How to Speak Up in Meetings | Christine vs. Work

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  • @harvardbusinessreview
    @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    What's your personal meeting style like? -Christine

    • @drdiamound1
      @drdiamound1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Idea>supporting fact>opportunity loss if we don’t opt for it

    • @Claire.SageGreenCreative
      @Claire.SageGreenCreative 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Working up that an idea is valid enough to be heard is why I'm always stuck great video thank you ☺️

  • @MD-ok2oo
    @MD-ok2oo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    Christine Liu is extremely engaging- great new energy on these HBR videos

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Energy! That's me! Thanks for the kind words. -Christine

    • @kimr6372
      @kimr6372 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! And I'm so glad she mentioned the youtube channel on tiktok this morning. Christine is awesome!!

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kimr6372 I'm so impressed you tuned into my TikTok (I'm guessing the livestream)? I'm honored! See you around 🤗-Christine

  • @honghuichen9138
    @honghuichen9138 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Never go to the meeting without preparation. I like the frame of "fact, story and ask." Thank you Christine.

  • @kararonin
    @kararonin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Such a helpful video Christine! This is a challenge for many professionals and the bigger the meeting gets, the more intimidating it can be to speak up. Jumping into a group conversation is certainly a confidence test.

  • @ChuckMastersonHQ
    @ChuckMastersonHQ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    People want to hear you question and reflect on their point of view. This will make you the most facinating person in the meeting. And you don't have to speak much except to listen closely.

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yup, it's definitely a balance. Let's hear it for active listening! -Christine

  • @allfusionx
    @allfusionx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Great video! Thank you. A tip I learned was something a senior executive at my workplace shared: when you have something to say, take a deep breath and say it! Overtime you will get a hang of your emotions and delivery and it would start to feel natural

  • @shannaheckler1933
    @shannaheckler1933 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

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  • @007Gosiaczek007
    @007Gosiaczek007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    it's is very difficult for me - speaking up during the meeting in English because I'm not a native English speaker

  • @emmasjoberg8109
    @emmasjoberg8109 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    A bit of an eyeopener on how people can feel, and why it's important as a manager or leader of the meeting to ask questions directly to each person in the meeting, sometimes just to have them participating. It will benefit the outcome, and the general feeling about the meeting afterwards. At least that's my experience.

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for sharing! I also had noticed a ripple effect for myself, of being more aware of levels of participation in a meeting and (gently) inviting those who may have not yet had a chance to speak up. Not perfect, but trying to be better each time! -Christine

    • @deborahfroelich5062
      @deborahfroelich5062 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh Emma! I 100% agree. It's so easy to throw out info and then say "See ya!" to your team. It's really important especially when working remotely to assure your team has the opportunity to present their value or ask questions.

    • @emmasjoberg8109
      @emmasjoberg8109 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@deborahfroelich5062 exactly - and just do it even though you believe that there are no more answers or solutions - you can always say "thanks for your reflection" or even better, you get to hear something that can actually change what you do next :). I've also discovered that people in the team can answer eachother, and that I don't have to present the "correct view" on everything but just keep a low profile.

  • @OMGomfgxD
    @OMGomfgxD 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Christine! I love your videos. They’re always on something that I’ve wondered but have been too afraid to ask. It would be great if you could do something on imposter syndrome or owning up to your mistakes or something along those lines. Thanks!

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oof, I know imposter syndrome quite well. And being vulnerable about fails at work is oftentimes difficult and, well, weird. Let's see what we can do. Thanks for watching and sharing your ideas! -Christine

  • @mariamaldonado8842
    @mariamaldonado8842 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    YES. Christine videos are SO relatable. I had no problem speaking up in in-person meetings but once I got to virtual meetings I get SO nervous to speak. I'm def going to try the fact-story-ask method in my meetings this week. Thank you for this!!

    • @siddharthtripathi6844
      @siddharthtripathi6844 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly ! I've had the same experience. I honestly believed that that speaking in virtual settings would be a lot easier, but, as you said, as soon as I enter a virtual setting, I get nervous to speak. I'm really glad I found out this video, atleast now I know I'm not alone and have a few points on how to get better !

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You rarely appreciate the small little things like body language hints or "vibes" from in-person meetings until they're gone. (At least I do!). Personally I agree virtual environments make it that much harder to speak up. Thanks for watching and let me know how the method works for you! -Christine

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@siddharthtripathi6844 You are definitely not alone! I'll be rooting for you. -Christine

  • @nayaleezy
    @nayaleezy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Unfortunately there are overly dominant speakers obsessed with hearing their own thoughts relayed by their own voice.

    • @EB-gt1pq
      @EB-gt1pq 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      This happened to me. The same people dominated the entire meeting making people like me more and more nervous. This makes it harder for the rest of us to talk

  • @ericamonrreal925
    @ericamonrreal925 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hey Christine, I absolutely loved this video! As you stated, speaking up in meetings might not be the biggest obstacle at work, which brings me to a dilemma I'm currently experiencing at work. There's someone I work with who is a bit of a "know it all", who has an answer for everything and is never wrong. Additionally, this person tends to monopolize conversations and dismiss other's ideas and position her ideas as the best ones, even if afterwards it turns out there was a more efficient or streamlined way of accomplishing something. It's driving me nuts! Help? Lol

    • @dearbelovedstayresilient
      @dearbelovedstayresilient 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I, and many others, have also ran into similar experiences and do you have any advice to share ? Thank you!

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hi Erica and @@dearbelovedstayresilient - that sounds so frustrating! I'll see what I can do. In the meantime, perhaps these articles might help for now. Good luck! -Christine hbr.org/2017/10/how-to-deal-with-the-know-it-all-in-your-office hbr.org/2019/06/how-to-work-with-someone-who-thinks-theyre-always-right

    • @dearbelovedstayresilient
      @dearbelovedstayresilient 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much!!!

  • @thenortnerneurope
    @thenortnerneurope 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just had a meeting this afternoon and got super anxious bcs I said nothing at all and I ended up here.

    • @EB-gt1pq
      @EB-gt1pq 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Even worse for me… I almost had a panic attack thinking of what to say. Then saying nothing

  • @shanikawijerathna1958
    @shanikawijerathna1958 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Christine, I love how you gave a real example with your experience, that's the next level. Thanks for the video

  • @jimwalsh7376
    @jimwalsh7376 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing your awkwardness! When you put yourself in your audience's shoes, they can empathize with your pain and gain confidence that they can follow your example. So many TH-camrs edit out their awkward pauses and missteps when those could actually help the viewer to understand that perfection isn't the goal; communicating the message is the goal!

  • @SelfMadeMillennial
    @SelfMadeMillennial 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great advice! And also a reminder to those of us who are meeting leaders to consider who hasn't spoken yet during a meeting and make space for them. It is often awkward to interject on video calls!

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Great point! I've been trying to be more aware of this, and bridge it gently, like: "I noticed XYZ hasn't had a chance to speak yet. Not to put you on the spot, but I'm curious-from your perspective, any ideas or questions we should consider?". It usually works out, but I'm open to suggestions on making sure everyone is heard. -Christine

  • @vasiwasi4899
    @vasiwasi4899 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i like to turn meetings into eetings, not because i'm lazy but because food

    • @EB-gt1pq
      @EB-gt1pq 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      How you didn’t get 1000 likes is absurd.

  • @fra5131
    @fra5131 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love this video - super relatable. Here are a couple of other topics I'd be interested in:
    - leaning on the strengths of others as an introvert
    - building relationships while remote
    - creating advancement opportunities for yourself while working remote

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Fran, thanks so much for sharing your ideas. Working remotely has definitely thrown a lot of new challenges in the mix for me, so I totally get it. Let's see what we can do. -Christine

    • @테리she
      @테리she 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I would be interested to know on this topic as well!

  • @rafaelurbina4496
    @rafaelurbina4496 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi Christine, I'm a web developer working remotely from Venezuela, and as a developer we have to communicate with a Team which could be located in the US, Europe, etc. As developers, our biggest problem is...sometimes we don't have a complete information to get the job done, so we have to ask for that information and wait for the response, which could lasts hours or days. All that time waiting for the info is lost and lowers our performance. So the problem might be: How to request key information and get a quick response to stay productive. Thank you

  • @long_fellow
    @long_fellow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    4:44 literally lol'd there

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      👁👄👁basically. -Christine

    • @Shreecools
      @Shreecools 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I always felt bad for not speaking up.

  • @chenswaan
    @chenswaan 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really like your onscreen manner. I would like to mange my facial expressions more, while saying nothing...😁 You come across as really likeable

  • @KwaddyK
    @KwaddyK 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can totally relate to this. I came here after searching for ways to speak up more in meetings. I struggle with "saying the right thing" or finding the right moment to speak. This framework is super helpful way to structure the way you show up in meetings

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Kwadwo, thanks for stopping by and sharing! The struggle is totally real, but practice makes perfect. Let us know how things go using the framework. -Christine

  • @Humaejaz4
    @Humaejaz4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this video.I have been thinking i have some huge issue thats why i cant talk in meetings. This really helped.

  • @nl7247
    @nl7247 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Refraining from using “like” when there are other words to use, eg “similar”.

  • @amyyang8450
    @amyyang8450 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you, I like the" fact story and ask" frame

  • @LucasDanielSantoro
    @LucasDanielSantoro 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    6:17 At this moment I realized I was watching Vox the whole time.

  • @Amal757
    @Amal757 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    If only I had seen this video a week ago :(

  • @theprimalpitch190
    @theprimalpitch190 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice piece here. Could still use a lot more tuning and framing. For example, saying what you love is marginal as the "story" component. No attention paid to "Likes" and "sort of" fillers.

  • @mdmirazulalam9688
    @mdmirazulalam9688 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I regularly follow and share Havard business review channel.

  • @virtualassistantacademyfor8225
    @virtualassistantacademyfor8225 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is me 2 years ago. I finally got the courage the speak because the leadership changed. But the framework is a great takeaway for me - it's easy to remember and something I'll share with my Virtual Assistant students.

  • @tinuolaoderinde9755
    @tinuolaoderinde9755 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much Christine for this video! I am 6 months old at my job and still talk too much during virtual meetings. This video has given me a boost of confidence to work on myself.

  • @carmelaoflaherty8190
    @carmelaoflaherty8190 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent video - thank you! I work with international professionals and that is one of the top challenges for them, especially since English is not their first language. Your tips are applicable to everyone.

  • @drdiamound1
    @drdiamound1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great to see HBR picking up topics which has wider audience appeal and that too free of cost( kinda hard to believe).
    Host is definitely great in terms engaging the viewer because even though she works at HBR, mortals like me can also related to her so well.
    I am sure your average view duration would be close to 5 mins.
    My suggestion for the other topics would be
    - how to ask for salary raise?
    - how to say NO to your boss?
    - how to negotiate salary after you have cracked the interview?

  • @smaccardoso
    @smaccardoso 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Christine Liu thank you for this video, speaking up in meetings is my worse nightmare! I'm getting better at speaking up, but most of the time I fail! I'll definitely use some of the tips shared 😉

  • @bacchusendo9032
    @bacchusendo9032 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    tik tok....ugghhhhh
    but despite that the advice about practicing saying something, making it definitive, and not drag on longer was helpful. I've noticed myself that i get into that trap of continuing to blab when I have input I'd like to bring up.

  • @44oaktree
    @44oaktree 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video!
    There are many people that feel the same way but embarrassed to discuss it.
    I have an idea - handling different personality traits ( emotional intelligence) and job levels ( JR vs SR during a meeting! ) ex.
    I find Seniors like to agree with Seniors

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for stopping by! Emotional intelligence is a great one; goes hand in hand with self-awareness. I'm happy to embarrass myself for the benefit of others (really)! -Christine

    • @44oaktree
      @44oaktree 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Harvard Business Review - Glad to help!
      Lol... I feel the same.....also was thinking that there are many styles of presenting ideas - I found for myself being my authentic self worked the best - not trying to be like my boss or a movie star or any great speaker. Great speakers are authentic only ... look at Steve Jobs vs Elon Musk - both lead create products but totally different speaking and behavior patterns .
      I think 🤔 knowing we are individuals with uniques experiences will help us express ourselves in meetings and life.
      Best
      Robert

  • @rajnimohan6660
    @rajnimohan6660 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Christine,Thanks this video was useful.Can you have a session on discussing carreer growth with your line manager

  • @DC-ef8op
    @DC-ef8op ปีที่แล้ว

    me tooooo!!!!!!!

  • @seyibale
    @seyibale ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks, Christine for your commitment to this channel. You are such a blessing.

  • @laytonroxy9366
    @laytonroxy9366 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can you please make a video on how teenagers can understand which job and major to opt for?!You know,as in the ones that are the best for them?Thanks!

  • @elizabethoguayo1482
    @elizabethoguayo1482 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Preparing for the meeting and getting the fact/research on the subject matter is important.

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! I feel like one can never prepare enough for a meeting. It can be challenging on busy days but it's time well spent. Thanks for stopping by! -Christine

  • @jakebryancortez3313
    @jakebryancortez3313 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just subscribed :) Loving the videos coz they're practical and relevant. I'm wondering if maybe you could also do some content about business writing, project management, effective confrontation, and coaching? Thank you so much and more power to you and the HBR team!

  • @anaisabelribeiroemiliopint7679
    @anaisabelribeiroemiliopint7679 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nothing like prepare yourselves previously for the meeting theme

  • @dearbelovedstayresilient
    @dearbelovedstayresilient 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you! This was incredibly informative and validating!

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're most welcome! And above all, you are not alone. -Christine

  • @annegreengables
    @annegreengables 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Chistine for this video! I relate completely to that. We usually use the evidence of "workload" to support our no, but what about other reasons like "don't want to be used as problem/chaos -solver again" ... how to pass that message and don't broke the relationship with the boss?

  • @joshrockwellchem
    @joshrockwellchem 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You asked a closed ended question, which takes practice to not do and ask open ones like you recommended instead. Good advice!

  • @hamzaharfaoui1411
    @hamzaharfaoui1411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is Gold

  • @cactikaty
    @cactikaty 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I would love to know how to deal when my idea gets shot down.

  • @nishatislam1394
    @nishatislam1394 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    No formula works in South Asia 😔

  • @0xmmn
    @0xmmn 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Actually you speak very good.

  • @ashishshrivastava8864
    @ashishshrivastava8864 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    "Fact story ask"
    I will try this. I m just those guys who speak nothing untill a point and then speak a lot :p .
    Later, I wonder did they take my points seriously or not?... Probably not!
    Ask is crucial, asking other's opinion makes us less arrogant and let others take us seriously.

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Ashish, glad you found the video helpful. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and, above all, reminding me that I need to use this emoticon way more often :p -Christine

  • @JamesYeang
    @JamesYeang 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Summary: fact, story, ask.

  • @vatssv3006
    @vatssv3006 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    One thing related to work I'd love for you to cover is how to say no to an ask that you genuinely don't want to do pretty much at any cost but while being respectful of other person's ask as well?

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah, that's always tough. You want to show up and be a supportive colleague, but saying no when it matters is critical. I'd love to dig into this one. Thanks for the suggestion! -Christine

  • @satveerbajwa3510
    @satveerbajwa3510 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel before my turn comes in meeting like before interview can you send me your email will discuss in detail Thanks

  • @keiyananicole
    @keiyananicole 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very helpful!

  • @jacquelinekim4410
    @jacquelinekim4410 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hello! And thanks in advance. I would love to see more content on...
    1. How to be more personable in my video job interviews.
    2. How to thrive in the remote recruiting process.

  • @JinnyRee
    @JinnyRee 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for your framework! So simple and powerful. Can you please provide a framework on how to effectively disagree in meetings and how to come to a consensus?

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for the suggestion! Meetings are the gifts that keep giving. -Christine

  • @sherrybentley834
    @sherrybentley834 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I struggle with Teams/Zoom meetings when I go on camera and no one else does! I feel like everyone is staring at me. I think video is helpful so you can see non-verbal cues, body language, etc. but not a lot of people at my company (at least in the meetings I'm involved in) go on camera. Do I go on camera anyway and feel awkward, or keep it off?

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Sherry, good question. I think it depends on your comfort and your organization's norms. In this time of WFH, many companies may adopt something like the IBM Work From Home Pledge (try Googling it), where it's 100% OK to be present and focused but "not camera-ready." Maybe you can be honest with your coworkers offline in 1-on-1 conversations and say that you miss seeing their faces, and that seeing them in a group meeting may feel like a small gesture but is a highlight for your day. (Assuming that's true!) At the very least you can start a conversation and better understand their comfort or decisions regarding camera use during meetings. Good luck and let us know how it goes! -Christine

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      One more idea: Something that truly changed my life (from a previous video I did on virtual presence: th-cam.com/video/zchEneW2890/w-d-xo.html) is hiding my self view during meetings. So even if you're the only one in a meeting with camera on, it'll be less obvious (to you), and you may not feel so awkward as the odd one out. Give it a try! -Christine

  • @rifaimartin3668
    @rifaimartin3668 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is help me

  • @asewejeayooluwa1893
    @asewejeayooluwa1893 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    08:43 LMAO

  • @aminemaamir5287
    @aminemaamir5287 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can really relate to that 100% thanks for sharing those valuable tips ♥

  • @benny7482
    @benny7482 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Simple framework that makes sense. Thanks for the strategy

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Awesome! I'm glad you found it helpful. Let us know how it goes for you! -Christine

  • @pratik.kataria
    @pratik.kataria 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Workplace boundaries

    • @harvardbusinessreview
      @harvardbusinessreview  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree, it's important to set healthy expectations at work to prevent burnout (or worse). Thanks for the suggestion! -Christine

  • @achieving.excellence
    @achieving.excellence 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Facts. Story. Ask - such a great way to engage. The key prior to this is prepare, not just the facts but how you are going to communicate your story and what exactly you will be asking. Adequate preparation can help with confidence issues. Great video.

  • @elaineg5749
    @elaineg5749 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish I had a pound for every time you have used the word 'like' out of context! I would be rather well-off today. Nothing makes me turn off more than the bastardisation of the beautiful English language. Have you considered that the overuse of the word potentially shows your lack of confidence as the word is used almost as an apology for your views; you appear not wanting to offend or that you haven't thought out your idea! Not to mention poor command of the English language.

    • @EB-gt1pq
      @EB-gt1pq 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do you only speak one language? English is not beautiful at all.

    • @elaineg5749
      @elaineg5749 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@EB-gt1pq Well it was a beautiful language until people like you bastardised it. Listen to yourself... do you not realise that you are using the word 'like' repeatedly and not only repeatedly but out of context? I notice how you try to deflect away from your incorrect use of the word 'like' by questioning how many languages I speak. Well, my language skills are not in question here; I am not the one going viral. May be you should read some classical literature as that may help you with your spoken grammar.

  • @oleavideo5943
    @oleavideo5943 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    🔥 🔥 🔥mm-hmm this is for me.