Maybe actually more like vitamins. Medicine is more for curing an illness/injury. But vitamins are for building/maintaining wellness. I suppose it depends on where one is on the spectrum away from a toxic relationship.
I gave in to the hoover female CO worker hit me with a 3 week attention giving and seduction campaign. Now I'm back in the de value. Stage right back to where I was 4 months ago .
AND.. INTERESTINGLY ENOUGH... We actually won before we got in relationship.. I realized what when I went NC over 10 years ago with a sick NARC coworker.. I WON even BEFORE I met him.. I always have won... but.. being "nice person" I let him in and another... NC AND NEVER AGAIN!!!
@@JH-td4mn Yes... They are some very backwards, and confused creatures. It's just hard to make any sense out of their craziness. They lie, and they know that they are lying. But, they recreate in their minds (no conscience) that what they intentionally did to harm another is somehow "justified and right." Evil, sick, and twisted....
It’s not about winning. The main goal everyone should have is being able to focus on your own life and be carefree what the narcissist does. I feel like looking it like winning vs losing just muddies up the healing process and takes it down a more ego approach .
@All about Narcissism True but it's a double edged sword or "Catch 22" when it's your own family of origen (Parents, siblings, aunts uncles cousins). It's always a Catch 22 when dealing with these wicked people. No matter what you do, it's gonna hurt especially if it's your family. Because you have to give up having any kind of support system and inheritance. If it's just a romantic interest, then not so much.
The funny thing about narcs is, they believe that they ARE happy. Remember, narcs don't own their feelings. If they're miserable, then it has to be because someone else is making them miserable.
I am not in debt anymore...I don't have drama n my life, I am even more happier now, I have peace, and I don't have 2 take care of a grown man who did not work but felt as if he was entitled 2 everything...MY LIFE IS AWESOME NOW!!!
To anyone new and just now watching this. We know what you went through. We BELIEVE you. You didn't imagine it, it was insidious or blatant abuse. We know you can get through it because we did. You were not a fool, not stupid. You were abused and tricked into the situation. We were too. Whether you escaped or were discarded, we understand how difficult it was. Go as no contact as you can, keep going. My healing took longer than the relationship lasted. I won and you will win. I believe you.
I have more peace than I've ever had since being an innocent child. Everything is better with Peace. No more crazy making. I don't hate him. I'm going to be grateful for the training in my life. Smoke is clearing and I'm back on a better path. I have Joy.
By getting rid of all the narcissists in my life I ended up almost alone... life 2.0 has started. This channel helps me recognizing narcissists and in staying on track.
I remember as a child my mother was reading the bible in the dark because we couldn’t afford to pay the electricity bill. I remember in that warm summer evening she specifically said “Mi hijo, there are people that wear multiple masks; they are ashamed to show their face. Be careful in this world” It was meant to happen. These are they days that must happen.
Such wisdom.🙏 It can only be found when you quiet yourself. The Light was already filling the room, with the words that were being spoken. It is reassuring to know that there are many of us out there with this important hope filled message. That all things that are happening were part of His big plan. And our peace comes from knowing that He is in control. Even though our days are wretched with humans that we know are more broken than they tell us we are. By the grace of God, always. 🙏💚⚡
@@franceshaggitt3104 Ludicrous thinking and not based on facts. You need to learn about narcissism to understand why they are that way. It certainly is no comfirmation of Timothy - or a rubber stamp of an old book. Get real!
I honestly cannot thank you enough for posting these videos. Im 19 years old and Ive just gotten out of a narcissistic relationship. I am too drained to explain my story, but I am so so thankful I stumbled across your channel. You have seriously helped me with my healing process. Lots of love from England 🇬🇧❤️ xx
Well done you got out young at only 19 years old...I've just realised I've been in a narcissistic relationship for Nearly 19years! After being discarded by my wife soon to be ex wife, and I still feel like I dodged a bullet so consider yourself really lucky my friend 👍
Hi Andrew...I know when I finally can say I WON was the day the narcissist no longer matter to me and I was done!! I was no longer emotional attached!! The feeling when you know you've WON, is when the narcissist is no longer in your life!!😊 Namaste 🙏🏼 FINALLY FREE!!!!!!!
I didnt think it was possible to come out of the fog, and at nearly 24 months its finally starting to clear. The world looks and is amazingly different and so peaceful and joyful. (2 birthdays on my own---they have been the best birthdays I've ever had!)
My father was a malignant narc and my mom's sister is a narcissist. I was surrounded by them at a point in time. These people have something to teach us about living in this world: saveguard your energy, it's your most precious resource, do NOT give it all away.
My exact story from dad to mom to sister and being surrounded.. I have been surrounded my entire childhood and didn’t realize it but I knew something was wrong so I stayed away I returned after being educated so I won’t fall in same traps anymore !!! God is good I learn my lesson they are gutter snipping wrecking ball toddler in a adult physical body 😂
That's exactly why they exist. Wonderwall has some end-game wisdom here. That is the answer to why "bad things happen to good people" and why there exists evil.
My parents very much the same. I feel I’ve been apologizing for existing my whole life. Super people pleaser, no boundaries, alcohol abuse… realizing I’ve been in not one but SEVERAL abusive Relationships…which all go back to childhood wounds.🖤🙏🏻💔
The tide has turned in my life...I spent a lot of years feeling like I was not good enough...but now I know that I am. I have learned to like, love and accept myself for who God created me to be...and I am never going to allow myself to be sucked backwards again. Whatever life has in store for me, I will face it with positive thoughts and actions. Great video Andrew...✌❤🤓😎😊🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you are welcome Andrew 😊 and I thank you for creating this channel, I have learned so much for you and reading other survivors stories. It has been a safe place for healing...😊✌❤🤓😎🙏
I have heard people say this to me before..you don"t even know when you are happy. This type of thing. I am glad you here to consistently drill in the facts about narcissism to all of us. Namaste ♥💚💛🧡💜🤎🤍
I'm 10 month out of a toxic relationship of 8 years, I have had to face this on my own without support as I don't have family or friends, your videos have helped me through the pain, thank you for the work you do to help people in this situation, I'm so grateful I found your channel. You have helped me so much ❤xx
1 month no contact, I redirect the love towards myself, cleaning and healing all areas in my life...I feel my heart open a new chapter. So grateful Andrew is here to uplift us, encouraging us live a better life without the abuser.
With your videos I could walk away and see the damage. I'm having a lot of fun healing. Love you for your strength, time, honesty and your no BULLSHIT attitude brother ❤️🫂
Dodged a major bullet in the end. Took a long time, lots of years, loads of my energy, but I see the future of the narc and it is not good. I won’t be there to live the chaos anymore. Brighter days ahead.
The feeling of winning I felt one day was driving on the freeway, seeing and experiencing things by myself. I didn’t feel the need to share it, and realized now there is no one that can say” who cares” or just glance and not care about something I care about. I get to find things that I enjoy seeing or doing and not be judged for it, or ignored. I took a big deep breathe and told myself, “ this is gonna be a fun and enjoyable life again because I choose every aspect of it. I really wasn’t loved by this person, and what I see, think, and do does matter! I am just as valuable as anyone else in the world, and deserve just as much too. I’m not being selfish, I’m just finally able to be free within myself and be as adventurous as I feel like being, and pursue such good things for myself without being hindered.
Same for me, and added to that I find myself really enjoyable to hang with. I never sulk or tantrum and I love new experiences. A day by myself is calming and fun. I like my essence!
Any of you do not need the narc,live your best life and move forward and become completely indifferent to the narc. You never needed them. It was all an illusion
Brilliant and beautifully delivered. Look at over 130K winners here (that’s just the subscribed ones - certainly more on this winning team). Generally not competitive, but for survivors of all kinds of abuse, I cheer you on!!! Thank you 🙏 ❤ - healings happening in everywhere!
@@NikkiGRocks4Ever Hi Nikki, So true and blessed are we to have this rich wisdom. And to be able to share it with those who are ready to learn / embrace it!
The only regret is I did not find your videos earlier. It would if saved me three years of my precious time. Never even knew what this demonic person was until I googled the behaviour. So real so true. It’s like a playbook they follow or something ……strange thing fir sure. 🎉 thank you Andrew keep educating people. Save empath lives keep sharing your wisdom.
I feel like I am getting angrier everyday thinking about the mess I created by letting these folks in my life. It is so stressful. Thanks for the words Andrew.
The ex went to my work and tried to get me fired ten years after the divorce. She was the one that demanded a divorce. That took place 15 years ago. I am still mad as Hell about that.
@@racebannon96 oh wow sorry to hear that happened. I’m really mad that the law is supporting him and his ex lying. 🤥. It’s so wrong and they created mischief now court letting them get away with it like it never happened
Certainly doesn't feel like a win right now after a discard from a covert narc, and only a week later learning she's already on a dating site after our 5 yrs together. The trauma bond is feeling hopelessly difficult, and I'm having great stress and anxiety in trying to remain positive. Your teachings are greatly appreciated Andrew, and I realize there's going to be huge amounts of time and healing involved with this crushing ordeal. Much love and strength to all empaths and shining individuals traveling on the same path, and battling out of the fog of toxicity. 🌲🙏☀️🙏🌲 Namaste 💗
Love your videos... I have been no contact for two months now... still struggling but I consider myself lucky that I have only been in this mess for only 14 months and not 20 to 30 years like alot of people.. I have never imagined anything like this in my life.... you are helping me so much... thank you.
I’ve never had real love in a romantic relationship. I spent 33 years with a narc married and discarded, lied to cheated on, my name forged and conned, hid huge debt. I gave him his divorce, so he could continue to live with his ns and not be married to me. Took me close to 4 years to heal. But now as you say. We do win and it’s hell to go through. But there is joy after the storm. Thank you
Well, I left the door cracked open after the breakup...just to coordinate the soft landing that I said I would provide her for the next two months (against the advice of my pastor, who said that I don't owe her a soft landing), and in the first week she was already sending me passive aggressive texts criticizing me. I got one before bed last night and then I immediately blocked her. There is just no winning when you try to engage the narc, sadly for them.
Sometimes a third party might HAVE to intervene, bbecause they truly care. My dear dear Mother just came and got one day, and got me away. It wasn't easy, I went to rehab, I didn't want to but, I needed it. It took me a long time to feel the enefits of my escape. Nowadays, is a much happier story ;) Be brave, bite the ullet and put yourself first, because if you don't.......how are you going to be able to help others, as well as yourself ;)
I so appreciate your video's, I allowed myself to be isolated, and ended up drained emotionally, psychologically and now have a health issue ..so damaging. But so grateful to see the mask fall off. In the heal process. No relationship is worth losing yourself and your health. Thank you love and light 🙏❤
Ann. How do we survive financially at this stage? I finally figured the mother Narc out. But now a lot of the wreckage is traumatizing me - no job, no profession.
You are all WINNERS,you all have Great potential, be steadfast, deliberate in your actions towards a narc free life, focus on you and a lovely life, enjoy your hobbies and doing what brings you Happiness,light,love,and,inner peace to you all Here,,,, Winner's 🎶💫🌼❤️💖✨✨🌟🤗🌹🌸👏👏👏
"Breadcrumbs of hope"... very true! They know exactly what they're doing and that's what hurts the most. Praying for a miracle to get me out and be amongst the 'winners' in this crazy evil battle.
Excellent term, "Breadcrumbs of hope." I was involved with one for 6 years. Broken promises, Future Faking, and Breadcrumbs was what I got from her. She ghosted me three years ago. She did me a favor. Good luck to you.
Thank you Andrew, I escaped from a covert, malignant, psychopath, narcissist 4 months ago. It is only because of your messages that I realized what was happening to me. I never knew these people ever existed. The narcissist fog has lifted and I am aware of every lie and scheme he has ever pulled. It was a very painful and hurtful realization. I am fully equipped to go into the courtroom with him. I am no longer afraid of him. I feel such pity for him. Thanks to you ,my eyes have been OPENED. I have been dealing with CPTSD. Nightmares, flashbacks and guilt trips. I also have been physically ill due to all of the trauma I have endured but, the freedom I feel is indescribable. I am working on self care and forgiveness. I have easily forgiven him. I do not want the bitterness in my heart. Thanks to YOU, I am on my healing journey. Thanks to your channel, I have learned so very much. Praise be to God for giving me the strength to leave, and praise God for the healing work that you are doing Everyday. We all appreciate your help , God bless you Andrew. Virtual hug coming your way, lots of love, Just Jen.
Thank you Andrew!! I look forward to seeing and hearing from you everyday. My ex last night texted me with her heart emojis and her faked kindness. Telling me how now she realized she made a mistake. But listening to you gives me the strength and wisdom to understand it’s just a facade. I count my blessings everyday knowing I found you and your wisdom!! I honestly appreciate you, take care 😊👊🏻
When I first started watching your videos, I had no idea I had won! I was so confused. I felt like I was going crazy! Now, 4 years later( he died 4 years ago), I won a game I didn't even know I was playing. Thank you, Andrew, for your insight!
Hej @sajor1847! "I won a game I didn't even know I was playing." Thank you for nutshelling this and for your sharing. My narc husband died 3-years ago...bye bye and happy trails.
I remember coming home from the grocery store with tuna fish for my lunch. She started an hour long argument because it was tuna in oil instead of tuna in water.
I didn't know what a narcissist relationship was, but suffered for 40 years. Last year I physically and mentally collapsed, I was unable to sleep , walk or think. My wife literally cleaned our savings and left me penniless and homeless, then told me how I should beg to her for what I would need in the future. She systematically destroyed my relations with children and all my friends , with the most hideous lies imaginable. I am now alone trying to heal from this satanic damage, I am unable to walk with ease( Although the hospital tests showed no physical evidence). My mind is totally disintegrated and unable to think with balance anymore.
I’m sorry to hear, that you too, have been through this, as myself have spent 40 years of my life, with a narcissist not knowing. Each day that goes by and I start to reflect back on our relationship, moving forward with nothing, beats still being in a relationship, that was Nothing. Best wishes!
OMG yes about the flipping the script. He's pulled this on me many times. UGH! I'm recognizing this now and when he pulls it on me, I just ignore it, and kinda smirk knowing I have it figured out, will not engage and think to myself "you are soooo predictable!"
My ex-narc just contacted me because she needs URGENT help with something. She concludes by telling me not to act like "an immature weirdo." The latter is a reference to my calling her out on the discard and her desire to sleep with a 20-year-old (she was 52). I am not responding. She might be on the verge of getting evicted which means she may have to move in with her mother in another state and basically end easy access to her social life, which she absolutely needs for validation. It's a bit confusing because it triggers the good in me to help her out, but I also know that it will not be appreciated and it will not be a road to a healthy relationship, but only to the return to the deceit, manipulation, and abuse that existed before. No thanks.
There was a time with the first narcissist husband that i got yelled at and called horrible things b/c I bought the "wrong" brand of spaghetti sauce..after he passed I remember the first time I went food shopping & realized I can buy whatever brand I want not what HE wants and no one will yell at me. The second narcissist husband wasn't controlling like the first one...he was too busy financially abusing me and future faking. Glad to be out of both relationships. The first husband passed away, the second one I divorced. Haven't seen Narc 2 in almost 3 months and for real the longer I have no contact with him I feel my energy levels getting higher. I didn't need either narcissist. Both of them overall did not bring happiness to my life. Only drama and tears. This time, after getting rid of Narc 2, I am educating myself and realizing patterns in my own life that attracted toxic people. No more...done with the drama.
💯💯👍 I feel that I won my best life back. And it is a so precious gift. I am so grateful everyday to be narc free at last and have all the tools to keep them away from me forever. And YES forever! Love this video Andrew, thank you. Have a wonderful evening coach❤🤗🙌🙏
I’ve recently parted ways with yet another narcissist and he treated me exactly like my ex. At first he started off charming and then as soon as I said that I no longer wanted a relationship he started acting cold. He brought his friend into our business and allowed him to talk for him and disrespect me, he talked about my faults though I apologized multiple times, he doesn’t listen to me and almost makes fun of my feelings like they don’t matter and everything that comes out of my mouth is bullshit and he manipulates and gaslights me to make me feel bad about myself. I also found out that I’m addicted to being emotionally abused, but I will not give up and I will continue to fight. My story is not yet done. Thank you for helping me stay self aware Andrew. And to those struggling also don’t give up, if I can do it then so can you. 💛💛💛💯💯💯🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yes, We All Won! Out of the crazy making and daily agony! Financial health still trying to get on track. I had a great job, though that ended last Thursday (20th, April.). Things had changed at work and I was a place holder. I have already got a volunteer position at the Food Bank were I live. I had all that Andrew, but can throw it all off and go forward to be myself again. Courage, belief, grit, is what I had to have! Yes that bright shining light is still in me and peace is mine, new friends to enjoy and beautiful places to visit. Its good to be a winner and to not care what the Narcissist does anymore. Love to All the Family Tribe Members! Namaste
Thank you SO much for this video! After more than 13 years I feel so free & happy with myself! No contact was key to my recovery after thirty years of abuse. Now my ex narc husband is alone, broke & sick. I feel so grateful to be alive because I know he would have ultimately murdered me if the marriage had continued.
Hey Andrew! Hope you’re enjoying your day! Today I’m realizing just how BIG I won when the relationship ended, that’s all I can say. I’m VERY grateful not to be communicating with him anymore. 🙏🙏🙏😌 I’m even MORE grateful to have the friends that I do on here. FOREVER grateful for that!!! 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗 Love y’all SO much!
@@flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel Yes! If you explained it to someone about the narc experience, they wouldn't believe you! It's so ridiculous! Or I should say "preposterous!"🤪
I got away!! I thought I could not, but GOD SAVED ME!! I trust God and GAIN ssssooooo MUCH STRENGTH!! If I can do it, you can too!! 😅❤ YEEEESSSSS!!! Back to peace, joy and happiness!! ❤🎉 I LOVE ME! ❤💜
He was always hiding out when I was with friends. Was not even social. It was very embarrassing. I started moving on to be with people. Now those same people are my source of friendship. To be authentic is witnessed by others. I have options, I’m growing & feeling inspired to what life can be again. 😊 ❤
What a joyous way to begin my day! I went no contact with my narcissistic father 4 months ago. I had spent decades giving to him wonderful gifts, much attention and became a successful physician, hoping for his approval. It never happened. I put up with years of verbal abuse. It is over! I am healing and seeing a new and happier me! Thank you for helping us with our new lives!
Glad to hear someone talk about getting away from a sick, toxic parent. I had to do that. I had to move to another country and take even more scary actions to keep them, my traitor brother, all their friends, every single solitary relative and aquaintance away from me forever. It was the only way. No regrets whatsoever. They will never change. I talk to 70 yr old women who need to escape from a 90 yr old toxic monster mother. Don’t wait that long on false hopes. Now I help others who need to do the same via my site. You must be absolutely ready & clear that total no contact is what must be done. I don’t have time to talk anyone into it. But if you’re facing it and want a life, I offer serious emotional support. I had no idea this would turn into a full time thing.
Thank you Andrew❣️ great video. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Some days are better than others when healing, but they are ALL better than the best days living in the fog. Stay strong everyone...the change may feel slow, but so worth it!
Your freedom starts from d day u realized that ur in narcissistic relationship, knowledge is power, thank you for your videos, iam trying but it’s not easy bcos mine is over 3 decades, d healing is slow
His first mistake was thinking I would never leave ..Yes, it lasted 2 yrs, but it's nothing in comparison with the rest of my life... It's been over a year & I learned a valuable lesson. If I continue to look at it that way, it's less of a sting, and I find myself rarely looking back. Life is good folks, let's not waste it on people who don't deserve our love. ❤️
The thought of her living happily ever after is killing me. She left me in financial and emotional ruin for "The One" in her mind. I can't stop obsessing about it.
@@nn0nx3j it's a door we need to slam shut, screwed, glued, bolted and welded shut permanently !!!! No contact !!! No contact !!!! Not now not ever again !!!
It's so crazy because even my daughter keeps saying he had the potential to have a beautiful "voluptuous" wife that he should have cherished. ( Before I was too anxiety ridden to swallow food anymore.. I can now though) He did everything in his power to make it end up the way it is. Maybe he got to steal my inheritance and maybe he gets to live in 2 houses and what the F ever. Maybe I'm living in my car. But my daughter has quit shaking when she talks in only one week!! and my stomach ulcers are healing so fast. Been carliving for a week. Don't regret it.
I'll never run out of "Thank You's" for your videos. I can play back any one of 'em and become vitalized. Veteran here. It's been an uncanny year with great luck I've found your channel and a few others. It gave me the impetus to block a couple of tag team Narcs and flying monkeys in a social group. Things were sacrificed, but it was worth it 100x. I kept the best of friends in that sizable group of which I never discussed any info.,as I know they wouldn't understand.Yesterday, I had lunch with the brightest of that old group, and surprisingly, he knew for years of the toxicity. You're right-"We are not alone." An ex-partner Narc came hoovering back recently, after over 15 yrs. But that story is for another day.----Always a "Thanks" to this sharing community! Reading your experiences help-Big time!🙏👍
I love your frown and head turn at the the end of your introduction. Your videos are very much appreciated and I watch nearly daily. The narcs and flying monkeys nearly had me convinced I was the problem. Your videos have shown me the truth. I'm now with people who love and appreciate me for who I am. Thank you Andrew. Carolinas are beautiful.
You were the one to open my eyes to what a narcissist is. It's been a year and I have take my power back. All the nastiness has come to the light. He lost his ass. His money,his reputation, his health( hiv and other horrible stuff). It was an emotional affair. So it doesn't affect me in the least. I have been celibate for a long time. The smear campaign failed. A private investigator was hired to follow me. They found nothing.I am serene, calm and looking forward to the future!!!!!!
I am already focusing on what I won't miss, also aware that I won't miss what I never had. Once I told him that I know what love is, and this isn't it....he made no comment. Thanks for helping to keep us strong.
Great video ! You will feel better when you leave . You can’t heal yourself in the relationship that’s destroying you . Save yourself life gets better and so does your health .good luck ❤️
I knew this was going to be powerful, the double sweep of your head followed by - think about that for a minute followed by a smile, on yea that’s a victory smile … bring it on! Isolation, supply seekers, doubt … I don’t need him, not financially or emotionally …. one way relationship 💯 keep your measly breadcrumbs NO MORE DRAMA …. Happiness Here I Come ❤️
Good video Andrew. Well after being discarded, I felt down sad , broken lonely I didn't think that I would ever be ok . Well I'm still here after being discarded a year ago, I'm healthier. My finances are almost back in order, I'm a lot better off . I'm still healing and growing learning and I will be ok. My ex narcissist has tried to contact me but I don't think anything he says Will matter anymore. There is nothing he can say that will ever make what he did to me better especially the way he discarded me. Thanks everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew.
The single most important point for me is when you said "life is not a competition, it is an adventure." When there is baiting, gaslighting follows. Do not get sucked in by guilt or arguments. Circumvent this baiting and focus on your adventure. I just withdrew from a writers group because one jealous person turned it into a competition in an attempt to control every conversation by relentless blabbing and interrupting. When I realized it was the aggressive part of passive aggressive personality disorder I texted her the Buddhist prayer sign when she attempted to pull me back then blocked her and continued on my adventure. She had destroyed the entire purpose of the group I started...turned it toxic by making it all about her. I could have let her suck me in by confronting her about her bad manners but that is pointless with a narcissist. I chose freedom and silence and a new adventure. The idea of having to "win" is a narcissist's trap. Life is an adventure, not a competition.
These videos are like medicine
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Good medicine 😊
Yes!!! Medicine for the ❤ heart, 🧠 mind, 🏋️body, and 💎 soul.
Maybe actually more like vitamins. Medicine is more for curing an illness/injury. But vitamins are for building/maintaining wellness. I suppose it depends on where one is on the spectrum away from a toxic relationship.
The best part of getting rid of a narcissist is the ability to sweep your life clean of all of the eggshells.
Amen! 🎯🎯🎯🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯
You may not know you've won because you're injured. Pursue healing.
I gave in to the hoover female CO worker hit me with a 3 week attention giving and seduction campaign. Now I'm back in the de value. Stage right back to where I was 4 months ago .
Any one who gets away from the narcissist has WON! Thank you for these videos!
I fucking win. I won. Fucken madhatters.
AND.. INTERESTINGLY ENOUGH... We actually won before we got in relationship.. I realized what when I went NC over 10 years ago with a sick NARC coworker.. I WON even BEFORE I met him.. I always have won... but.. being "nice person" I let him in and another... NC AND NEVER AGAIN!!!
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FREEDOM 🏆🙏🏻
So true despite the long climb 🙏
What the Narcissist doesn't understand is Good always overcomes Evil...
I think they know. That's why they're so angry.
@@JH-td4mn Yes... They are some very backwards, and confused creatures. It's just hard to make any sense out of their craziness. They lie, and they know that they are lying. But, they recreate in their minds (no conscience) that what they intentionally did to harm another is somehow "justified and right." Evil, sick, and twisted....
Amen
Entitlement is a powerful force
There is too much collateral damage. Narcissists are vindictive creatures. They will retaliate against you.
Of course we won.
Somebody who cannot be happy, no matter what, cannot win.
It’s not about winning. The main goal everyone should have is being able to focus on your own life and be carefree what the narcissist does. I feel like looking it like winning vs losing just muddies up the healing process and takes it down a more ego approach .
Thank you for your encouraging words , Andrew. We love you and are grateful for you ❤ God Bless 💕
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@All about Narcissism True but it's a double edged sword or "Catch 22" when it's your own family of origen (Parents, siblings, aunts uncles cousins). It's always a Catch 22 when dealing with these wicked people. No matter what you do, it's gonna hurt especially if it's your family. Because you have to give up having any kind of support system and inheritance. If it's just a romantic interest, then not so much.
The funny thing about narcs is, they believe that they ARE happy. Remember, narcs don't own their feelings. If they're miserable, then it has to be because someone else is making them miserable.
I am not in debt anymore...I don't have drama n my life, I am even more happier now, I have peace, and I don't have 2 take care of a grown man who did not work but felt as if he was entitled 2 everything...MY LIFE IS AWESOME NOW!!!
Yes!
Likewise 🎉🎉🎉
To anyone new and just now watching this. We know what you went through. We BELIEVE you. You didn't imagine it, it was insidious or blatant abuse. We know you can get through it because we did. You were not a fool, not stupid. You were abused and tricked into the situation. We were too. Whether you escaped or were discarded, we understand how difficult it was. Go as no contact as you can, keep going. My healing took longer than the relationship lasted. I won and you will win. I believe you.
Thank you for sharing this 💯💯☀️🙏❤️
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"Two reasons I don't compete:
1. You can’t have what’s mine.
2. I don’t want what’s yours."
Thank you for sharing 😌💯🙏
🙂You are welcome! My pleasure.
Great point.
“Don’t accept the Hoover”. Caught that. 🙏 yes, I won. Thanks for the education and reinforcement Andrew.
Welcome 🙌🙏😌
Good job
From a distance and being highly sensitive, you can feel their pain not having their way with you
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Yes my nervous system needs 'drama free'.
Thank you , Andrew 🙏✨
So true, my nervous system can’t handle drama either.
Amen to that sister! It's not a joke I feel you! It's beyond frazzled and fried, it's indescribable.
Hear you. I had anxiety in my knees after it ended
It was toxic and dangerous
Soul taking....slowly...
thank you for agreeing 135 ❤😊
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
You lived didn't you?
You're not going to make the same mistake again are you?
Then YOU WIN! \o/
I have more peace than I've ever had since being an innocent child. Everything is better with Peace. No more crazy making. I don't hate him. I'm going to be grateful for the training in my life. Smoke is clearing and I'm back on a better path. I have Joy.
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By getting rid of all the narcissists in my life I ended up almost alone... life 2.0 has started. This channel helps me recognizing narcissists and in staying on track.
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Out one year after thirty! Lost a beautiful son to this monster … run and never look back
I lost my oldest daughter. She is a hateful and vindictive creature like her mother. It is painful but you have to move on.
I lost my oldest son to this terrible daughter in law! And three flying monkeys her children!…. My Gkids!
I won. When I left on March 12 while he was on a camping trip, I left a letter and near the end I said "Game over, I win, you lose!"
Heavenly Grandma, 👍👍💖💜❤️✨✨
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I remember as a child my mother was reading the bible in the dark because we couldn’t afford to pay the electricity bill. I remember in that warm summer evening she specifically said “Mi hijo, there are people that wear multiple masks; they are ashamed to show their face. Be careful in this world”
It was meant to happen. These are they days that must happen.
Smart woman ❤️
Such wisdom.🙏 It can only be found when you quiet yourself. The Light was already filling the room, with the words that were being spoken. It is reassuring to know that there are many of us out there with this important hope filled message. That all things that are happening were part of His big plan. And our peace comes from knowing that He is in control. Even though our days are wretched with humans that we know are more broken than they tell us we are. By the grace of God, always. 🙏💚⚡
Beautiful words. Thank you for sharing this.
End days. Says in Timothy people will be lovers of self
@@franceshaggitt3104 Ludicrous thinking and not based on facts. You need to learn about narcissism to understand why they are that way. It certainly is no comfirmation of Timothy - or a rubber stamp of an old book. Get real!
I honestly cannot thank you enough for posting these videos. Im 19 years old and Ive just gotten out of a narcissistic relationship. I am too drained to explain my story, but I am so so thankful I stumbled across your channel. You have seriously helped me with my healing process. Lots of love from England 🇬🇧❤️ xx
Welcome 🙌🙏😌💯
Congratulations,I remember that "too drained" stage.
Well done you got out young at only 19 years old...I've just realised I've been in a narcissistic relationship for Nearly 19years! After being discarded by my wife soon to be ex wife, and I still feel like I dodged a bullet so consider yourself really lucky my friend 👍
Once we understand what’s been happening and we leave, we just keep getting stronger! Thank God for the hard times in life that teach us and we grow
You are not alone
Hi Andrew...I know when I finally can say I WON was the day the narcissist no longer matter to me and I was done!! I was no longer emotional attached!! The feeling when you know you've WON, is when the narcissist is no longer in your life!!😊
Namaste 🙏🏼 FINALLY FREE!!!!!!!
Congratulations Meka! Freedom is a wonderful thing.
Hear you. I ended it march. It was hell. Clever masked pos
Can stand to be in the same room with her, not to mention the car
I didnt think it was possible to come out of the fog, and at nearly 24 months its finally starting to clear. The world looks and is amazingly different and so peaceful and joyful. (2 birthdays on my own---they have been the best birthdays I've ever had!)
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Hi Andrew and all beautiful people Here THANKS,💜💙🤗🌟✨✨🙏🙏❤️
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Thank you.. yiu are amazing.. all this wonderful information you give of your time ... have a beautiful day 💛 🌻☘️
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I'm so glad it's over!
Thank you for being you, God Bless
My father was a malignant narc and my mom's sister is a narcissist. I was surrounded by them at a point in time. These people have something to teach us about living in this world: saveguard your energy, it's your most precious resource, do NOT give it all away.
These people taught me that this world would be a near paradise if they didn't exist (and rule over us presently).
@@reesedaniel5835 It certainly would go a long way toward healing the planet and its people.❤
My exact story from dad to mom to sister and being surrounded.. I have been surrounded my entire childhood and didn’t realize it but I knew something was wrong so I stayed away I returned after being educated so I won’t fall in same traps anymore !!! God is good I learn my lesson they are gutter snipping wrecking ball toddler in a adult physical body 😂
@@cc1k435 that's for sure.
That's exactly why they exist.
Wonderwall has some end-game wisdom here.
That is the answer to why "bad things happen to good people" and why there exists evil.
I was raised by a strict narc mother...
"Children are to be seen & not heard."
My father’s words exactly!
My parents very much the same. I feel I’ve been apologizing for existing my whole life. Super people pleaser, no boundaries, alcohol abuse… realizing I’ve been in not one but SEVERAL abusive Relationships…which all go back to childhood wounds.🖤🙏🏻💔
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The tide has turned in my life...I spent a lot of years feeling like I was not good enough...but now I know that I am. I have learned to like, love and accept myself for who God created me to be...and I am never going to allow myself to be sucked backwards again. Whatever life has in store for me, I will face it with positive thoughts and actions.
Great video Andrew...✌❤🤓😎😊🙏
Thank you 🙏😌💯🙌
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you are welcome Andrew 😊 and I thank you for creating this channel, I have learned so much for you and reading other survivors stories. It has been a safe place for healing...😊✌❤🤓😎🙏
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I have heard people say this to me before..you don"t even know when you are happy. This type of thing. I am glad you here to consistently drill in the facts about narcissism to all of us. Namaste ♥💚💛🧡💜🤎🤍
so blessed....
I'm 10 month out of a toxic relationship of 8 years, I have had to face this on my own without support as I don't have family or friends, your videos have helped me through the pain, thank you for the work you do to help people in this situation, I'm so grateful I found your channel. You have helped me so much ❤xx
1 month no contact, I redirect the love towards myself, cleaning and healing all areas in my life...I feel my heart open a new chapter. So grateful Andrew is here to uplift us, encouraging us live a better life without the abuser.
Hang in there! It gets better everyday!! Go no contact!! You Got this!! Keep Trying?!
If you are out, you have certainly won.
With your videos I could walk away and see the damage. I'm having a lot of fun healing. Love you for your strength, time, honesty and your no BULLSHIT attitude brother ❤️🫂
Yess!!
Me too bro
That is the most positive thought on the healing process I've ever seen. "I'm having a lot of fun." ❤😊
Yes, to new viewers, this is a safe place in which to participate, share, ask questions of the more experienced.
That side eye grin cracks me up everytime.Thank you 👍❤
Dodged a major bullet in the end. Took a long time, lots of years, loads of my energy, but I see the future of the narc and it is not good. I won’t be there to live the chaos anymore. Brighter days ahead.
I could of written you post. Good to hear you are doing well.
The feeling of winning I felt one day was driving on the freeway, seeing and experiencing things by myself. I didn’t feel the need to share it, and realized now there is no one that can say” who cares” or just glance and not care about something I care about. I get to find things that I enjoy seeing or doing and not be judged for it, or ignored.
I took a big deep breathe and told myself, “ this is gonna be a fun and enjoyable life again because I choose every aspect of it. I really wasn’t loved by this person, and what I see, think, and do does matter! I am just as valuable as anyone else in the world, and deserve just as much too. I’m not being selfish, I’m just finally able to be free within myself and be as adventurous as I feel like being, and pursue such good things for myself without being hindered.
Isn't it like going back to your childhood and seeing the potential fun and beauty in everything ❤
@@taz12184 yah such an open and hopeful future.
Same for me, and added to that I find myself really enjoyable to hang with. I never sulk or tantrum and I love new experiences. A day by myself is calming and fun. I like my essence!
BEAUTIFUL ❤❤
Any of you do not need the narc,live your best life and move forward and become completely indifferent to the narc. You never needed them. It was all an illusion
“There is a higher purpose for you” the bells in the background. 🔔 angels come through! ☀️
Brilliant and beautifully delivered. Look at over 130K winners here (that’s just the subscribed ones - certainly more on this winning team). Generally not competitive, but for survivors of all kinds of abuse, I cheer you on!!! Thank you 🙏 ❤ - healings happening in everywhere!
Thank you for this beautiful comment and may god bless you ❤️
Yeaaaaa!!!!🎉
Hi Chelsea. We are fortunate to know the truth. It will set us free to live a real life.
@@NikkiGRocks4Ever Hi Nikki, So true and blessed are we to have this rich wisdom. And to be able to share it with those who are ready to learn / embrace it!
Thank you❤
The only regret is I did not find your videos earlier. It would if saved me three years of my precious time. Never even knew what this demonic person was until I googled the behaviour. So real so true. It’s like a playbook they follow or something ……strange thing fir sure. 🎉 thank you Andrew keep educating people. Save empath lives keep sharing your wisdom.
@N Rosa. Me too. I wish I would have known earlier. I need to be grateful that I have the knowledge. I can make my life better.
We were together 52 years. He was a Vietnam War Combat Vet . Angry.
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I feel like I am getting angrier everyday thinking about the mess I created by letting these folks in my life. It is so stressful. Thanks for the words Andrew.
Welcome 😌🙏🙌
The ex went to my work and tried to get me fired ten years after the divorce. She was the one that demanded a divorce. That took place 15 years ago. I am still mad as Hell about that.
@@racebannon96 oh wow sorry to hear that happened. I’m really mad that the law is supporting him and his ex lying. 🤥. It’s so wrong and they created mischief now court letting them get away with it like it never happened
I let his whole family in. I am so dumb. It’s so hard to face.
Certainly doesn't feel like a win right now after a discard from a covert narc, and only a week later learning she's already on a dating site after our 5 yrs together. The trauma bond is feeling hopelessly difficult, and I'm having great stress and anxiety in trying to remain positive. Your teachings are greatly appreciated Andrew, and I realize there's going to be huge amounts of time and healing involved with this crushing ordeal. Much love and strength to all empaths and shining individuals traveling on the same path, and battling out of the fog of toxicity. 🌲🙏☀️🙏🌲
Namaste 💗
Namaste..😌🙏🙌
Love your videos... I have been no contact for two months now... still struggling but I consider myself lucky that I have only been in this mess for only 14 months and not 20 to 30 years like alot of people.. I have never imagined anything like this in my life.... you are helping me so much... thank you.
If you havent blocked the person, that's just ignoring, not no-contact.
Anyone with U in their corner will win U are incredible.
Keep hearing birds on surround they sound outside the window is open.
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I’ve never had real love in a romantic relationship. I spent 33 years with a narc married and discarded, lied to cheated on, my name forged and conned, hid huge debt. I gave him his divorce, so he could continue to live with his ns and not be married to me. Took me close to 4 years to heal. But now as you say. We do win and it’s hell to go through. But there is joy after the storm. Thank you
Well, I left the door cracked open after the breakup...just to coordinate the soft landing that I said I would provide her for the next two months (against the advice of my pastor, who said that I don't owe her a soft landing), and in the first week she was already sending me passive aggressive texts criticizing me. I got one before bed last night and then I immediately blocked her. There is just no winning when you try to engage the narc, sadly for them.
That's when they do the most damage. On the way out the door. Your pastor is correct.
Good for you, we are all trying to do this too. Well done in taking that step.
Sometimes a third party might HAVE to intervene, bbecause they truly care. My dear dear Mother just came and got one day, and got me away. It wasn't easy, I went to rehab, I didn't want to but, I needed it. It took me a long time to feel the enefits of my escape. Nowadays, is a much happier story ;)
Be brave, bite the ullet and put yourself first, because if you don't.......how are you going to be able to help others, as well as yourself ;)
my B button on my laptop is a bit broken. lol - sorry
You are inspiring!
Good job on the rehab woman.
I've won by finding this channel!
⚜️💪💯🙏☀️🎶me too, almost a year for me now on this channel a few time every day, every day. Thank god for this channel,Andrew and everyone.🤗😘😊
@@mariageaney2362 it's been transformational.🦋
@@emilywilson7308 🙏☀️the best journey...so far.💕🌺⚖️💪💯
Good people never lose 💪!
You can only lose them because you think you can do whatever you want with them.
I so appreciate your video's, I allowed myself to be isolated, and ended up drained emotionally, psychologically and now have a health issue ..so damaging. But so grateful to see the mask fall off. In the heal process. No relationship is worth losing yourself and your health. Thank you love and light 🙏❤
Ann. How do we survive financially at this stage? I finally figured the mother Narc out. But now a lot of the wreckage is traumatizing me - no job, no profession.
You are all WINNERS,you all have Great potential, be steadfast, deliberate in your actions towards a narc free life, focus on you and a lovely life, enjoy your hobbies and doing what brings you Happiness,light,love,and,inner peace to you all Here,,,, Winner's 🎶💫🌼❤️💖✨✨🌟🤗🌹🌸👏👏👏
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I am feeling getting myself again. 😊Thank you from my heart for your videos. I feel so blessed.
Welcome..💜🙏🌼
"Breadcrumbs of hope"... very true! They know exactly what they're doing and that's what hurts the most. Praying for a miracle to get me out and be amongst the 'winners' in this crazy evil battle.
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Excellent term, "Breadcrumbs of hope." I was involved with one for 6 years. Broken promises, Future Faking, and Breadcrumbs was what I got from her. She ghosted me three years ago. She did me a favor. Good luck to you.
Thank you Andrew, I escaped from a covert, malignant, psychopath, narcissist 4 months ago. It is only because of your messages that I realized what was happening to me. I never knew these people ever existed. The narcissist fog has lifted and I am aware of every lie and scheme he has ever pulled. It was a very painful and hurtful realization. I am fully equipped to go into the courtroom with him. I am no longer afraid of him. I feel such pity for him. Thanks to you ,my eyes have been OPENED. I have been dealing with CPTSD. Nightmares, flashbacks and guilt trips. I also have been physically ill due to all of the trauma I have endured but, the freedom I feel is indescribable. I am working on self care and forgiveness. I have easily forgiven him. I do not want the bitterness in my heart. Thanks to YOU, I am on my healing journey. Thanks to your channel, I have learned so very much. Praise be to God for giving me the strength to leave, and praise God for the healing work that you are doing Everyday. We all appreciate your help , God bless you Andrew. Virtual hug coming your way, lots of love, Just Jen.
Silence is power silence is winning silence is ignoring silence is telling lotta things
Thank you Andrew!! I look forward to seeing and hearing from you everyday. My ex last night texted me with her heart emojis and her faked kindness. Telling me how now she realized she made a mistake. But listening to you gives me the strength and wisdom to understand it’s just a facade. I count my blessings everyday knowing I found you and your wisdom!! I honestly appreciate you, take care 😊👊🏻
You got this, Wade. Don't let her Hoover you back!
She realized before during and after !
Why haven't you blocked n go no contact???
@@ireneharris4104 Its hard for men to go no contact
Hi Wade..Block that crazy woman.
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When I first started watching your videos, I had no idea I had won! I was so confused. I felt like I was going crazy! Now, 4 years later( he died 4 years ago), I won a game I didn't even know I was playing. Thank you, Andrew, for your insight!
Welcome 😌🙏🙌
Hej @sajor1847! "I won a game I didn't even know I was playing." Thank you for nutshelling this and for your sharing. My narc husband died 3-years ago...bye bye and happy trails.
I remember coming home from the grocery store with tuna fish for my lunch. She started an hour long argument because it was tuna in oil instead of tuna in water.
I didn't know what a narcissist relationship was, but suffered for 40 years. Last year I physically and mentally collapsed, I was unable to sleep , walk or think. My wife literally cleaned our savings and left me penniless and homeless, then told me how I should beg to her for what I would need in the future. She systematically destroyed my relations with children and all my friends , with the most hideous lies imaginable.
I am now alone trying to heal from this satanic damage, I am unable to walk with ease( Although the hospital tests showed no physical evidence). My mind is totally disintegrated and unable to think with balance anymore.
I’m sorry to hear, that you too, have been through this, as myself have spent 40 years of my life, with a narcissist not knowing. Each day that goes by and I start to reflect back on our relationship, moving forward with nothing, beats still being in a relationship, that was Nothing. Best wishes!
OMG yes about the flipping the script. He's pulled this on me many times. UGH! I'm recognizing this now and when he pulls it on me, I just ignore it, and kinda smirk knowing I have it figured out, will not engage and think to myself "you are soooo predictable!"
My ex-narc just contacted me because she needs URGENT help with something. She concludes by telling me not to act like "an immature weirdo." The latter is a reference to my calling her out on the discard and her desire to sleep with a 20-year-old (she was 52). I am not responding. She might be on the verge of getting evicted which means she may have to move in with her mother in another state and basically end easy access to her social life, which she absolutely needs for validation. It's a bit confusing because it triggers the good in me to help her out, but I also know that it will not be appreciated and it will not be a road to a healthy relationship, but only to the return to the deceit, manipulation, and abuse that existed before. No thanks.
There was a time with the first narcissist husband that i got yelled at and called horrible things b/c I bought the "wrong" brand of spaghetti sauce..after he passed I remember the first time I went food shopping & realized I can buy whatever brand I want not what HE wants and no one will yell at me. The second narcissist husband wasn't controlling like the first one...he was too busy financially abusing me and future faking. Glad to be out of both relationships. The first husband passed away, the second one I divorced. Haven't seen Narc 2 in almost 3 months and for real the longer I have no contact with him I feel my energy levels getting higher. I didn't need either narcissist. Both of them overall did not bring happiness to my life. Only drama and tears. This time, after getting rid of Narc 2, I am educating myself and realizing patterns in my own life that attracted toxic people. No more...done with the drama.
Brother! You are totally on point!RUN- do not Walk.Block the Takers!
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💯💯👍 I feel that I won my best life back. And it is a so precious gift. I am so grateful everyday to be narc free at last and have all the tools to keep them away from me forever. And YES forever! Love this video Andrew, thank you. Have a wonderful evening coach❤🤗🙌🙏
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@@mariefrancebourget1749 This was a great video today.
@@jessmason2112 I agree, as always very informative. Have a wonderful afternoon and evening. 🤗🙌🙏
@@mariefrancebourget1749 Thank you 🙏 Mrs. Marie you too have a great evening 🌚.
I’ve recently parted ways with yet another narcissist and he treated me exactly like my ex. At first he started off charming and then as soon as I said that I no longer wanted a relationship he started acting cold. He brought his friend into our business and allowed him to talk for him and disrespect me, he talked about my faults though I apologized multiple times, he doesn’t listen to me and almost makes fun of my feelings like they don’t matter and everything that comes out of my mouth is bullshit and he manipulates and gaslights me to make me feel bad about myself. I also found out that I’m addicted to being emotionally abused, but I will not give up and I will continue to fight. My story is not yet done. Thank you for helping me stay self aware Andrew. And to those struggling also don’t give up, if I can do it then so can you. 💛💛💛💯💯💯🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yes, We All Won! Out of the crazy making and daily agony! Financial health still trying to get on track. I had a great job, though that ended last Thursday (20th, April.). Things had changed at work and I was a place holder. I have already got a volunteer position at the Food Bank were I live. I had all that Andrew, but can throw it all off and go forward to be myself again. Courage, belief, grit, is what I had to have! Yes that bright shining light is still in me and peace is mine, new friends to enjoy and beautiful places to visit. Its good to be a winner and to not care what the Narcissist does anymore. Love to All the Family Tribe Members! Namaste
Thank you SO much for this video! After more than 13 years I feel so free & happy with myself! No contact was key to my recovery after thirty years of abuse. Now my ex narc husband is alone, broke & sick. I feel so grateful to be alive because I know he would have ultimately murdered me if the marriage had continued.
Hey Andrew! Hope you’re enjoying your day! Today I’m realizing just how BIG I won when the relationship ended, that’s all I can say. I’m VERY grateful not to be communicating with him anymore. 🙏🙏🙏😌 I’m even MORE grateful to have the friends that I do on here. FOREVER grateful for that!!! 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗 Love y’all SO much!
Thanks, Jennifer. You are a sweetie pie!🥧
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Amen. Grateful for it resonates on high 🙌 ❤️💪🤗
Its good to have a community that understands
@@flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel Yes! If you explained it to someone about the narc experience, they wouldn't believe you! It's so ridiculous! Or I should say "preposterous!"🤪
I got away!! I thought I could not, but GOD SAVED ME!! I trust God and GAIN ssssooooo MUCH STRENGTH!! If I can do it, you can too!! 😅❤ YEEEESSSSS!!! Back to peace, joy and happiness!! ❤🎉 I LOVE ME! ❤💜
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Thank you
He was always hiding out when I was with friends. Was not even social. It was very embarrassing. I started moving on to be with people. Now those same people are my source of friendship. To be authentic is witnessed by others.
I have options, I’m growing & feeling inspired to what life can be again. 😊 ❤
What a joyous way to begin my day!
I went no contact with my narcissistic father 4 months ago. I had spent decades giving to him wonderful gifts, much attention and became a successful physician, hoping for his approval.
It never happened. I put up with years of verbal abuse.
It is over! I am healing and seeing a new and happier me!
Thank you for helping us with our new lives!
Glad to hear someone talk about getting away from a sick, toxic parent. I had to do that. I had to move to another country and take even more scary actions to keep them, my traitor brother, all their friends, every single solitary relative and aquaintance away from me forever. It was the only way. No regrets whatsoever. They will never change. I talk to 70 yr old women who need to escape from a 90 yr old toxic monster mother. Don’t wait that long on false hopes. Now I help others who need to do the same via my site. You must be absolutely ready & clear that total no contact is what must be done. I don’t have time to talk anyone into it. But if you’re facing it and want a life, I offer serious emotional support. I had no idea this would turn into a full time thing.
🎉yes I am healed!! I am counciling and helping others!!
Fantastic!🎉
I'm heading that way I went back to college to study towards that goal and do volunteer work with the red cross and Samaritan's to help others
I am recently freed from a narc relationship. I Need more info on the healing process
Thank you Andrew❣️ great video. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Some days are better than others when healing, but they are ALL better than the best days living in the fog. Stay strong everyone...the change may feel slow, but so worth it!
Your freedom starts from d day u realized that ur in narcissistic relationship, knowledge is power, thank you for your videos, iam trying but it’s not easy bcos mine is over 3 decades, d healing is slow
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His first mistake was thinking I would never leave ..Yes, it lasted 2 yrs, but it's nothing in comparison with the rest of my life... It's been over a year & I learned a valuable lesson. If I continue to look at it that way, it's less of a sting, and I find myself rarely looking back. Life is good folks, let's not waste it on people who don't deserve our love. ❤️
Mine was two years. Split twice. So knew flags there but was weak when met. Fooled. Now alone free but lonely
The thought of her living happily ever after is killing me. She left me in financial and emotional ruin for "The One" in her mind. I can't stop obsessing about it.
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There is no "happily ever after" with them, only new victims. Be careful with obsession it's a door they leave open.
@@nn0nx3j it's a door we need to slam shut, screwed, glued, bolted and welded shut permanently !!!!
No contact !!! No contact !!!!
Not now not ever again !!!
She’s not happy, she doesn’t know how to be. But now you get to be, because you get to decide. You got this, it’s not worth it.
It's so crazy because even my daughter keeps saying he had the potential to have a beautiful "voluptuous" wife that he should have cherished. ( Before I was too anxiety ridden to swallow food anymore.. I can now though) He did everything in his power to make it end up the way it is. Maybe he got to steal my inheritance and maybe he gets to live in 2 houses and what the F ever. Maybe I'm living in my car. But my daughter has quit shaking when she talks in only one week!! and my stomach ulcers are healing so fast. Been carliving for a week. Don't regret it.
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I'll never run out of "Thank You's" for your videos. I can play back any one of 'em and become vitalized. Veteran here. It's been an uncanny year with great luck I've found your channel and a few others. It gave me the impetus to block a couple of tag team Narcs and flying monkeys in a social group. Things were sacrificed, but it was worth it 100x. I kept the best of friends in that sizable group of which I never discussed any info.,as I know they wouldn't understand.Yesterday, I had lunch with the brightest of that old group, and surprisingly, he knew for years of the toxicity. You're right-"We are not alone." An ex-partner Narc came hoovering back recently, after over 15 yrs. But that story is for another day.----Always a "Thanks" to this sharing community! Reading your experiences help-Big time!🙏👍
You are a nice man so I am sorry that you got hurt. Welcome to America; have a prosperous and wonderful life ❤
I did take my power back but I wish i could wipe my memory clean and just be numb instead.
The grocery store and airplane tickets 🤣 💯 percent
They want you isolated. With them. They have you get rid of all your friends. You are on your own. But God is still there for you.
I love your frown and head turn at the the end of your introduction. Your videos are very much appreciated and I watch nearly daily. The narcs and flying monkeys nearly had me convinced I was the problem. Your videos have shown me the truth. I'm now with people who love and appreciate me for who I am. Thank you Andrew. Carolinas are beautiful.
Andrew said ALL that needed to be said❤❤❤❤
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You were the one to open my eyes to what a narcissist is. It's been a year and I have take my power back. All the nastiness has come to the light. He lost his ass. His money,his reputation, his health( hiv and other horrible stuff). It was an emotional affair. So it doesn't affect me in the least. I have been celibate for a long time. The smear campaign failed. A private investigator was hired to follow me. They found nothing.I am serene, calm and looking forward to the future!!!!!!
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I am already focusing on what I won't miss, also aware that I won't miss what I never had. Once I told him that I know what love is, and this isn't it....he made no comment. Thanks for helping to keep us strong.
Yes they give in at end they know we know
Thank you Andrew for another wonderful video!😀 Thankfully I am free from the trauma bond. We all are winners!
My ex said I would never win! Well I know I have my peace and my life back and I can breathe easy and feel safe and secure. That’s winning.
Yes bro preach 🙌 it... for years I've felt mentally enslaved and bound up inside...time to unwind all the control and inner words binding us to them.
Even just the title of this video... before I watched it ... made me smile.. and think... Thats true ... I Won!!.. Now I know !!!
Thanks Andrew.!!
"and btw don't accept the hoover"- so true. Thanks
Great video ! You will feel better when you leave . You can’t heal yourself in the relationship that’s destroying you . Save yourself life gets better and so does your health .good luck ❤️
I love that smile,and that little sideways glance. Always makes me smile! 🙏💞🙏
I totally relate to everything you said. I am grateful to no longer be in that situation. ❤
I knew this was going to be powerful, the double sweep of your head followed by - think about that for a minute followed by a smile, on yea that’s a victory smile … bring it on! Isolation, supply seekers, doubt … I don’t need him, not financially or emotionally …. one way relationship 💯 keep your measly breadcrumbs NO MORE DRAMA …. Happiness Here I Come ❤️
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Couldn't have said it better! Thank you, Andrew. You are a welcome oasis for us all lost in a vast desert of hostile narc crap!!
Again...thank you!
My nervous system needs a drama free life. Thanks for giving such insight to move forward & heal!! Grateful to have found your channel.
Thank you Andrew!!! 😘😘😘 Your have a beautiful smile.
Good video Andrew. Well after being discarded, I felt down sad , broken lonely I didn't think that I would ever be ok . Well I'm still here after being discarded a year ago, I'm healthier. My finances are almost back in order, I'm a lot better off . I'm still healing and growing learning and I will be ok. My ex narcissist has tried to contact me but I don't think anything he says Will matter anymore. There is nothing he can say that will ever make what he did to me better especially the way he discarded me. Thanks everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew.
The single most important point for me is when you said "life is not a competition, it is an adventure." When there is baiting, gaslighting follows. Do not get sucked in by guilt or arguments. Circumvent this baiting and focus on your adventure. I just withdrew from a writers group because one jealous person turned it into a competition in an attempt to control every conversation by relentless blabbing and interrupting. When I realized it was the aggressive part of passive aggressive personality disorder I texted her the Buddhist prayer sign when she attempted to pull me back then blocked her and continued on my adventure. She had destroyed the entire purpose of the group I started...turned it toxic by making it all about her. I could have let her suck me in by confronting her about her bad manners but that is pointless with a narcissist. I chose freedom and silence and a new adventure. The idea of having to "win" is a narcissist's trap. Life is an adventure, not a competition.
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Thank you, Andrew. Love and gratitude for you, and to you.
You hit the nail on head! Exactly to the T! Thank you for sharing the information!❤