This is a presentation I did at Virginia Commonwealth University on May 4, 2014. I discuss the impact of ADHD on College Students on through Adulthood.
Lol... I excel at many things except being able to set boundaries on my time. He and I are the same age. Back then they said you outgrew it. I was diagnosed at 5, had to drink coffee before during and after school thru about 5th grade. Began taking Adderall about 4 years ago. I do much better in transitioning between issues... but I hate how flat I felt. Here trying to learn how to stop working 14-15 hr days.
Femke hey LOL. Interesting that you picked up on that. Clearly, I am scattered all over the place. One comment was that all of the drinking was distracting. Thank you for watching. I hope you found it helpful.
It's true I thrive in a chaotic work setting. Can't stand being at a desk all day. Loved working at in n out back in the day. I was focused because I feel like I could do everything all at the same time and excel and stand out.
I got "That's just your ADHD brain" to "I should get a bass again..." the other day. My ADHD brain does love bouncing from hobby to hobby. At least it's a semi-oval path. I almost always come back to the same few hobbies.
My husband waited for me to get my official diagnosis because he thought it was my new "investigation of the month". Now I realize that all those "fads" I went through all my life was just hyperfocus and impulsive curiosity...
My partner had wandered into our home office and sat down just as he said that and I heard this chuckling that wasn't my own. The smug look on his face. "He really nailed that, didn't he?" Yeah.
@@BasedOverflow there are ways you can build the structure that the pandemic has taken away. You should look into getting an ADHD Coach. That can be very helpful.
"I was the kid that never read the book, but through the conversation in class could kind of pick up on it enough to kind of have a good idea...." dude... this is me to a T. I can't tell you how many times I would be in class drawing or staring out the window, only to get called on and somehow know the exact answer, despite not paying attention or studying. When it came time for the test, I'd study for 15 minutes and pass no problem... but if you asked me to sit there and pay attention to every single thing going on, I couldn't do it for the life of me.
Kyle Broussard thanks for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I hope you found something helpful in the presentation. Please spread the word and share it with anyone you think would benefit.
@@roberttudisco4798 do you recommend medication? I am beginning to notice I have always had this... But only now that I have more adult responsibilities it is beginning to plague me and my relationships.
Kyle Broussard i am not a doctor, and I think that whether or not to medicate is a personal choice. But I can say that I have been medicating for over 20 years. For me it has been very effective, and it has made a very positive impact on my life. But my medication is only a part of managing my ADHD. Running has also been extremely helpful, as is working with coaches and developing coping strategies.
@@roberttudisco4798 I have exercised about 2 times every day since about age 6 when I started competitive sports. I am 100% the inattentive type of ADHD, which seems to be less prevalent in males. But when I was younger I could sit there and draw all day, filling up a whole notebook. Not paying attention a lick in class. Go home read the book, and do fine. As I've gotten older though this undiagnosed ADHD has put a strain on literally every relationship I have in life. As well as professionally. I know now I should be medicated. I know it's my personality traits that makes long term friendships hard to maintain. I am emotionally sensitive to things that don't matter and don't care about things I should. But... I still can't help like this is a superpower in a way - when I find something I like I can focus on it for 10+ hours straight no problem. But ask me to clean my room and you'd think I was in a torture chamber. I could remember the last 50 people I met, their names, and every story they told me, but I couldn't find my keys I put down 7 minutes ago. I made my girlfriend of almost 2 years watch a multitude of videos on ADHD to understand why I am this way. Forgetting to answer texts or calls, being late to events, etc... anyway you can disappoint a woman and make them feel like you're a boy and not a man... I've done it unconsciously as a result of the way I am. But luckily she understands. I still feel like even with exercise, I have such a hard time doing literally almost anything I don't want to do. And I know it sounds petty, but that's truly how I feel and I really don't know what do about it besides medicate. I am 25 now and at a crossroads in life where if I don't conquer or get a grip on this soon I fear I will not be able to function as a normal, balanced adult... And always fall into the same cycles, resulting in being alone.
I dropped out of university because of depression and anxiety, I wasn't yet diagnosed with ADHD, but looking back now it's rather obvious to me that ADHD was the cause of me just barely making it through my entire school career, and then in conclusion not being able to handle the pressure of higher education.
I could have written your comment word for word because my story is exactly the same. I’m 49 and recently applied to finally try finishing my degree after 27 years. Don’t wait to get help and start treatment kids. I should be getting close to retirement and instead I’m still trying to get my life together.
A proffesor in high school once asked me if I had ADHD. At the time I thought nothing of it. I should have payed more attention to it, cuz its killing me in uni. I almost cried watching this. It makes me feel good to know that I am not just crazy, or lazy like people tried to tell me I was my whole life. It feels really good to know.
I was not diagnosed til last year, at 52!! I have always been my own bully. Like having a really bad parent in your head telling you you are stupid/an idiot... ‘What is WRONG with you???!’ when I yet again organised my son’s sock draw or the kitchen ‘stuff’ draw rather than do my tax return or follow up that customer proposal!! Am doing it right now! Meant to be at my dad’s 30 mins away in 3 mins and am still in my jamas watching this brilliant presentation!! (Forgot to take my lisdex this morning!!)
I was undiagnosed I'm now 24 always wondered why I could not achieve my goals especially academically. I finished top of my class in high school school, 7 years later I still haven't finished my undergraduate degree. It was only a few weeks that I self medicated and I'm seeing great results. Medication and discipline I'm finally tapping into the my full Brain power.
i cant belieave how much ive just learnt from this ive only just be diagnosed at 28 years old and this is teaching me things about myself good presentation thank you xD
I hear you... I had to find ways around myself after I kept getting fired from jobs when I was in my 20s. I was trying to find ways to end the rejection - it was heartbreaking, but after a while, I succeeded.
I loved the bit about "I never read the books but I pieced together things and led the discussions" because that was me in University. I got on so well with my professors because I participated so well in class, but I struggled so much with coursework. Back then, I didn't know, and I wish I did, but I know now, and I think that's pretty good.
thats the only thing I could relate to, I also have social anxiety so I NEVER participated in class. I always silently distracted myself with my own thoughts and stories going on in my head.
Wish I could do my high school and university years over again, because I wasted so much time, energy and knowledge from having undiagnosed ADD... Looking back, I know I got it from my dad and he got it from his mom....
So true! I never did the readings but I engage in class, asked questions and wrote from intuition and passion (in courses I was interested in lols) on the essays...in the end, the profs recognized I was bringing a fresh perspective to the table...even if my writing was filled with fragments and run-on sentences...the ideas were there.
Also, I use so much energy in school by doing this that I knocked out every day in the car before my mom even drove us out of the parking lot, and I never woke up until it was time to go to school the next day. This was my sign to get on medication.
The "Is this gonna be your new thing" also hit me, but in a different way, When I was 21 I realised I had ADHD, so I told my parents and they said the same thing, they said is this going to be the new thing you use to excuse your bad decisions? and they totally ignored me, and I got so angry, so discouraged, so sad, that I decided that even if I had ADHD I wasn't going to give them the satisfaction of failing, but since they weren't behind me on it, I didn't have the guts to go to therapy on my own, and I thought I could deal alone with it, cue to, 12 years of messing up because of ADHD and just ignoring i and struggling all over, then pandemic hit and I had a meltdown because of the change of rut, and finally I got officially diagnosed... in the 8 months I have been diagnosed I have done more, learned more and realized more than I had in those 12 years...I wish there more people to make kids realize having ADHD is not a bad thing, and parents too so that they would stop shaming their kids and driving them to not want therapy or meds :(
@@GregstarLP well, I just started medication (2 months), but I am still figuring out dosage, and time, and when to take it, I'm in therapy for all the things that I notice that I can't control, and my therapist gives me strategies. But the biggest thing that has changed me is education, I read something and say :what! That's adhd? And then next time I start doing it I can try and stop it, examples are maladaptive daydreaming, moods , rejection sensitive disphoria and the other thing is knowing, finally giving up tons of neurotypical attention/ focus/organization practices that will never work for me, it's sad in the beginning because I thought they were good things, but then I let go of them and you start to live. If you are starting and want more info, go to meme pages on insta /tumblr/pinterest the information there is easier to understand and it helps you deal because it's funny, when I was 21 I went to a bunch of official pages and it was all kinda confusing and hard to browse (because it's a huge spectrum, many things won't apply to you) but with memes... It's fast easy and visual, I hope you have a smooth journey of discovery :)
@@dametiempo8540 haha already binge watched all kind of stuff like the ADHD thread on Reddit and your right with the medicinal websites then I read this I am questioning myself if I could even have this then reading certain things but I have made huge list of a lot symptom showing situations since my childhood yesterday and its very clear that I have it. It feels so good to understand big parts of your life and find people who have been through the same crises :)
@@GregstarLP you will also notice, we write similarly, we eat a bunch of words, and have really long run on sentences. There is an excellent book called driven to distraction, I got the audiobook, and I loved it because all the book is written with anecdotes of patients that the doctor has treated (he has adhd too) and he talks about the different subtypes (not only inattentive and hiperactive, he goes more in depth and specific) he talks about meds, and the stories are all very relatable, he talks about relationship, family and work problems too. it's a great book to start to familiarize yourself with all the nuances and how wide the spectrum is, the book is a bit dated, but most of the advice holds true still (but since it's old he doesn't talk about rejection sensitive dysphoria) . I hope that you can see all our deficiencies and not get discouraged but rather look for new ways to tackle old problems, the Additude podcast and magazine are great too, also beware! Many young people that discover they have adhd have a rebellious phase were they get angry and don't want people to tell them what they can't and can do, what they should or should not take, and start trying to prove other people wrong, this is why a diagnosis from a professional is important too, once there is no doubt about the diagnosis, you stop wanting to prove everyone wrong, and you start trying to work with what you have (which is also plenty, but we don't know how to use it) . Have an excellent journey of self-discovery ; may it be enlightening but not overwhelming.
I’m looking into ADHD and ADD because I think I may have it, came across this video daily for the past few weeks, but always skipped it because it’s so long. Your comment gave me the motivation to finally tackle the video. :D
@@roberttudisco4798 is there a place I can find your poem written? I want to print it off and put it on my fridge. I literally teared up listening to it. I’ve been tormenting myself for years thinking something I had a superpower of intense streams of thought that came with an equally debilitating self-destructive curse. I needed this thank you 🙏🏻
@@SignedWithJohnny I would be happy to send you a pdf if you email me at robert@roberttudisco.com. And when you get it, you need not ask my permission to share it. It was written to be shared.
Evie Fyre thank you for sticking with me to the end, and for taking the time to comment. I hope you found something useful. Please feel free to share it with anyone who you think would benefit.
I'm really struggling at university and I got diagnosed with ADD only 4 months ago after having been through a very hard semester. The description and experiences you tell about, are just exactly what I have been fighting with all my life. Being diagnosed at age 23, I can only look back and realize how the educational system destroys people, who does not know why they are different. Your speech is very empowering!
folmerify Thank you for your kind words about the presentation. I am glad you found it helpful. Thank you for watching. Please help spread to the word to those you think might benefit.
Same story like me. I went to the doctor when I was 23 because of Depression. Really hard depression. My second diagnosis was ADHD. I get different medication and I feel back to alive. My life quality and University is going much more better.
Even I got diagnosed just over a year back at age 25 after being misdiagnosed multiple times. I struggled all through medical School taking more time than all of my classmates complete the program. Internship was especially difficult. I would always end up blaming myself and wallowing in self pity. I've been on atomoxetine for the past year now (Adderall and Ritalin are not sold in India) and I can't put into mere words how my life has changed since then. Getting over the mental block that I used to experience before itself had an immense impact on my life. I do struggle with issued of low self esteem and self pity but I'm sure I'll be able to over come those issues too in the near future. Good luck to everyone fighting ADHD
At around 6:25, what you say about the need for chaos, causing it or putting oneself into a chaotic situation to then feel that rush/stimulation, this is something i both do and consider often as a fix-it solution whenever i end up in a place in life where i'm not happy or feel like things are just not satisfying anymore. I've never heard this phenomenon be talked about before, but it is so true, in a time of crisis or chaos there's little room to daydream and more importantly no option to procrastinate. Through my entire life i have always left tasks to the last minute, strangely it was only in those last minutes/hours/days that i could write that essay or do the homework. In school we are generally given 1-3 weeks to do assignments or write a big essay, i barely acknowledge the essays' existence upon first receiving it, it's only when faced with the sudden deadline and the feeling of the unavoidable impending doom awaiting me if i do not complete the task, that i finally receive a jolt powerful enough to make me do the work. You spoke with a clear and confident voice, funny, informative. This is a video i really needed to see as someone with ADHD who is having trouble with it at the moment, thanks for posting the video. You've helped me get back on a track of self improvement, first stop is ADHD Coaching, something which i urgently need in my life.
Well, my life is falling apart and I feel like there is no hope for me. All I’ve ever wanted is a mindset that doesn’t begin with an expectation of failure. I’m so tired of hating myself for this. Everyday I wake up and ask God for a new brain. When that brain never comes and I’m still stuck hating myself for how I am, I find videos like this to be therapeutic. Say what you must about my bullshit life, but it feels great to know that I’m not the only one exhausted from being eaten alive every day of my fucking life. I just hope in being thrown in the waters of each new day, we all learn how to swim.
John Raiden take comfort in knowing that you are definitely not alone. There are a lot of us out here just like you. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment.
@@beckamax74, I just saw your comment and wonder how your daughter is doing? She may do very well with skills type classes if the scholarly stuff frustrates her. Adhd people are profoundly creative and often do well with carpentry, or shop of some sort. I do renovations. Glad women can do that these days.
College has been impossible for me. The thing you did with the applying late for class is me every semester and it has extended my stay in college longer than it should have and has made me feel like dropping out. I feel like screaming in the frustration at the sort of paralysis I experience. It’s messed with my sense of self worth my sense of intelligence everything.
Self torture really hit me. I wasn't diagnosed as a kid and struggled to understand myself while I was going through my undergrad. Now I am starting my master's and figuring out this new understanding myself and now I understand that so much of my youth was spent beating myself up. I never knew
Lez-B-real87 I put myself that very often. But it is something people from the outside just don’t understand. It was my hope that I could let people with ADHD know that they are not alone and also to let those around them understand our internal frustrations.
vice2vursa thank you for watching. I know what it is like to try to explain to outsiders. Especially, when they are a close part of your life. It took my father many years to come around. He was extremely skeptical with me. He eventually came around seeing the impact I had on others. You are not alone. There are a lot of us out here just like you.
@@roberttudisco4798 thank you for the response. I actually plan on showing your video to my parents. I need someone else who actually knows what they are talking about to talk some sense into my parents.
vice2vursa remember something. In addition to him not understanding, there might also be a bit of defensiveness for not getting you help when you were younger. I sensed a bit of that as well with my parents.
I'm a student about to start college this fall and I watched this video because my mom forced me to. I honestly didn't expect to find any interest in this video, assuming that it was a retelling of all the information I've already heard about ADHD, but I ended up enjoying this video a lot. It really helped me delve into my own personality and look at how I think in different perspectives. I'd also like to say how awesome it is that you still respond to comments on this video even though it's over two years old. You're a really great role model for anybody struggling with ADHD. Thank you so much for your time and everything you do.
Kylar, thank you so much for your kind words, but more for letting me know that this presentation was helpful to you in some way. That is why I do what I do. Good luck in school and please let me know if you have any questions.
Zenith Dreamer hey man question do you play video games? For me I feel like I defeated adhd from playing years of video games that are story driving. Idk maybe you should try it
@@1artillery1 How did that help you overcome ADHD? Curious because I started playing story driven games last year and I think I'm having ADHD symptoms, but I'm not sure how the two link.
@@h.nqv1939 for me what I gain from playing video games was focusing on the task at hand since having adhd as a child I could never focus on one task or even complete it.. focusing is the key to overcoming adhd video games gave me that.
23 and still struggling so hard. I've been working at a bachelor's for 5 years now and it still feels ages away and I'm not getting better. However, lectures like these always seem to help me feel better because they help me stop telling myself I'm lazy and stupid because every time I am shocked at how when lecturers describe ADHD it is exactly what I'm going through and I feel vindicated and not alone. Your story about sitting there after school with a pit in your stomach for hours was so so so much what I feel daily, I have never heard someone else also describe the exact exact feeling I feel and have gone through for a decade now. I have ADHD and I am not alone, this is real and I am not stupid or lazy.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. While I try to put as much information into presentations like this, I think the most important message is that you are not alone. There are a lot of us out there who struggle similarly. That alone can be very comforting.
I got the same Eric. A couple of examples: As a kid it used to be sat in my room staring into space or crying on my page. At uni it was Playing GTA instead of revising for a final exams/ doing assignments but still having the looming feeling and anxiety the whole time. Exactly how he explained it.
Hearing your anecdote about lying on the floor as a child bc of not being able to start your work despite knowing the consequences felt like a slap in the face -- I'm literally watching this lecture instead of starting to write a paper that is due in 3 hours
As a newly diagnosed ADHD adult (and recent law prof burnout - which prompted an investigation into ADHD), I’m so delighted to have stumbled across this fabulous talk whilst falling down different rabbit holes on social media about ADHD. Utterly marvellous content delivered by a clear, powerful and exceptionally entertaining speaker. You’re an awesome advocate for people of all ages with ADHD and this talk remains timely, as well as having relevance for a large number of audiences. Thank you so much for this talk - for many of us it may well be transformative. ❤
Similar car story happened to me too in HS. A friend told me “look at this Snapchat. Someone left their car running in the lot all day.” I said “what an absolute dumbass” and then saw the pic and realized it was my car. Wasn’t even in a rush when I parked. Was going for over 3 hrs. Didn’t realize I was missing my keys the whole time. And, the school lot had recently had a spat of thefts.
tptnny thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. It can be equally challenging for both the person with ADHD and the non ADHD spouse. I like to say “I don’t suffer from ADHD. I HAVE ADHD. My wife suffers from ADHD because she is married to me and is along for the ride.
“We live outside the box.” I’m 32 and have struggled with some phantom thing my whole life. Because of this video, I’m going to pursue diagnosis. From one poet to another, thank you so much for the work you’re doing and have done. -Kiley
Thank you Kiley for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I’m flattered that you would consider me a poet. That poem was just something I had to write. If you want a copy, you can email me at robert@roberttudisco.com and I will send you a pdf.
I’m 10 years (kept changing majors) into a Bachelors degree, and I absolutely relate to your perspective as a student who gathers so much during a class room conversation. I still wish I could give a lecture on the subject matter instead of concrete short answer questions. I am so involved, often to the disdain of other students, when it comes to discussing the material. I want to talk it out, not read it through an online class! 😬 I start panicking about group projects and try to force myself to see the due date a week or more ahead to stay calm. It’s amazing to hear your personal experience, as it really solidifies that I am just functioning the best way my brain knows how. Thanks! All schools should have a speaker that the whole staff and students listen too! Save a lot of time wasted on self-destructive thought processes and irreparable damage to the psyche.
Oh, I so understand this. Communication, and connecting dots with people who get it. But study groups stress me out because they all work too fast for me on homework. You are not alone with ten years for the bachelor 🤗
It's so great to see someone out there doing this. And you have such passion for it. I have severe adult ADHD and am making it a life goal to understand it better as well as educate others :)
Wow. That story you told about you keeping papers in your line of sight was so relateable. I have a million notes on my phone that I wrote down to remember stuff, but I've still forgotten to act on them because they weren't in my line of sight at the time I needed to do the thing. Dude, you're awesome! Thanks a bunch for making this video.
Angelisa Craig thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. The line of sight issue can be a problem and be messy to most. It can be overwhelming. The only thing you can do is try to develop some type of system for the items you have out. Looking messy isn’t the issue. The only thing that matters is whether you can find what you need at any given time. Thank you again for watching and for your kind words. Please share it with anyone you think might benefit. Sometimes it helps for those without ADHD so they can understand us.
THIS. I am successful person, but dealing with anxiety and depression since I entered to University 10 years ago. I was fine living with anxiolytics, but nothing helped with my lack of concentration on any task. I passed through 2 psychiatrist that never asked me enough, although I always addressed about my lack on concentration and procrastination. Last April, I set an appointment with a very good psychiatrist who tested me for many mental illnesses. For the moment, he gave me anxiolytics and antidepressants. After a lot of conversation, he told me I have adult ADD and now EVERYTHING make sense. Your video summarizes who I am. My sister doesn’t think I have ADD since I do well in my work but, I know how much stress I give to myself because I stress out when I perform poorly only bc my own fault.
You speak as though you've been in my body. I'm currently a student with ADHD, and I have aspirations of going to law school. Watching this video to see someone like me who is now a successful lawyer and speaker is very motivating.
"Rob, is this gonna be your new thing?" Man, that really got me. That and you talking about how as a kid you knew you couldn't watch TV until you did your homework, but you just couldn't bring yourself to do it. Oh man, as I'm typing this, I honestly teared up a little. Also, you mentioning being able to BS your way through class conversations? That's been my entire high school and early college LIFE. I'm so good with talking my way in conversations, and in person, if a lecture is engaging & I'm allowed to talk and question the professor, I can perform really well and have a lot of fun learning. So, sooo many classes aren't like that and it kills me. My chemistry classes here are flipped classroom, ie you teach yourself and do examples in class. I'm struggling so hard with it, because in class, I'll do great learning! But by then, I'm already way too far behind, I've missed homework and reading checks and I just don't want to study. Being a college student with undiagnosed ADHD sucks. I'm hoping to get a professional diagnosis and get accommodations from my university soon.
e.m. fitzgibbon thank you for watching. Get diagnosed and get some form of treatment right away. I promise it will make a huge difference in your life. Good luck!
I hope things are well for you and your whatever you're doing, you're enjoying. As a middle aged guy with emotional trauma from my ADHD, definitely get into a doctor and confront it now. There's so many bumps and bruises you get unnecessarily with unmanaged ADHD, and you don't need always "know" when you get them, till later.
"I have ADHD, but my wife suffers from it", that for me was indication this gentlemen really knows what he is talking about. 8D Only one thing makes me doubt I have ADHD (haven't been officially diagnosed yet) - addictions. Never had anything like that, I'm absolutely indifferent to alcohol or other substances, no craving for gambling or other risks, so unless chocolate, videogames, pop-sci articles and videos, books and my obsession with music counts as addictions, I have none. P.S. And yes, my kid _is_ hyperactive, and it's much more noticeable than what I had in my childhood. But any mentioning of my possible ADHD problems to my wife falls on deaf ears, she says I'm just lazy and looking for an excuse.
this was posted a long time ago, but from what I understand and my own experience, chocolate (and sugar in general) actually is addictive. so can be video games and books (the need to escape the reality, to leave the problems and obligations behind so you don't have to deal with them, the feeling of gratification in games when clearing another level/upgrading gear, etc). I think most things can be addictive if approached in an unhealthy way, because it can be about seeking pleasure and avoiding pain to an excessive degree.
TotalRookie_LV That sucks she is closed minded and doesn't care to give the thought a chance. All I could suggest is to ignore her comments like, your lazy. Understand, that she doesn't understand, and that her statements stem from conjecture. With the limited knowledge she has, she concludes a judgement. I don't know what her demeanor is, but if she really cares, when knowledge is gained on the topic she should have a change of thought and be more understanding. If she doesn't care much, than I would think she would dismiss it and call it an excuse. You can't help others until you help yourself. You will have times of having 2 steps forward and 1 step back and times that mirror that. Those times of 2 steps back really throw a wrench in everything and make getting your pace back more difficult. Don't get discouraged and know there's always another day. I hope you get to a point of getting proper help and acknowledgement with your issue and your relationship doesn't sour before then.
Sadly my wife was not supportive of my journey this far. I just got my official diagnosis an hour ago... Let's see how this goes. She too said I'm lazy and looking for something to blame. I too have ADHD and my wife suffers from it.
Guys, calm down. First, my wife isn't stupid, she might have even higher IQ than I do. Second, she does change her mind little by little, after all, our kid is a very obvious example right before us. We even went to a psychologist together, our kid filled some tests, they showed he has high cognitive abilities, especially in math, but is lagging behind his peers in moral skills, like he at that point was 2-3 classes ahead of others, yet behaved like he should be in kindergarten, not school, which is just what should be expected, if it is ADHD. However, we haven't done brain scan, to be absolutely certain.
This one was really sad, for me. It was like watching someone else telling MY story. But it's also the fairytale version. In my real life, there's nobody I trust enough to ask for help, ESPECIALLY the doctors. I've tried, and at best I get ignored. More often, I'm dumped, like trash. So I do the best I can. I've learned many of the coping skills discussed here on my own. I drink a lot of coffee. And I try to pass on these coping skills to my son, who shows signs as well. He's already doing better than I ever did. He's old enough that he's helping me now too. Mostly I do pretty good on most days. But something like this is a reminder of the barrier between me and the world. It can be lonely over here.
Christian Swensen thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment. You are definitely not alone. There are a lot of us out here just like you. There is help out there, but sometimes it is hard to find. There are also a lot of organizations like CHADD and ADDA. CHADD Chapters all over the country can put you in touch with doctors that can help.
It's funny how we come up with all this mechanisms to cope with these thoughts. Kinda makes sense now why "Thinking Fast and Slow" was one of my favorite books. I was just diagnosed a month ago with ADHD (inattentive). It explains: why I've locked my keys in my car several times, lost my wallet 4 times, been paranoid of forgetting everything, digress throughout my research papers, etc., but even with all these symptoms, I still feel like blaming it on a disorder is a cop-out for not being adaptable to your environment. Maybe it's because it's difficult to discern which traits are responsible for this intrinsic lack of executive functioning. I really enjoyed your speech by they way. I needed some light-hearted and funny.
Found this to be very informative. I just got diagnosed with combined type (inattentive and hyperactive) and it has changed my entire life. My grades are up, my relationships are getting better. ADHD is not an excuse it's an explanation, it's like someone finding out they are blind and finally getting glasses! Thank you so much, I love how passionate you are and how you advocate for better education for ADHD!
Richard Galax thank you for watching the presentation and for reaching out to me. I’m glad you found something helpful in the video. Please spread the word and share it with anyone who you think it might help. Also, please let me know if your school has a visiting speaker program. Of all the presentations I do, speaking to students is my favorite.
@@roberttudisco4798 I'll be sure to send this video to all my friends and family. I will also ask around my university if they have a guest speakers program!
I love this so much I shared it on my practice's page. I not only have ADHD but have kids with it and am a pediatrician that treats it. I am so passionate about advocating for and educating about ADHD.
This makes me want to cry, I wish teachers understood adhd just that bit at the beginning reminding us that it is a neurological condition and not my fault was just so meaningful, thank you for educating about it.
Hedda Skår Blokhin thank you for watching and for your kind words. I am often asked about that poem. The truth is that when you write something from your heart, the greatest gift it brings is knowing that it touched someone else’s. Thank You!
@@roberttudisco4798 I plan to type out that poem and add your name to the bottom.. and give it to EACH teacher my son has. He's nine and in third grade.
Wow, coming back to this video after first seeing it 2 years ago and it's like night and day. Unfortunately I failed out of college but from that I'm on the tail end of starting my own business. I realized towards the end what I was studying for I had no interest in and was only there because the job market for that field was open. Now, in starting a business doing something I'm truly passionate and enthusiastic about. I can talk for hours about it. I can't wait to open the doors!
For those that lose keys...I used to have that problem. And I have locked my keys in my car....one time. I made it a point to put ONLY my keys in my right pocket (never anything else bc I had change in my pocket that one time and it made me think it was my keys). My phone is the ONLY thing that goes in my left pocket. Then I wear cargo shorts in case I need to carry other things. Btw, the keys NEVER leave the pocket. If I need my keys and belt the next day, I'll leave them in and on my pants that I wore today, then swap them over in the morning when i decide what to wear that day. Occasionally I'll take them out, but when i see them and remember, I'll get them off the same spot on the counter or night stand and put them in the other pants exactly when I'm thinking of it. Plus I do a 3 tap every time when I'm walking out the door; right pocket, keys - check...left pocket, phone - check....rear pocket, wallet - check. With that being said, if i don't put my 3 year olds shoes on before we go out the door (thinking, I'll come back and grab them), ill forget them 90% of the time.
RyanTreks Left pocket is phone only, wallet and keys are right pocket only. And I pat check before I go anywhere or leave anywhere. I still lock my keys in the car constantly though lol
I randomly came across this video after failing 2 pre-calc tests. I couldn't focus, i kept scanning the room, seeing other students get up and leave after they were done was making me more anxious, my mind was just blank. The craziest part was i knew the material. I KNEW i knew the material. I just couldn't recall it on command and its incredibly frustrating.
Manuel, I completely understand your frustration. I've been there. ADHD can be like a paralysis preventing you from doing what you know you can otherwise do. That is an enormous source of anxiety and frustration. I have no magic solutions to offer you, other than to say that you are definitely not alone. It takes time to develop coping mechanisms, but it begins with looking inside of yourself. Medication can also be helpful, exercise and also working with a coach. Thank you for watching my video and for letting me know your thoughts and frustrations.
Robert Tudisco thank you for making the video. It really gave me a lot to think about. Similarly to your situation, when i was in the military i excelled at what i did. I thought by that point i at least could control my ADHD, as i knew i couldn't outgrow it or get rid of it. So when i got out i figured I'd go to college and focus on my career. I never realized until now just how much of a boon and hinderence my ADHD was. It's also very difficult to convey to my professors how exactly my brain works. Thanks again.
I am 31 years old and was JUST diagnosed with ADHD. Reading about the symptoms and struggles that go along with it (for the first time ever) brought such intense feelings of relief as I have been battling myself tirelessly for years to figure out what the hell is wrong with me. This was such a great presentation that gave excellent stories - many of which I could certainly relate to - as well as useful tools on how to find support, cope, and move forward without the shame. Thank you so much for putting this up. More please!!! :)
thevisuallady Thank you for your kind words about my poem. I get a lot of emotional emails from parents and kids about it. I've written many articles over the years, but that poem is the thing I am most proud of. When you write something from your heart, the greatest gift you can get is knowing that it touched someone else's.
29:20 "I couldn't believe when we brought my son to college all the facilities he had access to!" Me, in October 2020: *wallows in my dorm as my PE class has ended, the school gym is locked and key thrown out, and snow is starting to cover the campus bike trails*
He spoke so much truth! I can identify with his lecture and all of his examples. For so many years I blamed myself for being different and all I wanted to do was to be normal! I struggle everyday at work and school but now I understand why. Ever since I was diagnosed last year I have been educating myself in the subject and learning ways to cope with ADHD and Anxiety
Thank you so much Robert. I am 51. Just diagnosed. Just entering law practice. Everything is adding up. Thank goodness I have this diagnosis now, which is also why I am such a late starter to a career at all, by the way. Thank you. Went for a run this morning even though it was raining, in response to your talk here.
Annette wow. Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. I’m glad you found something useful in the presentation. Good luck on your law practice.
I can always pay attention to someone like you, someone that has energy, that moves, that speaks kind of fast, that sounds like he enjoys what he is talking about. If you are slow and I can see that you are not hyped, 99% I will fall asleep despite the subject, without being able to stop from falling asleep
One of the things that resonated with me you were talking about waiting last minute to sign up with your college courses and being a participant in class to get a spot. I also struggle with social anxiety at times, but every time I've been in class I can engage with, there's some switch that flips on inside of me and I cannot shut the hell up.
Michael L. Bowie in a way, you have to look at the positive side. In many ways it can be a coping mechanism if you use it to your advantage. Thanks for watching. I hope you found something useful. Please feel free to share it with anyone you think would benefit. Also, please let me know if your school has a visiting lecturers program. I speak at schools all over.
Lmao this is me too! I wasn't like that in high school and middle school because my social anxiety was so bad, but it's gotten better and I find myself not shutting up in class (starting my second week of my placement tomorrow for my college course) and the only thing that makes me not overdo it is my social anxiety and worrying that everyone in class is telling me to shut up in their heads lol. Sometimes I don't say anything but I'm about to burst, wanting to say whatever I'm thinking.
I have been struggling with this for my whole life. I felt the need to be an A+ student. I always self critique myself for not being able to focus on college. I can work well in high paced workplaces but I have been burning out recently. You've helped me so much. I was able to watch the whole video. I concentrated without even trying, and I related to everything mentioned. I will be taking these steps to better myself and my interactions with others. I can't wait to do things I enjoy again without feeling like I'm too slow or unresponsive. Thank you so much
ᄋᄉᄋC you are very welcome. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I’m glad you found something helpful in the presentation and I hope you will share this message with others.
Man the self torture stuff hit home. I masked really well as a kid, on the outside I was straight A and I got the results, was years ahead academically, etc. On the inside I was so terrified of getting anything wrong and being classed as worthless. College (still undiagnosed) was where I got the "At least you have the potential and the ambition, you're clearly good, but you just need to get better at managing projects and time" talk. I cried when it happened, because no one had ever divorced my value from my output like that before and it was amazing. Took me another 9 years to get diagnosed. I'm just there NOW. And the hindsight is... Interesting
wow this was an incredible video!! i’m finishing my second year in college, have been diagnosed for a couple of years, but have only been able to get/start treatment a few months ago. it was hard trying to find someone who would be willing to treat me (i go to school out of state, so that was an issue in terms of my primary care doctor not being in state) and most psychiatrists i reached out to weren’t willing to prescribe me medicine because of the fact i’m a college student and they didn’t want me going around selling the drugs on campus. i can understand that concern, but i (have now learned) that i desperately needed medication to help me and i was basically being denied access to something that could help me function. so the stigma around stimulants and college students has always bothered me because the fact they abuse it, sell it, and give the medicine a bad rep, has prevented me from getting the help i need. so eventually i found a psychiatrist who has been absolutely incredible, but i didn’t find her until the beginning of my fourth semester. i really wish i had help sooner (like before college) because i have struggled more the past two years (academically, but also in all other aspects since i’m living away from home and on my own, so executive dysfunction has become even worse of an issue) than i ever have before. lol anyways, the point i wanted to leave a comment was to thank you for such an incredible speech. i wish i had seen this years ago, or before/just after i was diagnosed, because i know this is exactly what i needed to hear at the time. i felt broken and different and was constantly struggling to do such simple tasks, i never understood why i was made “wrong” and why i had to put in 20x more effort and time on tasks when comparing myself to my friends and peers. your video is exceptional, and i appreciated hearing your personal stories. also i love the references to Driven to Distraction, because that was one of the first books i read when i was first diagnosed. thank you so much for this, it was so refreshing and relatable to hear such a great speech about adhd from someone who actually has adhd, and isn’t just some doctor that studied it.
Thank you for watching my video and for taking the time to write a comment. You are definitely not broken. There are two things that are very important to remember. You are not better or worse, you are just different AND more importantly, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are a lot of us out here just like you. Please feel free to share this video with anyone you think would benefit from it, and let me know if your school would be interested in a presentation like this.
Good analogy about people with ADHD creating crisis situations as a way of prioritizing which "plane to land first". Yes, that makes sense to me, I always have something that I need to get done but will do everything except the thing that needs to get done until that "plane" is literally out of fuel and is coming in to crash land. So this leads to "self-torture". First time that I have heard that term but it describes the process of procrastination and inaction perfectly.
I didn’t know that I had ADHD most of my life because I had a misconception that it was just a matter of high motor energy and restlessness or something. We need people like this because this is extremely serious for some people. For example: 1) I have a 155 IQ, but nearly flunked every grade in school, and was at the very bottom of class rank in high school. I was able to get to college by using my IQ to find and take neurotransmitter precursors and lots of caffeine... still having no clue what how or why. I used to be adamantly against medication. 2) I was kicked out of graduate school because of my ADHD. I never worked on anything harder in my life... but people got pissed off at me because of my ADHD. 3) I used to get 2-3 traffic tickets a year. Once on a 5 hour trip I got 2 speeding tickets because I was so upset and distracted by the first one... both COMPLETELY by accident. Speed traps are basically ADHD traps. When I started on medication I STOPPED getting tickets. Like completely for years now. No tickets. Like flipping a switch. 3) I am late a lot and was fired from really good jobs I needed and worked hard at twice. Because of being late. I have lost friends and mostly didn’t have friends until medication because no one could put up with me. 4) I actually cried and thanked god when I first took the medication because I realized that I could go do and be all the things humans are supposed to do and be! I started to realize that I could be ME! I could plan and carry out my goals. And I did! 5) when I take adderall, I start to yawn, and I get calm and relaxed, and I have no problems sleeping. 😳🤔 It’s weird. I can have friends now. No one can even conceive of the pain of being super intelligent but unable to hold plans in your mind, or have time sense, or to be unable to actually do anything with it. It’s like living in hell. Then the loss of friends who think you are an immoral or bad person because where they live and judge their life -that place- doesn’t exist for you. No one can conceptualize it understand that. 6) A serious girlfriend I had when I was 25 said “either you are the most forgetful person in the world or you have Alzheimer’s!!!” 😐🤦♀️💩😭 And literally could not conceive that anyone who forgot could possibly care about the things that they forgot... once I forgot to pick up my last paycheck at my job. A weeks pay. Yep. 10 years later the “unclaimed funds” department of the state contacted me and I got the money 😐. Then there was the time that I forgot a $10,000.00 pension fund. 15 years later they tracked me down and sent me something and I was like “oh yeah..:!” I bring up these two money things to illustrate how importance has NO bearing on whether I will forget something or not. I have forgotten important things for my own social and career objectives too. Medication enabled me to begin to have a life. 7) I have been through multiple bankruptcies. Before medication. People completely don’t understand how important medications are for ADHD people. It’s not laziness or wanting drugs for recreational purposes. They are LIFE SAVING. 8) I am divorced partly because I couldn’t even begin to work on who I was or what I wanted... because life was such an ongoing unplanned disaster. 9) I watched many professors use my ideas and build careers on literally small aspects of my thinking while I floundered and could not make a career. Even though I have more than enough mental ability. More than 99% of people. 10) Medication was an absolute magic bullet for me. Everyone noticed. I already did all the stuff that you can do to force yourself to do the things that you are not set up to do. In college I put a huge rubber band on my wrist and a bag of Reese’s Pieces in front of me and either snap the fuck out of my wrist or take a piece depending on whether I finished reading each page or not. That was just ONE thing I did... and all of it was EXHAUSTING. ADD medication is a frickin godsend miracle as important as insulin or heart medication. Life-saving. Seriously. I tried to make this appear organized with numbers but then I saw 2 number 3,s... I left it in because here it is appropriate 🤦♀️ Anyway thanks for this awesome video ❤️😎🙏🏻
Stephanie Romer thank you for watching. I’m glad you found something helpful. I agree it is a serious issue. Please help me spread the word. I would like to do a lot more of these at colleges all over the country.
I was so enthralled with reading about your experiences that I didn’t even notice the two 3’s. Lol But wow… thank you so much for sharing! Stories like yours give me hope for when I finally get to see a doctor to refer me to a psychiatrist who can diagnose me and help me find the right treatment. I’m thinking of doing all three options; Meds, cognitive behavioral therapy and getting a coach.
gotta say listening to this while drawing an architectural map of my campus for orientation day ,just before my deadline today when I had the whole week given is my fav hobby 🙏
I am a visual thinker and a kinesthetic processor. The hidden emotional turmoil inside of me has been like a raging sea with sudden, dramatic weather changes. The hardest part, I think, has been allowing myself to take this seriously even though most people in my closest circles don't. Being misunderstood, misjudged, and caricatured with bad-character-trait stereotypes is so painful. The bright side is it makes presentations like this so cathartic, at the deepest level. It gives my childhood, teenage saga, and early young adult years grace and understanding.
I have ADHD and interestingly I excelled in school because I somehow ended up being able to funnel the constant need for mental stimulation and habitual procrastination into a frantic thirst for knowledge. Given I was naturally intelligent and good at picking up on things, but I often went into classes knowing a lot of the information that was going to be taught so I could whip through the assignments like some kind of savant without ever taking notes or in some cases in college not coming to class unless there was a test or assignment due and still get straight A's. However, with all that said if I didn't do assignments as soon as they were assigned I would let them build up until suddenly I had five papers due at the end of the week and it would become one of the most stressful weeks of my life because I have a terrible time being able to schedule things out more than a week or two in advance.
As someone with ADHD, the fact that you have responded to SO many comments blows my mind. Text messages, emails, etc are so overwhelming to me to keep up with. But this video made me feel so heard. It’s so frustrating when people can’t fully understand how my brain works. It’s so relieving to hear others talk about it and make me feel less alone. Great presentation! Definitely sending to my parents haha they’ll love this. Especially my dad who has adhd, you remind me a lot of him :)
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment. I am glad you found the information helpful. I think that there is an enormous amount of comfort in knowing that you are not alone. The purpose was to reach those with ADHD to put their frustrations into words and also to help those without understand what it is like to see the world through our eyes.
This is the best descriptive video I have ever watched on ADHD(and I’ve watched ‘them all’!). Among all of your valuable insights, I’d like to make one suggestion: in the airplane analogy, perhaps in future talks, instead of saying ‘one plane has a bomb on board’, you might say ‘one passenger is having a heart attack’? Since it’s just an example, better to avoid the connotations of terrorism and divert the focus to a positive ‘crisis’ than a negative one? Just my opinion...you are a rockstar! Thank you.
Sarah R thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. I appreciate your kind words, but more importantly, I appreciate your suggestion. Every time I use that bomb analogy I inwardly hope that I am not offending anyone, but use it to convey the emergency. I tried once to say running out of gas, but that doesn’t convey the impact. Your suggestion is perfect. Thank you SO MUCH. Feedback is incredibly helpful and I genuinely try to respond to all comments if I can.
I'm doing a bit of necroposting, but I can't stress enough how useful was this talk. I'm currently doing a project for college about ADHD, and I stumbled upon this while searching for material to work it. I was also diagnosed with ADHD not long ago, so everything you said resonated with me, even 10 years after this. Thanks a bunch.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I’m glad you found the presentation helpful. Please share it with anyone you think it could help.
The amount of college papers that were written in a backwards manor, where the paper was written first with the outline written from the paper, and written the night before, or the morning it was due with the ink still drying when it was. turned in.
Thank you!! I recognized the "paralysis" in my son a long time ago. I noticed the similarities to the paralysis in the movie "Awakenings" with Robin Williams. If you think about it, the condition of those patients involved dopamine too. It is the end of another semester, and as usual, my husband and I a realizing how many planes my son has had circling while we nagged him all semester to stop playing his video games and do his school work. He has certainly done a bang up job of creating his chaos for the end of this semester. Thanks for at least helping some with understanding the inexplicable.
So glad to have found this (listened while cleaning my office, maybe I'm a kinesthetic processor too)! I was diagnosed not long ago, and all of a sudden it was like the rest of the puzzle to which I'd previously only held one piece. I live in the Deep South, and the analogy I've found best gets the message across to people is that it's like I have a dirty spark plug. I can turn the key all I want, but that engine's only getting ignited about one time in ten, and only if I keep turning.
Not getting into the hot classes because - I never got there in time to earn a place - worked also well for me as I discovered my nerdy side and the fun in super hard theoretical stuff, because in those classes there were always more then enough places. Also I really loved having classes with only 5-9 students in, as the discussion could go so much deeper, it was not as noisy..
Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching. I hope you found something helpful. I would be happy to send you a copy of the poem if you email me at robert@roberttudisco.com.
I had to abandon an IS/IT career because of adult ADD. I had a lot of good skills (my bosses acknowledged this), but those jobs involve so much organization, planning, and team collaboration, all at which I failed terribly. And throw in the fact that I'm not a type A personality, and it was all a big train wreck. I'm now training for another career which should leverage more of my strengths.
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year. It has been a struggle to accept it but it has also brought a lot of relief. Your video just helped me recognize many things that I need to work through - creating accountability and not with my husband but other people, looking at my failures & seeing what worked and what didn’t, accepting that I need to learn to find coping strategies for my ADHD and the list goes on 😂. But what really hit the head on the nail is your poem… I felt heard & loved & that I need to be kinder to myself because I am capable even with ADHD. Thank you very much.
I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you for putting this up. I am a law student who just got a referral to get testing for ADHD. As I’m listening to this, so much of it rings true for me, and it makes me feel better to see someone who was able to graduate with a law degree before getting diagnosed.
soulfulpizza14 thank you for watching. I hope you found something useful. While it can be difficult, there are aspects of ADHD that are helpful in practicing law, especially in representing people with ADHD and other disabilities. Good luck and let me know how it turns out.
i'm in college at the moment & am watching this on 1.5x speed and ALSO had to rewind a few times bc i stopped paying attention but i watched this whole video through in one sitting because this is the most heard & understood i've ever felt!! thank you so so so much! i'm gonna talk to my mom about getting tested!!
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I’m glad you found something valuable in the presentation. Remember, you are not alone. There are a lot of us out here just like you.
I was diagnosed and I have cognitive hyperactivity like you. The mainstream assumption that hyperactivity is someone bouncing off the walls kept me from figuring out I have ADHD. It also makes people less likely to believe me if I tell them I have ADHD. This video was very helpful
Brad The Great I totally understand what you mean. So many people have said that to me as well. “I’m surprised you have ADHD. You were never that hyperactive as a kid.” I think part of it is inaccurate memories of people, but also not understanding the cognitive side. Thanks for watching. I hope you found something helpful in the presentation. And please spread the word.
I first listened to your lecture seven years ago when I was suggested that I have undiagnosed ADHD. I failed again with my master's degree, but I understood myself better. After two years post-diagnosis, medication and life adjustment, I am now on my sixth attempt for the degree and hopefully the last and the successful one. Your lecture soothes me from time to time.
YOU, MY MAN!! ARE MORE THAN A SAINT. Thisd medical doctor thinks you are passionate , have openened yourself up to embarrising scrutinty, large hearted, and change a high number of stuggling individuals. Listerners, please take the time. This is long but every word is both amusing and enlightening.
who else is watching this at 2x speed,,, and doing something else,,, and had to skip back because they spaced out and weren’t paying attention,,, and had to pause it and do something else because it’s such a long video,,, but related to it SO SO much
You aren't lazy. You aren't dumb. You aren't broken. You're just neuro-atypical. Its like every power has a side effect. If you dont wanna do medications; try exercise, meditation, Journaling, and go get an activity like MMA. Skydiving. Something thats BADASS. These things give you outlets and outside activity to help you access time.
This video was so helpful...I was recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and am still connecting the dots. It's really amazing when you find something that explains "why am I like this" and make a plan to make it better.
You hit the nail on the head. I've always been the Tasmanian devil. I can concentrate with undivided attention for numerous hours once I get in the zone, however, the rest of life is a complete mystery. My grandson thinks I'm just crazy... little does he know. I have no sense of time. IQ off the chart and no consistency whatsoever. I excel at my work and left to my own devices can not complete a project (not uncommon to have 17 or more projects going at one time. In the middle of 6 or more books at the same time, etc. So scattered I often have no idea where I am or what I am trying to do. Thanks
I don't normally listen to anything that is for college students but this came up automatically, so glad it did as it was not only incredibly informative but also entertaining. Thank you
Just watched this after turning in an unfinished paper late and not doing my other homework assignment due to my inability to sit down and JUST DO IT. I legit sat there for a while staring at my laptop with the problems in my face and could not do any of it no matter how hard I tried to start. After realizing how my future could be in jeopardy (currently a college sophomore), I decided to find ways to focus and do better in school, but I somehow ended up here and do not regret it. I related to so many things said in this video, (especially the feeling of dread when you know you should be doing an assignment) and it has made me seriously consider seeing someone about the possibility of having adhd. Definitely going to try and exercise or check out that book to see if that helps any.
You literally just described how I feel right now. It's my first year of college and I literally can't get myself to start my assignments, the worst thing is I know my work/future is in jeopardy but I just can't start the assignments. I tell myself u have time it's not due till 11:59 but it's already 9 pm and I still can't start it so I give up. I feel so stupid rn
@@jennhypp5367 I'm in the exact same position. It's my first year and I'm already struggling. I was diagnosed at 12 years old but have never medicated for it because I guess I wanted to test my own abilities. I've done well in school up until now. Doesn't help that I have ASD and you almost need to be hypersocial to get through university.
Oh, my god, sir. It's like you're me. I have never really been able to articulate what goes on inside me in a way people can understand or take seriously. Everything you said cut right through the mess. I can use your words. You have given me new words to speak for myself. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 31 and have been learning more and more about this condition over the last 13 years. I wish to god I had known earlier in my life. Thank you for this presentation and for everything you do on our behalf.
Erin Robinson thank you for watching, for reaching out and for your kind words. You are not alone. There are many of us out here just like you. Please share the presentation with others you think it might help.
Economics were two favorite courses, besides Intermediate French, my favorite courses. I love the "Camelot" soundtrack. Relaxing but not distracting. I still study with it on. I like to write legal briefs!
This is a very old but very helpful video....it summarised my whole university life...always late...very disorganised...my mind is always all over the place...I lose every little thing...I did recently diagnose myself with ADHD and I'm soo glad TH-cam recommended this video..very helpful👌
Thank u so much for this information as it explains a lot about me even though I've never seen a psychologist. I remember getting A grades in primary school and failing dramatically in high school. Right now I'm struggling with forgetfulness and organizing my studying time or anything educational to be specific. I usually fail my maths but if somebody ask me if I'm poor at it, I say no because I know myself. Sometimes I would study maths in a way that shut out the fun things in life like playing, when I'm focused. As a result I would get and A. But when the main exam comes, I try to study but can't motivate myself to study even though the paper was due tomorrow. I would wonder to myself why I can't learn maths like the way I do some months ago. This was last year. Same applies for other subjects.I know I'm smart and I like science and want to become a doctor, but it's impossible because think that I'll kill my patients by forgetting the place where I put the surgical knife. Thank u.
This is truly a great video, Rob! Thank you for explaining ADHD in terms that are so understandable to adults with ADHD. Your message is very applicable to college students and young adults with ADHD, but also to adults (like you!) who were diagnosed after they got through college (and even law school!), but became overwhelmed with the responsibilities of the "grown-up" world, e.g., the daily stresses of working, paying bills, and having a family. Good for you for coming up with so many helpful strategies on how to deal with your brilliant, active ADHD brain - and sharing those strategies with others!
Thank you so much Camille for watching and spreading the word. You were there live, so it means a lot to me that you actually sat through it again on TH-cam.
Camille - I just got notified that this video passed 65,000 views earlier this week. I am looking back through comments and came upon yours. Thank you for your support and validation. If I could figure out how to make a living doing presentations like this, I wouldn't practice law any more. I would love to develop presentations for colleges and speak on a regular basis. Maybe someday.
Wow, just watched this and about cried with the poem at the end. My 7 yo son is struggling and we are snow seeking help. He’s so bright but head in the clouds during class time. I played Mozart For him at bedtime the other night and he asked me every night since to play the “piano guy” for him at bedtime. This video helped me understand myself Better as a self diagnosed adult and to help ground myself as how to help my child.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I also appreciate your kind words about my poem. If you like, you can email me at robert@roberttudisco.com and I will send you a pdf of the poem for him.
Rarely a day will go by where i dont leave something at home when leaving in the morning and have to go back inside, usualy happens about 3 to 4 times before i get evertthing. Trying to stick to a to do list is so hard its like my brain just cant process structure lol ive just been diagnosed at 26. I remember at college i would also find it very hard to sit in class for long periods without taking a walk to the bathroom just to get out of class.
Great video Mr Tudisco. There was a lot of great material from this video. Right now I'm taking time off from college after having some difficulties with procrastination and organization. It's not easy, but I'm using this quarantine time to slowly build up good habits and to figure out how I can learn the best. Thanks for all the videos you put out on your channel, and also for being active in the comment section.
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I have ADHD and instead of studying for my final tomorrow, I watched this.
CrogBear thank you for watching and I hope the information was helpful. I just hope I didn't distract you from studying.
Hopefully there was _some_ benefit in the long run! If you see this (4y later) let us know!
Same here! 😀
Lol... I excel at many things except being able to set boundaries on my time. He and I are the same age. Back then they said you outgrew it. I was diagnosed at 5, had to drink coffee before during and after school thru about 5th grade.
Began taking Adderall about 4 years ago. I do much better in transitioning between issues... but I hate how flat I felt. Here trying to learn how to stop working 14-15 hr days.
Same I’m really behind in school and I’m watching this
I love the way that he's drinking water from 4 different cups. Truly chaotic good energy
Femke hey LOL. Interesting that you picked up on that. Clearly, I am scattered all over the place. One comment was that all of the drinking was distracting. Thank you for watching. I hope you found it helpful.
@@roberttudisco4798 no i enjoyed it! It was a realy Great speech and indeed very helpful :)
I line them up because I move so much, I always want one to be within arms reach.
It's true I thrive in a chaotic work setting. Can't stand being at a desk all day. Loved working at in n out back in the day. I was focused because I feel like I could do everything all at the same time and excel and stand out.
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That hit me so hard.
Michael Wronkowski people always seem to find that funny.
I got "That's just your ADHD brain" to "I should get a bass again..." the other day. My ADHD brain does love bouncing from hobby to hobby. At least it's a semi-oval path. I almost always come back to the same few hobbies.
My husband waited for me to get my official diagnosis because he thought it was my new "investigation of the month". Now I realize that all those "fads" I went through all my life was just hyperfocus and impulsive curiosity...
My partner had wandered into our home office and sat down just as he said that and I heard this chuckling that wasn't my own. The smug look on his face. "He really nailed that, didn't he?" Yeah.
LOL
"I'm not lazy or stupid." If I had a nickel for every time I've said exactly this . . .
There is comfort in knowing you are not alone.
@@BasedOverflow there are ways you can build the structure that the pandemic has taken away. You should look into getting an ADHD Coach. That can be very helpful.
Exactly, thank you!
What exactly does an ADHD coach do, and where can one find one?
being lazy/stupid and having ADHD are not mutually exclusive.
"I was the kid that never read the book, but through the conversation in class could kind of pick up on it enough to kind of have a good idea...." dude... this is me to a T. I can't tell you how many times I would be in class drawing or staring out the window, only to get called on and somehow know the exact answer, despite not paying attention or studying. When it came time for the test, I'd study for 15 minutes and pass no problem... but if you asked me to sit there and pay attention to every single thing going on, I couldn't do it for the life of me.
Kyle Broussard thanks for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I hope you found something helpful in the presentation. Please spread the word and share it with anyone you think would benefit.
@@roberttudisco4798 do you recommend medication? I am beginning to notice I have always had this... But only now that I have more adult responsibilities it is beginning to plague me and my relationships.
Kyle Broussard i am not a doctor, and I think that whether or not to medicate is a personal choice. But I can say that I have been medicating for over 20 years. For me it has been very effective, and it has made a very positive impact on my life. But my medication is only a part of managing my ADHD. Running has also been extremely helpful, as is working with coaches and developing coping strategies.
We all do it i think xdddd
@@roberttudisco4798 I have exercised about 2 times every day since about age 6 when I started competitive sports. I am 100% the inattentive type of ADHD, which seems to be less prevalent in males. But when I was younger I could sit there and draw all day, filling up a whole notebook. Not paying attention a lick in class. Go home read the book, and do fine.
As I've gotten older though this undiagnosed ADHD has put a strain on literally every relationship I have in life. As well as professionally. I know now I should be medicated. I know it's my personality traits that makes long term friendships hard to maintain. I am emotionally sensitive to things that don't matter and don't care about things I should.
But... I still can't help like this is a superpower in a way - when I find something I like I can focus on it for 10+ hours straight no problem. But ask me to clean my room and you'd think I was in a torture chamber. I could remember the last 50 people I met, their names, and every story they told me, but I couldn't find my keys I put down 7 minutes ago.
I made my girlfriend of almost 2 years watch a multitude of videos on ADHD to understand why I am this way. Forgetting to answer texts or calls, being late to events, etc... anyway you can disappoint a woman and make them feel like you're a boy and not a man... I've done it unconsciously as a result of the way I am. But luckily she understands.
I still feel like even with exercise, I have such a hard time doing literally almost anything I don't want to do. And I know it sounds petty, but that's truly how I feel and I really don't know what do about it besides medicate. I am 25 now and at a crossroads in life where if I don't conquer or get a grip on this soon I fear I will not be able to function as a normal, balanced adult... And always fall into the same cycles, resulting in being alone.
I dropped out of university because of depression and anxiety, I wasn't yet diagnosed with ADHD, but looking back now it's rather obvious to me that ADHD was the cause of me just barely making it through my entire school career, and then in conclusion not being able to handle the pressure of higher education.
Michaela Schoon I hope this was helpful.
Same here
I could have written your comment word for word because my story is exactly the same. I’m 49 and recently applied to finally try finishing my degree after 27 years. Don’t wait to get help and start treatment kids. I should be getting close to retirement and instead I’m still trying to get my life together.
A proffesor in high school once asked me if I had ADHD. At the time I thought nothing of it. I should have payed more attention to it, cuz its killing me in uni. I almost cried watching this. It makes me feel good to know that I am not just crazy, or lazy like people tried to tell me I was my whole life. It feels really good to know.
Thank you for your kind words about my video
I was not diagnosed til last year, at 52!!
I have always been my own bully.
Like having a really bad parent in your head telling you you are stupid/an idiot... ‘What is WRONG with you???!’ when I yet again organised my son’s sock draw or the kitchen ‘stuff’ draw rather than do my tax return or follow up that customer proposal!!
Am doing it right now! Meant to be at my dad’s 30 mins away in 3 mins and am still in my jamas watching this brilliant presentation!!
(Forgot to take my lisdex this morning!!)
Same here
I was undiagnosed I'm now 24 always wondered why I could not achieve my goals especially academically. I finished top of my class in high school school, 7 years later I still haven't finished my undergraduate degree. It was only a few weeks that I self medicated and I'm seeing great results. Medication and discipline I'm finally tapping into the my full Brain power.
i cant belieave how much ive just learnt from this ive only just be diagnosed at 28 years old and this is teaching me things about myself good presentation thank you xD
"I thought I was being sneaky, but really I was finding ways around myself."
Duuude!!!
I hear you... I had to find ways around myself after I kept getting fired from jobs when I was in my 20s. I was trying to find ways to end the rejection - it was heartbreaking, but after a while, I succeeded.
I loved the bit about "I never read the books but I pieced together things and led the discussions" because that was me in University. I got on so well with my professors because I participated so well in class, but I struggled so much with coursework. Back then, I didn't know, and I wish I did, but I know now, and I think that's pretty good.
Elaine Steven thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment. I’m glad you found the information helpful.
thats the only thing I could relate to, I also have social anxiety so I NEVER participated in class. I always silently distracted myself with my own thoughts and stories going on in my head.
Wish I could do my high school and university years over again, because I wasted so much time, energy and knowledge from having undiagnosed ADD... Looking back, I know I got it from my dad and he got it from his mom....
So true! I never did the readings but I engage in class, asked questions and wrote from intuition and passion (in courses I was interested in lols) on the essays...in the end, the profs recognized I was bringing a fresh perspective to the table...even if my writing was filled with fragments and run-on sentences...the ideas were there.
Also, I use so much energy in school by doing this that I knocked out every day in the car before my mom even drove us out of the parking lot, and I never woke up until it was time to go to school the next day. This was my sign to get on medication.
The "Is this gonna be your new thing" also hit me, but in a different way, When I was 21 I realised I had ADHD, so I told my parents and they said the same thing, they said is this going to be the new thing you use to excuse your bad decisions? and they totally ignored me, and I got so angry, so discouraged, so sad, that I decided that even if I had ADHD I wasn't going to give them the satisfaction of failing, but since they weren't behind me on it, I didn't have the guts to go to therapy on my own, and I thought I could deal alone with it, cue to, 12 years of messing up because of ADHD and just ignoring i and struggling all over, then pandemic hit and I had a meltdown because of the change of rut, and finally I got officially diagnosed... in the 8 months I have been diagnosed I have done more, learned more and realized more than I had in those 12 years...I wish there more people to make kids realize having ADHD is not a bad thing, and parents too so that they would stop shaming their kids and driving them to not want therapy or meds :(
Thanks for your story.
Im actually 21 in a few days and found it out.
Had the medication a big impact or do you just went to a therapy ?
@@GregstarLP well, I just started medication (2 months), but I am still figuring out dosage, and time, and when to take it, I'm in therapy for all the things that I notice that I can't control, and my therapist gives me strategies. But the biggest thing that has changed me is education, I read something and say :what! That's adhd? And then next time I start doing it I can try and stop it, examples are maladaptive daydreaming, moods , rejection sensitive disphoria and the other thing is knowing, finally giving up tons of neurotypical attention/ focus/organization practices that will never work for me, it's sad in the beginning because I thought they were good things, but then I let go of them and you start to live. If you are starting and want more info, go to meme pages on insta /tumblr/pinterest the information there is easier to understand and it helps you deal because it's funny, when I was 21 I went to a bunch of official pages and it was all kinda confusing and hard to browse (because it's a huge spectrum, many things won't apply to you) but with memes... It's fast easy and visual, I hope you have a smooth journey of discovery :)
@@dametiempo8540 haha already binge watched all kind of stuff like the ADHD thread on Reddit and your right with the medicinal websites then I read this I am questioning myself if I could even have this then reading certain things but I have made huge list of a lot symptom showing situations since my childhood yesterday and its very clear that I have it.
It feels so good to understand big parts of your life and find people who have been through the same crises :)
@@GregstarLP you will also notice, we write similarly, we eat a bunch of words, and have really long run on sentences. There is an excellent book called driven to distraction, I got the audiobook, and I loved it because all the book is written with anecdotes of patients that the doctor has treated (he has adhd too) and he talks about the different subtypes (not only inattentive and hiperactive, he goes more in depth and specific) he talks about meds, and the stories are all very relatable, he talks about relationship, family and work problems too. it's a great book to start to familiarize yourself with all the nuances and how wide the spectrum is, the book is a bit dated, but most of the advice holds true still (but since it's old he doesn't talk about rejection sensitive dysphoria) . I hope that you can see all our deficiencies and not get discouraged but rather look for new ways to tackle old problems, the Additude podcast and magazine are great too, also beware! Many young people that discover they have adhd have a rebellious phase were they get angry and don't want people to tell them what they can't and can do, what they should or should not take, and start trying to prove other people wrong, this is why a diagnosis from a professional is important too, once there is no doubt about the diagnosis, you stop wanting to prove everyone wrong, and you start trying to work with what you have (which is also plenty, but we don't know how to use it) . Have an excellent journey of self-discovery ; may it be enlightening but not overwhelming.
@@dametiempo8540 how is your ADHD now? Are them meds working for you? If you don't mind me asking
Forced prioritization: in college I knew if I didn’t freaks out about a project when I got it, it wasn’t getting done.
Great talk! But I kept getting distracted by the four different glasses of water he's drinking out of
I thought at first they'd be props for a demonstration! Then I realized he was really thirsty!
That's LSD not ADHD ! Misdiagnosed again Tut tut
This is a PHENOMENAL talk. Great presenter. This is exactly how you communicate to an adhd crowd when your going for an hour!
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment on the video.
Its great for those who are forced to sit there and listen but an 1 hour long youtube video is scaary
I’m looking into ADHD and ADD because I think I may have it, came across this video daily for the past few weeks, but always skipped it because it’s so long. Your comment gave me the motivation to finally tackle the video. :D
@@roberttudisco4798 is there a place I can find your poem written? I want to print it off and put it on my fridge. I literally teared up listening to it. I’ve been tormenting myself for years thinking something I had a superpower of intense streams of thought that came with an equally debilitating self-destructive curse. I needed this thank you 🙏🏻
@@SignedWithJohnny I would be happy to send you a pdf if you email me at robert@roberttudisco.com. And when you get it, you need not ask my permission to share it. It was written to be shared.
It took me 4 days to finish this lol but I was determined to watch the entire thing and I'm so glad I did.
Evie Fyre thank you for sticking with me to the end, and for taking the time to comment. I hope you found something useful. Please feel free to share it with anyone who you think would benefit.
Guess what I was doing instead of an assignment due in a hour.
Me too
am i foreseeing my future
I watched at 1.25x speed. That helped.
I'm really struggling at university and I got diagnosed with ADD only 4 months ago after having been through a very hard semester. The description and experiences you tell about, are just exactly what I have been fighting with all my life. Being diagnosed at age 23, I can only look back and realize how the educational system destroys people, who does not know why they are different. Your speech is very empowering!
folmerify Thank you for your kind words about the presentation. I am glad you found it helpful. Thank you for watching. Please help spread to the word to those you think might benefit.
Fuck the pos damn american school system 🖕
How do you get diagnosed?
Same story like me. I went to the doctor when I was 23 because of Depression. Really hard depression. My second diagnosis was ADHD. I get different medication and I feel back to alive. My life quality and University is going much more better.
Even I got diagnosed just over a year back at age 25 after being misdiagnosed multiple times.
I struggled all through medical School taking more time than all of my classmates complete the program.
Internship was especially difficult. I would always end up blaming myself and wallowing in self pity. I've been on atomoxetine for the past year now (Adderall and Ritalin are not sold in India) and I can't put into mere words how my life has changed since then. Getting over the mental block that I used to experience before itself had an immense impact on my life. I do struggle with issued of low self esteem and self pity but I'm sure I'll be able to over come those issues too in the near future. Good luck to everyone fighting ADHD
At around 6:25, what you say about the need for chaos, causing it or putting oneself into a chaotic situation to then feel that rush/stimulation, this is something i both do and consider often as a fix-it solution whenever i end up in a place in life where i'm not happy or feel like things are just not satisfying anymore.
I've never heard this phenomenon be talked about before, but it is so true, in a time of crisis or chaos there's little room to daydream and more importantly no option to procrastinate.
Through my entire life i have always left tasks to the last minute, strangely it was only in those last minutes/hours/days that i could write that essay or do the homework. In school we are generally given 1-3 weeks to do assignments or write a big essay, i barely acknowledge the essays' existence upon first receiving it, it's only when faced with the sudden deadline and the feeling of the unavoidable impending doom awaiting me if i do not complete the task, that i finally receive a jolt powerful enough to make me do the work.
You spoke with a clear and confident voice, funny, informative.
This is a video i really needed to see as someone with ADHD who is having trouble with it at the moment, thanks for posting the video. You've helped me get back on a track of self improvement, first stop is ADHD Coaching, something which i urgently need in my life.
Airus777 Thank you for watching my video. I'm glad you found it helpful.
Well, my life is falling apart and I feel like there is no hope for me. All I’ve ever wanted is a mindset that doesn’t begin with an expectation of failure. I’m so tired of hating myself for this. Everyday I wake up and ask God for a new brain. When that brain never comes and I’m still stuck hating myself for how I am, I find videos like this to be therapeutic. Say what you must about my bullshit life, but it feels great to know that I’m not the only one exhausted from being eaten alive every day of my fucking life. I just hope in being thrown in the waters of each new day, we all learn how to swim.
John Raiden take comfort in knowing that you are definitely not alone. There are a lot of us out here just like you. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment.
I can relate to every single word of yours
My 16 year old daughter feels this way too. I don't know how to help her. I'm afraid she won't graduate high school. She has given up on herself. 😪
@@beckamax74, I just saw your comment and wonder how your daughter is doing? She may do very well with skills type classes if the scholarly stuff frustrates her. Adhd people are profoundly creative and often do well with carpentry, or shop of some sort. I do renovations. Glad women can do that these days.
College has been impossible for me. The thing you did with the applying late for class is me every semester and it has extended my stay in college longer than it should have and has made me feel like dropping out. I feel like screaming in the frustration at the sort of paralysis I experience. It’s messed with my sense of self worth my sense of intelligence everything.
I am sorry to hear about your frustration. Thank you for watching. I hope you found something helpful in the presentation.
Self torture really hit me. I wasn't diagnosed as a kid and struggled to understand myself while I was going through my undergrad. Now I am starting my master's and figuring out this new understanding myself and now I understand that so much of my youth was spent beating myself up. I never knew
Lez-B-real87 I put myself that very often. But it is something people from the outside just don’t understand. It was my hope that I could let people with ADHD know that they are not alone and also to let those around them understand our internal frustrations.
EVERYTHING MAKES SENSE
Fiona Abraham thank you for watching. I hope you found something useful in the presentation. Please help spread the word.
@@roberttudisco4798 thank you for this video, I've gotten into so many arguments with my dad due to his ignorance of how ADHD works.
vice2vursa thank you for watching. I know what it is like to try to explain to outsiders. Especially, when they are a close part of your life. It took my father many years to come around. He was extremely skeptical with me. He eventually came around seeing the impact I had on others. You are not alone. There are a lot of us out here just like you.
@@roberttudisco4798 thank you for the response. I actually plan on showing your video to my parents. I need someone else who actually knows what they are talking about to talk some sense into my parents.
vice2vursa remember something. In addition to him not understanding, there might also be a bit of defensiveness for not getting you help when you were younger. I sensed a bit of that as well with my parents.
Causing chaos as a way to move forward, I've never heard how I feel vocalized so well
I'm a student about to start college this fall and I watched this video because my mom forced me to. I honestly didn't expect to find any interest in this video, assuming that it was a retelling of all the information I've already heard about ADHD, but I ended up enjoying this video a lot. It really helped me delve into my own personality and look at how I think in different perspectives.
I'd also like to say how awesome it is that you still respond to comments on this video even though it's over two years old. You're a really great role model for anybody struggling with ADHD. Thank you so much for your time and everything you do.
Kylar, thank you so much for your kind words, but more for letting me know that this presentation was helpful to you in some way. That is why I do what I do. Good luck in school and please let me know if you have any questions.
Zenith Dreamer hey man question do you play video games? For me I feel like I defeated adhd from playing years of video games that are story driving. Idk maybe you should try it
@@1artillery1 How did that help you overcome ADHD? Curious because I started playing story driven games last year and I think I'm having ADHD symptoms, but I'm not sure how the two link.
@@h.nqv1939 for me what I gain from playing video games was focusing on the task at hand since having adhd as a child I could never focus on one task or even complete it.. focusing is the key to overcoming adhd video games gave me that.
23 and still struggling so hard. I've been working at a bachelor's for 5 years now and it still feels ages away and I'm not getting better. However, lectures like these always seem to help me feel better because they help me stop telling myself I'm lazy and stupid because every time I am shocked at how when lecturers describe ADHD it is exactly what I'm going through and I feel vindicated and not alone. Your story about sitting there after school with a pit in your stomach for hours was so so so much what I feel daily, I have never heard someone else also describe the exact exact feeling I feel and have gone through for a decade now. I have ADHD and I am not alone, this is real and I am not stupid or lazy.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. While I try to put as much information into presentations like this, I think the most important message is that you are not alone. There are a lot of us out there who struggle similarly. That alone can be very comforting.
I got the same Eric. A couple of examples: As a kid it used to be sat in my room staring into space or crying on my page. At uni it was Playing GTA instead of revising for a final exams/ doing assignments but still having the looming feeling and anxiety the whole time. Exactly how he explained it.
Hearing your anecdote about lying on the floor as a child bc of not being able to start your work despite knowing the consequences felt like a slap in the face -- I'm literally watching this lecture instead of starting to write a paper that is due in 3 hours
As a newly diagnosed ADHD adult (and recent law prof burnout - which prompted an investigation into ADHD), I’m so delighted to have stumbled across this fabulous talk whilst falling down different rabbit holes on social media about ADHD. Utterly marvellous content delivered by a clear, powerful and exceptionally entertaining speaker. You’re an awesome advocate for people of all ages with ADHD and this talk remains timely, as well as having relevance for a large number of audiences.
Thank you so much for this talk - for many of us it may well be transformative. ❤
Thank you for watching. I’m glad you found it helpful. Please feel free to share this with anyone you think might benefit from it.
Similar car story happened to me too in HS. A friend told me “look at this Snapchat. Someone left their car running in the lot all day.” I said “what an absolute dumbass” and then saw the pic and realized it was my car. Wasn’t even in a rush when I parked. Was going for over 3 hrs. Didn’t realize I was missing my keys the whole time. And, the school lot had recently had a spat of thefts.
It can be incredibly frustrating
Wife: ”so...Is this your new thing?”
Same reaction from my wife!
Thank you very much for this.
tptnny thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. It can be equally challenging for both the person with ADHD and the non ADHD spouse. I like to say “I don’t suffer from ADHD. I HAVE ADHD. My wife suffers from ADHD because she is married to me and is along for the ride.
“We live outside the box.” I’m 32 and have struggled with some phantom thing my whole life. Because of this video, I’m going to pursue diagnosis. From one poet to another, thank you so much for the work you’re doing and have done. -Kiley
Thank you Kiley for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I’m flattered that you would consider me a poet. That poem was just something I had to write. If you want a copy, you can email me at robert@roberttudisco.com and I will send you a pdf.
I’m 10 years (kept changing majors) into a Bachelors degree, and I absolutely relate to your perspective as a student who gathers so much during a class room conversation. I still wish I could give a lecture on the subject matter instead of concrete short answer questions. I am so involved, often to the disdain of other students, when it comes to discussing the material. I want to talk it out, not read it through an online class! 😬 I start panicking about group projects and try to force myself to see the due date a week or more ahead to stay calm. It’s amazing to hear your personal experience, as it really solidifies that I am just functioning the best way my brain knows how. Thanks! All schools should have a speaker that the whole staff and students listen too! Save a lot of time wasted on self-destructive thought processes and irreparable damage to the psyche.
Thank you for watching and for your kind words. I’m happy you found something helpful in the presentation.
Oh, I so understand this. Communication, and connecting dots with people who get it. But study groups stress me out because they all work too fast for me on homework. You are not alone with ten years for the bachelor 🤗
It's so great to see someone out there doing this. And you have such passion for it. I have severe adult ADHD and am making it a life goal to understand it better as well as educate others :)
Kayla Empson thank you for watching and for your kind words.
Thank you so much for watching and for your positive feedback.
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bro the "hyperfocus or no focus" got me
this guy hit the nail on the heqd
Thank you kbutter.
HEQD
Wow. That story you told about you keeping papers in your line of sight was so relateable. I have a million notes on my phone that I wrote down to remember stuff, but I've still forgotten to act on them because they weren't in my line of sight at the time I needed to do the thing. Dude, you're awesome! Thanks a bunch for making this video.
Angelisa Craig thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. The line of sight issue can be a problem and be messy to most. It can be overwhelming. The only thing you can do is try to develop some type of system for the items you have out. Looking messy isn’t the issue. The only thing that matters is whether you can find what you need at any given time.
Thank you again for watching and for your kind words. Please share it with anyone you think might benefit. Sometimes it helps for those without ADHD so they can understand us.
THIS. I am successful person, but dealing with anxiety and depression since I entered to University 10 years ago. I was fine living with anxiolytics, but nothing helped with my lack of concentration on any task. I passed through 2 psychiatrist that never asked me enough, although I always addressed about my lack on concentration and procrastination. Last April, I set an appointment with a very good psychiatrist who tested me for many mental illnesses. For the moment, he gave me anxiolytics and antidepressants. After a lot of conversation, he told me I have adult ADD and now EVERYTHING make sense.
Your video summarizes who I am.
My sister doesn’t think I have ADD since I do well in my work but, I know how much stress I give to myself because I stress out when I perform poorly only bc my own fault.
Vicky OH thank you for watching my presentation. I’m glad you found something useful in it. Please help spread this message.
Can relate
You speak as though you've been in my body. I'm currently a student with ADHD, and I have aspirations of going to law school. Watching this video to see someone like me who is now a successful lawyer and speaker is very motivating.
Marcus Or thank you for watching. You would be surprised to know how many of us there are out here
"Rob, is this gonna be your new thing?" Man, that really got me. That and you talking about how as a kid you knew you couldn't watch TV until you did your homework, but you just couldn't bring yourself to do it. Oh man, as I'm typing this, I honestly teared up a little. Also, you mentioning being able to BS your way through class conversations? That's been my entire high school and early college LIFE. I'm so good with talking my way in conversations, and in person, if a lecture is engaging & I'm allowed to talk and question the professor, I can perform really well and have a lot of fun learning. So, sooo many classes aren't like that and it kills me. My chemistry classes here are flipped classroom, ie you teach yourself and do examples in class. I'm struggling so hard with it, because in class, I'll do great learning! But by then, I'm already way too far behind, I've missed homework and reading checks and I just don't want to study. Being a college student with undiagnosed ADHD sucks. I'm hoping to get a professional diagnosis and get accommodations from my university soon.
e.m. fitzgibbon thank you for watching. Get diagnosed and get some form of treatment right away. I promise it will make a huge difference in your life. Good luck!
I hope things are well for you and your whatever you're doing, you're enjoying.
As a middle aged guy with emotional trauma from my ADHD, definitely get into a doctor and confront it now. There's so many bumps and bruises you get unnecessarily with unmanaged ADHD, and you don't need always "know" when you get them, till later.
I found this when I really needed it.
McKenzie Gable thank you for watching and letting me know. I’m glad you found it helpful.
"I have ADHD, but my wife suffers from it", that for me was indication this gentlemen really knows what he is talking about. 8D
Only one thing makes me doubt I have ADHD (haven't been officially diagnosed yet) - addictions. Never had anything like that, I'm absolutely indifferent to alcohol or other substances, no craving for gambling or other risks, so unless chocolate, videogames, pop-sci articles and videos, books and my obsession with music counts as addictions, I have none.
P.S. And yes, my kid _is_ hyperactive, and it's much more noticeable than what I had in my childhood. But any mentioning of my possible ADHD problems to my wife falls on deaf ears, she says I'm just lazy and looking for an excuse.
this was posted a long time ago, but from what I understand and my own experience, chocolate (and sugar in general) actually is addictive. so can be video games and books (the need to escape the reality, to leave the problems and obligations behind so you don't have to deal with them, the feeling of gratification in games when clearing another level/upgrading gear, etc). I think most things can be addictive if approached in an unhealthy way, because it can be about seeking pleasure and avoiding pain to an excessive degree.
She's a woman what the fuck does she know
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That sucks she is closed minded and doesn't care to give the thought a chance. All I could suggest is to ignore her comments like, your lazy. Understand, that she doesn't understand, and that her statements stem from conjecture. With the limited knowledge she has, she concludes a judgement. I don't know what her demeanor is, but if she really cares, when knowledge is gained on the topic she should have a change of thought and be more understanding. If she doesn't care much, than I would think she would dismiss it and call it an excuse. You can't help others until you help yourself. You will have times of having 2 steps forward and 1 step back and times that mirror that. Those times of 2 steps back really throw a wrench in everything and make getting your pace back more difficult. Don't get discouraged and know there's always another day. I hope you get to a point of getting proper help and acknowledgement with your issue and your relationship doesn't sour before then.
Sadly my wife was not supportive of my journey this far. I just got my official diagnosis an hour ago... Let's see how this goes. She too said I'm lazy and looking for something to blame.
I too have ADHD and my wife suffers from it.
Guys, calm down. First, my wife isn't stupid, she might have even higher IQ than I do. Second, she does change her mind little by little, after all, our kid is a very obvious example right before us. We even went to a psychologist together, our kid filled some tests, they showed he has high cognitive abilities, especially in math, but is lagging behind his peers in moral skills, like he at that point was 2-3 classes ahead of others, yet behaved like he should be in kindergarten, not school, which is just what should be expected, if it is ADHD. However, we haven't done brain scan, to be absolutely certain.
This one was really sad, for me. It was like watching someone else telling MY story. But it's also the fairytale version. In my real life, there's nobody I trust enough to ask for help, ESPECIALLY the doctors. I've tried, and at best I get ignored. More often, I'm dumped, like trash.
So I do the best I can. I've learned many of the coping skills discussed here on my own. I drink a lot of coffee. And I try to pass on these coping skills to my son, who shows signs as well. He's already doing better than I ever did. He's old enough that he's helping me now too.
Mostly I do pretty good on most days. But something like this is a reminder of the barrier between me and the world.
It can be lonely over here.
Christian Swensen thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment. You are definitely not alone. There are a lot of us out here just like you. There is help out there, but sometimes it is hard to find. There are also a lot of organizations like CHADD and ADDA. CHADD Chapters all over the country can put you in touch with doctors that can help.
It's funny how we come up with all this mechanisms to cope with these thoughts. Kinda makes sense now why "Thinking Fast and Slow" was one of my favorite books. I was just diagnosed a month ago with ADHD (inattentive). It explains: why I've locked my keys in my car several times, lost my wallet 4 times, been paranoid of forgetting everything, digress throughout my research papers, etc., but even with all these symptoms, I still feel like blaming it on a disorder is a cop-out for not being adaptable to your environment. Maybe it's because it's difficult to discern which traits are responsible for this intrinsic lack of executive functioning. I really enjoyed your speech by they way. I needed some light-hearted and funny.
Thank you for watching. I hope you found it helpful.
Armani also have adhd. Reading that book at the moment :)
Found this to be very informative. I just got diagnosed with combined type (inattentive and hyperactive) and it has changed my entire life. My grades are up, my relationships are getting better. ADHD is not an excuse it's an explanation, it's like someone finding out they are blind and finally getting glasses! Thank you so much, I love how passionate you are and how you advocate for better education for ADHD!
Richard Galax thank you for watching the presentation and for reaching out to me. I’m glad you found something helpful in the video. Please spread the word and share it with anyone who you think it might help. Also, please let me know if your school has a visiting speaker program. Of all the presentations I do, speaking to students is my favorite.
@@roberttudisco4798 I'll be sure to send this video to all my friends and family. I will also ask around my university if they have a guest speakers program!
I love this so much I shared it on my practice's page. I not only have ADHD but have kids with it and am a pediatrician that treats it. I am so passionate about advocating for and educating about ADHD.
Holly Hubbard - Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching my presentation.
This makes me want to cry, I wish teachers understood adhd just that bit at the beginning reminding us that it is a neurological condition and not my fault was just so meaningful, thank you for educating about it.
You are very welcome. Thank you for watching and please spread the word. Share it with anyone you think might benefit.
I almost started crying hearing that poem, i relate to it so much every line triggers a memory
Hedda Skår Blokhin thank you for watching and for your kind words. I am often asked about that poem. The truth is that when you write something from your heart, the greatest gift it brings is knowing that it touched someone else’s. Thank You!
Sitting in a pool of tears right now lol
@@roberttudisco4798 I plan to type out that poem and add your name to the bottom.. and give it to EACH teacher my son has. He's nine and in third grade.
Michelle Wei You don’t have to. Just email me at robert@roberttudisco.com and I will send you a pdf.
Wow, coming back to this video after first seeing it 2 years ago and it's like night and day. Unfortunately I failed out of college but from that I'm on the tail end of starting my own business. I realized towards the end what I was studying for I had no interest in and was only there because the job market for that field was open. Now, in starting a business doing something I'm truly passionate and enthusiastic about. I can talk for hours about it. I can't wait to open the doors!
Thanks for coming back. I hope this time you found it useful in a new way.
For those that lose keys...I used to have that problem. And I have locked my keys in my car....one time. I made it a point to put ONLY my keys in my right pocket (never anything else bc I had change in my pocket that one time and it made me think it was my keys). My phone is the ONLY thing that goes in my left pocket. Then I wear cargo shorts in case I need to carry other things.
Btw, the keys NEVER leave the pocket. If I need my keys and belt the next day, I'll leave them in and on my pants that I wore today, then swap them over in the morning when i decide what to wear that day. Occasionally I'll take them out, but when i see them and remember, I'll get them off the same spot on the counter or night stand and put them in the other pants exactly when I'm thinking of it. Plus I do a 3 tap every time when I'm walking out the door; right pocket, keys - check...left pocket, phone - check....rear pocket, wallet - check. With that being said, if i don't put my 3 year olds shoes on before we go out the door (thinking, I'll come back and grab them), ill forget them 90% of the time.
RyanTreks Left pocket is phone only, wallet and keys are right pocket only. And I pat check before I go anywhere or leave anywhere. I still lock my keys in the car constantly though lol
Michael Wronkowski the way I solved that one is that I ONLY close the car door after I’ve double checked to make sure the keys are in my right hand.
I randomly came across this video after failing 2 pre-calc tests. I couldn't focus, i kept scanning the room, seeing other students get up and leave after they were done was making me more anxious, my mind was just blank. The craziest part was i knew the material. I KNEW i knew the material. I just couldn't recall it on command and its incredibly frustrating.
Manuel, I completely understand your frustration. I've been there. ADHD can be like a paralysis preventing you from doing what you know you can otherwise do. That is an enormous source of anxiety and frustration. I have no magic solutions to offer you, other than to say that you are definitely not alone. It takes time to develop coping mechanisms, but it begins with looking inside of yourself. Medication can also be helpful, exercise and also working with a coach.
Thank you for watching my video and for letting me know your thoughts and frustrations.
Robert Tudisco thank you for making the video. It really gave me a lot to think about. Similarly to your situation, when i was in the military i excelled at what i did. I thought by that point i at least could control my ADHD, as i knew i couldn't outgrow it or get rid of it. So when i got out i figured I'd go to college and focus on my career. I never realized until now just how much of a boon and hinderence my ADHD was. It's also very difficult to convey to my professors how exactly my brain works. Thanks again.
I am 31 years old and was JUST diagnosed with ADHD. Reading about the
symptoms and struggles that go along with it (for the first time ever)
brought such intense feelings of relief as I have been battling myself
tirelessly for years to figure out what the hell is wrong with me. This
was such a great presentation that gave excellent stories - many of
which I could certainly relate to - as well as useful tools on how to
find support, cope, and move forward without the shame. Thank you so
much for putting this up. More please!!! :)
+Danielle Zambeck I can relate SO bad, bu luckily I was "only" 24 when I was diagnosed.
Danielle thank you for watching. I hope the information was helpful.
That poem was extremely touching. It's me all over
thevisuallady Thank you for your kind words about my poem. I get a lot of emotional emails from parents and kids about it. I've written many articles over the years, but that poem is the thing I am most proud of. When you write something from your heart, the greatest gift you can get is knowing that it touched someone else's.
29:20 "I couldn't believe when we brought my son to college all the facilities he had access to!"
Me, in October 2020: *wallows in my dorm as my PE class has ended, the school gym is locked and key thrown out, and snow is starting to cover the campus bike trails*
way too much of this correlates with my life for it to be a coincidence.
He spoke so much truth! I can identify with his lecture and all of his examples. For so many years I blamed myself for being different and all I wanted to do was to be normal! I struggle everyday at work and school but now I understand why. Ever since I was diagnosed last year I have been educating myself in the subject and learning ways to cope with ADHD and Anxiety
Thank you for your kind words and for watching the presentation. I am glad you found it helpful in some way.
Thank you so much Robert. I am 51. Just diagnosed. Just entering law practice. Everything is adding up. Thank goodness I have this diagnosis now, which is also why I am such a late starter to a career at all, by the way. Thank you. Went for a run this morning even though it was raining, in response to your talk here.
Annette wow. Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. I’m glad you found something useful in the presentation. Good luck on your law practice.
I can always pay attention to someone like you, someone that has energy, that moves, that speaks kind of fast, that sounds like he enjoys what he is talking about. If you are slow and I can see that you are not hyped, 99% I will fall asleep despite the subject, without being able to stop from falling asleep
Thank you. I’m glad you found it helpful.
I thought I was the only person who had 'racing typing thoughts'.
Thank you for watching. You are definitely not alone.
One of the things that resonated with me you were talking about waiting last minute to sign up with your college courses and being a participant in class to get a spot. I also struggle with social anxiety at times, but every time I've been in class I can engage with, there's some switch that flips on inside of me and I cannot shut the hell up.
Michael L. Bowie in a way, you have to look at the positive side. In many ways it can be a coping mechanism if you use it to your advantage. Thanks for watching. I hope you found something useful. Please feel free to share it with anyone you think would benefit. Also, please let me know if your school has a visiting lecturers program. I speak at schools all over.
Lmao this is me too! I wasn't like that in high school and middle school because my social anxiety was so bad, but it's gotten better and I find myself not shutting up in class (starting my second week of my placement tomorrow for my college course) and the only thing that makes me not overdo it is my social anxiety and worrying that everyone in class is telling me to shut up in their heads lol. Sometimes I don't say anything but I'm about to burst, wanting to say whatever I'm thinking.
I have been struggling with this for my whole life. I felt the need to be an A+ student. I always self critique myself for not being able to focus on college. I can work well in high paced workplaces but I have been burning out recently. You've helped me so much. I was able to watch the whole video. I concentrated without even trying, and I related to everything mentioned. I will be taking these steps to better myself and my interactions with others. I can't wait to do things I enjoy again without feeling like I'm too slow or unresponsive. Thank you so much
ᄋᄉᄋC you are very welcome. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I’m glad you found something helpful in the presentation and I hope you will share this message with others.
Man the self torture stuff hit home. I masked really well as a kid, on the outside I was straight A and I got the results, was years ahead academically, etc. On the inside I was so terrified of getting anything wrong and being classed as worthless.
College (still undiagnosed) was where I got the "At least you have the potential and the ambition, you're clearly good, but you just need to get better at managing projects and time" talk. I cried when it happened, because no one had ever divorced my value from my output like that before and it was amazing.
Took me another 9 years to get diagnosed. I'm just there NOW. And the hindsight is... Interesting
wow this was an incredible video!! i’m finishing my second year in college, have been diagnosed for a couple of years, but have only been able to get/start treatment a few months ago. it was hard trying to find someone who would be willing to treat me (i go to school out of state, so that was an issue in terms of my primary care doctor not being in state) and most psychiatrists i reached out to weren’t willing to prescribe me medicine because of the fact i’m a college student and they didn’t want me going around selling the drugs on campus. i can understand that concern, but i (have now learned) that i desperately needed medication to help me and i was basically being denied access to something that could help me function. so the stigma around stimulants and college students has always bothered me because the fact they abuse it, sell it, and give the medicine a bad rep, has prevented me from getting the help i need. so eventually i found a psychiatrist who has been absolutely incredible, but i didn’t find her until the beginning of my fourth semester. i really wish i had help sooner (like before college) because i have struggled more the past two years (academically, but also in all other aspects since i’m living away from home and on my own, so executive dysfunction has become even worse of an issue) than i ever have before.
lol anyways, the point i wanted to leave a comment was to thank you for such an incredible speech. i wish i had seen this years ago, or before/just after i was diagnosed, because i know this is exactly what i needed to hear at the time. i felt broken and different and was constantly struggling to do such simple tasks, i never understood why i was made “wrong” and why i had to put in 20x more effort and time on tasks when comparing myself to my friends and peers.
your video is exceptional, and i appreciated hearing your personal stories. also i love the references to Driven to Distraction, because that was one of the first books i read when i was first diagnosed.
thank you so much for this, it was so refreshing and relatable to hear such a great speech about adhd from someone who actually has adhd, and isn’t just some doctor that studied it.
Thank you for watching my video and for taking the time to write a comment. You are definitely not broken. There are two things that are very important to remember. You are not better or worse, you are just different AND more importantly, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are a lot of us out here just like you. Please feel free to share this video with anyone you think would benefit from it, and let me know if your school would be interested in a presentation like this.
Good analogy about people with ADHD creating crisis situations as a way of prioritizing which "plane to land first". Yes, that makes sense to me, I always have something that I need to get done but will do everything except the thing that needs to get done until that "plane" is literally out of fuel and is coming in to crash land. So this leads to "self-torture". First time that I have heard that term but it describes the process of procrastination and inaction perfectly.
Speedy Pete thank you.
I didn’t know that I had ADHD most of my life because I had a misconception that it was just a matter of high motor energy and restlessness or something. We need people like this because this is extremely serious for some people.
For example:
1) I have a 155 IQ, but nearly flunked every grade in school, and was at the very bottom of class rank in high school. I was able to get to college by using my IQ to find and take neurotransmitter precursors and lots of caffeine... still having no clue what how or why. I used to be adamantly against medication.
2) I was kicked out of graduate school because of my ADHD. I never worked on anything harder in my life... but people got pissed off at me because of my ADHD.
3) I used to get 2-3 traffic tickets a year. Once on a 5 hour trip I got 2 speeding tickets because I was so upset and distracted by the first one... both COMPLETELY by accident. Speed traps are basically ADHD traps. When I started on medication I STOPPED getting tickets. Like completely for years now. No tickets. Like flipping a switch.
3) I am late a lot and was fired from really good jobs I needed and worked hard at twice. Because of being late. I have lost friends and mostly didn’t have friends until medication because no one could put up with me.
4) I actually cried and thanked god when I first took the medication because I realized that I could go do and be all the things humans are supposed to do and be! I started to realize that I could be ME! I could plan and carry out my goals. And I did!
5) when I take adderall, I start to yawn, and I get calm and relaxed, and I have no problems sleeping. 😳🤔 It’s weird. I can have friends now. No one can even conceive of the pain of being super intelligent but unable to hold plans in your mind, or have time sense, or to be unable to actually do anything with it. It’s like living in hell. Then the loss of friends who think you are an immoral or bad person because where they live and judge their life -that place- doesn’t exist for you. No one can conceptualize it understand that.
6) A serious girlfriend I had when I was 25 said “either you are the most forgetful person in the world or you have Alzheimer’s!!!” 😐🤦♀️💩😭 And literally could not conceive that anyone who forgot could possibly care about the things that they forgot... once I forgot to pick up my last paycheck at my job. A weeks pay. Yep. 10 years later the “unclaimed funds” department of the state contacted me and I got the money 😐. Then there was the time that I forgot a $10,000.00 pension fund. 15 years later they tracked me down and sent me something and I was like “oh yeah..:!” I bring up these two money things to illustrate how importance has NO bearing on whether I will forget something or not. I have forgotten important things for my own social and career objectives too. Medication enabled me to begin to have a life.
7) I have been through multiple bankruptcies. Before medication. People completely don’t understand how important medications are for ADHD people. It’s not laziness or wanting drugs for recreational purposes. They are LIFE SAVING.
8) I am divorced partly because I couldn’t even begin to work on who I was or what I wanted... because life was such an ongoing unplanned disaster.
9) I watched many professors use my ideas and build careers on literally small aspects of my thinking while I floundered and could not make a career. Even though I have more than enough mental ability. More than 99% of people.
10) Medication was an absolute magic bullet for me. Everyone noticed. I already did all the stuff that you can do to force yourself to do the things that you are not set up to do. In college I put a huge rubber band on my wrist and a bag of Reese’s Pieces in front of me and either snap the fuck out of my wrist or take a piece depending on whether I finished reading each page or not. That was just ONE thing I did... and all of it was EXHAUSTING. ADD medication is a frickin godsend miracle as important as insulin or heart medication. Life-saving. Seriously.
I tried to make this appear organized with numbers but then I saw 2 number 3,s... I left it in because here it is appropriate 🤦♀️
Anyway thanks for this awesome video ❤️😎🙏🏻
Stephanie Romer thank you for watching. I’m glad you found something helpful. I agree it is a serious issue. Please help me spread the word. I would like to do a lot more of these at colleges all over the country.
I was so enthralled with reading about your experiences that I didn’t even notice the two 3’s. Lol
But wow… thank you so much for sharing! Stories like yours give me hope for when I finally get to see a doctor to refer me to a psychiatrist who can diagnose me and help me find the right treatment.
I’m thinking of doing all three options; Meds, cognitive behavioral therapy and getting a coach.
Sounds like my life 😢😂
gotta say listening to this while drawing an architectural map of my campus for orientation day ,just before my deadline today when I had the whole week given is my fav hobby 🙏
@@Totallyfine29_ thank you for watching. I hope you found it helpful. Please feel free to share it with anyone you think might benefit.
You are such a God given gift to humanity. Please keep sharing your stories. Awesome!
+Bonnie Echols Thank you very much for your kind words. Stay tuned for more videos. I really appreciate your feedback.
I am a visual thinker and a kinesthetic processor. The hidden emotional turmoil inside of me has been like a raging sea with sudden, dramatic weather changes.
The hardest part, I think, has been allowing myself to take this seriously even though most people in my closest circles don't. Being misunderstood, misjudged, and caricatured with bad-character-trait stereotypes is so painful.
The bright side is it makes presentations like this so cathartic, at the deepest level. It gives my childhood, teenage saga, and early young adult years grace and understanding.
I have ADHD and interestingly I excelled in school because I somehow ended up being able to funnel the constant need for mental stimulation and habitual procrastination into a frantic thirst for knowledge. Given I was naturally intelligent and good at picking up on things, but I often went into classes knowing a lot of the information that was going to be taught so I could whip through the assignments like some kind of savant without ever taking notes or in some cases in college not coming to class unless there was a test or assignment due and still get straight A's. However, with all that said if I didn't do assignments as soon as they were assigned I would let them build up until suddenly I had five papers due at the end of the week and it would become one of the most stressful weeks of my life because I have a terrible time being able to schedule things out more than a week or two in advance.
Yuuuh I feel you. I am the same. Love learning, it's not a problem. However I have been struggling in the workplace.
This was BEAUTIFUL!!!! THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!!! THIS IS ME IT IS REAL! And someone else KNOWS! Thank you so so much!!!!!!!
+angel shares Thank you for your kind words. You are very welcome
I embraced my ADHD. I see it as a strength not a weakness at all 🤗
As someone with ADHD, the fact that you have responded to SO many comments blows my mind. Text messages, emails, etc are so overwhelming to me to keep up with. But this video made me feel so heard. It’s so frustrating when people can’t fully understand how my brain works. It’s so relieving to hear others talk about it and make me feel less alone. Great presentation! Definitely sending to my parents haha they’ll love this. Especially my dad who has adhd, you remind me a lot of him :)
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment. I am glad you found the information helpful. I think that there is an enormous amount of comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
The purpose was to reach those with ADHD to put their frustrations into words and also to help those without understand what it is like to see the world through our eyes.
This is the best descriptive video I have ever watched on ADHD(and I’ve watched ‘them all’!). Among all of your valuable insights, I’d like to make one suggestion: in the airplane analogy, perhaps in future talks, instead of saying ‘one plane has a bomb on board’, you might say ‘one passenger is having a heart attack’? Since it’s just an example, better to avoid the connotations of terrorism and divert the focus to a positive ‘crisis’ than a negative one? Just my opinion...you are a rockstar! Thank you.
Sarah R thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. I appreciate your kind words, but more importantly, I appreciate your suggestion.
Every time I use that bomb analogy I inwardly hope that I am not offending anyone, but use it to convey the emergency. I tried once to say running out of gas, but that doesn’t convey the impact. Your suggestion is perfect. Thank you SO MUCH. Feedback is incredibly helpful and I genuinely try to respond to all comments if I can.
I'm doing a bit of necroposting, but I can't stress enough how useful was this talk. I'm currently doing a project for college about ADHD, and I stumbled upon this while searching for material to work it. I was also diagnosed with ADHD not long ago, so everything you said resonated with me, even 10 years after this. Thanks a bunch.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I’m glad you found the presentation helpful. Please share it with anyone you think it could help.
@@roberttudisco4798 Will do!
this was absolutely great and I believe will change my life from here on. thank you for being you!
+HoneyBuns IceCream Thank you so much for your kind words. That is really nice of you to say.
The amount of college papers that were written in a backwards manor, where the paper was written first with the outline written from the paper, and written the night before, or the morning it was due with the ink still drying when it was. turned in.
Thank you!! I recognized the "paralysis" in my son a long time ago. I noticed the similarities to the paralysis in the movie "Awakenings" with Robin Williams. If you think about it, the condition of those patients involved dopamine too. It is the end of another semester, and as usual, my husband and I a realizing how many planes my son has had circling while we nagged him all semester to stop playing his video games and do his school work. He has certainly done a bang up job of creating his chaos for the end of this semester. Thanks for at least helping some with understanding the inexplicable.
Andermom actually, the drug they administered was called L Dopa I think and it was used to create, or stimulate dopamine.
So glad to have found this (listened while cleaning my office, maybe I'm a kinesthetic processor too)! I was diagnosed not long ago, and all of a sudden it was like the rest of the puzzle to which I'd previously only held one piece.
I live in the Deep South, and the analogy I've found best gets the message across to people is that it's like I have a dirty spark plug. I can turn the key all I want, but that engine's only getting ignited about one time in ten, and only if I keep turning.
Thank you for watching. I’m glad you found it helpful.
Not getting into the hot classes because - I never got there in time to earn a place - worked also well for me as I discovered my nerdy side and the fun in super hard theoretical stuff, because in those classes there were always more then enough places. Also I really loved having classes with only 5-9 students in, as the discussion could go so much deeper, it was not as noisy..
Awesome poem! And he says, "That's all I have." It was so much.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching. I hope you found something helpful. I would be happy to send you a copy of the poem if you email me at robert@roberttudisco.com.
I had to abandon an IS/IT career because of adult ADD. I had a lot of good skills (my bosses acknowledged this), but those jobs involve so much organization, planning, and team collaboration, all at which I failed terribly. And throw in the fact that I'm not a type A personality, and it was all a big train wreck. I'm now training for another career which should leverage more of my strengths.
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year. It has been a struggle to accept it but it has also brought a lot of relief. Your video just helped me recognize many things that I need to work through - creating accountability and not with my husband but other people, looking at my failures & seeing what worked and what didn’t, accepting that I need to learn to find coping strategies for my ADHD and the list goes on 😂. But what really hit the head on the nail is your poem… I felt heard & loved & that I need to be kinder to myself because I am capable even with ADHD. Thank you very much.
I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you for putting this up. I am a law student who just got a referral to get testing for ADHD. As I’m listening to this, so much of it rings true for me, and it makes me feel better to see someone who was able to graduate with a law degree before getting diagnosed.
soulfulpizza14 thank you for watching. I hope you found something useful. While it can be difficult, there are aspects of ADHD that are helpful in practicing law, especially in representing people with ADHD and other disabilities. Good luck and let me know how it turns out.
i'm in college at the moment & am watching this on 1.5x speed and ALSO had to rewind a few times bc i stopped paying attention but i watched this whole video through in one sitting because this is the most heard & understood i've ever felt!! thank you so so so much! i'm gonna talk to my mom about getting tested!!
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I’m glad you found something valuable in the presentation. Remember, you are not alone. There are a lot of us out here just like you.
I was diagnosed and I have cognitive hyperactivity like you. The mainstream assumption that hyperactivity is someone bouncing off the walls kept me from figuring out I have ADHD. It also makes people less likely to believe me if I tell them I have ADHD. This video was very helpful
Brad The Great I totally understand what you mean. So many people have said that to me as well. “I’m surprised you have ADHD. You were never that hyperactive as a kid.” I think part of it is inaccurate memories of people, but also not understanding the cognitive side. Thanks for watching. I hope you found something helpful in the presentation. And please spread the word.
I first listened to your lecture seven years ago when I was suggested that I have undiagnosed ADHD. I failed again with my master's degree, but I understood myself better. After two years post-diagnosis, medication and life adjustment, I am now on my sixth attempt for the degree and hopefully the last and the successful one. Your lecture soothes me from time to time.
@@iamhasrizal I am glad you find it helpful. Good luck with your degree.
YOU, MY MAN!! ARE MORE THAN A SAINT.
Thisd medical doctor thinks you are passionate , have openened yourself up to embarrising scrutinty, large hearted, and change a high number of stuggling individuals. Listerners, please take the time. This is long but every word is both amusing and enlightening.
daniel herlihy thank you so much for watching my video and for your kind words.
who else is watching this at 2x speed,,,
and doing something else,,,
and had to skip back because they spaced out and weren’t paying attention,,,
and had to pause it and do something else because it’s such a long video,,,
but related to it SO SO much
You aren't lazy. You aren't dumb. You aren't broken. You're just neuro-atypical. Its like every power has a side effect. If you dont wanna do medications; try exercise, meditation, Journaling, and go get an activity like MMA. Skydiving. Something thats BADASS. These things give you outlets and outside activity to help you access time.
Thank you for watching
@@roberttudisco4798 thanks for doing what you do dude!
This video was so helpful...I was recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and am still connecting the dots. It's really amazing when you find something that explains "why am I like this" and make a plan to make it better.
Jessayaki I’m glad you found it helpful. Thank you for watching.
You hit the nail on the head. I've always been the Tasmanian devil. I can concentrate with undivided attention for numerous hours once I get in the zone, however, the rest of life is a complete mystery. My grandson thinks I'm just crazy... little does he know. I have no sense of time. IQ off the chart and no consistency whatsoever. I excel at my work and left to my own devices can not complete a project (not uncommon to have 17 or more projects going at one time. In the middle of 6 or more books at the same time, etc. So scattered I often have no idea where I am or what I am trying to do. Thanks
Thank you for watching.
I don't normally listen to anything that is for college students but this came up automatically, so glad it did as it was not only incredibly informative but also entertaining.
Thank you
Thank you for watching. I hope you found it helpful.
Just watched this after turning in an unfinished paper late and not doing my other homework assignment due to my inability to sit down and JUST DO IT. I legit sat there for a while staring at my laptop with the problems in my face and could not do any of it no matter how hard I tried to start. After realizing how my future could be in jeopardy (currently a college sophomore), I decided to find ways to focus and do better in school, but I somehow ended up here and do not regret it. I related to so many things said in this video, (especially the feeling of dread when you know you should be doing an assignment) and it has made me seriously consider seeing someone about the possibility of having adhd. Definitely going to try and exercise or check out that book to see if that helps any.
Michelle thank you for watching and for your comments. You are not alone. There is help out there. I hope you found this helpful.
You literally just described how I feel right now. It's my first year of college and I literally can't get myself to start my assignments, the worst thing is I know my work/future is in jeopardy but I just can't start the assignments. I tell myself u have time it's not due till 11:59 but it's already 9 pm and I still can't start it so I give up. I feel so stupid rn
@@jennhypp5367 I'm in the exact same position. It's my first year and I'm already struggling. I was diagnosed at 12 years old but have never medicated for it because I guess I wanted to test my own abilities. I've done well in school up until now. Doesn't help that I have ASD and you almost need to be hypersocial to get through university.
Oh, my god, sir. It's like you're me. I have never really been able to articulate what goes on inside me in a way people can understand or take seriously. Everything you said cut right through the mess. I can use your words. You have given me new words to speak for myself. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 31 and have been learning more and more about this condition over the last 13 years. I wish to god I had known earlier in my life. Thank you for this presentation and for everything you do on our behalf.
Erin Robinson thank you for watching, for reaching out and for your kind words. You are not alone. There are many of us out here just like you. Please share the presentation with others you think it might help.
Economics were two favorite courses, besides Intermediate French, my favorite courses. I love the "Camelot" soundtrack. Relaxing but not distracting. I still study with it on. I like to write legal briefs!
This is a very old but very helpful video....it summarised my whole university life...always late...very disorganised...my mind is always all over the place...I lose every little thing...I did recently diagnose myself with ADHD and I'm soo glad TH-cam recommended this video..very helpful👌
Nommy Z Thank you for watching and for your thoughts. I’m glad you found something helpful in this presentation.
Thank u so much for this information as it explains a lot about me even though I've never seen a psychologist. I remember getting A grades in primary school and failing dramatically in high school. Right now I'm struggling with forgetfulness and organizing my studying time or anything educational to be specific. I usually fail my maths but if somebody ask me if I'm poor at it, I say no because I know myself. Sometimes I would study maths in a way that shut out the fun things in life like playing, when I'm focused. As a result I would get and A. But when the main exam comes, I try to study but can't motivate myself to study even though the paper was due tomorrow. I would wonder to myself why I can't learn maths like the way I do some months ago. This was last year. Same applies for other subjects.I know I'm smart and I like science and want to become a doctor, but it's impossible because think that I'll kill my patients by forgetting the place where I put the surgical knife. Thank u.
You are very welcome. Thank you for watching and I am glad you found it helpful.
Bruh. The thing he said about not reading the book but picking up from class and leading the discussion is literally the same thing I do!
This is truly a great video, Rob! Thank you for explaining ADHD in terms that are so understandable to adults with ADHD. Your message is very applicable to college students and young adults with ADHD, but also to adults (like you!) who were diagnosed after they got through college (and even law school!), but became overwhelmed with the responsibilities of the "grown-up" world, e.g., the daily stresses of working, paying bills, and having a family. Good for you for coming up with so many helpful strategies on how to deal with your brilliant, active ADHD brain - and sharing those strategies with others!
Thank you so much Camille for watching and spreading the word. You were there live, so it means a lot to me that you actually sat through it again on TH-cam.
Camille - I just got notified that this video passed 65,000 views earlier this week. I am looking back through comments and came upon yours. Thank you for your support and validation. If I could figure out how to make a living doing presentations like this, I wouldn't practice law any more. I would love to develop presentations for colleges and speak on a regular basis. Maybe someday.
Wow, just watched this and about cried with the poem at the end. My 7 yo son is struggling and we are snow seeking help. He’s so bright but head in the clouds during class time. I played Mozart For him at bedtime the other night and he asked me every night since to play the “piano guy” for him at bedtime. This video helped me understand myself Better as a self diagnosed adult and to help ground myself as how to help my child.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to reach out. I also appreciate your kind words about my poem. If you like, you can email me at robert@roberttudisco.com and I will send you a pdf of the poem for him.
Rarely a day will go by where i dont leave something at home when leaving in the morning and have to go back inside, usualy happens about 3 to 4 times before i get evertthing. Trying to stick to a to do list is so hard its like my brain just cant process structure lol ive just been diagnosed at 26. I remember at college i would also find it very hard to sit in class for long periods without taking a walk to the bathroom just to get out of class.
benny blanco thank you for watching.
Good lecture. Got diagnosed at 33 and felt a huge relief. I'm not an idiot I just have a totally treatable condition.
Thank you for watching. I hope you found something helpful.
Great video Mr Tudisco. There was a lot of great material from this video. Right now I'm taking time off from college after having some difficulties with procrastination and organization. It's not easy, but I'm using this quarantine time to slowly build up good habits and to figure out how I can learn the best. Thanks for all the videos you put out on your channel, and also for being active in the comment section.
Will you’re welcome. I’m glad you found it helpful.
The way you describe how you interacted in class is exactly how school was for me!