I feel her. I was forced to take piano lessons until my teacher told my mom not to bring me any more. Just because my older brother and sister wanted to play piano did not mean I did.
She is letrelly looking so uncomfortable and that eye roll got me speechless it showed like the whole personality of that mom well atlest those two dudes came to the save thanks to both of you guys ❤
The pressure the mom was putting on her to try to impress everyone and then she rolled her eyes is outrageous. Why don’t parents understand when their children are uncomfortable in a situation 😐
Agreed. And that's just the piano. I'm just gutted right now knowing her home life is the same, and she still has years of it to go through. That mom is going to get more and more smothering :/
The best answer to every "Why is parent" question is because they always think that they're right and never wrong. That explains why a lot of kids get in trouble for "talking back" when in all actuality the parent can't suck up their pride and ego and just accept that they're wrong.
I could feel her discomfort through the screen, oh poor baby. That mothers eye roll shows her exact personality and who she is. I’m so glad your helped her and that man out of that situation and not forcing her to play. Much love ❤
At first, I felt the same, but then I remembered my awkward girlfriend who is 25 and realized that it makes sense to push and put people in uneasy situations to make them more resilient and ready for the world. Nobody likes awkward goofballs.
the face her mother made when her daughter was not willing to perform on the spot like a puppet in a show was so heartbreaking. thank you for not embarrassing or pressuring her into playing.
@@qushin5110 she didn’t tell her to not be sad, she told her to not be shy (nie wstydź się) and she kept repeating “show us what you can play”. The tone was very pressuring too 😢
The girl was sitting there first. Why are you glad he stepped in. Yes, the parent is ugly, but why praise the other guy for gate crashing. He should've asked the young girl first if he could step in and save her. 😢
I totally feel her. Had similar experiences with my parents when I was younger and I absolutely hated it every single time. If you say no, they then try to let you feel bad for it and ask you what they pay for your lessons for or if they should sell your piano if you don't want to play anyway. Gone through this, lost my motivation because of it and quit after some time.
Exactly the same with me, I used to love playing my piano but it was for me. I didn’t like playing in front of other people because I was super uncomfortable and nervous and struggled with bad anxiety when I was younger, but my mum always insisted I play to people and would force me into preforming, one time literally shoving me onto the stool, overtime I lost my confidence in playing and as a teenager I would only ever play if she wasn’t in the house, you can’t get it’s never just with one thing too. Pushy parents aren’t just pushy about piano for example, my parents were pushy about grades, exercises, my appearance, relationships… nothing was ever enough for them and their vision of me.
This is very relatable, I know how that girl feels. Since her parents never taught her, I hope she learns herself that it's okay to say no to anything. It annoys me so much how the mother clearly just wanted to flaunt her child to the public.
@@coronastingray me too dude, having an upbringing like this definitely instilled a lot of social anxiety, and confidence problems that I'm only now solving. Hopefully she wont have this outcome, and her other family are less pushy and more supportive.
Yes I wish parents would realize, this day in age kids have more social anxiety than maybe their parents did. Its unfair for parents to force their children to do these types of things.
There’s a thin line between pushing your child to do something you know is good for them and just forcing them to do something. I have parents that want me to be the “perfect” child and always compare me to others. If it was my parents, later they would yell at me for not playing the piano. To anyone who needs it… you don’t have to try to be perfect because that will never be possible. Just be you and do what YOU want to do.
I HATE those kinds of parents. Those kind of people are the ones that will extinguish the spark in you, who will put you in a uncomfortable spot, and push you to do stuff that you’re not comfortable of doing. She might not be confident of her skill yet to be able to perform in front of everyone, and I understand that feeling. I personally know that feeling…
It's important to push people outside their comfort zone, that's how barriers are broken, dreams are realized, talents recognized, friends made, worlds changed. HOWEVER, I do side entirely with you. This is not a push out of a comfort zone. This is shitty parents trying to live vicariously through their daughter, projecting their own shortcomings or regrets on her. The look of disappointment when the mother rolls her eyes is absolute douchebaggery. I hope this girl a.) wants to play this instrument and wasn't forced into it and b.) doesn't let anyone, especially not her parents or people she loves, shut her down or turn her off to her own dreams. It's the people we love that break us down the hardest. She needs a gentle nudge when appropriate, not a forceful shove into her dickhead parents' trophy case. My wife went through the same thing. Now she has cPTSD and motivational issues, and this video reminded me of what her parents were like the first time I met them. Needless to say, I gather she's happier without them breathing down her neck anymore, and I am sure this girl will be too. I hope her parents realize before they drive their child away.
Agreed. Embarrassing your child is bullying & a form of abuse. It's disgusting & unacceptable. The same thing goes with any activity- music, sports & even career choices. Parents have the chance to play an instrument, perform in a theater group, play sports or become a rocket scientist. If their children are not interested or don't feel safe performing, embarrassing them isn't going to change their minds. It WILL make them dislike the activity & grow to resent their bullying parents. Just say no....if necessary, in front of those they're trying to impress & tell them they are upsetting & embarrassing you. Hopefully that should end their abusive behavior. If I were playing piano & parents did this, I would call them out publicly & say THEY ARE making everyone uncomfortable which isn't what playing music is meant to be.
@@sjladuke75 Very true. My mom is like her but worse. I can't even explain it. My dad and mom divorced which i am so happy with. I chose to live with my dad because he is a great guy, and intelligent.
As a pianist, I can understand the nervousness and discomfort. My parents are decent, but this seems like something my mom would do. But props to you guys for saving her! W
Ya that was terrible to watch, f those parents, and the guy that swooped in, that was rude as F, im sure that made her feel only more embarrassed and uncomfortable Thumbs down for this clip
Oh yes, a parent pushes their child a little bit out of her comfort zone. Oh shame on them for trying to help their child be more well-adjusted. You're dumb.
We'll probably will never know the reason why they wanted her to play w him. But that reminded me of someone in my own family who would definitely would do something like that without asking if i feel like doing something only to have something to brag about to others later to seem like a "good parent". Wish her parents didn't insist on playing without asking. She was obviously uncomfortable and shy. But just stood there filming. Omg🤦♀️
@@Lena0ntop yeah, same. She was saying "Nie wstydź się" ("Don't be ashamed") and then moments later she looked back saying "Wstydzi się" ("She's ashamed") under her breath with a *lunatic* eyebrow move that really made me want to punch her😭 i'm so sorry for the girl ;-;
So sad that her parents forced her into something of discomfort. The eye roll said it all and I’m so proud of the other man for coming in and practically saving her. Edit: I’m so sorry to all the people in the reply’s and you really don’t deserve that. I’m so, so sorry.
I hate when parents do this. I'm not even kidding. My parents did this to me a lot and now it's left me with stage fright and being afraid of being called up to present something. I still have this anger in me everytime they call me up. But now that I'm an adult, I can call them out on their shit when they try to do the same thing again and it honestly left them surprised. I'm glad they stopped after seeing my point cuz that terrified me as a kid. I'm not letting that happen to me as I age.
Look back on all these memories & as you do so move your eyes from side-to-side this tells you that you are moving on: this rewrites the negative experiences & emotions attached to these memories & brings them to a at least neutral perspective with no negativity. Works everytime! Based on bodies natural movement & neural pathways accessed when moving around especially in unknown or built up environments: or when you are moving along defined paths; you have to look side-to-side as you progress along the path. This enables you to MOVE ON BUB!! Love you! Peace & Love!!!
@@hananawan7624 I understand but my parents are the same way right now, and I promise you it is not the right way to make your child confident. Some things that i am good at i can’t even show anybody because of how much I’ve been embarrassed before
Her mom said "Co umiesz zagrać?" Its a poland language.Every Poland parent does that.Ik that bc i live in Poland.I'm not from Poland btw. I'm from UK. Now i am 7yrs in Poland but i Lived in UK like just 3 years.
@@The_fellow_therian her mom also was repeating "nie wstydź się" (don't be ashamed in hella passive-agressive way), I actually feel the pressure for her ):
I'm glad someone was able to relieve her from that pressure. Those kinds of parents are the worst, I experienced that same kind of pressure and it's sickening.
Oh my god yes. I also know this experience and i hate it so much. I really hate it. And when i see other parents forcing their children it makes me angry because i know how it feels like
aha you think people wouldnt notice this comment was from that one dhar mann video this comment is stolen from that video that wise person is the commenter
Why?? Why do some parents still do this to their children/grandchildren. It’s so embarrassing and humiliating to the child and for what?? Thank you for helping this little girl out and being so kind to her! You are awesome and I love what you do! ❤
i HATE when parents act like that. I know my parents definitely have. it's a terrible feeling. if she doesn't want to, then don't make her. and then when she freezes up in a situation that YOU put her in, don't roll your eyes. that's just petty and so terrible. you're going to leave your daughter with lasting anxiety and other issues. props to the guy playing the piano who tried to help her out.
Yea those little things you expirience as a kid can really impact you in the future. I always think back on those awkward moments that come into your mind when you try to sleep. Like those things that could of happened when you were 10 and absolutely nobody remembers but me. I feel like those moments contribute to my social anxiety while growing up
I disagree. Whenever i have been forced to do something and then did it, i have felt more accomplished and came out of it stronger and with more confidence to do it later. People are too quick to let normal every day anxieties get in the way of their ability to accomplish things and it makes them weaker and less capable people.
Poor baby! It’s hard enough being uncomfortable as an adult. Imagine being a little girl and being pushed around by adults. I would have cried…and I’m 22. My heart goes out to her❤️ she’s a doll!
He rmom is an absolute loser who accomplished nothign in life, which is why she pushes it all onto her child. Agree, I also hate parents like that. It's abuse.
@@dishasaini3981 bcs she didnt break through...listen, im literally th most shy person youd probably ever talk to... and sometimes I wish i was placed on the spot like that, as its hard for me to make any verbal contact with people i dont know...
I think that's unacceptable of the relatives. The girl was obviously in a bad mood. But the mother wasn't happy that her daughter didn't want to play. Thumbs up to the two men who helped her out of that situation.
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If you let kids always decide for themselves they may never push themselves. It's ok to get put on the spot sometimes but i think this kid just isn't very good if she doesn't even know the names of anything
@@jd-zu5okI 100% agree with you but I feel like this situation was one of the ones were it wasn’t right. I think you should push them at first and if they really don’t like it then don’t force them
““You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.” Exodus 20:7 NKJV
Sometimes they feel like their kids just need some encouragement because they don't want them to miss out on opportunities because of fear and discomfort like they did...
@@jaylenbrown8992you pulled the word traumatize here btw… and you’d be right, that shit is traumatic, and yeah, there are worser traumas but that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be commented on… you have a very weird, judgmental and ignorant view on child’s psychology… fix that
Alors la on voit tout l'amour de la mère sur sa fille ! C'est certain la mère a poussé sa fille a joué au piano avec le pianiste mais pauvre petite a perdu tous ses moyens à cause du trac ! Elle a juste besoin d'être encourager et d'amour de la part de sa mère !On sait très bien qu'après la mère va la disputer parce qu'elle n'a pas réussi à vaincre sa peur ! Courage jeune fille !
It’s okay to encourage your kids to step out of their confort zone every once in awhile, but respect them when they clearly show signs of stress or discomfort. Giving them the confidence to say “no, I don’t want to” in situations is an important lesson to learn, especially when they get to middle/high school.
me: sometimes builds the courage to say no my parents: you never do anything, you're so disappointing, why don't you just do it? It isn't that difficult.. Why can't you be more like your "BROTHER"? (shes trans and goes by she/her but my parents are homophobic..)
So awesome that both of these guys played for this girl who was put on the spot by her parent or grandparent. You could tell she was really uncomfortable. Thank you. Would love to see part 2. 😊♥️
this is why I don't speak Korean. I took lessons but my mom paraded me in front of her friends and made me speak for all of her friends who would laugh, eff that
@@Lisa-im6hyIf it is something that you are interested in doing then do it and don't worry about anyone else's opinion. As long as you aren't hurting anyone and doing it to better yourself keep at it 👍
I have been playing piano and I've been singing ever since I was four and at every single party or gathering we went to I was forced to perform. As I grew older I began to realise how uncomfortable i felt while doing it but I was told that it's a "phase" when everyone's confidence goes down and it's normal that I'm feeling this way. They said that they felt happy and proud when I performed but I feel like my perspective counts too right? So ever since then I promised myself I'm never gonna do this with my kids and I'll only do it if they really want to perform themselves.
she’ll end up hating piano if every time there’s one around she’s pressured to show off :-( she’s not a monkey doing tricks for you, she’s a talented person, capable of deciding whether she’s comfortable or not.
i’m re-posting my original reply, but AGREED 1000% 😤😤 i stopped wanting to play the violin (15 years of formal lessons), piano (6), and flute (6) in public or even in front of family because of being pressured like this by my parents when i was deeply uncomfortable and insecure. damn at least the joy of music brought a smile to this girls face at the very end, but this was actually really hard to watch 😓😔😔 i despise this mom and her behavior displaying blatant narcissism at the expense of her daughters comfort - this mother should be ashamed for acting this way and whipping out the cameras for her fucktard facebook friends, while her daughter is clearly communicating to her “no; i don’t want to; i’m uncomfortable and nervous” shame on this mom, and i hope the little girl is still able to hold on to her love of music/performing at her own pace, where she’s comfortable and happy 🥺🩷💛🩵🤘🏽
i would have had tears in my eyes. at first... because of the little poor girl forced into a strange situation. and then... happy tears because of the dude who joined the play.
her parents probably gave her hell for it later. noone can save you from toxic parents. you have to deal with it until you can move out. but even then all your family members and other people around you will expect you to get over it and not be "ungrateful" by cutting off contact.
It can be a really good feeling too... But insisting if you don't feel or want to do something could be handled differently. All love still to the family, granny is in the end probably just proud of the process :)
Even if she is playing for years… its not their job to tell her what to do.. because music should not be to show off it should warm Our soul and be inspiration or meditation for yourself at first place… So doesnt matter how classes she took or not Btw…
@@foodmep3473that's stupid you sound like a Child, bruh this day and age piano lessons are a arm and a leg if I'm paying for a whole year of lessons damn right I wanna see the results if your there panicking not even knowing a composer then that shits gotta stop and u do something else
@@veryloudcrepes3956 dont force your kids to learn shit from very young age... if there into it ok... but if you force them the are not going to learn by any means
You guys are very polite and comforting. The problem is the PARENT; she should NOT force the child for something that she does not feel ready for. If she hates the piano for the rest of her life, the parent IS the reason. I am an educator and speaking from the experience.
You COULD'NT be more correct. After years of opera training I still had anxiety & disdain for public performance for this very reason. I was too young to understand how to disconnect the feeling of anxiety & dread from it once I got into my 20s and let it go. I'd been offered a scholarship to the Peabody Institute & threw it away. Talk about regret & confusion 30 years later. As an educator please talk to these parents when you see them! You probably do, but it's pretty wild how we wire ourselves when we don't have the foresight yet to put things into perspective.
@@lahaza6515 Thank you Very much for sharing your experience and insights with us . We educators certainly encourage such parents to avoid putting pressure on their children in the matters that they are not ready for or dislike. It's my sincere hope that such parents read your comment and respond to their children's needs appropriately.
@@maddiemaddren6207 yeah most people are lying when saying "i am a *****, therefore i know better than you" but in this case it seems real and theres nothing indicating that they are lying
As a musician I can say. Playing in a busy area is the most nerve racking experience especially when your young and not to mention your being pushed to do it from a mother who rolls her eyes. Very uncomfortable experience. What the dudes did was perfect. Never force someone to do something they love. And don’t force them to do things they don’t want to do.
@@thisisnotmyname4700 as a yt-addict I can say: This dude literally lives at this airport he is playing there on all his videos. Even the "guy" is already known and common ...
The sad fact is is I bet you the parents are going to yell at her or put her down for not doing it. Parents like this sometimes do not deserve to be parents
Gotta say, poor girl has a terrible family. Her parents put her there and none of her other family members tried to help her. Kudos to you, you quite literally saved her.
@@Rolandomota981they forced her into such a situation she very clearly didn't want to be in, and acted hella passive aggressive. enough said. theres wayy more healthier ways to encourage her to play in public, or just not forcing her to play if she doesn't want to. by the way you talk, its clear that you're a 9 year old kid w zero knowledge of the real world.
Yeah the grandmother is as bad as mine, I feel bad for the girl, being pressured and then the grandmother got mad at her for being to scared, that's called bad child care
She's CLEARLY uncomfortable. Thank you to the dudes that came in to save
A parent should never force a child(no matter the age) to do something they feel uncomfortable to do. Especially in public 😢.
Bro made her feel more uncomfortable though. Like, she was slowly pushed off into the side
@oneoftheflowersandbirds i think atp she rather be pushed to the side than to sit there
She was shy confious nervous she is stupid actualy.
Omg! Polka mnasz rodak ❤🎉😊
The eye roll absolutely reflected that mom's personality
Yes so unnecessary and ridiculous.
@@kaktusdesiberie7196 yes! You can tell she forced the poor kid to play the piano there ...
Yeah. U could even tell with the kid she really doesn’t want to do it.
Yeah I noticed that too … poor girl
Just what I was going to say.
That eye roll of the mother!!
When i heard polish
My heart melted ✨♥️😭
Im from poland 🇵🇱
OMG ja też
Ja też
Ja też
What did the mom say at first before she said what can u play
Nie wstydź się - Do not be shy @@gracebadr4253
The mother's eye roll was everything we needed to know. It completely reflected the mother's personality, She probably forced that poor little girl.
She has her daughters life planned out for her smh...living through her daughter
That is not a very mother-thing to do.
I know someone like that
You have a right this women Frome Poland Polish mom's it's really bad
Asian here feel like this is my mom😅
That grandmother did absolutely not care about how uncomfortable the girl was.
Boo hoo!
CRY HARDER. 😊
Fr
Fr!
Ikr
My used to force to play. I like playing but not performing.
I feel her. I was forced to take piano lessons until my teacher told my mom not to bring me any more. Just because my older brother and sister wanted to play piano did not mean I did.
Süś von deiner Lehrerin
She is letrelly looking so uncomfortable and that eye roll got me speechless it showed like the whole personality of that mom well atlest those two dudes came to the save thanks to both of you guys ❤
The pressure the mom was putting on her to try to impress everyone and then she rolled her eyes is outrageous. Why don’t parents understand when their children are uncomfortable in a situation 😐
Agreed. And that's just the piano. I'm just gutted right now knowing her home life is the same, and she still has years of it to go through. That mom is going to get more and more smothering :/
The best answer to every "Why is parent" question is because they always think that they're right and never wrong. That explains why a lot of kids get in trouble for "talking back" when in all actuality the parent can't suck up their pride and ego and just accept that they're wrong.
Kids also need to learn how to get out of their comfort zone. It’s the parents job to encourage them. But the eye rolling was so not cool.
And then she'll blame the kid for her coping mechanisms when she grows up.
Because it’s all about them. Not the kids.
I can't believe her Mum rolled her eye's, the girl obviously felt nervous and didn't know what to do.
Yeah 😢
Exactly! 🥲
Yeah 😭😔
Eastern European parents. That's how life be.
Ouch
That guy behind them lowkey looked harry styles😂😂
YASS totally!
THAT WOULD BE GREAT PLOTTWIST XDDD
Low key a mix between Harry Styles and Timothée Chalamet
Okay but why am I in love with this guy that came now? I mean he looks like Timothée Chalamet lol❤
I could feel her discomfort through the screen, oh poor baby. That mothers eye roll shows her exact personality and who she is. I’m so glad your helped her and that man out of that situation and not forcing her to play. Much love ❤
that’s what many parents in poland are like we’re used to it lmao
@@MalwinaJoanna that still does not make it ok to pressure your kids in an uncomfortable situation especially against their wishes.
Its normal for us asian kids💀🥲
At first, I felt the same, but then I remembered my awkward girlfriend who is 25 and realized that it makes sense to push and put people in uneasy situations to make them more resilient and ready for the world. Nobody likes awkward goofballs.
polish moms are like that lmao
the face her mother made when her daughter was not willing to perform on the spot like a puppet in a show was so heartbreaking. thank you for not embarrassing or pressuring her into playing.
I will not force my son to do da shit da he hate
I understand the language that's her mother speak and she said to her to not be sad and play what she can she wasn't forcing her
Probably
@@qushin5110 she didn’t tell her to not be sad, she told her to not be shy (nie wstydź się) and she kept repeating “show us what you can play”. The tone was very pressuring too 😢
polish parents be like
When i started hearing polish my heart was melting. Shes so sweet. Im from poland 🇵🇱
Im from poland!!❤❤ the mum was speaking polish and said that she didnt need to be shy and asked what she could play❤❤❤❤ i live poland soooo much
Poor girl, she’s was really put on the spot. I’m so glad that guy jumped in
Yeah and the look her mom gave :(
you realize its staged right? (at least the guy jumping in part)
@@Pasiphaei suddenly feel stupid for not knowing... 😀😀😀😀
The girl was sitting there first. Why are you glad he stepped in. Yes, the parent is ugly, but why praise the other guy for gate crashing. He should've asked the young girl first if he could step in and save her. 😢
@@sahanya7904😊😊
I totally feel her. Had similar experiences with my parents when I was younger and I absolutely hated it every single time. If you say no, they then try to let you feel bad for it and ask you what they pay for your lessons for or if they should sell your piano if you don't want to play anyway. Gone through this, lost my motivation because of it and quit after some time.
Same
Exactly the same with me, I used to love playing my piano but it was for me. I didn’t like playing in front of other people because I was super uncomfortable and nervous and struggled with bad anxiety when I was younger, but my mum always insisted I play to people and would force me into preforming, one time literally shoving me onto the stool, overtime I lost my confidence in playing and as a teenager I would only ever play if she wasn’t in the house, you can’t get it’s never just with one thing too. Pushy parents aren’t just pushy about piano for example, my parents were pushy about grades, exercises, my appearance, relationships… nothing was ever enough for them and their vision of me.
Same. But in still going and decided to ignore them, dad still does it sometimes. But they still motivate me if they're in the mood lol
Same!! It feels good to know we aren't alone in our experiences 😭
I'm continuing, although my parents literally offer me MONEY to do it which makes me even more upset since I can't deny the money
The mother eyes roll . She probably forced her to play the piano😭😭😭❤
Part 2 plsss❤
This is very relatable, I know how that girl feels. Since her parents never taught her, I hope she learns herself that it's okay to say no to anything. It annoys me so much how the mother clearly just wanted to flaunt her child to the public.
Yes bro I feel so bad for her
@@coronastingray me too dude, having an upbringing like this definitely instilled a lot of social anxiety, and confidence problems that I'm only now solving. Hopefully she wont have this outcome, and her other family are less pushy and more supportive.
Yes I wish parents would realize, this day in age kids have more social anxiety than maybe their parents did. Its unfair for parents to force their children to do these types of things.
There’s a thin line between pushing your child to do something you know is good for them and just forcing them to do something. I have parents that want me to be the “perfect” child and always compare me to others. If it was my parents, later they would yell at me for not playing the piano. To anyone who needs it… you don’t have to try to be perfect because that will never be possible. Just be you and do what YOU want to do.
YEAH
The way the mother rolled her eyes… she’s a piece of work and I bet she got upset with her daughter later because she didn't want to play. 😢
Exactly like wtf
Yeah
Yeah I can't understand why parents force their kids to do stuff they are uncomfortable with
I literally had the same thought 😢
Winning isn’t always easy. But wasting yourself away sure is.
Oh my god how can you do that so fast it's so amazing
The mom’s eye roll…” darn it she’s not a performing monkey…”
Not all musicians want to be performers. Many people need to understand that distinction.
That was Michael Jackson's sad fate.
Yes! 💯
Yes! I play for me and a few friends.
Amasing tanlunt
Exactly
I HATE those kinds of parents. Those kind of people are the ones that will extinguish the spark in you, who will put you in a uncomfortable spot, and push you to do stuff that you’re not comfortable of doing. She might not be confident of her skill yet to be able to perform in front of everyone, and I understand that feeling. I personally know that feeling…
It's important to push people outside their comfort zone, that's how barriers are broken, dreams are realized, talents recognized, friends made, worlds changed.
HOWEVER, I do side entirely with you. This is not a push out of a comfort zone. This is shitty parents trying to live vicariously through their daughter, projecting their own shortcomings or regrets on her. The look of disappointment when the mother rolls her eyes is absolute douchebaggery. I hope this girl a.) wants to play this instrument and wasn't forced into it and b.) doesn't let anyone, especially not her parents or people she loves, shut her down or turn her off to her own dreams. It's the people we love that break us down the hardest. She needs a gentle nudge when appropriate, not a forceful shove into her dickhead parents' trophy case.
My wife went through the same thing. Now she has cPTSD and motivational issues, and this video reminded me of what her parents were like the first time I met them. Needless to say, I gather she's happier without them breathing down her neck anymore, and I am sure this girl will be too. I hope her parents realize before they drive their child away.
It’s so annoying because i feel like this is the reason why i can’t express my personality in front of my own family, it just makes me uncomfortable
that's what mine do 😭😭
Basically every Asian parent
Mine were like that, too.
The stranger saved the awkward moment. Assuring the gal.❤
Two heroes saving a little girl, her smile at the and shows she has gone from fear to happiness.
The eye roll from the mother and even granny not caring about how uncomfy she was, that poor girl! 😢 but well done to the guy who stepped in 😊
I guess she is less uncomfortable now since he posted this video.
Pt 2 please!
That eye roll…
I’ll just say.
All kids deserve parents, not all parents deserve kids.
I gave it 1000th like
Agreed. Embarrassing your child is bullying & a form of abuse. It's disgusting & unacceptable. The same thing goes with any activity- music, sports & even career choices. Parents have the chance to play an instrument, perform in a theater group, play sports or become a rocket scientist. If their children are not interested or don't feel safe performing, embarrassing them isn't going to change their minds. It WILL make them dislike the activity & grow to resent their bullying parents.
Just say no....if necessary, in front of those they're trying to impress & tell them they are upsetting & embarrassing you. Hopefully that should end their abusive behavior. If I were playing piano & parents did this, I would call them out publicly & say THEY ARE making everyone uncomfortable which isn't what playing music is meant to be.
@@sjladuke75 Very true. My mom is like her but worse. I can't even explain it. My dad and mom divorced which i am so happy with. I chose to live with my dad because he is a great guy, and intelligent.
Frlfrl well said
Yes, part 2 please❤
As a pianist, I can understand the nervousness and discomfort. My parents are decent, but this seems like something my mom would do. But props to you guys for saving her! W
She was clearly shy and uncomfortable. Narcissistic parents are the worst
Worst than ever
Ur so real for this
Ya that was terrible to watch, f those parents, and the guy that swooped in, that was rude as F, im sure that made her feel only more embarrassed and uncomfortable
Thumbs down for this clip
Oh yes, a parent pushes their child a little bit out of her comfort zone. Oh shame on them for trying to help their child be more well-adjusted. You're dumb.
We'll probably will never know the reason why they wanted her to play w him. But that reminded me of someone in my own family who would definitely would do something like that without asking if i feel like doing something only to have something to brag about to others later to seem like a "good parent". Wish her parents didn't insist on playing without asking. She was obviously uncomfortable and shy. But just stood there filming. Omg🤦♀️
The mother turning around saying "she's ashamed" with a bombastic eyebrow move really killed me, oh my gawd😭
Her mum was saying to her not to be shy Ik Because they r polish and so am o
@@Lena0ntop yeah, same. She was saying "Nie wstydź się" ("Don't be ashamed") and then moments later she looked back saying "Wstydzi się" ("She's ashamed") under her breath with a *lunatic* eyebrow move that really made me want to punch her😭
i'm so sorry for the girl ;-;
Don’t ever say shit like that again bruh ☠️
@@roxyyfoxyy😂😂😂
Ohh ur in Poland!! I could tell bc of the sign in the back, I'm fluent
So sweet!!! Babcia was telling her not to be shy,, show him what you can do
So sad that her parents forced her into something of discomfort. The eye roll said it all and I’m so proud of the other man for coming in and practically saving her.
Edit: I’m so sorry to all the people in the reply’s and you really don’t deserve that. I’m so, so sorry.
The sad part is the prob will get yelled at when they leave
We must to stop this type of parents. ❤
☠☠☠☠ you not even understand what that parents saying@@josuebille4855
POLSKA GUROM🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱
fr tho that guy saved her
I hate when parents do this. I'm not even kidding. My parents did this to me a lot and now it's left me with stage fright and being afraid of being called up to present something. I still have this anger in me everytime they call me up. But now that I'm an adult, I can call them out on their shit when they try to do the same thing again and it honestly left them surprised. I'm glad they stopped after seeing my point cuz that terrified me as a kid. I'm not letting that happen to me as I age.
Look back on all these memories & as you do so move your eyes from side-to-side this tells you that you are moving on: this rewrites the negative experiences & emotions attached to these memories & brings them to a at least neutral perspective with no negativity. Works everytime! Based on bodies natural movement & neural pathways accessed when moving around especially in unknown or built up environments: or when you are moving along defined paths; you have to look side-to-side as you progress along the path. This enables you to MOVE ON BUB!!
Love you!
Peace & Love!!!
I’m sure they want the best for you and for u to become confident in what ever u do❤✌🏼
@@hananawan7624 I understand but my parents are the same way right now, and I promise you it is not the right way to make your child confident. Some things that i am good at i can’t even show anybody because of how much I’ve been embarrassed before
Stage mothers generally don't have too much going for themselves.
used to be a performer but my narcissistic dad would always do this, so i stopped looool
I'm also from Poland like this girl and I play the accordion and also the piano, best regards
The girl was like soo much of the pleying😂❤
Poor girl, I see how she feels so much pressure and anxiety from her parents. It’s terrible to pressure kids they don’t wanna do.
They talk in my native, so i can tell they did put lot of verbal pressure on her as well
Her mom said "Co umiesz zagrać?"
Its a poland language.Every Poland parent does that.Ik that bc
i live in Poland.I'm not from Poland btw.
I'm from UK. Now i am 7yrs in Poland but i
Lived in UK like just 3 years.
@@The_fellow_therian her mom also was repeating "nie wstydź się" (don't be ashamed in hella passive-agressive way), I actually feel the pressure for her ):
She talk in polish and i am from polish i now what seys she parents😂😂😂
@@paxoss from poland*
I'm glad someone was able to relieve her from that pressure. Those kinds of parents are the worst, I experienced that same kind of pressure and it's sickening.
yeah no boops for the mum
I disagree, I think pressure makes diamonds and hard times must come, no matter how. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@brycelogan3602and you are wrong. Children aren't lumps of carbon, they get PTSD and disengage from their parents...
Oh my god yes. I also know this experience and i hate it so much. I really hate it. And when i see other parents forcing their children it makes me angry because i know how it feels like
Iii
Overcoming discomfort & fear is what gets us to realize our heart desires & dreams! I hope this experience inspired her.
The eye rolling mother is doing a good job of robbing her daughter of the joy of music and confidence. Thanks to the 2 guys who saved her.
"Every Kid Deserves A Parent But Not Every Parent Deserves A Kid"
-A Wise Person
Wise choise
Wdym?
it's not that deep grow the hell up not everybody is a soft american
@@thomasboi2255 bro what did he do to you yeah I don’t know ether
aha you think people wouldnt notice this comment was from that one dhar mann video this comment is stolen from that video that wise person is the commenter
Why?? Why do some parents still do this to their children/grandchildren. It’s so embarrassing and humiliating to the child and for what?? Thank you for helping this little girl out and being so kind to her! You are awesome and I love what you do! ❤
My mom is like this sometimes
Mostly because they’re not the ones on the spot of shame. Parents should know better.
@@trelyramosI’m really sorry for you.
@@Verttigo1982 it's okay
It's not right to do that to their own kids ..
Here Is Poland I am from Poland ❤ I love
I want part 2 this is a good video. I enjoyed it a lot
we can all tell what kind of person the mother is, good luck little girl.
Fr, hope she's patient
Hahaaaa horray for social disfunction due to misguided parenting
i HATE when parents act like that. I know my parents definitely have. it's a terrible feeling. if she doesn't want to, then don't make her. and then when she freezes up in a situation that YOU put her in, don't roll your eyes. that's just petty and so terrible. you're going to leave your daughter with lasting anxiety and other issues. props to the guy playing the piano who tried to help her out.
I totally agree with you.
This is so true tho
Yea those little things you expirience as a kid can really impact you in the future. I always think back on those awkward moments that come into your mind when you try to sleep. Like those things that could of happened when you were 10 and absolutely nobody remembers but me. I feel like those moments contribute to my social anxiety while growing up
I disagree. Whenever i have been forced to do something and then did it, i have felt more accomplished and came out of it stronger and with more confidence to do it later. People are too quick to let normal every day anxieties get in the way of their ability to accomplish things and it makes them weaker and less capable people.
Fr
I want part 2❤😢
She clearly shy 😭😭
Poor baby! It’s hard enough being uncomfortable as an adult. Imagine being a little girl and being pushed around by adults. I would have cried…and I’m 22. My heart goes out to her❤️ she’s a doll!
I would like to watch part 2 of this story.
U r so fking soft for this world if you would've cried at 22.....
Polish people are weird xD
@olenazubi6971 same me too
💀💀💀💀💀💀💀😭😭😭😭😭 Poor Baby🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
Poor girl, that mom didn’t believe in her at all. I hate parents like that. You’ve got to be there for your kids, believe in them and love them ❤
any good parent would help their child rid the fear.
Yes True!
He rmom is an absolute loser who accomplished nothign in life, which is why she pushes it all onto her child. Agree, I also hate parents like that. It's abuse.
@@typekkleks4013and that was not the right way to do that. If anything, this just increased her fear.
@@dishasaini3981 bcs she didnt break through...listen, im literally th most shy person youd probably ever talk to... and sometimes I wish i was placed on the spot like that, as its hard for me to make any verbal contact with people i dont know...
The GUY CAME AND MADE ME STARE😂😂
I think that's unacceptable of the relatives. The girl was obviously in a bad mood. But the mother wasn't happy that her daughter didn't want to play. Thumbs up to the two men who helped her out of that situation.
Bless her heart. Pushy parents are the worst.
Typical Russian or ex USSR mother/grandmother in this video 💀😂
Как я согласна. У меня такие же родители(
@@user-te9su1of1b😂😂💀 it's ok, there are worse things in life. Fortune favours the bold. Babushka is a testament of old school discipline, madness, sadness and happiness at the same time 🗣️📢 bomboclaaaaat me ah smoke one Stalin kush spliff keep deh worry away
@@wadi5145 я плохо понимаю английский, но спасибо большое. Из кыргызстана🇰🇬✊
@@user-te9su1of1bsending my regards to the beautiful people of Kyrgyzstan 💫
if a child is feeling uncomfortable there is a reason. always listen to your kids!
Especially when you have her sitting next to a man that she doesn't know.
If you let kids always decide for themselves they may never push themselves. It's ok to get put on the spot sometimes but i think this kid just isn't very good if she doesn't even know the names of anything
@@jd-zu5okI 100% agree with you but I feel like this situation was one of the ones were it wasn’t right. I think you should push them at first and if they really don’t like it then don’t force them
That other guy's small in the end was so wholesome he looks like a movie character
Yes!
Part 2, please?!
God damn it hurt to see her so panicked and uncomfortable. Reminds me of my childhood.
Same
same
my childhood is like that
““You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.”
Exodus 20:7 NKJV
I hate it when parents do force kids to do something they're obviously uncomfortable with, that's just plain rude. Good job to the guy who helped out👍
FR
Sometimes they feel like their kids just need some encouragement because they don't want them to miss out on opportunities because of fear and discomfort like they did...
She’s from poland i’m from poland! Her mother told her not to be ashamed
My dad always forces me and my sis to sing or dance infront of guest i literally hate it sm
@@shustival I'm so sorry that you have to go through that😢
She's from poland!! Like me❤ 🇵🇱 who is from poland here!
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Oooo she from Poland like me! I live in Poland tooooo! ❤
That poor kid is going to have a lifetime of healing to do.
It also happened to me. My late mother told me I was hard headed, and stubborn if I Don't learned to play the piano
What?!? He’ll nah 🤣 damn you’ve never had real problems if you think this is traumatizing
@@jaylenbrown8992you pulled the word traumatize here btw… and you’d be right, that shit is traumatic, and yeah, there are worser traumas but that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be commented on… you have a very weird, judgmental and ignorant view on child’s psychology… fix that
@@user-pf6jg2qv7o ? Can you please explain because I genuinely can’t tell what’s that bad about this clip
You were so sweet to that poor little girl. When you saw how uncomfortable she was, you were so kind to her.
Butvwhere😂
polish moms are like that lmao
please part 2,so enjoyable and comfortable to watch.😍💕
Alors la on voit tout l'amour de la mère sur sa fille ! C'est certain la mère a poussé sa fille a joué au piano avec le pianiste mais pauvre petite a perdu tous ses moyens à cause du trac ! Elle a juste besoin d'être encourager et d'amour de la part de sa mère !On sait très bien qu'après la mère va la disputer parce qu'elle n'a pas réussi à vaincre sa peur ! Courage jeune fille !
This is how trauma is formed. You can even see th disappointed look on her moms face although her daughter is clearly uncomfortable.
im not her and already traumatized
Man I just wish I was omni man at times
So true
R most mothers like this?
Yes, already happened something close to it with me, its SUPER uncomfortable...
It’s okay to encourage your kids to step out of their confort zone every once in awhile, but respect them when they clearly show signs of stress or discomfort. Giving them the confidence to say “no, I don’t want to” in situations is an important lesson to learn, especially when they get to middle/high school.
That actually just made me realize why I've always had problems saying no to people. My mind is blown.
me: sometimes builds the courage to say no
my parents: you never do anything, you're so disappointing, why don't you just do it? It isn't that difficult.. Why can't you be more like your "BROTHER"? (shes trans and goes by she/her but my parents are homophobic..)
@@yukii021how can I be homophobic,my bitch is gay
This! Honestly the mother's eye roll said everything I needed to know
@@yukii021 weird they'd want u to be more like her if they're against that...
Where’s the full version? Who’s this cute guy? I’d like to see more, please.
So awesome that both of these guys played for this girl who was put on the spot by her parent or grandparent. You could tell she was really uncomfortable. Thank you. Would love to see part 2. 😊♥️
Kudos to the guy who came in and partnered up with you during the performance
it was staged
@@matthewc2207no kidding lol
But he still came
It’s terrible when parent pressure you to do stuff that make you uncomfortable 😢
this is why I don't speak Korean. I took lessons but my mom paraded me in front of her friends and made me speak for all of her friends who would laugh, eff that
@@Lisa-im6hyIf it is something that you are interested in doing then do it and don't worry about anyone else's opinion. As long as you aren't hurting anyone and doing it to better yourself keep at it 👍
I have been playing piano and I've been singing ever since I was four and at every single party or gathering we went to I was forced to perform. As I grew older I began to realise how uncomfortable i felt while doing it but I was told that it's a "phase" when everyone's confidence goes down and it's normal that I'm feeling this way. They said that they felt happy and proud when I performed but I feel like my perspective counts too right? So ever since then I promised myself I'm never gonna do this with my kids and I'll only do it if they really want to perform themselves.
@@Shriyaatul You can't force confidence. We are born as we are, it takes some people more time to be comfortable being around others.
That describes my dad very well
Слишком быстро заканчиваются видео - не успеваю насладиться прслушиванием. Вы играете виртуозно!
Awesome, please part2 🙏🏻
she’ll end up hating piano if every time there’s one around she’s pressured to show off :-( she’s not a monkey doing tricks for you, she’s a talented person, capable of deciding whether she’s comfortable or not.
Exactly!
Every mother who thinks "let's TRAIN our child into a star who's talent is making mama proud. What a joke of a mother.
Well said, couldn't have done it any better.
i’m re-posting my original reply, but AGREED 1000% 😤😤
i stopped wanting to play the violin (15 years of formal lessons), piano (6), and flute (6) in public or even in front of family because of being pressured like this by my parents when i was deeply uncomfortable and insecure. damn at least the joy of music brought a smile to this girls face at the very end, but this was actually really hard to watch 😓😔😔
i despise this mom and her behavior displaying blatant narcissism at the expense of her daughters comfort - this mother should be ashamed for acting this way and whipping out the cameras for her fucktard facebook friends, while her daughter is clearly communicating to her “no; i don’t want to; i’m uncomfortable and nervous”
shame on this mom, and i hope the little girl is still able to hold on to her love of music/performing at her own pace, where she’s comfortable and happy 🥺🩷💛🩵🤘🏽
i would have had tears in my eyes. at first... because of the little poor girl forced into a strange situation. and then... happy tears because of the dude who joined the play.
She is polish!!!!! I'M POLISH 🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱❤❤❤❤polska biało czerwoni❤❤❤😊😂
Polska guromm
Polacy zbieramy sie
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That boy who came saved her from doing something she didn't want to do ❤
And the pianist uploaded a video of someone feeling uncomfortable. Not everything needs to be online
her parents probably gave her hell for it later. noone can save you from toxic parents. you have to deal with it until you can move out. but even then all your family members and other people around you will expect you to get over it and not be "ungrateful" by cutting off contact.
Your pfp 🤭
Guys…. The guy that came up out of nowhere…… @DanielThrasher
@Azymochi I just checked I don't think that's daniel thrasher if you pause the video and look at him directly it doesn't look like him.
Nom nom nom
This!!!
It can be a really good feeling too...
But insisting if you don't feel or want to do something could be handled differently.
All love still to the family, granny is in the end probably just proud of the process :)
Even if she is playing for years… its not their job to tell her what to do.. because music should not be to show off it should warm Our soul and be inspiration or meditation for yourself at first place…
So doesnt matter how classes she took or not
Btw…
THIS 😭
@@foodmep3473that's stupid you sound like a Child, bruh this day and age piano lessons are a arm and a leg if I'm paying for a whole year of lessons damn right I wanna see the results if your there panicking not even knowing a composer then that shits gotta stop and u do something else
Biedna dziewczyna, ochrona ciotka czy matka. To przemoc psychiczna. Jak miło, że nadszedł ratunek ❤
OMGGG the guy who came (the savior) looked like harry styles!!!
The mom's eyebrow lift told me everything I needed to know 😮💨
About what
They pay for her classes but she don’t remember one song name
@@veryloudcrepes3956 it's the fucking fact that the mother just put her on the spot.
@@veryloudcrepes3956 dont force your kids to learn shit from very young age... if there into it ok... but if you force them the are not going to learn by any means
@@veryloudcrepes3956try to memorize an entire song on a piano or any insturment. Its super difficult quit defending the parents
You guys are very polite and comforting. The problem is the PARENT; she should NOT force the child for something that she does not feel ready for. If she hates the piano for the rest of her life, the parent IS the reason.
I am an educator and speaking from the experience.
You COULD'NT be more correct.
After years of opera training I still had anxiety & disdain for public performance for this very reason.
I was too young to understand how to disconnect the feeling of anxiety & dread from it once I got into my 20s and let it go.
I'd been offered a scholarship to the Peabody Institute & threw it away.
Talk about regret & confusion 30 years later.
As an educator please talk to these parents when you see them!
You probably do, but it's pretty wild how we wire ourselves when we don't have the foresight yet to put things into perspective.
@@lahaza6515 Thank you Very much for sharing your experience and insights with us . We educators certainly encourage such parents to avoid putting pressure on their children in the matters that they are not ready for or dislike.
It's my sincere hope that such parents read your comment and respond to their children's needs appropriately.
ur probably not even a educator but ok 😂
@@maddiemaddren6207
* an educator
@@maddiemaddren6207 yeah most people are lying when saying "i am a *****, therefore i know better than you" but in this case it seems real and theres nothing indicating that they are lying
Awesome. Really Great with that 2nd Player... He can Really Play...
Part 2 please!!
As a musician I can say. Playing in a busy area is the most nerve racking experience especially when your young and not to mention your being pushed to do it from a mother who rolls her eyes. Very uncomfortable experience. What the dudes did was perfect. Never force someone to do something they love. And don’t force them to do things they don’t want to do.
As a musician who plays regularly in busy locations, I agree. It is harder than performing at a concert where people are expecting you to play.
@@thisisnotmyname4700 as a yt-addict I can say: This dude literally lives at this airport he is playing there on all his videos. Even the "guy" is already known and common ...
The sad fact is is I bet you the parents are going to yell at her or put her down for not doing it. Parents like this sometimes do not deserve to be parents
@@rubizockt4177😊
Exactly 💯
You played it so well! Poor girl tho, she was SO uncomfortable😢
ppl who started singing the pie song🗣️🔥
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Yes please do part 2
I can feel the anxiety from behind the camera
Same 😔😔
Same poor thing
That moms eye roll shows just how rude she was to her own daughters comfort zone
GURL trust me it’s polish mums 😭
Yes sadly that's the reality of some polish parents' ambitions
Not me being like “IS THAT THE PI SONG?!?” 💀💀💀
Poor girl, I understand her so much
Parents, please, don't do that, PLEASE
Gotta say, poor girl has a terrible family. Her parents put her there and none of her other family members tried to help her. Kudos to you, you quite literally saved her.
Ikr😢
Just because they didn't help her doesn't mean it's bad parenting 💀 like it's common sense dude
@@Rolandomota981they forced her into such a situation she very clearly didn't want to be in, and acted hella passive aggressive. enough said. theres wayy more healthier ways to encourage her to play in public, or just not forcing her to play if she doesn't want to. by the way you talk, its clear that you're a 9 year old kid w zero knowledge of the real world.
god the mom even rolled her eyes 💀
580 likes but no comments? Lemme fix that
@@Chibi-N-Poofy-hg8zoyea too
Worst Mother 😂🎖🏆
fr the audacity 💀💀
She CLEARLY looked uncomfortable and the eye roll of the mother!!!
Yeah the grandmother is as bad as mine, I feel bad for the girl, being pressured and then the grandmother got mad at her for being to scared, that's called bad child care