Hey Tina! 👋 I was the same way. I halfway stopped being a people pleaser when I had to start advocating for my own health care. I probably wouldn't be alive right now if I hadn't. It took me a few more years to stop ALL the madness. I lost quite a few "friends" but I gained a handful of great friends who truly care about me. Ha, if I get through a day without screwing something up I'll put a gold star on the calendar. I don't think I've put up a whole dozen this whole year and I'm fine with it. Tfs and I'll see you soon 🌈 🌻 🤗 😘 🥰
I'm so glad you found the strength to advocate for yourself! People who leave when they can't use you anymore are good riddance! I'm glad you now have people who are truly there for you. LOL at the few gold stars. We're human, we mess up. And then, God willing, we get another chance the next day.
I had to stop shoulding on myself as well. Pretty similar reasons to you. People pleasing, so hard. Yaaass admittedly making mistakes is very freeing ❤ yaaas again, I was shy and called a snob as well.
Thank you Tina, for sharing a glimpse into your past. I stopped being a people pleaser in my 30's and the first thing I noticed was how many 'friends' and 'family' just dropped off. Now I have people in my life I truly value and ones who truly value me :)
Wow, “the many images of myself”, that is so true when we are people pleasers. I needed to hear that truth. Thank you Tina! Also, yes please do more videos about the “good kid”.
I'm glad this resonated with you, and sad at the same time. If that makes sense? It can take a lot of time and reflection to figure out what parts of those images are our true selves.
Oddly, I was good at saying "no" until my late 40s. Then my kids were all raised, and now I guess I feel, without them or a job to be there for, guilty when I say "no." I'm always afraid of disappointing someone. I need to work on this!
❤New sub❤ came over for skool😂 I've been watching your videos but not realized I didn't sub I'm not much of a people pleaser I an avoider. I had a tendency to self isolate. I have a hard time calling and staying in contact with people which i'm trying to work on now. Stop shoulding on your self. I need that T shirt.
I am 60 years old. The things i stopped doing in my 50's --1) I quit working and retired early. 2)- I quit drinking alcohol. 3)- I quit smoking weed. 4)-- I quit letting sex and females control my actions and decisions.
Hey Tina! 👋 I was the same way. I halfway stopped being a people pleaser when I had to start advocating for my own health care. I probably wouldn't be alive right now if I hadn't. It took me a few more years to stop ALL the madness. I lost quite a few "friends" but I gained a handful of great friends who truly care about me. Ha, if I get through a day without screwing something up I'll put a gold star on the calendar. I don't think I've put up a whole dozen this whole year and I'm fine with it. Tfs and I'll see you soon 🌈 🌻 🤗 😘 🥰
I'm so glad you found the strength to advocate for yourself! People who leave when they can't use you anymore are good riddance! I'm glad you now have people who are truly there for you. LOL at the few gold stars. We're human, we mess up. And then, God willing, we get another chance the next day.
Wise words, Tina - I lost a lot of my teenage years through lack of confidence and only came to my own in my 30s.
Glad you got there!
I had to stop shoulding on myself as well. Pretty similar reasons to you. People pleasing, so hard. Yaaass admittedly making mistakes is very freeing ❤ yaaas again, I was shy and called a snob as well.
I think there's an awful lot of us out there. I wish I'd learned these lessons in my 20s.
@@TinaHBeautifulJourney same but at least we’re starting to learn how
@KathleensRaulsplace better late than never for sure!!
@@TinaHBeautifulJourney yes as do I but I’m grateful that my kids are learning so many things that I didn’t learn as a young adult. 💕
Thank you Tina, for sharing a glimpse into your past. I stopped being a people pleaser in my 30's and the first thing I noticed was how many 'friends' and 'family' just dropped off. Now I have people in my life I truly value and ones who truly value me :)
So glad you came out idnit sooner than I did. I'm ao glad you have people who value you for you!
Wow, “the many images of myself”, that is so true when we are people pleasers. I needed to hear that truth. Thank you Tina! Also, yes please do more videos about the “good kid”.
I'm glad this resonated with you, and sad at the same time. If that makes sense? It can take a lot of time and reflection to figure out what parts of those images are our true selves.
I love the one about not being afraid to make mistakes !! I teach math and I always say … if you make a mistake what is the worse that will happen ?
Yes! Experiment. Play. If something doesn't work out, laugh, dust yourself off, and try something new!
Perfect video that needed to be made for generations ago, now and in the future.
I would love for 20 somethings to get this message and make the changes needed sooner rather than later.
I appreciate what you're saying here and I would be keen to hear more.
Thank you for your feedback. I will work on more videos like this.
Oddly, I was good at saying "no" until my late 40s. Then my kids were all raised, and now I guess I feel, without them or a job to be there for, guilty when I say "no." I'm always afraid of disappointing someone. I need to work on this!
@nancyannesunboxings that makes sense. A book that was super helpful for me was Boundaries, by Cloud & Townsend. Thanks for watching!
@@TinaHBeautifulJourney Thank you, Tina!
This was such a great video, Tina! I think that those 5 things can make such a difference in the happiness and mental health of people.
They sure did for me. And it's important to see it and fix it so you can stop the generational transfer of the same to our children.
Oh my gosh Tina.. I can soooo see myself trying to be the good kid at work!!!! Holy hell... this is a huge eye opener... thank you!!!!!!!!!!
You're welcome. And if you want to chat about some of the things I've learned in my good kid rehab, give me a call!
❤New sub❤ came over for skool😂 I've been watching your videos but not realized I didn't sub I'm not much of a people pleaser I an avoider. I had a tendency to self isolate. I have a hard time calling and staying in contact with people which i'm trying to work on now. Stop shoulding on your self. I need that T shirt.
That would make a great shirt! Thanks for subbing!
Hi Tina! I can relate
To some of the things you talked about. Thanks for sharing.
@@Makeupandmorewithgloriap I think there are many in our generation who can.
Hey Tina ! Great video !
Thank you!
I am 60 years old. The things i stopped doing in my 50's --1) I quit working and retired early. 2)- I quit drinking alcohol. 3)- I quit smoking weed. 4)-- I quit letting sex and females control my actions and decisions.
Those all sound like wise choices and I'm sure have helped you immensely.