I was so highly competitive around boys I was literally treated as one....until I found my feminine self and my life changed...for better. And now I'm with the most masculine man ive met!
I have really learned to suppress my masculine side since I'm not in the workplace on a full-time basis and trying to build a career! I'm very feminine around men and when I talk to them. It's made a big difference in my dating life.
Great video!! A man that I just started seeing found out it was my daughter‘s 26th birthday and he sent her a beautiful bouquet of flowers! My estrogen levels surged that day!! :) He’s extremely giving & kind and I find myself wanting to give give give but I’m learning to hold a little back :) I’m an extremely independent financially stable female and have always had to do everything myself - it’s so wonderful to have someone that wants to help me. :)
I hear you 😊 Thank you 4 sharing your experience I now see how pulling back or resisting the need to reciprocate in kind is worth the effort. To leave your man feeling that he succeeded in making you happy IS His reward. By not being open or receptive is denying him. Eye opening 👀 They just want to brighten your day not compete ~ I have to learn to graciously accept a compliment with a warm smile 😊
I’m so used to meeting a man halfway, proving myself as strong & independent but that’s not how men perceive me. He feels challenged and closed off, uninvited, unwelcomed. Certainly not well received, lol. Its an invisible impenetrable glass wall, leaving no room for them to give and no room for me to receive 😳 It’s a delicate balance of fluidity between feminine & masculine energy
I really like it when Dr. Gray talks about his late wife with so much love. I can relate to that. I feel like that’s what I had with my husband!!! I’m so grateful for all the years we had together. Every time I remember how good we were together I’m back in love with him, because he will always be alive in me.
I feel the same way about my late, husband Mike. I’m so thankful I had that great love. Some people search for it their entire life. I’m blessed to have had the 15 years we did have.
Powerful!! I am very independent and have never felt or said, ‘I don’t need a man’. Men have muscles 💪🏽, and I hate putting stuff together!! 😆 Thank you for all of these videos that promote our growth.🥰
Wow, that’s so profound !!! I can see myself in your comment 😳 Understanding how to be in Feminine energy versus masculine can be so confusing. Being open to graciously receiving a compliment for instance is allowing oneself to feel vulnerable versus guarded. It can be an awkward uncomfortable feeling. However a simple Thank You with a genuine smile goes a long way, showing your gratitude is sharing your energy with the person who gave it to you. It’s an energy exchange. Women operating in their masculine energy tend to do for themselves tend to over give to others because she may be over compensating being an under-receiver. It becomes a subconscious or unconscious behaviour, response or pattern. Being mindful of how to reciprocate appreciation through words is a work in progress, a skill developed over time. It’s a natural progression that gets better by practising mindfulness. It takes Practise being receptive to a compliment with a welcoming Thank You 😊
10:58 training him by asking his Help and Support. What you need from a man, companionship, friendly , you need to feel Safe that you can share whatever you think and feel . You need to feel safe so you can be naked intellectually with somebody, you can be naked emotionally with some one. then you can be naked physically with someone. and experience the potential of spiritual union which is the beautiful crazy state which couples who have good communication get to experience. it is just like heavenly... everybody gets a glimpse of it, psilocybin , the mushrooms, which gives you a state of AWE
Magic mushrooms have changed my life!! Seriously, ladies. Psychedelics are game changers; my greatest teachers. Sassafras is a tremendous heart opener. Taking sassafras followed by mushrooms a couple of hours later with intention and in the right setting is MAGIC!
@@Brix33333 Magic mushrooms are perhaps one the very safest, non toxic substances there is. Find a trained facilitator/shaman. They are everywhere. What state are you in?
I am on an inner journey for 1. myself and 2.to enhance my relationship with my partner. The content you provide feels like finding precious GOLD! I want to thank you Michelle for your channel. And Dr Gray for your experience, knowledge and sharing it so graciously.
Interesting topic. Yes, so true. I used to overgive. Now I have found that giving more to myself less to them makes them step up to give more. Then I feel happier and easily able to move into my more feminine side. The cycle continues. I do love my yoga classes. That explains it. I prefer doing it in a class than alone.
Yes! Dr Greys comment at 10.05...absolutely. I’ve been giving out of “debt” and wondering why I’ve been feeling so depleted. Thank you for explaining this
These women who are single and independent. Who say they don't want a man....are lying. They are miserable AF. We can make money but I know, I love men. I want marriage. Commitment. What am I going to do..fall in love with my right hand? God made man and woman to join and compliment one another.
All the things you are teaching are very interesting. I sense they are more about the American man. Coming from Europe guys there don't have to be manipulated to this extreme. They understand what love and romance is. They are not as robotic as Americans.
Lol I played that game. First 2 questions went well and made me feel happy, then I asked the 3rd one and he said “he doesn’t like it, it shows a lack of confidence” and now I feel rejected and hurt.
I remember men saying only physical attributes when asking why you like me or love me so much. I would say what about my character, who I am? Speechless.
14:20 you are responding to him. always responding. you do not have to give to a man. A man ultimately wants to feel successful in giving to you. because you are receiving, and because you are actually in love, as you receive, his own female side is being nourished and supported. so he can be both masculine and feminine the same time. You, on the other hand, are being able to receive someone doing for you so your own male side you are appreciating him doing for you, you are actually appreciating your own male side.
I have always been very independant, mostly since I had such bad experiences with men, I did not want to need them. I am getting a lot better, mostly from good advice I get here and 2nd Act TV. My ex boyfriend was more into a situationship than a relationship, I get that now and I fell into that trap of thinking if I did more, he would be more interested. Well the opposite happened, he got so lazy and casual, that I left him and he was stunned, could not understand why. Bt I have a new frriend and I make a point of saying things like "good idea" or "man that is a good suggestion" and sincerley appreciate the things he does for me and sometimes pretending to be a little helpless so he can help me. I am a work in progress lol
We are a distance apart and I have unsteady work schedule cz I'm in school though its mostly online. He knows I like surprises but it does not always fit in terms of visiting. Its challenging the relationship with a child in the picture
Wow I just had too see how this is oh my. I'm just watching. I feel this nice. It's all good wow. Its time to go bowling n let those roll lol thanks for this reading didn't know about testeronis I'm on my way over there
Whoa. Omg, okay, I watched this, 2 min later my boyfriend stopped by after work. I tried this exact, “why do you like me”, game.😂 I thought he’d be a bad sport or give an answer that made me mad but he was PERFECT!!😍 I was like, “it’s so fun!, “it makes me feel good hearing!”. And then I want to have sex w/you more 😂Lol I love staying in alignment w/my feminine & watching these for reminders. 😍🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Can you reverse these things when you're already with someone, but not all the way? I am in an uncommitted situation with a man since 2 years. He does love me and things have progressed.... But I was the giver and the doer and we had sex right away. My self concept has changed though and our dynamic has too. I would like to know how to inspire him to give and do and invest more. The sex is out of this world, but I want more. And he used to always take steps back when he was too emotional. Then I started chasing. I'm sure I'm not the only one in a situation like this.
With all due respect. If he loved you so much he would have married you. I suggest taking steps back. Ask for a break and work on your soul. Let him use that space to decide if he can actually value and invest you. For a change like this, I find women need space to really transform themselves. Men also need space to decide if they value you. If you dont make drastic changes, men will waste your time for many years. My thoughts!
Based on previous experience, he's not invested in a future with you the way you want. If you really want to know for sure and want things to change, let him know what you want and tell him that you are going to give him time to figure it out while you date other men. A few things will happen: 1. He realizes what he wants is you and steps up. He starts giving you what you want (don't commit at the first sign. Let him prove himself over and over again. this is important because he's going to miss what you had and give you a few small things to keep you on the hook. Really be aware of this) 2. You are going to meet men that meet the needs you were missing with him and realize that he's not the right guy and be able to move on I have been in your position exactly and unfortunately the best advice I can give you if you are looking for the right relationship is to let him go for 6 months while you really make an effort to work on yourself, date and not think about him. If you guys are meant to be, 6 months apart is insignificant.
I always looked girly.However I never weared sexy clothes so on..I was friendly and kind so on but guys never really pursue me or wanted to spend money not that i wanted but coffee would be nice-:).Whats was going on here?
I recently met a man who told me right off the bat (during general dating conversation) that he loved it when a woman cooked for him, gave him back rubs, and just generally did stuff for him. I'm confused as to how to proceed after that because most coaches say not to be the giver but to allow the man to give to you. Now, I'm sure that ideally BOTH partners should give to each other once you're in a relationship, but in the beginning how should you proceed if you're dealing with a man who says this. Is he simply trying to use me? Is he a less masculine type male, what?
Sounds manipulative to me. A masculine man should be trying to impress at the beginning not receiving. Run! Also, please don't take men too seriously in the beginning. They like to say a lot
Recording from a car with a very strange camera angle? Any particular reason? Content was good but the visual and location seem a bit off from the usual level of professionalism. Thank you for info!
I was so highly competitive around boys I was literally treated as one....until I found my feminine self and my life changed...for better. And now I'm with the most masculine man ive met!
Thanks for sharing! Glad you found a relationship that is working well for you! Take care!
Women who give more to get more get less 💥🎯
It’s counterintuitive
That's right! Thanks for watching!
I have really learned to suppress my masculine side since I'm not in the workplace on a full-time basis and trying to build a career! I'm very feminine around men and when I talk to them. It's made a big difference in my dating life.
Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Great video!! A man that I just started seeing found out it was my daughter‘s 26th birthday and he sent her a beautiful bouquet of flowers! My estrogen levels surged that day!! :) He’s extremely giving & kind and I find myself wanting to give give give but I’m learning to hold a little back :) I’m an extremely independent financially stable female and have always had to do everything myself - it’s so wonderful to have someone that wants to help me. :)
I hear you 😊
Thank you 4 sharing your experience
I now see how pulling back or resisting the need to reciprocate in kind is worth the effort. To leave your man feeling that he succeeded in making you happy IS His reward. By not being open or receptive is denying him. Eye opening 👀
They just want to brighten your day not compete ~
I have to learn to graciously accept a compliment with a warm smile 😊
I’m so used to meeting a man halfway, proving myself as strong & independent but that’s not how men perceive me.
He feels challenged and closed off, uninvited, unwelcomed.
Certainly not well received, lol. Its an invisible impenetrable glass wall, leaving no room for them to give and no room for me to receive 😳
It’s a delicate balance of fluidity between feminine & masculine energy
That is awesome! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
I’m there with you. I am a naturally helpful person and tend to go all in. I value reciprocity very much. I’m a work in progress.
I really like it when Dr. Gray talks about his late wife with so much love. I can relate to that.
I feel like that’s what I had with my husband!!! I’m so grateful for all the years we had together. Every time I remember how good we were together I’m back in love with him, because he will always be alive in me.
Well said! Thanks for watching and for your comments too Maria! May you be comforted in your memories of your late husband!
Hi maria happy new year hope this year brings you joy and happiness 😊
I feel the same way about my late, husband Mike. I’m so thankful I had that great love. Some people search for it their entire life. I’m blessed to have had the 15 years we did have.
@@williamsharman2159 thank you William ❤
Pursue unconditional happiness and then you will attract better. As always, it starts with you
Thanks for watching and for your POV too! :-)
Powerful!! I am very independent and have never felt or said, ‘I don’t need a man’. Men have muscles 💪🏽, and I hate putting stuff together!! 😆 Thank you for all of these videos that promote our growth.🥰
You're welcome for the videos. Thanks for watching Jami!
As a woman " I showed up as the better man in the room!" Classic.
At least she learned where she was going wrong. And she has taken steps to improve herself.
Wow, that’s so profound !!!
I can see myself in your comment 😳
Understanding how to be in Feminine energy versus masculine can be so confusing.
Being open to graciously receiving a compliment for instance is allowing oneself to feel vulnerable versus guarded. It can be an awkward uncomfortable feeling. However a
simple Thank You with a genuine smile goes a long way, showing your gratitude is sharing your energy with the person who gave it to you. It’s an energy exchange. Women operating in their masculine energy tend to do
for themselves tend to over give to others because she may be over compensating being an under-receiver. It becomes a subconscious or unconscious behaviour, response or pattern.
Being mindful of how to reciprocate appreciation through words is a work in progress, a skill developed over time. It’s a natural progression that gets better by practising mindfulness. It takes Practise being receptive to a compliment with a welcoming Thank You 😊
unfortunately true
Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Blanche knew how to raise her levels. Didn't she!??
I’m sitting here crying 😭 I want this so much....you have touched my heart ❤️ again...
Thanks for watching and for your comments too Andrea!
10:58 training him by asking his Help and Support. What you need from a man, companionship, friendly , you need to feel Safe that you can share whatever you think and feel . You need to feel safe so you can be naked intellectually with somebody, you can be naked emotionally with some one. then you can be naked physically with someone. and experience the potential of spiritual union which is the beautiful crazy state which couples who have good communication get to experience. it is just like heavenly... everybody gets a glimpse of it, psilocybin , the mushrooms, which gives you a state of AWE
Thanks for watching and for your comments too Josephine!
Magic mushrooms have changed my life!! Seriously, ladies. Psychedelics are game changers; my greatest teachers.
Sassafras is a tremendous heart opener. Taking sassafras followed by mushrooms a couple of hours later with intention and in the right setting is MAGIC!
How can I find safe mushrooms?
@@Brix33333 Magic mushrooms are perhaps one the very safest, non toxic substances there is. Find a trained facilitator/shaman. They are everywhere. What state are you in?
How? Where? I need this😂
I am on an inner journey for 1. myself and 2.to enhance my relationship with my partner. The content you provide feels like finding precious GOLD! I want to thank you Michelle for your channel. And Dr Gray for your experience, knowledge and sharing it so graciously.
Thanks for watching Amanda and for your kind words too!
Interesting topic. Yes, so true. I used to overgive. Now I have found that giving more to myself less to them makes them step up to give more. Then I feel happier and easily able to move into my more feminine side. The cycle continues. I do love my yoga classes. That explains it. I prefer doing it in a class than alone.
Thanks so much for watching and for your insightful comments too! Enjoy your yoga classes!
Yes! Dr Greys comment at 10.05...absolutely. I’ve been giving out of “debt” and wondering why I’ve been feeling so depleted. Thank you for explaining this
Thanks for watching Vanessa and for your comments too!
Amazing video! Thank you both. I am learning so much. His teachings have given we an awareness that I greatly needed.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
@@MichelleMarchantJohnson thank you so much Michelle for your content!
You two are the very best! Thank you for sharing your wisdom; positive life changing wisdom that I’m most thankful! 🌹
Thanks for watching and for your comments too Jackie!
This just blows me away! This is exactly what I needed to hear.
These women who are single and independent. Who say they don't want a man....are lying. They are miserable AF. We can make money but I know, I love men. I want marriage. Commitment. What am I going to do..fall in love with my right hand? God made man and woman to join and compliment one another.
All the things you are teaching are very interesting. I sense they are more about the American man. Coming from Europe guys there don't have to be manipulated to this extreme. They understand what love and romance is. They are not as robotic as Americans.
That may be true since John is an American. Thanks for watching Marion
Ok the problem with John is that he is ignoring the American culture he is in.He puts all the work on women.
How is he putting the work on women? Seems just the opposite...John is imploring women to work less/receive more.
Extraordinary insight here ~ thank you so much!
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Lol I played that game. First 2 questions went well and made me feel happy, then I asked the 3rd one and he said “he doesn’t like it, it shows a lack of confidence” and now I feel rejected and hurt.
I remember men saying only physical attributes when asking why you like me or love me so much. I would say what about my character, who I am? Speechless.
14:20 you are responding to him. always responding. you do not have to give to a man. A man ultimately wants to feel successful in giving to you. because you are receiving, and because you are actually in love, as you receive, his own female side is being nourished and supported. so he can be both masculine and feminine the same time. You, on the other hand, are being able to receive someone doing for you so your own male side you are appreciating him doing for you, you are actually appreciating your own male side.
Wow, this is Wonderful, Great information!!! It’s beautiful Thank you both so much…
Another awesome and helpful video with Mr. Gray! Was he in a spaceship 🚀? :-)))))))
He is in his Tesla! :-) Thanks for watching!
This is gold!!! Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Problem is, most guys these days are low-t and don’t care.
Wow excellent
So nice! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
just amazing!!! So much to learn
Thanks for watching Dolly and for your comments too!
Some great nuggets in here. I learned a lot
Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too Jessica!
I have always been very independant, mostly since I had such bad experiences with men, I did not want to need them. I am getting a lot better, mostly from good advice I get here and 2nd Act TV. My ex boyfriend was more into a situationship than a relationship, I get that now and I fell into that trap of thinking if I did more, he would be more interested. Well the opposite happened, he got so lazy and casual, that I left him and he was stunned, could not understand why. Bt I have a new frriend and I make a point of saying things like "good idea" or "man that is a good suggestion" and sincerley appreciate the things he does for me and sometimes pretending to be a little helpless so he can help me. I am a work in progress lol
*Love 💘 his Tesla !*
... and of course, all of his wise content. ♥️
*2021 blessings and joy* to all.
Let's spruce up our estrogen ladies, and *graciously receive support.*
💚 💜 💕
Thanks for watching!
How do I boost my estrogen? Help!
Excellent video!
Thank you very much! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
We are a distance apart and I have unsteady work schedule cz I'm in school though its mostly online. He knows I like surprises but it does not always fit in terms of visiting. Its challenging the relationship with a child in the picture
Stop making excuses for Men. If he makes you happy..Good. If he doesn't?? 🤔
Thanks for this information 🙏🙏🙏
THIS!!!!
Thanks so much for watching!
If a man gives me flowers I assume he’s done something he feels guilty for
That's too bad! It's fun when men give your flowers just to make you happy. Thanks for watching!
It’s sad that you feel that way.
Even though I try not to think that I still do.
Wow I just had too see how this is oh my. I'm just watching. I feel this nice. It's all good wow. Its time to go bowling n let those roll lol thanks for this reading didn't know about testeronis I'm on my way over there
I'm mind blown....😯
Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too Joanna!
@@MichelleMarchantJohnson thanks for the video! I really learned a lot
Am I understanding that gratitude increases estrogen?
Whoa. Omg, okay, I watched this, 2 min later my boyfriend stopped by after work. I tried this exact, “why do you like me”, game.😂
I thought he’d be a bad sport or give an answer that made me mad but he was PERFECT!!😍
I was like, “it’s so fun!, “it makes me feel good hearing!”. And then I want to have sex w/you more 😂Lol I love staying in alignment w/my feminine & watching these for reminders. 😍🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Love it Jules! How fun! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
I wonder what guys have to say about this
Expressing appreciation increases estrogen. A man expressing his feelings about you stimulates estrogen.
9:32 how about making gifts for his birthday? They will give less?
Can you reverse these things when you're already with someone, but not all the way? I am in an uncommitted situation with a man since 2 years. He does love me and things have progressed.... But I was the giver and the doer and we had sex right away.
My self concept has changed though and our dynamic has too.
I would like to know how to inspire him to give and do and invest more. The sex is out of this world, but I want more. And he used to always take steps back when he was too emotional.
Then I started chasing.
I'm sure I'm not the only one in a situation like this.
With all due respect. If he loved you so much he would have married you. I suggest taking steps back. Ask for a break and work on your soul. Let him use that space to decide if he can actually value and invest you. For a change like this, I find women need space to really transform themselves. Men also need space to decide if they value you. If you dont make drastic changes, men will waste your time for many years. My thoughts!
Based on previous experience, he's not invested in a future with you the way you want. If you really want to know for sure and want things to change, let him know what you want and tell him that you are going to give him time to figure it out while you date other men.
A few things will happen:
1. He realizes what he wants is you and steps up. He starts giving you what you want (don't commit at the first sign. Let him prove himself over and over again. this is important because he's going to miss what you had and give you a few small things to keep you on the hook. Really be aware of this)
2. You are going to meet men that meet the needs you were missing with him and realize that he's not the right guy and be able to move on
I have been in your position exactly and unfortunately the best advice I can give you if you are looking for the right relationship is to let him go for 6 months while you really make an effort to work on yourself, date and not think about him. If you guys are meant to be, 6 months apart is insignificant.
Check out universe guru channel she has exceptional advice on this topic
Dump him.
if an spends more money on me is a lot of estrogen surge for me.
Thanks for watching and for sharing too Antonella!
I always looked girly.However I never weared sexy clothes so on..I was friendly and kind so on but guys never really pursue me or wanted to spend money not that i wanted but coffee would be nice-:).Whats was going on here?
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Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Michelle Marchant Johnson, what does Dr. Gray mean when he refers to a certain part of our brain as 'the monkey state?'
I recently met a man who told me right off the bat (during general dating conversation) that he loved it when a woman cooked for him, gave him back rubs, and just generally did stuff for him. I'm confused as to how to proceed after that because most coaches say not to be the giver but to allow the man to give to you. Now, I'm sure that ideally BOTH partners should give to each other once you're in a relationship, but in the beginning how should you proceed if you're dealing with a man who says this. Is he simply trying to use me? Is he a less masculine type male, what?
I would say he has to earn it. What is he contributing toward the relationship that he gets rewarded with a back rub and a good meal?
@@twinkletooty8358 That's a good point. Thanks for your response.
@@twinkletooty8358 there are love languages...depends also on what you want him to give
Run! That guy is selfish. Listen to what he said 14:30
Sounds manipulative to me. A masculine man should be trying to impress at the beginning not receiving. Run! Also, please don't take men too seriously in the beginning. They like to say a lot
Where are these videos shot? The angles are weird and he looks like he is hiding in his car.
He is in his Tesla as per the title! His power was out in his home! :-) Thanks for watching!
Recording from a car with a very strange camera angle? Any particular reason? Content was good but the visual and location seem a bit off from the usual level of professionalism. Thank you for info!
John's power was out in his home so he kindly rigged something up in his Tesla to record the interview. Thanks for watching.
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Thanks for watching!