Hello, just want to apologise for the poor sound quality of this video (and some of my other videos) I plan to upgrade my phone or get a decent camera and mic sometime in the near future to create better quality content. I suggest not listening to this video with headphones as my daughter is making a lot of noise in the background. Also, I'd appreciate if you would take the time to read the description box for more info and have a lovely day ❤️
😄 Thank you for your video. I seriously was praying to God for answers about how to manage engaging with the church (especially a brick and mortar/ in-person church). Your video popped up without my searching for it (and I didn't pray out loud so my phone didn't hear me LOL). An answer from Elohim, that we are not alone. My child has more severe symptoms overall and would have a harder time in most church settings. I do wish there was more flexibility for the autistic community in places of worship. I hope the best for you and your family!💕
Thank you Tanaya for being brave enough to make this video! It was gentle, unhurried, informative and encouraging. I am 68 and have only recently discovered that I have a blend of autism and ADHD. I was researching these as my daughter (42) was recently diagnosed. Mine are on the mild side but still recognizable. I agree with you wholeheartedly about maintaining a Christ-like character. May the Lord bless you as you continue on your journey.
@@Carol-w8o nice to meet you Carol 😊 I believe I may have a blend of autism and adhd also. My oldest daughter has Adhd and I see so much of myself in her but yet we have our differences too and I think that's because I have both autism and adhd which can be overwhelming sometimes. God bless you and thanks for the encouragement ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for your channel Tannaya. It is such a relief. I am struggling with the idea that autism is a demon and have had horrible experiences in the church. I feel really second rate and rejected. I cry every day and am lonely. Don't really think I've had much help or support. People just criticise and say I'm a bad person. For many years I struggled with self hatred. Unfortunately, I don't see autism as a blessing. It seems like an excuse for the majority to bully and exclude us, particularly in the church. I don't think I'm worthless or a nasty person but because I'm alone, I really suffer and struggle. Have been praying to the Most High for some love, understanding and inclusion and end the cycle of loneliness. My faith is strong but it is some of those in the churches that have been the most challenging. Please pray for me. 🙏
I'm sorry to hear, and can say I've been there and still struggle to make connections but I know God will not leave us without comfort and will answer our prayers, in due time. Praying for you that He would strengthen your heart and mind and bring you closer to Himself ❤️🙏🏻
Follow your "FAITH" and your heart. Religion as a word need not apply. Follow self-awareness and special interests and abilities!! You are not alone and we will be heard.👻🤪🌶🤘😎♾️
There is a little boy in the toddler class at my church that I assist with. He was only diagnosed within the past few years. But I had my suspicions when I first met him he might be autistic just from the way he behaves. But he is still a very sweet and loving little boy and he loves to give hugs and play. I'm gonna help h9m remember that n ok matter what anyone else says there is nothing about himself that he needs to be ashamed of
@@larainethorpe2847 that's lovely.. I'm glad you spotted he was Autistic I feel like it's easier to spot in early childhood, not so much in adulthood. Good soil makes all the difference 🌻
Thanks for this channel. It is helpful in learning how to support autistic children in church settings! There's this child in children's church who exhibits signs of autism. one of his ASMR enjoyments is the sound of tearing paper and cracking plastic. naturally the adults jump on his case for being destructive. I've tried telling them, including his parents, he seems to be autistic, his brain works different. I provide paper for him to tear up. He also tends to show gratitude by destroying what is given to him. Because of this, he is only getting a bag of candy and not a paper stocking holder. Autism runs in my family, so I see a lot and am learning the way of the autistic brains.
@@SageGypsy I'm glad you're aware and being thoughtful toward his needs. That's lovely to hear... And as hard as it is, we do have to be patient with those who lack understanding and do our best to tend to the needs of children with special needs amidst disagreements and criticism. God bless you friend for doing your best to understand ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing! 🥰 This is exactly how I felt. It cant be prayed away but we can pray for the struggles to God and have him help us manage and cope through our daily lives. One thing he said to me was that, "The only validation we absolutely need is from God." I am also adhd so many people don't really see it and I was trying to get validation like can anyone see it, cause im looking back at my life and the signs are there. but thats when God gave me the word validated. Knowing that he validates me and cares for me is a true blessing and I love His words.
Yes so true! I've felt the same way and you're absolutely right.. One of my children has adhd and I empathise a lot with you in that.. I think Neuro-diverse people, despite the challenges they live with, are usually wonderful, vibrant and empathetic people 😊
what a beautiful singing voice you have been blessed with, your art is great and your photos are especially gorgeous, I love the simplicity of them, I'm so pleased I came across your channel.
Oh my goodness! I sang that same song to my littles! 🧡 one of my favorites- and your voice is beautiful! I don't have a diagnosis but feel that I'm autistic too- and I’m a mama- and Im a Christian too!! How fun, Sister, that we've never met but even if we never do- we will have heaven to meet and talk one day! 🧡 🎉
@@Xzy818 aw that's lovely heh.. Thank you. For some reason, that song has always stuck with me. I'm not officially diagnosed either but self diagnosis is valid. I'm glad to find there are others like myself and yes if not on this earth, we'll all meet in heaven 😇
@@HiswordandmeHi there iam autistic to, it can be very hard when you feel there's something wrong with you, but autism is just different, it is true. It's hard, because the identity can feel off. Thankyou so much for sharing your story, your beautiful voice, art, lovely hearing your daughter. ❤Jess You have a powerful beautiful voice ❤❤❤😊🙏
@@HiswordandmeBeing a born again believer to with fibromyalgia, Autism, adhd it feels like I need to be healed of these things. Some claim they have had prayer, it's gone but it's tough one. We don't always get healed and the thought I need this not to be apart of me, is like saying its not me. But the aspects, and the actions of autism can disrupt life, adhd is impulsive, Autism I can't cope with noise, lights, certain food. Fibromyalgia it's hard pain fatigue. ❤But Jesus comforts loves listens to our every need and prayer, I need to believe that. ❤️🙏Jess
What a beautiful channel you are creating. I found just yesterday. I could empathize, so much with what, you were saying. I am now 49 years old. But about 12 years ago l started having, very bad seizures and rapid deterioration in health. I became so seitive to bright light, loud sounds, anxiety and anything l knew could trigger a seizure. Soon l developed debilitating physical nerve pain, My whole physical nervous system was deteriorating so fast, which has left me unable to walk anymore and was suddenly in a wheelchair. After months in hospital l was diagnosed with a rare neurological disorder of which there is no cure, only medication to slow the advancement down and ease the pain, as l began to loose now all sensation in my legs. I am blessed with a very loving husband and My Saviour Jesus, who l know is with me daily. I went through so much, feeling everone was, thinking why l was not getting a miracle healing. I started to feel so lesser than, that it stopped me feeling the community l so needed from fellow Christ followers. I did not want to leave the house at all. We then moved back home, to a small rural town in Europe where l come from. We joined a new church and a support system, l know only the Lord, had prepared for us. For me, that was a miracle, even if it was not a physical healing. Your videos are so honest and calming, and l look so forward to it growing and blossoming. At my utmost low, l know that God always sees the bigger picture, he just asks us to carry His lamp at our feet, for His light is guiding always. God bless you and your family. Keep shining the light of our Lord!!✨🙏✨
Wow.. Thanks for sharing. I'm glad to know that God has been with you through all of that but it sounds like you went through a lot and a what a beautiful encouragement!
My daughter found a church with people who have been educated to support children with autism. I am happy for her, though I miss her being at church with me. Both of my granddaughters have been diagnosed on the spectrum.
Beautiful thanks for sharing. It is great when everyone in church accepts everyone else just as they are - it's the 'world' that wants to 'squeeze everyone into its mould' and in church there is or ought to be more celebration of diveristy as God made us all different and unique. It's even better is there is some support and help to change in the way we need to change, but without pressure to act like someone else (be more 'normal'!) or making us feel guilty or ashamed about anything or awkward about who we are and things we can't change. Sensitive sensory issues can make church unbearable sometimes if the music is too loud or there are other distractions like bright lights, the heating being up too high or the smell of perfume and aftershave (or anything worse!). Having struggles with understanding others or social interaction means some concepts of Christianity are harder to grasp for some with autistic tendencies - like everything about relationships and love, things involving the heart and feelings, even though I think love is about doing things to help more than feelings. Also about communication - prayer, worship, sharing, having conversations all need communcating with words. Difficult if it takes ages to think of the best words to express what you want to say, or when you have nothing to say but feel you ought to say something anyway. Or using set liturgy is the same words over and over and sometimes it feels like going through the motions just repeating the same prayers and statements which can get so familiar they can lose their meaning. Words can also mean different things to different people and cause misunderstanding. Anyway I thought you were very good at communicating, and you have even more challenges to deal with, being a Mum!
Thank you. I agree with a lot of what you said.. I think there should be more room for diversity as it seems a lot of Christians are trying to fit into a mould of who they think they should be rather than just being themselves which I think is damaging to one's identity. I still struggle with it, feeling shame around being myself sometimes because of the way the church is typically structured.. It can feel a bit restrictive and yes, very unfriendly to ND people too with the noise and smells etc. My main area of struggle and concern is relationships as it's much harder to gain someone's compassion and understanding when on the spectrum as a believer and yes it's an added struggle as a mother too but not impossible with God, that's where I find my greatest strength! 😊
@@Hiswordandme Thank you for replying! I find small group fellowship more helpful than big formal church services, and we haven't had small home group for about 15 years and I miss it. More relaxed, informal, interactive and less like a performance! We have 'cafe church' from time to time which is informal and includes a craft activity, so that's fun and relaxing, although not everyone is keen on doing something crafty! Yes we all need God's help - faith certainly can give us hope and purpose, and make more sense of life. If only God would help more and not leave us to our own devices too much of the time. Maybe I'm dragged down too much by life's struggles and forget to pray, thank God and remember 'the joy of the Lord is your strength'!
@@yahccs1 I prefer the atmosphere of small groups also but haven't been able to attend any for some time. Church cafe sounds fun.. I'd love to see more groups and events but it seems churches have been doing a lot less and being more cautious since covid, maybe that will change soon, I hope. And yes, it's hard to keep trusting in God through life's troubles but there is no where else to put our hope outside of Christ and He won't abandon us no matter how far we may stray. ❤️
NTs (even most Christians) seem to assume what they are able to do and have is because they choose to. They don’t realize their abilities and possessions are gifts - given to them - by God. There. I said it out loud. Thank you for the opportunity.
In the US, churches lobbied to be exempt from government laws about disability. Religious organizations are allowed to discriminate. Also, many American Christian denominations consider autism to be demonic possession. Children are subject to exorcisms and emotional abuse. You sound like you’re in Australia. You are very lucky that you have a wonderful, caring church. That’s what they should be like.
Thanks for the info, I didn't know that. But I am aware of the poor theology that has led some denominations to believe that Autism is demonic. It's quite insane actually, and disheartening. I'm in New Zealand and my experience has been mixed with churches here but for the most part, many people have shown compassion and try to understand the needs of others. I'm moving to the US soon, so I'm curious to see the difference in church culture.
@@Hiswordandme In the US, churches are heavily divided along political lines, a division that began prior to the Civil War. We have Baptist vs. Southern Baptists. Missouri Lutherans vs. regular Lutherans. I have a lot of United Methodist friends, and sadly, that church is on the verge of splitting again into two. These divisions were based on whether the denominations used the Bible to justify slavery. Nowadays, the division is between authoritarian/Christian Nationalist vs. progressive Christians, following Jesus's actions. There are many so-called American Christians who call the Beatitudes "too woke." Fossil fuel billionaires have spent a lot of money convincing right-wing churches to include defense of fossil fuels as part of their platforms. There are churches that worship gun ownership and have idolatrous images of Jesus with automatic weapons. It is truly surreal. I recommend searching "Faithful America Resources" and reading/listening to some of their podcasts. Unfortunately, however, even liberal Christian groups will take advantage of their exemption--I used to attend a Unitarian Universalist Church (a very liberal denomination) whose Board nevertheless refused to provide a handicapped accessible restroom or to introduce speakers so our Blind member knew who was talking. There are definitely inclusive congregations, however, that actually have outreach ministries for neurodivergent adults and whose children's programs are sensory friendly. Without government requirements, it entirely depends on the leadership, so you need to "shop around." Whatever denomination you are, there will be these divisions, sadly. Good luck!
Very nice and thankul video. I have just one question. You talk a lot about your grandikids in your videos who live with you, but where are your grandkid's parents - your son(s)/daughter(s) and their spouses/partners?
Needed some encouragement in His so I searched and Found you❤thank you I too am Autistic Wife and Mother grateful for the word and one another’s support 🎉
@@SageGypsy I agree. There is a lack of understanding toward childhood development among church leaders and it is very sad how children are being neglected and mistreated.
I found your video hard to listen to because of the background noise. My autism involves auditory processing issues, so I appreciated the subtitles. I've had profoundly negative experiences in the American evangelical church. There's an expectation to conform to norms that have nothing to do with being like Christ. Fortunately, Jesus is bigger than man-made institutions, so my hope and identity are in him
@@EvergreenFlame sorry about that, but glad you could still watch it without sound. And yeah, it's really tough when people lack understanding and compassion for disabilities like Autism. I'm glad also because my hope and identity are in Him too 😊
Thank you so much for sharing this!!! I was diagnosed with ASD lvl 1 aka Asperger's Syndrome a few years ago and I came to Christ this year. I was raised with New Age spirituality which is very popular nowadays because it is essencially the religion of self. I've always felt very misunderstood and lonely, and I still struggle with fear and anxiety about not being accepted by other Christians... The only friends I have all seem to be neurodivergent in some way, even if undiagnosed. I can never fully connect with neurotypical people because, even though I try really hard to be normal, they always end up being weirded out by me... I'm very grateful to God for the friends I do have! But, sadly, none of them are Christian, which can be a little frustrating sometimes because I can't really share my faith with them :( Thank God I found your channel! I feel less alone now and also hopeful that someday I will meet other Christians who are on the spectrum! ✝️🤍
@@camilakhf I'm so glad you've found Jesus! It is hard making friends as an Austitic person, especially within the church which is partly why I started this channel because I was lonely and thought I could find my people here.. Turns out we're not alone heh I'm so glad to meet you! I came from a new age background also 😊🌻✨
I hope you move to a good kind loving hardly any crime state where you is beautiful.I live in Maryland and inside my home and when i go out jesuyis with me.family of 6 there ar3 killings almost daily we hear gun shots daily.we don't live in a poor area and i don't see Christ anywhere nobody smiles at all i oray for everyone.
@@martl3288 I'm so sorry. Honestly, where I'm located right now it's not the best but we're hoping to move to a safer, more family friendly area that's walkable. Hearing gun shots is definitely an unsettling experience especially when you have small children with you. I've heard them once while being here and it's very unpleasant so we avoid going out too late and my husband is always with us whenever we go out. Libraries thankfully are a safe and pleasant place to go so we enjoy taking our daughter there when we can. I hope you can find peace where you are, or that God would make a way for you and your family to be in a safer area. It is a shame how bad things have gotten.
@@Hiswordandme Sorry about not being clear. I’m curious to know what causes your autism exactly and why do you have it. Also have you ever done counseling or therapy? What was your environment like where you were born? Did your mom use medication or drink while pregnant with you? To me you don’t really seem to have autism so I’m curious to know why have you been classed as autistic and not another disorder. I’m just genuinely curious.
@@MonochromaticBlues the cause of autism is unknown... Autism is a spectrum so not all autistic people present the same. I'm also high masking and have lowers support needs than other Autistic people so it's common that people think nothing is wrong with me, however, most of my life I have been treated like something is wrong with me lol. Personally, I believe therapy doesnt help Autistic people at all. My only help has been God but I'm sure their are practical things that can help others, just for me, I don't feel I need any help other than from God. When you're autistic, you just know.. I probably have other things I'm unaware of to be quite honest but it doesn't bother me at this point. Also, because my support needs are low, I function fairly well on my own. But, I am definitely 100% Autistic 😅
@@Hiswordandme And if you like books, try "An Alien at St. Winfred's" by Adrian Plass. It has helped me tremendously with accepting my weakness as something that God actually loves...
Hello, just want to apologise for the poor sound quality of this video (and some of my other videos) I plan to upgrade my phone or get a decent camera and mic sometime in the near future to create better quality content.
I suggest not listening to this video with headphones as my daughter is making a lot of noise in the background.
Also, I'd appreciate if you would take the time to read the description box for more info and have a lovely day ❤️
😄 Thank you for your video. I seriously was praying to God for answers about how to manage engaging with the church (especially a brick and mortar/ in-person church). Your video popped up without my searching for it (and I didn't pray out loud so my phone didn't hear me LOL). An answer from Elohim, that we are not alone. My child has more severe symptoms overall and would have a harder time in most church settings. I do wish there was more flexibility for the autistic community in places of worship. I hope the best for you and your family!💕
Thank you Tanaya for being brave enough to make this video! It was gentle, unhurried, informative and encouraging. I am 68 and have only recently discovered that I have a blend of autism and ADHD. I was researching these as my daughter (42) was recently diagnosed. Mine are on the mild side but still recognizable. I agree with you wholeheartedly about maintaining a Christ-like character. May the Lord bless you as you continue on your journey.
@@Carol-w8o nice to meet you Carol 😊 I believe I may have a blend of autism and adhd also. My oldest daughter has Adhd and I see so much of myself in her but yet we have our differences too and I think that's because I have both autism and adhd which can be overwhelming sometimes. God bless you and thanks for the encouragement ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for your channel Tannaya. It is such a relief. I am struggling with the idea that autism is a demon and have had horrible experiences in the church. I feel really second rate and rejected. I cry every day and am lonely. Don't really think I've had much help or support. People just criticise and say I'm a bad person. For many years I struggled with self hatred. Unfortunately, I don't see autism as a blessing. It seems like an excuse for the majority to bully and exclude us, particularly in the church. I don't think I'm worthless or a nasty person but because I'm alone, I really suffer and struggle. Have been praying to the Most High for some love, understanding and inclusion and end the cycle of loneliness. My faith is strong but it is some of those in the churches that have been the most challenging. Please pray for me. 🙏
I'm sorry to hear, and can say I've been there and still struggle to make connections but I know God will not leave us without comfort and will answer our prayers, in due time.
Praying for you that He would strengthen your heart and mind and bring you closer to Himself ❤️🙏🏻
Dont force a relation with a church, do it with God, maybe it will be enough!
Follow your "FAITH" and your heart. Religion as a word need not apply. Follow self-awareness and special interests and abilities!! You are not alone and we will be heard.👻🤪🌶🤘😎♾️
@@norikotheguardiancan you prove it's not?
I wouldn't be surprised.
Why can't you post something kind and supportive to someone who is struggling?@@bornforbattle74
I am autistic. My impression is that you pay a very high price to feel in community.
I draw too!
Good luck! ❤
There is a little boy in the toddler class at my church that I assist with. He was only diagnosed within the past few years. But I had my suspicions when I first met him he might be autistic just from the way he behaves. But he is still a very sweet and loving little boy and he loves to give hugs and play. I'm gonna help h9m remember that n ok matter what anyone else says there is nothing about himself that he needs to be ashamed of
@@larainethorpe2847 that's lovely.. I'm glad you spotted he was Autistic I feel like it's easier to spot in early childhood, not so much in adulthood. Good soil makes all the difference 🌻
Thanks for this channel. It is helpful in learning how to support autistic children in church settings! There's this child in children's church who exhibits signs of autism. one of his ASMR enjoyments is the sound of tearing paper and cracking plastic. naturally the adults jump on his case for being destructive. I've tried telling them, including his parents, he seems to be autistic, his brain works different. I provide paper for him to tear up. He also tends to show gratitude by destroying what is given to him. Because of this, he is only getting a bag of candy and not a paper stocking holder. Autism runs in my family, so I see a lot and am learning the way of the autistic brains.
@@SageGypsy I'm glad you're aware and being thoughtful toward his needs. That's lovely to hear... And as hard as it is, we do have to be patient with those who lack understanding and do our best to tend to the needs of children with special needs amidst disagreements and criticism. God bless you friend for doing your best to understand ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing! 🥰
This is exactly how I felt. It cant be prayed away but we can pray for the struggles to God and have him help us manage and cope through our daily lives.
One thing he said to me was that, "The only validation we absolutely need is from God."
I am also adhd so many people don't really see it and I was trying to get validation like can anyone see it, cause im looking back at my life and the signs are there.
but thats when God gave me the word validated. Knowing that he validates me and cares for me is a true blessing and I love His words.
Yes so true! I've felt the same way and you're absolutely right.. One of my children has adhd and I empathise a lot with you in that.. I think Neuro-diverse people, despite the challenges they live with, are usually wonderful, vibrant and empathetic people 😊
@@Hiswordandme totally agree with this 🥰
Thank you for this wonderful word from God, that He validates us. That is so comforting
what a beautiful singing voice you have been blessed with, your art is great and your photos are especially gorgeous, I love the simplicity of them, I'm so pleased I came across your channel.
@@HannahWells-u7c thank you! 😊🌻✨
Oh my goodness! I sang that same song to my littles! 🧡 one of my favorites- and your voice is beautiful!
I don't have a diagnosis but feel that I'm autistic too- and I’m a mama- and Im a Christian too!! How fun, Sister, that we've never met but even if we never do- we will have heaven to meet and talk one day! 🧡
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@@Xzy818 aw that's lovely heh.. Thank you. For some reason, that song has always stuck with me.
I'm not officially diagnosed either but self diagnosis is valid. I'm glad to find there are others like myself and yes if not on this earth, we'll all meet in heaven 😇
@@HiswordandmeHi there iam autistic to, it can be very hard when you feel there's something wrong with you, but autism is just different, it is true. It's hard, because the identity can feel off. Thankyou so much for sharing your story, your beautiful voice, art, lovely hearing your daughter. ❤Jess
You have a powerful beautiful voice ❤❤❤😊🙏
@@HiswordandmeBeing a born again believer to with fibromyalgia, Autism, adhd it feels like I need to be healed of these things. Some claim they have had prayer, it's gone but it's tough one. We don't always get healed and the thought I need this not to be apart of me, is like saying its not me. But the aspects, and the actions of autism can disrupt life, adhd is impulsive, Autism I can't cope with noise, lights, certain food. Fibromyalgia it's hard pain fatigue. ❤But Jesus comforts loves listens to our every need and prayer, I need to believe that. ❤️🙏Jess
@stevenleabon8032 that's so sweet, thank you. And yes, true, our brains are just made different and we can still be used for God's glory 😊❤️
What a beautiful channel you are creating. I found just yesterday. I could empathize, so much with what, you were saying. I am now 49 years old. But about 12 years ago l started having, very bad seizures and rapid deterioration in health. I became so seitive to bright light, loud sounds, anxiety and anything l knew could trigger a seizure. Soon l developed debilitating physical nerve pain, My whole physical nervous system was deteriorating so fast, which has left me unable to walk anymore and was suddenly in a wheelchair. After months in hospital l was diagnosed with a rare neurological disorder of which there is no cure, only medication to slow the advancement down and ease the pain, as l began to loose now all sensation in my legs. I am blessed with a very loving husband and My Saviour Jesus, who l know is with me daily. I went through so much, feeling everone was, thinking why l was not getting a miracle healing. I started to feel so lesser than, that it stopped me feeling the community l so needed from fellow Christ followers. I did not want to leave the house at all. We then moved back home, to a small rural town in Europe where l come from. We joined a new church and a support system, l know only the Lord, had prepared for us. For me, that was a miracle, even if it was not a physical healing. Your videos are so honest and calming, and l look so forward to it growing and blossoming. At my utmost low, l know that God always sees the bigger picture, he just asks us to carry His lamp at our feet, for His light is guiding always. God bless you and your family. Keep shining the light of our Lord!!✨🙏✨
Wow.. Thanks for sharing. I'm glad to know that God has been with you through all of that but it sounds like you went through a lot and a what a beautiful encouragement!
My daughter found a church with people who have been educated to support children with autism. I am happy for her, though I miss her being at church with me. Both of my granddaughters have been diagnosed on the spectrum.
Beautiful thanks for sharing. It is great when everyone in church accepts everyone else just as they are - it's the 'world' that wants to 'squeeze everyone into its mould' and in church there is or ought to be more celebration of diveristy as God made us all different and unique. It's even better is there is some support and help to change in the way we need to change, but without pressure to act like someone else (be more 'normal'!) or making us feel guilty or ashamed about anything or awkward about who we are and things we can't change.
Sensitive sensory issues can make church unbearable sometimes if the music is too loud or there are other distractions like bright lights, the heating being up too high or the smell of perfume and aftershave (or anything worse!).
Having struggles with understanding others or social interaction means some concepts of Christianity are harder to grasp for some with autistic tendencies - like everything about relationships and love, things involving the heart and feelings, even though I think love is about doing things to help more than feelings. Also about communication - prayer, worship, sharing, having conversations all need communcating with words. Difficult if it takes ages to think of the best words to express what you want to say, or when you have nothing to say but feel you ought to say something anyway. Or using set liturgy is the same words over and over and sometimes it feels like going through the motions just repeating the same prayers and statements which can get so familiar they can lose their meaning. Words can also mean different things to different people and cause misunderstanding.
Anyway I thought you were very good at communicating, and you have even more challenges to deal with, being a Mum!
Thank you. I agree with a lot of what you said.. I think there should be more room for diversity as it seems a lot of Christians are trying to fit into a mould of who they think they should be rather than just being themselves which I think is damaging to one's identity. I still struggle with it, feeling shame around being myself sometimes because of the way the church is typically structured.. It can feel a bit restrictive and yes, very unfriendly to ND people too with the noise and smells etc. My main area of struggle and concern is relationships as it's much harder to gain someone's compassion and understanding when on the spectrum as a believer and yes it's an added struggle as a mother too but not impossible with God, that's where I find my greatest strength! 😊
@@Hiswordandme Thank you for replying! I find small group fellowship more helpful than big formal church services, and we haven't had small home group for about 15 years and I miss it. More relaxed, informal, interactive and less like a performance! We have 'cafe church' from time to time which is informal and includes a craft activity, so that's fun and relaxing, although not everyone is keen on doing something crafty!
Yes we all need God's help - faith certainly can give us hope and purpose, and make more sense of life. If only God would help more and not leave us to our own devices too much of the time. Maybe I'm dragged down too much by life's struggles and forget to pray, thank God and remember 'the joy of the Lord is your strength'!
@@yahccs1 I prefer the atmosphere of small groups also but haven't been able to attend any for some time. Church cafe sounds fun.. I'd love to see more groups and events but it seems churches have been doing a lot less and being more cautious since covid, maybe that will change soon, I hope. And yes, it's hard to keep trusting in God through life's troubles but there is no where else to put our hope outside of Christ and He won't abandon us no matter how far we may stray. ❤️
Great video, Thankyou, watching from the uk. Also Sahm and autistic and Christian. What you said was so true
I too love photography and learning the identity of plants!
NTs (even most Christians) seem to assume what they are able to do and have is because they choose to. They don’t realize their abilities and possessions are gifts - given to them - by God. There. I said it out loud. Thank you for the opportunity.
That was always my favorite song when i was a girl. i loved Doris Days version. So lovely. Love your art too.
@@DeniseODaniels it's such a comforting song. I've loved it since I was a little girl too. Thank you 😊🙏🏻
@@Hiswordandme ♥♥♥
In the US, churches lobbied to be exempt from government laws about disability. Religious organizations are allowed to discriminate. Also, many American Christian denominations consider autism to be demonic possession. Children are subject to exorcisms and emotional abuse. You sound like you’re in Australia. You are very lucky that you have a wonderful, caring church. That’s what they should be like.
Thanks for the info, I didn't know that. But I am aware of the poor theology that has led some denominations to believe that Autism is demonic. It's quite insane actually, and disheartening. I'm in New Zealand and my experience has been mixed with churches here but for the most part, many people have shown compassion and try to understand the needs of others. I'm moving to the US soon, so I'm curious to see the difference in church culture.
@@Hiswordandme In the US, churches are heavily divided along political lines, a division that began prior to the Civil War. We have Baptist vs. Southern Baptists. Missouri Lutherans vs. regular Lutherans. I have a lot of United Methodist friends, and sadly, that church is on the verge of splitting again into two. These divisions were based on whether the denominations used the Bible to justify slavery. Nowadays, the division is between authoritarian/Christian Nationalist vs. progressive Christians, following Jesus's actions. There are many so-called American Christians who call the Beatitudes "too woke." Fossil fuel billionaires have spent a lot of money convincing right-wing churches to include defense of fossil fuels as part of their platforms. There are churches that worship gun ownership and have idolatrous images of Jesus with automatic weapons. It is truly surreal. I recommend searching "Faithful America Resources" and reading/listening to some of their podcasts. Unfortunately, however, even liberal Christian groups will take advantage of their exemption--I used to attend a Unitarian Universalist Church (a very liberal denomination) whose Board nevertheless refused to provide a handicapped accessible restroom or to introduce speakers so our Blind member knew who was talking. There are definitely inclusive congregations, however, that actually have outreach ministries for neurodivergent adults and whose children's programs are sensory friendly. Without government requirements, it entirely depends on the leadership, so you need to "shop around." Whatever denomination you are, there will be these divisions, sadly. Good luck!
@@sarahlongstaff5101 thank you.. My husband and I will likely be attending a non denominational church 😊
This was a nice video, you have such a beautiful voice. I enjoyed seeing your artwork!
Thank you, that's very kind ☺️❤️
U don't have to worry. Brains are different and are not the same
Very nice and thankul video. I have just one question. You talk a lot about your grandikids in your videos who live with you, but where are your grandkid's parents - your son(s)/daughter(s) and their spouses/partners?
Needed some encouragement in His so I searched and Found you❤thank you I too am Autistic Wife and Mother grateful for the word and one another’s support 🎉
@@vynedvyne59 yay, glad we found each other 😊
Love this 💜
And you have such a beautiful voice!
@@LaurenBelcher-bg1sd thank you ❤️
Keep going with your channel. It's beautiful ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for the encouragement, it means a lot ❤️
Hi from NZ! I heard your accent and knew! ❤
@@HomemakerDaze hehe 🙈 love how we instantly recognise a fellow kiwi 😅
The Lord bless you and yours sister. He is Giver of Life and His Joy is our strength. Every blessing :)
God bless you!
Hey!! Child of God❤ you are amazing, and talented, can you share more work of art please
Thank you 🙏🏻 I would love to share more over the coming months as I'm hoping to illustrate a story I've written 😊
More Pastors, preachers, teachers need to learn when a child has a meltdown, they are not being rebellious!!!!
@@SageGypsy I agree. There is a lack of understanding toward childhood development among church leaders and it is very sad how children are being neglected and mistreated.
I found your video hard to listen to because of the background noise. My autism involves auditory processing issues, so I appreciated the subtitles. I've had profoundly negative experiences in the American evangelical church. There's an expectation to conform to norms that have nothing to do with being like Christ. Fortunately, Jesus is bigger than man-made institutions, so my hope and identity are in him
@@EvergreenFlame sorry about that, but glad you could still watch it without sound.
And yeah, it's really tough when people lack understanding and compassion for disabilities like Autism. I'm glad also because my hope and identity are in Him too 😊
I have Autism too mine is Mild
Same for me I guess. My support needs are low compared to others on the spectrum
Thank you so much for sharing this!!!
I was diagnosed with ASD lvl 1 aka Asperger's Syndrome a few years ago and I came to Christ this year. I was raised with New Age spirituality which is very popular nowadays because it is essencially the religion of self.
I've always felt very misunderstood and lonely, and I still struggle with fear and anxiety about not being accepted by other Christians... The only friends I have all seem to be neurodivergent in some way, even if undiagnosed. I can never fully connect with neurotypical people because, even though I try really hard to be normal, they always end up being weirded out by me... I'm very grateful to God for the friends I do have! But, sadly, none of them are Christian, which can be a little frustrating sometimes because I can't really share my faith with them :(
Thank God I found your channel! I feel less alone now and also hopeful that someday I will meet other Christians who are on the spectrum! ✝️🤍
@@camilakhf I'm so glad you've found Jesus! It is hard making friends as an Austitic person, especially within the church which is partly why I started this channel because I was lonely and thought I could find my people here.. Turns out we're not alone heh I'm so glad to meet you! I came from a new age background also 😊🌻✨
@@Hiswordandme Thank you :) God bless you and your family 🙏🤍
I hope you move to a good kind loving hardly any crime state where you is beautiful.I live in Maryland and inside my home and when i go out jesuyis with me.family of 6 there ar3 killings almost daily we hear gun shots daily.we don't live in a poor area and i don't see Christ anywhere nobody smiles at all i oray for everyone.
@@martl3288 I'm so sorry. Honestly, where I'm located right now it's not the best but we're hoping to move to a safer, more family friendly area that's walkable.
Hearing gun shots is definitely an unsettling experience especially when you have small children with you. I've heard them once while being here and it's very unpleasant so we avoid going out too late and my husband is always with us whenever we go out. Libraries thankfully are a safe and pleasant place to go so we enjoy taking our daughter there when we can. I hope you can find peace where you are, or that God would make a way for you and your family to be in a safer area. It is a shame how bad things have gotten.
So what makes you have autism?
@@MonochromaticBlues I'm not sure I understand your question.. Are you asking what causes Autism or why do I personally have it?
@@Hiswordandme Sorry about not being clear. I’m curious to know what causes your autism exactly and why do you have it. Also have you ever done counseling or therapy? What was your environment like where you were born? Did your mom use medication or drink while pregnant with you? To me you don’t really seem to have autism so I’m curious to know why have you been classed as autistic and not another disorder. I’m just genuinely curious.
@@MonochromaticBlues the cause of autism is unknown... Autism is a spectrum so not all autistic people present the same. I'm also high masking and have lowers support needs than other Autistic people so it's common that people think nothing is wrong with me, however, most of my life I have been treated like something is wrong with me lol. Personally, I believe therapy doesnt help Autistic people at all. My only help has been God but I'm sure their are practical things that can help others, just for me, I don't feel I need any help other than from God.
When you're autistic, you just know.. I probably have other things I'm unaware of to be quite honest but it doesn't bother me at this point.
Also, because my support needs are low, I function fairly well on my own. But, I am definitely 100% Autistic 😅
@@Hiswordandme :) okay dear.
Hi. Fellow late diagnosed autistic Christian here. You should look up and get the "Peterson and Findus" books. They are amazing!
@@AlmaTlust hello 👋 thank you, I'll check them out
@@Hiswordandme And if you like books, try "An Alien at St. Winfred's" by Adrian Plass. It has helped me tremendously with accepting my weakness as something that God actually loves...