WHEN THE NARCISSIST REALIZES WHAT THEY HAD IN YOU
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Everything you said is spot on. Love you videos and God bless 🙏
Thank you..😌🙏💜
It's so nice to be able to sit quietly and read a good book, or just enjoy sitting and enjoying nature 😊
Daily I have gratitude for these SAME things you shared. 😌
Yes indeed … I used to have to hide in the bathroom to have a place to cry . Now …. I can cry anytime knowing there’s nothing to be ashamed of ❤
I have always loved reading but he complained I never put my book down to mind him
Yet I cooked cleaned raised his kids worked & did everything FOR my family .
So true you can't put a price on the peace
Learn to say no to them and yes to yourself.
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Of course you say no , you go no contact if possible and don’t have to say anything, just be happy your alone without that toxic person
In the middle of this education, I got the hoover with the words, "You were the love of my life." This was from over a decade and a half of no contact. I interpreted those words as saying ( within my mind ) was : "Looks like the others got tired of putting up with it." I'm free! And intend to stay that way.👍🙏
Remain strong and keep those no-contact boundaries. It is for your own protection. Namaste!
@@hollylewis5302 Thanks. It's interesting, after all those years and contacted by e-mail, I
could hear the voice, the style, the con, but everything was condensed. Rapid love bomb attempt to suggestions of I needed change. Hah! I was even more rapid in sizing up the situation, thanks to the past few months of an education, along with time apart.
Andrew minces no words. It was one of the most difficult things to overcome in my life.
Reply: I know. 😂😂😂
Same here🥰🥰❤❤
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Part of my therapy and healing, is watching your videos, and comments from other viewers. I can't imagine having to go through this without the support of people like you, and other fellow empathetic souls.
Thank you❤
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Amen!
I love this tribe!❤
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I agree, me too.
It is unbelievable how much they can extract and then wake up one day as if they don’t even know you 😢
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Yes. From one second to the other he wanted the divorce.
Costa Rica was beautiful, Now the Carolina’s. But where ever you are , you deliver an abundance of hope - for those of us who lost their way. You are our GPS to find our way home.
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OMG- what a beautiful way of summarizing how Andrew has helped us. Awesome !!
I agree!
Yup!
Andrew, it is uncanny how the topics of your discussions are shockingly timely. God bless you sir.
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Mr Grey, I was thinking about this topic today, and here it is!!
I barely understood what a narcissist was until I accidentally found Andrew's channel. It just didn't register that there were people who enjoyed other people suffering, but that's what narcissists are.
Thank you, Andrew. Yes, what a shame these pathetic creatures didn’t have the ability to love us. It’s a pity, but NOT for us. We get to start again and that is exciting and wondrous. I have such gratitude and thank God for giving me these gifts to love and have compassion for others.❤️❤️❤️
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They cannot receive or give love. Im at the point that i do not have problem with that. This is the way they are build. In most of cases its not their fault. So... i can forgive them
@@piorundip8705I leave forgiveness to the Lord😊
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Amen, my friend, your so right.❤❤❤❤😊😊😊👍👍👍
They lost a true great friend, now they have to put up with the low vibe people they are surrounded by. No longer my problem, love, peace and happiness be with you all.
No good deed, goes unpunished. I never knew what that old expression meant, until the end of my narcissistic relationship.
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It's funny you mention this saying, when I was married to my ex narc wife her Mom (my ex mother in law) said No good deed goes unpunished before!!! Wow!!! The irony of this saying!!!
I actual disliked holidays. The holidays were consistent cleaning and decorating and shopping and cooking…etc. I enjoy holidays now because I do not do a thing. I sleep, go out for dinner, binge watch a show, etc. It is about me. Finally I can just be.
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I agree! I didn't like holidays because I was doing all the work! Now I do nothing and I feel guilty, but I'm done trying to make other people happy and wasting money on holidays! That ship has sailed!
@@emilywilson7308 👏👏👏👏.Well said.
@@SuperSurvivor4 It's so great to feel understood by you! 🌷
RIGHT ON!
Yes. Narcissists usually have a primary supply (spouse or cohab), and secondary supply they have their eye on to switch the spouse out with. Then they have a smattering of exes, “friends”, groupies, etc. They try to exit to the primary secondary supply but if that doesn’t work they have to move on to whatever panic pick is available which is very often another narcissist or just some groupie who is around. It is very often no one who really cares about them at all. It is just a panic pick. They know the difference.
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Thats not fair.
Great way to put it.
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Yes, true. When you are done with the narcisists, you are done, there is no going back. It is game over.
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It's scary to think this person later rethinks how they feel about you . I was obviously there the whole time giving love , help , money . Looking back I don't know how I allowed this manipulation . I was so loving . I feel raped emotionally, mentally, psychologically .
I woke up after 11 years coming to understand he's a narcissist coming to these channels. I , like you am healing . It's been beyond painful . Still recovering . 💔. On top of that I lost my pup to cancer August 19 2022 . I'm hurting over my pup . Recovery has been tuff . I'm getting better slowly. Luckily I adopted a sweet kitty 2 months after my pup died from cancer . She just kept coming in my backyard. I had to take her in . She saved me , and I saved her . ❤️💯
Same here, but my true love is a pitbull. I’ve used the same words as you, “He saved me and I saved him”.
My heart goes out to you. Losing your lovely dog after all of this is enough to break you. The same happened to me. All strength and love to you
Beautiful 😍❤️
Your kitty was meant to be, came into your life when you needed her. I talk to my cats all the time, they’re great listeners.
Don't trust anyone in a hurry.
Amen. Wisdom to live by.
Rushing and pressuring is major red flag to push you into making a emotional decision and not giving you time to think it through.
Loyalty, honesty, empathy, junkyard dog, protector, emotional intelligence, hard working, reliable , responsible, and lovable. 😇🙏💯🎯
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When we heal and begin to live our best life without them, they realize they finally lost control, and there will never be another me! 💎
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Amen!
💯 Everything in these relationships is transactional for the narcissists.
It could also go the other way: instead of an endless TO - DO list, its filled with laziness and distractions. Neglecting 🏠 hold chores to play video/ computer games. If YOU tell the narc YOU WANT/ NEED to complete 🏠 hold chores, the narc becomes like a clingy toddler ALWAYS NEEDING YOUR ATTENTION. 🙄
Thank you for helping us understand their behavior. God willing my divorce will be final soon.
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Bless you, Brenda. You have a bright future ahead! You will get through your difficult time.
@@artluvr6170 thank you. God bless you.
11 years free now....living my best life!😁
I was discarded January 2020. Then spent C19 trying to understand what "that" was. Then I found your videos and thank you for helping through. ❤
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Sharon, Andrew was the FIRST person I found also. 🙏
I don’t hear people say ! The discard is a blessing but it really is , it’s a way for you to move on without that toxicity
I agree
We do not think like them which is why it is vital to our emotional, mental and physical health to learn how to deal with and avoid Narcissistic people. Thank you Andrew! 💕🌻🍄🌼
Irene F, we think like NORMAL people. THEY DON'T!
Wow! Exactly what happened, 13 years later in the marriage, I told her I’m going no contact. It’s been over one month, endured smear campaign and found out her smear started before I said no more. We went to a church for over 10 years and no one called to ask how I’m doing. That hurt! She has basically turned people I love against me. I ruminated constantly after going no contact. I know it sounds strange but I got my first good nights sleep after my attorney needed information from her for the divorce papers and I broke no contact to have her call the attorney. During that email, I apologized for any specific thing that she said I had done. I told her I take full responsibility! I was free then of guilt. Never expected or wanted forgiveness, just tried to clear my heart. It seemed like the right thing to do. Now the thoughts of the relationship are starting to go to learning a lesson. Presently, Her I love you stuff has started. From watching your videos it is recognized as the hover! I blocked her. Got to move forward and on. Thank You Andrew for your help!!!
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Your story sounds like mine. The best is yet to come for you 🌺 remember you are so much stronger than you know!
Good people will return slowly, some will remain too embarrassed to return after they realise they've been played by the narc, the others don't need to be in your life. This is my experience, however YOU get to decide who can return and who never will. It's all on your terms now, good luck
Perfect topic; I have not browsed the ex's socials in 6 months, but for whatever reason I did tonight. She updated her profile picture just 2 days ago. I can see in her eyes how unhappy and lost she is. I can easily surmise she's only updating because the 'new supply' didn't go the way she expected it to go. I feel so bad for 'abandoning her'- but she abandoned me first so. Like I was supposed to 'hang around' while she 'shopped around' for a 'better' suitor? Yeah that's right- I said "No!" I'll tell you this though- looking at her new profile picture- I don't even know the person I'm looking at and we were together for 14 years. It's sad, but these people are not stable- they lack a stable sense of self. I tried- god knows I tried blood sweat and tears. But after the discard- after everything i'd done, sacrificed; slaved to keep this relationship afloat...to be tossed aside like yesterdays newspaper- I had to say "NO". Like Andrew says- I'm mourning something I never had. It's a real mindfuck.
Amen!
Spot on and I'm sorry you've had to go through this. I find it inconceivable how they act like we don't exist. I have zero understanding of how they operate. My partner hasn't overtly told me it's over and has simply (!) ceased contact for 6 weeks. I sent one message during that time and have been ignored. I don't know how they sleep at night. To be erased from someone's life and discarded in this way,is brutal. Total mind f*** 💯
@@joolz3078 They don't actually sleep; nor sleep well; they are always on edge. She kept me up for hours and hours at night scrolling her phone. They fear sleep- as it's another one of their 'psychotic fears'. Because it challenges their control over the world. Renders them 'vulnerable'. Don't be fooled- they don't sleep well at night. They never have; and they never will. They are inherently unhealthy people- and lack of sleep is a HUGE contributing factor. I don't envy her.
@@rhododendrons_509 interesting theory about challenging their control over the world....makes perfect sense now you say it. They control every minute of every day and anyone who stays in these relationships should expect to be controlled (note to self!). Shocking you lost sleep because of her phone obsession.
These days, the only frogs in my life are Mr. Toad, who's living in my flower garden eating the bugs that the birds leave behind. The narc frogs 🐸 are blocked 🚫, and gray rock 🪨. This lily pad has bounced those frogs off into a dried up pond...I have gotten REALLY GOOD at saying, "NO!" AND "NO!" 😊 I love that narled tree in the background 😍. Great video, Andrew 😊 📘✍️🙏✌️❤🤓😎
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I was thinking about “Mr. Toad” 🐸 from your morning share as Andrew was speaking and I visualized the scene in most of my mornings in the woods where lily pads are in abundance 🤭. Thank you for helping paint my imagination
@@gratefultobehere yes, when Andrew mentioned frogs 🐸 I was reminded of the same thing. I think he misses very little from the comments we all share. I am sure that he too need encouragement from time to time too. Like the rest of us, he's been through hell and back. Glad I sparked your imagination.
@@marybarton5651 🙌❤️🐸 I agree with you.
Covert abuse is so low key & unreal. Trying to be withdrawn but they make me laugh sometimes how simple and bizarre set of beliefs they exhibit.
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Simply bizarre!
Some of us commented last year about putting on an event in London to get together, chill out and recognise WNAAD.
I've since taken a course in event management, made new contacts, and put on a large successful community event with a classmate.
Is anyone interested in either attending or being part of the small planning committee to run an event like this in London on 1st June 2024? If you have enthusiasm and vision that's all you need to start you off. You discover your skills along the way. Let's make it happen!
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That would be awesome and who might be your guest speaker??? Andrew? 🤔 ❤
Oh, wow! Wouldn't that be amazing. I've never been to London but have always wanted to go. What a great reason to visit England. If there is enough interest in such a thing, I would be willing to do what I could to make it happen. - Joe
I love London!
This is very encouraging. I have tried to mention the planning group but it keeps deleting my comment. Is there a way round this? It's called day of peace and is on social media.
Great video Andrew. Well my ex narcissist took so much from me, he used up everything i mean everything. Money , home, i was left with nothing no friends no family i even lost my job . My health was terrible, he never cared about anything that happened to me. I was working to make him happy at all costs no matter what i always thought about him first. I survived, barely but i have slowly started to rebuild my life i have a new job i moved far away from the narcissist i blocked him and i really don't want anything from him anymore. Im moving forward i do get lonely sometimes but at least i don't have a useless monster trying to hurt me everyday. Thank you everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew.
Another excellent educational session, validating and legitimizing the value of us who have been through the abuse!! The videos seem to be coming through with so much more clarity!!! Sending love and praises to you and encouragement and love to all community members!! Thank you Andrew for "saving" so many folks!! You are so cherished!!!❤❤❤🙏🙏
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Amen!!!
Thanks Mary 😊
@@SS-cm9ek Welcome!!
Almost 2 years post discard and life is SO good! You’re right, Andrew. Going to bed & here (hear? LOL!) your words remind me to stay strong in the journey. Namaste. 🙏🏼🧎♀️🙏🏼
Yep. After a year of no contact, she uses a burner to message. Current supply just wrapped an expensive trip taking her all over Florida, and there she is messaging me (and others I’m sure) sayin she misses me. Disgusting. That poor guy gonna learn too
This channel has helped so many people!
A therapist told me: write down every awful thing they did or are. Imagine if they told you the day you met "Hello. My name is _______ I'm going to do all of these things to you".
Would you run? Yes!!! That's how you know it's a trauma bond and NOT LOVE.
Also. My favorite friend is a Shaman. He has watched me cry through many many dark times healing from the hurt of the cluster B. When I explained my story he laughed and said "awe! I love the dark souls! They're so cute! And being a dark soul is the worst job in the universe!!! They can't feel love."
Imagine that life.
But alas. We are all on our perfect journey. What is meant for you will not pass by you! So keep looking for your God blessed spouses yall! Because they are looking for you! ❤❤❤
Keep watching this incredible channel! It will help daily healing!
Such an amazing take
Andrew thank you for your videos. I have survived because of you and I have broken the trauma bond with your guidance.
I finally am indifferent to him. Thank you and God Bless you!!! Eleni.
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Bless you, Eleni. You have a bright future ahead of you!
As I’ve worked through my recovery, one of the hardest things to deal with is the extent that these monsters want to destroy you - I truly believe mine would have been preening if he could have pushed me all the way to death. Once I was clear of him the easiest was to see how he had harmed me with intent on a daily basis but it took years to uncover how far reaching and methodical his smear campaign was, even trying to destroy my career that he was benefiting financially from. I can now see ways he tried to permanently damage my physical health. My mental health - it was a toy to him. Andrew is a blessing to all of us with his insight and wisdom, reminding us that not only has there never been anything wrong with us, there was and is so much right.
I knew soon after I met her, and I still know today that I was the best person to have ever entered her life. Is it narcissistic of me to say that? When the relationship was ending, I said 'good luck finding someone better'. She never will. I know that through and through. She liked me for my good sense of humor, my super-computer intellect, my too-die-for physique (not really, but just allow me a little puffing up), my capacity for kindness, empathy, and love. She shouldn't have tried to date someone as smart as me because eventually, after four years, I figured her out. I saw through her mask and as soon as I did, she gave me the classic and cruel narcissistic discard. I know, to this day, that I was the first person to have seen through her disguise, and it upset her big time. I don't know if I'll ever have another relationship, but if I do I will not allow myself to be taken advantage of again. She will age disgracefully, but luckily for me, although I'm 56, I still look 32. My body seems to have stopped aging then. Thank you, Andrew, for another affirming video. You have helped me heal like no one else ever has. - Joe
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Joe, forgive me but 32 ??!!
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@@rubyjet9513 In the right light and from one specific angle I still look 32.
I just went through the same thing. He was 64 and I thought he was more mature. After the silent treatment and several discards, I knew he didn’t know how to have a real relationship. I told him he would never find anyone else like me because I am empathetic, caring, smart, and positive and happy about life. All of the men I meet tell me that I look way younger than I am. He will be regretting losing me since he will never find the “whole” package again.
@@artluvr6170 oh! Ok!
I left. They are now telling people I had a ‘breakdown’!
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I absolutely love your videos. I am right now getting ready to file for divorce. I have been with a narcissist for 14 years and it literally makes me sick to my stomach when I now think about all the things that were done to me and all the years of jumping through hoops thinking that I was doing something wrong. Not realizing that this has been a mind game for him from the very beginning. All of the infidelity that he constantly lied about. I served this man like he was a King. I ended the cycle myself, he did not get a chance to discard me. I discarded him and went silent. I am currently trying to move out of the home, however, I have been able to go silent and treat him like he does not exist. I am so proud of myself. He has tried to gaslight me several times since I put an end to this abuse, however, I have not fallen for it. It has been a month since I took my power back. ❤️
Thank you for sharing this 😌🙏🙌
Today at the bowling alley everyone was just so angry it was ridiculous but I didn't let it bother me I don't want no negative energy inside me
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Certainly not at a bowling alley...
Good job, Steve!
You’re like the Great Lebowski, Steve, just chillin’ at the bowling alley.
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Great video !! I was chief cook and bottle washer, Housekeeper, bookkeeper and the rest. I even cut his hair to save paying a barber. I'd be
Surprised if he would find another me to put up as I did for 20 yrs.
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Nothing beats the sound of nothing, and the drama of nothing....peace and quiet! It's blissfully and holy.
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Thank you Andrew for your words of wisdom which rings Truth! Covert narc in my life had given me the silent treatment when I said Yes to Me and No to her. My 87 yo mother recently had a health scare and I’ve been busy caring for her. She’s better now that she has a pacemaker. 🫀🙏 You can bet to any covert narc they won’t like it when the focus is off of them. So, here I am Andrew having a lovely quiet weekend catching up on my sleep! 😂🥱😴🤣. Namaste to you Andrew and to this A-mazing community!✨🌺🦋🌟
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Covert narc: I am here, hello, here I am, look at me, I am here, don't look elsewhere, its me, I am here, look at me, listen to me, only me, don't look elsewhere, I am here etc etc 😂😂😂😂
So much peace vibrating through this message tonight ❤❤❤
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Yes!
Andrew, should it be a compliments to me that the narcissist will remember what he had in me???!!
It's not. And I don't care at all.
Much love ❤️ to all empaths.
It's radical acceptance to understand that we were only the best supplies for them. Yes. I don't care anymore.😊
@@truffaut650truffaut6 REALLY? If it isn't for you, I really don't know how I would have understood the point.
@@truffaut650truffaut6 The thought of being someone's best energy food, supply, toy is disgusting to me 🤮
And I don't care what evil😈 thinks.
True, I couldn't say no
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Me either . Never said NO! Until I just quit talking forever!! That was my NO MORE!!
Andrew, thank you for being so uplifting and building such a kind, positive community for victims who are struggling to understand their situation.
God Bless You & Thank you for sharing your Beautiful Energy!
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Thank you Andrew for another excellent and educational video❤. When I was in a choir the choirleader told me, that he thought something great was coming to the choir. After that he said that I was'nt so great. I was insecure he said. He said people wanted me out of the choir, but that he told them the choir needed me because I had contacts. He was afraid of me and wanted to get rid of me. My husband told me, that my son isn't interested in what I have to say. My mother told me I must be great when I manage such a difficult job. She seemed surprised. She always puts my gifts down and praises my sisters gifts. What I am trying to say that the narcissists take you for granted and don't value you for who you are. They take you for granted and put you down. When you put up boundaries they are angry and surprised. One narsissistic friend told me that he wasn't after money. When I told him I woun't get anything from my husband when we divorce he stopped contacting me. I used to.contact that friend earlier, but now I have no contacct with him. I don't need him in my life anymoore and I am moving on with my life. He probably will miss me, but that is his problem. I have forgiven him and life is beautiful. Thank you all in this group💕💞
Still unemployed, credit cards maxxed relocating her stuff, and then again when her sister kicked her out less than a week later.
That relationship and several others are gone after going mask off.
Homeless and living in a little truck she cant afford to gas up. Still no job and her new supply is in another country...and barred re-entry after trying to break in to move her shit while I wasn't home.
Karma is an absolute bitch and a half. 🤷♂️
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That sounds really ... terrible😂😂😂
whats important to remember is that their pathological nature makes it impossible to change so they are repeating the abusive cycle with the next target(s)....so although they will never have anyone as good as us...we have ourselves and can have a healthy relationship after healing....thats the thing to remember...its all so superficial for them...not so with anyone of real substance or heart...realizing who you are and what you brought to the table is all that matters now...with the right people thats enough
My narcissist always had his phone either in his pocket or upstairs on the charger out of our room. He never stopped love Bombing me 9 years. Neglect, verbal abuse and rage fits, gas lighting, lies. Spiritual abuse etc. Staying out all night. 😢 in a messy divorce process.
Thank you Andrew, for yet another great video! Realizing that the Narcissists will at some point realize what they had and what they will NEVER have again is a refreshing thought! Moreover, it’s a staunch reminder for us who have escaped the grips of Narcissism to realize our own self worth…that intrinsic sense of being worthy of love, a stance that boosts a level self esteem that will help us to be intolerant of any form of anti-social behavior. Appreciate your dedication in keeping us abreast on this topic of Narcissism. 🙏❤️🙏
You ever take a look at someone who has done repeatedly had botox injections? Not pretty... I am aging naturally and have earned every beautiful flaw.😊
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You are giving me strength to get through this divorce. THANK YOU!
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So correct! If not given the fork in the road - I would have never quit. Super natural intervention saved me 🗡🌈
I'm a strong Native American Man who went through a narcissistic relationship I've come out on top!it's been almost three years since I kicked her out of my tribal home I've moved to our second reservation my tribe has I'm doing great I watch your channel only to reflect an reinforce my beliefs about this monster I married lol I like my life I don't walk on eggshells anymore an there are Hella boundaries I have I've been single for almost 3 years an I feel so much stronger now I stay in shape quit drinking an don't over appreciate women I see everything now an live my life accordingly I'd rather spend my time with my great grandson the Coda Bear I love my family when I was with her she kept me from my family ty for your channel Hoka!!
Celebrating 15 months of no contact today 🥳. My life is a world away from what it was back then, I have so much joy and appreciation for the good things in life and finding them every day. Still a work in progress. Don't give up if you still feel devastated - the Narcissist can be a catalyst for your positive growth. Seize the opportunity and carve yourself a happy future. ❤
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My health took a hard core hit . I was very overweight by 130 lbs with him with a slew of major depression issues that HE blamed ME for .
After I left him I started to lose weight but it took a long while before I regained my entire self back . Now , I am so tired I just want a very simple life
Sun , beach , nature , bird watching , bingo , tai chi , chores & self care .
It’s all I need ❤
9 months later, my health is just getting back to normal. Relishing getting back to myself. As sad as I am that he is gone, I love myself more
I got the narc gone for two-and-a-half years. I had spent seven with him because I felt sorry for him. I didn't know about any of this stuff. Then he came back and love bombed me and I fell for it. But only for a short time. At the end of 8 months I got a protective order and he was thrown out of my house. I will never speak to him again. He used to say karma was a b**** and I know he's experiencing that now because no one would put up with what I put up with and be as kind and loving as I was. Definitely enough was enough. It's only been a month and a half and God is healing my broken heart and crushed spirit. Day by day I am getting stronger and healthier and I am healed in the name of Jesus.❤
I’ve been married to a very narcissistic man for almost 13 years. His brother is a full-blown narcissist that I went no contact with for the last two years. Well, unbeknownst to me, my husband invited home to my son’s 7year old’s back yard birthday party WITHOUT LETTING ME KNOW! This just happened yesterday. I’m so upset and have avoided my husband all day because I have no words for the betrayal. This brother of his is an entitled one who wouldn’t use the community pool bathroom but would only use our bathroom and didn’t even ask just walks through my house like owns it. I think my marriage is over
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I went no contact recently, my ex husband has been texting incessantly and I gave in and answered (which I should not have), I said; "I have been busy" , his response was; "You are not that busy, why don't you answer?"...that is utter disrespect! He has no clue what is going on in my life at this point. So like an idiot, I respond to that and say; "That was very disrespectful to say to me that I am not that busy"...then I really grasped what I was doing. I allowed him to trigger me, he said that on purpose to get a response. I'm still learning, I can't allow that anymore.
My ex played those same games.
I changed my number and blocked her on emails and social media, it was a big step towards personal healing and freedom.
You might want to think about it.
Best of luck.
@@fredbraun5308 Thank you Fred, I allowed myself to be stuck with him because he owes me money, but a close friend keeps reminding me that I don't have to talk to him in order for him to pay me back. However, I keep in contact even though I'm trying to go no contact. It does not seem like he will pay me back anyways. I have to take legal action but I don't want to go down that road, he should just pay what he owes. He makes me feel that if I cut him off, he won't send me any checks. I think I have to call his bluff and file a court case. Even if it's small claim. I'm so tired of dealing with him at this point. I'm going to stop answering and block!!! I have to do that!!! thank you for responding to my post, the strength helps :)
@@riac5388 Ask yourself if the money is worth it.
My ex owed me thousands, I let it go because my inner peace was far more valuable.
This is so interesting, Andrew. It has long lasting detrimental effects, the narcissistic relationship, and it takes knowing how to handle any contact with them. I hated those long “to-do lists” everyday all of my married life! I am reading now and enjoying much more peace and yes, now it’s the kids dealing with the narcissist. I was a huge co-dependent so now I am being very careful how I tread. Many thanks❤❤😅😊
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S D, They will never forget us.! ⚘️
It could be one believed in the power of LOVE! WITH ENOUGH LOVE, the narc would be able to change.
Me too! Now I realize I was wrong.😢
@@emilywilson7308 🙂 Never lose you ability to LOVE! Just make sure its reciprocal.
@@suesanders1169 I thought it was.
That smear campaign was a hard one. She told everyone I joined a cult as I got in shape and became an entrepreneur while also starting my life coaching business. It was all to manifest a life without pain as I finally established my own boundaries, which she labelled control issues. Then she went off to start dating other men immediately after I asked her to just stay with her parents for the weekend. This was 4 months ago. I'm almost 42 and now in the best shape of my life and have a positive mindset that I've been developing for the last 2 years when I finally got sick of my own crap. She fought my growth by belittling my changes as she kept saying I was going crazy.
Peace and Joy! Thank you. 🙏🕊⚘
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There isn't a topic or point you don't make that doesn't resonate with me. Very healing. Thank you Andrew. Namaste 🙏
Ditto.
Only thing they realize or think about is how they can’t use you anymore
Thank you Andrew, My home is peaceful now. I am grateful to be rid of him.
I love this message Andrew! I’m really enjoying the peace in my life now. The trauma bond is very hard to break and you answered my question. I needed to hear that yes they do miss us and regret letting us get away. I also love that you reinforced the power of saying no; unfortunately that’s when they respect us and realize the power of our love and empathy does have a limit. Now I use the same energy to pour back into myself🥰
Spot on analogy of the frog on the lily pad. My sister is a frog. Which gives frogs a bad name because I love frogs.
🎉sleeping in the mornings then taken the day slowly and peacefully without feeling guilty is wonderful 🎉❤
Yes it is ❤
Thanks Andrew for this video. Love it. It made me feel great!!! I was discarded after 24 years out of the blue. I hope she realizes what she had. Your the best. I’ve been getting so much knowledge from your videos 👍
So true, today I value peace in my life above all else.
Thank you so much Andrew for this beautiful and truthful piece of information. I feel like you were talking with me and everything resonated 100% .. Hugs, Christine
Today, I made a recipe that I have been wanting to do for a long time. It came out really well, and I got a good reaction to the pictures. Now I want to read a book and write a book.
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Very interesting thank you Andrew. I'm so glad I'm an empath I could never treat people in the despicable way they knowingly do,I told him that too in my final text 6 months ago before discarding him. Yes I set boundaries he didn't like,but kept them up. My boundaries saved me from this toxic demon
Thank you God. Pray. Whatever he wanted from me he never got it.
I don't think people in general have any idea how damaging, and devastating these relationships, r!!! GreT video, Andrew!!!!!
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Thank you Andrew, for your time and patience and, especially for spreading your wisdom ❤🙏🏻💕🕊🌠
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Gawd you Nailed It!
So True!
Wonder what they think when they never got whatever it was they wanted from you? And the boundaries they kept in place? And you discarded them blocked them everywhere and changed your phone number?. Exactly what I did. And I told him exactly what he is too.
❤💝💞blessings are everywhere!!!
I noticed that too!❤
They only miss what you did for them.
EMPTY VESSELS. A bucket/ pitcher with a hole that can NEVER be full because of the CONSTANT STEADY dripping of the contents inside of the bucket/ pitchet.
when you learn to meditate, you calm the wind of your mind. when you learn to control your mind and make it peaceful, you will have more control over your life.
Well Andrew it is the narcs lost and someone else's gain. Great video thank you. Have a fun evening coach. 😊❤💜
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Hi Marie 👋
@@summacumsoap8983 Hi Summa, hope you are doing well. Have a great evening 🙌💜😄
As a Canadian you may appreciate that the Stanley Cup Finals 🏒🥅 DO make for a Great evening. Our VGK boys are the Best 🏆
@@summacumsoap8983 well i am not into sports much but i am always interested to know who won the Stanley cup. 😁🙏
Thank you Andrew for your wisdom and sharing it with us . I've learned so much from you and I made it through all of this narcissistic abuse of 28 years ! I am out and away from them and I have lost most everything you mentioned in your message, but I look at it this way, I have a new start in life. I actually feel like I won ! I have my Peace and that counts for a lot ! Thank you for your help and getting me through this horrific time in my life. May God bless you !❤
It took me 24 years to get away and i let him have everything just so he would sign the divorce papers. It was worth it ! So glad you got away 🥰🥰❤❤🙏🙏
My confidence,finances,children,gaslighting the devaluation, discarding,I m so tired and the smear campaign 😢😢😢He sent from above☝️🙏😔🥺😳🤯
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Gracias Brother Andrew 🙏🥰💐
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Besides the Holy Word of my God...the Bible & my Jesus....your videos are Beautiful & Uplifting to my human life ❤😇🙏
God Keep Blessing U my Brother
When i RUN away from that terrible monster, i had nothing, nóthing at all! Only mijself. "And that is incredible much!" said a beautiful friend...
Another thing I just thought of !!!
We gave the narcissist everything! Everything! And they weren't happy with us either. So of course the next supply won't be close to us. So they are definitely more unhappy with the New Lesser supply especially coming off of a great partner like us!
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Thanks Andrew,you have been very helpful on this issue of narcissistic. In close odservation all you tell is true. May our Lord protect and guide us and especially the victims of these issue on this journey.
Thank you so much sir you openned our eyes .respect from morocco👍👍👍
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What I learned in recovery: "NO" is a complete sentence. No need to offer a reason; no need to defend yourself. What a simple, real, self-care truth, and a mental-health lifesaver! Collateral Damage: It drives the narc crazy! 😂 They will ask "Why??" because what they're trying to do is engage you in verbal Hoovering. *DO NOT ENGAGE!* My simple response always is, "That's how I feel about it." Of course this won't stop them and they'll continue to badger you. So I just keep repeating the same line until they give up. Lather, Rinse, Repeat. Hahahahaha!!
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This was very Empowering for me, just one month into being discarded by my husband of 12 years. I keep finding myself devastated all over again thinking he's gonna be a better man to her. That's my mind playing tricks because there is no way he changed over night for this chic. My heart needs major healing because he played me hard.
Thanks for all you share, it's helpful to me✨️🕊🙏 Shalom
They do that … I get it
Mark will never find another good woman like me and that is the truth
On utube today i watched Reasons Why Highly Intelligent People Prefer To Be Alone. I think it should have been titled Why Highly Sensitive People To Be Alone. Hope that some folks might benefit from this 20 min lecture from Sadguru. Namaste 🙏
You are a saviour Andrew. Much love ❤
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Winner of FIRST COMMENT!! 🎉🎉🎉LOL!! Thanks Andrew!! 🫶🫶🫶
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Thank you Andrew. Your videos shed so much light. I am healing from a 26 yr marriage. He had a secret relationship for the last 7 yrs of our marriage. I've been divorced for over 7 yrs now & i am still healing.
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