This talk isn’t very good. Dancing with my inner critic | Steve Chapman | TEDxRoyalTunbridgeWells
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- Steve Chapman shines a light on his inner critic - that whisper in his ear that constantly tells him he isn’t good enough and that he should never try anything new or risk making a fool of himself.
Steve tells the story of how a personal experience of failure led him to begin an MI5 style investigation into his inner critic and how he has used a variety of experimental and creative means to learn to dance with it, rather than do battle with it.
Explores the deeper recesses of personality, and talks about his relationship with his own ‘inner critic’ and self-doubt. Using creative practices, gestalt principles and mask work, he shows us that our identity and sense of self isn’t as fixed as we may believe. By learning to dance with his inner critic, rather than fight it, he has been able to notice and understand things he wasn't aware of, and in doing so, liberate more of his own creative ambitions.
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Today I literally cried because I decided to write down what my inner critic thought of me when I looked in the mirror. I cried because I realised that I share my body and my life with an entity which continuously judges me, puts me down, and predicts the most catastrophic and horrible future for me. Then I watched a few videos about an inner critic but this one is really different, powerful and inspiring. I love it!
How is your 'dance with your inner critic' fairing now Upaja? I hope, live Steve, your nemesis is becoming your muse!
Same experience here!! The self criticism has become self sabotage throughout these few years for me which I think my inner critic has almost overshadowed or conquered me which left me in a suffocating state. A few videos about inner critic brought me here and I’m now going to draw and write down the inner beast in me!
Only 133K views? How is this getting passed over? It's a gem and he's lovely. So, to him, thank you!
9:20....'I'd swollowed whole as true descriptions of who I was...' so powerful.
WHY IS THIS SO UNDERRATED IT'S SO GOOD
Wow! That is the best talk ever. Accepting, instead of changing myself seems more achievable and a much healthier approach to wholeness.
😢😢😢gosh ive been trying so hard to get rid of mine. it hurts so much.
thank you for the brilliant talk
I keep coming back to this video time and again.Painful as it is at times to watch - my own inner critic is very strong - it is ultimately hopeful. encouraging me to see how my own anxiety and self doubt can be the fuel for my growth and happiness.
Steve! This is great. I spontaneously applauded with the audience and then realised you wouldn't hear (then my inner critic told me not to be stupid). I love your cartoons too (and the puppet).
One of the bests of TED.
This should be required viewing for everyone! I am requiring this of my students as homework (science of happiness and well-being).
Steve, great talk. And my inner critic agrees. As well as telling me I couldn't do anything as good.
This is so funny. My inner critic salutes your inner critic! :))
Out of all the inner critic talks and articles, this one rings the bell to me. Uncover your inner critic, bring it to the light and have a relationship with it. I will practice this and hopefully succeed in my life long battle with an inner critic that tells me I am not good enough like others which stems from my parent's upbringing. Thank you so much for sharing this.
this talk isn't just good - it's awesome. this is very great
Wow, he really tapped into something special here. This is so rich- thank you
Namaste, The cartoons made this presentation so much better. Very useful ideas about inner critic.
I know myself and best friend has dealt with this same inner voice. Meditation has helped us be able to observe and notice these thoughts, and when it arrives. This has helped a lot. Helps to get to have more control over these thoughts. As well as watching motivational videos, I feel the voice hardly exits now. Good luck on taming the lion.
Thank you Sadguru Shri Rajneesh Osho...👌💐😊
Completely out of the blue, I burst into tears at 6:28, and had to pause the vid and mourn my younger self for all the pain and frustration and sadness he had experienced, as a fellow young boy who allegedly "didn't try hard enough or make enough effort."
I was diagnosed with ADHD relatively early in life, but the implications of that diagnosis were still very obscure to everyone: my parents, teachers, guidance counselors, and of course myself.
That had been the constant refrain. And it's such a hard narrative to shake.
Phenomenal TALK!!! So glad Seth Godin shared it. This "inner critic" is what stifles so many people (including me sometimes) from stepping out on the fringes and doing something the world has never seen.
My dad sent me this and insisted I watch it… i’m glad he did.
Well done, great talk👍
I have a smile on my face as I end this video. Well done, Steve!
So true. We are not taught in to believe in yourself. As long we do or behave with integrity and honest ethics just do it ! Beautiful amazing talk. Thank you. bless you. All your dreams come true.
Steve - Great description of that inner part of us. Thank you.
A fellow Hoffmate; here thank you for this i hadn't thought about drawing the little bastard to pull it out of the shadows
Fantastic... Inspiring... True and Real. Thank you for sharing your journey and turning on the music to dance with my own critic.
Steve, thoroughly enjoyed and identified with your talk. When you taught me in the MSc I will never forget when you said "if you are going to fail, fail big, it is so much more interesting". It helped me enormously and I often remember this when self-doubt creeps in.Danela Ezekiel
Steve this an excellent, thought provoking and stimulating talk - thank you! Great to bring light to the inner critic we all have - and you do this wonderfully!
This is so excellent, really glad Seth Godin has shared it, I wouldn't have come across it otherwise. Props to you.
What A Creativity 👌💐😊😢😊It gave Me Rise...Wow....Amazing g...Dancing with the inner critic...Coming out of it... Woe 👌💐👍💐💐💐😊😊
Amazing . Could relate to what he said. Loved the Barble being someone's inner critic. I had that Barble when I was growing up.
Love it Steve, very powerful but simple stuff which you deliver in a very thought provoking way...now off to wrestle and tame my inner critic...again...
Superb, Steve. Thanks SO much. You've inspired me to find out more.
Brilliant! Everything in your presentation down to your language resonated. Absolutely loved it. Thank you.
This resonates with me so much, thanks for sharing
Steve, your talk and experiences made me cry. Of joy! Because you gave me the tools I needed to talk and connect with my inner critic in a manner that is more sincere and close to my heart. Thank you! I also have to give a talk about our inner critic and this talk was what I needed. Keep talking to your inner self and also critics and come back and share with us.
Very pertinent and inspiring Steve. Thanks!!
Thank you for this! I am inspired!
Thank you so much for that motivational message
Great talk Steve. Really enjoyed watching it ... as did my own inner critic
Geniune talk. It's refreshing!
Wonderful talk. Thanks, Steve!
Brilliant Steve! Thanks for sharing.
Brilliant talk, thank you!
Simply amazing!!!
Love this idea. Needed to hear it.
This is a very rich,inspiral and interesting speech and subject,
This talk is excellent!🎊
That 'inner critic' is a walk in the park.
Incredible!
A masterpiece.
Great talk, thank you
I believe that the inner critic originates from the imagination and can therefore be altered at will. It is a response to internal or external stimulii (especially where verbal communication does not happen). I have found that by creating imaginary friends, they can help to counter the negative dialogue, that I can change my mood and that affects the dialogue. Mantras and word associations are also quite good, as once the critic begins, my mind will create a joke, which will make me laugh. Another way to manage them, is to remember a time when I was relaxed and happy. All these things have helped and can be difficult to do at first, but time like learning a sport, they become second nature. Amost to the point, where I can be unaffected by the for most of the day. If anybody has any other techniques I'd love to hear from you.
Brilliant👍
What a great talk
Wonderful creativity and perspective. I believe one of the many lessons is to not let constructive feedback/bad news empower the Inner Critic. Was Kevin's feedback valid?
This is my favourite Ted Talk :)
steve ur my new best friend and Im gonna pretend youre in my head from now.
Well done. :)
Nice talk
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I completely disagree with the message of this talk.
If I am correct, the message is to simply accept the self-critic as a part of yourself. I think that is wrong. My self critic is unhealthy. It limits me and makes me second guess every decision, and stops me from doing the things that make me happy. Even when I do achieve something that makes me happy, it diminishes it. That`s unhealthy, and needs to be changed. Your inner critic is suppose to build you up, not break you. If you fall in the latter, something has to change
(As I am writing this, mine is saying "no one is going to listen" and "who are you to say something, you dont have a ted talk". Do you see how unhealthy that is. Wouldn't it be better if it said "put your thought out there. You maybe wrong or right, hopefully after discussion from others you can decide. You`re here to learn")
Don't you think that the only way the inner critic can be transformed is by first facing it, seeing it for what it is, and then taking its words less seriously?
I don't think it means ONLY to accept as part of yourself. What I learned is that neither should we try to fight with and get rid of it nor should we be getting caught up in their narratives. Rather, we should observe it in a curious way- question it- "what is it protecting me from?"
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My inner critic did not speak until I was 55 and it was drug induced took me about 5 seconds to discredit it. Simplistic, trite and 3rd person... the opinion of others are your opinions if you believe them. I do not take a statement as a matter of fact I want it backed up by a reason and the inner critic cannot provide reasons only throw shade. So, ya goof on your inner critic every chance you get ... try when it criticises take its position and exaggerate it ad absurdum it looses its effective when you show how much better you are at the job than the critic. Like by giving this ted talk you will catch cancer and die so will the entire audience.