no/low focus and have stalled many times on plateaus in my many years of guitar playing. Today, I encouraged my wife to go through your full 30-day challenge. Thank you for all your videos on TH-cam!
I experienced plateau a few months ago. 😔I couldn't find any thing new to learn on guitar. Just played old songs every day. 😞 Now I finally recovered and am learning some fingerstyle. ❤️ Ms. B, you are so talented in teaching ukulele. Your explanations are always soo clear. And your ukulele playing is out of the world. 😍😍😍Please don't feel that way. Have confidence in yourself. 😊😊😊 I almost freaked out when you said you had imposter syndrome. 😱😱😱
These are very relatable! With ukulele and the other instruments I play I definitely sometimes feel like I’ve reached a plateau and I stop practicing and just do other things so this definitely helped me realize these things and now I know quitting isn’t the answer!!! 😁thx for the great video 🧡🧡🧡
Bernadette, You are an excellent teacher. I have some experience as a teacher myself and some experience evaluating other teachers so I can speak with authority here and assure you that you are not an impostor, but the real deal. You know how to break things down and explain them in a way that people will understand. You also know the problems that learners will experience when they attempt each skill and you point out how to solve those problems. I think one of the problems with music instruction is that there are a lot of people who are excellent musicians who teach as a way to supplement their income, but they really aren't very good teachers or very interested in teaching others.
Omg! You totally hit the nail on the head! As a music educator and instructor people assume that we are experts in everything music related when that’s not always the case. Being a vocalist I struggled learning instruments and over time developed my skills a little at a time, but now I feel everyone expects me to be an expert on those instruments which couldn’t be further from the truth. Thank you for sharing and for allowing me to see that I am not alone. 😊
Me: I cycle through finger style steel string (Travis/Doc Watson) guitar, nylon (classical) guitar, banjo and ukulele. This keeps me from advancing as far as I could if I would stick to one instrument and style. I realize this but I don't mind. I play for pleasure - my goal is enjoyment, advancement is secondary so I won't quit any of these and I may decide to bring another instrument into the mix. You: You are a PROFESSIONAL! You have chosen to teach and I will tell you that you are the most professional teacher I have ever observed. Your extensive preparation is recognized and appreciated by all of us who subscribe to your channel. You have a beautiful voice, personality and disposition so please let me assure you that you deserve the size of your channel and you will see it grow because you are a professional teacher in every sense of the word. Just keep being you. Thanks for everything you do!
I have imposter syndrome about being a doctor and it makes me very uncomfortable. On a positive note: I'm focusing on learning 'Maybe Its Time' from A Star is Born on the uke. That's going to be my start to finish project for the next few weeks.
You are definitely not doing any kind of fraud or something.... You are just teaching an art to thousands of people who are passionate.❤ And don't worry we love you ... You are my uku mentor ❤❤
Thank you Bernadette for all you do to share the " joy" of learning Ukulele! 😊 As an Elementary Music Specialist for 25 years now I find you very inspiring as you share how to play. As I teach Beginning Strings (Uke/Guitar), Woodwinds (Ocarina/Recorder) and Percussion (World Drums + Buckets!) to young musicians in K-8 I hope to inspire them to choose an instrument that they enjoy and begin their adventure in music making. Your passion for sharing and teaching Ukulele is very evident! Also...as a Vocal Music Educator I would encourage you to "stop" saying you are are not a good singer. Take some time to develop your singing voice like you do your Uke....I think you can excel there also! Honestly, I also find it difficult to sing with the same quality as I play Uke...hard to focus on both. Maybe rehearse separately then put together? Anyway...keep strumming and sharing! You are a blessing!! 😆😆😆
I hope you keep doing what you're doing, without this video I'd probably crash on the road at one point or another 😬 its a video I didn't know I needed but it shows how I need to change some things in my playing 😌😅
Bernadette, you have encouraged and taught me and my three children (ages 8, 11 and 13) to learn the ukulele. We loved your videos from the first one we saw. We love the Beatles, and enjoyed your challenge (although we can't play all the music yet). I can identify with impostor syndrome and I understand the fear. I have tried to learn different instruments from the time I was a little kid and never persevered, and often feel like a failure musically because of it. I also sing but have shelved it for a long time. It's so true that comparison is the thief of joy. And when you try to do something about the goals you have always had, then all the other reasons why it won't work try to stop you from going ahead - including the idea that you are not talented enough compared to everyone else. All this to say, please keep on persevering with the lessons on your channel. When I was little, I completely dreaded my piano lessons. You make playing the ukulele fun and attainable. The beauty of the ukulele is that you can gain wins quickly, and that encourages you to keep going. You teach it so well. I appreciate you speaking so openly about your feelings. It makes me realize that I should keep pushing forward, because I experience the same thing. You are the last person on earth that should feel like you are not talented enough or don't deserve the success. Thank you for the wonderful work you put out there. We are so grateful for it, and for being four of your students.
Hello, Bernadette! Thank you for your insightful, instructional videos. Having recently bought my first ukulele, I've subscribed to about 6 channels with ukulele tutorials. But I find myself coming back to yours most often because you always add your valuable insights into your lessons, which other channels cannot provide. I'm sure it has to do with the fact that you are a certified music teacher, but also because you care about your students, and that empathy comes through in your teaching. Your empathy motivates you to share insights, like the "10 Reasons" in this video. Your videos are a gift. So, thank you so very much for being here and sharing your knowledge!
Hi Bernadette, I’ve been playing for a year and I know I wouldn’t be as far ahead as I am without your lessons-keep up the great work-l really appreciate everything you do
Bernadette, Great video! I appreciate the fact that you are able to call out your students who place roadblocks to their learning. I am guilty of a number of your reasons why people quit Ukulele, and its good to challenge myself to overcome this mental roadblocks. I really appreciate your videos and all of the hard work that it takes to create this awesome TH-cam channel. You are a very good instructor! Remember a good teacher must be a subject matter expert and they have to be able to relate to their students. If one of these components is missing than learning will not take place. Your channel is very informative, information is disseminated, and the instructor (you) has a fantastic ability to relate to her students. Keep up the great work and thank you for helping me along this journey.
Nice video. I will share this with the Ukulele Ensemble. I think it will be helpful to some. Thanks for a great year and a great new one to come. BTW, I have the same problem with singing. You are great!
Thank you for this! I am guilty of at least 6 reasons! But...I don't want to quit. Ive been playing for about 2 months. I am so thankful for your 30 day challenge. That's where I started. I love how you explain the basics so well such as holding the uke and how to properly form chords. You're my favorite teacher! 😊
Thank you for sharing! I've got the poor setup going right now. Hoping to remedy soon. But I appreciate all of these because I could see falling into some of these. Hopefully I can recognize these and make a change.
Thank you for all you do, to help the rest of us!! You're not a fraud, you're very talented and on a higher level than the majority of us, that come here to learn from you!! So again... THANK YOU! ❤️
I'm 68, just retired, and just got a ukulele - I'm waiting for it to arrive. I'm so thankful I found you. You are such an inspiration and so reassuring. I'm now subscribed to your channel and feel blessed to have found you. Thank you so much for the gift of you. 🙂
This is so helpful, I'm totally a number 1. Oooh no, no, no! You deserve to be here, you have worked so hard, and a lot of people don't know the skill and time it takes behind the scenes. You have encouraged and helped and inspired soooo many people! I am so thankful for you, all of your talents and knowledge! Your most humble student, Darla :)
I love this video and your pure honesty. You are my favorite teacher of all the teachers I have had over the years. It was you who got me excited about learning how to play the ukulele and having fun. My biggest hurdle to jump over is the fear of failure because I’m a perfectionist. However, you have helped me to calm down about it and learn to love the ukulele. Even though I am a beginner and make mistakes, I have found that “she” sings to me which puts me in a happier place and I have you thank for it. Thank you again for being you and for teaching us.
Well I experienced some of the things you talk about and I can definitely relate to the feeling of quitting (not just ukulele but things in general). I think the fact that you opened up and talked about your feelings and fears makes you an even better teacher! I love what you're doing and I learned almost everything I know about uke through your channel, so a big THANK YOU Bernadette! ❤ Never doubt your talent and competence and keep on helping people to find happiness through music!
Your videos are so easy to follow, I've recommended them to friends are thinking about learning or whose children are starting to learn at school. Your success is definitely not down to luck, you are good at what you do. The pace of your tutorials are great too.
I mostly always quit because I feel like I’m not making any progress and when I want to learn a song and the strumming pattern is a little bit “different” then I just give up which is not good Also thank you for this video it’s really helpful love you💗
Not only I relate I also understand why I get frustration. Nice video for the start of the year you give a lot of tips for every reason one give up. 😍😊
You are sooo talented Bernadette! I am so happy you decided to make this Chanel. You are such a great teacher and I learned so much from you the little bit of time I started playing the ukulele.
Dear Bernadette, please know that you are a wonderful teacher! We are so lucky that you are here for us. ❤️ This video nearly brought me to tears because I, too, have experienced all of these feelings while trying to learn. Thank you for bringing this to light and giving us ways to overcome these feelings. You always seem to know just what to say to help us, your students. 😊
Hello Ms B, you’re my favorite teacher… you’re absolutely not a fraud at all… you’re a great & passionate teacher, with really nice educational skills… your way of teaching is simple and the instructions are very clear. Thanks so much 🙏🏽🙏🏽
TIME STAMPS
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0:24 About the channel
0:42 Plateau
1:07 Comparison
1:44 Perfectionism
2:32 Not performing
3:12 No Focus
3:53 Not memorising
4:43 Poor setup
5:46 Learning Sequence
7:02 Impostor Syndrome
8:40 Fear
9:24 Join this community
Lu Bold, thanks for the time stamps. Proves you got Focus 😊
Wow,, you are so deep!
Okay my fear of not being able to memorize as a senior just got trashed. I’m on the 30 Day Ukulele Challenge. I can now play and sing You Are My Sunshine. Now that I’ve done that I’m freaked out how well I can play if I know the song by heart. I get the joy of listening to it too.
Bernadette ! 1st let me say I have been somewhat playing the Uke for at lest a yr now and I can relate to the comparison,
I sing lead in a small trio group with two acoustic guitar players and often wanted to b able to play guitar or ukelele and sing , which will happen😊 2nd focus. Anyhow may I say I have listen to many teachers online and by far u are the best ! Your teaching is way above board.Being transparent is a good thing it keeps us humble. You r good at why u do !🎶😎😇
Well. I just ordered a new Ohana Tenor, as the ukadelic saprano that I bought my kids feels too small. So I hope to continue learning. Thanks you for explaining about your 30 day challenge to learn in the right order. I will certainly be following that series. I also have taken your advice in choosing a ukulele. Enya seems to be your favorite, and I looked at them, but I didn't care for the flowers on the fret board. So I chose Ohana based on other channel reviews. Thank you for your channel, I am learning a lot from you.
Not a fraud. Best ukulele channel I have ever found. Don't ever quit.
Miss B, I don't know if this helps but you absolutely deserve the audience you have. I've met a few people who have a Uke but only know 1 or 2 songs and hardly pick it up. My immediate recommendation every time is for them to start from the beginning with your 30 day challenge, just like I did. I follow a few tutorial channels here on TH-cam but nowhere have I seen such a thorough and sequential lesson series that takes you from knowing nothing to actually playing songs and feeling confident. Sometimes when I'm following along and the tempo is too fast, you have a way of knowing how many times is necessary to repeat until I get it. You offer extra encouragement when the chords are tough. You have a sense of empathy for the struggles of others that some of the other teachers (even the ones I like a lot) don't have to the same extent. Yours was the first channel I ever set notifications on for thanks to your multi-day challenges. I wouldn't be half as good as I am now if it weren't for you. Thank you for all your hard work.
Stephen Lee I told her once that there has to be some witchcraft involved cus she knows exactly when to say “ok that didn’t feel right let’s do this again” or “you can do this, pause the video do it a couple of times and come back” hahaha but it’s amazing to feel that connection! Loved your comment I agree and relate with everything you’ve said! Good ukings for you!
@@thespas9678 I like it when she she says "Put your ukulele down and look up, watch my hands.....Look up!". She knows I'm slipping in a few sneaky strums LOL
MARIA JACKSON hahahahah I knooow I like those bits too! But I’m a teacher too so usually when she says to put it down and look I usually do it 🤪 but I imagine everyone else still trying hahaha that’s what my students always do 🤗 but I love it means we are eager to try and she’s eager for us to learn it well! Perfection!
@@thespas9678 Once, Bernadette sounded a bit insistant, and I said "alright alright!!".....I felt dead guilty.
MARIA JACKSON don’t feel bad!! That’s actually hilarious it means avengers to you hahahahaha it only proves she’s a real teacher! Students talk back sometimes when they get frustrated and specially when the teacher is right
I am a 60 year old grandma. My mother and several others in her family were musicians. I LOVE music, and want to play SOMETHING so badly! I have enough musical instruments in my house to start my own band and I cannot play any of them! BUT! Because of your EXCELLENT teachings, I am starting to play the ukulele thats been sitting in my closet since 2020. THANK YOU so much!
I started playing my ukulele at 38 years old and I am afraid I started too late in life to get really good. I think about it every time I sit down to play my ukulele.
Same here. I was a few weeks shy of 39 when I started. I think about the same thing. I then play some of my favorite songs and think about how far I've come. Do it because you love it. Not because of how good you are or want to be.
Imposter Syndrome. Yup. Me too! You’re amazing. Keep doing what you’re doing and stay strong! You’re loved! 😘
BERNADETTE, YOU LISTEN TO ME PLEASE
You were so, so instrumental (pun unintended) to me while I was learning how to play the ukulele, and I'm confident there are thousands of people who wouldn't be where are they are right now with their uke if it weren't for you. You have no idea how much you mean to all of us. You're going above and beyond to help us all, and I'm very sorry that you feel like that sometimes. You aren't a fraud by any means, and we appreciate you so much. Thank you for taking the time out of your life to help us become better musicians. This video was so raw yet helpful, and I'm so glad you decided to make it. We all care about you so much and think you're one of the best teachers out there. Thank you for everything, and I hope you always keep playing music. 💜
Florina Devereux hahahaha loved the pun!!!
“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear! “ George Addair. I love this quote! It is so true.
I know this is an older video, but my goodness, you have been an absolute postive force in my life and made me really fall in love with playing music again. Thank you so much for building this community and making music accessible and fun. I went through your 30 day ukelele challenge and am so so thankful! I’m excited to now be a part of your patreon community and recommend it to all my friends!
I am so proud of you for sharing your insecurities. Don't worry we love you ❤️
comparison is the thief of joy, I choose to keep the joy , thanks, I needed your insight, its good to know we are not alone in feelings we never share... maria from Annapolis,, p.s. there is a ukeannapolis meeting at edgewater library Saturday jan 19 from 1 till 4 if anyone is in the area you are welcome to stop by
I originally wanted to start playing ukelele because my husband and I moved to hawaii In March (he is also in the navy) and I became mesmerized with the instrument. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for over 2 years now, and after treatments and procedures, still nothing. So, me being a crazy person, I thought that playing the uke could be something I could do when I'm pregnant, and play for a baby, and then something that I could take away from the island that would always be with me, that I could teach to our kids. And then my brain starts spinning, like, "what if I was the cool mom who played the happy birthday song on the ukelele for birthday parties...and Christmas traditions of singing Christmas songs together, and all that mushy gushy stuff!" So my fear, I guess, is that what if I never get pregnant, i don't want to avoid and despise the instrument because I establish it with children and family. But then it goes the other way to I cant sing. and what if I dont get good enough to want to play and sing and teach my children. I've loved our time in Hawaii so far and learning and loving this instrument, and I don't want to lose this beautiful part of the culture here, that I've had to pleasure of learning from you.
Now that my deep dark ramblings are over... I just want to say thank you! You truly are a bright presence in the community and a great teacher!
Thank you for sharing, you sound just like how my brain works. Anxiety is a curse !
without being indiscrete, do you have a child now ?
Sorry to seem rude or something
I have the ' no focus ' problem, when im learning a new song i just learn most of the times the first part of the song and then move on to another song. I definitely need to get better on this. Awesome video btw ♥
Your honesty about your impostor syndrome is exactly why you have this community. You're a great teacher. My daughter and i have learned a lot from you. Thank you.
On action, a luthier or guitar tech can help, but a third alternative is a player who has done setups on his or her own instruments. Most good ukuleles can be made quite playable by doing three things: lowering the saddle, filing the nut and leveling the frets.
A caveat: filing the nut and leveling the frets requires some very specific tools (NOT a nail file and NOT a sanding block!), so if your helpful friend does not have those, stay clear.
But, I frequently set up ukes for friends, and show them how as I do it. It saves them a little time and money, and it helps me to stay in practice, as setting up is a perishable skill.
So, ask when you go to jams. Chances are good that you’ll find someone who can correct the action on your uke in less than half an hour.
Maybe you are not a perfect player - I can't say it as I'm just a bit better than a beginner - but it doesn't matter. You taught me - and others - who did not know anything the basics and with your kind personality and you step by step challenges you made me keep going.
My problem is the plateau... If I want to play a a new song it is not a problem. There are many songs I can play with the chords I'm able to play. But I want more... some finger pickings, some different strumming patterns... some days I find some on my own and am really proud. Sometimes I can't figure out how to make it more interessting and then I'm frustrated.
But nothing makes me more calm down tgan playing my Uke
I find it so upsetting that someone so talented could feel not deserving of their talent or the business they have built because of their talent. This community built your channel to what it is, BUT your talent, sincerity, qualifications, and effort is what built the foundation on which we rely on. I, for one, have never doubted you or your abilities. I feel as though you are my friend. I trust you. Thank you for this video! I'm feeling more motivated already!
you are the best ukulele teacher in the entire history of TH-cam, and I am grateful and honored to be your student.
I began my ukulele journey because I love music. Ukulele seemed like it would be simple fun and mostly, do-able. I bought one uke and shortly after, bought a second. A tenor first,; then a soprano. You, Bernadette, have been the ONE who have been my favorite GO-TO person for my adventure! I am a retired art teacher. I know how to teach. You are the best. Others are trying, but they are not doing the teaching the way it needs to be done.
Thank you for doing this!
Fight the negativity... we know where that comes from (a hot place which smells like smoke and sulfur)..😉
Keep up the good work... I will eventually show you my progress...❤️
Nanci Sabino Well said!
You are super nice. I have been trying to learn for almost one year and often get frustrated too. Here is a link to a friend's video.
th-cam.com/video/4Lj5KFQDnSM/w-d-xo.html
Best wishes, Bob
Lynn Griffin thank you. Seems just as we all do, Bernadette should hear how appreciated she is ..
Ahhh this comment is amazing made me laugh! I also inserted something in mine with brackets hahahahaha you are absolutely right!
thank you very much! i'm very glad to have found you as my ukulele teacher!
As others have mentioned, you deserve all of your success. Much of it is due to your openness and vulnerability. Sharing your emotions and letting us see "behind the scenes" makes you real to others and they feel that they know you personally and love you for all that you do. Your generosity is inspirational and your teaching is first class. Keep up the good work and know that we all love and appreciate you.💖☮👍
Dear Bernadette, your succsess is being close to us ordinary people. I don't have time nor will for Gurus or You tube "divinity" from whom I could learn more or better. That is why I choose you and one of your female colleagues. Sometimes less is more, I'm dooing just fine with you in only four months and I keep being involved. Keep going girl, your path is clear andy shiny!!! :*
Fear of rejection, negative and mean comments can also be demeaning! Especially for a perfectionist also makes it difficult to put yourself out there! 😞
#1 reason to keep playing ukulele;
Having Bernadette as a teacher. She is by far, the best teacher for beginners. She teaches in a way to make it easy to understand. And she also throws in some challenges to help you advance your skills. She makes her channel educational, interesting, entertaining, and just fun to watch. She has great guests and brings in her husband sometimes who is funny too.
You will be at 100,000 subscribers very soon. And you get that because
you are very good at what you do.... ;)
Wishing you and your husband a Happy New Year.....
I don't stop because of the encouraging qoutes at insta Thank Ms. B 🙂🙂🙂
Oh Berni!!!!!! You are amazing and I feel (even though I have never met you) you are one of the most genuine, caring and smart people I have seen especially when it comes to caring about your viewers and learning the ukulele. My biggest fear is thinking I cannot sing well enough to continue playing the uke. I am a part of a uke group in my local community and we have many opportunities to get up on stage to sing and play and it totally freaks me out. My original teacher always tried to encourage me as she says I am a great player but I guess it is the self doubt of myself and fear of singing out of key or tune that scares me the most. When I watch your tutorials I see myself sometimes and you should be so proud of yourself being able to put yourself out there to so many people and help them be the best they can be on ukulele. I for one am very grateful for your presence. You go girl 🤙💪👊🏼❤️
Imposter syndrome is what kept me from teaching private lessons for so long. I am not Advanced but I have enough skills to teach others what I know. Because of your videos I decided to step out and begin teaching lessons. I love the quote "When you learn teach, when you get give" by Maya Angelou. It keeps me going! I don't have to know it all to be an effective teacher and when I learn something new I need to share it. You are fabulous and the type of teacher a lot of us need. When you learn you share, when you get you give and I and many other music teachers are so grateful..May God continue to bless you and this channel. You are fantastic!
Bernadette,
It is so easy to doubt oneself. Staying the course can be difficult, especially when only you and those closest to you know what you are feeling. You wear your emotions on your sleeve and people love you for it. Never try to be something you are not. Never try to be what you think people want you to be for you would be wrong.
People initially tune in for many reasons but come back for only one, it’s because you are you.
Someday TH-cam will be over and when you look back it’s important to know you did your best, you were true to your values and you made a difference.
Take care,
Wes
Thank you for this honest video! I kind of am the no focus person, but somehow it goes on and I am making progress, yay! But I have to confess that I've learned two complete songs for christmas :D
I really liked this video! very sincere, emotional and encouraging.
I think you almost cried when you confessed about the personal sabotage syndrome ... do not worry about those feelings, you are very good at what you do and you have almost 100,000 people who always remind you with their likes, their comments and their shares. you are excellent and little by little you will be improving more and more and more!
in my case, I think I have lived several times in which I practically let my fears stop me ... in my opinion, the most dangerous are: compare yourself with others and sabotage us by thinking that we are not good or that we are a fiasco. It's hard to deal with those feelings..
Your videos are genuine and inspiring. I fall into a couple of those reasons but haven't given up yet, but am taking things slower than I would like. Watching your videos encourages me to continue. Please don't ever stop.
Bernadette, I get so much from your videos. You are in no way a fraud. My personal challenges are two: achieving a good strumming sound, especially on the up strums, and remembering chords I’ve learned. I can get around the first, until I learn how to strum, by using a pick. The second, though, is a matter of age. I’m 65. I’ll learn a chord, then encounter it the next day and it’s like I’ve never seen it before. So I have to keep learning and learning it until it’s internalized.
The REAL reason people quit ukulele:
BAR CHORDS.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Immediately related to the video just from the first reason. I will do my best to continue playing the ukulele for a long time though :) by the way, please don't feel like you're not worth this channel. You are one of the greatest ukulele teachers in this community, I mostly learn from your videos not others. You're doing your job well and I hope you keep it that way. ❤
I've just started the 30 days challenge. My 5 years old daughter got an ukelele for christmas, nobody in the family play and we have the necessity to learn just to teach her a little bit before we can find an ukelele's teacher nearby. So my husband and I are new members of the ukelele's 30 days challenge. We will take care not to fall on those recommendations. Keep going and thank you so much for your help on this, you are so great!
Excellent video. I never knew there was a actual name for number 9! I experience it with art, singing and playing ukulele . It keeps me from doing those things...
However, I am learning that I must do what I love and not care so much what others think. Easier said then done😉
The real reason I am writing is to say YOU are a gifted teacher. That’s your gift and you give it away every day. Like all wonderful teachers your other gift is encouragement! You can’t be one without the other! Thank you for all you do and for giving of yourself to all of us. There is no greater gift than that. The Lord has made you this way for a purpose. Keep running with it. You go girl!
PS I found this video very helpful! Thank you!!!😘
So far the only issue I have is that the cords on my Baritone are not the same as a reg Uke.. I enjoy the deeper sound the baritone makes, but most of the online lessons are for a reg Uke. If I had to do over I would just buy a reg Uke and stay away from that grief.
Rider of A Pale Horse she’s going to start doing more stuff with baritones!!! And you can still get a regular one eventually and then play both!!! Don’t get discourage baritone tutorials are coming soooon!!!
Oh dearest Bernadette, you deserve every bit of success you have! Don’t doubt yourself! You are kind, you are strong, you are sincere, and you are an incredible person! Can’t say enough good about you, and you need to believe it! Can I tell you the reason I see most of my students quit ukulele (and other instruments), lots of them perceive that it will be “easy” to learn, and then when they realize it’s more challenging than they thought, they quit. This usually happens at the first roadblock they face, no matter what it is.
Don’t doubt your success, you are not an imposter, you are a teacher, and you are teaching us great things! You are a teacher, and you are building a community! These are all things good teachers do. Have a joyous day sweet girl! (Leah not Anna;-)
Much of this seems to apply to me. Toss in some major health problems and it’s easy to become discouraged. Instead, I’ve just decided to take a break. I can always come back to playing the ukulele and given a little time I think I will. Thanks for your encouragement.
Imposter syndrome...really..I remember a video of you and a young lady playing Bodysurfing...how dare you doubt your talents..I think we all wish we were more talented...I think I totally suck...I have been at this only 19 months...and I do perform for friends and family...and sometimes just going to the park and playing and maybe a stranger will wander by...I was photographing a rugby tournament...had already shot for 4 hours and there was a 45 minute break while the brackets were adjusted and new pairings set up...so i went to my vehicle...opened the back of my suv ...hopped in drank some water ...ate a protein bar...and pulled out my ukulele...and started practicing in the parking lot...well it was time to get back to the pitch and start shooting rugby...I packed my uke away...grabbed my camera gear and was heading back to the playing field...when I heard a voice...." Did you just play Hotel California on a ukulele ? That was awesome ." Luckily I was playing Hotel California...sometimes when I am discouraged it is little things like this incident to help keep me going...it seems to happen a lot...as for your singing...I can't sing very well either...so i am learning chord melodies...for me that is so much more gratifying than just strumming...don't get me wrong...sometimes when I am in a strumming mood...I will really bang it out...as for memorizing songs...I am older and i wish I could put more RAM in my brain...but it seems that I can't keep much more than 3 or 4 songs at a time in my memory....I learned Christmas Time is Here this Christmas season...chord melody...my goal was to learn one Christmas song well...I practiced that everyday for a month...and when I played it for people...they loved it...and they sang along...but my main reason for continueing to play the uke is I felt I was losing the use of my hands..I still have a bad day now and then...but so many more good days....and i have you to thank for that...you can doubt your abilities as a musician...i don't ...but your strength is in your teaching skills..I don't think there is a better one out there...and your dedication to this channel....I was a food blogger a while ago and that was like a full time job...so I know how hard you work at this....Love you Bernadette...Be well
I feel very called out by this video, nearly all the reasons apply to me, and not only for the ukulele, often for instruments or sports or just hobbies I've done and given up before.
Thank you for this incredibly honest video, I think it's gonna spark a lot of interesting conversation. It's so important to share the uncomfortable things too.
Lu Bold hey you are amazing! You may feel all of this but tell your brain to go (insert swear word here) himself! You’re brilliant and an amazing part of all this experience! 😘
I identified with many of your comments. I'm autistic but my diagnosis came years after my personality had become set in stone. Perfectionism and fear of failure go hand in hand with me. If I am not perfect I am no good. If I make a mistake I am a failure. This leads to me being totally stressed rather than relaxing and just enjoying the music. My defense mechanism over the years has been to ridicule myself before others got the chance to, but people who constantly put themselves down don't end up with many friends (even worse if like me you have weird obsessions). Sore fingertips or not, I'm going to watch more of your videos now. Thank you. xxx
The first reason is hitting pretty close to home. I feel like I'm plateauing and have met a block with strumming and barre chords and at times I'm afraid I will never learn these skills.
I'm also not so good at celebrating my achievements. I might find strumming and barre chords harder than I'd like, but I've been getting more comfortable playing four finger chords.
Great post!!! Forewarned is forearmed. I will keep these in mind to stay on course. I know you have repeatedly apologized for your your singing voice. Stop! Few of us have great singing voices. Your ukulele and your sax are your musical voices and they are just fine. If I want to hear great singing, I’ll listen to Ariana Grande. If I want to listen to great ukulele playing, I’ll listen to Jake Shimabukuro. Because I want a great ukulele teacher for a beginning player, I listen to you. When it comes to teaching, you are no imposter. Your teaching certificate and TH-cam following are evidence! Keep up the good work! I look forward to future tutorials and reviews.
I'm 72 and determined to learn how to play the ukelele. I have played the piano so understand most of music. I find that your videos are the best on TH-cam. They have already helped me immensely. Thank you.
I so needed to hear this!! It brought me to tears. I struggle with some of the same issues. Just remember. You are where you are suppose to be and helping people like me. I am too overwhelmed with some of the “better teachers”. The ability to teach is a rare gift. You have that gift! Thank you for not quitting!!! I still go back and watch some of your basic lessons. Timeless!
You seem like the sweetest and most kind person. Don’t give up teaching on TH-cam because there’s other teachers that do differently; everyone learns a little different. While one person teaches something you may have a even the smallest hint of a difference teaching something that maybe 50% of others couldn’t pick up from another teacher. I love to sing but can’t; I love music even more and learning an instrument is a great gift! Thanks for your videos I’ve learned a lot in just one week!! (My daughter got a ukulele that she asked for for Christmas but she’s not showing much interest but I’m loving it lol)
Great insights and things to think about. Don’t go, we need you!
Love your honesty. I am still having problems . But don't want to give up. I keep trying. Your finger picking lesson twinkle twinkle has taken me 10 days to memorize. But i finally got it down .so far i am better at finger picking then strumming. I am ok with my thumb on the down strum but not on the up strum. Trying to up strum with my pointer finger dosen't sound good. Down strum in ok. But not great. Thanks for being you.
A reason why I still play ukulele today is because I watch your videos! In your song tutorials, you take it very slow so beginner like me 2 years ago can actually have the feeling of success that they learned a song! Thank you for continuing your TH-cam channel to encourage people to keep playing ukulele!
Great video! And one I’m sure we all can relate to. I used to experience imposter syndrome a lot. (I never knew there was a name for it.) Especially in my career as a music therapist. The music therapy program where I went to college was kind of at a crossroads at the time. It lacked quality instructors and real life experiences. As a result, I really had to kind of teach myself techniques through trial and error and observing other music therapists after I graduated. I’m kind of over it now because I realized that if you are constantly trying to hide your weaknesses, you cannot work on them. So my solution was to be realistic and get to know myself- my strengths and my shortcomings. I try my best to be comfortable with that. Unapologetic even. And that leaves me space to ask questions about things I don’t know, work on my shortcomings and embrace my strengths. ❤️
I love your channel! I think it is the best ukulele channel I have found. Whenever I recommend you, I say that you are a music teacher so you not only know how to play but, "how to teach". There are lots of great players but, they really don't have it in them to teach well, they really just don't get it. You are a natural. I think my biggest challenge right now is that I haven't memorized any music. I have to play with the sheet music in front of me. It's limiting when and how I play. Do you have any memorizing tip? It seems overwhelming to think of having to memorize each chord change in every song so I just haven't started that.
Thank you , this was great. Very helpful !
The first time I came home and wanted to start playing Ukulele but no person made it easy for me to understand YOU were there.
You have a talent, you're amazing, I belive that you deserve so much more. Xoxo
Sending strong hugs 2 u from mexico💜
I loved the detailed written explanation you provided below this video. I copied it to a Word
document and saved it for future reference. Thanks! You are obviously very talented as I have seen you play various instruments; however, TH-cam has the skill sets of Jake and Taimane to entertain us in that arena. Your fame is based on your personality and ability to connect with people coupled with the very rare ability to explain techniques in the way it is needed to help others in their quest to learn. I suspect you would get a standing ovation after teaching an Eskimo tribe how to make ice. LOL… You know I watch your channel because I am learning your teaching techniques; thanks, you are excellent!
Woah this was actually very insightful! I have finished the 30-day challenge and I am so happy with my simple accomplishment. I never knew that my perfectionism would actually harm me! I don't know if it's just because I'm just beginning with ukulele, but every time I almost fall into the plateau stage, I always grab my ukulele and just play random chord progressions. I am glad my curiosity kept me going. Also, the printable totally helped me (it added on more info alongside the video's info). Dang! I think I might have a small case of imposter syndrome only due to the fact that sometimes, I just feel my accomplishments aren't as amazing as others perceive it to be. Thank you so much for this video!
Jenny Chen I’m sure you are amazing, I think that everyone who finishes the 30 day challenge is, if you think about it, all you know now, where you were and where you’re at, it’s amazing! Just keep at it! 💪
Unrelated but your profile picture!! I love Kehlani and her cloud19 mixtape was amazing
Great post today, about reasons to stop playing. Well organized & presented. Everyone has that imposter syndrome inside them, you’ve got to learn to bury it to grow & continue. (I’ve been practicing architecture for 35 years and that syndrome still surfaces but, as I’m not forcing myself on anyone, It’s easy enough to ignore) Students will always advance beyond their teachers, but that is testimony to the effectiveness of the teacher. Life would be much less wonderful if the ukulele teachers were all top singers. You sing way better than most of us and that’s okay. I can’t sing a note myself but started sending my family & friends singing ukulele birthday videos since I started learning uke with you about a year ago. It’s all good. You’re a wonderful teacher! Thanks for this important post.
I love your how sincere you are Bernadette, I don't think any of us could see you as fraud. You always kept in real and I think you've always been authentic to who you are. Whether it sharing bits and pieces of yourself through your videos and videos like this where you share your own struggle and insecurities. Your videos are truly insightful.
WOW!!! finally had time to watch this. I have so many mixed emotions right now. Happy knowing not alone in having all the stated anxieties or sad as you hit the nail on the head. I have been frustrated, doubted my progress and questioned where to go from where I am. Your videos and challenges have given me direction and focus. What an amazingly genuine person you are Bernadette. Seriously thank you!!!!! (and Jose) without your help I would have a Ukulele hanging on the wall as a glorified decoration. You have given me a love for playing this instrument. I still have frustrations when playing and a lot of anxiety on posting the challenges you offer but "Eat the Frog" and do it.
WOW!!!!!! “Coach”, i think this is by far - YOUR BEST YOU-TUBE EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So transparent......So open.......So SINCERE💕💕💕. Especailly the way you shared reasons that even YOU yourself would want to quit. (Thank you for doing that❤️) I could totally relate at each point you mentioned. Because of your teaching - (compared to my attempts from other channels....) - i have been able to play my MOST FAVORITE SONGS:....”What a Wonderful World”.....”Hallelujah”.....”House of the Rising Sun”......”Can’t Help Falling in Love”.......”Stand by me”......”Somewhere Over the Rainbow”........and ”Have you ever seen the rain” (which was your 1st song Tutorial).......**I cannot play any of these songs on my guitars........But i can on my Uke.......I’ve been taking my Ukulele to Family/Social Gatherings........I start PLAYING......because I CAN now......and i loooooove PLAYING.......THANKS “COACH”👏👏👏 (This is why you DESERVE this channel - you’re a teacher.....and you taught me). I suffered loss in 2017 - The UKULELE has been a WONDERUL outlet of JOY😍😍😍. 🤔Love the point you talked about re Memorizing. Will try to do that in 2019🤔. My #1 purpose to play an instrument is the COGNITIVE Benefits - Memorizing is KEY. *This LESSON is sooooo POWERFUL. Wonder if you should play it twice a year.......Definitely Once-a-year because you cover Very Important Points......e.g that a person can quit at an Advanced level.........Hope i never quit.....After watching this........I Promise i never will❤️. Thanks again “COACH”❤️ You are so SPOT ON!!!!!! with what you teach in this video🎉🎉🎉
ありがとう!
Thanks for sharing this. I feel like all the reasons you described were what I needed to be made aware of. You are the best!
Keep playing, singing, and teaching ukulele, Bernadette! I enjoy your videos ❤️
That video is really helpful as to know that I'm not alone with this. I'm definitely a perfectionist, but still struggle with how to strum the uke. Apparently, the way I felt comfortable with is wrong. :/
And I can't perform, because I can't sing and songs without lyrics are usually ... just repetitive.
This video came out at such a right time for me. I have been on break from school and now that I have more time to play I don't. I already learned some songs, and don't think I'm a complete beginner anymore. Yet, I don't feel ready for intermediate songs either. So I feel stuck in that in between.
Bernadette, you're a great teacher! My wife is learning ukulele as a complete beginner and is picking up many things. I'm a guitarist of many years and I'm learning for fun & to help my wife learn. I think someday I may take up the tenor uke (with a low G) to be a uke player like a guitarist capo'ed at the 5th fret. I'm guilty of no/low focus and have stalled many times on plateaus in my many years of guitar playing. Today, I encouraged my wife to go through your full 30-day challenge. Thank you for all your videos on TH-cam!
I experienced plateau a few months ago. 😔I couldn't find any thing new to learn on guitar. Just played old songs every day. 😞
Now I finally recovered and am learning some fingerstyle. ❤️
Ms. B, you are so talented in teaching ukulele. Your explanations are always soo clear. And your ukulele playing is out of the world. 😍😍😍Please don't feel that way. Have confidence in yourself. 😊😊😊
I almost freaked out when you said you had imposter syndrome. 😱😱😱
Love the info. All these pointers will help so much.
These are very relatable! With ukulele and the other instruments I play I definitely sometimes feel like I’ve reached a plateau and I stop practicing and just do other things so this definitely helped me realize these things and now I know quitting isn’t the answer!!! 😁thx for the great video 🧡🧡🧡
Bernadette, You are an excellent teacher. I have some experience as a teacher myself and some experience evaluating other teachers so I can speak with authority here and assure you that you are not an impostor, but the real deal. You know how to break things down and explain them in a way that people will understand. You also know the problems that learners will experience when they attempt each skill and you point out how to solve those problems. I think one of the problems with music instruction is that there are a lot of people who are excellent musicians who teach as a way to supplement their income, but they really aren't very good teachers or very interested in teaching others.
your real, and thats why im here
DITTO! Me too!
When you told about what you never told about your insecurity I begun ro cry: too bad, because you deserve all the credit
Thank you so much, Ida ❤️❤️❤️
Omg! You totally hit the nail on the head! As a music educator and instructor people assume that we are experts in everything music related when that’s not always the case. Being a vocalist I struggled learning instruments and over time developed my skills a little at a time, but now I feel everyone expects me to be an expert on those instruments which couldn’t be further from the truth. Thank you for sharing and for allowing me to see that I am not alone. 😊
Me: I cycle through finger style steel string (Travis/Doc Watson) guitar, nylon (classical) guitar, banjo and ukulele. This keeps me from advancing as far as I could if I would stick to one instrument and style. I realize this but I don't mind. I play for pleasure - my goal is enjoyment, advancement is secondary so I won't quit any of these and I may decide to bring another instrument into the mix.
You: You are a PROFESSIONAL! You have chosen to teach and I will tell you that you are the most professional teacher I have ever observed. Your extensive preparation is recognized and appreciated by all of us who subscribe to your channel. You have a beautiful voice, personality and disposition so please let me assure you that you deserve the size of your channel and you will see it grow because you are a professional teacher in every sense of the word. Just keep being you. Thanks for everything you do!
I have imposter syndrome about being a doctor and it makes me very uncomfortable. On a positive note: I'm focusing on learning 'Maybe Its Time' from A Star is Born on the uke. That's going to be my start to finish project for the next few weeks.
You are definitely not doing any kind of fraud or something....
You are just teaching an art to thousands of people who are passionate.❤
And don't worry we love you ...
You are my uku mentor ❤❤
You have a beautiful voice and I would say that everyone should try, keep going, and work through the problems
Thank you Bernadette for all you do to share the " joy" of learning Ukulele! 😊 As an Elementary Music Specialist for 25 years now I find you very inspiring as you share how to play. As I teach Beginning Strings (Uke/Guitar), Woodwinds (Ocarina/Recorder) and Percussion (World Drums + Buckets!) to young musicians in K-8 I hope to inspire them to choose an instrument that they enjoy and begin their adventure in music making. Your passion for sharing and teaching Ukulele is very evident! Also...as a Vocal Music Educator I would encourage you to "stop" saying you are are not a good singer. Take some time to develop your singing voice like you do your Uke....I think you can excel there also! Honestly, I also find it difficult to sing with the same quality as I play Uke...hard to focus on both. Maybe rehearse separately then put together? Anyway...keep strumming and sharing! You are a blessing!! 😆😆😆
I hope you keep doing what you're doing, without this video I'd probably crash on the road at one point or another 😬 its a video I didn't know I needed but it shows how I need to change some things in my playing 😌😅
Thank you! You are so inspireing to me!! You deserve your audience and even much more followers! I love your channel!
Bernadette, you have encouraged and taught me and my three children (ages 8, 11 and 13) to learn the ukulele. We loved your videos from the first one we saw. We love the Beatles, and enjoyed your challenge (although we can't play all the music yet). I can identify with impostor syndrome and I understand the fear. I have tried to learn different instruments from the time I was a little kid and never persevered, and often feel like a failure musically because of it. I also sing but have shelved it for a long time. It's so true that comparison is the thief of joy. And when you try to do something about the goals you have always had, then all the other reasons why it won't work try to stop you from going ahead - including the idea that you are not talented enough compared to everyone else. All this to say, please keep on persevering with the lessons on your channel. When I was little, I completely dreaded my piano lessons. You make playing the ukulele fun and attainable. The beauty of the ukulele is that you can gain wins quickly, and that encourages you to keep going. You teach it so well. I appreciate you speaking so openly about your feelings. It makes me realize that I should keep pushing forward, because I experience the same thing. You are the last person on earth that should feel like you are not talented enough or don't deserve the success. Thank you for the wonderful work you put out there. We are so grateful for it, and for being four of your students.
Hello, Bernadette! Thank you for your insightful, instructional videos. Having recently bought my first ukulele, I've subscribed to about 6 channels with ukulele tutorials. But I find myself coming back to yours most often because you always add your valuable insights into your lessons, which other channels cannot provide. I'm sure it has to do with the fact that you are a certified music teacher, but also because you care about your students, and that empathy comes through in your teaching. Your empathy motivates you to share insights, like the "10 Reasons" in this video. Your videos are a gift. So, thank you so very much for being here and sharing your knowledge!
Hi Bernadette, I’ve been playing for a year and I know I wouldn’t be as far ahead as I am without your lessons-keep up the great work-l really appreciate everything you do
Bernadette, Great video! I appreciate the fact that you are able to call out your students who place roadblocks to their learning. I am guilty of a number of your reasons why people quit Ukulele, and its good to challenge myself to overcome this mental roadblocks. I really appreciate your videos and all of the hard work that it takes to create this awesome TH-cam channel. You are a very good instructor! Remember a good teacher must be a subject matter expert and they have to be able to relate to their students. If one of these components is missing than learning will not take place. Your channel is very informative, information is disseminated, and the instructor (you) has a fantastic ability to relate to her students. Keep up the great work and thank you for helping me along this journey.
Nice video. I will share this with the Ukulele Ensemble. I think it will be helpful to some. Thanks for a great year and a great new one to come. BTW, I have the same problem with singing. You are great!
Thank you for this! I am guilty of at least 6 reasons! But...I don't want to quit. Ive been playing for about 2 months. I am so thankful for your 30 day challenge. That's where I started. I love how you explain the basics so well such as holding the uke and how to properly form chords. You're my favorite teacher! 😊
Becky Hornak hey we started together! Are you sharing stuff on insta? If you are tell me your handle I’ll go follow you and cheer you on!!
@@thespas9678 Yay! So much fun. Unfortunately I'm not on Instagram. TH-cam is my only social media outlet!
Becky Hornak well now you have one subscriber 😉maybe I’ll see you there one day!! Good ukings for you!!
Thank you for sharing! I've got the poor setup going right now. Hoping to remedy soon. But I appreciate all of these because I could see falling into some of these. Hopefully I can recognize these and make a change.
Thank you for all you do, to help the rest of us!! You're not a fraud, you're very talented and on a higher level than the majority of us, that come here to learn from you!! So again... THANK YOU! ❤️
I have a bad habit of learning songs by pieces and I roughly know 5 full songs and 12 incomplete songs.
A A RON same
So true
U r very experienced in what u do👍👍
I'm 68, just retired, and just got a ukulele - I'm waiting for it to arrive. I'm so thankful I found you. You are such an inspiration and so reassuring. I'm now subscribed to your channel and feel blessed to have found you. Thank you so much for the gift of you. 🙂
This is so helpful, I'm totally a number 1.
Oooh no, no, no!
You deserve to be here, you have worked so hard, and a lot of people don't know the skill and time it takes behind the scenes.
You have encouraged and helped and inspired soooo many people!
I am so thankful for you, all of your talents and knowledge!
Your most humble student,
Darla :)
I love this video and your pure honesty. You are my favorite teacher of all the teachers I have had over the years. It was you who got me excited about learning how to play the ukulele and having fun. My biggest hurdle to jump over is the fear of failure because I’m a perfectionist. However, you have helped me to calm down about it and learn to love the ukulele. Even though I am a beginner and make mistakes, I have found that “she” sings to me which puts me in a happier place and I have you thank for it. Thank you again for being you and for teaching us.
Well I experienced some of the things you talk about and I can definitely relate to the feeling of quitting (not just ukulele but things in general). I think the fact that you opened up and talked about your feelings and fears makes you an even better teacher! I love what you're doing and I learned almost everything I know about uke through your channel, so a big THANK YOU Bernadette! ❤
Never doubt your talent and competence and keep on helping people to find happiness through music!
Your videos are so easy to follow, I've recommended them to friends are thinking about learning or whose children are starting to learn at school. Your success is definitely not down to luck, you are good at what you do. The pace of your tutorials are great too.
I mostly always quit because I feel like I’m not making any progress and when I want to learn a song and the strumming pattern is a little bit “different” then I just give up which is not good
Also thank you for this video it’s really helpful love you💗
Tea sis yeah I do the same, strumming patterns throw me off sometimes. I need to keep pushing otherwise I’ll just be an island strum pro 😂
Not only I relate I also understand why I get frustration. Nice video for the start of the year you give a lot of tips for every reason one give up. 😍😊
You definitely deserve the huge following you have on this channel. You’re extremely talented and you help so many people (me included)!
You are sooo talented Bernadette! I am so happy you decided to make this Chanel. You are such a great teacher and I learned so much from you the little bit of time I started playing the ukulele.
Dear Bernadette, please know that you are a wonderful teacher! We are so lucky that you are here for us. ❤️ This video nearly brought me to tears because I, too, have experienced all of these feelings while trying to learn. Thank you for bringing this to light and giving us ways to overcome these feelings. You always seem to know just what to say to help us, your students. 😊
Hello Ms B,
you’re my favorite teacher…
you’re absolutely not a fraud at all… you’re a great & passionate teacher, with really nice educational skills… your way of teaching is simple and the instructions are very clear. Thanks so much 🙏🏽🙏🏽