I've practiced personal detachment with my husband. When I used to show emotions he had me control. Now I just don't react , don't call him, don't text him. I spend his money. His money is my first love. I've gotten a breast augmentation, lip fillers, botox and now getting my crowns dentures. He used to come late now he comes home early and I'm not home. Ladies hit him hard spend his money that way he dont have to spend on the other ones😁
Your own husband is using his own money to change how you naturally look?? So you become even more attractive to other men so he doesn't have you at all, just making you look more attractive to who woman or men???
Same here, narcissistic parents and sister. Stop giving a f. No reaction to these parasites. One or 2 words responds. I stopped eating dinner with them by saying. I'LL eat later.. no eye contact either.
@@carolina-kw5hx those type of ppl WANT that REACTION of you, want you to get angry, sad, etc so they can feed they ego bc of how miserable they are they want u to be miserable, so if u don't react and simply walk away youre gonna starve their ego and your energy is not gonna be drained
My parents married young and were married for 52 years and even though my Mom was married she did things like SheRa does as far as she would get busy and go shopping or read a book or do crafts and it seamed like the less attention she paid to my Dad the more he wanted her attention. Men are like kids. I wish I had been more like that in my own marriage. I wish I had not become emotional over stuff he was doing and wish I had done more like I did one time which was go to a party my hair stylist invited me to at her salon and I went without my husband and made him watch our daughter. I wish I had done that more often and make him wonder who I talked to while I was there. I can't believe I was so stupid and would become jealous of him, he should have been jealous of me, I was the international fashion model and yet he had me worried about what he was doing and all upset. He was more like SheRa with his emotions towards me.
LOGIC OVER EMOTIONS. UNDERSTANDING OVER CONFLICT. Keep a book every time you get upset you write on one side logical thinking and you write on the other side emotional thinking and you've simply follow the logic side and ignore the emotional side do this every time before you react.
Guys you can also use that notes app on your iPhone. I have paragraphs of me popping off on my family members, co workers, and exes. It helped calm me down and later on when I’m bored and want to read my notes, I laugh at how angry I was at the time. 😂
Thank you Shera for your platform. I hope the younger generation of women will take heed. To you young ladies: never let ANY man try to guilt trip you about your standards. That’s his way of saying you’re out of his league, but he wants that to be your problem. Keep your foot directly on these men’s necks.
Completely agree. Been there done that. And women are no different. If you’ve got female “friends” trying to shame you or force you to devalue yourself or accept unacceptable men, FIND YOURSELF SOME NEW FRIENDS!
This is GOLD...my life completely changed when I started detaching and not reacting...Ignore them too!!! Men loose their minds when you ignore them...act like you don't care...just live your life and think about what his ass gonna buy you for getting on your nerves or doing something stupid. Another thing I LEARNED is to stop expecting my partner to be perfect. Men are as faithful as their options and they lie and usually don't want to hang with you without it benefiting them in some way ie Sex, food, appearances...so...I stay calm cool take notes and collect tax...I have never ended a relationship and walked away with nothing...😉
I ignored a couple them and they start calling me "hoe", "cunt", "bitch, don't be a bitch"....and yet you see real thots running around and nooooobody says anything to them....?
@JamericanDC1 love yourself first. Don't please anyone, be selfish, they like that and be honest to stay close to yourself. Don't argue, think about your other daddy or things lol
Ladies no amount of money or lifestyle should make you sacrifice ur dignity.... Verbal abuse,/ physical.... You can find a man with money and who will treat you right...
Abuse can cause you ur life.. The things ppl do for money.. Oan..u dont know all men.... Money doesnt equal abuse.. Makes me wonder what type of fathers did you guys have growing up??.. Let's start there.
So true. This guy I was seeing was always doing me wrong and every time I confronted him about it he was so calm and looking at me like I had five heads . He controlled me cause I couldn’t get a reaction out of him . I felt like I was going crazy .
@@leyland2725 becuz you go crazy trying to find ways for him to show he cares. ... He is winning because your giving him all the power... Now your insecure... And totally focused on him..THATS WHAT HE WANTS!!!
Girl I’m saying 🤦🏾♀️ like pay these dusties the dust they deserve and keep it moving. They can’t get female attention by being decent so they’ll bait you for it. Gotta be smarter than that.
My ex husband was that way. He would pick arguments constantly and he wouldn’t stop until I was sobbing. It’s like he HAD to draw blood. Some of these “men” are Demons.
Watching you Shera at 3 in the morning with tears streaming. 37 years old with 2 kids, 1 deceased and it feels like I am just growing up. 1:08:10 You said a WORD!! To level up and succeed at our goals, we as women have to give up the best part of ourselves!! "Give up being honest, being caring, being loving, being giving". It hurts so much!! You're right and I feel like I've always known the Truth but instead tried to be Noble. Fuck having principles. Literally nobody cares... I understand this now from watching your channel continuously for weeks. THANK YOU for sharing your wisdom Shera!! For my own sanity, happiness, growth and fulfilment, I will become the epitome of SELFISH!!!
1. Talk about your emotions - if not to the person they caused that, talk to someone else "I hate when people....I dislike the type of people that..." focusing on your dislikes 2. When they did something bad. when you supposed to be emotionally, get something out of that situation - cuz they supposed to be in trouble but now they only have to do this/ buy you this , they will agree - when they turning up late, ask for things too, they won't be late after that plus you'll be getting gifts 3. When you surrender to a person that you're helpless, that you value them, that you've given up so much so much for them (faking it) - they will feel obligated to give you what you want - pretend you have a huge event you should've gone to but you here on a date with them “I really want to see you" - ' wow she gave up something that is so important to her just to see little old me ' - when someone make you super happy, only show about 30% happiness but still show happiness (leaves room for improvement) - then you up it when they up the gifts and things they do 4. when you stop caring, when you stop reacting and START PLOTTING--> is when you get the most in return - they also start to act better - you control them, you control yourself *If that person has interest in you, it's gonna work, if they don't have interest in you, it ain't gonna work, so you leave and go to the next target 5. Stop being competitive that's for the men to do 6. ACT HELPLESS HELPLESS - so they feel obligated to you - or not they will view you as competition and a man - you need feminine energy to get what you want 7. How to handle verbal disrespect - Act VERY VERY hurt - get your acting skills on - they say something bad about you --> act and start to cry - right then that gon get em - obligationnnnnnnn - but if you fighting back, you feeding them energy to throw back at you, just start crying --> use your feminine charm someone calls you a gold digger --> say nothing (it's a compliment to me ) not caring is a mindset, you choose where you put your energy I gotta put me first there is no room for emotions in business or the workplace it is business 8. Get people approach you - feminine color - easy to approach - leveled up - a lot of factors 39:00 9. Water signs emotional when they're young - when these water signs (me) controlled their emotions, it's OVER - we become underemotional 10. When you angry - get quiet - create master evil plan to execute to get something I want get them to not doing again - it's a chess game - we don't get mad, we get a plan - get primitive reacting mode happen, get the creator of your life - GET SOMETHING OUT OF THE SITUATION 11. Female friends - if you got A LOT IN COMMON, close to the same page --> great friends 12. If people triggerring you - its about keeping yourself unborhtered - oh youre right ill think about it and then keep doing what you were doing and being unbothered by whatever they saying - mirror their behaviour to let them know how it feels - DONT BE EMOTIONAL - don't let people know your triggers it's like letting them know your passwords - if they dk your triggers, they can't get to you SURRENDER SURRENDER , ACT HOPELESS, ACT LIKE YOU GAVE UP A LOTTT
SouthernGirl Divine Spirits and Divination, letting social media influence you and letting spirit influence you is kinda the same thing as AI or deities, as humans we can be channels and that’s just what it is. We can transfer to different spaces and different bodies and make our exits someday onto the next.
Lex The GODDESS same here, but the last two times he expected me to go off, I didn’t and pretended he didn’t exist and he randomly told me that he wants to do something nice for me 🤷🏾♀️ men are their weird ways
Honestly, controlling emotions has been an advice that made my life so much easier. I used to be very impulsive and it wasn't easy to stop overreacting re EVERYTHING. it's a whole new level now though 😎
Ana K I do that all the time! If I think someone is coming at me, I get really aggressive and go into defense mode. I have to work on that. How did you do it?!
@@leelee8720 That's how I used to be as well, even tiny things would raise my blood pressure lol! I read Marcus Aurelius and got into stoicism. It basically tells you that you can't control other people actions and emotions and their reaction or behavior towards you has nothing to do with YOU and nobody has power to influence your emotions, only you are in charge of your own feelings. This also helped me build even stronger boundaries and now nothing really influences my mood, I'm also much calmer in conflicts. It took a lot of work though!
@@leelee8720 I basically tried to engrave this dailystoic.com/stoic-response-anger/ in my mind and started thinking about this way: there's nothing people can tell or do to me that would make me angry because I choose to stay calm and in my zone.
When you are a single mom, you have to play a masculine role, but being humble and accept we need men to help us with money, is a great revelation that it's okay to need help, it's okay to let the man protect us, it's okay to be only femenine, and not allow them to expect that we do everything
Miss Kay Girl....tell it! He's upset that we're learning their game.....or cluelessness. Some men just don't get any of this. They are not trying to play you... They are just trying to get their needs met as best they can.... So, like this gentleman....they harass you. Weak!
@@mcruz7500 how???? If God made Adam first he commanded him to name all the animals and til the field until he reaped....he got lonely and God felt for him to create a woman to keep him company.....so where is God going to burn us for this wise idea???
Why couldn’t you have been my mother 😫😫😫I’ve learned so much from you...and it works my dude was out all last night so I didn’t bother him or call him today had him calling me like why haven’t you called me wyd, got him tryna chase me and figure out my where-abouts.....oh yea and I had him pay my phn bill lol where young and only been together six months, thanks for all yo advice ma.
Highly emotional people can be fun if they are generally positive and interesting. NOTHING sucks worse than highly emotional, poorly regulated people in the workplace. It sucks energy away from actual problem solving and building team spirit. I have worked with some truly emotionally STUPID people who thought I was “mean” by remaining calm and detached while they exploded. They had no clue how insignificant they were.
thank you! not my proudest moment reacting like that but when someone lies, gaslights and invalidates what you say, its hard to keep quiet for too long.@@KurosakiLuvar01
Yep and most people, men and women have such limited control over their emotions/ reactions so you definitely have the upper hand when you control your own.
U are so right.. I experienced this today w the guy I’m talking to. I didn’t react - he asked me out on a date (but stood me up). I reacted to that & he started doing this dr. Phil “don’t be miserable“ schpeel. And went on to “hope” for my forgiveness.. I decided to ignore him... now he’s begging to come over... but I think I’m done w the mind games.
I just don't give a f** anymore, I'm neither disappointed nor surprised by men's behavior anymore... I used to be very emotional and shi now i just leave the conversation I don't let their words control my mood I'd say yeah you're right and end the discussion or just leave it on seen . I choose to protect my peace and energy over anyone
Ladies sometimes your hormones are out of balance especially as you age and taking birth control. That's why we get super emotional. Need to figure out diets, weight gain, meds, lack of sleep hats causing the imbalance. Suzanne Somers have great books on fixing hormones.😀😀
@@alanpapashow1926 yuuuup and these men make us either eat like a fat kid loves cake, smoke like a chimney, shop until the whole house makes it to the hoarding tv shows, drink like a fish, do a whole lotta magic spells, pop poisons....etc. 😂😂😂
I appreciate you being honest about how you used to fly off the handle. That's me right now. I get soooo..mad that it scares people at times. Sometimes I scare myself. I have a huge heart, and when people take advantage I lose it. So glad you are discussing this topic.
Shera your advice comes handy every day! I do not let people trigger me and get what they want. Instead I trick them back and beat them at their misconduct! Well they started it.
Love your advice Shera, I’m a Scorpio and finally realizing my goddess power and ability to flow through life detached and getting what I want ! It just manifests out of the blue and feels so effortless
Therapy! You can’t control others when you can’t control yourself. It’s boundaries, logic, and healing yourself. Thinking rationally and logically and listening to understand will protect you always. Seek a qualified therapist, don’t turn a partner into a therapist-they can use this against you later on.
You're right about all if this. I used to do whatever people wanted- family, friends, and my ex. And even after doing all that, everyone still disrespected me and talked horribly about me. Not one person ever mentioned any nice things I did for them.It was unreal. I had to smarten up and start getting what I want from people. I am not dating yet but my social connections are a lot better and people treat me better. I don't care anymore about people and am way less emotional. I was almost arrested from over reacting to a dusty. Exactly.
She's right about talking to older men. I don't talk like a lot of my peers (i.e..slang, etc) and that was one of the first things an older guy I was dating complimented me on, then one day we were texting and I responded to something he said with the symbol for smiling emoji :) and he texted back "what's that" 😂
I needed this. Over the past few years I’ve had ppl tell me I act as if I am unbothered by the things ppl do. Lol...well this means I have been on the right path. I choose not to let anyone get the best of me.!
Make a business arrangement. That is basically what a relationship is. You don't use manipulation to practice business. You are professional and do what is best for the business. Let go of people, who are liabilities.
It takes practice to control your emotions. I say to myself never let them see you sweat. I told the guy I’m dating as soon as I want to tell you the what’s up I will be gone. He’s a grown man I’m a fool to think I can change him. If he don’t know how to act I disappear. He comes back acting right. I also vent to close friends and I get over it quick
Asheras voice is so soothing. Makeup always on point. I have had so much more control of my emotions since I've been watching. i wish i found her sooner.
Everything starts "IN THE MIND" big ol ass FACTS you said there Lady! Forget arguing, take the other route Do not get mad And stay thinking this way PeriodT! Yes I spelled it correctly ✌🏽
I think you need wayyyyyy more recognition and even an award you dont understand how much you have helped me, more than my friends or family put together. I have had problems in controlling my emotions i have a moon in pisces and this video has changed my whole game thank you Queen
I did exactly what you are talking about on my own before I watched this! I generalized the dislike of behavior and directed it as a group of people when I texted this narcissist back and blocked him. And this other guy I started hanging out with started being passive aggressive and mixed signals saying insulting insensitive things. I ignored it and acted like I didn't notice! I am using him for what I want then throwing him away because he leaves me confused and doesn't care how I feel and he's a narcissist. Yep they ALL LIE!!! SheraSeven is BRILLIANT! 🙌
OMG I should have listen to this in my mothers womb lool In all seriousness, i honestly believe i am more in control of my emotions now and understand i have to really think about financial goals than trying to be right ALL THE TIME. Learnt it the hard way, but worth learning. Thank you for always doing these videos :)
TAKING NOTES AS WE SPEAK. This is ALL about reclaiming your power as a woman in this game of love. Thank you Ashera. There's so many videos telling MEN how to handle women that's blunt and forward and finally we have the version like that for us women. 🙏
Thank you for schooling me .. I’m 25 Pisces Female with Aries rising. My biggest challenge is my emotions I over react quickly & fucked up a lot of good things in my life. But I usually bounce back quick. But I really needed this advice to make my life smoother. This is life advice that my mom never taught me. 🙏🏼 thanks again for jewels 💎
Ive watched you grow for the past 4 years and you have really been flourishing and inspiring others by setting the role model example. Good job👿🕵️♂️😎👿👹
Talking about our emotions to the people that try to step on our toes can be divulging our prescious energy ,so to add to what you say,if we got to get out pent up emotions, having a mentor can be helpful for some,because talking to narcissists about how they make people feel is detrimental,it will only feed their ego with narc supply. I was watching this vid in a middle of a minor argument with spouse and i appreciated the reminder to not get triggered and the disagreement never went any further and "the fight " never happened.😈🖕👿🤔💓
Shera I’m so thankful for finding your YT. It really puts things into perspective. I’m a college student who’s dabbling into entrepreneurship. I assumed that I would have to sacrifice romantic relationships because I want to provide better for myself & wasn’t too sure if a man could compete with that. Thank you ❤️
Thank you Star goddess,I usually say that what you focus on affects your reality be it physical, emotion or financially just to mention afew, my mom always say "where your focus goes, so does your energy too n you attract. Its all mental'' be the director of the situation to control your emotions..maybe in extreme exemptions. Much love ASG
Shera you are right AGAIN. Thank you for just confirming that i was playing the game right years ago. I had him right in the palm of my hands but let it go because i just got tired of the game. I am ready now thanks to your videos. ❤
Man I wish I would have watched this when I was with my ex 😂😂😂 and ur so right btw about the asking for things, just get guilty and panic so they do stuff for u lol
This guy I knew had recently got back in touch with me. My nieve self was like aww he miss me, but my intuition kicked in and telling me something ain't right, come to find out this dusty wanted a loan from me, I told him off because it started out with flirting I was thinking it was cute. When he start talking about money, I was like you can miss me with that sheeit.
Thankh you beautiful for the tip on using emotions to manifest things I want and desire instead of just getting angry and wasting it responding to bs that might otherwise agitate me. Love this crown you're rocking too!!!! Good vibes from BERMUDA 🇧🇲....
This is great advice for the work place too...a lot of personalities and egos flying around...when you ask what can I benefit from this conversation and if you come up with zero then conversation is over document (no emotions in report) and report to HR....HR is useless but you may get rich because documentation holds up in the courts...
I've practiced personal detachment with my husband. When I used to show emotions he had me control. Now I just don't react , don't call him, don't text him. I spend his money. His money is my first love. I've gotten a breast augmentation, lip fillers, botox and now getting my crowns dentures. He used to come late now he comes home early and I'm not home. Ladies hit him hard spend his money that way he dont have to spend on the other ones😁
Wish he could read this...youd be kicked to the curb in a heartbeat.
you serve well angel😘😂
WoW Your marriage is soo doomed it's not even funny smh.
Good on you. Marriage is primarily about security anyway.
Your own husband is using his own money to change how you naturally look?? So you become even more attractive to other men so he doesn't have you at all, just making you look more attractive to who woman or men???
Notice how SheRa thinks before she answers 👑
so few women do this.
Yes, I do this often. Even when I text
@@SagRising19 same!! Im very calculated!!😈😈
Right !!!
I detached from my emotions at age 14 when i noticed how my dad enjoys arguing with me. That skill has served me so well with men.
how did you do it
Same here, narcissistic parents and sister. Stop giving a f. No reaction to these parasites. One or 2 words responds. I stopped eating dinner with them by saying. I'LL eat later.. no eye contact either.
@@carolina-kw5hx those type of ppl WANT that REACTION of you, want you to get angry, sad, etc so they can feed they ego bc of how miserable they are they want u to be miserable, so if u don't react and simply walk away youre gonna starve their ego and your energy is not gonna be drained
PLEASEE share how. I am 17, this would really benefit me❤
Omggg yes
My mom was so oblivious and never taught me any of this stuff. Thank you for your service to women. 💁🏻
I am 20 and teaching my mum
I feel you
My parents married young and were married for 52 years and even though my Mom was married she did things like SheRa does as far as she would get busy and go shopping or read a book or do crafts and it seamed like the less attention she paid to my Dad the more he wanted her attention. Men are like kids. I wish I had been more like that in my own marriage. I wish I had not become emotional over stuff he was doing and wish I had done more like I did one time which was go to a party my hair stylist invited me to at her salon and I went without my husband and made him watch our daughter. I wish I had done that more often and make him wonder who I talked to while I was there. I can't believe I was so stupid and would become jealous of him, he should have been jealous of me, I was the international fashion model and yet he had me worried about what he was doing and all upset. He was more like SheRa with his emotions towards me.
I KNOW my mother didn't either!!! @Veri Gabs
Beautiful comment!! 😊❤@Cool Chicka Vlogs
LOGIC OVER EMOTIONS.
UNDERSTANDING OVER CONFLICT.
Keep a book every time you get upset you write on one side logical thinking and you write on the other side emotional thinking and you've simply follow the logic side and ignore the emotional side do this every time before you react.
Good advice, thanks
That's a good tip.😊
Guys you can also use that notes app on your iPhone. I have paragraphs of me popping off on my family members, co workers, and exes. It helped calm me down and later on when I’m bored and want to read my notes, I laugh at how angry I was at the time. 😂
I’m going to try this thank you 😊
greatt ideaaaa
Thank you Shera for your platform. I hope the younger generation of women will take heed. To you young ladies: never let ANY man try to guilt trip you about your standards. That’s his way of saying you’re out of his league, but he wants that to be your problem. Keep your foot directly on these men’s necks.
74lovebird74 💯💯💯
Absolutely
PERIOD
Completely agree. Been there done that. And women are no different. If you’ve got female “friends” trying to shame you or force you to devalue yourself or accept unacceptable men, FIND YOURSELF SOME NEW FRIENDS!
It's not standards. It's the need of money. Cuz you have non.
Journaling is another good way to handle your emotions. Has worked wonders in my life.
Same. Audio journaling has saved me from a lot of useless rants at people 😂
@@tyd8077audio journaling, interesting
@@tyd8077I’m gonna try this period
Yes!! that's what i do too
@@tyd8077omg what app do you do this on x
You don't get mad. You get money.
Your anger is too expensive!!!
@@mstwelvedeadlycyns Absolutely!
Amen.
@@mstwelvedeadlycyns Double Amen!!!!!
@@ZahSoZen Lol
This is GOLD...my life completely changed when I started detaching and not reacting...Ignore them too!!! Men loose their minds when you ignore them...act like you don't care...just live your life and think about what his ass gonna buy you for getting on your nerves or doing something stupid. Another thing I LEARNED is to stop expecting my partner to be perfect. Men are as faithful as their options and they lie and usually don't want to hang with you without it benefiting them in some way ie Sex, food, appearances...so...I stay calm cool take notes and collect tax...I have never ended a relationship and walked away with nothing...😉
I ignored a couple them and they start calling me "hoe", "cunt", "bitch, don't be a bitch"....and yet you see real thots running around and nooooobody says anything to them....?
YEPPPP their end goal is always the S** so our end goal will always be $
@@CactusBBVegas yoh can't get money with out the sex! Nice try but that's not the case
@@umsiee yes you cannnn😉
@@CactusBBVegas lol maybe ur right.
Ladies, dont forget that your goal doesn’t have to be money, it can also be turning him into your slave. Just make sure that you have a goal tho.
Yesss!
I'm nolonger slave to my emotions..
Everyone, read this out loud. Right now.
Snickers yaaas girl! Amen!
@JamericanDC1 love yourself first. Don't please anyone, be selfish, they like that and be honest to stay close to yourself. Don't argue, think about your other daddy or things lol
Amen sister
Amen 🙏🏽
Ladies no amount of money or lifestyle should make you sacrifice ur dignity.... Verbal abuse,/ physical.... You can find a man with money and who will treat you right...
They all treat us bad
Yes you can!
Abuse can cause you ur life.. The things ppl do for money.. Oan..u dont know all men.... Money doesnt equal abuse.. Makes me wonder what type of fathers did you guys have growing up??.. Let's start there.
Yup this is true
Exactly what I was thinking
When I'm about to get emotional and over invest myself into someone, I go straight to her videos and it literally works wonders on my time & energy
Me too
SAME GIRL
Same 😅😅😅
So true. This guy I was seeing was always doing me wrong and every time I confronted him about it he was so calm and looking at me like I had five heads . He controlled me cause I couldn’t get a reaction out of him . I felt like I was going crazy .
Oh thats Lauren So true I have a husband just like that, it’s awful, yes I am a Piscine
Trying to take this advice.
Sending you prayers and love 💕
Same way my boyfriend is.
His so calm, non response and makes me look crazy
I no longer react.
So he controlled you because you couldn't provoke him???? How does that work???
@@leyland2725 becuz you go crazy trying to find ways for him to show he cares. ... He is winning because your giving him all the power... Now your insecure... And totally focused on him..THATS WHAT HE WANTS!!!
Bella Bella mirror your bf actions
The irony of people arguing in the comments with dusties under a video about not being triggered and emotional.
#mood Some people can’t recognize when they are being provoked
How cool would it be if the dusties were completely ignored!
#mood 😂😂😂
Girl I’m saying 🤦🏾♀️ like pay these dusties the dust they deserve and keep it moving. They can’t get female attention by being decent so they’ll bait you for it. Gotta be smarter than that.
Exactly. They not there yet
My ex never cared if I cried he always seen it as an opportunity to manipulate me. If fact I believe he liked it
That's why she said fake cry. Master your emotions, don't really be sad
Well "F"HIM
LIVE YOUR LIFE.
They love when you are crying. They feel like you truly love them so fake cry.
Same!
My ex husband was that way. He would pick arguments constantly and he wouldn’t stop until I was sobbing. It’s like he HAD to draw blood. Some of these “men” are
Demons.
Watching you Shera at 3 in the morning with tears streaming. 37 years old with 2 kids, 1 deceased and it feels like I am just growing up. 1:08:10 You said a WORD!! To level up and succeed at our goals, we as women have to give up the best part of ourselves!! "Give up being honest, being caring, being loving, being giving". It hurts so much!! You're right and I feel like I've always known the Truth but instead tried to be Noble. Fuck having principles. Literally nobody cares... I understand this now from watching your channel continuously for weeks. THANK YOU for sharing your wisdom Shera!! For my own sanity, happiness, growth and fulfilment, I will become the epitome of SELFISH!!!
Good luck to you love
I hope you get the best in life. I am rooting for you.
1 year later, I’m still rooting for you!
Get it girl ❤ give the world to yourself, you deserve it babes!
1. Talk about your emotions
- if not to the person they caused that, talk to someone else "I hate when people....I dislike the type of people that..." focusing on your dislikes
2. When they did something bad. when you supposed to be emotionally, get something out of that situation
- cuz they supposed to be in trouble but now they only have to do this/ buy you this , they will agree
- when they turning up late, ask for things too, they won't be late after that plus you'll be getting gifts
3. When you surrender to a person that you're helpless, that you value them, that you've given up so much so much for them (faking it)
- they will feel obligated to give you what you want
- pretend you have a huge event you should've gone to but you here on a date with them “I really want to see you"
- ' wow she gave up something that is so important to her just to see little old me '
- when someone make you super happy, only show about 30% happiness but still show happiness (leaves room for improvement)
- then you up it when they up the gifts and things they do
4. when you stop caring, when you stop reacting and START PLOTTING--> is when you get the most in return
- they also start to act better
- you control them, you control yourself
*If that person has interest in you, it's gonna work, if they don't have interest in you, it ain't gonna work, so you leave and go to the next target
5. Stop being competitive that's for the men to do
6. ACT HELPLESS HELPLESS
- so they feel obligated to you
- or not they will view you as competition and a man
- you need feminine energy to get what you want
7. How to handle verbal disrespect
- Act VERY VERY hurt
- get your acting skills on
- they say something bad about you --> act and start to cry
- right then that gon get em
- obligationnnnnnnn
- but if you fighting back, you feeding them energy to throw back at you, just start crying --> use your feminine charm
someone calls you a gold digger --> say nothing (it's a compliment to me )
not caring is a mindset, you choose where you put your energy
I gotta put me first
there is no room for emotions in business or the workplace it is business
8. Get people approach you
- feminine color
- easy to approach
- leveled up
- a lot of factors
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9. Water signs emotional when they're young
- when these water signs (me) controlled their emotions, it's OVER
- we become underemotional
10. When you angry
- get quiet
- create master evil plan to execute to get something I want get them to not doing again
- it's a chess game
- we don't get mad, we get a plan
- get primitive reacting mode happen, get the creator of your life
- GET SOMETHING OUT OF THE SITUATION
11. Female friends
- if you got A LOT IN COMMON, close to the same page --> great friends
12. If people triggerring you
- its about keeping yourself unborhtered
- oh youre right ill think about it and then keep doing what you were doing and being unbothered by whatever they saying
- mirror their behaviour to let them know how it feels
- DONT BE EMOTIONAL
- don't let people know your triggers it's like letting them know your passwords
- if they dk your triggers, they can't get to you
SURRENDER SURRENDER , ACT HOPELESS, ACT LIKE YOU GAVE UP A LOTTT
Thank you for writing these tips down
Thank you blessings to you 💸😊
Thank you for these tips and for mentioning water signs, I'm a Cancer here♋ and still working towards mastering mine completely ✨💅🏼
Thank you!
Thank you for the summary..
That's it! I'm lying through my teeth from now on 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Maybe you should watch this th-cam.com/video/70VVYfCZZPU/w-d-xo.html before you decide to engage in a lifestyle of pleasing the devil.
@@AI-ch3if the devil is 👉🏾👉🏾A I
SouthernGirl Divine Spirits and Divination, letting social media influence you and letting spirit influence you is kinda the same thing as AI or deities, as humans we can be channels and that’s just what it is. We can transfer to different spaces and different bodies and make our exits someday onto the next.
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I need this because I tend to pop off first and ask questions later🤦🏾♀️
Lex The GODDESS same here, but the last two times he expected me to go off, I didn’t and pretended he didn’t exist and he randomly told me that he wants to do something nice for me 🤷🏾♀️ men are their weird ways
Veronica Rena Noted.. and yes, they are VERYYYYYYY weird lol
@@rosesarered2285 SAME!
Me😭😭😭😂 I’m trying to learn though
Honestly, controlling emotions has been an advice that made my life so much easier. I used to be very impulsive and it wasn't easy to stop overreacting re EVERYTHING. it's a whole new level now though 😎
Ana K I do that all the time! If I think someone is coming at me, I get really aggressive and go into defense mode. I have to work on that. How did you do it?!
@@leelee8720 That's how I used to be as well, even tiny things would raise my blood pressure lol! I read Marcus Aurelius and got into stoicism. It basically tells you that you can't control other people actions and emotions and their reaction or behavior towards you has nothing to do with YOU and nobody has power to influence your emotions, only you are in charge of your own feelings. This also helped me build even stronger boundaries and now nothing really influences my mood, I'm also much calmer in conflicts. It took a lot of work though!
@@leelee8720 I basically tried to engrave this dailystoic.com/stoic-response-anger/ in my mind and started thinking about this way: there's nothing people can tell or do to me that would make me angry because I choose to stay calm and in my zone.
Ana K that’s awesome! I’m going to look into stoicism. Thank you 😊
When you are a single mom, you have to play a masculine role, but being humble and accept we need men to help us with money, is a great revelation that it's okay to need help, it's okay to let the man protect us, it's okay to be only femenine, and not allow them to expect that we do everything
Emotions have no place in business and at work. BOOM!!! Life changing sprinkle indeed!!!
It’s pretty inspiring to watch you upgrade while learning from you!
You look so much more beautiful than you older videos, you were pretty help, but so much more now. Motivation for us
Let's get out there and be hoes ladies! Ass goes to the highest bidder! Yayyy...such an inspiration to all the ladies here!
Let's give up some ass for free! YAY!! Let men be the only ones who benefit. Yes ladies!
@@misskay6831 it is free. Or else it's called prostitution. Which is illegal.
Miss Kay Girl....tell it! He's upset that we're learning their game.....or cluelessness. Some men just don't get any of this. They are not trying to play you... They are just trying to get their needs met as best they can.... So, like this gentleman....they harass you. Weak!
"Fake a panic attack and he won't try that stuff no more." That is awesome hahaha
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😂😂 right, 📝 .
"That's the punishment " ❤ it! Get him where it hurts... his wallet💸💳👌
God is gonna hit you where it hurts.. Burning for eternity
@@mcruz7500 how???? If God made Adam first he commanded him to name all the animals and til the field until he reaped....he got lonely and God felt for him to create a woman to keep him company.....so where is God going to burn us for this wise idea???
Using men is wrong..
God said all users go to hell
You sound like you're using crack so I'll see u there
@@mcruz7500 no he didn't smh. The men with money wants to be used. 😉 'no money no honey'
Why couldn’t you have been my mother 😫😫😫I’ve learned so much from you...and it works my dude was out all last night so I didn’t bother him or call him today had him calling me like why haven’t you called me wyd, got him tryna chase me and figure out my where-abouts.....oh yea and I had him pay my phn bill lol where young and only been together six months, thanks for all yo advice ma.
🤣🤣🤣 atta girl
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Highly emotional people can be fun if they are generally positive and interesting. NOTHING sucks worse than highly emotional, poorly regulated people in the workplace. It sucks energy away from actual problem solving and building team spirit. I have worked with some truly emotionally STUPID people who thought I was “mean” by remaining calm and detached while they exploded. They had no clue how insignificant they were.
A Masion im a student but this can also be applied to school with highly emotional teachers! 🙄 The worst!
Nothing but the truth!
Perfect word "insignificant"!!! @A Masion
Usually when someone blows up like that it’s because they were provoked to that point. Usually by a narcissist.
thank you! not my proudest moment reacting like that but when someone lies, gaslights and invalidates what you say, its hard to keep quiet for too long.@@KurosakiLuvar01
Some of this sounds like The cure for being the Target or victim of a narcissistic person. Or, solution for dealing with a narcissistic person.
Exactly!
Yep and most people, men and women have such limited control over their emotions/ reactions so you definitely have the upper hand when you control your own.
Stop caring the best advice in my life 😎😎😎😎
U are so right.. I experienced this today w the guy I’m talking to. I didn’t react - he asked me out on a date (but stood me up). I reacted to that & he started doing this dr. Phil “don’t be miserable“ schpeel. And went on to “hope” for my forgiveness.. I decided to ignore him... now he’s begging to come over... but I think I’m done w the mind games.
Stoicism works. There’s books on it for those who need it.
Vanessa genius! Thank you 😊
Vanessa thank you
Yes I've been leaning more towards that it's a game changer.
I needs some good reads especially on this subject. Could someone name a few?
I will like to get such book
I just don't give a f** anymore, I'm neither disappointed nor surprised by men's behavior anymore... I used to be very emotional and shi now i just leave the conversation I don't let their words control my mood I'd say yeah you're right and end the discussion or just leave it on seen . I choose to protect my peace and energy over anyone
Amen
Ladies sometimes your hormones are out of balance especially as you age and taking birth control. That's why we get super emotional. Need to figure out diets, weight gain, meds, lack of sleep hats causing the imbalance. Suzanne Somers have great books on fixing hormones.😀😀
So true!
You're right. Especially if your thyroid is low. You'll be more irritable and sensitive
Diet is everything!
Having a baby shuts you down.
Yep… the struggle is real
Every time a video pops up I say “Oooop my Fairy God Mother is speaking to me.”
I need to hear this again and again whenever a man made me feel emotional and stupid.
This is made me mysterious and that “there’s just something about her” woman to my boyfriend
Ayyye girlfriend!!!👏🏽
He probably thinking your bipolar.
@@alanpapashow1926 😂😂😂😂
@@alanpapashow1926 yuuuup and these men make us either eat like a fat kid loves cake, smoke like a chimney, shop until the whole house makes it to the hoarding tv shows, drink like a fish, do a whole lotta magic spells, pop poisons....etc. 😂😂😂
When you stop caring and reacting, you get the most!!! Words to live by 🙂
I appreciate you being honest about how you used to fly off the handle. That's me right now. I get soooo..mad that it scares people at times. Sometimes I scare myself. I have a huge heart, and when people take advantage I lose it. So glad you are discussing this topic.
Girls, when isn't Shera on her game?
lol I see your comments on here all the time and every time I’m like “I really like her look” ! You should make luxurious or beauty videos!
Shera your advice comes handy every day! I do not let people trigger me and get what they want. Instead I trick them back and beat them at their misconduct! Well they started it.
Perfect Wisdom 🙌🏾💯💕
I was so emotional this afternoon and this snapped me out of it.
This is a TRUE GODDESS IN FLESH AND BLOOD!
Love your advice Shera, I’m a Scorpio and finally realizing my goddess power and ability to flow through life detached and getting what I want ! It just manifests out of the blue and feels so effortless
I aspire to this
You go girl!
Shera is a master mind!
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Therapy!
You can’t control others when you can’t control yourself.
It’s boundaries, logic, and healing yourself.
Thinking rationally and logically and listening to understand will protect you always. Seek a qualified therapist, don’t turn a partner into a therapist-they can use this against you later on.
You're right about all if this. I used to do whatever people wanted- family, friends, and my ex. And even after doing all that, everyone still disrespected me and talked horribly about me. Not one person ever mentioned any nice things I did for them.It was unreal. I had to smarten up and start getting what I want from people. I am not dating yet but my social connections are a lot better and people treat me better. I don't care anymore about people and am way less emotional.
I was almost arrested from over reacting to a dusty. Exactly.
I can relate 💯
She's right about talking to older men. I don't talk like a lot of my peers (i.e..slang, etc) and that was one of the first things an older guy I was dating complimented me on, then one day we were texting and I responded to something he said with the symbol for smiling emoji :) and he texted back "what's that" 😂
Loll
I needed this. Over the past few years I’ve had ppl tell me I act as if I am unbothered by the things ppl do. Lol...well this means I have been on the right path. I choose not to let anyone get the best of me.!
Make a business arrangement. That is basically what a relationship is. You don't use manipulation to practice business. You are professional and do what is best for the business. Let go of people, who are liabilities.
It takes practice to control your emotions. I say to myself never let them see you sweat. I told the guy I’m dating as soon as I want to tell you the what’s up I will be gone. He’s a grown man I’m a fool to think I can change him. If he don’t know how to act I disappear. He comes back acting right. I also vent to close friends and I get over it quick
Ms. Shera is aging BACKWARDS honey! 😍
Beautiful, wise lady🌹 I think I will run marathon through your videos 😅
You are a Guru. You are a wealth of knowledge.
Asheras voice is so soothing. Makeup always on point. I have had so much more control of my emotions since I've been watching. i wish i found her sooner.
Right!
Extremely valuable advice. This is the beginning of any true ascent for all.
I have been called "childish" for be offended/ crying when I was disrespected.
Marilyn Monroe was called childish and guys loved taking care of her
Me too
Google Account 😆😂😂
*fake* cry
@@MysticalMoonBaby80 that’s why
*fake* cry not really cry 😭 lmao
“I can’t breathe ... Call my mom”
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Empress Esthetics you’re so pretty
Valerie Lynx you’re sweet! Thank you 😍
2:35 anger is a double trick as you think less of you more of them! It also ages and is more intense and activates your flight or fight nervous system
Everything starts "IN THE MIND"
big ol ass FACTS you said there Lady!
Forget arguing, take the other route
Do not get mad
And stay thinking this way
PeriodT!
Yes I spelled it correctly ✌🏽
This really works, timing is EVERYTHING!
I think you need wayyyyyy more recognition and even an award you dont understand how much you have helped me, more than my friends or family put together. I have had problems in controlling my emotions i have a moon in pisces and this video has changed my whole game thank you Queen
This is so true, no one cares about my emotions more than me
I did exactly what you are talking about on my own before I watched this! I generalized the dislike of behavior and directed it as a group of people when I texted this narcissist back and blocked him.
And this other guy I started hanging out with started being passive aggressive and mixed signals saying insulting insensitive things. I ignored it and acted like I didn't notice! I am using him for what I want then throwing him away because he leaves me confused and doesn't care how I feel and he's a narcissist.
Yep they ALL LIE!!!
SheraSeven is BRILLIANT! 🙌
OMG I should have listen to this in my mothers womb lool In all seriousness, i honestly believe i am more in control of my emotions now and understand i have to really think about financial goals than trying to be right ALL THE TIME. Learnt it the hard way, but worth learning. Thank you for always doing these videos :)
TAKING NOTES AS WE SPEAK.
This is ALL about reclaiming your power as a woman in this game of love.
Thank you Ashera. There's so many videos telling MEN how to handle women that's blunt and forward and finally we have the version like that for us women. 🙏
I really needed to hear this. Been giving out my energy to useless people. No moooorrreeeee
Thank you for schooling me .. I’m 25 Pisces Female with Aries rising. My biggest challenge is my emotions I over react quickly & fucked up a lot of good things in my life. But I usually bounce back quick. But I really needed this advice to make my life smoother. This is life advice that my mom never taught me. 🙏🏼 thanks again for jewels 💎
you look so pretty :( whenever i feel emotional over a man i come and watch your videos, they really help me
I LOVE YOU SHERA! IAM LEARNING SO MUCH! DAAAAMN!😂😂😂😂🍷🍷🍷🍷👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿❤❤❤👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Keep emotions out. Only use Femininity and logic😊):.. use absence and presence.. temporarily detach when you need to... complete 🔕 silence..
The fake cry got me rolling 😂😂😂
Perioddddd this woman is a genius
Ive watched you grow for the past 4 years and you have really been flourishing and inspiring others by setting the role model example. Good job👿🕵️♂️😎👿👹
Talking about our emotions to the people that try to step on our toes can be divulging our prescious energy ,so to add to what you say,if we got to get out pent up emotions, having a mentor can be helpful for some,because talking to narcissists about how they make people feel is detrimental,it will only feed their ego with narc supply. I was watching this vid in a middle of a minor argument with spouse and i appreciated the reminder to not get triggered and the disagreement never went any further and "the fight " never happened.😈🖕👿🤔💓
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Shera I’m so thankful for finding your YT. It really puts things into perspective. I’m a college student who’s dabbling into entrepreneurship. I assumed that I would have to sacrifice romantic relationships because I want to provide better for myself & wasn’t too sure if a man could compete with that. Thank you ❤️
You get more beautiful every day! Teach us your level up ways pls!!!!’ I love when you do topics on emotions
Fake a heart attack?! 🤣 Damn, I love this woman! Howwww do you come up with this stuff!
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Thank you Star goddess,I usually say that what you focus on affects your reality be it physical, emotion or financially just to mention afew, my mom always say "where your focus goes, so does your energy too n you attract. Its all mental'' be the director of the situation to control your emotions..maybe in extreme exemptions. Much love ASG
I’ve been listening to you for three days & figured soooo much out already . I look at my time now as money & my energy is expensive .
If a ugly man can to turn into a beautiful woman, there’s hope ❤️
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@@mstwelvedeadlycyns 1:10:57
This is gold especially being a Pisces
Shera you are right AGAIN. Thank you for just confirming that i was playing the game right years ago. I had him right in the palm of my hands but let it go because i just got tired of the game. I am ready now thanks to your videos. ❤
I will suggest people to play chess. It makes you more inteligent and get you brain use to think strategically
Yes SheRa preach. Love it. Strategies is the key.
Man I wish I would have watched this when I was with my ex 😂😂😂 and ur so right btw about the asking for things, just get guilty and panic so they do stuff for u lol
I am so glad I found your channel
My goddess has spoken. You’re brilliant boo ❤️💯
I’m A PISCES. I AM EMOTIONS.
So is Shera...
This guy I knew had recently got back in touch with me. My nieve self was like aww he miss me, but my intuition kicked in and telling me something ain't right, come to find out this dusty wanted a loan from me, I told him off because it started out with flirting I was thinking it was cute. When he start talking about money, I was like you can miss me with that sheeit.
The nerve of him!
@venecia B lmao 😂😂
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Thankh you beautiful for the tip on using emotions to manifest things I want and desire instead of just getting angry and wasting it responding to bs that might otherwise agitate me. Love this crown you're rocking too!!!! Good vibes from BERMUDA 🇧🇲....
You're so manipulative lmao. I love it 🤣🤧🙌💜
This is the greatest advice I've ever heard!!! 😍
I need to watch this on repeat. You're the best
Thank you Goddess, may your god bless you.
We truly appreciate all that you do.
This is great advice for the work place too...a lot of personalities and egos flying around...when you ask what can I benefit from this conversation and if you come up with zero then conversation is over document (no emotions in report) and report to HR....HR is useless but you may get rich because documentation holds up in the courts...
I don’t want to control others. Sometimes you have to let go
I needed to listen to this video as a Pisces I overreact a lot and take everything person
This is so right. Watch another of your videos about emotions. I put the tips into practice and they worked almost instantly.
Sheera you are pure wisdom and treasure ! I love you ! 💕