If you are a SHY person, you need to watch this video! Free Yourself From the Shackles of Shyness!
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- In this video I am sharing on the root cause of shyness and how to deal with it once and for all.
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I am an introvert, people often mistake me for being shy and withdrawn, but when I handle the mic to speak at a function or engage some one in a conversation they are blown away. Though I grew up with a strict Dad, I have learned to be reserved and speak at the right time. It helps me think and plan and also earn respect too. I am also a born leader
Same over here
And I had a really strict dad
But I guess it did me alot of good
Totally relate
Same here
Yes❤😊
I can relate to your statement.
Sometimes, it can get frustrating when your parents always shuns your ideas and don't even make efforts to give you their own ideas
Not all introvert are shy , some are reserved to speak sense
True ❤😊
Well said
Very true!!!!
Very true
There's a difference between shyness and introversion. Introverts just love spending time alone. Not that they don't like people but they draw lot of energy from introspection and self reflection which can only be done when alone.
Shyness is when you judge yourself before others judges you. You're afraid of how others will think of you if you express or behave in a certain way. It worsen when you're an overthinker which can lead to anxiety and even depression This mostly happens to people who undergone toxic parenthood between ages 3- 8 which is the age when a human psychological structure is formed.
To break free you first need to accept your current situation,it's okay to be that way but you need to change.. set boundaries and always know you're only responsible on the way you express yourself but how others think of it, or react to it is none of business. You don't have to be perfect , just express your feelings it's very liberating , whatever it is, anger, love, dissatisfaction. People are attracted to those who express themselves genuinely not those who hold on to their feelings just to impress others.
Take a deep breathe when your mind start stressing then face your situation head on.
Constantly write down your thoughts and feelings it really helps into bringing out what is held in your heart and mind. I know this sounds like another self help Google shit , but that stuff works. I was also a nerdy and shy little kid but once I realized how toxic parenthood had damaged my psychological make up I started a detox by taking some of the above measures and I'm free now.
You're the most amazing being in the galaxy. You're unstoppable, only you who can stop you, you only have power over what is happening within you not what is happening around you, you can't control that.
This is what I need to hear from someone. This piece made my day. Thank you. I will work on this measure.
Wow, thank you
Omor U need to open your own TH-cam channel
I love this write up, you're thoughtful.
Thank you 😊
If you were once a shy person, you would understand what she's saying
Exactly
True
Exactly so!
True
Very true.
To me the solution to shyness is knowledge, when a person is well informed, shy cannot survive, it becomes very surmountable..
I totally agree with you
Very correct, knowledge is the solution to shyness. I overcame my shyness when I became well informed
Knowledge from where please... Books or what?
knowledge from similar experiences with people and books @@ifeanyipaul6762
You’re right
I was stuttering and hard of hearing and the worst thing shyness controlled my life, we started a soup kitchen on the side of the road feeding the hungry, l remember a lots kids were coming and thats how l started to be open with the kids , reading bible stories, in the midst of that God heals me of my stuttering and my ears started to hear properly, l gained confidence through just feeding the children, and today lm teaching some skills to women who are unemployed in our community l have also started businesses of selling used clothes and furniture , lm still feeding the kids in the local community also , the bondage has been broken through touching other people's people s lives
Do you have a community i will love to join
Wisdom of solomon 16:12 For neither herb nor poultice cured them,
but it was your word, O Lord, that heals all people.
Not all introverts are shy. People think I'm shy and timid until we have a conversation and they are shocked. I won't go out of my way to talk to you or give welcoming smiles but you'll definitely have a memorable conversation with me and meet a very interesting, chatty and well informed person beneath the quietness. If you have a lot to offer and you're a deep thinker you'll be okay with being quiet, it doesn't mean you're shy and if you give a lot of value when you speak you won't be eager to talk a lot.
You make a valid point but this video is strictly about shyness not introverts…there’s a clear difference.
You are absolutely right. Being shy is not totally bad in itself. Some personalities described above have low self esteem issues not particularly ‘shy’
@@busayoomisanya3798 inferiority complex
Is there any difference between being shy and having low self esteem? People that are shy have low self esteem
@@beatriceogidi176 That's not true. Some people don't just like the spotlight, we can't all be extroverts and it does not mean there's something wrong with you. If the spotlight comes 🤷🏻♀️ fine, learn how to handle it (that's my advice for introverts) you have to train yourself to be comfortable when such comes, it won't make sense running away when recognition for your good deeds come. And if does not you're totally fine too. If you're called to speak or lead don't run away either, that's where the training comes in. I'm also an introvert, if you call me to speak I'm fine, if you don't I'm fine too. And I don't like people are desperate to have the spotlight on them and talk too much (some will lie in the process of talking and just have many tricks up their sleeves) sometimes you just want to tell them to rest, not because you hate them but because you're tired of them being in your face and you want to see something different and fresh.
Winnie this is me you are talking about, I know you are talking about yourself but I see myself in the picture but am working Soo hard to be better person. Thank you so much it. Much love
This is all me miss Winnie 😢😢😢.
Please check my email .. will truly appreciate to hear from you
OMG JESUS!
Me too oo thank God am getting better now
Same here. I'm so happy that I'm part of the family
Same as me
For me. I am shy because I dont feel intelligent enough to contribute to whatever is been communicated so i just withdraw and allow every other person do the talking. Truth is i was a talkative while growing up.
😢
Wonder what changed
😢
Me too especially with English language 😢
Same here pls what can I do blc am tiring
I grew up a very shy, timid and unexpressive lady due to some of the reasons you stated.
It affected me badly and made me loose series of opportunities.
In addition to the reasons you mentioned, I was also not comfortable with my body as a female compared to others my age..
I have a very small stature which affected my body development in the right areas
I always feel shy and unsafe around other females most especially in a gathering.
The feeling of not been good enough and maybe ugly clouded me so much
I always feel like the odd one in the midst of others
I am still going through this but probably not as bad as it was while growing up
In all sincerity I was crying while listening to you and still crying because you're absolutely right about all you said
Listening to Winnie in this video, it felt like she was describing me 100%….. I need to add that your comment describes my experience 101%.
My struggle with timidity started in secondary when I became conscious that I had a very small stature and a disproportionate body. Now that I am in my 30s, I still can’t say I am over it😢.
I agree that the struggle with shyness and timidity is a lot different when it bothers around one’s body. I can’t even count the number of opportunities I have passed on because of the feeling of inadequacy ( a ripple effect of timidity).
I pray that God gives you complete victory over the feeling of not being good enough 🤗🙏
I was a shy type as a result of my poor family background, the type of clothes I wore made me feel inferior and shy.
I also have a small stature which made me hate my appearance, I would always wish to be like my friends because they look older than their age unlike me, I look far too younger than my age.
The day that poor mindset changed and I stopped wishing to be like my friends was the day I lost one of my friends😞 I so much adored and admired this girl to an extent that I wished I will be her. A few years after our secondary school education she died.
That fateful day I cried and asked God to forgive me for not being proud of whom he created me to be.
If God had exchanged us like I wished by now i won't be tying this because I would probably be six feet below 👇 Thank God he's God, I thank God for his mercy because I would have been dead and forgotten by now
I'm super grateful and I appreciate this life that I have, small or big stature, tall or short I no send....
I Thank God For The Gift Of Life, it's a precious gift that a lot are wishing to have but they are no more.
That was how I started appreciating this beautiful statue of mine, I no longer see it as small honestly....I now see it as the best... because no other person has it, it's unique to me and
From the depth of my heart, I Thank God For it
Most of the African countries do not have classroom presentations in the primary schools. This is one of the ways to kill shyness in its infancy.
Confidence is everything, I realized this and I am actively trying to bring myself out of it. I can say for free that Shyness has 0 benefit, no single gain of being shy. I have wasted so many years in this, it is well.
My friend, shyness is very disturbing but it has some good benefits, about 80 percent of shy people are intelligent and do well early in life
Hi Winnie❤
I can't express enough how much your School of Elegance has transformed my life. Your wisdom, guidance, and encouragement have not only boosted my confidence but have also inspired me to start my own TH-cam channel. Your content is a constant source of inspiration, and I find myself returning to your videos and emails daily for motivation and new ideas.
Your elegance and poise are truly remarkable, and I aspire to reach your level of excellence. To take my channel to the next level and produce high-quality content, I would be incredibly grateful for any advice or support you could offer, particularly in terms of equipment like a good camera. I am eager to create videos that reflect the same level of sophistication and professionalism that you exemplify.
Thank you for being such an amazing mentor and role model. Your impact on my life is immeasurable, and I look forward to continuing this journey with your invaluable guidance.
With deepest gratitude and admiration,
Bridgit.
@@bridgitkatele nice
Thank you so much for this insightful video Winnie... I look forward to a video from you on your journey as a content creator ❤
I feel imprisoned in my own body, I watch and admire people who are bold and confident. It’s really a painful thing to experience, it doesn’t matter where I am I just cannot exude confidence 😢
I wish God can really help me it’s an everyday struggle 💔💔
Get a teaching job. It will break your shyness
I was once so shy, still working on it
Don’t worry no one is better than you
Remember that❤️❤️
You are not alone they are millions of people like you understand this fact and it will ease your mind.
I recommend you say affirmations. For example, "I am so happy and grateful that I am bold and express myself very well"
It’s not easy to come out of it…I broke in tears when i realized i had missed so much in life
Hmm
It start by believing in your self,my mom and my brother made me shy no one listened to me my young age I became silent at age of ten till 25yrs I gave birth to my baby and I refuse her to be shy so I had to stand my ground for me and for her,think I couldn't do I did it for her now am shyness free
God didn't a mistake making other people shy and making others very agile, leave people just the way they are and besides most great people on this earth aren't people who are loud, extrovert or outgoing, they are shy and quiet ones
God doesn't make people shy.....the bible itself states that"....for he hasn't given us a spirit of fear or timidity"
@@bismarkabudey9066 That doesn't mean shy people will be shy in their spiritual life they are basically shy when relating to humans and besides being shy and quiet doesn't mean you're scared and fearful, that doesn't mean all shy people are scared of devil, there's a difference of how shy individuals approach people than their spiritual life infact the baddest and most successful people are Basically shy and quiet individuals and not loud 📢 people
@@bismarkabudey9066both shy and non-shy people can't use their personality when serving God, so you can't tell how a shy person serves God
@VictorJunior-bd3pi You're just every where. There's nothing good about being shy. Shyness and quietness are two different things and have different meanings.
@@bismarkabudey9066exactly
I broke down watching this. Everything you spoke about speaks to me. You are lucky to have figured this out earlier on in your life. I'm in my ealy 30's and I still have this shyness fully, it chokes me every second. I'm in a phase where I'm constantly working on unlocking myself but it is the hardest thing to do. I literary have no major friend, can't initiate friendship nor sustain them and I feel so socially awkward. I also realise that I attract men who are like me, currently dating one whose shyness is on a higher level than mine but I'm still holding on because it is even more difficult to get a 'hello' from anyone. This is hard and it's worst than a sickness. I don't wish this kind of upbringing on anyone. I'm so happy I came across your video today. Feels like therapy but undoing everything at this stage is tough.
I wish I can give you a hug right now 🫂🫂🫂
Yes. I’m so glad she made this video because this is what I’m currently battling with and somehow it helps me understand what is wrong I couldn’t understand I didn’t know what it’s called until this video it really enlightened me. My trauma has a great deal to do with it. Not childhood but still during my formative years, during adolescence 17-20yrs. I can’t get a friend or friends a that I really would like or be in a supportive circle, can’t get myself to speak or act quickly enough and just watch things or people pass me by I’m incredibly sad and depressed and just shut off completely I don’t even expect a hello from anyone I just keep it moving.
This is me completely 😢😢😢. I'm 30 and very shy
It amazes me many people are actually dealing with shyness a.k.a timidity. I used to be exactly as you have described yourself. Though I still battle with shyness bur most people don't know . I grew up with an abusive stepmother and she always rang it in my ears that I wasn't good enough so I grew up with thr notion that I wasn't worthy to be anyone's friend, worthy to have the best of things e.t c. How did I deconstruct? I will tell you. In 2012, someone gave a book called the rhapsody of realities and I learnt about the holyspirit. Guess what, I don't have confidence in myself till date 😅. I have confidence in the holyspirit that lives in me and that has led me to do amazing things that even my family members are in awe of. First I went from being average in class to being top 3 without even trying. First masters degree holder in my family(acquired abroad), most travelled. I can't name all. If you want to improve sis, you can learn to have intimate relationship with the holyspirit. You will amaze yourself like I did.
Really, it took me back to the days. I'm breaking free already. Thanks Winnie.
The moment you said"I watched opportunities pass by me", I realized that I'm the one you are talking to
Same here
Thank you so much Ms Winnie this video is my entire life am a 16 yr old and very shy and timid cant wait to here the tips to break free crom it permanently i have been struggling with this since i knew myself ❤❤❤
It’s time to break free Dear. You can and you will do it.
Dont miss next week’s episode okay.
I love you and I am rooting for you!❤️
@@winniesschoolofelegance thank you so much this means a lot to me ❤️☺️
My mum used to tell me ‘behave yourself you don’t know who’s watching and would start talking’ that really made me to be so self conscious especially in public like I should be at my best behavior at all times
I totally can relate with this…but you can break free if you think this is doing you more harm than good.
It’s great to be well mannered but it’s also very okay to express yourself at your most authentic self.
I totally can relate with this…but you can break free if you think this is doing you more harm than good.
It’s great to be well mannered but it’s also very okay to express yourself at your most authentic self.
Please ma
What's the curse recommended for it
I am over 50 years now and still timid and shy person I want to come out of it. Very happy to watch this vidoe today. I wnt to be able to talk to people due to my work now.
Actually, I thought it is the DEVIL behind this shyness of a thing. Even some long-time speakers confess that they feel nervous at the beginning of their speech. Yoruba would say, `Inability to speak out or being vocal is the begining of life's failure`. People that are eloquent are always liked by people and they walk majestically like a king or queen. A lot of people speak eloquently and elegantly but ONLY IN THEIR MIND. Everything boils down to Embodiment as Winnie has rightly said. We must embody a brave, eloquent, a genius and a great orator we had always wanted to be and it is a matter of time, you will undoubtedly become it. Live in the end. Speak in front of a mirror like a pro. Read books to fill your brain library so as to pick the right material at the right time of expressing yourself. Watch videos and listen to the eloquent people like Winnie sharing their stories on how they broke out from the shackles of muteness into the glorious world of self-expressiveness. I bet you will soon share your own story too as your story might be the master key that unlocks some other people's bondages...
You only see the negative aspects of your overly protective parent. Don't forget that this can help protect you from s3x predators.
I’m actually experiencing every thing she experienced, still trying to see how I can come out.
I was scolded for talking a lot. As the last child, my elder siblings will always scold me for engaging in their conversations whenever they’re talking. They’ll tell me that my mates are not there so I shouldn’t get involved. This has really dealt with my communication and social life.
Yeah this is so me,I am so shy about everything.I was being scolded by my mum and Aty was always scolding for invovoling in conservation.
Yeah, exactly what happened to me, people will be telling my Mom this chat girl is too lousy and all. At the end, I was bottled up. Up till now I'm still struggling. Always alone, can't express myself, and it hurts a lot.
This is me oooo… last child of 8kids…and i know for sure it has affected me negatively in my life. I was naturally born a “gbaza queen” … however i hv grown into a shadow of someone else. I look at my second daughter… how active, bright and very sociable she is. I look at her and can tell this is a mirror of me. However, i hv become something else
As a child, It is rude to engage when adults are having a conversation.. Children ought to be trained and corrected by their elders to ensure proper upbringing.. but the elders should correct tactfully.. When I was a child my elder siblings and cousins talked a lot around me, I listened and learned without adding my voice to the conversation because they weren't talking to me.. While it is good to encourage children to be expressive it is also more important to equip them with good morals.. Children these days are morally bankrupt and engage in all sorts of vices because their parents, in ignorance and laziness, have failed to give them proper upbringing
Story of my life
It's my university period that hurt me the most, shy , timid but you cant intimidate me always because I'm sturbon, the difference is how i react without composure.
My last academic activity in school my project defense, i practiced and prayed a million time and after i succeeded, even lecturers were surprised cos they said they dont know i cant talk, i got A in my project defence.
They said that because of the way i was in class, they didn't atleast that i know something at all.
Same here same story ...all my presentations in school and even during Nysc were great.. that was how realized myself
I thought I was the only one who thought at a point in time that my parents weren't my real parents, the way they chastise in public eh and also several times you have to apologize to your elder ones just because they're older even though you're right with what you said.....to the point you will literally felt like your opinion is not needed on any matter just because you're the last born and the rest are way older.
This is me
There is something funny about people with these traits, they perform excellently when they want to. They don’t rush for the mic and they don’t rush to be noticed but when they decide to shine, they shine brightly. Choose your battles right.
Yu were not shy you were just scared to take the step people mistake fear for shyness their not same
Being raised by a strict dad ,trust me,I never went through any strain of stress till when I was in the university . I mean ,I've lived most of my childhood in boarding schools ,since when I was seven till 17 when I'd completed my highschool .So all this while ,I never had an instance when my decision making or willpower was strengthened ,I mean ,I'd gotten conditioned to the school timetable such that when I joined university , anxiety became my bestfriend , soon I would be labelled as shy .Men ,I just don't know what to do nor get involved in anything that I can't predict of it's aftermaths .I'm scared of learning other lessons on my own ,I've preferred learning it from the risk takers and if you ask me ,I'm not sure if I'm ready to break from this shell of "self"
This is me. I teared up upon hearing…” watch opportunities pass me by” only God knows how many I missed.
😢
You not alone dear.
That's why we need the spirit of God to embolden us
How I started my own shyness was in elementary school when a handsome boy who was the senior picked on us in random to sing so I saw some students feeling shy and I was picked and copied around seven years old 😅😊
Shyness is real bad
I'm dealing with it and I'll surely overcome it
Indeed it's also shrinks self esteem 😢
This is so me. At my age I'm still shy and very much introverted. Always keep to my self and like my own space but because I'm into business I'm feeling the negative side of being shy because I'm not able to put myself out there and mingle. It could be a disadvantage at it's best. I really need to break free and be social. Waiting for part 2. I really enjoy your videos. Very inspiring and educational. Thanks once again Winnie
Watching this video is like my own life played right in my face. This video made me cry tears. It feels like my own life's documentary. Yeah, I am a man and introvert. Many people find me "awkward" and do things to me and get away with it and I won't say or do anything. My work life has become a burden on my life. Having to go to work everyday has become a a serious burden and draining my life. But I am working on rebuilding myself and break away from this social trap. It is possible
Yes, dear it is very possible. Just keep working on yourself ❤
Yes, it is certainly possible
My dad beat me a lot because I was really stubborn now I have my own child I beat him over any small tin but I really wan d best for my son , more of d time I dt like way my mom shut my son up anytime he talks 😢 , Tanx for dis video I pray I change so quickly
You have to do everything within your power to break the cycle. You can try to gradually reduce being harsh. When he annoys you, try to address the particular thing he did wrong through COMMUNICATION. You may fall back to your previous attitude but determine to stop. Think of what's at stake (you're destroying someone you love). Ask yourself if what your son just did wrong is more powerful than your love for him.
I wish you the best.
I think the solution is . Checking your need for validation. Have confidence in your self first stop waiting for people to compliment you because it attracts fake people. If you check your need for validation you will be able to filter out potential bad friends or spouse. Secondly stop laughing at yourself because the subconscious part of your brain doesn't know you are joking. Sometimes we hide our fear and anxiety in jokes whenever we are alone or talking to our friends. Consciously talk about your self in a good way. Don't talk down on yourself. Lastly forget regret take the lessons and move on. When's you realize something you think you should have realized a long time don't beat yourself up just take the right steps and better your life.
This is so relatable. From being raised by overly strict dad, to having hormonal acne and all, I think I went from an extremely bold little girl to an easily intimidated adult.
My problem is I talk alot when am comfortable with someone but can’t speak in public and very shy to answer questions in class, and some of my lecturers now sees me as a failure 😞
For real strict parenting actually affects a child's confidence you begin to lack abilities to socialize and creat bonds with your mates and become so conscious of yourself
Yeah I can relate
Things am facing right now
It's very hard for me to make friends
Perfectly said
My children will never suffer , with shyness .I will fight for their wellness.Our guardians could embarrass us back then
Hmm😢
I had zero social exposure as a child. This has affected me badly
Same here
Same here and I'm really trying so hard to break free. I need more guidelines
Parents need to encourage their children who are shy. I do that with my daughter. She is shy too & now trying out school activities & keeps getting beta. Thanks for this. ❤❤
Very good
You re correct. I’m making my children not become me and it’s paying off. Mine is also mixed with a high dose of low self esteem 😢
"not all introverts are shy,it's their nature...
That nature is not of God, it’s of the devil!!!! The lord has not given us a timid spirit but that of Power, Love and Joy❤
Exactly 💯
Winnie may just be an introvert, not actually shy
@@invertedbeautifultimid there means fear/shy, not being an introvert. Except you're referring to someone who's both an introvert and exhibits shyness
@@IsiomaNzemekenope, what I experienced wasn’t anything related to being an introvert… it was full blown shyness!
Cos I am naturally a very expressive and open person and I am also very big on interacting with people.
I wasn’t talking about introverts in this video…
What I experienced wasn’t anything related to being an introvert… it was full blown shyness!
Cos I am naturally a very expressive, open person and I am also very big on interacting with people.
What is the definition of a shy person ???
Not being able to face others into there eyes 😔 always trying to hind your self from any conversations
I hope I change after watching this video 😭This everything about me😭😭
Same here😢
Our parents were never available mentally yet controlled us so much😢 we were beaten regularly and neighbors thought she was a step mom😢
I had the very same experience with my dad
Sorry you had to go through that. I trust you are healed from the trauma now. All the best.
I can relate to what u saying i hated my mother
Exactly what happened to me also since I was a kid and I'm still struggling with it till now
Whenever my mates are playing I'll be locked inside by my mom and if I find a way to go out without her knowledge I will be beaten so bad in front of the crowd 😭
I wish that I didn't exist at all 😭
Were you serious when you made your thumbnail? Often times people sometimes say I am shy because I don't want to talk, some say quite but I don't know if any think I am timid however, I usually laugh inside me because I know I enjoy being calm and talking a lot drains my energy. I talk when I feel I have something meaningful to say and I know I am a very confident person although I also don't talk too much.
Shyness and being quiet are two very different things! You can’t say a word about this topic because you have NEVER experienced REAL shyness.
Infact, you are talking to me here. Thanks so much for sharing this fact .
My absolute pleasure Dear!❤
Thank u ma 🙏 I really can't wait for the video
I used to be a very shy person, to an extend that I was afraid of people, I am fighting it greatly
You have to take it to God in prayer and repent for allowing the spirit of fear to consume you. War with words!!!! Use the word of God and fast if you need to. Shyness is a spirit an evil one and definitely not from God❤
I resonate with this, I can't look at people in the eyes. I still battle that till date
Me too..can't believe I can be scared of people
They will really take advantage of u
@@okemercy7795I am really fighting it
You are part of me.I can talk and talk.
I just realized I acquired mine in boarding school...God helping me, no child of mine will be a boarding student until SS3.
Your child can go to boarding from Jss one Pat. All you do is to build self confidence in that child from home. I used to think like that before until I joined a parenting academy.
It is what you build in your child that the child will go out to display.
At the age of 28 I am still a shy person 😢 I am trying to break free from it years now, but nothing seems to be working.
I literally have no friend and cannot initiate any friendship nor even sustain them and I am always socially withdrawn 😔
You are a chosen person. Chosen people don't mingle much
Yeah that's a challenge but nevertheless you can create the friend you need regardless of the time you found them okay, just go and get a friend let him/her know that you want to be friends... Learn more on how to keep friends too
Become successful and you will see that you don't need friends rather it's friends that needs you 😂 you are not shy you just introvert or the alpha male
@@scribemanjustice2028 Shut up , you are sound stupid
This is the exact thing happing to me right now thank God i come across this video
Exactly Ma'am! This is me. I'm still working on it. My parents especially dad so strict. It made me dislike him till he passed on when i was a teenager. 🤦
Hmmmmmm
My Mentor,you have done it again
You just entered into my room and told me everything i do 😢
Can't wait for the next video
Have been calling myself gentle girl not knowing it's shyness ,still struggling with it 😢
Awareness is the start of a new era
Even beyond 35yrs
@@SueChef100 Shut up dawg
I'm really waiting for how you broke free from shyness.
One thing about I've noticed about been shy is that it literally make me belief every other person is better than me and even when i want to intentionally develop myself this thought that i will still stammer when i come to the public kills the vibe.
Please, we are waiting for the next video.
I was very shy as a child teenager and even in my young adulthood, I had to change that when I realise how much I was missing out on .
How did you do it? I am really struggling
I have phobia for crowd and I have been praying to God to help me fight it because that is one thing I hate about me can’t talk smoothly in public can’t express my self ,Winnie thank you for this video and I am patiently waiting for the next one on how u were able to fight it
You're basically an introvert
@@VictorJunior-bd3pi naaah am not
But if u can explain why u said I am introvert I might be wrong all this while thinking I am an extrovert
@@VictorJunior-bd3pi certainly not an introvert
@@VictorJunior-bd3pi but if u can give me reason why u said so I might be wrong all this while to think I am an extrovert
You're so helpful Winnie 🤗🙏
This lady spoke a lot about me saying it was her....
I pray I overcome it
I am an introvert, people hardly talk to me and felt excluded and withdrawn from their presence. One thing that kept me going is saying positive things to myself and not being concerned about what other people say about me. I had a really strict over protective parent who doesn't like me visiting friends, going out ,staying indoors etc like that. Glory be to God for praying and asking him for boldness to speak infront of crowd without fridgeting at all ,i am actually happy staying out of my comfort zone and moving to a place i will be known and recognised.
Nice video sos, however Jesus Christ loves you, he is the way, truth and life, Jesus Christ is coming again, pls give your life to him 🙏😊
Thank you ❤❤❤
My absolute pleasure!!❤
This is all about me ma'am
I have tried to work on myself but still battling with it
You will overcome this in Jesus name.
Dont miss next week’s episode okay. It will give you some insight on how to tackle it.
In the meantime, start affirming to yourself “I am a very confident and bold woman, and I have the ability to express myself confidently and boldly.”
Thanks so ma'am love you
Am a 20 year old university student who has been struggling with breaking shyness but i have failed. Am shy to an extent that I even cry during presentations not because I am not intelligent but because of shyness.
U have to do this on television it will help more parents
My parents are over protective on me so I Don't go out to socialised with people but am grateful for your words. Thank you
Thank you winie am almost 47 still shy, timid, and afraid. I dnt bilive it when a promise made meby people, even By God.,,,,,,
I am sorry for what happened to you but the thing that happening to you is the same thing happening to me today so I was surprised to see u thanks by the way
I agree with you 100% for me when I was a growing kid I never played with my fellow young children my dad keeps us at home for a very long time with Jesus Christ everything is possible thanks
You're right ma'am. If you study the erik erikson psychosocial theory of development, every stage of development needs to fully go through the individual to avoid regression. And the social life of the individual is included, I'm talking about the first point and if this stage passes, it could lead to inferiority complex on the individual but it can be broken, just a matter of effort
That's me for sure, my mum didn't allow me go anywhere, and now I'm so shy Infront of the people, but I'm learning how to be free from it😂😂I love you and your work🇰🇪🇰🇪
Well done Dear!❤
Oh my God..! We are definitely alike. I’m very shy. I have a very over protective parents 😢
Madame money is confident. If you have money you can't be shy
That is actually not logical, to become rich you need to network, to network you need to break free from shyness and engage more people to get helpers. A person who makes money has already built some sort of connection and definitely did not do it shy.
That is why the video is titled shy people won't make it far. It is not the smartest person in the room that gets the opportunity but many times the one that knows how to present what they have as valuable
@@vashninjaka2587 And you think shy people don't have connections? Lol... what kind of post is this that has no statistics. No critique. Nothing. Just a youtube video stating something and everybody jumps on it?
Shy people are not quiet people. I think your english vocabulary is faulty. You are clearly referring to quiet people.
To be shy at times when in certain circumstances is different from being a shy person.
This isn't even about work even relationships are affected, being shy shows up in EVERYTHING they do. So they continue to miss out on the best things because they can't be fully present.
This is false
To overcome shyness, join Toastmasters in your community or join a group in a church that gives you space to speak to the congregation. Initially, one may struggle a bit but with continued effort, the shyness will evaporate.
I love all your outfits also, Ms. Winnie!❤️✨️🌹
Thank you!❤
What's your definition of 'Shy'?
May God bless your efforts of putting this video's altogether.
Always waiting for the Sunday upload. Much love from Sokoto ❤
Amen! 🙏🏽 I love you!❤❤
My social life is zero right from beginning it is one of my worst problem right now , I don't even have friends both online and off line, what can i do help a brother 🙏
First to like and comment 😂
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This topic is talking about me, thanks
Not every shy person fails in life, it depends on who keeps putting them down. Joel Osteen is shy but preaches. Joseph Prince was extremely a shy teenager & youth but overcame it by trying.
That's because they're no longer shy
@@rehobothajayii Joel is still shy. He says it too. He just tries to be brave. Watch him begin a message
@@nancylakot8139 Alright, I don't notice that tho.
Get the point, no matter how rich, famous or 'successful' a shy person is, they could be more if they weren't shy.
We should be able to differentiate being shy from being an introvert - they are two different attributes. They have almost the same expression but different mindsets / control.
The first and second was mine 😢…..my father was over protective,very very strict…..relocate to an undeveloped area bcos of me, No friends,no child of my age to play with 😭Stop me from going to school, bcos he thinks his baby girl might turn out bad 🥺…..My teen years! I spent it under my father. No school, No party, Nothing nothing 🥺
Just sleeping nd waking up ☺️Been daddy’s girl.
He released me when I was 20yrs
Scared to get close to people, scared to talk outside, a lot of people thinks I’m proud 🥲 but little did they knows, I was raised up lonely, Just Me😊
How about a person who cannot live in the present😢
You have every right to live😢
The past isn't you
Live in the present and love like you have never lived before
I will make a video about this okay…
@@winniesschoolofelegance okay ma
@@ahamefulemmasinachi1469 its literally very difficult
This is exactly me even up till now and I blame my Dad for it
Everything u mentioned as the causes were exactly what my dad subjected me to
He is so over protective and wouldn't let us speak our minds in his presence and again, he supports an outsider anytime we have issues
Sometimes, i have something very important and popping in my mind to say but i will never let it out because of the fear of my Dad
I can't even stand in front of my own father to say anything or defend myself. I feel shy before my dad up till date😢
Pls what can i do 💔
First to comment
Thank you so much for the enlightenment
It’s my absolute pleasure!❤
Messi is quite a shy human while he is one of the most recognizable faces on earth 💀
I am not shy
Am just really selective and intentional about the kind of people i welcome into my life...
This is so me..38yr old Lawyer, yet so shy and timid. I dont know when i became like this but i wasnt always like this. Started about 6yrs ago
I can relate, please can you share more? I'm also in my 30's and still struggling with it...I was even considering taking a course in law/advocacy, I'm really surprised you're still struggling with it.
Really. So how do you represent your clients in court?
I'm not a shy person but i disagree big time, it depends on the field,not all feilds require one to be craxy online or outspoken to make it.
Lots of Nerds into tech.are shy people,they are use to keeping to themselves and majority of their time is in work making millions on tech. Their are writters who keep to rhem selves.
Being shy isn't cool but plss don't generalize that every shy person CAN'T MAKE it in life.
I agree 👍🏾
I really relate to this; my parents used to rebuke me or give the 'look' or even pinch me at the moment for every little thing i did that didn't align to them so i became very conscious of everything i did from the time i was young, same thing when i was younger my mum told me i was very talkative.
Same. For me, it was a so called friend. During my adolescence to young adult give me the look pinch me for any little thing that she doesn’t agree with and trust me it was ridiculous
Im still in the process of overcoming shyness, but i can say as i grow older, i got knowledge, i started loving myself and abilities, i got closer to God and its working for me😊
Thank you the most elegant queen...... I'm here for another stage ❤ thank you so much for the educative topic 😊😊
It’s my absolute pleasure!❤
God 😢 this is my struggle… shyness has made me so much reserved and the must painful part is watching other people interacting but you just always so scared of sharing your thoughts despite having a lot to contribute 😢
OMG I see so much of myself in you especially when you talked about how expressive you were when you were a child but grew up to be timid same here with me
shyness is never about speaking or intelligent, you just about getting out of your head, and act the act