Corporate Coffee Futures - Being obese (or even overweight) puts you at health risks and can kill you. Being fine being obese and wanting the world to accept you as such because you don't want to change is accepting all the illnesses, disorders, etc. that come with obesity. Considering that most obese people know the risks of their conditions, accepting it can be considered as self-harm, or at least deliberately putting yourself in harm's way. I'm right on the line between overweight and obese, and I can assure you, I don't want the world to accept me as such. If I were to want one thing from the world, that would be to support me in my journey to a healthy body and weight.
Jess the Egg sometimes it's better to accept people than to change, constantly telling someone that their weight is wrong can lead to another problem like an eating disorder. I started to starve myself because of it, the weight was dropping but I was just becoming unhappy & depressed. People say being obese causes depression but I wasn't depressed until people came at me for being happy
I think some people are misinterpreting her point. She’s not saying she’s not trying to lose weight, she’s saying that she’s tired of everyone only caring about her weight and only seeing her weight
Abby Miles literally nobody cares about her weight, the only reason why everyone here is calling her fat is because she is literally making it a big deal out of it. And instead of choosing to better herself as a human being she chooses to blame society for her laziness and refusal to work out. It is foolish to expect or think people should change for you, so instead of trying to change everyone else she should change herself because it is quite clear that she is in fact the problem not everyone else.
Well it depends on the person is its just some stranger who she doesn't know then yes she can be "tired" or is it a close friend or family member who doesn't want to wake up one morning to get a call that she had a heart attack at the age of 42.
“I am deserving of care. I am deserving to exist as I do. I am deserving of first no harm done. And the world says that is the best joke we’ve heard all day.”
Veronica Siravo in her case, I’d say for her to go and lose that extra person worth of weight. Weight loss contributes to a positive body image that reaffirms itself and helps with depression. Also helps with health and immunities because overall BMI is one of the factors that contribute to the immune system. Oh and just genuinely if a person takes to airplane seats then It’s pretty obvious past that point to lose the damn weight.
Khurelbat Bayanbat Sometimes, it’s not that fucking easy to lose fucking weight. Leave her alone. There are diseases, illnesses and medicines out there that cause weight gain and in some people’s situations, they’d rather live larger and happier and ALIVE.....than unhealthy, skinny and DEAD. I agree that anyone struggling should try to lose weight...of course! Try to be the healthiest you can...but if you’re faced with conditions etc etc it’s nobody’s god damn business. (I’m not saying she has a condition, I don’t know what she faces. All I know is that 1. It’s not my business 2. She’s beautiful and 3. I clicked on this video for her art!!!). So take your ignorant ass somewhere else because you should never just assume people can lose weight!
Lizzie peskir who the fuck said I didn’t assume she had something like that, bruh get it treated. There help for almost anything out there. There’s good doctors and therapist even in the 3rd world country that I live in that help take care of this stuff. Hell my family had a walking whale and she’s looking like just your average woman today because of that. If she has one then I’d recommend getting psychiatric help along with dieting. Cuz that shit worked for me when I looked like I ate a cow everyday. Also just stay away from sugary food. In America it’s almost impossible to stay away from sugary food I imagine since I lived there for about a year and I gained about 20 kg by the time I went back home and fuck me everything had a sugary aftertaste.
@@khurelbatbayanbat7913 hi, fat girl here who knows she's gorgeous and has a good body image, most of the time. I also don't get sick often. My immune system is great. Go fuck yourself with this whole thing about it helps with your body image and immune system. Cool. Awesome. Nobody fucking asked. You missed the whole point of this poem. And it's really sad that you did because it has a beautiful message.
Wow. I gained weight during my SA trial and ive hated myself every day since. On the days when im too depressed to run or work out to make myself physically smaller, i try to do it in other ways. Get quieter. Shrink into silence. This poem speaks to me in ways i cant express. Thank you. Thank you.
She actually does owe us thinness. The government thinks so too, while it continues to crack her in the head with obscene medical bills and “fat taxes” on planes.
Also if you are a certain weight they will not do the weight loss surgery, the doctors want my mum to get to 60kg and I told her she should aim for 90kg cause she has a bulkier build. But the only way she can loose weight is walking and dieting
I am actually depressed about my weight.. but I am changing that because just because I accept my current size that dosnt mean I love the way I am.. so I will continue to improve ( aka lose weight) so I can be my best self!
That's awesome! This the correct attitude to have. Eat less and work out hard and do it everyday like brushing your teeth. It's not easy or everyone would do it. But it will pay off down the road. Don't give up!
Spot on. A few months ago, I was at about 220lbs, with a bmi of 31. (Obese) It's pretty easy to overeat, I've found. Just because your stomach has more room doesn't mean you should eat more. It's about the mental game. You've got to get your focus redirected from eating to whatever else you need or want to do, so you won't eat as much (like I said, it's easy to eat too much). I've started to be more careful about how much I eat and what I eat. Also, getting more exercise. I'm down to about 187 now! Although, I'd like to exercise more regularly. BTW, yes, I'm a guy. I do have some stretch marks. And I too have had pretty bad depression in the past, but it's better now. However, now that I am less chubby and have done some physical activity, my muscles show more and I'm more confident! X3 Another thing I've found that is interesting, is that you don't get relief _just_ from loosing weight, but from the fact that, in doing so, you gain better self control and self-respect. P.S. Also, if you closely watch your weight, don't fret if you vary by a pound or two from day to day. Clothes, and the last time you've gone to the bathroom (1 _and_ 2) can make a difference of a few pounds. I weigh myself w/clothes off, when I go to take a shower, so it's more accurate/repeatable. I also have somewhat long hair, so I weigh myself _before_ getting in the shower, since my hair is much heavier when wet.
Just take it easy. you can continue to eat a lot. Eat carrots for snacks. I usually do that and it's awesome to keep the hunger away. Have a breakfast of fish/meat (I prefer fish tho, salmon about 200g) and 2 eggs. Proteins makes you feel full. Just stick to it. Feeling hungry after dinner? Carrots. Just eat a bunch of them. They're sweet but not rich in calories. Also i find broccoli and peas (a bit unhealthy) to be excellent instead of potatoes, pasta and rice. Just remember.. Eat a lot. As much as you want, of the right stuff. You won't be hungy and have these urges once you eat 150g of broccoli. you just won't feel hunrgy. the battle is always in the moment you feel hunger and want to get a big mac with extra everything. Just take 2 carrots instead. After you'll not feel a need for it.
You can be your best self today too! Your best self is making choices today that are good for your body because your body deserves that no matter what it looks like! I'm saying this as a formerly obese woman myself. I think strength training and yoga were especially important for me because I gained functionality long before I reached a maintenance weight, which made me enjoy the experience of living in my body for the first time.
1:11 I know how it feels to be told that. My own mother just told me I’m only depressed because I’m overweight. I’ve never related so much to a slam poem.
Tyler Durden that...has nothing to do with depression. Objectively, not being taken seriously when depressed is actually one of the worst things I can imagine when it comes to mental health, and if I were in that position, sans weight- if someone just wasn’t taking me seriously- I think I might’ve killed myself.
@Tyler Durden That sounds great, but it seems like you haven't had the experience that this woman and many others have had. It may be easy for you to get up and "just do it" but, surprisingly, it's really hard to control yourself to do something like work out and get away from the computer/pantry. The mind is great at making yourself do something that's entertaining in the short term but harmful in the long term.
Exercise can help with depression. The doctor tells everybody, despite their seize, to exercise, because it's good for the body and can help you relax. It can be a good thing if the doctor won't give you anti-depressants right away, because they are very heavy medicaments. Of course sometimes there's no other way, but it's good to state other ways to help with the depression.
Dude being told the my bladder issues and acid reflux problem are because I’m fat 20 minutes after I told the doctor I was in treatment for an eating disorder was awful. My gallbladder needs removed and I have a hernia. Gallbladder Needed removed for 4 years but doctors keep telling me i just needed to loose weight. They only started taking me seriously when I started throwing up blood.
I mean now during quarantine it’s harder to lose weight cause not much stuff is open and everyone is staying inside (and yes I am kinda fat but just because someone is fat doesn’t mean they hate their selfs cause I accept that I’m over weight :)
I feel that. Some people will never understand that it’s hard to work out or etc when you mind is busy with all the different ways your hurting. 🖤you’re not alone.
y’all are INSANE. what she’s saying is that whether she’s trying to lose weight or not, she is deserving of basic human respect because she is a HUMAN FUCKING BEING.
I wasn't aware respect meant for a layperson going in to see a doctor that they get to then tell the doctor they don't know what they're talking about and demand they alter their medical opinion to one that the layperson wanted to hear. If she is going to brush off the medical opinion of doctor after doctor, she should save herself some money and stop going. It's not their fault she refuses to accept that this level of obesity is accompanied by myriad physical ailments, first of all, and second the obesity can mask an alternate underlying cause which I guess she wants them to just guess which one it is and throw some likely dangerous (if not needed) prescription or procedure at her and hope for the best. She's nuts.
I was a fat girl for 30 years until all of the medical conditions started piling up and I knew my future had regular MRI scans in it. I worked on myself, for myself. I didn't do it for anyone else. I've been on a weight loss journey for 3 1/2 years now and I'm still learning, still loosing weight and gaining life. I felt like you when I was a fat girl who felt judged and unable to be helped. I exercise for my own benefit, not for society, not to look cute in dresses. Whether you stay big or change, you live with the consequences of those decisions, just like all of the other consequences to everything else we do and choose in life. But yes, doctors will always see the fat first. We walk our own paths in life and I wish you the best. xx
Thank you for sharing your positive message. I too was a fat person for all of my life and I too am on the same journey of fat loss and muscle gain and it is a tough journey but I feel so much better about myself too. I understand the frustrations of being obese but as you mentioned there comes a time where we have to look in the mirror and take responsibility for ourselves. A lot of these fat acceptance people are still young and simply have not had the life experience and haven't been faced with the pitfalls of not taking responsibility for themselves yet. True body acceptance comes when we actually take responsibility for what we put into our bodies, not when we pretend we are fat because a magic fat fairy made us this way. There is nothing wrong with loving ourselves, what is not healthy is loving ourselves but at the same time shoving our faces full of foods that are poisonous to our health.
@tombstonebaby thanks! 120lbs is an incredible achievement! Congratulations!!!! I wish you the best on your journey of self discovery and self care. I hope these fat acceptance people discover true body acceptance like we have.
'I do not owe you thinness' really got me. For all of the times I have been shamed for my size, I am so happy to have heard your poem to give me perspective. You and your poetry are beautiful.
All of you saying that she can't be mad at the doctor for being concerned with her health missed what she was saying entirely. I don't think that she is ignorant enough to believe that being fat doesn't come with serious health implications, however, what she is saying is that doctors will arrive at a singular conclusion about what the problem is for any and every scenario; it's because she is fat. She says that the doctor checks her blood pressure three times because he's astonished by how low it is for someone her size but ignores the spider bite aka the imminent problem. Sometimes problems aren't as obvious as a bite or a broken bone, but for fat people, options other than weight loss are often not discussed. That's why she says she gives up on doctors. There are stories of fat people living with serious medical conditions (completely unrelated to weight) that went undiagnosed because of medical neglect. That's where the mentality is dangerous.
Exactly- and , and exercise helps you with depression, I've been to the physiatrist with the same problem and the first thing he told me to try out is exercise, it helps with the chemical that are messing up in your brain , I am no where near overweight
I used to be obese and had low self-esteem and my confidence seemed to be non-existent. Doctors were worried about my rapidly increasing weight and have offered me to exercise and look after my health and that’s what I did. I didn’t demand respect or anything from the doctor and just simply took the advice into account which had shaped my life forever. After losing around 55lbs I found myself more confident and more comfortable about my own body. I used to hate to be obese, not because of the social comparison but because I had never wanted to end up like that. Working hard towards achieving my fitness goals allowed me to acquire other values such as work ethics, determination, discipline and finally understanding of my own body. Your health is your biggest wealth people, if you take care of your own body, your body will take care of you. Peace. ✌🏼
Before I could make a change, I had to accept and love my fat body. I decided to be as healthy as I could be at whatever weight I happened to be. Only then could I make the changes to improve my health. As a bonus, I have lost 47 pounds so far, but weight loss is not my goal-good health is. I think people sabbotage their health when they make weight their focus. I love this video. It is very much a pro-health video. Seeing this video helped me get the courage to change doctors to someone who would actually teach me how my diabetes works instead of just pushing bariatric surgery.
Praying Mantas Good for you! Honestly that’s a big achievement and I’m glad you’re feeling so good! But, it’s obvious that you did not struggle from mental illness. Mental illness takes away motivation. For overweight, depressed people it makes them feel worse feeling their own body, if you get what I mean. And just a general comment nothing directed at you but, for all of those people saying exercise helps depression they aren’t wrong. But one, it doesn’t help everyone. And two, when someone is suicidal and literally has gotten to the point where they would rather shoot a gun in their head then go outside, I don’t think exercise is the best option. Sorry had to put this out there but again, what you did is a huge accomplishment!
@@nurittwerner1434 that's an ignorant comment. Just because they didn't use their mental illness as an excuse doesn't mean they were never depressed or never suffered from anxiety
Rlee Feeling depressed and anxious every now and then is normal. Everyone gets sad, everyone gets anxious. Of course this commenter has been depressed and anxious before (like everyone else), but that does not mean they have mental illness issues. That’s where people start misunderstanding what mental illness really is. Depression is different then just being sad. Depression doesn’t only make you sad, but it effects how you function. Honestly yeah some people might use the fact that they are “depressed” as an excuse, but that most likely isn’t actual depression.Some people who struggle from depression struggle to get out of bed, eat, or even shower. Most actually depressed people have been suicidal multiple times, that itself is a completely unnatural feeling that goes against all human instinct. People nowadays throw around mental illnesses and they’re beginning to lose their true meanings. I hope you understand. As someone who works in the mental illness field I know how depression works. Again it’s natural to feel unmotivated, sad, and like you’re losing hope from time to time. But when it starts affecting your life in ways where you can’t even function properly and that it’s a constant feeling (at least a few months) then that is what I mean by depression. So no my comment was not ignorant, if anything I think you should really look more into what depression really is.
"I do not owe you thinness" yoooooo that line sealed it. There's something to be said about how health affects physical & mental wellness, but there's also things to be said about allowing life to flourish as it does. As to what those somethings-to-be-said are, bruh that's a whole other conversation. Live your life as it makes you happy. But if you make other people happy, understand they're gonna want you around longer too
Think of the impact this kind of obesity has on Health care costs. Rising healthcare costs now and in the future are tied to rising obesity. Why should society pay for an obese person's choices?
@Ger Dik such a far out and horrible attempted equivalence, and to your comment below, obesity is not something you are born with and it's not something that has to be permanent. You cannot tell me that if you count calories, exercise right, and put the REAL effort in that you won't lose weight. Being fat is consuming more calories then you burn. That is science. Losing weight is very hard and it requires a mindset change, but EVERY PERSON CAN DO IT.
Ger Dik who has time to cast hatred on somebody. We have a right as fellow society members to be concerned. An over weight nation is good for no one. We hate the idea that being morbidly obese is completely acceptable and normal, not the individual. We want to help people like this women and yourself.
I think she owes it to me to not be a disgusting lardass. Why should she just getaway with being a hideous fatty? Bullying must be kept up until the fatty does something about how fat she is.
look, I no we should not fat shame but having lost 50lbs of fat so far I can say that in fact many issues stem from weight, like depression, diseases, and function. It so surprising once you get rid of junk how your body will feel both physically and mentally. If more people put in that extra step theyd be surprise how many issues can be resolved just by making smarter food choices.
My depression did not get solved by losing weight (which, as is common, returned and then more so.) My depression was created by society telling me all through my childhood that I was lesser because I was fat. That I couldn't live my life until I was thin, which was BS. Function is strength, not size. You can have strength without being thin and you can be weak and be thin. I am obese, 44 and did the first handstand in my adult life not because I lost any weight, but because I finally told myself that being fat wasn't holding me back from doing things. As for disease, while there is correlation between hip-to-height and some illnesses, there are no "fat person only" diseases and the correlation with BMI is actually fairly weak. It is a horrible metric. "If more people put in that extra step" If you mean eating "right," then that doesn't cause weight loss. You actually mean calorie deprivation, which in itself is not healthy nor sustainable. I am obese. I love salads, taekwondo and crossfit. I remain obese and that is and should be fine.
“Look, I know we should not fat shame but fuck what they say imma do it anyways” -Robert Garcia at the beginning of his “eat healthy and all of your life problems will be solved because you’ll lose weight” tangent. That’s not how it works. While you say “many issues stem from weight,” it’s really “the issues that stem from quote-unquote weight are all because of society telling people who have this quote-unquote weight that they’re not good enough, they can’t do this or that, they won’t ever be able to be X, they have to do this that and the other to lose weight to have any worth in life.” And that is a complete and utter lie. People come in all shapes and sizes and everyone deserves to be loved for something deeper than looks because the standard for looks is downright impossible to achieve. So to all of my non-binary siblings, sisters, and brothers, you’ve got this on lock. You can be whatever you want to be and I love you. You deserve the best.
The old joke goes... Patient walks into the doctor's office says: "Doctor, it hurts when i move my arm like this, what should i do?" And the doctor says: "So don't move your arm like that" Now, fat girl walks into the doctor's office, says: "Doctor, it hurts when i move my arm like this, what should i do?" And the doctor says: "Have you considered weight loss surgery?" Fat girl walks into the doctor for a flu shot and gets a lecture about BMI Fat girl walks into the doctor's with an earache and gets asked if she's ever eaten a salad Fat girls walks into the doctor's office with a spider bite, and the doctor obsesses over how low her blood pressure is low for such a fat person anyway Insists on checking it three times before he'll believe it, forgets completely about the mass of purple spider venom that brought her here, to begin with Fat girl walks into the doctors to ask about antidepressants and gets prescribed exercise instead, because obviously her depression is because of her fat And obviously fat body's never exercise and stay fat Fat girl walks into the doctor's office for a standart 3 month follow-up appointment and the doctor says: "Have you considered that weight loss surgery yet?" Fat girl gets tired of constantly being diagnosed as fat So fat girl stops walking into the doctor's office Fat girl walks into the world and says: "World, it hurts to exist like this" And the world says: "So stop existing like that" Fat girl walks trough a world that would rather she sliced herself open, than to exist as she does side-effects be damned Fat girl walks trough a world overrun with sidewalk doctors, who claim to be concerned about her health, side-effects be damned Fat girl walks into the world and still, somehow manages to love her fat body And the world says: "Stop glorifying obesity" Fat girl walks into the world and says: "I do not, owe you shrinking, you know. I do not owe you thinness, attempted thinness or desired thinness, because you assume thinness, equals health." For that matter i do not owe you health, perceived or otherwise to recieve basic respect. I'm deserving of care I'm deserving to exist, as i do I'm deserving a first, no harm done And the world says: "That is the best joke we've heard all day." The lyrics, because i didn't find it anywhere :)
I’ve always loved Rachel’s poems and having a small group of students in College that are interested in poetry, get to choose one of her poems that resonate with them the most to talk about. This one is a favorite and I completely agree because this Poem moves me as someone who’s experienced all of this. I have all her books, and I love when a student comes up to me and asks to check out another of her books from me. She’s been changing the world one word at a time for years and to see it bloom is a gift. ❤
Fat girl walks into the world and still, somehow manages to love her fat body And the world says: "Stop glorifying obesity" The accuracy of this hit me like a ton of bricks
I watch this video often for motivation and I’ve read a lot of these comments. It’s unreal how mean people can be. This hits close to home and I understood how she feels. I’m aware I’m overweight, please stop telling me. I’m trying so hard yet no one can see that can they? I have health problems and take medicine that won’t allow me to lose weight, but I’m still trying so hard. Feels like no one understands that.
People are miserable assholes. Especially online. They look for any excuse to try to rip down another human. Or some of them don't even think that far into it. All they see is a screen name. Either way it feeds their ego. Hell half of them are probably fat miserable fuckers trying to make themselves feel better by making someone else feel bad. Don't let them 💦 sweat you. Online or in real life.
I went to a doctor for a flu shot and she sat me down and told me about how I’m too fat and how I need to lose weight, saying things that my mother also says like “At this rate, you could get diabetes”. The fact that I had her say these things to me has made me hate myself more and more every day. I am 12 I am 12 and too scared to ask my mum about therapy because “What if I don’t really need it and waste her time?”,I am 12 and crying behind each and every smile I make because I don’t want people calling me an “attention whore”, I am 12 and ashamed of what I see when I look at myself because of a few simple words I was told. Edit: Hi! Been 4 months since i came back to this and while my weight hasn’t changed much, which makes me a bit sad, i wanted to clear stuff up. In truth, I’m not very overweight, I’m rather short so my extra weight is much more noticeable to others so I understand the doctors concerns but its not much of a physical problem as it is a mental problem. Hearing those words really affected me and still do along with rude people in school making little comments on me and making me insecure but i can say that I’m gonna try to work out when i can so wish me luck!
@PukingRainbows 101 Hiya. I’m a 20year old lady here and I get what you are going through. Here is something that helped me and I hope it helps you too. Things don’t just GET better, but you can MAKE them better. I’m trying to unlearn some bad habits that I grew up with, and even though it’s hard, it can be done. Look up ways to diet safely, (no fads, no get skinny quick schemes) and if you have a good support system (whether that be family or friends) go to them, tell them about your plans and hopefully they will support you. Most of all stay safe and healthy. I’ll be rooting for you. 🥰
I'm a 29 year old autistic guy. You know, you don't have to listen to their scare tactics. Society makes girls afraid of weight, so much that they buy diet water (yes, that's a real product, it's literally plain water). You know, what's so bad about being fat? Fat is beautiful. I believe beauty has no weight limit, a girl will never be too big for me. And I'm a thin guy. I get a similar treatment. People either told me I was too thin, or not thin enough. A guy can like a thin girl, fine. But if a guy likes a fat girl, he's a "chubby chaser" and has a "fetish." Why is that considered normal thinking? PukingRainbows, if you keep looking for someone else in the mirror, you will never be happy. There is nothing wrong with being fat. In fact, I think that's beautiful. It means you stand out from the norm, and the world needs more of that. Eat what you want, love yourself :)
You are 12 and doctors are already extremely concerned about your health and weight, talking about your apparent major problem. And you don't think you have one? Let me say that again: YOU ARE TWELVE.. and you're already having people being extremely concerned. Let that sink in.
@@alexgear959 you have no idea how this girl looks and how much her doctor says is to much weight. Maybe everything besides a thin plank is "to fat" for her doctor. At age 12 hormones start to act up, everyones body reacts to this differently. You dont want to know how many girls are considered fat, before their boobs grow in. And suddenly they are in proportion again. The fact that this child is getting traumatised by someone proffesional who should know better is horrible. And you shaming her also isnt helping. At age 12 you eat whatever your parents allow you to eat, you exercise as much as your parents encourage you. Your brain isnt developed enough to see the bigger picture of what these kind of things could mean in the long run. So you shaming her is not only harmful, its also not going to work. Same as what the doctor said, it will only make her ashamed of her body or flip to the other side and get anorexia
Have you tried to just lose your weight? I was once very overweight and I hated myself more and more everyday. Then I lost weight and everyday I say “damn I’m sexy as fuck”. I was happy in my own skin but most importantly I’m healthy, having diabetes is not healthy and can cost you your life so lose the weight, get healthy so you can maybe love yourself.
This whole comment section makes me genuinely disappointed Edit: Damn, never checked the replies before. To the one person who called me a "furfag" what a **clever** and **original** little fucker you are /s Also, every person who is doing no harm to others deserves respect. Weight be damned. Have a good night and wash your hands.
@@damianmigginis1157 I'm in perfect health I'm just confident an I know for a fact only insecure and sad people like you comment shit like that go study yourself bet you look like barbie and shes on crack
The antidepressant part: A lot of the time, people confuse temporary misery for depression. When you're down, exercise and a healthy diet can do wonders. It's worth trying that first before opting for medication.
True - people play victims for years. I know few who just bragging about how depressed they are. They do nothing about their lives and play victims. The "depression" is only the word to use as a weapon whenever you trying to say something positive or help. This is a big issue.
I also think doctors should explain more. At least where I am the doctors usually don’t explain what the medicine or advice will benefit you. I like to know what it’s actually going to do and not just trust on faith in the title doctor
I went to a MedExpress type place that I'd previously had a good experience at for an allergic reaction all over my back. The nurse practitioner spent 45 minutes upsetting me by taking my blood pressure over and over and over until it was elevated. She had barely noted what I was doing there. She asked me if I wanted to live a long life for my husband. The appointment was scheduled for 30 minutes, I was in there for more than two HOURS, the reason for my visit was a final afterthought where she told me it was probably vital and to take some aspirin for it. I've never been so angry at a medical professional in my whole life. It took two weeks for my back to quit itching, I didn't see anyone else about it even though I should have.
Can this even be considered poetry? There's no nuance, no meter and no wit. All I'm seeing is a delusional morbidly obese woman screaming and ranting into a microphone about how she hates being reminded every day that she's a fat ass. Clearly she hates being a fat ass but hey, it's easier to blame doctors and the whole world than actually do something to improve yourself.
Blissfully_ineffable People who are confused about her message: she is done with people so obsessed with her weight. At the end of the day, people don’t care about your health, they care about how it makes you look. Example: I used to eat a lot but people didn’t care and they thought it was funny cus I was so small and I didn’t gain weight but if a fat person does the same it’s considered disgusting. We both ate terribly, but I had a good metabolism and the other didn’t. My health didn’t affect how I looked so no one cared. Bullies don’t make fun of your health, they make fun of how it makes you look. They don’t care if you’re working out and eating good, they only care that you’re still fat
Indigo. Indigoing. Indigone. If she was done with people being obsessed with her weight she wouldn’t be mewling into a mic before a crowd about her morbid obesity. Every one of her complaints is her doctor doing their job being concerned with her health. Other comments are others concerned about her health. Smokers get the same comments. As do drug addicts. All this poor excuse for poetry is, is a morbidly obese woman with thin skin unable to handle outside opinions and expecting the world to conform to her. That’s not how this works. Thankfully for her she won’t have to handle it much longer because her heart will explode soon enough
@Michael Goldshmidt being fat and looking good are polar opposites to you. Your opinion, however, doesn't matter to begin with. Not to mention that fat old white men exist. Like, a lot of them. So what exactly is your point?
If somebody goes to a doctors office for a check up, and the doctor uncovers a dangerous condition that will shorten their life and cause them great difficulty, should the doctor ignore it? According to this woman, yes, the doctor should ignore it.
that wasn’t point she was trying to get across. what she is trying to say is that society body shames anyone who can’t fit in their box of perfection. ik how she feels and what she is trying to say cus i personally struggle with being overweight.
Zac’s Google Account The doctor should address both. She is huge, it is the doctors job to try to get her to lose weight. But yes, also deal with the spider bite.
theunderdog1206 she knows she’s not the skinniest but she’s trying to embrace her flaws. the point of the poem was to go tell all the people who disrespect people with “ flaws “ to fuck off cus everyone deserves basic respect regardless of their weight
rødrigo everything the doctor brought up is part of their job. Just like doctors lecture smokers about smoking, they lecture the obese about their weight. It’s not uncommon for people to share their opinions when they’re concerned about you. This is life. She’s morbid obese. This is going to happen
Just reminded me I was shopping at tryst and some woman came up to and gave me her card and said I should come to the event her job was having… me being extremely empathetic and not wanting to be in the position where I hurt someone’s feelings I take it. I look at it’s like Herbalife shit for weight loss. The fact that she was “concerned for my health” enough that she came up to me. Not glorifying obesity but dying living this way. Definitely been a journey to excepting myself.
I’m disgusted with over half of the comments on this video. You are literally tearing her down for loving herself AS SHE IS, and AS SHE SHOULD because she’s a badass to stand up there and say these difficult things. What kind of monster do you have to be to have someone show you- to your face- that you don’t have to be skinny to love yourself and then say terrible things about her because of her weight? This poem is worthy of love, this person is worthy of love, no matter her weight, no matter her health, no matter the way speaking her mind makes you uncomfortable or upset. She’s brave enough to not care whether she makes you upset, and that makes her worth ten of you. Stop being hateful towards someone who’s only asking for the respect they deserve.
@@FroggyTheNinja So what? It's not doing anything to you. If you're not fat, this isn't for you and you wouldn't know what it's like. She's just asking for people to stop telling her things she already knows. If she's happy, whether she's unhealthy or not, it's not your place to tell her to change. She obviously won't care if you tell her she's disgusting. She doesn't care what you think, so don't waste your "oh-so-precious" time.
@@FroggyTheNinja sighhhhhhh just had to be that guy huh?? Or girl whatever pronoun is preferred Couldn't just let it be huh?? Just had to find someway to let your opinion be heard huh??? Is it fun to be that guy who opposes people just to see them be triggered over something they are passionate to protect???? What if I took your passion and presumed it "dumb"??? Huh?? Wouldn't you be upset??? But then you might say well it doesn't upset you .....but if that's the case........its not your passion now is it??? Dude I'm not gonna be like "oh you're dumb for saying that and you should be ashamed blah blah blah" but all I'm saying is the some people are sensitive to specific topics that either trigger or is passionate about state your opinion but for fucks sake be kinder about it This was my Ted talk Thank you for your time
Bringing up the exception doesn’t negate the rule. There are a lot more healthy thin people than unhealthy thin people. While obese people will develop an illness related to their obesity
I don't know why these retards think anyone actually believes being thin is naturally healthy. No one will ever look at a starving ethiopian child and think to themselves "Wow what a healthy person"
lovely ti ehh, weight loss is about 80% nutrition, along with exercise. People think you have to starve for fat loss, actually that’s a short cut that will just rebound when your food restriction is over. You have to eat a lot, but the key is to eat the right kind of foods, healthy foods with Saturated fats, simple carbs and NO refined sugars. The problem is your type of people want simple answers. “Awwww I sad, I need anti depwessants” no... you need to analyze the root cause of your depression. Are your hormones out of balance due to genetic predispositions or maybe it’s a nutritional deficit, maybe you need to see a psychiatrist. Awwww I’m phaaat, I need surgery. No, you need to make better lifestyle decisions But no, you want *pills! Pills! PILLS!* Then when you get the side affects of your anti-depressants...you want more pills for that. But hey listen, do what you want. I’m not the one bitching about “my” shitty lifestyle. It doesn’t occur to them that maybe they’re unhappy because of the shitty decisions they’ve been making for years. Or maybe it’s there environment. But here’s a mind fuck for you.... Everyone has free will, which means everyone has the ability to choose how they are going to respond to there environment. Life is unfair, and no amount of “social justice” is going to change that.
@@tianna5353 it's actually very well documented that psycho therapy is more successful in treating anxiety and depression than SSRIs. Also, most of what that guy is saying is factually true. He's kind of a dick about it but he's probably sick of the current state of constant bitchyness the world seems to have stumbled into. Take the emotion out of it and listen to the facts. Most people who are fat, are fat because they're eating donuts and fast food all day. Hell I'm in pretty decent shape but if I changed my own eating habits I'd probably lose 30 lbs without changing anything else. Quit being so sensitive. It only enables bad behavior.
*Fat girl dies sometime in her late thirties and forties because she didn’t listen to her doctor, friends, and family telling her to lose weight* *Me* “good”
It's a doctor's JOB to assess the factors that play into your overall health. Not give you validation because you're insecure. It's better as a healer to tell the truth, regardless of how painful it is than to sugar coat it for someone's comforts. You can't make a change without acknowledging the issue. The shame comes from society. Not your physician. Let them do their jobs. Coming from a fat kid of 2 doctors.
Are you gonna keep that same energy when one of your loved ones is subject to weight bias and medical gaslighting? If you go in there for, say, blood in your stool and the doctor says "lose weight", you gonna keep that same energy? If you were dropping pounds quickly WITHOUT TRYING, your doctors congratulate you on your weight loss, and, later, found out that you developed stage 3 cancer, are you gonna keep that same energy? You come in there coughing and you tried everything to solve it but then you wind up needing to have an ENTIRE LUNG removed, are you gonna have that same energy? When you go to the doctor, you're supposed to be treated for what you came in there for, everything else should be secondary. I wonder if your parents might have KILLED someone with that medical gaslighting and weight bias.
Wouldn't hit so hard if you just ate less...why STAY fat? why do people just wanna be like that for so long? You are actually ENDANGERING yourself. Just run outside! If not then go to a gym. There are also so many people out there willing to give you advice on fitness. wow.
As a society, we will never change anyone for the better through criticism. We don't know a person's life or health issues. That being said, a doctor's job is to speak the truth even if it's hard to hear. Doctors are people, they make mistakes, but the majority work very hard to keep people healthy physically and emotionally, which sometimes includes recommending weight loss surgery or diet and lifestyle changes.
I mean being 2lbs overweight isn't really being overweight. Having to go through life with the whole world perceiving you as a disgusting slob with no self control is a whole lot different than being 2 pounds above average. The world is hostile to fat people. Basic things like going to a restaurant or a concert is stressful because you have to go there first to scope out if you'll even be able to fit in the seats there. Flying is torment. Doctors are extremely rude. Everyone has an opinion about your body and has no problem telling you to your face everything they think is wrong with you. I'm not trying to be harsh, sorry. But I don't think you really understand what it's like to exist the way she does. Those 2 pounds of your are not obesity.
Legit. Last time I went to a dr appointment for my three year old the dr walked In and asked me “what are you doing about your weight” and I’m like 🧐 nothing and we are here for my daughter not me.
It's a doctor's job to be concerned about their patients wellbeing. Just because someone enters for a specific reason (such as a flu shot, etc.) doen't mean the doctor should ignore all other problems.
can house Thing is that doctors are very opinionated and could care less about what the actual problem is. I have irregular periods and I’ve had male doctors force the idea that I’m pregnant when I’m a virgin and I when I was sick with massive coughing where a z-pack was the only medicine that could help me, another doctor I went to said that “it doesn’t work,” and forced me to take something else instead that took me three weeks to get better the z-pack takes me a week. My sister has a heart problem where she couldn’t walk for a year and constantly threw up, and she was seen by dozens upon dozens of doctors and everyone kept telling her that her problem was in her head and that she needed to take aspirin and stop being stressed out. A year later, she gets diagnosed with a heart problem from a a doctor that actually has a brain. If he didn’t help her, she would’ve died. Doctors don’t care nor do they actually know anything. They’re too busy asking for thousands of dollars up front and sending you away with aspirin.
I am petite and yet I am sluggish and falls into depression at times. It is not the body that propels us forward but more so the mind, the will, the heart. It does not matter what size you are at the moment, but are you able to move and continue participating in life, is the question.
exercise is proven to be a good antidepresant no matter you weight,stop blaming society on your problems you might not owe the world shrinking,BUT YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF if you love your self,you will work to be in a healthier state. you are deserving of care, but so is your body.
You are comparing things we have no control over with something we do have control over. You dont choose your height or sexuality but you choose to be fat
im thankful that i have people that give me the cold truth about my health rather than stuffing glazed doughnuts, pizza and other stuff down my throat. people to continue to be naive of their issues can cause some damage later down the line.
Hi, fat person here. My weight gain was caused by a medication side effect. If I went off this medication, I’d become an emotional mess. It’s an antidepressant - I have major depressive disorder. I would very much rather be fat and not depressed than skinny and planning my own suicide.
I'm on medicine for bipolar disorder which caused weight gain. I'd go off the deep end and probably kill myself without them lmao so yeah, I'd rather be overweight than dead
Andrew Theodore Johnson Losing weight and keeping healthy it’s not such a bad thing. I’m fat too and I blame myself for that. Drugs will help 10% but self discipline will work 90% and that’s helps the weight loss and healthy life.
Amber Nicole I know we have gone down that path many times but when you love yourself more, friends and family that will be there all the way it’s a good thing. Drugs can help but only by a small chance.
I've been an overweight man most of my life and women have almost always rejected me. Even ones who are overweight themselves. 4 years ago I lost over 100 pounds in 7 months and everything changed. Everyone treated me better including other straight men. Carl Jung says thinking is difficult which is why people judge, so I understand your pain believe me. People didnt only reject me but they put me down hard too. Kids told me I should kill myself and people constantly attributed any mistakes I made to being "fat" even when most of them had nothing to do with diet or exercise. I lived almost my entire life in doors before a few years ago because I didnt want to hear people call me names. The fact that people treat me different now makes me resent them even more even though people seem to want me around. Hopefully I'll find love with a woman I trust to not be shallow but I find that I can't trust anyone. Everyone seems fake in someway or another especially pretty people. If you're out there and you think it's funny to put someone down and try and make them cry because you're with your boys. Just imagine this dude started boxing, jiu jitsu, and muay thai, and then lost over a hundred pounds in 7 months and in doing so at such a pace became incredibly agile for his size. Like 5 punches per second agile with shins that could shatter your femur. It's been 4 years later and that guy has become pretty proficient with mma and after sparring with K1 fighters could probably beat the fuck out of you while he made your families watch. Man that would be terrible. Or maybe you just don't say anything. Maybe that person has severe depression and has lost hope because they're sad, body dismorphia, a glandular problem, or some other disorder you can't see. Or, maybe they just like to eat and if they get big thats their business. This being mean shit has to stop. People constantly tell me how funny and good of a person I am and whether I am or not doesn't matter because I was this way before I lost weight and you still thought I should just end my life. Sorry for ranting so long but I know there's people who've come to this page to do nothing but leave mean comments so I feel like you should be warned because I'm still out here and one of you sorry ass punks might wander into my gym just to get dealt with.
Isn't this a coincidence? I was also fat as a child and adolescent and also took to Muay Thai to help remedy that. Competed as an amateur for quite some time and still train 5-6 days a week. If you've done what say you have, you know the effort it takes to go from being obese to an athletic performance level. That is something I respect and applaud. Why should I respect someone who sits on their backside all day stuffing their face? I don't go out of my way to be nasty to people, having suffered much of that myself, but when obese people get on a soap box, like this woman, and demand unconditional respect and acceptance, that's where I draw the line. Obesity should never be respected or accepted. If you make the choice to remain obese, you live with the consequences. I made and continue to make an effort every day. You say you also made the effort to turn your life around so they can do the same and stop demanding unearned respect.
@@connorbannion5899 I appreciate what you're saying and applaude what you've been through. I admit after scrolling through some of the comments I let emotions take control as I went off on my comment above. But the point I was trying to make is that even though I made it through as you have as well to being fit and living an active lifestyle with martial arts, we don't know what other people go through. Mental health is a serious issue and its something I still struggle with daily. Some people are lost and make poor choices for instant relief. I'm sure you already know this but I was saying what I said in response to people saying nasty things. You're right to not accept obesity in the same way you shouldn't accept heroin addiction. Calling a heroin addict a piece of shit along with other mean things is more than likely going to make that person want to do more heroin. Its the same thing with food. This woman is who she is and has found a way to accept herself which is a huge hurdle for people struggling with mental health. She may not be right but I dont think she wants you to give adulation for obesity. I think she wants acceptance for her, the person who struggles with obesity. And what's this about unearned respect? I used to weigh 310 and I'm only 5'9" and I never disrespected anyone. I mistreated myself and myself alone but always remained kind to others. You earn respect by being respectful and that's it. Take it how you like. Btw I never competed, too many injuries but I spar regularly. Helping train a dude right now who fights K1.
Juan Serrano What I took from this wasn’t that she is upset that the doctor is watching out for her weight, as doctors should, it’s that she is upset that whenever she has anything she finds she needs to bring up to a doctor, it’s excused as a side effect of obesity. People have died from that. From having an urgent medical emergency and then going to the doctor and the doctor saying “It’s because you’re fat” and not doing any further tests and just recommending weight loss. I’m pretty sure there was a news story of a girl who went to the doctor because she was having trouble breathing, the doctor told her it was because she was obese, gave her weight loss tips, sent her home, and she later died of pneumonia.
dead white boy Her obesity would of had a impact on her death, that is true. They could of done more for her though. But the girl in the video is acting like doctors don’t really care and ‘fat shame’ her
dead white boy joint pain and depression are side effects of obesity and lack of physical activity. Every piece of advice she was given is entirely justified
I work out daily and am healthy but I have high BMI and my doctor brings this up every visit despite I have fine blood pressure and eat well and exercise she thinks because im big I need to lose
I completely appreciate her frustration and anger about this. I sincerely hope she is able to find a provider that will address her symptoms beyond her weight, but also foster an environment/relationship that empowers her to feel hopeful and ultimately become successful at getting on a path to a healthier life (both mentally and physically).
yeyyus dkek believe when I say: I know. But it is possible to find a provider that does. And frankly, providers need to do the best they can with whatever resources they have. If a provider can’t address a patient’s lifestyle in a meaningful way, then what is the point? Chronic illness is largely self induced. If they aren’t at all focusing on prevention, or aren’t allowing the time for a “prevention” based discussion, then they aren’t doing a large part of their job. As I said, there are providers out there they do/can, and I hope she finds one. And also a great dietitian!
Its cute!!! Round cheeks are cute!! Ppl who cant accept that fact are the same ones who think a girl should be dressing like a 20 yo at 12. Same level of stupidity Tell me and ill beat their ass up so hard they'll get a free flight straight to korea😤
did you ever stop to think that maybe anxiety pills have a very narrow therapeutic window and just because you thought it was a good idea to increase the dosage, it probably wasn't indicated? what you think you know about medicine is only the tip of the iceberg, so in reality you don't know how that drug would work at a higher dose. also I highly doubt your dr's concern about your weight gain has to do with your looks. don't flatter yourself.
Crazy that a doctor who went to med school and who's job it is to keep people alive might actually know more than his patients. Maybe being fat is more deadly than anxiety.
I'd imagine the medical professional you were talking to knew what he/she was doing when they didn't up the dose. Exercising and losing weight can do wonders for both anxiety and depression. The meds should be the last option.
This poem was written beautifully and some of the lines punch you in the gut but like-- I don't really a hundred percent agree with the message? Yeah, it's hard to live in the world like that and people could be rude and destructive about it but-- not like you can say yourself, that it is indeed healthy. Screw the side effects? Really? You're not only putting yourself at risk but also all the people that watch this video and others like it and believe it's completely healthy. Yeah, fat does not equal healthy and neither does thin. It's important we find a middle ground in all things because that's the healthiest way. So, please. Stop glorifying obesity and stop glorifying unhealthily thin people. Both sides can be extremely damaging. I get the message is about loving yourself (and I agree with this wholeheartedly) but the things you imply along with this - ignorance and health risks - is just- well, you guys know. Glorify the middle ground.
She means fatphobic people not considering the side effects of everything they recommend to fat people - whether that's surgery, diets which are basically eating disorders, exercise regimes which let's put it this way people can destroy their joints running etc, let alone how hard that is if you have depression and other disabilities, so like those people aren't accepting how there are plenty of people who will be fat for most of their lives, no matter whether they wish they weren't, and they deserve to be seen as deserving of life same as everyone else. And the idea that they should always be trying to be healthy when many could be otherwise disabled so health in that sense will never be attainable. Hence what she says about not owing people health, perceived or otherwise. It's actually really hard to find studies which look at the health of people who do lose significant weight, I tried when I was talking with a friend with an eating disorder, people want to assume that when someone loses weight all the health risks of being obese go away but I don't think they do, especially since that's a demographic of people who are disproportionately poor and also struggle with healthcare and are probably disabled anyway. But then there are some people who are fat, but capable of everything a thin and active person is. Fatphobia doesn't even just hurt fat people, it's reflected in eating disorder programs where people are expected to let go of their disordered thinking about weight and obsession around food at the same time as the programs require their bmi to be extremely low before they get treatment and often involve calorie counting themselves, so basically if your metabolism is such that even if you starve yourself you're above that bmi you don't get treatment and aren't taken seriously. None of this will be solved till people stop trying to guess at how healthy someone is just by looking at them, and let their assumptions of the lifestyle of the person rank above even what they tell you. Also acting as if the same lifestyle is healthy for everyone is a bit of a joke.
Oml you don't get this video at ALL. It's saying that it isn't fair for someone to be judged solely by their weight. She never ONCE said that it was healthy, she's trying to say that fat isn't always the reason someone could be depressed and the world should be more accepting of overweight people as actual...wait for it... people. I know, crazy right? To treat someone you don't know with respect and not judging them by their outward appearance??
Everybody saying "the doctors are just worried for her health" need to understand that when you're fat and go to the doctor they make every single thing about your weight. You could be suffering from something completely unrelated to being fat and they will still say "well have you tried losing weight"? Believe it or not, doctors don't always care about what's in your best interest, just getting paid. Tons of patients are gaslighted by their doctors and are immediately dismissed if they speak up about it. None of you actually care about this woman's health, you just want to mock her to feel better about yourself. Worry about your own health why don't you?
Even though I like the way your emotions flow through this poem! I'm a nurse, and I gotta be realistic with you... We recommend exercise as a treatment to depression, not because people are fat, but because exercise increase the levels of serotonin in our brains! (Serotonin's low levels, are the reason why we might feel depressed, and being depressed for long periods, it's because of the serotonin's inability to rise back to it's normal levels) Also, checking the Blood Pressure of an obese person when it's lower than expected, it's necessary. Because if you are blood pressure is lower than expected, then it might be a sign we should consider, because lots of conditions (much like poison) may drop the blood pressure of the afflicted patient, and it would help for an accurate diagnosis!
Plenty of fat people have normal blood pressure. The majority do, although they're busy avoiding going to the doctor like the plague because every time they show any markers of being healthy they get hit with a big dose of fat-phobia and ensuing discrimination. Normal blood pressure in a fat person is not an automatic marker of a problem. Also, just like she says in the poem, medical professionals see fat bodies and assume that they don't eat nutritious food and exercise, even though fat people who exercise regularly almost always stay fat. And many eat nutritious food, and also stay fat. Situational depression (for instance, the kind that comes from being the target of chronic discrimination, for example) is NOT fixed by exercise.
In clinical studies, regular aerobic exercise is as effective as antidepressants in reducing symptoms of mild to moderate depression. can't believe she missed that point. easy to be a victim i guess.
@@user-vw7bx9ll8n It's easy to google and is pretty much common knowledge. But I get the impression that she's looking for any and every excuse to continue her lifestyle as is without putting in any significant effort into reversing harmful habbits.
Fat Girl: How to shrink my size Doctor: Have you consider exercising, eating healthy food and be persistent. Fat Girl: Yum Yummy, Umm. I’m sorry what did you say? Doctor: Ohh hell no!
All I see in this comment section is people missing the point. It's not about her saying she shouldn't loose weight. It's about her right to exist. It's about getting basic care and society seeing her for who she actually is, and not her weight. It's not about if it's unhealthy to be overweight. So many people feel entitled to tell you about your body when you haven't asked for any of it, you are simply just existing and doesn't owe anyone anything. You all are just missing the point.
But, being overweight is not healthy. We shouldn't discriminate, you can "accept your fat" but please do not accept the medical issues that come with it.
I had exclaimed this question of "Why is it every time I go to the doctors, all they comment on is my weight?" And my Mother had said, "Because if they didn't, then they wouldn't be doing their job".
@@brianaashenfelter3893 people respect in others that which takes effort and dedication, being fat takes the opposite, so people might automatically loose some respect for it.
@@brianaashenfelter3893 being skinny doesnt take a lot of effort, but at least it means you eat sensibly. Being fit and having an impressive physique does take a lot of effort
@@ozzyherrera1027 oh the ignorance here is unfathomable. All of my skinny friends eat 10x as much as me. Having a normal functioning or high functioning metabolism is not "eating sensibly" you buffoon.
"actually doctors prescribe exercise for everyone that's depressed it's not just fat people" i mean yes good point but i feel like the thing she's pointing out is the doctor's base assumption that because someone is fat they don't exercise at all and their depression can be cured through weight loss, rather than criticising the doctor for prescribing a method that can work for people as opposed to another option
Missy R. People who are confused about her message: she is done with people so obsessed with her weight. At the end of the day, people don’t care about your health, they care about how it makes you look. Example: I used to eat a lot but people didn’t care and they thought it was funny cus I was so small and I didn’t gain weight but if a fat person does the same it’s considered disgusting. We both ate terribly, but I had a good metabolism and the other didn’t. My health didn’t affect how I looked so no one cared. Bullies don’t make fun of your health, they make fun of how it makes you look. They don’t care if you’re working out and eating good, they only care that you’re still fat
Indigo. Indigoing. Indigone. She’s talking specifically about doctors, and doctors should care about your weight, given that weight is a risk factor in hundreds of preventable diseases. Onto your terrible example, unhealthy food doesn’t have a particularly bad impact on your health if you metabolise it quickly, so the fact is that your friend was likely much more unhealthy than you despite your similar diets. (PS- I’m a student doctor)
Maybe it would be a pretty good idea to replace „fat girl walks“ with „fat girl is going to drive with an electric roller for old and disabled people in a few years“. That may sound really disrespectful but it is an enormous problem because being heavy overwheight causes so many health issues like heart disease and athrosis in every single joint, especially in the knees. So it is not unfair and mean by the doctor to say to you that you are overweight, it is a fact and is his duty to warn you about health issues you are „working“ for.
I'm in my mid-thirties and obese. I've had two back surgeries and a host of other internal medical issues due to obesity. Maybe the doctors actually cared about you. I resent your hostility toward them and if you suffer an obesity related health issue and or early death, this video will relieve anybody from feeling sorry for you. I shall use your self-proclaimed title in wishing you good luck "Fat Girl" .
When a heroin addict walks into a doctor's office with a broken wrist, the doctor talks about their addiction. You overeating is an addiction! Doctors are here to improve your health not pretend your addiction is a good life choice!
This is so true. Women are supposed to be skinny and pretty. Why are we this way. I get bullied about my weight yet I am perfectly healthy. Why do we have to change but not society's standards.
"For most of my life, I have hammered nails into my head. Small nails, not too long. When I walk into the doctor's for toenail fungus, he does not give me cream, NO! He tells me maybe I shouldn't hammer nails in my head. When I, the guy who hammers nails in his head, walks into the doctors for a prostate exam, before the doctor sticks his finger up my ass he says, 'Maybe you shouldn't hammer nails in your head.' Eventually guy with nails in his head gets tired of being diagnosed as guy who hammers nails in his head and stops going to the doctor's office, and instead goes out into the world saying, 'I'm tired of being the guy with nails in his head!' and the world says, 'STOP FUCKING HAMMERING NAILS IN YOUR HEAD!'" The end.
It's not care when you're treated less than human due to people fixated solely on one's weight. It's especially not care when the doctor ignores what you've come into the office and they tell you to lose weight instead of treating the reason (that's unrelated) as to why you came into the doctor's office.
I fallen into a hole of watching poems.
Same
Mimi Girl me tooo😂😂😂
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Mimi Girl girl same
Bruh same
Doctor tells me “don’t eat anything fatty”
I said “you mean like bacon and cheeseburgers?”
Doctor says, “No, I mean don’t eat anything, Fatty.”
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If your doctor say that you should go see an other one
Ddaammm lol
Lmbo hahahaha I love it
“It hurts when I exist like this” and the world said, “then stop existing like that.” Damn.
Obesity should be qualified as self harm.
^^^ Prime example of what is meant by those two lines.
Corporate Coffee Futures - Being obese (or even overweight) puts you at health risks and can kill you. Being fine being obese and wanting the world to accept you as such because you don't want to change is accepting all the illnesses, disorders, etc. that come with obesity. Considering that most obese people know the risks of their conditions, accepting it can be considered as self-harm, or at least deliberately putting yourself in harm's way.
I'm right on the line between overweight and obese, and I can assure you, I don't want the world to accept me as such. If I were to want one thing from the world, that would be to support me in my journey to a healthy body and weight.
Jess the Egg sometimes it's better to accept people than to change, constantly telling someone that their weight is wrong can lead to another problem like an eating disorder. I started to starve myself because of it, the weight was dropping but I was just becoming unhappy & depressed. People say being obese causes depression but I wasn't depressed until people came at me for being happy
If she continues that way, the "world" will get it's wish.
I think some people are misinterpreting her point. She’s not saying she’s not trying to lose weight, she’s saying that she’s tired of everyone only caring about her weight and only seeing her weight
Abby Miles literally nobody cares about her weight, the only reason why everyone here is calling her fat is because she is literally making it a big deal out of it. And instead of choosing to better herself as a human being she chooses to blame society for her laziness and refusal to work out. It is foolish to expect or think people should change for you, so instead of trying to change everyone else she should change herself because it is quite clear that she is in fact the problem not everyone else.
@@daraptor5281 I didn't hear her blaming anyone else for her weight..just that she's more than just her weight
lol fatty
Well it depends on the person is its just some stranger who she doesn't know then yes she can be "tired" or is it a close friend or family member who doesn't want to wake up one morning to get a call that she had a heart attack at the age of 42.
You guys suck . I hope all of you burn in Hell
“I am deserving of care.
I am deserving to exist as I do.
I am deserving of first no harm done.
And the world says that is the best joke we’ve heard all day.”
I am deserving of cake more like it
Veronica Siravo in her case, I’d say for her to go and lose that extra person worth of weight. Weight loss contributes to a positive body image that reaffirms itself and helps with depression. Also helps with health and immunities because overall BMI is one of the factors that contribute to the immune system. Oh and just genuinely if a person takes to airplane seats then It’s pretty obvious past that point to lose the damn weight.
Khurelbat Bayanbat
Sometimes, it’s not that fucking easy to lose fucking weight. Leave her alone. There are diseases, illnesses and medicines out there that cause weight gain and in some people’s situations, they’d rather live larger and happier and ALIVE.....than unhealthy, skinny and DEAD. I agree that anyone struggling should try to lose weight...of course! Try to be the healthiest you can...but if you’re faced with conditions etc etc it’s nobody’s god damn business. (I’m not saying she has a condition, I don’t know what she faces. All I know is that 1. It’s not my business 2. She’s beautiful and 3. I clicked on this video for her art!!!). So take your ignorant ass somewhere else because you should never just assume people can lose weight!
Lizzie peskir who the fuck said I didn’t assume she had something like that, bruh get it treated. There help for almost anything out there. There’s good doctors and therapist even in the 3rd world country that I live in that help take care of this stuff. Hell my family had a walking whale and she’s looking like just your average woman today because of that. If she has one then I’d recommend getting psychiatric help along with dieting. Cuz that shit worked for me when I looked like I ate a cow everyday. Also just stay away from sugary food. In America it’s almost impossible to stay away from sugary food I imagine since I lived there for about a year and I gained about 20 kg by the time I went back home and fuck me everything had a sugary aftertaste.
@@khurelbatbayanbat7913 hi, fat girl here who knows she's gorgeous and has a good body image, most of the time. I also don't get sick often. My immune system is great.
Go fuck yourself with this whole thing about it helps with your body image and immune system. Cool. Awesome. Nobody fucking asked.
You missed the whole point of this poem. And it's really sad that you did because it has a beautiful message.
Wow. I gained weight during my SA trial and ive hated myself every day since. On the days when im too depressed to run or work out to make myself physically smaller, i try to do it in other ways. Get quieter. Shrink into silence. This poem speaks to me in ways i cant express. Thank you. Thank you.
“I do not owe you shrinking. I do not owe you health, perceived or otherwise, to deserve respect.” DAMN.
No one asked her too. She’s being told to not be morbidly obese because that’s unhealthy.
They’re right
Actually taking up 2 spots on a plane is a problem. If your body is spilling over into the seat next to you go for a jog.
Truth Bomber this is a foreign concept for anyone who doesn’t believe in property rights
She actually does owe us thinness. The government thinks so too, while it continues to crack her in the head with obscene medical bills and “fat taxes” on planes.
You do owe society health when you are morbidly obese because you are a drain on the healthcare system
“A world that would rather she slice herself open than to exist as she does” :(
Imogen Sumbar it's unhealthy it's a fact listen to the doctor
Imogen Sumbar not to be a downer but she can loose weight without surgery
You know how many animals have to suffer and die to keep her at that size?
@@starsnstrife what???? . How sad that its all you can think to say?
Also if you are a certain weight they will not do the weight loss surgery, the doctors want my mum to get to 60kg and I told her she should aim for 90kg cause she has a bulkier build. But the only way she can loose weight is walking and dieting
I am actually depressed about my weight.. but I am changing that because just because I accept my current size that dosnt mean I love the way I am.. so I will continue to improve ( aka lose weight) so I can be my best self!
That's awesome!
This the correct attitude to have. Eat less and work out hard and do it everyday like brushing your teeth. It's not easy or everyone would do it. But it will pay off down the road.
Don't give up!
Spot on.
A few months ago, I was at about 220lbs, with a bmi of 31. (Obese)
It's pretty easy to overeat, I've found. Just because your stomach has more room doesn't mean you should eat more. It's about the mental game. You've got to get your focus redirected from eating to whatever else you need or want to do, so you won't eat as much (like I said, it's easy to eat too much).
I've started to be more careful about how much I eat and what I eat. Also, getting more exercise. I'm down to about 187 now! Although, I'd like to exercise more regularly.
BTW, yes, I'm a guy. I do have some stretch marks. And I too have had pretty bad depression in the past, but it's better now. However, now that I am less chubby and have done some physical activity, my muscles show more and I'm more confident! X3
Another thing I've found that is interesting, is that you don't get relief _just_ from loosing weight, but from the fact that, in doing so, you gain better self control and self-respect.
P.S. Also, if you closely watch your weight, don't fret if you vary by a pound or two from day to day. Clothes, and the last time you've gone to the bathroom (1 _and_ 2) can make a difference of a few pounds. I weigh myself w/clothes off, when I go to take a shower, so it's more accurate/repeatable. I also have somewhat long hair, so I weigh myself _before_ getting in the shower, since my hair is much heavier when wet.
Just take it easy. you can continue to eat a lot. Eat carrots for snacks. I usually do that and it's awesome to keep the hunger away.
Have a breakfast of fish/meat (I prefer fish tho, salmon about 200g) and 2 eggs. Proteins makes you feel full. Just stick to it. Feeling hungry after dinner? Carrots. Just eat a bunch of them. They're sweet but not rich in calories. Also i find broccoli and peas (a bit unhealthy) to be excellent instead of potatoes, pasta and rice. Just remember.. Eat a lot. As much as you want, of the right stuff. You won't be hungy and have these urges once you eat 150g of broccoli. you just won't feel hunrgy. the battle is always in the moment you feel hunger and want to get a big mac with extra everything. Just take 2 carrots instead. After you'll not feel a need for it.
So stop being fat like that... No I'm just kidding I hope you get over
You can be your best self today too! Your best self is making choices today that are good for your body because your body deserves that no matter what it looks like! I'm saying this as a formerly obese woman myself. I think strength training and yoga were especially important for me because I gained functionality long before I reached a maintenance weight, which made me enjoy the experience of living in my body for the first time.
1:11 I know how it feels to be told that. My own mother just told me I’m only depressed because I’m overweight. I’ve never related so much to a slam poem.
Youd be surprised to know shes actually correct
@@blep231 how much do you weigh
@@blep231 Of course, but weight can still play a massive part into depression.
Fat ass loser. Get off your lazy ass you good for nothing gelatinous blob
@@bigbirdmusic8199 Damn, you must be such a liked person with that attitude.
Maybe the spider wouldn’t have bitten you if you hadn’t been wearing a “bite me” shirt. 😂
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" I am deserving to exist how I DO!"
Not being taken seriously when it comes to depression...I can’t even imagine the torment.
Tyler Durden that...has nothing to do with depression. Objectively, not being taken seriously when depressed is actually one of the worst things I can imagine when it comes to mental health, and if I were in that position, sans weight- if someone just wasn’t taking me seriously- I think I might’ve killed myself.
@Tyler Durden Your logic: Depressed? Just stop thinking bad thoughts, so easy right?
@Tyler Durden That sounds great, but it seems like you haven't had the experience that this woman and many others have had. It may be easy for you to get up and "just do it" but, surprisingly, it's really hard to control yourself to do something like work out and get away from the computer/pantry. The mind is great at making yourself do something that's entertaining in the short term but harmful in the long term.
Exercise can help with depression. The doctor tells everybody, despite their seize, to exercise, because it's good for the body and can help you relax. It can be a good thing if the doctor won't give you anti-depressants right away, because they are very heavy medicaments. Of course sometimes there's no other way, but it's good to state other ways to help with the depression.
@@deborahl3083 But exercising decrease stress level and helps fight depression...
Dude being told the my bladder issues and acid reflux problem are because I’m fat 20 minutes after I told the doctor I was in treatment for an eating disorder was awful. My gallbladder needs removed and I have a hernia. Gallbladder Needed removed for 4 years but doctors keep telling me i just needed to loose weight. They only started taking me seriously when I started throwing up blood.
Stories like yours is why I'm iatraphobic.
I feel like..People don’t understand how hard it is to lose weight...and when you have depression it’s even harder to get out of bed..
I think that I wrote that twice ngl-😂
Tyler Durden sorry! maybe go back to school if you can’t read mate.
Tyler Durden yeah probably 😂😂
I mean now during quarantine it’s harder to lose weight cause not much stuff is open and everyone is staying inside (and yes I am kinda fat but just because someone is fat doesn’t mean they hate their selfs cause I accept that I’m over weight :)
I feel that. Some people will never understand that it’s hard to work out or etc when you mind is busy with all the different ways your hurting. 🖤you’re not alone.
y’all are INSANE. what she’s saying is that whether she’s trying to lose weight or not, she is deserving of basic human respect because she is a HUMAN FUCKING BEING.
SAY IT AGAIN !!!!! 💯🔊📣📢
I wasn't aware respect meant for a layperson going in to see a doctor that they get to then tell the doctor they don't know what they're talking about and demand they alter their medical opinion to one that the layperson wanted to hear. If she is going to brush off the medical opinion of doctor after doctor, she should save herself some money and stop going. It's not their fault she refuses to accept that this level of obesity is accompanied by myriad physical ailments, first of all, and second the obesity can mask an alternate underlying cause which I guess she wants them to just guess which one it is and throw some likely dangerous (if not needed) prescription or procedure at her and hope for the best. She's nuts.
I was a fat girl for 30 years until all of the medical conditions started piling up and I knew my future had regular MRI scans in it. I worked on myself, for myself. I didn't do it for anyone else. I've been on a weight loss journey for 3 1/2 years now and I'm still learning, still loosing weight and gaining life. I felt like you when I was a fat girl who felt judged and unable to be helped. I exercise for my own benefit, not for society, not to look cute in dresses. Whether you stay big or change, you live with the consequences of those decisions, just like all of the other consequences to everything else we do and choose in life. But yes, doctors will always see the fat first. We walk our own paths in life and I wish you the best. xx
Thank you for sharing your positive message. I too was a fat person for all of my life and I too am on the same journey of fat loss and muscle gain and it is a tough journey but I feel so much better about myself too. I understand the frustrations of being obese but as you mentioned there comes a time where we have to look in the mirror and take responsibility for ourselves. A lot of these fat acceptance people are still young and simply have not had the life experience and haven't been faced with the pitfalls of not taking responsibility for themselves yet.
True body acceptance comes when we actually take responsibility for what we put into our bodies, not when we pretend we are fat because a magic fat fairy made us this way. There is nothing wrong with loving ourselves, what is not healthy is loving ourselves but at the same time shoving our faces full of foods that are poisonous to our health.
@tombstonebaby thanks!
120lbs is an incredible achievement! Congratulations!!!!
I wish you the best on your journey of self discovery and self care.
I hope these fat acceptance people discover true body acceptance like we have.
'I do not owe you thinness' really got me. For all of the times I have been shamed for my size, I am so happy to have heard your poem to give me perspective. You and your poetry are beautiful.
All of you saying that she can't be mad at the doctor for being concerned with her health missed what she was saying entirely. I don't think that she is ignorant enough to believe that being fat doesn't come with serious health implications, however, what she is saying is that doctors will arrive at a singular conclusion about what the problem is for any and every scenario; it's because she is fat. She says that the doctor checks her blood pressure three times because he's astonished by how low it is for someone her size but ignores the spider bite aka the imminent problem. Sometimes problems aren't as obvious as a bite or a broken bone, but for fat people, options other than weight loss are often not discussed. That's why she says she gives up on doctors. There are stories of fat people living with serious medical conditions (completely unrelated to weight) that went undiagnosed because of medical neglect. That's where the mentality is dangerous.
Kira Cofield YAS QUEEN YELL IT FOR THOSE IN THE BACK
Amennnnnnn
Kira Cofield PREACH IT
Exactly- and , and exercise helps you with depression, I've been to the physiatrist with the same problem and the first thing he told me to try out is exercise, it helps with the chemical that are messing up in your brain , I am no where near overweight
You said it all,agrees 100%
While body shaming is not cool at all. But the doctors concern is genuine. Obesity is a risk factor for atleast a hundred diseases.
Learn the difference between polite concern, and shaming someone.
I used to be obese and had low self-esteem and my confidence seemed to be non-existent. Doctors were worried about my rapidly increasing weight and have offered me to exercise and look after my health and that’s what I did. I didn’t demand respect or anything from the doctor and just simply took the advice into account which had shaped my life forever. After losing around 55lbs I found myself more confident and more comfortable about my own body. I used to hate to be obese, not because of the social comparison but because I had never wanted to end up like that. Working hard towards achieving my fitness goals allowed me to acquire other values such as work ethics, determination, discipline and finally understanding of my own body. Your health is your biggest wealth people, if you take care of your own body, your body will take care of you. Peace. ✌🏼
Praying Mantas You are a champ, keep working hard!
Before I could make a change, I had to accept and love my fat body. I decided to be as healthy as I could be at whatever weight I happened to be. Only then could I make the changes to improve my health. As a bonus, I have lost 47 pounds so far, but weight loss is not my goal-good health is. I think people sabbotage their health when they make weight their focus. I love this video. It is very much a pro-health video. Seeing this video helped me get the courage to change doctors to someone who would actually teach me how my diabetes works instead of just pushing bariatric surgery.
Praying Mantas Good for you! Honestly that’s a big achievement and I’m glad you’re feeling so good! But, it’s obvious that you did not struggle from mental illness. Mental illness takes away motivation. For overweight, depressed people it makes them feel worse feeling their own body, if you get what I mean. And just a general comment nothing directed at you but, for all of those people saying exercise helps depression they aren’t wrong. But one, it doesn’t help everyone. And two, when someone is suicidal and literally has gotten to the point where they would rather shoot a gun in their head then go outside, I don’t think exercise is the best option.
Sorry had to put this out there but again, what you did is a huge accomplishment!
@@nurittwerner1434 that's an ignorant comment. Just because they didn't use their mental illness as an excuse doesn't mean they were never depressed or never suffered from anxiety
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Feeling depressed and anxious every now and then is normal. Everyone gets sad, everyone gets anxious. Of course this commenter has been depressed and anxious before (like everyone else), but that does not mean they have mental illness issues. That’s where people start misunderstanding what mental illness really is. Depression is different then just being sad. Depression doesn’t only make you sad, but it effects how you function. Honestly yeah some people might use the fact that they are “depressed” as an excuse, but that most likely isn’t actual depression.Some people who struggle from depression struggle to get out of bed, eat, or even shower. Most actually depressed people have been suicidal multiple times, that itself is a completely unnatural feeling that goes against all human instinct. People nowadays throw around mental illnesses and they’re beginning to lose their true meanings. I hope you understand. As someone who works in the mental illness field I know how depression works. Again it’s natural to feel unmotivated, sad, and like you’re losing hope from time to time. But when it starts affecting your life in ways where you can’t even function properly and that it’s a constant feeling (at least a few months) then that is what I mean by depression. So no my comment was not ignorant, if anything I think you should really look more into what depression really is.
This poem is so powerful! All people no matter fat or skinny are deserve respect!
"I do not owe you thinness" yoooooo that line sealed it. There's something to be said about how health affects physical & mental wellness, but there's also things to be said about allowing life to flourish as it does. As to what those somethings-to-be-said are, bruh that's a whole other conversation. Live your life as it makes you happy. But if you make other people happy, understand they're gonna want you around longer too
"But if you make other people happy, understand they're gonna want you around longer too"
Think of the impact this kind of obesity has on Health care costs. Rising healthcare costs now and in the future are tied to rising obesity. Why should society pay for an obese person's choices?
@Ger Dik such a far out and horrible attempted equivalence, and to your comment below, obesity is not something you are born with and it's not something that has to be permanent. You cannot tell me that if you count calories, exercise right, and put the REAL effort in that you won't lose weight. Being fat is consuming more calories then you burn. That is science. Losing weight is very hard and it requires a mindset change, but EVERY PERSON CAN DO IT.
Ger Dik who has time to cast hatred on somebody. We have a right as fellow society members to be concerned. An over weight nation is good for no one. We hate the idea that being morbidly obese is completely acceptable and normal, not the individual. We want to help people like this women and yourself.
I think she owes it to me to not be a disgusting lardass. Why should she just getaway with being a hideous fatty? Bullying must be kept up until the fatty does something about how fat she is.
“I do not owe you health,
perceived or otherwise,
to receive basic respect”
That hits hard
look, I no we should not fat shame but having lost 50lbs of fat so far I can say that in fact many issues stem from weight, like depression, diseases, and function. It so surprising once you get rid of junk how your body will feel both physically and mentally. If more people put in that extra step theyd be surprise how many issues can be resolved just by making smarter food choices.
Robert Garcia did you watch it or??
My depression did not get solved by losing weight (which, as is common, returned and then more so.) My depression was created by society telling me all through my childhood that I was lesser because I was fat. That I couldn't live my life until I was thin, which was BS. Function is strength, not size. You can have strength without being thin and you can be weak and be thin. I am obese, 44 and did the first handstand in my adult life not because I lost any weight, but because I finally told myself that being fat wasn't holding me back from doing things. As for disease, while there is correlation between hip-to-height and some illnesses, there are no "fat person only" diseases and the correlation with BMI is actually fairly weak. It is a horrible metric. "If more people put in that extra step" If you mean eating "right," then that doesn't cause weight loss. You actually mean calorie deprivation, which in itself is not healthy nor sustainable. I am obese. I love salads, taekwondo and crossfit. I remain obese and that is and should be fine.
“Look, I know we should not fat shame but fuck what they say imma do it anyways” -Robert Garcia at the beginning of his “eat healthy and all of your life problems will be solved because you’ll lose weight” tangent. That’s not how it works. While you say “many issues stem from weight,” it’s really “the issues that stem from quote-unquote weight are all because of society telling people who have this quote-unquote weight that they’re not good enough, they can’t do this or that, they won’t ever be able to be X, they have to do this that and the other to lose weight to have any worth in life.” And that is a complete and utter lie. People come in all shapes and sizes and everyone deserves to be loved for something deeper than looks because the standard for looks is downright impossible to achieve. So to all of my non-binary siblings, sisters, and brothers, you’ve got this on lock. You can be whatever you want to be and I love you. You deserve the best.
Robert Garcia losing weight can also have an adverse effect, when I lost weight I developed an eating disorder. I agree with you as well
God! That's painful! Teenage angst from an adult is soooo awkward
The old joke goes...
Patient walks into the doctor's office says:
"Doctor, it hurts when i move my arm like this, what should i do?"
And the doctor says:
"So don't move your arm like that"
Now, fat girl walks into the doctor's office, says:
"Doctor, it hurts when i move my arm like this, what should i do?" And the doctor says:
"Have you considered weight loss surgery?"
Fat girl walks into the doctor for a flu shot and gets a lecture about BMI
Fat girl walks into the doctor's with an earache and gets asked if she's ever eaten a salad
Fat girls walks into the doctor's office with a spider bite, and the doctor obsesses over how low her blood pressure is low for such a fat person anyway
Insists on checking it three times before he'll believe it, forgets completely about the mass of purple spider venom that brought her here, to begin with
Fat girl walks into the doctors to ask about antidepressants and gets prescribed exercise instead, because obviously her depression is because of her fat
And obviously fat body's never exercise and stay fat
Fat girl walks into the doctor's office for a standart 3 month follow-up appointment and the doctor says:
"Have you considered that weight loss surgery yet?"
Fat girl gets tired of constantly being diagnosed as fat
So fat girl stops walking into the doctor's office
Fat girl walks into the world and says:
"World, it hurts to exist like this"
And the world says:
"So stop existing like that"
Fat girl walks trough a world that would rather she sliced herself open, than to exist as she does side-effects be damned
Fat girl walks trough a world overrun with sidewalk doctors, who claim to be concerned about her health, side-effects be damned
Fat girl walks into the world and still, somehow manages to love her fat body
And the world says:
"Stop glorifying obesity"
Fat girl walks into the world and says:
"I do not, owe you shrinking, you know. I do not owe you thinness, attempted thinness or desired thinness, because you assume thinness, equals health."
For that matter i do not owe you health, perceived or otherwise to recieve basic respect.
I'm deserving of care
I'm deserving to exist, as i do
I'm deserving a first, no harm done
And the world says:
"That is the best joke we've heard all day."
The lyrics, because i didn't find it anywhere :)
Thanks so much
Your braincells deserve the title of veterans.
Thanks, I couldn't hear her over her excessive inhaling thanks to the heart attack she'll soon experience.
@@Beltzer0072 why the hell are you here?
Just to hate?
@@user-pi3hd2bt3f Do I need a reason? ;)
I’ve always loved Rachel’s poems and having a small group of students in College that are interested in poetry, get to choose one of her poems that resonate with them the most to talk about. This one is a favorite and I completely agree because this Poem moves me as someone who’s experienced all of this.
I have all her books, and I love when a student comes up to me and asks to check out another of her books from me. She’s been changing the world one word at a time for years and to see it bloom is a gift. ❤
Fat girl walks into the world and still, somehow manages to love her fat body
And the world says:
"Stop glorifying obesity"
The accuracy of this hit me like a ton of bricks
Or a ton of person.
I'm showing this to my psychiatrist if she mentions exercise one more time
They say excersize because its a legitimate anti depressant
@Tyler Durden You don't know a thing about that person so: shut the fuck up. Thanks.
Tyler Durden Fuck off
enjoy getting prescribed antipsychotics
I watch this video often for motivation and I’ve read a lot of these comments. It’s unreal how mean people can be. This hits close to home and I understood how she feels. I’m aware I’m overweight, please stop telling me. I’m trying so hard yet no one can see that can they? I have health problems and take medicine that won’t allow me to lose weight, but I’m still trying so hard. Feels like no one understands that.
People are miserable assholes. Especially online. They look for any excuse to try to rip down another human. Or some of them don't even think that far into it. All they see is a screen name. Either way it feeds their ego. Hell half of them are probably fat miserable fuckers trying to make themselves feel better by making someone else feel bad. Don't let them 💦 sweat you. Online or in real life.
Rather than compliment someone it's so much easier for some people to be an assholes
I went to a doctor for a flu shot and she sat me down and told me about how I’m too fat and how I need to lose weight, saying things that my mother also says like “At this rate, you could get diabetes”.
The fact that I had her say these things to me has made me hate myself more and more every day.
I am 12
I am 12 and too scared to ask my mum about therapy because “What if I don’t really need it and waste her time?”,I am 12 and crying behind each and every smile I make because I don’t want people calling me an “attention whore”, I am 12 and ashamed of what I see when I look at myself because of a few simple words I was told.
Edit: Hi! Been 4 months since i came back to this and while my weight hasn’t changed much, which makes me a bit sad, i wanted to clear stuff up. In truth, I’m not very overweight, I’m rather short so my extra weight is much more noticeable to others so I understand the doctors concerns but its not much of a physical problem as it is a mental problem. Hearing those words really affected me and still do along with rude people in school making little comments on me and making me insecure but i can say that I’m gonna try to work out when i can so wish me luck!
@PukingRainbows 101
Hiya. I’m a 20year old lady here and I get what you are going through. Here is something that helped me and I hope it helps you too.
Things don’t just GET better, but you can MAKE them better.
I’m trying to unlearn some bad habits that I grew up with, and even though it’s hard, it can be done. Look up ways to diet safely, (no fads, no get skinny quick schemes) and if you have a good support system (whether that be family or friends) go to them, tell them about your plans and hopefully they will support you.
Most of all stay safe and healthy. I’ll be rooting for you. 🥰
I'm a 29 year old autistic guy.
You know, you don't have to listen to their scare tactics. Society makes girls afraid of weight, so much that they buy diet water (yes, that's a real product, it's literally plain water). You know, what's so bad about being fat? Fat is beautiful. I believe beauty has no weight limit, a girl will never be too big for me. And I'm a thin guy. I get a similar treatment. People either told me I was too thin, or not thin enough. A guy can like a thin girl, fine. But if a guy likes a fat girl, he's a "chubby chaser" and has a "fetish." Why is that considered normal thinking?
PukingRainbows, if you keep looking for someone else in the mirror, you will never be happy. There is nothing wrong with being fat. In fact, I think that's beautiful. It means you stand out from the norm, and the world needs more of that. Eat what you want, love yourself :)
You are 12 and doctors are already extremely concerned about your health and weight, talking about your apparent major problem. And you don't think you have one?
Let me say that again: YOU ARE TWELVE.. and you're already having people being extremely concerned. Let that sink in.
@@alexgear959 you have no idea how this girl looks and how much her doctor says is to much weight. Maybe everything besides a thin plank is "to fat" for her doctor. At age 12 hormones start to act up, everyones body reacts to this differently. You dont want to know how many girls are considered fat, before their boobs grow in. And suddenly they are in proportion again. The fact that this child is getting traumatised by someone proffesional who should know better is horrible. And you shaming her also isnt helping. At age 12 you eat whatever your parents allow you to eat, you exercise as much as your parents encourage you. Your brain isnt developed enough to see the bigger picture of what these kind of things could mean in the long run. So you shaming her is not only harmful, its also not going to work. Same as what the doctor said, it will only make her ashamed of her body or flip to the other side and get anorexia
Have you tried to just lose your weight? I was once very overweight and I hated myself more and more everyday. Then I lost weight and everyday I say “damn I’m sexy as fuck”. I was happy in my own skin but most importantly I’m healthy, having diabetes is not healthy and can cost you your life so lose the weight, get healthy so you can maybe love yourself.
This whole comment section makes me genuinely disappointed
Edit: Damn, never checked the replies before. To the one person who called me a "furfag" what a **clever** and **original** little fucker you are /s
Also, every person who is doing no harm to others deserves respect. Weight be damned. Have a good night and wash your hands.
Fat people are disgusting
Strawberry Milkshakes lmao
Strawberry Milkshakes hamplanets defending hamplanets
@@Buckeyedadcooks fat people aren't, your comment is.
Mr. Nobody YOU ARE DISGUSTING
I don't know if this is too harsh, but love your body enough to the point that you are willing to take care of it.
Yeah, You don't truly love your body if you're that size
It’s her body not urs mind ur dam business
Victoria 809 lizzo you should lose some weight before you talk
Some times it’s not that easy. Trust me it’s not that easy. Plus keeping your alive no matter what size you are should be priority. And she is alive.
@@damianmigginis1157 I'm in perfect health I'm just confident an I know for a fact only insecure and sad people like you comment shit like that go study yourself bet you look like barbie and shes on crack
The antidepressant part: A lot of the time, people confuse temporary misery for depression. When you're down, exercise and a healthy diet can do wonders. It's worth trying that first before opting for medication.
This is very true I can personally confirm
True - people play victims for years. I know few who just bragging about how depressed they are. They do nothing about their lives and play victims. The "depression" is only the word to use as a weapon whenever you trying to say something positive or help. This is a big issue.
I also think doctors should explain more. At least where I am the doctors usually don’t explain what the medicine or advice will benefit you. I like to know what it’s actually going to do and not just trust on faith in the title doctor
Such powerful emotion, thank you for sharing your voice! you are heard and seen! So much respect for you sister.
I went to a MedExpress type place that I'd previously had a good experience at for an allergic reaction all over my back.
The nurse practitioner spent 45 minutes upsetting me by taking my blood pressure over and over and over until it was elevated. She had barely noted what I was doing there. She asked me if I wanted to live a long life for my husband.
The appointment was scheduled for 30 minutes, I was in there for more than two HOURS, the reason for my visit was a final afterthought where she told me it was probably vital and to take some aspirin for it.
I've never been so angry at a medical professional in my whole life. It took two weeks for my back to quit itching, I didn't see anyone else about it even though I should have.
This is so touching. Even if you love yourself you're still put down by others.
Some of you are completely missing the point of poetry...
Sorry, but she should quit poetry and take up jogging. Or at least walking.
That doesn't make her any less of an idiot.
@@thrillhovanhouten253 No, it makes her her a beanbag chair
Wth people. Why are you saying this stuff about her?
Can this even be considered poetry? There's no nuance, no meter and no wit. All I'm seeing is a delusional morbidly obese woman screaming and ranting into a microphone about how she hates being reminded every day that she's a fat ass. Clearly she hates being a fat ass but hey, it's easier to blame doctors and the whole world than actually do something to improve yourself.
You do not owe anything to anyone.
You are valid.
"George, you ever notice you don't see a lot of obese old men?"- Que Sera Sera. House MD
Blissfully_ineffable People who are confused about her message: she is done with people so obsessed with her weight. At the end of the day, people don’t care about your health, they care about how it makes you look. Example: I used to eat a lot but people didn’t care and they thought it was funny cus I was so small and I didn’t gain weight but if a fat person does the same it’s considered disgusting. We both ate terribly, but I had a good metabolism and the other didn’t. My health didn’t affect how I looked so no one cared. Bullies don’t make fun of your health, they make fun of how it makes you look. They don’t care if you’re working out and eating good, they only care that you’re still fat
Off-topic, but I love that show.
Indigo. Indigoing. Indigone. If she was done with people being obsessed with her weight she wouldn’t be mewling into a mic before a crowd about her morbid obesity. Every one of her complaints is her doctor doing their job being concerned with her health. Other comments are others concerned about her health. Smokers get the same comments. As do drug addicts. All this poor excuse for poetry is, is a morbidly obese woman with thin skin unable to handle outside opinions and expecting the world to conform to her.
That’s not how this works. Thankfully for her she won’t have to handle it much longer because her heart will explode soon enough
@Michael Goldshmidt being fat and looking good are polar opposites to you. Your opinion, however, doesn't matter to begin with.
Not to mention that fat old white men exist. Like, a lot of them. So what exactly is your point?
If somebody goes to a doctors office for a check up, and the doctor uncovers a dangerous condition that will shorten their life and cause them great difficulty, should the doctor ignore it?
According to this woman, yes, the doctor should ignore it.
that wasn’t point she was trying to get across. what she is trying to say is that society body shames anyone who can’t fit in their box of perfection. ik how she feels and what she is trying to say cus i personally struggle with being overweight.
Zac’s Google Account The doctor should address both. She is huge, it is the doctors job to try to get her to lose weight. But yes, also deal with the spider bite.
rødrigo Seems like her point is “how dare anyone criticize my flaws”. And yes, being morbidly obese is a flaw.
theunderdog1206 she knows she’s not the skinniest but she’s trying to embrace her flaws. the point of the poem was to go tell all the people who disrespect people with “ flaws “ to fuck off cus everyone deserves basic respect regardless of their weight
rødrigo everything the doctor brought up is part of their job. Just like doctors lecture smokers about smoking, they lecture the obese about their weight. It’s not uncommon for people to share their opinions when they’re concerned about you. This is life. She’s morbid obese. This is going to happen
I farted almost the whole time I watched this video. Farted up a storm really..
If someone doesn't like you at your worst, they don't deserve you at your best.
What's her best and what's her worst?
Just reminded me I was shopping at tryst and some woman came up to and gave me her card and said I should come to the event her job was having… me being extremely empathetic and not wanting to be in the position where I hurt someone’s feelings I take it. I look at it’s like Herbalife shit for weight loss. The fact that she was “concerned for my health” enough that she came up to me. Not glorifying obesity but dying living this way. Definitely been a journey to excepting myself.
I’m disgusted with over half of the comments on this video. You are literally tearing her down for loving herself AS SHE IS, and AS SHE SHOULD because she’s a badass to stand up there and say these difficult things.
What kind of monster do you have to be to have someone show you- to your face- that you don’t have to be skinny to love yourself and then say terrible things about her because of her weight?
This poem is worthy of love, this person is worthy of love, no matter her weight, no matter her health, no matter the way speaking her mind makes you uncomfortable or upset. She’s brave enough to not care whether she makes you upset, and that makes her worth ten of you.
Stop being hateful towards someone who’s only asking for the respect they deserve.
You do understand that being fat is bad, right?
@@FroggyTheNinja
So what? It's not doing anything to you. If you're not fat, this isn't for you and you wouldn't know what it's like. She's just asking for people to stop telling her things she already knows. If she's happy, whether she's unhealthy or not, it's not your place to tell her to change. She obviously won't care if you tell her she's disgusting. She doesn't care what you think, so don't waste your "oh-so-precious" time.
@@alexandertrashking5450 To stop caring for her health? That's a dumb thing to say. Being fat and the "Fat acceptance" movement is dumb.
@@FroggyTheNinja sighhhhhhh just had to be that guy huh?? Or girl whatever pronoun is preferred
Couldn't just let it be huh?? Just had to find someway to let your opinion be heard huh???
Is it fun to be that guy who opposes people just to see them be triggered over something they are passionate to protect????
What if I took your passion and presumed it "dumb"??? Huh?? Wouldn't you be upset???
But then you might say well it doesn't upset you .....but if that's the case........its not your passion now is it???
Dude I'm not gonna be like "oh you're dumb for saying that and you should be ashamed blah blah blah" but all I'm saying is the some people are sensitive to specific topics that either trigger or is passionate about state your opinion but for fucks sake be kinder about it
This was my Ted talk
Thank you for your time
@@queennaijathagoddess1848 Wait, you're Ted from Ted talks?
world: "thinness is health"
me: "say that to people with Anorexia"
Or people of normal weight
Nobody thinks anorexic people are healthy. Trying your best to become an actual walrus isn't healthy either
Bringing up the exception doesn’t negate the rule. There are a lot more healthy thin people than unhealthy thin people. While obese people will develop an illness related to their obesity
I don't know why these retards think anyone actually believes being thin is naturally healthy. No one will ever look at a starving ethiopian child and think to themselves "Wow what a healthy person"
It's not one extreme or the other. You realize there's a middle ground right?
And a healthy weight doesn't include being obese.
So what do you want your doctor to do? Completely ignore the elephant in the room? You can’t have your cake and eat it.
I so want to hug this woman! Proud, honest, loud and beautiful!
Good luck getting your arms around her.
This made me cry. I felt it. Her words, her pain, her thoughts, her poem.
1:06 exercise actually helps with depression
lovely ti ehh, weight loss is about 80% nutrition, along with exercise. People think you have to starve for fat loss, actually that’s a short cut that will just rebound when your food restriction is over. You have to eat a lot, but the key is to eat the right kind of foods, healthy foods with Saturated fats, simple carbs and NO refined sugars. The problem is your type of people want simple answers.
“Awwww I sad, I need anti depwessants”
no... you need to analyze the root cause of your depression. Are your hormones out of balance due to genetic predispositions or maybe it’s a nutritional deficit, maybe you need to see a psychiatrist.
Awwww I’m phaaat, I need surgery.
No, you need to make better lifestyle decisions
But no, you want *pills! Pills! PILLS!*
Then when you get the side affects of your anti-depressants...you want more pills for that.
But hey listen, do what you want. I’m not the one bitching about “my” shitty lifestyle.
It doesn’t occur to them that maybe they’re unhappy because of the shitty decisions they’ve been making for years. Or maybe it’s there environment. But here’s a mind fuck for you....
Everyone has free will, which means everyone has the ability to choose how they are going to respond to there environment. Life is unfair, and no amount of “social justice” is going to change that.
@@tianna5353 it's actually very well documented that psycho therapy is more successful in treating anxiety and depression than SSRIs. Also, most of what that guy is saying is factually true. He's kind of a dick about it but he's probably sick of the current state of constant bitchyness the world seems to have stumbled into. Take the emotion out of it and listen to the facts. Most people who are fat, are fat because they're eating donuts and fast food all day. Hell I'm in pretty decent shape but if I changed my own eating habits I'd probably lose 30 lbs without changing anything else. Quit being so sensitive. It only enables bad behavior.
Any doctor who just throws pills at mental health issues should have his licence revoked
No it doesn’t, trust me.
are you a medical professional?
*Fat girl dies sometime in her late thirties and forties because she didn’t listen to her doctor, friends, and family telling her to lose weight*
*Me* “good”
It's a doctor's JOB to assess the factors that play into your overall health. Not give you validation because you're insecure. It's better as a healer to tell the truth, regardless of how painful it is than to sugar coat it for someone's comforts. You can't make a change without acknowledging the issue. The shame comes from society. Not your physician. Let them do their jobs. Coming from a fat kid of 2 doctors.
Are you gonna keep that same energy when one of your loved ones is subject to weight bias and medical gaslighting?
If you go in there for, say, blood in your stool and the doctor says "lose weight", you gonna keep that same energy?
If you were dropping pounds quickly WITHOUT TRYING, your doctors congratulate you on your weight loss, and, later, found out that you developed stage 3 cancer, are you gonna keep that same energy?
You come in there coughing and you tried everything to solve it but then you wind up needing to have an ENTIRE LUNG removed, are you gonna have that same energy?
When you go to the doctor, you're supposed to be treated for what you came in there for, everything else should be secondary.
I wonder if your parents might have KILLED someone with that medical gaslighting and weight bias.
This hit hard, as a kid that has been ”fat” since 10 years old...this hit hard
you are beautiful and amazing, keep that in mind, gorgeous. ❤️
Rosa Lila Thank you, that means a lot. And so are you!
Fat ass lose weight cubby bunny
@@user-tv9zb9th8o nah he's a disgusting out that needs to lay off the sweets
Wouldn't hit so hard if you just ate less...why STAY fat? why do people just wanna be like that for so long? You are actually ENDANGERING yourself. Just run outside! If not then go to a gym. There are also so many people out there willing to give you advice on fitness. wow.
As a society, we will never change anyone for the better through criticism. We don't know a person's life or health issues. That being said, a doctor's job is to speak the truth even if it's hard to hear. Doctors are people, they make mistakes, but the majority work very hard to keep people healthy physically and emotionally, which sometimes includes recommending weight loss surgery or diet and lifestyle changes.
"Fatass walks into McDonald's and says I'll have four of everything on menu! And please super-super size my fries!"
I relate to this so much, my doctor told me I’m not the thinnest, I’m 120 pounds at 4’10, average is 118 and now I’m considered overweight
I mean being 2lbs overweight isn't really being overweight. Having to go through life with the whole world perceiving you as a disgusting slob with no self control is a whole lot different than being 2 pounds above average. The world is hostile to fat people. Basic things like going to a restaurant or a concert is stressful because you have to go there first to scope out if you'll even be able to fit in the seats there. Flying is torment. Doctors are extremely rude. Everyone has an opinion about your body and has no problem telling you to your face everything they think is wrong with you.
I'm not trying to be harsh, sorry. But I don't think you really understand what it's like to exist the way she does. Those 2 pounds of your are not obesity.
Legit. Last time I went to a dr appointment for my three year old the dr walked In and asked me “what are you doing about your weight” and I’m like 🧐 nothing and we are here for my daughter not me.
It's a doctor's job to be concerned about their patients wellbeing. Just because someone enters for a specific reason (such as a flu shot, etc.) doen't mean the doctor should ignore all other problems.
can house Thing is that doctors are very opinionated and could care less about what the actual problem is. I have irregular periods and I’ve had male doctors force the idea that I’m pregnant when I’m a virgin and I when I was sick with massive coughing where a z-pack was the only medicine that could help me, another doctor I went to said that “it doesn’t work,” and forced me to take something else instead that took me three weeks to get better the z-pack takes me a week. My sister has a heart problem where she couldn’t walk for a year and constantly threw up, and she was seen by dozens upon dozens of doctors and everyone kept telling her that her problem was in her head and that she needed to take aspirin and stop being stressed out. A year later, she gets diagnosed with a heart problem from a a doctor that actually has a brain. If he didn’t help her, she would’ve died. Doctors don’t care nor do they actually know anything. They’re too busy asking for thousands of dollars up front and sending you away with aspirin.
I am petite and yet I am sluggish and falls into depression at times. It is not the body that propels us forward but more so the mind, the will, the heart. It does not matter what size you are at the moment, but are you able to move and continue participating in life, is the question.
Not trying to be disrespectful or anything... but exercise is one of the best methods for anxiety and depression.
Preach it
...it’s really not. Sure, it can help, but it can’t replace meds or mindfulness.
*sTuNnInG aNd BrAvE*
I've watched this piece by Rachel do many times and every time I tear up. I feel every single word of this as a fat girl living in this world.
Why not lose weight? Respect urself a little bit and take care of ur body
exercise is proven to be a good antidepresant no matter you weight,stop blaming society on your problems you might not owe the world shrinking,BUT YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF if you love your self,you will work to be in a healthier state. you are deserving of care, but so is your body.
Are we championing lazy people now?
It doesn't matter what height, or sexuality, or body type, or what you look like. We are all human. Thats all that matters
Weight is bad, rest rest are fine.
Gachatard found
Amen
You are comparing things we have no control over with something we do have control over. You dont choose your height or sexuality but you choose to be fat
im thankful that i have people that give me the cold truth about my health rather than stuffing glazed doughnuts, pizza and other stuff down my throat. people to continue to be naive of their issues can cause some damage later down the line.
Hi, fat person here. My weight gain was caused by a medication side effect. If I went off this medication, I’d become an emotional mess. It’s an antidepressant - I have major depressive disorder. I would very much rather be fat and not depressed than skinny and planning my own suicide.
I'm on medicine for bipolar disorder which caused weight gain. I'd go off the deep end and probably kill myself without them lmao so yeah, I'd rather be overweight than dead
Andrew Theodore Johnson
Losing weight and keeping healthy it’s not such a bad thing. I’m fat too and I blame myself for that. Drugs will help 10% but self discipline will work 90% and that’s helps the weight loss and healthy life.
Amber Nicole
I know we have gone down that path many times but when you love yourself more, friends and family that will be there all the way it’s a good thing. Drugs can help but only by a small chance.
@@zaccytoyz4803 wait..what? Drugs for what? I will literally go off the deep end without my meds. Been there, done that, no thank you lmao
I've been an overweight man most of my life and women have almost always rejected me. Even ones who are overweight themselves. 4 years ago I lost over 100 pounds in 7 months and everything changed. Everyone treated me better including other straight men. Carl Jung says thinking is difficult which is why people judge, so I understand your pain believe me. People didnt only reject me but they put me down hard too. Kids told me I should kill myself and people constantly attributed any mistakes I made to being "fat" even when most of them had nothing to do with diet or exercise. I lived almost my entire life in doors before a few years ago because I didnt want to hear people call me names. The fact that people treat me different now makes me resent them even more even though people seem to want me around. Hopefully I'll find love with a woman I trust to not be shallow but I find that I can't trust anyone. Everyone seems fake in someway or another especially pretty people. If you're out there and you think it's funny to put someone down and try and make them cry because you're with your boys. Just imagine this dude started boxing, jiu jitsu, and muay thai, and then lost over a hundred pounds in 7 months and in doing so at such a pace became incredibly agile for his size. Like 5 punches per second agile with shins that could shatter your femur. It's been 4 years later and that guy has become pretty proficient with mma and after sparring with K1 fighters could probably beat the fuck out of you while he made your families watch. Man that would be terrible. Or maybe you just don't say anything. Maybe that person has severe depression and has lost hope because they're sad, body dismorphia, a glandular problem, or some other disorder you can't see. Or, maybe they just like to eat and if they get big thats their business. This being mean shit has to stop. People constantly tell me how funny and good of a person I am and whether I am or not doesn't matter because I was this way before I lost weight and you still thought I should just end my life. Sorry for ranting so long but I know there's people who've come to this page to do nothing but leave mean comments so I feel like you should be warned because I'm still out here and one of you sorry ass punks might wander into my gym just to get dealt with.
Isn't this a coincidence? I was also fat as a child and adolescent and also took to Muay Thai to help remedy that. Competed as an amateur for quite some time and still train 5-6 days a week. If you've done what say you have, you know the effort it takes to go from being obese to an athletic performance level. That is something I respect and applaud. Why should I respect someone who sits on their backside all day stuffing their face? I don't go out of my way to be nasty to people, having suffered much of that myself, but when obese people get on a soap box, like this woman, and demand unconditional respect and acceptance, that's where I draw the line. Obesity should never be respected or accepted. If you make the choice to remain obese, you live with the consequences. I made and continue to make an effort every day. You say you also made the effort to turn your life around so they can do the same and stop demanding unearned respect.
@@connorbannion5899 I appreciate what you're saying and applaude what you've been through. I admit after scrolling through some of the comments I let emotions take control as I went off on my comment above. But the point I was trying to make is that even though I made it through as you have as well to being fit and living an active lifestyle with martial arts, we don't know what other people go through. Mental health is a serious issue and its something I still struggle with daily. Some people are lost and make poor choices for instant relief. I'm sure you already know this but I was saying what I said in response to people saying nasty things. You're right to not accept obesity in the same way you shouldn't accept heroin addiction. Calling a heroin addict a piece of shit along with other mean things is more than likely going to make that person want to do more heroin. Its the same thing with food. This woman is who she is and has found a way to accept herself which is a huge hurdle for people struggling with mental health. She may not be right but I dont think she wants you to give adulation for obesity. I think she wants acceptance for her, the person who struggles with obesity. And what's this about unearned respect? I used to weigh 310 and I'm only 5'9" and I never disrespected anyone. I mistreated myself and myself alone but always remained kind to others. You earn respect by being respectful and that's it. Take it how you like. Btw I never competed, too many injuries but I spar regularly. Helping train a dude right now who fights K1.
But have you considered hate loss surgery?
Oh no, the doctor wants you to live longer.
I think you 100% missed the point.
@@souperdouperrr Whats the point?
Juan Serrano What I took from this wasn’t that she is upset that the doctor is watching out for her weight, as doctors should, it’s that she is upset that whenever she has anything she finds she needs to bring up to a doctor, it’s excused as a side effect of obesity. People have died from that. From having an urgent medical emergency and then going to the doctor and the doctor saying “It’s because you’re fat” and not doing any further tests and just recommending weight loss. I’m pretty sure there was a news story of a girl who went to the doctor because she was having trouble breathing, the doctor told her it was because she was obese, gave her weight loss tips, sent her home, and she later died of pneumonia.
dead white boy Her obesity would of had a impact on her death, that is true. They could of done more for her though. But the girl in the video is acting like doctors don’t really care and ‘fat shame’ her
dead white boy joint pain and depression are side effects of obesity and lack of physical activity. Every piece of advice she was given is entirely justified
I work out daily and am healthy but I have high BMI and my doctor brings this up every visit despite I have fine blood pressure and eat well and exercise she thinks because im big I need to lose
Maybe reduce the carbs, can really make a difference
Elaina Shawver bmi isn't a good way to measure health
It doesn't matter how much you work out, you if you eat more calories than you burn.
@@imsittingonmars Bodyfat% and FFMI are
excellent!!!!! YESSS!!! So incredibly well said.
I completely appreciate her frustration and anger about this. I sincerely hope she is able to find a provider that will address her symptoms beyond her weight, but also foster an environment/relationship that empowers her to feel hopeful and ultimately become successful at getting on a path to a healthier life (both mentally and physically).
yeyyus dkek believe when I say: I know. But it is possible to find a provider that does. And frankly, providers need to do the best they can with whatever resources they have. If a provider can’t address a patient’s lifestyle in a meaningful way, then what is the point? Chronic illness is largely self induced. If they aren’t at all focusing on prevention, or aren’t allowing the time for a “prevention” based discussion, then they aren’t doing a large part of their job. As I said, there are providers out there they do/can, and I hope she finds one. And also a great dietitian!
My cheeks are a bit plump and I always thought it was cute until I got bullied by people who thought I was fat even though I wasn't.
Its cute!!! Round cheeks are cute!! Ppl who cant accept that fact are the same ones who think a girl should be dressing like a 20 yo at 12. Same level of stupidity
Tell me and ill beat their ass up so hard they'll get a free flight straight to korea😤
I feel your pain man. My doctor refused to up the dosage on anxiety meds that we knew worked because it might cause weight gain.
did you ever stop to think that maybe anxiety pills have a very narrow therapeutic window and just because you thought it was a good idea to increase the dosage, it probably wasn't indicated? what you think you know about medicine is only the tip of the iceberg, so in reality you don't know how that drug would work at a higher dose. also I highly doubt your dr's concern about your weight gain has to do with your looks. don't flatter yourself.
I'd assume that the medically-licensed professional with 8 years of schooling and however many years of experience PROBABLY knows better than you do
Crazy that a doctor who went to med school and who's job it is to keep people alive might actually know more than his patients. Maybe being fat is more deadly than anxiety.
I'd imagine the medical professional you were talking to knew what he/she was doing when they didn't up the dose. Exercising and losing weight can do wonders for both anxiety and depression. The meds should be the last option.
This poem was written beautifully and some of the lines punch you in the gut but like-- I don't really a hundred percent agree with the message? Yeah, it's hard to live in the world like that and people could be rude and destructive about it but-- not like you can say yourself, that it is indeed healthy. Screw the side effects? Really? You're not only putting yourself at risk but also all the people that watch this video and others like it and believe it's completely healthy. Yeah, fat does not equal healthy and neither does thin. It's important we find a middle ground in all things because that's the healthiest way.
So, please. Stop glorifying obesity and stop glorifying unhealthily thin people. Both sides can be extremely damaging.
I get the message is about loving yourself (and I agree with this wholeheartedly) but the things you imply along with this - ignorance and health risks - is just- well, you guys know.
Glorify the middle ground.
She means fatphobic people not considering the side effects of everything they recommend to fat people - whether that's surgery, diets which are basically eating disorders, exercise regimes which let's put it this way people can destroy their joints running etc, let alone how hard that is if you have depression and other disabilities, so like those people aren't accepting how there are plenty of people who will be fat for most of their lives, no matter whether they wish they weren't, and they deserve to be seen as deserving of life same as everyone else. And the idea that they should always be trying to be healthy when many could be otherwise disabled so health in that sense will never be attainable. Hence what she says about not owing people health, perceived or otherwise. It's actually really hard to find studies which look at the health of people who do lose significant weight, I tried when I was talking with a friend with an eating disorder, people want to assume that when someone loses weight all the health risks of being obese go away but I don't think they do, especially since that's a demographic of people who are disproportionately poor and also struggle with healthcare and are probably disabled anyway. But then there are some people who are fat, but capable of everything a thin and active person is. Fatphobia doesn't even just hurt fat people, it's reflected in eating disorder programs where people are expected to let go of their disordered thinking about weight and obsession around food at the same time as the programs require their bmi to be extremely low before they get treatment and often involve calorie counting themselves, so basically if your metabolism is such that even if you starve yourself you're above that bmi you don't get treatment and aren't taken seriously. None of this will be solved till people stop trying to guess at how healthy someone is just by looking at them, and let their assumptions of the lifestyle of the person rank above even what they tell you. Also acting as if the same lifestyle is healthy for everyone is a bit of a joke.
Oml you don't get this video at ALL. It's saying that it isn't fair for someone to be judged solely by their weight. She never ONCE said that it was healthy, she's trying to say that fat isn't always the reason someone could be depressed and the world should be more accepting of overweight people as actual...wait for it... people. I know, crazy right? To treat someone you don't know with respect and not judging them by their outward appearance??
Everybody saying "the doctors are just worried for her health" need to understand that when you're fat and go to the doctor they make every single thing about your weight. You could be suffering from something completely unrelated to being fat and they will still say "well have you tried losing weight"? Believe it or not, doctors don't always care about what's in your best interest, just getting paid. Tons of patients are gaslighted by their doctors and are immediately dismissed if they speak up about it. None of you actually care about this woman's health, you just want to mock her to feel better about yourself. Worry about your own health why don't you?
Even though I like the way your emotions flow through this poem!
I'm a nurse, and I gotta be realistic with you...
We recommend exercise as a treatment to depression, not because people are fat, but because exercise increase the levels of serotonin in our brains! (Serotonin's low levels, are the reason why we might feel depressed, and being depressed for long periods, it's because of the serotonin's inability to rise back to it's normal levels)
Also, checking the Blood Pressure of an obese person when it's lower than expected, it's necessary. Because if you are blood pressure is lower than expected, then it might be a sign we should consider, because lots of conditions (much like poison) may drop the blood pressure of the afflicted patient, and it would help for an accurate diagnosis!
Chris Hunter FINALY A PEROSN WHO ACTUALLY KNOWS WHAT THEYRE TALKING ABOUT
Plenty of fat people have normal blood pressure. The majority do, although they're busy avoiding going to the doctor like the plague because every time they show any markers of being healthy they get hit with a big dose of fat-phobia and ensuing discrimination.
Normal blood pressure in a fat person is not an automatic marker of a problem.
Also, just like she says in the poem, medical professionals see fat bodies and assume that they don't eat nutritious food and exercise, even though fat people who exercise regularly almost always stay fat. And many eat nutritious food, and also stay fat.
Situational depression (for instance, the kind that comes from being the target of chronic discrimination, for example) is NOT fixed by exercise.
I mean exercise does help your brain release endorphins, it's like a common treatment for depression...
In clinical studies, regular aerobic exercise is as effective as antidepressants in reducing symptoms of mild to moderate depression. can't believe she missed that point. easy to be a victim i guess.
@@user-vw7bx9ll8n It's easy to google and is pretty much common knowledge. But I get the impression that she's looking for any and every excuse to continue her lifestyle as is without putting in any significant effort into reversing harmful habbits.
I owe you respect. Thank you.
Fat Girl: How to shrink my size
Doctor: Have you consider exercising, eating healthy food and be persistent.
Fat Girl: Yum Yummy, Umm. I’m sorry what did you say?
Doctor: Ohh hell no!
I so wish that my health and body problems could be solved by simply not eating 10K calories a day.
Fat girl walks into the world and knocks the Earth out of orbit.
All I see in this comment section is people missing the point. It's not about her saying she shouldn't loose weight. It's about her right to exist. It's about getting basic care and society seeing her for who she actually is, and not her weight. It's not about if it's unhealthy to be overweight. So many people feel entitled to tell you about your body when you haven't asked for any of it, you are simply just existing and doesn't owe anyone anything. You all are just missing the point.
But she is not fat... She is obese! Greed is killing her and we should not eat the cost of her choice.
But, being overweight is not healthy. We shouldn't discriminate, you can "accept your fat" but please do not accept the medical issues that come with it.
Julie yes because every person which medical issues is fat... walk though your local hospital... 🤦🏻♀️
@@rainbowdust6574 This is not what I said 🙃
@@rainbowdust6574 i- what? How did you get that from the comment?? 😂
@@rainbowdust6574 not every person with medical issues is fat, but every fat person has medical issues
I had exclaimed this question of "Why is it every time I go to the doctors, all they comment on is my weight?" And my Mother had said, "Because if they didn't, then they wouldn't be doing their job".
Respect is earned, no one owes it to you.
But then why does being fat inherently remove said respect?
@@brianaashenfelter3893 people respect in others that which takes effort and dedication, being fat takes the opposite, so people might automatically loose some respect for it.
@@ozzyherrera1027 so being skinny takes effort and dedication? That is the funniest joke I've heard all day.
@@brianaashenfelter3893 being skinny doesnt take a lot of effort, but at least it means you eat sensibly. Being fit and having an impressive physique does take a lot of effort
@@ozzyherrera1027 oh the ignorance here is unfathomable. All of my skinny friends eat 10x as much as me. Having a normal functioning or high functioning metabolism is not "eating sensibly" you buffoon.
exercise is prescribed to most mild depression patients not just larger people
"actually doctors prescribe exercise for everyone that's depressed it's not just fat people"
i mean yes good point but i feel like the thing she's pointing out is the doctor's base assumption that because someone is fat they don't exercise at all and their depression can be cured through weight loss, rather than criticising the doctor for prescribing a method that can work for people as opposed to another option
Missy R. People who are confused about her message: she is done with people so obsessed with her weight. At the end of the day, people don’t care about your health, they care about how it makes you look. Example: I used to eat a lot but people didn’t care and they thought it was funny cus I was so small and I didn’t gain weight but if a fat person does the same it’s considered disgusting. We both ate terribly, but I had a good metabolism and the other didn’t. My health didn’t affect how I looked so no one cared. Bullies don’t make fun of your health, they make fun of how it makes you look. They don’t care if you’re working out and eating good, they only care that you’re still fat
Indigo. Indigoing. Indigone. She’s talking specifically about doctors, and doctors should care about your weight, given that weight is a risk factor in hundreds of preventable diseases. Onto your terrible example, unhealthy food doesn’t have a particularly bad impact on your health if you metabolise it quickly, so the fact is that your friend was likely much more unhealthy than you despite your similar diets. (PS- I’m a student doctor)
THIS IS AMAZING
Maybe it would be a pretty good idea to replace „fat girl walks“ with „fat girl is going to drive with an electric roller for old and disabled people in a few years“.
That may sound really disrespectful but it is an enormous problem because being heavy overwheight causes so many health issues like heart disease and athrosis in every single joint, especially in the knees. So it is not unfair and mean by the doctor to say to you that you are overweight, it is a fact and is his duty to warn you about health issues you are „working“ for.
I hate when people say that overweight people shouldn't love their body and that it's "glorifying obesity" because they should and it's not.
Kai Sulkowski it is tho
I'm not crying.....my eyes are just really sweaty
G h o s t Zzz
If you’re as fat as her I bet your eyes do get sweaty
I'm in my mid-thirties and obese. I've had two back surgeries and a host of other internal medical issues due to obesity. Maybe the doctors actually cared about you. I resent your hostility toward them and if you suffer an obesity related health issue and or early death, this video will relieve anybody from feeling sorry for you. I shall use your self-proclaimed title in wishing you good luck "Fat Girl" .
When a heroin addict walks into a doctor's office with a broken wrist, the doctor talks about their addiction.
You overeating is an addiction! Doctors are here to improve your health not pretend your addiction is a good life choice!
This is so true. Women are supposed to be skinny and pretty. Why are we this way. I get bullied about my weight yet I am perfectly healthy. Why do we have to change but not society's standards.
Young lady, you made me cry, amazing.🌸
i love the line where she shouts "I DO NOT OWE YOU HEALTH!!!!!!!!"
You dont owe someone health but she sure as hell won't owe it to herself down the line.
She doesn't owe it to me but she'll owe it to her heart when it finally decides it's had enough and shuts down.
"For most of my life, I have hammered nails into my head. Small nails, not too long. When I walk into the doctor's for toenail fungus, he does not give me cream, NO! He tells me maybe I shouldn't hammer nails in my head. When I, the guy who hammers nails in his head, walks into the doctors for a prostate exam, before the doctor sticks his finger up my ass he says, 'Maybe you shouldn't hammer nails in your head.' Eventually guy with nails in his head gets tired of being diagnosed as guy who hammers nails in his head and stops going to the doctor's office, and instead goes out into the world saying, 'I'm tired of being the guy with nails in his head!' and the world says, 'STOP FUCKING HAMMERING NAILS IN YOUR HEAD!'" The end.
Great point. Get it? Nails . . .
Sure, she deserves care, but she repeatedly rejects it.
It's not care when you're treated less than human due to people fixated solely on one's weight. It's especially not care when the doctor ignores what you've come into the office and they tell you to lose weight instead of treating the reason (that's unrelated) as to why you came into the doctor's office.