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- The study found a quarter of job applicants ages 18-27 say they’ve brought parents to job interviews with them. ABC News’ contributor and LA Times OPED columnist LZ Granderson shares his thoughts.
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It’s not about generational values, it’s about skills. Adults who need their parents in the room for interviews weren’t raised to trust their own judgment when it came to assessing information and asking questions. Confidence, independence, and a willingness to learn all go a long way in success in the workplace, and these are things you only learn from experience.
Hello. Did you miss the part where a bunch of kids missed out on learning social skills for about a year? May not seem like a big deal to an adult but that kid fell behind and that is ok. It was a whole pandemic or whatever you want to call it. And having someone with you to help you through something is more than a lot of people have. Do you look down on people who have pets that help them too?
@@TdT2211 A service animal can comfort and support a candidate, but it doesn’t answer for them. Interviews are just opportunities to talk about yourself and for a potential employer to see if you would be a good fit. Even kids who went to school during the pandemic know how to talk about themselves and why they want the job they applied for. As a general rule, candidates who can’t speak for themselves can’t communicate efficiently with their co-workers and bosses in the workplace. And if they can’t communicate with fellow adults, they aren’t ready for the workforce.
@TdT2211 So do you support kids bringing parents to their job (assuming they actually get a job) and having parents do the actual work?
@@TdT2211There doesn't have to be a pandemic for kids to miss out on social skills. And interviewing is not something you'll be doing on the job unless the job is going to literally involve it, such as in a supervisory position (at such point, I still ask, why is your parent there?!). Kids need to be practicing interview skills with their parents, their siblings, their neighbors, their school career counselors, etc. There is ZERO excuse to be bringing your parent to one. The rest of us had to practice, which my K-12 schools started us doing back in middle school, although even as an adult I still have to practice whenever I look to change jobs or job fields. These kids need to practice, too.
Easy way to filter out a candidate, in my view: If you need your parents at your job interview, you're not employable.
That kid got lucky then.
Exactly! And parents should refuse to do so! This is a clear indication that they're not mature and responsible enough to hold a job.
Sometimes a Applicant's parent will make sure they are actually trying to get a job. But the part you should see is the applicant have the right to self introduction and not have a person doing all the talking.
@@saljoker714 sounds like an overly controlling parent problem. If their kids were raised right, a parent would not have to go to that extent to make sure they are trying. Their kids would be responsible people.
@@xx_Joker_xxnot all the time. The applicant must make sure their parents are not controlling the show
I’m a counselor at a college. Parents have mentioned they will be attending an interview with their kid. I politely tell them that’s a sure way to not get the job. I’m puzzled why the parent thinks it’s a good idea. Let’s say the 18 year old doesn’t know any better because they don’t have experience yet. The parent should know. Right?
I was wondering if this story was even true until your comment. I agree - I don't understand why the parents think this is ok. Never heard of such a thing.
What if the parent knows the kid can't get the job without their help?
Idk if it's because I've just gotten old, lol, (Millennial), but it seems like Gen Z maybe doesn't have some of the same critical thinking, problem solving, and interpersonal skills that we had.
Eg: Gen Z is the loneliest and most friendless generation ever. Back in my day, it was social suicide to not have anyone to sit with in the lunchroom, so I was FORCED to come out of my introverted shell and interact.
@@les0101s Quite a few college professors and teachers have said these kinds of stories are true.
@@TomikaKelly I've never gone to a job interview that would allow parents to tag along. lol. I'm older than you, a boomer.
Parents should refuse to do so! This is a clear indication that they're not mature and responsible enough to hold a job. Parents should teach their kids to be responsible for themselves, this includes the ability to get a job on their own. When I was first trying to get a job, at age 15, I never even told my parents where I was applying for a job and I would have never of even considered taking them to an interview with me. That's insane to me. It's called becoming a responsible adult.
If you bring your parents to a job interview, don't expect a job offer.
If a job applicant isn't confident to have a job interview by themselves, I'd have zero assurances that they'd be able to perform the actual job by themselves.
Agreed
Well are you at least gonna train the person you do end up hiring?
@@ThinkBeFree99 Nobody wants to train anymore and even if we do, I ain't answering the same question for you 3 times. You gotta know how to be resourceful.
I'm a millennial but this is too much. How would the prospective employer see from you that you are an independent person if your parents were there at the interview? Hahahaa
A good way to weed yourself out of that job opportunity
My Gen Z college students (Communications, Marketing) struggle with anxiety of public speaking and interacting with me and their peers in the classroom. I've even been asked if I wanted to speak to a student's parents, after he was struggling in class. Absolutely not. These are supposed to be adults!
Tbf, public speaking is the most common fear in society across all generations.
The newer generation has fewer social skills and social interactions than prev. generations.
Perhaps suggest Toastmasters and peer networking events?
@@TomikaKelly agreed, but, it's not the fault of the teacher/instructor that they have almost zero social skills. Perhaps they should select a career that is more fitting for their personality, instead of expecting the career to change for them.
Have you considered giving or steering that student toward on-campus resources? I know that kid is an adult, but they may not have been informed of resources or made aware that they are struggling in a way different then everyone. I would think you'd want to help the student be successful in your class? I agree you shouldn't have to talk to the parents, unless perhaps there are known disability accommodations that might merit such.
When do you cut the cord? No 24 year old needs to bring mommy with them to an interview, idc how good of a parent you think you are you’re not doing any good by holding your 25 year old grown ass son by the hand. Managers, don’t hire them if they bring their parents.
Don't worry. They won't.
Sorry LZ- you missed the mark on this one. Parents should not be in interviews period. They are not the ones who will be doing the work. An interview is about what skills you bring to the company, and yes that includes interpersonal skills. Even if their values are different from their parents, that has no bearing on whether or not THEY can do the job.
Bringing parents shows a lack of confidence to me and I would be hestitant about that employee like I am a teacher that will have to discuss reviews with them too
It annoys me greatly that many use the "life changed after covid" trope as an excuse for everything. Life changed after the Great Depression and gave us 'The Greatest Generation.' I can only imagine my manager if someone came with his/her parents for an interview. He might be polite enough to say 'thanks but no thanks' but I wouldn't count on it.
Yeah, people were still allowed to socialize. so.
I will not hire anyone that brings their “mommmyyyyy”. 😂
For me, it depends on what mommy looks like. Always open for a new secretary. 😉😜
Been in the workforce for 30 years and had many interviews. I would have loved to have a witness when the interviewers were physically shocked to see that I am not white, or asked inappropriate questions, or dismissed my non-Ivy-League advanced degree.
Yikes! Helicopter parents and Tiger Moms need to let their kids grow up. Ridiculous and sad.
no its the other way around. the kids wont grow up and go out on their own
does any one else feel like he circumvented answering the question??
If a candidate came to one of my interviews with their mom, I’d immediately cross them off the list… or interview their mom and perhaps hire her.
If you need your mom (or dad) to come with you to an interview, how can you possibly be expected to fly out to customer sites *alone* and meet with clients?
At least someone might come home employed in your case
As someone who graduated high school in 2020 this story caught me way offguard. I have never brought my parents to a job interview nor to the thought, even crossed my mind. This is the first time ever hearing of this phenomena, and I’m embarrassed that people think my generation is so incapable. Bringing your parents to a job interview should never be the status quo for the general population. Of course, there are some exceptions, like for those with more extreme developmental disabilities, But that is not what this story is about. The way society had to be restructured during the pandemic should not cause this level of problem. Honestly, I’m very surprised to hear that this is a societal phenomena. I think that parents of people in my generation are more heavily involved in their children’s lives than their parents were in their lives when they were kids and in their early twenties, but never to the extent depicted in this story.
It makes me angry how the media is trying to make this a Gen Z thing. It's not. It's an overprotective parent thing. I'm a millennial/zoomer cupser and it literally wasn't that long ago that people said this about core millennials. Either way, blame the parents for doing too much and not knowing when to let go.
Agree with everything you said. I'm pretty sure this has not happened that often. They should have shown us an interview with a parent who went to a job interview with their kid. Would love to hear what they're thinking.
I agree. I’m 25 part of Gen Z and I can’t believe this is real
So if they get the job, are their parents also going to go to work with them everyday and hold their hand?
Yeah why not
I think a five year old can do the job as well and bring the parents to the office.
The parents have jobs, that is how they afford the car that got them there.
On the upside, you get two workers for the price of one
@@anuragchakraborty8766 Chup ho ja sale bong !
There's having empathy for the people who were stuck at home during covid during a very important period of brain development, and then there's using logic and common sense. If a person can't get through a job interview without their parents, that indicates that they can't do the job without having their parents there assisting them. In what world is that person employable?
Also, I just don't get why you'd want to! Job interviews suck, we all know this. But I had one a couple of days ago and I think it went quite well. If either of my parents had been there it would have been a trainwreck and I wouldn't have had the chance to show my knowledge. So it doesn't really make sense to me why people would do this.
It seems the average person doesn't think compassion and parenting go hand in hand. Yet the majority of kids graduating in 2024 all started high school and college years during a pandemic. Big up to all the young people who were able to overcome. And a bigger UP to the adults around them who helped them reach their goals!
I'm an interviewer/alumna (educational counselor) for MIT and Harvard and don't even recommend admission to college applicants who involve their parents.
If I'm the one interviewing there is no way I'm hiring someone who needs hand holding. I'm not running a daycare
They need to grow up! This is life guys ! Welcome to being an adult.
OK, 1st these are 18-27-yr.-olds. They're adults, not kids looking to mow their neighbors' lawns or babysit their little children. 2nd, there's going to come a day when mommy & daddy aren't around anymore, & they'll HAVE to stand or fall by their own merits. Better for them to do so while parents are around in an ADVISORY capacity, & TEACH their grown children how to handle life, rather than try to live it FOR them. 3rd, CoVid was a bad experience for everyone, but it's certainly not the 1st & won't be the last. Kids have lost entire families to pandemics, natural disasters, & conflicts, & had to make their way in the world all on their own from VERY young ages. This must indicate that Gen-Z-ers don't have the intestinal fortitude of previous generations. 4th, the real world does not give a damn, no matter how much people want to think it does. To make it, one has to be confident & secure in one's OWN self, instead of always relying on others.
Very true there have been pandemics in the past, including one about 100 years ago (the "Spanish" flu, even though it started in Kentucky...) where they also had to social distance and wear masks, and it took FIVE YEARS before they could go back to normalcy (b/c, no vaccines...). There, of course, have been flu pandemics since then, including in the 50s and 60s (at a lesser level and for a shorter time period, but still a lot of people died).
@@blahco4tt Indeed, & because the Spanish Flu was virtually forgotten about, the world was completely unprepared for CoVid-19. Higher figures estimate that 50-60 million people died in that pandemic around the globe. Imagine adjusting for the current population & how the deaths of 1-2 billion humans in another such event would affect the Gen-Z-ers. Thanks for your reply.
Half of Gen Z was already in the workforce when covid started, so to say that covid caused this behavior is skirting the issue.
@@katherinemurphy2762 More like looking for an excuse, I'd say. Thanks for your reply.
Make sure you bring your parents when you get fired for being lazy AF too!
🤣
Not surprised. It's the iPad generation
They can only use their voice digitally.
It's not a bad idea, take a boomer with you, maybe the recruiter will get confused and give you a boomer's salary.
Hi... Boomers are not Gen Z's parents.
It's the Gen Xers.
@@jusletursoulglobabySome of them are.
@@simply_nebulous they didnt birth them. and overwhelmingly they are not raising them. we are talking about the 99.9%, not the 00.1% rearing Gen X kids
Moral support before interview is important .
As a teacher, and a sibling of Gen Z, I can confirm how under developed and immature that generation is. Parents are constantly over advocating to a point where they cant speak up for themselves in ways where it’s absolutely necessary; whether it be about grades, missing assignments, redoing a test; it’s unreal. This will not benefit them in the end; it’s doing them a huge disservice, and stunting their development into adulthood and all of the responsibilities that come with it, that dont involve mommy and daddy. It’s not okay.
They are that fragile? A temporary order to keep children home destroyed them? I could understand if they had been homeschooled for several years with few opportunities to interact with their peers. This isn’t quite believable. But I do recognize the stark difference in parenting. The difference in parenting was/is advocated by “professionals”. So here we are.
This occurs when an entire generation sustains their life exclusively online. Most of their social and human interactions are purely digital.
Lmao i would never hire anyone who brings their parents to a job interview.
Can any Gen Zer explain this? I’m sincerely confused
We grew up with social media and tech, which over time lessened interaction and opened us to prying eyes with constant cameras. This ruined important brain development for children which turned into anxiousness and lessened the skill of effective communication. In interviews you must express positive attributes about yourself; we have less experience in the craft of lying and swaying people to like you.
@@villainous1142 wait so it’s like an EQ thing? My initial thought was like an ambition or life experience thing. My old butt doesn’t know too many GenZers so I really wouldn’t know 😂
They’re not gonna get the job anyway bc employers are always “looking for someone with a little more experience.”
Yeah enough experience not to bring Mom or dad and prove they are a grown up
@@jordanslingluff287nope every job says they need experience.
@@delancey3181 When I see a resume and they can't write a complete sentence like you. I tell them we are looking for someone with more experience.
@@jordanslingluff287 every word I wrote was spelled correctly . Also I am writing on a TH-cam comment so it Is not going to be 100% grammatically correct and it’s not something important since it is a casual thing. secondly your first comment was unfortunately not a complete sentence either since it did not contain a period at the end.
@@delancey3181 There you go. Now apply that perception to yourself and see what the H.R. person sees.
Might as well bring my neighbors too 😅
More than a consequence of COVID, I wonder how much of this is the result of "helicopter" and "lawnmower" parenting, where parents never allowed their children to experience failure or be challenged, or deal with the consequences of their choices and behaviors. As an educator of almost 30 years, I can make a list a mile long of all the times parents made excuses for their child's behavior, kept them home from school so they wouldn't have to face the consequences for their behavior at school, or went all the way to the superintendent when their child earned a grade that they didn't like. Parents think they are helping their children not feel bad (in the short term), but what they are doing in the long term is raising adults who can't cope with uncertainty, failure, or adversity. My colleagues and I have joked that some of these parents would show up at colleges and universities to complain about their child's grades, but we never dreamed they'd show up at their jobs (or job interviews).
I’m not hiring people who need their parents at a job interview. I do have a problem with employees telling me things like ‘my dad said I can’t come in today.’ Like oh rlly? Go work for your dad then 🤷🏻♀️🙄
I had an employee who told me her husband doesn't like for her to work late and I was like is he writing your paychecks
This guy is sick in the head!!! 😳
It’s not lost on me that you never really entered the conversation about the parents being IN the interviews. You stuck to the “values” point which is much smaller than the real issue of these adults being allowed to be adults and taking care of their own business.
I've never seen this happen in real life...
Not going to lie but that's really weird while I was looking for a job bringing my parents along just did really cross my mind.
As a millennial with 2 degrees, I’m about to try this. My mom will MAKE these people hire me 😂
The parent is about making sure you step in to talk to someone
Making kids to where they'll need they parent for everything in adult life. Cool
My parents did this to my brother….he’s a 52 year old toddler now.
As a recruiter, I have never even heard of parents or any other family member being part of the interview process. I have had parents reach out to negotiate compensation on behalf of their child. I have also had parents reach out to question why an offer wasn’t extended. I agree that employers should be empathetic as the getting this segment suggested but these are skills every job candidate must learn. Sometimes mistakes will be made. Hopefully, young professionals learn from those mistakes and take those skills to their next employer or next interview. That’s life. You can’t protect people from all the risks and obstacles that may come their way.
What a pitiful excuse for an adult. Will your parents show up for your work shift? This is an unacceptable behavior from adults.
Some kids can’t speak in class…they have crippling anxiety and it’s so frustrating to witness because it’s like seeing a lamb about to go out into a lion’s world. Good luck
Honestly as a teenager I had crippling axciety when I was confronted about some still kind of do sometimes to this day.
I'd say that's always been me. I aced classes based on knowledge and tests alone, but if I had to give a speech or do a debate? Nope. I vividly remember having a high school essay ready, but telling the teacher I hadn't finished it yet. All I had to do was read it (with proper volume and frequent eye contact.. ugh). But each day someone didn't have their essay ready, whatever grade they would have gotten would go down a full grade. I knew my essay was an A, but I lied every day until it was a D, and then I read it. And that's not even the worst example I have. At least that was just one assignment.
When I was placed into Algebra 1+ at private high school freshman year, the teacher began with a "review" of 4th quarter eighth grade math (I came from a public elementary school, unlike most of my classmates). She said "sets of numbers" or somesuch and I freaked internally at this unfamiliar phrase. But I thought to myself, "Wait. You've been acing algebra easily for YEARS and scoring high school levels in math and reading since 5th. It's just numbers. You'll suss out how to do whatever this is after watching a few examples!" And the problems went on the board, but there were no add/sub/mult/div signs. There were brackets and commas...
I didn't get it. But I thought, "Well, a few low grades, though embarrassing, can be fixed by acing the next thing and everything else in this class." But then "we" built on this. The entire school year for freshman algebra was pretty much involving this. I couldn't ask my teacher for help due to social anxiety but also because it felt awful to admit I didn't understand something. In the family and among family friends, I was the smart one ("but she's just quiet and a little shy, that's all" 🙄). I was praised for my good grades and test scores. It was part of my identity: I am perfect at math and never need help and never need to even ask a question. Without being OP in math, who was I?
And that's how I wound up with a final grade of D in Algebra, my freshman year of high school. But all the years after that, Algebra II, Geometry, Trig, and Trig+, all aces. And I did figure out the "sets of numbers" thing. In Algebra II. The examples on the board just clicked for me.
I say I have my skills, but they're quiet and more solitary in nature. I envy my cousins who have regular or even incomplete education but seemingly innate skills at managing people. Those people skills, commanding presence, and confidence can be taken anywhere.
I can do interviews.. But I read up on interview Q&As. I practice my posture - shoulders back, straight spine, head up, chin up a bit (in the mirror, until I know how it feels). I practice my smile. I have to remember "a lot of eye contact.. but remember to blink! And glance at something nearby every now and again so it looks natural." Can't talk too fast, raise my volume (it's too loud to me, but normal volume to everyone else). And when I shake hands, remember it's not supposed to be feather-light but firm and solid...and add a friendly smile during -- and think of something happy so the smile is in the eyes, too.
Oh, and DON'T FORGET hello, goodbye, and thank you.. And for Pete's sake, don't look stiff. Don't be too still (alter your position just a little every once in a while, but slowly). And when your arms are at your sides, keep your elbows and upper arms from pressing against your ribs and inching together -- this is not the time to "comfort huddle," but your mind is going to try it anyway -- by millimeters if it has to -- so watch out.
It's an exhausting program. Like a puppet show, but I have to operate all the strings and sticks.. While juggling, too.
I have a lot going on in my head, so I miss social cues and even some jokes. And certain social niceties don't come naturally to me. In a way, my day to day is harder than an interview. When I view someone positively, I have to go out of my way to figure out how to make that apparent -- otherwise, they'll consider me to be aloof, bored, disinterested, or even sad or mad.
I do have skills and talents of my own. I'm a good person who's kind and respectful. I do care about others. I'm dedicated. When I'm in, I'm all in. But I work best at the details, perfecting things, pointing out errors and clarity issues. I wish I could simply say to a prospective employer, "I can do this thing," to which they will say, "Okay. Here's your work and a cozy Gollum cave-esque cubicle/office. Here are some headphones. And here's a low wattage lamp to use instead of the bright, barf-toned, flickering, buzzing fluorescent lights overhead."
Y'know, it sounds like a lot, but when I think about it, that would make a day-to-day job easier and increase my productivity. And I'm not against socialization. I can do a little small talk (weather, work, food), especially if I have an easy out. And if it's something interesting, or that I'm knowledgeable about, I can talk with that person for a long time and it flows a bit better.
But getting the job is the hardest part. I have to present a version of myself at a volume and style that is not me while at the same time including the essence of the real me. Too much one way, I could come across as fake. Too much the other way, I come across as too meek. It's a weird balancing act and it has to be undetectable. And that's just the stage and the ambiance, there's still the dialogue to throw into the mix where I have the bones of my answers (I form my sentences on the spot -- more natural) to the predictable Qs, but I have to be on my toes for the unpredictable ones...and hope I can come up with a thoughtful and wise reply.
Anyway, so many jobs nowadays seem to be social in nature, very group oriented. I don't know where/how I fit. I'm not a lamb. I'm one of those goats that stiffens and falls over when startled. And the rest of the world seems full of lions who are ripping apart wildebeests, doing cartwheels, and dancing the macarena.
Oh, and, yes, I have had steady jobs, but none recent. I did Sears first, then sought out something more fulfilling and to my talents/interests. Aimed for healthcare - clerical. I got one interview but not the job (came across as too meek for the hectic pace of the job). Another interview, I didn't get that job either but was called for an interview offer at a convent for the order that began that system of hospitals. Got it. I taught myself Photoshop and Pagemaker. Secretarial work: monthly newsletter, records, library, brochures, mailings, obits, annual collecting of hospital unit counts, etc....until a merger resulted in the elimination of my position. I'm an Elder Millennial / Baby Xer cusper (I prefer "Xennial"), btw. That was more than 10y ago. I have a kid and I want to work but I'm not sure what suits me now. And I have health issues (mostly spine) besides anxiety. 😕
Ouch I would be embarrassed to do that 😮
Oh when I first heard this I was like so what. I’m an older millennial with 20 years experience and I brought my mom to my last interview and got the job. She insisted on coming since I was driving 2 hours to a rural area and I let my interviewer know beforehand. My mother sat in another room while I interviewed. Wasn’t a big deal, but I see this is different.
If an applicant brought their parents to an interview I wouldn't even let them on the room and shame on any employer who does
Bring their parents into the interview and answer the questions. That's overkill. The purpose is for the applicants to get to know the interviewer vs versa. Also it shows other skills for instance thinking on ones feet. They are not going to have their parents on the job. They are adults at 18. They need to start acting like one. If they are unsure on how to act or what to say during an interview they can go on TH-cam and look up all the job coaches and hr staff. Also researching the company ahead of time is good. It sounds more like a lack of confidence and helicopter parenting going on. I think it's a trend that needs to stop. It was only a few years. At least they had virtual learning and weren't fully cut off from the world. I think this is also the fault of the parents to teach them about the aspects of getting a job. Everyone has their issues and does get anxious at a job interview. We just suck it up, and they should too.
This has been happening for the past 10 years. So the youngest of Millennials did it, too. I think it's a resukt of hrlicopter parenting. Neither parent nor child have normal boundaries and are codependent.
These Gen Zers who are bringing their parents to their interviews should not get a job. Companies should hire people who DON'T bring their mummy or daddy. These people need to grow up and go to job interviews alone. If had to do it then so should they.
This is what happens to helicopter parents--they have to do EVERYTHING for their 30yo kids.
These parents probably agreed so that they won't have an empty nest. A job that hires them is taking serious risks. LOL
It blows my mind how intent the general public seems to be on accommodating all of the bizarre, immature, and unsociable quirks of gen z. I guarantee you if this were 10 years ago, people would not be understanding in the slightest to the youth’s “different culture”. You really just have to laugh!
This is sad and depressing. This is the generation next to take over. Who can't even do a job interview without their parents. The generation that doesn't care about profits. Do they not understand how jobs and the economy work? You don't make a profit, then you don't have a job.
My dad would be very disappointed in me if I were to bring him to the job interview with me. Its okay if your parents drive you to the interview and back (as long a you speak for YOURself). Employers want to see people that can speak for themselves. It took me a while to do it.
The parents will make their lunches too if and when their kids become employed as an added bonus.
Why are Gen X parents agreeing and/or encouraging this?
that's what I don't understand. None of my peers would 😂😂😂 DARE entertain this foolishness. Who ARE these parents???
Precisely. My kids know better than to even suggest I attend an interview with them.
Much of this has nothing to do with COVID. It's more about loss of certain institutions, whether Boy/Girl Scouts or church groups. The sports teams or STEM classes often come with built-in leaders, and little opportunity to work and learn outside the team structure.
As a 25-year old, and close to the oldest of Gen-Z's, I never even heard or understood about this thing about bringing your parents to a job interview. I personally believe this is something a young person has to face alone, even if they are awkward and have trouble with their social skills, this allows them to improve themselves, and bringing in your parents for your job interview, even for moral support, diminishes this improvement. Your folks can't do everything for you as you grow older. You gotta learn how to be independent and do things yourself.
I did this once for my first ever job interview at a restaurant at 17. My mom just sat next to me lol. I didn't need her to be there but she came anyways and it just kinda happened. Looking back I'm grateful for her, but I'm so embarrassed at how unprofessional it was on my end. Let's just say I never got the job(dishwasher) hahaha. I later found a better one though by myself that time at a restaurant closer to my home and it was the best first job one could ask for. Just a funny memory now. Anyways bringing a parent to an interview is just unprofessional point blank.
What is this? Is he serious? Parents at job interviews? Where is this world going to?
Yeah. I'm sure there won't be pushback from employers. Ppl weed themselves out when parents have to vouch.
How pathetic.
5:15 are they really making an effort to get out and work though? I would question if the parent present in the interview pushed their kid to apply to the job. if a candidate cannot articulate why they are the most qualified person for the job without their parent; i would not trust them to be an effective employee. There are all kinds of free/low-cost interview coaching resources and programs. I don't understand why Gen Zers cannot be taught professional interviewing skills?
This better be satire🤣🤣🤣 wtf do these parents think any hiring manager would think when their kids bring their parents with them?
It's not, I fear. I JUST found out that, outside of social media, my Gen Z cousin doesn't know how to do anything technical on a computer. She memorizes menus ahead of time to avoid the social anxiety of having to interact with at a restaurant. If you send her to ask for something at the Concierge or Front Desk, she will mumble inaudibly under her breath to where the staff doesn't even notice she's talking, then say that she completed the task. I thought it was just her until I realized this isn't uncommon amongst today's teens. 😒
@@TomikaKelly Lmao. Once you get past the entry level, you need to learn to start being able to answer questions you won’t know the answer to off the top of your head. They wanna know your thinking process, not your ability to memorize things.
I give grace depending on the situation. People forget the pandemic did interrupt a large portion of society and learned social interaction. I think they need more training and constructive correction before jumping into the workforce.
The only time it would be ok for the parents to come with them to the interview is if the candidate is disabled. Otherwise I thought everyone knew you don't come with your parents or parents should know not to come with the kid.
I am starting a new business soon and I will be trying to hire people who typically have a hard time finding employment. People who are disabled(differently abled), autistic, and older. My mom has found it difficult to get a job as she’s gotten older and I hate that. I see that a lot of autistic people and people with Down syndrome will also sometimes need to bring a parent to an interview and I’m okay with that. I suppose it may depend on why you’re doing it and are you qualified and dependable.
Bring your parents with you to work so that they can do the job for you.
I would never hire anyone who did this.
How pathetic and sad. How do you allow kids to grow up and have confidence. GET off the phone and look up and learn how to communicate with people.
I definitely could see my girlfriend going to interviews with her kids. She does their homework, has all their log in info for college courses etc. so yeah I definitely can see this happening.
Nawww you don’t bring your parent in your work interview… but you can ask them questions beforehand what to ask and what to expect and how to answer… 🤨
I imagine if you hire them (those who bring their parents in the interview), when you scold or correct them at work they’ll bring their parent the next day or the parent will call you and tell you “don’t speak to my child like that.” 😂
Scary. No one wanted to listen to educators who wanted kids to be taught the classic way (i.e. no trophies for just participating, no cell phones at school, no multiple choice question exams). This is what you get for coddling the cra cra parents instead of listening to the expert teachers. Many of the educators have left teaching. The future of the US is shaky for sure...
WOW! Way to ensure a kid stays a kid and doesn't get a job! That is absolutely shocking and ridiculous!
This makes me glad I don’t have kids
brilliant.
LZ Granderson is of no help to young applicants. He is offering up excuses for very nonprofessional and non-independent applicants' behavior. I would not hire a twenty something year old who brought his parent to an interview. It screams of lack of confidence in oneself. Fifteen-year-olds occasionally will bring a parent to a fast-food interview if they needed the ride but other than that, just NO.
You can not blame this on COVID.
Applicants are NOT bringing their parents to job interviews !
LOL 😂
Yes they are. Recruiters reflect the same experiences.
"i haven't seen it so it doesn't exist or happen" is basically what you said.
ever seen a dog 5ortured a burnt alive?
how about explicit films involving youth?
because most people haven't and shouldn't but guess what, they both happen all the time around the world.
how ignorant can you get....don't answer that.
Quite a few professors and recruiters have confirmed that this is true...
If you ask me I think mommy should be at the job too, you know cause of the pandemic. Employers should have to pay mommy a salary too. It just wouldn't be fair otherwise.
This is news? Been going on for last 30 years, no?
I heard this same story about Millennials (my kids generation) about 10 years ago.
betting now we'll see it again for Gen Alpha
not even 10 years ago, more like 6 years ago! when will people realize that helicopter parenting is the real issue here?
He’s right about the behavior but I think he’s way off base about the cause. My nephews and nieces and their friends exhibited this behavior pre-pandemic.
This is just insane and precisely what's wrong with society today. You are creating emotional hypochondriacs, when what this generation needs is some serious tough love. Facing challenges head on is the only way to becoming successful, thriving and resilient individuals. Abigail Schrier's book 'Bad Therapy' is a great antidote to this non-sense.
If someone 18 and up showed up with their parents for an interview, first id ask who was who and then id tell them both to leave. Regardless of the effects brought on by an unnecessary lockdown of the country and how comminication is evolving, if youve reached the age of majority there are certain things expected of you. Youll have official things like paying taxes and obeying laws and then there are societal expectations, one of which is interacting professionally with other adults. Your mother or father is not being considered for the position, i as an employer care not one little bit what your parents have to say, because im looking to hire you. You are supposed adult have to show me that youre at least competent enough to speak to me and answer my questions.
If captain dreadlocks the teacher is concerned over his students inability to do basic things like look at another person when talking to them, then teach them that skill. Your job as a teacher is to get them ready to enter the world and be productive in whatever field. The fact that the education system is putting out adults that cannot sign their names, have only the most basic grasp on the english language and with few exceptions are awful at basic math, is disgusting and these teachers are failing these kids / young adults. Youve prepared them in no way for the working world and parents at job interviews is just one result of your institutions abject failure
Be late OR Bring your parents=Automatic Overlook #DontCallUsWellCallYouKiddoOkay 👌
is this supposed to be april fools..on a local message board, i regularly see people asking for job for others..like seriously? since I was 12, i got my own jobs....and adults don't have a clue now....can't even apply to mcdonalds on their own
These parents are setting up their kids for failure
The soy generation
Hire my child so he can move OUT of my House please
So, instead of finding ways to help young ppl overcome their various anxieties and social awkwardness, we have ppl advocating for us to accommodate them? No. I'm sorry, but no.
We are systematic removing important basic challenges from young people's lives, and it results in a large portion of adults who have less ability to cope and adapt when more serious challenges or obstacles crop up.
That said, I don't think bringing someone for moral support, whether it be a parent or friend, is bad in and of itself as long as they left in the lobby or something but I would not bring them near or within the space where the actual interview takes place.
LZ, this was happening BEFORE Covid. Covid is not an excuse.
Why do I care?
more compassion as opposed to ridiculing them. Write on!
Horrible advice.
Excuses, excuses I was 16 when I got my first job and covid was still somewhat in effect, but I still got up and found a job and went to the interview by myself the only thing my mom did was help me with tips and transportation. Sometimes my generation annoys me.🙄 and if you were in your 20s, when Covid hit, there’s absolutely no excuse now you’re just being lazy
Agreed ❤
Something like this is not caused by laziness. It's definitely more serious than that.