Another fun fact: Gaslighting isn’t just psychological - it can also involve physical actions. For instance, someone might rearrange furniture or objects around the house and then deny it ever happened, with the intent to make you question your memory and perception of reality. This tactic is designed to destabilize your sense of trust in yourself and your sanity.
🎯🎯🎯. Gaslighting was based on a play named Gaslight where the husband manipulated the environment including the gaslight to physiologically torture his wife. However it is still overused because it is typically applied to highly abusive relationships. Most of the time folks just be lying.
Yes! If anybody is familiar with Reddit stories, there is one where this man was purposely hiding his wife’s things, acting like he has no idea what she’s talking about, and then putting the missing item back in place to make her confused. It was crazy. What made it worse is that his excuse was she looked cute when she was confused. Just wild….
Even my husband hates Scotty 🤣 I like that Zaina calmly told him about himself and didn’t back down when he tried to gaslight her. He is so used to breaking Aria down to tears but Zaina wasn’t the one or the two.
@ yeah I guess arias comments are blowing up like crazy because she also addressed Scotty’s behavior basically told everyone “thank you for your concern but he doesn’t and never has put hands on me” then she turned her comments off
Right and he’s so insecure he makes her constantly feel like she isn’t doing enough which is why she’s so frustrated she’s not realising it’ll never be enough because he sooo insecure
yes, yes, yes to the leaving immediately if someone looks at you like Scotty was glaring at Zaina. When he demanded an yes or no answer to his question about WHAT HE HAD SAID, we were into abuse territory
I'm getting real tired of the pattern of black women being treated like sh*t in these franchises, across TU, LIB etc..the odds are always against us on those shows
It's all about the behavior that you are taught to tolerate, and most men are entitled shits at best. Racism and misogyny are both issues that are so bad that I choose not to date all. Everyone wants to see themselves as better than someone else without doing any actual work to make it so.
I am glad the signs of abuse is being known. From a abusive childhood, my mother, who was a victim of abuse, taught me the warning signs of abuse. The way toilet tissue looked at Zaina was NOT okay, and it was VERY dangerous... That look alone would have made me end the relationship and conversation Abuse doesn't start solely physically. It starts mentally, emotionally or psychologically
I mean, in my opinion, her brother's comment made sense.If you're the child, they're all aware that their father was a bad man.A good brother wouldn't want his sister to be with a horrible partner. Just like their father
I said it once I'll say it agaiiiiin. Scotty hates women. He doesn't love them, like them, even wanna be near them. He needs a big strong man like JR in his life 😅😅😅 cuz he seems to be obsessed to me. Zainas east coast side came out lol. We do not play with entitlement man babies. Anyways... I can't stand how nick and most of the men DONT see Mariah. She is going through the same thing as nick, yet of course, nick is getting the pity party. It's like flashbacks when I was in the military, males got promotions and awards for doing the same thing I was doing. Like hello?? Sandy needs to leave nick alone. She is playing victim yet keeping the leash on nick tight. Caleb ... I love him. Lol
Sandy’s playing herself if she thinks that nobody is clocking her trifling lil’ games. Did anyone else notice how she leans her big forehead in & strokes her hair whenever JR’s around? This girls just so scantless.
@@DMMcCannI also HATE the way she is always poking out her lips. Did you notice that? It's like she's consistently ready to put something in the mouth *wink wink*
Agreed. Scotty and Zainas scene was super cringe. I was worried he might physically cause her harm however I knew he wouldn't if filmed hopefully. I immediately thought of Aria and envisioned similar scenarios. He seems physically and mentally abusive and CONTROLLING. There no way he hasn't acted that way with Aria. I can see why she live in Bay Area and him in LA. That's a 8 hour drive. And what does he do for a living?
My exhusband was alot like Scottie. Any woman around him should run. I feel like eventually he has the potential to become physically abusive as well. Guys like him are scary to be in a relationship with. Run ladies!
The way Scotty acting up about this phone you would’ve sworn he was find my phone😂😂😂 cause he knows the location of her phone better than she do apparently and what she’s doing on it
The way Scotty was staring at Zaina scared the shit out of me. She asked him 3 questions and he just stared daggers. I would've packed my bags so quick.
@ I respect your platform and i have deep admiration for your hardwork in editing & putting out a great product. Please do not put me in your doghouse. I’m a genuine fan and hope for nothing but success for you and yours… my biggest apologies
Scotty is toxic as hell. He speaks very direct and tries to sound smart but he is a serial gaslighter but luckily his trial wife is too emotionally intelligent for him and won’t let him play in her face like his ex
I could not wait to hear this review. I listen in the mornings getting ready for work. Woke up like 😮😮😮 no Tammy yet. Ok. But I’m here for it. This episode was crazy.
Even though Zaina really could have gotten hurt I understand why she stayed and tried to talk it out with him, we never expect the worst case scenario. In her relationship with JR and whoever before him she clearly learned to stand her ground and stay focused on that resolution which I was really impressed by! He’s used to Aria breaking down in those moments where he can continue to manipulate the situation
JR is so full of himself , giving me DL vibes with the constant change of earrings. He doesn't like any of the 3 women ( Aria, Sandy and Zaina, he just want to experience them .
JR praising Sandy made me uncomfortable.. he never talked about Zaina liked that.. he def was only there to act & promote his muscles.. because he was supposedly there for Zaina…. I hate him…
Scotty likes to believe that not using direct phrases means he's not saying it. He forgets, or chooses to live in alternate reality, that using a certain tone or indirect questioning/observations is also a way of saying something. Communication is more than the exact words used, there are implications. Edit to add: I think there was a level of comfortability or trust on Zaina's part because they've been smooth sailing until then. I think it would be easy to think it's a one off. And I think this situation really captures how that toxic/abusive dynamic progresses.
9:37 maybe the word you were looking for was antagonize? The look in Scotty’s eyes really scared me, I agree with everything you said It’s making me think Netflix is really going to have a serious issue one of these days with these shows…
Who doesn’t take the phone with them these days?! Just for the sake of keeping the lights off, I take my phone with me around the house at night. The fuck is his deal!?!
Yes Tammy! I feel like the word you might’ve been thinking of for the whole Zaina and Scotty situation was (antagonizing). With or without the antagonizing, I can’t with Scotty at all, I need both Zaina and Aria to run.
gaslighting is used a lot when people talk about these shows. gaslighting isn’t just disagreeing with someone or having a different opinion. it’s used incorrectly for the most part. you need to know some in order to gaslight them. it’s slow and insidious so that the abused person can barely tell it’s happening, which is the intent. this is as close to text book gaslighting as we have seen in these shows. it’s not so effective because Zania has not been groomed enough to swallow this like Aria has been. he is so used to controlling people like this he doesn’t realize this won’t work on Zania.
Scotty's look?? One of the reasons we'd take our chances with the Bear 🐻... I told you all Scotty is giving crazy eyes!! But this look?... Oh shit! He's a scary tiny little man!!! 😮
I wonder if Aria actually felt Scotty would be okay with her being friends with Caleb . I know he would’ve started a fight immediately if she brought that up to him
The way Scotty looked at Zaina was like he hated her, like I was scared for her. He gives unpredictable and I would feel uneasy around him.
He gives me controlling psychopath.
It was a criminal offense
The look on his face disturbed me!!! It's giving DATELINE
I was so uncomfortable in that scene
Another fun fact: Gaslighting isn’t just psychological - it can also involve physical actions. For instance, someone might rearrange furniture or objects around the house and then deny it ever happened, with the intent to make you question your memory and perception of reality. This tactic is designed to destabilize your sense of trust in yourself and your sanity.
Woooow that’s crazy 😳
Learn something new everyday!
🎯🎯🎯. Gaslighting was based on a play named Gaslight where the husband manipulated the environment including the gaslight to physiologically torture his wife. However it is still overused because it is typically applied to highly abusive relationships. Most of the time folks just be lying.
Yes! If anybody is familiar with Reddit stories, there is one where this man was purposely hiding his wife’s things, acting like he has no idea what she’s talking about, and then putting the missing item back in place to make her confused. It was crazy. What made it worse is that his excuse was she looked cute when she was confused. Just wild….
Are they aware that they're doing it ?
Even my husband hates Scotty 🤣 I like that Zaina calmly told him about himself and didn’t back down when he tried to gaslight her. He is so used to breaking Aria down to tears but Zaina wasn’t the one or the two.
I think Zaina stayed because she knew producers were there and felt a sense of ‘safety’
I thought the same,
@ yeah I guess arias comments are blowing up like crazy because she also addressed Scotty’s behavior basically told everyone “thank you for your concern but he doesn’t and never has put hands on me” then she turned her comments off
I fast forward through each scene Scotty speaks because I want to protect my mind, body, and soul.
When I say he irritates me!
😂😂😂 scotty bringing up taking her phone to the bathroom was so random i was like what in the hell is going on here??? where did this come from??
Sandy is also gaslighting Nick too
Absolutely!!
Yep she was clearly texting him too then crazy-making him when he brought it up
Scotty is too insecure, which is why he’s pressuring Aria to marry him.. I want everyone to go home alone…
Right and he’s so insecure he makes her constantly feel like she isn’t doing enough which is why she’s so frustrated she’s not realising it’ll never be enough because he sooo insecure
Everyone!!
Scotty is unhinged! I hope no one chooses him. He needs to go see a therapist and get help!
Dang Tammy, you can't have us waiting like that. 😂 The other recaps were appetizers, you give main course energy.😂😂
Ayyyeee you know I got you! 😂
The GasLighting on this show is TOP TIER
Listen!
She asked him if he was intimidated because Scotty said "I don't care how many weights he lifts"
I really hope Scotty watches this back and is embarrassed by his behavior…if he has any ounce of shame in his body
These people show up to the reunion and it's clear they learned nothing, think they did nothing wrong, and have no accountability.
@ I’m still optimistic but I agree they get to the reunion and that still playing the victim
He’s giving narcissistic so idk I doubt him and his type a personality will come up on that revelation without Jesus and or therapy
He’ll blame the edit like we didn’t hear what we heard or see what we saw
@@jazzy_RAOTyep, he did just that on his interview with Viall Files last week
going over the GASLIGHT definition twice is diabolical 🤣🤣🤣
3X!!! ACTUALLY LOLOLLLL
It was necessary! Get ‘em Tammy!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
yes, yes, yes to the leaving immediately if someone looks at you like Scotty was glaring at Zaina. When he demanded an yes or no answer to his question about WHAT HE HAD SAID, we were into abuse territory
“JR, open them big ass ears and listen to what she is saying” 😩😂✌🏾
😂😂
Clicked so fast on this video!! Been waiting for you to get Scottie together🤣
same!!! tammy gonna clock it every time!!
That look works on Aria. And he was mad it wasn't working on zaina lol
@@jessicanoelle2012jpThis! I said this under some comments last night. He was trying to intimidate her and that ish wasn’t working.
All the waaaayyyy
I'm getting real tired of the pattern of black women being treated like sh*t in these franchises, across TU, LIB etc..the odds are always against us on those shows
It's all about the behavior that you are taught to tolerate, and most men are entitled shits at best. Racism and misogyny are both issues that are so bad that I choose not to date all. Everyone wants to see themselves as better than someone else without doing any actual work to make it so.
How??
I disagree
Yeah, can you explain how please?
@@iadesigns love Island had to be the worst but I agree it's like Black women are set up to fail from Jump on these shows.
ima need the word of the day with tammy talks to be in every video!! clocked that!! knowledge is power!
We have to educate the people!
Especially over there on MAFS with Itchy and nem
Scottie was looking at her with the thousand yard stare of a serial killer
I am glad the signs of abuse is being known. From a abusive childhood, my mother, who was a victim of abuse, taught me the warning signs of abuse. The way toilet tissue looked at Zaina was NOT okay, and it was VERY dangerous... That look alone would have made me end the relationship and conversation
Abuse doesn't start solely physically. It starts mentally, emotionally or psychologically
the way he was looking at her was evil, I have no other way to describe that look. that was scary as fuck
Zeina is comfortable because the camera crew are present. He won't hurt her. There's no blame to place on Zeina. Scotty is a complete nut job
Love this red Tammy!!❤ also the new edits and word of the day! Chefs kiss
Thank you!!!
If the producers weren’t there Scotty would’ve been sitting in the dark waiting for Zaina to walk in.
Sitting like a cartoon villain 😂
I mean, in my opinion, her brother's comment made sense.If you're the child, they're all aware that their father was a bad man.A good brother wouldn't want his sister to be with a horrible partner.
Just like their father
I love that narcissist Scotty was exposed.
Tammmmmyyyyy!!! 🤣 thanks for getting JR and Scottie together!! I’m gonna throw Nick in there too “the unhinged BOYZ”😄
Nick gives, I will have Sandy’s mama on the news crying and looking for her! I wouldn’t deal with none of them.
You know I got you!! 😂
Caleb is the only one that I can see being married. The others have work to do.
Period, Tammy! Leave these weirdos IMMEDIATELY! No need to stick around to calm him down or get the last word. Let him be mad by himself! Tf!
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Nick 100% got that tattoo on purpose. Cause ain't NO way
That whole thing was so bizarre
Scotty is mad because he thought he was gone bag J.R’s girl. But his weird ass behavior got in the way of the facade he was putting on
I said it once I'll say it agaiiiiin. Scotty hates women. He doesn't love them, like them, even wanna be near them. He needs a big strong man like JR in his life 😅😅😅 cuz he seems to be obsessed to me.
Zainas east coast side came out lol. We do not play with entitlement man babies.
Anyways... I can't stand how nick and most of the men DONT see Mariah. She is going through the same thing as nick, yet of course, nick is getting the pity party. It's like flashbacks when I was in the military, males got promotions and awards for doing the same thing I was doing. Like hello??
Sandy needs to leave nick alone. She is playing victim yet keeping the leash on nick tight.
Caleb ... I love him. Lol
I feel like you and a few others are the only ones noticing Sandy’s playing JR
I agree!!!
Sandy’s playing herself if she thinks that nobody is clocking her trifling lil’ games. Did anyone else notice how she leans her big forehead in & strokes her hair whenever JR’s around? This girls just so scantless.
@@DMMcCannI also HATE the way she is always poking out her lips. Did you notice that? It's like she's consistently ready to put something in the mouth *wink wink*
Not the word of the day 😂 - honestly I’m here for it
I’ve been waiting for someone to talk about Scotty ! Very scary unsettling behaviour
The way I've waited for this review! Zaina is better than me because that kind of calm I will NEVER have. Ever.
Same.
Facts
Agreed. Scotty and Zainas scene was super cringe. I was worried he might physically cause her harm however I knew he wouldn't if filmed hopefully. I immediately thought of Aria and envisioned similar scenarios. He seems physically and mentally abusive and CONTROLLING. There no way he hasn't acted that way with Aria. I can see why she live in Bay Area and him in LA. That's a 8 hour drive. And what does he do for a living?
The way I've been checking your channel for this review. Loved it. ❤️
I been said Scotty is a crazy mofo. Run Aria 🏃🚴
Not run and bike away 🤣🤣
Loving the toilet paper reference 🧻
I hate Scott’s toilet paper 😂. It was the worst during the pandemic when Scott’s was the only thing left in the store. 😂😂😂
My exhusband was alot like Scottie. Any woman around him should run. I feel like eventually he has the potential to become physically abusive as well. Guys like him are scary to be in a relationship with. Run ladies!
I think Mariah figured out that Nick is a time bomb and kept the conversation light regarding Sandy.
Thank you, Tammy, for this. I am hopeful that you saved at least one life by reviewing this.
The way Scotty acting up about this phone you would’ve sworn he was find my phone😂😂😂 cause he knows the location of her phone better than she do apparently and what she’s doing on it
The "Short bus Shorty" comment took me all the way out!! Thank you Tammy for always making me cackle with your recaps! 🤣🤗
I'm glad you enjoyed it! 😂
The way Scotty was staring at Zaina scared the shit out of me. She asked him 3 questions and he just stared daggers. I would've packed my bags so quick.
I was impatiently waiting for this review!! That ninja definitely crazy!
You were so right about Scotty's scary look & and intentional lack of response. Gave abuser vibes. He's just way too unstable.
When you said, “that ninja need water in his system!” I showed my mom I found my next wife!
You had me rewinding
Nah, you’ve been super disrespectful to me in my comments. I’m super good on you and thought I had you blocked anyways. 😒
@ ok your ideal man isn’t going to always think like you! Let’s make up❤️
@@blackangelz4evait has nothing to do with disagreeing on a topic
@ I respect your platform and i have deep admiration for your hardwork in editing & putting out a great product. Please do not put me in your doghouse. I’m a genuine fan and hope for nothing but success for you and yours… my biggest apologies
You calling him Scotland is sending me 😂😂
Scotty is toxic as hell. He speaks very direct and tries to sound smart but he is a serial gaslighter but luckily his trial wife is too emotionally intelligent for him and won’t let him play in her face like his ex
"your eyes are yellow!!l" LOL!!!
They are!
I died ☠️😂😂😂😂😂😂
I could not wait to hear this review. I listen in the mornings getting ready for work. Woke up like 😮😮😮 no Tammy yet. Ok. But I’m here for it. This episode was crazy.
Yesss I’m so glad you made it! 😂
Even though Zaina really could have gotten hurt I understand why she stayed and tried to talk it out with him, we never expect the worst case scenario. In her relationship with JR and whoever before him she clearly learned to stand her ground and stay focused on that resolution which I was really impressed by! He’s used to Aria breaking down in those moments where he can continue to manipulate the situation
Nick is a crash out
Scotty is gaslighter
Caleb walking on eggshells with Mariah
Jr is there to have a good time
Antagonizing…Zaina was antagonizing Scott-One-Ply-Toilet-Paper with the question of whether or not he felt intimidated by JR.
I think I enjoy watching your videos more than the episodes themselves! 😂😂😂 thank you for another great video
You are too kind! 🥰
My ex was a MASTER gaslighter and his name was Scott as well. Must be something to that name 😂
😮😮
I really wanna know WHOMST Scotty thought he was talking to. That mfer was trippin.
JR is so full of himself , giving me DL vibes with the constant change of earrings. He doesn't like any of the 3 women ( Aria, Sandy and Zaina, he just want to experience them .
so pretty in red!! love from london ❤️
Thank you!!!
JR praising Sandy made me uncomfortable.. he never talked about Zaina liked that.. he def was only there to act & promote his muscles.. because he was supposedly there for Zaina…. I hate him…
I can't stand his clown ass either. He seems so phony to me.
The way I was waiting for you to respond to scotTEA the second I saw him on tv acting a fool
Im late but Im here!
Totaly agree the look that scotty shows consistently towrds women when the mask drops is frightening
Sandy the QUEEN of effing around, she is going for the gold.
4:50 I'm glad you mentioned how he looked at her, that creeped me out.
The way I’ve been checking TH-cam everyday for this video 🤣🤣
Here I am!!! 🤗
Girl! You been on a roll this week 😂
Been waiting all day for this. Thanks you❤❤
She was antagonizing him asking if he was intimidated by JR. the obvious answer is yes lol
I been waiting for your report for 48hrs 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
When the new segment popped up w word of the day I SCREAMED!
😂😂😂
Scotty likes to believe that not using direct phrases means he's not saying it. He forgets, or chooses to live in alternate reality, that using a certain tone or indirect questioning/observations is also a way of saying something. Communication is more than the exact words used, there are implications.
Edit to add: I think there was a level of comfortability or trust on Zaina's part because they've been smooth sailing until then. I think it would be easy to think it's a one off. And I think this situation really captures how that toxic/abusive dynamic progresses.
The definition that keeps popping up is killing me 🤣💀
Even at guys nights when J.R asked Scotty that question , his aggressive “What?!” I’m like yeahhhh he has serious anger issues.
9:37 maybe the word you were looking for was antagonize?
The look in Scotty’s eyes really scared me, I agree with everything you said
It’s making me think Netflix is really going to have a serious issue one of these days with these shows…
Love the outfit Tammy💯looking good 🔥
Yo I was wondering why he had those shoes on cleaning the bathroom too😭it’s not clean if you in there with your outside shoes
Tammy! I was waiting for you at the door for this review!!!!
Ayyyeeeee, you know I got you!
Who doesn’t take the phone with them these days?! Just for the sake of keeping the lights off, I take my phone with me around the house at night. The fuck is his deal!?!
lol I love Scott toilet paper 😩😂
Same!
Yes Tammy! I feel like the word you might’ve been thinking of for the whole Zaina and Scotty situation was (antagonizing). With or without the antagonizing, I can’t with Scotty at all, I need both Zaina and Aria to run.
9:19 antagonizing?
To me, zaina was asking a valid question. But, I have a touch of toxicity, so don't mind me.😂
LMAO
She clocked it. 💯 She just said the quiet part out loud.
That suspense music took me out.🤣🤣🤣 dun dun duhhhh!
I swear I watched Scottys eyes go red when him and Zaina were talking. I was scared for Zainas safety. Aria better run!
Very entertaining video! Love it
I love you haha! You’re the best Tammy!
🤗🤗
Thank you for saying this. I thought I was *feeling* dramatic about Scotty Toilet Paper when I watched it…… but no. No. NO. I’m uncomfy.
❤ full of 💩… I’m laughing all the way through the end of this video. BRILLIANT! 😂
I had to do a double take when it came to Nick and that tattoo. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ Something is definitely off with him.
Scott is very Cheap and We Don't do that around here!!👁😮📺👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🕺🏽👍🏼🎄🐲💚🤣
Oh how I have waited for this!!!!
the ending was so funny! ❤💩
Girl you went off 😂
I’ve been waiting for you to upload since Wednesday 😂
Hope you enjoyed it!
gaslighting is used a lot when people talk about these shows. gaslighting isn’t just disagreeing with someone or having a different opinion. it’s used incorrectly for the most part.
you need to know some in order to gaslight them. it’s slow and insidious so that the abused person can barely tell it’s happening, which is the intent.
this is as close to text book gaslighting as we have seen in these shows. it’s not so effective because Zania has not been groomed enough to swallow this like Aria has been. he is so used to controlling people like this he doesn’t realize this won’t work on Zania.
Scotty's look?? One of the reasons we'd take our chances with the Bear 🐻... I told you all Scotty is giving crazy eyes!! But this look?... Oh shit! He's a scary tiny little man!!! 😮
With purty little curls😂
@greenmika 😂😂
Scotty gives me Gone Girl/49 hours vibes
Okayyyy Tammy I like the word of day!!!!
I wonder if Aria actually felt Scotty would be okay with her being friends with Caleb . I know he would’ve started a fight immediately if she brought that up to him