I think choosing friends should hold the same seriousness as choosing a romantic partner. If you can't find one that you feel comfortable with, don't take anyone. Life will most likely bring you the right people in time.
I agree..I have aspberger's and I used to feel bad that I don't have a lot of friends but now I realize it's better to have just a few genuine friends than a few fake friends.
@@27baisers if it makes you feel any better, I didn't have friends for many years. Those who I do have now are a few, very close and appreciated friends
@@idkname2957 I wouldn't worry about that if I were you. They may say life is short, but you will have many years before it's time to go. You will meet a bunch of people in a lifetime. It doesn't even need to be in real life, I've met mine through videogames.
on a more positive note, i wanted to share this quote about friendship: "A good friend knows all your best stories, but a best friend has lived them with you." 💓 - i wish i knew
Feels good to know that im not alone, i hope that all of you who relates to my comment find better relationships, and distance yourselves from toxic people
I had an entire friendship group who made me feel all of these. They weighed me down like an anchor, and played on my insecurities and depression for their own entertainment. It was really hard to leave them though, because I felt some of them were actually good friends. But the moment I let them go, and joined another friend group, I’ve been feeling so much happier. We go out a lot, and I’ve even started dating one of them. Thanks PsychToGo 💙
I also have a friend group like that but I haven’t been able to hang out with them due to being separated at school since they go to school on different days (because of COVID) and I’m so much happier making new friends who actually respect my comfort levels
@@daisysaxby4238 the way you do it is talk to new people and get to know them. Then you slowly start to Distance yourself from The other people you no longer want to be with. Do not just disappear suddenly and only do it once you get to Know people you like.
I have a best friend who acts like everything you said,but she blames me on arguments because she has an attitude, then says I was yelling at her first when I try to be nice because she’s always being rude, when we get to school it’s like nothing ever happened!
Summary timeline 1. You cant concentrate around them----00:46 2. You feel anxious around them----1:16 3. You feel lonely even when you are with them-----1:39 4. Thet worsen your emotional turmoil------2:06 5.They tear down your self esteem----2:38 6. You don't look forward to hanging out with them----2:57 7. You start to avoid them----3:27 Watch the full video for more details👍👍👍👍
Yep. I had a friend like this. Cut contact with her a while ago now. It's weird, as sometimes I feel guilty and wonder if I was just overreacting. But, then I see this video and I know I made the right decision.
That’s brave. I have a friend like this. I could never stand up to myself and tell her that I don’t actually like her as a friend. Never had the guts too.
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If anybody treats you like this, they are NOT friends. Friends might occasionally tease or even take the piss right out of you once in a while... Gods know, my friends and I almost live for rattling each others' cages and having a laugh at it. BUT... they don't make you outright feel bad about being YOU. After the smoke clears and the shrapnel settles, there's a round of hugs and everyone (even you) can look back at whatever just went on and laugh... If you ever dread visiting or meeting with people to hang out, just don't... It's okay to tell people when you "just ain't feeling it"... OR "don't care to hang out with So-n-so"... whatever. Clear communication when there's a problem can do wonders toward resolving it. You may not always like how it gets resolved, but you'll feel better in the long run when you are unapologetically yourself. No more putting up with the intolerable or insufferable! ;o)
I have a bunch of friends and they forgot me on a major exam day...😞 I was more than 30 minutes late and they didn't leave a single message even though they came an hour early to chill ( like WE usually do) I can't even sleep peacefully because I fear that day would occur again.... and in my frnd group my birthday is always ignored saying they are too busy.... I'm always ignored or taken lightly...I have half a dozen friends but I still feel lonely....Should I walk away ? Or am I petty ?
@@kavyakamal2695 Sorry to miss this... didn't get the notification... (something I wish YT would clear up)... It seems to me, maybe, that you should step away a bit... Seek to surround yourself with more helpful or mutually beneficent friends... There's no need to necessarily start squabbling, but maybe just don't hold such high esteem for people who don't honestly think of you at least once in a while... What's wrong with even kind of expecting a cupcake with a candle for a birthday??? OR just a couple cards, an unusual candy or doo-dah??? JUST some little thing(s) to say "We're broke-ass students but we remembered your birthday"... can't be too much... On the same note, though... Do you remember other people's birthdays??? I have a simple enough philosophy in life. "I give as good as I get." Now, there's a minimal "civility" clause, by which I don't just openly treat someone like crap because I don't know them. I'm courteous when I don't necessarily have to be, and I try to stay patient with others to a better than "my fair share" degree... BUT friends can earn my company and friendship a little bit. If they want birthdays and holidays with me, it's all well and good, but I gotta know we celebrate that kind of thing together as part of the deal... Don't just expect me to be psychic when I don't even bother with my own birthday... (and I don't)... You CAN find real friends who will make those bonds and keep up their end... It just takes a bit of looking and occasional investment as you go... ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 Thank you for replying ❤️ I remember their birthdays and mine wasn't celebrated bcoz it's either the month of exam or some important event. Which was okay i guess, if they didn't force me to come to college that day (It was a holiday and they were practicing dance for an upcoming event). So i had some kinda expectation and then they all forgot about it... and I'm basically the clown of the group so they thought that a couple of insta story abt me will do 🌝 Some change happened after that exam incident. I confronted them and they apologized. We are friends again But I'll never be stupid enough to give them control over me... And I know how to keep boundaries now and I have a couple of friends (aside from them) who genuinely cares for me so it's all good now😌
I’m graduates from high school, and 2 friends have stuck around since then. Those 2 aren’t real Friends. They mock me constantly, use me for their own gain and ruin my self esteem. I always looked forward to hanging out but found myself starting to not want to be around them. Sometimes overtime you realize who’s good for you and who’s not, but that’s just life. Stay safe everyone and keep out negative people in your life
I was a troublemaker when I was in kindergarten with my friends... But I hate my friend who named odry she keep on telling on me for little reasons and kinda hurt my feelings well I was naughty enough to steal her pink ring so the teacher was trying to look for her ring so she checked in every bag in school but couldn't find it I was very clever and put it ring in my shoe and she was very sad I was very happy and guilty when the when school was ended I was with my friend Odry so I hate I hide the ring in my kitchen the toy ring was never founded then I stolen a lip gloss from one of my friends Aman honestly I feel like I'm evil 😈
2 years ago i had the perfect friend group, everyone was kind, everyone loved each other, every weekend we would have sleepovers and we were so close. The beginning of 2021 one of my friends who wasn’t apart of my friend group and who i’ve fought with an unhealthy amount of times became incredibly rude and kept telling my friends fake stuff about me every time we fought. My best friend never believed those things and i was very thankful for that, but ever since then my friends have hated me and told fake stuff about me to others. I don’t feel safe around them too, i want to not be friends with them anymore but im afraid to be lonely and let my old friend take over my life
same feeling i got and gradually i become depress ,,,and now i leave them. even i still got their effect means i also got depress and i fear of what people gonna think of my loneliness. But as the days are passing am feeling better.Am optimistic that i ll gain my old days, which i was at first day of my medical university.. the thing which i gain from this always avoid already depress and parasite like people they will make u like they are... ...........life lesson
I feel the exact same way! It's like they are a whole different person. And it's not even just being ignored, they have said bad things to me before and then just brushed it off like it was nothing. I'm in the process of trying to drop them right now, but I feel like I'm just going to get sucked right back into their negativity once quarantine is over.
@@siennasilva1696 yeah my ex bff was a fake friend and i was bff whit her for 8 years and i tried to tell her thst i dont wonna be her bff but she litterly shouted at me and we hade a fight and now im not her bff and none of my friends like her and she said im ugly stupid dumb and that she hates me into my face and many times my deppression is kinds complicated
@@idk-yk1kw so leave the people like this, your mental health is more important then any thing else..... the people like these actually come in our life to teach something go ahead.
@@kronoskr2597 I'm sure that's true. For me, I've found people drop me when I start standing up to them. The power dynamic changes and they don't like it. That's what I've found in my life, anyway. I usually leave it far too late to stand up for myself though.
This video relates to me a lot for different reasons. My “friend’s” always lower my confidence and self esteem then it already is by using personal issues and experiences as insults such as the classic you have no dad because my parents aren’t together even though I can still see and speak to him whenever I want to but for some reason I still let it affect me. Aswell as that they also comment on my social anxiety calling me anti social constantly disregarding how i feel which causes huge sadness and depression in my head.
This video helped a lot, when I started high school I made lots of new friends, we were like besties I had a whole friend group and life just felt great. But my friends were always coming to me to share their emotional griefs, saying “ why does everyone always pick on me- why can’t they just leave me alone” and my other friend who has a hidden disability always comes to me for support. They’re always screaming or being loud and obnoxious without taking a second to think about how I feel, or they’re simply talking amongst themselves. It’s been two years since we first met and I’ve finally realised that I’m just there. I don’t mind them talking to me tbh because it gives me a sense of purpose but they never ask about me and even if I try to tell them anything theres always something more important to them. And I made some new friends, but being the person I am I don’t want to hurt my old friends by ditching them. And I’m broken between what to do. I look forward to lessons just to get away from them and have found myself isolating myself. I can’t bring myself to cry but I don’t know how to tell them, I don’t want to hurt their feeling even after they hurt mine. I have nobody to talk to, to share my pain with, to be friends with. They talk to each other but talk to me about their problems making me feel guilty, neglecting my own. I feel useless and unwanted. Life’s purpose feels defeated. I don’t know what to do and it would be really nice if people could suggest anything to me. Thx for taking ur time to read this. Appreciate it a lot 🥰
According to your video with “5 levels of friendship” I understood I only had friends form level 3, and one level 5 (which I barely see) It makes me feel empty and depressed because I just want someone I can be myself with, in my daily life. Does anyone have tips to make better friends? :c
(Imagive Amanda Silvera is telling you all of these with that soothing voice of her) Well people are temporary and you wont meet your friends or loved ones everyday. But you yourself will be by yourself. Don't you think its time for you to look into yourself now? Its time to start becoming a friend of your ownself and then you will be able to have great long lasting friendships. Speaking from a place of experience. Do you want to know how?then plz reply, let me know I will tell you how.
BE YOURSELF... Completely unapologetically. Stick to your guns with who you are (comfortable about it or not)... Understand that not everyone is going to even want to be friends with you. They're not your friend just because they act reasonable or civilized or even sociable towards you. AND if someone doesn't particularly like you or they even dislike you for who you are, to hell with them! Simple... I'm crude, rude, obscene, abrasive, profane (at least from time to time) and rarely (if ever) take anything seriously. I'll laugh at anything I find funny... period. I'm a die-hard comic at heart. I've been through a few mills, too. BUT I don't candy-coat anything, and I was never any good at lying... SO don't ask me something unless you REALLY want the answer. I'm going to call it as I see it... Lots of people REALLY hate that. They hate that I won't back off and sugar-up what they don't want to hear. They hate that I won't always agree with them and comfort them about being against the world... HEY! When you do something wrong or make a mess, you're supposed to clean it up... I don't demand much. I do require that. I can listen and give comfort (where due). I can back you up and help out, and I'm not afraid of hard work, filth, or danger. I have my limits, and I'm only one guy. BUT I'm not about to apologize for the person I've grown to become. I'm not sorry. If you don't like me, there's a WHOLE BIG WORLD out there full to over-flowing with people. Go bother some of them! There's no reason to keep crossing my path and making me miserable... You don't need a whole load of "self esteem" for this, either. You just need to respect the fact that you are JUST AS VALID a human being as I am. You need to take some care of your own interests, too... AND that means finding friends who can be supportive and allow your boundaries, and to weed out grubby pieces of sh*t who won't. F*** 'em... ;o)
Every time I try to talk to my friend about how I feel it’s either ‘same’ or ‘oh’. They also make fun of things I feel bad about. I’m not sure if they mean well or if they realize they’re hurting me
Choose your friends wisely! I've had some take advantage of my good nature and use it against me. Unless you set boundaries with them, you will begin to build resentment.
Human relationships are tough because humans are complex, flawed creatures. 😔 Some friendships don’t necessarily go as far in toxicity in this, but sometimes you may still end up in a relationship that can carry a little bit of these traits occasionally. Depending on how far it goes, it’s up to you what to do.
I had a friend who I helped when she was depressed, a time later I was dealing hard problems and she didn't care. Even when she did somenthing terrible to me wich makes me even worst, she was like "it's nothing, it will pass" I haven't speak with her in months and I won't do it anymore
▶ Timestamps ◀ 0:45 - You can't concentrate around them 1:16 - You feel anxious around them 1:40 - You feel lonely when you're around them 2:06 - They worsen your emotional turmoil 2:37 - They tear down your self esteem 2:57 - You don't look foward to hanging with them 3:26 - You start to avoid them
Honestly, I have an entire friend group and I feel all the signs. One of them in particular likes to bash a lot of what I like and others in the group. I just always brushed it off as being a joke but sometimes it gets to the point it hurts me and my self esteem. Which I’ve always had a problem with since I was younger. As well as how controlling and manipulating the friend is, he even owns an entire group based on raiding, or as I would like to call it, harassing people who just want to play a game. He manipulates the group members into thinking that it’s okay to cyber bully people and make them feel bad for how they dress and etc. Before I was even apart of the friend group I used to be a normal member and worship him (the friend) and participate in all the raids. He always talked about how they raided to get rid of online daters. And I believed that, every word of it. When I heard I could apply to be a developer I immediately went into studio and worked on an application (game showcase) so I could be hired. It took a while but I got hired, but I wasn’t an official developer at first. One day I encountered one of the admins who was a close friend to him and I managed to get into a group chat (Discord) he interacted with his friends a lot. I got to know him better and become friends until all the drama started. After I joined, I was immediately harassed by two of his friends, and to this day are not his friends anymore (At least one of them I can confirm). They called me slurs and other things I don’t want to remember but eventually we sort of got along. About a while later, some more drama popped up again but they were “reasonable”. Some of the friends began acting toxic and rude, but some of them I began to agree with. Especially with one female friend about how he (the friend I’ve talked about owning the group and etc), was toxic and that they needed to leave for their mental health, and hoping all his friends would understand later on about how manipulative and controlling he is. In response he attempted getting all his friends to unfriend them and cut all contact. All of his friends and I readily agreed since the female friend said some nasty stuff. I lost some pretty good friends along the way and it made me question why I’m still friends with him. I’ve been threatened to lose my job as a developer and I always complied as to not lose it. But why haven’t I left? Well, it’s because they’re all good friends of mine, even if some of them say hurtful stuff. And I feel if I’m not friends with him anymore then I’ll get attacked too and lose all my friends. I’ve ghosted them for a month before and my health was slightly better, I managed to get a good’s night sleep for once, be able to focus on my homework a bit more, and get a small weight off my shoulders from the stress. I’m still debating wether or not to stop being friends with him or not. And if someone actually read all of this, then thank you. Talking about things that have hurt me or are hurting me just help me sleep a little better. (Also about the words “Studio”, “Developer”, “Group”. They’re referring to some features in Roblox.)
I was talking about a show I like in the bus lanes with my friends, they started making fun of me. I broke down crying and told them that I didn’t have the energy to get made fun of, they proceeded to get a bit pissy walk away together and do the war to eat silent convo while getting away from me. I had to walk the rest of the way hope tired and sore(limping cause cramps and pulled tendon), got home, threw up and cried for the rest of the night. Haven’t seen em in two days. They left me crying in a bus lane and nobody checked in. That’s when I knew I had no support system with worsening anxiety and depression. This is fine
Finally realizing that this has been a long time coming. All the roommates are like this and they treat me like the laughing stock of the house. Even one on one none of them talk to me about anything they just ignore me or make fun of me for existing. They treat me with way less respect than I see them give each other and I recognize some of it is projecting their insecurities but they pick on me because I dare to stand out. Two of them used to be people I considered my “best friends” but I feel like they just want me around so they can step on me and use me as an emotional punching bag when they hate themselves. I’m moving because I honestly can’t take it anymore. Everything in my life has fallen off track and i think it’s because of my steadily declining mental health. I’m so done with the these people.
I love these videos, however I feel that they are geared more towards young people, like ages 10 or 11 through young adult. I wish I'd had this info available when I was in this age range, but, what can be recommended for people in their 30s, 40s and up? *Edit for clarification * I'm in a unique spot because I'm married, in my late 30s, work night shift and am childfree. So keeping friends can be challenging. My spouse is also not very social. Plus, Covid! Heck, Psych2Go could write a book about that alone! I hope everyone who sees me comment is well, healthy and loved.
I agree with you about the videos being geared toward young ones and more focused on relationships than friendship! If I can't keep a friendship going how am I supposed to have a relationship and eventually A Husband
@@wildflowers2580 the only reliably good thing in my life right now is my singular loyal friend and my boyfriend. i never thought someone would be interested in me, but i guess it was possible. that said, losing so many friends has made me super clingy to the one who did stick around and my bf, and that makes me self conscious :/ i have hope that both will last, but i'm so damn paranoid that i constantly worry about both leaving me
@@dibade1961I'm so Happy you Have a bf and friend in your life!! 🙂I can understand being paranoid about loosing both your Bf and friend!! I've lost 4 Friends! 4 close friends or who I thought were my friends all who were married! I always felt left out because of not being married! I'm done with friends! I'm done being Hurt and treated like last nights trash!! And!!! I'm not there for any of them any longer! They can take out their own trash!
Yes. I love these videos for their simplicity but I imagine there are many people who are definitely “older“ who can benefit from the topics as well and maybe you can go into a bit more depth. For what it’s worth I’m getting close to 60!
I had to cut off a friend back in July because she was extreamly mentally draining and i felt sm better when she wasn't around. She always brought around this negative draining energy and she's done a few things that messed me up physiology. While i do feel bad sometimes i knew it was for the better.
@@dibade1961 I'm the same way, after i cut her off i literally had no one and no one ever texts me. It sucks but i learned to get used it it. And trust me, ik it's hard but you have to put your wellbeing first, it took me a while but i did it.
@Sandy G ʚïɞ i understand, I've been through more than one truamatic friendship myself. And if you can, block them on everything or make a new social media and keep it secret. They sound like an awful person 😕
Literally went through the same thing . You can really feel their negative energy especially when you haven’t been around them for awhile , and then you come back around it’s HEAVY!
Several folks in my church (including my pastor) pulled this stunt, especially when I was in need due to inability to find a job thru lack of transportation. They had the nerve to be surprised when I left them...for the second and LAST time.
I have this friend who constantly lovebombs, so whenever we see each other it’s a compliment shower, but then a bit later the shower only comes from me and she ignores everything I say. I’ll talk directly to her, but it’s like I’m talking at and through her, or like I’m not actually speaking. It can be just us two alone in a silent room and whatever I say will still be missed. I’m a very tactile person with my friends, and most of them accept it, the same ones who let her be tactile with them. But whenever I try to be tactile with her, I get pushed, which I completely understand and respect and abide by. But when other friends are tactile with her, she gushes over them and hugs, holds, and clings back, and when they’re tactile with me, she pushes me away or tries to draw their attention away from me. She tells me to shut up a lot, playfully, which I don’t mind at all. But when I told her to be quiet when she offered advice we had already solidified wouldn’t work while I was talking to another friend and that friend ONLY, specifically, speaking quietly so nobody would hear, she got mad at me and gave me the silent treatment for about four days. Once I accidentally scratched her while trying to stop her from yelling out something embarrassing about me to everyone, and i was unaware that i hurt her. She acted fine with me for the whole day but showed up the next day pissed off at me and giving me the silent treatment again. To clarify, i didn’t know i even scratched her, because the cut didnt show up until later and she told another friend in front of me that she was roughhousing with her brother and got it from there. We worked it out (as in, i sent a screen and a half of apologetic speech and she sent an ‘ok’) only for her to bring it up again recently after weeks of treating me like she used to. We’ve never fought other than this and I learned from a mutual friend that she now wants to ditch me for being unaccountable.
These videos always appear with perfect timing for me, as 2 of my 'best friends' support is questionable to me, as one of them bullys me more, the other just follows her, even worse, they're the only friends I have.
1,3,4,6 and 7 does hit me alot these days. thanks for this video it just makes me realize that i prefer my peace of mind over or alone time over wasting my time with people.
Recently i felt this with my best friend, i have been depressed for several years and talking to them makes me feel so empty. The only responses i get when i talk about somtheing i like are "Ah cool", "Mm i dont know" and that is basically it. And the commnets they make when we are on a bigger group make me feel ashamed of myself. They make jokes of my ed or my anxiety. I sit with them in school but lately we dont even speak to each other. I have to tell them how i feel but its difficult. I dont know what to do...
I am so messed up, the friends I have have really messed me up. I am shocked to realise that every single thing that was mentioned in this video applies to my friends. Im so fucked mentally but I cant bring myself to get help. People are so horrible sometimes. Im so alone. In gonna fail all my GCSEs im so screwed man
all these things are so true, i feel like i’ve given so much to my friends and they never give back. and the emotional turmoil part really stung, so many times when i’ve had a problem they just give me their sob story in return, flipping the switch and making them into the victim when in reality i was the one heading to them for support, to ask their opinion on hard times. really great video tho
So is it not reciprocated? Usually if me and my mates are talking about hard times we share each others issues so we both can let it out and solve issues. Do your friends disregard yours or do they help out and then tell you about theirs?
So I currently have these two friends that I hang out with a lot cause they live close to me. And when I met them they were sooo nice and fun. And I thought I found my bffs for life. We met about 2-3 years ago. We talk almost everyday. Their rudeness and insults started about 1-2 years ago (because I met them a year apart from each other) and they make me feel bad about my self, they mock me, they make me feel alone and so on. When it’s just one of them with me their all nice to me and stuff but the second the other one comes I’m just a mere background character. And I really don’t want to hang out with them anymore but since I’m always hanging out with them I never had time to make other friends. And our parents are friends. I’m slowly trying to let go of them because I don’t see a point in trying to fix the friendship. They have seen me sad many times but they just laugh it off and do something else and leave me.
Leave them(easier said than done of course) I dont know what that tendency in people is, but when around others or in a group, then they get mean, cold-hearted, and decide to put one down in front of others. So crazy.
@@graceabounds9423 Im still friends with both of them but im better friends with one. Shes no longer rude but she still has those rudeish tendencies. Im feel happy now but thank you for going out of your way to help me out.
@@dayliqtt8903 As long as it's getting better that's great. Sorry if my "leave them" sounded rude n blunt, I was angry at the moment from a rude friend lol. But communication is best, so don't ever be afraid to tell them some thing you don't like. God bless!
@@graceabounds9423 Dont worry your "leave them" wasnt rude in any way. And of something like this ever happens again i will be sure to stand up to them. Thannk you so much!
@@graceabounds9423 my friend acts so kind sometimes when we are alone but as soon as we are in a group with people he just makes fun of me and then when i say smth about it he says stop being so sensitive
I just parted ways with someone I had thought was a good friend and possibly could lead to something more. I found he was draining my energy and when he became extremely angry at me because of something someone else did that is when I knew it would not work! Thankfully I am going to sing karaoke tonight and re-connect with friends I have not seen in awhile...🙏❤️🙏
ive been experienced this for three years straight. literally avoided the others but another one came then it's repeating. i feel awful about myself because of them. i turned them down for a couple of times whenever they asked me to hangout. at this point i believe friends arent that great
Things that resonate with me: 1 you feel lonely around them 2. They worsen your emotional turmoil leading to you shutting down. I really feel like I can't talk to my friends about anything and like they wouldn't even care if I tried to and that really sad. Sometimes I also feel like we're friends because of convenience or like it's not a deep friendship. I have no one to talk to or lean on and it makes me fucking depressed when I think about it. I lost one of my best friends (break up) earlier this year and now I have friends who can't emotionally support me. Ik it's not their job but who tf am I supposed to express myself to? This is so hard😔 and she also left me because I was telling her TOO MUCH of my emotional stuff so I just can't tell anyone shit and it doesn't matter how I feel to anyone. That's how it feels, if I express it then imma trigger someone; if I keep it in then I'm gonna explode.🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️ please someone let me know If I'm crazy
ah, you see, i have friends that i dearly love and they’re amazing people, it’s just that they never text first. i’m not the best at conversations so i just say my good morning’s to them and then a conversation never starts..
i have this one friend and she makes me feel so lonely and not wanted. she never thinks about me she just wants every second to be about her and she wants someone she can vent on. i sometimes think that i don't have any real friends that want to understand me and actually try to understand what i'm talking about i keep hoping one day that i'll come to her when i'm sad and she will understand and she never does. it makes me feel so alone but she's the only one i have and i cant deal with it anymore.
I still have to put up with my school " friends" 1. Yes. 2. Of course 3. Yeah... 4. I don't show my emotions to them 5. Yes. They do. 6. I never look forward to hanging out with fake friends. 7. Yes. I have good friends. You know what their names are.
I had a friend that would always make me feel bad even when she doesn’t know she does she gets angry quickly and judged many people for their looks One time i made a picture with my other friends she doesn’t know then she said mean things about their looks when I didn’t answer she seems annoyed every time she wants to hang out i always make excuses.
Holy shit, you just enlightened me. Now I will leave my friends because they make me feel bad I just realised that. Although I have no other friends then…
This video makes me love my best friend of 2 years even more because she doesn't make me feel like this at all I apologize to anyone who has a so called friend who makes them feel this way but I am lucky to have my best friend in my life she makes me feel easy and calm she makes me feel safe and warm she makes me feel amazing even when I talk to her I can't help but get in a good mood sometimes I smile like an idiot I can have the worst day in the world I talked to her and everything changes in the whole day gets better she's my pick me up when the world knocks me down 2k18 to forever I love you Ellie ♥️
I stayed "friends" with friends-of-friends out of the situation (high school) and then just out of trying to be an adult. They made me miserable, they treated me unfairly, it was awful, and some of it was out of their own trauma, but now I'm affected by them and other things in my personal life. It's just hard and I wish I had walked away sooner and it's sad that when some people hurt me the others in our group sided more with them or were way more ready to let the people that hurt me back in. They wanted to hang out with them.
I was friends with a guy since pre school we were hanging out and everything was fine untill he was mocking me and telling me i was doing mistakes. He was making fun of me puting his self above me. I was feeling so down and depressed. I had a fight with him on purpose so i could get away. Now that i see him with no friends i have a feeling of relief. I was struggling with him and finally he was gone
It took me years to realize my whole society was toxic and depressing me. I couldn't realize it because EVERYONE was like that. Funny thing I was the positve one and they would always drag me down. I left the country. Now Im so much more happy.
Happy birthday. Maybe birthday is not important for them? Maybe they are like me. I care about other people's birthday only because I know i should and they would be hurt otherwise. Without them i wouldn't even notice my own birthday.
1:43 This is nearly a snapshot of every time we all meet up. I have my best friend, and her sister is my friend as well. Both have boyfriends, so I end up being the fifth wheel and even when I'm around them, I don't feel happy to be around them. My best friend had gotten in another friend group and hasn't really talked with me much, we have nothing really in common anymore. I'm nearly ready to give up, but the problem is her sister is being a better friend than my best friend. They actually check in and hang out when I'm with them, so any group gathering, my best friend would be there too and it would just be awkward. It sucks when your first best friend seemingly moves on without you...
Thanks Psych2go. "Fake friends are like shadows: they follow you in the sun but leave you in the dark.” “Bad friends will prevent you from having good friends.” “It is better to be alone than in bad company.” ❤️🙏selfhelpchampion
My friends have been excluding me a lot lately. I've lost lots of friends over time due to me not agreeing with some of the things they do, and I'm down to one group now. They make hurtful jokes to me and say stuff like "You're not actually my friend," and I'm not an extremely emotional person, so sometimes I act like it doesn't hurt even though it does. What hurts worse is the fact that I've been friends with them for years now, and they have more respect for the newer friends than me. I don't have the courage to tell them, but it isn't funny. It's plain mean and negatively affecting me. They also tell me to stop following them at recess, even though they're my friends. I'm feeling really distanced from them. Anyway, if you read this thanks!
I have the exact same problem as you do. I'm very close with them but at the same time i'm not, and I don't want to confront them because then I will have no one to hang with or anything. Plz don't feel too down you will find new and better friends eventually.
I don’t know whether or not I should let a friend go. Everyday I used to sit at lunch with her but lately she’s been bringing me down and kicking me out of the table to let some people she never even talked to sit there. And my best friend seems to be hanging out with her a lot and is not doing anything about the situation. I feel like we’re heading in 2 separate directions. My life sucks rn.
My whole friend group shipped me with someone even though I constantly told them to stop to the point where I had a multiple month long existential crisis of not know who I was and thinking I was lying to everyone including myself and basically wanted to die some times until I found out I was asexual The guy they shipped me with became my friend and he was fully aware of my friends shipping us and since we both hated being shipped we wouldn’t hang out with them much And I’m still friends with the people who shipped us even though I wanted to die because of them This all happened when I was 10
My “friend” in this case is my elderly mother. Everything described here describes our “relationship.” Please create more of your excellent videos and address adults dealing with toxic parents! Thank you.
Most of my friends forget about me when people they like more than me are present. Lets say we are talking and someone they like more than me enters the conversation. They will completely forget I exist. In a group I can do random things because they wont care. Even If I kill myself infront of them. They wouldnt do anything
Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?
yes
Sunrises!
Sunrise definitely!!
sunsets
Sun rising in the west is much preferrable, i'm bored watching sun rising in the east.
I think choosing friends should hold the same seriousness as choosing a romantic partner. If you can't find one that you feel comfortable with, don't take anyone. Life will most likely bring you the right people in time.
I agree..I have aspberger's and I used to feel bad that I don't have a lot of friends but now I realize it's better to have just a few genuine friends than a few fake friends.
@@27baisers if it makes you feel any better, I didn't have friends for many years. Those who I do have now are a few, very close and appreciated friends
What I’m scared the most is if the “right people” never show up and I end up dying alone and sad :,(
@@idkname2957 I wouldn't worry about that if I were you. They may say life is short, but you will have many years before it's time to go. You will meet a bunch of people in a lifetime. It doesn't even need to be in real life, I've met mine through videogames.
KOnnichiwa
“In life we never lose friends, we only learn who the true ones are!” 😊
True ;)
spot on!
Its not true, I want to lose a friend.
@@ujjawalkumar5915 "friend"s are the worst
How do you have a picture of the pysch2go icon in your profile name? :0
on a more positive note, i wanted to share this quote about friendship: "A good friend knows all your best stories, but a best friend has lived them with you." 💓
- i wish i knew
I was gonna try and help you out with whoever said this but from what I've seen, it's listed as anonymous 😓 Well, dang
bs i lived 12 years of my life with the same poeple and i still am uncomfortable with most of them
for real, all they know are good stories..
Whoever is reading this , may all your worries go away with todays sunset . Tomorrow’s Sunrise will bring a rainbow my friend .
awww ty💗💕💕
No, the only thing it's gonna bring is 100 degree weather and all the fires around here, is bringing choking smoke.
Luv you,hope it HAPPENS
Thank you.. it means a lot
This would have been cool if there isn't a hurricane coming tomorow so thats ironic lmao
The only good thing quarantine gave me was less time with a "friend" that always makes me feel bad about myself
I can completely understand you!!
Feels good to know that im not alone, i hope that all of you who relates to my comment find better relationships, and distance yourselves from toxic people
@@omg....5240 I Gave up! Why torture myself
This is true🙂
Yes very true
I had an entire friendship group who made me feel all of these. They weighed me down like an anchor, and played on my insecurities and depression for their own entertainment. It was really hard to leave them though, because I felt some of them were actually good friends. But the moment I let them go, and joined another friend group, I’ve been feeling so much happier. We go out a lot, and I’ve even started dating one of them. Thanks PsychToGo 💙
I also have a friend group like that but I haven’t been able to hang out with them due to being separated at school since they go to school on different days (because of COVID) and I’m so much happier making new friends who actually respect my comfort levels
How did you leave them because i am so frightened to as i have no other friends and it would be awkward in lessons.
@@daisysaxby4238 the way you do it is talk to new people and get to know them.
Then you slowly start to Distance yourself from The other people you no longer want to be with.
Do not just disappear suddenly and only do it once you get to Know people you like.
Woow! Good you broke off. It's a very courageous step!
I have a best friend who acts like everything you said,but she blames me on arguments because she has an attitude, then says I was yelling at her first when I try to be nice because she’s always being rude, when we get to school it’s like nothing ever happened!
I would say you should get away from them. But this actually applied to many of my family members. So, yay(!)
wait... NANI THE FRICK??!! ur a time traveler?
Same here tho👀
How does it say 1 month ..wt*
...
Same
Summary timeline
1. You cant concentrate around them----00:46
2. You feel anxious around them----1:16
3. You feel lonely even when you are with them-----1:39
4. Thet worsen your emotional turmoil------2:06
5.They tear down your self esteem----2:38
6. You don't look forward to hanging out with them----2:57
7. You start to avoid them----3:27
Watch the full video for more details👍👍👍👍
Oh gosh..at this point some of these are accurate...
crap…
Oh god, I really find this accurate.
Yep. I had a friend like this. Cut contact with her a while ago now. It's weird, as sometimes I feel guilty and wonder if I was just overreacting. But, then I see this video and I know I made the right decision.
That’s brave. I have a friend like this. I could never stand up to myself and tell her that I don’t actually like her as a friend. Never had the guts too.
@waffl3sss That's why she picked you as a friend. It's a bitter pill to swallow. I was the same.
I am the person who has never experienced the friend that I am to other people. The only exception is my husband and I thank God every day for him.
Can we be friends?
That is very well put. I've never been able to put words to it like you just did.
What are the symptoms of a nervous breakdown?
👍depressive symptoms, such as loss of hope and thoughts of suicide or self-harm.
anxiety with high blood pressure, tense muscles, clammy hands, dizziness, upset stomach, and trembling or shaking.
insomnia.
hallucinations.
extreme mood swings or unexplained outbursts.
If anybody treats you like this, they are NOT friends. Friends might occasionally tease or even take the piss right out of you once in a while... Gods know, my friends and I almost live for rattling each others' cages and having a laugh at it. BUT... they don't make you outright feel bad about being YOU. After the smoke clears and the shrapnel settles, there's a round of hugs and everyone (even you) can look back at whatever just went on and laugh...
If you ever dread visiting or meeting with people to hang out, just don't... It's okay to tell people when you "just ain't feeling it"... OR "don't care to hang out with So-n-so"... whatever. Clear communication when there's a problem can do wonders toward resolving it. You may not always like how it gets resolved, but you'll feel better in the long run when you are unapologetically yourself.
No more putting up with the intolerable or insufferable! ;o)
I have a bunch of friends and they forgot me on a major exam day...😞 I was more than 30 minutes late and they didn't leave a single message even though they came an hour early to chill ( like WE usually do) I can't even sleep peacefully because I fear that day would occur again.... and in my frnd group my birthday is always ignored saying they are too busy.... I'm always ignored or taken lightly...I have half a dozen friends but I still feel lonely....Should I walk away ? Or am I petty ?
thank you
@@kavyakamal2695 Sorry to miss this... didn't get the notification... (something I wish YT would clear up)...
It seems to me, maybe, that you should step away a bit... Seek to surround yourself with more helpful or mutually beneficent friends...
There's no need to necessarily start squabbling, but maybe just don't hold such high esteem for people who don't honestly think of you at least once in a while...
What's wrong with even kind of expecting a cupcake with a candle for a birthday??? OR just a couple cards, an unusual candy or doo-dah??? JUST some little thing(s) to say "We're broke-ass students but we remembered your birthday"... can't be too much...
On the same note, though... Do you remember other people's birthdays???
I have a simple enough philosophy in life. "I give as good as I get."
Now, there's a minimal "civility" clause, by which I don't just openly treat someone like crap because I don't know them. I'm courteous when I don't necessarily have to be, and I try to stay patient with others to a better than "my fair share" degree...
BUT friends can earn my company and friendship a little bit. If they want birthdays and holidays with me, it's all well and good, but I gotta know we celebrate that kind of thing together as part of the deal... Don't just expect me to be psychic when I don't even bother with my own birthday... (and I don't)...
You CAN find real friends who will make those bonds and keep up their end... It just takes a bit of looking and occasional investment as you go... ;o)
@@enthusiasticallydry Always Welcome... It felt like it needed to be said. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 Thank you for replying ❤️ I remember their birthdays and mine wasn't celebrated bcoz it's either the month of exam or some important event. Which was okay i guess, if they didn't force me to come to college that day (It was a holiday and they were practicing dance for an upcoming event). So i had some kinda expectation and then they all forgot about it... and I'm basically the clown of the group so they thought that a couple of insta story abt me will do 🌝
Some change happened after that exam incident. I confronted them and they apologized. We are friends again But I'll never be stupid enough to give them control over me... And I know how to keep boundaries now and I have a couple of friends (aside from them) who genuinely cares for me so it's all good now😌
I’m graduates from high school, and 2 friends have stuck around since then. Those 2 aren’t real Friends. They mock me constantly, use me for their own gain and ruin my self esteem. I always looked forward to hanging out but found myself starting to not want to be around them. Sometimes overtime you realize who’s good for you and who’s not, but that’s just life. Stay safe everyone and keep out negative people in your life
I jokingly tell them things that they’ve said that made me feel bad about myself. None of them seem to have realized how much they actually effect me
That’s why God is my best friend and after that it’s my dog
What about you? Aren't you your own best friend too?
Never understood how people can choose something they cant see as their number 1 priority
Awhhh ify. We're literally like *SAME* .
@@sundewy ever heard of oxygen
@@ashleigh99 you worship oxygen?
I've been through literally all of these with different people and friend groups over the years 😔
🥺❤️
Same but in my case when i introduce 2 friends they dont get along and im often forced to chose between them i just cant find the right friends
THIS WAS WHY MY GRADES WERE SOOO LOW😭they always let me down and I got soo much stress
You can also call this video 7 Signs you have bad friends.
Yeah.
Did anyone in particular come to mind when I watched this?
Absolutely.
I was a troublemaker when I was in kindergarten with my friends... But I hate my friend who named odry she keep on telling on me for little reasons and kinda hurt my feelings well I was naughty enough to steal her pink ring so the teacher was trying to look for her ring so she checked in every bag in school but couldn't find it I was very clever and put it ring in my shoe and she was very sad I was very happy and guilty when the when school was ended I was with my friend Odry so I hate I hide the ring in my kitchen the toy ring was never founded then I stolen a lip gloss from one of my friends Aman honestly I feel like I'm evil 😈
But I keep wondering why I have friends
@@Peguinneverdie my friends kicked me out of the friend group so idk about you, anyways gotta go back to being alone and looking for a good friend
2 years ago i had the perfect friend group, everyone was kind, everyone loved each other, every weekend we would have sleepovers and we were so close.
The beginning of 2021 one of my friends who wasn’t apart of my friend group and who i’ve fought with an unhealthy amount of times became incredibly rude and kept telling my friends fake stuff about me every time we fought.
My best friend never believed those things and i was very thankful for that, but ever since then my friends have hated me and told fake stuff about me to others. I don’t feel safe around them too, i want to not be friends with them anymore but im afraid to be lonely and let my old friend take over my life
I just had an emotional breakdown because of my frnds...this video is perfect 4 my situation😣😞😞
same.
me too!
Same
same:((
I'm having trouble with my friends and if they don't understand at all. I'd be very appreciative you made this video.
The person on your team that drew this....
HEY YOU'RE SO AWSOME FOR MAKING SUCH GREAT ART! I can tell you put a lot of work to it :3
The person's name is Grottimob
When im whit my bff we laugh a lot but when she is whit me and her other friend i feel rlly ignored lonely and unloved
same feeling i got and gradually i become depress ,,,and now i leave them.
even i still got their effect means i also got depress and i fear of what people gonna think of my loneliness. But as the days are passing am feeling better.Am optimistic that i ll gain my old days, which i was at first day of my medical university..
the thing which i gain from this always avoid already depress and parasite like people they will make u like they are...
...........life lesson
Same here :/
I feel the exact same way! It's like they are a whole different person. And it's not even just being ignored, they have said bad things to me before and then just brushed it off like it was nothing. I'm in the process of trying to drop them right now, but I feel like I'm just going to get sucked right back into their negativity once quarantine is over.
@@siennasilva1696 yeah my ex bff was a fake friend and i was bff whit her for 8 years and i tried to tell her thst i dont wonna be her bff but she litterly shouted at me and we hade a fight and now im not her bff and none of my friends like her and she said im ugly stupid dumb and that she hates me into my face and many times my deppression is kinds complicated
@@idk-yk1kw so leave the people like this,
your mental health is more important then any thing else..... the people like these actually come in our life to teach something go ahead.
You know whats sad when you realise that you're the toxic person in someone else's life, so they got rid of you
Or maybe they got rid of you because you finally started standing up for yourself and it changed the power dynamic.
@@snowbear1877 What i said is true for me.
@@kronoskr2597 I'm sure that's true.
For me, I've found people drop me when I start standing up to them. The power dynamic changes and they don't like it. That's what I've found in my life, anyway. I usually leave it far too late to stand up for myself though.
This video relates to me a lot for different reasons. My “friend’s” always lower my confidence and self esteem then it already is by using personal issues and experiences as insults such as the classic you have no dad because my parents aren’t together even though I can still see and speak to him whenever I want to but for some reason I still let it affect me. Aswell as that they also comment on my social anxiety calling me anti social constantly disregarding how i feel which causes huge sadness and depression in my head.
This video helped a lot, when I started high school I made lots of new friends, we were like besties I had a whole friend group and life just felt great. But my friends were always coming to me to share their emotional griefs, saying “ why does everyone always pick on me- why can’t they just leave me alone” and my other friend who has a hidden disability always comes to me for support. They’re always screaming or being loud and obnoxious without taking a second to think about how I feel, or they’re simply talking amongst themselves. It’s been two years since we first met and I’ve finally realised that I’m just there. I don’t mind them talking to me tbh because it gives me a sense of purpose but they never ask about me and even if I try to tell them anything theres always something more important to them. And I made some new friends, but being the person I am I don’t want to hurt my old friends by ditching them. And I’m broken between what to do. I look forward to lessons just to get away from them and have found myself isolating myself. I can’t bring myself to cry but I don’t know how to tell them, I don’t want to hurt their feeling even after they hurt mine. I have nobody to talk to, to share my pain with, to be friends with. They talk to each other but talk to me about their problems making me feel guilty, neglecting my own. I feel useless and unwanted. Life’s purpose feels defeated.
I don’t know what to do and it would be really nice if people could suggest anything to me.
Thx for taking ur time to read this. Appreciate it a lot 🥰
You seem like a good person I wish you all the best to be happy 💛👑
According to your video with “5 levels of friendship”
I understood I only had friends form level 3, and one level 5 (which I barely see)
It makes me feel empty and depressed because I just want someone I can be myself with, in my daily life.
Does anyone have tips to make better friends? :c
I feel you bro but sorry I don't have any tips, I just broke off with all of my toxic “friends” days ago, I realized I was surrounded by them
(Imagive Amanda Silvera is telling you all of these with that soothing voice of her)
Well people are temporary and you wont meet your friends or loved ones everyday. But you yourself will be by yourself. Don't you think its time for you to look into yourself now?
Its time to start becoming a friend of your ownself and then you will be able to have great long lasting friendships. Speaking from a place of experience.
Do you want to know how?then plz reply, let me know I will tell you how.
BE YOURSELF... Completely unapologetically. Stick to your guns with who you are (comfortable about it or not)... Understand that not everyone is going to even want to be friends with you. They're not your friend just because they act reasonable or civilized or even sociable towards you. AND if someone doesn't particularly like you or they even dislike you for who you are, to hell with them! Simple...
I'm crude, rude, obscene, abrasive, profane (at least from time to time) and rarely (if ever) take anything seriously. I'll laugh at anything I find funny... period. I'm a die-hard comic at heart. I've been through a few mills, too. BUT I don't candy-coat anything, and I was never any good at lying... SO don't ask me something unless you REALLY want the answer. I'm going to call it as I see it...
Lots of people REALLY hate that. They hate that I won't back off and sugar-up what they don't want to hear. They hate that I won't always agree with them and comfort them about being against the world... HEY! When you do something wrong or make a mess, you're supposed to clean it up... I don't demand much. I do require that.
I can listen and give comfort (where due). I can back you up and help out, and I'm not afraid of hard work, filth, or danger. I have my limits, and I'm only one guy. BUT I'm not about to apologize for the person I've grown to become. I'm not sorry. If you don't like me, there's a WHOLE BIG WORLD out there full to over-flowing with people. Go bother some of them! There's no reason to keep crossing my path and making me miserable...
You don't need a whole load of "self esteem" for this, either. You just need to respect the fact that you are JUST AS VALID a human being as I am. You need to take some care of your own interests, too... AND that means finding friends who can be supportive and allow your boundaries, and to weed out grubby pieces of sh*t who won't.
F*** 'em... ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 PREACH
@@satanswife2546 how did u cut them off and if you have now found new friends, how did you find them?
Every time I try to talk to my friend about how I feel it’s either ‘same’ or ‘oh’. They also make fun of things I feel bad about. I’m not sure if they mean well or if they realize they’re hurting me
They don't mean well cut them off
Choose your friends wisely! I've had some take advantage of my good nature and use it against me. Unless you set boundaries with them, you will begin to build resentment.
Human relationships are tough because humans are complex, flawed creatures. 😔
Some friendships don’t necessarily go as far in toxicity in this, but sometimes you may still end up in a relationship that can carry a little bit of these traits occasionally. Depending on how far it goes, it’s up to you what to do.
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When your friend says he's not imposter but he breaks your neck 3 minutes later
Wow your horrible at jokes but ok
@@Peguinneverdie I ll be a cheese burger
@@bigfckingbug10k45 Wow me too
This brought up some memories and thoughts I’ve kept in the back of mind for the last year or so about someone I don’t really talk to anymore.
With every video I watch I just love this channel more 🥺
I'm not watching this video to see if my friends are making me depressed, I'm watching it to see if I'm making them depressed
I had a friend who I helped when she was depressed, a time later I was dealing hard problems and she didn't care. Even when she did somenthing terrible to me wich makes me even worst, she was like "it's nothing, it will pass" I haven't speak with her in months and I won't do it anymore
Same goes with me pal!😕
▶ Timestamps ◀
0:45 - You can't concentrate around them
1:16 - You feel anxious around them
1:40 - You feel lonely when you're around them
2:06 - They worsen your emotional turmoil
2:37 - They tear down your self esteem
2:57 - You don't look foward to hanging with them
3:26 - You start to avoid them
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Honestly, I have an entire friend group and I feel all the signs. One of them in particular likes to bash a lot of what I like and others in the group. I just always brushed it off as being a joke but sometimes it gets to the point it hurts me and my self esteem. Which I’ve always had a problem with since I was younger. As well as how controlling and manipulating the friend is, he even owns an entire group based on raiding, or as I would like to call it, harassing people who just want to play a game. He manipulates the group members into thinking that it’s okay to cyber bully people and make them feel bad for how they dress and etc.
Before I was even apart of the friend group I used to be a normal member and worship him (the friend) and participate in all the raids. He always talked about how they raided to get rid of online daters. And I believed that, every word of it. When I heard I could apply to be a developer I immediately went into studio and worked on an application (game showcase) so I could be hired. It took a while but I got hired, but I wasn’t an official developer at first.
One day I encountered one of the admins who was a close friend to him and I managed to get into a group chat (Discord) he interacted with his friends a lot. I got to know him better and become friends until all the drama started. After I joined, I was immediately harassed by two of his friends, and to this day are not his friends anymore (At least one of them I can confirm). They called me slurs and other things I don’t want to remember but eventually we sort of got along.
About a while later, some more drama popped up again but they were “reasonable”. Some of the friends began acting toxic and rude, but some of them I began to agree with. Especially with one female friend about how he (the friend I’ve talked about owning the group and etc), was toxic and that they needed to leave for their mental health, and hoping all his friends would understand later on about how manipulative and controlling he is. In response he attempted getting all his friends to unfriend them and cut all contact. All of his friends and I readily agreed since the female friend said some nasty stuff.
I lost some pretty good friends along the way and it made me question why I’m still friends with him. I’ve been threatened to lose my job as a developer and I always complied as to not lose it. But why haven’t I left? Well, it’s because they’re all good friends of mine, even if some of them say hurtful stuff. And I feel if I’m not friends with him anymore then I’ll get attacked too and lose all my friends. I’ve ghosted them for a month before and my health was slightly better, I managed to get a good’s night sleep for once, be able to focus on my homework a bit more, and get a small weight off my shoulders from the stress.
I’m still debating wether or not to stop being friends with him or not. And if someone actually read all of this, then thank you. Talking about things that have hurt me or are hurting me just help me sleep a little better.
(Also about the words “Studio”, “Developer”, “Group”. They’re referring to some features in Roblox.)
I was talking about a show I like in the bus lanes with my friends, they started making fun of me. I broke down crying and told them that I didn’t have the energy to get made fun of, they proceeded to get a bit pissy walk away together and do the war to eat silent convo while getting away from me. I had to walk the rest of the way hope tired and sore(limping cause cramps and pulled tendon), got home, threw up and cried for the rest of the night. Haven’t seen em in two days. They left me crying in a bus lane and nobody checked in. That’s when I knew I had no support system with worsening anxiety and depression. This is fine
Finally realizing that this has been a long time coming. All the roommates are like this and they treat me like the laughing stock of the house. Even one on one none of them talk to me about anything they just ignore me or make fun of me for existing. They treat me with way less respect than I see them give each other and I recognize some of it is projecting their insecurities but they pick on me because I dare to stand out. Two of them used to be people I considered my “best friends” but I feel like they just want me around so they can step on me and use me as an emotional punching bag when they hate themselves. I’m moving because I honestly can’t take it anymore. Everything in my life has fallen off track and i think it’s because of my steadily declining mental health. I’m so done with the these people.
I love these videos, however I feel that they are geared more towards young people, like ages 10 or 11 through young adult. I wish I'd had this info available when I was in this age range, but, what can be recommended for people in their 30s, 40s and up?
*Edit for clarification * I'm in a unique spot because I'm married, in my late 30s, work night shift and am childfree. So keeping friends can be challenging. My spouse is also not very social. Plus, Covid! Heck, Psych2Go could write a book about that alone! I hope everyone who sees me comment is well, healthy and loved.
I agree with you about the videos being geared toward young ones and more focused on relationships than friendship! If I can't keep a friendship going how am I supposed to have a relationship and eventually A Husband
@@wildflowers2580 the only reliably good thing in my life right now is my singular loyal friend and my boyfriend. i never thought someone would be interested in me, but i guess it was possible. that said, losing so many friends has made me super clingy to the one who did stick around and my bf, and that makes me self conscious :/ i have hope that both will last, but i'm so damn paranoid that i constantly worry about both leaving me
@@dibade1961I'm so Happy you Have a bf and friend in your life!! 🙂I can understand being paranoid about loosing both your Bf and friend!! I've lost 4 Friends! 4 close friends or who I thought were my friends all who were married! I always felt left out because of not being married! I'm done with friends! I'm done being Hurt and treated like last nights trash!! And!!! I'm not there for any of them any longer! They can take out their own trash!
Yes. I love these videos for their simplicity but I imagine there are many people who are definitely “older“ who can benefit from the topics as well and maybe you can go into a bit more depth. For what it’s worth I’m getting close to 60!
@@katiedid9601 I'm 50
I had to cut off a friend back in July because she was extreamly mentally draining and i felt sm better when she wasn't around. She always brought around this negative draining energy and she's done a few things that messed me up physiology. While i do feel bad sometimes i knew it was for the better.
I went through a similar thing...
good job following through with it. i'm in the process of trying to and it's so difficult, especially as i only have a couple irl friends
@@dibade1961 I'm the same way, after i cut her off i literally had no one and no one ever texts me. It sucks but i learned to get used it it. And trust me, ik it's hard but you have to put your wellbeing first, it took me a while but i did it.
@Sandy G ʚïɞ i understand, I've been through more than one truamatic friendship myself. And if you can, block them on everything or make a new social media and keep it secret. They sound like an awful person 😕
Literally went through the same thing . You can really feel their negative energy especially when you haven’t been around them for awhile , and then you come back around it’s HEAVY!
Several folks in my church (including my pastor) pulled this stunt, especially when I was in need due to inability to find a job thru lack of transportation.
They had the nerve to be surprised when I left them...for the second and LAST time.
They did that in church smh
how much is this sad that some people can be so mean to friends for stupid reasons....
My *inability* to make friends is making me depressed.
Yeah 💔🥺
Oi? Vcs podem me responde?
I thought making friends would make my life better, but it actually did the opposite.
I needed this, my friends just came out to hating me only for simply being myself. It hurts
@Qee Dimmy oh felt that. ✋
Two videos in one day! Did you see the other one? th-cam.com/video/mfw3d7Mu8Lk/w-d-xo.html
Yesss
Can you make a video about
How i tell my i crush i love him or her
Y e S s S
Yes! I do enjoy double video days tbh
Sometime You did 4 videos in one day, i cant imagine how hard you guys work and all the viewers surely apreciate it!
Just _h o w_
I have this friend who constantly lovebombs, so whenever we see each other it’s a compliment shower, but then a bit later the shower only comes from me and she ignores everything I say. I’ll talk directly to her, but it’s like I’m talking at and through her, or like I’m not actually speaking. It can be just us two alone in a silent room and whatever I say will still be missed.
I’m a very tactile person with my friends, and most of them accept it, the same ones who let her be tactile with them. But whenever I try to be tactile with her, I get pushed, which I completely understand and respect and abide by. But when other friends are tactile with her, she gushes over them and hugs, holds, and clings back, and when they’re tactile with me, she pushes me away or tries to draw their attention away from me.
She tells me to shut up a lot, playfully, which I don’t mind at all. But when I told her to be quiet when she offered advice we had already solidified wouldn’t work while I was talking to another friend and that friend ONLY, specifically, speaking quietly so nobody would hear, she got mad at me and gave me the silent treatment for about four days.
Once I accidentally scratched her while trying to stop her from yelling out something embarrassing about me to everyone, and i was unaware that i hurt her. She acted fine with me for the whole day but showed up the next day pissed off at me and giving me the silent treatment again. To clarify, i didn’t know i even scratched her, because the cut didnt show up until later and she told another friend in front of me that she was roughhousing with her brother and got it from there. We worked it out (as in, i sent a screen and a half of apologetic speech and she sent an ‘ok’) only for her to bring it up again recently after weeks of treating me like she used to. We’ve never fought other than this and I learned from a mutual friend that she now wants to ditch me for being unaccountable.
Ty for helping me find myself and be able to the best version of me ❤️
I'm sitting with my friends rn and I feel like a ghost right now. They dont even ask me whats wrong or anything, they don't care. They never did.
These videos always appear with perfect timing for me, as 2 of my 'best friends' support is questionable to me, as one of them bullys me more, the other just follows her, even worse, they're the only friends I have.
I feel you, that’s happening to me rn.
I hate being alone without friends but after I cut almost all contact with my friends and just stay home alone I stopped being depressed...
The voiceover is too quiet i had go full volume to hear what she's saying 😭😭😭
it is kind of soothing though. it feels like she cares about us XD
Normally it isn't like that, too! 😯
Same lol
eh, same, i thought my volume was muted.
1,3,4,6 and 7 does hit me alot these days. thanks for this video it just makes me realize that i prefer my peace of mind over or alone time over wasting my time with people.
So basically my friends make me more depressed then I already am?
nice.
Actions speak louder than words. We can apologize over and over, but if our actions don't change, the words become meaningless.
-The Shades
This literally happened to me before smh
Where the Good Friends At?????
Recently i felt this with my best friend, i have been depressed for several years and talking to them makes me feel so empty. The only responses i get when i talk about somtheing i like are "Ah cool", "Mm i dont know" and that is basically it. And the commnets they make when we are on a bigger group make me feel ashamed of myself. They make jokes of my ed or my anxiety. I sit with them in school but lately we dont even speak to each other. I have to tell them how i feel but its difficult. I dont know what to do...
"Yeah I uh...gotta feed my cat bye"
I am so messed up, the friends I have have really messed me up. I am shocked to realise that every single thing that was mentioned in this video applies to my friends. Im so fucked mentally but I cant bring myself to get help. People are so horrible sometimes. Im so alone. In gonna fail all my GCSEs im so screwed man
When you're so early that people on the comment section haven't listed out the points in the video yet
all these things are so true, i feel like i’ve given so much to my friends and they never give back. and the emotional turmoil part really stung, so many times when i’ve had a problem they just give me their sob story in return, flipping the switch and making them into the victim when in reality i was the one heading to them for support, to ask their opinion on hard times. really great video tho
So is it not reciprocated?
Usually if me and my mates are talking about hard times we share each others issues so we both can let it out and solve issues.
Do your friends disregard yours or do they help out and then tell you about theirs?
So I currently have these two friends that I hang out with a lot cause they live close to me. And when I met them they were sooo nice and fun. And I thought I found my bffs for life. We met about 2-3 years ago. We talk almost everyday. Their rudeness and insults started about 1-2 years ago (because I met them a year apart from each other) and they make me feel bad about my self, they mock me, they make me feel alone and so on. When it’s just one of them with me their all nice to me and stuff but the second the other one comes I’m just a mere background character. And I really don’t want to hang out with them anymore but since I’m always hanging out with them I never had time to make other friends. And our parents are friends. I’m slowly trying to let go of them because I don’t see a point in trying to fix the friendship. They have seen me sad many times but they just laugh it off and do something else and leave me.
Leave them(easier said than done of course) I dont know what that tendency in people is, but when around others or in a group, then they get mean, cold-hearted, and decide to put one down in front of others. So crazy.
@@graceabounds9423 Im still friends with both of them but im better friends with one. Shes no longer rude but she still has those rudeish tendencies. Im feel happy now but thank you for going out of your way to help me out.
@@dayliqtt8903 As long as it's getting better that's great. Sorry if my "leave them" sounded rude n blunt, I was angry at the moment from a rude friend lol. But communication is best, so don't ever be afraid to tell them some thing you don't like. God bless!
@@graceabounds9423 Dont worry your "leave them" wasnt rude in any way. And of something like this ever happens again i will be sure to stand up to them. Thannk you so much!
@@graceabounds9423 my friend acts so kind sometimes when we are alone but as soon as we are in a group with people he just makes fun of me and then when i say smth about it he says stop being so sensitive
I just parted ways with someone I had thought was a good friend and possibly could lead to something more. I found he was draining my energy and when he became extremely angry at me because of something someone else did that is when I knew it would not work! Thankfully I am going to sing karaoke tonight and re-connect with friends I have not seen in awhile...🙏❤️🙏
It is better to be alone than to be accompanied poorly.
ive been experienced this for three years straight. literally avoided the others but another one came then it's repeating. i feel awful about myself because of them. i turned them down for a couple of times whenever they asked me to hangout. at this point i believe friends arent that great
Me watching, even though I don’t have any friends: 👁👄👁
I'll be your friend :-)
Thank you so much for using such a soothing voice cause my head hurts
Things that resonate with me: 1 you feel lonely around them 2. They worsen your emotional turmoil leading to you shutting down. I really feel like I can't talk to my friends about anything and like they wouldn't even care if I tried to and that really sad. Sometimes I also feel like we're friends because of convenience or like it's not a deep friendship. I have no one to talk to or lean on and it makes me fucking depressed when I think about it. I lost one of my best friends (break up) earlier this year and now I have friends who can't emotionally support me. Ik it's not their job but who tf am I supposed to express myself to? This is so hard😔 and she also left me because I was telling her TOO MUCH of my emotional stuff so I just can't tell anyone shit and it doesn't matter how I feel to anyone. That's how it feels, if I express it then imma trigger someone; if I keep it in then I'm gonna explode.🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️ please someone let me know If I'm crazy
ah, you see, i have friends that i dearly love and they’re amazing people, it’s just that they never text first. i’m not the best at conversations so i just say my good morning’s to them and then a conversation never starts..
*when this applies to your family*
My friends are the only people who support me ;-;
Welp guess they’re my new family
*they're
Thanks Brett Warren
yusssss. get them good people around you
i have this one friend and she makes me feel so lonely and not wanted. she never thinks about me she just wants every second to be about her and she wants someone she can vent on. i sometimes think that i don't have any real friends that want to understand me and actually try to understand what i'm talking about i keep hoping one day that i'll come to her when i'm sad and she will understand and she never does. it makes me feel so alone but she's the only one i have and i cant deal with it anymore.
Jesus loves you very much and He died on the cross for your sins!❤️
I still have to put up with my school " friends"
1. Yes.
2. Of course
3. Yeah...
4. I don't show my emotions to them
5. Yes. They do.
6. I never look forward to hanging out with fake friends.
7. Yes.
I have good friends. You know what their names are.
Thats how i feel in School.
Ignored.
Annoyed.
Unhappy.
Feeling left out.
Sad.
Me too classmate jokes are so annoying...
I had a friend that would always make me feel bad even when she doesn’t know she does she gets angry quickly and judged many people for their looks
One time i made a picture with my other friends she doesn’t know then she said mean things about their looks when I didn’t answer she seems annoyed every time she wants to hang out i always make excuses.
Holy shit, you just enlightened me. Now I will leave my friends because they make me feel bad I just realised that. Although I have no other friends then…
You can’t be depressed if you don’t have friends.
Wait-
Can i be your friend :D
lmao same
Sometimes I feel like I'm the one making my friends depressed, they would probably hang out with other people anyways. I really want to change.
Next vid:
*7 reasons the world is making you depressed*
Honestly sad truth
I can say single-handedly for me it is our president and what he says about and how he treats people
Hmm…
Edit: wait, Lemme try to come up with 7
1. Materialism
2. Poor Governance
3. Media
4. Expectations
5. Selfishness
6. Negative Environment
7. Injustice
@@Andreas_Vesalius couldn't agree more :(
This channel really has posts at time that applies so perfectly to your situation I kid you not
This video makes me love my best friend of 2 years even more because she doesn't make me feel like this at all I apologize to anyone who has a so called friend who makes them feel this way but I am lucky to have my best friend in my life she makes me feel easy and calm she makes me feel safe and warm she makes me feel amazing even when I talk to her I can't help but get in a good mood sometimes I smile like an idiot I can have the worst day in the world I talked to her and everything changes in the whole day gets better she's my pick me up when the world knocks me down 2k18 to forever
I love you Ellie ♥️
I stayed "friends" with friends-of-friends out of the situation (high school) and then just out of trying to be an adult. They made me miserable, they treated me unfairly, it was awful, and some of it was out of their own trauma, but now I'm affected by them and other things in my personal life. It's just hard and I wish I had walked away sooner and it's sad that when some people hurt me the others in our group sided more with them or were way more ready to let the people that hurt me back in. They wanted to hang out with them.
I was friends with a guy since pre school we were hanging out and everything was fine untill he was mocking me and telling me i was doing mistakes. He was making fun of me puting his self above me. I was feeling so down and depressed. I had a fight with him on purpose so i could get away. Now that i see him with no friends i have a feeling of relief. I was struggling with him and finally he was gone
This vid rlly helped me a lot. Now I’ve made new friends who are supportive and caring.
But I'm avoiding ALL my friends lately....
Same
It took me years to realize my whole society was toxic and depressing me. I couldn't realize it because EVERYONE was like that. Funny thing I was the positve one and they would always drag me down. I left the country. Now Im so much more happy.
Me too I can't wait to leave this country.
It’s my birthday today and my best friends forgot they forgot last year too a little disappointing but they’re still nice and I love them
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday. Maybe birthday is not important for them? Maybe they are like me. I care about other people's birthday only because I know i should and they would be hurt otherwise. Without them i wouldn't even notice my own birthday.
1:43
This is nearly a snapshot of every time we all meet up. I have my best friend, and her sister is my friend as well. Both have boyfriends, so I end up being the fifth wheel and even when I'm around them, I don't feel happy to be around them. My best friend had gotten in another friend group and hasn't really talked with me much, we have nothing really in common anymore. I'm nearly ready to give up, but the problem is her sister is being a better friend than my best friend. They actually check in and hang out when I'm with them, so any group gathering, my best friend would be there too and it would just be awkward. It sucks when your first best friend seemingly moves on without you...
Thanks Psych2go. "Fake friends are like shadows: they follow you in the sun but leave you in the dark.” “Bad friends will prevent you from having good friends.” “It is better to be alone than in bad company.” ❤️🙏selfhelpchampion
i love your voice so much, i find it very relaxing. one of the cutest voices i've heard lately
I always get left out of the trio
It's true that good support system lessen your problems . People who have it are actually blessed .
I feel the same when I am with my parents
Yea i can be like that with parents hey?
My friends have been excluding me a lot lately. I've lost lots of friends over time due to me not agreeing with some of the things they do, and I'm down to one group now. They make hurtful jokes to me and say stuff like "You're not actually my friend," and I'm not an extremely emotional person, so sometimes I act like it doesn't hurt even though it does. What hurts worse is the fact that I've been friends with them for years now, and they have more respect for the newer friends than me. I don't have the courage to tell them, but it isn't funny. It's plain mean and negatively affecting me. They also tell me to stop following them at recess, even though they're my friends. I'm feeling really distanced from them.
Anyway, if you read this thanks!
I have the exact same problem as you do. I'm very close with them but at the same time i'm not, and I don't want to confront them because then I will have no one to hang with or anything.
Plz don't feel too down you will find new and better friends eventually.
@@Dozr199 Thank you :)
@McChiggen no problem 😊
I know my friends aren't making me depressed;
because I don't have friends 😂😂
its funny
but also so true!
I don’t know whether or not I should let a friend go. Everyday I used to sit at lunch with her but lately she’s been bringing me down and kicking me out of the table to let some people she never even talked to sit there. And my best friend seems to be hanging out with her a lot and is not doing anything about the situation. I feel like we’re heading in 2 separate directions. My life sucks rn.
My whole friend group shipped me with someone even though I constantly told them to stop to the point where I had a multiple month long existential crisis of not know who I was and thinking I was lying to everyone including myself and basically wanted to die some times until I found out I was asexual
The guy they shipped me with became my friend and he was fully aware of my friends shipping us and since we both hated being shipped we wouldn’t hang out with them much
And I’m still friends with the people who shipped us even though I wanted to die because of them
This all happened when I was 10
My “friend” in this case is my elderly mother. Everything described here describes our “relationship.” Please create more of your excellent videos and address adults dealing with toxic parents! Thank you.
How are people commenting from a month ago!?
Yeah... no kidding!
The video was unlisted, I already saw it back then :p
wondering the same thing
That freaked me out when I saw it lmaoooo
Sometimes TH-cam loses its mind trying to remember billions and billions of comments.😂
Most of my friends forget about me when people they like more than me are present. Lets say we are talking and someone they like more than me enters the conversation. They will completely forget I exist. In a group I can do random things because they wont care. Even If I kill myself infront of them. They wouldnt do anything