I really related with your advice. I recently got divorced and I completely agree that one number thing to find in a man is a good character (akhlaq) and most importantly someone who fears Allah. Someone who is kind, has a forgiving heart, provides for his family/takes responsibility, and emotionally intelligent. I truly see the value of all these characteristics now and hope to find a man who possess all of these characteristic traits. Ameen. May Allah make it easy for me and make my next marriage very beautiful and peaceful by granting me such a spouse. Ameen.
I couldn't help thinking about my dad when you mentionned kindness, forgiving and emotionnal stability qualities. It definitely makes home a more peaceful place and as a daughter I think a lot of the confidence and mental stability I have come from there. May Allah bless our parents and have mercy on them. May Allah bless you sis
Hello sister Nafisa, I remember watching your videos before marriage wondering when I'll get married. I just got married recently this month and I came back to all your videos reminiscing about the time I was single watching your videos. Thank you so much, you're videos are always helpful Mashallah.
Allah blessed me with the best husband among my friends. I was so uncomfortable living among an extended Muslim family in his country that he agreed to live in the US as long as I agree to dress very modestly. ❤
Assalaam Alaikum, You are such a motivation in my life, Alhamdulilah! I have viewed a few of your videos thus far, & it has made a great impact in my life. I am now going through the iddat period with my husband, He does have a few descent qualities, But, In my opinion he lacks empathy about my concerns in our household, Which in my mind, ruins the marriage. He also exhibits sneaky behaviors which draws suspicion upon himself, which is not good & I have caught him in some lies. You are right, Good men are hard to find. I have not given up on marriage again in my life because I know with the help of Allah &through prayer, All is possible. May Allah grant us all wonderful spouses, after experiencing toxicity in our marriages & continue to bless those marriages that are peaceful, happy, & healthy.
Someone once told me... Women are more powerful than men in maintaining a beautiful relationship in marriage. She told me, as long as he is faithful, is not physically abusive or has a drug addiction, he is an average good man. If you lower yourself to him, listen to him ... He will fall at your feet.. no matter what.
If you say now a day it is so difficult to find a real man, then the man would say the same "it is so difficult to find a woman" Mutual "Accept, educate, renovate, continous feedback" We all created to be good if guided Love for all and with all
In the name of Aallah the most high the most merciful I im so grateful to my lord every single thing you have said my husband has in him and I think its because of his strong faith in Aallah
Assalomu alaykum rohmatullohi va barakatuh sister. I recently started watching your videos. May Allah give barakah in your time and knowledge. I am learning a lot of valuable things related to family relationship. May Allah bless you!🤍
I wanted to say JazakAllah because I recently started wearing hijab ♥️ and I remember years ago I would just see hijabis talk about their hijab journey. Your videos are amazing Masha’Allah 🫶🏼
I really appreciate this video. it is nice to hear because when a woman has a good man she should give him words of admiration and not feel shy to tell him. shukran
Alxamdulilah Allah blessed me with a husband who has all of those positive characters and I always thank Allah for that. Thank you sister for this beautiful reminder. You got a new subscriber ❤
Walaikum Salaam sis Nafisa. I just love how you phrase these types of videos. As a south london woman i know you know how we can be when it comes to the topic of men 😂😂😂 but you do it soo well and you open my eyes to a lot. InshaAllah when Allah deems me ready for marriage and shows me my husband I'll remember to come back to your marriage videos! I'll be sure to come to you for coaching inshAllah. xxx
Insha’Allah. May Allah bless you with a great husband at the right time who will be the coolness of your eyes. Ameen Jazaka’Allahu khairan for watching
Asalamu alaykum Sister Nafisa, I love you for the sake of Allah. May Allah grant you everything you desire. I have been listening to you way before I was married and learnt a lot from you. Shukran
Walaykum Salam sis Alhamudulilah Maa Shaa Allah TabaraKAllah all the 5points are very important I totally I agreed Alhamudulilah for my better half May Allah ease and put barka in every marriage In Shaa Allah
Mashallah this is an amazing video, inshallah when I get married I will appreciate these traits in my wife as well. Thank you for making videos like these which guide us towards the right path, Alhamdullilah.
Alhamdulillahi Rabil Alaminna for your admonitions. I saw your video today, listening to it convinced me that there're still some good and wife materials ladies/women out there. Nobody could advise me to subscribe to your channel before I did. May Allah continue to bless you, bless your knowledge, bless your home as you're enlightening everyone. Jazakh Allahu khayran Hajjia for what you're doing. Aminn
Selamu Aleykum Nafisa, jazak allahu Khairan for this nasiha. I'm having a really hard time but these videos really open up my eyes. May Allah reward you and your family with Jannatul Firdaus. Amin.
السلام عليكم dear sister Nafisa جزاك اللهُ خيرًا For this wonderful reminder May ALLAH عز و جل bless our spouses and our children Ameen. In the same way we show gratitude towards having materials, it is important to also show gratefulness towards our husbands and children
Walaikum salaam sister thank you 🙏🏾 for beautiful reminder. Sometimes it’s so confusing you don’t know if your husband is kind to you or not,He puts himself self as a priority, he wants you to put him a priority. But what about the children? Mariage is not easy we just have to have patience and put our trust to Allah.
Assalamu alaikum Nafisa appi, I am 23 year old Indian, studying medicine, my degree will be completed in 4 years (I'll be 26 by then) and my parents are not planning for me to get married atleast in next 6-8 years but i would like to get married early (I don't have any haram relationship, I would like to get married to someone they match me up with) How can i let them know I want to get married early without actually telling them this as a girl telling her parents that she wants to get married early is considered shameful here
Walaikumsalam. May Allah ease your path. Is there no way to speak to your mum only about this, she may have the wisdom then of how to approach the topic to your dad. Also I would recommend watching marriage related content when they are around it may give them the hint that you are becoming interested in the topic insha’Allah
That is so difficult may Allah ease your affairs sis. Maybe you can try to talk to someone who understands them or someone well known in the community. Try to talk about other other people to your mom just to see what she thinks. Make dua to Allah to soften their hearts.
I absolutely understand the situation as I was in a similar state two years back. Alhamdulillāh, I am married for two years now. Remember sister, du'a is everything. I would ask Allāh subhanawata'ala to give me a spouse when it is right for me and keep me patient while I am not ready for it. Also, sister as a women, we are shy of discussing such feelings with our parents. But remember that Allāh subhanawata'ala has planned everything already. InshaaAllāh. Do you have a relative that can do this for you? Any uncle or aunt or cousin your parents value that can suggest it to them? Meanwhile just pray pray pray. Make is a reason to draw close to Allah.
Wonderful lecture with great insight...! May Allaah reward you with the best and your beloved. And indeed... such brothers maa shaa'a Llaah. May we be able to nurse our boys to become strong, brave, and reliable men for Allaah and the ummah as a whole, aameen.
Great video sister Nafisa !! Ma Sha Allah!! Could you please make a video on how women can be grateful to Allah and also to their husband for these good traits ??
During the 'getting to know them' phase prior to marriage, how can one know whether they hold all these qualities. Are there ways you would suggest that we can find out? I.e not merely from the prospective spouse's mouth or their family (who can sometimes lie to make their son/brother etc appear a certain way. I've unfortunately experienced this). Many thanks, jazakallahu khairan.
During relationship, just try and test him and see how he's gonna react. If he passes the test, then he's yours but if he fails, you can test him again. Lol...... But the most important part is to pray to Allah for a rightful husband/wife. This is just based on my little idea. Hajjia Nafisa knows better than me.
If you ever need to test a man that's because you don't trust him and the relationship is doomed already Testing a man's character is a low move and high value women simply don't do that The best way is to judge someone's character is to simply observe how he treats his mother, father, sister, brother, or other authority figures, such as police, how he talks about his boss and people of "insignificance", such as servers or waiters who are unlikely to benefit him in any way
Subhanallah my husband had all of these at first but then they slowly deteriorated because he was so fixated on his job. He even admitted he prays 4 prayers at the same time because of busy he gets! This is the same man that used to fight me for not praying on time. Clearly if he has no time for his Lord then he has no time for me. No time for me even when my father passed away…I’m really better of without him but inshallah may Allah do best for both of us. It’s a lesson for both of us as I was impatient and he was dismissive
Washing this as I'll married soon insha Allah. I found it difficult to make my mind since he meet everything I was looking for but I'm 5'9 and he's 5'6, although he's okay with it, I felt insecure. But alhamdulillah I was able to look at his character, and his deen etc. He basically meet all of my criteria except for the height but alhamdulillah, I pray that I'll learn to not care about what society will think insha Allah
I would venture to say these aren't "types" so much as regular choices men make moment to moment. They may overlap and are also something they can grow into. May Allah bless all with men of Taqwa, husband's, sons, fathers or otherwise 🤲
Jazakallah khair for all of your efforts dear sis, u don't know how much your helping Muslims. Your channel is so unique and special. And most importantly very much halal. Keep going sis 👏
Kindness and nuturing are for women... Men are strong and resilient and protective. Men can never compete women in kindness.. fathers maybe.. but as a husband.. not so much. He is human, treat him with the qualities he was given.. he was not made emotional. Women are emotional. Women complete men in that aspect... Don't expect men to be emotionally strong... They can never be.
Salaam Nafisa can you do a video of the dangers of pornography and how to control one's gaze. Btw I'm a fan of your videos and may Allah bless you as you help people who are going through struggles and helping to overcome their issues.
I recently got married Alhamdulilah, but my husband and I live in different countries. We both work full time and make good money but he doesn’t provide for me, we haven’t talked about it, is he supposed to?
Islamically speaking - yes he is supposed to. It is part of your rights as a wife even if you make good money except if you say that you are ok with him not providing. The distance is inconsequential, Allah tells the believing men in the Quran to provide for their wives from their income. Your right as a Muslim wife is to be housed appropriately, to have your adequate clothing provided and fed by him. If he is able to provide these but refuses to do this then it is a form of oppression and he will be asked about this on the day of judgment ; except in a case where you forgo your rights. And Allah knows best.
My sister may bless you for this beautiful advice is most important and beneficial to me yet to be married because I know what to do look for in my man. Jazarkallahu may Allah reward you and keep you safe 🙏 ❤️
True. My Dad said take my own car and don’t go to their house. I told my husband when I met him that he was rude and arrogant so he would need to develop his good qualities before I could marry him.
Dear Nafisah Please what do you do if your husband doesn’t respect the degree program you studied and doesn’t want you to work in this field. It really hurts Please address this issue
Assalamu alaikum sis, jazakAllahu khairun for making this video. I’m not married but I’m speaking to a man who is respectful and kind. He said he is a practicing Muslim but doesn’t pray 5x a day, which is not a problem for me because I know it takes time to develop that habit. But I wear the hijab and he said he would prefer that his wife doesn’t wear the hijab. He said in the end, it’s up to the woman and her relationship with Allah, and he shouldn’t interfere, but is this a red flag?
@@halymaaaa yeahhh girl he was like “I always thought my future wife would be ‘modern’” and that word really bothered me. But the very practicing Muslim men I’ve spoken to seem so controlling and authoritative and I don’t like them either😂
@@hithere1113 of course it’s always one end of the extreme 😭😂🤦♀️but plz just be careful and find someone who takes his responsibility seriously but also doesn’t use that authority to his selfish advantage
I feel like he is planning to marry another women since his friends did in a hidden way and he argues that he is not doing it now but if though will tell me Isn’t that a betrayal Please any advice I can’t handle I am feeling pain in my heart I did a lot for this man 😢
Maa saa allah. Tabark allah yes I agree allahumd allaha you are right sister jaz allah may allah protect you and your family 🙏 Aisha pls help me how can I forget and forgive when they Harriet me?
Slaam alaikum I just wanted to ask a question regarding marriage. I sent my wife to be her mahr before the nikah is that okay because I read somewhere that you should give it at the time of nikah or after not sure but I gave her to get gold and some clothes as my haq mahr gift. So basically is it okay that I given the mahr before the nikah marriage sp then when imam does nikah I can say that this much amount I sent before as mahr and she brought gold and clothes. So will my nikah still be valid just worried. Let me know thanks much appreciated
Salam alaykum brother, let me quickly answer your question and sister nafisa can also too later in sha Allah First of all, Mahr should not be given to get gifts like you said, gifts like clothes, bags , gold and shoes your wife requested is just for her clothing’s, her accessories towards marriage and that can also include kitchen utensils and so on. Please do not mix this two things together or use one bird to kill a stone , a mahr should be exactly something she demanded as her mahr and should not be mixed with other expenses except she does, herself: ( it is recommended at least two witnesses are aware of the mahr for future purposes) Secondly , Mahr can be given before the actual nikkah but note: there must have been a marriage proposal to her family and there should be an acceptance from both families before mahr can be given. It can be before nikkah , during or after nikkah. Thirdly, when the imam asks about mahr on your nikkah, if you have given her, you both can just reply thhat the mahr is collected and intact. Doesn’t necessarily mean you should mention the exact thing or amount to other people’s hearing. I hope this helps brother Congratulations in advance on your marriage
The response by Better Muslimah is correct however I also want to add that it must be clear between you and her what her mahr is. The exact about or gift that you have decided upon. If she disagrees with the thing/amount then the marriage can not go on until she agrees so make sure she is clear that the money she got to buy the items are her mahr because in some cultures, those gifts are separate from the mahr. Also it is wise to have a family member from both sides witness the gift of the mahr for example in my case, my mahr was taken to my dad by my father in law after my then fiancé and I had agreed on the amount. They both acted as witnesses to it and my dad then gave it all to me to do with as I wished. May Allah ease your path and bless your marriage.
Assalamualykum sister Nafisa , if the core values doesn't match ? but if he wills to change it . Then what should we do about it ? can we trust that person? sister what do u think about it ?
Walaikumsalam. I wouldn’t make any final moves until I see the changes and I am happy with it because talk is cheap, a persons actions is really what tells you who they truly are. Take your time and observe.
You're really giving us rare pearls. While watching this video I tried to push like button many times although I did it before. That shows how informational your content is. You don't even need to say like, share. People do without letting them know. Great job Nafisa🫡❤️
I really related with your advice. I recently got divorced and I completely agree that one number thing to find in a man is a good character (akhlaq) and most importantly someone who fears Allah. Someone who is kind, has a forgiving heart, provides for his family/takes responsibility, and emotionally intelligent. I truly see the value of all these characteristics now and hope to find a man who possess all of these characteristic traits. Ameen. May Allah make it easy for me and make my next marriage very beautiful and peaceful by granting me such a spouse. Ameen.
Ameen
Ameen
Aminn thuman Aaminn Yah Rabbal Alaminna 🙏
Ameeeen.....
Ameen
I just realised how much I'm blessed. ALHAMDULILLAHI I got the best Husband . JAZAKALLAH for this video .
Waiyakum and Alhamdulilah for the blessings.
Thank you for saying the truth about your hubby.
May Allah continue to bless your home. Aminn
MashaAllah 'If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]…” (Quran, 14:7).
I couldn't help thinking about my dad when you mentionned kindness, forgiving and emotionnal stability qualities. It definitely makes home a more peaceful place and as a daughter I think a lot of the confidence and mental stability I have come from there. May Allah bless our parents and have mercy on them. May Allah bless you sis
Ameen. Masha’Allah.
May Allah continue to bless him and us all.
Aminn thuman Aaminn
Hello sister Nafisa, I remember watching your videos before marriage wondering when I'll get married. I just got married recently this month and I came back to all your videos reminiscing about the time I was single watching your videos. Thank you so much, you're videos are always helpful Mashallah.
Aw Allahuma baarik
Kind, responsible, forgiving, faithful ( Loyal), Emotionally stable ❤
Allah blessed me with the best husband among my friends. I was so uncomfortable living among an extended Muslim family in his country that he agreed to live in the US as long as I agree to dress very modestly. ❤
Assalaam Alaikum,
You are such a motivation in my life, Alhamdulilah! I have viewed a few of your videos thus far, & it has made a great impact in my life. I am now going through the iddat period with my husband, He does have a few descent qualities, But, In my opinion he lacks empathy about my concerns in our household, Which in my mind, ruins the marriage. He also exhibits sneaky behaviors which draws suspicion upon himself, which is not good & I have caught him in some lies. You are right, Good men are hard to find. I have not given up on marriage again in my life because I know with the help of Allah &through prayer, All is possible. May Allah grant us all wonderful spouses, after experiencing toxicity in our marriages & continue to bless those marriages that are peaceful, happy, & healthy.
Someone once told me...
Women are more powerful than men in maintaining a beautiful relationship in marriage. She told me, as long as he is faithful, is not physically abusive or has a drug addiction, he is an average good man.
If you lower yourself to him, listen to him ... He will fall at your feet.. no matter what.
So if he Is Crazy angry ,emotionally and psychologically abusive Is It ok ? Not at all.
If you say now a day it is so difficult to find a real man, then the man would say the same "it is so difficult to find a woman"
Mutual "Accept, educate, renovate, continous feedback"
We all created to be good if guided
Love for all and with all
“Tomorrow belongs to people who prepare for it today.”African Proverb
In the name of Aallah the most high the most merciful I im so grateful to my lord every single thing you have said my husband has in him and I think its because of his strong faith in Aallah
I love Your advices Nafeesa You are blessed with wisdom Alhamdulilah Mashallah
Assalomu alaykum rohmatullohi va barakatuh sister. I recently started watching your videos. May Allah give barakah in your time and knowledge. I am learning a lot of valuable things related to family relationship. May Allah bless you!🤍
😢Truly we take so much for granted
I wanted to say JazakAllah because I recently started wearing hijab ♥️ and I remember years ago I would just see hijabis talk about their hijab journey. Your videos are amazing Masha’Allah 🫶🏼
Masha’Allah, thank you and may Allah continue to strengthen you in his path. Ameen.
Congratulations 🎉
@@NafisasPearlz Ameen Summa Ameen!😊♥️
I really appreciate this video. it is nice to hear because when a woman has a good man she should give him words of admiration and not feel shy to tell him.
shukran
Alxamdulilah Allah blessed me with a husband who has all of those positive characters and I always thank Allah for that.
Thank you sister for this beautiful reminder. You got a new subscriber ❤
May Allah continue to bless your home.
Walaikum Salaam sis Nafisa.
I just love how you phrase these types of videos. As a south london woman i know you know how we can be when it comes to the topic of men 😂😂😂 but you do it soo well and you open my eyes to a lot. InshaAllah when Allah deems me ready for marriage and shows me my husband I'll remember to come back to your marriage videos! I'll be sure to come to you for coaching inshAllah. xxx
Insha’Allah. May Allah bless you with a great husband at the right time who will be the coolness of your eyes. Ameen
Jazaka’Allahu khairan for watching
Ameen
Asalamu alaykum Sister Nafisa, I love you for the sake of Allah. May Allah grant you everything you desire. I have been listening to you way before I was married and learnt a lot from you. Shukran
Walaykum Salam sis Alhamudulilah Maa Shaa Allah TabaraKAllah all the 5points are very important I totally I agreed Alhamudulilah for my better half May Allah ease and put barka in every marriage In Shaa Allah
Ameen 🤲🏾
Mashallah this is an amazing video, inshallah when I get married I will appreciate these traits in my wife as well. Thank you for making videos like these which guide us towards the right path, Alhamdullilah.
AlhamduliLlah for the gift of spouse
Your points are on point😅Maa sha Allah
JazakiLlahu khayran sister Nafeesah
Walaikumsalam and thank you for watching
Alhamdulillahi Rabil Alaminna for your admonitions.
I saw your video today, listening to it convinced me that there're still some good and wife materials ladies/women out there. Nobody could advise me to subscribe to your channel before I did.
May Allah continue to bless you, bless your knowledge, bless your home as you're enlightening everyone.
Jazakh Allahu khayran Hajjia for what you're doing. Aminn
Yes, indeed!! Sujood of Shukr for the good men in our lives!! Love it.
Thats what i wish for my daughter and sister.and May Allah bless all you sister that good hus and. Allahuma ameen
Salaam Sis, thank you for reminding us to be greatfull.
May Allah bless you and your family aameen.
Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu khairan
Salam alekun sis, even though I am not ready for marriage yet I enjoy watching your videos😍. May Allah SWT continue to bless you
Alhamdulilah. May Allah bless you with a righteous spouse when the time comes, ameen.
Selamu Aleykum Nafisa, jazak allahu Khairan for this nasiha. I'm having a really hard time but these videos really open up my eyes. May Allah reward you and your family with Jannatul Firdaus. Amin.
السلام عليكم dear sister Nafisa
جزاك اللهُ خيرًا
For this wonderful reminder May ALLAH عز و جل bless our spouses and our children Ameen. In the same way we show gratitude towards having materials, it is important to also show gratefulness towards our husbands and children
Waiyakum. Absolutely!
I have never been loved, appreciated, forgiven and cherished😢😢😢
Walaikum salaam sister thank you 🙏🏾 for beautiful reminder. Sometimes it’s so confusing you don’t know if your husband is kind to you or not,He puts himself self as a priority, he wants you to put him a priority. But what about the children?
Mariage is not easy we just have to have patience and put our trust to Allah.
Thank you. May Allah ease our affairs
God protect you always sister
Ameen and you too
Assalamu alaikum Nafisa appi,
I am 23 year old Indian, studying medicine, my degree will be completed in 4 years (I'll be 26 by then) and my parents are not planning for me to get married atleast in next 6-8 years but i would like to get married early (I don't have any haram relationship, I would like to get married to someone they match me up with)
How can i let them know I want to get married early without actually telling them this as a girl telling her parents that she wants to get married early is considered shameful here
Walaikumsalam. May Allah ease your path.
Is there no way to speak to your mum only about this, she may have the wisdom then of how to approach the topic to your dad.
Also I would recommend watching marriage related content when they are around it may give them the hint that you are becoming interested in the topic insha’Allah
That is so difficult may Allah ease your affairs sis. Maybe you can try to talk to someone who understands them or someone well known in the community. Try to talk about other other people to your mom just to see what she thinks. Make dua to Allah to soften their hearts.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته maybe you can ask them things about their marriage and show interest or tell something about friends who are married
I absolutely understand the situation as I was in a similar state two years back. Alhamdulillāh, I am married for two years now. Remember sister, du'a is everything. I would ask Allāh subhanawata'ala to give me a spouse when it is right for me and keep me patient while I am not ready for it. Also, sister as a women, we are shy of discussing such feelings with our parents. But remember that Allāh subhanawata'ala has planned everything already. InshaaAllāh. Do you have a relative that can do this for you? Any uncle or aunt or cousin your parents value that can suggest it to them? Meanwhile just pray pray pray. Make is a reason to draw close to Allah.
Mashaa Allah,May Allah grant you the wisdom to share with others.
Wonderful lecture with great insight...! May Allaah reward you with the best and your beloved. And indeed... such brothers maa shaa'a Llaah. May we be able to nurse our boys to become strong, brave, and reliable men for Allaah and the ummah as a whole, aameen.
Great video sister Nafisa !! Ma Sha Allah!! Could you please make a video on how women can be grateful to Allah and also to their husband for these good traits ??
During the 'getting to know them' phase prior to marriage, how can one know whether they hold all these qualities. Are there ways you would suggest that we can find out? I.e not merely from the prospective spouse's mouth or their family (who can sometimes lie to make their son/brother etc appear a certain way. I've unfortunately experienced this). Many thanks, jazakallahu khairan.
During relationship, just try and test him and see how he's gonna react. If he passes the test, then he's yours but if he fails, you can test him again. Lol......
But the most important part is to pray to Allah for a rightful husband/wife.
This is just based on my little idea.
Hajjia Nafisa knows better than me.
If you ever need to test a man that's because you don't trust him and the relationship is doomed already Testing a man's character is a low move and high value women simply don't do that The best way is to judge someone's character is to simply observe how he treats his mother, father, sister, brother, or other authority figures, such as police, how he talks about his boss and people of "insignificance", such as servers or waiters who are unlikely to benefit him in any way
Subhanallah my husband had all of these at first but then they slowly deteriorated because he was so fixated on his job. He even admitted he prays 4 prayers at the same time because of busy he gets! This is the same man that used to fight me for not praying on time. Clearly if he has no time for his Lord then he has no time for me. No time for me even when my father passed away…I’m really better of without him but inshallah may Allah do best for both of us. It’s a lesson for both of us as I was impatient and he was dismissive
Thanks sister for these beautiful reminders. Marshaa Allah is the Nur for me 😊, you’re glowing ❤❤❤
Thank you dear ❤
Asmualaikum Nafisa thank you so much for the video ❤️ may Allah bless us all
Walaikumsalam, ameen
Washing this as I'll married soon insha Allah. I found it difficult to make my mind since he meet everything I was looking for but I'm 5'9 and he's 5'6, although he's okay with it, I felt insecure. But alhamdulillah I was able to look at his character, and his deen etc. He basically meet all of my criteria except for the height but alhamdulillah, I pray that I'll learn to not care about what society will think insha Allah
JazakAllahu Khayr my beloved Nafisa, May Allah SWT reward you and grant you Barakah and Noor in all of your endeavors, Ameen🤲
Asalaam walaykum Sis, Masha'Allah you are glowing Alhamdulilah 😊
Thank you
May Allah reward you sister for all that do you for our Ummah .. you are our light in this feminist darkness.
May Allah bless you sister nafissa. Great subject.
Masha Allah, may Allah swt reward you for this sister. Very informative video and very helpful as well.
So much light ❤❤ Mashallah 🥰 thank youuu for the advice!!! We needed it !!
Great advice. Very indepth and practical.
JazkAllah khayrn for the reminder🌹
Waiyakum
Thank u so much sister. May Allah bless u
Ameen. May Allah bless you too
Allahuma Aminn
Very wise women mashallah!!! I agree with all these qualities we should cherish.
I would venture to say these aren't "types" so much as regular choices men make moment to moment. They may overlap and are also something they can grow into. May Allah bless all with men of Taqwa, husband's, sons, fathers or otherwise 🤲
Thank you so much for this! May Allah bless you immensely. You hit the nail on the head about being emotionally stable.
MashaAllah you are looking so beautiful 😍
Thank you
You better preach, Sis!
JAZAKALLAH sister
Alhamdulillah i am so happy thank you for this
Amazing video, gems of advice, may Allah bless you always Ameen
Macha'Allah sister. Thank you so very much for the advices 💖
You are welcome
Jazakallah khair for all of your efforts dear sis, u don't know how much your helping Muslims. Your channel is so unique and special. And most importantly very much halal. Keep going sis 👏
This so beneficial sis thank you so much!
You are welcome
Kindness and nuturing are for women... Men are strong and resilient and protective. Men can never compete women in kindness.. fathers maybe.. but as a husband.. not so much. He is human, treat him with the qualities he was given.. he was not made emotional. Women are emotional. Women complete men in that aspect... Don't expect men to be emotionally strong... They can never be.
Asalam aleikum sister nafisa please make a video about, questions to ask a potential husband
Walaikumsalam, I have that video on my channel already so please search for it on my channel page.
@@NafisasPearlz thank you siz
May the Almighty preserve you Ameen
Ameen and you too
I thank Allah for all your videos. Will be sending this video immediately so beautifully done as always. Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulilah. Thank you for your support 🤲🏾
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@@NafisasPearlz Wa antum fa-jakakumu-llahu khayran
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Nafisa hiyoo offar niyako kuwamakini usikosee hiyoo ya brazil isikushindw manakee ikovery complicetd
Very powerful 👏🏾 🙌🏽 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Allhumdulila iam blessed i have a man with all that sister mentioned
What if the man expects you to contribute to the rent and the bills as well
JazakumullAh khairan
Salaam Nafisa can you do a video of the dangers of pornography and how to control one's gaze.
Btw I'm a fan of your videos and may Allah bless you as you help people who are going through struggles and helping to overcome their issues.
Salamualakum my sister all you said help me alot
Waaleykum musalaam warahmatullah wabarakatu
Sister 💕
MashaAllah
Shukran
Jazaaka Allahu
Khyran Sister 💕
Waiyakum
I recently got married Alhamdulilah, but my husband and I live in different countries. We both work full time and make good money but he doesn’t provide for me, we haven’t talked about it, is he supposed to?
Islamically speaking - yes he is supposed to. It is part of your rights as a wife even if you make good money except if you say that you are ok with him not providing. The distance is inconsequential, Allah tells the believing men in the Quran to provide for their wives from their income. Your right as a Muslim wife is to be housed appropriately, to have your adequate clothing provided and fed by him. If he is able to provide these but refuses to do this then it is a form of oppression and he will be asked about this on the day of judgment ; except in a case where you forgo your rights. And Allah knows best.
Sister do u have a playlist which contains all your marriage related videos please? Would u be able to make one please sis jazakallah khairan
My sister may bless you for this beautiful advice is most important and beneficial to me yet to be married because I know what to do look for in my man. Jazarkallahu may Allah reward you and keep you safe 🙏 ❤️
True. My Dad said take my own car and don’t go to their house. I told my husband when I met him that he was rude and arrogant so he would need to develop his good qualities before I could marry him.
Asalamu alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuhu dear. Alhamdulilah I'm Hindu from Ghana.
Jzk I needed this❤
Waiyakum
Dear Nafisah
Please what do you do if your husband doesn’t respect the degree program you studied and doesn’t want you to work in this field. It really hurts
Please address this issue
Masha'Allah 😍
Assalamu alaikum sis, jazakAllahu khairun for making this video. I’m not married but I’m speaking to a man who is respectful and kind. He said he is a practicing Muslim but doesn’t pray 5x a day, which is not a problem for me because I know it takes time to develop that habit. But I wear the hijab and he said he would prefer that his wife doesn’t wear the hijab. He said in the end, it’s up to the woman and her relationship with Allah, and he shouldn’t interfere, but is this a red flag?
Wait he says he’s practicing but he wouldn’t prefer his wife to wear the hijab ? I really don’t understand😅 but it’s your choice 🤷🏼♀️
@@halymaaaa yeahhh girl he was like “I always thought my future wife would be ‘modern’” and that word really bothered me. But the very practicing Muslim men I’ve spoken to seem so controlling and authoritative and I don’t like them either😂
@@hithere1113 of course it’s always one end of the extreme 😭😂🤦♀️but plz just be careful and find someone who takes his responsibility seriously but also doesn’t use that authority to his selfish advantage
Definitely sister is a red flag.
@@halymaaaa inshAllah khair sis I’ll try my best🤍
Allahamdulillah at least I have that kind of man
What if he is very practicing kind and soft but no job , has social anxiety
What are you able to handle? This is a decision for you to make.
@@NafisasPearlz I have kids and he doesn't. It's pros and cons
I feel like he is planning to marry another women since his friends did in a hidden way and he argues that he is not doing it now but if though will tell me
Isn’t that a betrayal
Please any advice I can’t handle
I am feeling pain in my heart I did a lot for this man 😢
Mashallah
Wa Alaykumus Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
Maa saa allah. Tabark allah yes I agree allahumd allaha you are right sister jaz allah may allah protect you and your family 🙏 Aisha pls help me how can I forget and forgive when they Harriet me?
You should listen to lectures about this sis. It’s easy to forgive when you do it for Allah. It’s also good for your health to forgive.
Slaam alaikum I just wanted to ask a question regarding marriage. I sent my wife to be her mahr before the nikah is that okay because I read somewhere that you should give it at the time of nikah or after not sure but I gave her to get gold and some clothes as my haq mahr gift. So basically is it okay that I given the mahr before the nikah marriage sp then when imam does nikah I can say that this much amount I sent before as mahr and she brought gold and clothes. So will my nikah still be valid just worried. Let me know thanks much appreciated
Salam alaykum brother, let me quickly answer your question and sister nafisa can also too later in sha Allah
First of all, Mahr should not be given to get gifts like you said, gifts like clothes, bags , gold and shoes your wife requested is just for her clothing’s, her accessories towards marriage and that can also include kitchen utensils and so on. Please do not mix this two things together or use one bird to kill a stone , a mahr should be exactly something she demanded as her mahr and should not be mixed with other expenses except she does, herself: ( it is recommended at least two witnesses are aware of the mahr for future purposes)
Secondly , Mahr can be given before the actual nikkah but note: there must have been a marriage proposal to her family and there should be an acceptance from both families before mahr can be given. It can be before nikkah , during or after nikkah.
Thirdly, when the imam asks about mahr on your nikkah, if you have given her, you both can just reply thhat the mahr is collected and intact. Doesn’t necessarily mean you should mention the exact thing or amount to other people’s hearing.
I hope this helps brother
Congratulations in advance on your marriage
@@The-Zaynab thank you so much for your answer may allah reward you and I'll keep you in my duas too sister much appreciated🙂
The response by Better Muslimah is correct however I also want to add that it must be clear between you and her what her mahr is. The exact about or gift that you have decided upon. If she disagrees with the thing/amount then the marriage can not go on until she agrees so make sure she is clear that the money she got to buy the items are her mahr because in some cultures, those gifts are separate from the mahr. Also it is wise to have a family member from both sides witness the gift of the mahr for example in my case, my mahr was taken to my dad by my father in law after my then fiancé and I had agreed on the amount. They both acted as witnesses to it and my dad then gave it all to me to do with as I wished.
May Allah ease your path and bless your marriage.
Plz tell me your skin shiny secret...
My husband never forgave me😢
this is a guddu one....
Assalamu alyakum
Wata offar tano nisawa nitakupa plz musinipee mia tati itakuwa afathali nitafute kazi
I have no money to come to marriage
Assalamualykum sister Nafisa ,
if the core values doesn't match ? but if he wills to change it .
Then
what should we do about it ?
can we trust that person?
sister what do u think about it ?
Walaikumsalam. I wouldn’t make any final moves until I see the changes and I am happy with it because talk is cheap, a persons actions is really what tells you who they truly are. Take your time and observe.
@@NafisasPearlz 🤗tnxx a lot🤍 sister for the advice ❤
You're really giving us rare pearls.
While watching this video I tried to push like button many times although I did it before. That shows how informational your content is. You don't even need to say like, share. People do without letting them know. Great job Nafisa🫡❤️