The toxic nature of some families isn’t spoken about enough. Toxic parents don’t equip their kids we it’s the best skill set to succeed. In my situation my mother convinced me to return home temporarily after uni. Even though I was an adult, working and paying her rent and bills she refused to see me as an adult. Became EXTREMELY controlling to the point she dictated that I had to be out of the house by 8am and couldn’t come back until 6pm. I loved like that for 18 days, which gave me just enough time to sell pretty much everything I owned to buy a cheap car. I loved in that for 4 weeks which allowed me to save up a deposit for a flat share. It took me 10 years and a ton of therapy to recognise that I was raised by an extremely abusive mother. When I went back after uni I didn’t have the skills to recognise her abuse. Thank God for Dave Ramsey- I learnt all the financial skills I didn’t get taught at home!
I’m 28.. live with my dad, and IRONICALLY, he needs my help to pay to mortgage. You’d be surprised how many people in their late 20s still live with their parents with these housing prices
I was in the exact same position...paid £90000 off my parents mortgage............and have to listen to , "why are u still living at home off your parents?"👿👿
I’m 29 and l am stuck living with my parents and as a result I’m single, I’m depressed and I have meltdowns, and I get jealous of people younger than me who have moved out. I also have a learning disability which is a big barrier to me moving out! Perhaps the only thing I can do is accept it, and keep my head down and get on with life with my parents exactly as it is, no matter how boring it is!
Very sorry for your situation.. You can live in an RV (rent free & tax free).. You’ll have peace & freedom that you deserve. Lots of folks are doing it at your age & younger.
@@sopascat7 I also live in the UK and the cost of living crisis makes it impossible for young folk to live independently, which is hard enough without having autism. It does play a big part in my lack of independence. Guess the only thing I have going for me is I do have a car
Living at home can sometimes be a toxic situation; in those cases it can be better for mental health to find a decent affordable place where you can relax and gather your thoughts rather than put up with the emotional toil
@Symbol I would think if it was truly toxic, she would be ready to give specifics. The only thing she said is that her siblings has disabilities and her parents yell at them. And?
@Symbol Nothing she is going through is toxic or even a negative effect on her. She's a complainer. Most kids her age are these days. Just looking for excuses.
@@hawkgurl1157 exactly lol. I mean you're the one choosing to move back home and then complain about what's going on there. Just a loser that likes to complain.
@@kosarajubhanusri No I don't believe so. It's just a way for kids in todays world to complain by calling anything that happens to them "Toxic" and "effecting their mental health."
When I was at home and didn’t like the stuff being put on me, I decided to work more and every day so I wouldn’t have to go home. I did that instead of moving out.
Ultimately thats what your parents want if youre living with them, the old school ones at least, they dont want to see you, and if they do they want to see you hustling and sleeping cuz ur tired from work.
My parents are so controlling to the point I just feel like dying to give up on life , my whole life is ruined because of them , lost all the friends , etc.. and still no support of what so ever , extremely controlling , makes me sit at home all the time. Iam not allowed to go out of my home at all , my brain has started losing it, the stresss is killing me and burning my head , I have lost faith in everythinh, I try to move out but my brain is extremely stressed to the point I have forgotten basic language , my ability to earn is going downhill , I can't focus , I can't do anything, only God can save me from this rut ❤️
It has been 7 months since this comment. How are you right now? It sounds like me. I live in the same situation. I am also living in a toxic environment, overstaying due to mental and physical illness, while I deteriorate my parents are making me sicker, yet I am still attached due to the narcissistic abuse. However, what caused all of this was not only my depression when I was in college due to narcissistic abuse, but I had to live through the recession, institutional racism which prevented me from getting a career after I graduated and now housing.
@@jacqueslee2592 hi Iam still in the same situation but my anxiety has dropped ever since I discussed with them I wanna move out , they disagreed but after a lot of arguments they allowed me to stay away for few months . Iam hoping this comes true . I hope your situation gets better too , I know the feeling of staying in a toxic environment 😭😭😭
Little annoyed with this response, actually. The girl is CLEARLY suffering from mental health EXHAUSTION, she has dreams, she’s working FULL TIME and going home EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. to a house where she feels that she’s a burden and it’s toxic! TOXIC! Do you hear me, Dave?! Telling her to get a part-time job after she’s already working 40 hours a week. Interrupting her after she just said, “I’m actually at Verizon right now.” LISTEN TO HER! She’s telling you that she can’t even take the call from home! This is so annoying. Just ACKNOWLEDGE that you know that she’s scared and upset and working her @$$ off to make ends meet! Give her more details! You’re thinking of ALL KINDS of part-time jobs but offering NO SOLUTIONS. She’s at her breaking point and reaching out for help! THIS is why people are going mentally insane! Everyone holds the secret cards for themselves and it’s “F*** Everyone Else!”
You’re right. You can tell how overwhelmed she was when he told her to get six more jobs. She’s got all she can handle with what she has right now. My heart goes out to her, I hope she’s doing okay.
I am in a similar boat. I come home every day to a place where I pay in mental well being and emotional well being. But Dave doesn't give a fuck. He probably pockets off of gouging people. When prices go up, mental health does down, domestic violence goes up, and addiction increases. Anyone responsible for this gouging of people's hard earned money should be held accountable. And I'm not a communist or socialist, I believe in free market capitalism, but we need to set some limits on how much one can gouge another
She asked how to get out of debt, he told her how to get out of debt. If you are too weak to hear the truth then you’ll never get out of your situation.
I am 25 , i am from India and I hate my life cause I live with my parents , I always wanted to have my own place before 24 even if it's small, but I can't afford to even rent an apartment with a a roommate so no privacy
That sucks i feel bad for you i am live in Russia and its sucks to live here too plus i should somehow to have house too but i don't want to pay so many money for house and i don't think to build home somewhere in Russia good idea cause i anyway want to get out from Russia in future so idk i think rent my only solution or keep living with parents but i don't like it tbh
Parents are stressing me out about figuring out my career and not getting my life together yet. Currently 24 and it's stressing me out that I told them I have plans for the coming year but they have no patience. Once I make the investment in this plan next year definitely moving out
Do you work? Do you help with expenses such as food, utilities, and do you pay rent? If not that maybe one of the reasons why your parents keep bringing it to your attention and are concerned about your ability to take care of yourself. I am sure they do not mean to be mean about it. It is out of concern for you and your prosperity. Setting goals and working hard to achieve them. They want what you want. To be financially stable, paying your own way, being accountable and responsible. If you work a full time job get a part time job. I worked a full time job during the week as a social worker and part time on the weekends almost my entire professional career. It doesn't leave alot of time to go to clubs and have a couple of drinks, but you have to keep you main objective in mind. Now, I retired early and own my own home.
It's so easy to tell people to work 2-4 extra jobs, but doing it is another story, even if you "have nothing to do". I get it, but it's ridiculous advice sometimes, so much easier said than done.
Yeah being really exhausted and want to sleep oh yeah let's go work a whole nother shift and then another oh you won't really really fall asleep behind the wheel so bad advice
That young lady needs another job, judging by the things she's described at home...That other job could very well be a promotion at the job where she's currently employed - so, what's the problem!!??!!
Couldn't agree more. I have to live with my mom a bit at 32. Since it's her house and her rules I don't have the right to complain about anything just as it should be. She's the kind of person that will wake up before 4am, make a bunch of noise in kitchen, wake me up in the process, and I have no right to complain about it or tell her to stop. It's maddening. The only way to avoid it (by avoiding it I mean already being awake) is to be dead asleep by 9pm. If I can't do that then it's another night of broken sleep
Me watching this living with my parents..At 26,I finally got a decent job as an AML analyst trainee,half of the month work at home the other at office.. Now I'm planning financially my escape plan.I also help pay bills and groceries. I have zero debt,don't do parties just a simple man introvert..and ready to start investing. Everyone one of my coworkers on car loan debt most don't like the cars they drive anyways. Very happy for discovering Dave in this pandemic when I was still unemployed. And oh most importantly still eating RICE AND BEANS
👍. Dude, wishing you all the best in your future endeavors. You grabbed the ball now run with it. Time to make your life your own and be the best person you want to be.
We don't live in a utopia. Up until about 100 years ago you wouldn't have even dreamt about NOT working 90% of your life because you would have died. We live in the most prosperous time of humanity right now and sometimes I think people forget that. It is the exception NOT to work 90% -95% of your life, not the rule. Don't forget that.
Take out electricity, computers, smartphones, grocery stores, retail stores, clean water, trash pick up or even a location to dump trash, paved roads, vehicles, modern medicine and you are back in the 1800's to early 1900's. Understand you have the OPPROTUNITY and the PRIVILEGE to NOT work as hard or as much as our ancestors to survive.
Working yourself to death doesn't seem like much of an improvement. Also how does one make a full time income delivering pizza's ? That's what kids do for like a few bucks an hour riding e-bikes.
@@Bertuzz84 don’t be dramatic, she’s not going to die. I’m saying a temporary second job will help get her out of debt. So she can start saving for a better life. Nobody is too good for a second job 😒
@@SisyphusJP It's not being lazy. When i work full time I'm exhausted, so how does one get the energy to work even more than that lol ? But yeah it has also been proven that working more than full time is very bad for ones health. So Dave advising people to work reckless long hours is pretty shocking with that in mind. I'm sure that a portion of the population is able to work those hours. But don t assume that everyone is able to and call them lazy. Not everyone is some kind of Olympic athlete.
I know, it sounded like she started crying when they mentioned getting extra jobs. And instead of helping her parents get organized with her disabled siblings in the mornings, Her complaint was all the noise didn’t let her sleep in till 8am.
Well you may be right about people not wanting to work but I think most people I have heard calling don't mind working but just don't have jobs that pay really well compared to their expenses, debts, etc. Or they are spending every dollar they make for some other set of reasons. She never said she hated to work and or did not want to work did she? Your quote: (People call up and act like they’re allergic to work. You want it, work for it.)
Its good thing that people don't want to work cause better try to optimization your energy and use your brains think about how make many money without working hard its good idea
I’m 28 living at home I’m leaving in fall just deciding on where to live but I don’t mind I’m able to work from home no one bothers me my mom doesn’t care no kids no distractions. I can’t wait to be on my own though I wont even need a roommate.
$35k in Cleveland, OH is definitely enough to live off. If you don't have debt. I'm on craigslist now and I see plenty of rooms available in rented properties for $500 or less. Debt makes life worse.
I live in Cleveland and if you find a place for $500, you will be sorry you moved there. Much of this city is very unsafe to live in, especially for a single woman.
@@hornetguy9063 Avoid East Cleveland, St. Clair, Glenville, North & South Collinwood, Fairfax, Woodland Hills, Buckeyes-Shaker, majority of Cleveland Heights, Lyndhurst, South Euclid, Euclid, Richmond Heights, Willowick and Beachwood is next to turn bad. The rest I can't comment on because I never go there
Getting "six jobs" might work if you don't have mental health issues and existing physical health problems. The worst part is wanting to be able to do more but feeling like you can't
I went to university for 3 years at the beheast of my parents and entered my 20s in debt paying £500-£1000 on rent while living on less than £10,000 (well below the poverty line) for 3 years in a bid to get a stupid degree I knew I didn't need but my parents claimed I needed to get. I then spent 1 extra year living out of the family home working and only managing to get minimum wage jobs. I completely agree with Dave with the added caveat-by all means dont allow your 18+ year olds to live at home so they can 'make something of themselves', but let THEM decide how they'll go about it otherwise don't be shocked when they cut you off and want nothing to do with an overbearing AND unsupportive parent.
She could probably make more working at a call center. I mean living at home rent free and dealing with yelling and discomfort may be something she just has to deal with for now. Get some ear plugs, come home late evening when everyone’s sleep. I remember being her age and at that age we don’t handle discomfort well because we want to be where we want to be in life but it takes time
She said that was just a small part of it. I have a feeling there is a lot more going on and its hard to work and do other things when your home is so toxic. I agree with Dave. Get a cheap rental and another job for more income.
She's making 35k a year, up to 60k depending on commissions... at 23. In 2019 the average US salary was 31k and in 2021 the average american has 90k in dept, she have 1/3 of that. She doesn't live in NY or LA, she doesn't have kids. Save 7min of your life! Get a roommate and live below your means. (oh and 7am is not that bad, I assume that's not the only thing they do to be called toxic parents...)
Exactly @Alexis Theriault: She makes $35k a year. Do you know where that puts her? In the top 15% of income earners, in the COUNTRY. This girl is a top 15 Percenter... she will be out of debt and become a millionaire in no time.
My problem is I have a learning disability that has made it so hard for me to do both hold a job and also study for exams to get my attorney license. I wish I could heal my learning disability overnight with food as medicine but its not easy so I have opted for the horrible quick fix which is taking vyvanse for my ADHD/Reading Disorder. Unfortunately, bcuz of my struggles in trying to complete my accreditation exams, I am at the mercy of my parents, who I live with, and they have decided to exile me and stopped giving me money to pay for my food and my cat's food (my cat is sick and needs to see a vet for his melanosis thats turning into cancer). This toxic sht really does negatively impact a person's mental health n I resent my parents for dumping me like Im trash bcuz I have failed to meet their expectations.
When I was living with my parents I was from my job to college all week long, so I was able to skip all the drama until I finished and moved out. So, there is an idea and on vacations I was working two jobs, to pay college and again skip the drama I was going home just to sleep and shower.
She makes enough to live on her own, and she could get another job there are plenty of jobs out there right now especially here in Cleveland where I live also. Additionally, the cost of living is very cheap here in Cleveland.
I’m divorced and 36 , with full custody of 2 boys, one of them 5 and special needs (autism) the other 3 and A typical terrible two’er. After my divorce got a country house out in between work and the help. I tried to do it all on my own. My parents are classic Southern baptist and my Dads a pastor. I like how you finished a brief summary with “That’s not even the tip of the iceberg”. Living with your parents in times of crisis is absolutely a last ditch, last resort option in most cases in my opinion…. Even so I did it for 2 years, because as a man I could not even begin to explain to my work (who in most cases were very understanding) to an extent of how daycares close for bad weather, short staffed or for any reason whatsoever they deem fit. The common denominator in me struggle to get out was trying to establish the right time to do it. There were so many factors, as my child was special needs it was always gut wrenching because he was established at his school which happened to be board recognized as the absolute best place for special needs in our district out of 14 other schools, I live in the deep hills of East Texas so work is a 45 minute commute. In order to move the heavens and stars would literally have to align as I would have to find a day care, get them both on a list and hopefully get spots for them both at the same time (which rarely happens) and then make the move. After accomplishing that I would then have to hands down always rely on (somebody) whether it be a sister as I have two, one that is very unavailable and contentious one that is touched by angel but also has two kids of her own. Even if all this happened, let’s say Ramsey himself drove down and helped me financially and organized it , brought a family psychologist to help iron out the details to get 100% independent (free from needing help). It would still be one of the most hardest things to do. Living with my parent very nearly drove me to suicide after I increased my life insurance to 1M dollars for my kids. They are not bad people, and actually some of the most amazing parents ever, but the stress of living with parents and never feeling comfortable, judged, never being enough literally melts what little encouragement you have. My father started taking the kids to school in the morning, what a blessing right? He actually picks them up at 330 until I get home , another blessing right? This was so helpful but one thing I felt like my parents forgot was how I’m the one that is rearing the children. When I got home from work I got no sympathy; they would stay up until 8 then go to their rooms. 6 to 11 my boys were mine as they should be, cooking, baths and bed… We slept in a big pile on a king size bed. Every doctors appointment, late ER visit, every trip to get an ice cream cone, every trip to just get away from the toxicity 💯% because of my moving in with my kids (I own it) … Was All me. There were times when I would feel mu SUV of with blankets and pillows and just drive to the lake and park and let them watch Netflix and we just laid in the back with out Amy judgement. I’m so good about not letting my depression affect the, I take them to water parks, restaurants, chuckee cheeses, parks but my parents never see this. In there minds I guess we’re just out and about driving around. Please women don’t crucify me here because I know y’all done for eons but the sheer amount of energy it takes when you want a steak or a certain restaurant to get up, get the kids dressed, get loaded, get to the restaurant (normally Turing to complete chaos) is like Navy Seal determination. On weekends sometimes I would just get off, pick up the kids and drive , drive far away buy them some toys 🧸 and then get a hotel and lock us in because it’s just big enough to watch a movie and if you happen to fall asleep you just have to open your eyes to get an eye on them. My advice is to put it on pen and paper, don’t even bat an eyelash at how impossible it may seem and just do it. It’s so much easier when people are literally chomping at the bit to help you because you literally refuse to accept anyone’s help, because when you get that type of credibility, then you know people are really want to help and not going to hold something over your head. Disclaimer- Both of my parents are cancer survivors and doing great but the surgeries and chemo took a toll. My mothers personally literally changed and they were tired and 58. I would have never ruined our relationship had I not let my marriage fail and my wife turn to drugs.
Dave would be proud of me. I seriously went mad at tackling debt. My wife joked and thought I was going to sell her 🤣🤣 We paid off everything including the mortgage! We don't live in a fancy home at all. It was built in 1960 and the mortgage was under 80k to start. But it still feels really nice to have no mortgage. But I got to where I was eating cheap. I was eating a lot of fruits and rice. Sorry Dave, I can't stand beans!!! But even after paying everything off, I still eat rice. I just eat the more fancy jasmine rice 🤣. You season it right, and that stuff is delicious! I however do indulge in the occasional ribeye!
I had a real issue with my ma and the way she acted I found here immoral and she’d even admit she was “wrathful” and I decided to unfortunately shack up to get away for her. Anything is better than abuse.
I found a great dog kennel here in CA for 100,000 to live in.. it’s pretty nice. The Train tracks and homeless next to me are pretty interesting? So happy I moved out my folks house 🏡.. You’re the best Dave 🙌
Get out, girl. If you need to get a part time job on the weekends. I had to work part time on Saturdays and Sundays during my professional career. You do it 👍.
Too many people whine about “mental health” now. People used to be tough and be able to deal with things and now every single inconvenience causes “mental health problems”. It’s used as an excuse to be fragile and whiney instead of being strong and learning how to deal with problems.
No, people just started more talking about it. Mental health problems are one of the main causes of death in USA. There is a difference between being mentally tough and just not taking care of your mental health.
I make 20k a year, sometimes less, and I'm coming out of my savings to live paying 1200 dollars a month, JUST IN RENT. I make it work and I go to sleep every night, so I don't see why people can't do it,
after my dad passed away, my mom moved into my small flat. It should be only temporary. 10 years passed and she is still living with me. I have no love life, no kids.. I told her to do something but she doesn't care. She is not working and I pay for food end shit.. I am now 45 and I feel like I failed at life. I also see that she is getting older and thats make me super depressed.. knowing that maybe I will have to take care of her. WTF should I do? I just want to enjoy my life, alone.
It sounds more like a personal issue. She is so use to living on her own and being dependent that when she moved back in with her parents she can't handle it and considers it "toxic".
@@michaelpalumbo4880 Not sure where you got that from, Dave's always proud to say he owns a multi million dollar business that helps people build wealth, and he only advices living on rice and beans for those struggling in debt 🤔
Same here bruh. I'm the only one out of the four adult kids who sacrificed my 20s to help my parents get by but get asked why im still living with them.
"Grab your life by the throat, shake it, and make it behave." Anyone that can't see that Dave has some serious anger issues bubbling right below the surface is blind, IMO.
This is the reality of becoming an adult. Think a form of entitlement is kicking in here where young adults expect the world to change for them when in reality they have to take ownership. Ultimately it’s her parents house and she needs to take steps to becoming independent.
"mental, behavioral, how I feel" .... o dear my "stress" and I'm being "stressed out by my parents" who I'm living with *on their dime* ... and I have a part-time job ... omg. Dave's advice is right on. Stop whining and get to work. Get control of your life and you will be a superstar.
Maybe Tori could help herself, and when she is standing up on her own two feet, maybe she can help her parents with a sitter for her siblings! Sounds like her parents need a lot of help! Three challenged children I think I heard her say, That is so rough.
@@Apollyon-sz9sn My son's a millennial and he doesn't talk like that. I know people say it, but three times in every sentence is overload. I couldn't stand listening to her!!
oh my god🙄 theyre bein rude bc shes living there and her excuse was lowkey trags im 18 i know nothing about the world i have anxiety and no job everyday im gettin criticized n on the verge of bein abused my father banged my head against a wall i need this advice on leaving n none of these videos are working
I always wanted my independence i hate living with my parents it makes me feel like a loser and a failure i want my own place so im not a loser my goal is to move out
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The toxic nature of some families isn’t spoken about enough. Toxic parents don’t equip their kids we it’s the best skill set to succeed.
In my situation my mother convinced me to return home temporarily after uni. Even though I was an adult, working and paying her rent and bills she refused to see me as an adult. Became EXTREMELY controlling to the point she dictated that I had to be out of the house by 8am and couldn’t come back until 6pm.
I loved like that for 18 days, which gave me just enough time to sell pretty much everything I owned to buy a cheap car.
I loved in that for 4 weeks which allowed me to save up a deposit for a flat share.
It took me 10 years and a ton of therapy to recognise that I was raised by an extremely abusive mother. When I went back after uni I didn’t have the skills to recognise her abuse.
Thank God for Dave Ramsey- I learnt all the financial skills I didn’t get taught at home!
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I’m 28.. live with my dad, and IRONICALLY, he needs my help to pay to mortgage. You’d be surprised how many people in their late 20s still live with their parents with these housing prices
My step bro just turned 30 makes 100k a year and came back to dad with his family you just need buy something realistic not barbies dream home
Whoa. Do NOT pay his mortgage. That's beyond messed up.
I hate living with my parents it's so boring and unfulfing, I need to find good jobs and decent house prices.
I was in the exact same position...paid £90000 off my parents mortgage............and have to listen to , "why are u still living at home off your parents?"👿👿
The crazy part is my parents are unrealistic
I’m 29 and l am stuck living with my parents and as a result I’m single, I’m depressed and I have meltdowns, and I get jealous of people younger than me who have moved out. I also have a learning disability which is a big barrier to me moving out! Perhaps the only thing I can do is accept it, and keep my head down and get on with life with my parents exactly as it is, no matter how boring it is!
Very sorry for your situation.. You can live in an RV (rent free & tax free).. You’ll have peace & freedom that you deserve. Lots of folks are doing it at your age & younger.
@@sopascat7 I also live in the UK and the cost of living crisis makes it impossible for young folk to live independently, which is hard enough without having autism. It does play a big part in my lack of independence. Guess the only thing I have going for me is I do have a car
Living at home can sometimes be a toxic situation; in those cases it can be better for mental health to find a decent affordable place where you can relax and gather your thoughts rather than put up with the emotional toil
lol her situation is not toxic though. She's just a complainer.
@Symbol I would think if it was truly toxic, she would be ready to give specifics. The only thing she said is that her siblings has disabilities and her parents yell at them. And?
@Symbol Nothing she is going through is toxic or even a negative effect on her. She's a complainer. Most kids her age are these days. Just looking for excuses.
@@hawkgurl1157 exactly lol. I mean you're the one choosing to move back home and then complain about what's going on there. Just a loser that likes to complain.
@@kosarajubhanusri No I don't believe so. It's just a way for kids in todays world to complain by calling anything that happens to them "Toxic" and "effecting their mental health."
When I was at home and didn’t like the stuff being put on me, I decided to work more and every day so I wouldn’t have to go home. I did that instead of moving out.
That’s a great idea good for u man. Smart decision u made
That’s the best thing you can do.
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Ultimately thats what your parents want if youre living with them, the old school ones at least, they dont want to see you, and if they do they want to see you hustling and sleeping cuz ur tired from work.
@@lmcg.... I live at home and my mom likes to see me, we get along great. She does like to see me work but also enjoys spending time with me
My parents are so controlling to the point I just feel like dying to give up on life , my whole life is ruined because of them , lost all the friends , etc.. and still no support of what so ever , extremely controlling , makes me sit at home all the time. Iam not allowed to go out of my home at all , my brain has started losing it, the stresss is killing me and burning my head , I have lost faith in everythinh, I try to move out but my brain is extremely stressed to the point I have forgotten basic language , my ability to earn is going downhill , I can't focus , I can't do anything, only God can save me from this rut ❤️
Your parents are toxic, codependent narcissists! Please try to get the hell away from them!!!
It has been 7 months since this comment. How are you right now? It sounds like me. I live in the same situation. I am also living in a toxic environment, overstaying due to mental and physical illness, while I deteriorate my parents are making me sicker, yet I am still attached due to the narcissistic abuse. However, what caused all of this was not only my depression when I was in college due to narcissistic abuse, but I had to live through the recession, institutional racism which prevented me from getting a career after I graduated and now housing.
@@jacqueslee2592 hi Iam still in the same situation but my anxiety has dropped ever since I discussed with them I wanna move out , they disagreed but after a lot of arguments they allowed me to stay away for few months . Iam hoping this comes true . I hope your situation gets better too , I know the feeling of staying in a toxic environment 😭😭😭
I wonder why they don’t want you to move out
Your parents probably aren’t exited about have a lazy grown up child living at home either.
I would get myself so busy that I would just show up there to shower and sleep lol.
Absolutely, every minute at a job is a minute not at home.
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Taking this advice
Doing that right now
Yeah if would in her situation I would make myself scarce as possible at home or move out.
Atleast till first 18-20 yrs everyone lives with their parents ,it completely ruins your mental health ,like the trauma never leaves you
So you are saying that parents gives us trauma and are part of our mental health?
Little annoyed with this response, actually. The girl is CLEARLY suffering from mental health EXHAUSTION, she has dreams, she’s working FULL TIME and going home EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. to a house where she feels that she’s a burden and it’s toxic! TOXIC! Do you hear me, Dave?! Telling her to get a part-time job after she’s already working 40 hours a week. Interrupting her after she just said, “I’m actually at Verizon right now.” LISTEN TO HER! She’s telling you that she can’t even take the call from home! This is so annoying. Just ACKNOWLEDGE that you know that she’s scared and upset and working her @$$ off to make ends meet! Give her more details! You’re thinking of ALL KINDS of part-time jobs but offering NO SOLUTIONS. She’s at her breaking point and reaching out for help! THIS is why people are going mentally insane! Everyone holds the secret cards for themselves and it’s “F*** Everyone Else!”
You’re right. You can tell how overwhelmed she was when he told her to get six more jobs. She’s got all she can handle with what she has right now. My heart goes out to her, I hope she’s doing okay.
I am in a similar boat. I come home every day to a place where I pay in mental well being and emotional well being. But Dave doesn't give a fuck. He probably pockets off of gouging people. When prices go up, mental health does down, domestic violence goes up, and addiction increases. Anyone responsible for this gouging of people's hard earned money should be held accountable. And I'm not a communist or socialist, I believe in free market capitalism, but we need to set some limits on how much one can gouge another
40 hrs a week can be doubled
I did it so can anyone
@@tinabrenner3562you’re a liar.
She asked how to get out of debt, he told her how to get out of debt. If you are too weak to hear the truth then you’ll never get out of your situation.
Read the title and i felt that..
Same lol
My sentiments exactly!
I REALLY FELT THAT
Yep
Ikr
I felt this. Move out it will be the best decision in ur life I promise on the God I believe in.
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Her point about education was spot on. When you know better, you do better. Watching others refuse to do better at your urging can be frustrating.
The statement when you know better you do better was a tremendous help to my mental health. I wish the young lady much success.
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I am 25 , i am from India and I hate my life cause I live with my parents , I always wanted to have my own place before 24 even if it's small, but I can't afford to even rent an apartment with a a roommate so no privacy
That sucks i feel bad for you i am live in Russia and its sucks to live here too plus i should somehow to have house too but i don't want to pay so many money for house and i don't think to build home somewhere in Russia good idea cause i anyway want to get out from Russia in future so idk i think rent my only solution or keep living with parents but i don't like it tbh
@@godofdeath8785 gotta do what u gotta do
Parents are stressing me out about figuring out my career and not getting my life together yet. Currently 24 and it's stressing me out that I told them I have plans for the coming year but they have no patience. Once I make the investment in this plan next year definitely moving out
Do you work? Do you help with expenses such as food, utilities, and do you pay rent? If not that maybe one of the reasons why your parents keep bringing it to your attention and are concerned about your ability to take care of yourself. I am sure they do not mean to be mean about it. It is out of concern for you and your prosperity. Setting goals and working hard to achieve them. They want what you want. To be financially stable, paying your own way, being accountable and responsible. If you work a full time job get a part time job. I worked a full time job during the week as a social worker and part time on the weekends almost my entire professional career. It doesn't leave alot of time to go to clubs and have a couple of drinks, but you have to keep you main objective in mind. Now, I retired early and own my own home.
Coming from a family with addiction issues and abuse issues I agree. Get out if you can
Dave has an amazing poker face, when he listens to these stories.
Dave is Sympathetic yet Practical.
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I so agree. What Dave and Anthony says goes. Follow their advise you can never go wrong.
It's so easy to tell people to work 2-4 extra jobs, but doing it is another story, even if you "have nothing to do".
I get it, but it's ridiculous advice sometimes, so much easier said than done.
Yeah being really exhausted and want to sleep oh yeah let's go work a whole nother shift and then another oh you won't really really fall asleep behind the wheel so bad advice
That young lady needs another job, judging by the things she's described at home...That other job could very well be a promotion at the job where she's currently employed - so, what's the problem!!??!!
sometimes just finding the extra jobs is freaking battle too lol ahh it really will age a person faster than ever.
Dave is so unrealistic in most things he suggests. It's easy to spew ideas.
I’m so introverted that one job is hard for me
Folks under estimate the value of space. Some function better in their own space. The extra activities cause by others can be problematic.
Couldn't agree more. I have to live with my mom a bit at 32. Since it's her house and her rules I don't have the right to complain about anything just as it should be. She's the kind of person that will wake up before 4am, make a bunch of noise in kitchen, wake me up in the process, and I have no right to complain about it or tell her to stop. It's maddening. The only way to avoid it (by avoiding it I mean already being awake) is to be dead asleep by 9pm. If I can't do that then it's another night of broken sleep
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Me watching this living with my parents..At 26,I finally got a decent job as an AML analyst trainee,half of the month work at home the other at office..
Now I'm planning financially my escape plan.I also help pay bills and groceries. I have zero debt,don't do parties just a simple man introvert..and ready to start investing. Everyone one of my coworkers on car loan debt most don't like the cars they drive anyways.
Very happy for discovering Dave in this pandemic when I was still unemployed.
And oh most importantly still eating RICE AND BEANS
Proud of you man, u got this
That’s awesome! It can take a while to find a stable job with more income. Congrats on being debt free 🥳
👍. Dude, wishing you all the best in your future endeavors. You grabbed the ball now run with it. Time to make your life your own and be the best person you want to be.
I really don't believe working 90% of your life is healthy. Don't really agree with ramsey on this one
We don't live in a utopia. Up until about 100 years ago you wouldn't have even dreamt about NOT working 90% of your life because you would have died. We live in the most prosperous time of humanity right now and sometimes I think people forget that. It is the exception NOT to work 90% -95% of your life, not the rule. Don't forget that.
Unless you are independently wealthy, you are not getting rich off part time work.
Take out electricity, computers, smartphones, grocery stores, retail stores, clean water, trash pick up or even a location to dump trash, paved roads, vehicles, modern medicine and you are back in the 1800's to early 1900's. Understand you have the OPPROTUNITY and the PRIVILEGE to NOT work as hard or as much as our ancestors to survive.
I believe it's for a season.
@@alishavogel7926 You put things in perspective. Love it!
Getting a second job would help her get out of the house too. Get on that grind!
Working yourself to death doesn't seem like much of an improvement. Also how does one make a full time income delivering pizza's ? That's what kids do for like a few bucks an hour riding e-bikes.
@@Bertuzz84 My boss consistently works 80+ hours a week. Just had quadruple bypass surgery. I'll pass, no thanks.
@@Bertuzz84 don’t be dramatic, she’s not going to die. I’m saying a temporary second job will help get her out of debt. So she can start saving for a better life. Nobody is too good for a second job 😒
@@notclaire612 these people above are lazy, grind and ignore all other things and you will rise above the pack in the long term.
@@SisyphusJP It's not being lazy. When i work full time I'm exhausted, so how does one get the energy to work even more than that lol ? But yeah it has also been proven that working more than full time is very bad for ones health. So Dave advising people to work reckless long hours is pretty shocking with that in mind.
I'm sure that a portion of the population is able to work those hours. But don
t assume that everyone is able to and call them lazy. Not everyone is some kind of Olympic athlete.
Get another roommate. It's hard to live with your parents at that age already, then add that stress? I know how she feels.
The only regret I have in life is not moving all of my stuff out of my parents' place, including my papers that my parents decided to keep.
My 24 year old S-kid moving back in many months ago is affecting my mental health!!!!
Im sending this to him
You can speak with your partner and put a time limit on it of when the SK needs to leave. It's YOUR home, not the kids' home.
U don’t know that it means u didn’t help them a bough
I’m 24 years old and my parents still control my life. It’s awful
I understand - toxic family is horrid.
Dave needs a reality check.
Yes girl!!!!! I do DoorDash on the weekend so I can pay off debt. Do what you have to do to get out of debt
I UE, DD, GH, etc. full time and make $350-$400 a day. Best decision I made was quiting my job to work for myself.
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@@WookieSenshi lucky you! Where do you live?
really? I tried doordash and that sht really wasnt all that profitable at all especially if u paying for gas like crazy.
People call up and act like they’re allergic to work. You want it, work for it.
I know, it sounded like she started crying when they mentioned getting extra jobs.
And instead of helping her parents get organized with her disabled siblings in the mornings,
Her complaint was all the noise didn’t let her sleep in till 8am.
💯 💪🏾
Well you may be right about people not wanting to work but I think most people I have heard calling don't mind working but just don't have jobs that pay really well compared to their expenses, debts, etc. Or they are spending every dollar they make for some other set of reasons. She never said she hated to work and or did not want to work did she? Your quote: (People call up and act like they’re allergic to work. You want it, work for it.)
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Its good thing that people don't want to work cause better try to optimization your energy and use your brains think about how make many money without working hard its good idea
Imagine feeling uncomfortable in someone else’s house. You deal with their lifestyle until you have enough to help yourself.
I’m 28 living at home I’m leaving in fall just deciding on where to live but I don’t mind I’m able to work from home no one bothers me my mom doesn’t care no kids no distractions. I can’t wait to be on my own though I wont even need a roommate.
Why r u leaving then, your situation sounds great u should save up for a down payment on a house
Get a roommate! Don't treat it as a social thing or a having parties thing, find someone who is working a lot like you!
The details were vague but it sounded like her vehicle is more expensive then she needs.
She needs to sell the car and get a used one. A studio apartment would work for her.
So live in the vehicle! Paying rent is stupid. If you're single, you can shower at the gym and live in the car until you can afford to buy.
@@christinebutler7630 For a young woman I don't think that's feasible or safe. It would be better to sell the vehicle and get an apartment.
@@christinebutler7630 completely ridiculous advice lol
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$35k in Cleveland, OH is definitely enough to live off. If you don't have debt. I'm on craigslist now and I see plenty of rooms available in rented properties for $500 or less.
Debt makes life worse.
You're probably looking at the hood lol! Not worth it...
Korey Paul maybe. $1800 for a 4 bedroom? Or $450 a head?
I live in Cleveland and if you find a place for $500, you will be sorry you moved there. Much of this city is very unsafe to live in, especially for a single woman.
NeccoWecco maybe some suburbs that are safer?
@@hornetguy9063 Avoid East Cleveland, St. Clair, Glenville, North & South Collinwood, Fairfax, Woodland Hills, Buckeyes-Shaker, majority of Cleveland Heights, Lyndhurst, South Euclid, Euclid, Richmond Heights, Willowick and Beachwood is next to turn bad. The rest I can't comment on because I never go there
Getting "six jobs" might work if you don't have mental health issues and existing physical health problems. The worst part is wanting to be able to do more but feeling like you can't
Damn America really is just .‘work until you die’. His extreme mindset is sad. Forget living right
so the only solution is to work work work work work work work until your body shuts down on you?
That is not what he said.
No just stay in debt and stress stress stress stress until that kills you
Yep, sacrifice now for a better life later. It works!
@@gmarie3053 your comment was brilliant. but ohhh...sooo true. Thank you for saying that. : )
Overworking yourself kills you also...
I went to university for 3 years at the beheast of my parents and entered my 20s in debt paying £500-£1000 on rent while living on less than £10,000 (well below the poverty line) for 3 years in a bid to get a stupid degree I knew I didn't need but my parents claimed I needed to get. I then spent 1 extra year living out of the family home working and only managing to get minimum wage jobs. I completely agree with Dave with the added caveat-by all means dont allow your 18+ year olds to live at home so they can 'make something of themselves', but let THEM decide how they'll go about it otherwise don't be shocked when they cut you off and want nothing to do with an overbearing AND unsupportive parent.
I took your financial advice. Now I’m able to hangout at the bar every Saturday and Sunday night from 2-10pm, cooking the food for them
She could probably make more working at a call center. I mean living at home rent free and dealing with yelling and discomfort may be something she just has to deal with for now. Get some ear plugs, come home late evening when everyone’s sleep. I remember being her age and at that age we don’t handle discomfort well because we want to be where we want to be in life but it takes time
She said that was just a small part of it. I have a feeling there is a lot more going on and its hard to work and do other things when your home is so toxic. I agree with Dave. Get a cheap rental and another job for more income.
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Working with my parents affected my mental health
She's making 35k a year, up to 60k depending on commissions... at 23. In 2019 the average US salary was 31k and in 2021 the average american has 90k in dept, she have 1/3 of that. She doesn't live in NY or LA, she doesn't have kids. Save 7min of your life! Get a roommate and live below your means. (oh and 7am is not that bad,
I assume that's not the only thing they do to be called toxic parents...)
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Exactly @Alexis Theriault: She makes $35k a year. Do you know where that puts her? In the top 15% of income earners, in the COUNTRY. This girl is a top 15 Percenter... she will be out of debt and become a millionaire in no time.
The look on Dave and Anthony's face when she said she has debt. 🤣
Ikr
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My problem is I have a learning disability that has made it so hard for me to do both hold a job and also study for exams to get my attorney license. I wish I could heal my learning disability overnight with food as medicine but its not easy so I have opted for the horrible quick fix which is taking vyvanse for my ADHD/Reading Disorder. Unfortunately, bcuz of my struggles in trying to complete my accreditation exams, I am at the mercy of my parents, who I live with, and they have decided to exile me and stopped giving me money to pay for my food and my cat's food (my cat is sick and needs to see a vet for his melanosis thats turning into cancer). This toxic sht really does negatively impact a person's mental health n I resent my parents for dumping me like Im trash bcuz I have failed to meet their expectations.
When I was living with my parents I was from my job to college all week long, so I was able to skip all the drama until I finished and moved out. So, there is an idea and on vacations I was working two jobs, to pay college and again skip the drama I was going home just to sleep and shower.
If she works multiple jobs she’ll burnout what kind of advice is this what if she has a stroke or something
She makes enough to live on her own, and she could get another job there are plenty of jobs out there right now especially here in Cleveland where I live also. Additionally, the cost of living is very cheap here in Cleveland.
Need the old intro music !!
I miss the hard rock guitar 😂
we need the ear drum busting music back!!
The intro was always ear drum splitting loud. Hated that!
Move out princess 👸 it's time for you to go.
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Tori is 23 years old. Time to find roommates and move out.
Caller: "I work at Verizon"
Dave: "DO YOU WORK 40 HOURS?!"
Caller: "I'm actually at Verizon right now.."
Dave: "40 HOURS?!"
No slacking off with Dave!
I’m divorced and 36 , with full custody of 2 boys, one of them 5 and special needs (autism) the other 3 and A typical terrible two’er.
After my divorce got a country house out in between work and the help. I tried to do it all on my own. My parents are classic Southern baptist and my Dads a pastor.
I like how you finished a brief summary with “That’s not even the tip of the iceberg”.
Living with your parents in times of crisis is absolutely a last ditch, last resort option in most cases in my opinion…. Even so I did it for 2 years, because as a man I could not even begin to explain to my work (who in most cases were very understanding) to an extent of how daycares close for bad weather, short staffed or for any reason whatsoever they deem fit. The common denominator in me struggle to get out was trying to establish the right time to do it. There were so many factors, as my child was special needs it was always gut wrenching because he was established at his school which happened to be board recognized as the absolute best place for special needs in our district out of 14 other schools, I live in the deep hills of East Texas so work is a 45 minute commute. In order to move the heavens and stars would literally have to align as I would have to find a day care, get them both on a list and hopefully get spots for them both at the same time (which rarely happens) and then make the move.
After accomplishing that I would then have to hands down always rely on (somebody) whether it be a sister as I have two, one that is very unavailable and contentious one that is touched by angel but also has two kids of her own. Even if all this happened, let’s say Ramsey himself drove down and helped me financially and organized it , brought a family psychologist to help iron out the details to get 100% independent (free from needing help).
It would still be one of the most hardest things to do.
Living with my parent very nearly drove me to suicide after I increased my life insurance to 1M dollars for my kids.
They are not bad people, and actually some of the most amazing parents ever, but the stress of living with parents and never feeling comfortable, judged, never being enough literally melts what little encouragement you have.
My father started taking the kids to school in the morning, what a blessing right?
He actually picks them up at 330 until I get home , another blessing right?
This was so helpful but one thing I felt like my parents forgot was how I’m the one that is rearing the children. When I got home from work I got no sympathy; they would stay up until 8 then go to their rooms. 6 to 11 my boys were mine as they should be, cooking, baths and bed… We slept in a big pile on a king size bed. Every doctors appointment, late ER visit, every trip to get an ice cream cone, every trip to just get away from the toxicity 💯% because of my moving in with my kids (I own it) … Was All me.
There were times when I would feel mu SUV of with blankets and pillows and just drive to the lake and park and let them watch Netflix and we just laid in the back with out Amy judgement. I’m so good about not letting my depression affect the, I take them to water parks, restaurants, chuckee cheeses, parks but my parents never see this. In there minds I guess we’re just out and about driving around.
Please women don’t crucify me here because I know y’all done for eons but the sheer amount of energy it takes when you want a steak or a certain restaurant to get up, get the kids dressed, get loaded, get to the restaurant (normally Turing to complete chaos) is like Navy Seal determination. On weekends sometimes I would just get off, pick up the kids and drive , drive far away buy them some toys 🧸 and then get a hotel and lock us in because it’s just big enough to watch a movie and if you happen to fall asleep you just have to open your eyes to get an eye on them.
My advice is to put it on pen and paper, don’t even bat an eyelash at how impossible it may seem and just do it. It’s so much easier when people are literally chomping at the bit to help you because you literally refuse to accept anyone’s help, because when you get that type of credibility, then you know people are really want to help and not going to hold something over your head.
Disclaimer- Both of my parents are cancer survivors and doing great but the surgeries and chemo took a toll. My mothers personally literally changed and they were tired and 58. I would have never ruined our relationship had I not let my marriage fail and my wife turn to drugs.
The part where you said they are good people, amazing people, but you never feel comfortable and feel judged--I felt that.
Your parents need help. Not sure where she lives, but they should reach out family services and see if they can get some kind of respite.
Been feeling this way for awhile especially today and then I saw this 🤣 I became happy just seeing the title
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I can relate to this. Wish her the hest
I love how Anthony has the tablet and Dave has a pile of paper in front of him! At least we know the principles stand the test of time! HAHA!
Dave would be proud of me. I seriously went mad at tackling debt. My wife joked and thought I was going to sell her 🤣🤣
We paid off everything including the mortgage! We don't live in a fancy home at all. It was built in 1960 and the mortgage was under 80k to start. But it still feels really nice to have no mortgage.
But I got to where I was eating cheap. I was eating a lot of fruits and rice. Sorry Dave, I can't stand beans!!! But even after paying everything off, I still eat rice. I just eat the more fancy jasmine rice 🤣. You season it right, and that stuff is delicious! I however do indulge in the occasional ribeye!
I don't know you but Im proud of ya! Also in very much need of a ribeye
I'm proud of your accomplishment. Well done.
well done!
80k house note?
*Cries in millennial” 🥲
Congrats!! I'm proud of you!
The problem is everything, especially the rent being so expensive, makes it even harder to move out for good
Even if you're in a good situation you need to hunker down right now.
I had a real issue with my ma and the way she acted I found here immoral and she’d even admit she was “wrathful” and I decided to unfortunately shack up to get away for her. Anything is better than abuse.
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Oh no, she wakes up at 7am sometimes, you poor thing 😢! *plays* *tiny* *violin*
this gave me a heavy chuckle
I’m confused on whether or not to take her complaints seriously…
@@notclaire612 I don’t
Glad you have it so rough
I found a great dog kennel here in CA for 100,000 to live in.. it’s pretty nice. The Train tracks and homeless next to me are pretty interesting? So happy I moved out my folks house 🏡.. You’re the best Dave 🙌
It’s like that sometime but honestly just have to endure man 🥲
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Get out, girl. If you need to get a part time job on the weekends. I had to work part time on Saturdays and Sundays during my professional career. You do it 👍.
Too many people whine about “mental health” now. People used to be tough and be able to deal with things and now every single inconvenience causes “mental health problems”.
It’s used as an excuse to be fragile and whiney instead of being strong and learning how to deal with problems.
No, people just started more talking about it. Mental health problems are one of the main causes of death in USA. There is a difference between being mentally tough and just not taking care of your mental health.
Did you notice how fast the word “toxic” entered the conversation? Toxic is close to outpacing racist as the go to aggrieved word.
@@ralphemerson497 your comment is toxic and racist.😆
Mental health status, real or imagined, has become a part of people’s personalities in the absence of… actual personality traits.
Older generations usually ignore their feeling and end up hurting other people in the long run.
Budgeting is key also a better apartment.
ya get to hustle things will workout. there are people in worst case scenarios . Power to the grinding live to live like no one else.
The word “toxic” is so overworked and under understood.
Ain't that the truth. Everything less than perfect is now toxic.
I just imagine her parents screaming at each other over the disabled kids. They're definitely screaming at disabled kids. That fits "toxic"...
I feel this❤️🤲🏼
Join the military. Free housing and three squares a day.
Yes be a piece of property of the satanic system get force vaxxed,,,,wonderful
Go die for our greatest ally yes
Plus women will probably be harrassed by the thirsty men
I make 20k a year, sometimes less, and I'm coming out of my savings to live paying 1200 dollars a month, JUST IN RENT. I make it work and I go to sleep every night, so I don't see why people can't do it,
@The Rаmsеy Shоw loser
They can, just don't want to.
@@tanL22 I sure wish I was in a position to just choose not to pay bills. Wishing many blessings to you!
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$35k in cleveland?! as a single person that's plenty
Pretty sure its gross
@@k-mart7475 yeah it’s disgusting
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Not it’s not. It’s barely over the US poverty level after tax.
after my dad passed away, my mom moved into my small flat. It should be only temporary. 10 years passed and she is still living with me. I have no love life, no kids.. I told her to do something but she doesn't care. She is not working and I pay for food end shit.. I am now 45 and I feel like I failed at life. I also see that she is getting older and thats make me super depressed.. knowing that maybe I will have to take care of her. WTF should I do? I just want to enjoy my life, alone.
Dang that's sad
It sounds more like a personal issue. She is so use to living on her own and being dependent that when she moved back in with her parents she can't handle it and considers it "toxic".
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@@Mosesusorer i knew this was a scammer
Independent*
Hey Ramsey, people are getting shot in Ohio weekly delivering pizzas. That’s not a good or safe job here
You both are incorrect
@@michaelpalumbo4880 Not sure where you got that from, Dave's always proud to say he owns a multi million dollar business that helps people build wealth, and he only advices living on rice and beans for those struggling in debt 🤔
@@moniquecastelo Ramsey told someone to deliver pizzas in his last videos
Same here bruh. I'm the only one out of the four adult kids who sacrificed my 20s to help my parents get by but get asked why im still living with them.
"Grab your life by the throat, shake it, and make it behave."
Anyone that can't see that Dave has some serious anger issues bubbling right below the surface is blind, IMO.
I know some 40+ somethings that moved back in with parents - extremely depressing wow
This is the reality of becoming an adult. Think a form of entitlement is kicking in here where young adults expect the world to change for them when in reality they have to take ownership. Ultimately it’s her parents house and she needs to take steps to becoming independent.
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"mental, behavioral, how I feel" .... o dear my "stress" and I'm being "stressed out by my parents" who I'm living with *on their dime* ... and I have a part-time job ... omg. Dave's advice is right on. Stop whining and get to work. Get control of your life and you will be a superstar.
Are u a superstar now
Get a Prius V , take the rear seats out and use the car as a home.
I lived in my Prius for two years… wasn’t bad at all and I was able to pay off two properties in the process👍
5:41 Few Nights an Hour… 🤣🤣🤣
75-150/hr to tutor? ha, what was he smoking??
Maybe Tori could help herself, and when she is standing up on her own two feet, maybe she can help her parents with a sitter for her siblings! Sounds like her parents need a lot of help! Three challenged children I think I heard her say, That is so rough.
funny we spend money on a school that will never get you a job but you need pay it back
She could afford to move out. I lived in my own making a lot less. Sounds like she needs to
tone down her lifestyle
Change it back to the old intro :)
It's the opposite in my case. My parents live with me. How do I go about kicking them out ?
Move and leave them there 😂
Bro y would u do this to your loving parents man?? They must not be so loving toward their son ayyyoo
Drinking game: take a shot every time she says like.
Like totally ✌️
Great advice!!! Dave is a very wise man 💯👌🏻
I wonder if she could use the word "like" more often.
It’s a snowflake millennial thing.
Like like definitely drove me crazy
I wonder if there’s things you do that annoy people, but they don’t point it out because they don’t want to be rude, unlike you.
@@Apollyon-sz9sn My son's a millennial and he doesn't talk like that. I know people say it, but three times in every sentence is overload. I couldn't stand listening to her!!
@@mitchmcturtle6890 Like probably, but like I don't really like care. They don't like have to listen to me if like they don't like want to.
oh my god🙄 theyre bein rude bc shes living there and her excuse was lowkey trags im 18 i know nothing about the world i have anxiety and no job everyday im gettin criticized n on the verge of bein abused my father banged my head against a wall i need this advice on leaving n none of these videos are working
Take a shot every time she says “like” 🥴🥴
Ok I miss the old intro
@@user-pq6wo4ny7g 🚨🇳🇬🤴🏿 This is a scammer y’all..🤴🏿🇳🇬🚨
Mom loves their children at home. They don't like empty nest syndrome.
Make sure to find a roommate with mental health problems or isn't financially stable themselves. Makes the game of life even more fun.
I always wanted my independence i hate living with my parents it makes me feel like a loser and a failure i want my own place so im not a loser my goal is to move out