How sex can destroy you
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My mother once told me that red flags become light pink when you get sexually involved with someone before you really get to know them... I've been celibate ever since
thats so true! Men know this thats y they try to have sex with you early on to make you attached to them.
Me too sister
Girrrrrrrrrrl......u know that's right
That was so wise and true
I’m going celibate after reading this!❤
As a woman, being celibate gave me clarity and I was able to make more money
It’s sad because in the black community, the elders didn’t talk about sexuality with us & it seriously hinders us. I look at the rate of teenage pregnancies, out of wedlock pregnancies, & promiscuity running rampant in our culture. I’m glad we’re able to discuss it now & learn from it.
Hook up culture was one of the worse thing to cheer on. Especially for women. It didn't do us ANY favors. If anything it made men less accountable
No it made y’all less accountable as well. Toxic males and toxic females are the problem. We have to point fingers at all genders
I keep saying we remain the losers in this embrace your sexuality phase. Embracing your sexuality does not mean be out here wilding out with little regard
@@ronaldmcdonaldjuniorghost le sigh. It's clear from my very first sentence that hook up culture in general (for everyone) was a bad idea. I merely used an example to make another point of WHY it was bad. And yes. It was definitely worse for women* (nor sure why yall can't say that instead of females) but I digress
YOU are the one that only read "males are the problem" You might wanna get to the root of why you only saw that from my statement🤙🏾
@@ForbsieLaLa exactly what I was saying. We were the biggest losers in all this.
@@ronaldmcdonaldjuniorghost I am fast disliking the word toxic but you are right in that. Before it was easy to just look at men now we have to add women, and it makes it even harder
I would hope all black men become very wise like you. Thank you man.
Rare.
As a woman who was slow to bed when I was on the market, males do not like a woman who has restraint. Sex has never been a high priority in my life, even when married, etc. I removed myself from the market some time ago and do not miss anything about having a man around, honestly.
My children were taught all about human sexuality, including how their bodies would change in puberty. Both have been raised in an environment of self-respect, boundaries, and protection. We were frank in all our discussions with the kids and answered all of their questions honestly. I believe that too many BP do not give their children the information that they need to make good decisions later in life. This is especially true when it comes to sex and human sexuality in general. I wasn't even informed about having a period and thought that I was dying when it started the day that I turned 10. I vowed that no children of mine would go through life blindly about anything, especially their bodies.
I agree that people are way to quick to jump into bed. I believe that this comes from the lack of knowledge and honest conversations that should be had when children are young. People are also looking to the outside for fulfillment and completion. That's not where it is to be found, however. I believe that there must be a long pause and self-reflection before going down the path of sexuality.
I also know, couple, who got married at 18, in 1988
Hes a pastor
Both were virgins
They're still married 12 kids and 34 years later
@@kathleenking47 that’s what I desire. That’s why I’m not going to be careful and honest with who I choose to sleep and commit to. No more weirdos I just want a family.
Amen!
Thank you for speaking on this. Sex is spiritual. We also need to talk about the hyper sexuality in the BLK community
This deviance didn’t start in the black community, America has always always been sexual from the Catholic Church, ChattelSlavery, Hugh Hefner- Playboy, smut sex Porn, 1970s Hippie era, and Sodam&Gomorrah Hollywood. Now that blackFolk were “allowed” in those spaces we have learned a behavior that has made us lustful and just plain buckWild and look at us #MyMyMy
@@theLionandtheLamb1If you're gonna be responsible for sexual behaviors it's starts with pointing the fingers at you. If hypersexuality and promiscuity was caused by supremacy why is it not all Black people are doing it? Why is it that it happens all over the world. It actuality hip hop and Black music has influenced a lot of risk like behaviors all over the world. People think it's 'cool' and the youth want to fit in whatever the lyrics and videos ate messaging. Repent. Stop. Take accountability instead of blaming...
Children are 6 years old in first grade asking about/ talking about sex, or for example the boy students are making "moaning" sounds and laughing... Idk if they know what they're doing.
I feel so uncomfortable sometimes as a substitute teacher.
The devil is out here. It's a spiritual warfare and they coming for the kids.
Get your kids out of these public schools
Amen them kids are disgusting. Gotta start back disciplining kids
Those kids have been exposed to something at a young age. That's so sad
Yes more homeschool or Christian schools that are truly of God.
@@ronaldmcdonaldjuniorghost and get the father's back in the homes. That's where it starts. My sister is a teacher. A lot of these kids ARE in fact being disciplined, but lack direction and foundation because one parent is doing it all. Discipline will only do so much when you don't have adults leading by example.
Meaningless sex non-intimate non-sensual sex is so unfulfilling. I enjoy having intimacy with my partner that extends beyond penetration. It’s important, as humans we need closeness, emotional safety.
This is what young ladies need to be told about celibacy.
When I was younger and in church, I would get hissed at when I expressed my "burning passion" like it was strictly a man thing. They focused so much on sex being fornication and it was never okay.
If the focus was on the importance of celibacy, rather than why their urge to f*** was incorrigible, I think more people would practice celibacy. 😊🤘🏾
@@Gumbier_Than You mean some women need to be taught. Lol some of us have never truly cared for sex, but ofc society and religion, men and even other non celibates judge us for our decision 🤣🤣
Child hood Trauma 😢Effects us REALLY GREATLY AS ADULTS.... 🙏🏾✨✨✨♥️ HEALING ❤️🩹 IS EVERYTHING
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I wish more men would watch your videos because most men and yes more often than women…rush into sex.
Think about the plethora of men who’ve been out of the dating scene because they’re just having ramped sex?
When a woman says she’s single, there’s that stupid assumption that she’s still having sex…why? Most people (men and women) have associated “singleness” with sex.
When a woman chooses to be celibate - it’s frowned upon, but whether she’s having sex in her marriage and or without marriage it’s always a problem…🤣🤣
Yet so many men will complain that women are too easy and or shouldn’t be having sex like a man…how about we all be celibate? You see those same men get quiet.
A lot of people turn to sex to make up for the lack of emotional support and stability they weren’t given from their parents. Mommy issues are just as real as daddy issues.
@CL.S I absolutely agree with this statement. The problem is that too many women have conditioned themselves to believe that they *need* to have sex.
If all women collectively stopped engaging with their antics. These guys wouldn’t have any women to interact with - they shouldn’t have any issues.
This is one of the greatest videos in the history of the Internet. Thanks Mike
I appreciate that bro. Thank you
Sex was made to be a blessing. We (humans) misused it, and now it became a problem. But with reconditioning an retraining our mind(reading) accountability partners an commitment we can change our lives for the better and make better choices
My life started crashing once I got into my last relationship and became sexually active again. After everything I went through, I don’t want it anymore unless I’m married. STD’s (sexually transmitted demons) are dangerous and will literally destroy you but by bit and piece by piece. I’ll wait for my spouse and the man God has for me.
I'm waiting for marriage too. My last relationship was really a situationship. No more of that.
It's so refreshing to here someone on TH-cam give God's word this is what our community needs the truth. I admire that about you I'm so glad God has directed you to use your platform for his work and I hope many people get the message and get the healing. I stumbled across your channel a few years back and was impressed how you sincerely wanted people to learn from your challenges. God Bless you and your family and keep doing what you're doing.
Thank you
Hit the nail again Shumake! This affects children in so many ways that parents do not understand! People must be careful of who they have sex & kids with!!
I love this guy… he’s just so REAL! Happy Father’s Day!!! Thanks for all you do! 🙏🏽
I'm currently separated from my husband so sex is not a thing in my life. When we divorce, sex will not be a thing in my life, unless I remarry a Christian man who worships the true God and lives his life according to God's direction. Until then, I am following God's requirements in the Bible regarding sexual immorality. Ephesians 5:3.
Correct me if im wrong but I thought christians cant remarry after divorce?
@@icejones338 Beyond the death of a spouse, if an innocent Christian seeks a divorce bc their spouse has committed adultery, it is viewed as scriptural, and that previous marriage is viewed as having ended. If the innocent Christian remarries, the new marriage is viewed as binding.
@@kiranholt3296I beg to differ. According to scripture (Matthew 5:31-32), if you divorce and marry someone else, you are committing adultery. The only way you can remarry is if your spouse passes away. But if they're still alive, it's either you go back to them or remain single.
I had a guy tell me a std is cheaper then having a baby. I was like wooooowww!! In that moment I was straight in dating and sex 😂😂😂😂😂 I’m like me holding myself is better then playing the odds
Well, in the long run, the medication and treatments are going to declare him bankrupt. Not to mention, premature death and taboo in society surrounding STDs. At least now you know who to avoid.
This older Man molested me and impregnated me when I was an under-aged, minor, virgin. He never had a relationship with my/his Son. How would these guys feel if some one did that to their Mother, Sister, or Daughter? If they’re narcissistic, then they would not care! 🤨
I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm praying for your healing. That man is a predator.
Thanks so much for being transparent and sharing this powerful message. Sadly, such message is not spoken in churches and schools today and people are perishing from a lack of knowledge. For many years, I too, became exposed to sexual lust/ungodly relationships by allowing the enemy permission because of lack of knowledge, wisdom and understanding. Now I found Jesus Christ and I'm healed, delivered and set free!!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾💜
A couple of days ago I saw a young woman speak about women you talk about waiting for the right man to have kids with are catering to men(being a mother should not depend on the type of man). What was sad was the number of women in support of her and actually calling being a bit more discerning foolish and pandering. I was disturbed because how am I gong to be that selfish to let my desire to be a mom override the type of father I give my child. Our desires are important yes but we have to be careful where they could lead. The other day a work colleague tried to show me a video of two persons and I told her not to show me that. Not only was the age inappropriate but I have never been someone moved by other persons involved in the act. As much as I might enjoy it I still think it as an intimate act to be shared between people that genuinely care about each other and rightfully so, married people
You hit the nail on the head man!!! Thanks for your Transparency/Rawness especially when it comes to this topic. As a Sexual Abuse/Physical abuse survivor I once was a Sex/Alcohol addict & I realized I was struggling & that it became a big issue as it was a common thing. One day I looked at myself in the mirror & didn’t even realize the man staring back . I’ve been in therapy going on 6 years an it was one of the best things I could’ve done for myself. I was in Lust not love & one thing therapy taught me is my sex addiction came from my childhood trauma being molested at 10-11 changed me. In my 20s I found myself looking for love in all the wrong places .
You are a wonderful, strong real man. You are truthful. By telling your truth(confession) you have now been forgiven by GOD/JESUS of all those sinful ways. But, you already know this. Your wife is blessed to be married to you. Stay prayed up and be Blessed.
Thank you
36 going on 21 big bro. Righteousness looks good on ya.
You’re content is always 💯sexual addiction had me to for many years of my life. I was Trying to find love in all the wrong places. Not understanding I was already loved by the most high. I had blinders on for many years until God saved me out of it. Looking ahead, it gives a whole new meaning to the song Amazing Grace, and that I was once blind but now I see. 🙌🏼❤️ Thank you Jesus
Thank you for helping people become more aware of relationships
Wow this is so powerful, thanks for being so vulnerable and I agree alot of relationships are trama bonds when I realized this I became celibate and have been working hard to keep myself this way it's very hard but I'm determined because I want a strong partnership and union not just someone who wants me for sex. I just found this channel
Ima add this also, if you have sex with a immature man (boy) he can tarnish your name and have you looking easy/thottish and that makes other immature men (boys) come after you cause of what they heard especially if more than 1 guy you’ve slept with is spreading how you are in bed about you, trust me I lived in a small town and guys would bash women who they’ve slept with even though most times the woman was not “ easy” or a “Thot”
In this fast talking video world, I really appreciate the calm insightfulness of your videos. It really gives me the chance to really hear and think about what you’re saying.
SOMEONE had to say it. I have known this for years and its about time everyone gets truly AUTHENTIC and starts speaking on this topic. Thank you for having the courage to make a video for this. I truly appreciate hearing this externally from outside my own thoughts and so do others. I can assure you. You have an abundance of courage, my friend. Always, always, always persevere. No matter what!
Now its "sex positive "..smh... you are telling the entire truth !
Keep seeking God!
Thanks for your honesty this happens more often than not..
Your testimony is the majority of people's testimonies whether they are male or female. When I say that I mean as far as stumbling across the magazines and all the other things you have said in this video. This is why this video you are making is so important because I believe we all pretty much had the same Journey most of us anyway. But the other side of it is Joy if you let it in the Holy Ghost
Women or men*
My God! This is so awesome! I was just having a conversation about this very topic!
This is a real one right here! Thanks fam! 💯
I'm so glad I've always been very stuck up. It really disturbed me when boys/men came at me in a sexual way....old men, married men, all kinds of men....
I got into porn and masturbation at 9 but I never wanted anyone to touch me. I knew it wasn't real but it was real.
I lost my virginity at 14 (ended up reconnecting and then marrying him at 23) and I never regretted it.
My introversion and natural distrust of people saved me from a lot of things. I'm now 47 and I've only been with 3 men and I've been celibate about 12 years.
I consider myself blessed because most of us don't come out of it.
Thanks for your honesty. It is a huge issue that needs to be discussed more.
UNFORTUNATELY EVERYWHERE...ANYWHERE...U DON'T WANNA BE...
Your honesty is very refreshing. Thank you. I so love your content. Blessings.
Thank you
Brother this was POWERFUL!!! I appreciate your transparency in this video as I’ve struggled with this as well. This definitely hit home for me! Thank God for you fam! Peace and blessings! 🙏🏿💯
This is a whole word! 🙌🏼 I was never very sexually active as a teen but got into a relationship as an older teen that ended up being extremely toxic & that set the course for many years as I got into a few toxic relationships after that. Two kids with two men that I had no business being with & it really changed me as a person as those were some of the most abusive relationships I’ll ever have. Then what my poor babies went through as a result 😭 I know God can & will redeem but that doesn’t undo the damage.
Thank you for being real and sharing your story with us. It took courage and guts.
What you went through forced you to mature, by humbling you. It unfortunately seems men in general need to be forced to maturity by a rock-bottom "epiphany" experience. We women are having a near- impossible time finding mature men. It seems when we come across men who do seem to "have it together" emotionally, who seem responsible, it is because there was almost always some kind of trauma, or crisis that forced them, by the hand of God, to mature and grow up. A lot of men are being coddled by their parents today, esp. in my race, being Caucasian. It is beyond frustrating.
Again, Thank You for sharing these personal thing. Once again, I never would have known or expected you had had this type of past. You seem like someone who really has their stuff together. You did the hard, hard work. Wish more guys would!!! 🙏 👍
Im 45 and I wish I was still a virgin. 10yrs...and Im much happier
Don’t taste, don’t touch!
Thank you for your vunerability in this. I loge that the Lord has used your testimony to help us, who have gone or are going through similar issues. The Lord is using you in a powerful way. May His blood continually cover you and your family and your minisry. GOD bless!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you
Drop the mic….when you said the operating system isn’t compatibility 🎤! You said a word 🙌🏾🤙🏾on that!
I truly respect you for sharing your story with us but I really appreciate the fact that you hold yourself accountable for the person you choose to have children with and that the person you choose wasn’t the best option to create a family with. A lot of times I see people constantly blaming the other person but reuse to accept any accountability for their own choices
Great video ❤
GOD Bless you for posting this
Thank you for this. Videos like this should go viral.
Celibacy is pretty much the norm for me. I was so paranoid about catching STDs and getting messed with against my will that i avoided people ever since puberty.
As a result, I never met a guy who I felt was a good partner. The only guy who "seemed to be interested" was violent and I didn't want that in my life.
Preach Sir!!
Damn bro your channel is basically my life right now!
New subscriber here.Much Love From Kenya.
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Wow 😮this was good 👍 bro , may God continue to bless you and keep you covered 😊I love 💕 this!!!!
Thank you y do or sharing your testimony and wisdom
Thank you for your transparency 😊
Thanks for this video 💯
Great video!
When I heard of 36, 1987 babies 🎉😂. Let’s get it my boy! Great content #Godbless
Great content!
Now this is the kind of video that SHOULD go VIRAL!
I don’t know you but I’m so proud of you. These are the kind of conversations that need to be had. I applaud it coming from a young black man but women NEED to be having the SAME conversations.
ALL of those things you state are SUPERFICIAL things that DO NOT SUSTAIN a real relate-inship…
You need to be in the same boat and steering in the same direction.
When God is the foundation AND you are whole the chances are better but you’ll still face challenges. You’ll just be able to navigate those challenges a bit better than those who started out with no foundation or the wrong foundation.
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Say that! I agree. I don’t think that money is the leading cause of divorce. I think it’s soul ties….being tied to too many other souls leaves no room to bond with the one soul you should. It takes the POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT to intervene and destroy soul ties.
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Thank you
Facts, Teach.
Good topic.
This was impactful and eye opening
Thank you for your transparency. May God bless you and your marriage/family! In Jesus' name. Amen.
Speak...teach...REACH...BLACK KING...GOD BLESS YOU...
It’s mighty funny you say something about body count and notch in the belt. Women are sexually liberated, but when you don’t want to have sex with a man and he feels like he deserves it from you, he’s still going to call you a whore. Trust me I know, I’m not sexually active at all, I’ve always had self-control in that area. I’ve been very selective about the people I deal with, after my last relationship I decided to become celibate and staying that way til God, says otherwise.
Diogenes Laertius quotes Epicurus as saying, "Sexual intercourse. never helped anyone, and one must be satisfied if it has not harmed." (8) Enjoying natural but unnecessary desires requires a careful balancing act and a clear-thinking mind.
Yes, Yes ,Yes !
Proverbs 25:28
Yesssssssss
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Facts
This hit home....
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I just want to clarify that ADHD is innate. You are either born with it or not. Just like how 1 person is born with dimples and another 1 is not.
Your environment does not influence whether you have ADHD or not. Yes it is possible to be misdiagnosed with it. However, I want to make *clear* that ADHD is something you are born with.
Also, ADHD is not something to frown upon if you have it. If anything you should be proud that you know more about yourself as an individual, so you are more able to manage yourself within the world without wondering why some tasks are easier for people to complete in comparison to you. Identifying that you have ADHD is a way to level the playing field with other people who do not have it, because rescourses will be provided to support you.
He probably meant ADD
@tiffanysilvera6691 ADD is the old term from predominately inattentive ADHD.
There are 3 types of ADHD: Inattentive, combined (hyperactive and inattentive), and hyperactive.
You already sealed your fate as a teen. You won't be forgiven for using girls. What's the one unforgivable sin? You did it in spades. Men are going to get a rude awakening very soon. The writing is on the wall and you will be told, I know you not.
You sound very misinformed
He most definitely can be forgiven for using women… that is not the ultimate sin.
Thank you
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