I can’t stand it when I see “friends” hang out and treat each other like crap all the time. That’s not a friendship; that’s being afraid of loneliness.
Perfect. This lesson was a hurtful one, but my life got so much better when I could just let it go. I kept being attached to how much this person was important to me in the past and forgetting how terrible she made me feel in the present… we must remember all the time that life is here and now 🩵
@@danielwells774Yeah. Regret is imminent because of our ignorance. That’s okay though. After all, we don’t stay in this world for long. Until our death, might as well be finding the things that matter while also enjoying the little things.
“Its never too late”. That’s my life motto. I’m starting dental school at age 50 this year. I’m old enough to be almost everyone in my class’ dad. Always been my dream. Finally going for it.
1. self-relationship reflection 2. the only way to feel better 3. the only failure is not trying 4. no one is coming to save you 5. be the partner you want to have 6. life compounds 7. the most sexy and exciting things have diminishing returns. 8. turn down things so that you can focus on something really matters 9. take responsibility 10. you give power to who you blame 11. if you have to tell someone you are that, then you are not that 12. motive is not the cause of action 13. love is not the cause of commitment 14. passion is not the cause of good work 15. everything comes with an inherent sacrifice 16. a happy life is a life with meaningful stress 17. don't view exercise as an exchange for something 18. trust people meditation 19. life always has problems 20. growth requires loss 21. fuck being normal 22. can't say no makes your yes meaningless 23. be careful how you define yourself 24. don't make assumption 25. no one thinks about you that much 26. confidence comes from a comfort with failure 27. develop a willingness to be disliked 28. sometimes you are a life-changer, sometimes you are a joke 29. floss sunscreen 30. extraordinary comes from persistence. 31. choose a partner is not about romance 32. don't overestimate romantic love 33. trust is the currency of all relationships 34. your are problem 35. no bad emotion 36. mornings are the real shit 37. you don't need to prove anything 38. life advice is like clothing 39. nothing meaningful is easy 40. never too late to change
Reminds me strongly of the classical ego-dissolution idea from Yoga. It goes hand in hand with choosing carefully what you identify with (I AM xyz). Better to never define yourself because that's closer to the truth anyway ;)
@@nicoletjeng9793Don't define yourself with a simple description. Boiling yourself down to a few specific traits, by your job, or by what hobbies you have right now. Let yourself be many things and continue to expand as a person
@@nicoletjeng9793 Nothing is new. Mr Manson has the the ability to acquire smart people’s concepts and deliver them in a form that is palatable to his market… I believe that rule is heavily derived from Kierkegaard’s, “If you label me, you negate me”. You can Google it’s meaning and how it may be helpful for you. Best wishes.
#42: Time is the most precious possession we have, once it's gone you don't get it back. So make every day count for something, in some small way or another...
I'm 23 I struggled with depression, burnout, sleeping problems and general mental health since I was 12, wich then turned into addiction and a horrible attitude later in life, I've only just now gotten myself out of it, i never had energy to do anything but sleep and binge youtube videos every day, everyone was always blaming me for being lazy, so i started believing it for myself, i lost all meaning and direction in life. recently i snapped out of it, stopped blaming myself and started to talk positively to myself, i realised I'd already been through my own personal hel so bring it on I can take anything, i know what true failure feels like and I've seen the bottom of the spiral so fuck it if it happens, i have secretly been truning myself into a machine i took the time to deep-rest and study now i am unstopably confident and i love that.
I don't know who you are, and I don't know where you are, but whoever you are, I am also 23 and in a very uncannily similar situation. I feel you, and I also believe that we can both make it in this world where nothing but hatred and sadness continually brews even more hatred and sadness. I'm sure some famous person said something similar to that last part, or something like that, and that's probably why that's kind of stuck with me for a while now.
I too was an addict. The truth is, it was a symptom of a problem. and all of the problems, were created by me ultimately. The way I think about people, places, things and situations.. I had to change it all. (and my heart goes out to. 12 step helped me,.. it's a great place to start.. )
Nothing is black or white. There is no direct leap from this to that. But I've sensed that you have found your inner strength to carry yourself through. There will be obstacles and I trust that you wrestle with them and come on top eventually. Congratulations on our turnaround and welcome to the day to day trials we all struggle with every day! We all fail "normally" from time to time and we all keep going.
Ahhh…to be 40 again! Mark Manson’s book changed my mindset, my choices and my life at 46. Now I’m 52 and still looking to him for inspiration. He’s the G.O.A.T.
@@StoicNature444 nothing. You're still the same you except you got permanent debuff like health conditions due to aging, you can negate some of this by taking care of your body.
Here's the list + Timestamps: #1. Your relationship with others is a direct reflection of your relationship with yourself. 0:06 #2. The only way to feel better about yourself is to do things worth feeling good about. 0:11 #3. The only failure is not trying 0:28 #4. No one is coming to save you. 0:47 #5. Be the partner you want to have. 1:07 #6. The most valuable things in life compound over a long period of time. 1:20 #7. The most sexy and exciting things have diminishing returns. 1:39 #8. If you aren't turning down things that excite you,then you're not focused enough on something that matters. 2:06 #9. Taking responsibility for all your problems alleviates more suffering than it creates. 2:20 #10. You give power to who you blame. 2:40 #11. If you have to tell someone you're that, then you're not that. 2:54 #12. Motivation is not the cause of action,but the effect. 3:10 #13. Love is not the cause of commitment ,but the effect. 3:19 #14. Passion is not the cause of good work,but the effect. 3:30 #15. The person you marry is the person you fight with. 3:47 #16. A happy life is not a life without stress, it's a life with meaningful stress. 4:01 #17. Don't view exercise as an exchange for something. 4:06 #18. Trust people. 5:40 #19. There's no such thing as a life without problems. The solution to today's problem will be the seed of tomorrow's. 5:50 #20. Growth is rarely accompanied by joy and celebration. 6:09 #21. F*ck being normal. 6:27 #22. If you can't say no,then your yes's mean nothing. 6:37 #23. Be careful how you define yourself. 6:56 #24. Don't make assumptions about people. 7:17 #25. No one thinks about you as much as much as you think about yourself. 7:26 #26. Confidence does not come from an expectation of success,it comes from a comfort with failure. 7:47 #27. Develop a willingness to be disliked. 7:57 #28. You cannot be a life-changing presence to some people without also being a complete joke to others. 8:05 #29. Floss. And wear sunscreen. Every day. 8:17 #30. Extraordinary results come from repeating ordinary actions over an unordinary amount of time. 8:27 #31. Choosing a partner isn't about romance. 8:40 #32. Don't overestimate romantic love. 9:01 #33. Trust is the currency of all relationships. 9:26 #34. If all your relationships have the same problem, you're the problem. 9:56 #35. There's no such thing as a bad emotion, only a bad response to an emotion. 10:02 #36. 5 AM, I ❤ U. 10:15 #37. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, including yourself. 10:30 #38. Life advice is like clothing,try it on.And if it doesn't fit, disguard it and try something else. 10:40 #39. Nothing meaningful in life is easy, nothing easy in life is meaningful. 10:54 #40. It's never too late to change. 11:14
Look, I have a video too. Well, about this video: - Relationship with others mirrors relationship with oneself: self-respect attracts respect. - Failure lies in not trying; success and failure coexist in action. - No one rescues you; self-improvement is personal and ongoing. - Be the partner you desire; qualities sought in others should be embodied. - Long-term investments like health and relationships yield significant returns.
The story of the little old lady is so inspiring and heartwarming. I have an oppressive sense of internal urgency, fear of growing old and the diminished possibility set, and that lifted my spirits in a big way. Thank you.
Loved that ending. I'm only 26 and I work in radio. I really want to be a Newsreader but I feel this intense pressure that I'm running out of time. The fact that you started writing at 27 and still managed to become many peoples favourite author gives me hope that I don't need to stress so much
It's literally like... when you start it will suck. And then over time it will get better. And in 5 years you will look back and think it was good that you started it. Because you will know you won't be the one laying on your deathbed regretting you didn't try.
I'm 27, and thankful that I figured out a lot of these things on my own, but even more grateful that I discovered this video and am learning even more important things now!
started crying when you said its never to late/ im struggling so much with making decisions and changing directions and feeling like i waste so much time every day and that i could be produtive. i feel like this will be my life forever. constnatly indecisive and in torment. i know i can change this mindset if changed so many habits and outlooks before. this video may be what ive needed to get out of a slump. thank you and happy birthday. hopethe marathon goes well. im doing one too on my 29th birthday
As long as you're learning how to live better and improving from yesterday, no amount of effort is too small or not worth it! You've got this 💪💪 Proud of you
Honey, read what you said above. Your answers are in the one paragraph. 29..... you're still growing. Print all of this out, put it in an envelope marked with "do not open until age 44" then put it in a safe place. If you can't wait then open it when you're 39. I promise, you"ll have a completely different mindset. One more thing, always send cards to yourself. Through the mail! Then don't open them for a few years. Write little encouragements to yourself. Let's see how far you've come in being secure in your own skin. Good luck! Love yourself more.
Made me teary eyed as well. Especially when he says you have nothing to prove…to anyone. Even to yourself. I feel such a compelling need to prove to everyone that I’m successful. Prove to myself that I can do it, after failing my whole life. And I feel the same. Always been so indecisive and inconsistent in life. Sometimes it’s just overwhelming
I'm a man at 34 who struggles with confidence and self hate, and I just want to say, point 2 is very true. For those of you struggling with mental health issues, I myself deal with OCD, Anxiety, Autism and Depression, don't ever think that you shouldn't practice "self-care" just because you are a "bad person" in your eyes. If you can't be nice to yourself, how are you going to be nice to others? Like he says, how you treat yourself is a reflection of how you treat others. It's also, I assume, why they say "change starts with you"
Very true my neuro-diverse brudda 👍🏻 I live with anxiety and depression … medication on and off. One of the almost natural things you do when depressed is to give up on yourself … I remember getting into real carb heavy foods - pizza, burgers mainly with the thought.. let’s enjoy life before I end it… Covid then hit and I started to seek help online and one of the resources I found was this guy and Jordan Peterson … really good practical self help advice. Took it to heart quit my accounting job that was depressing as f@ck and went back to school to do psych which is a field I am really loving and enjoying … I had to take a pay cut … but life is much better for it! Everyone thought I was crazy giving up a “stable” but boring as f@ck accounting job but I had that epiphany.. you only life once so why not explore!
They say "change starts with you", but the funny thing is that you only realize it after you have changed and not before. When you've changed it is obvious of course, when you haven't, it seems to make no sense at all.
@@ibaili just asking a question. If you cant post things that make sense to other people then dont post at all. The purpose of the comment section is communication.
I’m 53 and this is brilliant and 100% correct. I didn’t follow half of this list and paid a heavy price, but turned it around in my 40s. Life couldn’t be better now in my 50s 🙏
Thank you for #40! I recently turned 63 and I've been worried that I was too old to make the changes I want to make in my life. Actually thank you for this whole list, Mark. A lot of it are things that I needed to hear.
@@deltaxcd "At your age you should be able to solve your own medical problems, not go to a doctor younger than you for help." You are genuinely a peabrain.
@@sachsuccess I am 49 now and most of the tips he gave are tips I now know but also would have liked to know in my 20s but hindsight is 20-20. Top 3: 1. Motivation is not the cause of action, but the effect. 2. The only failure is not trying. 3. There's no such thing as a life without problems. Hope it helps you!
Jesus Christ wants a personal relationship with you through the Holy Spirit, not religion and blind faith. You see, we all have sinned and deserve punishment but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God bodily, a perfect, sinless sacrifice to pay the penalty for our sins by shedding His blood on the cross. He died and rose from the dead so that we may have everlasting life. It is all finished and now for you to accept the free gift of grace you must believe from your heart in Jesus Christ, that He paid the price for your sins, that He is risen and alive. Don't trust in your own goodness but transfer your trust to Jesus and follow Him, get to know Him personally. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again, know Jesus personally and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Believe in Him, read the Bible and pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
It is so key to poke your head out of your life once and a while and re-evaluate. I have "remade" myself at least 4-5 times from 18 to 47 (B-day this month!).
I was at a really dark place a few months ago. My fiancé left me just 3 months before we were going to get married. I was completely devastated over this and didn’t see it coming. Had to deal with a lot from the aftermath of it. I read Mark’s books years ago, but his podcast & videos came to me at the perfect time. He helped me get through this dark time and I wouldn’t be here without him. Thank you sir 👊🏼
I'm gonna save this video and watch it every single day for the nearest future! This is the truth and motivation I think I need to grow up and make something of my self. Thank you Mark
I’m 33 years old going on 34 and I found your books to be very genuine and motivational. Your books inspired me to let go of expectations from others and myself. Now I’m much more relaxed and comfortable with being me and I can't thank you enough. Keep being awesome! 👊
The thing you said about time actually brought me to tears - you literally just changed my whole world view. I hate rushing things and I often feel like I have to do so in order to accomplish anything. Now I feel like everything will be okay and I'll be able to do anything I want. Maybe deep down I already knew and your fact just brought it up for me to realise.
For number 9, it's very important to remember the difference between taking responsibility vs. *blaming yourself* for your problems. Personally, blaming myself for my lack of motivation and constant procrastination from ADHD has led to years of self-perpetuating shame, apathy, and helplessness. Combatting issues caused by neurodivergence/mental unwellness is most certainly an uphill battle, and one almost always requires outside help to win it. Remember to take responsibility for your problems, but also to never do it alone. If you're struggling to make a change in your life, let go of shame and *ask for help.*
Concur. Sometimes reassigning the blame to the person/people at fault instead of yourself is actually taking your power back, not giving it away. I wish I'd known I'm AuDHD before I nearly died from burnout and the impact it had on my body. The fact I could have had supports from a young child and grown into my strengths with a life that fits my needs instead of becoming completely incapacitated in my early-mid 30s with zero supports and services and no hope.
Taking responsibility means taking action, not taking the blame. I struggle with adhd too. I try to forget about figuring out who is to blame because it literally doesn’t matter.
that's true, so how did you come to conclusion regarding ADHD? because these symptoms are not like physical symptoms .like even a normal person can have lack of motivation and procrastinate things, should we need to get it evaluated by doctor and let them establish neuro divergence? because of lot of situations in life of a person since childhood he can still become demotivated even with out ADHD
@@pavankumar-gh1zr everyone is human, but the impact of different types of neurodivergent conditions and people realising they have different neurotypes to normal (if it's not already picked up in childhood due to high support needs) is the impact to daily living ability. There are a lot of different diagnostics now for people to check against, they're not always worded well for people who aren't used to the jargon to match, I've seen two different individuals state that they're professionals in the industry one was a psychologist and another a psychiatrist and neither worked out they were autistic until several years into their professional working life, that's how far behind and limited the knowledge is around these different neurotypes. Some professionals still think that if someone can make eye contact that you cannot be autistic. Which is incorrect, of course different countries will have variance with diagnostic criteria and older professionals will be resistant to updating their knowledge. Anyway, the main thing is the impact to daily functioning. You think it's not a physical symptom but they definitely are, it's just harder to see the brain and with some physical signs people learn to suppress or mask them so they're not obvious or have a tonne of coping mechanisms in place to hide it. That's not sustainable though and a lot of people, especially now, are hitting the metaphorical wall and everything is just falling in a heap.
but you need to figure out who to blame before taking the appropriate action. if you find part of your body to be itchy, how could you not blame it on the mosquitos, before buying a mosquito light@floder-e
34 yo here and same. i am close to burnout due to work and because i cant keep up with the general herd mentality and communication. Its finally time to make steps into a direction that gives me back my spirit. even if it means quitting the job. i hate how society functions and just want to get away.
I think in High school you don’t realize how toxic many friendships are in that environment until you get out in the world! 🌎 it’s a big place and there are some really good people at every age and every income level!
As a 27 years old girl, this helped me so much. I jotted everything down in my journal and I’ll use your lessons to live with more wisdom from now on. Thank you ❤
Writing down wisdom and reflections is a wonderful practice. It helps solidify lessons and insights, making them easier to implement in daily life. By journaling, you're actively engaging with these ideas, which can lead to greater personal growth and a deeper understanding of yourself. Keep nurturing this habit; it's truly transformative.
I'm also 27 and have been thinking that I'm too late to start over and excel in anything but seeing your comment gave me a ray of optimism and yes I was planning to start writing a journal, perhaps this is my sign.
I'm 30 and been depressed feeling old because I couldn't make my dream true due to suffering mentally in life ... but I literally just posted a video today starting a series called 'SUPERSTAR in three years' because I want to change my life after losing my dream due to depression and been busy surviving all hardships including homelessness so I want to inspire others, and your video's timing is like a sign from the universe, especially that I just self published my Homeless Photographer book... so thank you for the push I needed. Also you age like fine wine.
Ik you might think that, but You’re not old at ALL omg. I feel like you’re so young and 30 is so empowering. Wishing you all the luck happiness and success 🎉❤
I found a great deal of meaning (value) in what you are saying. Thank you. I watched once all the way through and then watched again hitting pause here and there to contemplate your lesson for my life. Best video all day. Yes, happy birthday! Awesome gift.
I graduated at the end of last year. Stepping into society….. wasn’t easy. Everything I thought I knew turned out to be bs. I’ve been through what I believe most people had went through, for those who know, you know. I have to say, this video made so much freakin sense after what I have went through, if younger me watched this, I’d probably think “eh another guy who thinks he knows life”. Thanks Mark.
Number 37, "you don't have to prove anything to anyone, including yourself." - All I will say is thank you and these words mean a lot to me and that quote especially. Thanks for being you Mark and happy 40th birthday!! Great video and advice to hear in your late 20's.
Thanks for this. I'm on the ass end of my 20's. A week out at the time of this comment. I have mixed emotions but now, I'm going in with a higher sense of optimism
Happy Birthday Mark! I'm turning 18 next month, and I'm really grateful to have found you at such a crucial age as I enter into adulthood. Your wisdom has had an enormous impact on my life and perspective. I wish you lots of health and happiness. Cheers to your birthday. Love you, Mark! :)
Last year I managed to watch all Mark Manson videos on TH-cam. Gladly I finished them and I appreciate how it contributed to my mental state. Happy birthday Mark
This was very helpful. I'm 53, I remember having a consultation with a fiduciary last August, and it was incredibly insightful. Can’t stress enough how important experts in this field are!
My colleagues had a good laugh at me when I told them I started my journey with $5k capital and how I accumulated over 5 figures within a span of 7 months. They never believed me until I pulled out my P&L.
The story of the old lady really gives me hope: it’s never too late to learn anything and I can become proficient in anything I strive for. Thank you, old lady in the story
it's terrible advice. you learned nothing new, heard the same coping strategies and only heard things you wanted to hear. You didn't learn, didn't get challenged - just engaged in the willful ignorance. Guy doesn't event talk about awareness practice. Because if you practiced you would see through the appeasing facade of grifters.
@@agnidas5816 where did you hear that? Some of my friend told me to tell to you. Thats you dont need to hide anymore. Just a little group. You tell it! the group can be big you know
man... if at this point you didnt think of at least half the things he said by yourself then you have some serious homework to do... that or you're like 14 or something, then its understandable
@@NakedAvanger Thinking of something, or listening, hearing someone say it doesn't equal internalization of it or remembering the points at any given moment in life when something hits you. And to me, the points that he said, if 30 / 40 out of those are something that you by whatever age you are have found out yourself and validated, it will give you the trust to believe that so are rest of the 10/40 that you may have not experienced yourself yet. I would go as far as to say that many of those points at 20 years old would have gone far over my head, and for that reason I wouldn't have been sure if I would have trusted the other ones. If you look at 99%+ of people around you, none of them have internalized all of those points, neither have I (at 30+). A lot of this comes down to, that life is never easy, and it will never become easy, and it should be accepted that this is the way it is. The only way out of it would be to discover a chemical that can introduce you to a constant heroin like state of euphoria. It's not discovered yet, and are we sure it's something that we want to discover?
This is genuinely one of the most impactful videos I've watched in a while. These really stuck with me and I appreciate you sharing your life experience
You mentioned being acquainted with Headspace back in 2015 when it wasn't as mainstream. Well, here's a tidbit to top that: I actually purchased a lifetime subscription for Headspace back in 2014. Fast forward to September 2022, and I completed my 400-day meditation challenge, practicing every single day.
Happy Birthday Mark! Thank you for your work on "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck", it has provided an approach to living that allows me to be more at peace with myself
Mark, thank you for the courageous vulnerability. You exposed some really helpful stuff for me under the thousand stones you wrestled underneath. Your attitude has encouraged me to get on with living a life worth living. Happy birthday! 🎉
This video is GOLD. Believe me, I've watched and listen to many mentors and billionaires here on TH-cam, but there's nothing like Mark Manson! Very practical, very honest, and no sugar coating! Mark, you're a blessing from God the most high! (I just hit the all notification button).
"Your relationship with others is a direct reflection of your relationship with yourself" Also true in that we project how we treat ourselves onto others. For example, if we're overly critical of ourselves, we'll be overly critical of others. If we give ourselves grace and love ourselves well, we can then do that for others.
what you said about learning to do something well in the process of developing competency and agency about it then causes you to become passionate about it really spoke to me I had a teacher in middle school say the same thing
I learned these towards the end of my 20s thanks to a series of events and I feel so blessed to have learned it so early. My SO and some friends always said I had an old soul and, the older I get, the more I understand what they meant.
Happy birthday Mark . You said on Tom Bilyeu you would quit the day you feel like you won’t help others. You are helping myself and countless others. You are S tier guy.
yes my dad is in his 40s and said the same thing kinda when u say yes to something u are simultaneously saying no to something and vice versa so always check both side of the coin when u say yes or no to something
I've learned so many of these the hard way... My thirties so far have been me picking up the pieces from all of the mistakes I made over the last twenty years.
This is quite normal, I barely know anyone who got things right in their first few decades. It seems like humanity hasn't figured out a system yet to instill some wisdom and foresight into its young ones early on. So, mistakes and pain will remain our best teachers for while to come...
@@r-type4945 I'm 70, and I've learned that sometimes you don't know you've fucked up until years or decades later. Many years ago I was in a relationship with a very sweet woman who thought I hung the moon. She had 2 children who also thought I hung the moon. I felt like I was just not good with kids. Some of our issues in the relationship centered around the kids 'being a problem' for me. Now, many years later, I realize that I was selfish. The problem was me. Today, the kids still love me, and the woman and I are Facebook friends. We've talked at funerals and both asserted that the other was the love of our lives. I am alone, and all of my family is dead. I walked away from a family who loved me because I didn't realize that I was the problem. That makes me sad.
43. If they really wanted to, they would. If someone really wanted to hang out with you or go to a party or something, then they would make the time and the conscious effort to do so. Don't wait up for anyone. Leave the door open a crack for them if you want, but you need to ride your own wave with or without them.
What's the difference between school and life? In school, we're given a lesson, and then a test. And in life, we're given a test, that teaches us a lesson.
yeah! love that! I prefer LIFE. hated school, and I feel my kids' schooling is terrible. I try to mitigate it. If I could do it again, I'd raise them homeschooled in community
I’ve been practicing a 7-second brain trick that’s backed by NASA research, and it’s really effective. I mentioned it on my profile if anyone’s curious.
I will be 45 years old in May. Time to change ❤. Happy Birthday Mark. Thanks for the years of advice (I first read "The subtle art of not giving a @#$%"). Always learning 😉
mark you are awesome, i am currently 18 years old in INDIA, failed an important exam, but after watching you, i will start taking small steps and they will ultimately add up to big things. Thank you, for teaching me how to not give a fuck. PEACE OUT........
From 11:12 nearly to the end, I watched the video. I was listening like an audiobook till then. That grandma's story brought my attention and focus back. Thank you so much
Wow, congratulations on your impressive investment success! Your discipline and focus on delayed gratification is truly inspiring. I'm curious, what are some of the key factors that you consider when making investment decisions? Do you have any tips for those of us who are just starting to dip our toes into the world of investing? Thanks for sharing your story!
thanks man. I suffered from alcoholism and finally realized how much its taken from my life now that im 38. turning 39. I changed my Life and decided to go cold turkey. Its been two days so far.lol
I finally got the opportunity to attend college at 48 - Bachelor's degree at 52 - Master's at 54 - I'm not bragging - just, nobody was more surprised than I that it was possible at such an advanced age - now, 72 & loving my profession!!
Happy Birthday! Lots of great good old common sense here, but if I were you, I would rethink the sunscreen tip. Sunscreen is great when you are going to be in extreme sun circumstances and absolutely cannot duck out of the sun periodically. Because of the sunscreen industry ($$), most people are very sun-deficient now! Be sensible in the sun, but by no means always block it out! As a species, we have lived and thrived under the sun for a very, very, very, very, very long time! We need it on our skin, and yes, full spectrum light in our eyes (it nourishes them). Remember, we have lived with the son a whole lot longer than there’s been a sunscreen and sunglasses industry. There’s a good reason for that!
Wow, you really brought me to tears. This is probably one of the most valuable 13 minutes I've spent all year. This really helps. I'm currently 36 and have held myself back thinking that I am already half way there, that it makes no sense to try and be the best version of myself that'll make me happy. However, this would be failing myself and my loved ones. I need to keep pushing and keep changing, and allow myself to believe that I can, in fact, be all the things I want and can be. Thank you, Mark, thank you.
I'm 38 and have never achieved hardly anything in my life. Have always had really bad social anxiety issues, was a failure at math in school and had other learning problems, which led to developing some seriously detrimental low self confidence issues. Also grew up in an extremely isolated rural area with very few opportunities, which made getting jobs unbelievably difficult. I couldn't get anything other than very low paying seasonal jobs for years and was unable to get full time work. No matter what I tried no one would hire me. It took me until I was 28 until I got a somewhat "decent" job and finally completely moved out of my parents. I didn't live there constantly, but that's where I lived the most back then. Long story short I let my problems destroy me, and now I'm finally trying to get my ass in gear and make some positive progress for once in my life. My current goal is to get a job closer to home, because my commutes can be truly insane...almost 6 hours a day all last year at a particular job site. (most of it in a company vehicle) I've had a very hard time getting new jobs, and of course my lack of other skills doesn't help. All I can say from my experience is get on the ball because the clock is ticking and things get harder with age. And age creeps up FAST.
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I'm turning 43 in August. One of the most important things I've learned is that life is a tradeoff in virtually every aspect and your video alludes to this point several times.
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41. Don't stick with bad friends just because you've known them a long time.
This!
I can’t stand it when I see “friends” hang out and treat each other like crap all the time. That’s not a friendship; that’s being afraid of loneliness.
42. Stop caring what your bad friends think of you
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Perfect. This lesson was a hurtful one, but my life got so much better when I could just let it go. I kept being attached to how much this person was important to me in the past and forgetting how terrible she made me feel in the present… we must remember all the time that life is here and now 🩵
"It's never too late" the most comforting thing I've heard in a long time... Kinda feels good to know that I still have so much to achieve.
Depends on what you want to change. I don't know if life advice should be comforting.
@@danielwells774Yeah. Regret is imminent because of our ignorance. That’s okay though. After all, we don’t stay in this world for long. Until our death, might as well be finding the things that matter while also enjoying the little things.
cope, it can be too late, work hard as early as possible, your time on earth is much shorter than you think
@@MelvinDaMan But after we are dead what does it matter what happened?
@@answerman9933 It doesn’t. It’s just worth it (imo).
“Its never too late”. That’s my life motto. I’m starting dental school at age 50 this year. I’m old enough to be almost everyone in my class’ dad. Always been my dream. Finally going for it.
you must've worked really hard to get into dental school, become a great dentist, best wishes!
Awesome!! Congratulations on your great fortitude and belief in your self. 👍
Good luck and congratulations on being brave enough to go for what you want. I think that's what courage and strenght is!
Congratulations!
Congratulations to you, I believe in you! 🎉
1. self-relationship reflection
2. the only way to feel better
3. the only failure is not trying
4. no one is coming to save you
5. be the partner you want to have
6. life compounds
7. the most sexy and exciting things have diminishing returns.
8. turn down things so that you can focus on something really matters
9. take responsibility
10. you give power to who you blame
11. if you have to tell someone you are that, then you are not that
12. motive is not the cause of action
13. love is not the cause of commitment
14. passion is not the cause of good work
15. everything comes with an inherent sacrifice
16. a happy life is a life with meaningful stress
17. don't view exercise as an exchange for something
18. trust people meditation
19. life always has problems
20. growth requires loss
21. fuck being normal
22. can't say no makes your yes meaningless
23. be careful how you define yourself
24. don't make assumption
25. no one thinks about you that much
26. confidence comes from a comfort with failure
27. develop a willingness to be disliked
28. sometimes you are a life-changer, sometimes you are a joke
29. floss sunscreen
30. extraordinary comes from persistence.
31. choose a partner is not about romance
32. don't overestimate romantic love
33. trust is the currency of all relationships
34. your are problem
35. no bad emotion
36. mornings are the real shit
37. you don't need to prove anything
38. life advice is like clothing
39. nothing meaningful is easy
40. never too late to change
Finally some one wise make the one full list
Thank you so much ❤
You are going places Sir/madam!
thanks - he's a great guy but I can't watch that hairdo for more than 4 minutes
Thank you..all that profanity was unecessary
"Define yourself as vaguely and loosely as possible" - this is golden
This one blew my mind. I berate myself for doing this, so it felt great to see it recommended.
I don't get what it means...
Reminds me strongly of the classical ego-dissolution idea from Yoga. It goes hand in hand with choosing carefully what you identify with (I AM xyz). Better to never define yourself because that's closer to the truth anyway ;)
@@nicoletjeng9793Don't define yourself with a simple description. Boiling yourself down to a few specific traits, by your job, or by what hobbies you have right now. Let yourself be many things and continue to expand as a person
@@nicoletjeng9793 Nothing is new. Mr Manson has the the ability to acquire smart people’s concepts and deliver them in a form that is palatable to his market… I believe that rule is heavily derived from Kierkegaard’s, “If you label me, you negate me”. You can Google it’s meaning and how it may be helpful for you.
Best wishes.
Love your videos Mark, I struggledd most with daily routines and I would highly recommend to read The 21 former doctor secrets, if you didnt yet.
Yes go read it now!
Everyone who reads this, we don't know each other and probably never will but I wish you all the best in life and all the luck in the world 💕
The same to you!❤
I wish you the best too 💙
Thank you and to you as well🫶🏽☺️
Thank you so much
same to you , sending a lot of blessing on your way!!
#42: Time is the most precious possession we have, once it's gone you don't get it back. So make every day count for something, in some small way or another...
how old are ya sir?
@@barnam_das
Similar age to Mark
#Deeznuts get off the phone and figure it the fuck put yourself
Duolingo waltzing over to do just that:
Thanks bro.
Happy Birthday Mark! We love you!
Dominion (2018)
Awesome video 🎉 Thank you Mark
I'm 23 I struggled with depression, burnout, sleeping problems and general mental health since I was 12, wich then turned into addiction and a horrible attitude later in life, I've only just now gotten myself out of it, i never had energy to do anything but sleep and binge youtube videos every day, everyone was always blaming me for being lazy, so i started believing it for myself, i lost all meaning and direction in life.
recently i snapped out of it, stopped blaming myself and started to talk positively to myself, i realised I'd already been through my own personal hel so bring it on I can take anything, i know what true failure feels like and I've seen the bottom of the spiral so fuck it if it happens, i have secretly been truning myself into a machine i took the time to deep-rest and study now i am unstopably confident and i love that.
I don't know who you are, and I don't know where you are, but whoever you are, I am also 23 and in a very uncannily similar situation. I feel you, and I also believe that we can both make it in this world where nothing but hatred and sadness continually brews even more hatred and sadness. I'm sure some famous person said something similar to that last part, or something like that, and that's probably why that's kind of stuck with me for a while now.
love that for you.
I'm right here with you boss, I won't give up.
I too was an addict. The truth is, it was a symptom of a problem. and all of the problems, were created by me ultimately. The way I think about people, places, things and situations.. I had to change it all. (and my heart goes out to. 12 step helped me,.. it's a great place to start.. )
Nothing is black or white. There is no direct leap from this to that. But I've sensed that you have found your inner strength to carry yourself through. There will be obstacles and I trust that you wrestle with them and come on top eventually. Congratulations on our turnaround and welcome to the day to day trials we all struggle with every day! We all fail "normally" from time to time and we all keep going.
Ahhh…to be 40 again!
Mark Manson’s book changed my mindset, my choices and my life at 46. Now I’m 52 and still looking to him for inspiration. He’s the G.O.A.T.
What was so different to be 40 from 52? 😅
12 years closer to the box@@StoicNature444
@@StoicNature444second this, would love to hear your insight
@@StoicNature444 nothing. You're still the same you except you got permanent debuff like health conditions due to aging, you can negate some of this by taking care of your body.
wich one of his books changed your mindset ?
Here's the list + Timestamps:
#1. Your relationship with others is a direct reflection of your relationship with yourself. 0:06
#2. The only way to feel better about yourself is to do things worth feeling good about. 0:11
#3. The only failure is not trying 0:28
#4. No one is coming to save you. 0:47
#5. Be the partner you want to have. 1:07
#6. The most valuable things in life compound over a long period of time. 1:20
#7. The most sexy and exciting things have diminishing returns. 1:39
#8. If you aren't turning down things that excite you,then you're not focused enough on something that matters. 2:06
#9. Taking responsibility for all your problems alleviates more suffering than it creates. 2:20
#10. You give power to who you blame. 2:40
#11. If you have to tell someone you're that, then you're not that. 2:54
#12. Motivation is not the cause of action,but the effect. 3:10
#13. Love is not the cause of commitment ,but the effect. 3:19
#14. Passion is not the cause of good work,but the effect. 3:30
#15. The person you marry is the person you fight with. 3:47
#16. A happy life is not a life without stress, it's a life with meaningful stress. 4:01
#17. Don't view exercise as an exchange for something. 4:06
#18. Trust people. 5:40
#19. There's no such thing as a life without problems. The solution to today's problem will be the seed of tomorrow's. 5:50
#20. Growth is rarely accompanied by joy and celebration. 6:09
#21. F*ck being normal. 6:27
#22. If you can't say no,then your yes's mean nothing. 6:37
#23. Be careful how you define yourself. 6:56
#24. Don't make assumptions about people. 7:17
#25. No one thinks about you as much as much as you think about yourself. 7:26
#26. Confidence does not come from an expectation of success,it comes from a comfort with failure. 7:47
#27. Develop a willingness to be disliked. 7:57
#28. You cannot be a life-changing presence to some people without also being a complete joke to others. 8:05
#29. Floss. And wear sunscreen. Every day. 8:17
#30. Extraordinary results come from repeating ordinary actions over an unordinary amount of time. 8:27
#31. Choosing a partner isn't about romance. 8:40
#32. Don't overestimate romantic love. 9:01
#33. Trust is the currency of all relationships. 9:26
#34. If all your relationships have the same problem, you're the problem. 9:56
#35. There's no such thing as a bad emotion, only a bad response to an emotion. 10:02
#36. 5 AM, I ❤ U. 10:15
#37. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, including yourself. 10:30
#38. Life advice is like clothing,try it on.And if it doesn't fit, disguard it and try something else. 10:40
#39. Nothing meaningful in life is easy, nothing easy in life is meaningful. 10:54
#40. It's never too late to change. 11:14
i was looking for this thanks bratan
Thanks 👍
Thank you good sir
Thank you!
Thank you 😊
Look, I have a video too.
Well, about this video:
- Relationship with others mirrors relationship with oneself: self-respect attracts respect.
- Failure lies in not trying; success and failure coexist in action.
- No one rescues you; self-improvement is personal and ongoing.
- Be the partner you desire; qualities sought in others should be embodied.
- Long-term investments like health and relationships yield significant returns.
TDLR minimalism is almost always better than where you’re coming from.
The story of the little old lady is so inspiring and heartwarming. I have an oppressive sense of internal urgency, fear of growing old and the diminished possibility set, and that lifted my spirits in a big way. Thank you.
Is it bad I fear of being old at 21 turning 22 this month lol
@@everett5632 it's okay. From all of us who have already been there...
Loved that ending. I'm only 26 and I work in radio. I really want to be a Newsreader but I feel this intense pressure that I'm running out of time. The fact that you started writing at 27 and still managed to become many peoples favourite author gives me hope that I don't need to stress so much
Get a mentor bro
It's literally like... when you start it will suck. And then over time it will get better. And in 5 years you will look back and think it was good that you started it. Because you will know you won't be the one laying on your deathbed regretting you didn't try.
Dude, you're so early that I'm a bit jealous. I'm 48 and still think it's not over. Get going...
@@rainydevilgaming7386absolutely!
you literally lived only 10% of your adult life, you didn't even finish the first level dude
Love your work Mark, big love to you and to anyone reading this ✌️💛
I'm 27, and thankful that I figured out a lot of these things on my own, but even more grateful that I discovered this video and am learning even more important things now!
started crying when you said its never to late/ im struggling so much with making decisions and changing directions and feeling like i waste so much time every day and that i could be produtive. i feel like this will be my life forever. constnatly indecisive and in torment. i know i can change this mindset if changed so many habits and outlooks before. this video may be what ive needed to get out of a slump. thank you and happy birthday. hopethe marathon goes well. im doing one too on my 29th birthday
As long as you're learning how to live better and improving from yesterday, no amount of effort is too small or not worth it! You've got this 💪💪 Proud of you
Honey, read what you said above. Your answers are in the one paragraph. 29..... you're still growing. Print all of this out, put it in an envelope marked with "do not open until age 44" then put it in a safe place. If you can't wait then open it when you're 39. I promise, you"ll have a completely different mindset.
One more thing, always send cards to yourself. Through the mail! Then don't open them for a few years. Write little encouragements to yourself. Let's see how far you've come in being secure in your own skin. Good luck! Love yourself more.
Made me teary eyed as well. Especially when he says you have nothing to prove…to anyone. Even to yourself. I feel such a compelling need to prove to everyone that I’m successful. Prove to myself that I can do it, after failing my whole life. And I feel the same. Always been so indecisive and inconsistent in life. Sometimes it’s just overwhelming
Mindset, Carol Dweck.
I’m going through the EXACT same thing right now, it’s almost as if what you wrote came right from my head. How have the last 6 months gone for you?
I am 21, and have been following you for the last couple of years, thank you for all your knowledge! Happy Birthday Mark!
Youre a woman, you dont need advice other than learn to cook and dont gain weight
I'm a man at 34 who struggles with confidence and self hate, and I just want to say, point 2 is very true.
For those of you struggling with mental health issues, I myself deal with OCD, Anxiety, Autism and Depression, don't ever think that you shouldn't practice "self-care" just because you are a "bad person" in your eyes.
If you can't be nice to yourself, how are you going to be nice to others? Like he says, how you treat yourself is a reflection of how you treat others.
It's also, I assume, why they say "change starts with you"
Very true my neuro-diverse brudda 👍🏻 I live with anxiety and depression … medication on and off. One of the almost natural things you do when depressed is to give up on yourself … I remember getting into real carb heavy foods - pizza, burgers mainly with the thought.. let’s enjoy life before I end it… Covid then hit and I started to seek help online and one of the resources I found was this guy and Jordan Peterson … really good practical self help advice. Took it to heart quit my accounting job that was depressing as f@ck and went back to school to do psych which is a field I am really loving and enjoying … I had to take a pay cut … but life is much better for it! Everyone thought I was crazy giving up a “stable” but boring as f@ck accounting job but I had that epiphany.. you only life once so why not explore!
They say "change starts with you", but the funny thing is that you only realize it after you have changed and not before. When you've changed it is obvious of course, when you haven't, it seems to make no sense at all.
Happy 40th man. Been a big part of my life since I was completely lost at 17. You are so important, we love you.
That gives us no indication of how long youve been listening to him. Were you 17 last year? Or wwre you 17 over ten years ago?
@@PolishBehemoth brotha why does it matter?
@@ibaili just asking a question. If you cant post things that make sense to other people then dont post at all. The purpose of the comment section is communication.
@@PolishBehemoth bro if you need to know down to the second how long bro has had an effect on this man you have a problem.
@@ibaili now youre making up stupid stuff. All i implied was to specify how long he was talking about.
I’m 53 and this is brilliant and 100% correct. I didn’t follow half of this list and paid a heavy price, but turned it around in my 40s. Life couldn’t be better now in my 50s 🙏
Thank you for #40! I recently turned 63 and I've been worried that I was too old to make the changes I want to make in my life. Actually thank you for this whole list, Mark. A lot of it are things that I needed to hear.
You can do it! 🤘🏼
Your age you should be giving advice to the guy on the video, not thanking him for teaching you things
@@deltaxcd "At your age you should be able to solve your own medical problems, not go to a doctor younger than you for help." You are genuinely a peabrain.
One of the morals is humility, and this old man is simply humble So say good or shut up@@deltaxcd
don't know who you are but I love how you express yourself.
Even at 56, I appreciate your wisdom! Have a great birthday!
What ware the top 3 lessons you’d tell your 20 year old self?
@@sachsuccess Watch the video bro. Here's the timestamp: 0:01.
@@sachsuccess I am 49 now and most of the tips he gave are tips I now know but also would have liked to know in my 20s but hindsight is 20-20.
Top 3:
1. Motivation is not the cause of action, but the effect.
2. The only failure is not trying.
3. There's no such thing as a life without problems.
Hope it helps you!
@@DerIchBinDa that really does help! Thank you so much! I would love to use these tips for the basis of a short or TikTok soon :)
Jesus Christ wants a personal relationship with you through the Holy Spirit, not religion and blind faith. You see, we all have sinned and deserve punishment but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God bodily, a perfect, sinless sacrifice to pay the penalty for our sins by shedding His blood on the cross. He died and rose from the dead so that we may have everlasting life. It is all finished and now for you to accept the free gift of grace you must believe from your heart in Jesus Christ, that He paid the price for your sins, that He is risen and alive. Don't trust in your own goodness but transfer your trust to Jesus and follow Him, get to know Him personally. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again, know Jesus personally and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Believe in Him, read the Bible and pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
I will be 27 in May, and I am glad I found your channel! Don't stop, life experiences matter just as much!
It is so key to poke your head out of your life once and a while and re-evaluate. I have "remade" myself at least 4-5 times from 18 to 47 (B-day this month!).
Vielen Dank für alles, Mark. Dein Rat ist wirklich nützlich und praktisch
I was at a really dark place a few months ago. My fiancé left me just 3 months before we were going to get married. I was completely devastated over this and didn’t see it coming. Had to deal with a lot from the aftermath of it. I read Mark’s books years ago, but his podcast & videos came to me at the perfect time. He helped me get through this dark time and I wouldn’t be here without him. Thank you sir 👊🏼
Im so sorry that happened, keep being positive bro!
I'm happy for you that your fiancé left three months BEFORE the wedding and not after. 🌻
@@trishr.3986 Yes, I’m thankful it didn’t happen after.
I'm gonna save this video and watch it every single day for the nearest future!
This is the truth and motivation I think I need to grow up and make something of my self.
Thank you Mark
Live long Sir!!! I wish to see you at 100 and beyond. Eternally grateful 💌
I’m 33 years old going on 34 and I found your books to be very genuine and motivational. Your books inspired me to let go of expectations from others and myself. Now I’m much more relaxed and comfortable with being me and I can't thank you enough. Keep being awesome! 👊
The thing you said about time actually brought me to tears - you literally just changed my whole world view. I hate rushing things and I often feel like I have to do so in order to accomplish anything. Now I feel like everything will be okay and I'll be able to do anything I want. Maybe deep down I already knew and your fact just brought it up for me to realise.
For number 9, it's very important to remember the difference between taking responsibility vs. *blaming yourself* for your problems. Personally, blaming myself for my lack of motivation and constant procrastination from ADHD has led to years of self-perpetuating shame, apathy, and helplessness. Combatting issues caused by neurodivergence/mental unwellness is most certainly an uphill battle, and one almost always requires outside help to win it. Remember to take responsibility for your problems, but also to never do it alone. If you're struggling to make a change in your life, let go of shame and *ask for help.*
Concur. Sometimes reassigning the blame to the person/people at fault instead of yourself is actually taking your power back, not giving it away.
I wish I'd known I'm AuDHD before I nearly died from burnout and the impact it had on my body. The fact I could have had supports from a young child and grown into my strengths with a life that fits my needs instead of becoming completely incapacitated in my early-mid 30s with zero supports and services and no hope.
Taking responsibility means taking action, not taking the blame.
I struggle with adhd too. I try to forget about figuring out who is to blame because it literally doesn’t matter.
that's true, so how did you come to conclusion regarding ADHD? because these symptoms are not like physical symptoms .like even a normal person can have lack of motivation and procrastinate things, should we need to get it evaluated by doctor and let them establish neuro divergence? because of lot of situations in life of a person since childhood he can still become demotivated even with out ADHD
@@pavankumar-gh1zr everyone is human, but the impact of different types of neurodivergent conditions and people realising they have different neurotypes to normal (if it's not already picked up in childhood due to high support needs) is the impact to daily living ability.
There are a lot of different diagnostics now for people to check against, they're not always worded well for people who aren't used to the jargon to match, I've seen two different individuals state that they're professionals in the industry one was a psychologist and another a psychiatrist and neither worked out they were autistic until several years into their professional working life, that's how far behind and limited the knowledge is around these different neurotypes. Some professionals still think that if someone can make eye contact that you cannot be autistic. Which is incorrect, of course different countries will have variance with diagnostic criteria and older professionals will be resistant to updating their knowledge.
Anyway, the main thing is the impact to daily functioning. You think it's not a physical symptom but they definitely are, it's just harder to see the brain and with some physical signs people learn to suppress or mask them so they're not obvious or have a tonne of coping mechanisms in place to hide it. That's not sustainable though and a lot of people, especially now, are hitting the metaphorical wall and everything is just falling in a heap.
but you need to figure out who to blame before taking the appropriate action.
if you find part of your body to be itchy, how could you not blame it on the mosquitos, before buying a mosquito light@floder-e
As a completely lost adult in his 30s, your final harsh truth + story gives me hope. Thank you & happy 40th!
32 here same
34 yo here and same. i am close to burnout due to work and because i cant keep up with the general herd mentality and communication. Its finally time to make steps into a direction that gives me back my spirit. even if it means quitting the job. i hate how society functions and just want to get away.
thank you
I think in High school you don’t realize how toxic many friendships are in that environment until you get out in the world! 🌎 it’s a big place and there are some really good people at every age and every income level!
Nah...you are reading the thing all wrong. Ask anyone in Wisconsin.
As a 27 years old girl, this helped me so much. I jotted everything down in my journal and I’ll use your lessons to live with more wisdom from now on. Thank you ❤
Writing down wisdom and reflections is a wonderful practice. It helps solidify lessons and insights, making them easier to implement in daily life. By journaling, you're actively engaging with these ideas, which can lead to greater personal growth and a deeper understanding of yourself. Keep nurturing this habit; it's truly transformative.
I'm also 27 and have been thinking that I'm too late to start over and excel in anything but seeing your comment gave me a ray of optimism and yes I was planning to start writing a journal, perhaps this is my sign.
u are grown woman
@@HEC892 yeah, so? Read the video title. I’m still in my twenties.
@@halyketarrant I’m 27 I’m not going to say I’m a 27 year old boy
I'm 30 and been depressed feeling old because I couldn't make my dream true due to suffering mentally in life ... but I literally just posted a video today starting a series called 'SUPERSTAR in three years' because I want to change my life after losing my dream due to depression and been busy surviving all hardships including homelessness so I want to inspire others, and your video's timing is like a sign from the universe, especially that I just self published my Homeless Photographer book... so thank you for the push I needed. Also you age like fine wine.
Be our inspiration!!
Ik you might think that, but You’re not old at ALL omg. I feel like you’re so young and 30 is so empowering. Wishing you all the luck happiness and success 🎉❤
You too will age like fine wine.
Good luck with your journey , I'm rooting for you
I am here right now.
I found a great deal of meaning (value) in what you are saying. Thank you. I watched once all the way through and then watched again hitting pause here and there to contemplate your lesson for my life. Best video all day. Yes, happy birthday! Awesome gift.
All I want to say to you, Mark Manson, Thank You for changing my life for the better. You are a legend. Thank You❤
My God the amount of insight and wisdom that’s packed into this 13 min video. Astounding! Absolutely incredible job Mark! Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday Mark. Thank you!🎉
Thank you. I'm 23, and I knew a lot of these subconsciously, but hearing it definitely helps a lot
I graduated at the end of last year. Stepping into society….. wasn’t easy.
Everything I thought I knew turned out to be bs.
I’ve been through what I believe most people had went through, for those who know, you know. I have to say, this video made so much freakin sense after what I have went through, if younger me watched this, I’d probably think “eh another guy who thinks he knows life”. Thanks Mark.
Number 37, "you don't have to prove anything to anyone, including yourself." - All I will say is thank you and these words mean a lot to me and that quote especially. Thanks for being you Mark and happy 40th birthday!! Great video and advice to hear in your late 20's.
May you continue to shine like a diamond. Wishing you happiness and good health always. Happy Birthday!
We are grateful to have you on this earth❤
Thanks for this. I'm on the ass end of my 20's. A week out at the time of this comment. I have mixed emotions but now, I'm going in with a higher sense of optimism
Happy Birthday Mark!
I'm turning 18 next month, and I'm really grateful to have found you at such a crucial age as I enter into adulthood. Your wisdom has had an enormous impact on my life and perspective. I wish you lots of health and happiness. Cheers to your birthday.
Love you, Mark! :)
Last year I managed to watch all Mark Manson videos on TH-cam. Gladly I finished them and I appreciate how it contributed to my mental state. Happy birthday Mark
My 86 year old grandpa 👴 said the advice checks ✔️ out. Follow him. He's the 🐐
Who is he?
@@nicholaslee5885he meant Mark
@@nicholaslee5885 He's him.
the GOAT. Greatest of All Time.@@nicholaslee5885
@@nicholaslee5885 His grandpa
This was very helpful. I'm 53, I remember having a consultation with a fiduciary last August, and it was incredibly insightful. Can’t stress enough how important experts in this field are!
Absolutely agree! A good fiduciary can make a world of difference. What specific insights did you gain?
My colleagues had a good laugh at me when I told them I started my journey with $5k capital and how I accumulated over 5 figures within a span of 7 months. They never believed me until I pulled out my P&L.
I know that learning the ins and outs of the stock market isn't for everyone, that's why personally, Jonas Herman oversees my investments.
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The story of the old lady really gives me hope: it’s never too late to learn anything and I can become proficient in anything I strive for.
Thank you, old lady in the story
I have no idea how he fit all the best advice I've ever heard into one video
Seriously, yes! Advices that we have heard, read and ones that come with experience too!
it's terrible advice. you learned nothing new, heard the same coping strategies and only heard things you wanted to hear. You didn't learn, didn't get challenged - just engaged in the willful ignorance.
Guy doesn't event talk about awareness practice. Because if you practiced you would see through the appeasing facade of grifters.
@@agnidas5816 where did you hear that? Some of my friend told me to tell to you. Thats you dont need to hide anymore. Just a little group. You tell it! the group can be big you know
man... if at this point you didnt think of at least half the things he said by yourself then you have some serious homework to do...
that or you're like 14 or something, then its understandable
@@NakedAvanger
Thinking of something, or listening, hearing someone say it doesn't equal internalization of it or remembering the points at any given moment in life when something hits you. And to me, the points that he said, if 30 / 40 out of those are something that you by whatever age you are have found out yourself and validated, it will give you the trust to believe that so are rest of the 10/40 that you may have not experienced yourself yet.
I would go as far as to say that many of those points at 20 years old would have gone far over my head, and for that reason I wouldn't have been sure if I would have trusted the other ones.
If you look at 99%+ of people around you, none of them have internalized all of those points, neither have I (at 30+).
A lot of this comes down to, that life is never easy, and it will never become easy, and it should be accepted that this is the way it is. The only way out of it would be to discover a chemical that can introduce you to a constant heroin like state of euphoria. It's not discovered yet, and are we sure it's something that we want to discover?
This is genuinely one of the most impactful videos I've watched in a while. These really stuck with me and I appreciate you sharing your life experience
You mentioned being acquainted with Headspace back in 2015 when it wasn't as mainstream. Well, here's a tidbit to top that: I actually purchased a lifetime subscription for Headspace back in 2014. Fast forward to September 2022, and I completed my 400-day meditation challenge, practicing every single day.
wow! amazing!
Happy Birthday Mark! Thank you for your work on "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck", it has provided an approach to living that allows me to be more at peace with myself
Mark, thank you for the courageous vulnerability. You exposed some really helpful stuff for me under the thousand stones you wrestled underneath. Your attitude has encouraged me to get on with living a life worth living. Happy birthday! 🎉
Love you Mark 🤩
You’re the best
Happy birthday, good man. If there's one youtuber who's positively impacted my life for the better, it'd be you. You're a real one.
Thank you! For everything. This is from a 23 year old who decided to take forward his family business. I love the problems I have everyday!
This video is GOLD. Believe me, I've watched and listen to many mentors and billionaires here on TH-cam, but there's nothing like Mark Manson! Very practical, very honest, and no sugar coating! Mark, you're a blessing from God the most high! (I just hit the all notification button).
"Your relationship with others is a direct reflection of your relationship with yourself"
Also true in that we project how we treat ourselves onto others. For example, if we're overly critical of ourselves, we'll be overly critical of others. If we give ourselves grace and love ourselves well, we can then do that for others.
"No one thinks about you as much as you think about yourself" I'm gonna remind myself of this truth everyday. Thank you for your Video!❤
Ditto.
Not where im from....they spend more time on other people's business
@@theIssue-tt They must be very bored with their life then...
@@AiyunMusic They are.
Happy birthday Mark! Thank you for cleaning my life.
This is one clever man.Such empathy and wisdom here... I am 28 and kinda lost. These kinds of videos give me hope about my future.Thank you for this.
what you said about learning to do something well in the process of developing competency and agency about it then causes you to become passionate about it really spoke to me I had a teacher in middle school say the same thing
Congratulations! And thanks for all your writings !
I learned these towards the end of my 20s thanks to a series of events and I feel so blessed to have learned it so early.
My SO and some friends always said I had an old soul and, the older I get, the more I understand what they meant.
Happy birthday Mark . You said on Tom Bilyeu you would quit the day you feel like you won’t help others. You are helping myself and countless others. You are S tier guy.
This is arguably the best video I have ever watched. I can’t wait for your 50th birthday and hope there’s many more to come!
Not even through the entire video yet bro just keep spitting facts
yes my dad is in his 40s and said the same thing kinda when u say yes to something u are simultaneously saying no to something and vice versa so always check both side of the coin when u say yes or no to something
I've learned so many of these the hard way... My thirties so far have been me picking up the pieces from all of the mistakes I made over the last twenty years.
This is quite normal, I barely know anyone who got things right in their first few decades. It seems like humanity hasn't figured out a system yet to instill some wisdom and foresight into its young ones early on. So, mistakes and pain will remain our best teachers for while to come...
Same ,feeling
@@r-type4945 I'm 70, and I've learned that sometimes you don't know you've fucked up until years or decades later. Many years ago I was in a relationship with a very sweet woman who thought I hung the moon. She had 2 children who also thought I hung the moon. I felt like I was just not good with kids. Some of our issues in the relationship centered around the kids 'being a problem' for me. Now, many years later, I realize that I was selfish. The problem was me. Today, the kids still love me, and the woman and I are Facebook friends. We've talked at funerals and both asserted that the other was the love of our lives. I am alone, and all of my family is dead. I walked away from a family who loved me because I didn't realize that I was the problem. That makes me sad.
likewise man
The problems never go away, but if they are better problems, you're making progress. Number 19 is life.
43. If they really wanted to, they would. If someone really wanted to hang out with you or go to a party or something, then they would make the time and the conscious effort to do so. Don't wait up for anyone. Leave the door open a crack for them if you want, but you need to ride your own wave with or without them.
I am inspired and touched. If you need a sign right now - here it is. Go for it! Good luck! 💪
What's the difference between school and life? In school, we're given a lesson, and then a test. And in life, we're given a test, that teaches us a lesson.
yeah! love that! I prefer LIFE. hated school, and I feel my kids' schooling is terrible. I try to mitigate it. If I could do it again, I'd raise them homeschooled in community
I remember learning a lot during tests in school as well
That actually is a very efficient teaching method. When you know what you did wrong, you can more efficiently learn how to do it correctly.
@@zekiz774 Words and pictures help us understand things, but experience allows us to know.
I’ve been practicing a 7-second brain trick that’s backed by NASA research, and it’s really effective. I mentioned it on my profile if anyone’s curious.
Oh my goodness this video is amazing!! There's still hope for youtube to be great again
Happy 40th Mr Manson 🎉
So much wisdom in a video...
Happy Birthday, Mark!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
You‘re amazing!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just finished the subtle art of not giving a f yesterday and it was amazing ✨
I`m a simple person. I see a new Mark Manson video, I click.
Lmao, this is relatable
Same😂❤
Same
Well...
According to the video...
A good guy doesn't call himself good...
🥲 I'm a veri simpol person
I turned 40 last month.. And all your observations are true..!! Thank You for reminding them..❤❤🙏
I will be 45 years old in May. Time to change ❤. Happy Birthday Mark. Thanks for the years of advice (I first read "The subtle art of not giving a @#$%"). Always learning 😉
Happy Birthday Mark!
mark you are awesome, i am currently 18 years old in INDIA, failed an important exam, but after watching you, i will start taking small steps and they will ultimately add up to big things. Thank you, for teaching me how to not give a fuck. PEACE OUT........
Ayo I'm from India too mate
I also failed jee are you taking a drop
He doesn't give a fuck 😂@@black.spadez
From someone who discovered Mark when I was 18, you've discovered something really valuable!
Bro proportionally speaking almost no one succeeds in the JEE anyway, you're alright
From 11:12 nearly to the end, I watched the video. I was listening like an audiobook till then. That grandma's story brought my attention and focus back. Thank you so much
This is gold! Save it, cherish it, practice it.
Thank you for recommending Victoria Shen financials on one of your videos. I reached out to her and investing with her has been amazing.
Wow, congratulations on your impressive investment success! Your discipline and focus on delayed gratification is truly inspiring. I'm curious, what are some of the key factors that you consider when making investment decisions? Do you have any tips for those of us who are just starting to dip our toes into the world of investing? Thanks for sharing your story!
@@LucaAnthony-c8cDo you mind sharing info on the adviser who
assisted you? I'm 39 now and would love to
grow my portfolio and plan my retirement
She's Victoria Shen financials
@@StaceyJacobHow do I access her ? I really need this
@@KimberlyWilliam-i9t+176
thanks man. I suffered from alcoholism and finally realized how much its taken from my life now that im 38. turning 39. I changed my Life and decided to go cold turkey. Its been two days so far.lol
probably drinking already again. If you are not just a troll, you should seek proffessional help.
@@Ajumi- thanks for the motivation dude. Good show chap... . What about my message says I'm Trolling.
It's worth stopping dude. A lot of good shit just starts happening "magically" over the next year/couple years, once you stop
@@BalanceOvOpposites 6 days so far. Thats a feat for me
Good luck man
I finally got the opportunity to attend college at 48 - Bachelor's degree at 52 - Master's at 54 - I'm not bragging - just, nobody was more surprised than I that it was possible at such an advanced age - now, 72 & loving my profession!!
Happy Birthday!
Lots of great good old common sense here, but if I were you, I would rethink the sunscreen tip.
Sunscreen is great when you are going to be in extreme sun circumstances and absolutely cannot duck out of the sun periodically.
Because of the sunscreen industry ($$), most people are very sun-deficient now!
Be sensible in the sun, but by no means always block it out! As a species, we have lived and thrived under the sun for a very, very, very, very, very long time! We need it on our skin, and yes, full spectrum light in our eyes (it nourishes them). Remember, we have lived with the son a whole lot longer than there’s been a sunscreen and sunglasses industry. There’s a good reason for that!
Very Happy Birthday to you Mark ❣️
God bless you 👼🏻
I hope you live long... ❤
Love for Bharat (India)
Wow, you really brought me to tears. This is probably one of the most valuable 13 minutes I've spent all year. This really helps. I'm currently 36 and have held myself back thinking that I am already half way there, that it makes no sense to try and be the best version of myself that'll make me happy. However, this would be failing myself and my loved ones. I need to keep pushing and keep changing, and allow myself to believe that I can, in fact, be all the things I want and can be. Thank you, Mark, thank you.
I'm 38 and have never achieved hardly anything in my life. Have always had really bad social anxiety issues, was a failure at math in school and had other learning problems, which led to developing some seriously detrimental low self confidence issues. Also grew up in an extremely isolated rural area with very few opportunities, which made getting jobs unbelievably difficult. I couldn't get anything other than very low paying seasonal jobs for years and was unable to get full time work. No matter what I tried no one would hire me. It took me until I was 28 until I got a somewhat "decent" job and finally completely moved out of my parents. I didn't live there constantly, but that's where I lived the most back then.
Long story short I let my problems destroy me, and now I'm finally trying to get my ass in gear and make some positive progress for once in my life. My current goal is to get a job closer to home, because my commutes can be truly insane...almost 6 hours a day all last year at a particular job site. (most of it in a company vehicle) I've had a very hard time getting new jobs, and of course my lack of other skills doesn't help. All I can say from my experience is get on the ball because the clock is ticking and things get harder with age. And age creeps up FAST.
Thank you
After watching this video, I asked myself "Define yourself" and I'm surprised I'm speechless. I can't even define myself.
Most people cannot…. Thats the secret
Self-definition can be a profound and sometimes daunting exercise. It's a journey of introspection and discovery, often revealing how complex and multifaceted we are. Being speechless can indicate the depth of our individuality and the potential for growth as we continue to explore and understand ourselves better.
I'm 39 and I just picked up learning the violin. Most people that are successful at the violin started as children. I actually like the challenge
I'll bet you will turn out to be an amazing violin player!
@@madmarlowe1422 thank you!
@@Fefe8484 same here! i love the violing and will start, once i got the money for.
wishing the best for ur challenge :D
Happy Birthday Brother 🎂🎈❤
I'm turning 43 in August. One of the most important things I've learned is that life is a tradeoff in virtually every aspect and your video alludes to this point several times.
Happy birthday Mark . May be some if not all may help me to battle and overcome depression which has been going through since 4 years